These poor kids needed time to grieve their own parents before being shoved into another family with 6 new siblings and a new mom/dad. Every single person in this family is mourning the loss of their loved one and suddenly being forced into a new family and their names being legally changed and being forcibly adopted even when one of the daughters said she doesn't want to be. These parents are only thinking of themselves and not the children they forcibly brought into the world.
And to knowingly pass on the gene that caused the cancer your husband was horribly dying from continuing to have kids while he was dying is so fucked up then to change from the last name of their dead dad is just awful
DO NOT DO THIS. When your child says “I FEEL” don’t you DARE belittle them. You SUPPORT THEIR FEELINGS. Let them know they are HEARD and LOVED REGARDLESS. That little girl is in PAIN from the loss of her birth mother. How can you turn that into a “me me me” moment?
@@dannimcnamara3425 HUGE difference between EMPATHY and what she’s doing. To an untrained eye, I can understand the confusion. There’s absolutely no justification to belittle her feelings and project though.
This show is so tough to watch. I can’t stand watching the parents ignore all the grief, anger, and sadness their kids all carry without any form of support therapy.
The show only is give small snippet s of these people's lives. They may all be in counseling. I sure hope that is the case, because it is needed but no one knows that they aren't.
Whoever told you they didn’t get ‘real’ help. If you’ve never lost someone let me tell you from experience. You’ll always want them back every single day of your existence even after a REALLY long time. What those kids are going through rn although it seems sad they’ll go through that everyday for the rest of their lives no counselor can take that type of pain away, the only thing is as they get older they’ll learn to hide their pain better, they’ll learn to deal with it and hold their emotions. The pain doesn’t go away you just get better at dealing with it. They’re even blessed to have a sample of what they lost. Rn they won’t realize that because they’re kids but as they get older they’ll appreciate their respective step parents. Yes they’ll always want their actual parents but they’ll know and love the fact that they had someone to step up in that role. Those kids will always have a both a father figure and a mother figure who loved and cared for them. They have the REAL support you are talking about it’s not as if those parents don’t acknowledge their deceased partners. They are actually in the right path y’all just ain’t seeing it cause a lot of you have never been in their shoes first hand, take it from me the kids are doing a good job at their age and the parents are doing a good job aswell.
When one of the children said at the camp fire she misses her mother, Erica took that and made it all about her and how it hurt her feelings. That’s clearly not empathising and being supportive of the child. Erica tried to change their last names without realising how it would hurt her children not having that connection to their deceased father. Clearly there is a disconnect happening. It’s clear from everyone’s reactions that Erica is a raging narcissist. That in itself is going to result in the children’s well-being and trauma not being managed. Also, if they were in therapy I think it would have been mentioned in the show. They literally show everything. Even the children using the bathroom...
@@taylorjustice6265 she didn’t make it about her she just was really sad that Harper doesn’t even want a blended family so she felt like she’s failing. Imagine you try your best to parent and all someone can say is they don’t like it at all not even one single thing. It’s hurtful especially since Erica has been doubting herself. She did empathize with her feelings but that doesn’t mean she won’t get hurt
@@Aprokoheadquaters Erica is a child who is doing an amazing job at portraying her emotions, her parents should be more empathetic and realise that not everything is a personal attack
@@tauruscommunist9532 Erica is the mother not the child. See you don’t even know who is who but you’re judging as if you know anything. I’m quite sure Erica knows it’s not a personal attack, it’s not anything she did that caused Harper to feel that way but as a parent when someone’s not happy even though it’s not your fault you still feel guilty
Harper is a child. This lady seems to be taking Harper's mourning her own mother in a childish way. She should be validating Harper's feelings.. This is really unfair.
What I don't understand is how after Harper noted that she misses her birth mom, Erica and her children are offended. It seems in this situation, it wasn't that Haper thought Erica was a bad mother, but that she misses her mother as any child would. She is clearly mourning the loss of her mother and is trying to adjust to her new family.
But Harper didn’t say what she meant for real. She clearly said she doesn’t like having sisters and you want the sisters to not be offended. It’s so offensive even if it’s the truth
@Frieda Shipena I'm not saying that I don't want the sisters to be offended. I understand that Harper did say that, and they have every right to be so, I just don't understand the reaction from Erica and her children about Harper missing her mother. She is clearly grieving the loss.
@@ellarenaud8652 Erica and her children aren’t mad about Harper missing her mom. They understand that she misses her mom because they miss their dad. What they found offensive and is the fact that Harper completely dismissed step parent and step siblings entire existence. It’s okay to miss the parents they have all the right in the world but Harper clearly stated that she doesn’t want them in her life at all. That’s exactly what she said even though that’s not what she meant because in her mind she means if Erica and her kids didn’t exist that’d take her back in time to when her mommy existed, which is completely okay the only thing is she didn’t say what she meant. Harper should have worded that differently even she realized her own mistake and apologized for that. Harper isn’t wrong for feeling the way she does she’s only wrong with how she expressed it and how she said it because in all honesty it’s offensive. After all of the things Erica does for her as a stepparent she didn’t deserve to be dismissed like that and Emma is right it’s like Harper doesn’t appreciate Erica at all as if Erica is not breaking her back taking care of all of them majority of the time while her daddy is working. Imagine taking care of a child doing everything for them to be told she could care less about you and your existence in her life, that’s hurtful because Erica is really trying her best for them. That’s what’s hurtful not the fact that she’s missing her mom
@@jenevieklein9385 its not fair to say the parents should break up more so that they should have given the relationship more time before they got married
Now that, I can agree with. It's not black and white to me whether blending the families quickly is wrong. But for me, choosing to be on display for everyone to judge in the midst of the adjustment and grieving would be self sabotage.
This reminded me of the grief counseling I went thru as a kid after my dad died. I wasn’t very receptive to it because I was young (I really only went for the pizza) but it was good for me nonetheless.
This broke my heart. The little girl is missing her Mom that has nothing to do with how they step-mom is mothering. I feel bad for her. I am grown woman and miss my Mom every day, it’s has nothing to do with the other people around me. 😭😭😭😭
@@BigManIsaac69 her sister is a child as well so no she doesnt understand. Hence her saying it hurts her feelings. I understand missing your mom or even saying you dont want a new mom but saying you dont want sisters in their face is mean.
@@CS48293 it doesn’t matter that’s how SHE feels. And she should be able to express that because it’s the truth. These parents rushed into this without considering their children’s feelings or making sure the transition was better
They weren’t forced, they were asked politely. If they weren’t ready they could have said that. Harper freely gave her opposite answer and she wasn’t punished for it. It’s a question that would help the parents know how they are feeling about being blended
@@Aprokoheadquaters They’re being forced to live together with strangers. Why would anyone especially a child want to share real opinions that would piss off or upset their only living parent. The parents don’t care what the kids think, or these questions would of been asked before blending a bunch of sad depressed kids together with parents who just died. It’s so ridiculous you think they have a voice! NOBODY LISTENS TO THE KIDS. DONT DEFEND THESE MESSED UP “parents”
@@ashashash9339 first of all they aren’t strangers. I actually watched the whole show every second and they knew each other for a whole year before the parents even started dating. They became friends who met each other at the widow/widower support group online. For a whole year they been friends and the kids have known each other for a whole year same as the parents. After the first year that’s when they started dating and they got engaged and married within 6 weeks. Those kids interacted with each other long enough for the older boys to be best friends with each other. If people have a chance to become best friends that’s long enough. They weren’t STRANGERS hun, they knew each other to know that the other people aren’t stranger danger. It’s very important to know about something before giving your two cents. The parents didn’t fall in love quickly either like majority of y’all saying about them and they’ve actually been married a year and a half before the show started being filmed. That is a total of 2 years and a half of knowing each other rn as they are on the show. Get your facts right and don’t just believe what 90% of these people who didn’t even watch not even a single full episode of the show before judging. They’ve known each other enough for a marriage and if Landon and Brayden where even best friends before they knew they were going to be stepbrothers that’s a long ass time to not be STRANGERS like you want to claim ‘they were forced to live with strangers’ 😌 If you don’t know life is also forcing them to grow up without their actual parents. A lot of things in life aren’t CHOICES you just get handed to them. I don’t think there’s a child out there who’d voluntarily agree to have a step parent especially ones that are grieving. What you don’t understand is they’ll grieve for the rest of their lives, there’s no expiration date to it it’s a forever thing. And yes I will defend the parents they aren’t messed up you actually forget that those parents lost their significant others and it’s the same thing as the kids. Loss is loss no matter what position you’re acting like the parents broke up with those kids parents they also got robbed of someone they love. Don’t think they are enjoying all of this. They don’t cry everyday but they cry every time they talk about their partners deaths
The producers of this show should be ashamed of themselves. This is a terrible situation for these kids; the parents are incredibly selfish and putting all this trauma on tv and internet is the lowest of the low.
@@jenevieklein9385 blended families can work if the parents are not inherently selfish. Sadly these idiots are very bad examples of step parenting. Hopefully it doesn’t inspire others to rush into blending families just to get a tv show...
Why do they try to invalidate Harpers feelings?? There isn’t anything wrong with her not wanting to be in a big family at the moment that she’s dealing with loss
They didn’t invalidate her feelings. So you wanted them to be happy that she doesn’t want a big family? They feel sad but that doesn’t mean their angry with her feelings or they are trying to downplay her feelings. It’s okay for everyone to be angry at a situation it doesn’t mean they are angry with each other. What Harper said is sad even if they are her feelings it’s still sad but it’s okay to feel that way.
That's exactly what it is and they're taking it out on each other. But my prayer is that one day they'll find hope in Jesus and allow Him to give them the comfort and the love that they need
@@piper8407 half of the kids are biologically related to the mom and the other half to the dad. The other biological parent died and they met in a grief counseling program
@@ingrid-xr3ql And I believe that 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 will truly help out Emma and Harper. Plus, they should at least try praying together because I believe that if they pray together, they'll not only draw closer to Jesus but they'll also draw closer to each other despite their differences.
What in the actual hell is this show? I just came across it and am horrified. Is it because I'm in my 50s that I cannot believe parents put their kids on TV going to the bathroom and discussing their feelings about their dead parents? I don't care what these parents claim, they know this is not good for the kids.
It’s not their fault the kids were shown on the toilet. That is tlc fault with their editing they should have blurred out the kids for real. And no it’s not wrong for the kids to talk about their deceased parents, it’s actually good for them. That’s how you deal with grief. Not everything is about money and yes they are being compensated for sharing their lives but it’s not all about money. They really just want to share their journey as a blended family from grief, we don’t get to see that a lot. But it’s normal for a lot of people going through it. The kids enjoyed filming and they really miss the film crew aswell. It may seem like invasion but for the most part they really are happy to film and be on television. Even the oldest kids love the camera and most especially the interviews they get to express their feelings freely and the parents get to watch them expressing their feelings.
