“If you’re not making your mental health a top priority after a breakup, you’re destined to fail when your ex comes back”. I said that to a caller recently and he told me to share that quote with you all 💪
I needed to hear this Craig, for the past two weeks my mental health has been on a downward spiral. All I've been doing is cry cry cry non stop. Thank you for being that lighthouse in this foggy storm. You're the only thing maintaining myself together right now
Hey coach craig, i know you hear this everyday, but your videos with coach magaret and victoria helped me through a recent tough breakup. I'm focusing on self growth, I love your videos. Keep up the awesome work!
I could never get back with an ex who messed around during a no contact or a breakup. That's the point of no return, and sometimes that's the only thing that will put the nail in the coffin.
You all were broken up and to that point, you expect them not to date anyone else after you? Then do what? Sulk and just come back to you, right? That’s the opposite of what every relationship coach and therapist says. Your partner shouldn’t just jump into anything after you bc they should process and heal first, but even if they didn’t you all are broken up. You can have your standards, sure, but it sounds like you all need to heal bc your expectations are unrealistic. It’s unrealistic to think your ex wouldn’t date someone after you. There’s a reason why you both aren’t together so start there. If it’s truly meant to be it will be, but you gotta tackle that insecurity/forgiveness/perfect fairy tale relationship expectation.
The compulsion to chase them and try to get them back is magnified times 10 when they’re dating someone else. But If there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s if you pursue them when they’re with someone else, you’ll just make them want that new person even more. Stay in NC no matter what. If they reach out, just match the same level of interest they’re showing you. Especially if it’s indirect. If it’s not and they say they miss you. You guys know the rest. Stay strong guys. They’re bound to reach out if you stay in NC. Your strength to stay away and absence in there lives will hit them.
My ex reached out during NC 3 weeks after I officially went in and she was in the middle of dating the new guy. She had been with this guy (who is below me on EVERY single level and the guy is 31 and still lives with his parents!! Never on his own). We talked but the next day she regretted contacting me and wished me well. Been another 3 weeks and she hasn't reached out anymore. I think she thinks she is going to marry this guy. Apparently she always does this and her friend told me she does. We were in a relationship for 4 years and I had an engagement ring for her. This guy is a complete loser from everything I was told. So it makes no sense right now
Just give it time bud, this guy is new so it’ll take her some time to get to know him and his bad habits. Stay in NC and don’t reach out unless she does. Just listen to Coach Craig, his advice does work need of it doesn’t feel like it. Stay strong bud.
I'm in this right now. We also live on the same property and share (my) dog. Knowing he had sex with someone else makes me sick. But when he's drinking he hovers around me which gives me the gift of reminding him he can't have me. It's like I'm being an actress, and I'm pretty good at it, even though I'm dying inside. 😢
It's confusing when your ex dates a new person 100 miles away from where they live and hides the new person not only from you, but from other people close to them.
My ex, got married 6 months after our divorce, and 4yrs later she sent messages thru friends and social media trying too reach me, but i never reached out or responded 😊
Same boat; my ex husband was cheating, we split up and he moved in with his affair partner…& 2-3 months later he married her. I’m still healing from their betrayal 10 mos later….
Dear Coach, A lot has been said about rebound relationships not working, especially when your ex is in a rebound. But, can you make a video commenting on when you realize that you are actually someone's rebound? How to recover from that?
It’s approaching the 3 month mark, I’m emotionally physically and mentally doing much better now while doing no contact. I’m starting to realize that I have to let go of her and stop putting this girl on a pedestal. I’m also putting the pieces together, I’m thinking she had someone waiting for her after our breakup because it took almost 2 weeks for her to jump in rebound/monkey branch relationship 😂😅. Anyways I’m going to continue to work on myself, love myself first before jumping back into the dating game again unfortunately 😅
When the writer started comparing herself and saying the other woman doesn't have any formal education, training.,I rolled my eyes. I have a Masters in Biochemistry and 2 of my sisters have only a high school diploma. They work hard and make very good money and they're smart. Not everyone has to go to college.
After my breakup of being together for 6 years, three months later she got into a new relationship. 3 years later, they're still together. Neither of us reached out after the breakup.
Same to me. After 6 years with me, she date her ex right after the breackup and they are together 1 year after and still are together. Is there any chance, nobody knows…
This what is my concern. After 3 years me and my gf broke up 2 months go. Recently learned she met someone else and she doesn't seem to want to reach out to me. I'm broken.
So, while she was talking to another guy and had him lined up, she lead me on bad. Drug me along and once she realized she was wrong, she told me to move on out of nowhere. I ended up telling her new man because he deserved to know but I kind of feel like it made her back away completely. It did it out of anger. He is a rebound and she told me she loved me the whole time.
I've been a follower ever since my first breakup. I always thought that I will do okay when my ex comes back and I will handle it better when she comes back. But then, three breakups later( with the same girl!!) I always find myself running to this channel like it's the first time and never learned a single thing! My only regret in those three chances I had with this girl is that I never did the work like Craig and Margaret and Vicky always say!! 😭
Dude, you have 3 breakups with the same girl? You're just wasting your valuable time. Life is too short for that. You need to try other flavors of ice cream. I get bored of the same flavor. I'm with a new girl now. This is girl is hotter than my ex. I realize than my ex was not good for me. She's a b*tch.
Sometimes the dumper needs to do the work too. In my case he came back with the same avoidant behaviour and messed me up even tho i really tried my best to work on myself as much as i could after the break up. I reentered the relationship pretty confident and with a healthy mindset but he continued to be just as closed off as he was before, putting all the blame on me during the breakup, projecting all his insecurities on me and of course, now that we are separeted he started to date a new girl just 2-3 months after the breakup. Sometimes the dumpers are just not changing and i will never understand why they choose to come back and redo the damage
@@matildam797 same, you can improve yourself all you want but if someone insists on bringing out the worst in you, at some point we have to say thats on them.
@@ivanovatanas the first time we broke up it only took her 2 weeks to contact me, she used direct/indirect approach to reach out. That was the time when Im only learning the rules of the relationships and the attachment styles and the work and didnt really materialize when we got back together the 2nd time and only lasted for 9months we took a huge gamble to live together and turned out that my trust for her was gone so i became controlling and manipulative so maybe she felt smothered and thats why she left. The 2nd time she reached out took about a month, this time i thought i was comfortable about myself and I was ready, just by watching the videos and never really did the work i thought it was enough and I would remember the videos when I got into these scenarios but i was wrong!! I blew it third time, this time, just recently, she left me she said she cannot do it anymore, that she doesn't feel connection and love anymore. Just when I thought we were doing fine and suddenly she would say that!!! That's cruel!! Yeah! maybe as they say, sometimes the dumper has the problem not us who really try to change ourselves for the better!
Unfortunately I didn't have a positive impact on him. He is relieved that we broke up, he's super happy with her. He's building an emotional bond with her, when he always refused to create that with me. He was sexually into me, but he didn't want a relationship and I freaked out - not because he didn't want a relationship, but because that was an excuse, since I never said I wanted one. It was a very difficult short lived relationship, based on sex. On and off for 6 months. He became avoiding me more especially when she was in the picture. We broke up a month after she appeared. 2 months after breaking up with me they're "besties" and dating and he is in a relationship. I'm dying. I also made the mistake of confronting him with their thing, because he told me he was not into anyone (her) when we broke up. So he lied.
