Update: There was a first name missing a censor at one place in the wife story, this has been fixed and should be censored as soon as YT processes it! thank you for the heads up On a related note, IT IS NOT A SLUR LOL JUST A CENSORED NAME - the dude never called anyone a slur, please don't say that he did - people saying it's "okay to call someone slurs cuz they were upset" can stop - I never read out a slur, the word was "beeped" out retroactively when it became apparent it was a real name geesh man, I could make a parody video on censoring gone wrong 🤦♂
THAT'S WHY captions suddenly became unavailable a little bit ago! You re-uploaded. I was losing my damn mind 😆! I had to navigate away for a sec and suddenly stuff didn't work anymore, lol.
@@TheClick Good to know, thanks. Got my headphones working by a miracle, so I don't need the captions at the moment, thankfully. Thank you for protecting people's privacy!
Apparently, when someone's a garbage human being, pretty damn hard. In my opinion, she's a person who for whatever reason likely sees everything as there being winners and losers and that she will do what she has to in order not be a loser. That or she's a compulsive liar. Either way, the way you deal with them is the same. I've had a few people in the past who're like this. And it's maddening. You cut the ones out of your life that you can and you compartmentalize your encounters with the ones you can't be rid.
@@robinkholmes7127you dont have to be friends with someone if you dont vibe with them anymore. I know some people just don't like to be friends with ex's and thats okay. Im not talking about OP's situation. I just mean in general. Someone who breaks up with you isn't necessarily going to be your friend, thats not necessarily selfish or wrong. Of course its heavy case by case but ii just mean in general.
Some people are just bad people. My ex secretly cheated on me and I divorced her when I found out. She then lied to everyone making me out to be the bad person. She even tried to get me in legal trouble by claiming I stole some things. I had proof otherwise.
I had a similar situation to the lesbian one. Where my partner identified as bi, I came out as a trans man, and they realized they were a lesbian. The BIG DIFFERENCE is that they told me within a month, we broke off the engagement, and all our friends were supportive of BOTH of us. We still live together and are best friends. (We joke that we're platonic soulmates.) That's what handling it like an ADULT looks like.
As a fellow trans man, that must’ve felt… a little affirming? That she was like “Oh, I’m not feeling romantically attracted to you anymore because you’re a guy.” She immediately respected your identity and saw you as a man. Pretty poggers. Also, funny story of my own. My ex-gf and I broke it off a little less than a year before I realized I was trans. I messaged her on Insta a while later saying “heeeeey. I’m trans now and also gay”. She simply responded “how shocking 😐”. SHE CLOCKED IT BEFORE I DID.
@@mattuwu9978 yeah it definitely was affirming! It made a sad moment a little sweeter, honestly. And XD yeah it's always funny when someone clocks it before you do.
I had a similar experience as your expartner with a friend I was kinda dating. She came out as a trans woman and it took me a little bit but I realized I wasn't bi and was actually just a gay man lol
HOLY SHIT THAT LITERALLY HAPPENED TO ME TOO. i came out as transmasc, she supported me, and then next thing i knew her instagram bio was suddenly "LESBIAN 🧡🤍💖"
It really feels like maybe the Friend has gone through something like the OP before, or has background she's not spoken about in some investigative role.
"Let's handle this like adults" She says after waiting two years and after four months of planning a wedding that she agreed to only to drop that on him and leave. Like, I could understand the "Don't beg or scream" but he's not even allowed to _cry? Girl??_ I'm bi, if I was in a relationship with one and realized that I actually strictly liked the other, I would be telling that person _immediately,_ not telling anyone _but_ them then just suddenly dropping it on them and bailing while saying they aren't even allowed to cry over it. That's just so disrespectful on so many levels. Being LGBT in any sort of way doesn't give you a free pass to be an AH
My first thought hearing this is that HE may have been abusive, emotionally rather than physically. Blocking his number, the family cutting contact, the hesitation at the proposal, "Please don't beg and scream. It sounds to me like she thought he wouldn't let her leave him and was scared. Coming out is harder the closer you are to a person and NOBODY comes out without testing the waters first to make sure it's safe. I bet she tested him several times and bro failed those tests.
@seana.f.3818 she legit left and a friend saw Op's post and confirmed that she went around and lied about Op trying to put hands on her. Given that she was seeing someone else on the side, I'd say that was her was trying to ensure that if it was ever found out that she was cheating, she could play the "he was abusive and I felt lonely/neglected/had no other choice" card
Well, I finally admitted to my mom that I, a dude, have a boyfriend. I was afraid to tell her because she's a Christian woman, and I've heard enough horror stories on the internet of people getting disowned by their parents for not being straight. Yeah, turns out I had nothing to worry about. While she was definitely surprised that I was into guys, she was super supportive and basically told me "as long as you're happy with it, I'll support your decision." I just figured I'd share because that moment was definitely a weight being lifted off my chest. Now my stress sources have been reduced by one!
Wow congrats!!! 🎉 It’s definitely super stressful to come out especially when you expect to be rejected and it’s the only reason I haven’t. Props to you because that takes a lot of courage.
Lesbian story: as a lesbian I can say that what that girl did was absolutely disgusting. She should have told him as soon as she knew which at MINIMUM was 2 years ago, but she has probably known longer. I know a lot of people do this because they're scared of what their parents will say/do, but her parents already knew. What was the point in hiding it?
@ilngsisfh - I think if she's questioning, she should still let him know. Couples are supposed to communicate, ESPECIALLY if it's about doubts regarding the relationship. I'm a lesbian now and I was in this exact situation with a comphet mindset and at the time was still questioning (in my case though I was ace with a violent and homophobic parent). I let my ex know IMMEDIATELY despite my own fears. Our breakup would have been even sooner than that, but was postponed a week because we were long distance at the time. Edit: I can't even fathom keeping my questioning a secret for 2 whole years. The amount of guilt I would feel knowing how I betrayed and hurt someone I care about and trust so deeply. The amount of inner turmoil from holding it in for so long, being stuck in limbo; unable to experiment and discover who I was because I was living a lie I didn't even fully believe in. I can't imagine ever doing something like that.
@@ilngsisfh but she wasn't questioning for at least 2 years, otherwise she wouldn't have told her parents. She should have told her boyfriend when she figured it out
@@paiget6200 Yeah that part is wild to me. How did that conversation even go? "Mom, dad, I'm gay. Buuuut I'm also gonna keep dating my boyfriend, so don't tell him when we come over k?"
That made me think about the lotr-movies. Iirc they had a person that got paid just for sitting in a field close to the airport and calling in planes that flew in or out a specific direction. They then stopped the filming until the plane was far enough away so the noise wouldn't disturb the movie. Maybe Click needs someone like that😅
Not to be controversial but it is no way okay to date SOMEONE YOU NURSED WHEN THEY WERE BABY. Absolutely vile. And he is month younger that her own daughter.
I’m not religious but was born in an Islamic country. If you nurse a child they become “family” and it’s forbidden to marry them or even your kids to marry them. Cuz they’re now technically brother and sister.
Okay so I’m struggling to understand why the friends are seemingly seen as so bad In this situation. Everyone seems to agree on this so I’m genuinely trying to understand. The friends were unaware of the stringing along and were told that he had been abusive towards her in response to her coming out. You absolutely should not respond in that situation with disbelief and victim blaming, especially considering they’re seemingly close friends it would’ve been awful if they hadn’t been supportive. As for the poster saying they should’ve messaged him, that would be completely careless behaviour to provoke and interact with an abuser like that especially considering it would’ve been clearly against the victims wishes. Of course I know that she was lying but they didn’t have that information. They were operating under the premise that their friend had their ex-partner respond abusively to her coming out. And when they did find out what really happened they immediately reached out, explained and apologised. Not sure if I’m missing something but that’s where my heads at, under the information they had I’d say they acted in the best possible way they could. If my friend came to me and told me what she told them I don’t think I’d act any different.
@@turkinator1375but this is where people take the "believe all victims" too far. I've been a victim of that twice in my life. And it pisses me off they didn't even ask him what happened on his end to even see if he realized what happened, even if they believed it.
the... the friend group w/ one woman dating another woman's son... i was like "oh no. oh thats creepy to date him when im assuming youve known that kid since birth. that opens up for some really uncomfortable dynamics and makes me question if she's been grooming him" and then got slam-dunked with "oh yeah she breastfed him as a baby btw" like NO. NOOOO. that makes it so so so much worse. and then the other two using the "well hes a legal adult now" defense.... noooo. i hate that so much. emily needs investigated and the kid needs to run.
Well there's exceptions, but honestly this whole "XY knew YZ when they were kids and its weird they're now dating, XY probably groomed YZ." Narrative needs to stop. Not every person is getting "groomed" by the other person.
Sure, but in this case (which is what we're talking about) she LITERALLY breastfed him as a baby. If she'd just seen him once as a kid, maybe it'll get a pass, but this? Noooo way. (Not to mention it's her friend's son, so it's doubly fucked.)
@@valentinamarkusic5124 when you've watched a kid grow from infant/child to adult, have been a consistent (and likely parental) presence in that kids life, and suddenly start dating that kid only a few years into adulthood, it becomes very very unlikely that it was just "random chance" that you two "happened to like each other as adults." especially when you can count that "as adults" timespan on one hand bc one party has only been an adult for a few years.
Story of smoker getting tumor removed DID make me cry. It hits close to home. Both my mom and my sister were chain smokers. Mom was a pack a day smoker. At several points she was so bad that once one cig was out, another was lit up. She got emphysema and was put on an oxygen tank. Once again, I had begged her to stop smoking. She would STILL smoke! She would take the tubes out, turn off the machine and sit outside to smoke. It killed her at age 52. When my sister & I went through her stuff, we realized that we could not donate any of her clothes, bedding or linen. The smell of smoke was so thick in them that even after multiple washes, it was still there. My sister eventually quit at one point, but by then she had been smoking for over 25 yrs. She still developed throat cancer and was dead at 54. I hate smoking so much that the smell of cigarette smoke makes me sick and I have refused to date anyone who smoked.
Yeah, the important thing in all these stories is that the way forward has got to be getting help with quiting. Otherwise you're doing a diservice to the people around you.
Here's my thing with the lesbian story. This isn't the 50s anymore. She didn't have to stay in a relationship she didn't want to appease some marriage/family life milestone. Not saying she should be forced to come out, even to her ex partner that made that post. If she didn't feel comfortable giving her true explanation, then she could just say "I'm sorry, this isn't working for me" or "I don't feel we're a good fit anymore". Also telling him not to cry is absolutely baffling. Seven YEARS of a relationship, and at least 2 of them she realized she couldn't be with him. I'm a queer woman myself, and I understand learning things about yourself the more you get educated and have life experience. Started dating at 15, thought I was straight, then by 17 I thought I was bi. I've found out a lot about myself, and by the time I was 23, I found new terms that fit who I was better. Panromantic, and demisexual (used to say gray-ace until I figured that one out). So I get finding ourselves at different paces. Not everyone has the same journey, not everyone knows right away. HOWEVER, communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship. I'm assuming she got with him and stayed for 7 years because they were good friends (even if she felt pressured by society to appear in heteronormative relations), so honestly, I think she's fucked up for lying to him and stringing him along for almost a decade. Being generous that he gets to live to 100, that's almost 1 tenth of his life. The time, the money, the effort, the energy, the love. And then to be callous, and ironically feed into toxic masculinity and say don't cry about it, is fucking asinine. And his friends praising her for it are just as bad. I agree with him, fuck all of them. They showed their true colours and I hope he finds more support, and hopefully doesn't let this effect his future relationships. I guarantee he's gonna have so many trust issues that he'll refuse to date any non-straight girls in fear of this happening again, and he'll probably come off as homophobic for it. This just all-around was not a productive or healthy way for her to come out or handle the situation. I also hope she grows as a human and realizes people aren't guinea pigs for her to test her sexuality on.
@@xXMindSoulXx I saw; just finished the video. 😭 Girlie pop said it wasn't enough to hurt one person, let's lie to the side girlfriend, too. Sounds less like a coming-out fear and more just wanting an excuse to cheat and maybe commitment issues. If the girlfriend isn't lesbian, her and op should totally hook up just to fuck with her. 😂
If I were him I would move. Just move. Stop paying bills. Fuck it. Just go live some random life in another state. Ghost the world. Make up a boring life story
Here's the thing. The daughter is just blaming it on the dogs. When dogs destroy stuff, they 100% SHRED stuff. It's not a coincidence that the parts of the dress that the daughter wanted were "miraculously" untouched to use as originally planned. Nope, the daughter (and possibly aunt) destroyed OPs dress and blamed it on the dogs.
I don't think psychopath is the right word... maybe narcisst? She thinks she is the center of the universe and if it doesn't concern her it is unimportant. Her finance is going to learn that the hard way, too. That the mother loves her I understand but that she forgives her that fast I don't. She should have told her daughter she threw the bits of the dress out and kept them hidden so the daughter couldn't steal them.
@@CanyonALynn I bet the daughter didn't like the dress as it is, because she thought the design of the dress is outdated, knew the mother won't agree to re-design it, the aunt agreed with her, they thought for a while and came up with this "beautiful" "idea". Imo they could just buy a new one and save everyone's nerve cells.
I really enjoyed the second story. It is easier to lose weight when someone you love is considerate, making you feel like a king/queen, and not repeating derogatory comments.
For me it's easier, when I have someone who does the same thing. Only problem is that I tend to get very competitive and that can get very unhealthy for me. Last month my husband decided he wants to get fitter (we are both very overweight) and I joined him. Now I have to drink 1-2 proteinshakes at the end of the day, so I do not consume too little calories, because most days I "forget" to eat until the evening. By "forget" to eat I mean, that I wonder why I feel iffy from about 2pm on and notice I keeped myself busy so much, that I only had water and caffeine containing diet sodas. I really need to keep an eye on that. 😅
@@TarisLuna Have you tried setting an alarm? One for each meal? And you're not allowed to turn it off unless you're getting food. If you must, you may snooze it or set a new alarm for an hour or so if you HAVE to wait.
