👋🏻👋🏻Hey everyone! Hope you enjoyed today's vid! Let me know your struggles on reconciling with your ex! 🚨🚨 🚨Come join my NEW Relationship Bootcamp! be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp?YTE131& - Chris
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
Recently broken up with. What makes your video different, is the search for personal reflection which ultimately leads to accountability. I was emotionally immature compared to her. And i dont want that again for her, or my next partner. Definitely going to really focus on a better me first, so I can be a better partner one day. Even though I would take her back in a heart beat, i wish her the best and know I didnt give my best to her. I need to grow a bit. Thanks for your point of view.
I love this! The absolute best thing you can do for yourself and your partner is to take time to reflect, take accountability and do the tough work to become the absolute best version of yourself for you and your relationship. After you reconnect, if you've grown massively then you've maximized your chance to reconcile.
Important to remember that they weren’t perfect and had grass is greener syndrome due to the decision they made. It’s important to not lose your confidence when it’s really about shallowness at the core. You probably dealt with imperfections in them without much thought. Yet they would most likely dwell on them with you. This means they don’t appreciate who you are aka, took you for granted.
Actually that’s the issue. She saw the relationship was good, that a strong bond was developing between us… then her avoidant dismissive side triggered and she slowly faded out to a point when ultimately she broke up convinced not feeling anything anymore for me
One of the best videos I’ve seen on this type of topic. After a break up a lot of videos get pushed to your feeds but this was the best one I’ve seen, thanks Chris. I know this is a broad question and differs from person to person but is there any general personal growth goals you would recommend. I already go to the gym regularly and eat healthy. I’ve started journaling and also meditating once to twice a day. Thanks (I’ve just now noticed how ADHD centric your videos also are. I was diagnosed with ADHD a month ago, shortly after my 8 year relationship broke down due to a blow up. Any tips on this)
My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me yesterday morning and I wished him the best and ended things amicably. He said that we might have worked out in another life and how great of a guy I am, etc. He called last night saying he made a mistake and wants to resume. I said that he should take some time to figure out what he really wants, but I can't just hop back in (even tho I love him) after him hitting the nuke button like that. I hope I'm doing the right thing by detaching for a bit.
After three months of no contact (I broke off the relationship after an abusive episode), my ex will not respond to a letter that I wrote. I didn’t reach out to reconcile but to check in and discuss with her what I have been working on interpersonally and to share new insights of what our relationship was.. what it meant to me and the intention to provide clarity. I understand that she may never respond and that letting go of an attachment is a part of my relationship maturity and development. My desire was to let go in love in with co-regulation and in a secure attachment approach.
A lot of members I start with have sent a letter and it can cause a *lot* more damage because it can be difficult to judge tone etc... I'll be making a video on this in the future
what if the ex partner is an avoidant and you literally haven’t done anything bad besides trying to make it work and understanding them? im just gonna continue my life journey and its their loss because they convinced themselves that i wasnt right for them
The only mistake we make is actually getting with an avoidant in the first place. It can be really hard to tell at the start but if you learn all you can it usually possible to know before you get involved. One simple way is to ask the right questions. Then it’s just a matter of being strong enough to walk away, which is a hell of a lot easier to do at the start that 3 or 6 months down the track or longer. Avoid the avoidant at all costs, unless of course you are addicted to loneliness, pain, suffering and misery !!
@@cspace1234nzjust got out of a 2nd relationship with the 2nd avoidant in a 7 months time span. Just not worth your efforts. I treated her like a princess for 5 months just to be broken up with through text message because of the most ridiculous misunderstanding ever (also discussed through text message) 🤷♂️
It's rare that people ever intentionally do things that are "bad", but there can be many many actions that can damage emotional safety that we don't even realize we do. I have some videos on attachment theory and how that can also be a culprit too
@@BeUltranormal but breaking up in the very first misunderstanding is not a good solution. I just went through this. Unfortunately I had behaviors that harmed her emotional safety without knowing. But we are not psychologists walking around with psychology books and behaving according to whatever the person (avoidant) needs, because we have our needs too. I didn’t feel safe in that interaction either, and that created anxiety that I normally don’t have. She blindsided me and broke up through text message. We were in different countries (Estonia-Finland, pretty close) and I didn’t even get a chance to see her for the last time. Sit and talk, get counseling, couples therapy, whatever…unfortunately avoidants always take the easy way out and hurt the people they are with.