Obviously Emma doesn’t like her because her “parents” are trying to force her to be in the family and Emma obviously doesn’t want to do anything they say and they are not good parents either
These poor kids didn’t have have time to grieve for the parent they lost , now wanting them to change names and be adopted even though some of them have made it clear that is not what they want , clearly parents have only thought of themselves
Harper is so well spoken. “Very well...that doesn’t mean I can’t” “last night when I said that wish I didn’t have sisters, I meant” “you don’t know what I wish or how I feel”
I keep seeing these videos, and just feel like the parents moved at a speed that was good for them but not for their kids! Poor kiddos are still recovering and dealing with the loss of their parent, meanwhile the parents are busy getting married and forcing the kids to basically live with strangers
@@lubaba.321 there’s no other way around it. There’ll never be a right time for those parents to have gotten married or for those kids to recover from their parents death. One thing about death is you don’t get to recover you’ll never recover. You’ll only learn to move on with the pain for the rest of your life. They’ll always want their actual parents and those parents will always want their spouses back. If they were to all be given that choice they’d take it, it’s not as if you’re saying they broke up what happened was death separated them. They’d gladly get their spouses back if they were given a choice. The thing is there’s no choices in dying, you die and that’s it. The parents have each other to lean on and those kids will have a sample of the parent that passed. A step parent in their case is better than no parent at all. The kids will always have a father and a mother. Those girls who lost their mom will benefit a lot from their step mom when they get to become teenagers, a man will never understand females no matter how hard they try or how much effort they put in. And those girls who lost a dad will always have a father to protect them and be there for them. The dead parents are never coming back no matter how much they wish for them back
@@user-tr3mw6nr7n you obviously have the wrong narrative. They’ve known each other a whole year before they started dating and when they started dating they got married 6 weeks later. So wtf are you talking about “ a couple weeks after meeting” it’s been one year and one month of meeting each other. I swear y’all love judging when you don’t know shit. Now what are you going to say about that? It’s been a whole year of them just being friends so much so that their oldest sons became besties. So please before you run your mouth just make sure you have the right information instead of listening to miss katy who just loves gossip and spreading negativity because that’s what pays her bills. You think she does this as a hobby? She’s just trying to pay her bills
Little Harper has my whole heart. I can’t imagine being a girl and losing your mom. She’s only eight; things will probably only get tougher from here. I can only hope that Erica pulls it together for her.
Yeah For an 8 year old she is very good at expressing how she feels without crossing the line or being rude. Unfortunately the mom and Emma takes everything she says out of context
@@larissaswinkels3661 when everyone is trying in you are the only one to brake the team is selfish. She can be 8 years aold but she knows she hurting people thatt only mean well for her. We are living in different times and kids today are way more smart than previous generations.
I lost my mom at eleven years old my dad got with another woman pretty quickly. I despised her then but I love her so much today. She helped mold me into who I am today
Her trying to make it about her when the girl said she missed her mom is incredible selfish and neurotic to me. And Emma snapping at Harper and being like we all want our real parent but we can't have that was cruel. Emma has spoken about missing her dad and pushed back on wanting to be adopted because of that. So for her to snap at Harper for missing her mom was not ok!
What she said was hurtful, yes, but emma is just a kid too. They are both grieving children and need the support of counciling. I wouldnt put all the blame on emma because she is probably just as hurt as harper is.
@@bargasfam oh I totally agree! I made another comment saying the same thing about counseling. I think it would be extremely beneficial for helping the kids deal with their grief but also be able to talk about their biological parent without limits or repercussions. I've been on Emma's side a lot. When I saw that clip where she expressed reservations about the adoption and not wanting her name changed because of it being her father's name,I agreed with her 100% and was furious that the mom just tried blowing off her emotions as being tired and tried making her feel bad for how she felt. Which is why I said it wasn't ok for her to snap at Harper over missing her mom when Emma is having the same struggles missing her dad. It would be great if they could come together the two of them and support one another in their grief because they know what the other is going through and would relate a lot to how the other is feeling. Yes Emma is a child who is struggling so I'm not dumping on her as a whole just saying that particular moment was hurtful. She's not a bad kid just made a mistake in the moment. As someone who lost their dad over 2 years ago,I understand the rollercoaster ride grief takes you on. Then these poor children have to deal with their entire lives being flipped upside down because of their living parent quickly marrying someone else and suddenly living with strangers who you're expected to be this big happy family with while still missing your deceased parent. And it's almost like they're expected to just move on from losing their parent when that isn't how it works nor should it.
@@perfectlyimperfect2368 it’s weird how you lost a parent two years ago and you’re saying the kids are expected to be happy in the family while STILL missing their parents. The thing is you will ALWAYS miss your dead parent. Every single day of your life you’ll think about them. I lost my dad 12 years ago and trust me you’ll always miss them EVERYDAY and I was the same age as Harper. They’ll be fine actually they’ll even be more fine than I was growing up because they have a step parent. You have no idea how much that step parent will do for all of them respectively. Erica’s kids will always have a dad sample they’ll get to wonder what life with their actual parents would have been like but they’ll never lack in having that male figure in life. Same for Spencer’s kids they’ll have a mom in their life. They’ll always get those motherly hugs and they get to have a woman who’ll worry about them and take care of them. When they grow up they’ll appreciate and realize how having that step parent actually was good for them. They’ll never fill the void but they’ll fulfill the responsibilities accompanied with love. Those kids will never get to say they didn’t have a father figure in their lives cause for as long as spencer is there for them they’ll be good and vise vesa for Spencer’s kids they’ll have a mom especially Harper when she gets to start her period guess who she’ll rely on.... Erica, even better they’ll have known each other for some time she’ll get all the support she needs. Guess who’ll be there for Emma if she encounters a boy problem... spencer. Guess who’s there for Erica’s son who said he didn’t have any men to talk to when the father died... Spencer is there for him.Those dead parents are never coming back. For as long as their respective stepparents care for them they’ll always be good and appreciated. What the kids are going through and how they are feeling is completely normal and their behavior is okay and expected. They are actually doing a good job all of them parents included. They’ll never be perfect but they’ll always have love for each other
@@Aprokoheadquaters I first wanna say I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a parent isn't something I'd wish upon anyone. I apologize if my post came off the wrong way. I think step parents can be amazing. I have people in my life who are step parents or have step parents that are great. And yes they can absolutely bring a motherly/fatherly energy that is great for kids. With Harper and her saying she misses her mom or wants her old life back,I don't think it's wrong for her to feel that way. No we can't ever have our deceased parent back but that doesn't mean we don't wish it were the case. And while I understand trying to help everyone move forward,I don't think it's right to dismiss those feelings of longing and loss either. If I was in Erica's shoes and Harper said what she said I wouldn't take it personally,I would take it as a girl missing her mom. That doesn't mean I'm failing or I can't keep doing my best, just that I also understand where Harper is coming from and her struggles. The vibe I have issue with, be it intentional or not,is that since we can't change it we just have to move forward and stop talking about the past. Yes my life has continued on but we still talk about my dad all the time and I think that should be allowed. I feel like a lot of the kids weren't ok with how quickly everything happened and needed more time. Yes I understand the argument could be made that they maybe would never feel ready and the parents shouldn't have to wait forever but I think a balance needs to be found. I don't think they are bad people or they're trying to be malicious,just that they still need to let the kids express their grief in what ever form that comes in as long as it isn't harmful.
I’ve only seen a few clips of them but it’s obvious that Emma is definitely most in need of counseling. All the kids are struggling and grieving but I think the loss of her dad severely impacted her ability to empathize with others.
Harper is such an intelligent little girl. You can see the grief in her eyes, and shes able to communicate exactly how shes feeling. its a shame nobody is taking the time to protect these children and their very real feelings
You're talking about a bunch of CHILDREN that witnessed their parents DEATHS!! To expect them not to get emotional and wish that their other parent was still around is absolutely asinine and insane. You're the adult in the situation, you shouldn't be taking it to heart because a little girl said she wishes she still had her mom with her. These children need to understand that it is okay to be upset and emotional and wish that would happened, hadn't happened. But you have to let them know that you understand that, that doesn't mean that they don't love you and want you in their lives. They just miss their other parent too.
It's kind of like what Bishop Jospeh Walker said back in 2005 on "Praise the Lord". The church likes to tell you to "just get over it" but you can't just get over it, you gotta go through the process. And only Jesus can help you go through the process
I think Emma might be more bitter about the situation because she is the oldest girl in her family and I think Mom may have leaned on her emotionally a little too much. I think her negative attitude towards harper is honestly just a product of her probably being told the same thing when her Dad had died or having to suck up her emotions to help console her other siblings. I think both of these kids are grieving and both have been treated differently in their grieving process which definitely has affected their attitude towards the loss. Emma was definitely replied on emotionally as friend rather than a child to her mother so she probably feels upset because she feels like she can't be upset, this definitely can cause a lot of resentment towards Harper who isnt as mentally mature and is free to express her emotions more freely. I think Emma definitely want her mom to feel validated but its sad that her mom doesn't care if Emma is validated
Something about her having to say “birth mom” rather than just mom was really weird and how the parents are making everything about them like the lady isn’t her mom. You have to gain that title and that trust.
Also it’s quite apparent that Emily adapted the way her mom talks and reacts to things. It’s really sickening, and you can tell it’s a coping mechanism. (Coming from someone with the same entitlement)
@@yup7703 Emma* Yes she’s adopted because her mom is right. Do you want her to sugarcoat death for them forever? The parents are never coming back. There’s nothing wrong with understanding that it’s the first step for them to move forward otherwise they’ll be stuck in one spot for the rest of their lives. “Everyone wants to have their actual parent but they can’t” not one single lie detected
@@Aprokoheadquaters you saying they need to move on but forgetting the fact that the mom is the problem and not the kids, look how they make everything about them when speaking abt the birth mom and how she belittles the kids for expressing their hurt
@@Aprokoheadquaters You're obsessed with excusing these parents behavior.👎🏽 These kids need to therapy to cope with the death of a parent, these parents need to think about the kids and not themselves!!!😡
Harper did an amazing job expressing her emotions. It must be so hard for her at that age to do so but she’s so strong. I wish the other people could see that she’s struggling with this shift in her life and instead of bullying her and putting her down, they should encourage her.
Those other people you’re talking about are kids just like Harper. The parents do understand her but that doesn’t mean it’s not going to be hurtful. Everyone sees that every other person is struggling just like themselves but Harper did hurt people’s feelings when she said her feelings because it’s as if she doesn’t want them which is fine to feel that way but that doesn’t mean that people won’t get hurt. All their feelings are valid all of them Harpers included. Nobody shutting down anyone’s feelings including their own feelings that’s why it’s a hurt-hurt situation
@@Aprokoheadquaters I get what you’re saying as well, and when I said “people” I’m mainly focusing on the parents. I just felt like it was everyone against harper, which would make it more difficult for her to cope with her feelings than for them to cope with theirs. But ofc they are all mourning and all are in this situation together so I do agree with you. I just felt like if I was Harper I’d feel like I have no one to turn to because everyone was against her, instead of talking about the root cause of why she said what she said. As they get older though they will probably know how to speak to each other with more care, but the parents should help to speed that process up.
@@Aprokoheadquaters I get the feeling ur the mother in the episode. Harper is a daughter growing up without a mother. I feel for her more than anyone in the show. Mothers provide protection for us and define the household. In many ways, your kids are still in their household while Harper and her siblings have moved into another woman’s home. She will grow up watching momma bear instinctively choose Emma and protect her Cubs and she will have others defining her words, actions and emotions in a negative light. While her mother will cover her mistakes and interpret everything in a good way, the other woman has no instinct telling her to do so. Stepsons and stepmoms (unless the stepmom is unusually cruel and petty ) have neutral relationships but stepmoms and stepdaughter relationships are something else. This dad better watch out for his daughter
@@HL-hi6zn Definitely! Did u notice how Emma and the mom used the same exact words to define Harper’s intentions as if they’ve talked about this before. Poor girl is growing up in another woman’s household.
