i like him. i been watching mike for a while now. i found him because of him watching House MD. as i am a big fan of house. and his most recent video on john oliver was great as well.
@@silentsaturn7604 Obama said something similar to this. Basically what every sane person already knows which is being outraged doesn't make you a better person or an activist for change.
@@GOD-zl9vs Greta is out there campaigning and making speeches and organizing climate strikes. I'm pretty sure she has done a lot more than sitting on twitter being "outraged" 🙄
@@jonathanosuna9983 technically, yes, saying significant and not insignificant are the same thing. But the connotation is different. Saying outrightly "significant" implies a lot. But wasn't the majority of his childhood so I didn't want to imply that. By saying "not insignificant" I am implying that it was not necessarily a large amount of time, but it definitely had an impact.
Dr Mike, the man without kids who is going to discover very, very quickly that parenting is FAR different to what he thinks it is.......and that kids are a hell of a lot smarter than he gives them credit for being. Being a doctor does NOT qualify a person for being a parenting expert......and I say all of this as someone who has a healthy, happy 23 year old daughter.
Heather Rowles doctors specially family medicine doctor give parenting advice 24/7 all the time its the parents choice to follow or not follow them it's advice or a recommendation he is not telling the public you have to do xyz to be a good parents. He is speaking from a medical perspective based off of information and probably articles and studies he has read. You can't dish someone for not speaking from a career standpoint if they haven't experienced that yet. He has experienced working with children and can make a recommendation based off his experience while treating children, based off conversations he has had with parents, but mainly based off of his training and studies. He never once has ever claimed he was a parent nor has he tried to ack like an all knowing parent.
Heather Rowles just because your 23 year old daughter is happy and healthy doesn't mean the way you parent is the best way either to each their own in their beliefs and parenting methods but as a doctor he has the right specifically as a family medicine doctor to bring up topics that pertain to his patient panel and his career.
Heather Rowles Dr.Mike didn’t claim to be a “parenting expert” nor did he say parenting was an easy thing. Sit your triggered a$$ down lol. BTW why ARE you so triggered?
Dr.Mike isn’t just smart but he’s wise. What I mean is he’s so emotionally mature and has the rare ability to see it from other peoples perspective no matter how outrageous they may be.
Wise????? I feel like people didn't actually read what he said to Dr. Hope. Or, for that matter, see the blatant 180 in what he says and what he does. Then again, I live close enough to NY to see this behavior on a daily basis. Pretend or be a part of the fad but act like an ass to everyone or anyone who brings up anything negative about you. Mike, from all that I have seen and researched about him, has the emotional maturity of a bubble. It's hollow and easily punctured. And he's fooling a bunch of viewers because of his looks. It's depressing. Nothing he says is not something that has not been said by someone who is truly kind or means what they believe. He, Mike, is in it for the fame and prioritizes his search for being on the camera over patients. (Based off of lots of research I have done on him, and his actions and work towards getting into the limelight)
Rose Lee any links or proofs you can give me to back up your statement? Would love to be able to see it and being able (based on evidence) to take my own stance on him.
Don't think I've seen an interview or another collab, where they actually let Dr.Mike finish his thoughts, he always gets interrupted. What a good video!
"If you wanna make a meaningful change, just being outraged doesn't help." I wish more people, myself included, are goal-focused like that when they make decisions. It's hard to keep level headed when it comes to sensitive topics, but it is exactly these sensitive topics that requires the most nuanced discussions and open-mindedness.
Yeah, just keep trying to be aware of your thoughts and remind yourself that whatever the other person is saying, you don't know the full context of everything they've experienced just like they don't know everything you've been through. There's been so many times where I was already ready to try and convince someone of something, but then instead of just responding right away I asked them why they thought their ideas were right. And after doing that a few times I'm surprised at how many assumptions I made that I didn't even consider. I think it's not only a matter of empathy and compassion, but also having patience and a healthy amount of doubt/humility. It's okay to be "wrong" and change opinions just as much as it's okay to say "I see your point but I still don't agree". But when we go into things without a willingness to learn, we can't expect the other person not to do the same thing back.
@@causticks4532🙄 If you watch his videos he even states that he got a really unregular schedule compared to other jobs and does a lot of sports (training 5 times a week) and travels for conferences and does the youtube stuff. That's why it think it's probably very time consuming. He can be glad that he has someone cutting the videos for him. Maybe he gets more free time, but to me it sounds like he has a lot to do. 🤷♂️ (Sry for any mistakes. It's been a while since I had some proper english lessons since it's not my first language.)
As a fat girl myself, I love what Dr. Mike had to say about body positivity. It's exactly how I feel and SHOULD feel. But I don't think it should come from a stranger, it should specifically be between my doctor(s) and myself. Just treat me with kindness and respect and allow me to be confident in myself. Having confidence and self-love doesn't mean that there's no improvements to be made!
I'm glad you love WHO you are and understands that just because you have to work on something about your body, doesn't mean you suddenly don't love yourself. Hugs of support here as I need to loose some weight myself. We can do it!
YES be confident about your body, that's really good. but on the other hand, you might want to lose weight (as a former fat person myself) it makes your life so much better.
Not done with the interview, but the "parents talk about their ex" thing hit me. When my twins mom left I made a conscious decision to never speak negatively about her in front of them, even when they were infants. To this day, they don't know that she was abusive and abandoned them. She left when they were 4 months old and died when they were 2. They ask about her from time to time. They went to her funeral. The story for them is that grown-up things happened(to explain her leaving) and that she died because she was sick (her death seems to be drug related). Eventually I will share more with them, but at this time they aren't ready for that.
Kudos to you. My niece's father was never an active part of her life but my mother made it a point that we never bad mouthed him because, one day, my niece might want to build a relationship with him (which she has a right to). Dr. Mike is right. Children are sponges. They lead by example. While my niece only had one parent growing up, she's become a compassionate, loving, understanding child. Compare this with my nephew (brother's kid) who lives with his maternal grandparents who tend to be very negative and bad mouth people right in front of him *shivers*
Thank you for handling a difficult situation like you did. My mom never spoke negatively of my biological father after their divorce because she was hoping he would be a good father figure even if he wasn't the best husband. She didn't want to influence my opinion of him and didn't tell me the full story until I asked her in my 20s. I'm so grateful for how she handled it.
I think this is a hard thing. My friend's mom will talk about how her father wasn't the best father. Not that he was a bad guy, but that he didn't give her the love and the attention they deserve. So, what do you do? Do you teach your kid that certain behaviors are inexcusable, even if it's what their other parent is doing? Or do you make excuses/pretend that it didn't happen so they don't grow up hating this person that was neglectful or abusive? The OPs kids were so young and there mother passed, so it's sort of a moot point (though at some point they should know the mother's medical history for their own medical records). I think it's one of those things where there's no good answer, nothing is going to be shiny and happy, and it's a matter of weigh which is least bad.
My husband was hesitant to vaccinate our daughter because of all the stuff he'd read online, and one of the things that really helped was having a primary care provider that *he* trusts. Whenever he spoke of concerns, I wouldn't say he's wrong, or give any opinion, I'd just say "well, let's ask Dr - about that." And we did, we asked him all kinds of questions, like he was also worried that doctors get incentivised for prescribing certain brands of medicine. What I found so interesting was when we were seeing the doctor asking these questions, the questions changed form. It wasn't "do doctors get incentivised" it's "do you get incentivised?" It wasn't "are vaccines bad" it was "do you trust vaccines?". It is so much more personal to sit down with an actual doctor in person, a person you know has kids of their own and lives in your town and is your culture, and to hear that person, that you trust, give answers to these questions. He said his children have been vaccinated too. He helped so many of my husbands fears this way that we have no problem vaccinating our daughter now. It's so so important to have a primary care doctor because they are someone in real life that you can trust. You don't know what ulterior motives these online websites have, what they're trying to sell. But when I sit down and speak to my doctor in person, I know for sure that he has my interests in mind. And that you can't get anywhere else.
if/when i have (a) kid(s) I will most likely teach them self defense (not crazy shit, just basic how to defend yourself,) and tell them, "Don't throw the first punch, just try and make yours the last." : Kids get punished enough at school for defending themselves at school. And 99.99% of the time the attacker is the one that gets off scott free. But, if I get a call from school saying " is in my office, she knocked a classmate out," I will ask my child if it was self defense, if it was then no punishment, if not then there's going to be punishment.
@@mongmanmarkyt2897 Exactly. I got punished in school for knocking out a guy 2x my size with a desk when he tried to hit me on the head with a tennis racket.
@@frostmourne1986 you were in the wrong m8 and this is coming from the lad who set a lad on fire then got in a fight in class and then for the hatrick went and got caught getting a blowy behind the science blocks in the sun after not going where I should be causing me to get kicked out in my last year; so yeah. self-defence needs to be reasonably equal yknow what I mean, table vs tennis racket, tap vs ko, different y'know.
