Simone's "husband" relies on his looks because his money isn't long enough to sustain a real so-called gold digger or "Baddie." He wants to be the Baddie. Lol.
Hes a football player who is making more money then most men in the world he has fame status and money most things women would want and works out hes not really missing anything in reality in that context. Hes not soley using his looks alone
🎯 I am 57 years old and I agree with just about everything you say..I even have my 33 year old son admiring your teachings.. keep up the good work and may GOD continue to bless you and your family.
What Tony is speaking is the truth. If you are a single woman in this dating market then you have to take these things into consideration. If you know you’re average and a man way better looking than you is pursuing you then you have to wonder why. I don’t think I’m ugly. I’m fit and keep myself looking nice but i know as a brown skin woman I’m not the standard of beauty for most men. I understand that I Will most likely have to choose an unattractive man if I want him to be a provider for me. I will also most likely have to venture outside of my race as well. Some of y’all have to be honest with yourselves. Just focus on looking your best and being realistic when dating
I had to realize this as well and my current boyfriend is not my usual type; however he treats me amazing and brings the money. I remember last week we were at a comedy show and people just stared at us because they trying to figure out how did that nerd guy pull her.
I've always understood what Tony meant by looks compatibility... it was not based on his personal view and is based on societal views and if everyone listened to understand, they would understand this.
Well, Tony broke this down. And he is very much right with men gain points due to be able to provide and women gain points with her level of attraction. It is what it is.
You are right, Tony, a lot of people only seek to prey on people. It doesn't mean the person is unattractive it's that alot of people know they can use their body and looks to scam vulnerable people. I pray Simone biles is ok!!!
I learned as a teenager to not be delusional and reach for the stars as far as looks are concerned and I began to scrimmage at the bottom of the barrel and still ended up getting played. I just can't win for losing, but I gotta admit I wasn't conducting myself as Tony has taught me to so I've got a lot of inner work to do.
I wanna say I did the same thing (or something similar) as you did and got burned...the lesson: we don't have to scrimmage at the bottom of the barrel just because we aren't prioritizing "looks". Attraction still matters.
this right here. looks dont atter as much as character. alot of men that are unattractive have great personality, which leads to cheating and big ego. character is what matters the most
If a man notices another man's "beauty" it doesn't mean that you're gay. A handsome man is a handsome man. An unattractive man is an unattractive man. Means nothing. I don't know...I think that the people in the comments who would even suggest that about you Tony have some maturing to do. I have older guy friends (in their 50s and 60s) that can say their son looks handsome or can acknowledge if a man looks sharp in a suit or whatever it is, and they feel secure within themselves as a man. It's not a big deal to acknowledge one another unless you make it a big deal. Same thing with telling another man you love him. I love it when I see men say, "I love you, brother/dad etc. We NEED more love in this world. We need to be telling each other that we love one another and are here for each other. I work in a field where people are starved for love.
The bottom line is… YOU HAVE TO BE GENUINELY IN LOVE WITH YOU & KNOW YOUR WORTH. No matter what gender, color, shape, or size you have to love you thee absolute most, get to know yourself and constantly work on self-improvement and what that looks like to you in all areas. If you do not have this mindset, you will be a follower, be used, conned and taken advantage of in some form or fashion whether that’s in a relationship or at work. KNOW YOUR WORTH AND ADD TAX! Always focus on your abundance, mind, body and soul… then you will be able to feel and easily know what is genuine, what is fake, what is influenced by society etc. You will move this way in all situations in life and only get better at it!! 👑
I definitely get what Tony is saying some dudes be trying to make me an acceptation to the rule because I’m dark skin but I have the features society deem as attractive and soon as a guy tell me, “you the first dark skin girl I actually find attractive” or “I didn’t even like dark skin girls at first” ion even pay them any mind after that cause boy bye! It be black boys same color as me saying that too me…..
A grown man darker than me just told me he prefers lighter skin women or Hispanic women. I ask why did you ask for my number? He said because he likes peace now.🙄 I haven’t responded.
@@GlamrocsBLOCKED!! Girl I’m glad you ain’t give him the time or the day!! And I don’t understand why they think a skin complexion dictate a person personality! People are slow
Tony, your explanation of “looks compatibility “ was very clear to me. I sure hope everyone who has seen this video and listened to you actually heard you.
I don’t know why some of yall still confused. Tony is talking about the WORLDLY VIEW and SOCIETY VIEW of types…Go look at football players, top celebrities men and basketball players? They are choosing mixed race ambiguous women. Not nobody that looks like Simone Biles. You see Serena Williams had to go outside her race.
Points well taken Tony👏 👌you said the key words why people cannot understand certain facts is because they don't listen to understand they operating out of their own insecurities. Keep sharing the LIGHT! Blessings 🙌
Also people are coming from an internalized belief and insecurity! I’m darkskin and i am very aware of everything Tony is saying but I’m not offended simply cause I’m not internalizing or taking the realities of the world personally! I simply choose not to become a victim and be offended by something I can’t control 🤷🏽♀️
Lots of parents don't know. I share Tony's teachings with my Mom to help her as well....many parents did they best they could but just didn't have to tools and grew up bathed in toxicity.... speaking from my experiences and those I know...
I know no one wants to hear it that they might be less attractive than what they’re driving for in a partner but it’s true Tony it’s fax. They used to call it a face match but couples who look more similar and more compatible. Have more success rate in marriage. It’sscientifically proven
Understanding the concept of Looks Compatibility is empowering. Understanding this will help individuals successfully navigate romantic relationships as well as assist parents in child rearing. Who we choose to marry is one of the most important decisions of our lives. We must make wise choices and help our children make wise choices. Thank you, Tony. You’re continuously positively contributing to our society. God bless you.😇
Example: Michael Jordan married the societal standard twice. His first wife’s look was being praised & promoted during the time he married her, and his second wife’s look was being praised & promoted when he married her. Also, Jordan’s son, Marcus, is in a relationship with a woman whose look is being praised & promoted. Please note that I’m a huge Michael Jordan fan, and in my opinion, he is the the greatest athlete of all time. Sooo don’t get it twisted.😌 I don’t have anything against anyone mentioned above. This is just an example.😉
The bottom line is money and fame gives you access to people and things you normally would not have access to regardless of looks...... realistically and statistically...normal regular people date on their normal regular level......looks and financially
The more I have listened to your videos, the more I agree so much. I know how the world sees me and I am fully aware of that. I have put it thru the test and hey, I have to be honest, is real. It takes a real man to really look at women in another way. They are programmed. We can't keep ignoring what you are telling us and you are speaking what it is. Thank you because this was something I had to truly sit with it and accept it and the world judge us women this way and we just gotta keep working on ourselves and continue to be authentic..the rest, God will handle ..