Poor harper is going though a lot. She misses her mom (and a “new” mom is forced upon her) has sisters all of a sudden, and has to deal with Emma. It’s a lot for a kid
She’s making it more hard for herself by not accepting and embracing her new life. Nobody is asking her to forget her old life they are just asking her to be patient accepting. She’s acting out because she has the “ Erica can’t tell me what to do because she’s not my real mother” she’s intentionally being disobedient. She doesn’t listen to Erica. Her new mom is not “forced” upon her, force is a harsh word because i don’t think there’s anyone who chooses their stepparent or even biological parent. You just get them but that doesn’t mean it’s “force” . This is exactly why Emma is saying everyone wants their actual parents but can’t have them. They were also “forced” to not have their actual parents (since you want to use that word) life doesn’t give you choices all the times. If they had their way they’d all choose their old life back all of them including the parents. Tanner ( the red haired boy) cries every night for his father but he doesn’t give Spencer a hard time he’s not cold towards him and he’s not acting out on purpose. Harper is giving a hard time because she didn’t know that everyone feels the exact same way as she does. They are all in this together and they can start from there moving forward. They are going through the same grievances and nobody is anyone’s enemy. She didn’t know that but now she does
@@Aprokoheadquaters I don’t think you can honestly say that tho bc she isn’t making it harder on herself she should have to accept it and she doesn’t have to like her new sister she doesn’t even have to see her as a sister shes a young girl who lost her mom I understand both kids lost a parent but being a girl is so much harder without your mom their yes she has a wonderful new mom but that doesn’t change the fact that she isn’t harpers mom Emma has her mom Harper is the only girl in her bunch without her mother that is so extremely difficult.
The fact that Harper specified “birth mom” and didn’t just say “mom” makes me sad. Also the fact that she said “I don’t know” when Erica said that they can’t change the current situation (i.e., her mom not being alive, new blended family) indicates (to me at least) that she doesn’t fully understand what has happened and what is happening. :(
Emma's not trying to be mean, she just wants some semblance of control over her life. Same with Harper. Harper just wants her old life back. Poor kids need counseling.
Everyone’s response to Harper missing her mom is very telling. Very insecure. She’s a child who lost her mom. She wants her mom. Why on earth would you take that personally? It’s so sad. Bless her heart
I wish someone would point out to Emma and Harper that they both miss their deceased parents and they could bond over that and how they both were the oldest . They need sibling therapy and individual therapy
I think it's probably bcs harper used to be the only sister, and emma has always been the oldest sister so both girls are the most with attention and now they both had to share their position/ attention that they get
Yes and I think there is a difference that Harper was the only girl and lost a Mother than Emma losing her Father. Not that there is a contest, well, Emma makes everything a contest, she is very gaslighting and narcissistic. My Step sister was this way even at 4 and at 45 she is still that way. Personalities show up young sometimes. Especially children with trauma.
This show is so tough to watch. l can't stand watching the parents ignore all the grief, anger and sadness their kids all carry without any form of support therapy.
They go to therapy. Watch the whole show it has a good ending. The kids love their new life but they struggle with the old life that they lost and no it’s not the parents fault. The parents also lost their spouses. Everybody misses their old life it’s part of grieving. They’ll miss their old life for eternity. Even if they didn’t have stepparents they would still miss their old life with their real parents. The parents aren’t ignoring the kids grief, the problem is you’ve probably never experienced it first hand so you can’t relate. The kids will grieve the rest of their lives, they are just at the beginning and it’ll get Easier as they grow and as they mature. They are 3 years into their mourning basically it’s still fresh and they are acting the way they are supposed to considering their situation. They are on the right track all of them parents included, they are in an easier situation. The kids have a mom considering their dad works a lot and they have a dad aswell considering their mom is a stay at home mom and she definitely can use the help. Being single parents would have been harder than their current situation for all of them emotionally. In life when you rebel sometimes you just make things harder for yourself and this is one of the situations. Accepting helps with grief. Dead people never return no matter how much you want them back
I don’t think they are trying to be selfish. They might of jumped into marriage a bit fast because of their grieve but I think their trying to help the kids.
Does anyone else think it’s exploitative to film these kids going to the bathroom. There are so many creeps out in the world that could distribute these kind of clips for sick reasons
I have a psych background, and have watched some of this show. It’s mental. They moved far too fast in trying to integrate everyone into one family unit, which given the ages of the children is just not reasonable. Psychologically, unless you are in a child’s life before they turn 5 it’s completely unrealistic and emotionally damaging to expect to “be” their parent and have them call you ‘mom’ or ‘dad’. There’s so much literature on this. And forcing children to who BARELY know each other to live together and share rooms and act like siblings?! It’s heartbreaking to watch because I know the parents love each other and their children, but these are delicate and complex things which take TIME. And therapy. I cannot stress enough that those kids DESERVE counseling. I hope they never split up simply because that would cause even more turmoil and upheaval for the kids!
Losing a parent is hard enough but your remaining parent re-marrying within a short time and then forcing you to move in with strangers makes it even harder! Slow down people, slow down! Give the kids time to grieve instead of rushing and forcing them into situations they didn’t ask for
I feel so bad for Harper she’s being picked on by Emma. I also feel bad for Emma though, she’s obviously going through some stuff and it’s not good for her to have this videos on the internet forever of her bullying her younger siblings. People are going to hate on he forever even if she change. This is such an exploitative tv show
You mean people like you are going to pick on her forever even if she changes? Because they both had to change their mindset little poor Harper included. They aren’t enemies and they felt like they were both of them. Not just Emma. The only difference between Emma and Harper is that Emma KNOWS that you can’t change the past even though she doesn’t understand it quite yet herself atleast she knows it. Harper on the other hand chooses to want to change the past and that’s were they bust heads. Emma is kind but Harper doesnt want anything to do with moving on at all. Which is not fair because everyone has to move on whether they want to or not
@@smileonlegs1 you didn’t hear her say something nice about her sisters she said what she said at the camp fire for HARPER. Every single word she said was directed especially to Harper. Harper didn’t even try to say something nice about them. And you’re still asking how Emma tried. Exactly why the comment said Emma is trying and no one notices.
@@smileonlegs1 she tries so hard to overcome her hurt, and to accept Harper because of her parents but the parents only notice the bad and not the good
Harper and emma are both confused about the loss of their parent. They haven’t had time to grieve and now they’re pushed into a blended family. So not fair. Emma is kinda invalidating Harper’s feelings about the death of her mother and then the step mother is making it about her. So selfish. This family is not functional and won’t last
The family will function! I watched every single episode and they love each other and they have accepted each other even more so now that the kids have all been adopted
Ok I'm an adult in my mid 20s who lost my dad over 2 years ago. If my mom suddenly got remarried and all these people moved into the house and I had a new step dad, that would be incredible difficult for me to handle(I still live at home due to health issues) so I can't imagine trying to cope with those feelings as a child. I don't think either set of kids should be shamed about missing their biological parent whom they miss deeply and are trying to grieve for. If someone did something like that to me in regards to my dad,I would be furious and heartbroken! From other clips I've seen from this show I just can't agree with the choices these parents made and I feel their children are paying the price for it. I'm not saying they are bad people or had nefarious purposes doing what they did but they got way to swept up in the romance and forgot that the children's needs needed/need to come first. I think grief counseling,if not already happening,would be extremely helpful for these children to not only help with their grief but be able to talk about their biological parent without limits.
You lost your dad 2 years ago and you’re in your mid 20’s . You’re grown af to even try to think you understand what they are going through because you don’t. You lost your dad after he’s witnessed a lot of your life events and you knew what type of a parent he was. That’s different. I lost mine around Harper’s age. Those kids are blessed to have a step parent who cares for them. That’s all they need from a step parent. You don’t understand that those kids will NEVER have an idea of what type of parent their deceased parents would have been in their teenage years or even how their lives would have been. All eleven of those kids were under the age of TEN when their parents died. They’ll have ACTUAL memories of their parents at the back of their minds and right now their parents memories are fresh as hell in their brains, the memories will get blurry af when they grow. You lost your dad when you were fully developed. Those kids were practically all CHILDREN when it happened. You know how many stages to life they still have left? There’s 7 stages in life Infancy and Toddlerhood. Early Childhood. Middle Childhood. Adolescence. Early Adulthood. Middle Adulthood. Late Adulthood. Out of those 7 most of the kids made it to stage 3 with their parents but not beyond that. Think about it. They’ll remember a lot of things they’ll even watch home videos but I’m telling you a lot of those memories will be far from reach in their brain. I’m 21 this year and it has been 12 years but my memory of my dead is more blurry than a blind man’s eyesight. The memories are there but they’re so far from reach that it’s frustrating. You grew up having a father. You’ll never get to say “ I didn’t grow up with a father” forgive me when I say this but for you you don’t understand them and you’ll never understand them even if you try because it’s not the same. You HAD a father those kids won’t get to say the same. You had your father there with you when you graduated from high school those kids will never get that. They’ll never even get to see how their parent would have handled their hormones when they become teenagers cause trust me when those hormones hit they’ll want their deceased parents more than ever. When they fully mature they’ll appreciate and love their step parent to the highest power possible because they’ll know that someone who wasn’t their blood cared enough to parent them and love them as their own. Rn they’re kids and they are still adjusting to not having their actual parent around. It’s gonna hit them some more that FOREVER means forever isn’t like never coming back in this lifetime and they’ll really fully understand. Not even to think about the toddlers who won’t remember anything 😂😂😂 (I know it’s not funny) the kids in their diapers won’t even remember their actual parents voices not even if they watch their home videos that voice won’t come in their brain on its own as a memory they’ll just get to watch it. That’s how deep it is to have a parent gone at that young age. I’m not dismissing your experience I’m just trying to make you understand that you have no idea how it actually is for them you don’t even have an idea of their future with grief. I know because I’ve been there at that exact age and I’m telling you it’s not the same as when you’re grown. You won’t get to see other kids holding their fathers hands and your first reaction is to cry or feel jealous they’ll get to experience that first hand. You you’ll probably just miss him but you’re grown enough to understand or not to instantly feel sorry for yourself as first reaction. All I know is those parents are doing a good job for their kids, I know because I’ve been in those exact shoes. I’ve walked their exact same journey so trust me I know exactly what’s going on in their hearts right now and I know exactly how their teenage life is about to be... it’s going to be so much better and easier with a step parent. I didn’t get a step parent so I know how good it’ll be to have one who’s there to parent with their living actual parents. Those parents will never be alone or feel alone and that is an amazing positive thing for their kids. That male voice is needed and that motherly care is needed.
@@Aprokoheadquaters Harper’s situation will always be different. That mother-daughter bond is difficult to replicate even when the stepmom doesn’t have her own kids. I can’t imagine you choosing ur daughters over her. Which parent died matters. We all know moms run the household so the 4 stepchildren will struggle a lot more than the other 7
@@Aprokoheadquaters It’s funny how your trying to invalidate the commenters feelings but then compare it to your own situation. What your not realizing is that cases like yours happen only sometimes. The issue is there not invalidating her feelings at all. Kids will always remember that and have resentment later on. If they don’t tackle this issue now it could lead to further problems down the line. For example, when she gets into her teens she may feel less inclined to tell her parents how she feels. You also have to take in mind that there are a lot of children. One of them or a couple are going to most likely be emotionally neglected. There are simply too many kids to care about equally. Kids aren’t stupid they know when they remember when there not being heard. Then parents wonder why later on their children don’t speak to them.
They do get counseling. It’s a working progress. Don’t expect Harper to stop grieving because she won’t. None of them will stop grieving it’s a life long journey. They’ll get better at dealing with it but it won’t go away. There’s no expiration date to grieving, they’ll always want their parents back FOREVER no matter how old they get they’ll always be emotional about it, the only thing that will get better is how they deal with it
That's really not true, I know a lot of kids who are best friends with their sister/brother,, like me(: but yeah most of the time they are annoying eachother
Yeah but the circumstances are different, they haven’t grown up together. They were pushed into a blended family. The parents should have taken way more time to get the children integrated with each other and as a family
@@Vicc.m for me and my sister we have a love and hate relationship. Some days we love each other and other days we’re ready to fight each other. It’s different for every siblings
She’s allowed to miss her birth mom they cant stop them from grieving and forcing them all too change their last names isn’t fair because Emma has clearly said she wants to have part of her dad with her
These parents make me sick. What ever happened to putting your children’s need before your own? They want to move on from their deceased husband and wife and just expected the kids to move on too from the loss of their parent. I feel so sorry for the kid’s.
This show is so depressing to watch. On the positive side, the girls seem to be really good at expressing their feelings and explaining why they feel that way.
