6:00 "the fool is he who thinks he is wise, while the wise one knows he is a fool". ancient philosophers got it right with that and had to deal with the same stuff we have to... maybe learning from them (including the manipulators) would be wise... just saying they got lessons to teach if we are willing to learn. Hope you have a great day & Safe Travels!
Being alone either makes us lonely or curious and free, choose wisely. That child-like curiosity comes back to me whenever I'm alone on a journey: going to another city, starting a new job, meeting new people, doing new things, etc.
I am a sincerely curious independent-minded individual with a wife that loves to go on photography journies alone. It is a very fulfilling private life, but I also spent much of my life working alone in the shop. Today's world has complicated that path with mandatory technology and information reporting. Others can't seem to tolerate the free-thinking individual that is not easily controlled, or frightened.
@@carefulcarpenter im glad to hear that as I am a woman and would like to get married but I want to keep time for myself to do my art /read . I also like to travel alone but I guess it be nice to come home to a husband to hug at night lol You are right that everywhere you go most people cant tolerate if you think for yourself. They want to be part of a group in my case I never wanted to belong to any group but I see it. all around me, they want to follow an ideology be a religion or anything else.
@@irlandaise5631😊 I like to say things poetically. "small fish swim in schools; the Great White Shark swims alone." cc. 👀 🐠 🌊 There emerged a class of environmental destroyers(saviors of humanity) that came in the aftermath of the "JAWS" movie. Beware. 😊
@@HANNAHLUMERIA-it5rw So very few sincerely curious people in the World. Synchronistic mathematics is a truth system, a revealer of consciousness. So few are curious to know about it.
A person who have a hard time trusting people, has many reasons why not to trust someone. For all these years of being overly nice to people, I always get manipulated and used. Then I realized that my intense love and care for people attracts toxic people. It hurts me a lot but I'm grateful for this lesson. It thought me to change, be more wise, and have balance. Now my life is getting better. I'm no longer being used as punching bag except if I allow it. I have more control with my life, situations, and emotions. I no longer care what others think and I've learned to put my own needs first before others. Because you can not give what you do not have. I'm very grateful to God for freeing me from the suffering.
Life is better being incredibly selective of people in your close social circle and this does require a lot of trial and error. Letting go of those consistently taking away from your quality of life - perhaps nobody really "needs" to know why you make such decisions - it's your life.
im alone for 10 year imagine. "whos that black wearing cloth taht come every month buying food" a black wearing cloth dude. thats about my life. peacefull but sometimes boring hehe , at least im busy with my overthinking and """art""""
There's a lovely quote from a Buddhist book of wisdom that goes something like: If, on the journey of lfe, you do not find compatable companions, be like a lone elephant in the jungle.I find it comforting because happy marriages, friends who are ture friends, intellectual equals are not easy to find. And sometimes you are too busy just working and coping to go on a mission to find such people. I am quite happy being a lone elephant. Very peaceful.
So true! Unfortunately I have many acquaintances (the lights are on but there’s nobody home) but only a couple of like minded friends who can finish my sentence - they are incredibly precious to me.
I’ve never had the desire to “fit in”. Humans are ridiculous with their expectations once you click w/them. I love being free to experience life however I choose, changing my perspective whenever I choose.
I love being an introvert, gaining energy by being alone. I love reading, crafting, solo traveling, and solo sports. Driving on an open road while listening to books is the best balm. Being with people can be draining therefore I am very selective on who are taking up my time and space.
Such a brilliant comment. I've taken as note for me. Most people are so jelous, toxic and disgusting now a days that it is very difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. So, I've been trying to be solo person having books as the best friend. Thank you for sharing your insight.
being alone excites me.....I am a child of the universe....I can happily relate to the earth without the need to be a part of something greater than myself. Having said that, I am aware I am subject to being manipulated and controlled and yet still am able to transcend much of those forces and create my life alone
I live alone, and have been alone for years aside from a few close friends that I talk with once and a while. I like life this way because I have been through homelessness, military service, prison, and lost my wife and kids... twice. Yet here I stand stronger and more focused knowing my darkness and embracing that power within me with the balance of Jesus Christ living in my heart and mind to bring light to my life. My life is much better and balanced, I could not have achieved this without being alone. Always seek discomfort because that is what makes you grow.
I feel this suffering makes you grow. some blessings are disguised as catastrophes. And you’d didn’t lose them. They lost you remember that one Next time your thinking about people
My wife struggles to understand my lack if interest in having shallow friendships. I’m perfectly content being alone in the woods as a recreational past time, where as she needs constant chatter and companionship. Sometimes I feel like we aren’t very compatible in that regard.
@@craigdavenport21 I am a woman & I love being alone most of the time. I LOATHE forced social interactions & I avoid talking on the phone whenever I can. I don’t get along with most women because of this. Oh well! Haha
I have been doing this , except for getting groceries , for 2 years ! as I have my books and my music and for first time in my life of 72 years , think and think and being loner beats being betrayed all the time.
@@ameliaannhouck2670 Yes, I agree. Although I am married. My husband is an extrovert and I am an Introvert. And I can honestly say that my life didn't change at all (other than wearing a mask) during the whole pandemic. Lol!
I think this mindset is natural for a introverted person and it’s a struggle for those who are more extroverted and tend more to conform, the best thing that ever happened to me was being alone where I could get to know myself… I couldn’t be more happier but we all need to find what works for us
yes i agree, as someone that most recently discovered i have enjoyed being more introverted or that i am more introverted than i realized. I found I still find myself wanting to fit in with people and its exhausting because you do want to relate with people but where do you cross the line.
Well said. I finally accepted I am an introvert. The world always told me that was a flaw. Now I continue to discover it is a rare super power with pros and cons, but the pros are very powerful. I love being alone, and love being with small carefully selected people (in small doses! lol)
same. i learned i can eat healthy complete nutrition ethical ecological for 3$ a day. now i retired at 40. being alone is amazing. no karen to drain my wallet, no mcdonald to drain my health and wallet.
Spending a lot of time alone is the best option. Being forced to be alone is a problem, but if it's a natural course of action, it's the preferred way to go.
Makes sense. Having grown up in an generationally dysfunctional abusive alcohlic family, it is better to be alone than repeat the cycle. It wasn't and isn't easy, but I got as far out as I could. It began as only a moment, a few seconds at a time. It will take the rest of my life to sustain it, and heal my self.
I like going to Costco occasionally. I feel connected to ordinary people in an ordinary setting. The experience is remarkably unremarkable, but somehow leaves me feeling uplifted. Embrace the ordinary.
