The family secret: Girl names firefighter uncle as her alleged abuser
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- Опубликовано: 7 дек 2020
- A teen finally gets up the courage to tell her parents something she's been hiding for years: Her beloved firefighter uncle had reportedly sexually assaulted her when she was just 6 years old. From 2017: bit.ly/2LfZRtz
How can someone look at a 6 year old and be sexually attracted to them? That’s something I’ll never comprehend.
pedophilia is a psycho.disorder..even an infant can be a victim
They look at a child, who is still learning right from wrong and imagine someone they can teach and bully them to do whatever they want. We teach this to children when he use corporal punishment to get them to do what we want them do. So perps learn this as children. Many are abused children who never told the truth. Many are adults angry at other adults for not giving them what they want so they justify using children to get it because they cannot easily fight back and abusing them? Gives them so much power. They are ruining a child's future. They feel protected because exposing their abuse? Is as much a threat to the child as it is for them. It gives them an edge. Which is why their crimes need to be prosecuted severely.
It isn't about healthy adult attraction, it is about power and control and it is a sickness. People need to watch how all people interact with their kids. This breaks my heart, I am glad her parents believe her.
Girls are taught to be " nice" and to take care of others. Profiles need to be separated from other people, many are shown to have enlarged frontal context in their brains, they have a really hard time with impulse control, so if he sees another little girl he "likes in that way" it is likely to happen again and again and again.
Kate wrote this
@Dak Nat Exactly, a demonic spirit . Usually the gateway is by porn & then it leads to pedophilia....sick
@@MalaYLoca spot on porn is disgusting it plants those seeds in teen and men’s minds and they act out your breaking ones soul when you feed into it you have to control what you consume
Wow. The plea deal also allowed him to NOT have to register as a sex offender. That's scary... and wrong.
I believe a lot of judges themselves are pedofiles looking out for other pedo’s
@@englishgarden2189 agreed
Agreed
it is truly WRONG :)
The joys of being white...
This is why I've never left my kids under any body's care or in any body's home (family or friends).
Bless you😇
That’s a struggle and a bit extreme. You’re going to do harm by going to extremes
@@linguinepast3743 I did it and BOTH of my children are grown. They strong! Both thank me for everything I did to keep them safe.
@@Optimus19572 calm down. I’m sure you did a fine job but trust is also important and a big lesson in life
Me neither
Her mom recalling how she hugged her and ran to her lap to cry... that baby girl wanted to tell her mom so bad but couldn’t. Heartbreaking.
😭😭😭😭
She needed comfort, and Mama never picked up on that clue. Sad for both.
😪
So heartbreaking😔
It was so comforting to hear that her parents believed her. Not many victims get to have that. I am truly happy for her.
I know how horrible the rest of this is, but it is extremely comforting that someone was able to be believed
I couldn’t agree more; I’m wondering that there are more of his victims out there, just not ready to face him ~ I pray she can live her best life now that she has unburdened herself with this horrific act 🙏🏼
my mom didn't believe me when I got abused by my stepdad.
@@htoobauerly7851 I am so sorry to hear that. My parents didn't believe me about my brother until he did it to one of my friends and they pressed charges
@@schwoop2465 if you ever need me I am here.
Im a survivor of this. i think anyone who hurts a child should get life in prison. it has affected me my whole life so why shouldn't it affect them that long
Completely agree! It ruins your relationships and beyond
Absolutely they should get a life sentence. I'm so sorry that happened to you
I’m so sorry you went through that.
@@frankmyers2024 Thank you, Frank. I work with children now too. I was leery of doing this because of the myth that all children who have been abused become abusers. No, many of us become crusaders. A wise teacher taught me well. "If good people do not work in child care, only the bad people will." Though without a legal system that works for children and the parents who do step-up? You must know, it multiples our own pain.
So many professions I had to avoid that I would have been very good at but I know my limitations because of this rage that will always be inside of me. It is fueled by a society that coddles pedophiles.
@Snowrabian Lebanonprincess How can you write something like this? You are saying people do not fear God? Understandable when the Gods do nothing to protect children from this kind of harm. Yeah, God will smite thee. Right. When that starts happening then maybe people will fear these Gods? From the very beginning of the Bible, are reports of crimes against children. Even by Jewish people that supposedly was okay with their God? The Bible has brought down serious punishments to the Jewish people but their ancestors did nothing different then most of ours in ancient history. Just sadly a book about Jewish history became the tool so many use to try to teach from. For some? It is a warning. For others? It is admission that so much evil has been taking place forever and going unpunished. By the Gods and most of all by all of us who refuse to make our legal system accountable for crimes against children. For every family that paid huge legal fees to protect their criminal family members against their victims.
I am 81 years old and suffered all my life with the same problem with my uncle who started on me at 3 years old every xmas until i turned 13 and refused to go to my nannas farm for the xmas holidays . The same threats to hurt the family and when i told my nanna he denied it . all my life i suffered over it and have lived on my own and cant bear to be touched . Brave girl . i believe and admire her and also understand her pain .