@@panicwithcompulsion that wouldn't work, since I work with customers and can't take my break at exactly the same time very day + I have kids and often can't just stop what I'm doing or let an alarm ring until I'm done.
It's insanely unfair to do that to someone and then say "don't be mad don't cry" like dude you're throwing away a long term relationship with zero discussion. Give them closure or something, don't just leave like everything meant nothing.
@socialmoon id say that in this case he is owed closure... or at least deserves it- like that's the very least she could have done. It's utterly heartless to spend 7 years together and not even care about how he feels. Like you'd have to have formed some bond or care during those years, if not in a romantic way but as a friend right?
28:15 @TheClick please find the update to this story, if this part of the story brings you to tears the update will make you bawl. If I remember correctly, in the update after the surgery the OP said that when the child saw his dad, the kid said something like “Dad got a big owie, look my shoes light up.”
EDIT: Got to the update. Nutjobs are out there. Stay safe fam. The one where the lesbian pretended to be bi and then strung along a guy for two years while people in her life knew and didn't say anything: that dude has every right to be pissed off, hurt, and hate the world right now. He was in love with someone who lied to him and betrayed him. He lost not only a partner but a family. As a lesbian yes it sucks coming out and it's hard and confusing *but* you don't drag another person through your shit. She clearly had a support system in place since she told her parents and they were accepting of her. I don't understand why she would have kept up the act with the boyfriend.
Although the whole story confuses me. Apparently she told him that she was bisexual. Okay, totally makes sense because then she started a committed relationship with him. But then after having a yearlong relationship with all the intimacy and stuff she decided(?) to be homosexual? Sure, as a bisexual I could tell people I’m straight but what’s the point if I’m in a yearlong same-sex relationship at that time?
i tried to rationalise it and think of a reason. All i could think of was she was staying dor the rent or something of that nature. or after coming out as bi she wanted to have a failsafe plan while looking for other partners. In any case i hope Op wouldnt end up with some trust issues that he cannot overcome.
The woman who came out. It's not "adult" to just have her walk away. That's her trying to avoid any kind of accountability. Being adult would be explaining, letting him ask questions, and being prepared to deal with the upset and owning up to the betrayal. Being a lesbian isn't a betrayal; stringing him along is, though.
From her parents reactions they must've known for a while. They were in a relationship, she should've told him sooner than just before the wedding. She literally told him at a very last moment. That's opposite of being an adult. Or brave, for that matter.
The proof to me that she was trying to dodge accountability was the fact she blocked him. Like, that just shows that she knew what she did was wrong, but didn't wanna deal with it. That is the exact opposite of being an adult.
And to make matters worse, OP revealed in an update that his ex-friends told him that the ex was telling everyone that he acted aggressive towards her when she came out to him and told them not to contact him (she sounds like a narcissist).
She has been dating someone WHILE engaged. I'm honestly surprised her girlfriend didn't dumped her as well. She very much deserved to end up with no partner and no friends. Just to make things clear, nothing in her behavior had to do with being lesbian. If that was the only problem, she should've come out to her partner as soon as she realized that and felt confident that this is the case. She's just a cheater and manipulator, regardless of which way she swings. Her whole behavior was exact opposite of being mature. She was honestly hoping her Ex would just drop it and move on immediately.
"I wanted to have sex more so I started paying more attention to my partner and caring about them and spending time with them" wild lol so, so wild lol
@@Aaron.Thomas In this case, though, I don't really think the motivation matters too much; they didn't do anything wrong or harmful, and in fact _helped_ their partner become healthier than they were before. You wouldn't get annoyed at someone helping someone, so why are you doing that here when no actual harm was done? Also, the partner not knowing was probably a massive help, as it allowed them to find their own motivation to become healthier, rather than a less sustainable obligation towards their partner. I do think that it'd be a good idea for the person to tell the other person about this, though.
@@Aaron.Thomas what he done was WAY more better than men who just wine to their partner that there is no enough sex. He actually recognised an issue and worked on it with a partner WITHOUT making it creepy for her. Its not manipulation - its solving problems
I don't think I would mind my partner doing any of that to me in order to help me be healthy. It's just weird that it's framed into "I wanted sex more often so I made my gf lose weight" not "I wanted us to have a healthier, more connected relationship where more sex is also happening". Ofc giving your partner attention, compliments and taking them out on interesting dates is part of the solution, not just that they got skinnier 😅
Theobromine is the toxic principle in chocolate, and there are a ton of calculators online to estimate toxicity if your dog gets into some chocolate. Of course, call the pet poison hotline (USA) and take your pup to the vet if there's any concern. I always emphasize the risk of xylitol toxicity because it's not as commonly talked about, and way more dangerous. 5 pieces of chewing gum will kill a medium sized dog. If they survive the hypoglycemic episode, there's a good chance they'll still die of liver failure. Keep your purses, bags, sugar-free/keto snacks, whatever out of your dog's reach, please!
And look out for discarded chewing gums when outdoors. Many peeps still spit them out where ever they feel like, ending up either in pets or kids mouths, on the bottom of strangers shoes or like cigarette butts, in the waterways. Trash or swallow your gums, kids.
@@janemiettinen5176I work at a kennel that's right next to a car dealership, where half the guys working there are chill and cool and the other half are the types to "test drive" any sports cars they get in the dealership for repairs just to take a joy ride around town. Basically, the guys who don't give a shit about anything unless it inconveniences them. In the grass where we often walk the dogs, near the entrance and exit roads, I've had to basically scour the ground because a 9 week old puppy I was walking got her mouth around a whole cigarette (I had to pry ROCKS outta this pup's mouth...) and I got super worried and asked my boss (used to be vet tech, nearly became a vet fully) if it would be harmful. Thank god it wouldn't be, since I got it outta her mouth before she could chew it, but I also find candy wrappers and all sorts of litter that's small and barely noticable out in that area. Boss says that most people don't really care where they're tossing trash if they're already willing to litter, but it still upsets me greatly that some people are so unaware of the world around them and uncaring of others that they toss litter that could very well have traces of toxic things out into an area right next to a giant sign that literally says THE NAME OF THE KENNEL AND THAT ITS AN ANIMAL KENNEL. It's not even like we're a small place! We're literally considered one of the _best_ boarding kennels in the local area, especially for special needs cases. We do special work for the nearby Veterans Clinic and some of their residents who need someone to care for their pet(s) while they're treated, we take in pooches for folks who need help getting their lives back together, we take so many elderly and special needs pets..... Imagine if some veteran, already dealing with so much shit, learns their beloved pooch either got horribly ill or DIED because there was a fucking gum wrapper/spit-out gum tossed in the grass that someone didn't notice while walking a dog, and the dog got its mouth on it? People can be so terrible, it hurts me honestly.
24:10 - Also: You're not always going to click with your first therapist, or maybe not even your second. Finding a therapist who grooves with you can take time.
It's also important to compare therapy methods! Some may work better for you than others. Unfortunately, therapy is something that is more useful once you've got a lot of experience with it and know what works and what doesn't
@@restrictedmilk That's very true! They might have the same end goal, but they take different roads to get there. (And tbh, that's why I went with my mom a lot - I wasn't very good at advocating or saying what worked/didn't work. I'm better now tho!)
I like to play a game called flip the gender on stories like that. The friend shouldn’t have called her crazy but she also shouldn’t have flashed her naked body at him when he was not consenting to it.
As the "future partner", I can attest that it has taken me the full 5 years of my relationship and probably another dozen or more to go, to gain my wife's trust. She had an ex who would disappear, gallavant, do shady stuff etc. I willingly bear the burden of always being upfront and honest. We have a phone tracker app we share and even now, when i work construction in developed neighborhoods, still openly show her the addresses of homes I may have jobs at. I've never been the type to cheat or go running off, and it's taken me some time to figure out that she NEEDS that knowledge and confirmation to feel at ease. Being the victim of cheating/infidelity cannot be easy
You're such an understanding and kind person.. My husband is trying, I can tell, things are just difficult. We've only got a year to your 5 though and that gives me so much hope. ❤
That's so kind and patient of you, awesome that you're putting in effort to make her feel safe. I do hope it's gotten better over time, it's sad if she still needs constant access to your location after 5 years. At some point one needs to learn to trust, but ofc, everything happens one little step at a time. Kudos for being so understanding though!
I respect that. People can be insecure for a lot of reasons, not just past sexual trauma. If there's ever a car accident on the news in the area you're working in, she'll be able to check the tracker and know whether to worry about you.
Click's reaction to the cheater with the extra phone is the same as mine when watching true crime shows ("You Googled how to poison somebody?! How did you think you would get away with this?").
About the story with the lesbian pretending to be bi, I had a similar thing happen to me recently. My partner came out as trans and I realised I was a lesbian. The difference is that I told my partner within two weeks! Not two years! The fact that she has the audacity to say "let's act like adults" and then proceeds to frame her ex as an ABUSER is absolutely flabergasting to me.
to the guy losing his face to cancer...you may want to have him pick out a couple masks and possibly voice changers, time to embrace our tech age. darth vader voice anyone?
I figured the son would be excited more than anything. Dad's a monster and young sons (typically) think monsters are cool. But having your dad be Darth Vader too???? Just imagine the PTA meetings
Plus, the few smart ones usually don’t get caught before the guilt gets to them and they leave on their own. Although even the “smart ones” are pretty dumb for not realizing how much easier it is to just get the break up or divorce out of the way, so they can go be happy with this new person, without all the BS. Or how much easier it is to put that work towards improving the relationship they already have.
@@smig2801 To be concise and not shed more light on the dead drama, just know there was a collab channel that included illuminaughty(I think I spelled that right). She accused people of stuff they probably didn't do, and the channel shut down. Everyone else was hurt by this and would probably prefer if people didn't go looking it up 👁👁
@@SaboTheFish Yeah, I googled it and his video came up. I'm completely shaken up. Thank you for the clarification, I had absolutely no idea it was this bad and definitely won't mention it again (and I'll edit my original comment, this definitely is no "tea")
I know it’s not the same but the jaw story reminds me of when my dog lost her eye. It was dislodged from her head. I remember my sister seeing her and being too scared to look at her. She was only 8 and she’d cry every time she saw our dog (she adored our dog). It wasn’t because she saw my dog as a monster. She was scared because she was hurt and scared for our dog and didn’t know how to express that. she wanted my dog to be okay and a change in appearance highlighted that she wasn’t so my sister cried. But she adored our dog until the day she died and she still adored her. If that little boy is afraid it’s out of love.
My mom had to get surgery on her neck, leaving her with some pretty visible stitches for awhile. My nephew was 4 at the time. He was scared at first, then worried she was hurt. She explained that it's a little sore, but no, she wasn't hurt, and in fact felt much better now that she's not sick anymore. He laughed and gave her a hug. After processing everything, he also told her she looked like "a Frankenstein" (it was close to Halloween) which she thought was hilarious! 💞
i'm in love with the cheated on wife's best friend. that is a friend that we should all hope to have. absolute support, good ideas, smart plans, beautifully vindictive towards the person who hurt her friend while not punishing the other woman. Love her, adore her, be her.
OH. So the girl who came out as lesbian is just a massive see you next Tuesday and it has nothing to do with her sexual preference. A liar, a cheater, saying OP is abusive... Wow. Just wow. I'm also doubting she's even a lesbian. I think this just came down to her not wanting to be caught as a cheat so she broke it off trying to look like the good one cuz I doubt anyone would hate her for being lesbian, but no one likes a cheat.
@@dodgyyoutuber9560 she faked all kinds of things to her friends and was clearly comfortable lying to her gf about her "roommate" so... yeah, she was faking quite a bit of herself.
@@dodgyyoutuber9560 She could have realized she was bi, started cheating, and felt that it would make her look more sympathetic to come out as a lesbian because then her cheating on her boyfriend looks less scummy since she wasn't attracted to him at all ever. That said who even knows. Even if she is a lesbian her actions are just as scummy and I guarantee her relationship with her GF will in all likelihood end up the same. Her GF needs to break up with her ASAP before she gets hurt just as badly.
I hope that the guy with the jaw removal seeks mental health therapy, despite his son's love giving him strength and hope, so that he doesn't fall into a deep depression after the surgery. Depression sucks and can make you miss out on so many amazing moments, it comes suddenly, and it's better to already have a therapist beforehand in such a situation, than to have to search for one while depression already sucks all energy out of you, not to mention the physical healing process he's gonna go through.
As you were talking about “aggressively smelling them back” my phone did an accidental crazy zoom in IN ADDITION to your zoom and I saw nothing but your face and it was *terrifying*
30:57 Yeah this gives me _major_ incest-vibes here. If "Emily" were a functioning adult human, there is _no way_ she could see "Henry" as anything other than a child, or as a peer to her own child. I have a friend who's a high school teacher. He's encountered ex-students at the bars, guys who had the hots for him back when they were his students but were still closed teens. His response to these encounters has universally been, "That's flattering, but you're making me feel like a pedo." There's a wall between teachers and their students that the teachers Do Not Cross, and it can be such a hard wall that it remains in place even after the ex-student is well into adulthood. So yes, yes "Emily" is really, really messed up.
Can pretty much guarantee you that if the genders were switched (minus the breast feeding part, of course), everyone would have been tearing the adult guy a new AH. Or maybe not. I just listened ( the past few days) to a Reddit story where OP was an older sister to a just high school graduate sister, and her TEACHER started dating her, and then asked her to marry him, and EVERYONE, including parents, thought it was WUNNN-derful (small town situation). Twists and turns in the story, but big sis finally got her out of there. (She bought her sister a phone; husband didn’t like that).