Something that became very clear to me when i went camping alone was that without the existence of other people it's impossible to even know who you are at all. Everything you know about yourself is in relation to others. Any traits or opinions you have can only be known to you by the existence of something else to compare them to. For example you can only know you are funny if you make other people laugh and also if other people are unfunny by comparison. You can only know you are strong if others are weaker. You can only know you are tall of other people are shorter. Even the language you speak and the name you go by are given to you. There is nothing about us that is self made in any way and yet here we are
If you spend no time alone to know who you are as separate from everyone else I can see how this would be the case, but I can tell the difference between me and other people and the opinions and ideas that are passed down to us. Where I want to stand up in my own beliefs even if they’re different and where I don’t want to challenge ideas because it’s stubbornness making me want to challenge them in the first place or there’s truly a better way to do it, if you’ll be listened to or followed in creating those changes for more than just your own life in the first place. Like he says, it’s all relative and we can’t come to a perfect truth, but we can be aware of our own strengths and weaknesses and know where we can stand independently or need to join arms with others to balance those qualities out, learn to balance them better and be contributing to our families, communities and society as a whole more effectively without feeling like you have no identity or control in any of it anyway. We absolutely have free will and there is always a way to know yourself more deeply than in comparison to everything and everyone else. We can feel complete and whole and be genuinely present with the awareness of whether we should engage in comparison or stand apart. I don’t agree that we never can really know if we’re being manipulated as Robert is saying because it’s a tangible feeling that our nervous system picks up on but if we don’t know how to listen to what our body is telling us or someone else’s is, that’s when we fall into the trap of trusting someone who’s just being manipulative versus supportive and holding you accountable to your best.
@@InvictusAlchemy yes but what you have to remember is even in the absence of other people in your company your traits still exist in pairs of opposites. So even if you are a hermit you have to have had a frame of reference at some point in your life to know what those traits are
My main point is that if we had no sense of identity as separate from anyone else we wouldn’t be watching this interview at all. He followed his heart and stuck to his guns about not trying to fit in and be like everyone else in order to achieve the success or submit the ideas he had despite rejection, failure and what everyone else’s ideas already were.
I don't think this is what happened. It is just like the old Cyndi Lauper song : people just finally showed thier true colors! They were always like this , the muggles and zombie /sheep, just showing who they truly are , nasty , mean, narcisistics!
@@BradCarr_ He is giving advice from thousands of years of history from the eastern and western worlds. This is how ever, an older way that few get to know. Everyone thinks they know what happened in North America before CC arrived but they have no idea. Here’s a hint ruclips.net/video/vnrv6y9-uNg/видео.html ruclips.net/video/E4DeSgw92VM/видео.html ruclips.net/video/2whdwK3FuHs/видео.html
Yes, accepting one's own wierdness is the necessary step to empowerment, boldness, having one's voice and space in this world.... otherwise seeking acceptance, validation outside ruins our spirit, originally, reality with creativity.... that's basic to joy, peace, wellbeing, freedom. Glad you shared all this.
Similar true story: i pitched a media project idea to my wife and let's say she said it's not worth doing it. Made me doubt for a while but i eventually made it. It turned out to be one of my most successful work and generated quite some of money.
His ability to articulate the insights on the qualities in humility and on self-reflection and what they have to offer towards a full understanding about the role external influences play in directing our actions is so refreshing… I am also encouraged by how many gravitate his way. I got a wise friend who suggested I read his book 48, even though we no longer hang out, and tbh I skimmed it, but the spirit of the ideas have a thorough respect.
Raquel Welch died this week and I’m reviewing her interviews - like Robert Greene you can clearly appreciate the likable humility and neighbourly character of these outstanding icons. Most inspiring.
I’m glad he said “To me” when stating his opinion on the examples of false sublime and real sublime. One’s own experience,social interaction and ability to actively engage with or without drugs/external influences varies to say the least.
How to resist manipulation: a quick guide: How would a Psychopath feel about this situation? Nothing, exactly. So don't worry about anyone else, what they think or feel. Focus on you, yourself and remain objective, detached and critical of everything else. It's like a game. Figure out how to win.
Yeah that’s straight up some terrible advice right there. Let’s copy the emotions response of psychopaths. You can’t even if you wanted to (it’s hardwired).Focusing on the self leads to mental health problems. Focusing on helping others improves mental health.
This is silly. Psychopaths for the most part are just people who have high deficits in emotional intelligence. It’s not that they’re emotionless, it’s that they have poor impulse control, no consideration for morality, and are basically emotionally impaired/disabled. They have very little capacity for interrupting their poor behavioral patterns. We fall privy to bullshitting and manipulation through what we find salient to us. We don’t lie to ourselves, we distract ourselves. To avoid manipulation, an individual needs to be able to self-reflect on their distractions and salience landscape.
@@sof553 I don’t think being detached is a bad thing. I don’t emotionally attach to many people. I don’t have expectation of them. I also don’t require “hanging out”. I am friendly to people, but I have really strict boundaries to keep them at a distance. I enjoy the company of few. I am kind, but I don’t fall for people guilt tripping me with “shoulding” on me. I am done caring what people think I should do for them. I don’t subscribe anymore to that tactic of manipulative people. I use to be surrounded by them. Now, I mainly deal with people transactionally mainly. I keep it simple. Intimacy is reserved for a very select few.
Wow. I found someone with the same belief that we pick up pieces of people n their energy. Determining if the feeling/emotion r yours takes some practice when u learn this. Tha k u
I like ur nails represents how humans can express themselves and that in darkness light shines and how dark absorbs more light or just senseless just freedom which is not for measure on the chillin spectrum
It is said that there's nothing new under the sun and yet I find myself constantly enlightened in new and interesting ways listening to Mr Greene. This is either because I have lived a less expansive life than I had previously thought or RG is every bit as profound as he seems.
Robert Greene has such a beautiful mind. We have to except that everyone is being manipulated and there's nothing wrong about it ,but the difference is we do have a choice ,so you can choose what you want to be manipulated by which makes the difference between alot of people .and that single choice is what makes you an individual.
I feel blessed that I have never cared what others think about me or if they like me. I am not saying I am anti-social or I don't care about people, as a matter of fact I am a very good friend and look forward to helping anyone I can if I am able to, friend or stranger. But I would never allow my happiness to be contingent on others perception of me. I also love spending time with my wife and family but also love my time in solitude.
Good video, ego detachment and honest self observation are key. And I think most lack awareness of how much we are controlled by our subconscious. BTW empathy is not unique to humans. Dogs are very good at this. They can smell emotions, literally.
