Jane Fonda: Life's third act
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- Опубликовано: 3 янв 2012
- www.ted.com Within this generation, an extra 30 years have been added to our life expectancy -- and these years aren't just a footnote or a pathology. At TEDxWomen, Jane Fonda asks how we can think about this new phase of our lives.
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Insightful, brilliant talk. Jane Fonda is the first person I've heard articulate clearly what I've been experiencing in my late 60s and early 70s and what my late husband and I experienced as a couple in our last years together. We turned those into our best, and not because life became easier. My husband was diagnosed with leukemia--the moderate form--8 months before his death and underwent chemotherapy for 6 months before that stopped working. He and I came more alive than ever
Your comment sounds so calm when facing death.
Jane Fonda stole my lines and versed them much better than I. I thought that I was a genius when I figured out this 3rd acts - rebirth by myself at my 60th birthday without getting help from motivational guru such as Anthony Robins. I am so grateful in coming across her TED talk. It assures me that I am in the right direction on my journey in longevity revolution.
It is so true about the age. Age now has a new meaning. I am enjoying myself at 54. I feel that I have not reached my potentials yet. There are so many things to do in life. The end of pursuit of happiness is to the day we die. Thank you Jane. BTW, I used to have my oil paintings displayed in a gallery next to your work out place in Beverly Hills. You have been my inspiration, so is your father. He is such a great actor. Best wishes.
Yes, I’m 61 . My mother once told me that you get 6 decades of being an adult once you become one at 20. When your 50 your only half way through your adult life. Not even that if you live beyond 80 and women live 5 yrs longer than most men. So your only 4 years into second half of your adult life. I enjoyed my first 20 but I’d never want to repeat those years. It’s tough being 13. Each year things could’ve gone another way like a parent dying or divorce. I had parents that cherished the four of us,never argued, looked forward to being together when dad came home. I know most families are not like this. Was I lucky, sure but imagine going out in to the world coming from a home like this. I was unprepared for being with disagreeable unhappy people. I couldn’t figure out evil. I was a mark for my generous nature but I learned to hold on to my spirit. This is the wisest 11 minutes one could ever encounter, thank you Jane.
Well worth hearing this, particularly about resetting neurological pathways to lift the spirit up, to heal sad pasts...
We have to understand how to live until we die... not an easy thing when the clock is ticking. But I have been inspired by some critically ill people and also from women who are in their nineties...people more vital and alive, more authentic than many younger ones..
As I approach my 70th year, I still need positive role models...so thankyou Jane Fonda!
I love this, makes so much sense and being a woman in my late fifties, makes so much sense
I always liked Jane Fonda! Thank you for such an insightful and wonderful talk at TED!!!
I am in my mid-forties and I am starting to think about some of this things. I is good to listen to her thoughts so clearly.
I read Jane Fonda My Life So Far. She is willing to share her life experiences most of which were extremely difficult in an effort to help others. I wish to say Thank you to her.
It is a touching speech I think. Thank you Fonda for your wise review of variant materials and your experience. This really resonates with me. The best gift of our humans is active thought, which means we can get well with our spirit world without the inference of others if we want to do.
This Ted Talk was superb! Thank you, Jane!
I always watch this is my birthday month comes along! So inspiring and real.
This was a wonderful, inspiring talk. Thank you, Jane Fonda!
She's fabulous, I've always thought so , even back in the 60's ! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Brilliant.. Jane you have verbalised what I have been feeling. Thank you so much❤
Beautifully said! Love Jane!
Well said with lifetime wisdom that we all need at any stage of our life
Yay Jane! Jane I just watched your "letter to yourself" and this video. I have watched many of your interviews and videos. They have given me much hope Jane. Thank you for sharing your life. It has made a great difference to my life/spirit. Thank you**
Excellent. It accords with the research into adult stage development which shows that we don't stop growing in adulthood; we are not fully formed by the age of 21, or 31, or even 41. Growth continues, particularly in the deeper arenas of wisdom, capacity to take multiple perspectives, and spiritual depth. Anyone over 40 can look back at their life and see the growth that has occurred and can understand that more will occur. Ken Wilber does a great job of explaining this in A Brief History of Everything.
