Dearest Jodie, I am compelled to write this after witnessing the impact you made on my 93 year old grandmother who passed away this Sunday. Not to make this too long but my grandmother gathered my mother, uncle, her aide and I in her room earlier last week and she asked us to sit and watch your talk with her which she had found online with one of the aides here at the home. My grandmother held my mother's hand, squeezing it often and she finished watching your talk by turning to us and sharing with us what happened to her roughly 77 years ago. Thank you, you brave, courageous, beautiful woman for accomplishing what so many cannot do. My family and I are grateful for you, and we strongly encourage you to continue your service. My grandmother (Ethel Kwang) passed away in a much peaceful state because of you. We will share this story and we support your work and admire your efforts to make this world a better place. Best wishes, the Yin Family - Singapore
Ms. Ortega, your story has reached me over here at an internet café in Austria. I am saddened by your story but I stand alongside you in triumph. This is the first time I am writing this, saying this out loud...I am a survivor. Thank you for supporting male survivors, very little support is given to us. I can say that your presentation saved my life and I will be finishing this message to you as a changed man and will return to home demanding justice. I pray success and happiness to follow you. You are most deserving. I am going to share your beauty on the rest of my Europe travels. - Arseny.
So powerful! May all the dominos continue to fall into healing. You are a very beautiful, admirable, brave woman. Thank you for your strength and vulnerability.
Thank you, Jodie! Thank you for opening the conversation! We are not victims when we stand in our power. "Survivors and thrivers." Thank you especially for your words about how silence protects the abuser. No more silence. Love you!
It took me 14 years to break my silence, I wish I had gotten help sooner but it really is better late than never. Perhaps if society didn't make it feel like it was my fault, despite my being 4 years old, I would have spoken sooner. Perhaps if society didn't make me feel like it was my fault, I would talk about it today with others and continue the conversation. But I just don't feel comfortable talking about it
Jodie, thank you for being so strong and sharing your unpleasant story and unacceptable situation. You are a beautiful person. I will share and I do care.
By far, best TEDx/TED talk I've watched and the only person that can top this is Jodie herself. The rap is amazing! Thank you Jodie for your fearlessness, you have helped me confront my fears and shame which I hid for 2 decades. I do hope to meet you one day and thank you. Perhaps it's time for another TEDx talk?
Dear Jodie, thank you so much for breaking the silence. When I watched your TedTalk it was so touching and I was so amazed by your inner strength. Your Talk was so perfect, and so informative that I even had to watch it twice and will watch it again. You are so right that the abusers are kept safe as long as we keep the silence and you know what? I did not even break the silence with my family but only stopped the contact and my father - who abused me as a little girl - had to give me the stigma of being crazy, so that nobody will believe me anymore anyway. I don`t mind because choosing this path means I own my life now and I keep my own children safe... it was a tough decision because nobody wants to loose family bonds but it was the right and only possible decision and it was also the beginning of slowly coming back to life, with years of hard soul work and now I start to thrive. Thank you for this great talk it helped me a lot to understand many of the hidden mechanisms
Thank You so much for your clear clean heart felt expression, the courage you found in breaking your silence, may it have a remarkable domino effect and loose much deep seated shame and open and expose many love filled hearts
I just spoke about it this year. I finally reported it to the police in February. It was the hardest decision of my life. I had been so deeply ashamed, embarrassed and uncomfortable at the thought of actually describing everything that happened in every last detail which scared me out of reporting it to the police sooner. Now there's an ongoing investigation and my investigating officer told me that I will go to court next summer. I've never been to court before, but I have seen how awful it is for victims in court on TV so I am so afraid of being cross examined and being made to look like I am the guilty one. Only 3 of my friends and my cousin who I only just told 2 months ago and swore her to secrecy know. My mum doesn't know. I wanted so badly to tell her the day it happened, but I really didn't know how to tell her but all I could do was take the longest shower of my life. I ended up keeping it to myself for 4 years until I told my first friend and only because he had confided his deepest secret in me. The majority of my family and friends don't know. I'm just that girl who developed Anorexia, Bulimia then Anorexia again, depression, self harm, was very angry and tried committing suicide a number of times, but they don't know why. I'm also that girl who always smiles, always says I'm fine and makes jokes all the time just to make everyone else happy. I was just diagnosed with PTSD 4 months ago in August and will be starting therapy hopefully in January. I have been in therapy since I was 15, but I never concentrated on the sexual abuse but all the other problems I had instead, mainly self harm and Anorexia, so what happened was when I finally spoke about it to the police, because I had to take myself back there emotionally and physically to identify the place where it happened, I had a complete melt down. I was having nightmares daily and having flashbacks repeatedly throughout the day. I couldn't take it anymore and I became incredibly depressed and suicidal and was too afraid to leave my house. I never felt so vulnerable and like my life was in danger as much as I did throughout February and March. I just lost it. I regretted ever speaking about it to the police because of the wounds it opened after years of somewhat successfully suppressing and ignoring the reality and the memory of what happened.