I quit watching broadcast media, news and anything supported by product advertising (suggest you try it). Amazing how different I feel and can see the effect (people watching what I don’t watch) on all around. The big watchers show it in their persona. Look forward to reading or listening to this stuff. I think avoiding certain types of media has lightened my daily load. Cheers my friend 🙏
Basically: be an individual, don't be afraid of failing&rejecting, be worried about creating something boring or unmeaningful that the world is already full of. All those successful people were bold and very clearly individually themselves. Yeah, gotta make a goal out of that.
Oh come on .... aww.. he has helped a lot of people. I didn't have any skills except being sincere, truthful and loyal, living in an ideal utopian world. It took these lessons to realize how to protect your boundaries.
I'm just intrigued by Robert I enjoy and retain his imperative content. I may not agree every single thing he says but a large amounts Salaam-Peace FONT'E The Poet
Never wanted to socialize. Because this has been the narrative by consumer corps to materialize their peer pressure. Im so lucky to have a loving wife and a son. My wife feels the same and we enjoy life to the fullest.
We’re social creatures by nature. And having that time to do things alone can ignite joy, creativity, peace, love, and wholeness. It’s good to have that me-time yet having a good social circle that makes us feel alive, purpose, meaning, and love. Infinite blessings everyone. ❤💜💖🌎😊
I suppose this guy's personal life experience wasn't easy, but hey, he took the best revenge by writing the book and let the world know you can be self sufficient in most cases.
Being a lone wolf or a tiger (solitary hunter) requires solid survival skills (social, physical, psychological, and financial). It is not easy, and it is also not 100% monk mode where you completely cut yourself off the grid. This type of personality in human males is considered a "Sigma male".
@@messianic_scam haha yeah I’ve come to realise that social media is just one big pot of manipulation. Some are better at it than others, like this man. You have to have suffered a lot of trauma and abuse to see the manipulation unfortunately.
We all being manipulated, you just need to see and understand who actually has your best interest at heart. Manipulation happens naturally and also happens intentionally it's human nature to crave influence and have control but be careful when you posses it and when you consume it.
I am working on becoming a lone wolf now. I am going to do it for year and work on my own mission. I will barely be speaking to people during this time. Apart from my very small circle of loved ones everyone else can take a hike.
I find it insane when people justify highly unreasonable behavior with "we are social animals". The guy getting sacrificed on top of a pyramid by his peers was also a social animal. Doesn't mean you shouldn't look at your surroundings and make informed decisions about how you want to interact with the people in your society (or not).
Why would anyone want to be a part of society when all people do is look at their phones and their Facebook pages while they’re hanging out with you and no one really wants to have an intelligent conversation. Forget them being there for you when you’re going through stuff because they’re so busy they can’t even bother to talk with you for more than 5 minutes.
There is a thing that can happen where a denial of something is actually like an unconscious affirmation, but on the other hand a denial can in fact be true, like if I say “I am not a murderer”. Its important not to overgeneralize or overstate the scope of psychological insights. Not every denial, or even most denials, necessarily mean the opposite.
You're making a false equivocation. There's no hole in his argument and you're being purposeful obtuse. The denial he speaks of is generated by insecurity. You know this. What would make a reasonable person have to state "I'm not a murderer" outside of a court of law where objective facts are being contested ? What world do you live in?!?
@@LaitoChen First of all, I'm living at yo mammas house. Secondly, the example "I am not a murderer" is an extreme one in order to drive home the point that not all denials are proof of their opposite, which is true, as you've conceded. Thirdly, equivocation is an "informal fallacy resulting from the use of a particular word/expression in multiple senses within an argument." I only used one sense of the word "denial" to simply refer to when someone denies something, THE SAME SENSE in which Robert Greene used it in the video. What I added was nuance about what it could mean / what it could be evidence of. Not everyone walks around with a complete lack of insecurity like yourself. Some are sensitive, some have been traumatized, abused etc. Some even confess to crimes they did not commit, think about that one. It shows just how far insecurity can go while still not reflecting reality. Psychology is complicated.
There's nothing wrong with detaching from a society that is toxic, which it seems to me our society is these days. My connection is spiritual, and I'm perfectly happy being alone----and beyond some common neuroticism I think I'm perfectly normal. Media has very little influence on me as I am an avid reader and I choose my books carefully and read even those critically, and I connect with nature by nature journaling. I just have never felt that I need much connection with other people, even though I am thankful for the society around me when I need something, like a grocery store or a mechanic. Other than that I can be alone for weeks with my books and paper and pencil, and did very well during the Covid lock-downs.
Exactly. Same here. I live this way also. I was quite happy during lockdown as everything was so quiet and peaceful. I eliminated a lot of useless busybody nonsense. I went back to reading, writing and meditation and didn't miss people at all. I've let that carry over to post pandemic and have allowed most human relationships to die quietly. The other thing about isolation is that my senses became acute from within. When there's little to no chatter the inner voice/inner self kicks in. Had amazing insights and when I did interact with people I could hear what they were not saying, read their unconscious body language etc. I ended some relationships because I realized they did not like me but hung on because of convention or for some benefit that was incidental. A couple of others could no longer hide that they were users so I told them good bye and I had nothing else for them. Human companionship is way overrated and a little of it goes a long way. In addition the world is full of non human life forms to communicate and be around. Same thing happened to me with animals. Very sensitive to what they are thinking and feeling. Many times theyll seek me out. I am grateful to the people who smooth my way in life such as the grocery store, the library, ticket agents etc. but I keep ALL human relations impersonal except for one sibling. Peace
@@ankushdhawale4628 Congratulations!.All that's needed is paper and pencil and curiosity. You will hone your observation skills, and don't need to know how to draw, although as you continue with your efforts you will improve just by sketching what you see in front of you., even in your back yard or watching a seed grow in a pot. Forget pretty pictures, but just note whatever you are curious about. You can also do it via writing, both poetry and prose. There is much good information on nature journaling on the internet, with one of the best teachers being John Muir Laws. As you observe nature more intensely you will find your mind clears of all the crap we get fed every day. Hope you enjoy.
Media has very little influence on you… yet you’re watching this video and commenting publicly about your life. If it didn’t influence you, you wouldn’t have watched this particular video which uses the idea of the debunked “lone wolf” and you wouldn’t have been caused by this media to believe that you yourself are a lone wolf.