It’s greatly a new beginnings without no contact. You can manifest plan accordingly for yourself n making space for better things to come. Thanks to the universe the ex real color showed. Plenty of folks millions in this world to choose from, oh don’t tortured yourself. When the guy started losing interest to the new then he goes fly from one flower to another that’s same pattern, just cheer up if you meet a instant player and he left, meaning he’s not meant to be
Just found out my ex is dating someone new made her and him his profile pic it’s been 7 weeks since the breakup. He never made me and him a profile pic. Such a slap in the face cause he ghosted me so he could break up with me that way.
I think one of the confident things you can do is to hope that it does work out. Becuase you've had a connection with your ex. You know theyre capable that they can find someone new. Plus it gives you can opportunity so that you can find someone that actually wants you. Its a two punch confidence boost.
I was in a relationship with a man for 3 months. During this time his ex found my number and started to pester me. Its true, it is cringey and seemed to have no impact on him. It made us closer as a result. And ultimately we did break up over values! Nothing malicious but reality. I can't say I was too sad about this as I knew going in where we stood. Anywaysss, i creeped them on Ig and guess what they got back together 😂. I wish them luck as the seem to be stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop and she seems very insecure. But hey! She got her ex back!!! 😅❤. I am focused on my future now and making me the best I can be. Loving craigs content for the reminders of the inner work. Ironically, this guy is not even the reason I came across Craig's content lol!
I really appreciate your comment. No disrespect to you at all but it’s nice to see it from your point of view as the “rebound” in that situation. My ex of 6 years ended things with me out of no where and is now seeing his coworker. When I caught him was when he cut me off and told me to move on. I begged for a week but realized I’m probably looking stupid and crazy to not only him but her as well. I’ve been in no contact as much as I possibly can since we do share a daughter together for about a month now. As pathetic as it may sound I wish he’d realize what he’s doing and come back to me and our family but right now he’s so infatuated with her. Wishing you lots of love and happiness your way ❤
@@manesitaasmr no disrespect taken. I hope your ex wakes up and realizes hes an idiot. Its not pathetic to love someone. I hope that you can keep focusing on you and don't fight the emotions, embrace them. I really believe the self concept work is where all the magic is. 🌹
Can you do a video , what if I was the rebound , for seven months then she starts dating random people but still posts random subliminal posts on fb about you after a month of no contact that directly is focused on you
I'm not sure if my ex ever sees the flaws of the new person or herself. The only way she'd notice her own flaws would be the when she gets dumped. I have started doing the Workbooks again. It's been almost two years. I'm still lonely. It's tough out there. I wonder If I ever get the chance to put the stuff from Workbooks into practice.
Same here ....I get lonely....I workout, go hang out with coworkers but it's not the same. I know though that it's better to be alone than put up with a cheater and liar. Good luck to you.
Well, she left me September 2022, one week later she told me that she‘s with someone new and I know him too, it’s one of her customers (she runs a dog school). I worked with his dog before as well. I moved out in October and went straight into no contact. Now it’s May 2023 and she hasn’t reached out at all and I haven’t seen my dogs since October. I guess this is it.
Everything is possible don’t loose hope, sometimes it can take more time, for rebound to fail, ofcourse, you should focus on yourself, and by the time you’ll be ready to move on, it’s very possible that you will hear from them or find someone else even better, or both😅
I just want everyone to keep in mind that just because your ex ended the relationship with you that doesn’t mean that your ex is immune to heartbreak. Just think about it, the new person they are with there is a 50/50 chance that the rebound will break up with your ex. And then your ex will know how you felt when they broke up with you.
Thank you Craig and Margaret (God bless her soul) for your time, knowledge and hardwork that goes with it. One question keeps coming in mind. That is, if there are more than one Ex, which Ex has a better chance to get the Ex back? I dated a person for 2 years. When I met him, he was separated from his wife. We broke up a year ago. After the break up, he started to date an other person. If he breaks up with his current girlfriend, who will he be going back to? His wife, his recent ex or me? Do I have any chance? I am dying to have your comment. Thank you again for millions.
My daughter is only 1, she left me a couple months ago and told me yesterday she is seeing someone new. She said she has already introduced my daughter to them a few times. She also has 2 kids from another relationship. This guy has no kids according to her.
I was hit with I” don’t want any commitment, obligations, I wanna move how I want to” 1 month later- they’re in a new relationship and the new boo is so intimidated by me. Ex continues to text almost daily, checkin in, calls my friends… NC has put the ball back in my court and allows me to focus on me and those in my life now Go be “happy” ex 😂
“You can want two things at the same time” while that may be true, that just solidifies that someone shouldn’t go back to an ex IF their ex has their attention set on someone else. Yeah, no that’s just messed up.
The person that caused our breakup was his 32 year old drug addict daughter. Has 5 children. Her dad asked me if she could move into my house and help her pass her cosmetology test. She was working with door dash. While dad is at work. I asked her if i could help her study . She said she didn’t feel like it. We were together for 3 years. When she moved in for 6 weeks. She never applied herself. So I put all of her stuff clothes and stuff into a trash bag and put it in front of the door. Her dad came home and asked what’s this? I said your daughter is leaving today. So he put all her stuff into his jeep. And he said if she goes i go too! So he left.
Well they are not switching to best friend right ?eventually they will have sexual interaction especially in the beginning since the attraction is on the highest level but that doesn’t mean that they will stay together for relationship is required a lot more than just a sex…
Yeah but do you really want them back if you can picture them having sex with someone else in your head, breaking your heart in that way? It's disrespectful to myself to think I want to be with her again
It really doesn’t work they’re not thinking about you if they’re with someone else. Trust me. Been dealing with this out of my 4 relationships just don’t care about it anymore and you should be fine
Not in my situation. He’s using her to try to get to me & still watches all my social media everyday. I’m the one who ignores him but he’s the one who left. Mad I didn’t fight for him but screw that. I’ll be just fine without him just like I was before I ever even met him. He’s the one suffering now.
My wife hasn't asked for a divorce she has been over 12 months married for 22 years still has our family photos up in the house but she is dating other people so what happens next ??
Dang....similar situation with me....was married 23 years now she been living with a dude for 5 months....that dude keeps asking her to marry him,but she has told him she is not ready yet. I am in no contact now . I will always love her,but it does hurt me. Good luck.
My ex and I broke up less than a week ago, he’s already moving onto a coworker of ours. Yes, we work together and now I have to deal with him and her at work. I feel absolutely embarrassed and humiliated, that it’s almost impossible to stay focused. I can’t believe he would do this to me, but like they say, hindsight is 20/20.
I'm not worried my ex will forget about me, I'm worried that she will simply get over me during no contact. Just like everybody says to the person who was dumped it gets better over time that's obviously the same for the one that dumps you also and everybody heels at different paces I'm scared that months will go by and I'll find out she healed from it and is mostly over missing to the point where she would have got back with me
@@pragyan6590 no not yet unfortunately. No reach out or anything yet but I'm still in this and hoping. I really wish the best of luck to you also bud and may it take less time than mine is
3 months post breakup, 1 month into NC last time we texted i asked for the reason she left me, she said that she just have had enough, she couldnt take anymore.. she had stayed in the relasionship cuz she loved me and put up with alot of things cuz she loved me, then she said i still love you, but didnt want to be in a relasionship with me anymore.. and told me to stop texting her and force my self to move on... I think she is starting to date someone now, and i really feel like i lost my chances and the hope is not there anymore, it hurts!!