It’s depressing because it’s real life and they are going through grief. I wonder why people are somewhat allergic to real life and real situations. They are healing. But yes you’re right the girls are good with their emotions it’s nice to see that
Harper is very well spoken and love how she can express her feelings. There parents need to help these kids out and let them be able to express their feelings and teach that older girl to be kinder towards her sister and let her have those types of feelings she misses her mom and they don’t allow her to in a way.
@@jasminegarcia7164, Harper looks really young. It might be more that she doesn’t have the words to explain how she feels rather than simply being hurtful. These children lost a birth parent, they’re dealing with that grief, their surviving parent gets remarried, so now they have several new people in their lives, and they’re on a reality tv show instead of being able to process everything privately. It’s a lot to handle.
@@shaehoward4793 yeah I do feel for her but must be hard on Emma as well, what harper says is unintentionally hurtful but it must really effect Emma. Theyre both sad children and you can see it when they're being interviewed, they need time to heal or professional help before they ruin their relationship even more
aweee feel for both girls 😭 one day they’re going to get along I can tell. people with the same personalities usually don’t like each other at first but eventually they’ll be the bestest friends. And Harper is really a strong little one . She’s tough and speaks her mind.
I feel so bad for Harper😔 I hate that she's in this situation. She's so well spoken. Also when Harper zipped up that tent and showed Emma she could do it👏period.
Y tf r u offended that she misses her birth mom??? Of course she's gonna miss her. And it's super unhealthy that she can't express that without being shut down. This is so toxic its not even funny. Those poor kids.
@ 7:54 periodt Harper!!! She said "that doesn't mean I can't" she got a lot going for her she wants to keep trying and being her best even when someone tries to put her down
Emma and Harper could be the best of friends. They are so similar! Both strong, intelligent and outspoken. I predict they will be best friends in no time.
Exactly why she said they all want their parents back. Emma wants her dad back aswell but she has to deal with Spencer and she has to put up with him. They have a common problem they just need to work together to tackle the problem. Harper shouldn’t have said what she said, she is allowed to feel that way and she should feel that way but she shouldn’t have said she doesn’t want them because they all want their old life back but as Emma said “they CANT” have that so they have to make use of the current situation. Harper should have said exactly what she meant which is she wants and misses her mom not that she wants her new family members gone. She even explained what she meant later on so she should have said exactly what she meant and meant what she said.
@@riverszenonian7610 this is the mom. Do you see how she defends her own kid passionately and still attacks Harper in the comments. I can’t imagine how she treats that poor girl behind closed doors
i think the a lot of the misunderstandings may come from harper being more emotionally mature than emma (at least in this clip). she can differentiate between what she feels and what she says, come back and explain herself perfectly and understand why she said it. while emma was still hurt by what she said and could only think of her own hurt in that moment instead of really understanding why harper felt that way. i really hope they have some kind of family therapy/sibling therapy .. going through all of this while being filmed is not healthy for the children, any way you want to put it, it's not healthy. they all need to be in therapy, at the least.
Aww my heart. For kids they are doing a wonderful job expressing themselves. I know they can work this out with a little help for a parent or grandparents they’ll be supper close one day.
these children are not in a good headspace for this right now. you can tell Emma and Harper are probably grieving a lot and then having to be shoved together with a whole other family is a hard adjustment and i don’t think the parents are taking that into consideration. i also feel as though when there is a conflict between two kids from different families, each parent takes their specific kids side or only one parent is involved so the one kid gets their way. idk though
7:55 to 9:28 rlly piss me off kinda, Harper obviously tried to prove a point but Emma keeps on making it about herself. Harper still is mourning bout her mum while Emma just says “I know, everyone wishes to have their parents” in a she wants Harper to shut up about it. Harper is explaining the reason. Honestly they had to understand Harper more
Poor Harper. She doesnt act like a Brat at all. Its so brave of her to talk about her feelings and be open about not being happy and missing her mom. I feel like all others just try to bury that topic by just talking about how nice the new big family is. You can notice that she is a really intelligent girl. I really find it disgusting how her step mother reacted to that and Emma just learns from her...
Harper explained what she meant, Emma still took it as what she thinks she meant and that stems from her mother. Why haven’t these children gone to family therapy individually and as a whole instead of this mess and pretending like everyone should get along. It’s unrealistic especially when everything happened so fast. I really hate this for all the children involved. Don’t care about the adults because they have their own agenda and the mom’s brother was right with all his concerns
Stop pressuring that little girl to say something she likes she needs times to grieve!! Emma stop being so rude!! Harper seems super sweet Emma pushed her buttons.
Emma saying she finds it offensive: Emma is very rude. I understand what she’s going through but she needs to learn to meet Harper half way. Emma makes everything seem rude. She acts like Harper is completely incapable of doing anything and that the world revolves around Emma. Harper just misses her mum and no one is there to talk to her. I understand the parents loved each other but it’s a lot to put on kids who just lost their parents
You know. It is a staged interview when they talk to the camera. It’s not like she’s saying this at random. That aside the whole camping trip and “say what you love” circle just felt icky. Not saying she’s a horrible mother but TV hosts are trying to get everyone to say their feelings so they can frame it as drama - what this family really needs is a group therapy session. Imagine if they could say these things to each other and work it through with someone trying to help them and not exploitive producers and camera crews who think of them as cash cows.
Harper is so emotionally intelligent. These two girls are just clashing. It’s so unfair on both of them. They’re both so smart. I hope they can be friends
Blended families can be tough especially when there is little time of healing from a loss. I do wish the family the best . The parents are doing the best they can.
Emma is ridiculous as an older girl it is not that difficult to see from Harper's side, they both need counseling. And even after Harper tried resolving the mir issues Emma still finds a way to resent
When Emma tries to be nice harper is always saying something mean and I'm sure Emma understands harper but she doesn't really get the chance to tell her that because they're always fighting
People deal with grief in different ways. But to provide some context, Emma’s dad was sick for a long time but Harper’s mom passed away suddenly. Additionally, Harper was the only girl in her family. I can’t imagine how hard it is for Harper during this time, she didn’t get to say good bye and now her feelings are invalidated. It was never about the Means, it was about how she feels which is valid.
No, they are not “happy” or “it’s really paying off.” You can’t expect your kid to just rub off a soul they were comfortable with and lived for many years and go trust another person. No. That’s not how it works. Selfish to just loose someone and go into a different relationship and bring your kids along in the mess. They are NOT okay. I can tell, she is not done grieving her dad and she never will when she wakes up every morning to a “dad” she is supposed to love all of a sudden. No. Not cool dude. This is just my opinion and how I feel about this mess.
It annoyed me when all the mum got out of Harper saying she misses her birth mum is “am I being a good parent” she never said that it’s completely normal for Harper to miss her birth mum good parent or not she’s ALWAYS going to miss her birth mum. It was so hard for me to watch the whole family invalidate her feelings in that share circle instead of comforting the little girl.
Dang, all she said was “I miss my mom” and the girl and the mother makes it like it’s a bad thing…😒 let the girl feel what’s she feel and instead of make it about u, comfort her!
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These poor kids needed time to grieve their own parents before being shoved into another family with 6 new siblings and a new mom/dad. Every single person in this family is mourning the loss of their loved one and suddenly being forced into a new family and their names being legally changed and being forcibly adopted even when one of the daughters said she doesn't want to be. These parents are only thinking of themselves and not the children they forcibly brought into the world.
genuinely. it took me 3 years to fully get over the loss of my sister. And that was as a teenager. Not a child. I feel bad for the kids :(
Yeap and now they have tv cameras around which would be new for them .
Absolutely wild to me that they would force a name change on a kid that's old enough to express that they don't want it and why
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And to knowingly pass on the gene that caused the cancer your husband was horribly dying from continuing to have kids while he was dying is so fucked up then to change from the last name of their dead dad is just awful
DO NOT DO THIS. When your child says “I FEEL” don’t you DARE belittle them. You SUPPORT THEIR FEELINGS. Let them know they are HEARD and LOVED REGARDLESS. That little girl is in PAIN from the loss of her birth mother. How can you turn that into a “me me me” moment?
Some people just relate things to themselves to show empathy tho and this women is clearly a great mother and mother figure
@@dannimcnamara3425 HUGE difference between EMPATHY and what she’s doing. To an untrained eye, I can understand the confusion. There’s absolutely no justification to belittle her feelings and project though.
@@LifeLoveBliss I mean she is better than most mums and the girl never ended up changing her name so she wasn’t forced into anything
@@dannimcnamara3425 girl it’s like you have selective reading; your comments aren’t matching up to anything the original commenter said smdh
I agree!!! Like smdh that mother give me controlling, manipulative vibes.. swear she the bitter baby momma
This show is so tough to watch. I can’t stand watching the parents ignore all the grief, anger, and sadness their kids all carry without any form of support therapy.
They seem super selfish
The show only is give small snippet s of these people's lives. They may all be in counseling. I sure hope that is the case, because it is needed but no one knows that they aren't.
i would not be able to do that id just boot them
Exactly
I agree, they seem to only care about themselves.
“Everyone would like to have actual parents but we can’t” 😞 those poor girls need real support and grief counselling
Whoever told you they didn’t get ‘real’ help. If you’ve never lost someone let me tell you from experience. You’ll always want them back every single day of your existence even after a REALLY long time. What those kids are going through rn although it seems sad they’ll go through that everyday for the rest of their lives no counselor can take that type of pain away, the only thing is as they get older they’ll learn to hide their pain better, they’ll learn to deal with it and hold their emotions. The pain doesn’t go away you just get better at dealing with it. They’re even blessed to have a sample of what they lost. Rn they won’t realize that because they’re kids but as they get older they’ll appreciate their respective step parents. Yes they’ll always want their actual parents but they’ll know and love the fact that they had someone to step up in that role. Those kids will always have a both a father figure and a mother figure who loved and cared for them. They have the REAL support you are talking about it’s not as if those parents don’t acknowledge their deceased partners. They are actually in the right path y’all just ain’t seeing it cause a lot of you have never been in their shoes first hand, take it from me the kids are doing a good job at their age and the parents are doing a good job aswell.
When one of the children said at the camp fire she misses her mother, Erica took that and made it all about her and how it hurt her feelings. That’s clearly not empathising and being supportive of the child. Erica tried to change their last names without realising how it would hurt her children not having that connection to their deceased father. Clearly there is a disconnect happening. It’s clear from everyone’s reactions that Erica is a raging narcissist. That in itself is going to result in the children’s well-being and trauma not being managed. Also, if they were in therapy I think it would have been mentioned in the show. They literally show everything. Even the children using the bathroom...
@@taylorjustice6265 she didn’t make it about her she just was really sad that Harper doesn’t even want a blended family so she felt like she’s failing. Imagine you try your best to parent and all someone can say is they don’t like it at all not even one single thing. It’s hurtful especially since Erica has been doubting herself. She did empathize with her feelings but that doesn’t mean she won’t get hurt
@@Aprokoheadquaters Erica is a child who is doing an amazing job at portraying her emotions, her parents should be more empathetic and realise that not everything is a personal attack
@@tauruscommunist9532 Erica is the mother not the child. See you don’t even know who is who but you’re judging as if you know anything. I’m quite sure Erica knows it’s not a personal attack, it’s not anything she did that caused Harper to feel that way but as a parent when someone’s not happy even though it’s not your fault you still feel guilty
Harper is a child. This lady seems to be taking Harper's mourning her own mother in a childish way. She should be validating Harper's feelings.. This is really unfair.
The mom does seem very insecure and petty.
@@l01j99 she behaves like all narcissistic people do.....manipulative and self serving
Agreed her step mom isn’t being mindful or considering Harper’s feelings or validating her feelings at all....
