She Wants To Be Celibate, I Don’t! || STEVE HARVEY
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- DeVon Franklin & Meagan Good’s Book About Staying Celibate For An Entire Year!
By now, most people are familiar with Steve Harvey’s “90-Day Rule,” which suggests waiting 90 days before being intimate with someone you’ve just started dating.
Steve welcomes a husband and wife who didn’t just wait 90 days, they were celibate for an entire year! Producer (“Miracles From Heaven”) and motivational speaker DEVON FRANKLIN and actress MEAGAN GOOD shared their story of celibacy in a book they co-wrote called “The Wait” and will answer questions about their journey from both Steve Harvey and the studio audience.
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Megan is so pretty. She doesn't get enough credit.
Nesha Britwood
One of the most underrated beauties ever!
Nah she get too much credit for her looks.
Just My Opinion in the past yeah. People respect her more now cos she married
God don't like ugly and he ain't too crazy bout Pretty either. Ijs 🤔
SHALLOW. Marriage is far far far far more then looks.
If your values don't line up in the dating process. Isn't that a signifier that marriage will be rocky?
that depends on the values and the individuals, there's really no overall definite "yes or no" to that question.
I wondered the same thing. I waited for my hubby and I had guys I dated that I found out wasn't waiting and left me after finding out.
dabaergurl76 With today's laxed attitude towards sex, that scenario is probably pretty common. If you look at most movies or t.v. shows, it's almost ALWAYS people have sex first, then they fall in love or get to know each other, second.
you adjust to one another
It may not be that he and his girl don't share values, it may just be that he's never been told no to sex before marriage.
Waiting until marriage is not just a sacrifice for someone but it is an obedience & Honor to God!
Amen
That's what most are leaving out of the. Conversations..this is not how good they are for waiting, but about this way ALWAYS God's plan and intent for our lives. He knows what is best, we don't. Sex is a Holy thing..and should be respected.
Amen
Amen
Say it louder sis!
I love that Devon and Meagan waited until they got married to do anything. That is almost unheard of these days. They look so cute together and I love their bond.
EdgeofGlory261 I wanna be like them
I actually know a lot of virgins who are waiting until married, and a lot of celibate people. I met a guy who was shocked that I had'nt had sex for 17 months and that I was waiting. We do exist!
Niecy Harvey Amen...yes we are here and we shall keep on waiting.
Niecy Harvey yep we are here and we ain't going nowhere
Adgegbe50 Yep
he answered that so well.
What was bad about his answer ?
That's The Thing It's "perfect"
Man Don't Do WeLL In Waiting!!!
Megan definitely found herself a keeper. SO happy for her. Now, if all men were like him........
It was not a comment intended to put anyone down. I was simply stating it would be nice if all men had his values and his outlook on thinking. Probably should have clarified that, but it's not what I meant. I get that all men are not the same.
I think it is nice for a man to say that he will wait. You do not hear too many men say that and it is rare. Some people I talk to think you have to wait at least 3 or 5 years before you get married. Some people get married in less than 2 years, if they know that they are meant for each other and are in love. Some people just don't try to consider waiting and they rather just go on to the next person. Waiting requires setting up boundaries ahead of time and having discipline.
Brian W lol where did she put all men down lmao she literally just complimented one don't be salty you're not on his level
@@jasminevaliente96 as a woman, I know how it was meant but I do see where it could be taken otherwise since she started off saying he's a keeper and ended with saying if only all were like him then it can be taken as implying all the rest just aint keepers lol I GUESS I can understand someone feeling put down. Now fact is of course some people are not better off being kept around than others but that's not what the statement was really all about either way - we just appreciate how he conducts himself, what he stands for and want to see our brothers uphold the same integrity. We know that yes very many do but too many don't.
passionateformusic same for woman. The catalyst is GOD FEARING.
The way how they constantly hold hands 😍
Smh psychology
He got hard on
It could be a sign of insecurities........ Just saying.
@@philipehusani agreed. It's not necessarily love. Awkward distance to be holding hands.
It looks forced...and unnatural.
They are divorced now~sad.
