The parents think it’s important, to all have the same name.. the daughter doesn’t want to change her last name .. it was part of her link to her late father..they should respect that..
@@lovis997 why does she need to explain the obvious? Of course she loves her dad and wants to keep his name, she shouldn't need to explain anything and be convinced otherwise
This is BEYOND f*cked up. 🤦🏽♀️I can’t believe believe they are putting her into this type of situation. They will still be a family even if she wants to keep her last name. It honors the memories of her late father, she is almost a teen and has very valid points, it’s clearly means a lot to her.
Exactly!! Extremely selfish behavior!! I'm disgusted by them! Also, the adoption isn't necessary!! He's their stepfather, he needs to accept that. Mom can sign a notarized affidavit giving him legal rights incase he needs to take them to Dr's appts, sign important papers, etc.
Wow, trying to coerce this poor girl into changing her name away from her biological father's name is so messed up. The parents are vain and obsessed with image, they want everyone to "match" and they're not considering how it's making this poor young lady feel. She lost her biological father and has been through enough already
It's important for the new father to take over everything. The little girl doesn't want to change her name because that is her choice. I worry the parents will try and bully her into changing her name.
My mom tried to do the same thing after my dad died. They need to understand that just because her father has passed doesn't mean that she doesn't still love him and want that connection with him. They need to respect how she feels about it.
1:00 “what really is the issue?” Ummm maybe you rushed your children into forcing a new family while they were still grieving? And now you’re forcing your child to discard one of the last remaining reminders of their deceased father? These poor children! Props to Emma for standing up for herself.
He said it's a little troubling to see emma struggling to change her last name. Dude, her fatger died, so it's troubling that you're trying so hard to change her last name which is her father's part of her. I kind of feel like he killed the father. Both their partners died? Man, I hope this is not a horror story where they killed their partners to be together
Why would you take your daughters last name away just because your in a new relationship. That's not right yo. It's like saying her father never Exist.
Let that child keep her father's last name it's her name . I'm not feeling this step-father . What if the situation was reversed and his children wanted to change their last name to another man's last name .
I did. My childrens father was abusive and after he committed suicide and his side of the family wanted nothing to do with us I went back to my maiden name and my children did too. They wanted to belong to a family that wanted them!
Some people genuinely think large families are an aesthetic and foster children are an accessory and it’s disgusting. I’m so glad this young girl is outspoken and can speak for herself. Reality shows are not for children. Let them grow without being exploited on national television. I hope she finds her healing and that all of the children grow in healing.
The mothers snide remark of not changing her name creates “lots of less than ideal things” was a power play to ensure Emma is feeling guilty. She followed it up with the future talks about it. I guarantee it’s not going to be in this Dr’s office. But using her authority to poke at her choice until she relents.
Buying the star was incredibly manipulative. So now she doesn’t take their name. She’s not part of the star either. It’s terrible so passive, aggressive and manipulative.
I would grow up resenting my mom if she ever pulled some crap like this if i was in this situation. Forcing me to get rid of my late fathers name would break our relationship for good.
In my opinion, the parent shouldn’t have been in the room when the kids were talking to the therapist, because I feel like with them being in the room might make the kids hold back on how they really feel to the therapist
Why is the new dad pushing for this? He would not appreciate his child's last name being taken away. When she grows up and gets married, she can choose then. What happens if they are only married for a few year and then get a divorce??? Could it be for tax and refund pirposes???? Looks like he dad may have an alternative motive.
I think the mother needs to blink twice if she in trouble. I'm sorry for that girl with a weak mother like her. I pray Emma grows up and becomes her own women who makes her own decisions without being manipulated
Having growing up in blended families and being a part of the LDS community like them, this is manipulative and toxic to push this subject on this little girl. My mom tried blending the family names like this and it didn’t stick because we knew it wasn’t how we kids identified. This girl should have her decision respected and the parents need to stop talking about it constantly. SMH.
I feel bad for Emma, because I feel like the only reason she decided to change her last name is so they’ll leave her alone about it because I feel like if she chose to keep her last name, they would’ve kept bugging her about it
Both adults are bullies!! They're a family without going through the process of adoption!! It's expensive paperwork! Mom can give him legal guardianship, and they can put the money they're spending into an account for the kids.
They disgust me! Let the poor girl alone! I hate it when they say "It's ultimately her decision" when it's not. They pressured her into accepting the name change. Shame on TLC!!