The problem is with an avoidant being loving and open and "normal" is what makes them feel unsafe. They feel safe with the toxic and the unavailable because the unavailable demand no true intimacy which is the one thing avoidants fear most. There is no self-improvement one can undertake to fix that problem except become toxic or unavailable yourself. But those relationships fail as well. If they aren't diligently working on themselves it will fail, regardless.
Step 3 should have nothing to do with “getting your ex back”. It should be just a normal course of your life. That way, when step 4 never happens, you’ve already developed the self esteem to let go and move on. At least, that’s what I’m telling myself.
If your ex has broken up with you or left you, it means that they think leaving you is okay. Do you want to reconcile with a person that thinks that leaving you is okay? They are not worth your time. Move on and find someone that does value you. The only exception to this is if you have actually been seriously abusive (in any form) and you want to completely change.
You are right. But if someone chooses to leave or end it without something serious happening, then that is a clear sign that they just aren’t right for you. Move on! There is no shortage of people.
This only works if two people want it. Sometimes they might be stuck on another ex and devalue you. Doesn’t work with people who abuse you and then dump you
If your partner broke up with you, it's because they don't see for the potential for a relationship. If you want to maximize your chances of reconciliation, simply work your ass off to become absolutely incredible at relationships, period. If you focus on them and where you think they are going wrong, then all you're going to do is waste energy that could be spent growing.
You put that idea out of your head sweetheart. You reflect on the aspects of yourself that helped steer your relationship in the direction it ended up in, and you work on those. You weren't enough for them. It's hard to hear but it's the truth, I'm going through this exact same thing right now. But you can be enough for someone better someday. I've written down everything I think I need to work on, pages and pages of stuff honestly. I have started counselling for all of these aspects of my personality. I've also signed up with a personal trainer, and I will sign up with a martial arts gym next week. Physically I need to get back to my old self, mentally I need to improve my current self. I have no hope of rekindling my failed marriage, as painful as it is to admit. But that's not the point. The point is unless I fix myself I will never be good enough for a good person.
Same steps! The Step 3 is the most important one. What can you do to a) become the best version of you and b) become the person that offers the most value out of any other options
Interesting and good to know. Not sure if mine deserves it but I'll keep these in mind in either case going forward. Thanks for being direct and not bullshitting the audience as so many do.
@PaigeSquared I do care for them, but I have enough self respect to know what I deserve and now know to not tolerate being treated any less than that which I also give in return.
How should I reconcile if I neglected her emotions, became distant, and avoided spending time with her family? She told me she felt like I wasn't participating in the relationship and she didn't feel loved by me, I did quite a bit of self reflection and I value the relationship more than ever now and deeply regret my behavior.
I was the one who broke up with them. Twice. I have lost their trust and they feel differently towards me now. I have done reflection and apologising from the bottom of my heart on my part. But what if they have said that they just don't think they can do it anymore? I'm working on myself, learning to be a better person. But what do I do if they might just never reach out again?
I would rather improve myself (which I was doing during relationship too) for the next deserving person. Why would I do anything for the person who left me?
First of all,congratulations for profound knowledge & your accurate approaches! One thing you should DEFINITELY change though: you're talking VERY fast. Slow down & everything will be clearer.
Lol, thank you for the kind words, and yes, I definitely spoke too fast on this video lol Will slow it down on the next one. Thanks for bearing with me :)
I'm not sure of any studies that relate to psychic issues, but if there's any I'm missing then I'll be sure to look. In terms of emotional challenges, my channel is full of how to address those! :)
@@BeUltranormal is it ? So how are you qualified to diagnose someone for having emotional challenges or psychic issues? Come on, mate - you're selling your stuff and simply don't care for the outcome, as your customers sit hundreds if not thousands of miles away. And if it doesn't work out you still can blame them for not having followed your advice...