Everyone is saying great response, which is true, but I'd like to commend the man who asked about it. He didn't say how can I get her to change her mind he said how can I combat my feelings. That shows he ain't tryna play games, he just wants to be stronger mentally. Good man, good luck to them.
Why does the guy have to compromise but she doesn’t? lol
@@von6413 She is doing something good/right. There's a difference, duh.
AintOP There is no compromise on this matter of doing the act. Like Devon said, if she not the one that he’s willing to wait for then let her go.
@@von6413 facts
Well she's playing games. Who says the relationship is only on her terms? Shes basically telling him, if he doesnt conform to her terms then he needs to leave. He should have told her to kick rocks once she laid down a rule that she has...
A good spouse will respect your boundaries.
Future spouse also
But shes not respecting his boundaries. How does one side get to set rules...
@@talknheadz you clearly don't know what a boundary is lol, and its not about setting 'rules', that sort of confrontational mindset won't get you anywhere in a relationship.
She has every right to decide that she does not want to have sex, its her body! That must be respected.
And he has every right to choose whether that works for him or not, and it is best for him to be honest about it. Nobody is forcing him to agree.
@@GenevieveNka its selfish, childish and silly
@@talknheadz You've literally just described yourself. Lol you have a serious entitlement problem.
Women don't OWE you sex and you're not entitled to a woman's body. creep.
If you had a daughter who was not ready to have sex would you not want her choice to be respected ..or would you be ok with a man demanding it. I thought so.
Woah Meagan is freaking stunning 😻😻😻
I love me some Meagan and Devon
+Bren Nimo me too
girl yes, they compliment each other
Is Meagan and Devon officially the most attractive couple in human history?
..no
Their babies would be so pretty.... IJS
SecDorz Sorry man, I should've known you and your blow up doll were the cutest couple
Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Ari Parker a quite a beautiful couple as well!
+Natalie Holmes yes Boris lawlllll she's one lucky woman lol
That is LITERALLY the best way I've heard it put
Im happy the message off abstaining from sex is being promoted more, this way you can see if you actually like a person and not just they sex they give you. It's not a new concept but definitely helps
You don't have to wait till marriage to find out if you like a person. Sex is a form of intimacy, a bonding act, and very natural. You can have a very fulfilling sex life in a faithful relationship
+Meme Jay We've tried no sex before marriage and that didn't work either 60 years ago; then came the female sexual revolution lol. I honestly think people are just scared of intimacy, scared of truly being known, we have a lot of broken people out there. The divorce rate is high because people pick the wrong people to marry, and didn't have good examples growing up
+Meme Jay The key to GOOD sex is a good relationship one that is close, intimate, passionate, and one where you can truly be yourself and fully known in my opinion
+Meme Jay Exactly, and yes you shouldn't sex up everybody on the journey; I always say that sex without an emotional connection is like assisted masturbation lol to be crude. Hopefully, as a society we can take sex more seriously and less shallow about it; but at the same time be sex positive and not sexually repressed.
+Meme Jay I think definitely people need to be more choosy about their sex partners, because you can wear all the condoms you want but it won't protect your mind, heart, or soul. I pray for our society...
That was such a great response... The sacrifices don't stop after marriage. I've also heard him say that he was celibate before marriage because if he could exercise discipline before marriage he could definitely exercise discipline while he was married as well. I swear I love them.
My man and I are waiting till marriage too! He is leading us and is protecting my heart. Yes ladies he is a Black godly man.
Please give us an update! My man and I just decided to be celibate until marriage!
Whose idea was it to wait, yours or his?
Great response
Yes, true
Yes, excellent response. That man is viewing it as rejection, but the woman is viewing it is I'm worth the wait.
This is why I’m single and it’s so not fair!
Amor Antasia At least you’re not a 40 year old virgin. Funny but not funny but true. But I saw a very pretty 50 year old virgin on Wendy Williams so I don’t feel so alone.
Your choice so it’s fair. Are you gonna end up 40 with a cat
Me too i'm single for almost 6 years now.