I agree
Is her mom dead
What I don't understand is how after Harper noted that she misses her birth mom, Erica and her children are offended. It seems in this situation, it wasn't that Haper thought Erica was a bad mother, but that she misses her mother as any child would. She is clearly mourning the loss of her mother and is trying to adjust to her new family.
But Harper didn’t say what she meant for real. She clearly said she doesn’t like having sisters and you want the sisters to not be offended. It’s so offensive even if it’s the truth
@Frieda Shipena I'm not saying that I don't want the sisters to be offended. I understand that Harper did say that, and they have every right to be so, I just don't understand the reaction from Erica and her children about Harper missing her mother. She is clearly grieving the loss.
@@ellarenaud8652 Erica and her children aren’t mad about Harper missing her mom. They understand that she misses her mom because they miss their dad. What they found offensive and is the fact that Harper completely dismissed step parent and step siblings entire existence. It’s okay to miss the parents they have all the right in the world but Harper clearly stated that she doesn’t want them in her life at all. That’s exactly what she said even though that’s not what she meant because in her mind she means if Erica and her kids didn’t exist that’d take her back in time to when her mommy existed, which is completely okay the only thing is she didn’t say what she meant. Harper should have worded that differently even she realized her own mistake and apologized for that. Harper isn’t wrong for feeling the way she does she’s only wrong with how she expressed it and how she said it because in all honesty it’s offensive. After all of the things Erica does for her as a stepparent she didn’t deserve to be dismissed like that and Emma is right it’s like Harper doesn’t appreciate Erica at all as if Erica is not breaking her back taking care of all of them majority of the time while her daddy is working. Imagine taking care of a child doing everything for them to be told she could care less about you and your existence in her life, that’s hurtful because Erica is really trying her best for them. That’s what’s hurtful not the fact that she’s missing her mom
@@Aprokoheadquaters bro just stop, I’m seeing your comments and it looks like you may be the mother
@@ruthlessog9098 i wasn’t talking to you. The comment wasn’t directed towards you so hush 😌
This family needs counseling not a reality TV show.
They need to break up honestly. The kids didn't ask for this.
@@jenevieklein9385 its not fair to say the parents should break up more so that they should have given the relationship more time before they got married
@@casholak2354 they mean the show
Now that, I can agree with. It's not black and white to me whether blending the families quickly is wrong. But for me, choosing to be on display for everyone to judge in the midst of the adjustment and grieving would be self sabotage.
This reminded me of the grief counseling I went thru as a kid after my dad died. I wasn’t very receptive to it because I was young (I really only went for the pizza) but it was good for me nonetheless.
How is the mother so blinded ? It’s a CHILD that’s mourning her mother, yet she’s making it about herself. I can’t believe this.
@Random Indeed yet you don't belittle someone's feelings
This broke my heart. The little girl is missing her Mom that has nothing to do with how they step-mom is mothering. I feel bad for her. I am grown woman and miss my Mom every day, it’s has nothing to do with the other people around me. 😭😭😭😭
@@cathys3800 true.. Hope you are okay. And its okay to miss the people you love. Sorry for your loss
she not even doing allet stfu . they’re all mourning rn jezz .
It is ok for Harper to miss her mom and not like having sisters. Being a girl and not having your mom is hard. Ok her feeling and help her process it.
It's not ok to tell your sisters you don't like having sisters in front of them. That is mean and hurt her sisters feelings
@@CS48293 that girl just lost her mother and she is a child I’m sure they will understand
@@BigManIsaac69 her sister is a child as well so no she doesnt understand. Hence her saying it hurts her feelings. I understand missing your mom or even saying you dont want a new mom but saying you dont want sisters in their face is mean.
@@CS48293 it doesn’t matter that’s how SHE feels. And she should be able to express that because it’s the truth. These parents rushed into this without considering their children’s feelings or making sure the transition was better
@@CS48293 I’d rather have her tell the truth then for her to pretend she is okay and later on she experiences emotional and mental grief over it
Forcing the kids to say what they love about the blended family.. what if they’re not ready to talk about it or they don’t love it
They weren’t forced, they were asked politely. If they weren’t ready they could have said that. Harper freely gave her opposite answer and she wasn’t punished for it. It’s a question that would help the parents know how they are feeling about being blended
@@Aprokoheadquaters They’re being forced to live together with strangers. Why would anyone especially a child want to share real opinions that would piss off or upset their only living parent. The parents don’t care what the kids think, or these questions would of been asked before blending a bunch of sad depressed kids together with parents who just died. It’s so ridiculous you think they have a voice! NOBODY LISTENS TO THE KIDS. DONT DEFEND THESE MESSED UP “parents”
@@ashashash9339 first of all they aren’t strangers. I actually watched the whole show every second and they knew each other for a whole year before the parents even started dating. They became friends who met each other at the widow/widower support group online. For a whole year they been friends and the kids have known each other for a whole year same as the parents. After the first year that’s when they started dating and they got engaged and married within 6 weeks. Those kids interacted with each other long enough for the older boys to be best friends with each other. If people have a chance to become best friends that’s long enough. They weren’t STRANGERS hun, they knew each other to know that the other people aren’t stranger danger. It’s very important to know about something before giving your two cents. The parents didn’t fall in love quickly either like majority of y’all saying about them and they’ve actually been married a year and a half before the show started being filmed. That is a total of 2 years and a half of knowing each other rn as they are on the show. Get your facts right and don’t just believe what 90% of these people who didn’t even watch not even a single full episode of the show before judging. They’ve known each other enough for a marriage and if Landon and Brayden where even best friends before they knew they were going to be stepbrothers that’s a long ass time to not be STRANGERS like you want to claim ‘they were forced to live with strangers’ 😌
If you don’t know life is also forcing them to grow up without their actual parents. A lot of things in life aren’t CHOICES you just get handed to them. I don’t think there’s a child out there who’d voluntarily agree to have a step parent especially ones that are grieving. What you don’t understand is they’ll grieve for the rest of their lives, there’s no expiration date to it it’s a forever thing. And yes I will defend the parents they aren’t messed up you actually forget that those parents lost their significant others and it’s the same thing as the kids. Loss is loss no matter what position you’re acting like the parents broke up with those kids parents they also got robbed of someone they love. Don’t think they are enjoying all of this. They don’t cry everyday but they cry every time they talk about their partners deaths
The producers of this show should be ashamed of themselves. This is a terrible situation for these kids; the parents are incredibly selfish and putting all this trauma on tv and internet is the lowest of the low.
Maybe it's good to teach what not to do. There's a lot of selfishness going on here from the parents. Shows how unsustainable blended families are.
@@jenevieklein9385 blended families can work if the parents are not inherently selfish. Sadly these idiots are very bad examples of step parenting. Hopefully it doesn’t inspire others to rush into blending families just to get a tv show...
Dude the mom is making money for her kids
@@tati5228pathetic excuse. There are plenty of ways to make money that don’t include exploiting children. Please don’t bother defending this crap.
TLC should be absolutely ashamed. Nobody is thinking about the #1 thing that matters! THE KIDS!!!!
Why do they try to invalidate Harpers feelings?? There isn’t anything wrong with her not wanting to be in a big family at the moment that she’s dealing with loss
They didn’t invalidate her feelings. So you wanted them to be happy that she doesn’t want a big family? They feel sad but that doesn’t mean their angry with her feelings or they are trying to downplay her feelings. It’s okay for everyone to be angry at a situation it doesn’t mean they are angry with each other. What Harper said is sad even if they are her feelings it’s still sad but it’s okay to feel that way.
I feel like Frieda did not watch the same show we did from reading all her comments. 🥴👁👄👁
@@nana2ar369 Freida is the mom probably. She is defending only Erica and Emma. It's obvious. Classic narcissist.
I feel bad for both Harper and Emma. Clearly both of them are struggling with the loss of the birth parent that they lost.
That's exactly what it is and they're taking it out on each other. But my prayer is that one day they'll find hope in Jesus and allow Him to give them the comfort and the love that they need
@@chrispleasantable yes exactly!! I couldn’t agree more! Jesus is our light in dark places
wait i’m confused with this show are all the kids adopted?
@@piper8407 half of the kids are biologically related to the mom and the other half to the dad. The other biological parent died and they met in a grief counseling program
@@ingrid-xr3ql And I believe that 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 will truly help out Emma and Harper. Plus, they should at least try praying together because I believe that if they pray together, they'll not only draw closer to Jesus but they'll also draw closer to each other despite their differences.
What in the actual hell is this show? I just came across it and am horrified. Is it because I'm in my 50s that I cannot believe parents put their kids on TV going to the bathroom and discussing their feelings about their dead parents? I don't care what these parents claim, they know this is not good for the kids.
Yeah it's awful. Complete exploitation.
It’s not their fault the kids were shown on the toilet. That is tlc fault with their editing they should have blurred out the kids for real. And no it’s not wrong for the kids to talk about their deceased parents, it’s actually good for them. That’s how you deal with grief. Not everything is about money and yes they are being compensated for sharing their lives but it’s not all about money. They really just want to share their journey as a blended family from grief, we don’t get to see that a lot. But it’s normal for a lot of people going through it. The kids enjoyed filming and they really miss the film crew aswell. It may seem like invasion but for the most part they really are happy to film and be on television. Even the oldest kids love the camera and most especially the interviews they get to express their feelings freely and the parents get to watch them expressing their feelings.
Ikr
@@Aprokoheadquaters That’s true they pick and choose what they wanna blur out because i’ve seen shows were it was
@@Aprokoheadquaters it’s good to talk about grief but not on a reality show! Those aren’t good for kids
Obviously Emma doesn’t like her because her “parents” are trying to force her to be in the family and Emma obviously doesn’t want to do anything they say and they are not good parents either
And that’s not even an excuse anymore. She should understand how to be nice to Harper. The things she said. I get why she’s acting that way but still.
@@lovely6713 true, but then again Emma is taking after her adoptive moms behavior, you can tell in her tone and the way they speak
@@ruthlessog9098 but that’s her mother like her actual mother😭
@@alyychavez wait hold up💀 so the other girl is the adopted one?
@@ruthlessog9098 yes
This is so unhealthy for the kids mental health Harper is not wrong!
These poor kids didn’t have have time to grieve for the parent they lost , now wanting them to change names and be adopted even though some of them have made it clear that is not what they want , clearly parents have only thought of themselves
Nice comments this beautiful is magnificent at this age can we be friends if you don't mind
Bro that’s creepy
@@rubykochik6478 what do you actually mean
Yes 100% agreed I. Wonder how long this show will last
I'm confused so are they all adopted into this family, or like which ones aren't adopted I'm confused overall.
Harper is so well spoken. “Very well...that doesn’t mean I can’t” “last night when I said that wish I didn’t have sisters, I meant” “you don’t know what I wish or how I feel”
No
Yeah
@@charlier24 yeah.
I keep seeing these videos, and just feel like the parents moved at a speed that was good for them but not for their kids! Poor kiddos are still recovering and dealing with the loss of their parent, meanwhile the parents are busy getting married and forcing the kids to basically live with strangers
I completely agree with you...
@@lubaba.321 there’s no other way around it. There’ll never be a right time for those parents to have gotten married or for those kids to recover from their parents death. One thing about death is you don’t get to recover you’ll never recover. You’ll only learn to move on with the pain for the rest of your life. They’ll always want their actual parents and those parents will always want their spouses back. If they were to all be given that choice they’d take it, it’s not as if you’re saying they broke up what happened was death separated them. They’d gladly get their spouses back if they were given a choice. The thing is there’s no choices in dying, you die and that’s it. The parents have each other to lean on and those kids will have a sample of the parent that passed. A step parent in their case is better than no parent at all. The kids will always have a father and a mother. Those girls who lost their mom will benefit a lot from their step mom when they get to become teenagers, a man will never understand females no matter how hard they try or how much effort they put in. And those girls who lost a dad will always have a father to protect them and be there for them. The dead parents are never coming back no matter how much they wish for them back
@@Aprokoheadquaters No there’s definitely a right time. A couple weeks after meeting is NOT that time.