I actually thought the same thing when I first saw Simone Biles and ? What's his name. Until this interview, I thought that maybe they were both kinda the green, sweet type and therefore "societal standards" didn't matter. Now that I've heard from ? himself, I'm like oh he playing with that girl. God bless her 🙏🏾 hope she's happy though. Also. You are hilarious 😂
Watching from Kathmandu, Nepal. What you say is so profound and sad at the same time. I own the skin I was born in. And happier for it but had to, over time learn to love my dark skin because societal norms and some men in my community said my complexion was not desired. Thank God, I have a husband of 20 years that loves me the way that I am. IMO, the degrading concept of colorism has always existed in all societies. I equate it to people comparing blonde vs brunette hair color. While we all have preferences, some act as if blonde hair is a character trait. Therefore, making it seem as if women with blonde hair are more attractive. I think it's completely ridiculous and so superficial. Watched a dating show where, a woman wore a blonde wig but had naturally brown hair. The guy didn't like the brown haired girl but praised the blonde girl. It was the same woman and same convo. What??? Looks become irrelevant when you need someone to care for you on your sick bed or support you when you need it most. Superficiality won't fly with those types of scenarios, Good luck with that. But you know what doesn't fade over time? Love, respect, loyalty and intellect. Thanks for the insight.
"How did this creature get this creAtion?" Drop the mic 🎤. I'm done. 😂 That is so true. I'm lovn this looks compatibility breakdown Tony. I totally get it. Get out of your feelings Ladies. Tony is teaching. 🙌🏽
Tony is right. I tell young ladies not to get a man that looks better than you. Nine times out of ten ,it doesn't work. Simone is young and we all made mistakes in the past. I pray that she have a prenuptial agreement and wait five years to have a baby.
TG is 100% correct and knows what he is talking about on this matter. I remember when I was in college this was the early 2000s, and there was a young black man that was attractive and his fiancé she was not attractive based on societal construct of beauty- she was dark skin (think Lupita N complexion) wore glasses, and tall and thin. I was like how are they together? But that young man was seeing her through God’s eye (she was a hard worker, nice and sweet, a Christian). Both were Christian and that taught me a valuable lesson a real man could care less about looks, he wants peace.
DEAR DSBW. YOU are loved. YOU are wanted and you are beautiful. I know its so damn hard to affirm yourself when the world says otherwise but damn it...DECENTER MEN! What has desirability gotten any woman? Halle Berry, Shakira, Beyonce, Sandra Bullock, Adriana Lima. KENYA MOORE, Mariah Carey. DESIREABility is a depreciating asset that doesnt ensure you will be loved well -just coveted. Demand respect. Earn it through your accolades and great treatment of yourself. Desireability does not ensure a long healthy marriage. It ensures that men will beg, borrow, lie and steal to get you inntheir possession. JUST like a damn car. 🙄 I love you all and if this Simone Biles thing has shown us BW...the WORLD sees our greatness. EVEN if our male counterparts do not.
Makes sense, i remember in high school how people selected there bf or gf based on looks and status...still happening just some people are deviating from what folks think they should be with, whom they look better with. Sad but people are bold enough to ask you why you chose someone they deem unattractive
I’ve been watching you for a very long time and you never miss. The Truth will set you free. I love the way you teach with absolutely no hiccup. I know the word is coming from the Holy Spirit and I’m here for it. I need it and your teachings have blessed me beyond measure. I pray you continue to seek Gods to transform our lives❤… be blessed and I pray the power of the blood over you and your family.. Thank you so much!!!
This is so true. That’s what I said when I seen them together. His second wife will be looks comparable to him. He is using her. She needs to get that marriage annulled before it gets costly. Women need to start looking at things logically and ask why is he choosing me. Women need to be realistic of how coupling works. As an adult women I would never date a man that looks better than me. I did that as a child and ended up being a single teenage mother. Never again!
I’m glad Tony is talking about this and I liked when you said women need to ask why is he choosing me. I had a guy DM me on IG who’s not what I normally attract. I don’t qualify myself as ugly and my self esteem is healthy. I’ve never had a problem attracting men as a plus woman but I know the normal type that is attracted to me. Even if he’s good looking to others as well, my typical guy is not fine fine. He’s not looking like Simone’s husband. So when the guy DM’d me trying to strike up conversation, off rip I said sir I am genuinely not trying to come off as rude but I’d like for you to state your intentions for messaging me. I believe we can be realistic without downing ourselves. By society standards, I’m not the first pick. If I go out with a group of women, I’m more than likely not gonna be the one a man buys a drink for. I’m ok with that. But I DO know that sis ain’t ugly😂😂😂😂😂 It would unrealistic of me to want a man of a certain status to pursue me just based off my looks alone. My mindset was always this growing up: Imma like who like me😂😂😂😂That doesn’t mean settle but it gave me options which allowed me to even attract men who had some looks on them.
@@melaniegenuinely you right but you know people sell their souls dignity self esteem for $$$$ and for good looking people especially if you been told you ugly or rejected all your life when a good looking person who your past experiences has taught you won’t date you seriously comes up to her she thinks I finally got a fine handsome man to really like me seriously while to him she’s a come up financially and how much you want to be SHE DID NOT sign a pre nup. She’s wants those pretty babies with good hair and attractive facial features at any cost. How many women have kids out of wedlock with men just because he looks good or is tall well built etc. You are a nice looking lady and you can get married stay the course you on!
I totally understand what you are saying and I agree thank you for putting us up on game. I appreciate you for being authentic and sharing your person story with us 😊
It's so interesting that in a phase of my life where I've been doing a lot of deep inner work around appearance for many different reasons and your video comes out as part of my process to undo what I been taught. I never felt good enough bc every decade had a different standard of what all us women should be in order to please men at the end of the day, be disliked by women as well and it's all just a scam to copycat and buy what we weren't given by God. I started working out and lifting for 10 yrs & often times i've been told i wasn't good enough for not being thick. Accepting myself as i am and naturally enhancing what i have to be it's best is the direction i took despite what society say's. That's why I don't even get on social media anymore bc I realized how nuanced and yet small the scrolling ends up slowly becoming these tid bit of how we begin to form that program. before you know it, your in this unconscious state of making apts to get lip fillers or whatever it is for you as a woman. I had to wake up and realize wait a minute, what am I zombing my way into? Is that where I place my value? And why am energetically, financially that invested into this external aspect of me of which draws men or ppl who end of valuing you and the next for superficial things. Rambling here but Thank you Mr Tony for validating my personal journey of growth.
Yesss same for me… I’m 23 years old and I’ll never get surgery out a bbl. I’m slim, dark skin & beautiful! But I’m very aware how people view dark skin girls so I understand that and know it. But I will never stop being me! I don’t little myself and I love dark girls and light girls! We all are beautiful and I’ll never play myself small around nobody who is lighter than me I understand she may have certain advantages because of the skin but I’ll never ever get upset like I use too I understand now! In every room I walk in my presence is always felt without trying or being the typical type. When I started showing up for myself and doing it for me everything changed. Idc about society and God created us just as he wanted us to be.
@@OrganicallyYahs Thank you for sharing beautiful!! So happy and proud of you for your wins! You are so right and not alone on how that self doubt loves to creep in! it's almost like we have to put blinders on to remain focused on the many other things that we are valuable for. Keep being and trying your best! Thank you for the beautiful energy in your share! 🫶🏼
@@hellothere8347 Thank you for sharing beautiful! Loveeeee to hear that for you especially at your age! that is amazing!!! It's so unfortunate that darker girls aren't celebrated more on a societal level. Oddly enough, I can resonate with skin color challenges as a brown/"tan" Latina, I've had my own struggles. Took me a while to fall in love with my skin color and I truly feel dark women are gorgeous! Keep up with your beautiful self positivity! It's such a light to represent yourself as a unique beauty and do so for other little girls who resonate 🫶🏼
Tony - We understand what you are saying (don’t worry about the folks who are choosing to be ignorant). I just hope Simeon doesn’t get wiped out financially by her grown boy husband. You are right there’s NO WAY a man who truly loves you would say the things her husband did smh, he would be trying to protect and praise her
She’s a come up to him financially and he’s a come up to her for looks genetics 🧬 etc. How much you wanna bet she ain’t sign a pre nup she ain’t gone do nothing to upset him. He barely likes her probably there’s no way he would let her make him sign a pre nup. He’s a fringe nfl player at that he ain’t no all star high level player she was a HUGE come up to him.