Yes
It is fair your choice your decision do something else
I am a 25 year old man. I want to wait until marriage to loose my virginity. Men/Women if your gf/bf and you believe that he or she is the good person in your life, wait until marriage. Also wait until marriage anyway to have sex. Marriage is a bond between you and your spouse and when you say, "I do" and mean it, that makes your flesh combine with the other as one within the spirit. This is why marital sex is sacred and it is out of love between married couples ...not with friends with benefits, not with your girlfriend or boyfriend. Parents teach your teens and young adults this way and stay on them. You have GOT to stay on them!
1990s were amazing! Amen!! This is the way it should be.
Kelli Smith Thank You! Absolutely correct because this world is crazy these days in fornication, drugs, etc. We have to limit this! It starts from the parents and it starts mostly with dad. Dad has to be the MAN to tell his son, "wait until marriage; don't fornicate." It is a duty of the dad to protect his daughter and stay on her as well!
1990s were amazing! Thank you! The Bible says that marriage is honorable in His sight and the bed is undefiled.
Ladies need more genuine gentleman like you
Athena SuperHeldin Thank You very much ! I appreciate your comment greatly and I am humbled !
"So, when is the wedding?" Great question. God ordained sex for marriage.
Don't feel pressured to wait I think it's a wonderful idea. If I knew what I know now I would still be a virgin.
because0011 yes
because0011 but
Me too!
I hear a tone of regret and settlement in this comment. Wonderful idea but too good for you to have because you don’t deserve that ? Is that your train of thought ? I only ask because I felt the same way until God showed me my worth and like Ciara said I leveled up. I am married to the man of my dreams after waiting till marriage and we both prior to lived liberal lifestyles. So I say this to say “if” that was your thinking behind this comment and you’ve never heard this before hear it from me
YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT
YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT
YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT
Being a virgin doesn't stop you from experiencing life my dear.
They look so young vibrant and happy
Me and my husband waiting to be intimate before we married. It was a short few months but we did it with the help of God! #glory
Devon has so much wisdom.
I love how he put it in that context. Sacrifice doesn’t stop in marriage it’s needed even more. So if you can’t sacrifice for me in dating how will you sacrifice in marriage??
Can you sacrifice a man not spending a penny on you for dates or gifts for years? If yes then we can talk.
@@orthodoxboxing9159a man shouldn't be acting like a husband paying significant amounts of money for a woman who is not his wife too. Husband and wife duties for when you are married. Boyfriend and girlfriend intercations whilst you are dating and deciding.
awww his face at the end was too cute lol. And I love how gentle Devon was with his response. He really didn't judge the man! Love it!
She gone make him be abstinent, while dropping it quick fast for a man, she deems worthy😲
Well put
Exactly. She told him that because shes out of the relationship. No woman tells a man shes celibate to be with him. Shes lining up her next dude...but hes too stupid to see that. She was hoping itd run him off.
They look adorable together. I hope they are genuine. The way he is holding her hand is beautiful.
Meghan is a clear example of how God used her for the good. ironically enough her last name is good.
however, her story about how God brought her, her husband is inspirational.
Except God doesn't exist so yea :)
+Blakalomy Did I tell HER that it's wrong to believe in God. I simply stated my standpoint on the subject. I do philosophy as a subject so I like to debate over religion :) learn to think before you speak bub
+Born2EditHD please STOP the fighting..
+Blakalomy Its not pointless haha. I was looking for a debate.
+Blakalomy He's only trying to cure stupidity. He's fighting a losing battle though.
I am a single guy. And I hope that I find a woman that is willing to wait after marriage before we become intimate
Amen.💖
We need more guys like this because quiet frankly a lot of us women feel that this doesn’t exist in this day in age with men. I am in the same boat and willing to wait for as long as god would like me to
@@user-mb9jx5tx9y maybe me and you should get to know each other
I’m a single girl too and hoping for this :)
'if she wasnt the 1 for you, you wouldve been done left' eeeeeeeh wish that was the case for some ppl that i know.. some ppl hold on to relationships with ppl because of their own internal insecurities, because of fear of moving on.. not because of love & commitment.. some call them soul ties and others call them attachment.
I need a man like this ..
