Understanding the Most Depressed Country in the World
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- Опубликовано: 20 янв 2024
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South Korea is an incredible country with a vibrant culture... but it’s also undergoing what’s possibly the worst mental health crisis in the world.
So between playing video games, hosting a reader meet-up and eating some of the spiciest f*cking food of my life, I went out to discover what intense social pressures foster such high rates of anxiety and depression.
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More! Loved the video.
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as a born and raised Korean, 'having the worst mix of Confucianism and capitalism' is the most on-point statement of Korean society
I concur~ Korea sucks
Feels awful to hear, more so perhaps because in someway in someday even the best of us may have felt that kind of pressure..a while with it already feels so depressive so to live with that feeling for all the life 😢 ..hope with this new generation's open minds towards the issue the things will be better and soon... Support to all
Absolutely!
with no doubt. confusius is an idiot
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I'm Korean. "If you get your shit together, you don't have to suffer from depression or anxiety" - that's what my mom told me all my life, being depressed herself for decades.
Changes nothing. I've seen a successful Korean man and his friends they're all depressed. I've lived in Korea forn10 years and I'll never forget how depressed I've been throughout. I had no pressure on me, money has been useless to the core! Robotic lifestyles ugh
Your mom's advice doesn't seem very helpful. But I think your country's medical health care system needs to be fully addressing mental health problems publicly not privately. It also needs to be discussed among Korean governments and medical Healthcare establishments in every news media, including internet news.
Would you say that social media and the pop culture plays a part with the younger generation? It doesn’t seem like a healthy image . Young ppl thinking they need to look a certain way and to be so competitive that it impacts you . Just thinking about it makes me feel bad. I’m not a competitive person I only care about myself and why should I care to compare myself to someone else ? There’s always going to be better or worse.
@@Oneinamillion8ngl a country where they give importance to looks more than talent is gonna be depressing. I won’t be able to survive there. The constant judgement from everyone is gonna make me suicidal.
The best thing for koreans to learn is, "I don't give a fuck" on the _extraordinary_ expectations of my boss/parents/friends. I litteraly mean it. Chill more, let the preassure go from time to time and start living more socially focused. Every day has 24 hours and you should do 8 hours of _good_ sleep, a _maximum_ of 8 hours work where you can give 200% if you like, and 8 hours of _something socially else_ (and a little bit of workout). That will inevitably lead to more happyness and less anxiety.
What about the bullying and hierarchy? Some are bullied to death in the military and schools, only because they are poor, not good looking, or even just younger.
I think it is a really big and serious problem existing in Korea.
Yes its the confucianism (and social darwinism)
In a society where play time for children is consider wasteful, im not surprise if its an outlet for their congested emotions.
Omg!
Korea isn't even the most suicidal country on earth it's ranked number 4
@@danielsonn3046 It's the most suicidal among advanced OECD countries.
10:18 진짜 내가 다 수치스럽다... 저걸 칭찬이라고 스몰토크라고 하고있냐
인식을 바꾸고 싶다고 주장하는 심리학자라는것들도 문제의 일부라는 것을 보여줍니다..
사람의 겉모습과 표면적인 요소에 초점을 맞추고 그걸 첨본사람 칭찬이라고 ㅉㅉ..
너무 한국적인 생각을 하면 안 됩니다.
한국적인 정서 = 지옥행
님에게서 사대주의가 더 느겨지는데...수치스럽다라....님 그럼 한국사회에서 매일 수치감을 느끼면서 살고계심...아님 지금 외국거주중.....강자는 옳다는 사대주의적 기준으로 문화적 잣대를 평가하는 인간들이 더 수치스러움..
외모 칭찬은 한없이 가벼워보였다. 뭐가 사대주의라는거지?
이 덧글이 더 수치스럽다 단순히 서양인들은 선, 한국은 악
이런 색안경 잣대 끼고 영상을 보니까
안보이는 건데
서양인들 스몰토크에선 외모에 대해서 절대 얘기 안하고, 서양인들은 지성과 논리로만 대화하고 이런 줄 아냐
결국 어떤 나라가 선이냐 아니냐를 떠나서
정확하게 맞는 만큼만 평가해야지
저 정도면 무례한 외모 칭찬이나 비판도 아니지
미국 방송 제대로 본 적이나 있음?
Can you please create Korean subtitles for this video so Koreans can watch it? Im a korean and i would love to have my parents watch this. This was so helpful. Thank you so much, Mark!!!
I second this idea ☝️
Trying to help this get to the top. Good idea
Commenting to bump this comment!
Yes please, Korean subtitles would be great
👏👏👏
As a Korean reaching 60, I feel that one of the biggest problems with Korea's education system is the intense pressure placed on students. From age 5-6 to until 19, they are focused solely on entering one of the top universities (SKY). While doing so, almost everyone tells these kids that entering a good university will guarantee them a prosperous and happy life, with good money, a good job, and even success in dating. However, the reality is much different. Once they enter university, the competition continues - to get into good companies, land well-paying jobs... it's an endless cycle of competition and comparison with friends, family members, colleagues, and neighbors. I believe this trend will continue for at least another 10-15 years, until the older generation retires. While Korea is in a transitional period, I fear things will get worse before they get better.
Instead of everyone striving to become "someone" special, we need to understand that it's okay to fail, to be average, and to simply be normal. Young people need to be freed from the constant pressure and unrealistic expectations imposed by parents, society, and the media.
beautifully said 👏
Yes but if you fail, it will be much harder to participate in Korea’s ‘economic miracle’ and develop a career in the Chaebol’s, in Western level jobs, earning Western level salaries. All the markets, small mom and pop stores alluded to in this video serve Korea’s ‘underclass’ of people who live middle income lifestyles, akin to those in much poorer countries like Mexico. This contrast is much starker than in the West. In the UK, you can earn middle professional manager salaries by learning a trade, like being a plumber. That isn’t the case in Korea, you’d earn far less. A professional outside a Chaebol would earn maybe a half to two thirds what the same person doing the same job inside a Chaebol would, the tradesman even less than that.
Plus traditionally in Confucian culture, your status in society determined how the laws applied to you. There was no concept of universal human rights, it was not a dignity culture where each person had ‘worth’ protected in law regardless of who they were or what they did. Park Jung Hee realised a system like this wouldn’t sustain a modern industrialised society, so copied Western legal systems to encourage industry. However, these institutions became an overlay on old Confucian feudal legal systems and their values sustained in culture. Witness what happens to Chaebol leaders who fall foul of the law. Prosecuted under the Western legal overlay, then pardoned by the President, because their status makes them above the law. Status pays, opens doors, determines who you can associate with, which is important in a 2 speed society dominated by Chaebols. Sure this sort of thing exists everywhere but its really exaggerated in Korea compared to the West.
You can’t understand modern Korea without understanding the Chaebol system, there are interesting video’s on youtube about this.
totally agreed
Same thing is happening in China. Chinese journalists are sadly comparing both countries. Hope both east Asian countries can improve in positive way, and younger generation can have a better and balanced way to enjoy the economic growth.
I'm chinese canadian, and my parents somewhat has the attitude of: "if you get your shit together, you won't be depressed". I was bullied in a canadian high school and at first my parents didn't want to acknowledge that. They realized I was developing a stutter and tried to ignore it. Now they have accepted it, but I feel like the damage was already done. I will spend many years trying to recover from the trauma and gain my confidence and my speech back.
We have to learn,that at the end not much does realy matter we will be all dead and forgoten,so there isnt much a diffrence between Bill Gates and some drunk guy on the street!Relax!
You can do it 💪🏻
Sorry you had to go through that. Just know that anyone and everyone can get bullied. I am born and raised in America and am white and I got bullied all throughout school due to health problems I was born with. I chose to keep strong and keep being nice to others and ultimately it paid off because most everyone accepted me eventually and everyone has issues that can cause them to be mean and bully others. Everyone goes through a lot of struggles no matter who we are. I hope you understand that it was messed up that those people bullied you but they also go through many life struggles themselves. Everyone has it rough at some point. Rooting for you to gain your confidence again! Don't let that bullying impact you so much. If you are nice to others eventually they will have no choice but to be nice back.
@@DeltaDrifter2201 thats a good mindset! thanks for your comment.
My first best friend in school was chinese; I am white. Unfortunately a lot of us are taught to be intolerant by our parents. I personally had to unlearn it. Chinese are very hard working peaceful people much like Koreans. My best friend in college was Korean. It is true that anyone can be bullied but as a parent I will not tolerate it. I will home school my son if I have to.
As a Korean, as rightfully said by Seohyun, it is changing and it will change. It just takes time for all the generations to acknowledge and recognize and value each other. All I can say now is that Korea is still in transition, trying to resolve these complex issues.
As a Korean, the pros and cons of my country are evident.
It's a heaven for a consumer, which means manifold and convenient services are surprising and satisfying enough to sustain your life here.
But the reason why it is regarded a hell is that YOU NEED TO CONTRIBUTE to this system as a worker/service provider/students as well.
Addition to my comment : Some Koreans also talk about "lookism" but I think it's quite hypocritical because these days in the modern world, other countries are not free from evaluation toward appearances. In this sense, we, Koreans denigrate ourselves in an imprecise way because of the stress they got somewhere.
The conclusion should not be like Oh you must leave Korea or No you must live in Korea.
We need to be objective to understand the true pros and cons.
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This is Why tourist loves Korea. Because They don’t work in Korea.
Can’t be a consumer without spending power, so you have to be a employee of some sort. Full circle achieved.
Absolutely right.
@CaL-76 i suppose the guys best off are the big business owners, though I think even thats not true
I live in Ethiopia, I have worked with several Korens and most are older and whenever I point out these problems they tend to be defensive and avoid the conversation. It is a good start that the younger generation is aware of the issues.
I think Ethiopia vs Koreans are like opposites. I've worked with Ethiopians for business and they never showed up at the time they chose - they literally showed up 1 day late. I told them I won't move on with them. One is too relaxed, and the other is dying for work
@@jojomythe that's right! I gotta admit that we are laid back people in general, the huge difference in the work culture makes it easier for us to notice how their system messed them up (not defending Ethiopians)
you can not address this. This is not your problem.