@@RUclipsHandIe Well, actually I don't consider myself a "lone wolf", even if I'm perfectly happy being alone. I consider myself a normal person who has an active brain to think without the help of media, even if I indulge in it once in a blue moon just to see what the trends in society are. By the way, I didn't watch the video because after a minute or so I already knew what was going to be said, and I wasn't interested. :-)
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The only reason I'm trying to make friends at college is because my mother orders me to do so and I have to listen to her or else she will scream at me and call me names and say "why aren't you making friends, you don't want to be alone for the rest of your life or else you'll be unhappy and no guy will marry you if you have zero friends." I made a friend recently but she used me and I didn't even know it.. I am good at connecting with people and I leave off a good impression when I first encounter someone, however, once I start becoming their friend (ex. In College) they show their true colours and ghost me or talk behind my back idk why. I'm such a sweet kind soul who's genuine and love hearing people talk but it's like every girl hates me or is jealous of me. I feel self conscious when I wear feminine outfits because they make me look pretty so now I wear tomboyish outfits and try to appear masculine and no one even look my way because I look intimidating which I kinda like. No one talks to me or gives me nasty looks anymore. I don't want to go out there and make friends with other girls. I just wanna read my books and sip my coffee in a Cafe.
All types of people can have friends. Even very introverted people can have good and healthy friendships. Seems you don’t evaluate people very well. Most people need to be avoided as they are toxic. Maybe learn more about psychology so you can find the right friends for you.
@@empresaglova1268 Basically be honest with yourself, know your limits, be honest with the other. Listen to them. Watch what they do. If you smell a turd, confirm it. Walk away.
To go a bit further by what I mean he has a PhD but he's pious in his talks he doesn't make you feel mediocre he wants you to grow , betterment of self that's what I admire about Robert Salaam-Peace
One of the advantages of solitude is that you learn who you really are and what reality really is. I know because I have lived alone off grid for 2 years. It’s a good place to think and heal. The more you face reality without the trappings and manipulation of society. If done right when you renter society you see things as they are, not what how they want to be perceived.
As someone who'd had 38 jobs by 38 years old and strayed very far from the herd in a TEDx (actually using exactly that term), I resonate with much of what you've said.
I have become aware at 59 that 90% of my emails want my money. Manipulation is So real. "You need this, You need that" I SEE it and am able to understand it. People no longer frustrate me because I learned to understand the difference of wisdom over intelligence.
Robert Greene shares great wisdom in our full interview: ruclips.net/video/bTNBf_eYY6A/видео.html
Thanks God Robert Greene exists!
No planet
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you need to stop making random sounds when guests speak
6:00 "the fool is he who thinks he is wise, while the wise one knows he is a fool". ancient philosophers got it right with that and had to deal with the same stuff we have to... maybe learning from them (including the manipulators) would be wise... just saying they got lessons to teach if we are willing to learn.
Hope you have a great day & Safe Travels!
Great wisdom is debatable.
Being alone either makes us lonely or curious and free, choose wisely. That child-like curiosity comes back to me whenever I'm alone on a journey: going to another city, starting a new job, meeting new people, doing new things, etc.
I am a sincerely curious independent-minded individual with a wife that loves to go on photography journies alone. It is a very fulfilling private life, but I also spent much of my life working alone in the shop. Today's world has complicated that path with mandatory technology and information reporting.
Others can't seem to tolerate the free-thinking individual that is not easily controlled, or frightened.
@@carefulcarpenter im glad to hear that as I am a woman and would like to get married but I want to keep time for myself to do my art /read . I also like to travel alone but I guess it be nice to come home to a husband to hug at night lol
You are right that everywhere you go most people cant tolerate if you think for yourself. They want to be part of a group in my case I never wanted to belong to any group but I see it. all around me, they want to follow an ideology be a religion or anything else.
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I like to say things poetically.
"small fish swim in schools; the Great White Shark swims alone."
cc. 👀 🐠 🌊
There emerged a class of environmental destroyers(saviors of humanity) that came in the aftermath of the "JAWS" movie.
Beware. 😊
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@@HANNAHLUMERIA-it5rw So very few sincerely curious people in the World.
Synchronistic mathematics is a truth system, a revealer of consciousness. So few are curious to know about it.
A person who have a hard time trusting people, has many reasons why not to trust someone. For all these years of being overly nice to people, I always get manipulated and used. Then I realized that my intense love and care for people attracts toxic people. It hurts me a lot but I'm grateful for this lesson. It thought me to change, be more wise, and have balance. Now my life is getting better. I'm no longer being used as punching bag except if I allow it. I have more control with my life, situations, and emotions. I no longer care what others think and I've learned to put my own needs first before others. Because you can not give what you do not have. I'm very grateful to God for freeing me from the suffering.
He is a powerful God 😊
Yes! Indeed I agree! Amen.
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Very well frased and an authentic message. Thank you for sharing
Thank you so much @@wayaca47
Life is better being incredibly selective of people in your close social circle and this does require a lot of trial and error. Letting go of those consistently taking away from your quality of life - perhaps nobody really "needs" to know why you make such decisions - it's your life.
Correct
The ability to enjoy solitude, rather than enduring it, makes it easier to let go of acquaintances that are not rewarding.
@@pedclarkemobile LOVE IT, I'M PRACTICING THIS IN MY LIFE.
@@pedclarkemobile That's true. I agree with you completely!
probly thats one of the reasons i have no friends :D
I never thought I would end up being a lone wolf but I am and it works for me and my mental health. I am good with it.
I know what you mean!!
Becoming lone wolf is a God given birthright
im alone for 10 year imagine. "whos that black wearing cloth taht come every month buying food"
a black wearing cloth dude.
thats about my life. peacefull but sometimes boring hehe , at least im busy with my overthinking and """art""""
Cool handle Commentater!
Facts same for me because ppl seem to want to do hurtful things to me for some reason
There's a lovely quote from a Buddhist book of wisdom that goes something like: If, on the journey of lfe, you do not find compatable companions, be like a lone elephant in the jungle.I find it comforting because happy marriages, friends who are ture friends, intellectual equals are not easy to find. And sometimes you are too busy just working and coping to go on a mission to find such people. I am quite happy being a lone elephant. Very peaceful.
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Describes how I feel now.
I wish I was in an actual jungle not a concrete one without sun :(
So true! Unfortunately I have many acquaintances (the lights are on but there’s nobody home) but only a couple of like minded friends who can finish my sentence - they are incredibly precious to me.
I am one with pets
Robert Green is a gift to humankind
for sure
Yes indeed ❤
What's your top 3 favorite books?
Stop minipulating him
What about Robert Greene?
I’ve never had the desire to “fit in”.