@@jackrobinson9403 Here's the thing. He was going for a full swing BEHIND me. I saw it in the mirror and I simply reacted by ducking and grabbing the nearest thing to swing back. That's extremely reasonable.
@@frostmourne1986 it's not tho. The dude could have died. That's so messed up that you even try to defend yourself. The jury is not going to listen to "oh I was just defending myself" if you went above and beyond defending yourself and killed a dude.
I recently had a baby. I'm a single mom. I have to manage my time really carefully these days. A 1hr+ video is unacceptable... Unless it's Phil and Dr Mike. I watched it entirely! I genuinely enjoyed the video and getting to hear these 2 fantastically rational and logical people discuss things. I feel like there's so much misinformation and lack of common sense around us these days that it's so refreshing to give people like these two a platform.
I just play it in the background like an audio book, most of Phil's videos can be done that way. Did some work for my clients (freelance), cleaned up the home, washed some dishes... all good. YT premium and a NYNE blue tooth speaker is my favorite combination.
Some times if I want to actually watch it, I tend to pause alot. It's kind of annoying, but like you said... having 4 kids under 10 can take up all your time on top of all the other responsibilities. Most times thought I use them as background vidoes.
I admire Dr. Mike so much. He's so mature, thoughtful and compassionate in his decision making and speaking. I think this video taught me more about communication, decision making, and personal growth than it even did about medical stuff, but even then it was super informative. This was great! Thanks Phil, and Dr. Mike!
This has been without a doubt, my favorite a conversation with you have done. So interesting! the flow of the conversation, the knowledge, fresh perspectives and the geunine enjoyment of each others opinions, perspectives and answers, everything was spotless
Same with FB. Click the three dot menu next to News Feed. It is always set to "Top Stories" but you can switch it to most recent. After a week, it reverts back to Top Stories. Not sure if there are any third party apps to avoid it though.
This recently dawned on me too! I’m 23 and the Facebook I had in high school is wildly different than the Instagram and Snapchat of high schoolers today. They can literally craft themselves into being something that sells, and can make that a full time career! The pressure is unreal!
More so it's people. The algorithm doesn't intentionally put forth negativity, but rather it puts forth what people interact with. People participate Moreso with negativity or controversy. Which is the root of the issue
The Dankest Betty White Yes and no. RUclips algorithm might favor negativity but as far as Instagram goes, there’s definitely a physical look and aesthetic that is favored by the algorithm, making those people more successful. Cassey Ho (Blogilates) just put out an interesting video about how the top 100 Instagram influencers follow the same basic formula.
he was on my team in overwatch three games in a row and his psn name is “RealDrMike” and i didn’t know who he was but i was like “omg is the REAAAL dr. mike?” and then he mentioned he had a youtube channel and was like yeah i have two million subs and i looked him up and was shook it was wacky i never saw him again
On one of his responding to comments videos he mentioned that he'd be up to play with people and that they should add him if they wanted to play overwatch with him. Idk if that's still how he feels, but still.
Often when i recognise my depressive thoughts are coming back, i start to be rational about them cause I dont want to go back how I was before. Didnt know there was a technique for it, thanks doctor Mike!
I didn't know about I until watching Doctor mike but I always tried to be rational with myself and also with people around me. Sometimes people get a bit too emotionally driven and they need to realize it makes absolute no sense.
Can’t believe I watched the entire thing. I’m totally not into podcasts but this was really good. Phil had good questions and mike interesting answers.
The way he talks is so educated and beautiful. He adresses things that go against pop culture with out making people feel attacked. I think like him but i dont think i could every explain myself so nice like that.
Yeah like running around and falling down helps you learn to get back up again. Parents come in when you seriously hurt yourself so they can help you get better, but once that's done you have to go out and run around again.
That is why when i see parents worrying so much about some simple injury in which is not life threatening or serious damage, i get so angry at them to let the child learn to handle them. Parents need to be a pillar of support and not spoiling their kids. worrying too much is basically spoiling them. Sure there will be a line where you don't know whether it is either spoiling them or protecting them, here parents need to analyze that situation and take the best course of action for them to learn. That is why being parents is not easy, but many people already jumping in trying to be parents which even themselves are not ready.
He is only 4 years older then me and seems to have himself together, and here i am trying to figure out where the hell i'm headed. But on a different note, this was great. I learned a lot, and love that both of you guys give your opinions but also allow pekple to form their own.
You guys are doing your best! Everyone’s life moves at a different speed, you’re not a failure because your speed is slower than some. You’re awesome people, doing your best, and I’m proud of you!
4 years is a long time! I'm 28 and at 25 I would have never imagined I'd be where I'm at now. And I bet no one knows where they're headed-- that's half the fun ;)
I love this, I found Phil as a teenager in high school watching his videos was nice, it was like receiving news from a somewhat older friend who wasn't sugarcoating or condescending anything just some facts and his honest opinion. Came to Dr. Mike later in life and a few years in medicine specifically army medicine as a medic and love his same approach to his material, to me they are both 2 dudes trying to inform people to the best of there abilities and i honestly appreciate them and I'm glad this video exists.
When dr mike mentions humility, this is true across the scientific board. Research, medicine, experiments, there is no such thing as a 100% fact, just results based off of experience and observation.
the thing he's saying about nuance is so important. I feel like these days everything is being painted either black or white, and life is usually just a bunch of shades of gray. the circumstances of a situation do matter.
This was a great interview. Dr Mike is an incredible communicator. His empathy and consideration for others is almost overwhelmingly evident, and he is fantastically passionate about what he does. I look forward to watching him grow into his practice further. Also he is really pretty to look at...
I love what you said about coddling. I have a 2 year old daughter and when she falls most of the time she says "oops" and laughs it off. I used to push er on her bum (gentle) and giggle. If the fall hurts her she lets me know. Literally 30 min ago she fell off the couch, head first, and was like "uh oh I falled" I asked if she was ok and she said "hehe yeah" and proceeded to climb back on the couch and run back and forth on it. I also put her in time out when ever she is a repeat offender. Warning than punishment. Not for long (maybe 45 sec to 2 min it depends if I have to clean something she messed up first) and even though she is little I have a talk with her about it. It may seem extreme but she is very verbal and has a distinct knowledge of right from wrong. You have to teach your babies at THEIR pace. I'm am guilty of excessive screen time in the form of Peppa Pig consumption. She's always asking for it lol I bought her a Peppa doll and that seems to curb her need for the TV. She is hardly ever allowed to touch my phone though. I also have refused many offers of tablet from family members.
@@Dylan_Otto Thanks. I don't even let my family spoil her either. There must be something about older people feeling the need to spoil small kids. They think I'm mean but she is happy and has ever thing she needs. I do spoil her with hugs and kisses though 😊.
Lat Rhone Don't consider yourself mean, m8. Like Dr Mike said, establishing boundaries as a parent/guardian is perfectly logical and most of my close friends agree on that. Keep doin what u're doin.
If your daughter made a mess, help her clean it up. But let her do the majority herself. That's the best way to teach children. Don't be mad and don't grumble, just let her clean everything up. She'll learn to treat everything carefully bc otherwise she'll spend hours fixing it.
I am so glad the stress was talked about. In Canada, in doctor's offices, they play a video that teaches people about acute stress vs overwhelming unhealthy stress.
on the bullying: I feel the most important thing is comforting but in a way that prepares the child for future acute stresses. example: My little cousin got off the bus the other day and walked up to me and said: "this kid on the bus said he hates me and that I'm a bad girl". I said, "I'm sorry that happened, do you feel like your a bad person". she responded, "no, I'm a good person". and I said "well then that's all you need to remember. And to me, it sounds like they just lost the opportunity to have a nice kind-hearted friend". Instead of learning that she should be sad, she now knows that when someone says something like this all they need to say is "is this true" and "its their loss not mine"
As someone with both parents working in the mental health field, hearing them mention and then talk about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy made me really excited
Nala 305 hi I’m a psychologist and if you don’t mind I’ll give my opinion even though you didn’t ask me lol. I’m a big fan of CBT, not every form of therapy will work for every person and issue, so do research about your reason for therapy. That being said I think CBT is effective for many issues particularly depression, and anxiety. I love the active nature of CBT. The person seeking therapy has autonomy over their progress with guidance from a professional. The dynamic is more of a partnership which I personally respond to. I really believe in that personal responsibility aspect as well as the cognitive support provided by the therapist to explore the issue on a different level that you may have not considered. It’s a great marriage of theories and there’s a reason why it’s so popular. I really hope this helped!
@@TheSuperNats I'll look into it more thank you! I really need to go to therapy because I just realized that I'm trans/nonbinary, but I'm just in a hole right now and it's hard.
Unless it's a time constraint, I think you should let the conversations go on longer. The last couple it seems rushed and cut off for time right when the conversations are starting to feel more personal and indepth.