She shouldn’t have to change her name at all. There are heaps of blended families that don’t have the same surname. Stop forcing her to do that otherwise she’s going to hate your guts when she gets older. This is a decision she should be allowed to make. It makes me furious
These parents are A-holes! Wow! Who forces their adoptive kid to change their last name to something she doesn’t want! They should explain why they would like it and let her decide! NO PRESSURE!
This is SO cringe!! Poor Emma has more sense than her mom & stepdad combined. They should be touched that she wants to remember and honor her dad by keeping his last name. She's communicated very clearly that she DOES NOT want to change her name and her reasoning why, but they just keep trying to bully her into it! "It'll be more convenient for US" "It makes us more a family" "It's important to US..." blah blah blah, shut up and grow up! Toxic parents.
These parents are so passive aggressive I feel really bad for that little girl she should be able to keep her dad's last name it doesn't make her any less of their family if her last name is different this so stupid it says a lot more about them as people than it does about this little girl
Let her keep her dad's last name it's the last connection to her father for them to try and talk her into changing her name is absurd she's old enough to make her own decision it's just disgusting they're trying to erase everything of her father's even his name
Losing a parent and losing a spouse are two totally different types of grief. For this mother to sit there a push a decision based on her selfish reasons is disgusting. Take this show off the air
As showed by Emma. A name really does mean, a lot to people!! She lost her father. She deserves to still have, the last name she was born with. That's the only name she's ever known!! It would take her a while, to get used to Shemwell.
2:30 so….. they agree with her but then still want her to change her last name?? is it just me or are the parents just going back and forth. JUST LEAVE THE KID ALONE they are just going to keep pushing and then she’s going to hate them in the end. They are thinking and putting themselves first 😒😒🙄. There was no reason for them to see that lady the parents could’ve come up with that on their own 😒😒
This is the first clip I've ever seen of this, and I absolutely hate it! The manipulation that these adults put onto the kids is mind boggling! I hate that I watch so much TLC that this was recommended to me. I thought it was going to be cute and wholesome, but its not and I really feel bad for these kids!
Well as the majority of members in this new family unit have the last name of Means perhaps the Shemwells would consider changing their name to Means, so they "all match" lol😜
They shouldn’t make her change her last name if she doesn’t want to. She shouldn’t be treated different and can still be adopted. Seems like it looks better for the mom & stepdad She doesn’t need to erase her name
I feel like they are pressure her to change her name it's like for example my family members have the last name debord but I'm still a miller so u don't have to have the same last name to be family and it's more important to accept the fact she don't want to change her last name I just feel like when her mom ask her about it I kind of also feel that she just say I will change my last name so my mom won't bug me about it but you can tell she wasn't ready to answer that question yet and that a sign her mom was pressuring her to change it
"Feelings I can't sympathize with".... okay have you heard of empathizing? She wants to keep her dad's last name, her dad died! Selfish adults.... selfish AF
This makes me so mad hes Wanting to change the name for his own selfish reasons for his own insecurities and hes an adult this little girl has a real reason to have. An insecurity about changing her name and should be allowed to keep her dad's name. It's ridiculous and not as big of a deal. As hes trying to make it and if he can give me an indicate his frustration about wanting to? Change the name then he should understand why she wouldn't want to out of. A frustration that's actually valid.
this is emotionally manipulative to do emma....been looking for a show to watch but wont entertain a show that does this to children tlc you need to be ashamed
It is so wrong for a child to be pressured into changing her name from her birth right name to her mom's new husband's name, so what if this marriage ends in divorce? A name is a birthright.
They should offer her to have their last name bit to shame her for Not wanting to change who she is is Not fair to put this kid in such a awkward situation situation
This is so selfish. They are a blended family and so should honour that. In our blended family we have 3 different last names but we are all family. Spencer looks so angry.
I feel that this was forced on her. Even though they said, this is your decision, there shouldn’t even been a decision to make. Her father died. She is still grieving. They are all grieving from their losses of their birth parents. I let them breathe. And don’t have cameras up in their face 24 seven.
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Let her keep her dad's name, what a horrible family to even put her through counselling for having valid reasons.
Absolutely!!!!
The parents think it’s important, to all have the same name.. the daughter doesn’t want to change her last name .. it was part of her link to her late father..they should respect that..
Counselling is a good thing? She gets to talk about her feelings with someone who actually understands
I hope the parents read these comments!! If I was her daughter, I'd never forgive her!
