TheFullswordslord. The instructor agreed to only do the interview on the expressed condition that she would not try to drive the car (and he threw the car key down the drain to make sure).
The fact that Alexandra did many lessons and even when people doubted her she still pushed herself past the anxiety enough to carry on. She didn't give up and had perseverance...What a solider!! She is such a role model to other who feel this way when driving including myself and now seeing such an amazing example like Alexandra having the confidence to now drive is helping so many other people. Thank you so much Alexandra for making this video, your are such an inspiration. I hope eventually I pass too.
Even though I don't have an anxiety disorder, I can relate to much of what Alexandra has said. I was quite an anxious driver and so I switched from manual to automatic and the difference was night and day. I felt soo much more at ease whilst driving and it made me excited to hop into the driving seat and learn to drive. Huge amount of respect for Alexandra for persevering and succeeding.
I'm currently contemplating buying a second vehicle with a manual transmission. I have time to learn to drive it (actually I've driven a stick shift 4 years ago for a week), but I have to decide if the transmission will be a deal breaker for this vehicle, which also has a camper that I want.
Yeap. I'm currently learning, have been for the last year, give or take a couple months. On the first month I could tell the transmission was going to be a big, big problem. I couldn't convince my dad that it was hard because it's been second nature for him for decades, he doesn't even remember his beginner days. Sadly I can't afford to simply get an automatic car, as they're relatively rare where I live and we're dirt poor (the "car" I drive is actually a van from the early 90s that we got for cheap because it had been left to rot in tall grass for years). On top of that I have a pretty bad case of generalized anxiety disorder. So I've just been soldiering on. Tonight for the first time ever I felt very relaxed driving my mom home. I still have plenty left to learn like parallel parking or highway norms, but I'm making progress. I doubt it'll take me 4 years, but given the circumstances, I wouldn't feel inadequate if it did. Life isn't fair, what can ya do.
Me too!! Alexandria talking about confidence was very validating because I struggle with self confidence in driving too (even in an automatic!). But I enjoy driving far more in an automatic now :)
Right there with you! I have anxiety disorder and it was only through an automatic that I could learn to drive. Actually just waiting on buying my first manual as I go through this awesome channel's videos on clutch control after falling in love with driving.
Well done I have mental health bi-polar. And struggle with the test day itself. And confidence issues. With driving instructor had lots of different driving instructors. And god knows how many hours of learning. But determined to pass. Last test I failed right at the end on a reverse manovere around a car. Legs were shaking as doing it as knew I'd pass if done it. Gutted I failed but will try again. Good luck to everyone. With mental health.
She reflects exactly what i felt during my lessons and how i still feel after i've passed. A lot of people when they pass are straight onto the motorway and driving to the fullest. People like me who have driven for over 2 years now have only been on the motorway about 4 times and each time was because i had no other choice and each time was only one junction in duration. It takes time for some of us like she said, to just gain confidence in ourselves first. My first time driving on my own was to work and back which was only 10 minutes away, i was shitting bricks. Now 2 years later i can say i've driven 85 miles to the coast and back. A huge milestone. I hope mores to come. Thanks for the video i'm just glad i'm not alone with this anxiety crap.
@@nicole_gemmell You'll get there 🙂, me now a further 2 years after my original comment i can say i've been on the motorway more times and for longer journeys. Not really a fan of the motorway but i'm not too bothered by it now. I'm proud of myself for the confidence i've gained since i passed in 2019. You will too.
@@skeptical1705word, my first time on the motorway it was a 250 mile trip down the country a month after passing. I still feel iffy in the city, but motorways are really relaxed
This is me right now. Im 30 and I have just passed my theory & having lessons weekly and confidence is a huge issue for me, I have anxiety leading up to the lesson every single week, and when its over I literally go for a nap and its a huge weight off my shoulder… until the next week 😭
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to take away some of the pressure, don't worry about driving badly it's fine and normal when learning. Just try to enjoy the process. Much easier said than done though.
I'm exactly the same! My practical test is coming up and I need to practice, but I dread every single lesson. Also, I'm driving my own car with family as the lessons were too nerve-wracking, it would literally ruin my week just worrying about it.
i am the same, i get exhausted every week because i spend half of it anxious for my lesson and it just took my energy. so i asked my instructor if i could do lessons every fortnight, this helps me have at least 1 week respite from the anxiety, i also have my own car which i do use at least once a week even if a brief trip somewhere local with my fiancee to help me. that way i dont get too rusty behind the wheel. i still have the anxiety before my lessons but thats cause i feel like its more performance anxiety, trying to prove myself. i want the lessons and practical over with so that i can have my life back again and not feel like ive lost half my life in the swirl of anxiety.. i tried having lessons on a weekday but i ended up worse off when im working as i get really anxious, plus when i finish im just going to be stuck in rush hour traffic anyway. so i have to sacrifice time on my weekend instead.
Never be put off. It doesn't matter how long it takes or how many tests you take, when you pass you've achieved the same standard as everyone else and you've earned your stripes.
My mate passed his test first time in 1990 when we were both 17. I am now 51 and about to take my first test. I kept putting off learning to drive because of anxiety. I started out learning back in 1992 and gave up due to anxiety and lack of confidence.
Same here i started learning to drive 12 years ago. I practiced for a year then stopped as i wasnt progressing at all. My instructor even bumped me off on another instructor. After 9 years i plucked the courage to start my lessons again . 3 years learning and 2 failed tests with very long covid lockdown gaps in between i persevered . I was going to give up when my mum passed away in August as i got depression but my instructor booked me a test. I was a nervous wreck shaking so much on the day.i couldnt believe it when the examiner told me id passed. It was an emotional roller coaster all the way through and i never thought i would pass. Anxiety is a mental fight between mind and body which drains you.
I'm so inspired by this lady, so glad that she achieved her goal. I'm 49 and just starting to learn, I'm determined (also suffer with anxiety and lack of confidence) to overcome fears and challenges.
I'm 47 and have a lesson booked this week! Also have anxiety but yes I'm also wanting to overcome my fears and drive. I don't want to be afraid anymore
Same I’m 30 & definitely want to overcome my fear of driving but I want to learn cause I wanna be able to get around on my own w/out having to rely on anyone & I wanna be able to take my kids wherever they wanna go
I think I had about the same amount of hours of lessons because of my anxiety (I'm 24 with learning difficulties that affect my driving.) I never thought I'd pass - I passed my test 2nd time this year. I chose automatic, because it let me focus more on the road. I'd have panic attacks before every lesson, nearly quit, and hated driving. Now I've been driving for a few months and I'm doing things I'd never thought I'd do, like motorway driving for example. I promise you, you can do it. If you want more lessons, have them. If you want automatic, do it. Change your instructor if you like - I went through about 4 until I was comfortable, which is so important. Whatever gets you behind the wheel, it's your journey. Thank you for this channel, it really helped me!
Going for an automatic definitely seems like a smart choice if you're an anxious person as there is SOO much less to focus on when learning and stalling can really get even calm, level-headed people quite flustered, surprised more people don't take the obvious route like you did and make things a lil easier on themselves
@@BrewTimeRS Everyone was telling me to not do automatic because manual means you can drive both, and I know a lot of people feel pressured by this statement to not go automatic, and push themselves to major discomfort by this remark. But I'm glad I did it my way!
I know I'm two years late to comment 😂 but I just want to thank Alexandra for this. I'm not far off taking my test and I can totally relate to this. I'm in my 40s and have put it off for so long because of a previous driving trauma. I know you're probably very anxious to be on video but you are giving such confident vibes! Well done for getting to grips with your anxiety, Alexandra. Thank you ❤
Having a patient driving instructor that encourages and believes in you makes a difference. I had a couple that raised their voice and got annoyed with me. I lacked confidence for a long time time and the pressure to pass was a lot. I drove on and off for years and ended up wasting lots of money. During lockdown I bought a car and family members helped me to build my confidence. I focused on just being comfortable and driving to ease the pressure off the test. I could drive but it was the nerves so trying to relax and remember you’re in control helps. I then did both - family lessons and professional and found a new instructor I finally passed with only 17 days left on my theory! I couldn’t drive on dual carriageways without worrying or doing more than 40mphs but now it’s a breeze. You can do this! Driving is not a sprint it’s a marathon. The more you do lessons and learn the better you are on the road
Well done Alexandra! Huge respect to you. At the ripe old age of 46 I began to learn to drive after years of feeling overly anxious about it. the only way is up folks! Go your own pace, remember why you wanted to do this. You've got this!