Humans are ridiculous with their expectations once you click w/them. I love being free to experience life however I choose, changing my perspective whenever I choose.
I'll test your first sentence. What is a woman?
Yes indeed! I'm an introvert.
An adult human female is a woman and eff those nasty liars who fit in by lying about it. Trains is misogyny.
@@beemonique8466I'm an extrovert and I have no desire to "fit in". I wander from group to group and talk to all.
" Whatever you dream you can , begin it.
Boldness has beauty, power
and magic in it."
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I love being an introvert, gaining energy by being alone. I love reading, crafting, solo traveling, and solo sports. Driving on an open road while listening to books is the best balm. Being with people can be draining therefore I am very selective on who are taking up my time and space.
Such a brilliant comment. I've taken as note for me. Most people are so jelous, toxic and disgusting now a days that it is very difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. So, I've been trying to be solo person having books as the best friend. Thank you for sharing your insight.
@@salmanhyder3489 Even better as a best friend than books, is God as your best friend. It's amazing.
being alone excites me.....I am a child of the universe....I can happily relate to the earth without the need to be a part of something greater than myself. Having said that, I am aware I am subject to being manipulated and controlled and yet still am able to transcend much of those forces and create my life alone
Sure buddy
Thats a cool way of seing it :)
That's right darling, you are a child of the universe-you have a right to be here.
No one cares and if you didn’t care what others think you wouldn’t have written it
@@jsquire5pa thank you for caring enough to voice your opinion...
I live alone, and have been alone for years aside from a few close friends that I talk with once and a while. I like life this way because I have been through homelessness, military service, prison, and lost my wife and kids... twice. Yet here I stand stronger and more focused knowing my darkness and embracing that power within me with the balance of Jesus Christ living in my heart and mind to bring light to my life. My life is much better and balanced, I could not have achieved this without being alone. Always seek discomfort because that is what makes you grow.
I feel this suffering makes you grow. some blessings are disguised as catastrophes. And you’d didn’t lose them. They lost you remember that one Next time your thinking about people
I’m just like you
Allah is god islam zindabad ❤❤❤
It’s amazing how the pain becomes comforting because that is when your the closest to Jesus 🙏🏽🙌🏽📖
Get married
Being alone allows me to see how others strive for acceptance even if they never get it. It hurts them and im numb to this want...
Wonderful interview Brendan.
I think being able to open up, and be yourself is a superpower, a lot of people will love you simply cause you are being you
My wife struggles to understand my lack if interest in having shallow friendships. I’m perfectly content being alone in the woods as a recreational past time, where as she needs constant chatter and companionship. Sometimes I feel like we aren’t very compatible in that regard.
I can relate so much. Women are just constant chatterboxes and gossipers. Drives me mad.
@@craigdavenport21 I am a woman & I love being alone most of the time. I LOATHE forced social interactions & I avoid talking on the phone whenever I can. I don’t get along with most women because of this.
Oh well! Haha
Women associate alot of, even shallow, relationships with influence. influence brings power and stability. They crave that in a man.
I have this very issue but reversed, im the one who needs alone time away from noise
@@kypie8 same 💗
People use social acceptance as carrot on a string to bait you …
That's a good one there. I never cared for social acceptance but instead financial independence. I'm tired of the rat race.
Correct
explain please
Exactly!
I really feel I could do 3 months without seeing a soul and still be ok. As long as i had music and books.
I have been doing this , except for getting groceries , for 2 years ! as I have my books and my music and for first time in my life of 72 years , think and think and being loner beats being betrayed all the time.
@@ameliaannhouck2670 Yes, I agree. Although I am married. My husband is an extrovert and I am an Introvert. And I can honestly say that my life didn't change at all (other than wearing a mask) during the whole pandemic. Lol!
@@ameliaannhouck2670 Agree
Me too
@Dawn Green I do have a cat, but I thought that might be cheating lol!
I think this mindset is natural for a introverted person and it’s a struggle for those who are more extroverted and tend more to conform, the best thing that ever happened to me was being alone where I could get to know myself… I couldn’t be more happier but we all need to find what works for us
yes i agree, as someone that most recently discovered i have enjoyed being more introverted or that i am more introverted than i realized. I found I still find myself wanting to fit in with people and its exhausting because you do want to relate with people but where do you cross the line.
Well said. I finally accepted I am an introvert. The world always told me that was a flaw. Now I continue to discover it is a rare super power with pros and cons, but the pros are very powerful. I love being alone, and love being with small carefully selected people (in small doses! lol)
same. i learned i can eat healthy complete nutrition ethical ecological for 3$ a day. now i retired at 40. being alone is amazing. no karen to drain my wallet, no mcdonald to drain my health and wallet.
Robert Greene is my favorite author. The detail and information he had in the 33 strategies of war blew my mind.
Agreed, 33 strategies is outstanding
"I mingle with my peers or no one, and since I have no peers, I mingle with no one."
-Ignatius J. Reilly
Spending a lot of time alone is the best option. Being forced to be alone is a problem, but if it's a natural course of action, it's the preferred way to go.
Makes sense. Having grown up in an generationally dysfunctional abusive alcohlic family, it is better to be alone than repeat the cycle. It wasn't and isn't easy, but I got as far out as I could. It began as only a moment, a few seconds at a time. It will take the rest of my life to sustain it, and heal my self.
Facts
It takes a whole life time to heal.
When you’re afraid of what others think you stifle your own creativity.
Solitude and authenticity is much better than comformity.
I like going to Costco occasionally. I feel connected to ordinary people in an ordinary setting. The experience is remarkably unremarkable, but somehow leaves me feeling uplifted. Embrace the ordinary.
Something that became very clear to me when i went camping alone was that without the existence of other people it's impossible to even know who you are at all. Everything you know about yourself is in relation to others. Any traits or opinions you have can only be known to you by the existence of something else to compare them to. For example you can only know you are funny if you make other people laugh and also if other people are unfunny by comparison. You can only know you are strong if others are weaker. You can only know you are tall of other people are shorter. Even the language you speak and the name you go by are given to you. There is nothing about us that is self made in any way and yet here we are
thanks you for reflecting and sharing
Is this why diversity can be a double edged sword and can cause internal conflict?(depending on the person, of course)
If you spend no time alone to know who you are as separate from everyone else I can see how this would be the case, but I can tell the difference between me and other people and the opinions and ideas that are passed down to us. Where I want to stand up in my own beliefs even if they’re different and where I don’t want to challenge ideas because it’s stubbornness making me want to challenge them in the first place or there’s truly a better way to do it, if you’ll be listened to or followed in creating those changes for more than just your own life in the first place. Like he says, it’s all relative and we can’t come to a perfect truth, but we can be aware of our own strengths and weaknesses and know where we can stand independently or need to join arms with others to balance those qualities out, learn to balance them better and be contributing to our families, communities and society as a whole more effectively without feeling like you have no identity or control in any of it anyway. We absolutely have free will and there is always a way to know yourself more deeply than in comparison to everything and everyone else. We can feel complete and whole and be genuinely present with the awareness of whether we should engage in comparison or stand apart. I don’t agree that we never can really know if we’re being manipulated as Robert is saying because it’s a tangible feeling that our nervous system picks up on but if we don’t know how to listen to what our body is telling us or someone else’s is, that’s when we fall into the trap of trusting someone who’s just being manipulative versus supportive and holding you accountable to your best.