@@user-tr3mw6nr7n you obviously have the wrong narrative. They’ve known each other a whole year before they started dating and when they started dating they got married 6 weeks later. So wtf are you talking about “ a couple weeks after meeting” it’s been one year and one month of meeting each other. I swear y’all love judging when you don’t know shit. Now what are you going to say about that? It’s been a whole year of them just being friends so much so that their oldest sons became besties. So please before you run your mouth just make sure you have the right information instead of listening to miss katy who just loves gossip and spreading negativity because that’s what pays her bills. You think she does this as a hobby? She’s just trying to pay her bills
@@Aprokoheadquaters they’re talking about the children, just because you knew each other for long doesn’t mean the kids are comfortable
Little Harper has my whole heart. I can’t imagine being a girl and losing your mom. She’s only eight; things will probably only get tougher from here. I can only hope that Erica pulls it together for her.
She’s so mature and so well spoken, but I feel like no one is listening, almost seems like they think everything she says is wrong.
Yeah For an 8 year old she is very good at expressing how she feels without crossing the line or being rude. Unfortunately the mom and Emma takes everything she says out of context
@@larissaswinkels3661 when everyone is trying in you are the only one to brake the team is selfish. She can be 8 years aold but she knows she hurting people thatt only mean well for her. We are living in different times and kids today are way more smart than previous generations.
No
I lost my mom at eleven years old my dad got with another woman pretty quickly. I despised her then but I love her so much today. She helped mold me into who I am today
Her trying to make it about her when the girl said she missed her mom is incredible selfish and neurotic to me. And Emma snapping at Harper and being like we all want our real parent but we can't have that was cruel. Emma has spoken about missing her dad and pushed back on wanting to be adopted because of that. So for her to snap at Harper for missing her mom was not ok!
What she said was hurtful, yes, but emma is just a kid too. They are both grieving children and need the support of counciling. I wouldnt put all the blame on emma because she is probably just as hurt as harper is.
@@bargasfam oh I totally agree! I made another comment saying the same thing about counseling. I think it would be extremely beneficial for helping the kids deal with their grief but also be able to talk about their biological parent without limits or repercussions. I've been on Emma's side a lot. When I saw that clip where she expressed reservations about the adoption and not wanting her name changed because of it being her father's name,I agreed with her 100% and was furious that the mom just tried blowing off her emotions as being tired and tried making her feel bad for how she felt. Which is why I said it wasn't ok for her to snap at Harper over missing her mom when Emma is having the same struggles missing her dad. It would be great if they could come together the two of them and support one another in their grief because they know what the other is going through and would relate a lot to how the other is feeling. Yes Emma is a child who is struggling so I'm not dumping on her as a whole just saying that particular moment was hurtful. She's not a bad kid just made a mistake in the moment. As someone who lost their dad over 2 years ago,I understand the rollercoaster ride grief takes you on. Then these poor children have to deal with their entire lives being flipped upside down because of their living parent quickly marrying someone else and suddenly living with strangers who you're expected to be this big happy family with while still missing your deceased parent. And it's almost like they're expected to just move on from losing their parent when that isn't how it works nor should it.
@@perfectlyimperfect2368 it’s weird how you lost a parent two years ago and you’re saying the kids are expected to be happy in the family while STILL missing their parents. The thing is you will ALWAYS miss your dead parent. Every single day of your life you’ll think about them. I lost my dad 12 years ago and trust me you’ll always miss them EVERYDAY and I was the same age as Harper. They’ll be fine actually they’ll even be more fine than I was growing up because they have a step parent. You have no idea how much that step parent will do for all of them respectively. Erica’s kids will always have a dad sample they’ll get to wonder what life with their actual parents would have been like but they’ll never lack in having that male figure in life. Same for Spencer’s kids they’ll have a mom in their life. They’ll always get those motherly hugs and they get to have a woman who’ll worry about them and take care of them. When they grow up they’ll appreciate and realize how having that step parent actually was good for them. They’ll never fill the void but they’ll fulfill the responsibilities accompanied with love. Those kids will never get to say they didn’t have a father figure in their lives cause for as long as spencer is there for them they’ll be good and vise vesa for Spencer’s kids they’ll have a mom especially Harper when she gets to start her period guess who she’ll rely on.... Erica, even better they’ll have known each other for some time she’ll get all the support she needs. Guess who’ll be there for Emma if she encounters a boy problem... spencer. Guess who’s there for Erica’s son who said he didn’t have any men to talk to when the father died... Spencer is there for him.Those dead parents are never coming back. For as long as their respective stepparents care for them they’ll always be good and appreciated. What the kids are going through and how they are feeling is completely normal and their behavior is okay and expected. They are actually doing a good job all of them parents included. They’ll never be perfect but they’ll always have love for each other
@@Aprokoheadquaters I first wanna say I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a parent isn't something I'd wish upon anyone. I apologize if my post came off the wrong way. I think step parents can be amazing. I have people in my life who are step parents or have step parents that are great. And yes they can absolutely bring a motherly/fatherly energy that is great for kids. With Harper and her saying she misses her mom or wants her old life back,I don't think it's wrong for her to feel that way. No we can't ever have our deceased parent back but that doesn't mean we don't wish it were the case. And while I understand trying to help everyone move forward,I don't think it's right to dismiss those feelings of longing and loss either. If I was in Erica's shoes and Harper said what she said I wouldn't take it personally,I would take it as a girl missing her mom. That doesn't mean I'm failing or I can't keep doing my best, just that I also understand where Harper is coming from and her struggles. The vibe I have issue with, be it intentional or not,is that since we can't change it we just have to move forward and stop talking about the past. Yes my life has continued on but we still talk about my dad all the time and I think that should be allowed. I feel like a lot of the kids weren't ok with how quickly everything happened and needed more time. Yes I understand the argument could be made that they maybe would never feel ready and the parents shouldn't have to wait forever but I think a balance needs to be found. I don't think they are bad people or they're trying to be malicious,just that they still need to let the kids express their grief in what ever form that comes in as long as it isn't harmful.
I’ve only seen a few clips of them but it’s obvious that Emma is definitely most in need of counseling. All the kids are struggling and grieving but I think the loss of her dad severely impacted her ability to empathize with others.
Harper is such an intelligent little girl. You can see the grief in her eyes, and shes able to communicate exactly how shes feeling. its a shame nobody is taking the time to protect these children and their very real feelings
You're talking about a bunch of CHILDREN that witnessed their parents DEATHS!! To expect them not to get emotional and wish that their other parent was still around is absolutely asinine and insane. You're the adult in the situation, you shouldn't be taking it to heart because a little girl said she wishes she still had her mom with her. These children need to understand that it is okay to be upset and emotional and wish that would happened, hadn't happened. But you have to let them know that you understand that, that doesn't mean that they don't love you and want you in their lives. They just miss their other parent too.
It's kind of like what Bishop Jospeh Walker said back in 2005 on "Praise the Lord". The church likes to tell you to "just get over it" but you can't just get over it, you gotta go through the process. And only Jesus can help you go through the process
@@chrispleasantable I really wish you wouldn't take the opportunity to preach your religion to people who have demonstrated no interest in it.
I think Emma might be more bitter about the situation because she is the oldest girl in her family and I think Mom may have leaned on her emotionally a little too much. I think her negative attitude towards harper is honestly just a product of her probably being told the same thing when her Dad had died or having to suck up her emotions to help console her other siblings. I think both of these kids are grieving and both have been treated differently in their grieving process which definitely has affected their attitude towards the loss. Emma was definitely replied on emotionally as friend rather than a child to her mother so she probably feels upset because she feels like she can't be upset, this definitely can cause a lot of resentment towards Harper who isnt as mentally mature and is free to express her emotions more freely. I think Emma definitely want her mom to feel validated but its sad that her mom doesn't care if Emma is validated
Something about her having to say “birth mom” rather than just mom was really weird and how the parents are making everything about them like the lady isn’t her mom. You have to gain that title and that trust.
Also it’s quite apparent that Emily adapted the way her mom talks and reacts to things. It’s really sickening, and you can tell it’s a coping mechanism. (Coming from someone with the same entitlement)
@@yup7703 Emma*
Yes she’s adopted because her mom is right. Do you want her to sugarcoat death for them forever? The parents are never coming back. There’s nothing wrong with understanding that it’s the first step for them to move forward otherwise they’ll be stuck in one spot for the rest of their lives. “Everyone wants to have their actual parent but they can’t” not one single lie detected
@@Aprokoheadquaters you saying they need to move on but forgetting the fact that the mom is the problem and not the kids, look how they make everything about them when speaking abt the birth mom and how she belittles the kids for expressing their hurt
@@ruthlessog9098 it’s the mom talking to u
@@Aprokoheadquaters You're obsessed with excusing these parents behavior.👎🏽
These kids need to therapy to cope with the death of a parent, these parents need to think about the kids and not themselves!!!😡
Harper did an amazing job expressing her emotions. It must be so hard for her at that age to do so but she’s so strong. I wish the other people could see that she’s struggling with this shift in her life and instead of bullying her and putting her down, they should encourage her.
Those other people you’re talking about are kids just like Harper. The parents do understand her but that doesn’t mean it’s not going to be hurtful. Everyone sees that every other person is struggling just like themselves but Harper did hurt people’s feelings when she said her feelings because it’s as if she doesn’t want them which is fine to feel that way but that doesn’t mean that people won’t get hurt. All their feelings are valid all of them Harpers included. Nobody shutting down anyone’s feelings including their own feelings that’s why it’s a hurt-hurt situation
@@Aprokoheadquaters I get what you’re saying as well, and when I said “people” I’m mainly focusing on the parents. I just felt like it was everyone against harper, which would make it more difficult for her to cope with her feelings than for them to cope with theirs. But ofc they are all mourning and all are in this situation together so I do agree with you. I just felt like if I was Harper I’d feel like I have no one to turn to because everyone was against her, instead of talking about the root cause of why she said what she said. As they get older though they will probably know how to speak to each other with more care, but the parents should help to speed that process up.
@@Aprokoheadquaters I get the feeling ur the mother in the episode. Harper is a daughter growing up without a mother. I feel for her more than anyone in the show. Mothers provide protection for us and define the household. In many ways, your kids are still in their household while Harper and her siblings have moved into another woman’s home. She will grow up watching momma bear instinctively choose Emma and protect her Cubs and she will have others defining her words, actions and emotions in a negative light. While her mother will cover her mistakes and interpret everything in a good way, the other woman has no instinct telling her to do so. Stepsons and stepmoms (unless the stepmom is unusually cruel and petty ) have neutral relationships but stepmoms and stepdaughter relationships are something else. This dad better watch out for his daughter
@@HL-hi6zn Definitely! Did u notice how Emma and the mom used the same exact words to define Harper’s intentions as if they’ve talked about this before. Poor girl is growing up in another woman’s household.
Why the heck do they allow their kids to be using the bathroom in from of the cameras? Would they allow them to be recorded? No. That’s so wrong
I was so concerned about this as well!!! It’s so weird and why are their parents trying to deny them going to the bathroom?!
Yeah stuffs pretty weird.
This show is wrong all around
Agree!!!
