People that are too nice | Robert Greene
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A lot of people mistake kindness for weakness. If you’re reading this and you happen to be a nice person, NEVER change who you are. Screw the world. The right people will come into your life and appreciate you.
For my fellas: If she doesn’t give you a chance cause you’re a “nice guy” then it’s her loss. Ever wonder why so many women get their hearts broken and then complain that men are dogs!? It’s coz you ditched the guy who genuinely wanted to treat you right !
It’s not rocket science. 🤦🏽♂️
Couldn't agree more dude... I sort of see the point of this video and agree to some points as well but I truly believe if you are kind and have empathy be that way.. One does not need to take a stand for themselves at every given point and also does not need to hold back his emotions just so he could look tough in front of someone else and seem attractive.... be yourself and the right person would see the good in you.
I was that guy who was that nice and kind guy. Never had many girlfriends. I never knew how to act tough and outgoing. Never knew how to act different in order to be attractive. But sure enough, the right person came along and admired me for me and we've been together 20 yrs and married 11yrs. Yes, no need to pretend to be someone your not. There is a person out there for everyone.
The point is that women don't find nice guys attractive. The girl you're waiting for will be one settling with you and she'll always treat you as such.
And please, don't read this as me saying "you have to be an asshole" cuz that isn't what I mean. But when you're too nice even with the people you know are just taking advantage of you, that is weakness, unless you're benefitting somehow doing so. Even if you're doing it because you want to help someone that day.
Just never be a doormat.
What is being a nice guy mean?
Being pleasant or kind is different from being a pushover. When people talk about nice guys, they talk about guys who hide the fact that they got dick, say yes to everything the girl says, guys who can't get what they want, are heavily approval seeking. The reality is nice guys are pretending to be something they're not because they're scared of confrontations and backlash. You're placing your value on what others think. People are not turned off by kindness because kindness comes from position of strength. Being weak isn't who you're, it's a choice you made.
People just want well rounded, emotionally healthy, self aware partners.
Perfect comment there’s a difference between being nice and being a nice loser
Exactly! He means "too nice" as in people pleasing
You have no clue what self aware is don’t talk about self awareness
@@zorororonoa6577 who are you my guy?
@@zorororonoa6577..I am betting five Canadian dollars that you my friend are "self aware" and proud of it!😅
I think it's the opposite nowadays, a lot of people acting "tough" are the ones that are insecure because they're afraid of being seen as "nice" because they're scared of being taken advantage of or afraid of being hurt.
That’s a good point. I’m sure Robert meant to balance between being nice and being tough so that you don’t seem to be too much of either
beat me to it. It's called NPD
@@jordanmoore4104 be nice but don’t be a pushover
Then you are still a nice that is hiding. In truth it is not about being tough or nice it is about shamelessly being your own mental point of origin.
@@bluegiant13 yeah exactly, what shape your insecurities take doesn't matter, be it nice or tough, they're still insecurities. The solution is to get rid of insecurities or not react to it
You mean to say Soft guy. I don't understand Why Western people believe that being Nice man is some sort of weakness of man ? Be nice to people till they are nice to you, be a rough with people who are rough with you. Thats it
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Preach.✌
This guy got it
Cut! Print it!
Being too nice gets you taken advantage of
The word "nice" is so poorly and commonly used in this man-to-woman context. It's not about being nice, it's about whether you are trying to be kind as a method of appeasement or conversely, nonchalant strength. If someone doesn't like another being kind to them, they probably have some attachment issues to figure out. It roughly goes like this: "I don't respect or like myself that much, so why does he? Ew. I don't like him if he likes me because if I don't like me and he does, then he must be even worse than I am".
That last sentence of yours is spot on.
No. Women want people who like them but also have their own boundaries. No matter how much she wants you to like her she will test to see whether or not she can walk over you. She is disappointed if she can because that means you have lost your identity in pursuit of her
@@wisecounsel6135 being nice and well mannered doesn't mean you lost your identity. What you are describing is called 'a fool'.
Too nice is woman speek for unattractive. They dont care if youre nice or not they just want you to be tall and handsome. Mystety solved..
Thanks for the diagnosis my life makes sense now
I think it’s more about not seeming desperate opposed to being either nice or “mean”. It’s not so black and white. If you truly focus on yourself and understand that being with this person isn’t going to give you happiness, and that you find happiness within, suddenly you seem less desperate, less insecure, more confident and grounded
Its like going into a car dealership and being afraid to walk away. Most salesmen will see right through you and take you for everything youve got. Whereas if youre willing to walk away, even if youre only pretending that youre willing to walk away, they will likely bestow greater respect upon you and have a harder time taking advantage of you.