Were they South Koreans?
I thought Ethiopia was hiring North Korean workers
@@jojomythe yes, that is true......
I'm a Korean-American, born and raised in Korea until high school and immigrated to America in 1981. This video is spot-on. When I was living in Korea, I was under so much pressure to excel in school, mercilessly driven to study so very hard to go to a good university - by the time I was in high school, I felt so old, exhausted, and wanted to retire from life. It was all about studying all the time to get the best grades with no time to play or have fun. We even pressured to waste as little time as possible on sleeping at night. I was so stressed, depressed and worn out. It was brutal. We never blamed society or others with sense of entitlement that most Americans have, and we just took all responsibility on our individual selves to work hard, improve ourselves and excel. Some of my Korean friends as adults had to work so hard, couldn't go home at night, had to continue working all night and sleep at their desks, some of them died of failed health - literally working to death. There is a price in coming so far from the poor and war-torn country to the one now excelling in every field.
and let me guess... you rocked it in the US and smashed everyone else. Did'nt you?
@@backintimealwyn5736 Hahaha! In a long process, I had to learn to relax and let loose, not being so uptight, regimented to organize and control my life all the time. Need to balance.
@@stilldrop9540 sure, but it's easier than struggling to make any effort. the US and the west in general also need to balance, the perfect system is somewhere in the middle, I would say that it's closer to Korea than western schools (since we have to all make the same mistakes and copy our worst ideas) , we used to have more demanding education systems, a lot of pressure too, but not as much than Korea, things were so much better.
The price is far, far higher. It is hundreds of millions of Africans and Asians being literally worked to death with whips and guns to provide you free resources. It is the investment of a big chunk of global GDP that the west stole from those places and invested into South Korea to create fake excellence. A billion souls worked or tortured to death to create the most depressed society ever. But hey, you won, congratulations.
@@backintimealwyn5736 I've found it's hard to connect with relaxed, not-so-ambitious Americans. Can't make friends because you're a weird quiet kid who just isn't cool or interesting. I don't think being a nerd is very popular.
10:20 진짜 경악스럽다. 저런 사소한 예의조차 갖춰야한다는 의식이 없다는게 한국인 수준이지...젊은 세대는 '그나마' 낫지만 타인에 외모에 대해 언급하는 것 자체가 타인을 상품처럼 품평하는 거라는 것조차도 모르는 사람이 대부분인게🙂...
젊은사람들도 마찬가지예요ㅠ 어른들을 보고 배우는건데 어른들이 저러니 젊은사람들도 똑같아요… 첫만남에 누구닮앗다 외모평가 숨쉬듯 하는 한국..
님에게서 사대주의가 더 느껴지는데...경악스럽다라....님 그럼 한국사회에서 매일 경악스러움을 느끼면서 살고계심...아님 지금 외국거주중.....강자는 옳다는 사대주의적 기준으로 문화적 표현법의 차이까지도 자신만이 옳다는 잣대를 들이대고 평가하는 인간들이 더 경악스러움.. 난 한국의 한 도시만한 크기의 지역에서 좀비들이 돌아다니고 불법이라는 마약이 눈앞에서 공공연하게 투약되는 지역을 통제조차 못하는 공권력과 총기사고로 인한 그 수많은 사망자들을 매일같이 뉴스로 접하면서도 로비라는 합법적 뇌물에 의해서 정치권력이 움직이지도 못하는 미국사회가 더.....경악을 넘어서서 끔찍한 무서움이 느껴지는데.... 최소한 외모표현이 살인은 아니잖아...... 그리고 이영상의 화자가 말하는 본질은 문화적차이로 인한 사적인 외모표현을 쉽게하는 문제점을 말하는게 아니라 이젠 외모조차도 경쟁적으로 갖춰야하는 이 경쟁체제의 한국문제점을 살펴봐야 한다는 이야기 아닌가?? .... 강자는 옳다는 생각자체도 지나친 경쟁사회가 만든 잘못된 가치관인것을.....
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님에게서 사대주의가 더 느껴지는데...경악스럽다라....님 그럼 한국사회에서 매일 경악스러움을 느끼면서 살고계심...아님 지금 외국거주중.....강자는 옳다는 사대주의적 기준으로 문화적 표현법의 차이까지도 자신만이 옳다는 잣대를 들이대고 평가하는 인간들이 더 경악스러움.. 난 한국의 한 도시만한 크기의 지역에서 좀 비들이 돌아다니고 불법이라는 마 약이 눈앞에서 공공연하게 투약되는 지역을 통제조차 못하는 공권력과 총기사고로 인한 그 수많은 사망자들을 매일같이 뉴스로 접하면서도 로비라는 합법적 뇌물에 의해서 정치권력이 움직이지도 못하는 미국사회가 더.....경악을 넘어서서 끔찍한 무서움이 느껴지는데.... 최소한 외모표현이 살인은 아니잖아...... 그리고 이영상의 화자가 말하는 본질은 문화적차이로 인한 사적인 외모표현을 쉽게하는 문제점을 말하는게 아니라 이젠 외모조차도 경쟁적으로 갖춰야하는 이 경쟁체제의 한국문제점을 살펴봐야 한다는 이야기 아닌가?? .... 강자는 옳다는 생각자체도 지나친 경쟁사회가 만든 잘못된 가치관인것을.....
영상 보다가 양브로님들이 마크 맨슨님을 앉혀두고 K-외모평가를 시전하시는 부분 보고 놀랐습니다. 한국을 살기 힘들게 만드는 것이 바로 개인에 대한 바운더리를 쉽게 넘나드는 것이고 그중 대표적인 현상이 외모평가를 쉽게 하는 문화라고 생각하는데요, 마치 시연이라도 하시듯 그것을 하시는 게 보기 좋지 않았습니다. 다른 사람들도 아니고 정신과 의사분들이 그러시니 무척이나 놀랐습니다. 아무리 끝이 칭찬으로 끝났을지라도 무례하게 보였습니다. 저 분들도 나름 우리나라를 정신적으로 풍요롭게 하려고 노력하시는 분들인데도 한국의 큰 문화적 분위기에 스며든 것은 거스를 수 없는 걸까요. 여러가지 생각이 드는 장면이었습니다.
저 사람들 병원 약만 처방해주고 다른거 없어요
결국 의사도 국평오테크타고 입시해서 의사 되시는거라
양브로도 이 댓글도 한국이 낳은 괴물이다
@@user-jt5ui9ck4q 전 캐나다사는데 여기는 외모 특히 얼굴로 남을 평가하는건 되게 무례한 경우임
@@user-jt5ui9ck4q갑분 이걸 한국인이 하냐 외국인이 하냐로 몰아가는 로직이 더 웃긴데ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 하지 말아야 할 칭찬도 있답니다 그 외모 칭찬이 이 영상에서 말하는 한국을 우울케 하는 점 중 하나라고 몇몇 댓글에서 얘기하는건데 참 ㅋㅋㅋ 3개월 여행왔다 가셨으니 개인영역 침범이 뭔지 이해는 안되겠지
The alarming suicide rate among seniors really got me. How absolutely heartbreaking.
And the teenagers and young people…
Agree. If you're a senior, that is totally heartbreaking. Like... what was it all for?
As a youth, it's terrifying. Like.... what am I looking forward to? Decades of work with in a tunnel with no end or light in sight.
@adhynugroho9424 well put... helplessness and hopelessness
It has to do with what mark said in the previous travel analysis.
If like let's say Brazil is great for it's sensuality, the opposite is also true.
And it's like that for every country you visit.
Korea is conscientious but when you lose productivity then what is the meaning of life. In essence you are a shame unto yourself.
It's logical, given eastern values.
@@thebettybassettproduction2458wtf is eastern values????
와 너무 좋은 영상 잘 봤습니다.... 기억에 남는 부분들이 많네요
Amazing storytelling and analysis.
I loved the format. It gives an interesting documentary vibe, the graphics really adds depth to the story and comprehensibility of info. Great work as always
19:09 요약 진짜 정확하네요
모두를 이겨야 하고, 누구보다 잘나야 하며, 한번이라도 실패해서는 안되지만 누구와도 공유할 수 없는 상황에서 얼마나 버틸 수 있을까요. 점점 개개인에게 기본으로 요구하는 사회적-정서적-물질적 수치가 다양해지고, 그 수준 또한 높아지고 있으니 이것에 지쳐 떨어져나가고 있는 사람들이 많답니다.
어떻게 보면 정말 엄격한 선별작업을 통해 최상의 몇몇 제품만 팔고 나머지는 버려버리는 장사방식이네요 ㅋㅋ
나쁜관점아닌뜻 개인적 과업과 국가가 어려움에 처해도 우리는 웃으며 일하며 나라를 위해 받친 애국시민입니다
@@user-sp3vb7tk8r 그게 애국시민이라고 해석하고 내뱉는 너도 진짜 대단하네.. 초등학교부터 다시 들어가라
@@leaf3461 잘살려면 공부많이해야함 그래야나라가 발전하지자력갱샌 1억불달성목표를 두고달려야 부자국가 푸른동산위에 놉니다 논땡이치고 하면 폐가망신이란걸 알고 보수정당을위해 응원합시다국민의힘만세
@@user-sp3vb7tk8r스스로 생각하고 말을 뱉으세요. 한국은 자유민주주의 국가이고 생각없이 기계적으로 무책임하게 뱉는, 방종을 지향하지 않습니다. 국민의힘 만세? ㅋㅋ 어휴
@@justyoon51 국민의힘한나라당 앞으로 윤석열정권철권통치에 영원히 유지되어야 보수정당 새나라어린이도 본받아 반공주의자 됩니다
놀랍도록 정확한 분석일 뿐만 아니라
그속에서도 살아남으려고 노력중인 한국인들에 대한 따뜻한 마음까지 담긴 매력적인 영상이다.
@@ZhugeLiang1004왠 헛소리
동의해요.
