Very true. But I also think that the only way to avoid hurt is to stay single. I think it's natural to sometimes get disappointed or hurt when you're in a relationship. However, the question is: Does this person I'm with truly cares about my wellbeing? Do they listen to me when I express how I'm feeling or maybe they invalidate me saying none of that matters? Sometines it hurts because that person is shining a mirror at us and we're getting trigerred. But what's their intention?
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Thank you for admitting that ‘loneliness’ is a real issue today because I don’t think it’s talked about enough. Loneliness is a horrible way to live and feel. I’ve been in it for several months now and it slowly eats you away. Honestly the only saving grace is my faith in God. 🙏 your advice and wisdom is remarkable. Thank you so much for being you.
I totally agree with you. Praying each day is how I cope. Still hurts alot though. God can ease the pain. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, soul, and strength. 🙏🌷🏵🙌
@@tana5098 glad to see people in similar situations praying to God. He is the only hope and comfort. We are not only, he is besides us. That's the test. To fully rely on Him.
That's what it is. When I'm feeling lost or down, sometimes I just need someone to tell me everything will be OK😊 no lecturing, no ideas on how to fix it. You've got this 💕
...and it gets worse with age. I'm 36, single, no kids. Back when I was 30 I had hope but as years pass by and nothing is changing despite all my 'I'm out there' efforts or 'do nothing - feel happy' stages, you just lose hope and those episodes of extreme loneliness last way longer than they used to be. We all deserve love, why is it so difficult to find a mate and settle down?
I am praying for you that you get strength and a deserving someone/love soon. 🙏🤗 I am in the same boat, I know how hard it is. Please take good care of yourself, my friend. Best wishes. 💐
@@tehKettyBear It's not really my business, but have you considered arranged marriage? You could ask your parents to find a prospective match for you.
@@ykonratev believe me, I' settled for someone who wanted to be with me and I was attracted to but not in love with, it didn't end well... it has to be mutual.
Yes I’m a guy but you helped me so much going through my breakup. Thank you. And yes I cried during this video. Guys are emotional human beings so be emotional when you want to. We are all equal and we all go through the same pain… And still this pain connects us all somehow
I found out that is very important to like yourself first. I think I like myself but on the other hand I am missing someone to share feelings and things with. I would never step into a relationship for the wrong reason. That is not solving anything in my life. Compromising within a relationship with.someone can only be possible if you are really into someone. Otherwise it does not make any sense. Until that time, het to love yourself and het to do things in faveur of just yourself. I wish you all the best. Love, Gerard.
You could still be in a relationship and still be lonely I think, it’s about having a connection with your partner that’s the most important, I’ve seen couples dining out both glued to their phones and it’s like they are strangers sitting at the same table
@@CiaobellaAmour I remember walking by a park and there were a group of people sitting in a circle. I kid you not, they were all staring at their phones. My heart just dropped as I recollected memories where all the elders were busy conversing with each other while us kids were out in the playground having fun. We don't talk anymore, is what I realized, and even if we want to, it's difficult to find someone who wants to have a conversation and consciously prioritizes it often.
I’ve been in a very lonely marriage for 15.5 years. 26 days ago I learned that it has actually been quite crowded. I changed the locks that day and have not seen my husband’s face since. I come home from work each evening and watch tv and go to bed alone. I feel less lonely now than I ever have. It is better to be alone with yourself than to be with someone who is ignoring you. 💔
I am so grateful for the work you do. I entered a relationship after years of being depressed. That relationship changed my life, and made me happier, as I finally felt like my life mattered and I had a meaning in life. After he broke up with me, after more than four years together, I was terrified that I would get back into the same depression. While I was depressed for a while, and while I still struggle with finding a new way of living out my purpose, your content on youtube has made me change my mindset. Instead of torturing myself, I now comfort myself and try to treat myself as the valuable person I am. Thank you so much❤️
I've turned 30 some weeks ago and damn, it really hit me hard how lonely life can be. Friends of 10 years suddenly left, now I've only high quality people around me, but life still is lonely when everybody around me is in a relationship. Whenever I go out I feel even more lonelier, I dunno know, maybe it'll will get better, maybe not.
I've always been single so I know the feeling of loneliness especially seeing all these couples around and me being stuck in the lonely life. Tonight I decided to hang out with myself and get a drink at a cafe. It felt great but I'm also hoping to learn how to stay with myself before getting out there and making new friends
Matthew left out one important concept after talking about how we have soo much love to give but no person to direct that towards. Direct that love towards yourself! If you don't practice that it may feel strange at first, and like it's not what you want because you want someone else to love. But that's being emotionally unavailable to yourself! Don't treat yourself like the guys who can't love you. Once you direct your energy towards yourself, you can attract a guy who will treat you the same
@@Lolstop100 Anytime you find yourself daydreaming about a guy or the future, bring your thought back to the present moment, to yourself and your breath. Anytime you feel lonely, instead of trying to fill that void with food or substances or casual situations, sit with the loneliness and just be with it. Spend time with yourself. Take yourself out on dates and don't wait until you have someone in your life to go do something. Check in with your feelings everyday and journal about them, and don't judge any of them as bad. Let yourself fully express every feeling! Give yourself hugs and massages and tell yourself how awesome you are, and talk to yourself as if you were your own bf/gf! Those are just a few tips, but the biggest one is to just live in the present moment. Don't get carried away in your thoughts. This'll help you feel whole and complete on your own!