@@lovis997 why does she need to explain the obvious? Of course she loves her dad and wants to keep his name, she shouldn't need to explain anything and be convinced otherwise
This is BEYOND f*cked up. 🤦🏽♀️I can’t believe believe they are putting her into this type of situation. They will still be a family even if she wants to keep her last name. It honors the memories of her late father, she is almost a teen and has very valid points, it’s clearly means a lot to her.
very strange that they want to change it!
I know! I can't believe this is even an issue for the parents!! Horrible!!
These people are so manipulative this poor little girl
They could have hyphenated the name to adopted last name - bio dad last name.
I find it really strange they wanna change her last name…
Yeah it’s pretty weird especially when she says she wants to keep her original last name cus of her late father
same, there's no reason for it past an ego thing
Good lord that man sounds narcissistic. "I am so happy she showed me she loves me by taking my last name."
Yup. You can see how narcissistic he is in his face
He’s gutted the therapist doesn’t suggest he gets his own way
I hope the parents didn't manipulate Emma into making that decision. I hope they let her make it on her own. I feel so sorry for her.
Sadly, she was manipulated
@@goncalooliveira7784how do you know?
I’m actually disgusted with this mother. The buying of the star is nothing short of manipulation. Wow.
Exactly!! Extremely selfish behavior!! I'm disgusted by them! Also, the adoption isn't necessary!! He's their stepfather, he needs to accept that. Mom can sign a notarized affidavit giving him legal rights incase he needs to take them to Dr's appts, sign important papers, etc.
The mom is stupid
If she wants to keep her last name let her keep it.
Wow, trying to coerce this poor girl into changing her name away from her biological father's name is so messed up. The parents are vain and obsessed with image, they want everyone to "match" and they're not considering how it's making this poor young lady feel. She lost her biological father and has been through enough already
It's important for the new father to take over everything. The little girl doesn't want to change her name because that is her choice. I worry the parents will try and bully her into changing her name.
I lost my dad almost two years ago. I will carry his last name until the day I die. I know how she feels
I feel sorry for this kid.
Love how they went to the therapist and basically didn’t listen to her advice at all. Spencer totally pushed and pushed that!
My mom tried to do the same thing after my dad died. They need to understand that just because her father has passed doesn't mean that she doesn't still love him and want that connection with him. They need to respect how she feels about it.
If the parents push her into it I hope someone lets her know she can change it herself when she’s older.
Leave her alone and let her keep her name damn 🙄😒
1:00 “what really is the issue?” Ummm maybe you rushed your children into forcing a new family while they were still grieving? And now you’re forcing your child to discard one of the last remaining reminders of their deceased father? These poor children! Props to Emma for standing up for herself.
It's frightening how many parents don't seem to consider how changes like getting into a new relationship affect their children.
How gross. Leave her alone and let her keep HER dads name.
There 😳 sus
He said it's a little troubling to see emma struggling to change her last name. Dude, her fatger died, so it's troubling that you're trying so hard to change her last name which is her father's part of her. I kind of feel like he killed the father. Both their partners died? Man, I hope this is not a horror story where they killed their partners to be together
Her dad died of cancer so no he didn't kill her dad. But yes that's so wrong of them trying to make her change her last name.
Why would you take your daughters last name away just because your in a new relationship. That's not right yo.
It's like saying her father
never Exist.
Let that child keep her father's last name it's her name . I'm not feeling this step-father . What if the situation was reversed and his children wanted to change their last name to another man's last name .
Let her keep her dad's last nake. That child will hate them and stop speaking to them when they get older
Who changed your kids last name after there father died
Indeed. Like stabbing the kids and putting salt in their wounds
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I did. My childrens father was abusive and after he committed suicide and his side of the family wanted nothing to do with us I went back to my maiden name and my children did too. They wanted to belong to a family that wanted them!
@@trishbakker8181 ok I could see thank but if he wasn't but was a great father and husband
The most horrible thing I've ever heard of.
Emma is a very smart young lady!! Can’t wait to see where life takes her
Some people genuinely think large families are an aesthetic and foster children are an accessory and it’s disgusting. I’m so glad this young girl is outspoken and can speak for herself. Reality shows are not for children. Let them grow without being exploited on national television. I hope she finds her healing and that all of the children grow in healing.
The mothers snide remark of not changing her name creates “lots of less than ideal things” was a power play to ensure Emma is feeling guilty. She followed it up with the future talks about it. I guarantee it’s not going to be in this Dr’s office. But using her authority to poke at her choice until she relents.
Emma should be having this conversation with the therapist without those two in the room. They really need to back off.
Great therapist!