+Hil S So what did happen and what was the relationship that you had with this alleged abuser? You have said nothing to convince us that this abuse happened. What you have told us is that you have mental health problems. The sort of mental health problems you have don't usually have to have anything to do with abuse. Mental health problems are normally caused by genetic factors alone. The brain is a very resilient organ and it mends ... even from severe physical trauma. The severe depression you have is caused by a genetic factors or perhaps your mother used recreational drugs when she was pregnant with you. Either way your brain has a chemical imbalance which can be helped by using medication. Your depression disease causes things such as anorexia, bulimia and self harm ... these in turn cause a dietary imbalance which makes the chemical imbalance worse. I have no doubt you have been to a counsellor. Counsellors are notorious for seeking a cause that they can use therapy on. Such as past abuse. I think counsellors are mostly ignorant of the brain and how it works. Some are feminists who want to blame men for everything. I doubt if the depression you have and the abuse are related. Your counsellor has probably convinced you of this falsehood so they can extend their time with you rather that just sending you to a doctor.
+Hil S I agree with Harry. Just remember ANYONE with mental illness can be diagnosed with PTSD. Just produce tears, have a mental illness which produces abnormal behaviour, and a PTSD diagnosis will arrive. I think you need to tell us what you think happened and what the counsellor might have led you to believe. There are many women with mental illness now who want to blame a man who was attracted to them but doing this won't solve your problems. There are equal numbers of men with mental illness. They don't rush to a counsellor who tells them it was a woman who caused all their problems. Even if they do the man doesn't rush to the police. Compensation solicitors love the money that comes from mentally ill women. But it is ill begotten money. It is quite normal for a mentally ill person to take drugs. Drugs ease the symptoms ... are you also a drug addict?
Harold Musetescu ....weird thing is I didn't know til later that the "sins of the father..." phrase was actually from the bible... I thought they were just words that popped in my ridiculous head.
Wow I had to watch this again Jodie this is powerful and helpful resources for who have not come from there childhood sexualabuse #StopChildAbuse Thank you Hugs Stewart @Gatehouse_The
not sure if conversation really solves anything. isn't it really just getting a different perspective on somethings thats bothering you thats the real solution??? [ which may or may not come out of the process of having a conversation but definitely isn't dependent upon it? ]
in trail , on every ending start a new memory. In habit years of child could be compliment to those who work on progress in manipulate with science and others who want to join in, sometimes only one life expose to true , inside free grow to leave it behind, No side to choose is left in time only pair in basement trying to catch for new clean wear a number of acts made in passion for life. !
Where do the statistics come from? [Just a statement but Incorrect statistics are worse than none at all!?! If there is a criticism of this talk it is uncertainty of the statistics.]
+Peter Smythe Very good. Most of these comments are contrived and insipid. I suspect a therapy group in drug rehab who were asked to make positive comments. Just google Christina Hoff Sommers and "one in four" myth.
+Harry Seldon I can't remember exactly where and what I will look at you suggestion and perhaps a bit deeper. I really do take issue with incorrect statistics, some of the people who carelessly throw them around don't quite realize that the statistics (combined with hysteria often) can effect a whole system of laws and issues and many people's lives (Hitler also used statistics; and a lot of people blindly believed many/all of them at a tremendous cost).