I would also add to put God at the center of your life and you’ll realize that you’ll have the best person to connect with when God reveals them to us. God’s timing is the absolute best, but you won’t understand it if you don’t put yourself to get closer to God. He’s changed my life completely.
Matthew you should do Events where men and women who are following you come together together, i think they would be quite likeminded and some Might find their partner for life
I'm 29. Never had a romantic relationship because I knew I wasn't ready for one. Now that I am at a point in my life when I want to put my efforts into a relationship I have no options. The loneliness I feel causes me physical pain. The thought of going through life alone is unbearable.
Hi, I'm almost the same as you. And what I'm starting to do is going to some events I like so that I can meet people. My two first were online and I'm looking for others real life :)
Watching this and reading the comments make me feel less alone in this world. It's tough finding love these days but I believe the right one will come some day.
Authenticity! Vulnerability🍒 Many of us are feeling the same emptiness together. As much as I have fulfillment in many areas, I’ve been without a mate for 13 years. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks for being very open on this one. Spot on❣️
Damn.... you just hit the nail on the head. Having someone to love is part of the balance of life. Gives you stability and support we all need in life. Love and care we need. 👫 Loneliness feels like excruciating heart wrenching pain. Feels like it tears your heart apart. Fucking hurts. 💔 No one sees the pain behind the mask we all put on. 😢😁💔
Hey Matt. I echo Tanya in my following and my appreciation, so I'm very grateful for her question. We don't even know each other but you are in my inner circle of trusted people because of how you have shown up for me so many times over the years. So when you lead with the vulnerable truth that, "we're all very lonely" it INSTANTLY made me cry because it's a truth I try to shove down. Thanks for always showing up, Matt, and for investing in us with your heart on the outside.
The hardest walk is walking alone, but it’s also the walk that makes you stronger, You are not alone Rebecca, better days ahead keep motivating yourself
Yes very difficult when you are Single and being alone you have Feeling Depression and Emotional We always pray and never give up Thank you Mathew for Sharing 🙏💗
I have known loneliness too well. Had parents with no love or empathy and am still single at 33. But I have given people the love and company and care that i often lacked. We can't control life but what part we can control, we should.
This made me tear up because I'm really dealing with this pain on a daily basis nowadays- my fiancé died in January from a cardiac arrest and its been one of the most profoundly developmental and progression focused yet lonely stages of my life. Thank you Matthew for this.
One of the best talks I’ve heard on this subject. I’ve been preaching for a long time now that there are many of us in this circumstance and we can do enormous good for each other by interacting and communicating with each other just in these types of chat rooms/ forums like this.
So true, most of the time it is not what we can get out of a relationship that makes seemingly wonderful people gather and listen to someone spectacular like Matthew, it's what we know we can give, that got me.
This was such a great conversation. Alot of people are afraid to voice and talk about the loneliness that they are feeling, especially since Covid started.
Something someone did for me that made me feel less lonely and more connected was that my friends made a commercial/mini-movie for a product I made and surprised me with it. It’s one of the nicest things anyone’s ever done for me. Secondly, I was on the phone with a friend today who is pregnant, and she said a friend of hers showed up to her house and offered to do any chores she needed - laundry, sweep, babysit the other child so my friend could leave the house. I thought that was way cool. You’re awesome Matthew!
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
I couldn't stop crying when you talked about loneliness in our time. You are doing a great job and have been very inspiring to me. Thank you Matthew and lots of love from Germany. P.S. I hope you would organize your retreat program in Europe and I have the chance to take part. 💚
I've been single for almost 5 years after getting out of a toxic, ten year long relationship. The loneliness is always there and has been there. However, I'm still not fully happy with myself, so I'm not ready to be with someone else, but I fantasize about it happening one day. It's so difficult to meet new people these days too.
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
Needed this. My ex messaged me out of the blue (it's been a year since the breakup) and although I don't want them back it's made me feel incredibly alone. Just for a second I held onto the fantasy of giving in and letting them back in...but I know it's not meant to be.
Wow, just wow. Absolutely blown away by this video. This really touched my heart and I’m not gonna lie, brought a tear to my eyes. What a beautiful piece of yourself that you bring to the table…a shared sense of togetherness. The ultimate goal, I think.
I too know what it feels like to be lonely and lemme tell ya it’s not fun. I had something happen to me that I feel has changed me so much and I’m working on working past it so that I can have a better present and future but to make things better you gotta work towards it nothing is handed to you.
I can relate to your message so much. Thank you for being so vulnerable, open and authentic. Following you and listening to your advice has made me feel less alone. Especially your confidence challenge, I'm loving the connection to so many like minded people. It's really saved me at a time I'm really struggling with life. Thank you x
My husband died a few months ago and I feel so very lonely without him. I cannot rely on others because they are simply not available nor would they be able to give me what my husband gave me. He was my best friend and I shared absolutely everything with him. When he was gone in an instant it was devastating. I now need to figure out my new journey on my own with my two little kids. I need to be that beacon of hope for myself and for them. Learn to be alone. That’s it!