허나 한국의 사기공화국이 됬음
전세사기 비대면대출사기 주식사기 통신사사기 은행횡령 음주운전 촉법 뇌물 비리 등 사기꾼나라임
어찌 가해자 인권을 다지켜주지
@@warpwa헛소리가 아니라 다름을 인정하자는 이야기 입니다.
너랑 나랑 다르건 틀리지 않다는 것. 다양성을 인정하기.
@@ZhugeLiang1004 몬틀을 깨? 몰한게 있다고? ㅎ 방송나와서 돈버는건가 틀을 꺤거냐?
This is so spot on. I'm grateful for the fact that, instead of just taking a nosedive, youwent deep inside one's culture and really tried to understand before you come up with a conclusion. For that I really appreciate the work you put in to make this video a possibility, and subbed for more quality contents like this.
It was a exact insight video. Thank you.
This man is an absolute trasure in content creation. Mark's channel definitely has one of the most underrated content on the internet. The combination of humour and education (psychology, history) with sheer openness was translated into a beautiful emotional roller coaster ride throughout this video.
Since none of it is news anymore he could take the time to make it entertaining and about Korea and Koreans and not just one thing (as news tend to do). I'm a fan🙂
Been a newsletter subscriber of his for over a decade. I agree he’s always been that way. And i subscribe to ALOT of stuff but his was always the best because he’s an incredible writer.
Yo star craffttt, k ya this guy is dope
Stop brown nosing he can't get you a job at Samsung bro.
1.4 M subs is underrated if so I would be happy to be so underrated
ㅋㅋㅋㅋ중간에 정신과 의사들 아이스 브레이킹 한답시고 외모평가부터 하고보는... 진짜 한국은 저게 문제입니다. 저런것만 그만해도 사람들 사는데 훨씬 행복해 질거예요... 칭찬한거니까 괜찮다 그럴텐데 외모칭찬도 얼평입니다..그리고 앞부분은 은근슬쩍 욕했잖앜ㅋㅋ음습한 사람들..
ㄹㅇ 영상보다가 그 부분 보고 움찔함; 농담이랍시고 외적인부분 슬쩍 까내리다가 또 나름 칭찬한답시고 "근데 실물이 더 잘생겼네요" ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 외모평가를 재치있는 농담인것마냥 툭툭 하는 부분마저 너무 한국스러움^^ 심지어 정신과 의사들이..ㅋㅋㅋ
저도 외모 칭찬 자주하지만 이건 진짜 좀 놀랐음... ㅋㅋㅋ 자기들은 그걸 선의의 아이스브레킹이라고 생각했을껀데 외국에선 그런 평가질 자체를 초면에 조크로도 잘 안하는편인데 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 자기들은 그것에 대한 전혀 인식이 없다는거 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 한국이 평가질이 진짜 좀 심하구나 하던 모먼트 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 남 와꾸도 초면에 바로 조크로 틀어버리는데 평상시는 어떨지 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 당연한거고...
I'm Korean, That was really embarrasing. Even they are psychologist they didn't realize what's wrong with them. I reckon they thought that was a good joking or compliment. That's really rude mention.
와 저도 그부분 진짜 놀랬어요.
다짜고짜 외모평가라니 그래도 정신과 의사라서 기본적인 교양이나 상식은 있을 줄 기대되는건데
이러니까 이 나라가 답이 없는 거예요. 사람을 사람으로 대하는 게 아니라 무슨 상품 평가하듯 하고 있어요. 정말 지겨워요..
You can feel the vibes there. At first when you arrive it’s glitzy and nice but after three days it’s wild. So depressing. Too many flashing lights
Very nice and accurate insight. But most Korean people even do not recognize how depressed they are. I am Korean but have been lived in other countries for more than 10 years. Never coming back.
I am a Korean in my 50s.
I read an introduction to this video in a newspaper article.
There is no major financial shortage, but I have always lived with guilt and anxiety.
I've thought it was entirely my personal responsibility, but I've come to understand that there are parts that come from the structure of society.
It's a little comforting.
The story about the resilience of the closing part was touching. Thank you.
영어를 잘하네요!
I'm a Korean in my late 30's. I felt the same feelings with you. I got a professional job and have no special social problem, but I've lived with guilt and anxiety for whole my life.
@@C-zc4rf Anxiety is too common, and a problem in the west too. What is the source of the guilt though, do you know?
built to spill --- carry the zero
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I've had anxiety issues in my 20's, but I've learned along the way that those feelings aren't equal to who I am as a person. It's the result of a combination of being perceptive of negative feelings but mostly due to what we went through in our lives from a young age on. After university I realised something was wrong. I started working abroad to get to know myself outside of what I know. It opened my eyes to certain things and I learned how to control my anxiety. You can also surmount your guilt and anxiety, don't give up on yourself
It was an honor showing you and Will around Korea. You guys did a phenomenal job showing the best and worst of Korea. Resilience IS the best word to describe Korea and even when things feel hopeless in Korea (especially these days in politics as well) I know Koreans are resilient and will rise to the occasion. We are resilient and super adaptable. I am so proud of my Korean heritage and really appreciate you and your team shining light on Korea. I hope a lot of Koreans watch this :)
🎉🎉more Mark documentary style travel videos like this please!!!
Also the cat cafe scenes were too hilarious. Maybe the happiest version of Mark i’d ever seen
But how does resilience go with the highest number of suicides? Lovest childbirths? Highest beauty standards? Asking because I generally don't see it as resilience. I see a lot of adaptation, incredible competitiveness, incredible fastmoving innovation in all areas and a lot of other things🙂
Resilience? Gaza is a story of resilience, you guys live in luxury
@@ycc7744 Korea has been through quite a lot of trauma. Including the Japanese invasion and attempted erasure of the Korean people & culture in the early 1900s. Genocide most recently happened in S Korea in the 1950s. That wasn’t that long ago!!
@@ycc7744absolutely. also the african countries that are still in civil war for years
아 진짜 한국에서 살기싫다.... 탈출하고싶다.
Beautiful 4K video/production. Thank you for the small insight into Korean culture.
I currently live in South Korea (in the Southern area of the country). As an employed guest to this country I gotta say it’s an amazing place to be and experience. The people are wonderful, food is fantastic, and their history simply amazes me. There are cons, of course. The suicide rate scaling up is tragic and spoken about among my colleagues and friends; however, nothing seems to be changing on a legal or social level. I’m glad they are discussing it, but there is an umbrella of shame that if they change as a person or as a country that they are failing. The kids I teach are also in this camp. Some kids cry so hard if they miss one question on a 50-question quiz and think they are a failure. This becomes more so when the big school tests come around. I hope South Korea can overcome this, and quickly. If anything I’ve observed is that they really can do anything and in a short amount of time. They’ve accomplished so much. I hope they could also be the leader in accomplishing a social/mental revolution as well. ❤
This was my experience to fit the first 6 months. Now after 2 years now I can say it's not a place for humans (not a happy place anyway). It's a black mirror episode.
We have saying, as you guys might do, when there is a disease, there follows a cure. I see the liberation is on the way 🙂So hopeful. Btw, Happy new year!
And thats why they will vanish there birthrate is critical and they can’t get Babys because off money time and maybe the western society mind is the end for them and japan
@@10secondsrule“It's not a place for humans" i think you are over-exaggerating it.
Looks like people are working very hard to give their freedom and life to the worse capitalist predators. Aim seems to be to produce and disrespect mother nature.
This content is GOLD, Mark. I was born and raised in Korea, and I was one of those kids who cry after getting 90 out of 100 on an exam. I think the biggest problem is that we’re made too busy and obsessed with achieving the *stereotypical* success to care about anything else. Most schools, parents, and media don’t talk about mental health, so we’re simply oblivious to the state of our mental health. We don’t even know we’re depressed.
it's because the east asian mentality especially, sees perseverance and tolerating a lot as some kind of badge of honour and good trait, which i can see how it is a good thing in some respects in this rollercoaster called life. but what happens when you reach breaking point and burn out? where is the support and empathy?
the one good thing that has remained in east and SE asian cultures is the reverence for the elderly and closeness of the family unit and extended family. that's the thing that i think western cultures (although there are still some traditional western cultures, more in central and eastern europe) are lacking. without this, you can feel like a bit of a lost soul without being connected to anything. it can elicit a feeling of emptiness. hyper individualism and the "it's all about me, me, me" mentality is increasing in the west.
on the other hand, it would be a problem if you have a toxic and abusive family. i guess it's about the yin and yang, which comes from chinese influence and the symbol features on the korean flag. there needs to be balance in everything.
i think that historically until now, asian cultures place such an emphasis on academics because that's how people earned respect and status in their societies. it's a bit of a conundrum in the age of kpop, OF and social media celebrities. there are actual alternate routes to become 'successful' more than ever now and it's been made possible through technology.
why arent koreans competing to have babies LOL
@@lowkeyconvert8971 it all depends on how you define success, which is not just "sitting on a huge pile of gold". I think the far East preserves some values that are getting lost in what's known as Western society - which is odd because without them we wouldn't have got to what we've got today. Somehow it's like we really are not able to value things until we lose them...
I would like to you to read about Islam, it will help you to put the staff in place
i SWEAR TO GOD, can koreans STOP freakin sending their 5 to 18 year old kids to academy, like seriously just stop ok@@lowkeyconvert8971
Thank you for making this. You are very bold in making this, and spot on! I can't agree more as a Korean.
I enrolled in an online beginner Korean language class and the teacher is South Korean. He is pretty ok but he has a tendency to be sarcastic and put some of the students on the spot who can't understand on the get go what he is teaching. It's not a conducive atmosphere for learning, some of my classmates didn't even come back. I watch some Korean shows so I wasn't that shocked by what was going on. The teaching style is Confucian and he tries to make students compete against each other. I have questions but I end up looking for the answers on my own rather than have the unpleasant experience of being put on the spot for asking for clarification. Anyways, i just have 3 sessions left and I'll just finish them. Thank God I have a good sense of myself and am not a people pleaser otherwise i would have ended up depressed! I don't resent him, I am just accepting that he is like that cause that's how he grew up and that's what Korean society is like in general. I also found out that the reason why he gets all 5 stars on Google reviews is because he will give you a 30% discount for your next enrollment. He also has a very elementary grasp of the English language so it gets confusing sometimes since he starts rattling off in Korean. My goodness, it's a beginner Korean class he should know that his students might not understand what the hell he is saying even if it's a simple Korean sentence. Honestly, i feel like i got duped because of those google reviews. I'm still thinking if I'm going to leave an honest review on Google or chalk this up to experience and do my due diligence next time before spending my money. I don't want to end up hurting this guy even if he is abrasive and condescending.