@@InvictusAlchemy yes but what you have to remember is even in the absence of other people in your company your traits still exist in pairs of opposites. So even if you are a hermit you have to have had a frame of reference at some point in your life to know what those traits are
My main point is that if we had no sense of identity as separate from anyone else we wouldn’t be watching this interview at all. He followed his heart and stuck to his guns about not trying to fit in and be like everyone else in order to achieve the success or submit the ideas he had despite rejection, failure and what everyone else’s ideas already were.
Hence why the isolation during the pandemic did a lot of damage to people's psyche
yes, a connection there for sure
Facts!
Because they are watching Tv in their house
Totally makes sense. I've found people are getting really cold and selfish after the pandemic. And people don't care about each other anymore
I don't think this is what happened. It is just like the old Cyndi Lauper song : people just finally showed thier true colors! They were always like this , the muggles and zombie /sheep, just showing who they truly are , nasty , mean, narcisistics!
He had not only the skills, but also his experiences and wisdom
Yes, Robert has so much to share in his work
@@BradCarr_ He is giving advice from thousands of years of history from the eastern and western worlds.
This is how ever, an older way that few get to know.
Everyone thinks they know what happened in North America before CC arrived but they have no idea.
Here’s a hint
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Yes, accepting one's own wierdness is the necessary step to empowerment, boldness, having one's voice and space in this world.... otherwise seeking acceptance, validation outside ruins our spirit, originally, reality with creativity.... that's basic to joy, peace, wellbeing, freedom.
Glad you shared all this.
glad you enjoyed it
Well put 👍
Great interviewer…. And Robert Greene….. your existence is a blessing to the world.
Similar true story: i pitched a media project idea to my wife and let's say she said it's not worth doing it. Made me doubt for a while but i eventually made it. It turned out to be one of my most successful work and generated quite some of money.
His ability to articulate the insights on the qualities in humility and on self-reflection and what they have to offer towards a full understanding about the role external influences play in directing our actions is so refreshing… I am also encouraged by how many gravitate his way. I got a wise friend who suggested I read his book 48, even though we no longer hang out, and tbh I skimmed it, but the spirit of the ideas have a thorough respect.
that was delicious to read for my eyes non the least
I don't hate people, I hate society.
People make up society so I don't understand the distinction unless you mean Capitalist society reducing people to units of consumerism.
Raquel Welch died this week and I’m reviewing her interviews - like Robert Greene you can clearly appreciate the likable humility and neighbourly character of these outstanding icons. Most inspiring.
I can listen to him speak all day. Such a wise man.
likewise
Me too!
Very useful practical advice. Only boldnesses works, there is no any other way to be successful.
I’m glad he said “To me” when stating his opinion on the examples of false sublime and real sublime. One’s own experience,social interaction and ability to actively engage with or without drugs/external influences varies to say the least.
He's the most calmed monster, I've ever saw!
yes, Robert's a legend
The truth teller usually is.
Robert Greene is an artist. And his art is in his observation of human nature.
This advice from Robert Greene is pure gold
I am being manipulated by Mr. Robert Greene right now.
😂😂
There is good manipulation
You are being taught, engaging in the process.
Funny. He's informational
Hahah true
How to resist manipulation: a quick guide:
How would a Psychopath feel about this situation?
Nothing, exactly. So don't worry about anyone else, what they think or feel.
Focus on you, yourself and remain objective, detached and critical of everything else.
It's like a game. Figure out how to win.
Screenshot text for daily reference thank you
Yeah that’s straight up some terrible advice right there. Let’s copy the emotions response of psychopaths. You can’t even if you wanted to (it’s hardwired).Focusing on the self leads to mental health problems. Focusing on helping others improves mental health.
This is silly. Psychopaths for the most part are just people who have high deficits in emotional intelligence. It’s not that they’re emotionless, it’s that they have poor impulse control, no consideration for morality, and are basically emotionally impaired/disabled. They have very little capacity for interrupting their poor behavioral patterns.
We fall privy to bullshitting and manipulation through what we find salient to us. We don’t lie to ourselves, we distract ourselves. To avoid manipulation, an individual needs to be able to self-reflect on their distractions and salience landscape.
@@sof553 I don’t think being detached is a bad thing. I don’t emotionally attach to many people. I don’t have expectation of them. I also don’t require “hanging out”. I am friendly to people, but I have really strict boundaries to keep them at a distance. I enjoy the company of few. I am kind, but I don’t fall for people guilt tripping me with “shoulding” on me. I am done caring what people think I should do for them. I don’t subscribe anymore to that tactic of manipulative people. I use to be surrounded by them. Now, I mainly deal with people transactionally mainly. I keep it simple. Intimacy is reserved for a very select few.
@@77Tadams very smart
Love his sober attitude to life and human nature
Thanks R.G for constantly impacting my life positively...
Wow. I found someone with the same belief that we pick up pieces of people n their energy. Determining if the feeling/emotion r yours takes some practice when u learn this. Tha k u
Pretty sure its mostly not even our own energy we feel
I like ur nails represents how humans can express themselves and that in darkness light shines and how dark absorbs more light or just senseless just freedom which is not for measure on the chillin spectrum
It is said that there's nothing new under the sun and yet I find myself constantly enlightened in new and interesting ways listening to Mr Greene. This is either because I have lived a less expansive life than I had previously thought or RG is every bit as profound as he seems.
glad you found this so stimulating!
@@BradCarr_ I just love Robert Greene. One of the best minds of his generation. Thank you for posting! I will be listening to the full interview.
This is a fantastic lecture/interview. LOVE this. Thank-you
Glad you enjoyed it!
Step back and look at yourself - without being in emotion. Good advice!
Robert often has good advice!
@@BradCarr_ Yes I read his book The Laws of Human Nature: Greene, Robert. Very interesting - also very interesting walk down history with examples.