@@spiderlily723 No, I did not. I don't see how you're reading _that_ into what I wrote. That's a you-thing. My point is that sane, functioning adults have a revulsion to anyone below a certain age because it makes you feel like a p3do, and that "certain age" increases as you get older. I also point out how this effect is even _stronger_ in teachers due to their professional association with teens. Given this fact, this natural feeling, "Eeew, too young!" then this woman dating a 20 y.o. _THAT SHE NURSED_ 20 years earlier … there's something _majorly _*_broken_* with this woman. _THAT_ is my point. And you not only missed it, you went off trail into some weird territory.
@@spiderlily723 Oh, one more thing: there *_WERE NO TEENS_*_ doing any flirting with any adults_ in anything I wrote. What I described was a *_COLLEGE AGE_* or recent college grad telling his gay *_FORMER_* H.S. Spanish teacher that he had/has a crush on said teacher. I don't know how I can be any clearer.
as a person who got to hear "I didn't love you for over half a year" at a break up, I feel so sad for OP. The break up it self is one thing, but beeing lied to for this amount of time leaves marks.
ok at first I felt bad for that person's partner who came out as lesbian because coming out can be terrifying and I can only imagine what kinds of things you'd be scared of when coming out in a committed relationship... but holy shit I don't believe that anymore, there's no way that a person masterminds all of that while still being anything close to a decent human.
yeah, what got me first is that the ex bf seemed to imply that their friends and family were supportive to the lgbtqia+ cause, as she was already out as bi. she had even confided with her parents for _two years_ so she had a place to fall back on ... many of us wouldn't be so lucky. and ok, i know some people are goofy with homophobia and hate some sexualities in the community more than others, but idk i didn't get that vibe from this story.
@@princeapoopoo5787 mhm, I will say that as a trans person even knowing my friends and family were supportive it was still pretty scary to come out. I didn't even end up doing it on purpose and I'm honestly kind of glad I didn't because I've made so much progress that I wouldn't have been able to until I came out and that might've taken me a long time. However, I know coming out as trans and coming out as gay are fairly different and the former is probably a bit more scary for most.
9:23 had an update, someone he knew saw the post and turns out his ex told everyone that when she came out to him, he responded badly and tried to hurt her, then she told everyone to dont even speak to him coz she didnt want to make a big deal out of it or something like that, so yeah shes a horrible person. Oh good the update was included later
That wedding dress story is wild. We know the daughter did it on purpose, I'd bet on it. To top it off, the callousness she displayed after is very telling. The sister 100% knew what the daughter did too, it was too convenient that she called to say "Its ruined, give daughter the pieces". I'm sorry, excuse you? The daughter not going to OP to retrieve the dress pieces is so obviously because she's a coward. This reeks of entitlement and a lack of basic empathy. When OP fines out the truth, the relationship will be shattered.
Also. When dogs destroy. They SHRED! i would know. I lost my favourite onesie to my dog because we had it on the clothes line, unprotected and drying... the onesie wasn't visible anymore because it was nothing but atoms. So the embroidery "conveniently" surviving is straight up her blaming the dogs for an impossible situation. Because the dress would be gone. Also. My dog stole my parents 800 dollar cover. They get the 10 dollar one now. And my dog wonders why she's almost dying from heat when she stole the cover that is 99% WARMTH!
@@Chara_Dreemurr1 I had dogs myself (better behaved), but it also depends on the time they had to shred the dress. But I must say the fact that certain desired parts of the dress were unharmed is fishy! What irks me the most is the absolute disrespect after destroying the dress, (doesn't matter if she was it herself or her dogs) towards the feelings of the mother! There's absolute no empathy, not even fake empathy! That alone should be a double red flag, all what was left after is a conclusion. I feel she tested if she could get away with it and from that point on she gets savage. I doubt, that will be the only incident with that women.
Wow, the dad who fed the dog chocolate sounds like a child. Maybe he was jealous of the attention the dog gets or maybe he was just childishly curious what would happen. Do not trust him around anything you want to keep, sounds like he would poke a bear just to see what happens, if you know what I mean.
It sounded to me like he already knew what cocoa does to dogs, and was trying to kill the dog, and got caught. The whole thing of trying to blame the 18y/o seems to be further evidence of this, and when that didn't work they just started acting like a moron as a red herring.
@@dreamboy4724 my a-dad was kinda like that. Was an alcoholic but I can’t put everything he did down to being drunk. He would put plates with chicken bones on the floor, and occasionally try to give our dogs chocolate if he was eating it, but was repeatedly told not to.
Small aside about that dad saying, "I already paid the bills" or something like that. I don't think that he was referring to any ambitious bill, but was making the argument that he paid the vet bills and had therfore "paid the price for his stupidity" Which is a stupid argument from a stupid man, cudos to the son. I don't know if anyone will read this but here is a quick first aid lesson if you find yourself in this position. Your dog has swallowed something toxic. Immediately call your nearest vet clinic or animal hospital to inform them of the situation and that you are coming in. If you have any hydrogen proxide or medical grade active charcoal around administer it to your dog. The proxide will induce vomiting to clear their stomach of any undigested toxins. While the active charcoal will absorb any toxins left in the body. But for God sakes never stop getting your pupper to the vet ASAP!
@@recallshifter To clarify, do we make the dog drink the hydrogen proxide? Excuse my ignorance, but that just doesn't sound right or safe to me, but I'm probably wrong, so I was hoping for more info if you would lol
27:30 i can confirm that when someone's child starts crying and refusing to be near their parent, the parent feels AWFUL..... my source is my dad, when i was younger (around 13 years old) i saw him without his beard for the first time in my life, he always have a big viking like beard, but when i saw him without his beard and he tried to get close to give me a hug with a happy smile on his face, he was met with me bawling and screaming running away from him, because i couldn't recognise him...... i still tell him sorry to this day and give him the biggest hug everytime i see him now 😅 *slight update* forgot to add that i'm now 25 and was an only child up until 3 years ago, i'll help my younger siblings and dad through the same thing if it ever happens again.
I did something similar to my own father, and I still feel bad today. (For reference, I was maybe 4 when this happened and I'm about to hit 30 now.) He was an over-the-road truck driver, so we didn't see him much. When he did get to come home, he'd usually just want to sleep. So when he came through the door one day, my tiny child brain didn't recognize him and I ran screaming and crying to my mother about a strange man coming in the door. I know it hurt him deeply, because he quit that trucking job and got hired at the local ladder factory instead. But... apparently it's something that needed to happen because he really wasn't spending any time with his kids.
I had something similar happen when I was I think 7 or 8. My mom came home once with an off the shoulder haircut, and it took me several minutes to realize that it was her because I was so used to seeing her with long hair. I didn't cry, scream, or run away, but I was sitting on the couch just *staring* at this strange woman I didn't recognize who had just come into our house and was standing at the door. What finally made me realize it was her is when she started talking, but even then, it took me several minutes to match her voice with her appearance. I could tell it was my mom's voice, but it was coming from a person I couldn't recognize.
My younger sibling did this about 35yrs + ago when they were a toddler and our Dad shaved his beard for the first time in their memory - he still had a hugely epic 80s ‘stache, but I still remember the screams and tears and I was just 2yrs older 😂😂
@@DarcOne13 i 2nd this, i have ADD with autism (possibly aspergers) and we didn't really know until after it had already happened unfortunatel :'D BUT! he has never fully shaved his beard since then, so i think it had an affect on him, he does style it sometimes when he goes for interviews or when he gets filmed :')
I'm getting war flashbacks to that story where an 11 year old boy became a father because of the babysitter being a creep with that story about the friend banging their friend's son, who they help nurse. I REALLY don't trust that lady as she might've done more than what anyone knows. Only person who can tell the truth being the guy in question.
The cheating partner who came out as lesbian likely wasn't just afraid of losing friends but was trying to cover her tracks by making people not talk to each other so they would never corroborate stories. The way things are blowing up for this person seems like the classic fallout from calling out a narcissist. I knew someone like that once who would go from one beneficiary to another to financially support him, and who would destroy the friendships of people who helped him that knew each other through complete misrepresentations of them, and where any people who didn't know each other were both trying to support him got in touch with each other to make the logistics of helping easier he would tell both sides that the other person had been abusive and beg them to block the person to "make him feel safer" but it later turned out he was still asking all of these people he had apparently blocked for money or to stay with them while basically claiming they were his "only" hope and that every person he had ever had in his life had been abusive. He literally used an acquaintance for a marriage visa, then appealed to me for a place to say, saying that person was an abuser, then would tell other people I was "cruel" and "uncaring" when I asserted any boundaries whatsoever or became too exhausted to keep babying him like a child as I had to work. And he got a friend outside of the country to send him MASSIVE amounts of money - TWICE - for a surgery he "desperately needed". He spent all that money the first time and the second time physicians refused to give him because he was so psychologically erratic that his own psychologist refused to vouch for him. Sadly he was convincing of everyday people, who would support him, believing him to be a victim. I lost at least two friends thanks to him, and even my closest friends, who did stand by me, still don't see him as actually malevolent but just confused, so I had to be wary of them and keep him out of our topics because they might fall victim to gaslighting me. Fortunately, he is no longer in any of our lives and is in a completely different country now. The two friends I have who have masters level psychology saw right through him immediately though - two people who are incredibly kind and see the best in people and will go out of their way to stick their necks out for people, but who immediately mistrusted him and blocked him out completely.
I'm *not* joking - it sounds like we may have the same ex (he'd even country hopped). I've had some really bad ones, but *that* is the only one I genuinely hope can never track me down... In either case, I think it's clear you have my *upmost* empathy and congratulations for getting out of the situation and sincere well wishes.
Ulterior motives aside: thhe diet soda thing is the only "trickery" I see in that one story. For the most part: he was just _supportive._ As for the lesbian: I can only speculate that she thought she could _go_ bi _for_ him? It still would have been a craven jerk move to _not_ just make a clean break of it _before_ it could get that far, even if she _hadn't_ smeared him. And, finally? That last story is absolutely, preciously adorable and almost brought tears to my eyes.
I good friend of mine is in a 18yr age gap relationship but the modifying factors are 1-the younger was in their 30s when they got together and 2-THE OLDER ONE NEVER TOOK CARE OF THE YOUNGER AS AN INFANT. I feel like both of those are key!
I lost my cousin to a rare form of cancer, and the final straw after over a decade of chemo and surgies, was a plate they had put in his neck, sliced open a tumor in his neck. Despite it leaking cancer all over, the tumor grew, and he chose to call it quits, and no one blamed him. What's worse? They didn't know what would kill him first. The Niagara Cancer -fall that was literally coating his internal organs, or if the tumor would asphyxiate him. They never told me, and I don't want to ever know. You can tell your kid "Hey, daddy's sick, and soon hes going to look and sound different, but I'm not going anywhere, it'll be me, your dad." You don't win shit by letting cancer win. It's scary and it will be a shift that may take time, but be there for your kid. That. Being there? That will make him not scared. Letting yourself be literally consumed by cancer because YOU'RE scared, and rather just LEAVE your son, than let him be maybe scared for a bit, then understand "oh this is ok, its just dad this is normal now"? I get being scared. It's cancer, it's always scary. But don't let it win because you think your kid will scream everytime he sees you. He might at first, but kids adapt pretty quickly. Fcking. Fight for your boy, if you love him so much. Stop counting your losses. You're lucky to see him grow up. Not many can say that. Not many have a choice. You do. 😤
Note for the editor: you missed one of the D**** censors in the middle of a paragraph. Cliccy, One good thing about the ordeal with Voldemorticia (she who must not be named), it brought me and I hope many others to your and Oz's channels. Let the good memes roll 🤙
26:44 Please listen.. Especially if you're young.. Smoking is NOT a helpful coping mechanism. I'm 45 and trying to quit smoking, and these stories have always scared me. I'm in therapy now to deal with maladaptive coping mechanisms, and I hope I'm not too far gone, but such an addictive habit is harder to break the older one gets. Please find healthier ways to deal with stress while you're young and your body can repir itself better💜 I hope that someone who needs encouragement sees this comment and the post in the timestamp, and chooses better for themselves
People say it's never too late to quit, but my great-aunt found out she had cancer after she'd already quit, and it killed her. Really, it's never too soon to quit. Wishing you strength and joy on your journey.
Update: it's very difficult to stop from a day to another, but I managed to "quit a little" going from 4/5 cigs a day to 2/3. I smoke only when I'm at my job, so during weekend or outdoor I never have anything, even when I have to work from home. Stil a long journey to go through 🥲
@@darkusvintivol9960 I hope your quitting journey is still going well! My husband is a smoker and he's been trying to quit. It's not easy to do and I feel for you. When things get hard and you have a set back, just be gentle with yourself. Any amount of quitting is better than none at all! Eventually you'll get there.
The story about the woman finding her husband's second phone was such a thrilling read. I'm glad she had her friend around to help her both emotionally and with the detective work. I also enjoyed hearing about the husband panicking SO much.
r/trueoffmychest is such an experience. It oscillates so wildly and I like it for that. A lot of subreddits are pretty specific (no shit) so having a huge mix of things helps keep them from going stale. As an example of the opposite, r/insaneparents and r/facepalm are definitely important things to cover, but they also get really repetitive and draining really quickly. I love this subreddit because that doesn’t happen. Anyway, great video, don’t stop making videos on the other subreddits I mentioned, but I do always very much appreciate this subreddit
28:51 minutes The man who is getting 40% of his jaw removed, can actually have reconstructive surgery, the surgery won’t 100% miraculous as to bring him back to where he was before the tumor, but he wouldn’t be as monstrous as he’ll think he’d be with the removal surgery
Question for trans people here: if I do voice training, will I still be able to use my original voice, or will my voice change for good? Asking for very cis, very gender solid reasons.
In theory, you will not loose your original voice. I kind of think of it as how exclusively voice actors do it. But similar to languages, if you don't use one for extended periods of time (years), you may forget how to use your original voice or have it feel odd when you do get back around to using it. We have a very notable MTF in our country who explained her experience and she mentioned how her birth voice sounded so alien when she tried to use it for a biography documentary.