What’s messed up is I was the rebound from him getting out of his marriage It only lasted a few months 😢😢😢💔💔💔 It’s been 3 months NO CONTACT The new person will find out what kind of person he is and she won’t stick around either I can’t imagine him being close with someone else because he told me stuff that he never told anyone else - we didn’t judge each other Or have the same connection that we did
My ex said shes moved on I don't know what that means, but if she is dating someone new, why is she on FB saying loads of bad things about me that were never true. I've left her alone and now I don't want her back! She is trying to ruin my life
Hello my name is Shirlynn I just wanted to talk to you. I just recently broke up with a man that I’ve been seeing for about 20 years. He’s now seeing another girl on the side and this is the first night that he’s never come home. Do you have any support that you can give me at this time?
How is that any different than if they rebound to someone new? The initial stage of infatuation will be weaker but they will have familiarity I guess. New love interest would be more exciting.
Will no contact work on someone who got in to arrange marrige? I was in a 4 year relationship and he broke up with me and endup married to hes mom choice after 2 months in the break up to a arrange marrige Can you do a video on arrange marrige?
I wouldn't call this even dating. I found she was dating this new dude when we were still together. Now with him in new country, moved together to new apartment, and as far as I know he proposed to her, and she accepted (but from what I heard it wasn't like very enthusiastic yes straight away), Guy in during divorce. She says she loves him, and she was trying to fight it and so on. As far as i know she is not really attracted to him physically. He's shorter than her and bold and not good looking at all. We had some contact but rather cold and after she found out that I know about him and her in new country, she just messaged me that she will be unavailable for some time due to "health condition". Since then in NC for like nearly 2 weeks. I wonder what (if at all) she thinks about us. She always said I am the best kisser, and i know where and when to ouch her, what to say and so on. I also heard some badmouthing on me from her and her friends. She is saying to everyone how happy she is, and how great new guy is and so on.
We were together 3-4 years and I messed up during our relationship, we’ve been apart for 4.5-5 months (January/Februaryish), What if she’s only been seeing him for about 3 months (first hung out as friends in March), the 3rd month has been long distance and he’s already flown to see her for a few days during that 3rd month? She was still viewing all my stories that entire time, including one of the days he had flown to see her for a few days. She still tells me she wants to keep our distance and how things are right now, which is not talking.
Normal behavior honestly, she's just having her sweet fun while you suffer, if you have the strength to look forward in your own life and make new connections which strengthen you, she might reach out and you'll have the chance to either see if she's still worth dating or not
Hello coach, what if he comes back with me and he starts missing the person he was on rebound relationship or realise that he was really attached to her, and I think this is even worse !
I got an indirect direct approach the same day she posted a picture with a new guy. It’s been three months since the breakup. Craig, help. What does this mean!? (Together for two years, engaged, dog, lived together the entire time)
Does no contact work on some one who did 13 years locked up she been out 9 years we separated a month ago we are in no contact I seen her a week ago and basically didn’t really talk to her I drop our 7 year old off got in my truck and left she text me after I left that day and said one of her coworkers wanted to know what dr I went 2 I sent her a picture of my card a hour later nothing every since then we been married almost 3 years can no contact work
My ex left me because I gave her boundaries I know she's with someone new but I know she is going thru her karma I went homless at one point for her and her daughters were ok financially gave her and her daughters everything but her karma is leagle battles that will get her deported and I was going to go mexico if that happens so she can be ok I know he won't im 1 in a million
She is very sick medically and was told by the time she turns 40 she will be wheel chair bound I know no one will take care of her like I did i showed by actions and not by telling her im one in a million that's why all my exes try to come back
He is start dating new women while no contract and coming back after 2month but I caught him the new date keep text him at late night while him stay with me
It's been it my boy. Delete her off all your social media. You shouldn't be looking at what she is doing, she's not looking at what you are doing. It sucks. But that's how it is.
I know it hurts bad right now. I thought the same like you that maybe my ex would come back but instead he got into a different relationship right after. It hurt alot. But with time and acceptance, it'll hurt less and less. I pray you'll feel better in due time.
What if I have been with him for 6 years but we break up after a year or more, he goes to the same girl for 3-6 months then always comes back to me. We are in our 3rd breakup and he’s dating THAT girl again. Idk if this time they will last and he won’t come back to me anymore
This is great but wen it's been hardly a week and she calls me to tell me shes dating her co worker how am I suppose to act ?? Yes please give me more ??? NO! Easier said than done. Called me last night just to tell me that yes u flip out and yes I told her her value is below trash. Any women who does this is mentally not ok. And I wouldn't want her bck.
lol I saw my gf text on third day after breakup that she has moved on emotionally and physically I know she made me jealous but I do feel that is true bcz she’s an avoidant and twice divorced so she will never be available for a single man I hope she doesn’t breaks any more hearts lol and stays single bcz that’s the best for her
What if your ex-husband told you that he’s considering asking his best friend out whom he’s known for over 27 years that’s hurtful and they’ve had a close contact in friendship for many years and shared emotional intimate details and have been there for each other
What if they are dating their high school sweetheart and tell you ot has always been him . .they split 30 years ago. .webwere married 10 years . .he is working up to leaving his wife. . .I just need to heal and get past this
@@abekabe678 What do you mean? I’m heartbroken even three months now after she broke it off. What I don’t understand is why it hurts so bad when we were only together five months.
I’m not Craig … but I say no. Because, while it’s a beautiful gesture to reach out to let her know you care … she may “reciprocate” with nice words and be genuinely moved by your compassion … but that may just give you false hope that she’s ready or willing to get back with you. When she may just be responding with gratitude for your concern. I think it’s still best to wait to hear from her … otherwise it could get messy again real fast. She may even end up feeling “obligated” to thank you … it’s better to get her kind words and attention when it’s her reaching out to you … then you know for sure she’s interested. Just my thoughts … I totally understand …. I’m in the same boat with my ex … it’s difficult. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you both.
@@rebeccaconn389 Thanks for your input. Its like a tug of war with this one. I feel like I should continue NC since I am no longer dating her. At the same time, I feel that this a common nice gesture when you get this kind of news. I just don't know if she'll respond with anger still..
Would she message you if you were the one with an injury? By message I mean would she goes to your house with a bottle of whine? Yeah don't do it bro keep working on yourself
@@luwiz4168 it's not "nice gesture" because you doing that to get on her pants again, you want an outcome from that interaction don't fool us or yourself, it's ok to want her back it's not ok to disrespect your value
I did this. He shattered his leg two weeks ago. Well I found out he was lying to me the entire time after he came back… proclaimed his love for me… then discarded me 4 months later. So that worked abt a week… me being supportive & all of his accident. But I just couldn’t get past the lies. So I’m gone now. I texted him why & disappeared. Am in horrible pain but I have to do this for myself. Silence is my power. Been 3 days now.