Annette, very sorry that you went thru this.
It doesn’t get any better does it ?
How terrible. You've lived a long life and deserve happiness.
I am so sorry. I am 65 and mine started also at 3 years old. I could also not bear to be touched. One never really get over it.
How did you deal with the anxiety ? I was touched when I was 6-10 and I’m 21 now and I can’t seem to overcome this strong intimidating anxiety
Her last line. “I know I’m gonna be okay; I’m not sure he will.” That’s a powerful statement. That’s reclaiming power over the situation. She’s no victim; she’s a survivor.
I commend the amount of work she’s put into therapy and healing. That’s painful, long, and arduous, but she’s clearly worked hard to get to the beautiful place she’s in now. She seems like an amazing young woman.
I'm tired of these child abuser getting off or light sentences for screwing up a child's life! A pot smoker gets more time! Clean up your judicial service it's corrupt!
Also if the person who has made the allegations doesn't go to the court then the case will be dismissed: often the accused is a nut case anyway- this fact is responsible for putting the victim in MORE danger if the monster decides he/she has nothing to lose so they may as well do some thing to prevent the victim from being there. Messed up system....
On God
you clean up your judicial service!
he didnr even get a sentence. no jail time! no serious chargesfor raping his 6 yr old niece. i wonder where he got that black eye in his mugshot
Amen!!! The Justice system is a Joke!!!
Beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing. They are everywhere, they are anyone.
@Susan Countryman Truer words were never spoken.
You
@H S They are the people with easiest access
Yes kiler
HAAAAA fuck
We have to really know our children. Their behaviors, their moods everything. I'm that mom!
Shut up tubby
I was accidentally buried alive at age 5. I'm 65 now. I remember every bit of what happened and how I felt including leaving my body. That's what trauma does to a child. It imprints indelibly.
Im so sorry that happened to you. 😢
Linda so very well said. It imprints indelibly
as a sexual assault survivor, who went through the same thing she did. she’s so strong and i’m so proud of her
Thank you for putting this into words, I couldn't.
I also wanted to do all kinds of stuff trying to hurt myself. My life is permanently ruined. I can't even get married because of what my uncle has done to me
@@nothingelsematters2769 Damn. I'm so sorry. That's tragic. I hope you guys find a way to heal.
Aint that amazing. The exact same thing happen to someone i know
Slashing(self harm)
@@nothingelsematters2769 Its reality
You die or alive same time
Bad thing you can not get rid of these moments they stuck with you like elf
I went through this same abuse at the hands of my uncle from the ages of 7-12. We went to court and I'll never forget sitting on that stand so scared seeing his face thinking he could still hurt me. The jury sentenced him to 10 years in prison but the out of county judge deferred it to 10 years probation with lifetime registration of a sex offender. I lost that entire side of my 'family' because of it. Years later as an adult I had my daughter at an easter egg hunt at school and my aunt came up to me crying saying he confessed to molesting over 30 children and quote said 'it's ok though because he's in church and treatment now.' I couldn't believe they were still defending him. I walked away from her in complete disgust never to look back.
So so so very sorry this happened to you😫😢
@@terribrumley3005 it's okay, Terri. Just have to keep pushing forward. He's the main reason I even got into law enforcement was to help people. So that's the one good thing that came from it all and the thought (I can only hope) I stopped it from happening to other children after me.
Sorry to hear that!
😭
I'm so sorry you went through that, but I'm happy you didn't let that horrible experience define you as a person. You're strong and a fighter. I wish you health and happiness.
So sorry this happened to you ❤
Why do they call her a sick object of his attraction why not an object of his sick attraction? Hollywood sucks
I thought that to be strange too
People aren't learning & disciplining themselves to use standard English. Happens all the time. You would expect college educated reporters to do better.
Right 🤬🤬🤬
Drama... It sounds more dramatic with more adjectives. I guess sick object sounded more dramatic than just a simple object. They could have worded it differently. I agree.
Semantics...
80% of families have something like this going on behind the scenes. Sadly, some people even have knowledge of it and CHOOSE to ignore it at the expense of the child's well being...smh 🤬
My own family.
@G Kab That's what I thought. Where did that statistic come from? 🤔
Yes my own father did this to me and my brothers
I can relate, I was molested by my uncle ( my father's brother ) when I was 4 years old. I still suffer the effects today at 62 years old. This changes your life permanently, I despise disgusting people that prey upon children and destroy their lives!
praying for you, sending healing angels your way.
@@chazmynegisstennar9383 Thank you so very much, that means a lot to me.
Sending lots of love
@@princessmonkey3399 Thank you so much. I appreciate the kindness.
God loves you❤❤
i cannot imagine how sick of a person he is to do that to a little kid. let alone, a family member.
Also the mom how the hell do you not notice&! I have a 6& 11 yr old and can’t understand how you don’t know!
My own father was grooming me. By the grace of God...I stopped it. I was 11 years old. I should have told on him.