Robert Greene is one of the BEST writers and person that i have ever herd,May GOD bless you allway BROTHER.
Agreed, his work is so interesting
Awww that looks like your special shirt aww😢 if it is glade you kept it. The world 🌎 is a better place, that you are still, here. Bless you 🤴🏻
It must be a worth read...nothing to lose but gain insight and awareness at our own human behavior and behaviors around us.
Is not the thing itself what determines its success, the power lies on your courage and confidence to carry that out and on yourself.
Sir Robert Greene, I am grateful to have such mentor like you
the emotions of others has 0 impact on my personal mindstate and i like it that way
Good work soldier
Robert Greene is a great philosopher and adviser in life strategy 💯
Robert Greene has such a beautiful mind. We have to except that everyone is being manipulated and there's nothing wrong about it ,but the difference is we do have a choice ,so you can choose what you want to be manipulated by which makes the difference between alot of people .and that single choice is what makes you an individual.
I feel blessed that I have never cared what others think about me or if they like me.
I am not saying I am anti-social or I don't care about people, as a matter of fact I am a very good friend and look forward to helping anyone I can if I am able to, friend or stranger.
But I would never allow my happiness to be contingent on others perception of me. I also love spending time with my wife and family but also love my time in solitude.
Thank you Robert Green.
Thank you for sharing wisdom. Yes, self awareness, self honesty, humility, gratitude, self respect, self love...have healing effect on individuals and humanity..❤
Good video, ego detachment and honest self observation are key. And I think most lack awareness of how much we are controlled by our subconscious. BTW empathy is not unique to humans. Dogs are very good at this. They can smell emotions, literally.
I quit watching broadcast media, news and anything supported by product advertising (suggest you try it). Amazing how different I feel and can see the effect (people watching what I don’t watch) on all around. The big watchers show it in their persona. Look forward to reading or listening to this stuff. I think avoiding certain types of media has lightened my daily load. Cheers my friend 🙏
Robert Greene is truly a gift to humanity.. he is one of a kind..
Really great interview! So interesting to see and listen to the man who wrote 48 laws of power. Amazing book! Should be in every family library. ❤
My girlfriend likes Robert Greene's philosophy , now thanks to the help of my GF I do feel comfortable no matter what.
This is amazing info...thank you for this video....
Glad it was helpful!
I love his book laws of human nature, It was so interesting from start to finish.
Basically: be an individual, don't be afraid of failing&rejecting, be worried about creating something boring or unmeaningful that the world is already full of. All those successful people were bold and very clearly individually themselves. Yeah, gotta make a goal out of that.
You've just been manipulated into buying his books.
Lol yes. I'm binge watching his videos.
😂
😂😂😂😂 trapped
Underrated w
Oh come on .... aww.. he has helped a lot of people. I didn't have any skills except being sincere, truthful and loyal, living in an ideal utopian world. It took these lessons to realize how to protect your boundaries.
I'm just intrigued by Robert I enjoy and retain his imperative content. I may not agree every single thing he says but a large amounts
Salaam-Peace
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Never wanted to socialize. Because this has been the narrative by consumer corps to materialize their peer pressure. Im so lucky to have a loving wife and a son. My wife feels the same and we enjoy life to the fullest.
We’re social creatures by nature.
And having that time to do things alone can ignite joy, creativity, peace, love, and wholeness.
It’s good to have that me-time yet having a good social circle that makes us feel alive, purpose, meaning, and love.
Infinite blessings everyone. ❤💜💖🌎😊
I suppose this guy's personal life experience wasn't easy, but hey, he took the best revenge by writing the book and let the world know you can be self sufficient in most cases.
What a great pep talk. Thank you, Robert!
Being a lone wolf or a tiger (solitary hunter) requires solid survival skills (social, physical, psychological, and financial). It is not easy, and it is also not 100% monk mode where you completely cut yourself off the grid. This type of personality in human males is considered a "Sigma male".
"Right?" - Robert Greene (19x) But hey, I watched it twice and quite enjoyed it, thank you.
“Beware of manipulation” proceeds to manipulate you into buying his book 😂 Very smart man.
Lol
he seems to do that alot I saw this messianic in other interview saying people are stupeed don't know the 43 laws of power?! lol
@@messianic_scam haha yeah I’ve come to realise that social media is just one big pot of manipulation. Some are better at it than others, like this man. You have to have suffered a lot of trauma and abuse to see the manipulation unfortunately.
Then you've missed the point because you only think £££.Wisdom can be bought.
We all being manipulated, you just need to see and understand who actually has your best interest at heart. Manipulation happens naturally and also happens intentionally it's human nature to crave influence and have control but be careful when you posses it and when you consume it.
I totally agree. Have known for some time. I love it. 100%
Critical thinking is an incredibly important survival skill these days!
I am working on becoming a lone wolf now. I am going to do it for year and work on my own mission. I will barely be speaking to people during this time. Apart from my very small circle of loved ones everyone else can take a hike.
I find it insane when people justify highly unreasonable behavior with "we are social animals". The guy getting sacrificed on top of a pyramid by his peers was also a social animal. Doesn't mean you shouldn't look at your surroundings and make informed decisions about how you want to interact with the people in your society (or not).
Why would anyone want to be a part of society when all people do is look at their phones and their Facebook pages while they’re hanging out with you and no one really wants to have an intelligent conversation. Forget them being there for you when you’re going through stuff because they’re so busy they can’t even bother to talk with you for more than 5 minutes.
Great insipirational video, thanks both!!
There is a thing that can happen where a denial of something is actually like an unconscious affirmation, but on the other hand a denial can in fact be true, like if I say “I am not a murderer”. Its important not to overgeneralize or overstate the scope of psychological insights. Not every denial, or even most denials, necessarily mean the opposite.
You're making a false equivocation. There's no hole in his argument and you're being purposeful obtuse. The denial he speaks of is generated by insecurity. You know this. What would make a reasonable person have to state "I'm not a murderer" outside of a court of law where objective facts are being contested ? What world do you live in?!?
@@LaitoChen First of all, I'm living at yo mammas house. Secondly, the example "I am not a murderer" is an extreme one in order to drive home the point that not all denials are proof of their opposite, which is true, as you've conceded. Thirdly, equivocation is an "informal fallacy resulting from the use of a particular word/expression in multiple senses within an argument." I only used one sense of the word "denial" to simply refer to when someone denies something, THE SAME SENSE in which Robert Greene used it in the video. What I added was nuance about what it could mean / what it could be evidence of. Not everyone walks around with a complete lack of insecurity like yourself. Some are sensitive, some have been traumatized, abused etc. Some even confess to crimes they did not commit, think about that one. It shows just how far insecurity can go while still not reflecting reality. Psychology is complicated.
