The idea that a narcissist could even be in a relationship with someone who is more robust and tells them ‘no’ is kind of unrealistic, they consistently put people in a double-bind where if you have boundaries, you are devalued for not thinking highly enough of them or devalued for going along with everything they want because they no longer consider you special or exciting either.
Also the other thing is suggesting couples’ therapy with an NPD partner is basically putting the NPD partner in a position to manipulate the therapist and turn the tables on the emotionally more stable partner in private
@@drstansteindl I honestly subscribe to Sam Vaknin’s view of treating with cold therapy, I don’t see treating them with the usual “empathy” leveled at adults as being particularly “empathic” since it’s obvious the will reject such an advance
The idea that a narcissist could even be in a relationship with someone who is more robust and tells them ‘no’ is kind of unrealistic, they consistently put people in a double-bind where if you have boundaries, you are devalued for not thinking highly enough of them or devalued for going along with everything they want because they no longer consider you special or exciting either.
Also the other thing is suggesting couples’ therapy with an NPD partner is basically putting the NPD partner in a position to manipulate the therapist and turn the tables on the emotionally more stable partner in private
Yes, I def see what you mean. It is very, very tricky. There aren’t easy answers. Ruth Ann’s channel explores a lot of this in much more detail 🙏.
@@drstansteindl I honestly subscribe to Sam Vaknin’s view of treating with cold therapy, I don’t see treating them with the usual “empathy” leveled at adults as being particularly “empathic” since it’s obvious the will reject such an advance