My mother started crying after I said I didn't want to see and/or speak to her anymore. Asking what she did wrong. Meanwhile the abuse, neglect, lies , manipulation and general controlling nature never came to her mind.
While there are a lot of shitty parents just don't believe everything someone says if they don't have any proof. Lately for some reason people just want to be a victim and come up with a lot of accusations. I had believed someone that they were abused for so long just because they said it happened only to find out it was the other way around.
I sometimes see stories from parents or grandparents that are sad because their children cut them off or don't visit or whatever and yeah, that's sad... but why don't they visit? I cannot imagine cutting my parents off, because they are amazing people and so important to me. Aren't you the same to your kids?
“She’s wearing pads without my permission.” Why does she need YOUR permission to wear feminine hygiene products?!?!? Why does she need PERMISSION at all?!? If she’s having her period, she needs those things, it’s not “13 is a bit young to be out until 9 on a school night, if you ask me.”
He probably doesn't know anything about it and, in his twisted mind, it's shameful to HIM, somehow. I don't know. It's weird to read something like that in this day and age.
As a Christian myself, the fact that I also often agree with that statement (sadly most cases nowadays, luckily not all) goes to say something It's honestly sad...
@@spectorcsm could not agree more. Nothing like facebook prayer group posts 'I ask for prayers for @NAME SURNAME who is possesed by satan and leads a completely imoral lifestyle' :) Ahh, pure love.. ❤
chiristian girl here, when i grew up in the church there was a song we'd sing that went "and they'll know we are christians by our love" i try so hard to model that in my life, but it absolutely breaks my heart to see others not, and completely ignore the fact that above all, we're meant to be loving people towards others. i see people say the most hateful things to others and i'm just like?? i don't understand the dissonance they have
@@promisemochi Yeah my church sings that song too and I very often think like, why don't we actually act that way? Seems like anyone that falls into a category unliked by Christians as a whole are treated absolutely horribly by them, which like, at the very least it's just being a jerk and cruel to people, but isn't it also just downright counterproductive?? Like, it's just an incredibly quick way to completely turn a person away from ever having a good opinion of your beliefs, wouldn't it be better to be nice to them, and show them the kindness and patience God is supposed to help us have, rather than just having nothing but hatred for them? :/ sorry to rant but I've really had this stuff on my mind for a while 'xD
My mom found out I was lesbian because her bestfriend snooped on my phone. Her reasoning: I have hearts next to my friends names so I can tell who they are by color. I was so pissed because my mom got mad at me because I didn’t tell her I’m lesbian. I had been planning to tell her when I was comfortable but I was not yet comfortable enough to tell her. She proceeded to ask if I had been planning to just run away with my girlfriend and never tell anyone. I literally had planned on telling her soon and as soon as she went off on me it made me feel less inclined to tell her anything. The reason I was cautious was because my dad and maybe some other family is homophobic and didn’t want them to find out.
@@TheDemonicMushroom I'm sorry to hear that moment was stolen from you, My mother didn't take me coming out very well and I'm far less inclined to to tell her anything now as well as telling my mom and brother when I came out I didn't want my sister's to know And so far so good, they understand despite being homophobic that if my sister's knew the entire planet would know so they bite their tongue and don't inform my older sister or the younger one so I feel like I get why you wouldn't want most of your family knowing . It'll get easier as the shock factor dies down hopefully, but your not the only one in a similar situation if that helps you
@@ViktorErikFade yeah. It’s not that my mom is homophobic or anything. It’s just I felt really upset that she invaded my privacy and got mad because I hadn’t felt comfortable enough to tell her yet. Not only this she also threatened me with telling my dad when I didn’t have a good explanation for why I didn’t tell her. I didn’t say I wasn’t comfortable because I was too afraid of her getting more mad at me. Her best friend (my god mother) completely broke my trust when she did that to me. On top of all this most of the people at my dads house are transphobic (he lives with his brother and mom) his brothers sons, my cousins, talk bad about nonbinary people which makes me sad since I’m a closeted nonbinary from everyone but my bestfriend and girlfriend (as well as a few other friends)
Same here. Honestly, part of my therapist's help was accepting that even though lots of people have it a lot worse with their parents, it doesn't mean I had it _good_ ...
It makes me eternally grateful that my family isn't like this. I feel so bad for people who have to deal with unhinged family members like this and I hope you find peace and are able to get away from all that.
@pissapocalypse Thank you. I've done a lot of healing since going no-contact with them. That really needs to stop being stigmatized. I was a danger to myself then, and I've never been happier now.
@Ahrpigi Same. Part of it was I have older half siblings who had physically abusive parents (those spouses were abusive to my parents as well). I thought that because my abuse was not physical (mostly), it was fine, and I was lucky. It wasn't until I made new friends (which my family made every effort to keep me from), and I finally disclosed what was happening to my family doctor as an adult (who knew every member of my family as she was their doctor too), that I finally realized it was wrong. Even then, it took me 10 years to do anything. My doctor encouraged me to go no-contact. I've never been happier. I hope you've done a lot of healing like me and feel the same way.
- “you’re brainwashed” Because nothing says “I respect your independence” like refusing to believe someone has ideas of their own. Surely they’re too weak minded to think for themselves and need _my_ -gaslighting- protection to steer them away from all those bad people and ideas! It’s one of the oldest tricks in the book. My mother pulled it anytime she didn’t like what she was hearing and wanted to wrestle control over my life away from me, particularly when I came out as trans.
I've always found the "God made you how you should be!" argument kinda confusing. Being trans, gay, etc., isn't exactly a choice? So, God made trans people trans if he makes us how he wants us to be.
@@Hannah-ut1diI feel like everyone knows this by now but the Church made hate as a means of control and political gain. It had nothing to do with the actual preaching of Jesus.
Fun fact: "Blood is thicker than water" is not the whole saying. The original saying is, "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," which literally means the exact opposite of what the other version implies.
Just want to let you know that there is no proof that the ..."water of the womb," part is the actual saying, most early versions only have the beginning, so its assumed it was added in at some part. I still prefer the longer version though! I think its more meaningful. Just almost definitely not the original.
@@taylamuller1811 that was later added by philosophers, the original quote came from the Bible. Which is just saying that the blood you have in your body binds you to God. So the original quote has nothing to do with mortal ties
@@atlasschmatlas6426If I'm not wrong, it's because religious people said it was about worshipping demons or welcoming them in our "material" world. But correct me if I'm wrong, please!! I love to learn and I'm here to see many P.O.V.
@@bombdotcom2168It’s hilarious when they try to argue that “it’s called CHRISTmas” when in the Nordic countries we still call it a varied spelling of Yule/Jul
It was soo difficult to read the wall of text especially blurred like that but damn!! She did say she was giving her sleep or sick meds to ensure she would stay asleep! Like wtf?! The worst part of it was her estimating the time of wake up around noon!!!! I want to scream at this(idk what to call this homosapian) that doing this is an overachieving way of making sure they will not be a parent anymore
Yeah, I caught that too. That's damn abusive! How old was this kid anyway? And why did this... person feel like they needed to make sure that their kid didn't wake up before they got back??? Holy crap, that's not okay.
I love how many additional fields Click added for today's bingo. At some point, Click has to do some statistical analysis of all of his bingos to find the ultimate "cringetopian peak" of horrible people on the web.
@@hiwaga7399 I've got a Discord banner challenge to finish, but then I might actually do this... We might have to very variables and need to create categories with individual bingo points to make it valid.
27:30 "You could've found five different babysitters in the time it took you to write these insane rants!" Because it's not about finding a babysitter anymore, it's about mantaining control. People be crazy.
My mom hit me with that "it's him or me" garbage. She had the nerve to tell me my husband was going to abuse me and use me only for 'personal' gain. It's funny since she's been divorced TWICE, the second marriage being the most abusive and her current marriage she married an enabler. 2 years later with my man and we're married and extremely happy. He goes so far to protect me from her insanity, even going as far as saying "If you visit your mother on April, I'm coming with you."
Honestly, I preferred the bingo without the "one point per post" rule. Was fun to watch the card get progressively more unhinged until you literally couldn't read anything anymore.
I agree! And I feel like the fact that it’s so easy to get a bingo is kind of important to highlight, because it really does accurately show just how unhinged and insane these parents really are. In my eyes, the bingo isn’t the main focus of this video, it’s just a fun tool to use alongside the crazy stories. I don’t think making the bingo more challenging serves any purpose and I don’t think it should be a priority. People complaining about the bingo cards are dwelling on the wrong topic lol
Gotta be the first time that I’ve seen emotional incest between a father and a son. It’s equally just as disturbing as any other, but now I can say that I’ve seen it. Unfortunately.
If it weren't such a horrible situation, I think going for a message like "Imma visit my GF after work today, unless... you wanna find out how good you are with BJs?" :D
As a care worker, I can say that having 24/7 security cameras in an elderly person's house, especially if they're in decline or especially vulnerable, can be invaluable. They can make sure that emergency services get informed asap if they have a fall or show signs of really bad confusion (e.g attempting to leave the house in the middle of the night, playing with dangerous things etc.). It can also help protect against neglect.
@@Tvianne Yeah, that is a terrible breach of Safeguarding procedures (unless, of course, there is something in there he might need to see if he assists in her care). I was mostly explaining the importance of the practice and why people opt to install them, since Click seemed to take objection to it.
I think that it's perfectly fine to have cameras in most of the house but as someone who's worked aged care I find this wild with my experience being that there are cameras everywhere *except* the bathroom and bedroom because of invasion of privacy and just respecting their dignity. I suppose it's a bit different if it's family and not hired carers with the cameras but sharing the videos for entertainment? That's just cruel.
@@ciaracooney9625 I don't know if it's a difference of country or condition, but most of my clients are either bedridden or require assistance moving around the house, so bedroom cameras are usually one of the most important, because of how long they spend in bed. Additionally, in a lot of cases with really severe cases, even if they are capable of standing and changing themselves, they end up doing it in their living room or bedroom because they have more space and use a commode instead of their toilet. That being said, the sharing of videos or images from those cameras with people without a need-to-know justification is a horrific breach of Safeguarding and shows a flagrant disregard for the wellbeing of the individual in question.
definitely can be very helpful! it seems it could make the difference from needing to be in a care home with 24/7 care to being able to live semi independently. HOWEVER the elderly still deserve privacy and sharing their sensitive moments with anyone besides the people who absolutely need to know is a huge No-No
The childbirth crazy mom is the worst. When I was in labor I was already freaking out because I'm a trans man who had been told by at least 4 doctors that I'm practically infertile and I didn't know I was pregnant until I went into labor. Luckily, my mom was an absolute champ and even ordered that the incredibly disrespectful midwife to be barred from entering the room after the awful way she was talking to me. My husband drove 8 hours from where he was stationed and got there for the last 4 hours and just held my hand and told me everything would be okay (he didn't tell me until later that I was squeezing his hand so hard that I actually sprained 2 of his fingers). I was utterly terrified, blindsided, dysphoric, and in so much pain. If on top of that I had to deal with my own mother making a scene and making it about her I don't know if I would have even made it through. My mom was the main person holding me together.
