A hilarious celebration of lifelong female friendship | Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin
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- Опубликовано: 18 янв 2016
- Legendary duo Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin have been friends for decades. In a raw, tender and wide-ranging conversation hosted by Pat Mitchell, the three discuss longevity, feminism, the differences between male and female friendship, what it means to live well and women's role in future of our planet. "I don't even know what I would do without my women friends," Fonda says. "I exist because I have my women friends."
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This might sound silly, but as a young woman, I look at these two and can finally see through the veil of ageism in our culture. These women are beautiful and strong, and wear their age well. They inspire me to live in a healthy and cheerful way and help me to recognize that life doesn't cut off after 30, or 50, or even 70. There is always more to look forward to and it can get better instead of worse.
watch Grace and Frankie. they are hilarious.
Miranda Lorett. I'm glad you think so. Of course. Aging Is A Privilege.
~X🌾🌸🌿X~
Miranda Lorett, “even 70” 😂😂😂
A lot of our ageism is from living location transient lives driven by college and job relocating.
Gone is Gram lives either across town, or living in the same house.
We're also living silo'ed, by age, by income and by profession.
Gone is everyone from President/VP, to white collar, to manufacture, to janitor, in the same building. Zero relationship between the groups now, splayed across the country if not the planet.
We're going to have to fix what we've broken, what you've inherited.
Straight out of the movie Animal House, We f'ed up, we trusted them.
It’s not silly it’s a wonderful insight! They r ageless role models. Imagine if young people acted more like these two- refined, yet silly, demure, yet always youthful. A perfect balance without the ignorant attention seeking falseness of modern youth
I began searching about them after i’ve watched GRACE AND FRANKIE. They have changed my melancholic view of life being old. I suddenly realized that am still young at 53 and can be vivacious! I want more tv series of them😍
Me too!! Let's demand more mature entertainment. I'm sooo tired of shows featuring abuse of women as entertainment---such as the cop shows...Law and Order, etc.
Lōla Nenet Tacusalme oh yes! Wouldn’t that be wonderful
What I have always admired about their friendship throughout the years have always been one of l9ve and respect. Also, the power of female friendships are a bond that is everlasting!!
Ricardo Silva well, maybe because in my workplace, i am the oldest being 53 back then. But now that i am 55 and not working because i was locked down here in my country, i feel so young with my grown ups children and two grandbabies😍 thanks for reminding me, i’m not that old yet😍
me 2!!!
I love Grace and Frankie even more after watching this. Their relationship on screen seems quite reflective of their real friendship :)
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They r both married in real life
Definitely 👏🏽😂
You can see how they embody exactly what they’re saying in their own friendship with each other. They’re incredibly candid but respectful, kind and caring for the other. Their body language alone shows how comfortable they are with each other and how much kindness and love is in their friendship. Female friendship is such a blessing indeed ❤️
I so admire Lily & Jane's longtime, deep & funny friendship. Such icons.
Forestkaat Prescott Same here.
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I’m a gay male and I think gay males have friendships like women do. I feel we don’t worry about our masculinity as much as straight men but I’ve noticed that there are straight men who are starting to evolve and i think it’s great. Thank you Jane and Lily.
I agree with you. that would make for a powerful conversation...or maybe that's just me and you.
Yeah. I’m also gay and I think that my closest friends are all my female friends and I appreciate them so much.
Older women have so mutch to give too us younger women and we should listen. I respect these two so mutch and I hope I am just as active and cool at their age
Isabella M ..yes,we should listen because we have mutch to learn!:)
yes! ✨✨
This is awesome. a friendship based on pure, unadulterated sarcasm.
This kind of friendship comes over time.
These women have given older women a new landscape and I for one, am enormously grateful to them both. The layers of this friendship that we watch evolve in their later years, encourage us all to keep going and remain open to changing no matter how old we are. Thank you both with all my heart.
I could listen to these ladies speak for hours!
that's what I've been doing for hours on youtube
Me too! I love this ladys!