She definitely will get wiped out. He’s going to make sure she pops out some kids first. Once he’s set for life, he will start the cheating and disrespect. It’s unfortunate but its the truth
This would be a great video for victims of online Romance scams. These folks sending their life savings to someone they have never met in person, based on a fake profile picture of someone way out of their league, who would never date them in person.😢
Hi Tony. As an older woman, I wonder how these situations play out and how the women in these situations will feel about their choices as they age. As we as women age, our inner and outer attractiveness is affected by the choices we made when we were younger. I am so grateful for the Lord Jesus Christ, who heals us and teaches us women how to be wise in relationships. This presentation offers another dimension to wisdom, discernment, knowledge and skill in relationships with men. Thank you, Tony.
I like myself the way i am. Id would like to go to the spa and get skin treatments and facials, the sauna experience....the natural rejuvenation route would be the only things im interested in doing 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Wow. This truth has been in existence since the times of Christ. I have no idea why this message is not understood. Thank you yet again for awesome communication, Mr. Gaskins.
He secured the bag, she secured the look. Sorry Simone you are young, you have time to start over please listen to wise council and don't have a baby with him. You have plenty of time to procreate. God bless you young beautiful Simone
Tony is saying the same thing Kevin Samuels was saying. His delivery is better which lets people follow and understand what he's saying. Thank you Tony! God Bless!
I will be totally honest...I was initially in my feelings because of my childhood trauma. As I continued to listen I know you are speaking the truth. Thank you..hope this enlightens others.❤❤
I get what Tonys saying , I watch a dating show called love island and it happens there too.Whenever a white guy is coupled with a black women they all constantly ask if he’s actually attracted/likes her lol, it’s sad but most people don’t expect black women to be able to date attractive men(especially if they have money)bc they usually aren’t checking for Bw.
Ironically that show is full of the very people that Tony described will be the average human in about two decades. Boys and girls with light brown skin, curly hair and green or Hazel eyes.
@@deionjohnson8683 wow! I watched the same show too. Dark skinned women are chosen last. Did you watch the love island games one where dark skinned black girl Justine was coupled with white boy name Jack???
@@MJ-ln4xm yes , Love Island games, Jackstine as they call it but hes not interested either, he knew she won the first Season and stayed coupled up to win love island games…Now they’re just friends no relationship ever came from it ……..
“I am a professional” 💪👏 I’m glad you said that, differentiating yourself from people just talking who have no wisdom, especially not Godly wisdom. Merry Christ-mas family
They look very compatible to me. Two beautiful black ppl. Simone actually looks better than him objectively speaking. Her smile her skin her energy all glowed up. You saw their wedding? Simone is also way more fit than him. She got strength and flexibility. He got really bad skin and some muscles. He ain’t all that. Simone is THE PRIZE!!! ❤️🔥
I wish I could like this video 10x’s. 🔥🔥🔥🔥 These types of specifications are necessary to be learned when it comes to relationships. I’ve never heard of this before. My mother has a way of saying it in her native language. I get what she means. Tony provided a whole in depth lesson for men and women to understand before devoting themselves to someone who doesn’t deserve you and waist your time. Get in the Growth Club and get rid of any false narratives you may have lingering in your mind.
Tony, TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!! You always explain things as non-bias as possible…. I Understand where you come from, and your spirit, TO ME; is pure and in alignment with God! God bless you, your beautiful wife, and those handsome boys!!!! Keep doing the work!!!!
Keep telling the Truth Mr. Tony!!😮😮 You are a true blessing to women and men regarding relationships! I am an older woman and I wish I had heard valuable information like this when I was younger. Some people really can't handle the Truth! Please keep doing God's work! May God continue to Bless you and your family 🙏
We appreciate your teachings Tony! May god continue to bless you with wisdom and long life to continue blessing us with the guidance needed to manuvere in this crazy world 🙏🏾
What Tony is saying is COMPLETELY understandable. According to societal norms, no, those two athletes are not looks compatible. I don’t understand the “rebuttal” towards what he’s saying. People were saying the same exact thing about Snopp Dogg’s daughter and her boyfriend.
I love how slowly you are explaining it/speaking, lol. Everyone instinctively knows you are telling the truth and not saying anything we don't already know. Just because folks don't want it to be the truth does not make it any less true.
As a dsbw who works in the modelling industry… no lies told here. Not one lie. However, I oddly experience the ambiguity experience from black American men so I’ve been on both sides of the coin. I get u 100%
Thank you for your transparency I'm ok with who I am not ugly at all but not traditionally beautiful I wish more people would be able to be honest with themselves and live their best lives no insecurities just happy with being who God created them to be..God Bless you and your beautiful family.❤
Great points, Tony. You are absolutely right. I would love to see a video from you on how looks challenged women can find happiness in this life without finding a mate. Any tips you can offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
I got a tip understand we are all in the same boat and you just have to get what you can get and have fun with your life. Have so fun have a drink put on a skank outfit get some girlfriends and go to a concert. Get hit on by guys out of your league and in your league just have fun if it’s nothing for you in being serious. Be a normal human being no matter what because life is too short to be hung up on a men. And on your death bed you will know you have lived your life to the fullest.
I have an idea where Im at on the looks scale. Any time a super attractive man approaches me I am skeptical of him. I’m not afraid to say I ain’t that cute. …Who sent ya?? 😂
This explains ALOT of things and ALOT of relationships and why the finest of our men on our society go for the average looking non-Black chick! In other words interracial relationships, colorism, white supremacy the whole nines…. ---- Thank you Tony. You explained what I’ve been thinking a while ago…we just have to deprogramme on our own as society isn’t going to change anytime soon.
By listening to that interview, if she is not already being verbally abused she eventually will be. And the fact that SHE drove to see him says a lot...Just wish more women knew their worth.
Tony went all the way in but at 34:52 is where he sets this message on fire for me! This is exactly what I realized a few years ago and have been carefully dating ever since. I don’t date broke or financially unstable men who have nothing much to offer but sweet talk 🍆 and marriage. I will only date a man who is financially on my level or better. I’ll be damned if I date a man who wouldn’t choose me at his best just to say I have someone. I don’t need his money but this is one way I filter out a man who only wants to use me. I’m beautiful and I know I don’t look like the presence. I’d rather be single than be used to better a man for his dream woman. *Drops mic*
Yes, this is true! I certainly agree-some of people want agree because they have blinders on. They still stuck in their own world despite the fact you can just look around and see what’s going on! Listen all of you, just listen! He teaching from experience. Keep teaching Tony!❤❤❤
What I teach people is BE HEALTHY, WORK OUT AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR LOOKS (focus on what YAHWEH GAVE U AND NO NEED FOR BOTTOX AND SURGERY) BECAUSE IT NOT ONLY SHOWS LOVE TO SELF, but IT IS HEAVENLY FATHER LS TEMPLE. YOU DONT HAVE TO FOLLOW THE PROGRAMS BUT BE ATTRACTIVE FOR YOURSELF AND GOD BECAUSE WE REPRESENT HIM. And a good body that is healthy and confident is a body that will not have sickness and diseases. And THAT IS IN THE WORD TOO.
