things i’ve learned as a chinese is -Always getting lectures about poor children and other stuff -Expectations are high -Get good grades no matter what There’s more but i cant think of them from the top of my head
1. i did not realize that dr. mike had a podcast 2. i did not realize that this was an interview i needed 3. i did not realize i needed to treat my emotional damage
"People are losing the ability to laugh at themeselves" Very profound. Something this generation have to learn or re-learn, you're happiness depends on it. Thanks Steven.
The way Doctor Mike talks, the passion, the thoughtfulness and attention to details in whatever he talks about is what we all want from a human being during a conversation. This is exactly how podcasts should be.
I absolutely adore how anytime Steven would say that something he does is "stupid" or "dumb", Doctor Mike would tell him that no, it's not stupid, you're just responding like this because of this. I think these are things we all need to hear at some point and honestly, even hearing it in this video made me think about how I perceive my own habits and mechanisms
This was a real eye opener on how much Steven has done and how quickly he did it. He sets himself high standards to meet. It was amazing seeing him go on a journey about opportunities to be kinder to himself. Dr Mike's reflective listening with medical suggestions amd Steven's ability to be very honest and emotio ally and physically real makes for a really useful conversation. I think it will help a lot of people be kinder to themselves. But also not be afraid to keep on trying
Regarding Steven’s story about how childhood events (like walking home alone) can stick with you: My parents would often forget to pick us up and we lived in a rural area, 12 miles from anything. This was before cellphones, so we had to stay put until they remembered and scrambled to get us. When I became a parent, I made absolutely sure I was at the front of the pick up line. My kids didn’t have that scar and after a while, asked me to hold back (not too much, of course) so they could have a little chill time with their friends after school let out. It was impactful! It helped me to separate my anxieties from theirs and see them - and myself, much more clearly.
You were basically somewhat limiting your kids social life due to you overcorrecting your past trauma. It's quite common that children who had overtly strict parents will become overtly hands-off with their kids disciplining. As in the kid is likely spoiled then by not having any limits. Balance is the correct solution
"Walk around the school with nothing to do because you're waiting for breaks to end" I relate to that so much. That's my life, lol. Relate so much to introversion and staying in my room doing my own thing. I grew up a loner. Still am to this day.
@@hiddendrifts can still be done. Go outside comfort zones, knowing you are enduring this discomfort in order to find someone thats very happy to return to said comfort zone with you at the end of the day.
It's really fun to hear Steven have a serious conversation since I've only seen him doing comedic videos. Dr. Mike is actually a great interviewer too. As for the non-Chinese people getting offended, I think what happens is that they're not able to connect to the comraderie aspect of a stereotypical Chinese relative character. Part of the humour is the relatability of it (where you recognize the character as someone you know well) and also that there is a layer of fondness so when a white person sees the character, they only get the mocking layers and not the others and make assumptions about some intended malice.
I am a Chinese and I find it hilarious. My classmates will say things and then apologize for being racist but I thought that the comment was hilarious. And then I will make stereotypical jokes and they'll sit there in shock lmao.
I wanna point out how emotionally strong Steven is. The first part of the video is how he struggled as an actor but the energy he gives out is pure happiness. You my guy are my idol now.thats some superhero thing going on
As an American expat who has lived in Asia for 5 years and teaches ESL, I LOVED this conversation and discussion. It was great to listen to both of your points of view on how you've experienced America as you both started with a different home/heart country. I wish this was longer. Thank you for this!
Not to answer for who wrote the original comment I don't know their exact situation and it could be different but there are worth programs throughout different parts of Asia that allow you to teach English and another foreign languages using a work visa for an extended. Of time anywhere from five to ten or Twenty years effectively it gives you the same privileges as citizens but with a few restrictions as what you can do but not very many that being said again I don't know the original commenters situations
I’m British and never would have guess you grew up in Ireland. Started watching you back in there end of 2020 and glad you’ve gotten recognition for your great videos they helped keep me sane through the pandemic
Also, he’s right the salesman as he puts it, we need to understand that failure is a part of success and learning. In programming we write failing tests and then build the program to fulfill the test until it succeeds and that is where I found you build on failure for success
When Steven talks about his before when he made videos it was carefree and then later it became stressful, I call that "When you turn a hobby into a chore" sucks the fun right outta the project. That's really hard. You're doing great Mr. He. keep up the great work. Yes, you too Dr. Mike.
I love dr. Mike's honest concern about Steven. He is so serious and takes it with a professionalism, that i could see his great medical knowledge and empathy. I love it so much 😊
'Make an effort not to abuse my body' ...I needed to hear this..single mom to a kiddo with nine disabilities, also trying to work to make our lives better ect etc...i get 4-5 hours of sleep and my body is shot I needed this. Thank you both 💜
Steven is a comical genius. I stumbled across him on RUclips 6-8 mths ago and after the first video I knew he had raw talent. He s hilarious &deserves to become a great star...I pray success & showbiz doesn't ruin the great guy😢. Much respect.
I really relate to the closing up and endure as a coping mechanism Steven talked about. I am ethnically chinese and have abusive parents. What I told myself as a child is "you will get through this, just get through this, only a few more years". Friends said they don't know much about me, complain I don't open up, and I don't let anyone in because in my mind I only have me and I must protect myself.
Ugh I'm sad upon finding out this is a common feeling - it can really hinder some people and it took me ages before I found out I had this type of experience as well. Eastern European here
My grandfather instilled in me that giving up or leaving means I'm letting everyone else down. He used to be in the military so that's probably where that mentality came from.