Yess
I could also listen for hrs. Jane and Lily are Fabulous 💗 so inspiring, intelligent, strong, funny and Beautiful. Here's to The Sisterhood ✌☮
I'm 20 years old and these two amazing woman have become my inspiration, my feminist role model... Love them!!
As a middle age man, I really can't argue with what they are conveying. Some might call BS, but I believe Jane when she said she has empathy for men in general. The truth hurts sometimes, but it is what it is.
"When you empower a woman, you empower a nation." ~ Queen Rania
my empowered mother beat the &#$@ out of me. as did the stepmother.
Lily and Jane have aged beautifully, they are such smart, funny women. It was an absolute pleasure watching this interaction.
with the help of plastic surgery
One reason Jane Fonda has aged well is because she's had a lot of cosmetic surgery. No judgement. But it's something to be considered.
Tami Lou Sweet BEEPs! ~X🌾🌸🌿X~
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I love them both. They are very beautiful ladies.💟💟
It's crazy how much they're like their characters. I love it 😂
Discovering these actresses through Grace & Frankie has been reassuring. I love Jane Fonda & Lily Tomlin and how they are paving the way for women.
This was very inspirational and heartwarming. Not a word of spite or bitterness, just words of encouragement, compassion and wisdom. These two women are absolute legends!
Two beautiful women who share so much. I love you both and thank you for all the joy!
I want a FRIEND like Lily. She's definitely a HOOT! 😺👍
Does anyone picture jane fonda as their grandmother
I greatly enjoy listening to Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda. They both are so smart, and talented, and involved with life.
Okay this is the best video ever on RUclips
Brilliance!!!
@@jimmyblais1502 I bahut yaad hai mujhe bahut ijjat hai aapko bolo Sahab hai mein baat kar tu mala se bhai sahab
Raghu bhai kya karenge
True!!!
OMG! She was talking about renewable energy and fossil back in 2015! And she said that women were a renewable source of energy. I wonder how many book she reads in a week. I wonder if she reads more than one book at the same time.🤩🤩That lady just rocks!
Lighten up, people. Men and women have different kind friendships, studies have been done, yes, there are exceptions...but for those who are baby boomers, it has been a bit of a wild ride. These women are talking about female friendships, which has been proven to help us remain healthier and live longer. Be thankful to the women who paved the path before us, I had to protest to wear pants to public school. Think about that for a moment...and think about being told to sit down little lady, because a boy had something to say...lets honor the brave women who spoke out, giving the women of today the right to stand in equality, to be a chef, a doctor, or whatever they dream of becoming. As the Dali Lama has said....he believes Western Women will save the world, I do too. WE RISE.
Thanks for the pants!
I was actually asked in a job interview why wasn't I wearing a dress?!
I can feel the love here. This is great. And as Jane said, she's got tons of friends. She doesn't need the approval of any utube haters. She's just fine. God bless these two icons. They deserve the utmost respect.
I am female, i have an female acquaintance who has 300+ friends on Facebook, has tried to tell me more than once, “you need more Facebook friends,” she either can’t or won’t understand that i prefer quality over quantity.
One friend has been there for me for 35+ years, others not nearly as long.
I value all of them.
Masculinity is a very fragile thing in most men. The only people who are going to find issue with what they're saying are the men that they're talking about in the first place.
Andrew Shearin Facts
right. and it should not even be a thing.
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Vrai ... ♡
I wholeheartedly and completely agree with everything Jane Fonda said - absolutely incredible - what an intelligent and insightful human being
No wonder they have such chemistry on Grace and Frankie, they truly are very good friends in real life, I love that show.