I understand wat ur saying and breaking it down society is Influenced by social media and our own people sometimes 😊 prejudice is always thrrr we jus have to accept n move on
The Uncle and Big Brother we need! All facts and I’m here for it! I’ve been trying to tell my friends for Yearrrsss you can’t date down or just anybody💪🔥
Great lesson!!! I enjoyed you going into more depth and detail about looks challenged." Society standards, societal programming and people operating from their trauma etc. will have folks "single as a dollar bill." "I've been guilty in thinking how anyone could be with this person who is not attractive. It's not about looks. It's about a person's character. Getting involved with the grown boy who is handsome, drives a nice car and has a nice build is risky. All the ladies will want him. Don't miss out on your authentic husband/wife because societal standards have you in a choke hold. Go on and mess around with the wrong one if you want to! Thank you for this lesson Tony Gaskins!! You are appreciated! 🙏🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
So true! The wrong one can damage you. I thought it was wrong, when I was younger, to take into consideration a man assets and that it was superficial and shallow. So. Sexy and broke, was for me don't care, I don't need your money. But never considered why sexy and broke was checking for me? I didn't consider myself as sexy, trauma was leading my thinking and actions for years until counseling. So I figured once he got to know me and saw how awesome I was, he would of course genuinely want me. 😂😂😂😂 Sweet and delusional I definitely was.if you are not his one, nothing can make you his one, but he will settle for you to benefit himself in other ways. And I was like "being with me isn't setting it a come up"😂 still delusional. It is settling for them if you are not their ideal if the ideal women. I want him to be pleasing to my eats and heart and that's a lot harder to find sifting through these media programmed damage fools standing in front of the few good men still out there. Be good to yourself and grow. Your goodness and growth will draw him out. 💯
You are speaking truth here and I’ve said this before. When I was married(divorced since 2017). My ex was not attractive and people always asked why are u with him. And it’s sad but many would say,”he so ugly.” Buahahhaha but yes the truth is he was a provider and a beautiful mind and heart ♥️ but I was not attracted to him physically. I know now what I didn’t know then. So, coming from an honest person. You are speaking truth here. So, now I know that I do need to at least be attracted to the person and not just spiritual maturity. But all should be aligned mental and spiritual and physically matters. So, yes the majority is that way. And so that’s why I gave it to God to find my mate since you I don’t care about the ways of the a world and the season phases. As long as I’m attracted to him physically as well. I’m good and God will determine who is right for me and who I am right for according to HIS PURPOSE. Because one thing I learned by THE WORD, GOD brings people together for purpose. And I’m allowing HIM to do that. I thought my ex was Gods purpose because he was a pilot and taught me and I thought we would fly around the world and serve God but didn’t happened. 😂 I learned to fly but then realized I had it all wrong. I have to allow Him and also to heal and be whole because I wasn’t then. Second time will be right.
I agree with you completely, and it's sad that you have to spell it out to some people. Tony, you also have to take in consideration that people will only stay together if they have the same level of self esteem. If one person has a much higher or lower self-esteem level than the other, they will find a reason to break up because it's too uncomfortable. It's mostly on a subconscious level.
Like Tony said he didnt write the rules he just reports the rules. ❤ people need to stop taking everything so personal. Listen to understand ladies and gents.
Tony, you are the ONLY Black man I’ve seen so far that has kept it real on this subject. The gaslighting I’m witnessing, when plenty black women see the agenda is astounding. Much props to you for seeing beyond the masses.
I was today years old when I learned this concept I had previously thought about it but assumed it was jut my insecurities even told few people and they told me that I’m being insecure or diminished as a rant, this whole time I was right this look thing does exist
I think it’s important for women to view themselves individually as beautiful, as a Queen when we look in the mirror and so on but we have to be keen on making sure that the person we are with sees us the same and not choosing someone that we want to be validated by. No-one should be seeking the approval of themselves in others. I feel like that’s truly the first step in avoiding the pitfalls of this whole looks compatibility thing.
Sorry but Tony is 100% correct. Unfortunately, it’s the society we live in
Which part you agreeing with exactly.? I'm not agreeing with everything he's saying...
Please receive what Tony is teaching so you don’t align with/marry the opps.
“Heavy on the opps” 😂😂😂 that’s gone go over they heads
amen 🙏🏾
No lie! I think this is one of the downfalls of relationships
True I was thinkn that to go all way to marraige n he’s ur opponent 😮
Listen .. men and women should be taking notes instead of attacking Tony.
Y'all made uncle Tony have to come on here and talk to Y'all real slow 😂😂😂
Lmaooo😂😂 realllll slow chile
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Simone's "husband" relies on his looks because his money isn't long enough to sustain a real so-called gold digger or "Baddie." He wants to be the Baddie. Lol.
Well he is a "baddie" to the "looks compatible " folks...the snow bunnies...at least in his eyes...smh
Hes a football player who is making more money then most men in the world he has fame status and money most things women would want and works out hes not really missing anything in reality in that context. Hes not soley using his looks alone
🎯 I am 57 years old and I agree with just about everything you say..I even have my 33 year old son admiring your teachings.. keep up the good work and may GOD continue to bless you and your family.
What Tony is speaking is the truth. If you are a single woman in this dating market then you have to take these things into consideration. If you know you’re average and a man way better looking than you is pursuing you then you have to wonder why. I don’t think I’m ugly. I’m fit and keep myself looking nice but i know as a brown skin woman I’m not the standard of beauty for most men. I understand that I Will most likely have to choose an unattractive man if I want him to be a provider for me. I will also most likely have to venture outside of my race as well. Some of y’all have to be honest with yourselves. Just focus on looking your best and being realistic when dating
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I had to realize this as well and my current boyfriend is not my usual type; however he treats me amazing and brings the money. I remember last week we were at a comedy show and people just stared at us because they trying to figure out how did that nerd guy pull her.
I've always understood what Tony meant by looks compatibility... it was not based on his personal view and is based on societal views and if everyone listened to understand, they would understand this.
The concept isn't hard to understand at all. Ppl are delusional and hate to admit that TG is speaking facts.
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Exactly!!!
Well, Tony broke this down. And he is very much right with men gain points due to be able to provide and women gain points with her level of attraction. It is what it is.
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You are right, Tony, a lot of people only seek to prey on people. It doesn't mean the person is unattractive it's that alot of people know they can use their body and looks to scam vulnerable people. I pray Simone biles is ok!!!
I learned as a teenager to not be delusional and reach for the stars as far as looks are concerned and I began to scrimmage at the bottom of the barrel and still ended up getting played. I just can't win for losing, but I gotta admit I wasn't conducting myself as Tony has taught me to so I've got a lot of inner work to do.