Mike is just absolutely amazing. He is so open-minded but also so loyal to what he believes, I respect that so much. I definitely, want to learn to be like that since I have trouble being accepting of others' opinions.
I could have listened to another 8 hours of this. Thank you for sitting down together and giving us a really productive conversation. Great food for thought. :)
Well, if anyone is interested, here's my vape story that you can add to the controversial vape equation. I've started smoking at the age of 16 and did not stop until I turned 30-ish. At the height of my smoking "career", I was burning through 2 to 2-1/2 packs of cigarettes per day. During that time, I've tried cold turkey twice, both times being successful at it but there were no mechanisms in place to keep me from going back into the habit. I would have strong urges to grab a cigarette after a meal or during social events. I've tried nicotine gums and patches, neither of them worked. I've tried earlier generations of ecigs (the ones shaped like a cigarette with a LED light on the end) and that didn't work as well. It was only when vapes that we know of now that were introduced is when I was finally able to stop smoking cigarettes on the spot. I still remember very vividly my first inhale of a vape. I knew for some reason, be it instinctively or otherwise, that this method was going to work for me. I have been smoke-free for 6 years now (and counting). I haven't once had even the slightest urge for a cigarette. I have not been any deader than I was when I first started nor have I even been hospitalized from any vaping related incident. What changes that I do notice is that I'm able to walk up a flight of stairs without having my lungs collapsing for air and the food I eat have more taste to it. Underage vaping should not be a thing. Adults who vape for the sake of vaping should not be a thing. Vapes should ONLY be used as a method/tool to remove yourself from smoking cigarettes. Even then, you should not depend solely on vaping to keep you off cigarettes. The ultimate goal is to ween off vaping as a whole which is what I'm doing. I started with 12mg of nicotine going down to 6mg and I am currently on 3mg. I plan to move down to 1mg or 0mg and then slowly kick off the entire habit as a whole. Vaping is not safe. Inhaling any liquid that has been heated up to a point where it becomes a vapor will have some inherent risk to it. But in my case, if I only had the option to continue vaping or to go back smoking cigarettes, I'll choose to vape in a heartbeat. In comparison to smoking, vaping is a hell of a lot less risky compared to the 7000+ carcinogenic chemicals you inhale from cigarettes. Given what I know and from my own experience, I am fully at peace with the decisions I made.
Adults are adults and can make their own choices. Imo. I dont think there is a rational adult living that thinks underage vaping or smoking should be a thing... yet teens have been smoking cigs and getting drunk underage since... well... forever. The issue is it's not about the teens. If it was they would have banned cigs and alcohol. The issue is big tobacco doesnt like vaping bc it takes away the sales. The corner market they have always dominated. It's a political stunt on behalf of big T and the teens who got sick where just another thing they can point to and skew in their favor. Those 6 people are talking about bought black market THC laced juices. It doesnt matter though bc they are 6 they can point to and say see look at this!!!! Adults should be able to do what they want and it's the parents job to teach their children about smoking anything not big daddy governments job.
@@smOVERCOMINGITALL not true, big tobacco wants INTO vaping, and that is what is causing the rise in youth uptake. Big tobacco's sales channels are being used to promote Big Tobacco branded vapes. (Gas statopms. variety/convenience stores, bodegas, walmart or drug stores) The people so voraciously defending vaping are NOT using those "big tobacco" vape products and are purchasing from specialty vape shops. If you want to ban something, ban the convenience stores, walmarts, drug stores and gas stations (which allow children inside) from selling them. Adult only stores like vape shops do NOT market or sell to children. Adults like bubble gum too. The powers that want to stop vaping is actually doctors like this (who would rather sell you a prescription to a proven failed product like nicotine gum or patches) and "Big Pharma" the ones that make the ineffective patches and gums - Bloomberg (who just gave $160M to stop flavoured e-liquid in New York) is heavily invested in a new "quit smoking" "vaping" type of product that WILL be regulated by the FDA and he is trying to eliminate his competition. It's not big tobacco, it's big pharma - you know the cunts that got everyone addicted to opiates for a few bazillion dollars. P.S. This doctor's opinion on vaping is worthless. He's used zero credible information to build his opinions. He hasn't read the BCP report on vaping which is by far the most comprehensive report on vaping anywhere. He's probably not even aware they are a few months away from releasing the 10 year comprehensive study on vaping. Ya right, we need "more" data... the data is there - 50M+ people around the world use vaping instead of cigarettes.... that's 50M+ people's lives extended. He actually thought and reported that propylene glycol causes popcorn lung. His entire vaping "vocabulary" is built from propaganda and lies.
I'm glad you made the distinction about not vaping to vape. Bc you're absolutely right vapes are wonderful to help get off of cigarettes however if you just start smoking a vape I believe the numbers are like 20x more likely to begin smoking after vaping as a teenager. Some people don't even realize that a lot of the juices still have nicotine in them. Also congrats on your journey through giving up cigarettes.
Since it helped you to stop smoking and your endgame is to quit it altogether then you are doing it right. The big problem are the people (adults or kids) who didn't and wouldn't consider start smoking that started vaping because it was cool and hip and now they are hooked on nicotine because some people convinced them that it is completely safe. E-cigs are good but they should be treated as medical devices aimed to help with cigarette addiction, nothing more nothing less, this whole hip lifestyle with the customisation of devices and oils etc must stop right now.
@@SirLarsofLondon did you even listen to dr mike? Lmao he pretty much said the same thing as you. That you shouldn't ban vaping, but rather stop marketing and selling to teens. He never said he wants to "stop it". And he isn't even completely against it like you make it out to be. He just said it definitely isn't 100% healthy. Why should he be aware of research that hasn't been published yet? The databank for medical research papers only shows you what's been published lol. And medical research is definitely a reliable source.
It is so refreshing to see someone express moderate views on hot topics, in a society that lives in extremist views. Thank you Philly D and Dr. Mike for this episode.
The talk about the overprotective nature of parents affecting the development of anxiety and depression rings so true for me and my experiences. I am my parents' first child of three and I have been a single child for five and a half years before my brother came into our lives. My parents were overprotective and strict - i think it's mainly because they're still trying to know the ropes of how to take care of a child and i'm pretty sure that my gender (female) contributed to that too - that i was not allowed to play outside with other children. In those rare times that I can actually mingle in the playground, I have a chaperone with me that stares at me like a hawk. That kind of behavior lasted for years that when I have reached high school, i strongly believed that they wouldn't allow me to spend my days outside with friends and it led me to just staying at home all the time, getting very limited interaction with people. They were also pretty vocal with their expectations of me when it comes to my grades, so my life was basically revolving around studying. They were also coddling me so much that I don't think I have developed my own way of dealing with things that made me feel troubled or uncomfortable with, because they're already there to solve it without me being in the picture at all. My opinions felt caged, and being a child that looks up to her parents, I just did whatever it is that they told me to do. My development when it comes to speaking out what I think about a certain situation was stunted, and i'm still struggling with that these days. When college came and I had the freedom to live in a dorm and interact with people without a lot of supervision, anxiety hit me like a damn truck and I found myself at a loss. The limited experiences that I had impacted me greatly and I started spiraling down, even acquiring depression in the process. Reaching out is very hard for me and I had to take years off university just for me to feel better. I am still mending at the moment but I am gradually feeling better. I don't know if my parents saw and understood the effects of their parenting on me or not, but they're much more lenient with my brothers when it comes to allowing them to interact and try out new things instead of just being cooped indoors studying. I can't say that i'm not feeling envious of that but i'm thankful that my siblings aren't feeling as caged as I was. I can honestly say that in their age, they're so experienced and so much more mature than me when I was in the same age bracket. Whoohoo. This is a long message. Welp.
This is one of the best conversations I've ever heard. I love it. I love Dr. Mike's perspective on everything. Seems like such a genuinely great person.
Dr. Mikhail Varshavski seems not just intelligent, but smart and thoughtful as well. It makes me wonder, if he is always so well composed and never let even anger take over?
@@oodjee Yes, I listened to him talking about it. For a person, to be able to remove themselves from a situation and rationalize their thoughts and actions, they have to arise first. I know people that in highly stressful situations can keep their calm, but in small everyday irritant they may lose it before composing themselves.
@@dianavelkovska650 I struggle with precisely this. The greater the emergency, the calmer I am, but I'm SUCH a hothead over such dumb crap, especially online. But if I'm in a remotely clinical role at the time or otherwise operating as any kind of caretaker, some sort of equanimity superpower takes over. I really wish I were better at applying it in more contexts!