+Peter Smythe I like the video series "ManWomanMyth" and "Fiamengo File". These people both expose the falsehoods of some of the feminist false statistics.
+Harry Seldon I have seen much of that. It brings up a lot of good points. As an outsider I can't verify the claims and counter claims. I haven't found the time to care enough, I guess I enjoy being critical though. The only problem that I possibly have with the statistics is if they actually aren't correct. Otherwise that is fine then if they are actually true.
I feel sad that what happened you. I'm just wondering why does your poem have to sound like rap. Your rap sounds like gangster ghetto. Rap usually associated expressing against rival gangs, police authorities, or rebelling against the peace. It doesn't seem to fit your speech (speaking) tone and personality. Still I admire your rap talent. Have you ever compete in a freestyle rap battle contest? Thanks for speaking out and sharing.
Dearest Jodie, I am compelled to write this after witnessing the impact you made on my 93 year old grandmother who passed away this Sunday. Not to make this too long but my grandmother gathered my mother, uncle, her aide and I in her room earlier last week and she asked us to sit and watch your talk with her which she had found online with one of the aides here at the home. My grandmother held my mother's hand, squeezing it often and she finished watching your talk by turning to us and sharing with us what happened to her roughly 77 years ago. Thank you, you brave, courageous, beautiful woman for accomplishing what so many cannot do. My family and I are grateful for you, and we strongly encourage you to continue your service. My grandmother (Ethel Kwang) passed away in a much peaceful state because of you. We will share this story and we support your work and admire your efforts to make this world a better place. Best wishes, the Yin Family - Singapore
nice..... :) ;)
Woah. Im so happy you all found your peace 🧡
Ms. Ortega, your story has reached me over here at an internet café in Austria. I am saddened by your story but I stand alongside you in triumph. This is the first time I am writing this, saying this out loud...I am a survivor. Thank you for supporting male survivors, very little support is given to us. I can say that your presentation saved my life and I will be finishing this message to you as a changed man and will return to home demanding justice. I pray success and happiness to follow you. You are most deserving. I am going to share your beauty on the rest of my Europe travels. - Arseny.
So powerful! May all the dominos continue to fall into healing. You are a very beautiful, admirable, brave woman. Thank you for your strength and vulnerability.
I want to say thank you to you for doing not only an act of bravery but a public service in educating all of us. I am a survivor too.
Thank you, Jodie! Thank you for opening the conversation! We are not victims when we stand in our power. "Survivors and thrivers." Thank you especially for your words about how silence protects the abuser. No more silence. Love you!
It took me 14 years to break my silence, I wish I had gotten help sooner but it really is better late than never. Perhaps if society didn't make it feel like it was my fault, despite my being 4 years old, I would have spoken sooner. Perhaps if society didn't make me feel like it was my fault, I would talk about it today with others and continue the conversation. But I just don't feel comfortable talking about it
Jodie, thank you for being so strong and sharing your unpleasant story and unacceptable situation. You are a beautiful person. I will share and I do care.
By far, best TEDx/TED talk I've watched and the only person that can top this is Jodie herself. The rap is amazing! Thank you Jodie for your fearlessness, you have helped me confront my fears and shame which I hid for 2 decades. I do hope to meet you one day and thank you. Perhaps it's time for another TEDx talk?
Dear Jodie,
thank you so much for breaking the silence. When I watched your TedTalk it was so touching and I was so amazed by your inner strength. Your Talk was so perfect, and so informative that I even had to watch it twice and will watch it again. You are so right that the abusers are kept safe as long as we keep the silence and you know what? I did not even break the silence with my family but only stopped the contact and my father - who abused me as a little girl - had to give me the stigma of being crazy, so that nobody will believe me anymore anyway. I don`t mind because choosing this path means I own my life now and I keep my own children safe... it was a tough decision because nobody wants to loose family bonds but it was the right and only possible decision and it was also the beginning of slowly coming back to life, with years of hard soul work and now I start to thrive.