Finally! The audience is properly responding to the speaker. The audience of the past TED videos did not give enough due reaction to the speakers.
BEYOND EXCELLENT, as in all things you do Jane.
Deeply-felt as everything Jane does.
Jane Fonda What do you say but thank you for your service God bless you and keep you and make his face to shine upon you
Fantastic. You speak for so many of us. Thank you!
I'm a 23 year old man who have this experience for the moment - if you go back an reflect about how your parents were to you when you were child, you will (except for the perfect childhood dream vision) find that a lot of thoughts that you had going through your mind, as a child, were your parents way of seeing life - but through your eyes. A lot of parents try, mostly unknown to them selves, to project their own wishes for their child through their parenting. They don't know better - know U do.
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Thank you Jane for the hope you give me. Love, Claire
Jane Fonda ROCKS!!! I love the idea of aging and become even wiser and happier! Thank you
Jane Fonda is an amazing person. I enjoyed her talk and thought it was interesting and informative and targeted to her audience.
The issues to cover as we live longer are two-fold. First, we must find ways to maintain our health as we age, for more years in our elderly stages can mean more daily pains and ailments. Second, the other thing with which we must come to grips is that we'll have to work longer before retiring. Living longer naturally assumes we will need to save more money to retire.
Excellent - I enjoyed Jane's thoughts and reminded me of so many ways I can be better in my 60's....
Thank you Jane !! ~♡
great video!! Thank you so much!!!
Thank you, love & light
Brilliant Talk! Very insightful. Thank you Jane!❤️
i really enjoyed her speech. a lot of wisdom in it. great job.
Thanks Jane Fonda this the greatest speech I have listened. May be being in the third act myself I was so attached to it and listening again and again sometimes. Thanks to give ideas about women feelings and what we are going through emotionally with aging:) and life reviewing must be done time to time I guess, May be at those times I will listen again.
Thanks to Ted for recording and spreading the video.
WOW that was an amazing speach i really enjoyed listening to Jane. It is so true we can do this and make a change to our world💖💖
I just saw this and change the way i think about my own life, thanks for give me another perspective of my relationship with myself, a better one.
thank you Jane!!
She speaks of choosing to forgive ourselves and others in her speech. Let us choose to forgive ourselves and others. It is the only way to truly find peace in the world. The peace we all truly want.
Inspirational, thank you.Just starting my 3rd act.
Same . And I could use the help as to what to expect .
Wisdom in words. Thanks, Jane. Brilliant.
Great perspective
this was a a good speech thanks :)!
I'm 24 and I began reviewing my life at age 19 because I experienced abuse as a child. I hope that doesn't mean this is my third act... perhaps everyone has different purposes in our different acts of life.
It might just be part one of your third act. Each act has at least three parts, and they're often not even chronologically ordered. Sometimes we must return to the first act to learn again to be like a child, open-minded, trustful, happy, full of life, hope and dreams, which we often lost along the way to our second act, and not by our own, conscious choice, but to survive things like abuse or desertion, which we have no control over. We closed off. Time to open up. To ourselves as much as to others. Each human is truly worthy of her or his own empathy for her or his own flaws, and equally, worthy respect for her or his own strengths. The essence of life is us.
Wonderful
I agree, she looks amazing, and wait, that's just the outside!
absolutely brilliant and beautiful! You are the greatest Jane Fonda! I love you 💕
@JOSEtheHELPER Thanks for explaining it!
She is so smart...i always love everything she has to say...a Goddess among Men!
@creadev I don't know enough about her to know whether or not she is up to the task of understanding physics and/or biology.
All I know for sure is that I've always been madly in love with Barbarella!