This was emotionally manipulative and abusive in my opinion! You don’t erase a father and his name! 😢
Buying the star was incredibly manipulative. So now she doesn’t take their name. She’s not part of the star either. It’s terrible so passive, aggressive and manipulative.
I would grow up resenting my mom if she ever pulled some crap like this if i was in this situation. Forcing me to get rid of my late fathers name would break our relationship for good.
He walked all around the therapist question. That should speak volumes.
Hes got gross vibes
Good thing the therapist knocked some sense into these parents. Shame on her mom for even suggesting she change her name.
In my opinion, the parent shouldn’t have been in the room when the kids were talking to the therapist, because I feel like with them being in the room might make the kids hold back on how they really feel to the therapist
I think it was important for the therapist to see the parents invalidating Emma's feelings.
This whole show is actually so insane
Why the hell did they bother with a therapist at all if they where only going to ignore her advice? and such a creepy sense of pressure. just bleuch.
I hope that they respect her wishes.🤟🥰❤️
Sadly I doubt they will
Why is the new dad pushing for this? He would not appreciate his child's last name being taken away. When she grows up and gets married, she can choose then. What happens if they are only married for a few year and then get a divorce??? Could it be for tax and refund pirposes???? Looks like he dad may have an alternative motive.
Omg a therapist over a name change god forbid they don't have any real problems to deal with leave that poor child alone.
I think the mother needs to blink twice if she in trouble. I'm sorry for that girl with a weak mother like her. I pray Emma grows up and becomes her own women who makes her own decisions without being manipulated
literally says a billion times to change it for them ...once she agrees "you know you don't have to change it for Spencer or me"
Having growing up in blended families and being a part of the LDS community like them, this is manipulative and toxic to push this subject on this little girl. My mom tried blending the family names like this and it didn’t stick because we knew it wasn’t how we kids identified. This girl should have her decision respected and the parents need to stop talking about it constantly. SMH.
I feel bad for Emma, because I feel like the only reason she decided to change her last name is so they’ll leave her alone about it because I feel like if she chose to keep her last name, they would’ve kept bugging her about it
Both adults are bullies!! They're a family without going through the process of adoption!! It's expensive paperwork! Mom can give him legal guardianship, and they can put the money they're spending into an account for the kids.
They disgust me! Let the poor girl alone! I hate it when they say "It's ultimately her decision" when it's not. They pressured her into accepting the name change. Shame on TLC!!
My father died when I was 11 and my mom remarried like a year or two later. I would have been DEVASTATED if I was forced to change my last name.
She shouldn’t have to change her name at all. There are heaps of blended families that don’t have the same surname. Stop forcing her to do that otherwise she’s going to hate your guts when she gets older. This is a decision she should be allowed to make. It makes me furious
These parents are A-holes! Wow! Who forces their adoptive kid to change their last name to something she doesn’t want! They should explain why they would like it and let her decide! NO PRESSURE!
I totally agree those parents are extremely selfish
This is SO cringe!! Poor Emma has more sense than her mom & stepdad combined. They should be touched that she wants to remember and honor her dad by keeping his last name. She's communicated very clearly that she DOES NOT want to change her name and her reasoning why, but they just keep trying to bully her into it! "It'll be more convenient for US" "It makes us more a family" "It's important to US..." blah blah blah, shut up and grow up! Toxic parents.
That’s the last part of her dad that she has- the one thing she can hold on to to have him near. Let her keep it :(
I feel like the mom is being selfish worrying about her relationship more and what she wants than her kids needs and wants
This episode really isn’t going how the parents thought it would 😂
and it doesn’t require a ‘therapist!’
these are the SAME people who have their own personal issues
LOL
She’s already made her choice. That much is completely clear.
These parents are so passive aggressive I feel really bad for that little girl she should be able to keep her dad's last name it doesn't make her any less of their family if her last name is different this so stupid it says a lot more about them as people than it does about this little girl
I couldn’t bypass those words of Emma’s adoption… the new father should not force a step to be adopted, until she asks to be.
How traumatising to try to pressure this girl to change her name. It's her legacy from her father.
It should be up to the child. She's old enough to choose.
Let her keep her dad's last name it's the last connection to her father for them to try and talk her into changing her name is absurd she's old enough to make her own decision it's just disgusting they're trying to erase everything of her father's even his name
Losing a parent and losing a spouse are two totally different types of grief. For this mother to sit there a push a decision based on her selfish reasons is disgusting. Take this show off the air
Erica’s youngest with her deceased husband passed a way from DIPG in June.
Are you serious?
@@The_Crazy_Family_Vlogs Caleb died yes…maybe it was his youngest….