Agreed, Steven. Works the same for all arts imo. I was warned by my parents that writing wasn't an easy job, but they encouraged me to do what I wanted. So I became a writer (in 3 fields - books, games, movie/TV screenplays). Now whoever tells me they wanna become a writer I warn them of the emotional damage they gonna receive on the journey if they ain't prepared :') (I wouldn't trade my writing career for anything else, tho. I love my job and I keep improving
God, i love how thoughtful this guy is - actually both Steven and Dr. Mike. I liked his jokes but he really makes great reflected arguments and also knows when to back out because he doesn't know enough to build an opinion - that is so refreshing. Kudos.
Both Steven and Mike said they are grateful their dad/mom was strict with them, but also mentioned the experience was be traumatizing in retrospect. I grew up in a similar environment and I am also grateful. However there were indeed memories/moments in my childhood I wish were different. Now that I have a child of my own, I wonder how I should be balancing being strict and not making it traumatic experience for my child.
You will never ever see Steven He beyond his characters for more than an hour, ever again.Thumbs up, Mike. You made him be himself for the time. This is quite a task for a person like Steven.
I love how it is a interview that turns into trauma diving. I will honestly say I never thought about disassociating, or what it was like or looked like...so yeah guess I really need to see a therapist now, have a bit more unpacking that I thought I did.
Steven, thank you so much for sharing your journey. It is so comforting to hear someone else feeling things similar to myself. Mike, you handled this so gracefully and so patiently. Very commendable. Also your hair looks great in this one lol
It's so sad that upon hearing the question "What one thing would you do if you could never be hurt doing it?" the first answer that came to my mind was walking home alone. As a 19-year-old girl, walking around without being paranoid because I'd know I could not be hurt would be so freeing.
Oh man, that last bit where he was talking about realizing that you're reacting because someone is pushing your buttons, but they're you're buttons and the sore spots originated somewhere in the past... That some good shit 👌🏻 I realized that two or three years ago now too and it has made such a huge difference to my mental health.
Ironically, even though so many rejected him, Steven is now one of the people I want most to see in some kind of movie. And I’d be willing to bet a lot of people would agree 😤
Can imagine a night out with Steven. He loves being upside down haha. I’m from Ireland and it’s obvious our craziness has rubbed off in him..Really enjoyed this ❤❤
thank you so much for this interview Mike and Steven. I am from Ireland and the emotional damage i lived through with my dad as everyone elses kids were genesis. no matter what i did it wasnt good enough but thanks to your chat with mike, i realised that the person with the emotional damage was my father.
😂"U went really dark with that" - u literally just diagnosed one of my main issues! I have been disassociating since childhood and I get super frustrated when I can't whoop for joy when I get something difficult right or just genuinely scream on a roller coaster (if I did it would feel forced like I'm pretending). I have been wanting to go get counselling for years because I can recognise that I have issues but can't afford it so instead I tend to be introspective and just try to gain understanding into why my behaviour "malfunctions" in non stressful situations etc. Thanks so much for this video I actually found it helpful on many different levels from the beginning (what? Content creators hire editors 😳). I genuinely appreciated this video. Thanks to both of you for sharing your stories and knowledge. 💖
Doctor Mike: So, what's the matter? Steven He: I feel like a failiure Doctor Mike: That sounds like a classic case of EmotionalDamageatosis Steven He: Emotionallll damage
As a Psychology major aspirant and as an individual hoping to be more insightful, I really enjoyed and appreciated this. Thank you Steven and Dr Mike!❤️
No but seriously… seeing people, 2 successful men no less, talking about PTG through topics (that many have historically been considered taboo) like stereotypes and mental health while being so open minded, vulnerable, and not to mention hilarious is literally everything. ❤ I live for this kind of content. ❤
I love this convo so much. One of my faves. It got me thinking about a lot of things about myself. If it's something small, I freak out and complain, but if it's big, I'm really quiet about it. I go into this "I can take care of myself" thought process. I got to thinking more about my last heat episode. When I started feeling sick, I didn't say anything because I didn't wanna interrupt. I also wasn't very focused. I just grabbed my Powerade and fought through it until I couldn't anymore. I wanted to jump into to the convo, but I didn't wanna interrupt and I get shy. lol
I fought tooth and nail with my Chinese parents to study philosophy. The career path is scary to say the least. My parents wanted their "I told you so" moment. But I said to them I was never so alive as when I was pursuing my passion. At least I got to do that for 15 years. If I had taken their path, I wouldn't have lived at all. I believe in fight for your dreams. I also believe in having a backup plan.
I love how Steven was so honest talking about some of the mental health issues he experienced. Also how Dr.mike responded to the conversation and giving out great insight and information ❤️ Being a person with anxiety and depression I love that people aren’t afraid to share their experiences with others. I feel mental health is still a taboo topic for a lot of people… I also relate to Steven being somewhere he feels uncomfortable and wants to leave. Theirs a personal joke between some of my family members and close friends who also have anxiety. We don’t know where this saying came from but it’s so true! 🤣 “I’m here I’m uncomfortable and I wanna go home!”
Wow, I believe this is my first time seeing a Checkup video (at least in its entirety). I think I'm going to go back and watch previous ones! I was very interested in some of the topics discussed in this episode, especially when you got into your *suspicions* about what the neck/arm issue is, because it does sound similar to the lumbar radiculopathy I had which affected one leg as well. I appreciate that you took the time to make sure he didn't stay afraid of what you were trying to explain. You are awesome in that aspect because as a healthcare professional myself, I find listening to explanations less frightening since I have a better understanding of the body, but for you to be able to break it down for laymen is a trait I (and many patients) very much appreciate from a physician!
