38 days into no contact, I haven’t heard from my ex, but I am starting to function and live life, I’ve already gotten through thanksgiving and Christmas, I might as well push through new years as well and complete the holidays. Great video as always!
3 month's NC here. I'm in counseling working on my trauma and towards more stable attachment. I'm older so that wonderful woman may have been my last - but I want to heal and feel good for ME, as much as I can, while I'm still breathing. I still love her and always will. Eventually, the pain will go away, and I'll be left with me.
5 months no contact. I am moving on, currently beginning to date an anxious attachment like me, and she is wonderful 😇❤️ get away from avoidants people.
Once I learned the difference between breadcrumbing and a genuine attempt to reconnect that was a game changer for me; that education has given me so much strength to truly heal during this current episode of no contact instead of falling for the traps during the other times we’ve had no contact episodes over the years. Made it to 90 days, and I am so proud of myself for being able to survive the holidays alone in silence & not break no contact even though it still really hurt to not get any texts or emails from them during the holidays, but that’s okay. I’m looking forward to leaving this disaster of a LDR in 2024 where it belongs. Finally. ❤
As a former anxious I feel so bad for this guy. When you are so stuck in your own perspective and you can't see what your words are sounding like from the other person's side. I don't want to make assumptions, but he remind me of a friend that have autism. What he is saying and not feeling the social cues. Keep working on yourself. Working out is great and the Craigs courses are awesome!
One year of no contact-trust me, the first three months are the hardest, and your emotions will feel the rawest. Focus on your personal growth; whether they come back or you find someone better, you’ll be stronger for it.
Thanks Coach I did a coaching session with Victoria. I did not hear from my ex but I did run into each other in a mutual event. Interesting how the event event went. Hopefully you and Victoria can make a video about it in the future
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
My avoidant ex used to tell me that when she was a kid her mum would slap her in the face and force her to shut up and stop crying. I'm thinking is this how she suppresses her emotions all the time?
That makes her fearful avoidant, they will find it hard to trust people since their caregiver who is supposed to provide for their safety is their source of fear too. They also become a hyper-vigilant, they used to the environment where they should read their caregiver's emotional stages
I haven’t talked to my avoidant ex-wife since April. Admittedly, I sent good reminder type texts for a week before I stopped and went no-contact. She filed for divorce in June and our hearing was in mid August. In September, I began dating an anxious woman in September, though I still had hope. Recently though, I found out that while my ex and I were married, she was involved with another guy. While I don’t know to what extent or when it started, that’s something I refuse to let go because it has to do with trust. I can forgive the lack of communication, ghosting, avoiding, and coldness, but not the cheating. I’m extremely happy with my current girlfriend, other than she’s not Victoria 😂😉 Stay strong everyone!
@robbiewdrumm greetings from San Francisco 🌁🌁🌁 that was cute about Victoria .....I am truly sorry about your coming divorce...I wish you the best in your new relationship and keep watching Greg and Victoria they are the absolute best ..on the planet.....good luck and take care 🐥
As for me I am Using this energy to push through things I needed to work on like… abundance mindset, be about my purpose, and enjoy the freedom I have. I truly believe god put me in this situation with an avoidant woman to really learn about my weakness and how to change it into power. As an anxious attachment, I’m learning to be happy being alone and focusing on myself. The avoidant needs to want to change and you can’t do help them do that. So all the men or woman out there … let them go and focus on you. If they come back that’s cool if they don’t they ain’t the ones for you. Also, if you’re strong don’t block them let them see you shine and level up because that bs they put you through will make them realize they mess up and if they come back make them see you’re not easy at all. They were just stepping stone towards greatness.
@@valeriea.bussey825 your welcome. I am strong willed Capricorn so my time is not to be wasted and even if I took a L in that situation I came out winning with so much more 🐐
Hi Craig! I have a question: I have purchased the knowledge workbooks a few years ago, all 10 of them, but I have a different laptop since then and can't find them anywhere. Is there a way to download them again? I still have the email from your site with the confirmation number and the download link (but it's expired).
Ive blocked my ex. Honestly its easier than to leave them unblocked because they dont deserve my value and time.. but the emotions and feelings are hellish. However, Im taking it one day at a time: Finding my ways to cope and keep going. I did have thoughts about unblocking so that way I can be the bigger person and feel in control. But at the same time, I can never forget that she knowingly cheated on me and tried to keep me around.. it makes me so angry thinking about it that I just want to leave them blocked. She even wanted to be "friends" but really I knew what she was trying to do. She has to suffer the consequences, not me. I know I was good to her and wanted nothing but the best for the both of us. But I guess chad came along and suddenly she "fell in love at first sight" Im glad I was the one that broke it off and blocked instead of her, because it feels empowering to demonstrate my self-respect and care for myself. She did me wrong and I cannot find myself being friends with a cheater. Gonna keep staying strong with my NC 💪 💪
3 months NC after dating for 9 years. He’s asked different people about me but that’s all. So true, the smallest things make me spiral. However he doesn’t know my mental health if I don’t tell him😢
I think I have thoroughly destroyed my chances of my ex reaching out. Any advice if they do somehow reach out for New Years? How long should I wait to respond if they wish me a happy New Years?