I'm really not sure what these "psychic" issues are that you're talking about. Unless you're talking about physical challenges like disabilities? Either way relationships problems are not about the challenges it's about how they are handled. That is the skill to be built, that is exactly what I spend my days working on with all of my members, that is the thing that has the impact. There are people out there that WILL sell you an outcome, promise reconciliation, tell you it's "guaranteed". But they never put it in writing. OR they put it in writing and then tell you you didn't follow all the steps properly so you don't get a refund. A good coach won't promise you'll win the Superbowl, a good coach guides you on the process in order to be capable to play in the Superbowl.
@@BeUltranormal what kind of coach are you if you're "not sure about psychic issues"? Ever heard that people get traumatized by being abused in their youth? Ever heard about borderline syndrome and stuff like that ? Doesn't seem so. You sell the people a concept of "it's that easy! Follow those few steps and they will come running back to you". But it's not : have you ever dealt with a woman who suffered from depression and tried to kill herself because she wanted a relationship but couldn't handle it? Have you ever been in a relationship with a borderline - woman? It's the hell on earth. And most of the times people should thank god on their knees when they get rid of such a person. Yeah, it Hurts. But there's an end to that pain. If someone's the right person, they'll never waste a thought on leaving you. Period.
Ultimately people leave because they can't see the potential future of the relationship based on how things have been handled in the past. If you don't want to work on a relationship because they don't want the relationship then of course that will tell them what they need to know. Imagine applying for a job, telling the interviewer that you're ready and willing to put in the work, then when they choose not to move forward you say "I don't want this job anymore" then all it does is show that you weren't really willing to put in the work, it was conditional.
There's a lot of reasons, the main one usually happens when people have the realization that the relationship dynamics aren't based on one persons actions and that relationships are not only fixable, but able to thrive.
@@BeUltranormal If she left you (and most likely she already had a good idea of who she was leaving you for) why take her back? Or if she made it bad enough for you to file (like what happened to me), once you file, why go through it again?
@@BeUltranormal Understood the infidelity equation And in order to repair infidelity we have to increase emotional safety, intelligent initimacy, goal synergy. Also these 3 points ( emotional safety, intelligent initimacy, goal synergy.) Is the also the formation of relationship in the first place, when all these points meets that's when relationship forms. Correct ? At the time my partner was breaking up with me for someone else, we discussed all the this and she left but also wanted us to be friends. My question is what should be the approach as currently i have cease association with her( reason - due to hurt caused by it, wanted time to process everything, not feeling i should open to this person as the comfort is gone) Or I should stay connected and build the these 3 points As you videos suggested no contact is not a right thing to do.
What if my ex gf has been dating a guy for close to a year and she has blocked me on social media? We were supposed to come back together a year ago but some guy came out of nowhere just before we were supposed to meet and it went downhill.. tbh I did F up way before that while we were still together..
👋🏻👋🏻Hey everyone! Hope you enjoyed today's vid! Let me know your struggles on reconciling with your ex! 🚨🚨
🚨Come join my NEW Relationship Bootcamp! be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp?YTE131&
- Chris
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
@@barbaraandrews5 it ok
Recently broken up with. What makes your video different, is the search for personal reflection which ultimately leads to accountability. I was emotionally immature compared to her. And i dont want that again for her, or my next partner. Definitely going to really focus on a better me first, so I can be a better partner one day. Even though I would take her back in a heart beat, i wish her the best and know I didnt give my best to her. I need to grow a bit. Thanks for your point of view.
I love this! The absolute best thing you can do for yourself and your partner is to take time to reflect, take accountability and do the tough work to become the absolute best version of yourself for you and your relationship.
After you reconnect, if you've grown massively then you've maximized your chance to reconcile.
Important to remember that they weren’t perfect and had grass is greener syndrome due to the decision they made. It’s important to not lose your confidence when it’s really about shallowness at the core. You probably dealt with imperfections in them without much thought. Yet they would most likely dwell on them with you. This means they don’t appreciate who you are aka, took you for granted.