I'm a vigirn
And 25
But no man wanted to wait so I stopped dating
Witza Franza God knows the desires of our hearts. Your husband will find you. ❤️❤️❤️
MrsB AMEN thanks love
Witza Franza you’re welcome. ❤️❤️I was a 25 year old virgin when I married my husband who was also a virgin. He was my first boyfriend and before we started dating, I always thought I was going to be single because I didn’t think a man would want to wait. As a believer in Christ, it meant everything to me to wait. I know God answered my prayers. I just want to encourage you. Never settle. ❤️❤️
MrsB Awaaww that was a lovely STORIES. Yes I'm not given up 😪 thank you so much
And so happy for you both God bless your marriage &your family
Witza Franza thank you ❤️❤️❤️😊😊😊
Time to "put a ring on it" type of case scenerio.
For those that waited until marriage, did the sex disappoint or was it worth the wait per say? I do believe that waiting creates a genuine bond if you're also nurturing the relationship in the process.
3 years late.. but ummm lol
First, I'm 26, female, deciding to wait til marriage for sex. While I'm not married yet, so haven't had sex, what I can say is that I learned a valuable lesson from a situation I had with someone I almost had sex with. Thus was a person I knew for years, so when it came to being more than friends I made the mistake of assuming that since he knew me and was pursuing me, our intentions were aligned. I assumed this without ever asking. Fast forward and since he knew me, he also knew all the things to do/say. We didn't have sex, but we're more sexual than I had ever been with anyone("hand stuff" if you catch my drift lol). I quickly ended it because I felt that if I stayed I'd definitely end up having sex with him despite my core desire to wait. Mind you, we never had a conversation about what our relationship was and I felt he was seeing other ppl (he was) so that made the decision to end it easy. I learned from that sexual experience with him, that more than I wanted sex. I really want/need it to be with the right person and for me, the only right person is the one I'll marry. As I think back on that experience with him, while I'm glad for the lesson, I really wish I could take the sexual part of it back. So it proved to me, that I'm not missing out as I once thought because I personally need the security of true commitment to feel comfortable sharing my body with someone. Now, if that's not the case for you, I think that's okay. If you can have casual sex, or don't put as much weight on it as I do, I say go for it. But only if YOU want to, never outnof obligation or pressure. The reality is that waiting isn't for everyone, it is immensely difficult at times, but I do believe that it will be even moreso rewarding.
@@dominiquewarren6370thanks for your answer, I just turned 25 and am waiting for marriage.
Lots of people nowadays don't think it's respectable to make sacrifices during dating and even though sex is important, it isn't everything. Waiting for marriage isn't a big deal when it's the 'one'. He knows she's the one so really what is he waiting for to marry her and move forward together? This question seemed more about him than his girl.
Kay Kay why do you women think marriage is something you just do? Like it's no big deal. Marriage isn't benificial for men these days.
Hawa Fuseini yeah he should leave. He'll find someone better.
Sex is NOT a tool for women to use as leverage.
Vincent Gomez It doesn’t seem like sex is being used as leverage here.
oh wow, wise words wonderful man/soul
Really deep segment. I like it when the man (very nicely dressed and gorgeous, too) said that if you cannot make this sacrifice in your dating life, how can you continue to make sacrifices in the marriage when the problems might be even tougher than having sex or not. Excellent point; logical point. And it takes a real woman -- nowadays -- to tell a man that the milk comes AFTER the wedding. Most women act like sluts and men exploit this weakness in women.
Great response! Sacrifices NEVER stop for the one you LOVE .❤️
I'm a 25 year old woman, never had sex, waiting til my wedding night, if I ever get married to have sex...family down me for it, and say I may neve find someone who will wanna wait. I don't wannaget married now until i''m in my 30's. its hard as a Chrsitian woman to ind a guy like that. Even so called Christian men have sex...
I feel you 😩 goin trough the same issue
Please hold on to your standars, they are what the world needs these days. God will reward you trust me
@@maryw1735 Don't you listen to those demons. You stay celibate until God give you the man He want you to have. Ain't NO mistakes with Him.
@Temka Williams if God doesn't make mistakes then why does he give people such strong sex drives and then demands you repress it? Why does repressing natural biological sex drive for so long cause negative health effects on your body and mental state?