@@sheersternfeld1914 From the view of an SLP though not specialised in trans voices - like the others said - most likely it won't be exactly the same anymore if you don't use the old voice anymore. But I think it should be possible to cultivate both voices at the same time. It's a bit different if it's FtM than MtF because of the size of the organs involved. It's impossible to make the basic organic structures like the larynx/voice box smaller without surgery (and that can open it's own can of worms). Once the larynx is a certain size it's not gonna get smaller anymore (it can/will however grow through the addition of testosterone). But you can train the muscles and the way you use your voice, how you breath and a whole lot of things and that can make a hell of a lot of a difference. But once you change everything you get used to a certain way of talking and going back to the origninal way can be really hard or almost impossible. Once muscles are retrained and you use your structures a bit differently they will be strengthend differently, too - some will be stronger, some weaker etc. But you can most likely relearn because the structures are still there. Interestingly enough one can do amazing things with the right intervention of speech therapy for MtF voices that sound really feminine (I heard a few examples were I was pretty much unable to tell even though I knew what I was listening to and was actively listening for pointers) but for FtM voices without T one rarely gets a better result than "teenager/very young man". Hope that makes sense because English is not my native language :)
this isn't from personal experience but i believe that you can go back. i've seen videos of people changing back. it took them a bit of effort to find it but once they found it they could use it. i believe the video was by gocharliem if you're interested. i think it was on her voice training experience
7:20 Look, I understand the "don't beg" and "don't scream" part, but "don't cry?". If she wants to act like adults let him cry, if you want to cry you should be allowed to, that's the most adult thing to do!
As soon as I heard how the almost-wife left, I suspected her motives had been nefarious. She knew for two years that she was a lesbian, not bisexual. Yet she stayed in a romantic, living-together relationship AND accepted a wedding proposal. She went so far as to reassure him that she hesitated only because she was overcome with emotion. No, she hesitated because she was rewriting plans in her head. I would bet she was using him for financial support, possibly for insurance. She was probably socking away money to use to move out, especially since she already had a partner on the side. And now that we know the rest of the story-and her true character-I’m almost certain it was something like that.
"Let's handle this like adults" In MIDDLE SCHOOL I dated sombody who came out as trans, and I was lesbian, and we broke up mutually, and are now still close freinds In MIDDLE SCHOOL.
For the person with a facial tumor as someone who has experience with something similar. Those who love you will still love you. Smaller children may be scared at first as it is new but it will become their normal. When my mom had her cancer removed and it changed the way she looked at talked it didn't take long for the kids to settle in as if nothing had changed. Even the youngest who was initially scared as she was to young to understand was sitting in my mom's laps within an hour. The kids all love their grandma whether or not they remember her before or after the surgery.
The update to the lesbian story is also a (not so) good way to find out how true your friends really are. Because what kind of friend would believe the one side of the story they heard and not contact their friend to ask wtf is going on?
18:00 This story heals my soul a little bit. I've seen so many people not get caught for this kinda stuff. My own life was ruined by someone pulling this kind of crap and he still hasnt gotten in trouble for it. I know the videos are for the lols, but I cant thank you enough for sharing stories with good endings, means a lot to me 💜
That lesbian stringing along story at the start caused me to just drop my video game controller in shock at what I was listening to. That's literally so messed up. Edit: For anyone curious, it was a Wii Remote I dropped. I was playing The Legend of Zelda Twilight Princess in the Lakebed Temple.
@@melima_same XD. Stopped using it when it stopped reading some of game disks. Im still sad I can't finish the Metroid Prime trilogy... (i stopped in the middle of the second game)
5:50 BASED ON WHAT WE KNOW FROM THE POST, she is in the wrong here. She led him on for 2 years and ACCEPTED THE MARRIAGE PROPOSAL. She put him through an insane emotional roller-coaster because she let him believe they were getting married, something he seemed to be very happy about. Leaving and blocking him like that was just cutting ties without facing the consequences of her actions. The "adult way" of doing this would have been to have a conversation and break up. The worst part is that no one even cares to ask him how he's doing after his entire relationship collapsed in an instant. That is something that will scar him for life.
What click is talking about at around 41:30 reminds me so much of what my father would do. He'd constantly use the "we had some good times" argument to excuse his abuse and try and argue that I shouldn't be traumatised and should trust him. It's absolute BS, I trust him less because of it. If he was constantly abusive it would've been better because at least I'd know what to expect instead of walking on eggshells because I don't know what'll set him off.
Has anyone mentioned how incredibly abusive it is to secretly change someone's food without their consent? Or how patronizing it is for someone to try and "trick" their loved one into behavior intended to change their bodies?
11:12 update on this story was basically that the girlfriend had lied to the friends, saying he was grabbing her, not letting her leave, cussing her out, locking her inside. That’s why nobody talked to him and everybody was congratulating her. Edit: apparently he adds the update later lol
29:21 Regarding dating someone who was once your “wet nurse”: in many cultures, that would literally be considered incest. That person’s kids would also be off limits, just like your siblings. And yes, the son HAS been groomed. Besides, 20 to 43 is a huge gap in maturity and life experience, EVEN IF they meet when the younger person is twenty.
With the guy feeling like his kid will think he's a monster: there's always an adjustment time, but the most important part is that he's still completely himself on the inside. He's still the dad that wrote such beautiful things about how much he loves his son. A few years ago, my dad had an ischemic stroke in his spinal chord during surgery, leaving him with incomplete quadriplegia. He was also worried that he would be considered differently, or left behind in some way by his friends. It didn't help that this was at the peak of covid restrictions, and with him in the neuro ICU, i only got to see him twice in the 52 days he was there. And I was the only one. But he was still my fucking dad, one of my best friends. And the rest of his friends were calling and facetiming all the time. He actually walked out of the hospital (with the aid of a walker, but still), and once home he quickly realized that people didn't care what he could or couldn't do. Because he was the same amazing person.
28:34 honestly i think he needs to explain to his son whats going to happen to him so hes not completely caught off guard because it can either be he'll stare in confusion, be scared of him because 40% of his face is gone, or just not be bothered by it, but I am surprised they're not giving him some form of facial reconstructive surgery or a form of prosthetic for his lower jaw and throat so he appears somewhat "normal" for his own self-confidence like theyre just gonna butcher away 40% of his face and tell him to be on his way, especially for the amount his probably paying as well to have that surgery done like at least do something for him
41:18 the googleable phrase for what the Click is talking about is "moral licensing" When double-checking that I had the phrase right, I discovered that one of the search results is the wikipedia article for "Self-licensing", a broader concept that included moral licensing along with other things, and the summary section of the article conflates the two in a way that implies that eating a greasy hamburger is immoral.
The lesbian gf one: it's possible that the gf's parents were telling her that she needed to be honest with him the whole two years that they knew. No, they didn't tell him, but because it wasn't their news to deliver, it was hers.
Honestly? Screw them! When he proposed, that's the point when the parents should have gone "you tell him NOW or we will". They stayed silent, they are 100% complicit.
10:30 She could of told him 5 years into the relationship that she was a lesbian, from the way he explained their relationship he would be sad and understanding and move on. But to do it almost on the 11th hour, dumping him and everyone in her circle ditching a guy they had known for 1-7 years. RAT BEHAVIOR 🐀🐀🐀
Click you are too kind, the woman in the "coming out" post toyed with the man 2 years(longer really), and then destroyed him. Doing that to someone,shattering their heart and instantly moving on is pure malice. Being beaten unconscious is preferable to that level of emotional torture.
Update:
There was a first name missing a censor at one place in the wife story, this has been fixed and should be censored as soon as YT processes it!
thank you for the heads up
On a related note, IT IS NOT A SLUR LOL JUST A CENSORED NAME
- the dude never called anyone a slur, please don't say that he did
- people saying it's "okay to call someone slurs cuz they were upset" can stop
- I never read out a slur, the word was "beeped" out retroactively when it became apparent it was a real name
geesh man, I could make a parody video on censoring gone wrong 🤦♂
I was about to point out the missing censor, good to know it's been fixed!
THAT'S WHY captions suddenly became unavailable a little bit ago! You re-uploaded. I was losing my damn mind 😆! I had to navigate away for a sec and suddenly stuff didn't work anymore, lol.
well not re-uploaded, but youtube does a lil reprocessing when you edit with the on platform tools :)
@@TheClick Good to know, thanks. Got my headphones working by a miracle, so I don't need the captions at the moment, thankfully. Thank you for protecting people's privacy!
You also didnt censor the M name in that same story good enough. I can still read the name if I guess one (obvious) letter.
How hard is it to just be like "we no longer have compatible sexualities" and... NOT run a slander campaign?
If my experience is anything to go by, surprisingly easy. And I'm a repulsed ace who would rather give a hall pass than compromise.
No friendship, just abandonment
Apparently, when someone's a garbage human being, pretty damn hard. In my opinion, she's a person who for whatever reason likely sees everything as there being winners and losers and that she will do what she has to in order not be a loser. That or she's a compulsive liar. Either way, the way you deal with them is the same. I've had a few people in the past who're like this. And it's maddening. You cut the ones out of your life that you can and you compartmentalize your encounters with the ones you can't be rid.
@@robinkholmes7127you dont have to be friends with someone if you dont vibe with them anymore. I know some people just don't like to be friends with ex's and thats okay.
Im not talking about OP's situation. I just mean in general. Someone who breaks up with you isn't necessarily going to be your friend, thats not necessarily selfish or wrong. Of course its heavy case by case but ii just mean in general.
Some people are just bad people. My ex secretly cheated on me and I divorced her when I found out. She then lied to everyone making me out to be the bad person. She even tried to get me in legal trouble by claiming I stole some things. I had proof otherwise.
I had a similar situation to the lesbian one. Where my partner identified as bi, I came out as a trans man, and they realized they were a lesbian. The BIG DIFFERENCE is that they told me within a month, we broke off the engagement, and all our friends were supportive of BOTH of us. We still live together and are best friends. (We joke that we're platonic soulmates.) That's what handling it like an ADULT looks like.
As a fellow trans man, that must’ve felt… a little affirming? That she was like “Oh, I’m not feeling romantically attracted to you anymore because you’re a guy.” She immediately respected your identity and saw you as a man. Pretty poggers.
Also, funny story of my own. My ex-gf and I broke it off a little less than a year before I realized I was trans. I messaged her on Insta a while later saying “heeeeey. I’m trans now and also gay”. She simply responded “how shocking 😐”. SHE CLOCKED IT BEFORE I DID.
I really love when people are able to handle things this way, losing a relationship shouldnt mean having to lose a friend! Im happy for you guys :D
@@mattuwu9978 yeah it definitely was affirming! It made a sad moment a little sweeter, honestly.
And XD yeah it's always funny when someone clocks it before you do.
I had a similar experience as your expartner with a friend I was kinda dating. She came out as a trans woman and it took me a little bit but I realized I wasn't bi and was actually just a gay man lol
HOLY SHIT THAT LITERALLY HAPPENED TO ME TOO. i came out as transmasc, she supported me, and then next thing i knew her instagram bio was suddenly "LESBIAN 🧡🤍💖"
That woman who found out her husband was cheating has THE smartest friend in the universe. Like they thought of everything!
💯 Everyone needs a friend like this, the gold standard.
We all need a friend like that.
It really feels like maybe the Friend has gone through something like the OP before, or has background she's not spoken about in some investigative role.
@@sebforce1165Considering how many women have seen that before .. I'd say she's seen that before.
Is it bad that I was expecting there to be a twist in that she was the mistress? Am I too jaded?
"Let's handle this like adults" She says after waiting two years and after four months of planning a wedding that she agreed to only to drop that on him and leave.
Like, I could understand the "Don't beg or scream" but he's not even allowed to _cry? Girl??_
I'm bi, if I was in a relationship with one and realized that I actually strictly liked the other, I would be telling that person _immediately,_ not telling anyone _but_ them then just suddenly dropping it on them and bailing while saying they aren't even allowed to cry over it. That's just so disrespectful on so many levels. Being LGBT in any sort of way doesn't give you a free pass to be an AH
So "Let's handle this like adults" means lie, isolate, cheat and think it will end well.
She used "Let's handle it like adult" as "Don't be emotional just because you have every rights to be", bruh.
My first thought hearing this is that HE may have been abusive, emotionally rather than physically. Blocking his number, the family cutting contact, the hesitation at the proposal, "Please don't beg and scream. It sounds to me like she thought he wouldn't let her leave him and was scared. Coming out is harder the closer you are to a person and NOBODY comes out without testing the waters first to make sure it's safe. I bet she tested him several times and bro failed those tests.
@seana.f.3818 she legit left and a friend saw Op's post and confirmed that she went around and lied about Op trying to put hands on her. Given that she was seeing someone else on the side, I'd say that was her was trying to ensure that if it was ever found out that she was cheating, she could play the "he was abusive and I felt lonely/neglected/had no other choice" card
@@owl7072 yeah, I should have waited until the end of the video before commenting. 😂
Click doesnt smell us individually anymore, what an outrage
Now every time he says a specific name I check if it's actually an older video and not a new one
Yeah, why did he not do that?
Click deadnamed me one time doing that lmao
@RyattWolf same here, but he doesn't do it intentionally
this is such an unhinged comment even in context, well done
Well, I finally admitted to my mom that I, a dude, have a boyfriend. I was afraid to tell her because she's a Christian woman, and I've heard enough horror stories on the internet of people getting disowned by their parents for not being straight.
Yeah, turns out I had nothing to worry about. While she was definitely surprised that I was into guys, she was super supportive and basically told me "as long as you're happy with it, I'll support your decision."
I just figured I'd share because that moment was definitely a weight being lifted off my chest. Now my stress sources have been reduced by one!
Good for you and your mum man, some of us are blessed to have support.
Happy for you, dude 😊
Wow congrats!!! 🎉 It’s definitely super stressful to come out especially when you expect to be rejected and it’s the only reason I haven’t. Props to you because that takes a lot of courage.
YES! A religious parent who can be actually supportive instead of cutting off the bloodline because of some TEXT. We need more christians like her!