Just reply Happy New Year too, do not send a long paragraph asking for closure. It will signal to them you are not the same person anymore or somehow show that you not gonna scare them away with ur smothered emotions. Keep them guessing, remember men only chase for something that is hard to get.
@@cupandinspirationthat’s really good advice, just keep it simple, matching their energy, instead of falling at their feet and proclaiming your love and feelings in response hehe, and when they disclose more, you can too💕
We breakup after 9months relationship.He jumped into new relationship after 4moths of breakup while i was requesting for reconcile.is it rebound relationship ?
An ex from 2019 has sent me a box full of different foods that I like including chocolates for Christmas. I haven't heard from her since the breakup as she blocked me everywhere and still has me blocked.
Born with a birth defect. Up to the age of 13 ive had 13 - 20 corrective surgeries. I dont think my parents had much of a chance to influence my attachment style. 🙃 The one thing that makes me mad/sad. The longer my exes stay away. Proves that what i have done. What we have done. What she has done. Meant nothing. Is that wrong? Probably.
What if she has another? I just got out of one before Christmas. It was a long distance relationship. After 1.5 years together. A month ago telling her she was the one. Only a week or two ago she told me how much she loves me. Then she told me, she’s been dating someone else for a little while and can’t talk… And we haven’t spoken since. I just don’t understand why she done this after so long? We got on so well. The future we could have had. The love. Why waste it all? Also her roommate/ twin sister is a mental health professional, and they are very close. She probably knows about it, with her profession I thought she would have told her not to do this to someone? How can the two of them be so heartless? It just doesn’t seem human. I even question if her sister should be working in that role. What hurts the most is how she can just move on, post on social media like nothing has happened, we were nothing and such. It hurts so much.
I'm right there with you. Hang tight, keep your chin up, and work on your attachment style. And most importantly, process your emotions. I know that I beat myself up pretty hard shortly after the breakup but it helps to realize where your partner messed up too so you're not putting all of the blame on yourself. Hope this helps.
@@peterhennig4678 Yeah, I know how that feels. It was really tough not wishing my ex a Merry Christmas since we've done it for years but I assume they're just not ready yet. I can really empathize with you there. I was anxious the whole holiday season thinking that they might reach out. The holidays are tough but the growth and introspection always offer a way forward. Staying social really helps.
Things were going well for me but her gay friend got involved, he asked for her private videos and she sent them?! Because apparently it would be funny cos he's gay?! Then without me knowing he sent them to me! So I deleted them of course. The next day she found out and accused me of lying about it. She's not mad with him at all in fact she's playing Xbox with him right now. This was my girlfriend for two years. I'm going no contact but I feel scammed.
Hi Coach Craig Kenneth, I have a question. What should I do if I ignored my ex for about 2 months? Should I just message her? After 10 months of no contact, she added me on Snapchat, but I rejected her attempt to reach out. I didn’t add her back, and she eventually removed the request. Does this mean it’s over? We were together for about 9-10 months -" we had a strong bond " and it’s almost been a year since we broke up. We met in high school and became friends for about a year before we started dating. About 2 months ago, she unblocked me on Instagram, and yesterday, out of curiosity, I viewed her Instagram Story. She didn’t message me or say anything. Should I reach out to her? If so, what should I say?"
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38 days into no contact, I haven’t heard from my ex, but I am starting to function and live life, I’ve already gotten through thanksgiving and Christmas, I might as well push through new years as well and complete the holidays.
Great video as always!
This video was only uploaded 17 mins ago, it’s 35 mins long… you didn’t watch it all dude 😂🤣
@@DD11212I watched enough of it trust me 😂, the gist of it, relax and stay your ass in no contact lol
@@michaelod324 😂😅 Love that stay blessed bro 😂
71 Days for me. She passed my Birthday, Thanksgiving, and Christmas without a single text. Keep strong my friend.
@@DD11212most people watch videos at 1.5 speed.
3 month's NC here. I'm in counseling working on my trauma and towards more stable attachment. I'm older so that wonderful woman may have been my last - but I want to heal and feel good for ME, as much as I can, while I'm still breathing. I still love her and always will. Eventually, the pain will go away, and I'll be left with me.
5 months no contact. I am moving on, currently beginning to date an anxious attachment like me, and she is wonderful 😇❤️ get away from avoidants people.