Thank you for sharing. Yes, I have so much love to give and went through a breakup. I've been doing things to be nice to myself... coffee, haircut, massage, etc. Be nice to ourselves.
I have never heard somebody articulate so beautifully what i am feeling .. You made me cry 😢.. I feel so lonely I and don’t know how to deal with it but it felt good hear that somebody understands how I am feeling
@UC6HWKL0lbSkzqfmp4ZIIAFg you can be surrounded by millions of ppl and still feel alone but you can be with one person that truly loves you that truly gives a fuck about you and you can feel like you mean something to someone or in other words it's Good to have one true friend then have fake hundreds of friends.
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
The loneliness part got me.. I was just coming from my food shop watching people on a beautiful summer day. And it hit me I don't feel lonely. I feel that there's someone out there for me. Someone I feel safe around and truly loved.. It makes a massive difference. I wish you that! 💜
But that's where your loneliness is coming from. If you look outside yourself for that peace you won't ever find it. Look inside you. Just be in this moment. The sun is shining. You're alive and blessed.❤
@@shwetanavani480 that sounds pretty in theory but life is supposed to be spent with people you love for it to be truly fulfilling. One can (and should) love oneself very much but unless you're very self centered or narcissistic, love still needs be shared with other people. Whether it's children, family members etc.. some just want it to be a partner.
@@Predictable1 I know this from personal experience. Love for others means nothing if you don't have a good relationship with yourself. If you are not true to yourself and connected to that highest part of you anything you try to give to others will come off as disingenuous. Also if you don't love yourself how can you expect the other person to love you?
@@shwetanavani480 not every one who wants someone in their life does because of self issues. I have had enough years to myself for growth, learning and being self aware. I know damn well who I am, what I want and what I don't. I have a career, I'm independent. I don't see how does this in any way make me not to want to share my life with someone? If anything i believe it's quite the opposite, people who cannot open up or are afraid of intimacy or cannot connect with others are the ones who struggle the most when they're with someone. That's why you cannot convience me that you'd be happier alone than sharing a true connection and love with someone. And obviously I'm not talking about unhealthy relationships, surely anything it's better than that; Including loneliness.
Happiness is seeing a notification for Matthew's videos 👐🏽👐🏽😊💕. Oh my goodness your first sentence resonates with me. You always speak to my soul. 🙏🏽 x
Today is January 22, 2023 and I needed to hear these words and actually spending time listening to yt on this subject of loneliness. What caught my attention was the amt of deaths during covid and makeshift plots had to be addressed. Survivors had to grieve as a number. What makes me feel lonely exponentially is when questions are not asked? Simple gatherings of going back and forth building on themes. NO NOPE NADA... happens alot as I observe. How are you really doing? Tell me about your sorrow. Tell me about your win, your new baby, your fears and your joy. Listening means the world to me. I'm an excellent listening. Feels lonely love you
Hey you know the kids movie 'Trolls' and Poppy turns grey in the big cooking pot at the end? I feel so sad when she looses her colour:( Love it when Branch begins to sing to her and her colours come back....hope everyone has someone to cheer em up when they are grey......it's kindness like this where we lift each other up that gives meaning to life....because after the grey is colour again....the grey storm always passes and is usually followed by a rainbow🧚♀️🌈💜😉👍
Matthew this video has made me flood with tears.... because that strong desire to give love resonated with me on the deepest level. I wish for that more than anything. Thank you. Sending you so much love xx
Thank you, Matthew, for what you wonderfully said here in this video. Amen. As a 52-year-old man, living in Rio in a bad marriage to know that others feel that loneliness really helps. God bless you!
That speech was amazing and very genuine. Loneliness is a weird place to be cause it distorts reality if you look at it wrong. Hopefully, we find our person and can give some of that love away and be reciprocated
Its funny Months ago i was obsessed watching videos on how i get my Ex back.. but days weeks past i learned how to love my self more by watching all he’s video thank you Matthew. 😘 more power i love all your videos
Hi Matthew I first saw you in plane Jane and since then (my teenage years ) until now . You are my absolutely favorite person ever I love your energy ,you’re a such wonderful and caring person you helped me threw a lot of heart breaks and lonely moments ,and I’m sure there’s more girls out there that you helped too .Keep going and I hope god bless you ♥️♥️♥️🙌
You arnt alone.....you may just be shy....that's ok.....and also ask God to simply send you some people who light you up.....also there are always angels around you!!!🧚♀️
@@kellyannnoonan2674 sorry dudette..just thought it may be the case...wild guess....your message saddened me as lonely sux.....I know what you mean though being in a room full of people and you feel lonely.....had this in high school when I didn't fit into any group....hope you feel less lonely in time by God sending you some really awesome people to hang with.....even a wonderful love partner...Will pray 4 you today🧚♀️
It's interesting, because I'm so blessed with wonderful supportive friendships, I find that I feel guilty, and or weak in regard to my feelings of loneliness.
I am lonely, sometimes incredibly. I'm not desperate. Just sick and tired of doing awesome things alone. I moved to Mississippi and had the worst luck finding quality men. Real men. Thank you, Matthew, for making this world a better place.