Glad to hear your coming-out went great!
“How dare they plane”
Me at 3am when I thought there was a shooting star but it’s a fucking jet
Can we pretend that airpl--
Thank you clik
When? I don’t remember hearing that in the video.
right at the start@@MrRhombus
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Story 2: coming out doesn't give you an excuse to be an asshole. It's the same when people find out they are gay by cheating, that dosn't make it ok
He also needs to drop the slur even if she was shitty. It hurts more than her.
I wonder looking back if there we red flags?
Yeah, I haze that mentality of ITS Not cheating If ITS gay . . Yes, yes IT IS!!!
Lesbian story: as a lesbian I can say that what that girl did was absolutely disgusting. She should have told him as soon as she knew which at MINIMUM was 2 years ago, but she has probably known longer. I know a lot of people do this because they're scared of what their parents will say/do, but her parents already knew. What was the point in hiding it?
we're assuming she did know and wasn't constantly question or going back into a "i'm probably bi" comphet mindset
@ilngsisfh - I think if she's questioning, she should still let him know. Couples are supposed to communicate, ESPECIALLY if it's about doubts regarding the relationship. I'm a lesbian now and I was in this exact situation with a comphet mindset and at the time was still questioning (in my case though I was ace with a violent and homophobic parent). I let my ex know IMMEDIATELY despite my own fears. Our breakup would have been even sooner than that, but was postponed a week because we were long distance at the time.
Edit: I can't even fathom keeping my questioning a secret for 2 whole years. The amount of guilt I would feel knowing how I betrayed and hurt someone I care about and trust so deeply. The amount of inner turmoil from holding it in for so long, being stuck in limbo; unable to experiment and discover who I was because I was living a lie I didn't even fully believe in. I can't imagine ever doing something like that.
@@ilngsisfh but she wasn't questioning for at least 2 years, otherwise she wouldn't have told her parents. She should have told her boyfriend when she figured it out
@@paiget6200
Yeah that part is wild to me.
How did that conversation even go? "Mom, dad, I'm gay. Buuuut I'm also gonna keep dating my boyfriend, so don't tell him when we come over k?"
Why not stay friends and why alienate the rest of the friendgroup?
“How dare they plane” LMFAO
"Don't they know I read memes professionally?!"
So inconsiderate 😠
Love that you had to get in there within 10 seconds of the video posting lol
insta comment
That made me think about the lotr-movies. Iirc they had a person that got paid just for sitting in a field close to the airport and calling in planes that flew in or out a specific direction. They then stopped the filming until the plane was far enough away so the noise wouldn't disturb the movie. Maybe Click needs someone like that😅
Not to be controversial but it is no way okay to date SOMEONE YOU NURSED WHEN THEY WERE BABY. Absolutely vile. And he is month younger that her own daughter.
"not to be controversial" *proceeds to say the least controversial thing ever*
@@phaeste yeah, that was kind of the point of my comment...
I’m not religious but was born in an Islamic country. If you nurse a child they become “family” and it’s forbidden to marry them or even your kids to marry them. Cuz they’re now technically brother and sister.
Yeah but like -hang on hear me out... what if hes fork-lift certified? 😏
I've never felt such an instinctual revilement in my life as when the line of that story hit, and I mean that. Utterly sickening.
I hope that OP whose now ex-girlfriend strung him along is finding better friends and more support. That's really awful.
It seems like those "friends" weren't really friends, based on that situation alone. I only hope they're in a better place right now ❤❤
Seems that she stringing him along was worse 💀
I think there should be support groups for people in this happenstance
Okay so I’m struggling to understand why the friends are seemingly seen as so bad In this situation.
Everyone seems to agree on this so I’m genuinely trying to understand.
The friends were unaware of the stringing along and were told that he had been abusive towards her in response to her coming out. You absolutely should not respond in that situation with disbelief and victim blaming, especially considering they’re seemingly close friends it would’ve been awful if they hadn’t been supportive.
As for the poster saying they should’ve messaged him, that would be completely careless behaviour to provoke and interact with an abuser like that especially considering it would’ve been clearly against the victims wishes.
Of course I know that she was lying but they didn’t have that information. They were operating under the premise that their friend had their ex-partner respond abusively to her coming out. And when they did find out what really happened they immediately reached out, explained and apologised.
Not sure if I’m missing something but that’s where my heads at, under the information they had I’d say they acted in the best possible way they could. If my friend came to me and told me what she told them I don’t think I’d act any different.
@@turkinator1375but this is where people take the "believe all victims" too far. I've been a victim of that twice in my life. And it pisses me off they didn't even ask him what happened on his end to even see if he realized what happened, even if they believed it.
the... the friend group w/ one woman dating another woman's son...
i was like "oh no. oh thats creepy to date him when im assuming youve known that kid since birth. that opens up for some really uncomfortable dynamics and makes me question if she's been grooming him" and then got slam-dunked with "oh yeah she breastfed him as a baby btw" like NO. NOOOO. that makes it so so so much worse. and then the other two using the "well hes a legal adult now" defense.... noooo. i hate that so much. emily needs investigated and the kid needs to run.
I agree - him being a legal adult doesn’t make it ok.
Well there's exceptions, but honestly this whole "XY knew YZ when they were kids and its weird they're now dating, XY probably groomed YZ." Narrative needs to stop. Not every person is getting "groomed" by the other person.
Sure, but in this case (which is what we're talking about) she LITERALLY breastfed him as a baby. If she'd just seen him once as a kid, maybe it'll get a pass, but this? Noooo way. (Not to mention it's her friend's son, so it's doubly fucked.)
@@valentinamarkusic5124 when you've watched a kid grow from infant/child to adult, have been a consistent (and likely parental) presence in that kids life, and suddenly start dating that kid only a few years into adulthood, it becomes very very unlikely that it was just "random chance" that you two "happened to like each other as adults." especially when you can count that "as adults" timespan on one hand bc one party has only been an adult for a few years.
@valentinamarkusic5124
This is not the time to bring up “not all…”
THIS TIME it’s friggin gross.
Story of smoker getting tumor removed DID make me cry. It hits close to home. Both my mom and my sister were chain smokers. Mom was a pack a day smoker. At several points she was so bad that once one cig was out, another was lit up. She got emphysema and was put on an oxygen tank. Once again, I had begged her to stop smoking. She would STILL smoke! She would take the tubes out, turn off the machine and sit outside to smoke. It killed her at age 52.
When my sister & I went through her stuff, we realized that we could not donate any of her clothes, bedding or linen. The smell of smoke was so thick in them that even after multiple washes, it was still there.
My sister eventually quit at one point, but by then she had been smoking for over 25 yrs. She still developed throat cancer and was dead at 54.
I hate smoking so much that the smell of cigarette smoke makes me sick and I have refused to date anyone who smoked.
Absolutely same. I have no chill with people who smoke near me, near others or in general really. I am sorry for your losses.
Yeah, the important thing in all these stories is that the way forward has got to be getting help with quiting. Otherwise you're doing a diservice to the people around you.
Here's my thing with the lesbian story. This isn't the 50s anymore. She didn't have to stay in a relationship she didn't want to appease some marriage/family life milestone. Not saying she should be forced to come out, even to her ex partner that made that post. If she didn't feel comfortable giving her true explanation, then she could just say "I'm sorry, this isn't working for me" or "I don't feel we're a good fit anymore". Also telling him not to cry is absolutely baffling. Seven YEARS of a relationship, and at least 2 of them she realized she couldn't be with him. I'm a queer woman myself, and I understand learning things about yourself the more you get educated and have life experience. Started dating at 15, thought I was straight, then by 17 I thought I was bi. I've found out a lot about myself, and by the time I was 23, I found new terms that fit who I was better. Panromantic, and demisexual (used to say gray-ace until I figured that one out). So I get finding ourselves at different paces. Not everyone has the same journey, not everyone knows right away. HOWEVER, communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship. I'm assuming she got with him and stayed for 7 years because they were good friends (even if she felt pressured by society to appear in heteronormative relations), so honestly, I think she's fucked up for lying to him and stringing him along for almost a decade. Being generous that he gets to live to 100, that's almost 1 tenth of his life. The time, the money, the effort, the energy, the love. And then to be callous, and ironically feed into toxic masculinity and say don't cry about it, is fucking asinine. And his friends praising her for it are just as bad. I agree with him, fuck all of them. They showed their true colours and I hope he finds more support, and hopefully doesn't let this effect his future relationships. I guarantee he's gonna have so many trust issues that he'll refuse to date any non-straight girls in fear of this happening again, and he'll probably come off as homophobic for it. This just all-around was not a productive or healthy way for her to come out or handle the situation. I also hope she grows as a human and realizes people aren't guinea pigs for her to test her sexuality on.
the update around halfway through the video makes it even worse, girl literally accused OP of abuse and cheated on him for about a year
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@@xXMindSoulXx I saw; just finished the video. 😭 Girlie pop said it wasn't enough to hurt one person, let's lie to the side girlfriend, too. Sounds less like a coming-out fear and more just wanting an excuse to cheat and maybe commitment issues. If the girlfriend isn't lesbian, her and op should totally hook up just to fuck with her. 😂
If I were him I would move. Just move.
Stop paying bills. Fuck it.
Just go live some random life in another state.
Ghost the world. Make up a boring life story
Why come out to your parents but not your partner?
That daughter who had her dogs destroy her OWN MOTHER’S wedding dress is a psychopath holy crap
Here's the thing. The daughter is just blaming it on the dogs. When dogs destroy stuff, they 100% SHRED stuff. It's not a coincidence that the parts of the dress that the daughter wanted were "miraculously" untouched to use as originally planned. Nope, the daughter (and possibly aunt) destroyed OPs dress and blamed it on the dogs.
I don't think psychopath is the right word... maybe narcisst?
She thinks she is the center of the universe and if it doesn't concern her it is unimportant.
Her finance is going to learn that the hard way, too.
That the mother loves her I understand but that she forgives her that fast I don't.
She should have told her daughter she threw the bits of the dress out and kept them hidden so the daughter couldn't steal them.
@@CanyonALynn I bet the daughter didn't like the dress as it is, because she thought the design of the dress is outdated, knew the mother won't agree to re-design it, the aunt agreed with her, they thought for a while and came up with this "beautiful" "idea".
Imo they could just buy a new one and save everyone's nerve cells.
I don't know why she's so blind.... I personally have 3 daughters & 100% would go no contact 🤷🏻♀️ because that's way past crazy 💀🤮
Narc or psychopath, there are some deep family issues here.
I really enjoyed the second story. It is easier to lose weight when someone you love is considerate, making you feel like a king/queen, and not repeating derogatory comments.
For me it's easier, when I have someone who does the same thing.
Only problem is that I tend to get very competitive and that can get very unhealthy for me.
Last month my husband decided he wants to get fitter (we are both very overweight) and I joined him.
Now I have to drink 1-2 proteinshakes at the end of the day, so I do not consume too little calories, because most days I "forget" to eat until the evening.
By "forget" to eat I mean, that I wonder why I feel iffy from about 2pm on and notice I keeped myself busy so much, that I only had water and caffeine containing diet sodas.
I really need to keep an eye on that. 😅
@@TarisLuna Have you tried setting an alarm? One for each meal? And you're not allowed to turn it off unless you're getting food. If you must, you may snooze it or set a new alarm for an hour or so if you HAVE to wait.
@@panicwithcompulsion that wouldn't work, since I work with customers and can't take my break at exactly the same time very day + I have kids and often can't just stop what I'm doing or let an alarm ring until I'm done.
I also liked that instead pressure her into sex she didn't wanted he worked on getting her libido back up...
Loosing weight is a struggle when you have zero support.
It's insanely unfair to do that to someone and then say "don't be mad don't cry" like dude you're throwing away a long term relationship with zero discussion. Give them closure or something, don't just leave like everything meant nothing.
Its pretty damn harmful to reinforce to a man that "don't cry" = "being an adult"
I mean, i get what you're saying but there's no discussion to be had. She's gay, he's a man. It's not going to work
No-one's owed closure, though.
No and the fact that she lied to everyone saying that he reacted violently in response to coming out is actually insane
@socialmoon id say that in this case he is owed closure... or at least deserves it- like that's the very least she could have done. It's utterly heartless to spend 7 years together and not even care about how he feels. Like you'd have to have formed some bond or care during those years, if not in a romantic way but as a friend right?
28:15 @TheClick please find the update to this story, if this part of the story brings you to tears the update will make you bawl. If I remember correctly, in the update after the surgery the OP said that when the child saw his dad, the kid said something like “Dad got a big owie, look my shoes light up.”
Oh god that legit made me cry, thank you for commenting ❤
@@actualhumanyes7275 Glad I can make someone's day for the better
EDIT: Got to the update. Nutjobs are out there. Stay safe fam.
The one where the lesbian pretended to be bi and then strung along a guy for two years while people in her life knew and didn't say anything: that dude has every right to be pissed off, hurt, and hate the world right now. He was in love with someone who lied to him and betrayed him. He lost not only a partner but a family. As a lesbian yes it sucks coming out and it's hard and confusing *but* you don't drag another person through your shit. She clearly had a support system in place since she told her parents and they were accepting of her. I don't understand why she would have kept up the act with the boyfriend.
The way she handled it was just not it. My heart hurt for the guy.
Although the whole story confuses me.
Apparently she told him that she was bisexual.
Okay, totally makes sense because then she started a committed relationship with him.
But then after having a yearlong relationship with all the intimacy and stuff she decided(?) to be homosexual?
Sure, as a bisexual I could tell people I’m straight but what’s the point if I’m in a yearlong same-sex relationship at that time?
I think the worst part is that when she told him she said "to be an adult about it" as if she acted as one in the first place
i tried to rationalise it and think of a reason. All i could think of was she was staying dor the rent or something of that nature. or after coming out as bi she wanted to have a failsafe plan while looking for other partners. In any case i hope Op wouldnt end up with some trust issues that he cannot overcome.