Never believe any doctor that tells you you’re infertile with out confirmed evidence. Practically infertile is not infertile. It leads to negligence and a lot of unplanned pregnancies
@dont_know_my_name Much better, now. This happened twice, so I have 2 daughters now. I was finally able to start medically transitioning when they were 5 and 3, so no more of that nonsense. They're 9 and 7 now and absolutely hilarious.
the “roommate tries to leave me with her 2yo” one has 2 updates as well. it’s pretty wild. i can’t remember which sub the updates were posted on, whether insane parents or bad roommates, but it’s there, and a very long read. basically roommate with the kid keeps doubling and tripling down on it, and op apparently triggered her by “pulling the neglect card” because she’s already been investigated/received punishment for literal child neglect which in roommates words (paraphrased here) “is why she went off the rails at op”
These things make me realize why my very good parents "adopted" (not real adoption thus the quotes) so many kids that came around that had family problems. My dad was a child psychologist and my mom was everyone's mom. They passed away some time ago (in their 60s/70s) and their funerals were just massive.
I am sorry for your loss, but you can be proud of the positive impact they had on people's lives. I had a friend like that: he had no kids of his own, but a lot of kids from difficult families flocked to him. When he got older and sick, I remember visiting him in the hospital, and he had so many people checking up on him, via phone or in person. It was wonderful to see. I miss him, God, I miss him, but I cherish the memories.
My stepmom is like that. She "adopted" all the friends of her sons. She tried to count them for me the one day so I knew how many new siblings I have now, and uh... we're about at 100 or so? I'm more than willing to share her though, lol. Everybody, child or adult, deserves a person in their life that gives those wholesome parent vibes.
my mom has a rule for my siblings and i. if you are intoxicated at all and have no way to get home we call her. she won’t be mad if we’re being safe. i love my mom. i hope everyone can find someone who cares for them like that
The dad wants everyone's attention on him at all times. He won't reciprocate any of that effort or make his family feel loved, of course, but he still demands ReSpEcT.
Some people with severe control issues want to keep their family unit in a tight, isolated bubble away from all others until anyone who wants to enter earns their approval. This is particularly common amongst those with extreme views like cult worship and conspiracy theories, people who beat their children and people who molest them. Outside influence can threaten their control and in the case of the molesting and beating, risk them jail time. They try to brainwash those in the bubble into thinking anything outside the bubble is a danger that will destroy the family and hurt all their loved ones, that the outside doesn't understand them and is looking to corrupt them.
THANK YOU CLICK!! I have a mother who acts completely normal around people. My best friend even believed I was over exaggerating what I was talking about. Then...one day my mom slipped up in front of my friend and now they believe me every. Time. And things are now worse with my step-dad.
@@Vsevolodbochkov They have existed since forever, it's just that trans people were never actually "noticed", and gay people have been noticeable since the dawn of humanity
The manipulative "a childs best friend is their mom" and emotional incest (one sided) is definitely the ickier side of what I had to deal with, with my own mother. Not nearly all, though. She sent me so many letters after I went no contact that sounded like a pining lover that I gagged and cringed multiple times. She leaves me alone now thank fuck
My mom would often say stuff like that about how my bond with her was stronger than it would ever be with my dad or my brothers- But like- it was the complete opposite because she was abusive and manipulative as hell
@@angel_cake07 Do you mean there's also emotional incest? Because a lot of the time incest is for some kind of gratification whither that's sexual, romantic or emotional-
I'd say that should be on every one of these bingo cards. Seems like there's at least 2 or 3 posts or situations that very quickly get out of hand (and as usual, its met with confused reactions).
That's why there's a free space in the middle. I wonder why Click doesn't click it as soon as he starts reading. It could be dabbed many times afterwards as well, because these memes are all cringy.
I grew up with controlling parents. During the last time I ever talked to them on the phone they called me “entitled and a horrible person” because I didn’t tell them I was going to New York during my thanksgiving break in college. How did they find out I was in New York? My dad checked my bank account and saw that I bought something in New York. Keep in mind, I was 19, paid everything with my own money, and went on my own time.
34:07 this one is HORRIBLE. I didn’t think anyone could be so self-centered as to not support their terrified underage child while they’re going through anything medically significant, let alone a difficult pregnancy. I can’t imagine going through something so traumatic without my mother. I hope the girl is okay and doing much better now. At least she has the support of her sibling.
For the dad who acted like his son was a Chinese scammer, I can't tell if he was joking or if he is genuinely delusional. The texts do give off a crazy vibe.
If its real it sucks and i wanna keep an open mind if the poor son just deals with this regularly. but tbh those texts read as very fake to me. Idk if its because the son didn’t immediately clarify who he was, or because of how the dad instantly responded with paranoia and racism but the whole thing seemed staged for this subreddit imo.
I mean he did say what his kid asked to so it clearly was a joke, tough he also clearly doesnt know when its aproppiate (given that it doesnt look like something new), or when to stop (by his kid never liking it)
4:32 I was thinking he was forcing his daughter to use tampons instead of pads because he didn’t want her using pads for some insane reason. Let your daughters use what is comfortable and effective for them. The only thing he should be asking is “is there anything else you need? Like hot water bottle, painkillers,”.
I got the vibe that he was convinced that she was "wasting" pads (ie changing them when they needed to be changed). some men think women are only supposed to wear one pad a day or one pad per period or wear a pad until it's totally soaked through or something? I'm not sure what they think. They don't realize pads need to be changed just as frequently as tampons because they hold bacteria/don't absorb after they're full of blood where you bleed into them for hours in the same spot lolol
I might be wrong, but I wouldn't be surprised if that father is even more against the idea of his daughter using tampons, because phallic object in her vajujay.
@fancydeer They don't necessarily need to be changed as often as tampons depending on your flow. Tampons HAVE to be removed within 8 hours because being inserted into the body makes it waaay easier for any bacteria growing in them to enter the body, and cause toxic shock syndrome. Since pads are outside the body, it's significantly harder for the bacteria to invade from there, and the environment isn't as ideal for bacterial growth either, which is why it's safe to sleep with them on. That said, no matter how slow your flow is - or even if it's non-existent and you're wearing the pad as a precaution since it's close to time for your period to start, you should be changing it at least every day...
42:35 actually you can, at least where I live. I talked with a gender specialist once and said that people can just call the cops on anyone over 18 in their house, even their own child, and say "This person is trespassing, get them out". Its heartbreaking, honestly
Insane parents pulling the "it's her/he/them or me" card is just an absolute treat. Buddy, you are _not_ emotionally prepared for the outcome of that ultimatum.
43:31 Im not a christian but fun fact: them doing that is actually against their faith too. "Those who deny their kin sanctuary are worse than the nonbelievers." I dont remember the verse, not a christian as i said, but it proves they dont follow their own beliefs Edit: googled, its 1 timothy 5:8
22:28 This was all over OP declining. OP says "No" and ends up getting two giant walls of text with ramblings in between. Just…hire a babysitter that is not OP next time.
We had cameras set up at my grandmother's house due to her dementia. The inside of the door had child covers to keep her from wandering but for the most part the outside scared her, stove was unplugged and my folks came over 3 times a day for hours to take care of her, but they also just wanted to check in when they couldn't physically be there. Usually she was asleep or watching TV, picking at the snacks left for her. They never kept recordings tho, it was always just live feed that we could save if needed.
Click, thank you so much for the talk about how abusers can be just normal people. I needed that. My grandmother has been abusive one minute and loving the next for my entire life and my Mom's entire life. But she does all these nice things for people and is on the board of an advocacy group helping people with HIV/AIDS. She also helps out with Habitat for Humanity and is a pillar of the community. But she has body shamed my Mom and I for our entire lives among other things. Nobody would believe me if I spoke up. Thankfully my friends and amazing boyfriend believe me Edit: I am so sorry that it seems many of you can relate. :(
I know what you mean. I had a grandmother who in some ways would help people who were struggling, but also said some really messed up racists and delusional shit.
@@tricitymorte1 Yeah, same. I’ve heard more videos have come/are coming out about Blair. Just when you think things can’t get any worse about her, the rabbit hole gets deeper. It’s reminiscent of the QTV incident last year and the Shannon/Creepshow Art in 2021. Those two were a whole nother rabbit holes in it of themselves.
Yeah me too, I have discovered so many amazing creators since all this Blair 💩 started, One Topic and Wonder for example are channels I had never heard of before but I love their content ❤️
My whole family (parents and adult siblings) does location tracking, but it's basically just a safety thing. It blows my mind that people would use it against their kids to be controlling.
yeah, it was sorta controlling and weird at first, but once my parents became more available and aware of how we felt and went to therapy and stuff, it became a safety thing like if someone’s not answering texts or not home around when they said they’d be.
both my parents and I are bikers and use location tracking - in the case one of us has an accident. it was weird at first as well but you get used to it quite quickly
I am not sure if I like the idea of only being able to put down 1 stamp. It's a little odd to me that the way it was done previously has been perceived as an issue. I think it was always extra funny and unhinged when you would stamp one field for the - what felt like - 10th time, because of how insane this subreddit is. It really showcased how bad some of these parents are.
It honestly feels like the people complaining are people who didn’t have abusive parents, because I liked the previous way much better. Abusive parents abuse in a variety of ways, all the time, 24/7.
This came at a perfect time. Thank you, I needed this. I’ve been having a conversation with my crazy transphobic dad over the past few days, and it’s good to know I’m not the only one with a crazy parent.
Let me guess: you are a TG person yourself? Because if that’s the case, you do not deserve that man. Or rather, that man doesn’t deserve you. I hate how badly society has tarnished the trans community…
Glad to know someone had the scones enough to have that talk with their parent. I only have one parent but I don't know, not going to lie I was just going to gradually get my chest removed and say nothing about it once I am on my own
I told one of my brothers that I have suicide thoughts yesterday, we always had a bad relationship and I don't know why I told him, guess I was tired, but his first reaction was like "Yeah, sure". Then he argued that if I am not going to do the game over (can't do this to the rest of the family, already lost a family member to it) that I am not having those thoughts. Discussions with shitty family members are never fun. Wish you all the luck and love, bc let's be honest, you 100% deserve it
Aww. Hang in there bud. As a person who has yet to cut off contact with an abusive father who is also transphobic, you aren’t the only one with an insane father lmao
It really makes me sad to see parents reject their children because of their children just being who they are. Something I have realized as ive grown is that parents have this idea of who their child is in their head and when the child grows into their own person and that person not being who the parent(s) want them to be frequently leads to problems. Just like with anything else a person daydreams about it is ok to have an idea of what you want, but at the same you cannot control other people who where their lives take them and I wish more parents would realize this and accept their child if they are happy.
This mindset is perpetuated by the toxic romanticization most cultures have regarding children and parenthood. (And by "this" mindset, I'm not referring to your mindset, but the mindset of those who selfishly impose an ideal they want their children to embody).