I wanna say I did the same thing (or something similar) as you did and got burned...the lesson: we don't have to scrimmage at the bottom of the barrel just because we aren't prioritizing "looks". Attraction still matters.
this right here. looks dont atter as much as character. alot of men that are unattractive have great personality, which leads to cheating and big ego. character is what matters the most
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Of course you have to vet every man extensively and even then never take anything they claim at face value
lol. All this time I thought personality amounted to jack squat. You mean something else, not "personality".@@zero1188
I have respect for you for not pandering
Majority of your audience is black women & you're still telling the truth
If a man notices another man's "beauty" it doesn't mean that you're gay. A handsome man is a handsome man. An unattractive man is an unattractive man. Means nothing. I don't know...I think that the people in the comments who would even suggest that about you Tony have some maturing to do.
I have older guy friends (in their 50s and 60s) that can say their son looks handsome or can acknowledge if a man looks sharp in a suit or whatever it is, and they feel secure within themselves as a man. It's not a big deal to acknowledge one another unless you make it a big deal. Same thing with telling another man you love him. I love it when I see men say, "I love you, brother/dad etc. We NEED more love in this world. We need to be telling each other that we love one another and are here for each other. I work in a field where people are starved for love.
The bottom line is… YOU HAVE TO BE GENUINELY IN LOVE WITH YOU & KNOW YOUR WORTH. No matter what gender, color, shape, or size you have to love you thee absolute most, get to know yourself and constantly work on self-improvement and what that looks like to you in all areas. If you do not have this mindset, you will be a follower, be used, conned and taken advantage of in some form or fashion whether that’s in a relationship or at work. KNOW YOUR WORTH AND ADD TAX! Always focus on your abundance, mind, body and soul… then you will be able to feel and easily know what is genuine, what is fake, what is influenced by society etc. You will move this way in all situations in life and only get better at it!! 👑
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Speak Sis!!! 100%!
Great message appreciate it 🙏🏾
The way he talked so slow in this video lol Make sure all the folks in the back comprehend lol
Equally yoked in "LOOKS" IS A MUST! STOP DATING PEOPLE YOURE NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO
I definitely get what Tony is saying some dudes be trying to make me an acceptation to the rule because I’m dark skin but I have the features society deem as attractive and soon as a guy tell me, “you the first dark skin girl I actually find attractive” or “I didn’t even like dark skin girls at first” ion even pay them any mind after that cause boy bye! It be black boys same color as me saying that too me…..
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A grown man darker than me just told me he prefers lighter skin women or Hispanic women. I ask why did you ask for my number? He said because he likes peace now.🙄 I haven’t responded.
@@GlamrocsBLOCKED!! Girl I’m glad you ain’t give him the time or the day!! And I don’t understand why they think a skin complexion dictate a person personality! People are slow
Tony, your explanation of “looks compatibility “ was very clear to me. I sure hope everyone who has seen this video and listened to you actually heard you.
This is so so clear that it’s hard for me to understand why it’s not to others!
Some ppl are js delusional. It's as if they are allergic to the truth.
Any man with the name Johnathan is a red flag at this point 😂😂 them Johnathan’s been on a roll lately
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I’ve had a Jonathan once when I was 19 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣
@@graceg9429how that go? 😂 I’m curious
This was a WHOLE LIFE COURSE! Keep making us better Brother TONY! Lord May my husband protect and cover me in this similar way!
I don’t know why some of yall still confused. Tony is talking about the WORLDLY VIEW and SOCIETY VIEW of types…Go look at football players, top celebrities men and basketball players? They are choosing mixed race ambiguous women. Not nobody that looks like Simone Biles. You see Serena Williams had to go outside her race.
I just don’t understand why this is so hard for people to understand. It’s so basic. Everyone knows it, they just do not want to admit it. 🤦🏽♀️
Y'all be careful...this video contains 100% TRUTH.
Points well taken Tony👏 👌you said the key words why people cannot understand certain facts is because they don't listen to understand they operating out of their own insecurities. Keep sharing the LIGHT!
Blessings 🙌
This is my first time hearing about looks compatibility. Very interesting. Why are people upset about it? The more you know the better.
People are operating with the spirit of pride and offense.
And willful ignorance.@@DaughterFire
Also people are coming from an internalized belief and insecurity! I’m darkskin and i am very aware of everything Tony is saying but I’m not offended simply cause I’m not internalizing or taking the realities of the world personally! I simply choose not to become a victim and be offended by something I can’t control 🤷🏽♀️
Valuable information. I wish my parents cared enough to teach the things that have been taught on this channel. Life’s a journey.
That part
Lots of parents don't know. I share Tony's teachings with my Mom to help her as well....many parents did they best they could but just didn't have to tools and grew up bathed in toxicity.... speaking from my experiences and those I know...
I know no one wants to hear it that they might be less attractive than what they’re driving for in a partner but it’s true Tony it’s fax. They used to call it a face match but couples who look more similar and more compatible. Have more success rate in marriage. It’sscientifically proven
Understanding the concept of Looks Compatibility is empowering. Understanding this will help individuals successfully navigate romantic relationships as well as assist parents in child rearing.
Who we choose to marry is one of the most important decisions of our lives. We must make wise choices and help our children make wise choices.
Thank you, Tony. You’re continuously positively contributing to our society.
God bless you.😇
Example: Michael Jordan married the societal standard twice.
His first wife’s look was being praised & promoted during the time he married her, and his second wife’s look was being praised & promoted when he married her.
Also, Jordan’s son, Marcus, is in a relationship with a woman whose look is being praised & promoted.
Please note that I’m a huge Michael Jordan fan, and in my opinion, he is the the greatest athlete of all time.
Sooo don’t get it twisted.😌
I don’t have anything against anyone mentioned above.
This is just an example.😉
The bottom line is money and fame gives you access to people and things you normally would not have access to regardless of looks...... realistically and statistically...normal regular people date on their normal regular level......looks and financially
The more I have listened to your videos, the more I agree so much. I know how the world sees me and I am fully aware of that. I have put it thru the test and hey, I have to be honest, is real. It takes a real man to really look at women in another way. They are programmed. We can't keep ignoring what you are telling us and you are speaking what it is. Thank you because this was something I had to truly sit with it and accept it and the world judge us women this way and we just gotta keep working on ourselves and continue to be authentic..the rest, God will handle ..
I actually thought the same thing when I first saw Simone Biles and ? What's his name. Until this interview, I thought that maybe they were both kinda the green, sweet type and therefore "societal standards" didn't matter. Now that I've heard from ? himself, I'm like oh he playing with that girl. God bless her 🙏🏾 hope she's happy though.
Also. You are hilarious 😂
That’s what I used to think too until the interview
Same like he must be bubbly and sweet…. He’s just like the regular dude he have that same mindset
His mask slipped.
@@beak2932 sho did!
Watching from Kathmandu, Nepal. What you say is so profound and sad at the same time. I own the skin I was born in. And happier for it but had to, over time learn to love my dark skin because societal norms and some men in my community said my complexion was not desired. Thank God, I have a husband of 20 years that loves me the way that I am.
IMO, the degrading concept of colorism has always existed in all societies. I equate it to people comparing blonde vs brunette hair color. While we all have preferences, some act as if blonde hair is a character trait. Therefore, making it seem as if women with blonde hair are more attractive. I think it's completely ridiculous and so superficial. Watched a dating show where, a woman wore a blonde wig but had naturally brown hair. The guy didn't like the brown haired girl but praised the blonde girl. It was the same woman and same convo. What???