That’s nonsense. Everyone reacts to their surroundings. No one is happy alone. Humans aren’t made to be alone. Humans are made to be social and to be in love. Love and affection is a human need. Humans can’t live without it.
It’s NOT true that you can give yourself the love that a partner can. You can’t hug, cuddle or make love to yourself. You can’t send yourself goodnight messages, go on a honeymoon, start a family, have kids or have grandkids, all by yourself.
Traumatised people who are deeply hurt, retreat and offer unsolicited advice about “being alone” which usually means that they’ve been single, rejected and unwanted for years, if not decades. They are traumatised from a bad break up or parents divorce.
Someone needs to tell such people to see psychiatrists because it’s NOT normal to be single for years on end nor is it normal to offer unsolicited advice, telling people to be single and alone, for years. Just making that statement, alone, suggests that the person has deep issues. Its UNHEALTHY!
If everyone has friends and is dating/engaged/married and in love, except one person who keeps on ranting about being alone and being isolated from friends and potential boyfriends/girlfriends, then suffice to say that that person is the one who can’t get along with anyone, can’t be a good friend, isn’t dating/marriage material and clearly IS the problem. Because no one else seems to have a problem making friends, maintaining friendships, moving on from break ups, accepting what was and dating/marrying again.
People who don’t have the maturity to date or break up, shouldn’t enter relationships/marriage because they have no identity outside of their relationship and they project their break up trauma on strangers, who have nothing to do with whatever fuse has gone off, and remains active for years. A simple break up is enough to derail some people to the point that they lose themselves and ruin other people’s lives, because they feel OUT of control. That’s what happens when you don’t have a sense of identity and when you enter something, with your emotions all over the place.
Don’t date, if you’re going to ruin lives just because you had a break up. Other people aren’t responsible for your hurt. Don’t advise others to be single just because YOU are hurt and can’t navigate an engagement.
Guys, there is a difference between being kind and being the “nice guy” Kindness is genuine and expects nothing in return but the nice guy is manipulative and expects something in return.
exactly. females can smell that type of nice guy from a mile away. thousands of others of men saying the same unnecessary super nice shit in the DMs and her ignoring all of them cause she knows wat they want fr 😂
Yes you got it right
Have you read the book no more mr nice guy”.
So let me get this straight.. If I’m nice to you, that means i want something in return? Yes. Also niceness.. there’s not always an ulterior motive lol. It’s called the damn golden rule for a reason you damn backwards ass ppl lol
How do you tell the difference?
He says while pretending to be "understanding". Most of us, men, have responsibilities and think of these petty mind-games as being beneath us.
Kindness =/= weakness
If she cannot comprehend that, then she doesn't deserve my time.
I can already picture the sigma meme
“Don’t be nice, kill your insecurity”
I believe it’s not about being nice. Everyone should be kind but have good boundaries. If you have boundaries then you will push back and you won’t feel like you have to appease the other person all the time!
Being nice has a correlation with empathy, not necessarily insecurity.
If you’ve immensely struggled with harsh economic conditions or health issues, once you get out of it you’d sometimes not want to be a jerk to people who are in that condition because you’ve been there. I don’t really agree with all he stated but in order to gain power wrt relationship dynamics, a man has to be a jerk sometimes. Humility & Empathy goes out the window. Women are wired differently
In my opinion and with all due respect, I believe you are confusing niceness with kindness. They aren’t even close to being the same things.
I don't think he's suggesting that a man be a jerk, just that he demonstrate character and strength. Anyone, even a woman, can be too nice. This may strike you as counterintuitive, but niceness is a form of manipulation. That nice person is "performing" in hopes of getting something from you. And it really is unattractive and boring.
Seems like you missed the point.
being fake nice is insecurity, real nice is good
if you have to 'try' to be nice, its fake.
Women desire strength above all else. That is why women who grew up in harsh conditions go with men who are violent and aggressive. I really don’t care what women think though. Kindness doesn’t mean you’re a pushover. If women want to complain about men using them, that’s on them. I just find it annoying when they start to get all political about it.
This man is right, being too nice doesn’t get you anywhere.
Interesting that this was suggested. I want and will be who I am not how women or men want me to be. I deeply dont care.
That is an illusion. You care.
It's not that bad to care, but we have to care about the right things.
@@vottekmaxle6196 you don't if you're a sociopath
@@SapientEudaimonia yes :)
@Issac Newton I think it is worth caring about the right things. But nowadays it seems often that we should change for other peoples convienience.