Thank you for this great talk it helped me a lot to understand many of the hidden mechanisms
Jodi I have chills. I see how smart you are, how talented, how BRAVE. Excellent presentation. In 20 minutes you helped so many.
Amazing. Artful. Brave. Wonderful. Thank you so much!!
Thank you for your incredible courage. Thank you for speaking out for us. Let the revolution of speaking out begin. No more silence, no more shame.
Beautiful! Thank you for sharing your voice and your truth.
Amazing! My favorite TED Talk. Truly , hits home for me. Thank You for standing up and speaking out.
Left without words...by far the best Ted Talk. She is so amazing !
Thank you Jodi....you don't know how much your words mean to me. 😢😢
My gratitude to you, now and always ❤️
You are an angel. Brave, intelligent, self-less, helping others. I hope you continue to heal, heal, heal. Thank you for sharing your story. Much love.
Jodie - you are brave, beautiful, worthy, and loveable. green light - go baby girl! Aloha
Thank You so much 😭💕
Well done! Well spoken. Bravo!
wow I was amazed by your story and the courage to share with others. Your story touched and moved me and thanks so much for sharing it.
Exquisite . Thank you very much !
Thank You so much for your clear clean heart felt expression, the courage you found in breaking your silence, may it have a remarkable domino effect and loose much deep seated shame and open and expose many love filled hearts
How awesome. Thank you for breaking your silence.
Victim to Victor!!!
We are not victims but victors!
I am so impressed with how brave you are. this needs a tremendous amount of brave, courage and love to do so. you are loveable and worthy. love
Thank you!!!
I just spoke about it this year. I finally reported it to the police in February. It was the hardest decision of my life. I had been so deeply ashamed, embarrassed and uncomfortable at the thought of actually describing everything that happened in every last detail which scared me out of reporting it to the police sooner. Now there's an ongoing investigation and my investigating officer told me that I will go to court next summer. I've never been to court before, but I have seen how awful it is for victims in court on TV so I am so afraid of being cross examined and being made to look like I am the guilty one.
Only 3 of my friends and my cousin who I only just told 2 months ago and swore her to secrecy know. My mum doesn't know. I wanted so badly to tell her the day it happened, but I really didn't know how to tell her but all I could do was take the longest shower of my life. I ended up keeping it to myself for 4 years until I told my first friend and only because he had confided his deepest secret in me. The majority of my family and friends don't know. I'm just that girl who developed Anorexia, Bulimia then Anorexia again, depression, self harm, was very angry and tried committing suicide a number of times, but they don't know why. I'm also that girl who always smiles, always says I'm fine and makes jokes all the time just to make everyone else happy.
I was just diagnosed with PTSD 4 months ago in August and will be starting therapy hopefully in January. I have been in therapy since I was 15, but I never concentrated on the sexual abuse but all the other problems I had instead, mainly self harm and Anorexia, so what happened was when I finally spoke about it to the police, because I had to take myself back there emotionally and physically to identify the place where it happened, I had a complete melt down. I was having nightmares daily and having flashbacks repeatedly throughout the day. I couldn't take it anymore and I became incredibly depressed and suicidal and was too afraid to leave my house. I never felt so vulnerable and like my life was in danger as much as I did throughout February and March. I just lost it. I regretted ever speaking about it to the police because of the wounds it opened after years of somewhat successfully suppressing and ignoring the reality and the memory of what happened.
+Hil S wow!! Thank you for sharing! I hope you can heal someday!! Wish you all the best!
+Hil S Im sorry to hear what happened to you, it is not ok. Perhaps now you have disclosed you can work towards finding some peace! Take care
+Hil S So what did happen and what was the relationship that you had with this alleged abuser? You have said nothing to convince us that this abuse happened. What you have told us is that you have mental health problems. The sort of mental health problems you have don't usually have to have anything to do with abuse. Mental health problems are normally caused by genetic factors alone. The brain is a very resilient organ and it mends ... even from severe physical trauma.
The severe depression you have is caused by a genetic factors or perhaps your mother used recreational drugs when she was pregnant with you. Either way your brain has a chemical imbalance which can be helped by using medication.