Looks become irrelevant when you need someone to care for you on your sick bed or support you when you need it most. Superficiality won't fly with those types of scenarios, Good luck with that. But you know what doesn't fade over time? Love, respect, loyalty and intellect. Thanks for the insight.
Yes exactly
"How did this creature get this creAtion?" Drop the mic 🎤. I'm done. 😂 That is so true. I'm lovn this looks compatibility breakdown Tony. I totally get it. Get out of your feelings Ladies. Tony is teaching. 🙌🏽
He’s trying so hard to be polite & politically correct but it’s hilarious 😂
Teaching and beating 😅
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Yesss that one did it 4 meeee!
Tony is right. I tell young ladies not to get a man that looks better than you. Nine times out of ten ,it doesn't work. Simone is young and we all made mistakes in the past. I pray that she have a prenuptial agreement and wait five years to have a baby.
TG is 100% correct and knows what he is talking about on this matter. I remember when I was in college this was the early 2000s, and there was a young black man that was attractive and his fiancé she was not attractive based on societal construct of beauty- she was dark skin (think Lupita N complexion) wore glasses, and tall and thin. I was like how are they together? But that young man was seeing her through God’s eye (she was a hard worker, nice and sweet, a Christian). Both were Christian and that taught me a valuable lesson a real man could care less about looks, he wants peace.
DEAR DSBW. YOU are loved. YOU are wanted and you are beautiful. I know its so damn hard to affirm yourself when the world says otherwise but damn it...DECENTER MEN!
What has desirability gotten any woman? Halle Berry, Shakira, Beyonce, Sandra Bullock, Adriana Lima. KENYA MOORE, Mariah Carey. DESIREABility is a depreciating asset that doesnt ensure you will be loved well -just coveted.
Demand respect. Earn it through your accolades and great treatment of yourself.
Desireability does not ensure a long healthy marriage. It ensures that men will beg, borrow, lie and steal to get you inntheir possession. JUST like a damn car. 🙄
I love you all and if this Simone Biles thing has shown us BW...the WORLD sees our greatness. EVEN if our male counterparts do not.
Everything Tony is saying is the truth, even though it may sting. Looks compatibility is real. I just hope that Simone has a good prenup. 🙏🏽
Makes sense, i remember in high school how people selected there bf or gf based on looks and status...still happening just some people are deviating from what folks think they should be with, whom they look better with. Sad but people are bold enough to ask you why you chose someone they deem unattractive
"Get out of your feelings and get into the facts" Love that
Let’s be real he hit the Jackpot that’s why he married her quick.
I’ve been watching you for a very long time and you never miss. The Truth will set you free. I love the way you teach with absolutely no hiccup. I know the word is coming from the Holy Spirit and I’m here for it. I need it and your teachings have blessed me beyond measure. I pray you continue to seek Gods to transform our lives❤… be blessed and I pray the power of the blood over you and your family.. Thank you so much!!!
We need these videos!! Instead of scrolling on tik tok all day this is what most of us need to be watching
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This is so true. That’s what I said when I seen them together. His second wife will be looks comparable to him. He is using her. She needs to get that marriage annulled before it gets costly. Women need to start looking at things logically and ask why is he choosing me. Women need to be realistic of how coupling works. As an adult women I would never date a man that looks better than me. I did that as a child and ended up being a single teenage mother. Never again!
Absolutely. I guarantee his 2nd wife won’t be black maybe mixed race very light in complexion though.
I’m glad Tony is talking about this and I liked when you said women need to ask why is he choosing me. I had a guy DM me on IG who’s not what I normally attract. I don’t qualify myself as ugly and my self esteem is healthy. I’ve never had a problem attracting men as a plus woman but I know the normal type that is attracted to me. Even if he’s good looking to others as well, my typical guy is not fine fine. He’s not looking like Simone’s husband. So when the guy DM’d me trying to strike up conversation, off rip I said sir I am genuinely not trying to come off as rude but I’d like for you to state your intentions for messaging me. I believe we can be realistic without downing ourselves. By society standards, I’m not the first pick. If I go out with a group of women, I’m more than likely not gonna be the one a man buys a drink for. I’m ok with that. But I DO know that sis ain’t ugly😂😂😂😂😂 It would unrealistic of me to want a man of a certain status to pursue me just based off my looks alone. My mindset was always this growing up: Imma like who like me😂😂😂😂That doesn’t mean settle but it gave me options which allowed me to even attract men who had some looks on them.
@@melaniegenuinely you right but you know people sell their souls dignity self esteem for $$$$ and for good looking people especially if you been told you ugly or rejected all your life when a good looking person who your past experiences has taught you won’t date you seriously comes up to her she thinks I finally got a fine handsome man to really like me seriously while to him she’s a come up financially and how much you want to be SHE DID NOT sign a pre nup. She’s wants those pretty babies with good hair and attractive facial features at any cost. How many women have kids out of wedlock with men just because he looks good or is tall well built etc.
You are a nice looking lady and you can get married stay the course you on!
I totally understand what you are saying and I agree thank you for putting us up on game. I appreciate you for being authentic and sharing your person story with us 😊
It's so interesting that in a phase of my life where I've been doing a lot of deep inner work around appearance for many different reasons and your video comes out as part of my process to undo what I been taught. I never felt good enough bc every decade had a different standard of what all us women should be in order to please men at the end of the day, be disliked by women as well and it's all just a scam to copycat and buy what we weren't given by God. I started working out and lifting for 10 yrs & often times i've been told i wasn't good enough for not being thick. Accepting myself as i am and naturally enhancing what i have to be it's best is the direction i took despite what society say's. That's why I don't even get on social media anymore bc I realized how nuanced and yet small the scrolling ends up slowly becoming these tid bit of how we begin to form that program. before you know it, your in this unconscious state of making apts to get lip fillers or whatever it is for you as a woman. I had to wake up and realize wait a minute, what am I zombing my way into? Is that where I place my value? And why am energetically, financially that invested into this external aspect of me of which draws men or ppl who end of valuing you and the next for superficial things. Rambling here but Thank you Mr Tony for validating my personal journey of growth.
This was so good! Keep growing and glowing beautiful 🤗
Yesss same for me… I’m 23 years old and I’ll never get surgery out a bbl. I’m slim, dark skin & beautiful! But I’m very aware how people view dark skin girls so I understand that and know it. But I will never stop being me! I don’t little myself and I love dark girls and light girls! We all are beautiful and I’ll never play myself small around nobody who is lighter than me I understand she may have certain advantages because of the skin but I’ll never ever get upset like I use too I understand now! In every room I walk in my presence is always felt without trying or being the typical type. When I started showing up for myself and doing it for me everything changed. Idc about society and God created us just as he wanted us to be.