That one mom with the Sage is the kind of person who would’ve thought their children were Changelings in the times before most disorders were a catalogued thing
@@bethkeenan8800that’s what the term means outside of recent gender term reconstruction. Neutral is the correct use and is perfectly fine to use in this context
Some replies are showing similarly femenine terms used as gender neutral, so I would add "Mary sue" and "Karen" Also, most of this terms have a male counterpart but its clearly so underused that is not even acknowledgr
The one with the grandma being filmed I could only understand if they were filming to keep an eye on a care giver or to keep an eye on her while she was alone. To share that footage is disgusting and a violation of her privacy.
I have a transgender friend. I invited them for a gathering once. My mom's side never learned they were trans, because they are all super religious. I'm in the group chat for that side purely out of principal and I ignore it most of the time. The group chat for my dad's side is mostly "hey want to do game night?"
20:03 This actually has a term here in there US: Elder Abuse. And yes, it's _illegal._ I know that, in the state of Pennsylvania, every county has its own "Office of the Aging" that can intervene in situations like this.
Man the mom threating to call the cops on their adult "child" makes me think of how my own mom threatened to kick me out if i didnt do stuff, but then at almost every turn she blocked me from doing what she demanded i do. "Get a job or I'll change the wifi password" knowing full well i wouldnt be able to submit an application without the wifi (didnt have data, let alone talk to friends when she left for 3 or 4 days on the weekends to be with her friends)
I was having a bad day bc of family trauma and wasn't sure if the vid is for me but your way to present it, your honest outrage and empathy is really wholesome. Thank you.
I've shared that mood so many times. Like, I've legit healed my childhood trauma issues more from watching The Click's r/insaneparents videos than I could manage in my entire first decade of therapy (which I took seriously even when I started as a minor). The way he combines his sense of humor with his compassion is so impactful. He's just the best. ❤
It's kind of eye opening to see Click go from really happy at the start to really sad by the end of the video and he loses faith in humanity in real time. Stay strong click!
Oh no no no...Click the "anti-pad dad" isn't expecting her to hold it in like pee.... what he's actually upset about is she isn't using or inside the special hidden away shed for the "unclean women".
Biology 101 for the men who were apparently sick that day: You know all those scenes in TV and movies when a pregnant woman goes into labour? Does that scene usually start with her standing up from the table: "Excuse me a moment, I need to go relieve myself of amniotic fluid."? Or is there just screaming, then a puddle on the carpet and a panicked medical emergency? Yeah, that's how those organs work. That's why we need diapers for our periods.
I tell my hubby he is house broken. He just rolls his eyes, puts down the seat, grabs me a drink, usually sweet tea, and switches laundry, and brings me the load out of the dryer to fold. He's amazing, and betwèn us we can get anything done. He does the stairs and we split everything I can't do alone.
Hey. Thank you so much for this video. I'm trans and when I told my dad the second time (the first time they just laughed about it and ignored my identity) he threatened to kick me out. I'm so happy that I'm not alone in the feeling that what my parents did isn't alright. Thank you, and have a nice day ^^
Hi-- I'm 34 so when I was growing up even bisexuality was considered majorly taboo. My mom made a big scene and cried and threw a fit, but when I didn't engage it she wound up coming around and being supportive, and now denies it happened. My partner is trans and the mom was so unsupportive that she would call and harass teachers into misgendering him (even tho he passed), etc-- and she also wound up coming around and pretending it never happened. unless they're religious, social norms go a long way. just try to survive it if it's not actually dangerous (assuming you can't leave) and it may well solve itself.
Ugh that sucks. It depends on how old you are, but focus on getting a support network (and keeping track of your stuff) so that they can’t hold anything over you when you inevitably cut them off. If you can find an independent way to make money, that’s also good. Planned Parenthood has a lot of trans resources if you need them.
32:09 I think he needs to get his dad checked out by a doctor. That sounds like either the beginning of dementia, a brain tumor, or syphilis, or something. Even low blood sugar can cause weird things like hiding the remotes and paranoia.
In a similar vain to the threatening to call the cops. A lot of insane parents (Including my own) will threaten to call CPS or claim that if you tell anyone CPS will take you away. I've learned that the parents who threaten their kids that CPS will take them away, nine times out of ten have had CPS called on them before.
This is one of the great sides of what the Internet has given humanity - back in my day, a child in such a home would have no way to reality check; they would just have to take their parents' word that this was right and normal. Now all an abused teenager has to do is compare notes on Reddit - I'm sure that sometimes that might backfire, but at least there's some consensus of "omg, no, your parents are effed up" that they can find, along with some hopefully helpful advice.
It's great that this is so educational while being very amusing..discussing abuse like this in a lighthearted way while you are still being kind and taking it serious. I think can be a really helpful way to treat any difficult situation.. play bingo like this and put no-good behaviour in simple and fun categories. In my life this game has really helped me shift self-blame and break free of more than one bad situation and I love that click is out here teaching this stuff to everyone that wants to hear it. you're making the world a better place :)
I gotta say as a bingo, the rule that you can only mark once makes sense and is fair, BUT I much prefer when you would put down all marks that qualify, because it allows us to see just how much BS we really gone through in these videos, the insanity of the board makes it funny, turning it into a flat game of bingo feels depressing, Like we are turning an actual game out of peoples experiences, that part makes me personally uncomfortable, but I still enjoyed the vid, take care Click🎉💕
I cannot BEGIN to deal with that horrible roommate. The WALLS of text! My sibling had a similar issue when they wanted me to babysit the kiddo. I AM CHILDFREE. Their choice is not my problem to deal with, family or not has no bearing on these choices. Thankfully we talked it out and set some good boundaries that WORKED very well for us. They still don’t like the ‘no means no’ and ‘I don’t need a reason to say no’. 😂 now to work on them staying the f outta my love life. 😂😂😂😂😂
Not-so-fun animal fact! There’s a species of penguin known as the Adélie penguin with males that mate with crippled females, their own children, corpses, and the ground!
i remember when I had my first child. I was induced at 8am and in intense pain because the pitocin was causing hard contractions but wasn't dialating. 12 hours of full on contract with no pain meds... eyes rolling back in head, vomiting and thought I was going to pass out. meanwhile, my mom video taped everything, got smart w the doctor about that being illegal and forced the issue, got jealous of my mother in law while holding my legs and I had to chill her out, brought pictures in of my dead father to the induction room, was in my face telling me to be strong about it, and then left me alone after the baby was born to sit in my own blood for an hour while they had an emergency to make sure no one got more time w the baby she also invited my sister, her boyfriend....???, my step aunt I barely know (who walked in while I was pushing)😳 and other random ppl because it was about her. I didn't realize it was messed up until this video
Well, both the incels and entitled parents feel entitled to /something/, even if it's hopefully not the same thing. If someone denies them something, time for a tantrum to try to force you to agree their demands.
15:30 as soon as i heard "life 360" i knew he was in an extremely toxic family. Ther3 has not been a SINGLE normal non-toxic person or family that uses those apps. Those apps are a GIGANTIC red flag.
My family uses Life360 and I promise we are normal people with respect for boundaries! My parents are aging, and I have a rural commute and travel solo a lot, so it’s mostly just a reassurance that if one of us dies in the middle of nowhere, we at least know where to start looking. I know this subreddit has some absolutely WACKADOODLE people, and location tracking gets abused way too often, but I swear there is at least one (1) legitimate use! (To be clear I am not disagreeing with you, I am just trying to restore the tiniest sliver of hope in humanity.)
@@marycook9007 I've just seen it open th3 doors for abuse way too often to say it's a good option, I'd never feel comfortable with anyone having constant access to my location
I think my mom uses it with my younger brothers, but we all kinda suck at keeping in touch with people we don't see daily, she works a lot, and they still live at home. Just her way of making sure were still breathing i guess (or in two ofbmy brothers cases, that theyre not sneaking out to go drink, smoke, and party with their friends at 13 years old, they got busted for that a few times lmao), and she doesnt ever freak out over what goes on. She doesn't use it for me, since I live three states away, but that's unrelated to anything to do with family stuff.
My fam uses it (me only because I forget to text back sometimes and they worry) and I can assure you, there are probably a couple normal families in the mix ❤
Don't worry, my family is very loving and safe and we use Life360! It's super useful to make sure they're OK on long trips or seeing when they get off work.
25:49 the amount of times my Aunt(Uncle’s babymomma) has left me with all 6 of her kids, and just refused to answer my texts for nearly two-three days at a time because she had to go do “laundry” 🤦🏻♀️ She’s done this to not only me, but my mom and grandma as well. And this is why when she asks someone to babysit they almost always say no, because she abandons them for either a full day or several days at a time instead of the amount of time she says. I work all the damn time, I don’t even have time to have my own kids let alone watch her 6 because she doesn’t feel like being a mother. And as much as I would like to say she only does this every now and again… she doesn’t. She does it all the damn time, the kids basically take turns living with other relatives or fending for themselves at home. Why nobody has called dfs? Actually we have, they didn’t do shit.
I am sorry you, your mother and your grandmother are dealing with this lazy aunt. I'm just wondering the aunt goes off to. I hope the kids get the help and support they need.
These videos make me eternally grateful that social media didn't exist as it does today when my mother was alive. I'd dread to even entertain the notion of what she could have unleashed upon the world.
That pregnancy story was wild. I showed up for when my sister was pregnant but couldn't find the room cause I was tired (it was like after midnight) and had been studying for midterms all day. You know what I did? Fucking left and apologized for not making it. Later I admitted I was there but didn't want to bother them because SHE WAS GIVING BIRTH and I felt bad I couldn't make it there early enough. That mom is truly wild.
With the babysitting story, I once babysat for a family who had twins, and my entire job would be to make sure that the kids were okay and didn’t need anything. They would already be asleep when I got to their house, and I’d spend the night playing with their dog, cleaning their house where I could, and reading a book. I never had an issue with them waking up, but having me there just in case meant that they could enjoy their dates a bit more and there’d be someone to help ensure things were okay. I’m not sure how old The kid is (maybe it was mentioned but idk), but when they’re young, like infants-toddlers, you DEFINITELY need someone to make sure their sleep is smooth.
The post about the mom of the trans person who is getting surgery resonates hard with me. I didn't know I was trans yet, but my parents kicked me out of my apartment on my eighteenth birthday because I identified as queer with no warning. It's fucked up that a parent could do that to their kid.
I had a panic attack today in school. This is the third time I had one, the second happened a week ago in the same class. I panicked because of a presentation and tried so hard not to cry while still standing in front the whole class. Sadly it was for nothing and I had a whole breakdown. I went home after second period and just watched like 30 of your videos. There was just something calming about watching you talk about all kinds of wild stories and internet drama. Thank you for your wholesomeness. I really needed something like that after this horrible day. I still don’t know how to tell my parents. They’re both really supportive of me and I know they will listen (not like the parents in this video lol) but there’s still just something weird about just talking about it. But anyway I just wanted to went and idk this seems like a nice place to do so. Thank you again for the content you do. I think you inspire and help a lot of people including me. Makes me feel a bit less anxious and insecure of the weird parts of my personality.