I went through a similar situation as a child at the hands of my own uncle. I endured three years of sexual abuse every day. It started when I was only 9 years old
@@18victorjr Don't be a... dare i say.. a dick!
@H S absolutely... I don't have statistics right now but know this to be truth. #1- it's common sense
Poor baby what a horrible childhood .PTSD DOESN'T EVEN COVER WHAT IS GOING ON .....
He didn’t really seem surprised when the detective confronted him with the accusation...
I noticed that same thing. He just started nodding
I thought the same thing.
"So you have a bit of ptsd..." no she has ptsd not a bit of it not just a little. Please don't use phrasing that minimize psychological damage
I was thinking the same thing. Of course this caused PTSD I'm sure it effects and triggers daily.
When I was around the same age I was sexually assaulted by someone in my close family and she tried to drown me in the bathtub! I was being physically abused by both parents until 16 when they threw me out. I have PTSD when I had my kids with me I could control it somewhat, after they left my whole life imploded! If a man or woman in authority is forceful or in any way I perceive them to be threatening I start shaking, sobbing and it doesn't stop for sometimes hours. I hate it and you can't tell an employer " sorry I was raped and drowned as a child sorry I'm acting like a lunatic. also if someone is doing something to hurt or make another person upset I will move mountains to rectify the situation, usually at the expense of my job! So don't think that there's just a "little " PTSD it affects every single part of your life forever!!! Why would the uncle pled out if he didn't do anything/ If I was innocent I would fight to clear my name wouldn.t you???I want to know if he still has a job???
It’s like saying someone is “a little but pregnant” ...no such thing!
I AM 65 YEARS OLD ! IT NEVER GOES AWAY !
WE DONT FORGET !
SHE IS MY HERO BECAUSE SHE BROUGHT IT TO THE LIGHT !
Dx with PTSD C from the abuse and neglect.
As a firefighter we don’t claim him it’s a dishonor to the job hope she is doing ok though
@Chris Richardson Being a firefighters mother , she wasnt referring to that in the way you took it / they are family men or women and have a sense of disgust at what he done . they fight more then fires . I HAVE A HARD TIME WITH SOME OF THE THINGS MY SON AND HIS brothers and sisters GO THROUGH . Some of them need mental therapy . I just think she was being genuine with the comment . Our world is a hard place at times . I too was a victim almost in the same scenario , I will remember this story to keep me strong .
Please the fact that he was a fire fighter is why his sentence was so light. Law enforcement and ajacent always look out for each other & think they are a cut above the rest. You even alluded to that with your comment
All these comments vilifying the firefighter. This to me is still a chicken and egg story. Mental illness can cause a person to make claims that never occurred. Either way I feel sorry for this girl but before knowing more than what this video shares I’m keeping an open mind to the firefighters guilt or innocence. He was given a decision to accept a plea deal without admitting guilt and have drastically reduced sentencing and no sexual registry or face the a jury and possibly spend the rest of his life in prison. This could be a lot more complicated than it appears.
As a human being we don't claim him
@Bugaboo I'll be praying for her as well, in Jesus Christ name.
These men do it so often to so many they've forgotten whom they've assaulted.
Men like that you just assume they've molested EVERYONE.
Man this girl shares my story, only my abuser was my mother's boyfriend, but the abuse, and the threats, and the memories do not go away. I am also a PTSD afflicted.
So sorry hope you get help
You are right the memories never go away, no matter the age that it happened, no matter how old you become that traumatic event lives with you daily...forever.
Brings some into a severe depression to the point of trying to commit suicide in the belief that that's the only way to stop the haunting nightmare.
"there was some inappropriateness between you and a child"
*just sits and nods*
I've seen all I needed to see. Lock him up.
Yup. Not surprised. Then plays the victim. I wouldn't have taken the plea.
I felt that same thing at that moment. Someone says that to you and you just nod in your chair.
100 % I felt same way who nods their heads yes! You say WHAT are you out of your mind
EXACLTY MY SAME THOUGHTS
I noticed that too. He didn’t freak out like WTH? Instead he just quietly nods.
He doesn't even get shocked when he's told the reason he's at the precinct...he sooo did it!!!
Ya he just nodded his head yes. And the pic of him and her they keep showing is creepy. She looks sad. And the look on his face..
Thats probably because her parents called him and let him no, notice the parents believed her about being raped, but never said they believed it was her uncle.
He's been scared and preparing for that day ever since he first *thought about* crossing that line.
@@3_up_moon You are so right. And he can find plenty of support from the online perverts. Especially those infecting our legal system.
Your boys look so precious. Watch out for them and teach them to trust how powerful you are. This will help them stand up to bullies. Ask them randomly once in awhile if there is anyone they don't like. Tell them you will go after anyone who tries to hurt them and mean it. A perps greatest weapon is blackmailing a child. Telling them if they tell, they will kill their parents or rape their sibling and they have to live with that truth. None of us wants our children to suffer trying to.protect us.