Yeah that felt like an incomplete version of the story...
Some parts read more like her escaping him.
The woman who came out. It's not "adult" to just have her walk away. That's her trying to avoid any kind of accountability.
Being adult would be explaining, letting him ask questions, and being prepared to deal with the upset and owning up to the betrayal. Being a lesbian isn't a betrayal; stringing him along is, though.
From her parents reactions they must've known for a while.
They were in a relationship, she should've told him sooner than just before the wedding.
She literally told him at a very last moment.
That's opposite of being an adult.
Or brave, for that matter.
The proof to me that she was trying to dodge accountability was the fact she blocked him. Like, that just shows that she knew what she did was wrong, but didn't wanna deal with it. That is the exact opposite of being an adult.
And to make matters worse, OP revealed in an update that his ex-friends told him that the ex was telling everyone that he acted aggressive towards her when she came out to him and told them not to contact him (she sounds like a narcissist).
@@thatonewitchoh, wow. It took seven years to drop the dead weight, and for OP, I wish it were sooner. She truly showed who she is.
She has been dating someone WHILE engaged.
I'm honestly surprised her girlfriend didn't dumped her as well.
She very much deserved to end up with no partner and no friends.
Just to make things clear, nothing in her behavior had to do with being lesbian. If that was the only problem, she should've come out to her partner as soon as she realized that and felt confident that this is the case. She's just a cheater and manipulator, regardless of which way she swings.
Her whole behavior was exact opposite of being mature. She was honestly hoping her Ex would just drop it and move on immediately.
"I wanted to have sex more so I started paying more attention to my partner and caring about them and spending time with them" wild lol so, so wild lol
It seems like this whole story disregards the partners own motivations and the op tries to take all the credit for "tricking" their partner.
@@Aaron.Thomas In this case, though, I don't really think the motivation matters too much; they didn't do anything wrong or harmful, and in fact _helped_ their partner become healthier than they were before. You wouldn't get annoyed at someone helping someone, so why are you doing that here when no actual harm was done? Also, the partner not knowing was probably a massive help, as it allowed them to find their own motivation to become healthier, rather than a less sustainable obligation towards their partner. I do think that it'd be a good idea for the person to tell the other person about this, though.
@@Aaron.Thomas what he done was WAY more better than men who just wine to their partner that there is no enough sex.
He actually recognised an issue and worked on it with a partner WITHOUT making it creepy for her.
Its not manipulation - its solving problems
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I don't think I would mind my partner doing any of that to me in order to help me be healthy. It's just weird that it's framed into "I wanted sex more often so I made my gf lose weight" not "I wanted us to have a healthier, more connected relationship where more sex is also happening". Ofc giving your partner attention, compliments and taking them out on interesting dates is part of the solution, not just that they got skinnier 😅
Theobromine is the toxic principle in chocolate, and there are a ton of calculators online to estimate toxicity if your dog gets into some chocolate. Of course, call the pet poison hotline (USA) and take your pup to the vet if there's any concern. I always emphasize the risk of xylitol toxicity because it's not as commonly talked about, and way more dangerous. 5 pieces of chewing gum will kill a medium sized dog. If they survive the hypoglycemic episode, there's a good chance they'll still die of liver failure. Keep your purses, bags, sugar-free/keto snacks, whatever out of your dog's reach, please!
Yeah, I cannot for the life of me understand WHY Father would do that. I go into vet mode when my dogs get a few tiny crumbs of muffin lol
Xylitol and lilies are two specific things that are permanently banned from my household.
I have a cat & a dog that are basically my kids.
And look out for discarded chewing gums when outdoors. Many peeps still spit them out where ever they feel like, ending up either in pets or kids mouths, on the bottom of strangers shoes or like cigarette butts, in the waterways. Trash or swallow your gums, kids.
@@janemiettinen5176I work at a kennel that's right next to a car dealership, where half the guys working there are chill and cool and the other half are the types to "test drive" any sports cars they get in the dealership for repairs just to take a joy ride around town. Basically, the guys who don't give a shit about anything unless it inconveniences them.
In the grass where we often walk the dogs, near the entrance and exit roads, I've had to basically scour the ground because a 9 week old puppy I was walking got her mouth around a whole cigarette (I had to pry ROCKS outta this pup's mouth...) and I got super worried and asked my boss (used to be vet tech, nearly became a vet fully) if it would be harmful. Thank god it wouldn't be, since I got it outta her mouth before she could chew it, but I also find candy wrappers and all sorts of litter that's small and barely noticable out in that area. Boss says that most people don't really care where they're tossing trash if they're already willing to litter, but it still upsets me greatly that some people are so unaware of the world around them and uncaring of others that they toss litter that could very well have traces of toxic things out into an area right next to a giant sign that literally says THE NAME OF THE KENNEL AND THAT ITS AN ANIMAL KENNEL. It's not even like we're a small place! We're literally considered one of the _best_ boarding kennels in the local area, especially for special needs cases. We do special work for the nearby Veterans Clinic and some of their residents who need someone to care for their pet(s) while they're treated, we take in pooches for folks who need help getting their lives back together, we take so many elderly and special needs pets..... Imagine if some veteran, already dealing with so much shit, learns their beloved pooch either got horribly ill or DIED because there was a fucking gum wrapper/spit-out gum tossed in the grass that someone didn't notice while walking a dog, and the dog got its mouth on it?
People can be so terrible, it hurts me honestly.
24:10 - Also: You're not always going to click with your first therapist, or maybe not even your second. Finding a therapist who grooves with you can take time.
It's also important to compare therapy methods! Some may work better for you than others. Unfortunately, therapy is something that is more useful once you've got a lot of experience with it and know what works and what doesn't
@@restrictedmilk That's very true! They might have the same end goal, but they take different roads to get there. (And tbh, that's why I went with my mom a lot - I wasn't very good at advocating or saying what worked/didn't work. I'm better now tho!)
@@Yuruble I'm so glad you had someone to help you navigate it until you found your own feet! 😄
That first story was one hell of a power move. Absolutely the proper way to assert dominance
She's my new personal hero🦸♀️
I like to play a game called flip the gender on stories like that. The friend shouldn’t have called her crazy but she also shouldn’t have flashed her naked body at him when he was not consenting to it.
@@NightshadeDE you'd be surprised how many men go around naked in front of women no pretext required.
@@availanila I mean yeah that’s my point here it’s not good for anyone to do that
@@NightshadeDE In that point, a naked woman and a naked man are not comparable.
Societywise at least.
DONT YOU KNOW THE CLICCY THICKY KITTY IS THE MAIN CHARACTER OF THE RUclips
that's my favourite TV show. I love it when cliccy thicky kitty reads jokes from the internet and explores new subpages on that red emoji face site
Preach
As the "future partner", I can attest that it has taken me the full 5 years of my relationship and probably another dozen or more to go, to gain my wife's trust. She had an ex who would disappear, gallavant, do shady stuff etc. I willingly bear the burden of always being upfront and honest. We have a phone tracker app we share and even now, when i work construction in developed neighborhoods, still openly show her the addresses of homes I may have jobs at. I've never been the type to cheat or go running off, and it's taken me some time to figure out that she NEEDS that knowledge and confirmation to feel at ease. Being the victim of cheating/infidelity cannot be easy
You're such an understanding and kind person.. My husband is trying, I can tell, things are just difficult. We've only got a year to your 5 though and that gives me so much hope. ❤
That's awesome of you, but your wife needs therapy.
That's so kind and patient of you, awesome that you're putting in effort to make her feel safe. I do hope it's gotten better over time, it's sad if she still needs constant access to your location after 5 years. At some point one needs to learn to trust, but ofc, everything happens one little step at a time. Kudos for being so understanding though!
I respect that. People can be insecure for a lot of reasons, not just past sexual trauma. If there's ever a car accident on the news in the area you're working in, she'll be able to check the tracker and know whether to worry about you.
This is so sweet
Click's reaction to the cheater with the extra phone is the same as mine when watching true crime shows ("You Googled how to poison somebody?! How did you think you would get away with this?").
That's why I do research for stories and just file the info away, you know...
On the off chance I ever need it.
About the story with the lesbian pretending to be bi, I had a similar thing happen to me recently. My partner came out as trans and I realised I was a lesbian. The difference is that I told my partner within two weeks! Not two years! The fact that she has the audacity to say "let's act like adults" and then proceeds to frame her ex as an ABUSER is absolutely flabergasting to me.
to the guy losing his face to cancer...you may want to have him pick out a couple masks and possibly voice changers, time to embrace our tech age. darth vader voice anyone?
"From the moment I understood the weakness of my flesh […]"
Impressive.... most impressive!
I would've thought he just got a prosthetic jaw. We have the technology. He still has his tongue.
Darth Malak with the prosthetic jaw
I figured the son would be excited more than anything. Dad's a monster and young sons (typically) think monsters are cool. But having your dad be Darth Vader too???? Just imagine the PTA meetings
Click, you may never see this but you helped me find out I was pan, non binary. Thank you for helping me and Mabe other gays
he saw it and i am proud of you for knowing what you want in life!
Twinsies
We love you, genderless cookware. You are awesome!!
I've an adult child who is also pan/non binary- We love you just as you are, and want you to live a happy and fulfilled life!
Love free love
Cheaters just tend to be stupid. Even if they're smart otherwise, 'affair fog' just makes them dumb.
Entitled and often narcs
Plus, the few smart ones usually don’t get caught before the guilt gets to them and they leave on their own.
Although even the “smart ones” are pretty dumb for not realizing how much easier it is to just get the break up or divorce out of the way, so they can go be happy with this new person, without all the BS. Or how much easier it is to put that work towards improving the relationship they already have.
Then there's people(let's face it, men) who have entire other lives and families and can keep it all together and I can barely set up autopay.
@@dudewhatthewhat8983some become addicted to that rush though.
"This reminds me of someone I had to deal with in the past"
Oh no, not the triangle again. Poor Click.
Yeah… I feel so bad for him.
@@db_524
And he wasn't even the main victim in question.
What happened (or where can I find it)? I'm fairly new to the channel :(
@@smig2801 To be concise and not shed more light on the dead drama, just know there was a collab channel that included illuminaughty(I think I spelled that right). She accused people of stuff they probably didn't do, and the channel shut down. Everyone else was hurt by this and would probably prefer if people didn't go looking it up 👁👁
@@SaboTheFish Yeah, I googled it and his video came up. I'm completely shaken up. Thank you for the clarification, I had absolutely no idea it was this bad and definitely won't mention it again (and I'll edit my original comment, this definitely is no "tea")
I know it’s not the same but the jaw story reminds me of when my dog lost her eye. It was dislodged from her head. I remember my sister seeing her and being too scared to look at her. She was only 8 and she’d cry every time she saw our dog (she adored our dog). It wasn’t because she saw my dog as a monster. She was scared because she was hurt and scared for our dog and didn’t know how to express that. she wanted my dog to be okay and a change in appearance highlighted that she wasn’t so my sister cried. But she adored our dog until the day she died and she still adored her. If that little boy is afraid it’s out of love.
My mom had to get surgery on her neck, leaving her with some pretty visible stitches for awhile. My nephew was 4 at the time.
He was scared at first, then worried she was hurt. She explained that it's a little sore, but no, she wasn't hurt, and in fact felt much better now that she's not sick anymore. He laughed and gave her a hug.
After processing everything, he also told her she looked like "a Frankenstein" (it was close to Halloween) which she thought was hilarious! 💞
@@KiboSantiYour mom is a killer _(not literally)_ aunt
i'm in love with the cheated on wife's best friend. that is a friend that we should all hope to have. absolute support, good ideas, smart plans, beautifully vindictive towards the person who hurt her friend while not punishing the other woman. Love her, adore her, be her.
I'm a cis man, and I do aspire to be her
I want the update on that one so bad.
I have a suspicion that "helpful friend" has been through something similar, and is speaking from some experience.
OH. So the girl who came out as lesbian is just a massive see you next Tuesday and it has nothing to do with her sexual preference. A liar, a cheater, saying OP is abusive... Wow. Just wow. I'm also doubting she's even a lesbian. I think this just came down to her not wanting to be caught as a cheat so she broke it off trying to look like the good one cuz I doubt anyone would hate her for being lesbian, but no one likes a cheat.
Why would she fake being lesbian to her friends? You think her dating him was a secret too? She wanted clout?
@dodgyyoutuber9560
I feel it may have been a partial cover up for her leaving him right before the wedding
@@dodgyyoutuber9560 she faked all kinds of things to her friends and was clearly comfortable lying to her gf about her "roommate" so... yeah, she was faking quite a bit of herself.
@@dodgyyoutuber9560 She could have realized she was bi, started cheating, and felt that it would make her look more sympathetic to come out as a lesbian because then her cheating on her boyfriend looks less scummy since she wasn't attracted to him at all ever. That said who even knows. Even if she is a lesbian her actions are just as scummy and I guarantee her relationship with her GF will in all likelihood end up the same. Her GF needs to break up with her ASAP before she gets hurt just as badly.
The OP found out that his relationship was built on lies and was left alone to deal with it, selfish ex.
The story of the guy losing his jaw to cancer actually did make me cry. As a parent, that kind of fear hits harder
I hope that the guy with the jaw removal seeks mental health therapy, despite his son's love giving him strength and hope, so that he doesn't fall into a deep depression after the surgery. Depression sucks and can make you miss out on so many amazing moments, it comes suddenly, and it's better to already have a therapist beforehand in such a situation, than to have to search for one while depression already sucks all energy out of you, not to mention the physical healing process he's gonna go through.
Call anyone “crazy” in an argument, and you are testing them fr.
Crazy? I was crazy once
@@WhoStoleKirya73 They locked me in a room.
You're either going to immediately infuriate them or they're going to prove to you that they're crazy lmfao
@@equizzix4804 A rubber room
NO STOP PLEASE@@WhoStoleKirya73
As you were talking about “aggressively smelling them back” my phone did an accidental crazy zoom in IN ADDITION to your zoom and I saw nothing but your face and it was *terrifying*
How tho?