Actually that’s the issue. She saw the relationship was good, that a strong bond was developing between us… then her avoidant dismissive side triggered and she slowly faded out to a point when ultimately she broke up convinced not feeling anything anymore for me
They don't know how to deal with it so they run in the opposite way. Same happened to me
In my experience, attachment styles disempower both you and your partner. I made a video on the subject here: ruclips.net/video/-oThWux4p_I/видео.html
no, she just was more interested in another guy and u fell down the priority ladder
@@dontreadmyname4396 sorry for your loss and to see you got to this sadness level
@@jasonpgarceau women monkeybranch, they never single, if she left u she was already being entertained by the new guy before leaving u
This channel deserves more subs. ❤
TY so much!!
One of the best videos I’ve seen on this type of topic. After a break up a lot of videos get pushed to your feeds but this was the best one I’ve seen, thanks Chris. I know this is a broad question and differs from person to person but is there any general personal growth goals you would recommend. I already go to the gym regularly and eat healthy. I’ve started journaling and also meditating once to twice a day. Thanks (I’ve just now noticed how ADHD centric your videos also are. I was diagnosed with ADHD a month ago, shortly after my 8 year relationship broke down due to a blow up. Any tips on this)
My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me yesterday morning and I wished him the best and ended things amicably. He said that we might have worked out in another life and how great of a guy I am, etc. He called last night saying he made a mistake and wants to resume.
I said that he should take some time to figure out what he really wants, but I can't just hop back in (even tho I love him) after him hitting the nuke button like that. I hope I'm doing the right thing by detaching for a bit.
I thought the video was set to 2x speed 😆
After three months of no contact (I broke off the relationship after an abusive episode), my ex will not respond to a letter that I wrote. I didn’t reach out to reconcile but to check in and discuss with her what I have been working on interpersonally and to share new insights of what our relationship was.. what it meant to me and the intention to provide clarity. I understand that she may never respond and that letting go of an attachment is a part of my relationship maturity and development. My desire was to let go in love in with co-regulation and in a secure attachment approach.
I did the same with my ex and wrote her a letter. How long has it been since you wrote to her?
@@TriGGames It has been approximately ten weeks since I wrote the letter/email.
A lot of members I start with have sent a letter and it can cause a *lot* more damage because it can be difficult to judge tone etc...
I'll be making a video on this in the future
If you would like to review the letter for context, I will provide it to you and change the names to provide anonymity.
what if the ex partner is an avoidant and you literally haven’t done anything bad besides trying to make it work and understanding them? im just gonna continue my life journey and its their loss because they convinced themselves that i wasnt right for them
The only mistake we make is actually getting with an avoidant in the first place. It can be really hard to tell at the start but if you learn all you can it usually possible to know before you get involved. One simple way is to ask the right questions. Then it’s just a matter of being strong enough to walk away, which is a hell of a lot easier to do at the start that 3 or 6 months down the track or longer.
Avoid the avoidant at all costs, unless of course you are addicted to loneliness, pain, suffering and misery !!
@@cspace1234nzjust got out of a 2nd relationship with the 2nd avoidant in a 7 months time span. Just not worth your efforts. I treated her like a princess for 5 months just to be broken up with through text message because of the most ridiculous misunderstanding ever (also discussed through text message) 🤷♂️
It's rare that people ever intentionally do things that are "bad", but there can be many many actions that can damage emotional safety that we don't even realize we do.
I have some videos on attachment theory and how that can also be a culprit too
@@BeUltranormal but breaking up in the very first misunderstanding is not a good solution. I just went through this. Unfortunately I had behaviors that harmed her emotional safety without knowing. But we are not psychologists walking around with psychology books and behaving according to whatever the person (avoidant) needs, because we have our needs too. I didn’t feel safe in that interaction either, and that created anxiety that I normally don’t have. She blindsided me and broke up through text message. We were in different countries (Estonia-Finland, pretty close) and I didn’t even get a chance to see her for the last time. Sit and talk, get counseling, couples therapy, whatever…unfortunately avoidants always take the easy way out and hurt the people they are with.
The problem is with an avoidant being loving and open and "normal" is what makes them feel unsafe. They feel safe with the toxic and the unavailable because the unavailable demand no true intimacy which is the one thing avoidants fear most.
There is no self-improvement one can undertake to fix that problem except become toxic or unavailable yourself. But those relationships fail as well.
If they aren't diligently working on themselves it will fail, regardless.