Try writing what you want to say to them--it will clear your head and keep you focused. I suggest looking into counseling to find ways to cope with panic attacks, because they can be debilitating. Sending you good vibes❤
I hope you're feeling better now - while I fortunately don't get panic attacks, I have friends who do, and it sounds very stressful. you're incredibly strong for even trying to do that presentation if it caused you to react like that. I hope it gets easier for you ♡
21:26 That's the "I didn't get what I want" behaviour. Very common among Addicts, Manipulators (i.e. 'nice guys' and 'nice girls') and shady salesmen. It's something I have experienced often, especially in school when you have the cool snacks. It was even more obvious to see because i was a loner. But then I pulled out the kinder chocolade and everybody was suddenly my "best friend"
I feel absolutely terrible about people needing to go through things like this (my dad has anger issues; rarely phisycal activity, mainly shouting). But damn, I live for this chaos😂
Same!! Luckily my dad has gotten help for his rage attacks (turns out he has bipolar type II, and mood stabilisers have virtually eliminated the rages).
34:42 Mother brought in food for mother to eat. Sister can't have anything in case they need to operate, asked mother to close the curtains so that sister, who was hungry, wouldn't have to watch mother eat in front of her. Then mother had a tantrum and made a big deal about not eating her food.
These videos really are calming to me. It helps me smile a bit to hear Click’s words of wisdom and advice and that it will all be okay. Thank you, you’ve given me much needed hope that one day I’ll be able to be free from this house and able to enjoy my life.
It's interesting how a certain "professional" relationship Click used to have with someone always comes up in r/insaneparents, moreso than most other subreddits (40:38). Since this subreddit is often about power and control issues of the parent, it does make sense, but it is also sad because it shows that this negative experience was very impactful. Happy to watch you thrive, Click! I hope that having all of this mess come to the surface has been healing for you and not further damaging.
43:40: *cracks knuckles* Let's go: 1.1 Corinthians 16:14 “Do everything in love." 2. Luke 6:37 "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven." 3. Luke 6:35 "But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked." 4. James 4:12 "There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you-who are you to judge your neighbor?" 5. Romans 15:1 "Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God." I can go on. Stop using Christianity as an excuse to spread your hatred (:
for a someone that grew up with r/InsaneParents, these vids gives me some flashbacks, some of which i share with my older sister... not talking to my parents anymore, and it was a relief to finally cut them out of my life... it took my sister 4-5 years longer than me, before she finally had enough...
As someone who cut contact with their entire "biohazard" family, I'm 1) glad your mom is one of the good ones, and 2) sad to need to let you know that parents on this subreddit aren't nearly as unique and uncommon as one might wish. I've found that it's actually much harder to find genuinely good parents than ones who normalize abusive or otherwise unhealthy behavior. Generational trauma... the mistakes of our elders are so often the mistakes of their elders and will often become our mistakes as well if we don't actively work at preventing such behaviors in ourselves. That's how emotional and psychological neglect and violence (and all other forms of abuse) pass on so easily and are so normalized in society. That's why these parents featured from the subreddits are just the more colorful examples and how so many people have realized they were abused growing up via watching videos like these. (Psychology is a kinda-sorta special interest for me, especially around the topic of abusive behaviors. So I know a lot about the sad reality.)
I think the dad who texted his son threatening to kill his girlfriend may have untreated/undiagnosed BPD. BPD rages are usually triggered by an intense fear of abandonment, which the son "choosing his girlfriend over his dad" could have been a trigger. Parents with untreated BPD typically engage in emotional incest to an insane degree, and there are certain phrases--"you don't make time for me," "it's her or me," "she's brainwashed you,"--are so common that in the support group I attend, we call it "BPD Bingo" when they come up in communications with our parents. It's seriously like these parents are reading a textbook on "How to Emotionally Abuse Your Children," like jfc.
it's too bad bc people w BPD make the best most loving and supportive familt members when they know they have BPD and take ownership over their health. The most supportive relationship of my life (10yrs) was w someone w BPD. It started off rocky but we learned to communicate and affiirm eachothers' needs. We broke up for unrelated reasons. People w BPD are hyperempaths and have interpersonal skills no other population has. It's just a matter of how those traits are used/controlled. Also externalizers vs internalizers.
@@SpecialBlanketabsolutely. My aunt has BPD, and when she was being treated for it and was making a real effort to be self-aware, she was amazing. Deeply empathetic, as you said. Unfortunately, she had something of a "relapse" and now denies having BPD, and is back to her old, destructive (mostly to herself) habits. I don't understand it, because she is so much unhappier now, but when you're dealing with mental stuff, you do things that don't make sense... I know that first-hand 😅
@@SpecialBlanketdefinitely agree. My father has BPD and bipolar 1 (not the greatest combo), but he’s still probably the best father I could have ever hoped for. He recognises that he has issues and does his best to work on them. Even after having an… episode? (Not sure what the proper term is) He apologises afterwards and makes an effort to fix whatever damage he may have caused (mostly psychological. He has never been physically abusive towards us, even in his worst moments)
43:00 i literally studied this a few days ago, they legally cannot do that as it falls under discrimination against gender identity, which is protected against according to the human rights thingamajig (in my country at least) they're discriminating against their own child by refusing housing/kicking them out due to gender identity. they're in the wrong here, both morally and legally.
15:36 about the abusive people not sticking out in everyday life. My mother's father was an alcolohic and violent man. He cheated on his wife, beat her regularly and the kids, too (my mom and her siblings), especially when he was caught lying or when their truth wasn't something he wanted to hear. He also kept all the money he earned to indulge himself and thereby forced his kids to perform child labour to earn their meal (they were stitching labels into clothes by the thousands each week. My mom was the 12 year old middle child of 5 when that started). But he was lean, well groomed, handsome and eloquent and charismatic in public. High reputation within the community. Nobody outside knew a thing.
I never realized how fucked up my parents really are- my friends and I were talking yesterday and they were absolutely horrified about the stories I thought were pretty normal
I treat my minecraft villagers in the iron farm better than some parents treat their kids.
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200th like! Not underrated anymore
At least they see the sun, Right? RIGHT?
💀
Bro same i give them so much protection and safety
Man, entitled parents do really be like „YOUR future is MY design“ and then wonder why the child cuts of the contact
It honestly sounds like an antihero origin story when it's worded like that.
Wait a minute this actually such a badass line if I ever make villian I'm gonna use this line
My mother started crying after I said I didn't want to see and/or speak to her anymore. Asking what she did wrong.
Meanwhile the abuse, neglect, lies , manipulation and general controlling nature never came to her mind.
While there are a lot of shitty parents just don't believe everything someone says if they don't have any proof. Lately for some reason people just want to be a victim and come up with a lot of accusations. I had believed someone that they were abused for so long just because they said it happened only to find out it was the other way around.
I sometimes see stories from parents or grandparents that are sad because their children cut them off or don't visit or whatever and yeah, that's sad... but why don't they visit? I cannot imagine cutting my parents off, because they are amazing people and so important to me. Aren't you the same to your kids?
“She’s wearing pads without my permission.” Why does she need YOUR permission to wear feminine hygiene products?!?!? Why does she need PERMISSION at all?!? If she’s having her period, she needs those things, it’s not “13 is a bit young to be out until 9 on a school night, if you ask me.”
He probably thinks pads and tampons are sexual in some way.
It makes me wonder why he thinks he is entitled to his daughters genetalla in any way? That screams like he's doing worse to her than we may think...
That's like saying "my daughter bandaged her bloody head without my permission👺"
He probably doesn't know anything about it and, in his twisted mind, it's shameful to HIM, somehow. I don't know. It's weird to read something like that in this day and age.
I'll bet he thinks it'll give her "toxic shock". Brainlet. 🤨🙄😮💨
The fact that Click had to implement a rule that only allows him to fill in one square per post just goes to show how demented these parents are
Exactly! These parents are delulu!
I loved the chaos though!
@@humblerum_2641 For real cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs!
@@humblerum_2641delusional*.
Absolutely. I counted 7 spots for a single post. Then, most where worth 2 to 4 spots.
"There is no hatred quite intense as Christian love" is so absolutely resonating.
im pretty sure there is but it's just the more accurate way to say what the hatred is.
As a Christian myself, the fact that I also often agree with that statement (sadly most cases nowadays, luckily not all) goes to say something
It's honestly sad...
@@spectorcsm could not agree more. Nothing like facebook prayer group posts 'I ask for prayers for @NAME SURNAME who is possesed by satan and leads a completely imoral lifestyle' :) Ahh, pure love.. ❤
chiristian girl here, when i grew up in the church there was a song we'd sing that went "and they'll know we are christians by our love" i try so hard to model that in my life, but it absolutely breaks my heart to see others not, and completely ignore the fact that above all, we're meant to be loving people towards others. i see people say the most hateful things to others and i'm just like?? i don't understand the dissonance they have
@@promisemochi Yeah my church sings that song too and I very often think like, why don't we actually act that way? Seems like anyone that falls into a category unliked by Christians as a whole are treated absolutely horribly by them, which like, at the very least it's just being a jerk and cruel to people, but isn't it also just downright counterproductive?? Like, it's just an incredibly quick way to completely turn a person away from ever having a good opinion of your beliefs, wouldn't it be better to be nice to them, and show them the kindness and patience God is supposed to help us have, rather than just having nothing but hatred for them? :/
sorry to rant but I've really had this stuff on my mind for a while 'xD
The poor trans kid kicked out is also invading privasy since the mom discovered they wanted surgery by snooping in their computer...
Reminds me why parents ask why their older kids 18 plus have passcodes on computers and phones and get offended when they say they need privacy
@@ViktorErikFadenot just 18+. Everyone deserves privacy
My mom found out I was lesbian because her bestfriend snooped on my phone. Her reasoning: I have hearts next to my friends names so I can tell who they are by color. I was so pissed because my mom got mad at me because I didn’t tell her I’m lesbian. I had been planning to tell her when I was comfortable but I was not yet comfortable enough to tell her. She proceeded to ask if I had been planning to just run away with my girlfriend and never tell anyone. I literally had planned on telling her soon and as soon as she went off on me it made me feel less inclined to tell her anything. The reason I was cautious was because my dad and maybe some other family is homophobic and didn’t want them to find out.
@@TheDemonicMushroom I'm sorry to hear that moment was stolen from you,
My mother didn't take me coming out very well and I'm far less inclined to to tell her anything now as well as telling my mom and brother when I came out I didn't want my sister's to know
And so far so good, they understand despite being homophobic that if my sister's knew the entire planet would know so they bite their tongue and don't inform my older sister or the younger one so I feel like I get why you wouldn't want most of your family knowing .
It'll get easier as the shock factor dies down hopefully, but your not the only one in a similar situation if that helps you
@@ViktorErikFade yeah. It’s not that my mom is homophobic or anything. It’s just I felt really upset that she invaded my privacy and got mad because I hadn’t felt comfortable enough to tell her yet. Not only this she also threatened me with telling my dad when I didn’t have a good explanation for why I didn’t tell her. I didn’t say I wasn’t comfortable because I was too afraid of her getting more mad at me. Her best friend (my god mother) completely broke my trust when she did that to me. On top of all this most of the people at my dads house are transphobic (he lives with his brother and mom) his brothers sons, my cousins, talk bad about nonbinary people which makes me sad since I’m a closeted nonbinary from everyone but my bestfriend and girlfriend (as well as a few other friends)
These videos simultaneously make me feel better about my terrible family and feel sad that other people share this trauma
Agreed
Same here. Honestly, part of my therapist's help was accepting that even though lots of people have it a lot worse with their parents, it doesn't mean I had it _good_ ...