@@olimauricestromberg93 Yer deeep
@@olimauricestromberg93 Academia can be hard on a man. Have mercy, Funlovington.
@@olimauricestromberg93 Risen above opinion into the realms of pure understanding, have ye?
The questions that host is asking 👏👏❤
Kudos to Brad Carr up&coming interviewer ,real talent 👏
Thank you very much!
@@BradCarr_ I agree; engaged but willing to shut up and let the guest express themselves. Subscribed.
That's a great question.
The book is huge, I apologise.
That man's humility 💖
There's nothing wrong with detaching from a society that is toxic, which it seems to me our society is these days. My connection is spiritual, and I'm perfectly happy being alone----and beyond some common neuroticism I think I'm perfectly normal. Media has very little influence on me as I am an avid reader and I choose my books carefully and read even those critically, and I connect with nature by nature journaling. I just have never felt that I need much connection with other people, even though I am thankful for the society around me when I need something, like a grocery store or a mechanic. Other than that I can be alone for weeks with my books and paper and pencil, and did very well during the Covid lock-downs.
Exactly. Same here. I live this way also. I was quite happy during lockdown as everything was so quiet and peaceful. I eliminated a lot of useless busybody nonsense.
I went back to reading, writing and meditation and didn't miss people at all.
I've let that carry over to post pandemic and have allowed most human relationships to die quietly.
The other thing about isolation is that my senses became acute from within. When there's little to no chatter the inner voice/inner self kicks in. Had amazing insights and when I did interact with people I could hear what they were not saying, read their unconscious body language etc.
I ended some relationships because I realized they did not like me but hung on because of convention or for some benefit that was incidental. A couple of others could no longer hide that they were users so I told them good bye and I had nothing else for them.
Human companionship is way overrated and a little of it goes a long way. In addition the world is full of non human life forms to communicate and be around.
Same thing happened to me with animals. Very sensitive to what they are thinking and feeling. Many times theyll seek me out.
I am grateful to the people who smooth my way in life such as the grocery store, the library, ticket agents etc. but I keep ALL human relations impersonal except for one sibling.
Peace
i am adding nature journaling to my routine
@@ankushdhawale4628 Congratulations!.All that's needed is paper and pencil and curiosity. You will hone your observation skills, and don't need to know how to draw, although as you continue with your efforts you will improve just by sketching what you see in front of you., even in your back yard or watching a seed grow in a pot. Forget pretty pictures, but just note whatever you are curious about. You can also do it via writing, both poetry and prose. There is much good information on nature journaling on the internet, with one of the best teachers being John Muir Laws. As you observe nature more intensely you will find your mind clears of all the crap we get fed every day. Hope you enjoy.
Media has very little influence on you… yet you’re watching this video and commenting publicly about your life. If it didn’t influence you, you wouldn’t have watched this particular video which uses the idea of the debunked “lone wolf” and you wouldn’t have been caused by this media to believe that you yourself are a lone wolf.
@@RUclipsHandIe Well, actually I don't consider myself a "lone wolf", even if I'm perfectly happy being alone. I consider myself a normal person who has an active brain to think without the help of media, even if I indulge in it once in a blue moon just to see what the trends in society are. By the way, I didn't watch the video because after a minute or so I already knew what was going to be said, and I wasn't interested. :-)
He's paraphrasing Immanuel Kant's theory of the sublime in aesthetics. This is good because those theories deserve a wider audience.
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All the best to you!
The only reason I'm trying to make friends at college is because my mother orders me to do so and I have to listen to her or else she will scream at me and call me names and say "why aren't you making friends, you don't want to be alone for the rest of your life or else you'll be unhappy and no guy will marry you if you have zero friends." I made a friend recently but she used me and I didn't even know it..
I am good at connecting with people and I leave off a good impression when I first encounter someone, however, once I start becoming their friend (ex. In College) they show their true colours and ghost me or talk behind my back idk why. I'm such a sweet kind soul who's genuine and love hearing people talk but it's like every girl hates me or is jealous of me.
I feel self conscious when I wear feminine outfits because they make me look pretty so now I wear tomboyish outfits and try to appear masculine and no one even look my way because I look intimidating which I kinda like. No one talks to me or gives me nasty looks anymore. I don't want to go out there and make friends with other girls. I just wanna read my books and sip my coffee in a Cafe.
I agree with everything you said!! That’s why I only wear sweaters lmfao
I was like you growing up and not as comfortable as you seem to be by yourself. People come and go as i have learned. No worries.
Dont worry about "no guy will marry you if you have zero friends." A lot of guys actually prefer girls who have some sort of social isolation
Keep being you, don't sacrifice yourself for others. It's your life not theirs. ❤️
All types of people can have friends. Even very introverted people can have good and healthy friendships. Seems you don’t evaluate people very well. Most people need to be avoided as they are toxic. Maybe learn more about psychology so you can find the right friends for you.
Thank both of you for this video.
I think the word is to be able to experience humility and being humble.
Always be clear and concise with people, diplomatically. This is how you shit test. If they pass this test then they are genuine.
Sorry I didn't understand well, what do you mean?
@@empresaglova1268 Basically be honest with yourself, know your limits, be honest with the other. Listen to them. Watch what they do. If you smell a turd, confirm it. Walk away.
To go a bit further by what I mean he has a PhD but he's pious in his talks he doesn't make you feel mediocre he wants you to grow , betterment of self that's what I admire about Robert
Salaam-Peace
Lone Wolf here, people underestimate the "lone" part of a lone wolf ...
One of the advantages of solitude is that you learn who you really are and what reality really is. I know because I have lived alone off grid for 2 years. It’s a good place to think and heal. The more you face reality without the trappings and manipulation of society. If done right when you renter society you see things as they are, not what how they want to be perceived.
Thank you. I will listen again when I get better.
Thanks for listening
Incredible! Thank you for this!!!
As someone who'd had 38 jobs by 38 years old and strayed very far from the herd in a TEDx (actually using exactly that term), I resonate with much of what you've said.
you must been near really bad bosses and colleagues to experience a number of shitty gigs. your niche, you discovered. Certain writers are genuises.
I have become aware at 59 that 90% of my emails want my money. Manipulation is So real. "You need this, You need that" I SEE it and am able to understand it. People no longer frustrate me because I learned to understand the difference of wisdom over intelligence.