I struggle with feeling that feeling lonely is a weakness... Admitting that I am feeling lonely is hard because I don't know how to fix it... So I ignore that part of myself
That opening comment of his is so true. Social media really does make it seem like everyone is living an amazing life. But those are the highlights, and not a true representation of the digital loneliness we face. The switch to online interactions bolsters the facade of a nice life, but really people are less connected than ever and seek companionship in sequestered pockets of the internet.
I am a waitress and the restaurant Im working in has a big garden with screen showing the England-Cze football. After game I had to pick all the plastic cups up off of the ground and a customer came by and started helping me. Im having tough days in my life and her words helped me feel better. Good energy to anyone having tough days in life rn.
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
thank you Mat. thank you for expanding your brand to more than just dating. i hope to meet you one day and shake your hand and tell you that you have helped me get tru tough times in relationships and in life. thank you.
I feel so alone since all my friends are now in relationships. I rarely get to see them nowadays compared to before when we used to go on nights out and holidays together. I wish there was an easy way just to meet people in the same position who understand.
Yes sad, but I'd rather be single than with someone who causes me hurt
Very true. But I also think that the only way to avoid hurt is to stay single. I think it's natural to sometimes get disappointed or hurt when you're in a relationship.
However, the question is:
Does this person I'm with truly cares about my wellbeing?
Do they listen to me when I express how I'm feeling or maybe they invalidate me saying none of that matters?
Sometines it hurts because that person is shining a mirror at us and we're getting trigerred. But what's their intention?
Nobody's causing you hurt
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Yup.
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Thank you for admitting that ‘loneliness’ is a real issue today because I don’t think it’s talked about enough. Loneliness is a horrible way to live and feel. I’ve been in it for several months now and it slowly eats you away. Honestly the only saving grace is my faith in God. 🙏 your advice and wisdom is remarkable. Thank you so much for being you.
I totally agree with you. Praying each day is how I cope. Still hurts alot though. God can ease the pain. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, soul, and strength. 🙏🌷🏵🙌
yes i agree
@@tana5098 glad to see people in similar situations praying to God. He is the only hope and comfort. We are not only, he is besides us. That's the test. To fully rely on Him.
Well said Jenn. It can truly be crushing at times!
I dont think its even possible for women to feel lonely 😂🤣
Step outside that door and any man will give u attention anytime of the day.
It's weird that this popped up onto my feed, I feel like it's a strange way for the universe to say everything will be ok. Thank you, Matthew😊
That's what it is. When I'm feeling lost or down, sometimes I just need someone to tell me everything will be OK😊 no lecturing, no ideas on how to fix it. You've got this 💕
@@IevaKambarovaite thank you 😊
Hello katie❤
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Matthew is amazing. And everything is going to be Okay. Keep motivating yourself ✨
...and it gets worse with age. I'm 36, single, no kids. Back when I was 30 I had hope but as years pass by and nothing is changing despite all my 'I'm out there' efforts or 'do nothing - feel happy' stages, you just lose hope and those episodes of extreme loneliness last way longer than they used to be. We all deserve love, why is it so difficult to find a mate and settle down?
I am praying for you that you get strength and a deserving someone/love soon. 🙏🤗
I am in the same boat, I know how hard it is.
Please take good care of yourself, my friend.
Best wishes. 💐
32, feeling the same. I see everyone else coupled up but I can’t find anyone where there is mutual attraction.
@@tehKettyBear It's not really my business, but have you considered arranged marriage? You could ask your parents to find a prospective match for you.
OK let's be honest there's plenty of men I'm sure who would want to be with you but you don't want them
@@ykonratev believe me, I' settled for someone who wanted to be with me and I was attracted to but not in love with, it didn't end well... it has to be mutual.
Yes I’m a guy but you helped me so much going through my breakup. Thank you. And yes I cried during this video. Guys are emotional human beings so be emotional when you want to. We are all equal and we all go through the same pain…
And still this pain connects us all somehow
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Yes. Thank you for sharing this
Sorry about your break-up .You're a man not a robot, you have the right to feel no less than women do. Hang in there.
I agree, I really wish you are feeling better now ❤️
i think ull like this bro. i feel the same way as you describe . sending you lots of love my friend
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I needed this so bad. I was just feeling so depressed about how lonely I feel
Please don't worry. Things will get better soon! Stay positive and happy! May God bless you!
I found out that is very important to like yourself first. I think I like myself but on the other hand I am missing someone to share feelings and things with. I would never step into a relationship for the wrong reason. That is not solving anything in my life. Compromising within a relationship with.someone can only be possible if you are really into someone. Otherwise it does not make any sense. Until that time, het to love yourself and het to do things in faveur of just yourself. I wish you all the best. Love, Gerard.
I feel the same!
Me too! And I’m only 17! I get jealous and lonely seeing all the couples in my school
@@haseenahbegum2718 You're giving him false hope.
Bring single and lonely with lots of love to give; so difficult to find an individual worthy/right to be with~
Lonliness has NOTHING to do with being single
seems harder than ever in this stupid online dating world where you can't seem to meet a person the" normal "way
@@johndonaldson3619 she said she was both single and lonely. Didnt say they were the same but both can occur at once
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True. So damn true.
