Thank you so much for your videos on Narcissism, and this information. I found the second half of this video enlightening.This is the first time I've heard anxiety, boundaries, and assertiveness, discussed in a interconnected way! This helped me bring the pieces of the puzzle together, to better understand my childrens' behaviors. I hope to support them. Much appreciation.❤
Great video. I love the examples. And seeing how healthy civil assertion skill promotes better self confidence and boundaries very clear. Let's practice everyone, training our assertions muscles starting with small issues and then increasing the "weights" as we get stronger. 😊
I just discovered you today, and you NEED more viewers and likes. You have amazing content! Thank you for making it so accessible and easy to understand! I appreciate what you're doing!
What is the difference between being passive and generally not caring if you don’t get your way? In the pickle example, I would be the type that would just not make a big deal about it and take the pickles off myself. I guess if it was more cumbersome, like relish, I would have them remake it without the relish.
Yes, I probably should have said that this is only if you really don't like pickles and that leftover pickle taste! 😂 If you truly don't care, then there is no need to say anything. And of course, it is more about the pattern - if one regularly holds back and does not speak up for themselves, then it is probably holding them back in life... Thank you for your question!
Dear Barbara, thank you so much for this Video. I am so happy I have come across your channel 🦋✨practising mindfulness and doing your healthy boundaries course is super useful for me ❤
I remember first discovering Barbara. My life keeps changing for the better since then. I literally have a new set of thoughts and views now. She is amazing. She is also very funny.😀
I think it would be easier to learn the finer points of assertive communication if you actually knew what you wanted to say and the other person actually wanted to hear what you wanted to say.
I think I feel most comfortable in passive or passive/aggressive, I honestly don't think I can tell the difference between assertive or aggressive, when I have tried to be assertive in the past I just get feedback that I'm being aggressive, so I think I just decided to give up on any communication. Just smoulder over in the corner of life.
I think passive aggressive pickles example would be to say “I paid myself your tip for removing those pickles that I didn’t want from my sandwich” to the waitress when you pay the bill
Thank you so much for this video. It is very helpful and sure made a lot of sense. It helps me understand myself better but also contributes to relating to others with greater compassion and enlightment. Thanks!
In my country i couldnt say " do you think, you could bring me a sandwich...' it would be considered passíve agressive because the waitress would think: it has nothing to do with my thinking, it wasnt me who did the sandwich... And them i wouldnt want to est the Next One, for sure
I have never seen anyone in your profession who can explain a condition, add anecdotes, and move forward, still citing helpful resources, without getting pulled into the milieu of the audience and their (ok, our) pain.
hi: there is info about me on the YT About page here: www.youtube.com/@BarbaraHeffernan/about and on my website: www.awakenjoy.life/about Thanks for asking!
I see why I just let things go. When I was growing up in a War Zone as a preteen my preferences were met with Belittling, Shaming and Raging from a Borderline Birth Mother her Drug Addict F Buddys and Neighborhood Bullys. Never Again I say.
Thank you so much for your videos on Narcissism, and this information. I found the second half of this video enlightening.This is the first time I've heard anxiety, boundaries, and assertiveness, discussed in a interconnected way! This helped me bring the pieces of the puzzle together, to better understand my childrens' behaviors. I hope to support them. Much appreciation.❤
You are so welcome, and thank you for letting me know it resonated! It was a little complicated so I wasn’t sure how many would ‘get’ it!!
Great video. I love the examples. And seeing how healthy civil assertion skill promotes better self confidence and boundaries very clear. Let's practice everyone, training our assertions muscles starting with small issues and then increasing the "weights" as we get stronger. 😊
Yes, love your suggestion!
I just discovered you today, and you NEED more viewers and likes. You have amazing content! Thank you for making it so accessible and easy to understand! I appreciate what you're doing!
Yes absolutely makes sense. How would this apply to social anxiety ? I know outcome may have something to do with it ??
Very helpful, thank you!
What is the difference between being passive and generally not caring if you don’t get your way? In the pickle example, I would be the type that would just not make a big deal about it and take the pickles off myself. I guess if it was more cumbersome, like relish, I would have them remake it without the relish.
Yes, I probably should have said that this is only if you really don't like pickles and that leftover pickle taste! 😂 If you truly don't care, then there is no need to say anything. And of course, it is more about the pattern - if one regularly holds back and does not speak up for themselves, then it is probably holding them back in life... Thank you for your question!
@@BarbaraHeffernan thank you. I will keep an eye out for those patterns.
You are such a good person. I can feel this energy from you through the screen. Wish you the best!
thank you for your videos and insight! I recently found your channel, and its been helping me a lot. I look forward to your videos every week!
I love how you explained the subject! Thank you so much! Made it so easy to understand! God Bless you!
Dear Barbara, thank you so much for this Video. I am so happy I have come across your channel 🦋✨practising mindfulness and doing your healthy boundaries course is super useful for me ❤
I remember first discovering Barbara. My life keeps changing for the better since then. I literally have a new set of thoughts and views now. She is amazing. She is also very funny.😀
Makes a lot of sense. . Can you share more about control anxiety? I think it’s also linked with getting comfortable with uncertainty
I think it would be easier to learn the finer points of assertive communication if you actually knew what you wanted to say and the other person actually wanted to hear what you wanted to say.
I think I feel most comfortable in passive or passive/aggressive, I honestly don't think I can tell the difference between assertive or aggressive, when I have tried to be assertive in the past I just get feedback that I'm being aggressive, so I think I just decided to give up on any communication. Just smoulder over in the corner of life.
Very helpful! 🤗And well said. Thank you for sharing.👍❤️
I think passive aggressive pickles example would be to say “I paid myself your tip for removing those pickles that I didn’t want from my sandwich” to the waitress when you pay the bill
Thank you so much for this video. It is very helpful and sure made a lot of sense. It helps me understand myself better but also contributes to relating to others with greater compassion and enlightment. Thanks!
How wonderful! And thank you for letting me know!
Thank you, excellent ❣️yes makes so much sense. I struggled years, not understanding this. ❤
Hi Karen, how's your day going with you?
gratitude.. through Divines grace i found your channel
Great video!!! Thank you!
Speaks to so many of my experienced
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Excellent!
Excellent!!! Thank you so much
You're very welcome! So pleased you liked it - I hope it is helpful!
In my country i couldnt say " do you think, you could bring me a sandwich...' it would be considered passíve agressive because the waitress would think: it has nothing to do with my thinking, it wasnt me who did the sandwich... And them i wouldnt want to est the Next One, for sure
I have never seen anyone in your profession who can explain a condition, add anecdotes, and move forward, still citing helpful resources, without getting pulled into the milieu of the audience and their (ok, our) pain.
What is boundary to step on to Benzos?
Who is Barbara, please. Thanks
hi: there is info about me on the YT About page here:
www.youtube.com/@BarbaraHeffernan/about
and on my website: www.awakenjoy.life/about
Thanks for asking!
I see why I just let things go.
When I was growing up in a
War Zone as a preteen my preferences were met with Belittling, Shaming and Raging from a Borderline Birth Mother her Drug Addict F Buddys and Neighborhood Bullys.
Never Again I say.
Woow maam, you should really do a video on communication. 😍