Everyone experiences anger, but as not only as a doctor but an Entertainer, he has to remain composed. He's spoken about times where he has gotten frustrated with some patients but doesn't show it. We don't know his personal life in its entirety, only what he shows. He's only human, even though he may seem look superhuman lol. It's okay to feel those emotions it doesn't make you a bad person, just as long as you don't let them get the better of you and lead to harm. But I get what you mean, it would be weird to see him cuss or get angry because he's so PG LOL.
i'm always so impressed by the questions Phil presents to his guests. With hosts on late-night and other podcasts the questions feel researched and pre-prepared just for the interview, but Phil doesn't appear to use notecards and his questions are in-depth and engaging without seeming rigid or memorized. He's a great organic interviewer
Phil, it's like you knew i'm listening to more podcasts! This is becoming easily one of my faves, the guests are awesome (and I'm even more impressed that you are booking them last minute ahah, speaks to how highly people respect you man)! These highly intelligent conversation make my week! Loving this!
This was the best explanation for bullying and appropriate information around parents that I ever heard. Many of us were exposed to information we weren’t ready for. Now I just ignore, redirect, or stop a conversation that I can recognize going the wrong way. I started doing that when I realized that I started to mimic some of the same types of behaviors
So, thank you Phillip DeFranco for having Dr. Mike on....his words really touched me and helped me understand a little more why my emotions are like they are.
Just the fact that Dr Mike talks about having to take a step back and evaluating the WHY of what we're saying, and evaluating the why of our bias. I love that.
Dr Mike talking about the alarms in the simulation labs was so relatable. I'm currently a second year nursing student, and in the second semester of my first year, we learnt about how to clean a patient who has passed and how to put them in a body bag correctly. My sister who was 36, passed a year prior and it was coming to the anniversary of her death and when my tutor was talking about it, I had to leave the room because seeing her body after she had passed in the ER, I knew the nurses would have to take her to the morgue in a body bag. I know as a nurse it is something we will have to do, but in that moment, it was a lot to process.
Hi, here are some of the books Dr. Mike recommended throughout the video (I might've missed some tho) Sorry forgot to record timestamp. Haidt, Jonathan. The Happiness Hypothesis Sarno, John. The Divided Mind Burns, David. Feeling Good I'll be definitely checking some of these out
Absolutely fascinating conversation with Dr. Mike~ His 'common sense' approach to his job and to life is a breath of fresh air! Phil you ask great questions and the interview was so insightful. I may not agree with all points, but I learned so much. Thanks for one of your older listeners in Maine.
Thank you so much, Mike, for talking about compassion. It's such an important topic. Well meaning people get outraged at "the bad ones" in our society and often dont understand that this makes them part of the problem sometimes.
I’ve watched a lot of Doctor Mike videos at this point, but none of them can compare to this one in terms of provoking thoughtful introspection and inspiring me to be a better person. Thank you to both Philip and Mike for that!
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This was so fun to film and Mike is a legend for hopping on a plane to film with us on such short notice.
Philip DeFranco when is there gonna be a highlights channel?
You should get Donoteat1, the city planner who does City Skylines.
You should follow up with Mama Doctor Jones.
i like him. i been watching mike for a while now. i found him because of him watching House MD. as i am a big fan of house. and his most recent video on john oliver was great as well.
Loved it .... was so calming conversation. ...
"If you actually want to make a meaningful change, just being outraged doesn't help"
Yes!!! This is so important!
Someone should tell Twitter.
@@silentsaturn7604 Obama said something similar to this. Basically what every sane person already knows which is being outraged doesn't make you a better person or an activist for change.
Philine Wreck say it louder for the people in the back cause they keep fighting
Philine Wreck Greta thunberg
@@GOD-zl9vs Greta is out there campaigning and making speeches and organizing climate strikes. I'm pretty sure she has done a lot more than sitting on twitter being "outraged" 🙄
Dr. Mike seems like he would be the friendly open dude living in Califorina and Phil would be the jaded New Yorker
I mean Phil did spend a not insignificant amount of his childhood in the Bronx.
@@wiseoneedarra593 so... A significant amount?
@@jonathanosuna9983 technically, yes, saying significant and not insignificant are the same thing. But the connotation is different. Saying outrightly "significant" implies a lot. But wasn't the majority of his childhood so I didn't want to imply that. By saying "not insignificant" I am implying that it was not necessarily a large amount of time, but it definitely had an impact.
@@wiseoneedarra593 so... a Moderate amount?
@@jonathanosuna9983 Hahaha, I guess so. 😅
Dr. Mike: the best dad without kids
That was deep!
Dr Mike, the man without kids who is going to discover very, very quickly that parenting is FAR different to what he thinks it is.......and that kids are a hell of a lot smarter than he gives them credit for being. Being a doctor does NOT qualify a person for being a parenting expert......and I say all of this as someone who has a healthy, happy 23 year old daughter.
Heather Rowles doctors specially family medicine doctor give parenting advice 24/7 all the time its the parents choice to follow or not follow them it's advice or a recommendation he is not telling the public you have to do xyz to be a good parents. He is speaking from a medical perspective based off of information and probably articles and studies he has read. You can't dish someone for not speaking from a career standpoint if they haven't experienced that yet. He has experienced working with children and can make a recommendation based off his experience while treating children, based off conversations he has had with parents, but mainly based off of his training and studies. He never once has ever claimed he was a parent nor has he tried to ack like an all knowing parent.
Heather Rowles just because your 23 year old daughter is happy and healthy doesn't mean the way you parent is the best way either to each their own in their beliefs and parenting methods but as a doctor he has the right specifically as a family medicine doctor to bring up topics that pertain to his patient panel and his career.
Heather Rowles Dr.Mike didn’t claim to be a “parenting expert” nor did he say parenting was an easy thing. Sit your triggered a$$ down lol. BTW why ARE you so triggered?
Dr. Mike works hard, but nobody works harder than his shirt buttons.
Aye, those shirt buttons are screaming out for mercy! 😂
This is such an underrated comment😂
I need more emotion than a thumbs up for this comment. LOL.
I like how his shirt buttons out of all things is becoming a meme.
Avelina 😂😂😂
Dr.Mike isn’t just smart but he’s wise. What I mean is he’s so emotionally mature and has the rare ability to see it from other peoples perspective no matter how outrageous they may be.
For sure, top notch emotional intelligence
Wise????? I feel like people didn't actually read what he said to Dr. Hope. Or, for that matter, see the blatant 180 in what he says and what he does. Then again, I live close enough to NY to see this behavior on a daily basis. Pretend or be a part of the fad but act like an ass to everyone or anyone who brings up anything negative about you.
Mike, from all that I have seen and researched about him, has the emotional maturity of a bubble. It's hollow and easily punctured. And he's fooling a bunch of viewers because of his looks. It's depressing. Nothing he says is not something that has not been said by someone who is truly kind or means what they believe. He, Mike, is in it for the fame and prioritizes his search for being on the camera over patients. (Based off of lots of research I have done on him, and his actions and work towards getting into the limelight)
Rose Lee any links or proofs you can give me to back up your statement? Would love to be able to see it and being able (based on evidence) to take my own stance on him.
I don’t know how emotionally mature he is because he has had a lot of girlfriends. I love Dr. Mike and all but I am just saying it how I see it.
yea, wish there were more people like him
Don't think I've seen an interview or another collab, where they actually let Dr.Mike finish his thoughts, he always gets interrupted. What a good video!
Haven't watched much but so far, Defranco seems to be a good interviewer/host
*cough* *cough* Gabbie Hanna *cough* *cough*
@@regularlamp.8373 haha 😩 I was getting second hand embarrassment
most importantly, chest compressions chest compressions chest compressions. Love that you two got together for this
*_This is why Dr.Mike should figure out the podcast situation, and get himself a podcast!_*
Yes!!!
@@cathifamjourney469 ikr!
YES!
I was gonna ask lol! Does he have a podcast?!
Yes
"If you wanna make a meaningful change, just being outraged doesn't help."
I wish more people, myself included, are goal-focused like that when they make decisions.
It's hard to keep level headed when it comes to sensitive topics, but it is exactly these sensitive topics that requires the most nuanced discussions and open-mindedness.
Yeah, just keep trying to be aware of your thoughts and remind yourself that whatever the other person is saying, you don't know the full context of everything they've experienced just like they don't know everything you've been through.
There's been so many times where I was already ready to try and convince someone of something, but then instead of just responding right away I asked them why they thought their ideas were right. And after doing that a few times I'm surprised at how many assumptions I made that I didn't even consider. I think it's not only a matter of empathy and compassion, but also having patience and a healthy amount of doubt/humility.
It's okay to be "wrong" and change opinions just as much as it's okay to say "I see your point but I still don't agree". But when we go into things without a willingness to learn, we can't expect the other person not to do the same thing back.
Hear, hear!
@@Petrichorus- Exactly! Perfectly said!
Phil was honestly made for podcasts! He’s such a good talker
Phil legit forgot to do the intro lmao
Can you blame him? Mike is cute 😍
Phil definitely got lost in Mike's smile.