My ex and I have been broken up for 18 months. We were together for 18 months. She has been dating her new boyfriend for a year. Recently my ex and I have been in communication. Surprisingly she agreed to meet me for coffee, but now I'm having 2nd thoughts about having coffee with her. So... should I meet her for coffee?
@@Shippendales make sense. To be honest, I was shocked that she agreed to meet for coffee, because mutual friends are telling me that she loves this guy so much.
@@Shippendales Damn, that's horrible. It's going to be difficult but I'm going to take your advice. I'm nobody's option but I will shown her how many OPTIONS THAT I HAVE. Thanks for the advice.
What if my ex is getting bitter that I’m not contacting her even though she’s dating someone else. I’m afraid of being breadcrumbed by her but will I push her away if I remove myself from the same room as her when she enters?
My ex is in a new rlship I found out she didn’t tell me. I confronted her we said our good byes. She’s even due to go on holiday with him. But since the good byes she’s been texting me and sent me a picture of herself after a fall. I’ve just ignored it and have stayed in nc. Any thoughts why she is contacting me whilst with a new guy?
People are sick man. My ex has been talking to me the past 6 months, sending good morning, pics etc. I found out he's in a relationship this whole time and now we have blocked each other on everything
She loved you genuinely but you probably fucked up.. staying made her miserable but it doesn't mean that letting you go would be easy.. get your shit together and fix your relationship.
Chances are they were talking to them before they broke up with you Not every time of course but based on my own breaks, I never broke up with someone until I had some kind of foot in the door somewhere else Karma bit me 😅
@@TomAndrews91 why would you be asking her? And why should she answer to that kind of question? You aren't together anymore This doesn't mean that if she indeed "monkey branched " you should tolerate that and accept her back, that's your choice like she made hers
@@BBD1 Because if it was going on when we were together, that's a scummy thing to do? I never said I was going to accept her back either. If she ends up circling back, I will say no :)
One thing I will say is I used to make jewelry for fun and lots of people enjoy remaking jewelry from broken pieces. Get a metal testing kit and you can see if it's real gold or silver and hold onto it. My aunt had a fancy Swarovski Crystal lanyard from the Swarovski store and it was broken and she gave it to me to break apart to make something. I told her I could fix it for her but she insisted I could have it that she already got a new one. I would never mind scrap or broken jewelry to at least see if I could make it into something else.
Me and my ex have a three month old baby and we broke up maybe a 2months ago. She alrady has a new boyfriend and they are seeing eachother every single day, and sometimes i would see her walking past my house on her way to him, not even looking in the direction of the house. I am almost 3weeks into no contact and she hasnt reached out yet. She even walked past me with her boyfriend and our baby, looking like a "happy family"and she wouldnt even look in my direction. I dont even see her at church anymore as we attend the same church. She is constantly with him and i dont know if no contact is working.
I had an ex from 15 years ago. We always had to see eachother - mutual friends. I had to see him and his new gf, who became his wife. He blocked me for 15 years! One day I had long Forgotten him he reached out a year after his divorce wanting to see if we could meet for a drink. We dated for a month 15 years ago! So my advice. Move forward. Forget them and says someone new when the time is right. If you two are meant to be, nothing can stop them From returning one day.
I have someone who keeps coming back to me after his relationships break up. I feel like he uses me as a crutch a safety net. Keeps saying he made a mistake and wants to do things right this time. But after one date he goes all silent again. Why does he keep doing this to me.
Hey Craig if a rebound is not that serious than why if you interferwith your ex and the new person why would it draw than closer if their not that serious
@@CoachCraigKenneth Hi Craig . It’s her attitude towards the new girl. She’s not this or that. She hasn’t gone to college etc. I know nothing of this person of course and neither does she despite her stalking.. I say let the man decide for himself who he wants. Quit stalking and running down other people. Be high value always. I’ve a very high level of education with a Doctorate but men don’t in general give a hoot whether you are educated or not. I value your advice always Craig and I adored Margaret RIP but I think this girl has issues. She should focus on her own life and leave them to it.
Most people will compare themselves to the new person. So I wouldn’t get bogged down in that. If you go back to where the email starts, she says a lot of nice positive things. Men of high quality will care about someone’s education. But men who will settle for anything, obviously will take whatever they can get 🤣
A lot of high quality people didn’t have the opportunity to have an education especially in the past. They are still worthwhile people. That was my point. We should not compare ourselves to others or judge others.
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“If you’re not making your mental health a top priority after a breakup, you’re destined to fail when your ex comes back”. I said that to a caller recently and he told me to share that quote with you all 💪
I needed to hear this Craig, for the past two weeks my mental health has been on a downward spiral. All I've been doing is cry cry cry non stop.
Thank you for being that lighthouse in this foggy storm. You're the only thing maintaining myself together right now
Need this. Thank you Coach. Appreciate you n your channel so much
Hey coach craig, i know you hear this everyday, but your videos with coach magaret and victoria helped me through a recent tough breakup. I'm focusing on self growth, I love your videos. Keep up the awesome work!
So true. Thanks for sharing this.
Does all of your advice apply to shorter relationships, too? Like 4-6 months? Is there still hope there?
I could never get back with an ex who messed around during a no contact or a breakup. That's the point of no return, and sometimes that's the only thing that will put the nail in the coffin.
Exactly
Correct...their damaged goods..never to be touched again!
💯💯💯
You never want to drink from the same river which poisoned you
You all were broken up and to that point, you expect them not to date anyone else after you? Then do what? Sulk and just come back to you, right? That’s the opposite of what every relationship coach and therapist says. Your partner shouldn’t just jump into anything after you bc they should process and heal first, but even if they didn’t you all are broken up. You can have your standards, sure, but it sounds like you all need to heal bc your expectations are unrealistic. It’s unrealistic to think your ex wouldn’t date someone after you. There’s a reason why you both aren’t together so start there. If it’s truly meant to be it will be, but you gotta tackle that insecurity/forgiveness/perfect fairy tale relationship expectation.
The compulsion to chase them and try to get them back is magnified times 10 when they’re dating someone else. But If there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s if you pursue them when they’re with someone else, you’ll just make them want that new person even more. Stay in NC no matter what. If they reach out, just match the same level of interest they’re showing you. Especially if it’s indirect. If it’s not and they say they miss you. You guys know the rest. Stay strong guys. They’re bound to reach out if you stay in NC. Your strength to stay away and absence in there lives will hit them.
My ex reached out during NC 3 weeks after I officially went in and she was in the middle of dating the new guy. She had been with this guy (who is below me on EVERY single level and the guy is 31 and still lives with his parents!! Never on his own). We talked but the next day she regretted contacting me and wished me well. Been another 3 weeks and she hasn't reached out anymore. I think she thinks she is going to marry this guy. Apparently she always does this and her friend told me she does. We were in a relationship for 4 years and I had an engagement ring for her. This guy is a complete loser from everything I was told. So it makes no sense right now
Just give it time bud, this guy is new so it’ll take her some time to get to know him and his bad habits. Stay in NC and don’t reach out unless she does. Just listen to Coach Craig, his advice does work need of it doesn’t feel like it. Stay strong bud.
So helpful
@@Sevoflurane2014update
I'm in this right now. We also live on the same property and share (my) dog. Knowing he had sex with someone else makes me sick. But when he's drinking he hovers around me which gives me the gift of reminding him he can't have me. It's like I'm being an actress, and I'm pretty good at it, even though I'm dying inside. 😢
It's confusing when your ex dates a new person 100 miles away from where they live and hides the new person not only from you, but from other people close to them.