Step 3 should have nothing to do with “getting your ex back”. It should be just a normal course of your life. That way, when step 4 never happens, you’ve already developed the self esteem to let go and move on. At least, that’s what I’m telling myself.
I agree! Step 3 should constantly be happening, especially if you're in a relationship
If your ex has broken up with you or left you, it means that they think leaving you is okay. Do you want to reconcile with a person that thinks that leaving you is okay? They are not worth your time. Move on and find someone that does value you. The only exception to this is if you have actually been seriously abusive (in any form) and you want to completely change.
I think that reflecting, changing and growing should always be happening, not just if you've been abusive
You are right. But if someone chooses to leave or end it without something serious happening, then that is a clear sign that they just aren’t right for you. Move on! There is no shortage of people.
This only works if two people want it. Sometimes they might be stuck on another ex and devalue you. Doesn’t work with people who abuse you and then dump you
If your partner broke up with you, it's because they don't see for the potential for a relationship. If you want to maximize your chances of reconciliation, simply work your ass off to become absolutely incredible at relationships, period. If you focus on them and where you think they are going wrong, then all you're going to do is waste energy that could be spent growing.
What about if they have cheated with someone new and moved away how to get them back
You put that idea out of your head sweetheart. You reflect on the aspects of yourself that helped steer your relationship in the direction it ended up in, and you work on those. You weren't enough for them. It's hard to hear but it's the truth, I'm going through this exact same thing right now. But you can be enough for someone better someday.
I've written down everything I think I need to work on, pages and pages of stuff honestly. I have started counselling for all of these aspects of my personality. I've also signed up with a personal trainer, and I will sign up with a martial arts gym next week. Physically I need to get back to my old self, mentally I need to improve my current self.
I have no hope of rekindling my failed marriage, as painful as it is to admit. But that's not the point. The point is unless I fix myself I will never be good enough for a good person.
Same steps! The Step 3 is the most important one. What can you do to a) become the best version of you and b) become the person that offers the most value out of any other options
Will this help get back my ex if I go no contact , which I’m still doing
I made a video on no contact, it's definitely not recommended: ruclips.net/video/IqFWXZopO2Q/видео.htmlsi=Um2cLLbohpdYH426
@@BeUltranormalwhy is it Not recommended Sir?
True playing at 0.75 speed is better than
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Interesting and good to know. Not sure if mine deserves it but I'll keep these in mind in either case going forward. Thanks for being direct and not bullshitting the audience as so many do.
Life's too short for more BS in the world tbh!
"not sure if mine deserves it" just let them go then. Don't drag it out for someone you don't care for.
@PaigeSquared I do care for them, but I have enough self respect to know what I deserve and now know to not tolerate being treated any less than that which I also give in return.
How should I reconcile if I neglected her emotions, became distant, and avoided spending time with her family? She told me she felt like I wasn't participating in the relationship and she didn't feel loved by me, I did quite a bit of self reflection and I value the relationship more than ever now and deeply regret my behavior.
Coach Corey Wayne got the right approach
He has a lot of fans!
What if after a 3 year relationship she moved on to someone else after a month and he has more money than me
Hiya Chris, on the boot camp do you complete exercises to cement your own learning?
Hey Nicholas, did you sign up?
Not yet, but I am tempted.
Go for it and see!
I'm watching the RUclips content first, then I'll make a decision about the boot camp.
@@nicholasvaughan8771 awesome :)
I was the one who broke up with them. Twice. I have lost their trust and they feel differently towards me now. I have done reflection and apologising from the bottom of my heart on my part. But what if they have said that they just don't think they can do it anymore?
I'm working on myself, learning to be a better person. But what do I do if they might just never reach out again?
I would rather improve myself (which I was doing during relationship too) for the next deserving person. Why would I do anything for the person who left me?
I don't believe I mentioned anything about doing it for your ex?
@@BeUltranormal understood
First of all,congratulations for profound knowledge & your accurate approaches!
One thing you should DEFINITELY change though: you're talking VERY fast.
Slow down & everything will be clearer.
Lol, thank you for the kind words, and yes, I definitely spoke too fast on this video lol
Will slow it down on the next one. Thanks for bearing with me :)
That video is completely bullshit. It doesn't pay regards to any kind of personal emotional challenges or psychic issues one may have.