I don’t know about this... on the rare occasion a friend of mine (male) married a woman and both were saving themselves for marriage. After the wedding it surfaced that she was unable to open up to it. He stuck it out in the marriage, counseling, and remained celibate for two years before he had a discussion with her family to inform them he cannot continue. He’s a gentlemen and they were both in a unique and unfortunate situation but I would think there should be some talk about the topic of sex in pre-marital counseling to avoid any overlooked trauma or issues surrounding it. Especially when making such a huge commitment to wait.
That’s just that one couple you knew, not every couple that is practicing celibacy. But it is important to talk about the expectations around sex in premarital counseling, maybe even before getting engaged
@Mimi Arzu bit it happens more often then you think. Many girls raised in purity culture suffer from vaginism myself included . It doesn't matter how horny you are, you physically can't have sex.
You should be celibate already for God, if you are wanting to be celibate for her, it won't work, you are putting her In gods place, once you are deeply in love with God, you would want to be celibate even if you were single.
every interview or show I see them on, they always hold hands. so in love 😍
great advice! 👏
Celibacy is so in 🏠 21 years & counting! Living & loving a celibate lifestyle is the best thing for your mind, body & spirit.
How do you appropriately deal with urges? Do you think masturbation is ok?
@@Lemons19902010 Getting a close relationship with God, is key! Praying in the morning and throughout the day. If a thought comes into my head I change the channel. I I play around with a thought it can become a movie. I chose not to do that. I also do not date, I am waiting for the one God has for me. This is why it’s important to talk to God because he will help you!
@@biblegirl2980 thank you for replying!
@@Lemons19902010 As for masturbation, I don’t masturbate. It’s not for me!
If you chose to, because it is difficult to fight urges, ask God to gradually deliver you from masturbation. A relationship with God gives you peace, grace & hope , as you grow into the person God has assigned and predestined you to be.
Not always. All it's done is left me physically mentally and emotionally broken empty and depressed.
Woah, that's a great response 💝 Sacrifice!
Yessss! Devon! Perfect answer!!!!
Being that Devon and Megan's premarital celibacy was based on their faith in King Jehovah, what Devon is saying to the man about his love for the woman being strong enough to make him be celibate, isn't sound doctrine because it should never be in the power of the woman to make him celibate but in his faith in Christ that makes him celibate. If anything, if the woman is celibate for biblical reasons, she shouldn't be in a relationship with the guy that is unequivocally yoked with her, because she desires to follow the Will of God and when it comes to sex, he does not. That's more temptation for her to fall in her faith because if he wants sex and he made that clear, he may test the waters.
Wooow my sentiments took the words right out of my mouth !!! I questioned if she was a believer or not because if so why is she with a man whom doesn’t share the same value or values Jesus the way she values the Lord ! Yesss it’s definitely not by your own power can you remain abstinent only by the Power of Jesus Christ ! I’m so glad you said this because it is so true ! And I questioned the same after he gave his answer to the guy ! It comes from the basis of why she wants to be celibate ? Her commitment to Jesus ? I would presume but yes if so she shouldn’t be unequally yoked Amen ten thousand times over to your response !
kayla song But I pray that hopefully the man asks why all this is said ! I pray it peaks his interest in knowing at the end of the day ! Prayerfully the mans eyes open as to why he should wait and the value of it and where it originated from Jesus Christ himself !
The problem with believers is we don’t know how to gracefully navigate worldly settings. Our setting is the church and outside of that we don’t know how to communicate and inspire others without being religious. This man and his wife are on a secular talk she speaking to an unbeliever and what you’re saying is that Devon should hold an unbeliever to a believers standard ??? Was he to break out bible scriptures on tv?? You have to feed someone milk before they can stomach meat. Had someone shared with me half of what I live by now as a believer back in my unsaved days I would have been pushed away. But in a day and age where we have witches and people with false agendas leading motivational /empowerment we need Christians serving as a BRIDGE ! God bless them. They are playing their part as bridges! As souls are lead over the bridge there will be leaders awaiting them who can continue to mold them into the image of Christ. Let’s play our part in the body without expecting all parts to look the same
Amen exactly!