My ex, got married 6 months after our divorce, and 4yrs later she sent messages thru friends and social media trying too reach me, but i never reached out or responded 😊
Good for you, be happy!
Dont let hate enter your heart again,move on with you head high
I wonder if she was still married when she reached out to
Same boat; my ex husband was cheating, we split up and he moved in with his affair partner…& 2-3 months later he married her. I’m still healing from their betrayal 10 mos later….
Relationship. Once they've been ran through there is no turning back.
Dear Coach,
A lot has been said about rebound relationships not working, especially when your ex is in a rebound. But, can you make a video commenting on when you realize that you are actually someone's rebound? How to recover from that?
It’s approaching the 3 month mark, I’m emotionally physically and mentally doing much better now while doing no contact. I’m starting to realize that I have to let go of her and stop putting this girl on a pedestal. I’m also putting the pieces together, I’m thinking she had someone waiting for her after our breakup because it took almost 2 weeks for her to jump in rebound/monkey branch relationship 😂😅. Anyways I’m going to continue to work on myself, love myself first before jumping back into the dating game again unfortunately 😅
Did she ever come back?
@@torta122who cares, she has rebound, she for the streets
@@itsfabooo1063 I care about the timeline.
My girlfriend of over 1 year had a guy set up less than 1 week of our breakup. Feel you man shit hurts
Chances are she was already seeing that dude. happened to me....they are devious.
In that situation right now . Sucks . What almost 10 years of sobriety has taught me . Don't try to control situations you can't control .
When the writer started comparing herself and saying the other woman doesn't have any formal education, training.,I rolled my eyes. I have a Masters in Biochemistry and 2 of my sisters have only a high school diploma. They work hard and make very good money and they're smart. Not everyone has to go to college.
After my breakup of being together for 6 years, three months later she got into a new relationship. 3 years later, they're still together. Neither of us reached out after the breakup.
That’s why you have to go slow and be very careful when deciding to date an ex, I heard it in a video. Hope this helps! I needed the reminder.
Same to me. After 6 years with me, she date her ex right after the breackup and they are together 1 year after and still are together. Is there any chance, nobody knows…
This what is my concern. After 3 years me and my gf broke up 2 months go. Recently learned she met someone else and she doesn't seem to want to reach out to me. I'm broken.
@@Sidewinder240update?
do you mind me asking if the break up was mutual?
No contact is the best way to go. But ghosting is the girls worst nightmare.
So, while she was talking to another guy and had him lined up, she lead me on bad. Drug me along and once she realized she was wrong, she told me to move on out of nowhere. I ended up telling her new man because he deserved to know but I kind of feel like it made her back away completely. It did it out of anger. He is a rebound and she told me she loved me the whole time.
I've been a follower ever since my first breakup. I always thought that I will do okay when my ex comes back and I will handle it better when she comes back. But then, three breakups later( with the same girl!!) I always find myself running to this channel like it's the first time and never learned a single thing! My only regret in those three chances I had with this girl is that I never did the work like Craig and Margaret and Vicky always say!! 😭
Dude, you have 3 breakups with the same girl? You're just wasting your valuable time. Life is too short for that. You need to try other flavors of ice cream. I get bored of the same flavor. I'm with a new girl now. This is girl is hotter than my ex. I realize than my ex was not good for me. She's a b*tch.
Sometimes the dumper needs to do the work too. In my case he came back with the same avoidant behaviour and messed me up even tho i really tried my best to work on myself as much as i could after the break up. I reentered the relationship pretty confident and with a healthy mindset but he continued to be just as closed off as he was before, putting all the blame on me during the breakup, projecting all his insecurities on me and of course, now that we are separeted he started to date a new girl just 2-3 months after the breakup. Sometimes the dumpers are just not changing and i will never understand why they choose to come back and redo the damage
@@matildam797 same, you can improve yourself all you want but if someone insists on bringing out the worst in you, at some point we have to say thats on them.
In what time after the breackups you have the chances. How long it takes to them to go back?
@@ivanovatanas the first time we broke up it only took her 2 weeks to contact me, she used direct/indirect approach to reach out. That was the time when Im only learning the rules of the relationships and the attachment styles and the work and didnt really materialize when we got back together the 2nd time and only lasted for 9months we took a huge gamble to live together and turned out that my trust for her was gone so i became controlling and manipulative so maybe she felt smothered and thats why she left. The 2nd time she reached out took about a month, this time i thought i was comfortable about myself and I was ready, just by watching the videos and never really did the work i thought it was enough and I would remember the videos when I got into these scenarios but i was wrong!! I blew it third time, this time, just recently, she left me she said she cannot do it anymore, that she doesn't feel connection and love anymore. Just when I thought we were doing fine and suddenly she would say that!!! That's cruel!! Yeah! maybe as they say, sometimes the dumper has the problem not us who really try to change ourselves for the better!
Unfortunately I didn't have a positive impact on him. He is relieved that we broke up, he's super happy with her. He's building an emotional bond with her, when he always refused to create that with me. He was sexually into me, but he didn't want a relationship and I freaked out - not because he didn't want a relationship, but because that was an excuse, since I never said I wanted one. It was a very difficult short lived relationship, based on sex. On and off for 6 months. He became avoiding me more especially when she was in the picture. We broke up a month after she appeared. 2 months after breaking up with me they're "besties" and dating and he is in a relationship. I'm dying. I also made the mistake of confronting him with their thing, because he told me he was not into anyone (her) when we broke up. So he lied.
This is your fault
It’s greatly a new beginnings without no contact. You can manifest plan accordingly for yourself n making space for better things to come. Thanks to the universe the ex real color showed. Plenty of folks millions in this world to choose from, oh don’t tortured yourself. When the guy started losing interest to the new then he goes fly from one flower to another that’s same pattern, just cheer up if you meet a instant player and he left, meaning he’s not meant to be
Compare a beautiful wedding that ends in each other hating one another! This oasis isn’t sustainable! Just be patient
Just found out my ex is dating someone new made her and him his profile pic it’s been 7 weeks since the breakup. He never made me and him a profile pic. Such a slap in the face cause he ghosted me so he could break up with me that way.
Your not alone
Mine was two weeks after and she still tried to keep me on the side after 4 years
omg same! Exact time, exact situation! we unfollowed each other on everything so he had no other way then to make her his pfp
I think one of the confident things you can do is to hope that it does work out. Becuase you've had a connection with your ex. You know theyre capable that they can find someone new. Plus it gives you can opportunity so that you can find someone that actually wants you. Its a two punch confidence boost.
I was in a relationship with a man for 3 months. During this time his ex found my number and started to pester me. Its true, it is cringey and seemed to have no impact on him. It made us closer as a result. And ultimately we did break up over values! Nothing malicious but reality. I can't say I was too sad about this as I knew going in where we stood. Anywaysss, i creeped them on Ig and guess what they got back together 😂. I wish them luck as the seem to be stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop and she seems very insecure. But hey! She got her ex back!!! 😅❤. I am focused on my future now and making me the best I can be. Loving craigs content for the reminders of the inner work. Ironically, this guy is not even the reason I came across Craig's content lol!