@@hashbird22 mobile youtube has a built-in zoom function if you use two fingers to reverse-pinch
@@hashbird22I’m guessing they maybe lightly graced their phone screen and it activated the zoom in function.
@@Acidfrog475 so it was no accident..
@@hashbird22 I don’t like asking this, but are you stupid?
30:57 Yeah this gives me _major_ incest-vibes here.
If "Emily" were a functioning adult human, there is _no way_ she could see "Henry" as anything other than a child, or as a peer to her own child.
I have a friend who's a high school teacher. He's encountered ex-students at the bars, guys who had the hots for him back when they were his students but were still closed teens. His response to these encounters has universally been, "That's flattering, but you're making me feel like a pedo." There's a wall between teachers and their students that the teachers Do Not Cross, and it can be such a hard wall that it remains in place even after the ex-student is well into adulthood.
So yes, yes "Emily" is really, really messed up.
Can pretty much guarantee you that if the genders were switched (minus the breast feeding part, of course), everyone would have been tearing the adult guy a new AH.
Or maybe not. I just listened ( the past few days) to a Reddit story where OP was an older sister to a just high school graduate sister, and her TEACHER started dating her, and then asked her to marry him, and EVERYONE, including parents, thought it was WUNNN-derful (small town situation). Twists and turns in the story, but big sis finally got her out of there. (She bought her sister a phone; husband didn’t like that).
@@moon-moth1 Key words being “well-adjusted”. Luckily it (the little sister with the phone) ended up with her getting out of there.
Did you just compare 'teens flirting with adult' and '20+ year old dating an adult'?
@@spiderlily723 No, I did not.
I don't see how you're reading _that_ into what I wrote. That's a you-thing.
My point is that sane, functioning adults have a revulsion to anyone below a certain age because it makes you feel like a p3do, and that "certain age" increases as you get older. I also point out how this effect is even _stronger_ in teachers due to their professional association with teens.
Given this fact, this natural feeling, "Eeew, too young!" then this woman dating a 20 y.o. _THAT SHE NURSED_ 20 years earlier … there's something _majorly _*_broken_* with this woman.
_THAT_ is my point. And you not only missed it, you went off trail into some weird territory.
@@spiderlily723 Oh, one more thing: there *_WERE NO TEENS_*_ doing any flirting with any adults_ in anything I wrote.
What I described was a *_COLLEGE AGE_* or recent college grad telling his gay *_FORMER_* H.S. Spanish teacher that he had/has a crush on said teacher.
I don't know how I can be any clearer.
as a person who got to hear "I didn't love you for over half a year" at a break up, I feel so sad for OP. The break up it self is one thing, but beeing lied to for this amount of time leaves marks.
Revenge Cereal.
"I reminded him I was crazy..."
Kinda reminded me of one of the last scenes in Gaslight, only more slurpy, less stabby.
ok at first I felt bad for that person's partner who came out as lesbian because coming out can be terrifying and I can only imagine what kinds of things you'd be scared of when coming out in a committed relationship... but holy shit I don't believe that anymore, there's no way that a person masterminds all of that while still being anything close to a decent human.
Yeah there is a difference to overly defensive due to fear, and active malice.
yeah, what got me first is that the ex bf seemed to imply that their friends and family were supportive to the lgbtqia+ cause, as she was already out as bi. she had even confided with her parents for _two years_ so she had a place to fall back on ... many of us wouldn't be so lucky. and ok, i know some people are goofy with homophobia and hate some sexualities in the community more than others, but idk i didn't get that vibe from this story.
@@princeapoopoo5787 mhm, I will say that as a trans person even knowing my friends and family were supportive it was still pretty scary to come out. I didn't even end up doing it on purpose and I'm honestly kind of glad I didn't because I've made so much progress that I wouldn't have been able to until I came out and that might've taken me a long time. However, I know coming out as trans and coming out as gay are fairly different and the former is probably a bit more scary for most.
At first, I was scratching my head, wondering what I was missing. Now we know.
9:23 had an update, someone he knew saw the post and turns out his ex told everyone that when she came out to him, he responded badly and tried to hurt her, then she told everyone to dont even speak to him coz she didnt want to make a big deal out of it or something like that, so yeah shes a horrible person.
Oh good the update was included later
That's ... pure evil ...
I really do hope he find someone better in the future
@@natchopekoHonestly I hope his ex finds out about this post one day and see how much she messed up his life
@@HiAgainTheNameIsStillAyle that's assuming she'd even give a fuck
That wedding dress story is wild.
We know the daughter did it on purpose, I'd bet on it. To top it off, the callousness she displayed after is very telling. The sister 100% knew what the daughter did too, it was too convenient that she called to say "Its ruined, give daughter the pieces". I'm sorry, excuse you? The daughter not going to OP to retrieve the dress pieces is so obviously because she's a coward.
This reeks of entitlement and a lack of basic empathy. When OP fines out the truth, the relationship will be shattered.
Also. When dogs destroy. They SHRED! i would know. I lost my favourite onesie to my dog because we had it on the clothes line, unprotected and drying... the onesie wasn't visible anymore because it was nothing but atoms. So the embroidery "conveniently" surviving is straight up her blaming the dogs for an impossible situation. Because the dress would be gone. Also. My dog stole my parents 800 dollar cover. They get the 10 dollar one now. And my dog wonders why she's almost dying from heat when she stole the cover that is 99% WARMTH!
@@Chara_Dreemurr1
I had dogs myself (better behaved), but it also depends on the time they had to shred the dress.
But I must say the fact that certain desired parts of the dress were unharmed is fishy!
What irks me the most is the absolute disrespect after destroying the dress, (doesn't matter if she was it herself or her dogs) towards the feelings of the mother!
There's absolute no empathy, not even fake empathy!
That alone should be a double red flag, all what was left after is a conclusion.
I feel she tested if she could get away with it and from that point on she gets savage.
I doubt, that will be the only
incident with that women.
9:40 - Not being compatable doesn't mean you suddenly forget basic human decency
Wow, the dad who fed the dog chocolate sounds like a child. Maybe he was jealous of the attention the dog gets or maybe he was just childishly curious what would happen. Do not trust him around anything you want to keep, sounds like he would poke a bear just to see what happens, if you know what I mean.
It sounded to me like he already knew what cocoa does to dogs, and was trying to kill the dog, and got caught. The whole thing of trying to blame the 18y/o seems to be further evidence of this, and when that didn't work they just started acting like a moron as a red herring.
@@dreamboy4724 my a-dad was kinda like that. Was an alcoholic but I can’t put everything he did down to being drunk. He would put plates with chicken bones on the floor, and occasionally try to give our dogs chocolate if he was eating it, but was repeatedly told not to.
Dad sounds like a narcissist who always thinks he knows better. The deflection of blame confirms this to me.
Small aside about that dad saying, "I already paid the bills" or something like that. I don't think that he was referring to any ambitious bill, but was making the argument that he paid the vet bills and had therfore "paid the price for his stupidity" Which is a stupid argument from a stupid man, cudos to the son.
I don't know if anyone will read this but here is a quick first aid lesson if you find yourself in this position. Your dog has swallowed something toxic. Immediately call your nearest vet clinic or animal hospital to inform them of the situation and that you are coming in. If you have any hydrogen proxide or medical grade active charcoal around administer it to your dog. The proxide will induce vomiting to clear their stomach of any undigested toxins. While the active charcoal will absorb any toxins left in the body. But for God sakes never stop getting your pupper to the vet ASAP!
@@recallshifter To clarify, do we make the dog drink the hydrogen proxide? Excuse my ignorance, but that just doesn't sound right or safe to me, but I'm probably wrong, so I was hoping for more info if you would lol
27:30 i can confirm that when someone's child starts crying and refusing to be near their parent, the parent feels AWFUL..... my source is my dad, when i was younger (around 13 years old) i saw him without his beard for the first time in my life, he always have a big viking like beard, but when i saw him without his beard and he tried to get close to give me a hug with a happy smile on his face, he was met with me bawling and screaming running away from him, because i couldn't recognise him...... i still tell him sorry to this day and give him the biggest hug everytime i see him now 😅
*slight update* forgot to add that i'm now 25 and was an only child up until 3 years ago, i'll help my younger siblings and dad through the same thing if it ever happens again.
I did something similar to my own father, and I still feel bad today. (For reference, I was maybe 4 when this happened and I'm about to hit 30 now.) He was an over-the-road truck driver, so we didn't see him much. When he did get to come home, he'd usually just want to sleep. So when he came through the door one day, my tiny child brain didn't recognize him and I ran screaming and crying to my mother about a strange man coming in the door. I know it hurt him deeply, because he quit that trucking job and got hired at the local ladder factory instead. But... apparently it's something that needed to happen because he really wasn't spending any time with his kids.
I had something similar happen when I was I think 7 or 8. My mom came home once with an off the shoulder haircut, and it took me several minutes to realize that it was her because I was so used to seeing her with long hair.
I didn't cry, scream, or run away, but I was sitting on the couch just *staring* at this strange woman I didn't recognize who had just come into our house and was standing at the door. What finally made me realize it was her is when she started talking, but even then, it took me several minutes to match her voice with her appearance. I could tell it was my mom's voice, but it was coming from a person I couldn't recognize.
My younger sibling did this about 35yrs + ago when they were a toddler and our Dad shaved his beard for the first time in their memory - he still had a hugely epic 80s ‘stache, but I still remember the screams and tears and I was just 2yrs older 😂😂
having warning ahead of time is always a big help. Source: Brother is autistic and needs forewarning if anything changes at all.
@@DarcOne13 i 2nd this, i have ADD with autism (possibly aspergers) and we didn't really know until after it had already happened unfortunatel :'D
BUT! he has never fully shaved his beard since then, so i think it had an affect on him, he does style it sometimes when he goes for interviews or when he gets filmed :')
9:47 I agree with you click. As a lesbian myself, I can’t imagine doing this when I was figuring myself out. It’s cruel as hell.
I'm getting war flashbacks to that story where an 11 year old boy became a father because of the babysitter being a creep with that story about the friend banging their friend's son, who they help nurse.
I REALLY don't trust that lady as she might've done more than what anyone knows. Only person who can tell the truth being the guy in question.
The cheating partner who came out as lesbian likely wasn't just afraid of losing friends but was trying to cover her tracks by making people not talk to each other so they would never corroborate stories. The way things are blowing up for this person seems like the classic fallout from calling out a narcissist.
I knew someone like that once who would go from one beneficiary to another to financially support him, and who would destroy the friendships of people who helped him that knew each other through complete misrepresentations of them, and where any people who didn't know each other were both trying to support him got in touch with each other to make the logistics of helping easier he would tell both sides that the other person had been abusive and beg them to block the person to "make him feel safer" but it later turned out he was still asking all of these people he had apparently blocked for money or to stay with them while basically claiming they were his "only" hope and that every person he had ever had in his life had been abusive. He literally used an acquaintance for a marriage visa, then appealed to me for a place to say, saying that person was an abuser, then would tell other people I was "cruel" and "uncaring" when I asserted any boundaries whatsoever or became too exhausted to keep babying him like a child as I had to work.
And he got a friend outside of the country to send him MASSIVE amounts of money - TWICE - for a surgery he "desperately needed". He spent all that money the first time and the second time physicians refused to give him because he was so psychologically erratic that his own psychologist refused to vouch for him.
Sadly he was convincing of everyday people, who would support him, believing him to be a victim. I lost at least two friends thanks to him, and even my closest friends, who did stand by me, still don't see him as actually malevolent but just confused, so I had to be wary of them and keep him out of our topics because they might fall victim to gaslighting me. Fortunately, he is no longer in any of our lives and is in a completely different country now.
The two friends I have who have masters level psychology saw right through him immediately though - two people who are incredibly kind and see the best in people and will go out of their way to stick their necks out for people, but who immediately mistrusted him and blocked him out completely.
I'm *not* joking - it sounds like we may have the same ex (he'd even country hopped). I've had some really bad ones, but *that* is the only one I genuinely hope can never track me down...
In either case, I think it's clear you have my *upmost* empathy and congratulations for getting out of the situation and sincere well wishes.
Ulterior motives aside: thhe diet soda thing is the only "trickery" I see in that one story. For the most part: he was just _supportive._
As for the lesbian: I can only speculate that she thought she could _go_ bi _for_ him? It still would have been a craven jerk move to _not_ just make a clean break of it _before_ it could get that far, even if she _hadn't_ smeared him.
And, finally? That last story is absolutely, preciously adorable and almost brought tears to my eyes.
I good friend of mine is in a 18yr age gap relationship but the modifying factors are 1-the younger was in their 30s when they got together and 2-THE OLDER ONE NEVER TOOK CARE OF THE YOUNGER AS AN INFANT. I feel like both of those are key!
Click, maybe don't eat cereal naked in front of your theoretical child
How else are you supposed to assert dominance
@@feuerlingDad jokes
To be fair, he did end that sentence with "confidently use slang" like he usually does
@@thebubbleking5317 I know, but it the implications, unintended though they definitely are, can be construed that way for vaguely comedic effect
Why does embarrass you in front of friends work better than grounding?
I lost my cousin to a rare form of cancer, and the final straw after over a decade of chemo and surgies, was a plate they had put in his neck, sliced open a tumor in his neck. Despite it leaking cancer all over, the tumor grew, and he chose to call it quits, and no one blamed him.
What's worse? They didn't know what would kill him first. The Niagara Cancer -fall that was literally coating his internal organs, or if the tumor would asphyxiate him. They never told me, and I don't want to ever know.
You can tell your kid "Hey, daddy's sick, and soon hes going to look and sound different, but I'm not going anywhere, it'll be me, your dad."
You don't win shit by letting cancer win. It's scary and it will be a shift that may take time, but be there for your kid. That. Being there? That will make him not scared. Letting yourself be literally consumed by cancer because YOU'RE scared, and rather just LEAVE your son, than let him be maybe scared for a bit, then understand "oh this is ok, its just dad this is normal now"?