Напишіть відгук про цього вчителя - це допоможе іншим людям і цьому вчителю, маємо надію.
Write an honest review please. That's going to help a lot of other students. He sounds like a teacher to avoid.
@@NS-nc5go I know but I'm so afraid he might end up getting depressed and hurting himself 😭 South Koreans act tough but they're actually so internally weak.
@angieharper7173 that's a valid point actually
It’s not based on confucian at all. If you don’t understand far-east culture, don’t touch it just yet. TV series won’t help it that much.
What is it then? Militaristic.
Spartan? Sure, maybe close.
hey i'm the psychologist in the video. 영상에 나온 심리학자입니다! ㅎㅎ 한국의 사회적 문제에 대해 더 구체적으로 설명하고 싶었지만.. 영어가 부족해서 저렇게 이야기 할 수밖에 없었답니다😂😂 나머지 이야기들은 영어 설명을 잘하는 분들께 부탁드리겠습니다🙇♀️
@@Mr-MarkManson learn Korean first😂 and then we can discuss
교포입니다. 영어가 부족하시다뇨! 넘 잘해주셨습니다. 꼭 알려져야 할 주제였고 인터뷰에 응해주셔서 감사합니다 댓글에 박사님 mad cool이라고 적혀있네요 👍👍 한국 사회가 박사님 말씀처럼 내일이든 일주일 뒤든 끝내버리고 싶은 나라가 아니라 앞으로가 더 기대되고 행복하게 더 살고 싶어지는 나라의 방향으로 갔으면 합니다.
Dude, you are so cool, and you’re English was great. Don’t worry about it. Thank you for what you do :)
That was such an awkward interview 😂
마지막 최고 ㅋㅋ
10:20 사람 앉혀 놓고 면밀히 외모 평가 들어가는거 상당히 한국스러움 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
이런거부터 한국이 망해가고 우울한 이유를 알려줌 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
ㅋㅋ 본인 댓글에 휴그랜트 눈닮앗다고 써놓은거 자체가 한번더 찝은거 같음
심지어 배웠다는 의사분도 저 나이대 이상 한국인들은 다 저모양이고 저게 뭐가 잘못된줄도 모름 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
초면에, 안친한데, 외모나, 재산, 연봉, 학교, 이런 민감한걸 전혀 꺼리낌없이 묻는게 한국문화
하긴 의사?였다는건 20살때 의대 들어갔을테고
그런 포지션으로 쭈욱 살았으니 ㅋㅋ 아무도 태클 안건 삶 살았으니 한국인 그 자체가 될수밖에 없었을듯
@@user-wj7xd6tg1v 외모 평가도 그렇고 올해 20살이면 대학어디 가냐 ㅈㄴ물어봄. 대한민국이 남인생에 관심많은건 알아줘야됨
이 유튜버님도 이 현상을 흥미롭게 보고 올린 것 같습니다 ㅋㅋㅋ
I'm 100% korean who has seen korea in the eyes of a half foreigner, and a korean.
I've lived in America for 6 years, and for the rest of my life, I've lived in Korea.
I tend to think differently than my classmates. Maybe it's because I was raised in america.
I've been through depression and self harm as well before. Not a surprise.
Korea is safe, and it's comfortable. I'll admit it. No guns, no gender or sexuality wars. We have an amazing environment, a lot of things to learn and see, and a ton of culture and excitement.
Then, why do koreans get so easily depressed in korea? Is the country the problem?
It's mostly the socializing. Yes, the government and people around you pressuring to succeed and work are stressful as well. Very much. Studying is harx, and success is hard.
Yet, what makes it so hard are the people. They pressure you. Especially if your job is related to human interactions. They knock you down, they tackle you, they humiliate you.
The fact that you can stay anonymous on the internet does not help. There's a reason why I don't like to interact with koreans online. It's a total mess. Racism, perfectionists attacking you... It's not great. Although it's what makes korea so safe and uncontroversial, it's suffocating when it's a subject like race, feminism, or appearance.
A quick note on racism, I was literally just talking to my friend on the phone and two little boys started mocking me.. I'm korean though.. the kids in my class mock my pronouncation. Yet, foreigners say I don't even sound korean.
"People are rude here too." "Korea's social system isn't special. It's not a special problem."
Go ahead and say that. Just understand that we are always pressured. We never feel free. Besides, the topic is korea, not your country😅
Thank you for reading.❤
I’ve seen a couple of your other videos but this one got me to subscribe. This was excellent, I really enjoyed your work.
Despite putting in hard work and graduating from a university in Seoul, I felt defeated by the high barriers to employment, leading to the development of depression and anxiety, which I am currently undergoing treatment for. I watched the video with deep empathy as someone going through similar struggles.
While receiving psychiatric therapy, the disheartening view from my parents, perceiving me as a weak and disappointing individual, along with their harsh words, and the ongoing job failures, make each day of job preparation a struggle. I find myself lacking the motivation to continue, feeling helpless, and overwhelmed with thoughts of wanting to end my life.
Amidst this, I'm glad to have come across a video that explains these reasons. Although thoughts of suicide haven't completely vanished, the guilt of being deemed useless by society and achieving disappointing results has slightly lessened. Just realizing that my situation is, in fact, a societal responsibility provides significant comfort.
warm hugs to you from the usa. i hope you can find someone who understands you & your trials & accepts you without judgment. the world is complex; and you have shown much courage in seeking help.
Paiting!!
High expectations can be a debilitating feeling when we don't meet those expectations.
힘내세요. 젊은 청춘이여.
취직하기 어려운 사회인거 같아요.. 막상 전 취직은 했지만 월급은 적고 책임은 무한이리 살기 팍팍함을 느낍니다.
전혀 글쓰신분의 잘못이 아닙니다. 꾸준히 산책하시고 쉬시면서 몸과 마음 회복하시길 바랍니다.
The female korean psychologist was mad cool
She even had subtitles to translate English to English we live in such a advanced time
Yeah what's up with that? hahaha@@southcoastinventors6583
*mad cool 🤔🤣 Why are you talking like an American?
@@chayo4537 why do you care what's wrong with you
Thank you for filming this awesome video.
I’m a genZ that lives in South K and this video really means a lot to me. Thank you so much for making this video.
I heard that Korea's most important day is the college entrance tests day, it blew my mind. Airports would shut down and everybody gets into a very serious tone. That's how competitive Korea's education is.
China is totally the same, even worse
Yeah that's pretty standard with most Asian countries.
That's not bad in itself, education is actually very important.
@@victorchen9170noooo, only Korea. My country did not shut down airport just for big exam in my country 😂
I'm Korean but I've been living abroad most of my life. I had no idea that I am culturally not Korean at all until I started dating in Korea. People nonchalantly mention suicidal thoughts, and wanting to run away and quit everything. How casually they deal with severe mental health issues and substance abuse, and even the news of an acquaintance killing themselves, is shocking. or how much they care about optics (as opposed to how much they don't care about what they feel inside).Their societal, cultural issues have been boggling my mind so much so that I've been getting therapy after witnessing this in person. This is such an important topic that needs to be addressed. Thank you for making this into a video.
By in large Koreans are happy and enjoy a solid mental state. In comparison, the familial and social dysfunctions people in the West, namely the U.S., struggle with is far more severe. People like you, who most likely enjoyed a family centered environment even in the U.S., who were mostly sheltered and kept away from having to deal with physical abuse, sexual abuse, divorced parents, alcoholic drugged out siblings, YOU have the luxury of seeing the minor differences between you and Koreans and Korea and are magnifying the impact it's having on you.
I'm Korean born and raised in Korea, and it's baffling to hear anecdotes from people like you and then trying to pass that off as the norm.
I truly question how/who/why you've come to see what you've experienced in Korea. Time to look in the mirror and perhaps evaluate your surroundings.
It is important to recognize and address mental health issues within any society, especially when they are so prevalent and normalized. It is brave of you to seek therapy and confront these issues that affect not only individuals, but the society as a whole. It is crucial to continue discussing and raising awareness about mental health in order to break the stigma and provide support to those who are struggling. Thank you for sharing your experience and shedding light on this important topic.
I think your words sounds a bit harsh.
Which means it sounds like generalizing korean's as if every korean people are casualy talking about suicidal thoughts.
@@JSC-cw8cs You're right, and honestly they are exaggerating and/or embellishing. Or just around a bunch of toxic people.
@@ChristianC-gy1ym its pretty true with koreas gen-z. most of my korean tutors(they change each month) are my age and we talk like a friend would most of the time(execpt for the super serious ones lol). they casually make a joke about wanting to not be alive after they make a small mistake like its normal.
Definitely do more videos like this!!! ❤❤❤
That was a great video. Please do more in other countries
I am a 30-years old Korean living in Seoul. I lived in New Zealand and Australia in my childhood and came to Korea to study in a high school. The pressure on high school students is so immense and crazy. Probably many of the students taking Sooneung(Korean College Scholastic Ability Test/Korean University Entrance Exam) might have some traumatic memories. Even reaching my 30s, I still had a dream of the day that I screwed up my test. It really sucks. 😞
한국은 우울한국가가 아닙니다 외국인도 한국이 부자국가이며 소득에서 동아시아에서 1등국가 반공주의자국가입니다
@@user-fs1vx5lr8g수능 아니여도 잘 살 수 있는 사회가 되었으면 합니다. 요즘 학생들 의대 가려고 재수 삼수하면서 시간 보내고 있죠. 적성이 맞으면 모르겠지만 그냥 쫒아가는 사회.