You're so unfazed by this. Was the love not that great or what?
I really appreciate your comment. No disrespect to you at all but it’s nice to see it from your point of view as the “rebound” in that situation. My ex of 6 years ended things with me out of no where and is now seeing his coworker. When I caught him was when he cut me off and told me to move on. I begged for a week but realized I’m probably looking stupid and crazy to not only him but her as well. I’ve been in no contact as much as I possibly can since we do share a daughter together for about a month now. As pathetic as it may sound I wish he’d realize what he’s doing and come back to me and our family but right now he’s so infatuated with her. Wishing you lots of love and happiness your way ❤
@@manesitaasmr no disrespect taken. I hope your ex wakes up and realizes hes an idiot. Its not pathetic to love someone. I hope that you can keep focusing on you and don't fight the emotions, embrace them. I really believe the self concept work is where all the magic is. 🌹
Can you do a video , what if I was the rebound , for seven months then she starts dating random people but still posts random subliminal posts on fb about you after a month of no contact that directly is focused on you
I'm not sure if my ex ever sees the flaws of the new person or herself. The only way she'd notice her own flaws would be the when she gets dumped. I have started doing the Workbooks again. It's been almost two years. I'm still lonely. It's tough out there. I wonder If I ever get the chance to put the stuff from Workbooks into practice.
Same here ....I get lonely....I workout, go hang out with coworkers but it's not the same. I know though that it's better to be alone than put up with a cheater and liar. Good luck to you.
What if the new partner is their co worker? Since you know your coworkers well does this mean the relationship will work out better?
Well, she left me September 2022, one week later she told me that she‘s with someone new and I know him too, it’s one of her customers (she runs a dog school). I worked with his dog before as well. I moved out in October and went straight into no contact. Now it’s May 2023 and she hasn’t reached out at all and I haven’t seen my dogs since October. I guess this is it.
Yeah it has been since November for me.
@@jamesgraves9858 Cheers 🍻
Same time frame for me. So disheartening.
That is unfortunate. September 23 of 2022 for me. I haven't got to see my dogs since January of 2023. Stay strong dude!
Everything is possible don’t loose hope, sometimes it can take more time, for rebound to fail, ofcourse, you should focus on yourself, and by the time you’ll be ready to move on, it’s very possible that you will hear from them or find someone else even better, or both😅
I just want everyone to keep in mind that just because your ex ended the relationship with you that doesn’t mean that your ex is immune to heartbreak. Just think about it, the new person they are with there is a 50/50 chance that the rebound will break up with your ex. And then your ex will know how you felt when they broke up with you.
Thank you Craig and Margaret (God bless her soul) for your time, knowledge and hardwork that goes with it. One question keeps coming in mind. That is, if there are more than one Ex, which Ex has a better chance to get the Ex back? I dated a person for 2 years. When I met him, he was separated from his wife. We broke up a year ago. After the break up, he started to date an other person. If he breaks up with his current girlfriend, who will he be going back to? His wife, his recent ex or me? Do I have any chance? I am dying to have your comment. Thank you again for millions.
My daughter is only 1, she left me a couple months ago and told me yesterday she is seeing someone new. She said she has already introduced my daughter to them a few times. She also has 2 kids from another relationship. This guy has no kids according to her.
I was hit with I” don’t want any commitment, obligations, I wanna move how I want to”
1 month later- they’re in a new relationship and the new boo is so intimidated by me.
Ex continues to text almost daily, checkin in, calls my friends…
NC has put the ball back in my court and allows me to focus on me and those in my life now
Go be “happy” ex 😂
“You can want two things at the same time” while that may be true, that just solidifies that someone shouldn’t go back to an ex IF their ex has their attention set on someone else. Yeah, no that’s just messed up.
The person that caused our breakup was his 32 year old drug addict daughter. Has 5 children. Her dad asked me if she could move into my house and help her pass her cosmetology test. She was working with door dash. While dad is at work. I asked her if i could help her study . She said she didn’t feel like it. We were together for 3 years. When she moved in for 6 weeks. She never applied herself. So I put all of her stuff clothes and stuff into a trash bag and put it in front of the door. Her dad came home and asked what’s this? I said your daughter is leaving today. So he put all her stuff into his jeep. And he said if she goes i go too! So he left.
Once they start a sexual relationship with someone soo quickly it’s over
Well they are not switching to best friend right ?eventually they will have sexual interaction especially in the beginning since the attraction is on the highest level but that doesn’t mean that they will stay together for relationship is required a lot more than just a sex…
Yup
Don't always assume the experience with someone else will always be equal to or better than you.
Yeah but do you really want them back if you can picture them having sex with someone else in your head, breaking your heart in that way? It's disrespectful to myself to think I want to be with her again
It really doesn’t work they’re not thinking about you if they’re with someone else. Trust me. Been dealing with this out of my 4 relationships just don’t care about it anymore and you should be fine
They don’t care. They are distracted living and loving their new life. They make these videos for views
Not in my situation. He’s using her to try to get to me & still watches all my social media everyday. I’m the one who ignores him but he’s the one who left. Mad I didn’t fight for him but screw that. I’ll be just fine without him just like I was before I ever even met him. He’s the one suffering now.
My wife hasn't asked for a divorce she has been over 12 months married for 22 years still has our family photos up in the house but she is dating other people so what happens next ??
Dang....similar situation with me....was married 23 years now she been living with a dude for 5 months....that dude keeps asking her to marry him,but she has told him she is not ready yet. I am in no contact now . I will always love her,but it does hurt me. Good luck.
My ex and I broke up less than a week ago, he’s already moving onto a coworker of ours. Yes, we work together and now I have to deal with him and her at work. I feel absolutely embarrassed and humiliated, that it’s almost impossible to stay focused. I can’t believe he would do this to me, but like they say, hindsight is 20/20.
I'm not worried my ex will forget about me, I'm worried that she will simply get over me during no contact. Just like everybody says to the person who was dumped it gets better over time that's obviously the same for the one that dumps you also and everybody heels at different paces I'm scared that months will go by and I'll find out she healed from it and is mostly over missing to the point where she would have got back with me
and by that same theory, you could also be over her too.
@@JoeBidenSucks42069 yea but obviously I'm not worried about being over her lol btw I like your name
-FJB
Did you guys get back
@@pragyan6590 no not yet unfortunately. No reach out or anything yet but I'm still in this and hoping. I really wish the best of luck to you also bud and may it take less time than mine is
what if they’ve dated two people after you 😢 probably means theres no point wanting them back right
Yuck no way
Thank you so much for this video Craig! Such great advice! You are one of the best coaches out there!😊
What if he suddenly falls in love "for the first time", but they're not dating. He might even have been rejected by her. Not sure.
3 months post breakup, 1 month into NC last time we texted i asked for the reason she left me, she said that she just have had enough, she couldnt take anymore.. she had stayed in the relasionship cuz she loved me and put up with alot of things cuz she loved me, then she said i still love you, but didnt want to be in a relasionship with me anymore.. and told me to stop texting her and force my self to move on... I think she is starting to date someone now, and i really feel like i lost my chances and the hope is not there anymore, it hurts!!
Updates?