Frankie And Grace Showed Me That The Way I Feel At 71 Is Not Rare Or Weird!! We As Older Women Should Not Keep Ourselves Locked Into What Others Expect Us To Be. This Only Serves To Stifle Our Potential. Frankie And Grace Is A True Inspiration For Us All!! I Never Laughed So Hard And So Long While Watching This Utterly Hilarious, Down To Earth Series!! Jane Fonda And Lily Tomlin Are Now My Adopted Sisters, Even Though They Dont Know It. I Love Them So Very Much!! Thanks Girls, For Your Great
Effort To Show Us What Really Matters In Life!! I Couldnt Agree More!! Bless You Both!!
omg when lily whacked janes knee reflex spontaneously i love her
I loved this. Two great women and I love Grace and Frankie!
I appreciate how Pat Mitchell gives Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin the opportunity to talk and express themselves, to allow the conversation to go wherever they want; because of that, this is one of the best interviews I've seen with Fonda and Tomlin.
the comment section for this video is disgusting and i'm so shocked at all the negativity from small minded idiots who think everything has to be about men. I value all of my female friendships so much, they mean more to me than anything because they are full of understanding and compassion. I can tell my female best friends anything and i feel a deep connection that is something i will never take for granted.
+Miss Shy I totally agree.
thank you
+Miss Shy Hmm... women have told me that most women don't make good friends when they're younger. Too catty.
Pamela Tammi Eh I think it depends on age range. Same for men, older men don't tend to make good friends because they are too jealous of each other.
+Miss Shy For people to disregard the conversation here is really sad. You clearly have a loving spirit. Stay true to that. Don't read the comments here. :)
I remember Lilly from laugh-in when I was a teen, she is hilarious!Jane is a good actress and a very lovable person. I'm so happy they have such a close friendship.
This comment section has become its own unofficial study of how people can hear the same words and glean completely different meanings from it. My personal interpretation is that we, each and every one of us, are born with the capacity to share the same kind of relationships with each other as anyone else, regardless of gender, social class, etc. All that changes once outside forces begin to act on us, be those forces patriarchal, matriarchal, religious, economical, or fill in the blank. For us to deny that these outside forces exist is a bit ludicrous. If anything, all the comments I've read are proof that the force is strong with many commenters.
+kfedup27 Lol yes. Ironic isn't it.
I agree. We heard the same message. It’s like racism or prejudice. Little kids don’t care. We love each other. We become influenced by society and that’s when prejudice arises. The macho attitude or the I am just a woman or whatever comes out. Without the negative influences of society, we would all possibly be more compassionate and loving people of everyone including ourselves regardless of our differences. But then life maybe a little boring I suppose. 🤔
Very wise comment
kfedup27 I felt it was uplifting and supportive of close female friendships. But Lily said women have been marginalized and have not been studied much. That’s a load of garbage. Women haven’t been studied ? Cmon..... just trying to get status through the group identity politics hierarchy of victimization. Like .... we’re not black but we are suppressed women. How Rediculous.
@@youtuber6185 I think she was specific though and said that studies hadn't been done on how stress effects women, only on how stress effects men...the really interesting bit being that it seems to add longevity for females, whereas the opposite was true for men. That's what I thought they were saying anyway. Certainly women have been prominent in studies of other areas.
I was just thinking about these women!!! I grew with Jane Fonda; she has done so much and is doing so much for women all around the world of every race and sexual orientation!!! I would take the teasing of men in this video not seriously. Definitely age is a factor here, and the work that has been done by these women and inspired these women and their networks are huge! So instead of being saddened by what seems to some like an end of era, join in the celebrations of the achievement of these women: Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin and all the women who are empowering themselves whether single, single-parents, married with kids or without kids, grandmothers, great grandmother etc. etc. Kairos is here and now!!! Thanks!!
I miss my tribe and desperately need one. As a single woman, never married and not able to have kids...your left out and looked down on. I miss good female friends.
Leigh Sheets i know how you feel,it must be really hard but i hope you will connect with your old friend or get a new friend :)
Leigh I wish I knew where you were. We could be friends. Travel and cut up together, movies, dinner, talk. I live in ATL metro area.