Bruh I’m crying reading the comments I can’t believe that this has happened to so many ppl I just wanna say I’m rlly sorry that that has to happened to you
I know right? What is wrong with these perpetrators? Seems something is inherently and permanently evil in a large majority of human natures. It makes me wish for humanity's end soon.
the very same thing happened to me when i was around her age.. but it was my half brother and it continued until i was 10. i'm 15 now and I finally got the courage to tell my parents and detectives are now starting up a case.
Good for you for telling. I hope you get justice.
GREAT GOB RACHEL , I pray with every ounce of me YOU get justice , let’s keep pointing out molesters , keep us updated
I hate that “theyre lying they have mental problems” defense. The correlation between mental health problems and abuse as a child is impossible to ignore.
They were talking about if she was lying or not, has nothing to do with the abuse. People do lie. It’s not unheard of. There is mental illness that has to do with lying.
@@diaryofarealmom3264 no they said the reason she was lying about abuse was because she had mental health problems. a bit of a stupid defence when theres an undeniable link between childhood abuse and mental health, the fact is the abuse is extreamly likely be what caused those problems in the first place. its strengthening HER claims to alot of people. mental health problems dont often just occur randomly they are nearly always caused by a stressful and traumatic event.
There's always a root cause for her getting all these labeled "mental illnesses" obviously they are not digging deep as to why she developed mental illnesses.
You can’t trust anyone.
Yup and I never will... 🤷🏽♀️
@Joy Michele Timmons nope
True! Everyone is an idiot until proven otherwise.
We all neee to look both ways while cossing a oneway street.
That’s cynical of you to say. I can’t say I disagree though. Can’t agree either. I can see both sides. It’s sad that this is even a discussion, we should be able to rely on one another without question.
@@jdc4316 "we should be" but over and over again have i been proven that the majority of people are unreliable..
I had experienced sexual assault at the age of 2 or 3 years old and I know people think you can't remember things from that age but it's one memory that has always stuck out and played over and over in my head and confused me for years not knowing what happened to me.
I believe this because I too remember a lot around 3 years old especially when they are things that are traumatizing. and this also happened to me but a bit older like 5-6
When they told him about the allegations I like how he nodded yes then says, "I have no idea"
They say blood is thicker than water, but no one pointed out that both can equally drown you. Prayers to this girl, healing surely takes time.
very well said.
@@p3812 her mom is his sibling, so they definitely share "some" blood.
Understand your meaning but you should look up the entire quote. When I found out I was like what??? That’s how to use it??? Lmbo
Only through Jesus.
@@patriciadeanes1469 It's Ohio. More than likely, it's because of Jesus, that he wasn't found guilty. He's a white guy. Glad she wasn't old enough to get pregnant. Because they would have to take her to another state.
The strength it takes to come out with this..... I applaud her. And I hope the justice system serves it's purpose.
She is a hero who is saving kids by telling her story in such a public way. It's about education. We have the power to MINIMIZE the damage these assholes can do.
@Brad Moore It has always been going on. Our media was often bullied into not reporting these kinds of crimes. Often because the perpetrators are important people in our society.
It’s not the systems fault their was a loop hole in it so he jumped at that chance to get off it sucks
@Brad Moore No Brad, that is the lie that is going around. It is about stopping the abuse. If we do not call out rapists, they keep raping. Do you want your kids raped? Your family? If it wouldn't make you mad that a victim didn't speak out if you were a victim, do not think because you are male that you can't be victim. Lots of guys can tell you, it is more luck then being careful. Rapist pick victims, victims do not pick rapists.
Victims sue rapist because our legal system won't keep them off of our streets. Victims cannot get their cases presented in a court of law. It is not a right but a decision made by someone who doesn't want to do the work needed to prosecute rapists. Because too many people will spend too much money to protect rapists while punishing their victims. We are turning the tables. I hope you can catch up.
Some do lie but most do not. Especially child victims. It isn't like her uncle has so much money? Who deserves to rape a child and not be punished for it? Who?
A lot of guys are taught you have privilege's. No, you really don't. You don't get to choose who has to have sex with you. You can hope to get permission but you don't get to tell people what they have to do for you if they don't want to. If you go after children who you know are easily afraid of you for sex? You need to take a room in a cage, where we keep animals that are a danger to society.
This makes me wonder if there are other victims out there , afraid to come forward. Very sad.
Of course there are! In fact, the majority never say a thing. And the ones that do, our pathetic "justice" system seems to protect the
criminal at the expense of the victim.
Of course
Thousands!!
Sorry I meant other by this same man. I know many don’t say anything, I didn’t 52 years ago. Very sad
What's there to wonder about. There are children being abused and kidnapped and trafficked every day.
Nothing hurts more than knowing your perpetrator is someone you knew and trusted.
She doesn't look happy sitting on his lap, she looks scared and terrified.
Exactly.
0:13 Why did they black out her eyes?
The picture of her on his lap is long before the abuse started. To say she looks unhappy is false. She doesn’t know what’s gonna happen at that point 🤦♂️
@@MeneTekelUpharsin that’s the color of her eyes 🤦♂️
I was 3 ... I’m 51 now. I trusted NO ONE WITH MY KIDS!!!!