You could still be in a relationship and still be lonely I think, it’s about having a connection with your partner that’s the most important, I’ve seen couples dining out both glued to their phones and it’s like they are strangers sitting at the same table
So true.
Well said!
This is sooooo true or couples that appear super fake🤦🏽♀. All "smiles" but their whole vibe is way off
@@CiaobellaAmour plenty of them around, social media couples 😂
@@CiaobellaAmour I remember walking by a park and there were a group of people sitting in a circle. I kid you not, they were all staring at their phones. My heart just dropped as I recollected memories where all the elders were busy conversing with each other while us kids were out in the playground having fun. We don't talk anymore, is what I realized, and even if we want to, it's difficult to find someone who wants to have a conversation and consciously prioritizes it often.
I’ve been in a very lonely marriage for 15.5 years. 26 days ago I learned that it has actually been quite crowded. I changed the locks that day and have not seen my husband’s face since.
I come home from work each evening and watch tv and go to bed alone. I feel less lonely now than I ever have.
It is better to be alone with yourself than to be with someone who is ignoring you. 💔
Praying for your healing Darlene 💛✨
@@ParisSantiago Thank you 🙏🏼
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Changing the locks is a very empowering step. You have raised your standards already.
May God grant you peace and happiness in your life! 🙂
Matthew is such a wonderful human being.
I am so grateful for the work you do. I entered a relationship after years of being depressed. That relationship changed my life, and made me happier, as I finally felt like my life mattered and I had a meaning in life. After he broke up with me, after more than four years together, I was terrified that I would get back into the same depression. While I was depressed for a while, and while I still struggle with finding a new way of living out my purpose, your content on youtube has made me change my mindset. Instead of torturing myself, I now comfort myself and try to treat myself as the valuable person I am. Thank you so much❤️
I've turned 30 some weeks ago and damn, it really hit me hard how lonely life can be. Friends of 10 years suddenly left, now I've only high quality people around me, but life still is lonely when everybody around me is in a relationship. Whenever I go out I feel even more lonelier, I dunno know, maybe it'll will get better, maybe not.
I completely understand and feel you. I turned 30 in February and still feel lonely.
I turned 27 four days ago...I think I'm starting to think somewhat similar to u..
I feel you but you will find your purpose. You will find something else to put your love and energy into. It gets better. ❤️
true...society is built around couples and families...for me I feel like being single will force me to give up things I enjoy
It will get better I promise 🤗
I've always been single so I know the feeling of loneliness especially seeing all these couples around and me being stuck in the lonely life. Tonight I decided to hang out with myself and get a drink at a cafe. It felt great but I'm also hoping to learn how to stay with myself before getting out there and making new friends
Matthew left out one important concept after talking about how we have soo much love to give but no person to direct that towards. Direct that love towards yourself! If you don't practice that it may feel strange at first, and like it's not what you want because you want someone else to love. But that's being emotionally unavailable to yourself! Don't treat yourself like the guys who can't love you. Once you direct your energy towards yourself, you can attract a guy who will treat you the same
I was thinking about the same thing... But how do u actually do that in practical steps?
@@Lolstop100 Anytime you find yourself daydreaming about a guy or the future, bring your thought back to the present moment, to yourself and your breath.
Anytime you feel lonely, instead of trying to fill that void with food or substances or casual situations, sit with the loneliness and just be with it. Spend time with yourself.
Take yourself out on dates and don't wait until you have someone in your life to go do something.
Check in with your feelings everyday and journal about them, and don't judge any of them as bad. Let yourself fully express every feeling!
Give yourself hugs and massages and tell yourself how awesome you are, and talk to yourself as if you were your own bf/gf!
Those are just a few tips, but the biggest one is to just live in the present moment. Don't get carried away in your thoughts. This'll help you feel whole and complete on your own!
Magnificent & yes that has to be said🦋 That's the recurring theme of the videos I've watched this week.
@@thehealingfairee thank you for sharing.
I would also add to put God at the center of your life and you’ll realize that you’ll have the best person to connect with when God reveals them to us. God’s timing is the absolute best, but you won’t understand it if you don’t put yourself to get closer to God. He’s changed my life completely.
One of your most personal, poignant videos. Loneliness is very real and pervasive. Thank you Matthew for revealing your vulnerability..
Loneliness is something that affects a lot of us today, Matt is wonderful
Matthew you should do Events where men and women who are following you come together together, i think they would be quite likeminded and some Might find their partner for life
Yes! A self esteem raising cruise! :)
I love this idea. A lot of people haven't done the personal development stuff that Matthew teaches. It'd be so cool to meet a man who is self-aware.
@@LisaGemini personal development is a lifelong process. Always remember that. Just because "you've done the work" doesn't mean you have arrived. 👍🏿
I'm 29. Never had a romantic relationship because I knew I wasn't ready for one. Now that I am at a point in my life when I want to put my efforts into a relationship I have no options. The loneliness I feel causes me physical pain. The thought of going through life alone is unbearable.
Hi, I'm almost the same as you. And what I'm starting to do is going to some events I like so that I can meet people. My two first were online and I'm looking for others real life :)
I feel pain too.. hope we could be friends and support each other.
@@asja4003can you share what kind of events you go to?