This actually works for both genders. I was a very insecure person but I knew that it made me feel repulsed when men acted overly insecure, so when I met my boyfriend I really liked him and didn't want to come off as insecure. I chose to fight those thoughts and we were constantly around girls that were better looking than me and my boyfriend is a very attractive man and would get hit on a lot. But because I acted confident and I just enjoyed spending time with him he always gave me way more attention than everyone else. Made me his girlfriend after three weeks of meeting him and we've been together eight years now. Now we both know each other's insecurities very well but we are also aware that's not an attractive quality to have.
Who has cheated so far? Answer honestly.. don’t be insecure..
@@lyrikalinyoswiminpoo neither of us. Wtf is wrong with you
This is becoming such a cliché. Women looking for bad boys are just not worth it. Let them get what they want and move on to a more worthy women that appreciates a good person.
Your right they'll come back when the bad boys dog them out and leave them with a baby then they'll be saying where did all the good men go smh🤦♂️ by then it'll be to late because they hit the wall
Yal keep saying bad boys because most of you are scrubs and most likely dad was a scrub to and the whole DNA is trssh
There’s no such thing as good (or bad) people
@@brandonjackson3641 INSECURE much
@@NadaCero what a terrible take
I wonder how many of these "dating gurus" are actually in healthy relationships. Very few. Because they are playing games instead of telling folks to just be themselves.
Hmmm this is very true
oh yes lots of them dont seem as balanced as they claim to be... whos your fav guru ?:) some are so observant and cant help but fall for their charm and wit
What I'm saying. Also They always forget to mention that these "tricks" work, but only for like 75-80% of girls. And a lot of dudes fail trying to work all these tricks on the 20% of girls you don't need to play a game with to get. Those are the ones that are more likely to be worthwhile aswell
@@Kinobambino I was laughing at the video. I'm a nice guy, very kind and giving. That's how I snagged the perfect girl wayyyyy out of my league. By Being me, she saw THAT.
@@Kinobambinotricks only work short term. Just go out and found someone nice and cute. If youre a beast of a guy yeah you need some tricks but ppl can sense that youre pressuring them into something they dont want. You might end up metooed ... might not matter if youre used to being in and off jail :) with these tricks youre basically forcing yourself in someones life who wouldnt want you around otherwise. Does it feel that great to do that to someone? Is sex THAT magical?
Whats so dignifying and manly about any of this? He only had 2 relationships that failed and his 50 something?
Id rather listen to someone whos in a successful one :)
Isnt it time for him to calmn down and retire his hormones if he cant manage to get along with women?
He just doesnt seem to be into women at all.
Guys, just be yourself and do whatever the fuck you want, even if it includes being nice. Now that’s true confidence. Don’t make it about them, do what you want to do.
Yea be yourself and keep getting dumped 😂. And if you wanna be real, you’re never your true self around others. Anytime you talk to someone, you wear a mask. The more you know a person the thinner the mask, but it never goes away. So there is no such thing as “be yourself”
@@havocmg you’re overthinking it lol it’s not that deep. The point of my comment was don’t be a sellout, don’t compromise who you are even when people don’t appreciate you etc...but since you want to get all deep. Of course you’re not gonna tell people your life story immediately that’s a different story, man… they’ve to earn that shut lol Seems like you’ve had shitty luck. I’m about to get married bro 😂 all I had to do is be myself (and I’ve been a piece of shit in a lot of ways… to the point that it isn’t even funny) lol. You’re just not comfortable with who you are and probably have some shit that you need to work on. There’s probably something shitty about you if you feel the need to hide behind that “mask”, but believe it or not, even then you can find someone who accepts you. You need a hug, bruh. All that anger in you. Or instead of working on your shit you can keep pretending to be someone you’re not and hide behind the mask like a coward, bro. Just embrace that shit 😂 Never mind; you can just hide and have fake or surface level relationships….you’re right
People are just overthinking and being too self centered
I don't care if your nice, not nice, funny, not funny, quiet, not quiet. At the end of the day, no female is ever satisfied. You still got top models and people with great personalities getting cheated on. A wife who is on your level and communicates is the only way to a good relationship. Everything falls in its place after.
Women don't find men who are at their level attractive. That is one of the many reasons they're "never satisfied".
@@penske_material Level makes no difference. Even billionaires wives are not satisfied. Most of them have divorced their husbands. You can’t please these people. Remember, Eve was in paradise and she still wasn’t satisfied
@@bcamplite621 lmao. True
@@bcamplite621 facts!
Nonsense, it’s absolutely possible to keep a woman satisfied. You just have to understand them and what keeps them engaged without inconveniencing you of course.