Same here
Facts
Mine started at six by an uncle & 3 of his sons...I understand..
Omg, I'm so sorry you all had to experience such disgusting behavior.
dude knew he was guilty af, hence the plea deal.
Crying right now because her story sounds exactly like mine. Especially the after affects.
OMG a nightmare of epic proportions. -children don't forget abuse of any type. Even if it's just abusive language. Abuse is never forgotten.
That is not true. Some children block it out so they can function as adults.
Yup. I can still hear every mean name my dad ever called me.
True! Any form of BUSE is forever engravened in the hearts of the victims, particularly kids!
Yes they do. It’s called a trauma response. But this chick is a 🤥
OMG
Don't forget there's a group of people out there trying to make it okay for grown adults to be attracted to young children as young as eight!
Yep! NAMBLA!
And their sicko MAP's!
North American Man Boy Love Association .
Minor Attracted Person.
Makes me want to puke.
@@yungdaggerdick8082, no it isn’t
That is a group of violent and disgusting group of people like this, not a mainstream group.
@@deah6558 ?
@@tishbowman2990 Right and how it is they are legally protected?
What an animal - he is abusing her all over again by denying what happened.
When she said "I'm going to be okay. I'm no sure he will." that was so powerful
His reaction when he’s sat down and confronted...says it all! An innocent person would freak out, he’s so calm.
He knows his head at first.. Guilty response
I hate the word panties. especially when talking about a child's underwear.
Yea, it’s creepy.
Same
I know. I like the British word knickers better. It seems more functional and less sexual.
Ugh...I know. Just say underwear!
@@karenhenderson3868 lol seriously never once have I said panties in any situation.
I was "touched" when i was 4 and still remember that event even now i'm on my 30's
His now ex wife is a dumb ass. OPEN YOUR EYES! Blaming her. Breaks my heart for her no child should ever have to go through that ever. Sending anyone who goes through this prayers and love and hold your head up high because your amazing.
The saddest part is that this aunt is the one who is Andrea's blood relative! She is her dad's brother and this sicko was her ex-husband, she is the one who brought him in!!! Likely blinded by guilt.
@@peachlife5118 I just do not understand it how anyone could do anything to hurt a kid. I love my kids and would fight to the death for them.
Poor baby. "A bit of PTSD"? She can hardly say specific words when she tells her story and how uncomfortable she is with saying some words. This girl is a hero. I never reported my attacker, and mine wasn't a family member. I can't imagine how hard this was. Love ya girl
She is a hero
forever mine !
i could not do what she did .
I didn't report either. I'm in awe of her strength!!!!
How can someone do this to an innocent child? it's even more disturbing how he is set free..... That animal needs to be in jail for life.
He must have a evil heart for a long time because nobody suddenly decides to do something like this.
It sucks big time for her if this actually happened. Unfortunately, there is no evidence against him. You can't convict someone based on True Crime Daily's version, they are there to boost ratings. It's hard to know what happened, especially since we didn't hear the whole testimony.
A much less severe thing like this happened to me at age 16. My heart goes out to my fellow survivors, and I hope you all can find healing with yourself and others.
"You can't forget it. Believe me, I wanted to." As a victim myself, I can say this is true. It hunts you for life. It happened to me for 6-7 years, and that was 6 years ago. I still get flashback every time something triggers me. I'll never ever forget it. The sad thing about this, people around me like my mom & sister call my trauma "self pity". I was never brought to a therapist or whatsoever. I had to fight by myself.
I think it can go both ways. Sometimes our brain goes into denial when we are in shock, and the memories are berried indefinetly. But if you remember and the people who are supposed to protect you don't even beleive you, that's a whole additional trauma. So sorry this happened to you, and hope you will heal.
I'm so sorry but I still have issues and I'm 64 years old niw
There are sites online….especially one by Tori Amos.
That’s not something they (people who have been sexually abused) ever forget! I hope she gets all the help she can.
ummm... it is rare but not that rare to block out details of being abused because during the act, you must zone out your mind, so you won't feel anything. It takes a tremendous amount of concentration to do this. For younger children it is harder to remember details for some. I suffered some blocks but I was older, so I knew how important it was to remember as much as I could. But I couldn't give exact dates. Just time periods because you have to still survive if you want revenge. I blocked for fifteen years details where I failed myself by not acting as I knew I should out of fear of retribution or bringing more harm to my brothers. I could only remember parts that would play in my mind like a broken projector. Over, and over again and then the memories would cut off suddenly. It took years of therapy to finally remember why my mind wouldn't let them go.
Me too! And it is often the most unlikely people. People often trust these twisted people. I was often fortunate enough to be able to escape.I never told my parents till they died. I buried the memories for a long time until I was forced to deal with them. It was quite traumatic. I got through with prayers and God's help. To this day I don't understand why so many pesos seemed attracted to me. I wouldn't consider myself a cute child,so my conclusion is that these sick people are everywhere and parents need to be less trusting of others where their children are concerned. I certainly don't.