I get being scared. It's cancer, it's always scary. But don't let it win because you think your kid will scream everytime he sees you. He might at first, but kids adapt pretty quickly.
Fcking. Fight for your boy, if you love him so much. Stop counting your losses. You're lucky to see him grow up. Not many can say that. Not many have a choice. You do.
😤
That hidden Illuminaughty shade is just GOLD
Yep. It was perfect. 🤣
OMG I was wondering if that was the reference! Cuz I heard it, nodded along and went *now wait just a minute!* xD
Note for the editor: you missed one of the D**** censors in the middle of a paragraph.
Cliccy,
One good thing about the ordeal with Voldemorticia (she who must not be named), it brought me and I hope many others to your and Oz's channels. Let the good memes roll 🤙
Whoa don’t slander Morticia Addams like that bro
above makes sense, however the naughty pyramid can certainly act charismatic (morticia is genuinely charismatic though)
@@celestialstar6450 no hate intended to Morticia. Was genuinely just trying to find a way to feminize Voldemort 🤷
@@betht1983 It IS a good pun, I will admit! 😂
I also want to note that I hope it helped out OT's channel too. I was just already a fan of his from jammidodger
26:44 Please listen.. Especially if you're young.. Smoking is NOT a helpful coping mechanism. I'm 45 and trying to quit smoking, and these stories have always scared me. I'm in therapy now to deal with maladaptive coping mechanisms, and I hope I'm not too far gone, but such an addictive habit is harder to break the older one gets. Please find healthier ways to deal with stress while you're young and your body can repir itself better💜 I hope that someone who needs encouragement sees this comment and the post in the timestamp, and chooses better for themselves
> Me, listening to this video during work
> "Maybe I'll take a cigarette break"
> 26:22 story roll out
> Me, in nearly tears "well, maybe not"
🎉
People say it's never too late to quit, but my great-aunt found out she had cancer after she'd already quit, and it killed her. Really, it's never too soon to quit.
Wishing you strength and joy on your journey.
Update: it's very difficult to stop from a day to another, but I managed to "quit a little" going from 4/5 cigs a day to 2/3.
I smoke only when I'm at my job, so during weekend or outdoor I never have anything, even when I have to work from home.
Stil a long journey to go through 🥲
@@darkusvintivol9960Every reduction helps. If it takes you a few steps to zero, just keep working at it and you'll get there pretty soon.
@@darkusvintivol9960good for you, that's already amazing progress made so quickly! I hope ur still going and that ur journey is as easy as possible 👏
@@darkusvintivol9960 I hope your quitting journey is still going well! My husband is a smoker and he's been trying to quit. It's not easy to do and I feel for you. When things get hard and you have a set back, just be gentle with yourself. Any amount of quitting is better than none at all! Eventually you'll get there.
The story about the woman finding her husband's second phone was such a thrilling read. I'm glad she had her friend around to help her both emotionally and with the detective work. I also enjoyed hearing about the husband panicking SO much.
r/trueoffmychest is such an experience. It oscillates so wildly and I like it for that. A lot of subreddits are pretty specific (no shit) so having a huge mix of things helps keep them from going stale. As an example of the opposite, r/insaneparents and r/facepalm are definitely important things to cover, but they also get really repetitive and draining really quickly. I love this subreddit because that doesn’t happen. Anyway, great video, don’t stop making videos on the other subreddits I mentioned, but I do always very much appreciate this subreddit
28:51 minutes
The man who is getting 40% of his jaw removed, can actually have reconstructive surgery, the surgery won’t 100% miraculous as to bring him back to where he was before the tumor, but he wouldn’t be as monstrous as he’ll think he’d be with the removal surgery
30:15 - This is a moral/ethical thing. Like, sure, there's no laws about it. But there don't have to be laws about it for it to be weird.
Omg, that “I know my fiancé’s secret” almost made me cry!!!
This subreddit is either serious to the point of sadness, mad scientist revenge plots, or crazy people defying human logic, and there is no inbetween
Question for trans people here: if I do voice training, will I still be able to use my original voice, or will my voice change for good?
Asking for very cis, very gender solid reasons.
In theory, you will not loose your original voice. I kind of think of it as how exclusively voice actors do it. But similar to languages, if you don't use one for extended periods of time (years), you may forget how to use your original voice or have it feel odd when you do get back around to using it. We have a very notable MTF in our country who explained her experience and she mentioned how her birth voice sounded so alien when she tried to use it for a biography documentary.
OK, thanks!
@@sheersternfeld1914 From the view of an SLP though not specialised in trans voices - like the others said - most likely it won't be exactly the same anymore if you don't use the old voice anymore. But I think it should be possible to cultivate both voices at the same time. It's a bit different if it's FtM than MtF because of the size of the organs involved. It's impossible to make the basic organic structures like the larynx/voice box smaller without surgery (and that can open it's own can of worms). Once the larynx is a certain size it's not gonna get smaller anymore (it can/will however grow through the addition of testosterone). But you can train the muscles and the way you use your voice, how you breath and a whole lot of things and that can make a hell of a lot of a difference. But once you change everything you get used to a certain way of talking and going back to the origninal way can be really hard or almost impossible. Once muscles are retrained and you use your structures a bit differently they will be strengthend differently, too - some will be stronger, some weaker etc. But you can most likely relearn because the structures are still there. Interestingly enough one can do amazing things with the right intervention of speech therapy for MtF voices that sound really feminine (I heard a few examples were I was pretty much unable to tell even though I knew what I was listening to and was actively listening for pointers) but for FtM voices without T one rarely gets a better result than "teenager/very young man". Hope that makes sense because English is not my native language :)
this isn't from personal experience but i believe that you can go back. i've seen videos of people changing back. it took them a bit of effort to find it but once they found it they could use it. i believe the video was by gocharliem if you're interested. i think it was on her voice training experience
im gonna also use this information for cis, very gender solid reasons
7:20 Look, I understand the "don't beg" and "don't scream" part, but "don't cry?". If she wants to act like adults let him cry, if you want to cry you should be allowed to, that's the most adult thing to do!
As soon as I heard how the almost-wife left, I suspected her motives had been nefarious.
She knew for two years that she was a lesbian, not bisexual. Yet she stayed in a romantic, living-together relationship AND accepted a wedding proposal. She went so far as to reassure him that she hesitated only because she was overcome with emotion.
No, she hesitated because she was rewriting plans in her head.
I would bet she was using him for financial support, possibly for insurance. She was probably socking away money to use to move out, especially since she already had a partner on the side.
And now that we know the rest of the story-and her true character-I’m almost certain it was something like that.
"Let's handle this like adults"
In MIDDLE SCHOOL I dated sombody who came out as trans, and I was lesbian, and we broke up mutually, and are now still close freinds
In MIDDLE SCHOOL.
For the person with a facial tumor as someone who has experience with something similar. Those who love you will still love you. Smaller children may be scared at first as it is new but it will become their normal. When my mom had her cancer removed and it changed the way she looked at talked it didn't take long for the kids to settle in as if nothing had changed. Even the youngest who was initially scared as she was to young to understand was sitting in my mom's laps within an hour. The kids all love their grandma whether or not they remember her before or after the surgery.
I believe getting something in your eye and being interrupted by planes is indeed how one is supposed to flirt 😂
I don't know how to flirt, so I shall take your advice.
"we're gonna censor that" proceeds to not censor that
I noticed that 😂😂😂
to be fair, it was a singular instance that wasn’t censored, every single other one was in fact censored. it was obviously accidental
@@xXMindSoulXx yeah
The update to the lesbian story is also a (not so) good way to find out how true your friends really are. Because what kind of friend would believe the one side of the story they heard and not contact their friend to ask wtf is going on?
I love how one of the censor bars at 37:07 is covering the wrong word
Big is such a cuss word
18:00 This story heals my soul a little bit. I've seen so many people not get caught for this kinda stuff. My own life was ruined by someone pulling this kind of crap and he still hasnt gotten in trouble for it. I know the videos are for the lols, but I cant thank you enough for sharing stories with good endings, means a lot to me 💜
Just got the notification and this is a nice break from arguing with kids on my bus about why school is important
yeah bus kids are a little interesting
That lesbian stringing along story at the start caused me to just drop my video game controller in shock at what I was listening to. That's literally so messed up.
Edit: For anyone curious, it was a Wii Remote I dropped. I was playing The Legend of Zelda Twilight Princess in the Lakebed Temple.
Good game! :D my old wii is still somewhere... in some closet
@@melima_same XD. Stopped using it when it stopped reading some of game disks. Im still sad I can't finish the Metroid Prime trilogy... (i stopped in the middle of the second game)
5:50 BASED ON WHAT WE KNOW FROM THE POST, she is in the wrong here. She led him on for 2 years and ACCEPTED THE MARRIAGE PROPOSAL. She put him through an insane emotional roller-coaster because she let him believe they were getting married, something he seemed to be very happy about. Leaving and blocking him like that was just cutting ties without facing the consequences of her actions. The "adult way" of doing this would have been to have a conversation and break up. The worst part is that no one even cares to ask him how he's doing after his entire relationship collapsed in an instant. That is something that will scar him for life.
What click is talking about at around 41:30 reminds me so much of what my father would do. He'd constantly use the "we had some good times" argument to excuse his abuse and try and argue that I shouldn't be traumatised and should trust him. It's absolute BS, I trust him less because of it. If he was constantly abusive it would've been better because at least I'd know what to expect instead of walking on eggshells because I don't know what'll set him off.
“How dare they plane” indeed, how rude😂
How can the click be both the most sane and insane person I've heard of...
25:45 Yes, it backfired to HER, HER channel is dead. You❤ are still friend with OT💙, Wonder 🧡, OZ🤍 ,Salty💜...
I’m a tad bit confused because I don’t tend to follow with RUclips drama because I just don’t get involved-
I do apologize
It sure did backfire on her and the boys are thriving.
Could I be enlightened on what happened if you mind?
Alright nvm I found the video Click made discussing the situation I’m great he and the others are doing great now
Has anyone mentioned how incredibly abusive it is to secretly change someone's food without their consent? Or how patronizing it is for someone to try and "trick" their loved one into behavior intended to change their bodies?
Hush and eat your sawdust cookies.
@@RealBradMiller Sarcasm, I hope?
Did he really do it secretly tho if i hand someone a diet soda they know its a diet soda.
11:12 update on this story was basically that the girlfriend had lied to the friends, saying he was grabbing her, not letting her leave, cussing her out, locking her inside. That’s why nobody talked to him and everybody was congratulating her.
Edit: apparently he adds the update later lol
19:14 cliccy forgot to censor the name here
missed one. hope he sees this?
Givin like so maybe clicky can see it
The names were very close to my ex and his ex. God i was hoping he got some karmic justice but those names are so common
Commenting to boost this.
At least Click tried 😅
19:15 immediately forgets to censor the name
Finally someone else noticed 😂😂😂😂
29:21 Regarding dating someone who was once your “wet nurse”: in many cultures, that would literally be considered incest. That person’s kids would also be off limits, just like your siblings.
And yes, the son HAS been groomed.
Besides, 20 to 43 is a huge gap in maturity and life experience, EVEN IF they meet when the younger person is twenty.
With the guy feeling like his kid will think he's a monster: there's always an adjustment time, but the most important part is that he's still completely himself on the inside. He's still the dad that wrote such beautiful things about how much he loves his son. A few years ago, my dad had an ischemic stroke in his spinal chord during surgery, leaving him with incomplete quadriplegia. He was also worried that he would be considered differently, or left behind in some way by his friends. It didn't help that this was at the peak of covid restrictions, and with him in the neuro ICU, i only got to see him twice in the 52 days he was there. And I was the only one. But he was still my fucking dad, one of my best friends. And the rest of his friends were calling and facetiming all the time. He actually walked out of the hospital (with the aid of a walker, but still), and once home he quickly realized that people didn't care what he could or couldn't do. Because he was the same amazing person.
28:34 honestly i think he needs to explain to his son whats going to happen to him so hes not completely caught off guard because it can either be he'll stare in confusion, be scared of him because 40% of his face is gone, or just not be bothered by it, but I am surprised they're not giving him some form of facial reconstructive surgery or a form of prosthetic for his lower jaw and throat so he appears somewhat "normal" for his own self-confidence like theyre just gonna butcher away 40% of his face and tell him to be on his way, especially for the amount his probably paying as well to have that surgery done like at least do something for him
20:39 the look Click gives. Like he wants to ask OP if they're sure they weren't dating Blaire.
I genuinely squealed at this moment. Rough as it should be for Blaire
That last story legit made me cry a little. Those two have a wonderful dynamic and I wish them the best
22:39 I was thinking the friend's should be forgiven until the harassment part
41:18
the googleable phrase for what the Click is talking about is "moral licensing"
When double-checking that I had the phrase right, I discovered that one of the search results is the wikipedia article for "Self-licensing", a broader concept that included moral licensing along with other things, and the summary section of the article conflates the two in a way that implies that eating a greasy hamburger is immoral.
The lesbian gf one: it's possible that the gf's parents were telling her that she needed to be honest with him the whole two years that they knew. No, they didn't tell him, but because it wasn't their news to deliver, it was hers.
Honestly? Screw them! When he proposed, that's the point when the parents should have gone "you tell him NOW or we will". They stayed silent, they are 100% complicit.
10:30 She could of told him 5 years into the relationship that she was a lesbian, from the way he explained their relationship he would be sad and understanding and move on. But to do it almost on the 11th hour, dumping him and everyone in her circle ditching a guy they had known for 1-7 years. RAT BEHAVIOR 🐀🐀🐀
Click you are too kind, the woman in the "coming out" post toyed with the man 2 years(longer really), and then destroyed him. Doing that to someone,shattering their heart and instantly moving on is pure malice. Being beaten unconscious is preferable to that level of emotional torture.
18:38 I love it that the click did a little accent with the "Here we go again."