People often mistake the fault of being "too nice" with being kind, understanding, loving, appreciative and attentive. Which men should be with women.
What should be avoided is seeming afraid of constantly saying or doing the wrong thing which could upset the other person, being unconfident, walking on eggshells, or seeming disingenuous, as if you are just a people pleaser who doesn't believe in your own words and actions. being a sycophant or having no intrinsic value.
I now know that my morals aren’t up to date. These modern day people really take kindness for weakness smh
It’s pretty easy to distinguish kindness and weakness. If people see you as weak observe yourself for a while. Maybe you ARE weak or maybe you send the wrong signals. Either way it’s your problem that people don’t understand you not their. No one is entitled to being understood.
There are two types of kindness. One is pathetic and the other commendable. One comes from fear and the other an overflow of power.
Tbf he didn't say you should be an asshole.😂
Get used to it or start working on your acting skills. When I decided to completely separate my personal life with work and pretend to be a narcissistic prick only when around the right people I started climbing the ladder very quickly. People like douchebags, selfish people, loudmouths, manipulative jerks and try hards. They love them. Women love them, kids love them and selfish one way manipulative scumbags always find a way to make the best first impressions. Sell out. Drop your morals if you want more out of life. Pick a few people to treat well and step over the heads of the rest. If you don’t learn how to act that way you will always be passed over and eventually no matter who you are or how long you stick to that stupid moral code and treat others with respect, you will realize one day no one appreciates it and it was not worth it.
A strong man has kindness and savagery at his disposal
This dude I was talking to called me “too nice” and even though he meant it in a bad way I took it as a compliment cause I’d rather be nice and caring instead of mean and hurtful
😂😂 Ik ur right but the way u said it killed me
Yeah but you would still only sleep with the bad guy.
@@lewisevander ewww no that’s what toxic ppl want. I’m saving myself for the genuine good guy.
@@secretook same I forgot I commented this and I laughed when I read it again 🤣
That sort of comment is not bad for a woman, its horrible for a man.
I have to disagree with Robert on this one. It's about demonstrating to her that the guy is capable of protecting her, and kindness is appeasement if done from a position of weakness. It's not about being "too" nice it's just that being nice won't make up for a lack of attraction, contrary to what civilized society insists is the truth. If a woman is genuinely attracted to a man it doesn't matter how nice or mean he is as long as she and her children are properly protected.
If a male model acts too nice it's still hot for most women. Otherwise it's repulsive.
You're right when it comes to attraction. I think there's different dynamics when it comes to this. I think Robert is speaking of what garners general respect - which is a person who basically won't put anyone else on a pedestal and stand up for themselves. In terms of the male female dynamic, women like a guy who is assertive, can take the lead when necessary and is protective - but all that can be done while treating someone respectfully. If a guy doesn't or doesn't want to protect a woman instinctually - there is something wrong, even ethically wrong. Men generally are stronger physically and women are in more danger physically than men are. If I don't feel like a man knows when to sense danger or is too at ease in dangerous situations and doesn't seem to have an antenna up - it raises the risk of both people being in danger and that doesn't work for me.
Ive always been honest around people, but in the past been nice because I was trying to not ruin relations and was a beta pretty much, but I've never been insecure, just kept my shit out there, I am what I am you can like it or love it,
But as I now grow old as a teen, I've realised I should have never tried to be nice to people, because they never wished for it and I suppressed myself all this time
We are nice to people because we care about them and would like to bring a little happiness into their day as a ray of warmth breaking through the stresses of life. Generalizing our kindness to indicate insecurity or inadequacy is entirely over thinking it! 🙆♀️
There are also plenty of people who are nice because they think its the only way to get things from other people, or because theyre scared of conflict, or because theyre lacking in confidence and security.
Ironically youre guilty of doing what you accused robert of doing, which is generalising kindness to indicate a single thing, which just isnt true.
Kindness from a place of security and confidence is genuine. Kindness out of necessity is slimey and manipulative.
If someone is acting too nice means he’s hiding something but if someone’s nature is nice I think he’s stronger since it’s so hard to be really nice 😊
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Just be yourself, no mind games and be considerate at all times. Do to another person what you would like them to do to you!
Looks are important, but anyone can dress up. Being the type of girl that we guys can just be our true selves around and still vibe with is key.
Good looking guys who are nice get women.
Its about looks. Nothing to do with being 'nice' or not.