I was so happy to see this interview! :D Sounds like Steven is just a few years behind me on the "Wait, no one told me by body would start betraying me in my 20s! I thought I had until at least 30!" journey. Relatable, even if his specifics are quite different than mine. I turn 30 this year. First major stress-related, nerve-related pain was the year I turned 26, actually. Ever since then, I've slowly come to terms with the fact that I can't just sit or lay however I want for hours on end. I have to pay attention to my position. Change it. Do my physical therapy exercises-and other exercises to (a) avoid stiffening into a rock of pain, and (b) strengthen the muscles around vulnerable areas. And, most recently: be purposeful about pillow/sleeping position. Bah. Actually, as I write this, I'm feeling a bit of stiffness/discomfort in my neck that means I should probably stretch, do an exercise, etc. before it becomes a Problem. I don't wanna. -_-
See, and I feel like this just showcases how *different* each person is when it comes to their body. I'm 32. I consume 300 mg of caffeine throughout the day, I work overnights for a big convenience store chain, and when I'm not at work or sleeping during the day I spend quite a bit of time sitting in front of my computer. Every now and then I might take a walk around the block if I feel like just getting out of the house for a bit. But I haven't yet started feeling any of the way that others in their 30s say they do. I haven't had any stress or nerve related pain yet, I haven't hard to start doing exercises to keep me from hurting in areas, and my metabolism is still so high I practically burn calories while I'm sitting and doing nothing-- seriously, I have to be constantly eating or snaking on something throughout the day or it feels like my stomach is cannibalizing itself. Its so wild to me that bodies can be so different from each other when it comes to stuff like this. Still though, hope you continue to take care of yourself.
@@azurblueknights I was the same but eventually something happens and it just kicks your ass all at once. Enjoy it while you can, prepare for when it ends!
Young 20s and I feel no pain during the day- but I have to be intentional about my sleep position or else it’s easy to wake up feeling stiff or uncomfortable. I don’t remember this happening when I was younger!!
I've watched many videos on both of your channels. This interview has given me new respect for both of your serious sides. Dr Mike you have great understanding of human nature, in addition to a wide range of medical expertise. Steven He you have a willingness to be thoughtful and understand yourself and others, and make your way in life, not letting hardships derail you. I'm not Asian but I love your emotional damage and failure management videos. Keep rocking comedy, and bring us what you want.
I loved this interview thing. I have to say disassociation as a coping mechanism is one of the supreme overrides of the human condition. I went to a massage place in Singapore. It was actually foot reflexology, something I had never done before however I was visiting a friend and he insisted he treated me to it. It was the most pain someone has ever inflicted to me without numbing in my entire life. Now my friend also felt this and he spoke up. The person working on him said "my friend if I do this with any less pressure you will be paying me just to be playing with your feet." When he said that I just pulled a Steven He and allowed my massage person to practice their wrestling moves on me.
I enjoyed this talk so much. Thank you DoctorMike for bringing Steven. Steven and his creator's community has been doing so much for asian artists everywhere. Sending love from Brazil 💜
this whole interview was wonderful. I loved every moment of it. Both of you helped me understand so much more of my own issues and other family integrations than I have before.
This was one of the most enlightning, beautiful and profound Interviews I've ever seen on YT. Thank you both, Steven and Mike, for being such wonderful human beings. ❤
LOVE this collab! Steven is a hoot and I can relate so much to his sense of humour and his upbringing with tiger parents. When you work so hard to get a A+ on your report card and your parents immediately assume that the exam was easy and everyone must have gotten As too....emotional damage all the way! 🤣
Great conversation - all the talk about the difficulty of getting into acting reminds me of athletes trying to make the higher level in sports! They work hours upon hours, training and pushing themselves, sometimes making a team, only to be cut from others. They (or their parents) can spend hundreds and thousands of dollars for it to go nowhere. You can be talented, but if they’re looking for someone who’s bigger, or hits harder, you could still be rejected. So many places where this applies, and you just want one chance to prove yourself!!
I now know why I like this podcast so much. same life store as Steven. 1:20:00 its same goes with me too and I was never taught to say NO! or to share uncomfortable feelings. BUT there are so many times I go to a restaurant and don't like the food and never say a word 1. because I feel I am disrespecting the cook. 2. I am afraid they would take he plate and do more damage 😂😂. lets just blame our ASIAN upbringing. haha 😛😛😛
1:20:08 I'm a multiple SA and DA survivor so you talking about all this mental health stuff is so important and I appreciate this video and how both of you are being very candid with us all which helps so many people feel like their not alone so thank you from the bottom of my heart, coming from someone who scores at the top of the chart with my ACE score this has helped me understand alittle bit more about my trauma and why I am the way I am sometimes!!!! Thank you ❤
Thank you for this podcast, Dr. Mike and Steven. Steven, thank you for sharing all of this with us. That took amazing courage, and I'm sure your experiences gave others insight.
I love to be diagnose by Dr. Mike. I am a full time nurse in 🇨🇦 as the same time I am doing my post grad studies and burn out is really in my soul right now….When I get home from work Your videos and podcast are my therapy until I go to sleep (without Melatonin / Zopiclone😢) and I am learning a lot too❤ Kudos!
Loved hearing about Stevens experiences and his journey, could definitely relate to his journey to Ireland as a young child. This guy has some serious thick skin.
This was really good talk! We never realize how our experiences during childhood, even minutest ones, can have such a deep impact on our personality and character as we grow up and interact with others, work and react to situations, how we cope in stressful situations! But each day, slowly, we can change! One step at a time!
Exactly what @StevenHe said about why being a YT creator is more fulfilling, is why so many of my friends are indie authors who bypass the trad pub industry. Skip the gatekeepers whose goal is to say "no" because your book (audition, look, etc) doesn't fit what they're looking for right now. Great interview!