@@user-fs1vx5lr8g 그렇게 쉽게 말씀하시는걸 보니 공감능력이 좀 떨어지시는 분인것 같습니다. 우선 왜 쳐야할까요? 더이상 보고싶지도 않습니다. 돈은 그냥 하늘에서 내려오나요? 돈이 아주 많은 동네의 부잣집이면 가능하겠죠, 재수든 n수든요. (그걸 한국인들이 그렇게 외쳐대는 의지의
문제라고 한다면 할말이 없네요) 저는 삶을 살아나가야하는 사람이기에, 거기에 들어가는 돈도 무시할수 없는 것 같습니다. 그리고 회사
생활을 위해서라면 더더욱 하고 싶지도 않구요, 한국에서는 회사생활을 더이상 하지 않을 생각이기 때문입니다. 그리고 저는 이제 석사마치고 박사를 고민하는 상황이라 더더욱 수능은 칠 생각이 없네요.
@@martinocoreano 저도 동의합니다. 수능을 잘 쳐야지만 좋은 회사에 갈 수 있고 좋은 교수 밑에서 대학공부를 할 수 있는건 과연 맞는걸까? 라는 생각이 듭니다.
창의성이 너무나도 중요해지는 시대에 수능은 너무나도 구시대적인 시험 체계라고 생각합니다
@@user-fs1vx5lr8g 죄송한데 저에 대해서 무엇을 아신다고 이렇게 판단하고 댓글을 막달아 대시는건지 모르겠네요. 저에 대해서 여기다 전부적어놓은것도 아니기도 하구요. 적어주신 점은 참고하도록 하겠습니다. 적당히 해주시면 감사하겠습니다.
외국인이 너무나 정확하게 한국 사회를 영상에서 표현해줘서 놀라울 따름…
우물안 개구리는 우물에서 나오기 전까지 모르는 것처럼요!
원래 그 사회에 푹 졎어 사는 기득권 개돼지들보다 외국인이 한국을 더 잘 봐. 왜냐? 아무 관련이 없으니 객관적으로 잘 보는 거지.
국뽕과 호피움에 젖어서 한국을 보면 여기가 천국이라고 하는 쓰레기들이 한두마리가 아니지. 한국은 이미 point of no return을
지나 무간 지옥을 전속력으로 질주하고 있지. 이런 쓰레기 나라는 망해도 싸.
한국이 여태 극복해온 원동력은 2010년 전후가 최대 노동가능 인구시대였고 제조업으로 성장했기 때문임. 앞으로는 모든 지표가 안좋고 젊은이들이 무너지는 사회에 과연 극복가능한 원동력이 있을지 의문임.
한국엄마들은 아들이 스타크래프나 온라인게임에너무 많이 빠져서 정신없는건 진짜싫어하는데 어쩔수없이 참고있다는사실....속에서 화가나 천불나는데....유행이라는데어쩔수없이...
@@daibidal5646 ㄹㅇ. 당장 동생만 봐도 페이커같은 유명한 게임하는 사람이 되겠다고 하루 13시간 게임하고 공부도 그냥 대충대충 하고 사춘기라 그런지 말도 안 통하고... 그깟 게임 유행이 뭐라고... 게임 중독자가 많은 현실... 답답하기만 하죠.
I really like this format of the vide. Super short. and to the point yet interesting. Like TL:DR on different country's culture.
But as one of top comments mentioned. You probably should have explored role bullying and hierarchies play in their culture as well.
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Being a foreigner that lived in Korea, I always pointed out the dichotomy of the society. The glitz and glam that you would often see but a couple streets away it would look more like I stepped back in time a couple decades. Seoul was an amazing experience but I know as someone who didn’t work in the Korean economy, I didn’t fall under the societal pressure that they did. I got to experience all the up sides with none of the downsides. I would love to go back to Korea and experience more of the culture and especially the food!
I also recognize the same could be said about America in the fact that there is a big difference in Beverly Hills and somewhere like Compton but it felt more in your face and kind of surprising in Korea.
It was neat reading about your perspective as an average Black dude.
Regarding your second comment, I second that. The huge differences in the neighborhoods in LA are obvious. Even just going across the street, you can notice the huge economic crises in the transient populations and the homelessness due to the extraordinarily high cost of housing.
@@AverageBlackManJ
There are dichotomies in pretty much every society, kinda makes it interesting. It is often easier to notice if you are coming from the outside, though.
@@ssssssstssssssss this is definitely true. In your own society, things just seem normal as they are. When in a different location, you pick up on things that are different because nothing there is normal to you.
유교와 자본주의의 가장 나쁜 부분을 유지하면서, 둘의 가장 좋은 부분은 버린것 같다는 말이 너무 명확하고 정확한것 같네요.
저도 이말에 정말 공감합니다. 유교와 자본주의에 가장 나쁜점만 갖고 있다는건 정확합니다. 이문제를 고치지 않으면 한국인은 전부 사라질겁니다. 너무나 정확한 분석에 감동을 받습니다.
근데 좀 모순인게, 한국은 정확히 말하면 유교의 좋은 점인 커뮤니티 중심 주의가 희박해지면서 점점 자본주의의 개인주의로 가고 있는데, 저자는 이건 자본주의의 좋은 점이라면서요? 개인적으로는개인주의가 진짜 좋은 점인지는 확신이 안가지만, 지금은 혼란기로 보여지네요. 전통 사상이란게 쉽게 바뀌지 않는데 뿌리는 아직 가족중심 문화가 남아있지만 표면적으로는 개인주의로 변하는...이게 서로 상충하고 스트레스를 불러오는 거 아닌가 싶어요. shame & judgement 에도 순기능이 있긴 합니다. 자신을 돌아보고 자기의 책임을 다하는 것, 요즘은 오히려 어려움이 닥치면 회피하고 도망가고 싶은 심리가 강해지는 문제도 있는거 같네요. 미국이라고 다 잘 사는것 아니죠. 멘탈 강하고 행복한거 아니구요. 거기도 알코올, 마약 중독, 정치적 대립, 빈부격차 등 여러 사회 문제 우리보다 더 심해요. 평균 수명도 거의 10년은 떨어집니다.
한국의 문제는 좁은 땅에 자원이 없는데에 있습니다. 오직 인간의 능력으로 외화 벌이 하다보니 경쟁이 치열 할 수 밖에요. 미국이나 호주, 브라질, 중국정도의 자원과 토지만 있어도 사람들 먹여 살리는데 큰 문제는 없으니까요. 당장 지금만 해도 반도체 산업 등 일부 글로벌 리딩 산업, 경쟁 국가에 뺏겨봐요. 뭐 먹고 살지?
물론 교육의 방향이 바뀌긴 해야 합니다. 상대평가 없애고 절대 평가로 아이들이 노력한 만큼 정당한 성취를 이루게 하고 객관식 보다는 토론식으로 좀 다양한 생각을 할 수 있게 하는 것, 어차피 애들 수도 줄어드는데 대학 서열에 대한 구조도 변해야 하구요.
韩国人真的懂什么叫儒家思想吗？仁、义、礼、智、信在哪里？修身、齐家、治国、平天下又在哪里？居然把一些不仁不义的等级观念当做儒家思想，好的东西是一点也没学到
@@hoilockpartian8627 이념과 사상 저분이 말한 가짜외국인말밑고 따른 너도 공산당이지 우리나라는 박정희각하가 등장이유 나라가 부자국가가되고 더나아가 우리나라가 공산당에 점령당한걸 윤석열각하가 도와주고 한반도는 나라에운명을 맡기면안되니 민영화를 통해나라를 살린다는데 우리모두 윤석열각하처럼 서울대출신들만 뽑읍시다
@@caidylan 你说的是没礼貌没素质到处出征的nmslese吧
As a college student born and raised in Korea, most of my childhood memories revolve around fiercely competing in schools and academies. Even in university, I had to compete constantly to maintain a good GPA. When looking at objective indicators such as birth rates and suicide rates, it's evident that there are problems in our society. However, amidst the fear of starving to death or becoming victims of social shame, many find it difficult to speak up and find their own way to survive.
Although everyone is aware of these grim realities, it's true that opinions don't easily come together for societal improvement. Politicians, who should be at the forefront of change, often show little interest in opinions that don't translate into votes. In this sense, I'm deeply grateful for influential RUclipsrs like Mark to share his thoughts on our social issues. As a young Korean, I hope there is a future where more people in Korea could become happier and more acceptive to others.
Great video Mark! And accurate too.
As a expat who has been living in Seoul for 4 years, I think this video beautifully sums up the situation in Korea. All of these points are true and I have seen it myself. I have had conversations with coworkers and friends about these things. The differences between Korea and the US/Western world. The biggest difference is definitely the view of mental health and accessibility. I realized how uninformed many Koreans are about mental health and mental disorders. They are surprised at how open I am about these topics and how my friends have been open to me when I tell them stories of my friends' struggles. I will say the younger generations are much more open to talking about mental health and making mental health a priority. Some children I work with are getting help and treated. However, there are so many that view any mental health issues, disorders, or disabilities as a weakness and will try to hide it or choose to ignore the reality that it is happening to them/a loved one. One friend who teaches kindergarten told me how one of their previous students definitely had some kind of mental disability and the parents were in formed this child should be tested. But the parents refused because they say "nothing is wrong with my child." Instead of identifying it early and getting help and treatment that will help their child cope and function well in life, they choose to ignore it because they don't want their child singled out.
The work culture is also brutal. Just as the video says, many work crazy hours even if they don't have work. OR they have so much work, they work crazy hours. I had a friend getting 2-4 hours of time at home (getting home around 4am and back at work at 9am), with no overtime pay, and crazy pressure of having to complete a bucket load of tasks and some of those tasks she was not qualified or had the education to actually do. She did this work schedule for months! And to add another factor into the mix, the birth rate is low and the government is trying to encourage people to have children. However, how can it be expected for a person, who is barely seeing the apartment they rent, to have the time for a relationship and then have time to raise and care for a child? Very unrealistic.