@@the-based-jew6872 yessir
@@the-based-jew6872 wrong, i am very handsome and fit and women that initially show interest completely lose it as i interact with them, getting friendzoned knowing the girl thought you were hot is worse than being ugly and getting friendzoned since the start
No one who is "too nice" is being their true self. Thats the whole point. Theyre doing it out of insecurity and a lack of confidence.
In the last days good will be bad and bad will be good
Its best to be alone, humans are just too much to deal with.
Facts 😂😂😂😂😂
Yet you’re dealing with them here. I highly doubt you’re 100% an island.
My dogs are awesome, better than humans, I chill with them for hours and hours with no insecurities nor any pretense.
I know whats naturally insecure as well: a woman who has a ton of make up in her face and cant leave the house without her "warpaint"
I think women who use constantly use makeup actually are insecure. You'll hear rationales like "I'm confident the way I look", "We do this for ourselves, not for men" or "makeup is to express ourselves".
1. You can't be confident the way you look if you need to 'enhance, alter or hide' your facial features with makeup.
2. You do this for yourselves if you apply makeup while home alone with no intent of going out.
3. Ok, to whom are you expressing yourself to?
Yeah, absolutely. Women really have the easy way when it comes to mating. They could be insecure or arrogant, awkard or unfunny , dominant o submissive, feminine or masculine, promiscuos or virgin.. be sure that they will find their mate, in some ways or others.
@@Dickson_ yessir, all BS - from psychological POV this is not having accepted yourself the way you look naturally
@@comealsolito804 yes, and there are studies on that
@@comealsolito804 You probably could too if you complained less
I'm nice to all souls. I don't see what I'm insecure about. I just love being human. Humans need to be nice.
Stephen Hawkins trying to roll into her DMs
😂😂😂
Simps makes everything worse
Better than abusers I guess
I totally agree with him! I’ve said before that I couldn’t be with a man that I know that I could walk all over. I wouldn’t try to, because I’m not that kind of woman who would, but just to prove a point; you can tell if someone is too soft & doesn’t have healthy boundaries & no woman that has any sort of integrity, would be or stay in a relationship like that. There are also people out there, like narcs, that will take total advantage of them. I like a man who’s in touch with his feelings, yet I also knows how to BE a man.
'No good deed goes unpunished'
Clare Boothe Luce
This is really messed up. A nice guy can kick your head the same way as a jerk can. With the little difference that the jerk will humiliate the women, and put her in more dangerous situation that he himself can handle Lol
A real man is strong, tough and muscline with everybody behalf with his own woman... True love makes him sensitive and nice with his soulmate....
If you’re genuinely nice continue to be nice. They’ll get their heart broken multiple times but they’re not the ones you want anyway they don’t match the energy the right girl/guy will come along like you and appreciate and match your good energy. People say I stopped being nice and got so many women that’s the thing it doesn’t find you the right one that’s why there’s so many stay strong and do what you know is right
… but also don’t be a push over and know when to stick up for yourself. If you don’t have your own back you can’t expect anyone else to. Lessons I’ve lived learned
She is just shaking her head peetending agreeing
Women - Men should accept us for who we are
Women - Men literally have to change and customize themselves for us
Women - We want equality
men and women are literally hardwired differently, read rollo tomassi's books
@@satoshinakamoto7253 i ain’t reading book of a man that killed Exley’s father
Moral of the story: Don't take what women say too seriously. Wisdom that previous generations knew more about.
There is a difference between nice guy and a gentleman. Nice guy expects something in return, gentleman do the right thing and don't expect something in return because they have values. Sometimes in the world we should not let other people step our boundaries
Toughness comes from inside, being sharp and precise, also taking responsibilities of your actions. Being tough (just from outside) could mean you’re insecure, too.
it's not about being nice, it's about being honest with folks
I am always trying to be nice and respectful. I don't really care what some random people say on internet. I want to be better person and if i die lonely i dont mind.
Nah you should definitely care if you die lonely 😂
@@weareallone8442 why because society wants me to have someone :) and if i dont have someone i am unsuccessful? :) i dont really mind, i am ugly piece of s. and women on top of ladder would have never date me and i am not going to date someone judt because i should :)
@@DantesFromHospital it’s not about being unsuccessful. You’ll live a more happy life if you die with someone. Also you shouldn’t call yourself ugly. Just because you think you’re ugly doesn’t make it true. There’s around 8 billion people in this world so that means there had to be at least 100 people who saw you in public and think you look attractive. There’s no such thing as an ugly person. The true ugliness cums from a bad personality.