I can relate to Steven so hard with the 'numb' reaction. I looked like I don't care to people, but my heartbeat and my stomach churning like crazy. I am incapable of crying it out 90% of the time. When I have extreme regret or sadness, I kind of dissociate(?). Like I somehow can't connect myself to my emotion fully.
Incredible! Always so sucked into these episodes, feels like you two are just friends chatting at a table next to me in a cafe. There’s always so much relatable and eye opening information in these. Truly look forward to each of them. It all flows so organically, the vibes! Okay enough rambling but thanks for creating these
This was the most incredible, insightful, mature, and inspiring conversation that I’ve heard in a very long time! Great therapy techniques, Dr. Mike!! And you couldn’t ask for a more self-aware and insightful therapeutic conversation partner! I loved it!!!
Loved how the Dr went into a full Doctor mode when he was trying to diagnose Steven' health problems in the talk... could see the concern and the serious attention he paid to them....a doctor is always a doctor I feel
What Steven said about making fun of himself and his friends who are certain things rather than satirising a group of people is a really good philosophy it reminds me of something Trevor Noah said that when he does accents he is impersonating people not places.
Thank you so much for doing this Steven, I also immigrated to America around the same age you did, though I’m from Taiwan(not trying to be political😅), your stories are so similar to my own, and when you were talking about your stories I can see flashbacks of myself doing the same things (the walk, fellowing what other people are doing, not a single person who knows how to speak mandarin in my school, acting stupid ) for the first year of being in America I was kind of on a constant defense mode and probably made me seem very weird for others, it also made me very introverted and during the later parts of middle school I just quietly stand next to some people that I know and wait till the bell rings, it wasn’t until after around 2 years of forced isolation because of COVID, and when school open back up again, the little extroverted part of me finally came out from the shadows and showed himself. Now more than a year later, I actually have some friends, some friends that I can be comfortable with. I absolutely love it when you speak mandarin btw, seeing another chinese immigrant talking about chinese poems or just speaking mandarin in general brings me a warm sense in my chest, so glad you shared your stories with us Steven.
i don't think i've watched that many doctor mike podcasts... but this has to rank as one of the best of them all. you get to see steven he in a natural setting and he's wonderful, while dr mike connects with him so well... it's just perfect!
Steven is truly making his father proud with free doctors appointments
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT !!!! by his father
He really haggled his way into this one
Why aren't you a doctor? I make just as much as my doctor and he treats me for free......okay......good job.......I might love you
He got a discount!
Funniest quote I see here 🤣🤣🤣
HAHAHA my emotional damage has been treated 🙏🏻🙌🏻
Hi Steven
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Yo bro just 2 min ago
Technically Americans should have A's for all subjects
Lol
Things I've learned from Asian Dad:
- Do not date 'till marriage
- Study 20 hours per day
- Sleep faster
Love ya, Steven.
Be married and have Kids at 23 ...Just Observation though
no it's 40 hours a day
25 hours a day
things i’ve learned as a chinese is
-Always getting lectures about poor children and other stuff
-Expectations are high
-Get good grades no matter what
There’s more but i cant think of them from the top of my head
@SV Prime 40 hours no That's emotional
1. i did not realize that dr. mike had a podcast
2. i did not realize that this was an interview i needed
3. i did not realize i needed to treat my emotional damage
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"People are losing the ability to laugh at themeselves" Very profound. Something this generation have to learn or re-learn, you're happiness depends on it. Thanks Steven.
I wouldn't say just "this" generation.
Lately it's been across generations.
@@TheOMGRamen And by "this generation", social media isn't big part of lifestyle for the past generation
The way Doctor Mike talks, the passion, the thoughtfulness and attention to details in whatever he talks about is what we all want from a human being during a conversation. This is exactly how podcasts should be.
He's really good at it. He really should consider making listening to people his profession or something.
@Cyan_Oxy he's a doctor that's part of the job and one of the most critical parts of doctor, patient connection.x
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@@hollythompson67 thats the joke, he's a family medicine physician
@@cyan_oxy6734 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I absolutely adore how anytime Steven would say that something he does is "stupid" or "dumb", Doctor Mike would tell him that no, it's not stupid, you're just responding like this because of this. I think these are things we all need to hear at some point and honestly, even hearing it in this video made me think about how I perceive my own habits and mechanisms
My therapist does the same. It's great.
I noticed this too. One of the many ways in which it's obvious how beautiful of a person he is. Very attentive and empathic.
Whenever he talks about Ireland his accent becomes 10x more Irish.
It's funny because that's the case with a lot of people who know their accent is different in the place they live, my mom does the same thing haha
@@hypnostar8964eah or when someone switches back to English from another language and the accent sticks.
@@hypnostar8964 My linguistics prof taught about this; it's an actual thing.
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Steven is inspirational, he never gave up despite the negativities that faced, which he overcame. Kudos
This was a real eye opener on how much Steven has done and how quickly he did it. He sets himself high standards to meet. It was amazing seeing him go on a journey about opportunities to be kinder to himself. Dr Mike's reflective listening with medical suggestions amd Steven's ability to be very honest and emotio ally and physically real makes for a really useful conversation. I think it will help a lot of people be kinder to themselves. But also not be afraid to keep on trying
He will face more challenges and overcome them to be very successful! He sounds like one of the crew from the original Star Trek show.
George Takei as Hikaru Sulu.
Regarding Steven’s story about how childhood events (like walking home alone) can stick with you: My parents would often forget to pick us up and we lived in a rural area, 12 miles from anything. This was before cellphones, so we had to stay put until they remembered and scrambled to get us.