Well done, Andrea! Shame you didn't get the justice you deserve.
Andrea is extremely brave for coming forward with this
I was a cutter when I was a teen. She's right, you never forget the trauma. I know, I went through the hell she went through. My grandfather did this to me, I was 5. Then at 11 I was assaulted by a foster brother. He was 17. It seemed like the hell would never end. She's so strong..a surviver. My grandfather is dead and I can't recall the name of the foster brother.
When that person dies, there is only relief, huh? At least thats how I felt.
My heart goes out to Andrea for being such a strong person.
What is WRONG with some people?? His OWN sister's daughter??
A CHILD... that's what counts You seem to suggest it wouldn't have been as bad were it any other child
Exactly. Still a baby in fact. a 6 year old.
@@effaitch7629 Idk how you got that from what they said you really put words in their mouth.
@@thickthickly Exactly
Easy target
Happend to me when I was 11. I had leukemia at the time. It was someone close to the family too. People are awful! Watch out who you leave your children with. I’m 27 and still traumatized
That's disgusting to take advantage of not only a child but one who was ill. They truly do prey on those most vulnerable. I hope you have support.
My god I’m so sorry. You are a fighter💗
I was kidnapped by a stranger at 15 years old, but this is different I feel like I cannot even imagine but I look up to the survivors because many of you are strong
Jesus Christ that's horrible!! But I do understand I was also a victim. The sad and sickening truth is 1 out of every 5 women have been abused. Why do pedophiles get off and someone goes away for 10yrs for a little pot.....I don't understand the justice system??
Youre truly strong. Obviously something like this isnt something you can just get over, it stays with you for life. Im incredibly sorry to hear about you experience, you and as well as others dont deserve the hardships of such an awful experience.
I was 8. It shaped my whole life and made me hyper aware of people, my surroundings. I’m like a hawk with my own kids. This makes me so mad. Andrea, this isn’t your fault. Took me years to understand that. Hugs
What a remarkable young woman! Proud of her.
Her uncle's reaction to the allegations say everything.
Any innocent man accused of raping a child would show signs of utter shock and horror. Their heart would sink into their stomach. Then, immediately you would expect them to vehemently deny it.
He looked guilty as Hell.
I agree 100%
I disagree. I think his reaction was perfectly appropriate.
He didnt at all look surprised by the accusation. An innocent person would be shocked.
you didnt get to see his reaction to the accusations tho did you. so no it doesnt say shit
That’s what I thought, he answered so quickly didn’t act shocked…
People spend more time in jail for weed than this. Good god
U look gay
@@telleroflies4373 Thankyou 💜💜💜
There’s nothing worse than being so young and vulnerable and being abused and then not being believed.
I hate this. I was basically a baby as well when my cousin took away my innocence. I never really talk about it. My parents didn’t believe me. My sister and brother did but they couldn’t do anything about it. I will literally KILL if someone ever does anything to my babies.
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U should come out. U don't let this people free
I can remember thing from preschool. People can remember from a young age especially if it is a tragic thing like this
I remember climbing out of my crib, when I was a kid, because my legs hurt, and going in and laying at the end of my parents bed. I had to be between 8 months and 2 years, because I was walking and I was still in a crib. Doctor said it was growing pains. I could actually feel my bones growing. Very painful.
So true. My mother is shocked when I bring up stuff from when I was little. She always says you were to small to remember that. And something traumatic leaves a mark that can’t be removed.
I remember being in headstart. Classmates, teachers, wht we had for lunch, etc. Bless her heart😔🙏🏾🙏🏾
People usually remember happy moments or hurtful moments. Those become etched within your memory. The terrible part is when you start accumulating to many tragic moments.
I was 15 months old, my sister who was 2 years and 1 month old, tried to choke me. I remember it VIVIDLY. I remember my Mother whipped her, and she picked me up and told our Daddy, "we cannot leave Gianna alone with the baby EVER again, she is too jealous"
I can remember every single birthday, Christmas, Easter, from that year on.
My mommy sense is tingling. She is telling the truth. The way he nodded yes being told he was accused, he didn’t ask “by who?” “Wtf?” I would die in prison before I plead guilty to ruining a baby’s life.
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@@dilanarellanes7847 creep
I thought the same, his instinct agreed and nodded, he didn’t look surprised but then he remember to deny... how come the police doesn’t pick on that?
He didn’t get jail time, but everyone knows who he is, and what he’s done
No they don't. He's not on the registry. He got away with it.
He might not be on the registry, but people still know what he done, he can't change his name
Asking how she could remember it if she was so young when it happened was just wrong. That shit doesn't go away even if its repressed, it finds ways to come out.
She is 1,000% telling the absolute truth. No child looks that sad without awful cause.
There is zero justice in his plea deal. There is no justice system for any of us.
Acting is a thing
@@dannny7778 no one's this good.
So I watched a "how to tell a person is lying versus not lying."
One of them is, liars when responding will use a lot of description words & have a long explaination. When he was brought in & asked by the police, that is exactly what he did.