@@NikkiYourTallBestie Thank you, so sweet of you! 💞
@@OrganicallyYahs Thank you for sharing beautiful!! So happy and proud of you for your wins! You are so right and not alone on how that self doubt loves to creep in! it's almost like we have to put blinders on to remain focused on the many other things that we are valuable for. Keep being and trying your best! Thank you for the beautiful energy in your share! 🫶🏼
@@hellothere8347 Thank you for sharing beautiful! Loveeeee to hear that for you especially at your age! that is amazing!!! It's so unfortunate that darker girls aren't celebrated more on a societal level. Oddly enough, I can resonate with skin color challenges as a brown/"tan" Latina, I've had my own struggles. Took me a while to fall in love with my skin color and I truly feel dark women are gorgeous! Keep up with your beautiful self positivity! It's such a light to represent yourself as a unique beauty and do so for other little girls who resonate 🫶🏼
Tony, common sense isn’t so common but the people with common sense get it. So Thank you for the lesson because we’re listening and we understand.🙏🏾
Tony - We understand what you are saying (don’t worry about the folks who are choosing to be ignorant). I just hope Simeon doesn’t get wiped out financially by her grown boy husband. You are right there’s NO WAY a man who truly loves you would say the things her husband did smh, he would be trying to protect and praise her
She’s a come up to him financially and he’s a come up to her for looks genetics 🧬 etc. How much you wanna bet she ain’t sign a pre nup she ain’t gone do nothing to upset him. He barely likes her probably there’s no way he would let her make him sign a pre nup. He’s a fringe nfl player at that he ain’t no all star high level player she was a HUGE come up to him.
She definitely will get wiped out. He’s going to make sure she pops out some kids first. Once he’s set for life, he will start the cheating and disrespect. It’s unfortunate but its the truth
This would be a great video for victims of online Romance scams. These folks sending their life savings to someone they have never met in person, based on a fake profile picture of someone way out of their league, who would never date them in person.😢
Don’t keep explaining yourself who get it will get it.. well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
look yall,: ME just out the bed wigless trying to calculate my looks compatibility 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂It’s the wigless for me.
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😆 me too girl!
I love how you stand up for your wife! ❤ that’s how a man should stand up for his woman
Hi Tony. As an older woman, I wonder how these situations play out and how the women in these situations will feel about their choices as they age. As we as women age, our inner and outer attractiveness is affected by the choices we made when we were younger. I am so grateful for the Lord Jesus Christ, who heals us and teaches us women how to be wise in relationships. This presentation offers another dimension to wisdom, discernment, knowledge and skill in relationships with men. Thank you, Tony.
AMEN I LOVE MY FATHER!!! In Jesus name amen!!
I like myself the way i am. Id would like to go to the spa and get skin treatments and facials, the sauna experience....the natural rejuvenation route would be the only things im interested in doing 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Wow. This truth has been in existence since the times of Christ. I have no idea why this message is not understood. Thank you yet again for awesome communication, Mr. Gaskins.
People play the fool.
I got it, I got it. I got it.... Looks Compatability is what your speaking on...... Tony your awesome 💯💪💙🙏🏼
Im glad you commented on LB and his wife. They met in high-school before social media and that changes the norms of society as we see it today.
He secured the bag, she secured the look. Sorry Simone you are young, you have time to start over please listen to wise council and don't have a baby with him. You have plenty of time to procreate. God bless you young beautiful Simone
She pregnant
Tony is saying the same thing Kevin Samuels was saying. His delivery is better which lets people follow and understand what he's saying. Thank you Tony! God Bless!
I will be totally honest...I was initially in my feelings because of my childhood trauma. As I continued to listen I know you are speaking the truth. Thank you..hope this enlightens others.❤❤
This was a hard lesson to digest, Tony, but thanks for teaching it anyway. I will watch it again and take notes.
I get what Tonys saying , I watch a dating show called love island and it happens there too.Whenever a white guy is coupled with a black women they all constantly ask if he’s actually attracted/likes her lol, it’s sad but most people don’t expect black women to be able to date attractive men(especially if they have money)bc they usually aren’t checking for Bw.
Ironically that show is full of the very people that Tony described will be the average human in about two decades. Boys and girls with light brown skin, curly hair and green or Hazel eyes.
@@dahliaherrod4301 exactly lol that’s why I brung it up bc I see it happen there all the time…
@@deionjohnson8683 wow! I watched the same show too. Dark skinned women are chosen last. Did you watch the love island games one where dark skinned black girl Justine was coupled with white boy name Jack???
@@MJ-ln4xm yes , Love Island games, Jackstine as they call it but hes not interested either, he knew she won the first Season and stayed coupled up to win love island games…Now they’re just friends no relationship ever came from it ……..
@@deionjohnson8683 oh wow.. So he just used her? I thought they were going to try. 🤦🏽♀️
If you don't understand this; I don't know what to say. Accept reality. Thank you for the message.
“I am a professional” 💪👏 I’m glad you said that, differentiating yourself from people just talking who have no wisdom, especially not Godly wisdom. Merry Christ-mas family
They look very compatible to me. Two beautiful black ppl. Simone actually looks better than him objectively speaking. Her smile her skin her energy all glowed up. You saw their wedding? Simone is also way more fit than him. She got strength and flexibility. He got really bad skin and some muscles. He ain’t all that. Simone is THE PRIZE!!! ❤️🔥
I wish I could like this video 10x’s. 🔥🔥🔥🔥 These types of specifications are necessary to be learned when it comes to relationships. I’ve never heard of this before. My mother has a way of saying it in her native language. I get what she means. Tony provided a whole in depth lesson for men and women to understand before devoting themselves to someone who doesn’t deserve you and waist your time.
Get in the Growth Club and get rid of any false narratives you may have lingering in your mind.
😂😂 come on, y'all, Tony breaking it down slow and direct just as he did in the initial video! I enjoyed watching this!!😂👏🏾👏🏾
Tony, TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!! You always explain things as non-bias as possible…. I Understand where you come from, and your spirit, TO ME; is pure and in alignment with God! God bless you, your beautiful wife, and those handsome boys!!!! Keep doing the work!!!!
Keep telling the Truth Mr. Tony!!😮😮 You are a true blessing to women and men regarding relationships! I am an older woman and I wish I had heard valuable information like this when I was younger. Some people really can't handle the Truth! Please keep doing God's work! May God continue to Bless you and your family 🙏
We appreciate your teachings Tony! May god continue to bless you with wisdom and long life to continue blessing us with the guidance needed to manuvere in this crazy world 🙏🏾
Brother Tony is always going to keep it real and transparent! This is truth🙏🏾
This the same as Cardi b if they wasn't famous and she was walking down the street. Offset wouldnt be trying to be married to her or even be with her.
What Tony is saying is COMPLETELY understandable. According to societal norms, no, those two athletes are not looks compatible. I don’t understand the “rebuttal” towards what he’s saying. People were saying the same exact thing about Snopp Dogg’s daughter and her boyfriend.
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I love how slowly you are explaining it/speaking, lol. Everyone instinctively knows you are telling the truth and not saying anything we don't already know. Just because folks don't want it to be the truth does not make it any less true.
@21:38 “… Looks like someone stepped on his face. How did this CREATURE get this CREATION?” plain took me out 😂😂😂
Thank you for your clarification, you’ve explained it well because I knew that most biracial men only dates women of a certain race.
What race is that? I don’t see a pattern.
As a dsbw who works in the modelling industry… no lies told here. Not one lie. However, I oddly experience the ambiguity experience from black American men so I’ve been on both sides of the coin. I get u 100%
Thank you for your transparency I'm ok with who I am not ugly at all but not traditionally beautiful I wish more people would be able to be honest with themselves and live their best lives no insecurities just happy with being who God created them to be..God Bless you and your beautiful family.❤
amen!
Great points, Tony. You are absolutely right. I would love to see a video from you on how looks challenged women can find happiness in this life without finding a mate. Any tips you can offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
That’s a good one!!!!