Your depression disease causes things such as anorexia, bulimia and self harm ... these in turn cause a dietary imbalance which makes the chemical imbalance worse.
I have no doubt you have been to a counsellor. Counsellors are notorious for seeking a cause that they can use therapy on. Such as past abuse. I think counsellors are mostly ignorant of the brain and how it works. Some are feminists who want to blame men for everything. I doubt if the depression you have and the abuse are related.
Your counsellor has probably convinced you of this falsehood so they can extend their time with you rather that just sending you to a doctor.
+Hil S I agree with Harry. Just remember ANYONE with mental illness can be diagnosed with PTSD. Just produce tears, have a mental illness which produces abnormal behaviour, and a PTSD diagnosis will arrive. I think you need to tell us what you think happened and what the counsellor might have led you to believe. There are many women with mental illness now who want to blame a man who was attracted to them but doing this won't solve your problems.
There are equal numbers of men with mental illness. They don't rush to a counsellor who tells them it was a woman who caused all their problems. Even if they do the man doesn't rush to the police.
Compensation solicitors love the money that comes from mentally ill women. But it is ill begotten money.
It is quite normal for a mentally ill person to take drugs. Drugs ease the symptoms ... are you also a drug addict?
I hope it works out for you. :) ;)
I love this!
More please...how from that ridiculous counsellor did you achieve such depth of insight and wisdom? Love the rap poetry btw and please, keep on!
Harold Musetescu ....weird thing is I didn't know til later that the "sins of the father..." phrase was actually from the bible... I thought they were just words that popped in my ridiculous head.
Thank you for breaking the silence❤️
So much respect Loves you Sister!!!!!!
You're amazing! ❤️
Jodie thank you for sharing this important information. Can you share where you get your facts from?
I. Love her strength ... so brave so beautiful 😘🌹
Wow I had to watch this again Jodie this is powerful and helpful resources for who have not come from there childhood sexualabuse #StopChildAbuse
Thank you Hugs
Stewart
@Gatehouse_The
not sure if conversation really solves anything. isn't it really just getting a different perspective on somethings thats bothering you thats the real solution??? [ which may or may not come out of the process of having a conversation but definitely isn't dependent upon it? ]
in trail , on every ending start a new memory. In habit years of child could be compliment to those who work on progress in manipulate with science and others who want to join in, sometimes only one life expose to true , inside free grow to leave it behind, No side to choose is left in time only pair in basement trying to catch for new clean wear a number of acts made in passion for life. !
I'm sorry but I had to stop this video because of the rapping.
Same here
Me too
Where do the statistics come from?
[Just a statement but Incorrect statistics are worse than none at all!?! If there is a criticism of this talk it is uncertainty of the statistics.]
+Peter Smythe Very good. Most of these comments are contrived and insipid. I suspect a therapy group in drug rehab who were asked to make positive comments.
Just google Christina Hoff Sommers and "one in four" myth.
+Harry Seldon I can't remember exactly where and what I will look at you suggestion and perhaps a bit deeper.
I really do take issue with incorrect statistics, some of the people who carelessly throw them around don't quite realize that the statistics (combined with hysteria often) can effect a whole system of laws and issues and many people's lives (Hitler also used statistics; and a lot of people blindly believed many/all of them at a tremendous cost).
+Peter Smythe I like the video series "ManWomanMyth" and "Fiamengo File". These people both expose the falsehoods of some of the feminist false statistics.
+Harry Seldon I have seen much of that. It brings up a lot of good points. As an outsider I can't verify the claims and counter claims. I haven't found the time to care enough, I guess I enjoy being critical though.
The only problem that I possibly have with the statistics is if they actually aren't correct. Otherwise that is fine then if they are actually true.
I feel sad that what happened you. I'm just wondering why does your poem have to sound like rap. Your rap sounds like gangster ghetto. Rap usually associated expressing against rival gangs, police authorities, or rebelling against the peace. It doesn't seem to fit your speech (speaking) tone and personality. Still I admire your rap talent. Have you ever compete in a freestyle rap battle contest?
Thanks for speaking out and sharing.
+Vincent Uy It IS rap, you moron!