What’s messed up is I was the rebound from him getting out of his marriage
It only lasted a few months
😢😢😢💔💔💔
It’s been 3 months NO CONTACT
The new person will find out what kind of person he is and she won’t stick around either
I can’t imagine him being close with someone else because he told me stuff that he never told anyone else - we didn’t judge each other
Or have the same connection that we did
My ex said shes moved on I don't know what that means, but if she is dating someone new, why is she on FB saying loads of bad things about me that were never true. I've left her alone and now I don't want her back! She is trying to ruin my life
Good morning coach!
Thank you Craig. You guys are spot on and helped me sooo much!❤
Hello my name is Shirlynn I just wanted to talk to you. I just recently broke up with a man that I’ve been seeing for about 20 years. He’s now seeing another girl on the side and this is the first night that he’s never come home. Do you have any support that you can give me at this time?
I've been wanting to ask but it hasn't felt appropriate until now; what if I was the rebound to their previous love interest?
How is that any different than if they rebound to someone new? The initial stage of infatuation will be weaker but they will have familiarity I guess. New love interest would be more exciting.
Sooo complicated 😅thank you so very much Coach Kennet!True,we are so different 👍
What if it's not a rebound (as in some time after the break-up, longer than 3-months)?
Will no contact work on someone who got in to arrange marrige?
I was in a 4 year relationship and he broke up with me and endup married to hes mom choice after 2 months in the break up to a arrange marrige
Can you do a video on arrange marrige?
I wouldn't call this even dating.
I found she was dating this new dude when we were still together.
Now with him in new country, moved together to new apartment, and as far as I know he proposed to her, and she accepted (but from what I heard it wasn't like very enthusiastic yes straight away),
Guy in during divorce.
She says she loves him, and she was trying to fight it and so on.
As far as i know she is not really attracted to him physically.
He's shorter than her and bold and not good looking at all.
We had some contact but rather cold and after she found out that I know about him and her in new country, she just messaged me that she will be unavailable for some time due to "health condition".
Since then in NC for like nearly 2 weeks.
I wonder what (if at all) she thinks about us.
She always said I am the best kisser, and i know where and when to ouch her, what to say and so on.
I also heard some badmouthing on me from her and her friends.
She is saying to everyone how happy she is, and how great new guy is and so on.
We were together 3-4 years and I messed up during our relationship, we’ve been apart for 4.5-5 months (January/Februaryish), What if she’s only been seeing him for about 3 months (first hung out as friends in March), the 3rd month has been long distance and he’s already flown to see her for a few days during that 3rd month?
She was still viewing all my stories that entire time, including one of the days he had flown to see her for a few days. She still tells me she wants to keep our distance and how things are right now, which is not talking.
Normal behavior honestly, she's just having her sweet fun while you suffer, if you have the strength to look forward in your own life and make new connections which strengthen you, she might reach out and you'll have the chance to either see if she's still worth dating or not
She bought grief, annoyance toxicity, loveless, sexless, unaffectionate.hes never going back- theres nothing to go bake to!
Hello coach, what if he comes back with me and he starts missing the person he was on rebound relationship or realise that he was really attached to her, and I think this is even worse !
I got an indirect direct approach the same day she posted a picture with a new guy. It’s been three months since the breakup. Craig, help. What does this mean!? (Together for two years, engaged, dog, lived together the entire time)
Don’t stalk your ex but yet she played detective. I don’t understand the double standard
They scared an cowards to be a lot alone
Does no contact work on some one who did 13 years locked up she been out 9 years we separated a month ago we are in no contact I seen her a week ago and basically didn’t really talk to her I drop our 7 year old off got in my truck and left she text me after I left that day and said one of her coworkers wanted to know what dr I went 2 I sent her a picture of my card a hour later nothing every since then we been married almost 3 years can no contact work
To late I tried to sabotage it and tried to fight him. Guess they are laughing at me
Hi Coach, would appreciate it if you can talk about Trauma Bonding / Intermittent Reinforcement. Thanks for your work ❤
My ex left me because I gave her boundaries I know she's with someone new but I know she is going thru her karma I went homless at one point for her and her daughters were ok financially gave her and her daughters everything but her karma is leagle battles that will get her deported and I was going to go mexico if that happens so she can be ok I know he won't im 1 in a million
She is very sick medically and was told by the time she turns 40 she will be wheel chair bound I know no one will take care of her like I did i showed by actions and not by telling her im one in a million that's why all my exes try to come back
Can you make a video about an ex that goes back to her ex? does it still work?
He is start dating new women while no contract and coming back after 2month but I caught him the new date keep text him at late night while him stay with me
What if your ex decides to break up with you to be with his girl best friend?
She’s now with him for over a year and they are currently on vacation, that it I guess
It's been it my boy. Delete her off all your social media. You shouldn't be looking at what she is doing, she's not looking at what you are doing. It sucks. But that's how it is.
I know it hurts bad right now. I thought the same like you that maybe my ex would come back but instead he got into a different relationship right after. It hurt alot. But with time and acceptance, it'll hurt less and less. I pray you'll feel better in due time.
What if I have been with him for 6 years but we break up after a year or more, he goes to the same girl for 3-6 months then always comes back to me. We are in our 3rd breakup and he’s dating THAT girl again. Idk if this time they will last and he won’t come back to me anymore
I'm surprised that you've given him three chances.
Girl dont gov him anothr chance
My ex told me he's in a committed relationship and they've been together for about a yr.
This is great but wen it's been hardly a week and she calls me to tell me shes dating her co worker how am I suppose to act ?? Yes please give me more ??? NO! Easier said than done. Called me last night just to tell me that yes u flip out and yes I told her her value is below trash. Any women who does this is mentally not ok. And I wouldn't want her bck.
What if he never loves i was his time pass & he broked up with me & now he is in another relationship & i am trying to no construct but will it work?
lol I saw my gf text on third day after breakup that she has moved on emotionally and physically
I know she made me jealous but I do feel that is true bcz she’s an avoidant and twice divorced so she will never be available for a single man
I hope she doesn’t breaks any more hearts lol and stays single bcz that’s the best for her
I heard that, men falls inlove in your absence
It's really bad I can't even sleep or take her out my head 4 years relationship
I'm sorry for your loss 😔
@@abekabe678 ❤️god with us brother
What if your ex-husband told you that he’s considering asking his best friend out whom he’s known for over 27 years that’s hurtful and they’ve had a close contact in friendship for many years and shared emotional intimate details and have been there for each other
Your fault you weren’t in no contact.
What if they are dating their high school sweetheart and tell you ot has always been him . .they split 30 years ago. .webwere married 10 years . .he is working up to leaving his wife. . .I just need to heal and get past this
Dating and working on moving in a d marriage! He's excited about life again since college! We will marry in 2024....get ready!
If that happens I’m gonna have to take some time and just get out of town and leave my phone behind lol. Good God that would suck so bad!
You don't have any problems with an ex?
@@abekabe678 What do you mean? I’m heartbroken even three months now after she broke it off. What I don’t understand is why it hurts so bad when we were only together five months.
Craig, should I break no contact (its been 5 months) if my ex broke her ankle??