If I found the talk to be a little airy-fairy I also found it to be upbeat and encouraging. This may, however, be because I will turn 50 later this year.
"The days have gone down in the West behind the hills into shadow. How did it come to this?" - Theoden
The negative comments made here say more about the persons making the negative comments than it does about Ms. Fonda. It must be a terribly heavy burden to carry that much hate directed at someone they don't even know.
You'd think they'd let it go. The 'Hanoi Jane' incident was 45 years ago. Richard Nixon seems to get less hate today for carpet-bombing civilians. The Vietnam War was a tragedy all around. It's time to move on!
Jane Fonda was right to protest against what was going on in Vietnam. She was caught wrong-footed in a media trap with that Hanoi Jane affair. Eventually millions of Americans tired of the slaughter in VN and the US withdrew, leaving the country destroyed and millions of people's lives destroyed. She is a convenient scapegoat.
I have never been a fan of jane fonda but this video is extremely good
Love it! We must take a different look at age
Totally agree . I don't want to wear an old age straight jacket either .
Jane Fonda thinks deeply and brilliantly about a great many things. It is wonderful to see how she evolves.
Why is everyone so focused on this being a TedxWomen talk?
I liked it! The content was interesting! Isn't that more important?
What a great speech ❤
cont 2...
Thomas Paine, in the beginning of "Common Sense" states that a lot of things considered "right" in culture are only considered right because for so long they've been considered "not wrong."
Those aren't presumptions I'd take, and in fact, I reject them because the prevailing "purpose of life" ideas where I live are Christianity based, and I reject the idea of a promise of eternal life.
She's talking about aging and her point is good, because she is talking about herself and her own experiences and reflections. It does not necessary means it's a life formule for everybody. She is there (third act) and it's her insight.
إن استطعنا تعريف أنفسنا فذلك يساعد في إعادة تعريف العالم🌸
Interesting video...
P.S.
I loved her at the beginning of her “second act” when she was in the movie Barbarella...
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As a devout feminist... I have to agree with you. I'm sick and tired of all of these "for women" events undermining the whole thing. Bah!
On a side note, she has a fantastic voice. I really could listen to her all day.
An amazing person who makes such a powerful example for the world and women. An exemplar.
We all gain (or should gain) wisdom as we age.
I recommend it.
Yes we do . And we all won't become senile , so that's wisdom that can be used somewhere .
I'm glad she said this .
very thought provoking and worthwhile
@Stonegoal For one, she talked about spirit, not neural and physical health. Secondly, the way you are going to be once you are old, depends greatly on how you live your life. You can't avoid decay completely, but people can remain much more functional if they keep them selfs active through their whole life. Thirdly, second point does not relate to the "spirit" in any account, unless we talk about people who suffer from neural degradation that seriously handicaps normal brain function
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@ukenovice Good points!
I don't quite understand why people are disliking the video. I don't intend to imply that they are stupid or anything I would just like to better understand their reasoning. Yes the ending was a bit uncomfortable for me but I found no issuses with the message of the video.
Me ha encantado, que mujer mas sabia!
This applies to men also..but it's nice for women to have their own forum too sometimes :)
Remember, this is a lecture on POSITIVE THINKING and releasing negative energies!!
I love how guys are responding they're 'infuriated' women have a conference to discuss. Men and businessmen and scientists etc have had their own conferences/meetings/clubs/places of learning and creating without women for years. Regardless, don't have a fit - you're still seeing the videos here. Women collaborating and talking and having space to do so is nothing but a good thing.
As much as I don't agree with Jane,I also disagree with some of you. The beauty of TED Talks is that everyone has the potential to change the world and that all who have a different point of view are welcome to add their two cents. Personally, I went through that "family" analysis a long time ago and decided that once I turned 20,whatever decision I made was my own and not dictated by family or friends.I also believe on not going gentle into that good night. It is great that we don't all agree.