Reach out, Leigh and find new friends to talk with and do activities with. I recently had a falling out with my sister, my best friend - and I am devastated. I never did have many close girlfriends, and now - especially as I grow older! and have had to move! I find myself more and more isolated, and depressed. This video only underscored my loneliness. I intend to reach out, myself, and try to establish new and lasting friendships, and hope that somehow my relationship with my sister can be repaired. God bless.
Is there a place we can come together and pool resources like inspiring books, ideas and compassion? We can build each other up and grow together
If your old ones forgot you when they had families they weren't really good friends to start with. Selfish. I say look for new REAL good friends
I think many straight men spend too much time on being hard, straight, macho macho, to live the straight macho way. It takes alot of energy. This also causes women to have to be a false imitation of themselves to impress the men. I enjoy what these loves are saying. I bet if straight men could soften a bit, the women would teach them alot.
I think you might really like a book by Dr. Terry Real called I Don't Want to Talk About It. My husband stumbled
on this, and said he wishes every man on the planet could read it...
William Joseph Smith III This has been said for many generations.
William Joseph Smith III You sound like a great guy!
Ive been married, divorced; have brothers and uncles, etc. the BEST man I ever knew was my grandfather. He’s the only man who NEVER lied to me or let me down. I’m 72 and now have to go to an attorney to have a brother “do right by me.” Promises only go so far! Talk is oh so very cheap!!!!
Robin Holbrook unfortunately I have been shown the same dishonesty from everyone. It still hurts me to know that what you said is so true.
I love Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda!
How refreshing! Their humor, their personality, their honesty, their strength, their friendship. It reminds me that beauty is there, at any age, and to do all that’s in your power to remain healthy and age healthily. It takes some luck, and a lot of work, but it’s worth giving it our best.
Lily's smile makes me smile every time. She is so cute! Ageless. What a powerful duo!
Badass women! I'm 30 and I asked my friend who happens to be 60-what advice would you tell your 18 year old self if possible and she said you are judged by the company you keep.
My life is incredibly enriched because I have support from strong women who are also open and willing to share their experiences. (Grace & Frankie is an amazing show!)
I have male friends who have said I wish guys had the friendships that 2 women can have. I love my male friends.
These iconic women have really nailed it on women's friendships. My life wouldn't be worth living without the women in it.
Hi Suzan hope you’re okay?
"i have my friends, therefore i am" reasonated so deeply with me. i too would be nothing without my women friends :')
If men were able to maintain friendships with each other as these 2 have described as women, the world would be a whole lot better place to live in.
I've seen many men keeping these kind of friendship and I am a woman.
@@marias7599 I'm a guy, and a gay one at that, and I don't see it. Maybe it's cultural.
Couldn't agree more with you ..
This beats any lecture, any day!
❤️🌹👍👩❤️💋👩
I can't believe Jane is nearly 80... she looks amazing
Great plastic surgeon...but she does has great bone structure and would look great without it.
Lily is only about a year younger. Amazing.
If I would have the funds available to take ballet clases yoga special foods and exercises I will look the same very young looking unfortunately I had to work raised my children try to supply education home care attend to My husband busy with children activities girls scouts Indian maiden ballet classes gymnastics swimming and all the activities as a parent must participate in the children activities
I don’t have a nany to care and me take care of me
@@terrytepper3306 I'm so sorry you are so bitter.
I hope time eases that.
@@jkinzel5979 Jane hasn't had nearly as much plastic as a Kardashian or a Jenner and she's 80. She admits to some turkey neck touch ups and some to stay working, but she by no means has gone to the extent the latter mentioned have.
I love so many points they hit in this interview. the patriarchy, consumers, rights, all of it. I'm always talking about this! right on ladies!
Watching this now in 2023, their transparency and wisdom shone through. Strong encouragement!! So thrilled Fonda and Tomlin are still going strong. Pat Mitchell did a great job of not interrupting and letting them both share.
These two are hysterical together!
Team Lavender shares Jane and Lily's vision for a 3rd wave of Feminism! THANK YOU both for using your voice and leadership to help change the world for the better.