Ms12369 *Lindsay DeFranco has entered the chat*
Every time
Yes. We saw
The purple unbuttoned shirt and the chain? Dr Mike your Russian is showing! Lol
Only thing he's missing is an adidas track suit.
@@bglad09 and a slav squat
I cannot see a chain!
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Hayley Roche 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
"girlfriend at the time"...so you're telling me there's a chance? LMAO.
mans gets in and out of relationships more than i go in and out of the fuckin house lmao
Probably has to do with the fact that he has lots of activities in his life, so I think the relationships keep getting in the background.
@@oliverhardy9464 oh yah 100% being a doctor takes a lot of time out of your life so relationships can't ever be a priority
@@causticks4532🙄 If you watch his videos he even states that he got a really unregular schedule compared to other jobs and does a lot of sports (training 5 times a week) and travels for conferences and does the youtube stuff. That's why it think it's probably very time consuming. He can be glad that he has someone cutting the videos for him.
Maybe he gets more free time, but to me it sounds like he has a lot to do. 🤷♂️
(Sry for any mistakes. It's been a while since I had some proper english lessons since it's not my first language.)
@@oliverhardy9464 yep that is what I'm saying fam
His glasses and his open shirt is making me FEEL THINGS.
Lol!!
No joke i didn't realize he had glasses until 27 mins into the video lol
FRRR LIKE DR MIKE IS MAD FINE LIKE I NEED A CHECK UP SIR👀😍😘
😂
Me tooooo
As a fat girl myself, I love what Dr. Mike had to say about body positivity. It's exactly how I feel and SHOULD feel. But I don't think it should come from a stranger, it should specifically be between my doctor(s) and myself. Just treat me with kindness and respect and allow me to be confident in myself. Having confidence and self-love doesn't mean that there's no improvements to be made!
Exaaactly. People get body positivity so wrong
I'm glad you love WHO you are and understands that just because you have to work on something about your body, doesn't mean you suddenly don't love yourself. Hugs of support here as I need to loose some weight myself. We can do it!
YES be confident about your body, that's really good. but on the other hand, you might want to lose weight (as a former fat person myself) it makes your life so much better.
@@gaslited you seem to have missed my point, particularly the last bit
@@elissae5020 yes i did
We need a conversation with Jenna Marbles and Julien Solomita
Prismmakeupartistry yassssss beetch
Yaaaaaaaaaaas.
I'm so with this. Phil, make this happen.
oh hell yeah
asap!
Not done with the interview, but the "parents talk about their ex" thing hit me. When my twins mom left I made a conscious decision to never speak negatively about her in front of them, even when they were infants. To this day, they don't know that she was abusive and abandoned them. She left when they were 4 months old and died when they were 2. They ask about her from time to time. They went to her funeral. The story for them is that grown-up things happened(to explain her leaving) and that she died because she was sick (her death seems to be drug related). Eventually I will share more with them, but at this time they aren't ready for that.
Kudos to you. My niece's father was never an active part of her life but my mother made it a point that we never bad mouthed him because, one day, my niece might want to build a relationship with him (which she has a right to).
Dr. Mike is right. Children are sponges. They lead by example. While my niece only had one parent growing up, she's become a compassionate, loving, understanding child. Compare this with my nephew (brother's kid) who lives with his maternal grandparents who tend to be very negative and bad mouth people right in front of him *shivers*
I wish my dad had done what you have after my parents divorced
Thank you for handling a difficult situation like you did. My mom never spoke negatively of my biological father after their divorce because she was hoping he would be a good father figure even if he wasn't the best husband. She didn't want to influence my opinion of him and didn't tell me the full story until I asked her in my 20s. I'm so grateful for how she handled it.
They will appreciate this when they get older. And it stays with them.
I think this is a hard thing. My friend's mom will talk about how her father wasn't the best father. Not that he was a bad guy, but that he didn't give her the love and the attention they deserve. So, what do you do? Do you teach your kid that certain behaviors are inexcusable, even if it's what their other parent is doing? Or do you make excuses/pretend that it didn't happen so they don't grow up hating this person that was neglectful or abusive?
The OPs kids were so young and there mother passed, so it's sort of a moot point (though at some point they should know the mother's medical history for their own medical records).
I think it's one of those things where there's no good answer, nothing is going to be shiny and happy, and it's a matter of weigh which is least bad.
"Anything that matters to you you will find time for."
That.
Oh god yes.
I wish more doctors were like Dr. Mike, he seems like he genuinely cares for people.
For sure! but let's not write off other doctors. Most doctors (in my experience) are also very genuine!
@@devid9129 true. Only once in a long time I run into stupid doctors.
My husband was hesitant to vaccinate our daughter because of all the stuff he'd read online, and one of the things that really helped was having a primary care provider that *he* trusts. Whenever he spoke of concerns, I wouldn't say he's wrong, or give any opinion, I'd just say "well, let's ask Dr - about that." And we did, we asked him all kinds of questions, like he was also worried that doctors get incentivised for prescribing certain brands of medicine.
What I found so interesting was when we were seeing the doctor asking these questions, the questions changed form. It wasn't "do doctors get incentivised" it's "do you get incentivised?" It wasn't "are vaccines bad" it was "do you trust vaccines?". It is so much more personal to sit down with an actual doctor in person, a person you know has kids of their own and lives in your town and is your culture, and to hear that person, that you trust, give answers to these questions. He said his children have been vaccinated too. He helped so many of my husbands fears this way that we have no problem vaccinating our daughter now.
It's so so important to have a primary care doctor because they are someone in real life that you can trust. You don't know what ulterior motives these online websites have, what they're trying to sell. But when I sit down and speak to my doctor in person, I know for sure that he has my interests in mind. And that you can't get anywhere else.
@Stacey this makes me so happy!
Your doctor, you and your husband are great people
I told my daughter "Never hit first, but always defend yourself".
if/when i have (a) kid(s) I will most likely teach them self defense (not crazy shit, just basic how to defend yourself,) and tell them, "Don't throw the first punch, just try and make yours the last." : Kids get punished enough at school for defending themselves at school. And 99.99% of the time the attacker is the one that gets off scott free. But, if I get a call from school saying " is in my office, she knocked a classmate out," I will ask my child if it was self defense, if it was then no punishment, if not then there's going to be punishment.
@@mongmanmarkyt2897 Exactly. I got punished in school for knocking out a guy 2x my size with a desk when he tried to hit me on the head with a tennis racket.
@@frostmourne1986 you were in the wrong m8 and this is coming from the lad who set a lad on fire then got in a fight in class and then for the hatrick went and got caught getting a blowy behind the science blocks in the sun after not going where I should be causing me to get kicked out in my last year; so yeah. self-defence needs to be reasonably equal yknow what I mean, table vs tennis racket, tap vs ko, different y'know.
@@jackrobinson9403 Here's the thing. He was going for a full swing BEHIND me. I saw it in the mirror and I simply reacted by ducking and grabbing the nearest thing to swing back. That's extremely reasonable.
@@frostmourne1986 it's not tho. The dude could have died. That's so messed up that you even try to defend yourself. The jury is not going to listen to "oh I was just defending myself" if you went above and beyond defending yourself and killed a dude.
I totally agree with you all. I feel my parents accidentally over protected me growing up. It made adulthood more of a struggle for awhile.
Same
I'm still struggling and my dad is still overprotective
Same :(
Same, it definitely amplified my anxiety
i’m really struggling too
Mad respect to Dr. Mike for voicing his thoughtful opinions so eloquently. I wish I could find a doctor like this.
Phil, take a Polaroid with each guest and have a wall with all the Polaroids. That'd be such a great addition to the set or even just to have.
How very Bojack Horseman of you. (I love it though)
Logan Paul does that
Phil used to have a huge wall of fan pictures in the past.
Not your fault, but this comment ages like milk due to COVID. 😂
@@TheIdealisticCynic uhh no it didn’t
I recently had a baby. I'm a single mom. I have to manage my time really carefully these days. A 1hr+ video is unacceptable... Unless it's Phil and Dr Mike. I watched it entirely! I genuinely enjoyed the video and getting to hear these 2 fantastically rational and logical people discuss things. I feel like there's so much misinformation and lack of common sense around us these days that it's so refreshing to give people like these two a platform.
I couldn't have said it better. I usually hate long videos but these two were great to listen to. Congrats on the new born btw.🎉
Thank you ☺️
I didn't even speed it up. Lol.
I just play it in the background like an audio book, most of Phil's videos can be done that way. Did some work for my clients (freelance), cleaned up the home, washed some dishes... all good. YT premium and a NYNE blue tooth speaker is my favorite combination.
Some times if I want to actually watch it, I tend to pause alot. It's kind of annoying, but like you said... having 4 kids under 10 can take up all your time on top of all the other responsibilities. Most times thought I use them as background vidoes.
I admire Dr. Mike so much.