I had the wonderful privilege of learning to drive with Rich. He's such a great guy who not only has a fantastic grasp of driving, but also a range of excellent of teaching skills. I had troubles learning, and I was very supported through the process. :)
ive had many panic attacks while driving but over the past few months my confidence has really grown. it’s crazy that i used to panic driving 20mph and last week my driving instructor took me on the motor way for the first time and i did really well :)
I’m 4 minutes into this vid and feel quite emotional. I also have anxiety and it’s affecting my driving, I’ve done a lot of hours now but this video makes me have faith and know that I will get there in the end, also seeing that it’s not just me really helps, a very well done to her for perseverance and thankyou for making this video
It’s the night before my third test and I’ve been learning for 2 years now, I’m so so anxious but this has made me feel a bit better and less alone in this problem, thank you!
I am currently learning to drive with Social anxiety, I know exactly how she feels, but personally I found that trying to do precise movements under the 'scrutiny' of my instructor on quiet roads, such as the simple things, as practising speed and turning at junction's and so on, the early stuff. To be more anxiety feeding and causes me make mistakes, then actually driving on roads with other motorists. Once i was on those, the anxiety melted away as i was driving, because i had to pay attention to the road rather then the nagging feeling of being watched. That isn't to say I don't make small mistakes however, nobody is perfect.
Huge huge love and respect to Alexandra ❤ I have GAD, ADHD and other mental health disorders that severely impact my confidence and overall cognition and her experience and perspective matches completely to what I and others are going through. Patience, determination and love are definitely the way to get the confidence back to be able to drive safely and smoothly - and how long you take to do something shouldn't matter as long as you can do it right and confidently. I have my first test booked for January, and I hope to pass!
I am doing the refresher driving , passed over 30 years ago first time, lost my confidence, my instructor is amazingly patient . My confidence has got much better . Love these videos.
She’s such a sweetheart. Thank you so much for sharing! It took me more time to learn than my friends and family and I finally passed my driving license this year. Looking back, I’m happy I took the time that I needed. I took the test 3 times and i was anxious, stressed and shaky during my first test but it got better and better with practice and experience. Just keep going, you’ll get there!
Thanks for speaking out Alexandra, I've been learning since May, had about 60 hours, test booked in march. I used to literally shake and sweat so much and as soon as one thing went wrong I'd just go all panicky and couldn't think clearly, it's gotten a lot better and I can control the nerves better now so hoping by March I'll be ready, it's nice to hear I'm not alone and well done for not giving up and so glad your hard work and determination paid off xxx
In Australia we have to do a minimum of 120 hours as a Learner before we can take our test. So to put a different spin on it, you learned faster than every Australian. 😜 Don't let the hours bother you - the result is the same in the end! I hope you passed and got your confidence now.
I’m 25 and honestly never thought I’d learn to drive and was happy with the thought of using public transport for the rest of my life but the pandemic really showed me how inconvenient simple things are when you don’t have a license so I finally bit the bullet and began lessons last June (I was so nervous, anxious, felt ill before my lessons) and it took me 47ish hours with no private practice but I managed to pass this March on my first try! I completely relate to how nerve wracking it can be
I suffered with a generalized anxiety and panic disorder(s) - despite all my mates turning 17 then going in the driving seat, i wouldn't even approach it. I was actually more frightened of the social interaction (which was always the greatest point of my anxiety) - than the driving, but the driving didn't help. 2 CBT "courses" and 6 months of pills later, and i'm not perfect but i'm much better, test is two days and I'm just about breaking a sweat now..... my point is though, if my condition was more serious or wouldn't reduce the way it did, i don't know if i could've done it, let alone talk about it pubicly like this. I have huge respect for you sticking at it and sharing your experiences!
This really helped calm my nerves. Unfortunately, my entire family has engraved into my head that manual is the only car ill be learning in so i had no other choice. I have an incredibly hard time conceptualizing the clutch and doing 4 different things in a 3 second span so what ends up happening is my mind blanks, I forget what to do and have a mini anxiety attack on the road, which never ends well (no crash but alot of embarrassment/humiliation ). The second i see another car im already in panic mode and even my mums concerned about the anxiety I get the day before a lesson. I honestly think if I was allowed to just have an auto license, I would be much happier, but that wont happen for a while🥲. I remind myself that even if it takes longer, it'll be the right amount of time that I personally need and that I'll get there one day😖 This video and specifically your channel helps me alot so thank you so much for that!
It's important to learn what you want to learn. As for too much to do at once, try to learn to control the car slowly in a quiet area without traffic. Then try to accept when you're learning to improve your skill on the road you will slow traffic down. It's perfectly normal when learning.
What a lovely lady Alexandria is, she should be extremely proud of herself. I too suffer with anxiety disorder which prevented me from driving for 10 years after passing my test. A year ago I decided to get on the road, I had refresher lessons and got my first car in October 2020. It's been a long road for me and I needed to get medication from the Dr which helped me cope with the panic attacks. I can now pretty much drive anywhere and I can get in the car with no issues. Anyone who is anxious about driving, there is light at the end of the tunnel ❤️
I needed this today, I suffer with anxiety and the last two lessons I've hit a mental block. My instructor is fabulous and knows when to push and not push my limits. I just need to not put pressure on myself 😊
Wow this is one of your best videos. Alexandra is so honest and true to herself in this video. It reminded me and friends who struggled to drive due to self doubt and anxiety. You were a good instructor being so patient with her!!
I just recently learned how to drive as well and I'm already 34! It's never about being early or late to learn something, what's important is that you learned them because you wanted to. Just like how Alexandra had pointed out. So to every drivers in this content, always stay safe on the road everyone! Thank you for sharing this video!
She is a very articulate and intelligent person. She doesn't appear anxious on camera so maybe that's a talent of hers. I think I'm more anxious on camera than she is 😂
Im 51 with severe driving anxiety. Been doing lessons since 2019. I have failed 3 times and and my confidence is at an all time low. I feel like giving up but know I cant as I have invested so much time and money in this. Its nice to find this video and know I am not alone.
Siouxsie Sleuth dont give up. Am 59 and did a start stop since i was 22 four times each decade and now am in Holland moved from UK in 2001.. This time am now going for automatic 30/03 trusting that this is the last lap. Conquer driving is helping and this interview is an absolute God send🙏🏽🫶🏽
I relate quite a bit to this! I started learning to drive in 2018 with a manual car and it was *stressing* me out. My father and brothers tried teaching me but I was always nervous and would get physically sick just thinking about driving. Last month I decided enough was enough and booked lessons with an automatic vehicle. I only did 7 hours and my instructor told me to book my drivers test and I passed! I decided to drive a car that didn't stress me out unnecessarily and it helped me sooooo much. Learning to be kind to yourself and patient really helps when dealing with anxiety in driving
I suffer with anxiety but I had a fab instructor who built my confidence and I started driving in June 2021 and passed in November 2021. I can relate at the same time but I had a bit more confidence to jump into it where I was out of my depth but I had full trust in my instructor!
I really appreciate this as someone with anxiety. I had 2 different instructors because i wasn’t comfortable with my first one. Done way more lessons than i have heard of anyone else doing and failed my test the first time, which really knocked me. I didn’t want to do it at all again but i did and im so grateful i passed, I probably wouldn’t have done it a 3rd time as i just hated the stress so much and i really struggled being in a car with a stranger. Thanks for making this video, i passed last week and watched as much of you as i could to refresh before my test and it really helped keeping me calm and making me feel more confident. Thanks for being a great guy and doing this video and being patient and kind 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
It was great listening to Alexandra, but a lot of ppl don’t have the money to do over 300 hours of lessons. I do believe confidence is a key thing with driving and believing in yourself. Plus listening to the instructor, watching self help videos, if you keep at it, all will sink in. A instructor can’t snap someone out of having anxiety but maybe doing some meditation and calming videos before driving may help. I’m not knocking Alexandra’s story, it’s great that she passed, congratulations. But it’s unrealistic for most who wouldn’t be able to afford 300 hours of driving.. in my opinion.
Well done Alexandra!!❤️ My story is the opposite….I passed my test first time with 0 fault, but my anxiety developed after when I started to drive alone…it took 2 years to start enjoy driving and accept that I am not a bad driver and capable of making good decisions at the right time. All what I can say is please do not feel any shame and take your time!
Once you pass, all of that stress, time and money spent learning will be overshadowed by the happiness and relief of passing. You just have to keep going and it will eventually pay off.
Fantastic video as always. I have been learning all year and I'm an anxious person. Eventually, I realised my instructor was not right for me. He was very nice, but he ALWAYS made me drive at the speed limit, and always made me go faster, and pushed me way to hard. I changed instructor, who was calmer, let me do things at my own pace (and made me realise I don't have to go really fucking fast) and already I have had some of the best lessons ever and have become so much more confident! I booked my driving test in a few months. It makes a WORLD of difference!!!