@@jan1cem i went to boardgames event once, badmiton games, social drinks once and comic convention once. Maybe I need to go more 😂
@@asja4003I plan on going to a book club.. I love socializing but I feel like so energy drained when the people I meet, I’ll never see again..
“Make the world a little bit less lonely for each other, that saves lives.” I love this, thank you for sharing, Matthew. 🙏🙏
I've been following his page for over 7 years and it's just so comforting
Watching this and reading the comments make me feel less alone in this world. It's tough finding love these days but I believe the right one will come some day.
Authenticity! Vulnerability🍒 Many of us are feeling the same emptiness together. As much as I have fulfillment in many areas, I’ve been without a mate for 13 years. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks for being very open on this one. Spot on❣️
Hello kari❤
Matthew you have been making me cry for TWO WEEKS. There has been a shift in your style and it's much more fitting to me now. Thank you so much.
Damn.... you just hit the nail on the head. Having someone to love is part of the balance of life. Gives you stability and support we all need in life. Love and care we need. 👫 Loneliness feels like excruciating heart wrenching pain. Feels like it tears your heart apart. Fucking hurts. 💔 No one sees the pain behind the mask we all put on. 😢😁💔
Hey Matt. I echo Tanya in my following and my appreciation, so I'm very grateful for her question. We don't even know each other but you are in my inner circle of trusted people because of how you have shown up for me so many times over the years. So when you lead with the vulnerable truth that, "we're all very lonely" it INSTANTLY made me cry because it's a truth I try to shove down. Thanks for always showing up, Matt, and for investing in us with your heart on the outside.
The hardest walk is walking alone, but it’s also the walk that makes you stronger, You are not alone Rebecca, better days ahead keep motivating yourself
Yes very difficult when you are Single and being alone you have Feeling Depression and Emotional We always pray and never give up Thank you Mathew for Sharing 🙏💗
Good subject! At this point in time, I’ve become extremely lonesome and have found myself aware of this.
Who else can relate ✌🏼😉
COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY! We’re all (somewhat) alone in this together❤️
I have known loneliness too well. Had parents with no love or empathy and am still single at 33. But I have given people the love and company and care that i often lacked. We can't control life but what part we can control, we should.
@@LoveByDesign yes. We should prioritize ourselves
I feel you😥
U aren’t alone
This made me tear up because I'm really dealing with this pain on a daily basis nowadays- my fiancé died in January from a cardiac arrest and its been one of the most profoundly developmental and progression focused yet lonely stages of my life. Thank you Matthew for this.
Your videos actually directly or indirectly helps me to deal with my loneliness and reminds me to remain hopeful. Thank you Matthew 😊
I've been feeling down, stuck... this video really put myself back on track! Thank you! 💕
Gosh yes he got it right. I've been trying for 20+ years. I've worked on myself, accomplished alot and yet so can't find anyone decent.
You can see that he is talking from a genuine place.
Thank you Matthew for your work you‘re a great speaker
One of the best talks I’ve heard on this subject. I’ve been preaching for a long time now that there are many of us in this circumstance and we can do enormous good for each other by interacting and communicating with each other just in these types of chat rooms/ forums like this.
So true, most of the time it is not what we can get out of a relationship that makes seemingly wonderful people gather and listen to someone spectacular like Matthew, it's what we know we can give, that got me.
This was such a great conversation. Alot of people are afraid to voice and talk about the loneliness that they are feeling, especially since Covid started.
Very true
Something someone did for me that made me feel less lonely and more connected was that my friends made a commercial/mini-movie for a product I made and surprised me with it. It’s one of the nicest things anyone’s ever done for me.
Secondly, I was on the phone with a friend today who is pregnant, and she said a friend of hers showed up to her house and offered to do any chores she needed - laundry, sweep, babysit the other child so my friend could leave the house. I thought that was way cool.
You’re awesome Matthew!
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
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I couldn't stop crying when you talked about loneliness in our time. You are doing a great job and have been very inspiring to me. Thank you Matthew and lots of love from Germany.
P.S. I hope you would organize your retreat program in Europe and I have the chance to take part. 💚
Wow! You touch me deeply dear; waiting for love to show it's face but it doesn't seem to be found. YOU find resort in your LONELYNESS . 💖
You're never alone. You are by yourself. So you're not alone ❤️
True, yet the thing with the "coffee", one has got the desire to give and receive love...
I cried at your comment, I felt that! Thanks a lot. 🙏💜
That makes no fkn sense
I've been single for almost 5 years after getting out of a toxic, ten year long relationship. The loneliness is always there and has been there. However, I'm still not fully happy with myself, so I'm not ready to be with someone else, but I fantasize about it happening one day. It's so difficult to meet new people these days too.
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
Needed this. My ex messaged me out of the blue (it's been a year since the breakup) and although I don't want them back it's made me feel incredibly alone. Just for a second I held onto the fantasy of giving in and letting them back in...but I know it's not meant to be.
Wow, just wow.
Absolutely blown away by this video. This really touched my heart and I’m not gonna lie, brought a tear to my eyes.
What a beautiful piece of yourself that you bring to the table…a shared sense of togetherness. The ultimate goal, I think.