It makes me eternally grateful that my family isn't like this. I feel so bad for people who have to deal with unhinged family members like this and I hope you find peace and are able to get away from all that.
@pissapocalypse Thank you. I've done a lot of healing since going no-contact with them. That really needs to stop being stigmatized. I was a danger to myself then, and I've never been happier now.
@Ahrpigi Same. Part of it was I have older half siblings who had physically abusive parents (those spouses were abusive to my parents as well). I thought that because my abuse was not physical (mostly), it was fine, and I was lucky. It wasn't until I made new friends (which my family made every effort to keep me from), and I finally disclosed what was happening to my family doctor as an adult (who knew every member of my family as she was their doctor too), that I finally realized it was wrong. Even then, it took me 10 years to do anything. My doctor encouraged me to go no-contact. I've never been happier. I hope you've done a lot of healing like me and feel the same way.
Here's some new case ideas for bingo:
- gaslighting
- Karen behavior
- family humiliation
- hypocrisy
-stressing out over nothing
karen behaviour is kinda vague tho since that can mean a lot of things maybe entitlement would be better
- “you’re brainwashed”
Because nothing says “I respect your independence” like refusing to believe someone has ideas of their own. Surely they’re too weak minded to think for themselves and need _my_ -gaslighting- protection to steer them away from all those bad people and ideas!
It’s one of the oldest tricks in the book. My mother pulled it anytime she didn’t like what she was hearing and wanted to wrestle control over my life away from me, particularly when I came out as trans.
"You just study!"
As if studying doesn't give you stress. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
control issues also deserve their own stamp i think
Fun fact: there no where in the Bible that says being trans is wrong. However it does says abandoning your child is!
Shhh they're half illiterate, so they can't read, only write.
I've always found the "God made you how you should be!" argument kinda confusing. Being trans, gay, etc., isn't exactly a choice? So, God made trans people trans if he makes us how he wants us to be.
@@Hannah-ut1diExactly!
@@Hannah-ut1di I'm a religious, Bible-reading Jewish mama, and I agree with you wholeheartedly! Also, 2 of my 3 kids are trans.
@@Hannah-ut1diI feel like everyone knows this by now but the Church made hate as a means of control and political gain. It had nothing to do with the actual preaching of Jesus.
Fun fact: "Blood is thicker than water" is not the whole saying. The original saying is, "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," which literally means the exact opposite of what the other version implies.
It’s become one of my favorite sayings :3
It's still a fact
Just want to let you know that there is no proof that the ..."water of the womb," part is the actual saying, most early versions only have the beginning, so its assumed it was added in at some part. I still prefer the longer version though! I think its more meaningful. Just almost definitely not the original.
@@taylamuller1811 that was later added by philosophers, the original quote came from the Bible. Which is just saying that the blood you have in your body binds you to God. So the original quote has nothing to do with mortal ties
That’s not true, the other version was made after and was meant to be like a good version of it
I love how insane parents don’t realise that Halloween comes from Samhain, an old Irish tradition meant to scare away evil spirits
As well as the name itself coming from All Saints (Hallows) Eve. What issue could they have with that?
Or how decorating a christmas tree is pagan
@@atlasschmatlas6426If I'm not wrong, it's because religious people said it was about worshipping demons or welcoming them in our "material" world. But correct me if I'm wrong, please!! I love to learn and I'm here to see many P.O.V.
@@bombdotcom2168It’s hilarious when they try to argue that “it’s called CHRISTmas” when in the Nordic countries we still call it a varied spelling of Yule/Jul
@@user-guigui01 They see it as a pagan holiday, and therefore it's demonic and evil
23:27 She literally admits to planning on drugging her child and leaving them unattended while OP is asleep. Wow.
This story here has made me pause it like 5-10 times with how ticked off it made me
@@moon-moth1 Bruh dude did you just censor "child"?
@@szymonl4363they did and knowing yt it’s possibly the correct decision
It was soo difficult to read the wall of text especially blurred like that but damn!! She did say she was giving her sleep or sick meds to ensure she would stay asleep! Like wtf?! The worst part of it was her estimating the time of wake up around noon!!!! I want to scream at this(idk what to call this homosapian) that doing this is an overachieving way of making sure they will not be a parent anymore
Yeah, I caught that too. That's damn abusive! How old was this kid anyway? And why did this... person feel like they needed to make sure that their kid didn't wake up before they got back??? Holy crap, that's not okay.
I love how many additional fields Click added for today's bingo. At some point, Click has to do some statistical analysis of all of his bingos to find the ultimate "cringetopian peak" of horrible people on the web.
Bro, that's gonna be crazy
Do it
i'm a statistics nerd (and so is click lmao) and i'd love to see the results of that!
@@hiwaga7399 I've got a Discord banner challenge to finish, but then I might actually do this... We might have to very variables and need to create categories with individual bingo points to make it valid.
I was just thinking, we could use his labels of these memes as a training set for semantic analysis...
@@16poetisa We're just a bunch of plush- and meme-loving nerds, aren't we? Oh well...
27:30 "You could've found five different babysitters in the time it took you to write these insane rants!" Because it's not about finding a babysitter anymore, it's about mantaining control. People be crazy.
My mom hit me with that "it's him or me" garbage. She had the nerve to tell me my husband was going to abuse me and use me only for 'personal' gain. It's funny since she's been divorced TWICE, the second marriage being the most abusive and her current marriage she married an enabler.
2 years later with my man and we're married and extremely happy. He goes so far to protect me from her insanity, even going as far as saying "If you visit your mother on April, I'm coming with you."
Honestly, I preferred the bingo without the "one point per post" rule. Was fun to watch the card get progressively more unhinged until you literally couldn't read anything anymore.
Same! It would get stamped so much it was impossible to read the original text. :D
Exactly. The people the complained about this sound like entitled parents
Yes! I love those too
I agree! And I feel like the fact that it’s so easy to get a bingo is kind of important to highlight, because it really does accurately show just how unhinged and insane these parents really are. In my eyes, the bingo isn’t the main focus of this video, it’s just a fun tool to use alongside the crazy stories. I don’t think making the bingo more challenging serves any purpose and I don’t think it should be a priority. People complaining about the bingo cards are dwelling on the wrong topic lol
Dittooooo!! Please go ham!
Gotta be the first time that I’ve seen emotional incest between a father and a son. It’s equally just as disturbing as any other, but now I can say that I’ve seen it. Unfortunately.
I'm sorry, the "unfortunately" at the end of the comment was hilarious, but I feel bad for laughing about it 😭😓
If it weren't such a horrible situation, I think going for a message like "Imma visit my GF after work today, unless... you wanna find out how good you are with BJs?" :D
If it makes it any better I'm also a son in a emotional in**** situation. I think. So that makes it 2 times. I'm not a fan of my dad.
DID YOU CRACK HIS SKULL?
@@itsachris I’m so sorry. I wouldn’t be either if I was in your position. At least the counter is at 2. Not good, but it’s at 2.
As a care worker, I can say that having 24/7 security cameras in an elderly person's house, especially if they're in decline or especially vulnerable, can be invaluable. They can make sure that emergency services get informed asap if they have a fall or show signs of really bad confusion (e.g attempting to leave the house in the middle of the night, playing with dangerous things etc.). It can also help protect against neglect.
and it makes perfect sense. What doesn't is sending 'spicy' videos of the grandma to the granson. 😱
@@Tvianne Yeah, that is a terrible breach of Safeguarding procedures (unless, of course, there is something in there he might need to see if he assists in her care). I was mostly explaining the importance of the practice and why people opt to install them, since Click seemed to take objection to it.
I think that it's perfectly fine to have cameras in most of the house but as someone who's worked aged care I find this wild with my experience being that there are cameras everywhere *except* the bathroom and bedroom because of invasion of privacy and just respecting their dignity. I suppose it's a bit different if it's family and not hired carers with the cameras but sharing the videos for entertainment? That's just cruel.
@@ciaracooney9625 I don't know if it's a difference of country or condition, but most of my clients are either bedridden or require assistance moving around the house, so bedroom cameras are usually one of the most important, because of how long they spend in bed. Additionally, in a lot of cases with really severe cases, even if they are capable of standing and changing themselves, they end up doing it in their living room or bedroom because they have more space and use a commode instead of their toilet.
That being said, the sharing of videos or images from those cameras with people without a need-to-know justification is a horrific breach of Safeguarding and shows a flagrant disregard for the wellbeing of the individual in question.
definitely can be very helpful! it seems it could make the difference from needing to be in a care home with 24/7 care to being able to live semi independently. HOWEVER the elderly still deserve privacy and sharing their sensitive moments with anyone besides the people who absolutely need to know is a huge No-No
The childbirth crazy mom is the worst. When I was in labor I was already freaking out because I'm a trans man who had been told by at least 4 doctors that I'm practically infertile and I didn't know I was pregnant until I went into labor.
Luckily, my mom was an absolute champ and even ordered that the incredibly disrespectful midwife to be barred from entering the room after the awful way she was talking to me. My husband drove 8 hours from where he was stationed and got there for the last 4 hours and just held my hand and told me everything would be okay (he didn't tell me until later that I was squeezing his hand so hard that I actually sprained 2 of his fingers).
I was utterly terrified, blindsided, dysphoric, and in so much pain. If on top of that I had to deal with my own mother making a scene and making it about her I don't know if I would have even made it through. My mom was the main person holding me together.
Never believe any doctor that tells you you’re infertile with out confirmed evidence. Practically infertile is not infertile. It leads to negligence and a lot of unplanned pregnancies
Dude that's a TERRIFYING experience. As a trans guy myself, I would have passed away right there and then. I hope you are okay now. ❤❤❤
@dont_know_my_name Much better, now. This happened twice, so I have 2 daughters now. I was finally able to start medically transitioning when they were 5 and 3, so no more of that nonsense.
They're 9 and 7 now and absolutely hilarious.
@@austinluther5825 Glad to hear that :) Wish you all the best ☺️
So.... How long have you been the new guys?
the “roommate tries to leave me with her 2yo” one has 2 updates as well. it’s pretty wild. i can’t remember which sub the updates were posted on, whether insane parents or bad roommates, but it’s there, and a very long read. basically roommate with the kid keeps doubling and tripling down on it, and op apparently triggered her by “pulling the neglect card” because she’s already been investigated/received punishment for literal child neglect which in roommates words (paraphrased here) “is why she went off the rails at op”
These things make me realize why my very good parents "adopted" (not real adoption thus the quotes) so many kids that came around that had family problems.
My dad was a child psychologist and my mom was everyone's mom.
They passed away some time ago (in their 60s/70s) and their funerals were just massive.