I got a tip understand we are all in the same boat and you just have to get what you can get and have fun with your life. Have so fun have a drink put on a skank outfit get some girlfriends and go to a concert. Get hit on by guys out of your league and in your league just have fun if it’s nothing for you in being serious. Be a normal human being no matter what because life is too short to be hung up on a men. And on your death bed you will know you have lived your life to the fullest.
I have an idea where Im at on the looks scale. Any time a super attractive man approaches me I am skeptical of him. I’m not afraid to say I ain’t that cute. …Who sent ya?? 😂
😂😂😂 am so afraid of the cute guys… they nothing but trouble
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That is too funny🤣🤣 It starts with being honest with ourselves first😂 But even the ones that are unattractive try to act up😭
If the cute guys keep flocking to you then you might be way more eye catching than you give yourself credit for 😂
@@selenama Well Thanks. 😊
This explains ALOT of things and ALOT of relationships and why the finest of our men on our society go for the average looking non-Black chick! In other words interracial relationships, colorism, white supremacy the whole nines….
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Thank you Tony. You explained what I’ve been thinking a while ago…we just have to deprogramme on our own as society isn’t going to change anytime soon.
By listening to that interview, if she is not already being verbally abused she eventually will be. And the fact that SHE drove to see him says a lot...Just wish more women knew their worth.
Bingo… many are triggered cuz of their own trauma & insecurities. Stay blessed and Thank you Tony for your patiences 😂
Tony went all the way in but at 34:52 is where he sets this message on fire for me! This is exactly what I realized a few years ago and have been carefully dating ever since. I don’t date broke or financially unstable men who have nothing much to offer but sweet talk 🍆 and marriage. I will only date a man who is financially on my level or better. I’ll be damned if I date a man who wouldn’t choose me at his best just to say I have someone. I don’t need his money but this is one way I filter out a man who only wants to use me. I’m beautiful and I know I don’t look like the presence. I’d rather be single than be used to better a man for his dream woman. *Drops mic*
Yes, this is true! I certainly agree-some of people want agree because they have blinders on. They still stuck in their own world despite the fact you can just look around and see what’s going on! Listen all of you, just listen! He teaching from experience. Keep teaching Tony!❤❤❤
What I teach people is BE HEALTHY, WORK OUT AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR LOOKS (focus on what YAHWEH GAVE U AND NO NEED FOR BOTTOX AND SURGERY) BECAUSE IT NOT ONLY SHOWS LOVE TO SELF, but IT IS HEAVENLY FATHER LS TEMPLE. YOU DONT HAVE TO FOLLOW THE PROGRAMS BUT BE ATTRACTIVE FOR YOURSELF AND GOD BECAUSE WE REPRESENT HIM. And a good body that is healthy and confident is a body that will not have sickness and diseases. And THAT IS IN THE WORD TOO.
Thank you for always sharing these real and raw messages 🙏🏽Knowledge is power
I understand wat ur saying and breaking it down society is Influenced by social media and our own people sometimes 😊 prejudice is always thrrr we jus have to accept n move on
The first thing I thought of when her husband said he's the catch was your take on looks compatibility!
Thank you Tony for your selflessness. For sharing and helping so many lost people. Words cannot express my gratitude. You deserve so much more credit.
The Uncle and Big Brother we need! All facts and I’m here for it! I’ve been trying to tell my friends for Yearrrsss you can’t date down or just anybody💪🔥
I Always Always found Dating Apps weird!!!!! Organic meetings only for me yes my Brother Tony tell em💪!
Great lesson!!! I enjoyed you going into more depth and detail about looks challenged." Society standards, societal programming and people operating from their trauma etc. will have folks "single as a dollar bill." "I've been guilty in thinking how anyone could be with this person who is not attractive. It's not about looks. It's about a person's character. Getting involved with the grown boy who is handsome, drives a nice car and has a nice build is risky. All the ladies will want him. Don't miss out on your authentic husband/wife because societal standards have you in a choke hold. Go on and mess around with the wrong one if you want to! Thank you for this lesson Tony Gaskins!! You are appreciated! 🙏🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
So true! The wrong one can damage you. I thought it was wrong, when I was younger, to take into consideration a man assets and that it was superficial and shallow. So. Sexy and broke, was for me don't care, I don't need your money. But never considered why sexy and broke was checking for me? I didn't consider myself as sexy, trauma was leading my thinking and actions for years until counseling. So I figured once he got to know me and saw how awesome I was, he would of course genuinely want me. 😂😂😂😂 Sweet and delusional I definitely was.if you are not his one, nothing can make you his one, but he will settle for you to benefit himself in other ways. And I was like "being with me isn't setting it a come up"😂 still delusional. It is settling for them if you are not their ideal if the ideal women. I want him to be pleasing to my eats and heart and that's a lot harder to find sifting through these media programmed damage fools standing in front of the few good men still out there. Be good to yourself and grow. Your goodness and growth will draw him out. 💯
100% accurate! He knew what he was doing. I pray that she doesn’t let him succeed making her feel small! No pun intended 😢
You are speaking truth here and I’ve said this before. When I was married(divorced since 2017). My ex was not attractive and people always asked why are u with him. And it’s sad but many would say,”he so ugly.” Buahahhaha but yes the truth is he was a provider and a beautiful mind and heart ♥️ but I was not attracted to him physically. I know now what I didn’t know then. So, coming from an honest person. You are speaking truth here. So, now I know that I do need to at least be attracted to the person and not just spiritual maturity. But all should be aligned mental and spiritual and physically matters. So, yes the majority is that way. And so that’s why I gave it to God to find my mate since you I don’t care about the ways of the a world and the season phases. As long as I’m attracted to him physically as well. I’m good and God will determine who is right for me and who I am right for according to HIS PURPOSE. Because one thing I learned by THE WORD, GOD brings people together for purpose. And I’m allowing HIM to do that. I thought my ex was Gods purpose because he was a pilot and taught me and I thought we would fly around the world and serve God but didn’t happened. 😂 I learned to fly but then realized I had it all wrong. I have to allow Him and also to heal and be whole because I wasn’t then. Second time will be right.
When did you realize this and how did the relationship break down?
I agree with you completely, and it's sad that you have to spell it out to some people. Tony, you also have to take in consideration that people will only stay together if they have the same level of self esteem. If one person has a much higher or lower self-esteem level than the other, they will find a reason to break up because it's too uncomfortable. It's mostly on a subconscious level.
Like Tony said he didnt write the rules he just reports the rules. ❤ people need to stop taking everything so personal. Listen to understand ladies and gents.
Tony, you are the ONLY Black man I’ve seen so far that has kept it real on this subject. The gaslighting I’m witnessing, when plenty black women see the agenda is astounding. Much props to you for seeing beyond the masses.
I was today years old when I learned this concept I had previously thought about it but assumed it was jut my insecurities even told few people and they told me that I’m being insecure or diminished as a rant, this whole time I was right this look thing does exist
Be blessed, Tony! Thank you for breaking it down. 🙏🏽
I think it’s important for women to view themselves individually as beautiful, as a Queen when we look in the mirror and so on but we have to be keen on making sure that the person we are with sees us the same and not choosing someone that we want to be validated by. No-one should be seeking the approval of themselves in others. I feel like that’s truly the first step in avoiding the pitfalls of this whole looks compatibility thing.
Benjamin Owens has me screaming 😂