Casual sex with an IG crush cost me. I ended up with genital herpes & was on the verge of doing some things I NEVER could imagine. All from something so “causal”. Listen to TONY! The healing I had to do has changed my entire perspective. Legs closed until marriage & I now coach about this. Thank you tony!
Wow Amber. Thank you for being transparent. This is so personal and you didn’t have to share, yet your testimony will help so many! God bless you Beautiful! ❤️
Just this weekend, a grown boy, I'd known for less than 24 hours, begged for access to my private parts. After I adamantly said HELL NO CAUSE I SAID SO, he told me I need to bring my standards down before I end up alone. I blocked and deleted him, patted myself on the back, and drank some kool-aid. Know your worth.
What kind of man was that my dear. He was possessed with a demon when he was talking to you and wanted to pass those demons unto you. Thank God you dodged satan's bullet. Wallahi!
When I was 23 I started dating a guy and two weeks in he asked me to "sing on his microphone"....I had never dated before and was a virgin who literally had never gone past a kiss. I was horrified and broke up with him. He called me weird for never having done that before. I listened to my gut and stayed away from him. Thank God I knew better. Young girls today are made to feel like an outsider if they don't do these things.
Having a relationship won’t make you happy. Giving everything to a man doesn’t mean he’ll reciprocate. I tried this and it left me with two failed marriage and a single mom of 7. I finally learned how to love myself, wrote over 7 books, started my RUclips channel to help other women, and an online academy coming 2021. Tony’s teachings have truly changed my life.
The only how you can buy into “casual sex” is if you believe you have no purpose for yourself and life. Basically you’re lost. I pray for all my female friends who bought into that belief.
A lot of men convince women this is what they have to do to be desired/desirable. They lie to them to get their needs met, use them up, then toss them aside, then call women delusional and crazy.
It is Self abuse.. Casual sex, is NOT casual.. It is Perverted, and Twisted. Thanks again Tony. These things have to be addressed. Even though it's Disgusting.
I used to work at pregnancy center, so many women who’ve had the “procedure” done multiple times and when they were ready to have a baby usually after they are doing well in their career, in their 30s, recently married or engaged and find out they aren’t able to get pregnant 😔. But society has lied to us and told us that sex is casual and all you need to do is get on birth control and use protection, but never talk about the physical and spiritual consequences of “casual” sex. “Casual” sex causes “casualties”.
@@trinap.8904 literally 98 % of the cases are due to the baby being an inconvenience and people just having sex. How is it a hard decision when some women are having 3 to 12 abortions in a year? Miss me with that “hard decision”. It’s not right to kill your own offspring because of YOUR irresponsibility. Was it a hard decision for my associate to kill her baby because she was sleeping with multiple men? Her abortion happened at 7 months! Let’s hold people accountable please.
The DEMONIC SOCIETY lied...They're the uncleaned spirits of course they want us ALL to be..They the main ones who STAGED Covid 19🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ to strip us from our GOD given birth rights. The brainwashed don't understand this yet.. Especially with the mask wearing.. All this was a Set Up!!
It's already difficult breaking a soul tie with someone you haven't slept with, now imagine the difficulty in breaking or weakening a soultie with someone you've slept with casually. It really isn't worth it.
Abstinent for 11 years and counting. Will not give myself away....ever again!! Until my husband finds me and we have a strong healthy relationship..God-centered
Yep people out here living casually dangerous with one another , I see it everyday I knew it was wrong an demeaning, but since I’m by myself I’m the one get looked at like I’m crazy ! But I know better
I needed this! “Casual sex” ended with me being pregnant for the first time and abandoned by a guy I later found out had a girlfriend. I’m healing & learning now tho!
Wow! This is my exact situation. First time mom Thinking we would become a “family”. I’m in my healing stage and definitely learned my lesson ♥️ not getting on my back for no man who’s not my husband
Some women fall out of love with themselves and accept things they wouldn’t normally accept. Accepting a casual sex only relationship is not what any woman would joyfully sign up for. Something is going on with that woman internally. I can honestly say I’ve lost myself along the way but getting back to falling back in love with myself.
So true! There is absolutely nothing casual about having sex! Everytime that I have ever had sex I felt something emotionally, spiritually, n physically. I even felt bad about even doing it in the first place. My legs have been closed for months now, but satan does try to creep in sometimes.. Pray for me. I don't even want to have sex again unless me and my partner are going to be together FOREVER 💍 Sex ain't no Joke 😫
@@NekeishaWise so true you gain clarity when you don't have sex we see how dumb these grown boys are🤦🏾♀️I've messed up dealing w. My daughter's dad twice this yr.. I forgave myself..Moving Forward💖 untied w. Him. Finally..I'll wait for My GOD Ordained Husband👐🏾
For once a man voices it out and am so happy some people still think this way. I have been thinking for a long time or my whole life I was an alien for rejecting casual sex and sex in general.