I am sorry for your loss, but you can be proud of the positive impact they had on people's lives.
I had a friend like that: he had no kids of his own, but a lot of kids from difficult families flocked to him. When he got older and sick, I remember visiting him in the hospital, and he had so many people checking up on him, via phone or in person. It was wonderful to see. I miss him, God, I miss him, but I cherish the memories.
🫂
Those parents seemed like amazing people. Honestly I hope to be like that when I’m older :,)
My stepmom is like that. She "adopted" all the friends of her sons. She tried to count them for me the one day so I knew how many new siblings I have now, and uh... we're about at 100 or so? I'm more than willing to share her though, lol. Everybody, child or adult, deserves a person in their life that gives those wholesome parent vibes.
That's wholesome.
my mom has a rule for my siblings and i. if you are intoxicated at all and have no way to get home we call her. she won’t be mad if we’re being safe. i love my mom. i hope everyone can find someone who cares for them like that
My parents were the same! I feel lucky to have had the parents I do and I wish all children could find someone to love and accept them .
your mom is doing it right, and I'll be implementing that rule too if I ever have kids
My mom has said that if we need a reason to get out of a party or smthn, she’d call us with an urgent excuse n shit, no questions asked
I needed this wholesome thread today. Thank you all for sharing
It's the same for me! My parents have made it clear that they're willing to pick me up if I need to leave a situation and they won't be mad.
Don't most fathers WANT their sons to date girls??? Like wtf was up with that dad being jealous of the son's girlfriend? 🤣 Emphasis on most, not all.
The dad wants everyone's attention on him at all times. He won't reciprocate any of that effort or make his family feel loved, of course, but he still demands ReSpEcT.
@@nyxx5357sounds like my p.o.s father XD
@@nyxx5357sounds like the dad of my recent ex
Some people with severe control issues want to keep their family unit in a tight, isolated bubble away from all others until anyone who wants to enter earns their approval. This is particularly common amongst those with extreme views like cult worship and conspiracy theories, people who beat their children and people who molest them. Outside influence can threaten their control and in the case of the molesting and beating, risk them jail time. They try to brainwash those in the bubble into thinking anything outside the bubble is a danger that will destroy the family and hurt all their loved ones, that the outside doesn't understand them and is looking to corrupt them.
@NotVille_ bro wtf
THANK YOU CLICK!! I have a mother who acts completely normal around people. My best friend even believed I was over exaggerating what I was talking about. Then...one day my mom slipped up in front of my friend and now they believe me every. Time. And things are now worse with my step-dad.
"A Disney villain who is also an insane parent"
🎵Mother knows best🎵
Let’s face it, she would totally have the entire bingo card by herself. I mean except for the homophobia and transphobia. 😂
@@mikaelaedwards9682 she just happened to live in times with on gay or trans people
@@Vsevolodbochkov They have existed since forever, it's just that trans people were never actually "noticed", and gay people have been noticeable since the dawn of humanity
I love the bingo so much! It is just so hilarious how predictable they are. Wholesomeness can never be predicted.
Amen
I want him to try a bingo for r/oddlywholesome
@@arameadenboer5247fr lol
it does show how many different ways you can be awesome, an unlimited amount
Yoo I love your pfp :DD
The manipulative "a childs best friend is their mom" and emotional incest (one sided) is definitely the ickier side of what I had to deal with, with my own mother. Not nearly all, though.
She sent me so many letters after I went no contact that sounded like a pining lover that I gagged and cringed multiple times. She leaves me alone now thank fuck
I'm really really really sorry you went through that...
I hope you're fine now, because that sounds like a lot of trauma...
My mom would often say stuff like that about how my bond with her was stronger than it would ever be with my dad or my brothers-
But like- it was the complete opposite because she was abusive and manipulative as hell
Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry that happened!
I'm so glad that she leaves you alone now.. and that you're in a safe place.
some people forget that incest isn't always romantic/sexual
@@angel_cake07 Do you mean there's also emotional incest? Because a lot of the time incest is for some kind of gratification whither that's sexual, romantic or emotional-
Petition to add "That Escalated Quickly" with a tiny escalator in the space to the bingo board.
I'd say that should be on every one of these bingo cards. Seems like there's at least 2 or 3 posts or situations that very quickly get out of hand (and as usual, its met with confused reactions).
That's why there's a free space in the middle. I wonder why Click doesn't click it as soon as he starts reading. It could be dabbed many times afterwards as well, because these memes are all cringy.
I grew up with controlling parents. During the last time I ever talked to them on the phone they called me “entitled and a horrible person” because I didn’t tell them I was going to New York during my thanksgiving break in college. How did they find out I was in New York? My dad checked my bank account and saw that I bought something in New York. Keep in mind, I was 19, paid everything with my own money, and went on my own time.
34:07 this one is HORRIBLE. I didn’t think anyone could be so self-centered as to not support their terrified underage child while they’re going through anything medically significant, let alone a difficult pregnancy. I can’t imagine going through something so traumatic without my mother. I hope the girl is okay and doing much better now. At least she has the support of her sibling.
For the dad who acted like his son was a Chinese scammer, I can't tell if he was joking or if he is genuinely delusional. The texts do give off a crazy vibe.
Yeah .. I'm just worried for everyone in that one ..
I really hope he just thought he was being quirky and weird. Because if not.... dude need a trip to the head doc.
If its real it sucks and i wanna keep an open mind if the poor son just deals with this regularly. but tbh those texts read as very fake to me. Idk if its because the son didn’t immediately clarify who he was, or because of how the dad instantly responded with paranoia and racism but the whole thing seemed staged for this subreddit imo.
to me it seemed like he was pretending to piss his son off
I mean he did say what his kid asked to so it clearly was a joke, tough he also clearly doesnt know when its aproppiate (given that it doesnt look like something new), or when to stop (by his kid never liking it)
4:32 I was thinking he was forcing his daughter to use tampons instead of pads because he didn’t want her using pads for some insane reason. Let your daughters use what is comfortable and effective for them. The only thing he should be asking is “is there anything else you need? Like hot water bottle, painkillers,”.
I got the vibe that he was convinced that she was "wasting" pads (ie changing them when they needed to be changed). some men think women are only supposed to wear one pad a day or one pad per period or wear a pad until it's totally soaked through or something? I'm not sure what they think. They don't realize pads need to be changed just as frequently as tampons because they hold bacteria/don't absorb after they're full of blood where you bleed into them for hours in the same spot lolol
@@fancydeerbet he'd complain too if she got a rash from using the same pad for too long
I might be wrong, but I wouldn't be surprised if that father is even more against the idea of his daughter using tampons, because phallic object in her vajujay.
The dad was 100% thinking his daughter is too young to use pad. If she is not using pad, she is not having her periode.
@fancydeer They don't necessarily need to be changed as often as tampons depending on your flow. Tampons HAVE to be removed within 8 hours because being inserted into the body makes it waaay easier for any bacteria growing in them to enter the body, and cause toxic shock syndrome. Since pads are outside the body, it's significantly harder for the bacteria to invade from there, and the environment isn't as ideal for bacterial growth either, which is why it's safe to sleep with them on.
That said, no matter how slow your flow is - or even if it's non-existent and you're wearing the pad as a precaution since it's close to time for your period to start, you should be changing it at least every day...
I'm convinced most of these parents do this only because they finally have power over someone.
Oh dude definitely. Especially when the parents are narcissists they absolutely love being in total control of their children
It’s both that and parents having unresolved issues/mental illness they use their kids to fix/project onto.
I've come up with a saying: Some people have been waiting their whole lives to be the bully.
42:35 actually you can, at least where I live. I talked with a gender specialist once and said that people can just call the cops on anyone over 18 in their house, even their own child, and say "This person is trespassing, get them out". Its heartbreaking, honestly
Insane parents pulling the "it's her/he/them or me" card is just an absolute treat. Buddy, you are _not_ emotionally prepared for the outcome of that ultimatum.
43:31 Im not a christian but fun fact: them doing that is actually against their faith too.
"Those who deny their kin sanctuary are worse than the nonbelievers." I dont remember the verse, not a christian as i said, but it proves they dont follow their own beliefs
Edit: googled, its 1 timothy 5:8
I liked the bingo better without the one stamp per post rule. Having the board look insane by the end of the video is always a treat
22:28 This was all over OP declining. OP says "No" and ends up getting two giant walls of text with ramblings in between.
Just…hire a babysitter that is not OP next time.
We had cameras set up at my grandmother's house due to her dementia. The inside of the door had child covers to keep her from wandering but for the most part the outside scared her, stove was unplugged and my folks came over 3 times a day for hours to take care of her, but they also just wanted to check in when they couldn't physically be there. Usually she was asleep or watching TV, picking at the snacks left for her. They never kept recordings tho, it was always just live feed that we could save if needed.
Making the connection between druggie parents and Nice Guys mentality is brilliantly insightful.
Click, thank you so much for the talk about how abusers can be just normal people. I needed that. My grandmother has been abusive one minute and loving the next for my entire life and my Mom's entire life. But she does all these nice things for people and is on the board of an advocacy group helping people with HIV/AIDS. She also helps out with Habitat for Humanity and is a pillar of the community. But she has body shamed my Mom and I for our entire lives among other things.
Nobody would believe me if I spoke up. Thankfully my friends and amazing boyfriend believe me
Edit: I am so sorry that it seems many of you can relate. :(
I'm happy you found support were your closest friends and family(except your grandma) are.
@@RandomHero-qc5rs thank you. My parents are also very supportive.
I know what you mean. I had a grandmother who in some ways would help people who were struggling, but also said some really messed up racists and delusional shit.
@DimaRakesah i am so sorry you went through/are going through that :(
40:36 I fucking love the shade you’re throwing at Blair, please never stop doing that, it’s actually hilarious
Me too. The shades at Blair will never not be funny. 🤣
I did feel a bit bad for him at that reference though. People are STILL making hour+ videos on her because it just. Keeps. Getting. Worse.
@@tricitymorte1 Yeah, same. I’ve heard more videos have come/are coming out about Blair. Just when you think things can’t get any worse about her, the rabbit hole gets deeper. It’s reminiscent of the QTV incident last year and the Shannon/Creepshow Art in 2021. Those two were a whole nother rabbit holes in it of themselves.
Yeah me too, I have discovered so many amazing creators since all this Blair 💩 started, One Topic and Wonder for example are channels I had never heard of before but I love their content ❤️
@@victoriaroberts7034 For sure. The whole thing was actually how I found Click and the rest.
My whole family (parents and adult siblings) does location tracking, but it's basically just a safety thing. It blows my mind that people would use it against their kids to be controlling.
My daughter initiated it. It's nice to be able to see where each other are since we are sharing a car and schedules are often tight.
yeah, it was sorta controlling and weird at first, but once my parents became more available and aware of how we felt and went to therapy and stuff, it became a safety thing like if someone’s not answering texts or not home around when they said they’d be.
both my parents and I are bikers and use location tracking - in the case one of us has an accident. it was weird at first as well but you get used to it quite quickly
17:00 "Abusers love your silence" is such a valuable insight
I am not sure if I like the idea of only being able to put down 1 stamp. It's a little odd to me that the way it was done previously has been perceived as an issue.