When I became a parent, I made absolutely sure I was at the front of the pick up line. My kids didn’t have that scar and after a while, asked me to hold back (not too much, of course) so they could have a little chill time with their friends after school let out. It was impactful! It helped me to separate my anxieties from theirs and see them - and myself, much more clearly.
You were basically somewhat limiting your kids social life due to you overcorrecting your past trauma. It's quite common that children who had overtly strict parents will become overtly hands-off with their kids disciplining. As in the kid is likely spoiled then by not having any limits.
Balance is the correct solution
"Walk around the school with nothing to do because you're waiting for breaks to end"
I relate to that so much. That's my life, lol. Relate so much to introversion and staying in my room doing my own thing.
I grew up a loner. Still am to this day.
Yay
Yes same same i personally dealt with from hobbies like speed cubing.
i keep to myself but want a gf. those two desires do not blend well
Sometimes I'd to whip out my phone and pretend to be talking to someone, just not to look weird standing/sitting alone.
@@hiddendrifts can still be done. Go outside comfort zones, knowing you are enduring this discomfort in order to find someone thats very happy to return to said comfort zone with you at the end of the day.
It's really fun to hear Steven have a serious conversation since I've only seen him doing comedic videos. Dr. Mike is actually a great interviewer too. As for the non-Chinese people getting offended, I think what happens is that they're not able to connect to the comraderie aspect of a stereotypical Chinese relative character. Part of the humour is the relatability of it (where you recognize the character as someone you know well) and also that there is a layer of fondness so when a white person sees the character, they only get the mocking layers and not the others and make assumptions about some intended malice.
I am a Chinese and I find it hilarious. My classmates will say things and then apologize for being racist but I thought that the comment was hilarious. And then I will make stereotypical jokes and they'll sit there in shock lmao.
I wanna point out how emotionally strong Steven is. The first part of the video is how he struggled as an actor but the energy he gives out is pure happiness. You my guy are my idol now.thats some superhero thing going on
As an American expat who has lived in Asia for 5 years and teaches ESL, I LOVED this conversation and discussion. It was great to listen to both of your points of view on how you've experienced America as you both started with a different home/heart country. I wish this was longer. Thank you for this!
Ah so you were an immigrant in Asia!
Not to answer for who wrote the original comment I don't know their exact situation and it could be different but there are worth programs throughout different parts of Asia that allow you to teach English and another foreign languages using a work visa for an extended. Of time anywhere from five to ten or Twenty years effectively it gives you the same privileges as citizens but with a few restrictions as what you can do but not very many that being said again I don't know the original commenters situations
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I’m British and never would have guess you grew up in Ireland. Started watching you back in there end of 2020 and glad you’ve gotten recognition for your great videos they helped keep me sane through the pandemic
Also, he’s right the salesman as he puts it, we need to understand that failure is a part of success and learning. In programming we write failing tests and then build the program to fulfill the test until it succeeds and that is where I found you build on failure for success
The collab we never knew we needed, but are so glad happened! Can’t wait to see who Doctor Mike is going to collab with next!
This is by far one of my favorite videos I have seen in years. Totally needed this today. Comedy and Medical facts and family/cultural ties.
❤ totally blew me sideways
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What a mature conversation between two admirable men. I could listen to this conversation for hours.
When Steven talks about his before when he made videos it was carefree and then later it became stressful, I call that "When you turn a hobby into a chore" sucks the fun right outta the project.
That's really hard.
You're doing great Mr. He. keep up the great work.
Yes, you too Dr. Mike.
I love dr. Mike's honest concern about Steven. He is so serious and takes it with a professionalism, that i could see his great medical knowledge and empathy. I love it so much 😊
I never thought these two would come together, this collab is just perfect
You should watch their social media battle 😁😂
Dr Mike trying to diagnose Steven😂 Love the both of them❤
Love his honesty and willingness to be vulnerable.
'Make an effort not to abuse my body'
...I needed to hear this..single mom to a kiddo with nine disabilities, also trying to work to make our lives better ect etc...i get 4-5 hours of sleep and my body is shot
I needed this. Thank you both 💜
I adore how genuine Steven is. He’s okay with being a meme, too, and that can’t be easy
Steven is a comical genius. I stumbled across him on RUclips 6-8 mths ago and after the first video I knew he had raw talent. He s hilarious &deserves to become a great star...I pray success & showbiz doesn't ruin the great guy😢. Much respect.
I really relate to the closing up and endure as a coping mechanism Steven talked about. I am ethnically chinese and have abusive parents. What I told myself as a child is "you will get through this, just get through this, only a few more years". Friends said they don't know much about me, complain I don't open up, and I don't let anyone in because in my mind I only have me and I must protect myself.
I am very similar except my ethnicity isn't chinease
Ugh I'm sad upon finding out this is a common feeling - it can really hinder some people and it took me ages before I found out I had this type of experience as well. Eastern European here
My grandfather instilled in me that giving up or leaving means I'm letting everyone else down. He used to be in the military so that's probably where that mentality came from.
Agreed, Steven. Works the same for all arts imo. I was warned by my parents that writing wasn't an easy job, but they encouraged me to do what I wanted. So I became a writer (in 3 fields - books, games, movie/TV screenplays). Now whoever tells me they wanna become a writer I warn them of the emotional damage they gonna receive on the journey if they ain't prepared :')
(I wouldn't trade my writing career for anything else, tho. I love my job and I keep improving
Which point of Steven's were you agreeing with again?
@@StormClaws7 From 2:22 in the video
Such a genuine conversation. Loved it.
God, i love how thoughtful this guy is - actually both Steven and Dr. Mike.