I've bn thinking like this my whole life. Ya'll pray 4 me those good prayers. Cos being hormonal n ur 40's aka wanting 2 do the nasty all the time. I'm like Lord control these urges until I'm married. Where my husband @ cos I'M READY. I'm a proud member of "I'm just being honest committee". Ya'll pray my strength n the Lord.🙏🏽🙅🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️ Cos whew chile!
It’s amazing how much women will put themselves through for a man, but won’t put that level of sacrifice for God. Praying, fasting reading the word is doing the most. But putting yourself through abuse, threesomes, etc to keep a MAN by your side. The best feeling in the world is have an intimate relationship with God. Nothing can fill that void outside of Him. If you want to stop giving desperate energy and subjecting yourself to these things, turn to Him
The devil is running amuck! So many lost people creating more lost people. It's time to pray harder and stay closer to God more than ever. I truly pray more leaders like Tony can help bring more awareness and healing into people's lives through God.
I get you - men may think it does not affect them, but it does. Thanks for your comment. I am trying to teach my son's this while they are young. Blessings 💯
People start feeling special when they can get men/women to sleep with them. It’s almost like bragging rights. All of this is very true! Satan has blinded so many people. Sex wasn’t designed to just sleep with whoever and whenever. Love and respect yourselves. Thank you and stay safe.
This is so disgusting to hear! Its sad that women don't love themselves and know how valuable they are to society and the future. Thank you for covering this Tony! I'm too square to have any friends or followers who post these obnoxious idiologies!
I truly believe that women who think theres nothing wrong with sleeping around and thinking theres no emotion these are women who dont love themselves who have low self esteem they dont know themselves they are empty inside and they just want to feel wanted and loved but at the end of the day its their choice we all have the power to choose like Tony says "IGNORANCE". Ladies let us honor God with our bodies if you are a virgin keep it that way if not abstain you are valuable and way worth more than anything. Love yourself you dont deserve to be in unhealthy soul ties and unhealthy attachments.
“They just want to feel wanted and loved,” that part. I haven’t been with anyone yet but I can attest that when you don’t love yourself and began to feel desperate, you’ll start to think that lowering your standards and doing stuff you wouldn’t normally do is the only way to feel love. Thank God, I never let that way of thinking get to me but it did swiftly pass through my mind once. So, what you’re saying is true but you have to really dig deep and have strong convictions to withstand it.
Many were told this. It’s not that easy when you don’t have the guidance needed from the right people. It has to start young with us keeping these children emotionally and mentally sound as much as possible so they don’t go looking everywhere else for validation. I had a great one parent home and still fell. Yes, I’ve been cool for almost 15 yrs but before that (and after the damage was done) I was a mess and have to clean up now.
Indeed, there's nothing casual about it! It can result in regret, creating soul ties, depleted self esteem/codependency & many other unwanted or unplanned repercussions.
Thank you God for covering me and, protecting me when I thought, laying down casually was what I should be doing. I forgave myself but still feel the pain daily of giving my body away. Almost 2 years into a lifestyle transformation and all the glory goes to God! Your videos were the slap in the face I needed.
@@kaleema1987 😊😊😊 I can't wait! Celibacy is the best choice I ever made , I am way more emotionally stable. People don't understand that all their problems would significantly decrease if they stopped slangin' microphones, and dessert like it was going out of style!
Sadly i grew up being taught sex is causal no one told me about soul ties🤦🏻♀️ few years ago this video would of ticked me off but it’s so true. and i’m tired of people promoting this b.s
See, people are evil They don't care about what it will cost you, spiritually, mentally and physically. Twitter won't be there when you're in a mess. No one talks how crappy or degrading it feels after a casual encounter. Misery loves company. Every word of wisdom in the Bible is to protect you. God knows people out there won't choose the best for you on your behalf. So he has equipped us with his word.
Sad thing is, if she does see this video she’ll probably laugh & brush it off because the message is coming from a man. Her only argument (which is a strong bias) is “soul ties don’t exist!”. Like okay, energy/emotions aside what about other consequences? Getting pregnant? Catching an incurable STD/STI? Him having a vengeful wife/gf that finds out? Hell, HE could be crazy?! Why even go through that headache? Heavily vetting people is extremely important to avoid ending up in messed up situations. She’ll learn one day.