The Lord kept me 9 years and 9 months celibate before I got married!! And my wife was a virgin!! Oh GLoRy!! What a precious union!! God I thank you for my wife!
@@RJ12347 !???
But we're you a virgin?
If my woman doesn’t look at me how she looks at him I don’t want her 😂😂😂
Ronald Wade you mean like if she don't love you like kanye loves himself? 😂😂😂😄
Girl on panel is simply gorgeous. Prefectly glowing skin
There are few men like this. My husband is one of them. As long as sacrificing lines up with the word of God or it's something to help me overcome he wouldn't think a second of doing it, even if he doesn't understand. I too am blessed with an amazing husband.
Can we all just take a moment to be happy for Megan and her growth she can a long way an still on top🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
I’m a virgin and will be until I’m married. If any guy can’t respect that, then they’re not the guy I should be with. The guy I’m supposed to be with is going to respect that.
I used to talk to guys and very soon the convo would get into sexual stuff, some of them wanted to have sex and couldn’t get with the fact that I want to wait, it wouldn’t work for them. Then we would fall off talking and I’d get upset because I’m like “Dang, most guys just want sex, it’s more to a woman than bedroom action.” But in actuality they weren’t the guy I needed to be with. The guy I’m supposed to be with is going to be on the same level as me.
Like he said if this woman is the one for you then you’re going to do what it takes to get her, and if not then you’ll leave.
Meagan and Devon are one set of marriage i do cherish alot... they may not have perfect marriage but they know how to mend theirs and help others have a happier marriage... I adore them 😍😍 #hearttohearttv
And now Devon is out here in the game with the rest of us. The grass is not always greener 🤷🏾♂️
I am so happy for Meagan good.. She is a beautiful woman who God has send her a good man Her Husband Devon Franklin in her life as as her angel 😇. She’s a great actress and people always have judged her and taking her as being misunderstood.. The way Her Husband loves her and guides fully into God’s Righteousness is a great thing they are a beautiful couple.💕💕💍💍💍💍👑
yooo the sir is a King for real. young man is wise and he clearly practices what he preachers
Did You See The Way "That Man"
Looked LOLOL Like DeVon Was
Speaking A Whole Nother Language!!
He Was Like Man I Thought You
Had My Back!!
DeVon is Like, Man I Got
Meagan's Back!!
Idk! I just feel like him and Meagan would’ve got married regardless if they waited or not.
Sound advice.💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
wow these men are great ! he says when's the wedding ? where you gonna find her at ? agh no where ! yup buy that ring Mr
Celibate five years 👊🏾❤️
Devon what an excellent point! When you get married the sacrifices won't stop. And if you are not willing to sacrifice for her maybe she is not the one for you (aka you are not the one for her) Excellent!
And Steve excellent as well! You have already said she is the one for you. Where will you find another her?
Amen.....not 90 day's but until marriage in Jesus name
I like how they hold hands often on tv..it represents unity.
If you are tempted to sleep with someone, then flee tempration or marry asap.
Waiting is the best cause you get know yourself better together its a blessing I think
Not for everyone
I was watching one of these types of videos like five months ago . A lady in the comments said she waited and they are married now but the sex is bad and she doesn’t know what to do
Wow!! Devon really nailed it.
The comments on here are ridiculous. Do you even know her reason for being celibate? It is incredibly hard to be celibate, ecspecially our society. Sbe could be celibate for religious purposes or personal reasons. You don't know.. So saying that he should leave her not your judgement to make. If it works out, it works out. End of story.
Well does she take in to account that a man has rules too. Its one sided. Not the thing for a marriage.
Megan and Devon are my relationship idols. May God keep blessing them!
Meagan looking at Devon like true love!
Steve had me at SO WHEN IS THE WEDDING =D! i ddnt expect him to say that
well its nice seeing ppl living today in 2016 like its 1800 or 1900!-we all try im sure, as for this guy he should not simply rely on his instincts, maybe ask a relative who is really spiritual-u know-the type that here from God koz of their deep faith, koz we all know NOT ALL priests or deacons or whatever are holy (behind closed doors) or if he believes in God he should simply pray & fast, however-thats a whole entire program requiring no sin & much time in prayer, MEDITATION ON THE SCRIPTURES etc-if he can do that to get an accurate answer otherwise-its way risky judging a fruit or book from the outward appearance! it either is or aint! No offence..like Meagan said in her story, she prayed on it-not half prayed but full on sinless lifestyle & praying before she got revelation that Devon was/is the one!