What my anxiety thing in driving is when I am manuevering for parking because I am driving slow, its hard to read if my tires are straight if you dont have power steering, so I struggle when I see my vehicle weaves on side when I want to move/reverse forward. Its easy to re straight your tires while driving because you have at least decent speed
In my case my instructor is okay however I get nervous and I have this gut feeling that makes me uncomfortable before any driving lesson. It started off okay but now every time he teaches something new he expects me to know how to do it so every time I screw up, he rises his voice. I make mistakes and everytime he makes me more and more uncomfortable. For me it’s important to do things several times before I finally get them so I don’t think this instructor is my right match. I’ve almost had 20 hours driving and I was thinking of finding another instructor. It’s so hard to find one though so it’s like I have to stick with him or I’ll just practice with my mom
@@lousdinovembre I was basically in the same situation! I'd feel sick with nervousness before my lessons, but now I've switched to this other instructor I look forward to them! It's really like night and day. Have a look around on Facebook if you can. I found her because of recommendations and a high pass rate. I hope you can find someone better! He shouldn't rise his voice at you 😭
As a patient suffering from depression, anxiety and probably some trace of ADHD, hopefully I can say I have passed the driving test in 13 days. Glad Alexandra shared her story to somebody like me.
This is a very moving story. Congratulations Alexandra, I have a lot of admiration for your grit and determination - if I was your friend/mother I would be very, very proud of you. Disclosure - I have diagnoses of CPTSD and CEN, anxiety is a big problem for me and has hampered me so much in life (I'm learning at 60). Your experience (alongside the other videos in this series) is really encouraging and valuable for a lot of people I'm sure. Thank you for having the courage to share it.
Well done Alexandra, congrats to you driving out on your own after you’ve passed! Well done to both Richard & Alexandra for keeping at it and getting what you both wanted a test pass. 🚙👍🏼👏🏻
Thank you so much for your videos! I will continue learning with each one. I passed on my second try today with 2 minors, my first attempt ended very quickly as I was just so nervous with the pressure of the covid backlog and my theory test expiration date approaching. Had to go for 4 ‘tests’ in total as 2 were cancelled on the day and the anxiety for days/weeks before each one was awful. Overall, it took me around 3 years to pass due to many factors like lack of money, no friends or family available to practice with, having to switch instructors at short notice, and of course, lockdown after lockdown. These videos kept my driving knowledge up and have helped me to gain confidence with my driving despite it all. To anyone else struggling to get their license, take it easy on yourself, there’s so many obstacles at the moment and it might feel nearly impossible but just keep going. You will get there, best of luck!
Alexandra, you are an amazing human being. You NEVER gave up no matter how hard it got. Thank you so much for telling your story. Feels like I'm alone and I know I'm not. You are a star and so deserving of your license. I have so much more admiration for someone who tried and tried no matter how hard it got, than someone who takes 20 lessons and passes first time. I don't have an anxiety disorder in general, but I do when it comes to learning to drive.
After 32 years without driving,after I leave the Police in Brazil, I start the school driving in Italy last August,,,,when I was in Uk, I learned one think,, NEVER GIVE UP , big RESPECT for your determination.
Taking my exam for the 4th time tomorrow… I’m so stressed out, it feels like I’ll never pass. I put learning to drive off for a long time because of anxiety too… You’re so brave Alexandra!! Thanks for sharing EDIT: I PASSED THE 5TH TIME!!!
Thanks for sharing this video at the right time for me I have lost count in the amount of hours I've learned to drive so far . I also suffer really bad anxiety disorder myself this is a big help to me a combination of your videos and my current instructor have helped massively with my 3rd test looming I need to try and keep my head so too speak also fair play to Alexandra for sharing her story that is quite a brave thing to do
Nerves got the better of me on my first test in a manual after 40 hours with a rubbish instructor I'm going to try an automatic test next time found a new lovely instructor who really does want to help can't wait for my next three lessons in Jan one tip I can give is take it at your own pace don't book your test until you feel ready ☺️ thanks for everything x
Well done Alexandra for not giving up. It doesn't match how long it took you. You did it in the end. It must have been a big boost to your confidence when you passed. 👍
Wow what an incredible woman! So proud of you and the achievements it is so beyond inspirational for us who have anxiety disorders too thank you Richard x
Amazing video! Thank you very much! I've been more than one year with lessons, I also have anxiety, and what I find more challenging is the social pressure of not learning quick enough , even though I rationally know that this is not important or the aim, the aim is achieving the goal, doesn't matter when. Thank you again x
Thank you for your story. It helps me. I am a learner again because I need to learn to drive with an automatic transmission now and with my left foot. I think I need my time too, anxiety has grown.
🙏 Huge thanks to Alex. I can't thank him enough. I cleared my manual driving test on a second attempt in Dubai. His videos are incredibly educational, the best out there for international driving license! I'll continue learning to avoid fines, penalties in order to drive safe and better!
Thank you so much for this video. Like Alexandra, I too have an anxiety disorder and it’s kicked in today whilst doing my lesson. Was in floods of tears saying the exact same things. But after hearing this I will absolutely 100% be taking everything on board and trying to not put too much pressure on myself. Thank you!
Thank you Alexandra you’ve made me realise there still hope for me not to give up.Since the last lockdown in Scotland I’ve hardly had a lesson because my anxiety and confidence really hit a low but you’ve made me realise it all takes time.I am 57 and really want to learn to drive.I’ve got my own car and my husband teaching me, I have no problem with gears and speed too.So thank you
Thanks both for making this video. I’ve put off driving for twenty five or so years due to anxiety (I failed my second test in 1996 and it crippled my mental health), got my third test in April. I feel totally different and had to learn to drive again (cars have changed sooo much!). Third time lucky?! Let’s see 🙌
Amazing video for an anxious driver like myself. I am restarting my lessons within the next few months. This channel is what has given me the confidence and determination to try again
Alexandra is truly inspiring! I've had my 37th driving lesson yesterday, and as usual lately it went horribly. In addition to lessons with my instructor, I drive almost every day under the supervision of my father, and when I do I feel like I'm doing pretty alright. I follow the speed limitations, I can park, get the car back in the garage in reverse, make a U-turn, etc. But whenever I drive with my driving instructor, it goes horribly: I get so nervous I don't notice half the signs, I drive either too fast or too slow, I brake too much, and as a result my driving instructor points out every time I do wrong (which is normal), but she does so in an increasingly frustrated and annoyed manner, and snaps at me when I get either annoyed or depressed as a result. She called me "a pain in the *ss" yesterday and I ended up not uttering a word for the rest of the lesson. I was even more taken aback considering we had been chatting and laughing just a few minutes prior. I know I'm an anxious wreck (driving is terrifying to me, no matter how much or often I drive) and I've always been better at theory than practice, but it's very disheartening to feel like after all this time I'm still no good at driving. It's like I'm not making any progress anymore. I don't even know if I really am being a "pain in the *ss" like she said or if she's the one making me too anxious to drive properly... Anyway, sounds like I'm gonna need about 300 hours as well
Aw just don't give any ear to any negative comment.All you need is positivity and positive affirmations, built up that by listening to positive affirmations, i am sure you will make it.All the best!
If you still need the lessons then find a different instructor, there are lovely understanding instructors out there. I changed instructors several times and most people do. You have to feel really comfortable with your instructor. I found it nerve wracking being a car with someone who was technically watching my every move, once I knew how to drive I just drove with family and took my test in my own car
I have had instructor who used c word f word and swearing all sort. Also the one who said he will say everytime I make mistake fail words just because I didn't listen to him and went to driving test but failed I just wanted to know how does it feels he also refuse to let me use his car to test so I used my own and managed to test full 45mins with I only failed because I went on red box with bicycle 🥲 and stalled on the hill on independent driving. I was so glad I went for a test. I've done almost full scored on theory test both times that's the most easy part but driving with short temper instructors is horrifying....so just practicing with my own car now. Good luck 🤞
I have a huge respect to this girl who managed to overcome her anxiety and pass the test. I know its not easy especially if there are some people around who discouraged you and she proved them wrong. Good job Alexandria. Anyway, thank you so much for this wonderful video and to all your videos that i’ve watched for the past few weeks before my test last Monday 20/12/2021 and luckily that i’ve passed 1st time with just 1 minor. Now i’m part of those who passed but still watched this kind of video about driving. Thank you once again. Cheers.☺️
This video is so so helpful, I’ve been learning to drive on and off for 3 years & have my third test coming up in two days. I do absolutely fine in lessons but, for me, it’s thinking about the test that sends me into a complete state of panic. This helps me to feel like it’s ok & I will get there - thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing your experience Alexandra! I have my test coming up in a couple months and I am not the most confident driver, but your story is really motivating me! Hopefully I will get my confidence soon!