Unfortunately I am proof that soul ties can haunt you for years and years... STD’s, abortion’s, & heartbreak are consequences of “casual sex”. As a young woman I experienced it all. I’m so grateful to god for bringing me through those years into loving myself and my body. Sadly, as long as sex in promoted in our culture, young women will continue to participate. Unless they have strong influences in there life, I really pray for young teens&20’s
I reside in a small town in Ohio and remember years ago crossing paths with a young lady that shared she was HIV positive. She shared that she contracted the virus from her so called boyfriend. She also shared that it was later found to at 3 of her friends contracted the virus because the boyfriend supposedly slept with them on the low. I’m not sure if this young lady is still alive today but at that time she was advocating and providing motivational speaking to young women to talk to them about the dangers of casual sex. Felt led to post this…
I think we need to talk about casual sex in marriage as well. Some marriages are lacking emotional connections and intimacy yet the couple still participates in sex with each other, but they don't have a loving relationship. It has become just an act to get that dopamine release.
@@kaleema1987 neither did I until I watched this video. I am married, but I have been abstaining for this reason and other reasons I don't want to make public. I didn't fully understand the impact of my decision until I watched this video.
@LAVICHA WILSON it really gets in the way of a true connection. Like Tony said "you have to make love to the mind and everything else will naturally happen." I knew I wanted this but couldn't adequately convey this to my partner. Instead I would comply or shut down and not be satisfied either way.
Thank you! I tell my friends I simply can’t because it’s too intimate and serious for me to sleep with anyone. That’s crazy to me. Like I need a man to love, care, protect, and faithful to me for me to have sex with him. I just can not.
I agree, I have told men many times that catching feelings is what makes me a woman. It is not always easy because the men have been very appealing BUT their brokenness with this mindset always turns me off.
I am ashamed to say that for years this was my way of thinking. So many things lead up to my old way of thinking, starting from the age of 5. It took the power of the Holy Ghost to stop destroying myself, and it's gonna take daily refillings, prayer, fasting, studying the Word of God and counseling to get rid of all the soul ties I have attached to myself over the years. I am 46 and I feel like I am just starting to live. Thank God I am still alive. With Christ, I have hope that someday I will be free from the hauntings, the breakdowns, the depression, the pain, the shame, and the overwhelming guilt that I feel at times and cannot put into words. I declare that there is a man God has created just for me at a time He has appointed who will love me through what I was, and for who I am becoming.
I happened to fall upon one of the so called alpha male video. He was actually encouraging men to have more than one woman. Tony I thank God for you and I pray that your videos reaches more people to enlighten them. It seems like you're the only who
Preach Tony!! This what I try to instill in the young girls I mentor and clients I work with!! I’m a social worker at a low income OB/GYN and I see this all the time. 🥺 I speak to them with transparency in hopes to inspire someone else! When I learned about soul ties it changed my perspective!!!!! You are right Tony, it’s no longer a mistake it’s Insanity!!!
Watching this video after the roe v wade situation, hearing you speak about the clinic really surprised me. God really is speaking through you. You’re always spot on.
A 2 min thrill ain't worth all the emotional damage. I'm straight without it . I can wait until marriage. No casual happenings. This is the realest I've ever seen Tony. You're my new virtual brother. That's it. God bless you.
Tony, this is the meaning of Idiocracy: An idiocracy is a disparaging term for a society run by or made up of idiots (or people perceived as such). Idiocracy is also the title of 2006 satirical film that depicts a future in which humanity has become dumb. the Holy Spirit, actually gave me this word a while back, so once I looked it up everything made sense about the current society we live in.
Please and thank you for this message!!! I pray for all the women who don’t understand that casual is broken and lost!!! Ignorant and sorrowful. Lord lift these women up!!! Bless you Tony! Women have to remember they are fearfully and wonderfully made!!! 🙏🏽🥰‼️ ❤️
I pray that whoever NEEDED to hear this message, gets it into their heart & soul bc SOUL TIES ARE REAL 💯 Do the work and break the cycle. God bless you. 🙏🏾
I'm so proud of you Tony, speaking out against the false narratives and false prophets. I rebuke the spirit of thirstiness and pick-meshas! We are the "good thing" and as soon as women realize that, the better. Hold on to your morals and values. Obedience is better than sacrifice and you will reap what you sow. Thanks again Tony for using your platform to spread the truth and rebuke the lies.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Ladies, listen closely to this message! It will literally save your life! Tony, MAY OUR LORD ALMIGHTY BLESS ABUNDANTLY You and Your Family IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!
Wow. Thank you for your honesty. I think you hit it on the nail when you talked about how those connections follow you. If sexual activities were casual they wouldn't linger with us for ages. We wouldn't have flashbacks and dreams about these memories if they were so insignificant. These things just can't be forgotten because - whether we like it or not - true & real connections have been made.