I can see why the chemistry is so good on grace and frankie. ..they know and love each other so well that they are just acting as their selves. ..2 beautiful women with beautiful souls. .we should all be so happy and well rounded
Oh, these women are so funny! and their friendships are true and obvious! Loved this one!
YES! Renewable energy! Wonderful to see them!
Hi Cynthia hope you’re okay?
i think this is great. its not sexist its an exaggerated joke to highlight a problem for men (culturally expected machisimo). how is it not good to address issues so embedded in the culture? rather than a lighthearted tone would a somber one be preferable? she even explained that our relationship need is equal @ birth, suggesting a societal issue. in addition the video is a celebration of female friends. although i do think the quality of male friendship should not be disparaged for being different.
+Namaka Lis "Feminism" is bigotry the same as racism at this point. It needs to be wiped out and exterminated with the rest of the antiquated, hateful ideas it's associated with.
+Namaka Lis
Sort of like its not sexist its an exaggerated joke to highlight a problem for woman (culturally expected femininity). You know like mothers forcing their girls to play with dolls, wear makeup and high heels. ;)
+TehBrackShiip i can't speak for other's actions + idk what the feminists in your life tend to do, but it IS a problem.
+John Doe i dont think making a video celebrating their female friends supports teaching men to suppress their emotions? though they didnt really do anything that could benefit the issue either.
+TehBrackShiip then they aren't real feminists imo .
The chemistry between the two of them is wonderful.
It is heart-warming seeing them endearing each other so fondly.
Truly a wonderful interview.
Two monumental women. Cheers!
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@cathy smith she was protesting the Vietnam war like most people at the time. she was trying to make a statement that these people are human beings in a war just like America. Yes she took it too far and she made a mistake. Whether she had done it or not there would have still been the war and the deaths. She did a lot for the liberation of American women. Just because you are holding on to that one mistake, doesn't make her a traitor.
These two r priceless. They r gold together n i enjoy learning from them
Love them both. Always have. I so remember Lily on laugh-in. The telephone operator and the child in the huge chair.
I absolutely adore Lily Tomlin. What a mentor! What an iconic woman.
Have always loved Jane Fonda. She's strong, a trailblazer, an inspiration, and so very talented! She's always been so forthcoming & owned her revelations in life.
Yes Jane , Lily and Pat. Keep putting it out there. We are listening.
I have always loved them both. I sure hope they make a 9-5 sequel because I'll be first in line. Just watched the original the other day and it's as relevant now as it was then. These ladies are the best! Truly. #goals.
I love these two women, natural comedians. And beautiful and graceful!. 😘😘😘😘
Excellent interview. Thank you.
I absolutely adore Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin...what a friendship they have and I love all their insights into female worthiness and the importance of females in the world at large...it would be amazing to be their friend.
More people need to watch this! Share it with your friends and family. SO MUCH KNOWLEDGE in 15minutes!
Jane really gets passionate about our planet. She’s an excellent speaker..
Hi Sandra hope you’re okay?
IDK about most guys. I cry, hug, and get open and emotional with all my guy friends. This is mainly because of the stereotype that men don't have meaningful relationships that I do this, but it also makes me a better friend overall.
RiNickulous You are in a current wave of new thought about how men can/should be. A lot of hard work by men and women went into making that. I'm happy it resulted in a new world like this. The fight back from the right is the old way fighting the new way. Hang in there and keep on.
RiNickulous Men have had more heart problems and health problems because men were told to suppress emotions and unfortunately still do. It is good that you feel free to express your feeling. It’s good for your health.
Great interview. I don't know if it's a regional thing (I live in Seattle), but I see a lot of those male tropes changing. Everybody hugs, which is still strange to me, and I overhear them having pretty interesting conversations about women, racism, homophobia. It's cool, I must say.
Praise God my husband is a real man who shows his affection and emotions. He was raised by his mother, and she did a terrific job. So blessed to have a man who loves his family so openly. We only have daughters, but if we had had a son, I know he would have raised him to be kind and caring. We need more men like this.