@@sugahbabydoll1 Shut up! Body language is nonsense. there is no way to tell when people are lying, period. This woman is lying, and it has zero to do with body language. She is playing a victim, and I think it is very clear she is lying.
She remembers him giving her special attention when she was a 3yo…
I agree, you remember those kinds of traumas even if you were very young. It's because it's so traumatic.
Exactly!! Thank you!! Of COURSE she remembers it. That kind of trauma changes the course of your life and affects you on a cellular level, forever.
Except when you *forget* them because they are so traumatic! Memory is an odd thing
@@effaitch7629 yes indeed. I remember being in my crib. Very cognizant of happy moments yet my husband says something very traumatic happened that I blocked out. Poor guy, he should know 😐
@@effaitch7629 yeah but I always remembered little bits.... enough to wonder about. You're right though.
@@wildatheart3182 how would your husband know what happened in your crib? Missed that part. You said he'd know.
Why people don't believe someone when they make claims like this, I'll never know!
Easy, it is because plenty of people lie about stuff like this.
I'll be the devils advocate here. There are thousands of women who have been assaulted by men and it's an awful truth. There's also thousands of women who deliberately LIE just to ruin a man's life. Also a truth.
@@telleroflies4373 the number of liars FAR outweighs the number of predators. Vast majority of sexual assault cases never even get reported to police
@@getkrawnwalled5625 doesn't matter. All it takes is 1 bad apple to ruin the whole batch.
@@telleroflies4373 you're absolutely right! All it takes is one liar and people will say women lie about it all the time. Which really is so unfair
I'm sure there are more women who had similar dreadful experiences during their childhood and keeping their secrets to themselves.
As a survivor of sexual abuse, it left me feeling filthy and worthless. What made it worse, my own mother didn’t believe me at first, then later did. But, she wanted child support for my half sister from my first stepfather and talked nice to him. I felt so betrayed from my mother, who also has a narcissistic personality disorder. So much years of suffering, been in special education, etc. Even today, she shows no remorse. So much psychological scaring because of this monster and narcissistic mother. I can’t.
@ pink ocean flower- I'm so very sorry that not only did you suffer through physical abuse but also emotional and mental abuse by your mother. You are still here. You are amazing!
I went through the same thing im suffering also , ill never make the same mistakes as my narcissistic mother , you're not alone , you are strong .
I am so sorry
There is no justice here. Sickening
You can view the guilt in his aura...
No way could I defend a person that is accused of sexually abusing a child...
@@zylphaaziza3725 but what about being wrongfully accused? No one ever is sure because it's hesaid she said kind of thing but a girl I know once told me her mom had asked her to lie that he molested her when she was young about the stepdad so she could get rid of him and the mom could have custoy of the kids. Of course these people live off welfare checks and foodstamps so not sure if that's a factor.
@@yup_its_ME.512 same thing I was thinking. How can you say something 10 years later and expect that to hold up in court.
Right
It happened to me by a babysitter’s teenage son, he was 16, I was 7. It also happened to me by a church Sunday school teacher, he was in his 50s, I was 10. Thankfully, after 17 years, the Sunday School teacher was sent to jail. A detective knocked on my door wanting to question me about the teacher. Turns out that I wasn’t the only young girl he preyed upon. There was 4 of us.
This happens to so many many other girls. I’m a so happy that this young lady spoke up. It’s scary, I know! But please please don’t keep that horrifying secret. Tell somebody! My heart goes out to all who has been abused in any way. 💗💗💗
I was too molested for years by my so called sister's husband I remember before 6 years old .. till I was 18 years of age I told my mom at 15 and she told me to shuddup and not to say nothing .. to think about my sister .. that no man was going to want me .. I was going to come out on the news . And if my brother and dad found they would kill him and then because of my fault they would end up in jail ... Fast forward as an adult they had seperated .. well years pass by and then again he wanted to get back with her .. I then said nope if he is going to come back every one needs to know who this disgusting bastard is well I told my sister and everyone .. and guess what my so called dead sister told me she said it is what it is and I don't care and she got married to him .. she is dead to me from that day
I can't begin to imagine the damage it has caused you. I mourn for the child that bastard killed, but more so for how callous and mean your family was to you. Sending hugs and prayers to you, brave soul. Please know you are never alone. 💙💙💙
Whoa. Some people are so blinded by love that they defend a predator. Sorry to hear that. Hopefully your sister can wake up to reality one day.
I will never leave my children alone with a man regardless if they are my family or not
Thank you, no children deserve this I hope u and ur children stay safe
Well if you're child is a boy, never leave him alone with a woman. Family or not.. females rape also but nobody ever believes the guy, or acts if it isn't serious . Just know not all males are rapist, just like all women arent either..
Women sexually abuse others too
I would just never leave my children alone w other human beings 🥴
What many are starting to realize, only now, is how common is this kind of abomination. I finally realized that my own mother was molested for years by her own father. It explains how damaged she is.