@@weareallone8442 naah i am almost sure that you know that this isnt true :) of course there are 3 categories: ugly, average looking and good looking people :) yea every girl may have different opinion and rating, one would give me 1/10 second 3/10 and third would give me 2 out of ten. I agree outside look isnt everything and there are bonus points for attributes like money, funny, maybe intelligence and 1milion other things(every girl has different value in those). But as I said girls on top of the ladder which can choose their man from big amout of men avaiable would never choose me, because it makes no sense to choose me. She can have better looking man, smarter, funnier, more kind if she likes that and whatever else. Dont take me wrong i am not crying that life is unfair, we all have different cards and its ok. I am just saying how it is. Thats why i will die alone :)
@@DantesFromHospital it is true. You just don’t notice it because you have this mindset that no woman thinks you’re attractive. Once you get the confidence to know this isn’t true. Trust me you’ll get into relationships.
I like how she is contributing to the whole conversation, lol
Crickets inside her skull keep distracting her
@@alex-p lmao I'm💀:D
well sometimes people that hosts podcasts do this thing called 'listening', and they let the guest talk uninterrupted. Just a thought.
@@danferraro3598 Took the words right out of my mouth. Well said.
Lmao #legend
Robert Greene is not easy to look at 😭😭😭
I think acting too nice can be bad and acting too tough can be bad. Finding a balance in being nice and tough and be beneficial in my opinion.
This dude is all theory.
Found the virgin
Too many dudes concern themselves w what a women wants. What do you want
Robert, you are helping so many people.
❤
I always pause shorts and videos whenever i see this types of videos and directly jump to comment section where real world heroes and wounded warriors tell thier story
Thanks to all who share thier real life story ypu people really inspire young people to look at life from another perspective 🫡
I’m a nice guy! I’m proud of it! My kindness is a strength! Not only bc I’m polite & kind, I can spot all types of temperaments. I’m definitely taking notes 📝 on body language & all human behaviors to know & read people even better than I do now but I truly am glad that I’m not awful in spirit & in being.
Thank you for your regards! Great people, Good people, nice people, all need to be recognized time & again.
It keeps the morale up with zeal!
To all who read this... it feels amazing to be in a state of awesomeness!
I think guys try to pretend that they have all the answers in order to impress women that normally would never date them.
exactly
Haha. That only works for so long. It's not about having answers, it's about being reliable and showing genuine care.
@@Violets14
I was talking about the guy who was talking. Because that’s what he was clearly trying to do. It was sarcasm.
@@JD37 oh! Haha. Ok 😀 Well I don't know if he pretends that but I think the material is consistent with his books that mostly focus on certain social skills. I don't think he took this interview to date the interviewer but I can understand what you are saying guys do generally. Hopefully this benefits his reach toward a larger audience.
@@Violets14
Uh huh.
There’s no such thing as being “too nice” it’s people who’s just too toxic, especially modern women, unfortunelty
change my mind.
Just being nice wouldn't work in today's era. My mentor once told me, That I must become a benevolent and straight forward demon from inside.
Your mentor? LOL
I hear that , really it needs to be internal before externalized that's why it feels the way it does... phake lol
@@zbigniewvolkov7952 Yeah it's good to have one. My business teacher taught me many great things.
@@Rishabh-Dev your business teacher is just that, a business teacher. Life is not a business. You should goto someone who actually deals with life like a guru who can give you some better pointers.
@@vssss9018 He's a millionaire bro.( in terms of dollars). Yet he give free lectures in Colleges and institutions. His own institute give free scholarships to those who cannot afford private colleges. I was one of the kids who received free scholarship via the institute. I feel myself extremely lucky to have a mentor like him. 🙏
Didn’t think I’d ever live in a world where being too nice was a weakness in a man. One day, this girl I knew texted me and asked me bluntly, “why are you being so nice to me?” I think she assumed that I was trying to sleep with her (like the way most girls think these days). I was so completely baffled that I didn’t know what to say. People aren’t used to being treated nicely in today’s world because they’re getting treated like garbage and that’s all they know. Pretty sad.
Fr. This is me atm.
The key is be respectful but lead.
We can apply this in every part of life we should never do something TOO much
Remember if you act a certain way around women you're simp.
She is for the streets brotha
Show kindness only to the worthy ones.
Robert Greene you are a legend I love you and your books
I’m glad a man stated this: women catch so much heat for liking “bad boys”. It’s not so much that women want to be hurt and disrespected, but no one wants to feel like your entire universe. It’s an overwhelming responsibility. Plus women look to be men for security: hard to do that when you don’t feel like he’s even secure within himself.
word!
Yep
So inflict pain!
As the old chinese proverb says: "treat 'em mean keep 'em keen"
The world is divided on lot of things. Just be yourself and improve yourself.