I can relate I passed my test in 2011 and never driven due to panic disorder and anxiety I'm currently going back to it seriously and these videos are really helpful. Thank you
I take a bow, Alexandra! I had to make a small break because I was really suffering. And that's not the point of life, is it. Sure you have to try, insist and resist, but it's like Alexandra says: do things at your own pace and if you need to stop, just do it. Allow yourself to it. Remember what another great woman said, Simone Biles: it's OK not to be OK. I restarted a week ago and I fell so much better. I realised that I wasn't afraid of driving, I was afraid of having an anxiety crisis. One thing that for sure didn't help was that I wasn't just trying to go from A to B, I was trying perfection and being so hard on myself that I erased all the good things I did just to focus on very small mistakes. Imagine beating anxiety and manage to find room for still punish yourself... Thanks a lot Richard. Come on people, keep going, we can do this 🚗
And just one more thing: a lot of people struggle with driving just like many others struggle with...a lot of different things. You may be able to do something very easily that is a nightmare for the reincarnation of Ayrton Senna. This one time I had to ask for a lift because I wasn't capable of taking a wheel. We were going to the same event where I made a small talk. On the way back home he told me: "Oh thank God you did it, I panic when I have to speak in public!" We all have our battles!
I've been learning for three years now, I have more than 90 lessons. I am learning an automatic car, but I'm still scared every time I need to change lanes. Its not about anxiety or lack of confidence but it is about me being not able to do few things at the same time. You are amazing Alexandera
weirdly enough I also have anxiety and was always saying I will never even try to drive but when I first started with my lessons , I actually feel soo peaceful , my mind is free , im in full control while driving I feel amazing , im only at my 20th hour of lessons but I can't wait to pass and drive everyday to chill my mind I don't know how but I feel like driving is such a relaxing thing for my anxiety
Hats off tenacity is the greatest gift of all my admiration for you to be able to conquer any situation you find yourself in well done you only fail when you give up a true winner
This is beautiful and encouraging. I have had serious anxiety and driving used to take it to another level. I have become better and I am getting better every day. I keep trying and I will be a good driver if I keep putting effort into it.
Fair play to Alexandra for doing the video not only that but for persevering when people told her she shouldn’t do it I also suffer from an anxiety disorder after I lost my mum in 2020 and it’s also something that I really want to do so I kept failing the theory but I kept revising and kept retaking the test and I eventually passed and I’m starting a refresher course next week and I also hate having to rely on others and feel guilty I’m also really anxious as I haven’t driven for over 2 yrs so thankyou this has helped and given me some confidence
I’m 27 and kept talking myself out of learning to drive because of my anxiety. But I am now waiting to do my 3rd lesson with my theory booked. I found an instructor who pushes me which I love! Takes me out of my comfort zone which I struggle to get out of sometimes! So know i can’t wait to drive
Thank you so much. I won't say how many years I've been learning Got my next test next week. This time round it's been 2 years (after a 10 + year gap. Do feel like it will never happen and it's taking too long so thank you 😊
did you pass? I quit driving about 13 years ago after many failed tests. Felt like burning money on lessons and tests and just felt like i'm not someone who's cut out for driving. However, so many people on my back recently so i'm gonna start lessons again next week! I know I will never pass but at least it will shut some ppl up lol
Yes!!! I couldn't believe it but I did. I'm still not the most confident driver but I'm learning all the time. It was a bit of a running joke at work for a very long time but I did it. These videos were particularly helpful but I had a very strict instructor who basically stripped me down and started again. Honestly if I can do it after all that time I'm sure you can.
Big respect to u both especially instructor so good so understanding his not after money he wants a good results be supportive and pass end of the day Beautiful there is lot many people out there like this
Thank you! Of course I do lessons for money as it's my job. But I'm not trying to give someone more lessons than they need, if I wasn't teaching Alexandra I would have been teaching someone else in her time slot.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience Alexandra, I've just started learning aged 3, after years of being too anxious to even start. So inspiring to see someone who overcome anxiety and passed in their own time. I feel like no matter how long it takes I will be able to do it in the end after watching this. Loved this video, thank you!!
Keep trying and confidence will gradually appear. You may want to check your age as in the comment you said aged 3. I'm guessing a few more years might be more accurate. 😂
Thank you for sharing this. Made me feel a lot better. When i was 18 i tried to learn to drive but my anxiety was horrific. I was a in a car accident a year before where we crashed into a lorry doing 40mph and it left me with a lot of anxiety to learn to drive. I got an automatic licence and passed in that. I found i was less overwhelmed in an auto and got on better. 11 years later i just had my second lesson in a manual. And am doing amazing already but the one thing is my anxiety and confidence, i take breaks during my lesson to calm myself down. Am going to take my time and not worry how long it may take. But family tell me ooh its so easy blah blah that annoys me. But thank you for sharing this video and well done on passing and getting through it with anxiety because anxiety is not fun
Just to add the car accident was my mum driving not me luckily she and i was ok but it even stopped my mum driving for long time she refused to drive it was so scary x
Thank you Alexandra for sharing all of this. I am 3 lessons away from my test and I suffer with an anxiety disorder too and I still feel incredibly sick before any lesson.
I've got my test coming up. I'm determined to pass after failing but I've got so much anxiety around it and this video has given me so much more confidence. Thank you for doing this 💕
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Very brave of Alexandra to participate in this video! Massive respect
TheFullswordslord.
The instructor agreed to only do the interview on the expressed condition that she would not try to drive the car (and he threw the car key down the drain to make sure).
Yeah, huge deal sharing this with us and incredibly helpful! Very grateful for her sharing her story!
The fact that Alexandra did many lessons and even when people doubted her she still pushed herself past the anxiety enough to carry on. She didn't give up and had perseverance...What a solider!! She is such a role model to other who feel this way when driving including myself and now seeing such an amazing example like Alexandra having the confidence to now drive is helping so many other people. Thank you so much Alexandra for making this video, your are such an inspiration. I hope eventually I pass too.
Even though I don't have an anxiety disorder, I can relate to much of what Alexandra has said. I was quite an anxious driver and so I switched from manual to automatic and the difference was night and day. I felt soo much more at ease whilst driving and it made me excited to hop into the driving seat and learn to drive. Huge amount of respect for Alexandra for persevering and succeeding.
I'm currently contemplating buying a second vehicle with a manual transmission. I have time to learn to drive it (actually I've driven a stick shift 4 years ago for a week), but I have to decide if the transmission will be a deal breaker for this vehicle, which also has a camper that I want.
Did the same, feel so comfortable in an auto
Yeap. I'm currently learning, have been for the last year, give or take a couple months. On the first month I could tell the transmission was going to be a big, big problem. I couldn't convince my dad that it was hard because it's been second nature for him for decades, he doesn't even remember his beginner days. Sadly I can't afford to simply get an automatic car, as they're relatively rare where I live and we're dirt poor (the "car" I drive is actually a van from the early 90s that we got for cheap because it had been left to rot in tall grass for years). On top of that I have a pretty bad case of generalized anxiety disorder. So I've just been soldiering on. Tonight for the first time ever I felt very relaxed driving my mom home. I still have plenty left to learn like parallel parking or highway norms, but I'm making progress. I doubt it'll take me 4 years, but given the circumstances, I wouldn't feel inadequate if it did. Life isn't fair, what can ya do.
Me too!! Alexandria talking about confidence was very validating because I struggle with self confidence in driving too (even in an automatic!). But I enjoy driving far more in an automatic now :)
Right there with you! I have anxiety disorder and it was only through an automatic that I could learn to drive. Actually just waiting on buying my first manual as I go through this awesome channel's videos on clutch control after falling in love with driving.
My story is more worst than her I took 9 years, changed 5 instructors and spent around 4-5 grand on lessons, and finally pass my test 11.12.2021
You did it though! Congratulations!
@@ConquerDriving thanks you ❤️
Well done I have mental health bi-polar. And struggle with the test day itself. And confidence issues. With driving instructor had lots of different driving instructors. And god knows how many hours of learning. But determined to pass. Last test I failed right at the end on a reverse manovere around a car. Legs were shaking as doing it as knew I'd pass if done it. Gutted I failed but will try again. Good luck to everyone. With mental health.