He's so mature, thoughtful and compassionate in his decision making and speaking. I think this video taught me more about communication, decision making, and personal growth than it even did about medical stuff, but even then it was super informative.
This was great!
Thanks Phil, and Dr. Mike!
Me: Trying to formulate a well-rounded and intellectual comment
*Also me: Dr. Mike is ridiculously attractive...*
Lauren Gav seriously, he’s so distracting
Casually getting lost in his smile, and those glasses 😩👌
That sounded well-rounded and intellectual...
Omg he's so touchable.
High key, I'm not trying to objectify him, he's super sweet and thoughtful, but at the same time, that shirt is kinda tight...
dr mike is so well spoken. i could easily watch another hour of this
It’s not fair. He’s a good human AND he looks like a God
And hes hella smart. Fucking bs lol
So gods are white? Ok...😉
@@GullibleTarget people of different color can still look similar in ways other than skin color lol
@@GullibleTarget How the fck can you make smt like that about race. Smh
God? Really!
another reminder that Phil really be out here watching the same shit we do
Mike: "Murderers aren't all evil, what if they're nice to puppies?"
Can't wait for the Buzzfeed article.
Nicole Terry but then again most serial killer start of with killing animals in their childhood.
@Nicole Terry just sounds like a crazy vegan
Birb 😂😂😂
Lucy Towey If you kill someone in self defense, it's not murder! It's a terrible thing, but it is not murder.
@@zakiry8634 As a vegan myself, I agree 😂😂😂
I love Amanda lmao, "You know what would make me happier? If you did your intro."
Edit: left out a word.
Yeah, women just nag nag nag all day
@@AleksandarIvanov69 stop.
@@harasnicole no
@@harasnicole They're obviously being facetious
@@AleksandarIvanov69 found the incel
Mike's point about Myspace is so true.
This has been without a doubt, my favorite a conversation with you have done. So interesting! the flow of the conversation, the knowledge, fresh perspectives and the geunine enjoyment of each others opinions, perspectives and answers, everything was spotless
I'm not gay, but if Dr. Mike asked me to marry him I'd probably say yes. He's just such a cool guy.
idk man seems kinda gay to me
@@faridayasmin1701
Nah, it'd just be like having a super cool roommate with free physicals for funzies.
@@MrRJPE like you could marry me bc I love this!
Yes but, no homo 😂
Hes also hot asf
I miss chronological feeds on Facebook Twitter and Instagram
Not sure about Facebook or Instagram, but on Twitter you can sort by latest!
Luke Horton You can but not all tweets show up
Omg yes
Same with FB. Click the three dot menu next to News Feed. It is always set to "Top Stories" but you can switch it to most recent. After a week, it reverts back to Top Stories. Not sure if there are any third party apps to avoid it though.
@@JMulvy doesn't help. It still shows a feed from 5 days ago, the.mn something from ,24h and way back ones from 10 minutes ago
WOW! It’s not social media that’s evil, but the algorithm. I will never look at social media the same. So so true.
Agreed. That was a very profound statement.
This recently dawned on me too! I’m 23 and the Facebook I had in high school is wildly different than the Instagram and Snapchat of high schoolers today. They can literally craft themselves into being something that sells, and can make that a full time career! The pressure is unreal!
And also what he didn't point out that this algorithm creates echo chambers.
More so it's people.
The algorithm doesn't intentionally put forth negativity, but rather it puts forth what people interact with.
People participate Moreso with negativity or controversy.
Which is the root of the issue
The Dankest Betty White Yes and no. RUclips algorithm might favor negativity but as far as Instagram goes, there’s definitely a physical look and aesthetic that is favored by the algorithm, making those people more successful. Cassey Ho (Blogilates) just put out an interesting video about how the top 100 Instagram influencers follow the same basic formula.
he was on my team in overwatch three games in a row and his psn name is “RealDrMike” and i didn’t know who he was but i was like “omg is the REAAAL dr. mike?” and then he mentioned he had a youtube channel and was like yeah i have two million subs and i looked him up and was shook it was wacky i never saw him again
Damn he flexed on u so hard
How cool is that! 👍🏻👍🏻
Please tell me he played Anna lol
On one of his responding to comments videos he mentioned that he'd be up to play with people and that they should add him if they wanted to play overwatch with him. Idk if that's still how he feels, but still.
@@PhyreI3ird I heard the same thing from him on a video and a comment! Have Fun!
Often when i recognise my depressive thoughts are coming back, i start to be rational about them cause I dont want to go back how I was before. Didnt know there was a technique for it, thanks doctor Mike!
cognitive behavioral therapy
❤
I didn't know about I until watching Doctor mike but I always tried to be rational with myself and also with people around me. Sometimes people get a bit too emotionally driven and they need to realize it makes absolute no sense.
**going to Amazon, seeking out that book he mentioned**
I love how doctor makes everything so easy to understand like he could talk about some really complex illness to a toddler
HereitsZara it’s very much like his RUclips channel. You should have a look at it, it’s great
@@katiekelly6580 you'd be pleased to know I'm now an avid subscriber!!
HereitsZara YESS
I just love the way Dr. Mike articulates himself, if he's involved in anything i always leave learning something new. This ep was great
Can’t believe I watched the entire thing. I’m totally not into podcasts but this was really good. Phil had good questions and mike interesting answers.
The way he talks is so educated and beautiful. He adresses things that go against pop culture with out making people feel attacked. I think like him but i dont think i could every explain myself so nice like that.
He’s right about children acquiring thick skin when they’re younger and not be in a bubble, at least, I agree with him.
Yeah like running around and falling down helps you learn to get back up again. Parents come in when you seriously hurt yourself so they can help you get better, but once that's done you have to go out and run around again.
That is why when i see parents worrying so much about some simple injury in which is not life threatening or serious damage, i get so angry at them to let the child learn to handle them.
Parents need to be a pillar of support and not spoiling their kids. worrying too much is basically spoiling them.
Sure there will be a line where you don't know whether it is either spoiling them or protecting them, here parents need to analyze that situation and take the best course of action for them to learn. That is why being parents is not easy, but many people already jumping in trying to be parents which even themselves are not ready.
Yeah, that's why my kid is gonna be in the Rugby Sevens....when s/he's.... seven...
He is only 4 years older then me and seems to have himself together, and here i am trying to figure out where the hell i'm headed.
But on a different note, this was great. I learned a lot, and love that both of you guys give your opinions but also allow pekple to form their own.
As a fellow 25 year old I totally agree I can’t even write a check properly let alone practice medicine lol
You guys are doing your best! Everyone’s life moves at a different speed, you’re not a failure because your speed is slower than some. You’re awesome people, doing your best, and I’m proud of you!
What's weird for me is he and my son are the same age....yet I think he is so adorable. I feel like that's just wrong lol
Same lol but I’m in school to become a physician assistant so soon 💖
4 years is a long time! I'm 28 and at 25 I would have never imagined I'd be where I'm at now. And I bet no one knows where they're headed-- that's half the fun ;)
I love this, I found Phil as a teenager in high school watching his videos was nice, it was like receiving news from a somewhat older friend who wasn't sugarcoating or condescending anything just some facts and his honest opinion. Came to Dr. Mike later in life and a few years in medicine specifically army medicine as a medic and love his same approach to his material, to me they are both 2 dudes trying to inform people to the best of there abilities and i honestly appreciate them and I'm glad this video exists.
I couldn't agree more. I am a big fan of both channels because they're great at what they do.
By the way, thank you for your service!
I wish so hard that everyone could have a doctor like Dr.Mike
Me too!!!!!!
When dr mike mentions humility, this is true across the scientific board. Research, medicine, experiments, there is no such thing as a 100% fact, just results based off of experience and observation.
There's one pair of daddy glasses missing in this video
signum18 my sentiments exactly
the thing he's saying about nuance is so important. I feel like these days everything is being painted either black or white, and life is usually just a bunch of shades of gray. the circumstances of a situation do matter.
Dr. Mike: but most importantly
Me: chest compressions, chest compressions.. chest compressions..
FOUND IT! Was looking for this! HAHAHAHA!
THIS COMMENT HERE!!
Hearing Dr. mike talk about CBT makes me so happy as a psych major 🙌 all the mental health talk just makes me so happy
This was a great interview.
Dr Mike is an incredible communicator. His empathy and consideration for others is almost overwhelmingly evident, and he is fantastically passionate about what he does. I look forward to watching him grow into his practice further.
Also he is really pretty to look at...
'If you want to make a menigful change just being outraged doesn't help'
Damn that Hit me hard.