Be kind. Be a gentleman. Be confident.
Women tend to choose the overly nice guys for marriage due to their unresistable attitude of pleasing others.
Alpha fux beta buxxxx
@Kemohr Sesay Theres data behind his claim. Women seeking short term sexual relationships will prefer testosterone laden men whereas women seeking long term co paternal relationships look for men with lower levels of testosterone
And just to add on average, men's levels of testosterone start to drop by the time their wife gets pregnant and more so I belive when interacting with the child
@@davyroger3773 "Sucker" is the word you were looking for. You are welcome.
@Kemohr Sesay in any rate, sexual selection works in mysterious ways in the realm of mankind, mainly because laws and education are working against nature, in creating more "nice guys" and making them successful, due to the fact that our system of meritocracy will value intellectual efforts more than being a badass. hence nice guys flourish and women, being what they are, will follow their interests.
of course, overall women like the aesthetics of a tough guy, but reality is more complex than what it appears to us.
You know what thats really lame. Ive been a Nice guy for a long time and it doesnt mean im weak.
I think being confident is also being able to show a humble side trough kindness which in turn builds character. But again not too much to the point where you become a pushover.
My take on this
There's a difference between being kind out of genuine compassion and being kind as a compensation for your insecurities.
People aren’t necessarily being too nice because they are insecure, some people just don’t want to be arseholes. I try to be kind but if someone mistakes that as a weakness then I’m able to stop being kind very quickly.
Thats so garbage some people are just nice because they were raised nice not because they are insecure
'raised nice' is all too often a code for being a doormat for people. i can say from experience.
@@omp365 i mean thats you not all people are same all i know good guys always finish last but what they dont say is most finish with the last laugh these guys just want fast date fast fuck yes the American style
You have to understand the context here. He's talking about inter-sex dynamics. I think you're coming from a general human interaction perspective. Two different areas.
Bro has written complex pieces on human nature, power etc. Don't judge on a 10 second clip, read some of it
Honestly it depends what you consider nice. Most of the time these so called "nice men" are actually only nice to sleep with a particular women and feel their "niceness" makes them entitled to it. True nice people are actually gems and there's a huge attractive quality towards them. I've noticed they also often have alot of friends and are really successful in life maybe that could be their good karma. But it's not difficult to spot a real genuine nice person to your average everyday entitled/insecure "nice guy"
I am sure there are women out there who would want to be in a relationship with a guy that is actually nice kind and respectul instead of someone who puts on a tough guy persona 24/7.
All women want to be with a kind and respectful guy but also who steps up and defends you when there's time.
I don't want a guy who picks up fights in bars or in football stadiums, but if someone is mistreating me, being unrespectful to me he won't just stand there watching. This happened before, it's nasty.
I dated a guy of chinese race and he owned a convenience shop, this lady come in and thought i was an employee and made some nasty racist remarks about him and chinese and I defended, then the lady started to be nasty at me, that I couldn't even get a job at a proper place to be a minimum wage employee at the shop (also offending the other employee). While this happening my now EX-bf just hid at the office listening, finally stepped out, and i was visible distressed and shaking and he said laughing "it was very interesting seeing you defending and fighting that old lady like that eheh". So he saw that the argument started because i defended him from the racist comments and then the woman started to disrespect me and even the other worker and, at his own shop, he didn't step out to say anything, just enjoyed his "woman" doing it all. That doesn't show respect or toughness, meanwhile he would proudly say he would punch someone he found them stealing. So he can be "tough" but not to protect his own woman, nobody wants someone like that.
@@Sarablueunicorn Well we are talking about the same thing. I can understand what you are saying. A man HAS to be able to protect himself AND his girlfriend at all costs instead of hiding like total loser ass puss@. I agree with you. What i am saying is that many idiots mistake this advice with being a total duchebag 24/7 and depriving their girlfriends of affection because they thing that showing affection is a "feminine" thing when in reality it is just a part of a healthy relationship. A man should compliment and give love to his girlfriend/wife. This is a MUST. Also, a man has to be in a position to protect his gf and not hide like a puss@. This is a MUST as well. This is why i think a man should hit the gym at all costs. Not only to look better but to be stronger. After going to the gym myself i view men who are slobs losers because being strong is a MUST in today's world.
Being nice and polite is the only thing is free in this world.
People misunderstand being not nice doesn’t also mean to be rude!.
Just being flat out honest and real is enough.
Iy doesn't matter if your nice or not as long as your hot
I would say as long as you are rich.