As a suppose to be pastor his answer should have been first because God commands both to wait until you’re married...
I always say that dating and relationships are a rehearsal for being in a marriage, it's too bad so many people are wasting other people's time and by the time they want to get married or do get married they don't have the discipline for it. It's true that if you can't sacrifice during courtship, you won't have the correct decision during marriage.
Great advice Devon!! Steve is hilarious!! Would have liked to hear Meagan answer the question also from female perspective.
Mad respect for gentleman out there even attempting this.
That was some doggone straight up solid advice. Dang!
This was honestly pretty emotional to hear, if you love her and she's the one...well there's your answer.
Great advice.
Sacrifices don't stop...
I don’t agree. If he has not made up in HIS mind that he needs to be celibate, I don’t think she should ask him to. Even if he agrees to, he will break under pressure and worse he will rush to marry her for the wrong reason.
Juanita Michelle tbh this is the wisest comment I’ve seen here
I don’t agree too
Devon married his wife in two years and acting like his just went 7 years waiting
I believe that you should not force someone to be celibate. But the solution to that is to go your separate ways. If you have sex because of what the other person wants then they forced what they want on you also. It’s unfair either way. Your beliefs and values do not align. Go your separate ways.
I Loove the answer Devon gave! God bless their union
Personally I think that's horrible advice!! If you want sex and she doesn't, all you are doing is prolonging the inevitable!! You have different relationship ideals and thus need to move on!
Nyakz I disagree that this is “prolonging the inevitable.” While a disconnect in ideals can demonstrate a mismatch, the issue of celibacy doesn’t seem to be so deep to this man. I think he is willing to try for his gf, but it’s difficult when you’re accustomed to fast gratification. Relationships require compromise and they’re not always easy.
Beautifully said
PREACH!!!!!!! He cleared that ALL THE WAY UP!!!!!! AMEN!!! ❣️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❣️
This man better preach! So so true
Excellent advice from Devon 👏🏼
I love this couple! Beautiful, smart, loyal, protective..
😢but why didn’t they work out?
Harvey just saved that relationship. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I personally think it’s better to find someone with the same values as you because then no one is being forced to do anything they don’t want to.I’m not sure why other people would want to be celibate but my own reason is to rebuild myself spiritually and emotionally I’ve seen what this whole mentality of treating sex like nothing has done to a lot of people.The truth is people like to treat sex as if it’s nothing yet it carries so much,I don’t even know how to explain it.But for as long as you don’t believe in spirituality it will never make sense.I’ve always said and believed if someone does not believe in something they will not listen or understand.So all you can do is live life the way you feel is right and find people who want the same.You will keep attracting more like you.
Very good answer
she is so gorgeous
They are such a beautiful couple. God put them together.
If the sex act is over in five minutes, to me, the partner isn't being respected as a human being.
She basically let him know. No contact without the marriage contract!!
Wait until marriage? Not happening. Sorry, not sorry. What happens if it takes 3, 4, 5 years to get married? She can wait if she want to but I'm gone.
Perfect!
Waiting filters out guys who thinks like this. Premarital sex wouldn't solve the kinds of problems that would arise with these characters types. Waiting saves the girl time in this regard. And shes happier for it!!
So sad they didn't make it
Good to know there are still forums where this depraved mindset of "you have to try it before you buy it" isn't enabled.
To the many more ladies and a few men, out here.
Who truly want to wait for Marriage, to Seal the Cool deal.😀!
An Abundance of Communication, Commonalities, and PASSION..!
Must be there for both, for this to even have a True chance of lasting F❤REVER......!
Great Luck To All of You 😉 😉 😆!
How Steve Harvey going to speak for that man? "You ain't gonna leave her." "You going to stay right there." You can't speak for him, people say they love each other all the time and say what they not going to do. It's left up to him on he decides and none of us will know, not even you Steve! Well spoken answer by Devon.