Poor harper is going though a lot. She misses her mom (and a “new” mom is forced upon her) has sisters all of a sudden, and has to deal with Emma. It’s a lot for a kid
She’s making it more hard for herself by not accepting and embracing her new life. Nobody is asking her to forget her old life they are just asking her to be patient accepting. She’s acting out because she has the “ Erica can’t tell me what to do because she’s not my real mother” she’s intentionally being disobedient. She doesn’t listen to Erica. Her new mom is not “forced” upon her, force is a harsh word because i don’t think there’s anyone who chooses their stepparent or even biological parent. You just get them but that doesn’t mean it’s “force” . This is exactly why Emma is saying everyone wants their actual parents but can’t have them. They were also “forced” to not have their actual parents (since you want to use that word) life doesn’t give you choices all the times. If they had their way they’d all choose their old life back all of them including the parents. Tanner ( the red haired boy) cries every night for his father but he doesn’t give Spencer a hard time he’s not cold towards him and he’s not acting out on purpose. Harper is giving a hard time because she didn’t know that everyone feels the exact same way as she does. They are all in this together and they can start from there moving forward. They are going through the same grievances and nobody is anyone’s enemy. She didn’t know that but now she does
@@Aprokoheadquaters I don’t think you can honestly say that tho bc she isn’t making it harder on herself she should have to accept it and she doesn’t have to like her new sister she doesn’t even have to see her as a sister shes a young girl who lost her mom I understand both kids lost a parent but being a girl is so much harder without your mom their yes she has a wonderful new mom but that doesn’t change the fact that she isn’t harpers mom Emma has her mom Harper is the only girl in her bunch without her mother that is so extremely difficult.
@@haileyrazo5679 how wonderful is the “new mom” who is invalidating her feelings to strangers on YT with a pseudoname
@@Aprokoheadquaters get therapy before becoming an evil stepmom with a complex about why ur child is disobeying
The fact that Harper specified “birth mom” and didn’t just say “mom” makes me sad.
Also the fact that she said “I don’t know” when Erica said that they can’t change the current situation (i.e., her mom not being alive, new blended family) indicates (to me at least) that she doesn’t fully understand what has happened and what is happening. :(
Emma's not trying to be mean, she just wants some semblance of control over her life. Same with Harper. Harper just wants her old life back. Poor kids need counseling.
Everyone’s response to Harper missing her mom is very telling. Very insecure. She’s a child who lost her mom. She wants her mom. Why on earth would you take that personally? It’s so sad. Bless her heart
I wish someone would point out to Emma and Harper that they both miss their deceased parents and they could bond over that and how they both were the oldest . They need sibling therapy and individual therapy
I think it's probably bcs harper used to be the only sister, and emma has always been the oldest sister so both girls are the most with attention and now they both had to share their position/ attention that they get
Yes and I think there is a difference that Harper was the only girl and lost a Mother than Emma losing her Father. Not that there is a contest, well, Emma makes everything a contest, she is very gaslighting and narcissistic. My Step sister was this way even at 4 and at 45 she is still that way. Personalities show up young sometimes. Especially children with trauma.
This show is so tough to watch. l can't stand watching the parents ignore all the grief, anger and sadness their kids all carry without any form of support therapy.
They go to therapy. Watch the whole show it has a good ending. The kids love their new life but they struggle with the old life that they lost and no it’s not the parents fault. The parents also lost their spouses. Everybody misses their old life it’s part of grieving. They’ll miss their old life for eternity. Even if they didn’t have stepparents they would still miss their old life with their real parents. The parents aren’t ignoring the kids grief, the problem is you’ve probably never experienced it first hand so you can’t relate. The kids will grieve the rest of their lives, they are just at the beginning and it’ll get Easier as they grow and as they mature. They are 3 years into their mourning basically it’s still fresh and they are acting the way they are supposed to considering their situation. They are on the right track all of them parents included, they are in an easier situation. The kids have a mom considering their dad works a lot and they have a dad aswell considering their mom is a stay at home mom and she definitely can use the help. Being single parents would have been harder than their current situation for all of them emotionally. In life when you rebel sometimes you just make things harder for yourself and this is one of the situations. Accepting helps with grief. Dead people never return no matter how much you want them back
@@Aprokoheadquaters This family needs to read what the Bible says in 2 Corinthians 1:2-11 and 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
@@Aprokoheadquaters am starting to convince you the mother. You are everywhere
Extremely selfish Parents, shame on them
I don’t think they are trying to be selfish. They might of jumped into marriage a bit fast because of their grieve but I think their trying to help the kids.
not true?...
Ugh she wanted to make it all about herself when poor Harper said she missed her mom “uwu am I not doing a good enough job??😭😭”
Some people just shouldn't be parents yet
yep, how childish of her :/
My heart goes out to Harper. Poor girl hopefully they give her counseling.
Why are Harper and Emma always sitting next to each other when they LITERLLY hate each other!?..
Drama..ratings...$$$$
Thxs for the Likes!! the most i have ever gotten in 8 hours and the most i have ever gotton in LIFE!!
It makes for good TV. And clearly they’re doing the show for $$$$$$$$$$
Probably producers
Does anyone else think it’s exploitative to film these kids going to the bathroom. There are so many creeps out in the world that could distribute these kind of clips for sick reasons
i strong agree, they should not go that far behind that privacy, it's inappropriate. they should learn that by now
Yes
So sad that harpers feelings weren't acknowledged and she wasn't even comforted I just wanted to give her a cuddle
I have a psych background, and have watched some of this show. It’s mental. They moved far too fast in trying to integrate everyone into one family unit, which given the ages of the children is just not reasonable. Psychologically, unless you are in a child’s life before they turn 5 it’s completely unrealistic and emotionally damaging to expect to “be” their parent and have them call you ‘mom’ or ‘dad’. There’s so much literature on this. And forcing children to who BARELY know each other to live together and share rooms and act like siblings?! It’s heartbreaking to watch because I know the parents love each other and their children, but these are delicate and complex things which take TIME. And therapy. I cannot stress enough that those kids DESERVE counseling. I hope they never split up simply because that would cause even more turmoil and upheaval for the kids!
Losing a parent is hard enough but your remaining parent re-marrying within a short time and then forcing you to move in with strangers makes it even harder! Slow down people, slow down! Give the kids time to grieve instead of rushing and forcing them into situations they didn’t ask for
I feel so bad for Harper she’s being picked on by Emma. I also feel bad for Emma though, she’s obviously going through some stuff and it’s not good for her to have this videos on the internet forever of her bullying her younger siblings. People are going to hate on he forever even if she change. This is such an exploitative tv show
You mean people like you are going to pick on her forever even if she changes? Because they both had to change their mindset little poor Harper included. They aren’t enemies and they felt like they were both of them. Not just Emma. The only difference between Emma and Harper is that Emma KNOWS that you can’t change the past even though she doesn’t understand it quite yet herself atleast she knows it. Harper on the other hand chooses to want to change the past and that’s were they bust heads. Emma is kind but Harper doesnt want anything to do with moving on at all. Which is not fair because everyone has to move on whether they want to or not
That metaphor from lily though.... She's going to be really clever... Of course the producers probably told her to say that
What did she say? I didn't get it
It was a simile
i honestly feel so bad for emma bc she’s trying so hard and no one notices
Emma? How does she try?
@@smileonlegs1 you didn’t hear her say something nice about her sisters she said what she said at the camp fire for HARPER. Every single word she said was directed especially to Harper. Harper didn’t even try to say something nice about them. And you’re still asking how Emma tried. Exactly why the comment said Emma is trying and no one notices.
@@smileonlegs1 she tries so hard to overcome her hurt, and to accept Harper because of her parents but the parents only notice the bad and not the good
@@smileonlegs1 you kiddin , she puts her feelings to the side and tries
Harper and emma are both confused about the loss of their parent. They haven’t had time to grieve and now they’re pushed into a blended family. So not fair. Emma is kinda invalidating Harper’s feelings about the death of her mother and then the step mother is making it about her. So selfish. This family is not functional and won’t last
The family will function! I watched every single episode and they love each other and they have accepted each other even more so now that the kids have all been adopted
Ok I'm an adult in my mid 20s who lost my dad over 2 years ago. If my mom suddenly got remarried and all these people moved into the house and I had a new step dad, that would be incredible difficult for me to handle(I still live at home due to health issues) so I can't imagine trying to cope with those feelings as a child. I don't think either set of kids should be shamed about missing their biological parent whom they miss deeply and are trying to grieve for. If someone did something like that to me in regards to my dad,I would be furious and heartbroken! From other clips I've seen from this show I just can't agree with the choices these parents made and I feel their children are paying the price for it. I'm not saying they are bad people or had nefarious purposes doing what they did but they got way to swept up in the romance and forgot that the children's needs needed/need to come first. I think grief counseling,if not already happening,would be extremely helpful for these children to not only help with their grief but be able to talk about their biological parent without limits.
You lost your dad 2 years ago and you’re in your mid 20’s . You’re grown af to even try to think you understand what they are going through because you don’t. You lost your dad after he’s witnessed a lot of your life events and you knew what type of a parent he was. That’s different. I lost mine around Harper’s age. Those kids are blessed to have a step parent who cares for them. That’s all they need from a step parent. You don’t understand that those kids will NEVER have an idea of what type of parent their deceased parents would have been in their teenage years or even how their lives would have been. All eleven of those kids were under the age of TEN when their parents died. They’ll have ACTUAL memories of their parents at the back of their minds and right now their parents memories are fresh as hell in their brains, the memories will get blurry af when they grow. You lost your dad when you were fully developed. Those kids were practically all CHILDREN when it happened. You know how many stages to life they still have left? There’s 7 stages in life
Infancy and Toddlerhood.
Early Childhood.
Middle Childhood.
Adolescence.
Early Adulthood.
Middle Adulthood.
Late Adulthood.
Out of those 7 most of the kids made it to stage 3 with their parents but not beyond that. Think about it. They’ll remember a lot of things they’ll even watch home videos but I’m telling you a lot of those memories will be far from reach in their brain. I’m 21 this year and it has been 12 years but my memory of my dead is more blurry than a blind man’s eyesight. The memories are there but they’re so far from reach that it’s frustrating. You grew up having a father. You’ll never get to say “ I didn’t grow up with a father” forgive me when I say this but for you you don’t understand them and you’ll never understand them even if you try because it’s not the same. You HAD a father those kids won’t get to say the same. You had your father there with you when you graduated from high school those kids will never get that. They’ll never even get to see how their parent would have handled their hormones when they become teenagers cause trust me when those hormones hit they’ll want their deceased parents more than ever. When they fully mature they’ll appreciate and love their step parent to the highest power possible because they’ll know that someone who wasn’t their blood cared enough to parent them and love them as their own. Rn they’re kids and they are still adjusting to not having their actual parent around. It’s gonna hit them some more that FOREVER means forever isn’t like never coming back in this lifetime and they’ll really fully understand. Not even to think about the toddlers who won’t remember anything 😂😂😂 (I know it’s not funny) the kids in their diapers won’t even remember their actual parents voices not even if they watch their home videos that voice won’t come in their brain on its own as a memory they’ll just get to watch it. That’s how deep it is to have a parent gone at that young age. I’m not dismissing your experience I’m just trying to make you understand that you have no idea how it actually is for them you don’t even have an idea of their future with grief. I know because I’ve been there at that exact age and I’m telling you it’s not the same as when you’re grown. You won’t get to see other kids holding their fathers hands and your first reaction is to cry or feel jealous they’ll get to experience that first hand. You you’ll probably just miss him but you’re grown enough to understand or not to instantly feel sorry for yourself as first reaction. All I know is those parents are doing a good job for their kids, I know because I’ve been in those exact shoes. I’ve walked their exact same journey so trust me I know exactly what’s going on in their hearts right now and I know exactly how their teenage life is about to be... it’s going to be so much better and easier with a step parent. I didn’t get a step parent so I know how good it’ll be to have one who’s there to parent with their living actual parents. Those parents will never be alone or feel alone and that is an amazing positive thing for their kids. That male voice is needed and that motherly care is needed.