Congratulations and you’re not alone
Well done, inspirational that you never gave up.
As an instructor I find the job satisfaction from helping people like Alexandra very rewarding.
Thank you for this . I have my test very soon and have been learning for nearly two years . Thank you for being an inspiration ❤
She reflects exactly what i felt during my lessons and how i still feel after i've passed. A lot of people when they pass are straight onto the motorway and driving to the fullest. People like me who have driven for over 2 years now have only been on the motorway about 4 times and each time was because i had no other choice and each time was only one junction in duration.
It takes time for some of us like she said, to just gain confidence in ourselves first. My first time driving on my own was to work and back which was only 10 minutes away, i was shitting bricks. Now 2 years later i can say i've driven 85 miles to the coast and back. A huge milestone. I hope mores to come.
Thanks for the video i'm just glad i'm not alone with this anxiety crap.
A motorway is just a glorified dual carriageway. Nothing at all to worry about :)
i find motorway driving much easier then in town
I have just recently passed and you have described what I feel perfectly
@@nicole_gemmell You'll get there 🙂, me now a further 2 years after my original comment i can say i've been on the motorway more times and for longer journeys. Not really a fan of the motorway but i'm not too bothered by it now. I'm proud of myself for the confidence i've gained since i passed in 2019. You will too.
@@skeptical1705word, my first time on the motorway it was a 250 mile trip down the country a month after passing. I still feel iffy in the city, but motorways are really relaxed
This is me right now. Im 30 and I have just passed my theory & having lessons weekly and confidence is a huge issue for me, I have anxiety leading up to the lesson every single week, and when its over I literally go for a nap and its a huge weight off my shoulder… until the next week 😭
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to take away some of the pressure, don't worry about driving badly it's fine and normal when learning. Just try to enjoy the process. Much easier said than done though.
I always need a cuppa and to unwind after my lessons too xxx
I'm exactly the same! My practical test is coming up and I need to practice, but I dread every single lesson. Also, I'm driving my own car with family as the lessons were too nerve-wracking, it would literally ruin my week just worrying about it.
i am the same, i get exhausted every week because i spend half of it anxious for my lesson and it just took my energy. so i asked my instructor if i could do lessons every fortnight, this helps me have at least 1 week respite from the anxiety, i also have my own car which i do use at least once a week even if a brief trip somewhere local with my fiancee to help me. that way i dont get too rusty behind the wheel. i still have the anxiety before my lessons but thats cause i feel like its more performance anxiety, trying to prove myself. i want the lessons and practical over with so that i can have my life back again and not feel like ive lost half my life in the swirl of anxiety.. i tried having lessons on a weekday but i ended up worse off when im working as i get really anxious, plus when i finish im just going to be stuck in rush hour traffic anyway. so i have to sacrifice time on my weekend instead.
I noticed that too, I'd be knackered after a lesson even though I was only driving a car, it's great when it's over though.
Never be put off. It doesn't matter how long it takes or how many tests you take, when you pass you've achieved the same standard as everyone else and you've earned your stripes.
I hope this young lady reads this - you superstar. Well done for passing with anxiety. You should be very proud of yourself.
My mate passed his test first time in 1990 when we were both 17. I am now 51 and about to take my first test. I kept putting off learning to drive because of anxiety. I started out learning back in 1992 and gave up due to anxiety and lack of confidence.
Same here i started learning to drive 12 years ago. I practiced for a year then stopped as i wasnt progressing at all. My instructor even bumped me off on another instructor. After 9 years i plucked the courage to start my lessons again . 3 years learning and 2 failed tests with very long covid lockdown gaps in between i persevered . I was going to give up when my mum passed away in August as i got depression but my instructor booked me a test. I was a nervous wreck shaking so much on the day.i couldnt believe it when the examiner told me id passed. It was an emotional roller coaster all the way through and i never thought i would pass. Anxiety is a mental fight between mind and body which drains you.
It's great to hear you persevered and passed. That takes strength.
Amazing achievement
I'm so inspired by this lady, so glad that she achieved her goal. I'm 49 and just starting to learn, I'm determined (also suffer with anxiety and lack of confidence) to overcome fears and challenges.
I'm 47 and have a lesson booked this week! Also have anxiety but yes I'm also wanting to overcome my fears and drive. I don't want to be afraid anymore
For someone who has driving anxiety like myself, you are a true inspiration!!
Same I’m 30 & definitely want to overcome my fear of driving but I want to learn cause I wanna be able to get around on my own w/out having to rely on anyone & I wanna be able to take my kids wherever they wanna go
I think I had about the same amount of hours of lessons because of my anxiety (I'm 24 with learning difficulties that affect my driving.) I never thought I'd pass - I passed my test 2nd time this year. I chose automatic, because it let me focus more on the road. I'd have panic attacks before every lesson, nearly quit, and hated driving. Now I've been driving for a few months and I'm doing things I'd never thought I'd do, like motorway driving for example. I promise you, you can do it. If you want more lessons, have them. If you want automatic, do it. Change your instructor if you like - I went through about 4 until I was comfortable, which is so important. Whatever gets you behind the wheel, it's your journey. Thank you for this channel, it really helped me!
Going for an automatic definitely seems like a smart choice if you're an anxious person as there is SOO much less to focus on when learning and stalling can really get even calm, level-headed people quite flustered, surprised more people don't take the obvious route like you did and make things a lil easier on themselves
@@BrewTimeRS Everyone was telling me to not do automatic because manual means you can drive both, and I know a lot of people feel pressured by this statement to not go automatic, and push themselves to major discomfort by this remark. But I'm glad I did it my way!
@@BrewTimeRS Because automatic lessons, cars, and insurance are more expensive.
@@TaxingIsThieving all factual points, but not everyone prioritises budget, so the discrepancy is still surprising to me
I know I'm two years late to comment 😂 but I just want to thank Alexandra for this. I'm not far off taking my test and I can totally relate to this. I'm in my 40s and have put it off for so long because of a previous driving trauma.
I know you're probably very anxious to be on video but you are giving such confident vibes! Well done for getting to grips with your anxiety, Alexandra. Thank you ❤
Having a patient driving instructor that encourages and believes in you makes a difference. I had a couple that raised their voice and got annoyed with me. I lacked confidence for a long time time and the pressure to pass was a lot. I drove on and off for years and ended up wasting lots of money. During lockdown I bought a car and family members helped me to build my confidence. I focused on just being comfortable and driving to ease the pressure off the test. I could drive but it was the nerves so trying to relax and remember you’re in control helps. I then did both - family lessons and professional and found a new instructor I finally passed with only 17 days left on my theory! I couldn’t drive on dual carriageways without worrying or doing more than 40mphs but now it’s a breeze. You can do this! Driving is not a sprint it’s a marathon. The more you do lessons and learn the better you are on the road
Well done Alexandra! Huge respect to you. At the ripe old age of 46 I began to learn to drive after years of feeling overly anxious about it. the only way is up folks! Go your own pace, remember why you wanted to do this. You've got this!
I had the wonderful privilege of learning to drive with Rich. He's such a great guy who not only has a fantastic grasp of driving, but also a range of excellent of teaching skills.
I had troubles learning, and I was very supported through the process. :)
I think I can guess who you are from your user name - different but similar to your real name. I hope you're well and still enjoying driving.
ive had many panic attacks while driving but over the past few months my confidence has really grown. it’s crazy that i used to panic driving 20mph and last week my driving instructor took me on the motor way for the first time and i did really well :)
I’m 4 minutes into this vid and feel quite emotional. I also have anxiety and it’s affecting my driving, I’ve done a lot of hours now but this video makes me have faith and know that I will get there in the end, also seeing that it’s not just me really helps, a very well done to her for perseverance and thankyou for making this video
It’s the night before my third test and I’ve been learning for 2 years now, I’m so so anxious but this has made me feel a bit better and less alone in this problem, thank you!
I hope it went well.
I am currently learning to drive with Social anxiety, I know exactly how she feels, but personally I found that trying to do precise movements under the 'scrutiny' of my instructor on quiet roads, such as the simple things, as practising speed and turning at junction's and so on, the early stuff. To be more anxiety feeding and causes me make mistakes, then actually driving on roads with other motorists. Once i was on those, the anxiety melted away as i was driving, because i had to pay attention to the road rather then the nagging feeling of being watched. That isn't to say I don't make small mistakes however, nobody is perfect.
Huge huge love and respect to Alexandra ❤ I have GAD, ADHD and other mental health disorders that severely impact my confidence and overall cognition and her experience and perspective matches completely to what I and others are going through. Patience, determination and love are definitely the way to get the confidence back to be able to drive safely and smoothly - and how long you take to do something shouldn't matter as long as you can do it right and confidently. I have my first test booked for January, and I hope to pass!