I liked his jokes but he really makes great reflected arguments and also knows when to back out because he doesn't know enough to build an opinion - that is so refreshing. Kudos.
Both Steven and Mike said they are grateful their dad/mom was strict with them, but also mentioned the experience was be traumatizing in retrospect. I grew up in a similar environment and I am also grateful. However there were indeed memories/moments in my childhood I wish were different. Now that I have a child of my own, I wonder how I should be balancing being strict and not making it traumatic experience for my child.
The collab I never thought would existed, 2 legends, coming together, 2 of my favorite RUclipsrs, finally happened
You will never ever see Steven He beyond his characters for more than an hour, ever again.Thumbs up, Mike. You made him be himself for the time. This is quite a task for a person like Steven.
I love how it is a interview that turns into trauma diving. I will honestly say I never thought about disassociating, or what it was like or looked like...so yeah guess I really need to see a therapist now, have a bit more unpacking that I thought I did.
Steven, thank you so much for sharing your journey. It is so comforting to hear someone else feeling things similar to myself. Mike, you handled this so gracefully and so patiently. Very commendable. Also your hair looks great in this one lol
It's so sad that upon hearing the question "What one thing would you do if you could never be hurt doing it?" the first answer that came to my mind was walking home alone. As a 19-year-old girl, walking around without being paranoid because I'd know I could not be hurt would be so freeing.
Samee walking without being paranoid is the thing I need in life
Yeah. As a woman (36 now) and before that as a girl, I've always felt a sense of danger around being out in public spaces alone. It's a shame.
Come to Portugal then. 🤷♀️
The good news is that statistically you are extremely unlikely to be attacked in a public place by a stranger, especially as a female.
Oh man, that last bit where he was talking about realizing that you're reacting because someone is pushing your buttons, but they're you're buttons and the sore spots originated somewhere in the past... That some good shit 👌🏻 I realized that two or three years ago now too and it has made such a huge difference to my mental health.
Ironically, even though so many rejected him, Steven is now one of the people I want most to see in some kind of movie. And I’d be willing to bet a lot of people would agree 😤
I definitely agree. I'd love to see him starring in his own film or TV show.
Can imagine a night out with Steven. He loves being upside down haha. I’m from Ireland and it’s obvious our craziness has rubbed off in him..Really enjoyed this ❤❤
Steven's points on comedy are absolutely spot on. Love both these creators. Definitely want expecting this crossover.
thank you so much for this interview Mike and Steven. I am from Ireland and the emotional damage i lived through with my dad as everyone elses kids were genesis. no matter what i did it wasnt good enough but thanks to your chat with mike, i realised that the person with the emotional damage was my father.
Steven is such an inspiration.
As an actor.
As a human being.
As an Asian dad.
I just want to say Steven... conversation about stereotypes and bullies....very well articulated 👏👏👏
Steven's attitude on failure reminds me of the Thomas Edison quote: "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
😂"U went really dark with that" - u literally just diagnosed one of my main issues! I have been disassociating since childhood and I get super frustrated when I can't whoop for joy when I get something difficult right or just genuinely scream on a roller coaster (if I did it would feel forced like I'm pretending). I have been wanting to go get counselling for years because I can recognise that I have issues but can't afford it so instead I tend to be introspective and just try to gain understanding into why my behaviour "malfunctions" in non stressful situations etc. Thanks so much for this video I actually found it helpful on many different levels from the beginning (what? Content creators hire editors 😳). I genuinely appreciated this video. Thanks to both of you for sharing your stories and knowledge. 💖
Doctor Mike: So, what's the matter?
Steven He: I feel like a failiure
Doctor Mike: That sounds like a classic case of EmotionalDamageatosis
Steven He: Emotionallll damage
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Who asked 🤡🤡🤡
@@Judge_0f_Everything No, Nobody asked
@@conner7875 I asked idiot 😝🤓
@@conner7875 who asked?
1:30:00 That is a nice poem "All humans are born good..." Thanks for sharing it @Steven He. Great podcast Dr. Mike!
I love that there is still so much medical talk in these. Love listening to these.
As a Psychology major aspirant and as an individual hoping to be more insightful, I really enjoyed and appreciated this. Thank you Steven and Dr Mike!❤️
No but seriously… seeing people, 2 successful men no less, talking about PTG through topics (that many have historically been considered taboo) like stereotypes and mental health while being so open minded, vulnerable, and not to mention hilarious is literally everything. ❤ I live for this kind of content. ❤
I love this convo so much. One of my faves. It got me thinking about a lot of things about myself. If it's something small, I freak out and complain, but if it's big, I'm really quiet about it. I go into this "I can take care of myself" thought process. I got to thinking more about my last heat episode. When I started feeling sick, I didn't say anything because I didn't wanna interrupt. I also wasn't very focused. I just grabbed my Powerade and fought through it until I couldn't anymore. I wanted to jump into to the convo, but I didn't wanna interrupt and I get shy. lol
Ah perfect timing! Was looking for something good to listen to while cleaning this morning. Can’t wait to hear this one! You never disappoint!
2 great people talking about the important things in life. At the end of the day, we are all just human. Great collab.x
I loved how interested and invested Steven was every time Dr. Mike would explain something medical. Very good interview, thank you for this
“I think the current version of me is my favorite” man…. That hit me hard.
Half of figuring out what you want to do, is figuring out what you DON’T want to do. I love your stories of discovering your paths. Thank you. ❤
I fought tooth and nail with my Chinese parents to study philosophy. The career path is scary to say the least. My parents wanted their "I told you so" moment. But I said to them I was never so alive as when I was pursuing my passion. At least I got to do that for 15 years. If I had taken their path, I wouldn't have lived at all. I believe in fight for your dreams. I also believe in having a backup plan.