They just want the best looking guy they can find, they’ll make up excuses to be around you if you’re hot enough to make their friends jealous. And if you’re not, they’ll make up excuses to get rid of you
I know some people who have angel levels of kindness but if you take them there they become the devil real quick. Don’t mistake someone’s kindness for being weak.
You got people who always wanna take it far.
@@brokenshaun5065 Welp, they’re in for a rude awakening
Be what you are, Everyone gets what they deserve.
I'm a bit concerned about Mr. Greene’s health, is he well? His left eye has me worried.
He had a stroke a few years ago which affected the left side of his body
He’s a old man what do you expect some health problems are gonna happen to all of us as we age
Bet he gets loads of dates. Let’s go Brandon!
that creepy nerd get dates?
He’s married - quite awhile now- he mentions it from time to time
Different dimension’s is a great way to describe it.
Why is it that everyone seems to advise against being overly nice to women now, but this advice wasn't prevalent when I was 20? I lose a lot of time being nice.
Man he is good at manipulating!!! Wow 🤩 what
I think he might be better at writing about it.
RG is my idea of the perfect guy. All that seduction, and Power, with a dash of Machiavelli. 🥰❤️
@Dan Alexandru Iacobescu dude she's just simping over an author you dont have to do a text dump about why you hate women lol
@@ChadEditorZ 😂
@Dan Alexandru Iacobescu read the rational Male. You’ll like it.
Woman will never ever tell boys or men to act how really want them to act. They just want them to KNOW that that is how they should act.
Being to nice hurt me way to much. I had the Mr nice guy syndrome.
But my divorce woke me up that’s for sure.
@Dan Alexandru Iacobescu why you acting crazy bro
@Dan Alexandru Iacobescu that’s why I in telling you read the rational male.
And No. I wasn’t an incel. Never have been and never will.
Furthermore the reason you need to read TRM is because you’re only 90% right.
There’s much more than what you know. Thing is the single mother’s are what raise boys to be beta mentality men and always aim to please the woman with out raising their boys to think for their own priority and make woman’s priority second( I was a beta man. Thinking to always say yes to a woman and not tell her no.)
At the same time I was picking up woman and having my little fun. Which most of the time it was unconsciously. Until I finally made peace with my father and learned he was a playboy.
Which is why my mother left him and why she tried to raise me as a beta. Because she knew I would end up being a playboy like him.
But thank you for complementing of thinking I was an incel. Would be cool and painful if I was . But I never had that problem with woman.
There’s a difference with being nice and being kind
be a beast. That knows how to love.
I am a girl who is too nice. Its horrible the way people react to it & start treating me....But i dont know any other way to be. I am not scared to fight people physically or verbally or whtvr.. and eventually i do snap on people & then i get into trouble for it.. but i am a nice person. I love all living things, especially animals because they deserve it!!! (unlike humans, for the most part!) and have empathy for all living things which means that i can FEEL their FEELINGS, their emotions, as they have them & whether i want to or not. It is a blessing from God that i was born with it: it scares me to think that some people dont have it or have to learn it!! Anyways, the point is that i think having empathy has made me be nice to all living things, which is great except for when it comes to humans, because most humans dont deserve it & dont know how to appreciate it or just be thankful for it. And then they wanna act like they dont know what happened: all surprised & **** when you get pissed off at people for coming up to you & doing you wrong on purpose & finally snap at people when they're trying to do you wrong & take from you in a way that will cause you harm: c'mon, people!!! Is it really that big of a mystery why this person got pissed off at you?!?!?
Robert Greene is a legend bro
This dude be paying 7,5’s to nod 😂
Thank you for sharing this video. I am looking forward to watching the whole interview. Please, share it too
The problem is that people hear stuff like this and they feel validated to the idea that women don’t like nice guys, when in reality it’s not that they don’t like nice guys. Correlation doesn’t equal causation. What he’s saying is true, but like with most things in life, it goes deeper than that.
he just described me 🥲
I takes a lot of power and strength to be kind
I've become too nice and got taken advantage of in almost every which direction ... N it was trying to please everybody and ever since I stopped and held at my ground and just started to be myself everything started to look better and looking up
Got to love Robert Greene
There is absolutely no mistake… zero mistake in being nice. The mistake comes when you try to change yourself for somebody else. You’re being fake… if you wanna meaningful and authentic relationship be yourself if that person doesn’t accept YOU they’re not it.
Mental bites of pain is a No
Yup! I’m one of these people. It’s sad how surface level and superficial people are that they can’t see past the strict little program they’re running. Truth is, you’re better off without those types in your lives 👍
She’s got that head nod down.