I too know what it feels like to be lonely and lemme tell ya it’s not fun. I had something happen to me that I feel has changed me so much and I’m working on working past it so that I can have a better present and future but to make things better you gotta work towards it nothing is handed to you.
I can relate to your message so much. Thank you for being so vulnerable, open and authentic. Following you and listening to your advice has made me feel less alone. Especially your confidence challenge, I'm loving the connection to so many like minded people. It's really saved me at a time I'm really struggling with life. Thank you x
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My husband died a few months ago and I feel so very lonely without him. I cannot rely on others because they are simply not available nor would they be able to give me what my husband gave me. He was my best friend and I shared absolutely everything with him. When he was gone in an instant it was devastating. I now need to figure out my new journey on my own with my two little kids. I need to be that beacon of hope for myself and for them. Learn to be alone. That’s it!
I needed this. I’m crying. Thank you Matthew
Thank you for sharing. Yes, I have so much love to give and went through a breakup. I've been doing things to be nice to myself... coffee, haircut, massage, etc. Be nice to ourselves.
I don’t know why but I feel empty and lonely sadness and I’m grateful for this thanks
This video was soothing . I’m feeling so lonely today .
Thank you for your openness and honesty. It was lovely to hear something I have felt but would not have had the right words.
I have never heard somebody articulate so beautifully what i am feeling .. You made me cry 😢.. I feel so lonely I and don’t know how to deal with it but it felt good hear that somebody understands how I am feeling
This was beautiful, Matthew♥️♥️♥️Thank you🙏🏽
in your picture you look like a really good looking guy I can't imagine you being lonely at all!
@UC6HWKL0lbSkzqfmp4ZIIAFg you can be surrounded by millions of ppl and still feel alone but you can be with one person that truly loves you that truly gives a fuck about you and you can feel like you mean something to someone or in other words it's Good to have one true friend then have fake hundreds of friends.
@@barbarawilson3153 that is kind. But I am very single. And struggle with extreme loneliness all the time. Looks can be deceiving♥️♥️♥️
Love the way he answered that question, it got me really deep....
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
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Yeah, Matt is amazing
It's healing to me to listen to you and watching you..
“…if we can make the world a little less lonely for each other… saves lives”
Nice!
The loneliness part got me.. I was just coming from my food shop watching people on a beautiful summer day. And it hit me I don't feel lonely. I feel that there's someone out there for me.
Someone I feel safe around and truly loved.. It makes a massive difference.
I wish you that! 💜
But that's where your loneliness is coming from. If you look outside yourself for that peace you won't ever find it. Look inside you. Just be in this moment. The sun is shining. You're alive and blessed.❤
@@shwetanavani480 that sounds pretty in theory but life is supposed to be spent with people you love for it to be truly fulfilling. One can (and should) love oneself very much but unless you're very self centered or narcissistic, love still needs be shared with other people. Whether it's children, family members etc.. some just want it to be a partner.
@@Predictable1 I know this from personal experience. Love for others means nothing if you don't have a good relationship with yourself. If you are not true to yourself and connected to that highest part of you anything you try to give to others will come off as disingenuous. Also if you don't love yourself how can you expect the other person to love you?
@@shwetanavani480 not every one who wants someone in their life does because of self issues. I have had enough years to myself for growth, learning and being self aware. I know damn well who I am, what I want and what I don't. I have a career, I'm independent. I don't see how does this in any way make me not to want to share my life with someone? If anything i believe it's quite the opposite, people who cannot open up or are afraid of intimacy or cannot connect with others are the ones who struggle the most when they're with someone. That's why you cannot convience me that you'd be happier alone than sharing a true connection and love with someone. And obviously I'm not talking about unhealthy relationships, surely anything it's better than that; Including loneliness.
@@Predictable1 Wise Words!! Screenshoted
Happiness is seeing a notification for Matthew's videos 👐🏽👐🏽😊💕. Oh my goodness your first sentence resonates with me. You always speak to my soul. 🙏🏽 x
i can tell you 12 years of loneliness is brutal. and it doesn't get easier, Thanks for the video's they reminde me I'm not the only one.
Have you met someone?
Today is January 22, 2023 and I needed to hear these words and actually spending time listening to yt on this subject of loneliness. What caught my attention was the amt of deaths during covid and makeshift plots had to be addressed. Survivors had to grieve as a number. What makes me feel lonely exponentially is when questions are not asked? Simple gatherings of going back and forth building on themes. NO NOPE NADA... happens alot as I observe. How are you really doing? Tell me about your sorrow. Tell me about your win, your new baby, your fears and your joy. Listening means the world to me. I'm an excellent listening. Feels lonely love you
Hey you know the kids movie 'Trolls' and Poppy turns grey in the big cooking pot at the end? I feel so sad when she looses her colour:(
Love it when Branch begins to sing to her and her colours come back....hope everyone has someone to cheer em up when they are grey......it's kindness like this where we lift each other up that gives meaning to life....because after the grey is colour again....the grey storm always passes and is usually followed by a rainbow🧚♀️🌈💜😉👍
Matthew this video has made me flood with tears.... because that strong desire to give love resonated with me on the deepest level. I wish for that more than anything. Thank you. Sending you so much love xx
Thank you, Matthew, for what you wonderfully said here in this video. Amen. As a 52-year-old man, living in Rio in a bad marriage to know that others feel that loneliness really helps. God bless you!