That's awesome bro. I wish I also reach that stage soon. Been blocked by an avoidant whom I liked & loved a lot. Sucks at the moment.
@@alzdsz I know how you feel. And I am sorry. It will get better. You'll be alright, my guy
Once I learned the difference between breadcrumbing and a genuine attempt to reconnect that was a game changer for me; that education has given me so much strength to truly heal during this current episode of no contact instead of falling for the traps during the other times we’ve had no contact episodes over the years. Made it to 90 days, and I am so proud of myself for being able to survive the holidays alone in silence & not break no contact even though it still really hurt to not get any texts or emails from them during the holidays, but that’s okay. I’m looking forward to leaving this disaster of a LDR in 2024 where it belongs. Finally. ❤
That new camera shows Victorias glow, she’s beautiful
As a former anxious I feel so bad for this guy. When you are so stuck in your own perspective and you can't see what your words are sounding like from the other person's side.
I don't want to make assumptions, but he remind me of a friend that have autism. What he is saying and not feeling the social cues.
Keep working on yourself. Working out is great and the Craigs courses are awesome!
One year of no contact-trust me, the first three months are the hardest, and your emotions will feel the rawest. Focus on your personal growth; whether they come back or you find someone better, you’ll be stronger for it.
Thanks Coach I did a coaching session with Victoria. I did not hear from my ex but I did run into each other in a mutual event. Interesting how the event event went. Hopefully you and Victoria can make a video about it in the future
Happy New Year Coach Craig and Victoria 🎉🎆🎇
I didn't message for Xmas, but new years eve, oh boy
Ahaha this is so real
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
My avoidant ex used to tell me that when she was a kid her mum would slap her in the face and force her to shut up and stop crying. I'm thinking is this how she suppresses her emotions all the time?
That makes her fearful avoidant, they will find it hard to trust people since their caregiver who is supposed to provide for their safety is their source of fear too. They also become a hyper-vigilant, they used to the environment where they should read their caregiver's emotional stages
I haven’t talked to my avoidant ex-wife since April. Admittedly, I sent good reminder type texts for a week before I stopped and went no-contact. She filed for divorce in June and our hearing was in mid August. In September, I began dating an anxious woman in September, though I still had hope. Recently though, I found out that while my ex and I were married, she was involved with another guy. While I don’t know to what extent or when it started, that’s something I refuse to let go because it has to do with trust. I can forgive the lack of communication, ghosting, avoiding, and coldness, but not the cheating. I’m extremely happy with my current girlfriend, other than she’s not Victoria 😂😉 Stay strong everyone!
@robbiewdrumm greetings from San Francisco 🌁🌁🌁 that was cute about Victoria .....I am truly sorry about your coming divorce...I wish you the best in your new relationship and keep watching Greg and Victoria they are the absolute best ..on the planet.....good luck and take care 🐥
As for me I am
Using this energy to push through things I needed to work on like… abundance mindset, be about my purpose, and enjoy the freedom I have. I truly believe god put me in this situation with an avoidant woman to really learn about my weakness and how to change it into power. As an anxious attachment, I’m learning to be happy being alone and focusing on myself. The avoidant needs to want to change and you can’t do help them do that. So all the men or woman out there … let them go and focus on you. If they come back that’s cool if they don’t they ain’t the ones for you. Also, if you’re strong don’t block them let them see you shine and level up because that bs they put you through will make them realize they mess up and if they come back make them see you’re not easy at all. They were just stepping stone towards greatness.
Great perspective. Loved it!! Thanks
@@valeriea.bussey825 your welcome. I am strong willed Capricorn so my time is not to be wasted and even if I took a L in that situation I came out winning with so much more 🐐
Hi Craig!
I have a question: I have purchased the knowledge workbooks a few years ago, all 10 of them, but I have a different laptop since then and can't find them anywhere.
Is there a way to download them again? I still have the email from your site with the confirmation number and the download link (but it's expired).
Happy new year craig
havent talked to my ex in 7 months left me like it was that easy its like i never existed
Sounds like a narc who discarded you.
@@basicinfo2022 ikr and she would tell me oh il always love you and says she dont wanna leave but did anyway and its like what we had didnt matter
Ive blocked my ex. Honestly its easier than to leave them unblocked because they dont deserve my value and time.. but the emotions and feelings are hellish. However, Im taking it one day at a time: Finding my ways to cope and keep going.
I did have thoughts about unblocking so that way I can be the bigger person and feel in control.
But at the same time, I can never forget that she knowingly cheated on me and tried to keep me around.. it makes me so angry thinking about it that I just want to leave them blocked. She even wanted to be "friends" but really I knew what she was trying to do. She has to suffer the consequences, not me. I know I was good to her and wanted nothing but the best for the both of us.