@@WickedlyMe328 that’s so sad :( I wonder what the family is up too now
They are selfish to even consider something like that.
I kept my last name when I got married . I don't think the parents should make a fuss about thr last name
5:13 even the little toddler said it he knew the assignment
They are asking too much from her. It’s her decision. Not theirs.
As showed by Emma. A name really does mean, a lot to people!! She lost her father. She deserves to still have, the last name she was born with. That's the only name she's ever known!! It would take her a while, to get used to Shemwell.
Why would they need to change her family name ??? Her father died. That’s traumatic.
Didn't the dad run a red light and that's how his wife and unborn child died?
??? I’d like to see receipts don’t spread rumours..
Why did they need to be adopted? Why can’t he just be their stepdad? Let her keep her Dad’s last name.
2:30 so….. they agree with her but then still want her to change her last name?? is it just me or are the parents just going back and forth. JUST LEAVE THE KID ALONE they are just going to keep pushing and then she’s going to hate them in the end. They are thinking and putting themselves first 😒😒🙄. There was no reason for them to see that lady the parents could’ve come up with that on their own 😒😒
This is the first clip I've ever seen of this, and I absolutely hate it! The manipulation that these adults put onto the kids is mind boggling! I hate that I watch so much TLC that this was recommended to me. I thought it was going to be cute and wholesome, but its not and I really feel bad for these kids!
Well as the majority of members in this new family unit have the last name of Means perhaps the Shemwells would consider changing their name to Means, so they "all match" lol😜
They shouldn’t make her change her last name if she doesn’t want to. She shouldn’t be treated different and can still be adopted. Seems like it looks better for the mom & stepdad She doesn’t need to erase her name
There should be no ? of letting her keep it. A name is a name.
Let her keep her name is her father that died
My husband adopted my child and our child choose her last name.
She should not have to choose. He seems very controlling. You don't need to have the same last name to be a family
I hope they let her keep her Dads name ! It’s important to her to keep part of her Dad.
I feel like they are pressure her to change her name it's like for example my family members have the last name debord but I'm still a miller so u don't have to have the same last name to be family and it's more important to accept the fact she don't want to change her last name I just feel like when her mom ask her about it I kind of also feel that she just say I will change my last name so my mom won't bug me about it but you can tell she wasn't ready to answer that question yet and that a sign her mom was pressuring her to change it
Just let the girl keep the name ! I can’t believe the mom can’t see her viewpoint more . I hope they don’t force her
Let the kids have the last names they want especially if the other parents died like come on now
This is really shows how broken our society has become 💔
"Feelings I can't sympathize with".... okay have you heard of empathizing? She wants to keep her dad's last name, her dad died! Selfish adults.... selfish AF
This makes me so mad hes Wanting to change the name for his own selfish reasons for his own insecurities and hes an adult this little girl has a real reason to have. An insecurity about changing her name and should be allowed to keep her dad's name. It's ridiculous and not as big of a deal. As hes trying to make it and if he can give me an indicate his frustration about wanting to? Change the name then he should understand why she wouldn't want to out of. A frustration that's actually valid.
This Mother And Stepdad are selfish
Well that's her father's name, so why would you want her to change it? That's not a good thing if you kinda forcing her to do that.
that therapist rocks
I never even think about how I have a different last name than my mom, it doesn't change anything so why're they trying to convince her of that
She should always have the name she was Givin at birth that is who she is!
this is emotionally manipulative to do emma....been looking for a show to watch but wont entertain a show that does this to children tlc you need to be ashamed
It is so wrong for a child to be pressured into changing her name from her birth right name to her mom's new husband's name, so what if this marriage ends in divorce? A name is a birthright.
They should offer her to have their last name bit to shame her for Not wanting to change who she is is Not fair to put this kid in such a awkward situation situation
This is so selfish. They are a blended family and so should honour that. In our blended family we have 3 different last names but we are all family. Spencer looks so angry.
This show disgusts me forcing a child in a brand new family when there still grieving
How pathetic, I can’t even believe the parents would think about doing this to a child, grow up, your the adults,
I feel that this was forced on her. Even though they said, this is your decision, there shouldn’t even been a decision to make. Her father died. She is still grieving. They are all grieving from their losses of their birth parents. I let them breathe. And don’t have cameras up in their face 24 seven.
Why didn't Erica keeps Means and add the last name??
dude this is so fucked. let the girl keep her dad’s name
these parents are just awful ! let this poor girl keep her last name ❤❤
They are convincing her over a star like what