I’m not Craig … but I say no. Because, while it’s a beautiful gesture to reach out to let her know you care … she may “reciprocate” with nice words and be genuinely moved by your compassion … but that may just give you false hope that she’s ready or willing to get back with you. When she may just be responding with gratitude for your concern. I think it’s still best to wait to hear from her … otherwise it could get messy again real fast. She may even end up feeling “obligated” to thank you … it’s better to get her kind words and attention when it’s her reaching out to you … then you know for sure she’s interested. Just my thoughts … I totally understand …. I’m in the same boat with my ex … it’s difficult. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you both.
@@rebeccaconn389 Thanks for your input. Its like a tug of war with this one. I feel like I should continue NC since I am no longer dating her. At the same time, I feel that this a common nice gesture when you get this kind of news. I just don't know if she'll respond with anger still..
Would she message you if you were the one with an injury? By message I mean would she goes to your house with a bottle of whine? Yeah don't do it bro keep working on yourself
@@luwiz4168 it's not "nice gesture" because you doing that to get on her pants again, you want an outcome from that interaction don't fool us or yourself, it's ok to want her back it's not ok to disrespect your value
I did this. He shattered his leg two weeks ago.
Well I found out he was lying to me the entire time after he came back… proclaimed his love for me… then discarded me 4 months later.
So that worked abt a week… me being supportive & all of his accident.
But I just couldn’t get past the lies. So I’m gone now. I texted him why & disappeared.
Am in horrible pain but I have to do this for myself. Silence is my power. Been 3 days now.
They rarely come back
They always come back. Just focus on yourself.
My ex and I have been broken up for 18 months. We were together for 18 months.
She has been dating her new boyfriend for a year. Recently my ex and I have been in communication. Surprisingly she agreed to meet me for coffee, but now I'm having 2nd thoughts about having coffee with her.
So... should I meet her for coffee?
@@Shippendales OK, explain further regarding the new boyfriend.
@@Shippendales make sense. To be honest, I was shocked that she agreed to meet for coffee, because mutual friends are telling me that she loves this guy so much.
@@Shippendales In your honest opinion, do you think she is really happy with that new dude? If so why did she agree to meet me for coffee?
@@Shippendales Damn, that's horrible. It's going to be difficult but I'm going to take your advice. I'm nobody's option but I will shown her how many OPTIONS THAT I HAVE.
Thanks for the advice.
What if you have kids with them
What if my ex is getting bitter that I’m not contacting her even though she’s dating someone else. I’m afraid of being breadcrumbed by her but will I push her away if I remove myself from the same room as her when she enters?
I’m going through the same exact thing.
My ex is in a new rlship I found out she didn’t tell me. I confronted her we said our good byes. She’s even due to go on holiday with him. But since the good byes she’s been texting me and sent me a picture of herself after a fall. I’ve just ignored it and have stayed in nc. Any thoughts why she is contacting me whilst with a new guy?
People are sick man. My ex has been talking to me the past 6 months, sending good morning, pics etc. I found out he's in a relationship this whole time and now we have blocked each other on everything
When you say ex, does that include spouses?
Can you answer 1 quick question, why is my ex who broke up with me having trouble moving on ?
She loved you genuinely but you probably fucked up.. staying made her miserable but it doesn't mean that letting you go would be easy.. get your shit together and fix your relationship.
@@rahmarae8001 I know we both tucked up took each other for granted and neglected each other, it wasn't a one way street
@@rahmarae8001a lot of projection going on here. Fix yourself
I did the no contact for a day and half she ended up calling me to check o me the other day what does this means
Maybe she just cares about you.....keep the conversation staright....just about how the day is and so forth....keep cool . Good luck .
Chances are they were talking to them before they broke up with you
Not every time of course but based on my own breaks, I never broke up with someone until I had some kind of foot in the door somewhere else
Karma bit me 😅
This is what goes through my mind when I think of my ex sadly. Even though she tells me she didn't 🤔
Same. I feel ya
@@TomAndrews91 why would you be asking her? And why should she answer to that kind of question? You aren't together anymore
This doesn't mean that if she indeed "monkey branched " you should tolerate that and accept her back, that's your choice like she made hers
@@BBD1 Because if it was going on when we were together, that's a scummy thing to do? I never said I was going to accept her back either. If she ends up circling back, I will say no :)
Karma is real.
One thing I will say is I used to make jewelry for fun and lots of people enjoy remaking jewelry from broken pieces. Get a metal testing kit and you can see if it's real gold or silver and hold onto it. My aunt had a fancy Swarovski Crystal lanyard from the Swarovski store and it was broken and she gave it to me to break apart to make something. I told her I could fix it for her but she insisted I could have it that she already got a new one.
I would never mind scrap or broken jewelry to at least see if I could make it into something else.
Me and my ex have a three month old baby and we broke up maybe a 2months ago. She alrady has a new boyfriend and they are seeing eachother every single day, and sometimes i would see her walking past my house on her way to him, not even looking in the direction of the house.
I am almost 3weeks into no contact and she hasnt reached out yet. She even walked past me with her boyfriend and our baby, looking like a "happy family"and she wouldnt even look in my direction.
I dont even see her at church anymore as we attend the same church. She is constantly with him and i dont know if no contact is working.
I had an ex from 15 years ago. We always had to see eachother - mutual friends. I had to see him and his new gf, who became his wife. He blocked me for 15 years! One day I had long
Forgotten him he reached out a year after his divorce wanting to see if we could meet for a drink. We dated for a month 15 years ago! So my advice. Move forward. Forget them and says someone new when the time is right. If you two are meant to be, nothing can stop them
From returning one day.
Who cares? BYE …
And don’t look back
I have someone who keeps coming back to me after his relationships break up. I feel like he uses me as a crutch a safety net. Keeps saying he made a mistake and wants to do things right this time. But after one date he goes all silent again. Why does he keep doing this to me.
Because you are letting him love… you already showed you ok w being the rebound
Hey Craig if a rebound is not that serious than why if you interferwith your ex and the new person why would it draw than closer if their not that serious
To be honest the judgemental attitude of this girl puts me right off . She sounds like a nightmare. No wonder he checked out.
What? Exactly what did she say that was judgmental or made her a nightmare?
@@CoachCraigKenneth Hi Craig . It’s her attitude towards the new girl. She’s not this or that. She hasn’t gone to college etc. I know nothing of this person of course and neither does she despite her stalking.. I say let the man decide for himself who he wants. Quit stalking and running down other people. Be high value always. I’ve a very high level of education with a Doctorate but men don’t in general give a hoot whether you are educated or not. I value your advice always Craig and I adored Margaret RIP but I think this girl has issues. She should focus on her own life and leave them to it.
Most people will compare themselves to the new person. So I wouldn’t get bogged down in that.
If you go back to where the email starts, she says a lot of nice positive things.
Men of high quality will care about someone’s education. But men who will settle for anything, obviously will take whatever they can get 🤣
A lot of high quality people didn’t have the opportunity to have an education especially in the past. They are still worthwhile people. That was my point. We should not compare ourselves to others or judge others.
But you judged her when you said she’s a nightmare 🤣
😂 Mines monkey branched with her coworker and became pregnant then married him all in 2months. We share a 8 year old son
Even its only a rebound relationship but with sex involve..just forget her and move on ...
@coachcraigkenneth I have now watched so many of your videos I am starting to feel I am in a relationship with you 😅
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How long should I do no contact? @CoachCraigKenneth