But I guess chad came along and suddenly she "fell in love at first sight"
Im glad I was the one that broke it off and blocked instead of her, because it feels empowering to demonstrate my self-respect and care for myself. She did me wrong and I cannot find myself being friends with a cheater. Gonna keep staying strong with my NC 💪 💪
3 months NC after dating for 9 years. He’s asked different people about me but that’s all. So true, the smallest things make me spiral. However he doesn’t know my mental health if I don’t tell him😢
I think I have thoroughly destroyed my chances of my ex reaching out. Any advice if they do somehow reach out for New Years? How long should I wait to respond if they wish me a happy New Years?
Just reply Happy New Year too, do not send a long paragraph asking for closure. It will signal to them you are not the same person anymore or somehow show that you not gonna scare them away with ur smothered emotions. Keep them guessing, remember men only chase for something that is hard to get.
@@cupandinspirationthat’s really good advice, just keep it simple, matching their energy, instead of falling at their feet and proclaiming your love and feelings in response hehe, and when they disclose more, you can too💕
We breakup after 9months relationship.He jumped into new relationship after 4moths of breakup while i was requesting for reconcile.is it rebound relationship ?
Almost a year. Classic avoidant discard. It was right before I was gonna meet her kids and she said I did nothing wrong. She won’t even talk to me.
An ex from 2019 has sent me a box full of different foods that I like including chocolates for Christmas. I haven't heard from her since the breakup as she blocked me everywhere and still has me blocked.
Born with a birth defect. Up to the age of 13 ive had 13 - 20 corrective surgeries. I dont think my parents had much of a chance to influence my attachment style. 🙃
The one thing that makes me mad/sad. The longer my exes stay away. Proves that what i have done. What we have done. What she has done. Meant nothing. Is that wrong? Probably.
Why would I want her back ?
What if she has another?
I just got out of one before Christmas.
It was a long distance relationship.
After 1.5 years together.
A month ago telling her she was the one.
Only a week or two ago she told me how much she loves me.
Then she told me, she’s been dating someone else for a little while and can’t talk…
And we haven’t spoken since.
I just don’t understand why she done this after so long?
We got on so well.
The future we could have had.
The love.
Why waste it all?
Also her roommate/ twin sister is a mental health professional, and they are very close.
She probably knows about it, with her profession I thought she would have told her not to do this to someone?
How can the two of them be so heartless?
It just doesn’t seem human.
I even question if her sister should be working in that role.
What hurts the most is how she can just move on, post on social media like nothing has happened, we were nothing and such.
It hurts so much.
Sounds very similar to what happened to me....
They don't care about us. We are just men
Same here 😢
From the way he sounded and from what his ex said about he hurt her and the girls, it seems like there was some form of abuse from his part
She was my best friend and lover😫 6 months no contact
I'm right there with you. Hang tight, keep your chin up, and work on your attachment style. And most importantly, process your emotions. I know that I beat myself up pretty hard shortly after the breakup but it helps to realize where your partner messed up too so you're not putting all of the blame on yourself. Hope this helps.
@NullSpace0 thank you, it was really tough last night not wishing her a happy new year😫 I thought maybe she'd reach out but she didn't either 🥺
@@peterhennig4678 Yeah, I know how that feels. It was really tough not wishing my ex a Merry Christmas since we've done it for years but I assume they're just not ready yet. I can really empathize with you there. I was anxious the whole holiday season thinking that they might reach out. The holidays are tough but the growth and introspection always offer a way forward. Staying social really helps.
17 months nc
Your ex is an ex for a good reason . You don't want her back
I is hard I still love him
Do a video on no contact when you share children with them
This is unbearable
Things were going well for me but her gay friend got involved, he asked for her private videos and she sent them?! Because apparently it would be funny cos he's gay?! Then without me knowing he sent them to me!
So I deleted them of course.
The next day she found out and accused me of lying about it.
She's not mad with him at all in fact she's playing Xbox with him right now.
This was my girlfriend for two years.
I'm going no contact but I feel scammed.
Oh, new camera....Wow he's really dramatic in a bad way...
Hi Coach Craig Kenneth, I have a question. What should I do if I ignored my ex for about 2 months? Should I just message her? After 10 months of no contact, she added me on Snapchat, but I rejected her attempt to reach out. I didn’t add her back, and she eventually removed the request. Does this mean it’s over? We were together for about 9-10 months -" we had a strong bond " and it’s almost been a year since we broke up. We met in high school and became friends for about a year before we started dating. About 2 months ago, she unblocked me on Instagram, and yesterday, out of curiosity, I viewed her Instagram Story. She didn’t message me or say anything. Should I reach out to her? If so, what should I say?"
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