I think it was always extra funny and unhinged when you would stamp one field for the - what felt like - 10th time, because of how insane this subreddit is. It really showcased how bad some of these parents are.
It honestly feels like the people complaining are people who didn’t have abusive parents, because I liked the previous way much better. Abusive parents abuse in a variety of ways, all the time, 24/7.
This came at a perfect time. Thank you, I needed this. I’ve been having a conversation with my crazy transphobic dad over the past few days, and it’s good to know I’m not the only one with a crazy parent.
Let me guess: you are a TG person yourself? Because if that’s the case, you do not deserve that man. Or rather, that man doesn’t deserve you.
I hate how badly society has tarnished the trans community…
Hang in there, when you move out you are free of him. I went no contact with my family as well
Glad to know someone had the scones enough to have that talk with their parent.
I only have one parent but I don't know, not going to lie I was just going to gradually get my chest removed and say nothing about it once I am on my own
I told one of my brothers that I have suicide thoughts yesterday, we always had a bad relationship and I don't know why I told him, guess I was tired, but his first reaction was like "Yeah, sure". Then he argued that if I am not going to do the game over (can't do this to the rest of the family, already lost a family member to it) that I am not having those thoughts. Discussions with shitty family members are never fun.
Wish you all the luck and love, bc let's be honest, you 100% deserve it
Aww. Hang in there bud. As a person who has yet to cut off contact with an abusive father who is also transphobic, you aren’t the only one with an insane father lmao
It really makes me sad to see parents reject their children because of their children just being who they are. Something I have realized as ive grown is that parents have this idea of who their child is in their head and when the child grows into their own person and that person not being who the parent(s) want them to be frequently leads to problems. Just like with anything else a person daydreams about it is ok to have an idea of what you want, but at the same you cannot control other people who where their lives take them and I wish more parents would realize this and accept their child if they are happy.
This mindset is perpetuated by the toxic romanticization most cultures have regarding children and parenthood. (And by "this" mindset, I'm not referring to your mindset, but the mindset of those who selfishly impose an ideal they want their children to embody).
8:45 - If someone goes with the "it's me or them" go with them. They're trying to emotionally manipulate someone, and you don't want someone like that
That one mom with the Sage is the kind of person who would’ve thought their children were Changelings in the times before most disorders were a catalogued thing
it’s all fun and games until your parents have made it onto the bingo ✨
My mom would absolutely make it onto the bingo card and I still find it hilarious.
@tricitymorte1
welcome to the trauma train!
🚂💨 💨💨
Then its just games... but not the fun kind
Let's coin "facebook mom" as a gender-neutral term.
Facebook Mom needs to be canonically trans.
Like damsel in distress and Drama Queen
Maybe not gender neutral, but definitely gender inclusive
@@bethkeenan8800that’s what the term means outside of recent gender term reconstruction. Neutral is the correct use and is perfectly fine to use in this context
Some replies are showing similarly femenine terms used as gender neutral, so I would add "Mary sue" and "Karen"
Also, most of this terms have a male counterpart but its clearly so underused that is not even acknowledgr
The one with the grandma being filmed I could only understand if they were filming to keep an eye on a care giver or to keep an eye on her while she was alone. To share that footage is disgusting and a violation of her privacy.
I have a transgender friend. I invited them for a gathering once. My mom's side never learned they were trans, because they are all super religious. I'm in the group chat for that side purely out of principal and I ignore it most of the time. The group chat for my dad's side is mostly "hey want to do game night?"
20:03 This actually has a term here in there US: Elder Abuse.
And yes, it's _illegal._
I know that, in the state of Pennsylvania, every county has its own "Office of the Aging" that can intervene in situations like this.
You know the Click is genuinely shocked by the content he’s reacting to when he actually swears instead of saying “frick” or “poo” 😂😅
Man the mom threating to call the cops on their adult "child" makes me think of how my own mom threatened to kick me out if i didnt do stuff, but then at almost every turn she blocked me from doing what she demanded i do. "Get a job or I'll change the wifi password" knowing full well i wouldnt be able to submit an application without the wifi (didnt have data, let alone talk to friends when she left for 3 or 4 days on the weekends to be with her friends)
I was having a bad day bc of family trauma and wasn't sure if the vid is for me but your way to present it, your honest outrage and empathy is really wholesome. Thank you.
Family may suck but you've got at least 👍44 people rooting for you here. Hope your day got better.
I've shared that mood so many times. Like, I've legit healed my childhood trauma issues more from watching The Click's r/insaneparents videos than I could manage in my entire first decade of therapy (which I took seriously even when I started as a minor). The way he combines his sense of humor with his compassion is so impactful. He's just the best. ❤
Please accept some mama hugs!
❤🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤎💙💗🤍
It's kind of eye opening to see Click go from really happy at the start to really sad by the end of the video and he loses faith in humanity in real time.
Stay strong click!
I'm 25 and my mom still freaks out if I don't send her updates. Click talking about it just made me fully realize how messed up that is.
hell the fuck no. when i was 25 i prob talked to my parents every 3 months or so.
MORE STAMPS PER STORY. The people who tell you to do one per story are in fact insane parents.
Oh no no no...Click the "anti-pad dad" isn't expecting her to hold it in like pee.... what he's actually upset about is she isn't using or inside the special hidden away shed for the "unclean women".
Biology 101 for the men who were apparently sick that day:
You know all those scenes in TV and movies when a pregnant woman goes into labour?
Does that scene usually start with her standing up from the table: "Excuse me a moment, I need to go relieve myself of amniotic fluid."?
Or is there just screaming, then a puddle on the carpet and a panicked medical emergency?
Yeah, that's how those organs work. That's why we need diapers for our periods.
Tbf, labor doesn’t usually start with your water breaking. That breaks WAY later. But yeah I get your point lol
I tell my hubby he is house broken. He just rolls his eyes, puts down the seat, grabs me a drink, usually sweet tea, and switches laundry, and brings me the load out of the dryer to fold. He's amazing, and betwèn us we can get anything done. He does the stairs and we split everything I can't do alone.
Hey. Thank you so much for this video. I'm trans and when I told my dad the second time (the first time they just laughed about it and ignored my identity) he threatened to kick me out. I'm so happy that I'm not alone in the feeling that what my parents did isn't alright. Thank you, and have a nice day ^^
Hi-- I'm 34 so when I was growing up even bisexuality was considered majorly taboo. My mom made a big scene and cried and threw a fit, but when I didn't engage it she wound up coming around and being supportive, and now denies it happened. My partner is trans and the mom was so unsupportive that she would call and harass teachers into misgendering him (even tho he passed), etc-- and she also wound up coming around and pretending it never happened. unless they're religious, social norms go a long way. just try to survive it if it's not actually dangerous (assuming you can't leave) and it may well solve itself.
Ugh that sucks. It depends on how old you are, but focus on getting a support network (and keeping track of your stuff) so that they can’t hold anything over you when you inevitably cut them off. If you can find an independent way to make money, that’s also good. Planned Parenthood has a lot of trans resources if you need them.
32:09 I think he needs to get his dad checked out by a doctor. That sounds like either the beginning of dementia, a brain tumor, or syphilis, or something. Even low blood sugar can cause weird things like hiding the remotes and paranoia.
In a similar vain to the threatening to call the cops. A lot of insane parents (Including my own) will threaten to call CPS or claim that if you tell anyone CPS will take you away. I've learned that the parents who threaten their kids that CPS will take them away, nine times out of ten have had CPS called on them before.
This is one of the great sides of what the Internet has given humanity - back in my day, a child in such a home would have no way to reality check; they would just have to take their parents' word that this was right and normal. Now all an abused teenager has to do is compare notes on Reddit - I'm sure that sometimes that might backfire, but at least there's some consensus of "omg, no, your parents are effed up" that they can find, along with some hopefully helpful advice.
It's great that this is so educational while being very amusing..discussing abuse like this in a lighthearted way while you are still being kind and taking it serious. I think can be a really helpful way to treat any difficult situation.. play bingo like this and put no-good behaviour in simple and fun categories. In my life this game has really helped me shift self-blame and break free of more than one bad situation and I love that click is out here teaching this stuff to everyone that wants to hear it. you're making the world a better place :)
I gotta say as a bingo, the rule that you can only mark once makes sense and is fair, BUT I much prefer when you would put down all marks that qualify, because it allows us to see just how much BS we really gone through in these videos, the insanity of the board makes it funny, turning it into a flat game of bingo feels depressing, Like we are turning an actual game out of peoples experiences, that part makes me personally uncomfortable, but I still enjoyed the vid, take care Click🎉💕
I agree.
I cannot BEGIN to deal with that horrible roommate. The WALLS of text! My sibling had a similar issue when they wanted me to babysit the kiddo. I AM CHILDFREE. Their choice is not my problem to deal with, family or not has no bearing on these choices. Thankfully we talked it out and set some good boundaries that WORKED very well for us. They still don’t like the ‘no means no’ and ‘I don’t need a reason to say no’. 😂 now to work on them staying the f outta my love life. 😂😂😂😂😂
Not-so-fun animal fact! There’s a species of penguin known as the Adélie penguin with males that mate with crippled females, their own children, corpses, and the ground!
*Why?*
@@Moravian_Mfthis must be the first animal fact to not get a Heart from click
@@Icomplaintoomuchthe video was posted 4 minutes ago give it time 😭
And baby seals i think?
Thank you
Should have replaced the wholesome spot with "emotional incest." Seems like you're way more likely to get that.
i remember when I had my first child. I was induced at 8am and in intense pain because the pitocin was causing hard contractions but wasn't dialating. 12 hours of full on contract with no pain meds... eyes rolling back in head, vomiting and thought I was going to pass out. meanwhile, my mom video taped everything, got smart w the doctor about that being illegal and forced the issue, got jealous of my mother in law while holding my legs and I had to chill her out, brought pictures in of my dead father to the induction room, was in my face telling me to be strong about it, and then left me alone after the baby was born to sit in my own blood for an hour while they had an emergency to make sure no one got more time w the baby she also invited my sister, her boyfriend....???, my step aunt I barely know (who walked in while I was pushing)😳 and other random ppl because it was about her. I didn't realize it was messed up until this video
Jeez your mother turned the situation into a spectating sport that is horrible
"With friends like this, who needs enemies?" I don't know if that's a quote from somewhere else but it's a SICK line
THE SHADE AT 40:50. I have never seen somebody take a drag at someone (WELL deserved) so smoothly and classily before.
Well, both the incels and entitled parents feel entitled to /something/, even if it's hopefully not the same thing. If someone denies them something, time for a tantrum to try to force you to agree their demands.
15:30 as soon as i heard "life 360" i knew he was in an extremely toxic family. Ther3 has not been a SINGLE normal non-toxic person or family that uses those apps. Those apps are a GIGANTIC red flag.