Good luck in January!
Good luck!! You can do it!
I am doing the refresher driving , passed over 30 years ago first time, lost my confidence, my instructor is amazingly patient . My confidence has got much better . Love these videos.
She’s such a sweetheart. Thank you so much for sharing! It took me more time to learn than my friends and family and I finally passed my driving license this year. Looking back, I’m happy I took the time that I needed. I took the test 3 times and i was anxious, stressed and shaky during my first test but it got better and better with practice and experience. Just keep going, you’ll get there!
Yup 👍 that’s going to be me , definitely anxious, stressed and shaky.
@@lavonnealexander6936 All the best!
Thanks for speaking out Alexandra, I've been learning since May, had about 60 hours, test booked in march. I used to literally shake and sweat so much and as soon as one thing went wrong I'd just go all panicky and couldn't think clearly, it's gotten a lot better and I can control the nerves better now so hoping by March I'll be ready, it's nice to hear I'm not alone and well done for not giving up and so glad your hard work and determination paid off xxx
Good luck in March!! Sounds like you’ve come a long way xxx You can do this!
Good luck 🤞
In Australia we have to do a minimum of 120 hours as a Learner before we can take our test. So to put a different spin on it, you learned faster than every Australian. 😜
Don't let the hours bother you - the result is the same in the end! I hope you passed and got your confidence now.
I'm very similar to Alexandria, have always dealt with severe anxiety. Seeing her literally conquer this hurdle in her life is very inspiring
I’m 25 and honestly never thought I’d learn to drive and was happy with the thought of using public transport for the rest of my life but the pandemic really showed me how inconvenient simple things are when you don’t have a license so I finally bit the bullet and began lessons last June (I was so nervous, anxious, felt ill before my lessons) and it took me 47ish hours with no private practice but I managed to pass this March on my first try! I completely relate to how nerve wracking it can be
That's a good time to learn to drive in if you were anxious. You did well. Congratulations on passing!
I suffered with a generalized anxiety and panic disorder(s) - despite all my mates turning 17 then going in the driving seat, i wouldn't even approach it. I was actually more frightened of the social interaction (which was always the greatest point of my anxiety) - than the driving, but the driving didn't help. 2 CBT "courses" and 6 months of pills later, and i'm not perfect but i'm much better, test is two days and I'm just about breaking a sweat now..... my point is though, if my condition was more serious or wouldn't reduce the way it did, i don't know if i could've done it, let alone talk about it pubicly like this. I have huge respect for you sticking at it and sharing your experiences!
Good luck with your test!
This really helped calm my nerves. Unfortunately, my entire family has engraved into my head that manual is the only car ill be learning in so i had no other choice. I have an incredibly hard time conceptualizing the clutch and doing 4 different things in a 3 second span so what ends up happening is my mind blanks, I forget what to do and have a mini anxiety attack on the road, which never ends well (no crash but alot of embarrassment/humiliation ). The second i see another car im already in panic mode and even my mums concerned about the anxiety I get the day before a lesson. I honestly think if I was allowed to just have an auto license, I would be much happier, but that wont happen for a while🥲. I remind myself that even if it takes longer, it'll be the right amount of time that I personally need and that I'll get there one day😖 This video and specifically your channel helps me alot so thank you so much for that!
It's important to learn what you want to learn. As for too much to do at once, try to learn to control the car slowly in a quiet area without traffic. Then try to accept when you're learning to improve your skill on the road you will slow traffic down. It's perfectly normal when learning.
What a lovely lady Alexandria is, she should be extremely proud of herself. I too suffer with anxiety disorder which prevented me from driving for 10 years after passing my test. A year ago I decided to get on the road, I had refresher lessons and got my first car in October 2020. It's been a long road for me and I needed to get medication from the Dr which helped me cope with the panic attacks. I can now pretty much drive anywhere and I can get in the car with no issues. Anyone who is anxious about driving, there is light at the end of the tunnel ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience with us Alexandra! This is very encouraging for us anxious learners ♥️
I needed this today, I suffer with anxiety and the last two lessons I've hit a mental block. My instructor is fabulous and knows when to push and not push my limits. I just need to not put pressure on myself 😊
This is me. I am 38 years old and now learning to drive. I am taking it one step at a time. It is comforting to know I am not alone.
How did it go, did you pass your test?
Today I'm going to have a good cry watching this and reading all the comments. Thank you so much Richard for making this.
Wow this is one of your best videos. Alexandra is so honest and true to herself in this video. It reminded me and friends who struggled to drive due to self doubt and anxiety. You were a good instructor being so patient with her!!
Thumbs up for the brave lady who shared her incredible experience!
I just recently learned how to drive as well and I'm already 34! It's never about being early or late to learn something, what's important is that you learned them because you wanted to. Just like how Alexandra had pointed out. So to every drivers in this content, always stay safe on the road everyone! Thank you for sharing this video!
She is incredibly energetic, conversation - active and charismatic as well that I would love to see her “anxiety”
She is a very articulate and intelligent person. She doesn't appear anxious on camera so maybe that's a talent of hers. I think I'm more anxious on camera than she is 😂
Im 51 with severe driving anxiety. Been doing lessons since 2019. I have failed 3 times and and my confidence is at an all time low. I feel like giving up but know I cant as I have invested so much time and money in this. Its nice to find this video and know I am not alone.
Siouxsie Sleuth dont give up. Am 59 and did a start stop since i was 22 four times each decade and now am in Holland moved from UK in 2001..
This time am now going for automatic 30/03 trusting that this is the last lap. Conquer driving is helping and this interview is an absolute God send🙏🏽🫶🏽
@@ajNKaj Thank you so much! I am currently having hypnotherapy which is really helping. I am wishing you so much luck!!! x
@@siouxsiesleuth3589 thank you
Please don’t give up! You will pass one day and trust me - best feeling EVER!
I relate quite a bit to this! I started learning to drive in 2018 with a manual car and it was *stressing* me out. My father and brothers tried teaching me but I was always nervous and would get physically sick just thinking about driving.
Last month I decided enough was enough and booked lessons with an automatic vehicle. I only did 7 hours and my instructor told me to book my drivers test and I passed! I decided to drive a car that didn't stress me out unnecessarily and it helped me sooooo much.
Learning to be kind to yourself and patient really helps when dealing with anxiety in driving
Congratulations on passing!
I suffer with anxiety but I had a fab instructor who built my confidence and I started driving in June 2021 and passed in November 2021. I can relate at the same time but I had a bit more confidence to jump into it where I was out of my depth but I had full trust in my instructor!
I really appreciate this as someone with anxiety. I had 2 different instructors because i wasn’t comfortable with my first one. Done way more lessons than i have heard of anyone else doing and failed my test the first time, which really knocked me. I didn’t want to do it at all again but i did and im so grateful i passed, I probably wouldn’t have done it a 3rd time as i just hated the stress so much and i really struggled being in a car with a stranger. Thanks for making this video, i passed last week and watched as much of you as i could to refresh before my test and it really helped keeping me calm and making me feel more confident. Thanks for being a great guy and doing this video and being patient and kind 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
That's so great to hear. Congratulations on passing!
So glad this video landed on my feed. I had a shocking lesson yesterday and thinking of giving up. This has changed my mind 😀
What a warrior! Thank you Alexandra for inspiring everyone and showing what determination looks like!
It was great listening to Alexandra, but a lot of ppl don’t have the money to do over 300 hours of lessons. I do believe confidence is a key thing with driving and believing in yourself. Plus listening to the instructor, watching self help videos, if you keep at it, all will sink in. A instructor can’t snap someone out of having anxiety but maybe doing some meditation and calming videos before driving may help. I’m not knocking Alexandra’s story, it’s great that she passed, congratulations. But it’s unrealistic for most who wouldn’t be able to afford 300 hours of driving.. in my opinion.
Well done Alexandra!!❤️
My story is the opposite….I passed my test first time with 0 fault, but my anxiety developed after when I started to drive alone…it took 2 years to start enjoy driving and accept that I am not a bad driver and capable of making good decisions at the right time.
All what I can say is please do not feel any shame and take your time!
Once you pass, all of that stress, time and money spent learning will be overshadowed by the happiness and relief of passing. You just have to keep going and it will eventually pay off.
I think that's quite true.
Fantastic video as always. I have been learning all year and I'm an anxious person.
Eventually, I realised my instructor was not right for me. He was very nice, but he ALWAYS made me drive at the speed limit, and always made me go faster, and pushed me way to hard.