Thanks Jane for the great expression of how we all, men and women, need to be allowed to be vulnerable. Lily, yes we need to do something different.. Thank you you wonderful women!
I just love these 2! Thanks for this TED TALKS!
These two are wonderful in "Grace and Frankie!" The older I get, the more I relate to the experiences of the two characters. I've watched every episode twice because it makes me smile and laugh. I am excited for season 6.
Hi Lisa hope you’re okay?
i grew up laughing, learning and being heart-warmed by Ms. Tomlin. Love her.
Remarkable ladies individually, world changing as a duo
Damn didn't expect Jane being so informed, she's amazing! And Lily is too funny
I was lucky to meet Lily Tomlin at a park in LA while she was filming a movie. Such a nice and down to earth lady. Loved the experience ❣️
I love these women so very much!! Im 43 and watched Grace and Frankie all seasons 4 times!! powerful on and off stage. Thank you Jane and Lily for your inspiration.
oh my gosh, they're like Grace & Frankie for real
Thank you Ladies for sharing.
They're so freaking amazing, inspirational and funny. I absolutely LOVE Jane and Lily. I never anticipated devouring Grace and Frankie at the rate I did. These two and Sam blow that show out of the water for me. I have NEVER before binge watched an entire season in 1 day. They are just brilliant, talented women.
I love them. Jane and Lily look amazing! Besides the looks what they talk about is so true! Bravo!!
These two share a wonderful chemistry in Grace and Frankie. I didn't know they were close friends.
I love them. Lilly was an idol of mine growing up. She's so funny. Jane too! That show is amazing.
I love their intelligence and their humor, and I love it that men are becoming increasingly open to expressing themselves. I think, too, of the great friendships I have seen between men. I have five superb women friends and I can so relate to what these three women are speaking of.
Hi Susan hope you’re okay?
I love them! they remind me so much of my friends and I. always goofing on each other and having such deep, life affirming, transformative conversation and connections. there's nothing like it. I love them so much and so deeply and I see it in Lily and Jane too and it fills me with so much!
Thank you ladies for helping me embrace my aging. You have no idea how much I adore you. XO
i do like these two together on their netflix show! I only hope Dolly Parton guests stars along the two actresses
I quite enjoy that Jane spoke directly to the ways in which men are _socialized_ into manly being (as women are also _socialized_ into womanly being).
Moreso, I love Lily saying that men get comfortable in patriarchy.
It’s this friction between self and structure (culture, capitalism, nationalism, etc.). Men don’t only need to start working on themselves and the ways they build/feed/benefit from patriarchy, but there is also a much larger fight (a fight to dismantle structure and reimagine worlds) that we all (men, women, non-binary, genderqueer, and so on) need to come together to join.
I lost my grace, years ago, n fonda reminds me of her so much that hearts. You r so blessed if u still hve your friend around
LOVE these ladies...
Very important discussion! Love Lily and Jane!
My mancubs, who are in their late 30s are relational! they have heart-to-heart conversations and talk about and expressed their emotions freely! And I think men and women are evolving! The ones who are not are the crazies out there.
I love them, and adore their Netflix show Grace & Frankie. They are both an inspiration, it's wonderful to have icons like them showing that women are beautiful at any age.
OMG!!! These two Are Amazing, Funny, classy and seriously Great Comedians!!! They are Fantastic!!!!!👏👏👍👍🥂 Awesome I Love Them!!! They should do stand up!!!👍👍❤️
Love these two; just binged on Grace and Frankie and am now up to date for the new season that begins this week! ~
Hi Susan hope you’re okay?
I loved this! Two of my biggest role modes for so long! They speak my language and inspire me. Inspire me to focus on a persons essence rather than their persona they’ve built up. At our essence we are equal. And I love what Jane said “gender equality lifts ALL boats, not just women”
I love them both so much & in awe of their talent.