@@Aprokoheadquaters Harper’s situation will always be different. That mother-daughter bond is difficult to replicate even when the stepmom doesn’t have her own kids. I can’t imagine you choosing ur daughters over her. Which parent died matters. We all know moms run the household so the 4 stepchildren will struggle a lot more than the other 7
@@Aprokoheadquaters It’s funny how your trying to invalidate the commenters feelings but then compare it to your own situation. What your not realizing is that cases like yours happen only sometimes. The issue is there not invalidating her feelings at all. Kids will always remember that and have resentment later on. If they don’t tackle this issue now it could lead to further problems down the line. For example, when she gets into her teens she may feel less inclined to tell her parents how she feels. You also have to take in mind that there are a lot of children. One of them or a couple are going to most likely be emotionally neglected. There are simply too many kids to care about equally. Kids aren’t stupid they know when they remember when there not being heard. Then parents wonder why later on their children don’t speak to them.
Harper is a grieving child. She needs to have time and counseling to sort through her feelings. These parents need to get a clue.
They do get counseling. It’s a working progress. Don’t expect Harper to stop grieving because she won’t. None of them will stop grieving it’s a life long journey. They’ll get better at dealing with it but it won’t go away. There’s no expiration date to grieving, they’ll always want their parents back FOREVER no matter how old they get they’ll always be emotional about it, the only thing that will get better is how they deal with it
She has the right to miss her birth mom lol, and did they not expect any of their kids to argue sometimes?
Harper is such a beautiful little girl. I wish her all the strength and happiness she needs
both girls need counseling. this is really sad :(
they shouldnt be ashamed, its like any other brother/sister or sister/sister or brother/brother thing. Kids never get along
That's really not true, I know a lot of kids who are best friends with their sister/brother,, like me(: but yeah most of the time they are annoying eachother
Yeah but the circumstances are different, they haven’t grown up together. They were pushed into a blended family. The parents should have taken way more time to get the children integrated with each other and as a family
@@Vicc.m for me and my sister we have a love and hate relationship. Some days we love each other and other days we’re ready to fight each other. It’s different for every siblings
@@TrevyyNicole they’ve been friends for a year before they even got into a relationship. How much more time could one possibly have
She’s allowed to miss her birth mom they cant stop them from grieving and forcing them all too change their last names isn’t fair because Emma has clearly said she wants to have part of her dad with her
These parents make me sick. What ever happened to putting your children’s need before your own? They want to move on from their deceased husband and wife and just expected the kids to move on too from the loss of their parent. I feel so sorry for the kid’s.
This show is so depressing to watch. On the positive side, the girls seem to be really good at expressing their feelings and explaining why they feel that way.
It’s depressing because it’s real life and they are going through grief. I wonder why people are somewhat allergic to real life and real situations. They are healing. But yes you’re right the girls are good with their emotions it’s nice to see that
Harper is very well spoken and love how she can express her feelings. There parents need to help these kids out and let them be able to express their feelings and teach that older girl to be kinder towards her sister and let her have those types of feelings she misses her mom and they don’t allow her to in a way.
Harper has a big mouth for such a small person haha
Harper reminds me of my little sister 😂 she also has a big mouth and just says things without thinking it can hurt someone's feelings
@@jasminegarcia7164, Harper looks really young. It might be more that she doesn’t have the words to explain how she feels rather than simply being hurtful. These children lost a birth parent, they’re dealing with that grief, their surviving parent gets remarried, so now they have several new people in their lives, and they’re on a reality tv show instead of being able to process everything privately. It’s a lot to handle.
@@shaehoward4793 yeah I do feel for her but must be hard on Emma as well, what harper says is unintentionally hurtful but it must really effect Emma. Theyre both sad children and you can see it when they're being interviewed, they need time to heal or professional help before they ruin their relationship even more
aweee feel for both girls 😭 one day they’re going to get along I can tell. people with the same personalities usually don’t like each other at first but eventually they’ll be the bestest friends. And Harper is really a strong little one . She’s tough and speaks her mind.
I feel so bad for Harper😔 I hate that she's in this situation. She's so well spoken. Also when Harper zipped up that tent and showed Emma she could do it👏period.
You can see the pain in this family omg
Emma’s misinterpreting what Harper is saying Harper wants to to be close with Emma but Emmathinks she is being rude to her and her family.
Poor Harper, Emma is saying that she’s mad at her for grieving for own mother! Absolutely horrible
They both are kids that lost a parent so please chill on commenting on the kids if anything this is the parents fault
@@jarricah7920 I know, but Emma knows what it’s like, so idk why she is being so mean to Harper about missing her mum
Just think about how Emma’s mom makes the children’s grief all about her and that really explains why Emma is doing it too.
Y tf r u offended that she misses her birth mom??? Of course she's gonna miss her. And it's super unhealthy that she can't express that without being shut down. This is so toxic its not even funny. Those poor kids.
This is depressing. Why televise this struggle? These guys need counseling. This is rough.
This family doesn’t need to be on TV anyway there is too much going on and it’s just making it worse
“Being the only girl basically means you’re the oldest” Harpers so cute lol
i hate that the little harper has to explain herself to ema
They are both KIDS
@ 7:54 periodt Harper!!! She said "that doesn't mean I can't" she got a lot going for her she wants to keep trying and being her best even when someone tries to put her down
Emma and Harper could be the best of friends. They are so similar! Both strong, intelligent and outspoken. I predict they will be best friends in no time.
I would be pissed off too if I had to have like 15 extra ppl added lol
I lost my mom at 13. I can only imagine how that poor girl feels. There won’t be anything that can ever fix that. :(
i feel sorry for them
She doesn’t want your mom she wants her mom back.
Exactly why she said they all want their parents back. Emma wants her dad back aswell but she has to deal with Spencer and she has to put up with him. They have a common problem they just need to work together to tackle the problem. Harper shouldn’t have said what she said, she is allowed to feel that way and she should feel that way but she shouldn’t have said she doesn’t want them because they all want their old life back but as Emma said “they CANT” have that so they have to make use of the current situation. Harper should have said exactly what she meant which is she wants and misses her mom not that she wants her new family members gone. She even explained what she meant later on so she should have said exactly what she meant and meant what she said.
@@Aprokoheadquaters I think she should have said whatever she wants which she did, if the don’t want to know the truth don’t ask the question ya know
@@riverszenonian7610 this is the mom. Do you see how she defends her own kid passionately and still attacks Harper in the comments. I can’t imagine how she treats that poor girl behind closed doors
i think the a lot of the misunderstandings may come from harper being more emotionally mature than emma (at least in this clip). she can differentiate between what she feels and what she says, come back and explain herself perfectly and understand why she said it. while emma was still hurt by what she said and could only think of her own hurt in that moment instead of really understanding why harper felt that way. i really hope they have some kind of family therapy/sibling therapy .. going through all of this while being filmed is not healthy for the children, any way you want to put it, it's not healthy. they all need to be in therapy, at the least.
Aww my heart. For kids they are doing a wonderful job expressing themselves. I know they can work this out with a little help for a parent or grandparents they’ll be supper close one day.
these children are not in a good headspace for this right now. you can tell Emma and Harper are probably grieving a lot and then having to be shoved together with a whole other family is a hard adjustment and i don’t think the parents are taking that into consideration. i also feel as though when there is a conflict between two kids from different families, each parent takes their specific kids side or only one parent is involved so the one kid gets their way. idk though
7:55 to 9:28 rlly piss me off kinda, Harper obviously tried to prove a point but Emma keeps on making it about herself. Harper still is mourning bout her mum while Emma just says “I know, everyone wishes to have their parents” in a she wants Harper to shut up about it. Harper is explaining the reason. Honestly they had to understand Harper more
Poor Harper. She doesnt act like a Brat at all. Its so brave of her to talk about her feelings and be open about not being happy and missing her mom. I feel like all others just try to bury that topic by just talking about how nice the new big family is. You can notice that she is a really intelligent girl. I really find it disgusting how her step mother reacted to that and Emma just learns from her...
Why is no one talking about the fact they were videoing the kids using the bathroom!?
Yeah that was weird and unnecessary.
"I used to be the only girl, which basically means you're the oldest...." 💯
Harper is so smart and self aware
Super nanny needs to come to this family lol
Harper explained what she meant, Emma still took it as what she thinks she meant and that stems from her mother. Why haven’t these children gone to family therapy individually and as a whole instead of this mess and pretending like everyone should get along. It’s unrealistic especially when everything happened so fast. I really hate this for all the children involved. Don’t care about the adults because they have their own agenda and the mom’s brother was right with all his concerns
Stop pressuring that little girl to say something she likes she needs times to grieve!! Emma stop being so rude!! Harper seems super sweet Emma pushed her buttons.
Emma saying she finds it offensive: Emma is very rude. I understand what she’s going through but she needs to learn to meet Harper half way. Emma makes everything seem rude. She acts like Harper is completely incapable of doing anything and that the world revolves around Emma. Harper just misses her mum and no one is there to talk to her. I understand the parents loved each other but it’s a lot to put on kids who just lost their parents
Yes Erica you are failing. Quit turning everything this precious little grieving baby is saying into something about you.
You know. It is a staged interview when they talk to the camera. It’s not like she’s saying this at random. That aside the whole camping trip and “say what you love” circle just felt icky. Not saying she’s a horrible mother but TV hosts are trying to get everyone to say their feelings so they can frame it as drama - what this family really needs is a group therapy session. Imagine if they could say these things to each other and work it through with someone trying to help them and not exploitive producers and camera crews who think of them as cash cows.
Tbh I understand Harper and Emma. Both valid points. Poor kids.
Harper is so emotionally intelligent. These two girls are just clashing. It’s so unfair on both of them. They’re both so smart. I hope they can be friends
Blended families can be tough especially when there is little time of healing from a loss. I do wish the family the best . The parents are doing the best they can.
Emma is ridiculous as an older girl it is not that difficult to see from Harper's side, they both need counseling. And even after Harper tried resolving the mir issues Emma still finds a way to resent
When Emma tries to be nice harper is always saying something mean and I'm sure Emma understands harper but she doesn't really get the chance to tell her that because they're always fighting
You could be the best mom and sibling; but a kid will almost alway want their real mom and dad.
She should be able to say she wants her mom and not be judged.
When my son needs to go potty while driving I have less than 5 minutes to pull over or he will go in his car seat.
Really? I hope it's not a medical reason that he does that.
Nice comments this beautiful is magnificent at this age can we be friends if you don't mind
These kids are having big feelings. Totally valid feelings. At it seems like their parents are bulldozing over it!!! It’s hard to watch!
"Caleb is the worst pooper 💩" i died 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
People deal with grief in different ways. But to provide some context, Emma’s dad was sick for a long time but Harper’s mom passed away suddenly. Additionally, Harper was the only girl in her family. I can’t imagine how hard it is for Harper during this time, she didn’t get to say good bye and now her feelings are invalidated. It was never about the Means, it was about how she feels which is valid.
No, they are not “happy” or “it’s really paying off.” You can’t expect your kid to just rub off a soul they were comfortable with and lived for many years and go trust another person. No. That’s not how it works. Selfish to just loose someone and go into a different relationship and bring your kids along in the mess. They are NOT okay. I can tell, she is not done grieving her dad and she never will when she wakes up every morning to a “dad” she is supposed to love all of a sudden. No. Not cool dude.
This is just my opinion and how I feel about this mess.
It annoyed me when all the mum got out of Harper saying she misses her birth mum is “am I being a good parent” she never said that it’s completely normal for Harper to miss her birth mum good parent or not she’s ALWAYS going to miss her birth mum. It was so hard for me to watch the whole family invalidate her feelings in that share circle instead of comforting the little girl.
This family is a disaster waiting to happen. Clearly the parents rushed into something the kids weren't ready for without minding the consequences.
Dang, all she said was “I miss my mom” and the girl and the mother makes it like it’s a bad thing…😒 let the girl feel what’s she feel and instead of make it about u, comfort her!
This is honestly too much for those kids they didn't have time grieve... you can't blame the oldest daughter she definitely isnt ready for this
Sending love to these sweet girls, remember all you can do is your best.