I love how Steven was so honest talking about some of the mental health issues he experienced. Also how Dr.mike responded to the conversation and giving out great insight and information ❤️ Being a person with anxiety and depression I love that people aren’t afraid to share their experiences with others. I feel mental health is still a taboo topic for a lot of people… I also relate to Steven being somewhere he feels uncomfortable and wants to leave. Theirs a personal joke between some of my family members and close friends who also have anxiety. We don’t know where this saying came from but it’s so true! 🤣 “I’m here I’m uncomfortable and I wanna go home!”
Wow, I believe this is my first time seeing a Checkup video (at least in its entirety). I think I'm going to go back and watch previous ones!
I was very interested in some of the topics discussed in this episode, especially when you got into your *suspicions* about what the neck/arm issue is, because it does sound similar to the lumbar radiculopathy I had which affected one leg as well.
I appreciate that you took the time to make sure he didn't stay afraid of what you were trying to explain. You are awesome in that aspect because as a healthcare professional myself, I find listening to explanations less frightening since I have a better understanding of the body, but for you to be able to break it down for laymen is a trait I (and many patients) very much appreciate from a physician!
I love this. Steven is so interesting to listen to and his voice is nice, he should do more podcasts
Dr. Mike's way to deal with depression should be the learned everywhere. 👏👏👏
I was so happy to see this interview! :D
Sounds like Steven is just a few years behind me on the "Wait, no one told me by body would start betraying me in my 20s! I thought I had until at least 30!" journey.
Relatable, even if his specifics are quite different than mine. I turn 30 this year. First major stress-related, nerve-related pain was the year I turned 26, actually. Ever since then, I've slowly come to terms with the fact that I can't just sit or lay however I want for hours on end. I have to pay attention to my position. Change it. Do my physical therapy exercises-and other exercises to (a) avoid stiffening into a rock of pain, and (b) strengthen the muscles around vulnerable areas. And, most recently: be purposeful about pillow/sleeping position. Bah.
Actually, as I write this, I'm feeling a bit of stiffness/discomfort in my neck that means I should probably stretch, do an exercise, etc. before it becomes a Problem. I don't wanna. -_-
See, and I feel like this just showcases how *different* each person is when it comes to their body. I'm 32. I consume 300 mg of caffeine throughout the day, I work overnights for a big convenience store chain, and when I'm not at work or sleeping during the day I spend quite a bit of time sitting in front of my computer. Every now and then I might take a walk around the block if I feel like just getting out of the house for a bit. But I haven't yet started feeling any of the way that others in their 30s say they do. I haven't had any stress or nerve related pain yet, I haven't hard to start doing exercises to keep me from hurting in areas, and my metabolism is still so high I practically burn calories while I'm sitting and doing nothing-- seriously, I have to be constantly eating or snaking on something throughout the day or it feels like my stomach is cannibalizing itself. Its so wild to me that bodies can be so different from each other when it comes to stuff like this. Still though, hope you continue to take care of yourself.
@@azurblueknights I was the same but eventually something happens and it just kicks your ass all at once. Enjoy it while you can, prepare for when it ends!
Young 20s and I feel no pain during the day- but I have to be intentional about my sleep position or else it’s easy to wake up feeling stiff or uncomfortable. I don’t remember this happening when I was younger!!
Dr. Mike reassuring Steven about not being nervous was really nice to hear. Professionalism, y'all.
I've watched many videos on both of your channels. This interview has given me new respect for both of your serious sides. Dr Mike you have great understanding of human nature, in addition to a wide range of medical expertise. Steven He you have a willingness to be thoughtful and understand yourself and others, and make your way in life, not letting hardships derail you. I'm not Asian but I love your emotional damage and failure management videos. Keep rocking comedy, and bring us what you want.
"They're pushing your buttons, but they're your buttons" SO TRUE.
I loved this interview thing. I have to say disassociation as a coping mechanism is one of the supreme overrides of the human condition. I went to a massage place in Singapore. It was actually foot reflexology, something I had never done before however I was visiting a friend and he insisted he treated me to it. It was the most pain someone has ever inflicted to me without numbing in my entire life. Now my friend also felt this and he spoke up. The person working on him said "my friend if I do this with any less pressure you will be paying me just to be playing with your feet." When he said that I just pulled a Steven He and allowed my massage person to practice their wrestling moves on me.
It’s like Mike knows what we all want but seems like he is doing it all by just being him
I enjoyed this talk so much. Thank you DoctorMike for bringing Steven.
Steven and his creator's community has been doing so much for asian artists everywhere.
Sending love from Brazil 💜
this whole interview was wonderful. I loved every moment of it. Both of you helped me understand so much more of my own issues and other family integrations than I have before.
Dr Mike's hair is adorable in this video ❤️
Also this is the collab I never knew I needed 😄
This was one of the most enlightning, beautiful and profound Interviews I've ever seen on YT. Thank you both, Steven and Mike, for being such wonderful human beings. ❤
LOVE this collab! Steven is a hoot and I can relate so much to his sense of humour and his upbringing with tiger parents. When you work so hard to get a A+ on your report card and your parents immediately assume that the exam was easy and everyone must have gotten As too....emotional damage all the way! 🤣
What a great podcast. I laughed and learned so much at the same time.
Steven He. He's got skills and talent. Quite brilliant. A true entertainer.
So funny how he sounds American for most of the interview except when he talks about Ireland and then he goes full Irish. I love it!
Ohh this was a great watch! I never realised Steven had grown up in Ireland and was a citizen!!