I changed instructor, who was calmer, let me do things at my own pace (and made me realise I don't have to go really fucking fast) and already I have had some of the best lessons ever and have become so much more confident! I booked my driving test in a few months. It makes a WORLD of difference!!!
What my anxiety thing in driving is when I am manuevering for parking because I am driving slow, its hard to read if my tires are straight if you dont have power steering, so I struggle when I see my vehicle weaves on side when I want to move/reverse forward.
Its easy to re straight your tires while driving because you have at least decent speed
In my case my instructor is okay however I get nervous and I have this gut feeling that makes me uncomfortable before any driving lesson. It started off okay but now every time he teaches something new he expects me to know how to do it so every time I screw up, he rises his voice. I make mistakes and everytime he makes me more and more uncomfortable. For me it’s important to do things several times before I finally get them so I don’t think this instructor is my right match. I’ve almost had 20 hours driving and I was thinking of finding another instructor. It’s so hard to find one though so it’s like I have to stick with him or I’ll just practice with my mom
@@lousdinovembre I was basically in the same situation! I'd feel sick with nervousness before my lessons, but now I've switched to this other instructor I look forward to them! It's really like night and day.
Have a look around on Facebook if you can. I found her because of recommendations and a high pass rate.
I hope you can find someone better! He shouldn't rise his voice at you 😭
As a patient suffering from depression, anxiety and probably some trace of ADHD, hopefully I can say I have passed the driving test in 13 days. Glad Alexandra shared her story to somebody like me.
well done!!
This is a very moving story. Congratulations Alexandra, I have a lot of admiration for your grit and determination - if I was your friend/mother I would be very, very proud of you. Disclosure - I have diagnoses of CPTSD and CEN, anxiety is a big problem for me and has hampered me so much in life (I'm learning at 60). Your experience (alongside the other videos in this series) is really encouraging and valuable for a lot of people I'm sure. Thank you for having the courage to share it.
Well done Alexandra, congrats to you driving out on your own after you’ve passed! Well done to both Richard & Alexandra for keeping at it and getting what you both wanted a test pass. 🚙👍🏼👏🏻
Thank you so much for your videos! I will continue learning with each one. I passed on my second try today with 2 minors, my first attempt ended very quickly as I was just so nervous with the pressure of the covid backlog and my theory test expiration date approaching. Had to go for 4 ‘tests’ in total as 2 were cancelled on the day and the anxiety for days/weeks before each one was awful. Overall, it took me around 3 years to pass due to many factors like lack of money, no friends or family available to practice with, having to switch instructors at short notice, and of course, lockdown after lockdown. These videos kept my driving knowledge up and have helped me to gain confidence with my driving despite it all. To anyone else struggling to get their license, take it easy on yourself, there’s so many obstacles at the moment and it might feel nearly impossible but just keep going. You will get there, best of luck!
Thank you for sharing ❤. This is so relatable ❤ I'm rooting for everyone who is battling with anxiety. We shall overcome!!!
Alexandra, you are an amazing human being. You NEVER gave up no matter how hard it got. Thank you so much for telling your story. Feels like I'm alone and I know I'm not. You are a star and so deserving of your license. I have so much more admiration for someone who tried and tried no matter how hard it got, than someone who takes 20 lessons and passes first time. I don't have an anxiety disorder in general, but I do when it comes to learning to drive.
After 32 years without driving,after I leave the Police in Brazil, I start the school driving in Italy last August,,,,when I was in Uk, I learned one think,, NEVER GIVE UP , big RESPECT for your determination.
Taking my exam for the 4th time tomorrow… I’m so stressed out, it feels like I’ll never pass. I put learning to drive off for a long time because of anxiety too… You’re so brave Alexandra!! Thanks for sharing
EDIT: I PASSED THE 5TH TIME!!!
Good luck!
Good luck tomorrow!
@@SyedaTasnia thank you!!!
@@ConquerDriving thank you so much!! Your videos helped me a lot by the way
Hey, its okay, dont worry, I struggle with anxiety too and I promise driving gets easier. Best of luck tomorrow :D
Thanks for sharing this video at the right time for me I have lost count in the amount of hours I've learned to drive so far . I also suffer really bad anxiety disorder myself this is a big help to me a combination of your videos and my current instructor have helped massively with my 3rd test looming I need to try and keep my head so too speak also fair play to Alexandra for sharing her story that is quite a brave thing to do
Nerves got the better of me on my first test in a manual after 40 hours with a rubbish instructor I'm going to try an automatic test next time found a new lovely instructor who really does want to help can't wait for my next three lessons in Jan one tip I can give is take it at your own pace don't book your test until you feel ready ☺️ thanks for everything x
I have generalised anxiety disorder too. Your vids come at the perfect time
I have an anxiety disorder and have just started learning. This is a perfect video for me, thank you!
Well done Alexandra for not giving up. It doesn't match how long it took you. You did it in the end. It must have been a big boost to your confidence when you passed. 👍
Wow what an incredible woman! So proud of you and the achievements it is so beyond inspirational for us who have anxiety disorders too thank you Richard x
“If you’re out of your depth, go somewhere a bit more shallow” really good tip!
Amazing video! Thank you very much! I've been more than one year with lessons, I also have anxiety, and what I find more challenging is the social pressure of not learning quick enough , even though I rationally know that this is not important or the aim, the aim is achieving the goal, doesn't matter when. Thank you again x
Thank you for your story. It helps me. I am a learner again because I need to learn to drive with an automatic transmission now and with my left foot. I think I need my time too, anxiety has grown.
🙏 Huge thanks to Alex. I can't thank him enough. I cleared my manual driving test on a second attempt in Dubai. His videos are incredibly educational, the best out there for international driving license! I'll continue learning to avoid fines, penalties in order to drive safe and better!
Thank you so much for this video.
Like Alexandra, I too have an anxiety disorder and it’s kicked in today whilst doing my lesson. Was in floods of tears saying the exact same things. But after hearing this I will absolutely 100% be taking everything on board and trying to not put too much pressure on myself. Thank you!
I'm happy to hear the video helps.
She's such a wonderful person. Kudos for giving her time, to help others.
Thank you Alexandra you’ve made me realise there still hope for me not to give up.Since the last lockdown in Scotland I’ve hardly had a lesson because my anxiety and confidence really hit a low but you’ve made me realise it all takes time.I am 57 and really want to learn to drive.I’ve got my own car and my husband teaching me, I have no problem with gears and speed too.So thank you
Best of luck Dawn, you can do this! Perseverence without being rushed has got to be the way x
@@LetsgetloudUK Thank you so much I will definitely do it in my own time and not be pushed.Here’s to me not giving up.Merry Christmas 🎄
Thanks both for making this video. I’ve put off driving for twenty five or so years due to anxiety (I failed my second test in 1996 and it crippled my mental health), got my third test in April. I feel totally different and had to learn to drive again (cars have changed sooo much!). Third time lucky?! Let’s see 🙌
I wish you the best of luck learning.
I have an anxiety disorder as well. Would just like to say a late well done to Alexandra, for learning and also doing this video!
Amazing video for an anxious driver like myself. I am restarting my lessons within the next few months. This channel is what has given me the confidence and determination to try again
o my days your a credit to people who struggle, im sooo happy these videos have been uploaded. THANK YOU ❤
Alexandra is truly inspiring! I've had my 37th driving lesson yesterday, and as usual lately it went horribly. In addition to lessons with my instructor, I drive almost every day under the supervision of my father, and when I do I feel like I'm doing pretty alright. I follow the speed limitations, I can park, get the car back in the garage in reverse, make a U-turn, etc. But whenever I drive with my driving instructor, it goes horribly: I get so nervous I don't notice half the signs, I drive either too fast or too slow, I brake too much, and as a result my driving instructor points out every time I do wrong (which is normal), but she does so in an increasingly frustrated and annoyed manner, and snaps at me when I get either annoyed or depressed as a result. She called me "a pain in the *ss" yesterday and I ended up not uttering a word for the rest of the lesson. I was even more taken aback considering we had been chatting and laughing just a few minutes prior. I know I'm an anxious wreck (driving is terrifying to me, no matter how much or often I drive) and I've always been better at theory than practice, but it's very disheartening to feel like after all this time I'm still no good at driving. It's like I'm not making any progress anymore. I don't even know if I really am being a "pain in the *ss" like she said or if she's the one making me too anxious to drive properly... Anyway, sounds like I'm gonna need about 300 hours as well
Aw just don't give any ear to any negative comment.All you need is positivity and positive affirmations, built up that by listening to positive affirmations, i am sure you will make it.All the best!