I'm not sure of any studies that relate to psychic issues, but if there's any I'm missing then I'll be sure to look.
In terms of emotional challenges, my channel is full of how to address those! :)
@@BeUltranormal is it ? So how are you qualified to diagnose someone for having emotional challenges or psychic issues? Come on, mate - you're selling your stuff and simply don't care for the outcome, as your customers sit hundreds if not thousands of miles away. And if it doesn't work out you still can blame them for not having followed your advice...
I'm really not sure what these "psychic" issues are that you're talking about. Unless you're talking about physical challenges like disabilities?
Either way relationships problems are not about the challenges it's about how they are handled. That is the skill to be built, that is exactly what I spend my days working on with all of my members, that is the thing that has the impact.
There are people out there that WILL sell you an outcome, promise reconciliation, tell you it's "guaranteed". But they never put it in writing. OR they put it in writing and then tell you you didn't follow all the steps properly so you don't get a refund.
A good coach won't promise you'll win the Superbowl, a good coach guides you on the process in order to be capable to play in the Superbowl.
@@BeUltranormal what kind of coach are you if you're "not sure about psychic issues"? Ever heard that people get traumatized by being abused in their youth? Ever heard about borderline syndrome and stuff like that ? Doesn't seem so. You sell the people a concept of "it's that easy! Follow those few steps and they will come running back to you". But it's not : have you ever dealt with a woman who suffered from depression and tried to kill herself because she wanted a relationship but couldn't handle it? Have you ever been in a relationship with a borderline - woman? It's the hell on earth. And most of the times people should thank god on their knees when they get rid of such a person. Yeah, it Hurts. But there's an end to that pain. If someone's the right person, they'll never waste a thought on leaving you. Period.
Why in the world do you want someone back when they don't stupidity.
They left for a reason and stop crying
Ultimately people leave because they can't see the potential future of the relationship based on how things have been handled in the past. If you don't want to work on a relationship because they don't want the relationship then of course that will tell them what they need to know.
Imagine applying for a job, telling the interviewer that you're ready and willing to put in the work, then when they choose not to move forward you say "I don't want this job anymore" then all it does is show that you weren't really willing to put in the work, it was conditional.
If your blocked everywhere over one year
I've done a video on stonewalling here!: ruclips.net/video/WfaooHck_4Y/видео.htmlsi=bDevBonF_D98eHFv
I'm twice divorced, both times I was the one who filed. I want to ask why anyone would want an ex back.
There's a lot of reasons, the main one usually happens when people have the realization that the relationship dynamics aren't based on one persons actions and that relationships are not only fixable, but able to thrive.
@@BeUltranormal If she left you (and most likely she already had a good idea of who she was leaving you for) why take her back? Or if she made it bad enough for you to file (like what happened to me), once you file, why go through it again?
Does this step for rekindle works when your partner broke ups with you for someone else ?
I have a video on that coming up, but I'd recommend taking a look at my video on "why they cheat" which will cover some of the fundamentals
@@BeUltranormal Understood the infidelity equation
And in order to repair infidelity we have to increase emotional safety, intelligent initimacy, goal synergy.
Also these 3 points ( emotional safety, intelligent initimacy, goal synergy.) Is the also the formation of relationship in the first place, when all these points meets that's when relationship forms. Correct ?
At the time my partner was breaking up with me for someone else, we discussed all the this and she left but also wanted us to be friends.
My question is what should be the approach as currently i have cease association with her( reason - due to hurt caused by it, wanted time to process everything, not feeling i should open to this person as the comfort is gone)
Or I should stay connected and build the these 3 points
As you videos suggested no contact is not a right thing to do.
10/2/25
Best way to get your ex. DONT!!!!
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This is difficult to follow.
That sucks, what is it you're struggling to follow?
Why would you want to?
Blah blah blah blah blah. Don't recommend channel.
Thanks!
What if my ex gf has been dating a guy for close to a year and she has blocked me on social media? We were supposed to come back together a year ago but some guy came out of nowhere just before we were supposed to meet and it went downhill.. tbh I did F up way before that while we were still together..
I have a video on this coming up!
thank you, look forward to it.