One of the best guest stars conversations so far.. love it Dr. MIKE and Steven♡♡♡
Great conversation - all the talk about the difficulty of getting into acting reminds me of athletes trying to make the higher level in sports! They work hours upon hours, training and pushing themselves, sometimes making a team, only to be cut from others. They (or their parents) can spend hundreds and thousands of dollars for it to go nowhere. You can be talented, but if they’re looking for someone who’s bigger, or hits harder, you could still be rejected. So many places where this applies, and you just want one chance to prove yourself!!
I love how Steven has the mindset of a fighter. Despite being rejected too much, he just kept going. So inspirational 👏
You 2 are my favorite content creators
I litterally sat there for the entire talk
I loved it, keep up the good work!
I am only 50 mins in and I think this is the best podcast till now on this channel.
I now know why I like this podcast so much. same life store as Steven. 1:20:00 its same goes with me too and I was never taught to say NO! or to share uncomfortable feelings. BUT there are so many times I go to a restaurant and don't like the food and never say a word 1. because I feel I am disrespecting the cook. 2. I am afraid they would take he plate and do more damage 😂😂. lets just blame our ASIAN upbringing. haha 😛😛😛
Awesome collab :) This is the ONLY RUclips interview I have ever watched to the end. Usually my brain clocks out at about 30 minutes. Great interview.
1:20:08 I'm a multiple SA and DA survivor so you talking about all this mental health stuff is so important and I appreciate this video and how both of you are being very candid with us all which helps so many people feel like their not alone so thank you from the bottom of my heart, coming from someone who scores at the top of the chart with my ACE score this has helped me understand alittle bit more about my trauma and why I am the way I am sometimes!!!! Thank you ❤
Thank you for this podcast, Dr. Mike and Steven. Steven, thank you for sharing all of this with us. That took amazing courage, and I'm sure your experiences gave others insight.
I love to be diagnose by Dr. Mike. I am a full time nurse in 🇨🇦 as the same time I am doing my post grad studies and burn out is really in my soul right now….When I get home from work Your videos and podcast are my therapy until I go to sleep (without Melatonin / Zopiclone😢) and I am learning a lot too❤ Kudos!
Loved hearing about Stevens experiences and his journey, could definitely relate to his journey to Ireland as a young child. This guy has some serious thick skin.
This was really good talk! We never realize how our experiences during childhood, even minutest ones, can have such a deep impact on our personality and character as we grow up and interact with others, work and react to situations, how we cope in stressful situations!
But each day, slowly, we can change! One step at a time!
❤❤❤❤❤ *The collab I’ve been asking for for the comedy and yet enjoy the emotional side of it even more. Thank you both*
Exactly what @StevenHe said about why being a YT creator is more fulfilling, is why so many of my friends are indie authors who bypass the trad pub industry. Skip the gatekeepers whose goal is to say "no" because your book (audition, look, etc) doesn't fit what they're looking for right now. Great interview!
This was a great interview. Love the energy of you two. Do more stuff together. =)
Yes, please!
I can relate to Steven so hard with the 'numb' reaction.
I looked like I don't care to people, but my heartbeat and my stomach churning like crazy. I am incapable of crying it out 90% of the time. When I have extreme regret or sadness, I kind of dissociate(?). Like I somehow can't connect myself to my emotion fully.
Incredible! Always so sucked into these episodes, feels like you two are just friends chatting at a table next to me in a cafe. There’s always so much relatable and eye opening information in these. Truly look forward to each of them. It all flows so organically, the vibes! Okay enough rambling but thanks for creating these
This discussion about mental health helped me realize a lot about myself and my own experiences. Thank you.
This was the most incredible, insightful, mature, and inspiring conversation that I’ve heard in a very long time! Great therapy techniques, Dr. Mike!! And you couldn’t ask for a more self-aware and insightful therapeutic conversation partner! I loved it!!!
Loved how the Dr went into a full Doctor mode when he was trying to diagnose Steven' health problems in the talk... could see the concern and the serious attention he paid to them....a doctor is always a doctor I feel
Steven is as engaging as Always
What Steven said about making fun of himself and his friends who are certain things rather than satirising a group of people is a really good philosophy it reminds me of something Trevor Noah said that when he does accents he is impersonating people not places.
Love love love this collab. Both very down to earth people ♡
"I'm not sure I fully understand" - Steven He. What a great, nuanced thing to say about difficult topics! Saving it for later.
Thank you so much for doing this Steven, I also immigrated to America around the same age you did, though I’m from Taiwan(not trying to be political😅), your stories are so similar to my own, and when you were talking about your stories I can see flashbacks of myself doing the same things (the walk, fellowing what other people are doing, not a single person who knows how to speak mandarin in my school, acting stupid ) for the first year of being in America I was kind of on a constant defense mode and probably made me seem very weird for others, it also made me very introverted and during the later parts of middle school I just quietly stand next to some people that I know and wait till the bell rings, it wasn’t until after around 2 years of forced isolation because of COVID, and when school open back up again, the little extroverted part of me finally came out from the shadows and showed himself. Now more than a year later, I actually have some friends, some friends that I can be comfortable with. I absolutely love it when you speak mandarin btw, seeing another chinese immigrant talking about chinese poems or just speaking mandarin in general brings me a warm sense in my chest, so glad you shared your stories with us Steven.
i don't think i've watched that many doctor mike podcasts... but this has to rank as one of the best of them all. you get to see steven he in a natural setting and he's wonderful, while dr mike connects with him so well... it's just perfect!
I love this so much. A deep conversation between Doctor Mike and Steven He is something I didn’t know I needed until it happened. It’s awesome!!