That is very sad to read. I hope you two can work through this and that you also were not abused. It is the answer for most cases of child abuse. It is why many parents are very protective of their children.
His reaction when he's told why he's been called to the police statin is one of a guilty person. An innocent person would be shocked and even outraged. "What? Who is saying this? They're saying I did what?" You'd go on the offense - not automatically on the defense. Not nodding calmly, fumbling over your words and then saying, "I don't have the slightest clue."
The interrogator is excellent. "If it did happen? It's not the end of the world - it's not like you killed someone." She does a great job of minimizing rape of a minor, trying to get him to admit what he did.
Andrea, I don't know if you'll ever see this, but you are BRAVE as hell. Thank God you survived this and found the courage to tell your story. I 100% believe you!
You can tell from his interrogation that he’s guilty “I have no clue what happened” is not the response of an innocent person being accused of this!
What an incredibly brave woman. I was abused in the same way by my uncle, it is something that you try your hardest to heal form but it's left me at 27 with Complex PTSD and I struggle daily. Abusers don't only take your childhood, they take your life from you.
Yes but we survivors should make sure our kids are safe.
I'm sorry you had to go through this. I'd give up my life to save a family from going through that.
That I can personally understand being a victim myself too
And some times take your family with the abuser.
I know how you feel my uncles did the same thing to me when I was 4 they used the love I had for my sister against me they are sick they never paid I'm so glad you were able to come forward..
I kno she tells the truth , i think 70% of kids were sexually abused whrn they were young . I was sexually abused by my cousin who was around my dads age and I later found out my younger sis was abused by him too
She is absolutely truthful. You can see by her face and body language that she is being honest. She is a brave lady.
I saw the same thing
@@marthawarrington7748 ☺️👍
My mother didn't allow sleep overs and neither do I. Too much going on for all that; so sorry this young woman had to go through this and other young children.
I did but at my home not there's. It was important for children to know there was a safe house for them. I always made contact with the parents, wouldn't allow my children to ever return to any home whose parent didn't inform me they let my child into their house. Made it a point of knowing where my children were at all times. Made sure adults understood I watching them.
Same with my mom, she would only allow it in our home. Always infuriated my sister and I. Now that I'm a mom, I can totally understand why and will for sure do the same yo my baby girl. We can't trust no one.
They always find a way like my uncle did.
@@lissetterodriguez7952 im so sorry😢
Where did you see in the video that this happened during a sleepover?
HUGS to anyone who has suffered this abuse as a child or adult even! But when you see what the she had to go through, its no wonder we don't expose ourselves in this way! When she is being questioned, she sits with her legs to her chest- -guarding herself! More trauma! What a BRAVE and COURAGEOUS young WOMAN! 💜💜💜
The “I’m going to be okay, I’m not sure he will” really hit me.
If I get called into a police station on those allegations, my immediate response is not to nod and then proceed to say “ I haven’t the slightest clue”. Guilty!!!
Ew and yuck.
A six-year-old? And his own niece?
WTH is wrong with people?
He disgraces all firefighters.
I hope this video gets this man the overwhelming hate from all of us, from the entire public, that he deserves.
I totally agree and I'm sure being on a show was only considered when the system screwed her. This may be even better punishment. Nationwide. Everyone will know, not just those who do background checks.
A child can remember. I'm on my 40s and I can still remember some events when I was 4-5 years old, mostly happy ones, how much more for traumatic events.
She is so incredibly strong. What an amazing young woman. Sending love & light your way 💕✨
People being described as 'strong' is beginning to lose all meaning
I agree. I wish the best for her 🙏
@@effaitch7629 I believe everyone has strengths and weaknesses, but when it comes to being put into life altering situations that could, and should, completely crush a person, especially a child/young woman, I would say that takes a considerable amount of strength to come out on the other side and not let it completely destroy you. That’s my opinion.
His reaction when he is told he’s been accused of being inappropriate with a child says it all really. Not one ounce of shock on his face!
I went through years of abuse, and when I told my mother she didn't believe me, I was treated like an outcast.
Wow one of my abusers was named "uncle TIm" too.. I'm so proud of Andrea!! Don't ever stop telling people.
An alfred plea is basically saying yeah you have enough evidence to convict me but Im not admitting to anything.
It's bullshit. They shouldn't allow it
Who made up these clause? Pedophiles. We need to erase this insanity. I didn't even know it exists. Most people don't. No doubt it is popular on pedophile websites.
Where did this come from??
Exactly right...though it is called an Alford plea.
@@CovidConQuitTheCensorship Why not? What if you were accused of murder, but you didn't do it. BUT you knew that the cops will frame you. It's perfect.
It truly takes an incredible amount of courage to come forward and be willing to openly discuss this, despite how awful it must feel having to relive these experiences. Thank you
When I was 5/6 some very important, life changing things happened in my life (not sexually abused) but I can still remember everything, details and all. I believe you can still remember things from many many years ago, even as a child.
This is sad and unforgivable. My nieces and nephews are my life and I would die protecting them. My brother only trusts me to babysit them and it’s something I’m very proud of.