Even as a foreigner, I have felt the pressures as well. I am supposed to be a "role model" and "example of a good citizen." Which is fair, but there is no wiggle room here to be human and make mistakes. I feel judged or that I will be judged. And as an averaged sized American, the stress about my body image during my first year here was strong. I've grown to not care about it now but that first year when you are thrown into a society all about image, you start caring too when you realize how much everyone cares. I love this country. It's beautiful and the culture is beautiful. Generally, the people are wonderful and nice and the food is to die for. However, I have felt weighed down and stifled so I actually am returning home after 4 crazy years of fun but also awful experiences (but mostly fun). And most of my friends feel the same way and are leaving one by one, some of them taking Korean SOs that want out too. There are so many factors to this decision so don't weigh it all on Korean society/mentality as a whole, but it is a factor.
당신의 따뜻한 마음과 좋은 의견에 감사합니다. 현실은 당신이 말한것보다 한국은 더 최악입니다. 정말로 자본주의와 유교의 나쁜점만 갖고 있습니다. 나도 한국이 변하길 바라지만 쉽지 않습니다. 많은 사람들이 영상을 보고, 뭔가를 느끼고 반성했으면 좋겠습니다. 감사합니다❤❤❤
I would say its the korean culture because they are not evolving with time but holding on to how the older generations have been over worked
This is really sad, I was one of the people who standardized Korea because of what I saw in kdramas, I still dream of visiting Korea and i think it's good that people are more open to the importance of mental health.
좋은글 감사합니다. 우리의 성취를 마냥 즐길데가 아니군요. 자본주의와 유교의 최악의 결합. 외모에 대한 스트레스 징글징글합니다. 주제넘는 외모평가도 신물나구요.
As a Korean, I agree with your points about the importance of mental well-being. However, in Korean society, fierce competition starts at a young age, as early as elementary school. This creates a paradox: while mental health is recognized as crucial, current solutions often fail to address the issue at its root, which is the relentless pressure to compete.
Even though individuals pursue success in various aspects of life, from academics and careers to marriage and social standing, the constant struggle to "win" fuels the prevalence of mental health concerns. Eliminating competition entirely, however, wouldn't be a viable solution. Korean society has achieved significant advancements through its emphasis on hard work and pushing individuals to strive for excellence.
The challenge lies in adapting to changing times. The current competition-driven model, championed by older generations and politicians, no longer aligns with the needs of today's society. Maintaining this approach only exacerbates the situation, as evidenced by the unprecedented decline in birth rates, surpassing even war-torn nations.
While competition can be a positive force, the rigid, one-size-fits-all approach stifles the potential of individuals with diverse talents. To thrive as a nation in the face of evolving global needs, we must cultivate diverse fields for competition, fostering creativity and efficiency across various fields.
It's crucial that older generations and policymakers acknowledge the need to move beyond the singular focus on competition and embrace a more multifaceted approach that allows individuals to succeed in different ways.
외모도 완벽해야 하고, 옷도 멋지게 입어야 하고 피부관리, 자기관리 철저히 하며 연예인 부러워 하며 비교경쟁하고, 일도 잘 해야 하고 자녀 교육도 잘 해야 하고..합법화된 중독, 커피 중독자가 됨. 객관적인 시선으로 저를 뒤돌아 보게 되었습니다. 한국인으로서의 자부심도 크지만 냉철한 시야의 좋은 영상 감사합니다❤
대다수 한국인이 열등감이 가득함. 다른나라 인종과 문화에 대한 존중은 찾아볼수가 없음.
인구가 줄어들고 있음에도 이민정책을 혐오하고 외국인에 대한 차별이 일상시 된 한국을 보면 그냥 이대로 망하는게 맞는듯🤣
Koreans are some of the most resilient and warm hearted people I have ever met; please do not take pride in others using you as a workhorse though, they don’t love you
경쟁없는 국가는 없어요. 미국인들은 자살할 용기도 없어서 마약으로 총으로 죽어나갑니다
dont take this the wrong way BUT could it be that way because asian people LOOK ALIKE ?
@@websitemartianIm Korean. You know what? yeah. this isnt exactly false. if everyone looks completely different, its hard to "compare" one another in terms of looks.
Korea is a single race country, hence making us look alike with each other. thus making it more susceptible to peer pressure and comparing
very insightful thanks
What a great video. What a great (and mysterious) country.
한국에서 항상 문제아였고 나도 내가 답도없는 반항아라고 굳게 믿다가 해외와서 깨달았다. 내가 지극히 정상이었다는걸 ㅋㅋ 그 끔찍한 시스템을 곧이곧대로 따를수있는 그들이 비정상이라는걸.. 머리 뒷통수 때려맞은 기분이었음
뭔 개소리야 문제아는 그냥 문제아다
말도않되는것에 자기합리화하네 ㅋㅋ
정신과의사들이 하는말이 실제로 진단을 해보면 병원에 찾아오는사람이 정상이고 주변인들이 정상이 아닌경우가 훨 많았다고 하더라고요. 그 정상이 아닌 주변인들은 자기들이 아주 지극히 정상이라고 생각한답니다
@@user-xr2yl2zp1x 그렇지 이래야 한국인이지 암
@@user-xr2yl2zp1x초면에 사정조차 물어보지 않고 함부로 비수를 꽂아넣는 것도 말도 안 되는 짓입니다. 어떤 사연이 있을줄 아시고 가시돋친 말씀을 스스럼 없이 하시는지 안타깝습니다.
부러워요
신경끄기의 기술을 읽은지 꽤 오랜시간이 지났는데 다시 한번 읽어봐야겟습니다. 미국인이 본 한국사회에 대한 깊은 통찰입니다. 한국에선 면이 서다 라는 표현이 있습니다. 지금은 잘 쓰지 않지만 과거엔 많이 썼던 표현입니다. 이 표현이 유교문화에 대한 많은 것을 말해 준다고 생각합니다. 보여지는 것이 중요한 문화 번듯한 직업 집 차 나이 외모 등 그사람의 연령대에 따라 주어지는 퀘스트를 해결하지 못하면 사회적 낙오자로 여기는 것. 심지어 그것을 개인이 무의식적으로 동의하는 것 같습니다. 저도 40대 중반의 나이인데 번듯한 직업이 아니고 몸이 좋지도 않고 결혼도 못하니 사람을 만나기 싫더군요. 또한 익명으로 자신의 표현에 책임을 지지 않는 글일 답글로 올라오는 경우가 많아 내 자신의 의견을 말하는게 종종 귀찮을때가 있습니다. 마지막에 희망을 주셔서 감사하네요. 젊은 세대들이 결혼하지 않고 출산하지 않는 것이 길을 찾고 의견을 말하는 것일 수 있겠다는 생각이 듭니다. 좋은 영상 고마워요 마크!
한국은 절때 저런 불량영상에 빠지지 마십쇼 울나라가 근대발전에 힘써준 박정희각하와 보수정당새나라 어린이 덕분에 부자국가가되어 공산당과 대등한 서열에서 1등한국가입니다 우리나라가 공부를해야 내나라를 위해 살아야한다는 반공주입식 교육으로 우리는 드디어 행복과 자유를 얻은겁니다 나라를위해 월급도 헌납하는 애국시민만세
외국도 그럴거같은데 직업안좋고 못생기면
@@user-sp3vb7tk8r 답도 없다 진짜 ㅉㅉㅉ
Acho que essa pressão ocorre na maioria dos países medianamente desenvolvidos....
No Brasil também é assim, especialmente entre a classe média e alta...
Já os pobres (a maioria) é mais relaxado nesse sentido
@@guglilmovicario 한국청년들은 일자리가 넘쳐나서 수많은 월급도 받으며 웃음과 행복에 넘쳐삽니다 우울국가는 빈민국에서만 해당상황이고 정치계 민주당이 나라를망하게한예
love this video and it's style, been reading your blog ten years ago, didn't even know you were on youtube. more like this please.
As a teenager in korea, this video gave me lots to think about.
Yes, it is a fact that people constantly compare themselves to other people and have lots of mental problems. The shame and the anxiety make people feel like they are a loser, and since they are stressed out with these feelings, they find another way to solve it, by depreciating others, followed by loneliness and depression and hate amongest the community.
But at the end of the video mentioning resilience and all the positive stuff we have, I felt that if we focused the positive traits then the negative we would figure out to live a happier life. Thanks for making this video Mark ❤
한국인이 이런영상 만들면
"소말리아 보다는 낫다"
"지잡대 나온 애들이 이런 소리 하더라"
라고 조롱했을게 뻔함..
외부에서 보는 시각으로 문제를 너무나 잘 꼬집어 주셨습니다. 감사합니다.
맞아요 한국의 문제점 객관적으로 얘기하면 인도나 파키스탄 이런데가서 살아봐라 이런말만 나오더라구요 ㅋㅋ 그리고 교육문제 심각하다고하면 그래도 스카이가서 잘사는 사람들 많다면서 낙오자 취급하며 조롱했을게 뻔해요
@@arianahaart5457 맞습니다... 문제 파악하고 개선, 발전할 생각은 안하고 파키스탄 보단 나으니 입다물어라 이런 태도는 진짜... 어이가 없더라구요
동감합니다. 폐쇄적인 사회에서는 아무래도 자정능력이 제대로 기능할 수 없죠. 최근에 와서 그나마 옅어졌다고는 해도 여전히 우리나라는 폐쇄적이고 집단주의적인 면모가 남아있다고 생각해요.
문제의 본질을 생각하기보다 자격을 운운하고 흠잡기 바쁨
So in a way, it's true that the North Korea is happier than the South.
As an educator in Korea for the last dozen years, I agree with this video. Korea excelled in economics because it needed to survive. Now it must tackle its social problems, inequalities, and depression-inducing educational and work methods if it wants to survive.
The thing is stress and depression is all self-induced. So it's not the government or society that creates it. But it's one's own self-deprecating thoughts that induce it.
@@RollerBladingSuxs Man - you really can't see the toxicity in this kind of system can you?