My family uses Life360 and I promise we are normal people with respect for boundaries! My parents are aging, and I have a rural commute and travel solo a lot, so it’s mostly just a reassurance that if one of us dies in the middle of nowhere, we at least know where to start looking. I know this subreddit has some absolutely WACKADOODLE people, and location tracking gets abused way too often, but I swear there is at least one (1) legitimate use! (To be clear I am not disagreeing with you, I am just trying to restore the tiniest sliver of hope in humanity.)
@@marycook9007 I've just seen it open th3 doors for abuse way too often to say it's a good option, I'd never feel comfortable with anyone having constant access to my location
I think my mom uses it with my younger brothers, but we all kinda suck at keeping in touch with people we don't see daily, she works a lot, and they still live at home. Just her way of making sure were still breathing i guess (or in two ofbmy brothers cases, that theyre not sneaking out to go drink, smoke, and party with their friends at 13 years old, they got busted for that a few times lmao), and she doesnt ever freak out over what goes on. She doesn't use it for me, since I live three states away, but that's unrelated to anything to do with family stuff.
My fam uses it (me only because I forget to text back sometimes and they worry) and I can assure you, there are probably a couple normal families in the mix ❤
Don't worry, my family is very loving and safe and we use Life360! It's super useful to make sure they're OK on long trips or seeing when they get off work.
25:49 the amount of times my Aunt(Uncle’s babymomma) has left me with all 6 of her kids, and just refused to answer my texts for nearly two-three days at a time because she had to go do “laundry” 🤦🏻♀️
She’s done this to not only me, but my mom and grandma as well. And this is why when she asks someone to babysit they almost always say no, because she abandons them for either a full day or several days at a time instead of the amount of time she says. I work all the damn time, I don’t even have time to have my own kids let alone watch her 6 because she doesn’t feel like being a mother.
And as much as I would like to say she only does this every now and again… she doesn’t. She does it all the damn time, the kids basically take turns living with other relatives or fending for themselves at home. Why nobody has called dfs? Actually we have, they didn’t do shit.
I am sorry you, your mother and your grandmother are dealing with this lazy aunt. I'm just wondering the aunt goes off to. I hope the kids get the help and support they need.
These videos make me eternally grateful that social media didn't exist as it does today when my mother was alive. I'd dread to even entertain the notion of what she could have unleashed upon the world.
I really love the bingo concept, it's just a reminder of how insane people are
That pregnancy story was wild. I showed up for when my sister was pregnant but couldn't find the room cause I was tired (it was like after midnight) and had been studying for midterms all day.
You know what I did? Fucking left and apologized for not making it. Later I admitted I was there but didn't want to bother them because SHE WAS GIVING BIRTH and I felt bad I couldn't make it there early enough.
That mom is truly wild.
R/insaneparents is literally r/arethestraightsok for parents
No no, he's got a point
True, we never see gay parents on here
Edit: congrats on the heart!
Wut
@@leaderlambyyour edit washed out tha heart. Not my condolences
@@AroAce_Psychopath It's, uh... still there tho
With the babysitting story, I once babysat for a family who had twins, and my entire job would be to make sure that the kids were okay and didn’t need anything. They would already be asleep when I got to their house, and I’d spend the night playing with their dog, cleaning their house where I could, and reading a book. I never had an issue with them waking up, but having me there just in case meant that they could enjoy their dates a bit more and there’d be someone to help ensure things were okay. I’m not sure how old
The kid is (maybe it was mentioned but idk), but when they’re young, like infants-toddlers, you DEFINITELY need someone to make sure their sleep is smooth.
The post about the mom of the trans person who is getting surgery resonates hard with me. I didn't know I was trans yet, but my parents kicked me out of my apartment on my eighteenth birthday because I identified as queer with no warning. It's fucked up that a parent could do that to their kid.
I had a panic attack today in school. This is the third time I had one, the second happened a week ago in the same class. I panicked because of a presentation and tried so hard not to cry while still standing in front the whole class. Sadly it was for nothing and I had a whole breakdown.
I went home after second period and just watched like 30 of your videos. There was just something calming about watching you talk about all kinds of wild stories and internet drama. Thank you for your wholesomeness. I really needed something like that after this horrible day. I still don’t know how to tell my parents. They’re both really supportive of me and I know they will listen (not like the parents in this video lol) but there’s still just something weird about just talking about it.
But anyway I just wanted to went and idk this seems like a nice place to do so. Thank you again for the content you do. I think you inspire and help a lot of people including me. Makes me feel a bit less anxious and insecure of the weird parts of my personality.
I’m happy you’re calm now. Are you ok? I feel this deeply… 😢😅 ❤
Try writing what you want to say to them--it will clear your head and keep you focused. I suggest looking into counseling to find ways to cope with panic attacks, because they can be debilitating. Sending you good vibes❤
I hope you're feeling better now - while I fortunately don't get panic attacks, I have friends who do, and it sounds very stressful. you're incredibly strong for even trying to do that presentation if it caused you to react like that. I hope it gets easier for you ♡
I hope you're feeling better now 💕💞
@@SingerSofiaBrook I‘m doing great thank you☺️
My heart goes out to everyone who like me had insane parents.
21:26 That's the "I didn't get what I want" behaviour. Very common among Addicts, Manipulators (i.e. 'nice guys' and 'nice girls') and shady salesmen.
It's something I have experienced often, especially in school when you have the cool snacks. It was even more obvious to see because i was a loner. But then I pulled out the kinder chocolade and everybody was suddenly my "best friend"
I had good parents and yet still find something cathartic here. My condolences to the poor people who actually have to deal with this.
I feel absolutely terrible about people needing to go through things like this (my dad has anger issues; rarely phisycal activity, mainly shouting). But damn, I live for this chaos😂
Same!! Luckily my dad has gotten help for his rage attacks (turns out he has bipolar type II, and mood stabilisers have virtually eliminated the rages).
34:42 Mother brought in food for mother to eat. Sister can't have anything in case they need to operate, asked mother to close the curtains so that sister, who was hungry, wouldn't have to watch mother eat in front of her. Then mother had a tantrum and made a big deal about not eating her food.
These videos really are calming to me. It helps me smile a bit to hear Click’s words of wisdom and advice and that it will all be okay. Thank you, you’ve given me much needed hope that one day I’ll be able to be free from this house and able to enjoy my life.
Good luck getting free, sorry it's like that.❤
It's interesting how a certain "professional" relationship Click used to have with someone always comes up in r/insaneparents, moreso than most other subreddits (40:38). Since this subreddit is often about power and control issues of the parent, it does make sense, but it is also sad because it shows that this negative experience was very impactful.
Happy to watch you thrive, Click! I hope that having all of this mess come to the surface has been healing for you and not further damaging.
Yep, also same.
18:44 I could understand if the grandma couldn't take care of herself but she was changing her clothes
43:40: *cracks knuckles* Let's go:
1.1 Corinthians 16:14 “Do everything in love."
2. Luke 6:37 "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven."
3. Luke 6:35 "But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked."
4. James 4:12 "There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you-who are you to judge your neighbor?"
5. Romans 15:1 "Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God."
I can go on. Stop using Christianity as an excuse to spread your hatred (:
for a someone that grew up with r/InsaneParents, these vids gives me some flashbacks, some of which i share with my older sister... not talking to my parents anymore, and it was a relief to finally cut them out of my life... it took my sister 4-5 years longer than me, before she finally had enough...
2 minutes in and I just want to find my mom so I can hug her and let her know that I am so thankful that she's not like these unique individuals
They are not people that's for sure
As someone who cut contact with their entire "biohazard" family, I'm 1) glad your mom is one of the good ones, and 2) sad to need to let you know that parents on this subreddit aren't nearly as unique and uncommon as one might wish. I've found that it's actually much harder to find genuinely good parents than ones who normalize abusive or otherwise unhealthy behavior.
Generational trauma... the mistakes of our elders are so often the mistakes of their elders and will often become our mistakes as well if we don't actively work at preventing such behaviors in ourselves. That's how emotional and psychological neglect and violence (and all other forms of abuse) pass on so easily and are so normalized in society. That's why these parents featured from the subreddits are just the more colorful examples and how so many people have realized they were abused growing up via watching videos like these.
(Psychology is a kinda-sorta special interest for me, especially around the topic of abusive behaviors. So I know a lot about the sad reality.)
I think the dad who texted his son threatening to kill his girlfriend may have untreated/undiagnosed BPD. BPD rages are usually triggered by an intense fear of abandonment, which the son "choosing his girlfriend over his dad" could have been a trigger. Parents with untreated BPD typically engage in emotional incest to an insane degree, and there are certain phrases--"you don't make time for me," "it's her or me," "she's brainwashed you,"--are so common that in the support group I attend, we call it "BPD Bingo" when they come up in communications with our parents. It's seriously like these parents are reading a textbook on "How to Emotionally Abuse Your Children," like jfc.
it's too bad bc people w BPD make the best most loving and supportive familt members when they know they have BPD and take ownership over their health. The most supportive relationship of my life (10yrs) was w someone w BPD. It started off rocky but we learned to communicate and affiirm eachothers' needs. We broke up for unrelated reasons. People w BPD are hyperempaths and have interpersonal skills no other population has. It's just a matter of how those traits are used/controlled. Also externalizers vs internalizers.
@@SpecialBlanketabsolutely. My aunt has BPD, and when she was being treated for it and was making a real effort to be self-aware, she was amazing. Deeply empathetic, as you said. Unfortunately, she had something of a "relapse" and now denies having BPD, and is back to her old, destructive (mostly to herself) habits. I don't understand it, because she is so much unhappier now, but when you're dealing with mental stuff, you do things that don't make sense... I know that first-hand 😅
@@SpecialBlanketdefinitely agree. My father has BPD and bipolar 1 (not the greatest combo), but he’s still probably the best father I could have ever hoped for. He recognises that he has issues and does his best to work on them. Even after having an… episode? (Not sure what the proper term is) He apologises afterwards and makes an effort to fix whatever damage he may have caused (mostly psychological. He has never been physically abusive towards us, even in his worst moments)
Reacting like that is besecaly want determinates your children to leave you 😭
Why didn't he just go to a doctor or smth
43:00 i literally studied this a few days ago, they legally cannot do that as it falls under discrimination against gender identity, which is protected against according to the human rights thingamajig (in my country at least)
they're discriminating against their own child by refusing housing/kicking them out due to gender identity.
they're in the wrong here, both morally and legally.
The unfortunate thing is that there's a decent chance that's legal where OP lives
15:36 about the abusive people not sticking out in everyday life. My mother's father was an alcolohic and violent man. He cheated on his wife, beat her regularly and the kids, too (my mom and her siblings), especially when he was caught lying or when their truth wasn't something he wanted to hear. He also kept all the money he earned to indulge himself and thereby forced his kids to perform child labour to earn their meal (they were stitching labels into clothes by the thousands each week. My mom was the 12 year old middle child of 5 when that started). But he was lean, well groomed, handsome and eloquent and charismatic in public. High reputation within the community. Nobody outside knew a thing.
I never realized how fucked up my parents really are- my friends and I were talking yesterday and they were absolutely horrified about the stories I thought were pretty normal