I got the notification for this video while watching this video...get it together RUclips
I love what you said about coddling. I have a 2 year old daughter and when she falls most of the time she says "oops" and laughs it off. I used to push er on her bum (gentle) and giggle. If the fall hurts her she lets me know. Literally 30 min ago she fell off the couch, head first, and was like "uh oh I falled" I asked if she was ok and she said "hehe yeah" and proceeded to climb back on the couch and run back and forth on it. I also put her in time out when ever she is a repeat offender. Warning than punishment. Not for long (maybe 45 sec to 2 min it depends if I have to clean something she messed up first) and even though she is little I have a talk with her about it. It may seem extreme but she is very verbal and has a distinct knowledge of right from wrong. You have to teach your babies at THEIR pace.
I'm am guilty of excessive screen time in the form of Peppa Pig consumption. She's always asking for it lol I bought her a Peppa doll and that seems to curb her need for the TV. She is hardly ever allowed to touch my phone though. I also have refused many offers of tablet from family members.
Lat Rhone I know a lot of people what would learn a lot from u, my own father included (remarried and completely spoiling my new 3 yo brother)
@@Dylan_Otto Thanks. I don't even let my family spoil her either. There must be something about older people feeling the need to spoil small kids. They think I'm mean but she is happy and has ever thing she needs. I do spoil her with hugs and kisses though 😊.
Lat Rhone Don't consider yourself mean, m8. Like Dr Mike said, establishing boundaries as a parent/guardian is perfectly logical and most of my close friends agree on that. Keep doin what u're doin.
If your daughter made a mess, help her clean it up. But let her do the majority herself. That's the best way to teach children. Don't be mad and don't grumble, just let her clean everything up. She'll learn to treat everything carefully bc otherwise she'll spend hours fixing it.
@@Sandra-fn3yw I do that for small things but she can't vacuum baking soda out of the carpet
I love how at some point this just turned into Phil asking for parenting advice
I am so glad the stress was talked about. In Canada, in doctor's offices, they play a video that teaches people about acute stress vs overwhelming unhealthy stress.
on the bullying: I feel the most important thing is comforting but in a way that prepares the child for future acute stresses. example: My little cousin got off the bus the other day and walked up to me and said: "this kid on the bus said he hates me and that I'm a bad girl". I said, "I'm sorry that happened, do you feel like your a bad person". she responded, "no, I'm a good person". and I said "well then that's all you need to remember. And to me, it sounds like they just lost the opportunity to have a nice kind-hearted friend". Instead of learning that she should be sad, she now knows that when someone says something like this all they need to say is "is this true" and "its their loss not mine"
That's a great way to handle it!
As someone with both parents working in the mental health field, hearing them mention and then talk about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy made me really excited
CBT!
Nala 305 hi I’m a psychologist and if you don’t mind I’ll give my opinion even though you didn’t ask me lol. I’m a big fan of CBT, not every form of therapy will work for every person and issue, so do research about your reason for therapy. That being said I think CBT is effective for many issues particularly depression, and anxiety. I love the active nature of CBT. The person seeking therapy has autonomy over their progress with guidance from a professional. The dynamic is more of a partnership which I personally respond to. I really believe in that personal responsibility aspect as well as the cognitive support provided by the therapist to explore the issue on a different level that you may have not considered. It’s a great marriage of theories and there’s a reason why it’s so popular. I really hope this helped!
@@TheSuperNats I'll look into it more thank you! I really need to go to therapy because I just realized that I'm trans/nonbinary, but I'm just in a hole right now and it's hard.
What was the time stamp for this? I've been trying to find it (without rewatching the whole thing) because I'd like to get the book he talks about
Courtney Ward 1:06:46
Unless it's a time constraint, I think you should let the conversations go on longer. The last couple it seems rushed and cut off for time right when the conversations are starting to feel more personal and indepth.
Mike is just absolutely amazing. He is so open-minded but also so loyal to what he believes, I respect that so much. I definitely, want to learn to be like that since I have trouble being accepting of others' opinions.
I could have listened to another 8 hours of this. Thank you for sitting down together and giving us a really productive conversation. Great food for thought. :)
Well, if anyone is interested, here's my vape story that you can add to the controversial vape equation.
I've started smoking at the age of 16 and did not stop until I turned 30-ish. At the height of my smoking "career", I was burning through 2 to 2-1/2 packs of cigarettes per day. During that time, I've tried cold turkey twice, both times being successful at it but there were no mechanisms in place to keep me from going back into the habit. I would have strong urges to grab a cigarette after a meal or during social events. I've tried nicotine gums and patches, neither of them worked. I've tried earlier generations of ecigs (the ones shaped like a cigarette with a LED light on the end) and that didn't work as well. It was only when vapes that we know of now that were introduced is when I was finally able to stop smoking cigarettes on the spot.
I still remember very vividly my first inhale of a vape. I knew for some reason, be it instinctively or otherwise, that this method was going to work for me. I have been smoke-free for 6 years now (and counting). I haven't once had even the slightest urge for a cigarette. I have not been any deader than I was when I first started nor have I even been hospitalized from any vaping related incident. What changes that I do notice is that I'm able to walk up a flight of stairs without having my lungs collapsing for air and the food I eat have more taste to it.
Underage vaping should not be a thing. Adults who vape for the sake of vaping should not be a thing. Vapes should ONLY be used as a method/tool to remove yourself from smoking cigarettes. Even then, you should not depend solely on vaping to keep you off cigarettes. The ultimate goal is to ween off vaping as a whole which is what I'm doing. I started with 12mg of nicotine going down to 6mg and I am currently on 3mg. I plan to move down to 1mg or 0mg and then slowly kick off the entire habit as a whole.
Vaping is not safe. Inhaling any liquid that has been heated up to a point where it becomes a vapor will have some inherent risk to it. But in my case, if I only had the option to continue vaping or to go back smoking cigarettes, I'll choose to vape in a heartbeat. In comparison to smoking, vaping is a hell of a lot less risky compared to the 7000+ carcinogenic chemicals you inhale from cigarettes. Given what I know and from my own experience, I am fully at peace with the decisions I made.
Adults are adults and can make their own choices. Imo. I dont think there is a rational adult living that thinks underage vaping or smoking should be a thing... yet teens have been smoking cigs and getting drunk underage since... well... forever. The issue is it's not about the teens. If it was they would have banned cigs and alcohol. The issue is big tobacco doesnt like vaping bc it takes away the sales. The corner market they have always dominated. It's a political stunt on behalf of big T and the teens who got sick where just another thing they can point to and skew in their favor. Those 6 people are talking about bought black market THC laced juices. It doesnt matter though bc they are 6 they can point to and say see look at this!!!! Adults should be able to do what they want and it's the parents job to teach their children about smoking anything not big daddy governments job.
@@smOVERCOMINGITALL not true, big tobacco wants INTO vaping, and that is what is causing the rise in youth uptake.
Big tobacco's sales channels are being used to promote Big Tobacco branded vapes. (Gas statopms. variety/convenience stores, bodegas, walmart or drug stores)
The people so voraciously defending vaping are NOT using those "big tobacco" vape products and are purchasing from specialty vape shops.
If you want to ban something, ban the convenience stores, walmarts, drug stores and gas stations (which allow children inside) from selling them. Adult only stores like vape shops do NOT market or sell to children. Adults like bubble gum too.
The powers that want to stop vaping is actually doctors like this (who would rather sell you a prescription to a proven failed product like nicotine gum or patches) and "Big Pharma" the ones that make the ineffective patches and gums - Bloomberg (who just gave $160M to stop flavoured e-liquid in New York) is heavily invested in a new "quit smoking" "vaping" type of product that WILL be regulated by the FDA and he is trying to eliminate his competition. It's not big tobacco, it's big pharma - you know the cunts that got everyone addicted to opiates for a few bazillion dollars.
P.S. This doctor's opinion on vaping is worthless. He's used zero credible information to build his opinions. He hasn't read the BCP report on vaping which is by far the most comprehensive report on vaping anywhere. He's probably not even aware they are a few months away from releasing the 10 year comprehensive study on vaping.
Ya right, we need "more" data... the data is there - 50M+ people around the world use vaping instead of cigarettes.... that's 50M+ people's lives extended.
He actually thought and reported that propylene glycol causes popcorn lung. His entire vaping "vocabulary" is built from propaganda and lies.
I'm glad you made the distinction about not vaping to vape. Bc you're absolutely right vapes are wonderful to help get off of cigarettes however if you just start smoking a vape I believe the numbers are like 20x more likely to begin smoking after vaping as a teenager. Some people don't even realize that a lot of the juices still have nicotine in them. Also congrats on your journey through giving up cigarettes.
Since it helped you to stop smoking and your endgame is to quit it altogether then you are doing it right. The big problem are the people (adults or kids) who didn't and wouldn't consider start smoking that started vaping because it was cool and hip and now they are hooked on nicotine because some people convinced them that it is completely safe. E-cigs are good but they should be treated as medical devices aimed to help with cigarette addiction, nothing more nothing less, this whole hip lifestyle with the customisation of devices and oils etc must stop right now.