@@RollerBladingSuxssome society’s have terrible stressors and thought processes that can contribute to your pressure. You don’t exist in a vacuum so Your society can cultivate harmful thought processes and expectations that you have to work through to fix
@@RollerBladingSuxsunless you are in a forest you will always be influenced and affected by the things around you, especially early childhood where you learn the most about what type of attitudes and ways you deal with life. Shame is a huge part of these societies
@@SirCruxful Remember the saying no one is responsible for your life except you.
The “moan” of acknowledgment when talking hahahah! I’ve never heard of it that way… I’m Korean-American and I def catch myself doing this on work calls 🤣
As a Korean, I appreciate your keen insight into the problematic mentality of Korean people. I can't agree more to what you say. Thanks!!!!!
한국의 문제를 받아들이고 해결하려는 모습 조차도 한국인의 모습 같음,,, 자신을 발전시켜야 살아남을 수 있으니 그럼 해보자는 생각이 내면화되면서 외부적으로도 적용하는 듯,,,
댓글을 보니 문제가 해결될 수 없다는 의견보다 나아진 한국을 그리는 사람이 많은 걸 보면 해결할 수 있다는 생각을 많이 가지는 걸 볼 수 있음 그래서 한국인이 resilience를 가졌다고 하는 말이 이해가 됨,,,
향상심이란 것이 독이 되기도 하지만 동시에 해독제가 되는 게 참 아이러니하면서 재미있어요ㅎ
Go korea ♡ ♡
유튜브는 현실을 반영하지 않습니다
@@salary-fz3hhnumbers do. And numbers don't lie.
지나친 일반화의 오류. 이 비디오는 현실울 100% 반영했죠.
스타열풍을 다른 분야까지 연결하는 분석에 놀랐습니다. 한국은 유교와 자본주의의 안좋은 부분만 취하고 개인을 희생해 전체경제를 발전시켰네요. 모든면에서 숫자는 커졌지만 오히려 사람들은 더 우울해졌구요 부랄을 탁치고 갑니다. 좋은내용입니다. 개인적으론 저의 우울에 대해서 더 이해하게 됬어요. 좋은 학교졸업하고 대기업 다니다가도 작년에 우울증이 터저서 그만두게 되었는데 우울증이 부끄러워 동료 가족한테도 완전히 오픈하진 못했습니다. 나도 몰랐던 사회적은 측면에서도 알게된 것 같아요. 세상은 다르구나 한국이 좀 변화되길 바랍니다.
저본주의의 단점 만 가져가고
장점님 자기 표현과 개인주의는 없다....
즉 자본주의 체제와 사회주의식 너도 노예라는 마인드가 공존하는 헬조선
Thank you for making this video ❤
I watched your documentary after watching the documentary "The burnout-society" by Byung-Chul Han... Really interesting ! Thanks.
정신과의사라면서 손님 초대해놓고 대놓고 얼평하는 양브라더스 부끄럽네요. 이게 한국이죠.
정말 죄송합니다. 그 행동은 예의에 어긋나고 부적절한 것이었던 것 같습니다. 저희가 존중하고 예의를 갖추는 모습을 보여드릴 수 있도록 노력하겠습니다. 다시 한번 사과의 말씀을 드립니다.
THIS SUCKS LIKE SHIT!!!!!!!!!!
@@PoisonelleMisty4311 당신이 왜 죄송합니까? 무례한 한국인들이 문제입니다.
Very understanding and heartwarming video. You did not describe nor define Korea’s problems through judgmental perspective but rather critically viewed and sincerely hoped for our better future. Thanks for a great video.
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Please, more of this content. ❤
Beautifully made video
외국인의 눈으로 한국을 보니 역시 더 정확하게 보이는구나. ’모아니면 도(All or nothing)’ 성공아니면 실패라는 인지왜곡적인 교육방식과 그로인한 무한경쟁, 보수적이고 집단적인 유교문화와 자본주의의 물질주의적인 가치 상충이 한국인을 우울하게 만들고 있다는 내용인데 극히 공감된다. 집단의 책임감과 압박은 높고 자유와 개인은 없는 물질적이고 자본주의적인 성공도 함께 달성해야 하는 일타쌍피적인 압박…이러니 한국인들이 우울하고 피곤할 수밖에..ㅎㅎ 그나저나 출연한 한국인 정신과 의사형제들은 처음 본 미국사람 외모평가질 오지게 한다..
그게 한국이 여기까지 오게한 원동력이니까. 둘다 취하는건 불가능했을거라고봄.
난 한국인들이 여유있고 성공실패에 관용적이었다면 동남아 수준 됐을거라고봄
@@user-gh8eu9mb6x ㅇㅇ 그야 누구냐에 따라 다르죠. 다만 전 불행했을거라 봅니다. 누군가는 흙파먹고 의료시설도 제대로 안되있어서 집에서 죽어나가도 행복함을 느낄 순 있지만, 전 그렇지 못햇을거라 생각합니다. 비교 관념이란게 뭔가요? 그냥 비교 아닌가요? 결국 물질적 조건이 충족되었음에도 우울한건... 그 사람의 마음가짐입니다. 후진국에선 우울할 틈이 없죠. 기본적으로 물가는 낮지만 소득은 그보다 훨씬 낮아서 정말로 말 그대로 하루벌어 하루 살아가는게 후진국입니다. 우울할 시간이 있는것 조차도 사치죠. 순간순간이 말그대로 생존을 위한 몸부림인데.
한국인은 개인으로서 다른 생각과 방향을 주장할 용기를 배우지 못해서 자신의 생각과 달라도 다수가 가는 방향으로 흘러가는 인생을 살아간다 자신의 내면에서의 목소리와 외부에서의 삶의 모습이 다른데서 오는 우울감과 패배감이 전반적으로 있는데도 그냥 그렇게 바보같이 살아감
@@hder9 그러면 앞으로는? 앞으로의 대한민국에 대한 비전이 사회적으로든, 경제적으로든, 정치적으로든 세워져 있다고 생각하나? 그것도 건전한 토론과 건설적인 대화로? 언제까지 그 예전의 원동력이 유지될 거라고 확신하나
@@off7970 진정하세요. 님처럼 발끈하는것도 화병의 증상중 하나이며 한국인에게 쉽게 발견됩니다. 앞으로요? 글쎄요... 우리가 그걸 선택할 수 있는 입장이라면 저도 참 좋겠네요. 뭐든지 선택가능하다면 경제도 여유있고 사람도 여유있으면 좋겠습니다. 근데 그렇게 좋은 선택지가, [난 이렇게 할거라긍!]이라고 해서 존재할지가 의문이네요. 다시 말하지만 진정하시구요.
가진 게 인적 자원뿐인 이 나라의 원죄지... 그 전성기는 충분히 뜨거우니, 이젠 조금씩 식어가며 우리의 원래 자리를 찾아갈 때가 되지 않았을까? GDP, 국력 등에서 굳이 세계권이 아니어도 돼, 대한민국아. 넌 충분히 뛰어난 나라야...
Thank you for this brilliant video, brilliant 👏
Nice ending message to the video after all the depressing part before it. Resilience is one of the most important qualities anyone need and the Koreans can use it with their faith to somehow find a way
I am a high school student who was born in Korea. Everyone here studies for 12 years from the first grade of elementary school to the third grade of high school. Most of them start earlier than that. These days, kindergarten-based private academies and kindergarten students prepare for medical schools before they think about the world they want to live in, because their parents don't know much about the world. I still think that the important thing for teenagers is their view of the world and their various experiences. However, the reality is different. You have to endure the pressure that you didn't even experience in the past, the desire to play, the exercise, etc. due to the set period of study. If you exercise, you also have to develop your physical strength to study. When you go to high school, you write down a portfolio like the first year and complete it for three years in high school, and then enter college based on the content and school grades. At this time, you have to write all the activities you do in school in relation to your career hope, and there is an academy that helps you write such a portfolio. Also, the cost of the academy is huge. I think such education in Korea will cause a wider gap between the rich and the poor. Most students these days don't think deeply about their career path and think that they should definitely go to college, and most of their friends who are good at studying want to pursue medicine. Jobs like doctors and dentists are expensive. Meanwhile, I thought I didn't know why I should go to college in my country. I'm still a teenager who hasn't had much experience, and I didn't think it was worth investing in because it would cost me a lot of money to decide on a department and go to college. Later, later than others, but when I had something I wanted to study for, I wanted to go to college. If I fail college at the age of 19, I will be treated as a failure. Even though I am a broken teenager, my dream is to travel around the world. But that means a lot of adults are interfering with other people's lives, such as how they will make money and need to have money to get married in the future. At first, I thought I would make the right mistake and others would get caught up in this world. I knew what I really wanted was to travel around the world, and I believed that I would be happy with the process even if I had a part-time job that wasn't a full-time job. However, it is really upsetting to find myself getting ingrained in this society. Success and failure are divided in teenagers, and if they don't get married on time, pressure from people around them will arise, and the heads of households will have to earn a certain amount of money, compete in new jobs again, and if they don't have children, I think it is natural that Korea has high suicide rates and depression levels. However, no one is trying to change. As a Korean, I want everyone to look back, not just ahead.
you're looking at the extremes buddy, south korea is not depressing, the people just have high-ass standards, you could go live in any area that isn't Seoul and getting a job and buying a house would be 100 times easier and actually doable in terms of house prices. marriage would be possible, as would children. but people insist on staying in Seoul, if you don't study, you don't study. sure it's more intense than any other western country- but that being said any country has students who study very hard. a shit ton of Korean students do not study hard. they just attend a lot of private lessons/tutors etc. doesn't mean that they study a lot or are super-smart. people with superstitions will say to go to college and to get married etc, but the thing is nowadays people don't ask that as much, and if you do you're just rude/old/uneducated. the students preparing at age 5, 6, 7 or at a young age? that's only the really rich people, and so that's a really really small minority of kids. compared to other countries like india, Indonesia, Malaysia, the Philippines i think korea is a way better country to live in on AVERAGE. compared to the states the people aren't open, extremely racist, and don't really care for others as much with a community vibe as western countries, but to say korea is depressing without giving an objective point of view is unfair. it's a shit country. the laws in particular and the judges/lawyers/politicians aren't great at all. i still hate korea even though i was born here. but give it a fair point of view when judging it.