@@Ashimaaroma Thank you!
Try and stay positive, it's a bit far for an instructor to call you that. I can understand as a joke if you have good rapport but not otherwise.
If you still need the lessons then find a different instructor, there are lovely understanding instructors out there. I changed instructors several times and most people do. You have to feel really comfortable with your instructor. I found it nerve wracking being a car with someone who was technically watching my every move, once I knew how to drive I just drove with family and took my test in my own car
I have had instructor who used c word f word and swearing all sort. Also the one who said he will say everytime I make mistake fail words just because I didn't listen to him and went to driving test but failed I just wanted to know how does it feels he also refuse to let me use his car to test so I used my own and managed to test full 45mins with I only failed because I went on red box with bicycle 🥲 and stalled on the hill on independent driving. I was so glad I went for a test. I've done almost full scored on theory test both times that's the most easy part but driving with short temper instructors is horrifying....so just practicing with my own car now. Good luck 🤞
I have a huge respect to this girl who managed to overcome her anxiety and pass the test. I know its not easy especially if there are some people around who discouraged you and she proved them wrong. Good job Alexandria. Anyway, thank you so much for this wonderful video and to all your videos that i’ve watched for the past few weeks before my test last Monday 20/12/2021 and luckily that i’ve passed 1st time with just 1 minor. Now i’m part of those who passed but still watched this kind of video about driving. Thank you once again. Cheers.☺️
Thank you for watching and thank you for supporting Alexandra, congratulations on passing.
This video is so so helpful, I’ve been learning to drive on and off for 3 years & have my third test coming up in two days. I do absolutely fine in lessons but, for me, it’s thinking about the test that sends me into a complete state of panic. This helps me to feel like it’s ok & I will get there - thank you 🙏🏽
So happy for her, I have driving anxiety too and hopefully I pass some time soon cos she has given me hope that it can be done 👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you for sharing your experience Alexandra! I have my test coming up in a couple months and I am not the most confident driver, but your story is really motivating me! Hopefully I will get my confidence soon!
I have anxiety and have nearly done 30 lessons and is affecting my progress now so really appreciate the vid. : )
Same, it's really tough but we've gotta just keep going, we'll get there in the end ❤️
@@taniacole794 Thanks, yes it is frustrating but not going to let it get the better of me!
Even people without anxiety often need 30+ lessons
I can relate I passed my test in 2011 and never driven due to panic disorder and anxiety I'm currently going back to it seriously and these videos are really helpful. Thank you
Huge props to Alexandra! What an achievement, thanks to her determination, self-knowledge, and resolve!
I take a bow, Alexandra!
I had to make a small break because I was really suffering. And that's not the point of life, is it. Sure you have to try, insist and resist, but it's like Alexandra says: do things at your own pace and if you need to stop, just do it. Allow yourself to it. Remember what another great woman said, Simone Biles: it's OK not to be OK.
I restarted a week ago and I fell so much better. I realised that I wasn't afraid of driving, I was afraid of having an anxiety crisis. One thing that for sure didn't help was that I wasn't just trying to go from A to B, I was trying perfection and being so hard on myself that I erased all the good things I did just to focus on very small mistakes. Imagine beating anxiety and manage to find room for still punish yourself...
Thanks a lot Richard.
Come on people, keep going, we can do this 🚗
And just one more thing: a lot of people struggle with driving just like many others struggle with...a lot of different things. You may be able to do something very easily that is a nightmare for the reincarnation of Ayrton Senna.
This one time I had to ask for a lift because I wasn't capable of taking a wheel. We were going to the same event where I made a small talk. On the way back home he told me: "Oh thank God you did it, I panic when I have to speak in public!"
We all have our battles!
I've been learning for three years now, I have more than 90 lessons.
I am learning an automatic car, but I'm still scared every time I need to change lanes. Its not about anxiety or lack of confidence but it is about me being not able to do few things at the same time.
You are amazing Alexandera
I’m doing automatic too and for me it’s the anxiety and lack of confidence
Practice and remember your in control.
weirdly enough I also have anxiety and was always saying I will never even try to drive but when I first started with my lessons , I actually feel soo peaceful , my mind is free , im in full control while driving I feel amazing , im only at my 20th hour of lessons but I can't wait to pass and drive everyday to chill my mind I don't know how but I feel like driving is such a relaxing thing for my anxiety
Hats off tenacity is the greatest gift of all my admiration for you to be able to conquer any situation you find yourself in well done you only fail when you give up a true winner
This is beautiful and encouraging. I have had serious anxiety and driving used to take it to another level. I have become better and I am getting better every day. I keep trying and I will be a good driver if I keep putting effort into it.
I passed my driving test in the second week of Jan 2022. Thanks to this channel, helped me loads. Thank you. ☺️
All the very best to her.She is an inspiration to thousands of people who have the same problem.
Fair play to Alexandra for doing the video not only that but for persevering when people told her she shouldn’t do it I also suffer from an anxiety disorder after I lost my mum in 2020 and it’s also something that I really want to do so I kept failing the theory but I kept revising and kept retaking the test and I eventually passed and I’m starting a refresher course next week and I also hate having to rely on others and feel guilty I’m also really anxious as I haven’t driven for over 2 yrs so thankyou this has helped and given me some confidence
I’m 27 and kept talking myself out of learning to drive because of my anxiety. But I am now waiting to do my 3rd lesson with my theory booked. I found an instructor who pushes me which I love! Takes me out of my comfort zone which I struggle to get out of sometimes! So know i can’t wait to drive
I am proud of her (I don’t think I can do it in 1000 hours), and you are an amazing instructor. God bless you!
Thank you so much. I won't say how many years I've been learning Got my next test next week. This time round it's been 2 years (after a 10 + year gap. Do feel like it will never happen and it's taking too long so thank you 😊
did you pass? I quit driving about 13 years ago after many failed tests. Felt like burning money on lessons and tests and just felt like i'm not someone who's cut out for driving. However, so many people on my back recently so i'm gonna start lessons again next week! I know I will never pass but at least it will shut some ppl up lol
Yes!!! I couldn't believe it but I did. I'm still not the most confident driver but I'm learning all the time. It was a bit of a running joke at work for a very long time but I did it. These videos were particularly helpful but I had a very strict instructor who basically stripped me down and started again. Honestly if I can do it after all that time I'm sure you can.
Alexandra, you are truly amazing, and thank you for sharing your experience with everyone, it's helped me tremendously xx
Big respect to u both especially instructor so good so understanding his not after money he wants a good results be supportive and pass end of the day
Beautiful there is lot many people out there like this
Thank you! Of course I do lessons for money as it's my job. But I'm not trying to give someone more lessons than they need, if I wasn't teaching Alexandra I would have been teaching someone else in her time slot.
@@ConquerDriving the way u explain it's amazing
Do u give lessons in Birmingham
I overcame my anxiety being ready to pick my self up right after I failed no matter how many times. Dont do it for others sake but do it for yourself.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience Alexandra, I've just started learning aged 3, after years of being too anxious to even start. So inspiring to see someone who overcome anxiety and passed in their own time. I feel like no matter how long it takes I will be able to do it in the end after watching this. Loved this video, thank you!!
Keep trying and confidence will gradually appear. You may want to check your age as in the comment you said aged 3. I'm guessing a few more years might be more accurate. 😂
@@ConquerDriving hahaha oops!! I meant 31 but pretty much driving like a 3 year old at the moment!
I like her attitude, thanks for the video and her generosity!
Thank you for sharing this. Made me feel a lot better. When i was 18 i tried to learn to drive but my anxiety was horrific. I was a in a car accident a year before where we crashed into a lorry doing 40mph and it left me with a lot of anxiety to learn to drive. I got an automatic licence and passed in that. I found i was less overwhelmed in an auto and got on better. 11 years later i just had my second lesson in a manual. And am doing amazing already but the one thing is my anxiety and confidence, i take breaks during my lesson to calm myself down. Am going to take my time and not worry how long it may take. But family tell me ooh its so easy blah blah that annoys me. But thank you for sharing this video and well done on passing and getting through it with anxiety because anxiety is not fun
Just to add the car accident was my mum driving not me luckily she and i was ok but it even stopped my mum driving for long time she refused to drive it was so scary x
Thank you Alexandra for sharing all of this. I am 3 lessons away from my test and I suffer with an anxiety disorder too and I still feel incredibly sick before any lesson.
Good luck with your test!
I've got my test coming up. I'm determined to pass after failing but I've got so much anxiety around it and this video has given me so much more confidence. Thank you for doing this 💕