@@SirLarsofLondon did you even listen to dr mike? Lmao he pretty much said the same thing as you. That you shouldn't ban vaping, but rather stop marketing and selling to teens. He never said he wants to "stop it". And he isn't even completely against it like you make it out to be. He just said it definitely isn't 100% healthy.
Why should he be aware of research that hasn't been published yet? The databank for medical research papers only shows you what's been published lol. And medical research is definitely a reliable source.
Dr Mike and PhillyD.... Ovaries across the country are exploding lol
I am on the other side of the globe. But count me in 😉
And some prostates.
^
Wait what? People actually think Phil is attractive?
@@GiraffeFeatures you dont?
It is so refreshing to see someone express moderate views on hot topics, in a society that lives in extremist views. Thank you Philly D and Dr. Mike for this episode.
The talk about the overprotective nature of parents affecting the development of anxiety and depression rings so true for me and my experiences.
I am my parents' first child of three and I have been a single child for five and a half years before my brother came into our lives. My parents were overprotective and strict - i think it's mainly because they're still trying to know the ropes of how to take care of a child and i'm pretty sure that my gender (female) contributed to that too - that i was not allowed to play outside with other children. In those rare times that I can actually mingle in the playground, I have a chaperone with me that stares at me like a hawk. That kind of behavior lasted for years that when I have reached high school, i strongly believed that they wouldn't allow me to spend my days outside with friends and it led me to just staying at home all the time, getting very limited interaction with people. They were also pretty vocal with their expectations of me when it comes to my grades, so my life was basically revolving around studying. They were also coddling me so much that I don't think I have developed my own way of dealing with things that made me feel troubled or uncomfortable with, because they're already there to solve it without me being in the picture at all. My opinions felt caged, and being a child that looks up to her parents, I just did whatever it is that they told me to do. My development when it comes to speaking out what I think about a certain situation was stunted, and i'm still struggling with that these days.
When college came and I had the freedom to live in a dorm and interact with people without a lot of supervision, anxiety hit me like a damn truck and I found myself at a loss. The limited experiences that I had impacted me greatly and I started spiraling down, even acquiring depression in the process. Reaching out is very hard for me and I had to take years off university just for me to feel better.
I am still mending at the moment but I am gradually feeling better. I don't know if my parents saw and understood the effects of their parenting on me or not, but they're much more lenient with my brothers when it comes to allowing them to interact and try out new things instead of just being cooped indoors studying. I can't say that i'm not feeling envious of that but i'm thankful that my siblings aren't feeling as caged as I was. I can honestly say that in their age, they're so experienced and so much more mature than me when I was in the same age bracket.
Whoohoo. This is a long message. Welp.
Glad you can recognize these things and are getting better. Be well and remember to take care of yourself inside and out😊
This is one of the best conversations I've ever heard. I love it. I love Dr. Mike's perspective on everything. Seems like such a genuinely great person.
Misinformation is EVERYWHERE.
Glad we have Phil and Dr. Mike to give us the truth. Thanks, guys. Seriously.
1:08:20 Phil's reaction just makes me think of "cool motive still murder" 😄
ahaha jake knows what's up
My two favorite youtubers! I love that this exists omfg
"I'm a huge fan of CBT -"
Excuse me?
"Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy-"
Oh... oops.
What's the other meaning of CBT?
seasic cock & ball torture. Its part of the BDSM spectrum.
tildeissobieberlike lmfaoooo
seasic It’s “Cognitive Behavior Therapy” It’s a form of mental health counseling that trains you reform your negative thoughts.
@@youtubegod5884 I'm pretty sure that wasn't the CBT he was confused about
Mike: Boys and girls have different parts
Phil: Sure
Dr. Mikhail Varshavski seems not just intelligent, but smart and thoughtful as well. It makes me wonder, if he is always so well composed and never let even anger take over?
CBT
@@oodjee Yes, I listened to him talking about it. For a person, to be able to remove themselves from a situation and rationalize their thoughts and actions, they have to arise first. I know people that in highly stressful situations can keep their calm, but in small everyday irritant they may lose it before composing themselves.
@@dianavelkovska650 I struggle with precisely this. The greater the emergency, the calmer I am, but I'm SUCH a hothead over such dumb crap, especially online. But if I'm in a remotely clinical role at the time or otherwise operating as any kind of caretaker, some sort of equanimity superpower takes over. I really wish I were better at applying it in more contexts!
Everyone experiences anger, but as not only as a doctor but an Entertainer, he has to remain composed. He's spoken about times where he has gotten frustrated with some patients but doesn't show it. We don't know his personal life in its entirety, only what he shows. He's only human, even though he may seem look superhuman lol. It's okay to feel those emotions it doesn't make you a bad person, just as long as you don't let them get the better of you and lead to harm. But I get what you mean, it would be weird to see him cuss or get angry because he's so PG LOL.
He's only human. He's great but don't idolize.
The Logan Paul Japanese forest reference at the beginning is epically funny!!! 😂🤣😂🤣👍
Lol was hoping someone else caught that
didn't catch it
Oh hell ya
I didn't catch that but after reading your comment I went back and listened. LOL 😂😂
I think Dr Mike just admitted that his face is kinda clickbait. Bless him.
Dr. Mike has such a nice voice to listen to...
PhantomStella True, it’s calming in a way.
i'm always so impressed by the questions Phil presents to his guests. With hosts on late-night and other podcasts the questions feel researched and pre-prepared just for the interview, but Phil doesn't appear to use notecards and his questions are in-depth and engaging without seeming rigid or memorized. He's a great organic interviewer
Phil, it's like you knew i'm listening to more podcasts! This is becoming easily one of my faves, the guests are awesome (and I'm even more impressed that you are booking them last minute ahah, speaks to how highly people respect you man)! These highly intelligent conversation make my week! Loving this!
You know it’s serious dr mike, he’s wearing the glasses
Again OUTSTANDING AND REFRESHING. I love this new show. Well done Phil and crew.
This was the best explanation for bullying and appropriate information around parents that I ever heard. Many of us were exposed to information we weren’t ready for. Now I just ignore, redirect, or stop a conversation that I can recognize going the wrong way. I started doing that when I realized that I started to mimic some of the same types of behaviors
So, thank you Phillip DeFranco for having Dr. Mike on....his words really touched me and helped me understand a little more why my emotions are like they are.
I love this ❤️ there is such a good flow between the two
Holy shit I'm walking down the side walk tearing up listening to his mom's story. What a frickin guy
YES!!! I LOVE DR MIKE AND I REGULARLY WATCH PHIL I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW I NEEDED THIS BUT I DO!!
Just the fact that Dr Mike talks about having to take a step back and evaluating the WHY of what we're saying, and evaluating the why of our bias. I love that.
Dr Mike talking about the alarms in the simulation labs was so relatable. I'm currently a second year nursing student, and in the second semester of my first year, we learnt about how to clean a patient who has passed and how to put them in a body bag correctly. My sister who was 36, passed a year prior and it was coming to the anniversary of her death and when my tutor was talking about it, I had to leave the room because seeing her body after she had passed in the ER, I knew the nurses would have to take her to the morgue in a body bag. I know as a nurse it is something we will have to do, but in that moment, it was a lot to process.
Hi, here are some of the books Dr. Mike recommended throughout the video (I might've missed some tho) Sorry forgot to record timestamp.
Haidt, Jonathan. The Happiness Hypothesis
Sarno, John. The Divided Mind
Burns, David. Feeling Good
I'll be definitely checking some of these out
Absolutely fascinating conversation with Dr. Mike~ His 'common sense' approach to his job and to life is a breath of fresh air! Phil you ask great questions and the interview was so insightful. I may not agree with all points, but I learned so much.
Thanks for one of your older listeners in Maine.
Did an hour really go by that fast!? I was hooked! And now my phones dead!
chest compressions, CheST c0MprEssiOns, CHEST COMPRESSIONS😤
This was one of the most interesting podcasts I've ever listened to, kudos to you!
Thank you so much, Mike, for talking about compassion. It's such an important topic. Well meaning people get outraged at "the bad ones" in our society and often dont understand that this makes them part of the problem sometimes.
Trey laying people out; violence isn't the answer - but some people need a little bop in the face to draw some lines.
I would love to see MatPat or Molly Burke on this podcast.
Ellady Sezzy MatPat! Yes!
Yesss MatPat ... And Steph please, invite her too
I would love to see phil ask molly questions about being blind
They've had dinner before I think. So it's possible!
Yesssss MatPat
Most importantly CHEST COMPRESSIONS ,CHEST COMPRESSIONS,CHEST COMPRESSIONS
I’ve watched a lot of Doctor Mike videos at this point, but none of them can compare to this one in terms of provoking thoughtful introspection and inspiring me to be a better person. Thank you to both Philip and Mike for that!
"think of everything we say on the internet as a tattoo!"
THIS is why I respect Dr. Mike. Humility.