이 글을 읽고 나의 아들에게 나는 어떤 것들을 보여줄 것인지 깊이 생각해 봐야겠어요.
좋은 관점
Your thoughts 💬 are very deep,, good luck bro,, I'm glad that i was born in India 😌
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As somebody who's travelled to South Korea and is planning an exchange semester in Seoul, I got a similar verdict, a similar feeling; while at first it seems very shiny and perfect and then concerning and sometimes almost scary, over time, you cannot help but feel that they'll somehow manage to get over it. All koreans I've met so far have been some of the nicest and most fun people you could wish for and they all seemed to have a certain strength and will in them, to not give up, to see and value even the little joys of life.
I don't know what the future holds and I'm curious on how my view will evolve after a longer time there, but I really wish for them to find their way as a country, to strike a balance that works for both economic success and a healthy, happy society.
_also bro found the key to me actually watching the placement instead of skipping it, respect_
Great video. Helps to give me some context and understanding of my Korean step-mother.
"I... don't give a f***"... That delivery is the most factual, determined and yet sweet I've ever heard. I'll try to say it like this everytime I'll get to think that from now on.
As a korean who will soon turn 19, this video almost made me cry.
It is true we suffer and are worried about us and what the future will hold, but the reason why I couldn't give up and kept myself together was that slight hope that I never told anyone that things will get better if I try better, if I try to become that generation to lead the way to a much more acceptable happiness.
As always I was thinking about leaving the country because of the lack of space and acceptance my generation gets, but again I also wish to stay where I laughed, cried and was born.
I believe that we will get through this.
I second that especially the last part!
You’re happy man, I didn’t laugh, cry at the age (but was born).
**hug hug**
I too will be turning 19 did year..the stress sure kicks in ..we'll get through it ..its alryt
Just keep going and pushing. You'll be ok! Anyone at 19, their life has not even fully blossomed yet and begun. You've got to dig deep and try to bloom where you are planted. I hope very much that your beautiful country and its people rise to the level of self-acceptance and inner happiness that you hope to see in your world. You seem to have a really good heart.
외국인의 입장에서 본 한국을 정말 정확하게 표현했다. 급성장했지만 재대로 구체적인 시스템까지 성장하지못해 내부적으로 더욱더 세밀한 성장이 필요한게 아닐까 생각한다
전쟁을 겪었지만 나라를 살리고자 노력한 분들에게 감사함을 느낀다
동감합니다 감사도 느끼고 있습니다 이 문제를 헤쳐나가야겠죠 정신적으로 성숙한 우리나라가 되고 싶네요
국가라는 시스템으로 해쳐먹었기에, 지금 이 모양 이 꼴인것.
맞네요. 감사할 부분도 있네요. 더 좋은 사회 만들어요🙂
님들 바보임? 결국은 정부가
돈예산다써서
경영인죽이고 시민죽이고
이상태에서 디지털문화(댓글,사이버렉카들)에 저성장시대까지 겹쳤는데
결국 정부가 문제근원지고 문제를해결할 유일한 탈출구인걸 왜 잊음?
As a Korean, I've watched quite a few videos talking about the problems in Korea, but never this ON POINT. This guy really hit the nail on the head on all aspects.
Following similar playBook as Bourdain. Good on you 👍🏻
구구절절 맞는말밖에 없네. 이런 영상 만들어주셔서 감사합니다. 언젠가 바뀌겠죠? 점점 더 나아지겠죠.
응응응~ 하자
분명 더 나아질 겁니다. 같은 한국인으로서 힘내봐요!
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Korea is real squid game.
True.. they're gambling to life
닉네임 보니까 다 한국인들인데 다 영어쓰고 있노 ㅋㅋㅋ
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Where are many psychotics in the world? (from Google)
1.Japan 2.Belgium 3.Netherland 4.Germany 5.Latvia
This needs to be watched by all Koreans. Sadly many Koreans ignore this. They think lack of success and money are the reasons for the high suicide and low birth rate and worsen the situations further by working even harder
초등학교때부터 의대 준비하는 나라입니다
그건 나쁜게 아니지. 어릴때부터 자신의 진로를 결정했으니까 오히려 좋은 일인듯
@@MyWay-zu4go진심이냐?
유튜버 아니었나? 의사보단 잘 나가는 유튜버지.
Fantastic summary of Korean cultural uniqueness and the events that led to where they're at today. The other layer is the economic decisions that led to the Chaebol dominance in the economy. As someone who has enjoyed learning about Korean culture since discovering KDramas during lockdown (and then learning Korean as a hobby) I have found that KDramas are doing a decent job at exposing and discussing the challenges and taboos in their society. Not just the usual taboo relationship tropes. Dramas like DP that expose the mental health issues in military service and My Liberation Notes that explore the grinding commutes and hopelessness of climbing the ladder.
The jaebol dominance is a product of Confucianism and capitalistic policies post-Korean war. Mark did an excellent job succinctly summarizing it as "the worst parts of Confucianism and worst parts of capitalism".
"My Mister" is a Kdrama that I recommend to people. It's accurate in the way it portrays their mentality and social pressures. Also a really well made series. Now made even more poignant with the main actor Lee Sun Kyun's recent Su1c1de.
The crucial setback of chaebol-driven economic growth is this: it rooted out an opportunity for the industrial paradigm shift from heavy industries and manufacturing to service-based decentralized sectors. By far, Korea is the only developed country with the rate of manufacturing industries topping off over 25% out of the entire industrial sectors. Thus, ironically there wasn’t a timely room for a pavilion of high-end service and information jobs equivalent to Silicon Valley in the US to be fostered, even though Korea was named for having pursued an IT-field supremacy for decades on end since the 90s.
All these videos are really good!! but the major question is will they ever change if so when????
This video’s conclusion made me smile at the end. I am so glad that I live in Korea!
As a Korean, I think his video should be required viewing for governments, parliaments, and any organization that makes policy in South Korea. Very accurate than any other written or spoken materials ever made by us Koreans.
SOUTH KOREA IS SO F4KE SIR ! 🤮 MY INDIA IS BETTER ! 🤗🇮🇳🥰 🇮🇱THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗
SOUTH KOREA IS SO DANGEROUS SIR ! MY INDIA IS BETTER ! 🤗🇮🇳🥰 🇮🇱THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗
You are asking someone who designed this system to break down the system , and it is not going to happen. SAD
What the government intends is this abuse, they are not interested in people’s happiness and quality of life.
WOW VERY DANGEROUS SIR! I WILL NEVER GO TO SOUTH KOREA ! 😡😡 THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳
I'm a Korean who immigrated to America after college. 3 minutes into this video I realized I'm living the South Korean life even in another continent not because I was forced to but because I volunteered to literally grind myself to excel at work. My biggest challenge while working in the Western corporate environment has been having to work at other people's pace.. Because I wouldn't let emails sit in the inbox for longer than 12 hours, I don't want any dirt on my career, don't wanna take the blame when things go wrong against my wishes whereas my colleagues take that morning coffee and take a full hour lunch outside the office. So I definitely overwork myself and I know it. I just can't help the way i am. It's been helping me progress but at the same time I'm aware this isn't sustainable in the long run. It gets tough when I can't even have the time to seek assistance in mental healthcare although I could. I'll eventually give myself a break but I realize I really need to look after my mental health.
Thank you for covering South Korea with clear insights. Very impressive I am now subscribing your channel!
Great story. But you really need to stop working so hard. You are giving a bad example for the corps what to expect from workers. We don't want to turn into SK 😂
As a westerner living in east Asia, I did experience all the pressure at work which has end up with a burn out. But I did manage to go over it and learn my way of handling pressure, simply go with life flow, especially I realized one thing, we all keep thinking “after I do this I will feel that”, but the reality it’s we should be living in the present. the energy is real.
I suggest a more concrete gradual approach. I work full throttle in the office. But I take the hour lunch. After eating, I go to shops, but don't buy, or a beautiful church, read in the church garden, etc.. I must plan carefully for my brisk walk back to the office to be on time. I also take super mini breaks by having some clean snack and tea at the desk, so I have to look up to take a bite or sip. This is subject to bosses allowing food, but it does make you slow down a bit. Sign up for yoga or other active class once a week to start. Don't be available for overtime, because you have a class. Good luck.
Your effort will pay you back probably more in the US than Korea. You are doing the right thing. If others around you don’t grind as much then why do they drink and do drugs more than you? Don’t stop. Feel free to slow down temporarily but keep going. Fighting!
what i find is the most important 'quality' to have and that will help your career in western workplaces is knowing whose bum to kiss and suck up to, social manoeuvring, being likeable...if anything, if westerner colleagues see you work hard and do better than them, they will resent you.
한가지 기준만 가지고 모두가 잘하려고 하니 힘든것 같아요. 다양성을 인정해주면 좋겠어요. 위너 아니면 루저가 아니고 그 사이 많은 종류의 사람들이 있다는것을요.
진짜 내가 하고 싶은 말 대신 써주셨네요 격하게 공감합니다.
For anyone looking for the fire song at 15:06 its "Play Your Game - Juval"
10:17 LOL As Korean I think this conversation really explains the lookism in Korean society. People think it's a natural thing to talk about other's appearance and make compliment like that. This is wrong.
As a Korean I can't agree more!
The ironic and sad fact is that they are psychiatrists who are quite trying to make this country a better place
Korea is amazing...lived there for a year many years ago- some unbelievable and resilient people, and in my experience, some of the kindest people. I hope this helps open the dialogue for everyone ...thanks, Mark!
I actually got chills and teared up a bit at the end when you spoke of their resilience as a society. I have lived in Korea for 4.5 years and also am married to a Korean man and just, everything you said in this video is so accurate. It’s so amazing and refreshing to see someone really dive into the reality in Korea and not be distracted by the pretty things of it so much they can’t see the reality. In my time here, i have seen glimpses of change, and how there are more opportunities for people to have work life balance (even a slang term that means it) but i also see many cases where the worst is still there. I am going to share this with my friends both foreign and Korean. I am very curious on their opinions and take on it