That speech was amazing and very genuine. Loneliness is a weird place to be cause it distorts reality if you look at it wrong. Hopefully, we find our person and can give some of that love away and be reciprocated
Humility is sexy AF. Your relatability and down to earth-edness keeps us coming back. 🙏🏼❤️
Hey Matt, thank you so so much for creating that space. It definitely saved my life. Forever grateful ! ♥️
Its funny Months ago i was obsessed watching videos on how i get my Ex back.. but days weeks past i learned how to love my self more by watching all he’s video thank you Matthew. 😘 more power i love all your videos
This gave me goosebumps.
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This is the most authentic I’ve heard him how refreshing
People are afraid of each other anymore. It wasn't always so difficult for people to get togrther.
That, and I think people's mental health has taken a sharp nose-dive in recent times. The few women I do meet are so mentally unstable, and vicious.
3:40 hit me hard... I think and feel like a great person yet I feel this way. Its nice to know that Im not the only one feeling like this
Also big THANKYOU Matthew for being loyal to your viewers by posting a vid this wknd🧚♀️I can feel that you really care about us all💛
Loneliness is a real thing, especially with men in there 20's working full-time right out of high school and no friends.
I'm 38 and dealing with this too
This last few days of my life has been really really lonely for me ,and just today this video popped up... Thank you Matthew
right now I am single & feeling lonely it's the truth
Hi Matthew I first saw you in plane Jane and since then (my teenage years ) until now . You are my absolutely favorite person ever I love your energy ,you’re a such wonderful and caring person you helped me threw a lot of heart breaks and lonely moments ,and I’m sure there’s more girls out there that you helped too .Keep going and I hope god bless you ♥️♥️♥️🙌
I think I’ve been lonely all my life, I’ve stood in rooms full of people and felt so sad and now I’m incredibly lonely, it’s the worst feeling.
You arnt alone.....you may just be shy....that's ok.....and also ask God to simply send you some people who light you up.....also there are always angels around you!!!🧚♀️
I’m unsure how you come to the notion of being shy, I’m far from shy, I’m lonely. Thank you for your kind message. 🙂
@@kellyannnoonan2674 sorry dudette..just thought it may be the case...wild guess....your message saddened me as lonely sux.....I know what you mean though being in a room full of people and you feel lonely.....had this in high school when I didn't fit into any group....hope you feel less lonely in time by God sending you some really awesome people to hang with.....even a wonderful love partner...Will pray 4 you today🧚♀️
Man, I wish I was this good with words, on the spot :)
To be able to express my ideas as naturally as this man does.
Truly a gift!
It's interesting, because I'm so blessed with wonderful supportive friendships, I find that I feel guilty, and or weak in regard to my feelings of loneliness.
That was spot on...the part about wanting to give love to someone, I hadn't thought about it that way.
I am lonely, sometimes incredibly. I'm not desperate. Just sick and tired of doing awesome things alone. I moved to Mississippi and had the worst luck finding quality men. Real men.
Thank you, Matthew, for making this world a better place.
Hello JH❤
This guy spoke everything I'm feeling
I love you Matthew Hussey. Thank u for existing
I struggle with feeling that feeling lonely is a weakness... Admitting that I am feeling lonely is hard because I don't know how to fix it... So I ignore that part of myself
That opening comment of his is so true.
Social media really does make it seem like everyone is living an amazing life. But those are the highlights, and not a true representation of the digital loneliness we face.
The switch to online interactions bolsters the facade of a nice life, but really people are less connected than ever and seek companionship in sequestered pockets of the internet.
It does save lives. Speaking from experience. Thanks for great content!
I am a waitress and the restaurant Im working in has a big garden with screen showing the England-Cze football. After game I had to pick all the plastic cups up off of the ground and a customer came by and started helping me. Im having tough days in my life and her words helped me feel better. Good energy to anyone having tough days in life rn.
Hi ... Sending you alot of love 💕 and positive energy . Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life . He once helped me and can help you too . Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here , this was what really happened to me . he helped me attract ( Jeremy ) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most . Seek his help thanks ..💕💕☺️💕
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You're such a great person Matt, I literally cried
Thank you, may God bless you all and everyone. ❤
Thank you for this sir!
Being alone and Being lonely is different.
thank you Mat. thank you for expanding your brand to more than just dating. i hope to meet you one day and shake your hand and tell you that you have helped me get tru tough times in relationships and in life. thank you.
"If the intent is to make world little less lonely ...u truly have a very beautiful heart & soul." Coz love is all there is...
God bless u 🙏💖
He absolutely hit the nail in the head with his response. Totally agree agree.
So profound Matthew. This spoke volumes to my heart .
You are describing my life. Thank you so much for these beautiful words, Matthew. ♡
I love you Matthew. What a sweet meaningful answer. 🤗
I’m so tired of feeling this way
You're right Matthew; life is not easy.
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I feel so alone since all my friends are now in relationships. I rarely get to see them nowadays compared to before when we used to go on nights out and holidays together. I wish there was an easy way just to meet people in the same position who understand.