Life shouldn't be separated into phases of age, there are two phases, learning and non-learning, and they are chronologically irrelevant. Reflecting and forgiving the past is not something which is only possible when you're over the age of 50, it's possible when a person accepts the action of forgiveness as possible.
@leconfidant
"Experience is itself a kind of knowledge."
Experience is an event... you've done something. From doing that thing, you gain knowledge. It's not experience that makes good at something, it's the knowledge you gain from repeated experience. You've demonstrated that in your own examples. To quote you: "I don't know many people who are good at making love who haven't done much of it."
Experience without gaining knowledge means you won't be any better next time.
cont 2...
Experience is still about gaining knowledge even if the knowledge is a little more abstract than "This is "A." A has these properties."
No matter what, to be wise about something still requires knowledge, even if gaining that knowledge requires just going out and having an experience.
@leconfidant
"Developing wisdom... also adjusting my attitude and self-identity to those facts."
This sounds exactly what I've been talking about all along... Wisdom is an application of knowledge. Wisdom can lead to more knowledge, but it's still based on the application of knowledge. You add more facts, you apply them and adjust your views. This leads to more experience/knowledge, and you apply that as more wisdom.
Thank you Jane. Totally inspiring.... Love you for the generous wisdom you are sharing ....Peace love and happy climbing the stairway of wisdom.....
She is wonderful, one shouldn't stand up for their country simply because it is their country if it is doing bad things.
@leconfidant
"What do you do when you don't know what to do?"
Even this I consider to be an application of knowledge though based on what you did in a different situation in which you didn't know what to do.
What worked? Asking someone else? Consulting a manual? Trial and error? What you choose is still based on a sort of knowledge of what works well for the type of situation.
As usual from TED it was an illuminating and interesting talk, not what you would expect from Jane Fonda. Who cares if she got entropy wrong it didn't detract from her story.
Something I've been trying to communicate to people for a long time.
WOW! she's 74! she looks fantastic!
lisa nova already talked about this with Jane
@pkiriakou doing the work
I really hoped I was going to like this. But I'm left with nothing good to say. The world is full of old men and women who are doing grand and wonderful things. There is no need for a condescending pep-talk. Young and old alike either do or don't. ie. Betty White could have been more inspiring, just stood there saying "look at me."
Verry Good ! Wise women.
My heart goes out to you and your father. It is most unfortunate that he is part of the 1/3rd (and that's a bunch) that will not have a chance to restart the button. As Ms Fonda stated, it is 2/3rd's genetics that give us a fighting chance as we all age. Peace out
@UniversalRee "Wishful thinking and pop psychology."
There was a bit too much of that, yes, but I liked the underlying sentiments.
*A lot of parents try, mostly unknown to them selves, to project their own wishes for them selves to come true through their parenting.
WHY 'DISLIKES'? why on earth?!
@KemaTheAtheist Thank you!
The gift, On Golden Pond for her father Henry Jaynes Fonda
@AlanKey86 TED as an organisation didn't come up with this idea, this is an independently organised as the background will tell you.
why would you leave the video and comment first second third
that's sad
Jane is an incredible example of not only climbing that staircase she speaks of, resetting that thermostat, and leading the change she wants to see in the world. I had the honor of meeting her once, she walks the talk.
I thought it was a wonderful talk. It is normal that not everyone agree with her, but I guess the main reason so many people are leaving nasty and insulting comments is the fact that what she is saying is disturbing: the idea that one can choose to live (or not to) differently and that it takes courage, faith and commitment. it is so much easier to just to be passive and feel like all is fate, bad genes, or bad luck...
That's right!
I think the 3rd act starts at 50 for most people. There are exceptions, but most are done by 75.
@hexapod2000 I think what she is saying is that first: you grow up. Second: you have kids, and third: you are still there. Hanging around not doing much..
I'm not afraid of getting old. By that time I won't have to give a shit about anything - that's easy!
Wow... I am already in my "3rd act" as she describes it and i am 30.