You Preaching today Tony! Give yourself away to Jesus! He’s the one who can use you in a positive way. If you allow God to use you and not man you will be pleased with the outcome.
I’m sorry for my previous comment I couldn’t find the words to articulate myself. You may or may not know HOW HARD this post hits some of us! But perhaps I should speak for myself! The emotions that bring up, the anger, the pain. The thought that A complete stranger who has never met me yet loves me enough to tell me what’s up is a blessing but it hurts! We have a lot of work to do my brother, a lot of work!! Thank you for being bold enough to start clearing the field to build a road, this is bigger than you think, take it from me, I’m a woman with 3 daughters.This message is bigger than any of us may think! God bless you for your boldness!
This was right on time for me. I've been celibate for some mths, almost a year this is the first time I've ever done this. I have my days when I feel weak but I can not fold! Soul-Ties are very much real and dangerous. Thanks Tony!
I have taken it the minute it was offered. That was a big accomplishment for me..I was surprised when I got a certificate after the quiz 🥰🙏👏👏 thank you Tony a million. I learnt ALOT
Facts! All truth! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Even before marriage both should get tested, exchange test results before going unprotected. My Husband & I were tested first before going unprotected. It only takes one time for a disease, pregnancy, or a lifetime of pain. Be blessed.
If sex was went to be casual God would have saw fit to place our organs just as accessible as a handshake Coach Tony knocking it out the park again today!!
Amen! We need this. Especially from a grown, mature, married Man. I watched a video the other day with two males that have a platform on relationship topics, but geared towards men. Curious to see their mindset, so i listened to some of their message from the "male perspective", but most was actually great information and advice. But there were a few suggestions made that were on the side of their own preference and age/single immaturity. I just hope that there are women on there that can see that and not take that as far as "every man's" thought process. Appreciate you. You and the family enjoy the vacation.
Thank you for this message. 🙏🏾 As a mother and a woman it is important to not only obtain the knowledge but to educate those who do not have it like Tony is doing. Receive his blessing and be a blessing to someone by empowering them with this knowledge. Our culture as Black women need to change from the direction it’s going into.
God bless you Bro Tony on this beautiful Monday, so sad how the mind of the world is when it comes to sex. And you right how there's no morals no values . Amen ,Bro Tony ain't nothing casual about laying down with a man and get with a sexual transmitted disease or pregnant and the list goes on. 💯 Truth message
Thank you. This truth will set so many souls free!!!! The devil is a liar! Follow Christ only because he saves and loves you the most. Fornication is sin period. Don't do it!!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Brokenness will stop spreading when people accept that unacceptable behavior and choices. Its sad and unfortunate but true. Please continue your videos.
Confirmation!!! Abstinence/Celibacy = Total Peace Of Mind, while Patiently waiting for Marriage!! Extraordinaire Life Coach/Honorary Pastor Gaskins - Speak on it! Thank You for unapologetically speaking the Truth! Be Blessed and Continued Blessings! 🙏🏼
So sad!!! Tony, I believe you are speaking truth!! Just hearing the ending of the tape! I think this is a safe place for us as women to hear this message. We are Queens and desire Abba Father's BEST! I choose to WAIT!
Casual sex with an IG crush cost me. I ended up with genital herpes & was on the verge of doing some things I NEVER could imagine. All from something so “causal”. Listen to TONY! The healing I had to do has changed my entire perspective. Legs closed until marriage & I now coach about this. Thank you tony!
Thank you for your honesty Amber💜
You will heal many with your story.
Thanks for being transparent Queen.
Wow Amber. Thank you for being transparent. This is so personal and you didn’t have to share, yet your testimony will help so many! God bless you Beautiful! ❤️
God bless you
Just this weekend, a grown boy, I'd known for less than 24 hours, begged for access to my private parts. After I adamantly said HELL NO CAUSE I SAID SO, he told me I need to bring my standards down before I end up alone. I blocked and deleted him, patted myself on the back, and drank some kool-aid. Know your worth.
Now that's a Queen mentality, you did the right thing. He sounds like a dust mite.
@@CeeceeH1819 he was lol. I told him my standards are in place to weed out the riff raff. Step up or get out the way. Thank you.
Yes, Queen
What kind of man was that my dear. He was possessed with a demon when he was talking to you and wanted to pass those demons unto you. Thank God you dodged satan's bullet. Wallahi!
😂 that peasant has nerves! Great job Queen! Wear it proud! 👑
Gave myself away for years...til there was nothing left of me. God makes all things new tho. ♡
Yes ma’am!! God RESTORES 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Amen! Thank you Jesus!!
You got this! You are blessed!
Yes! Halleluyah!!
God bless you sister 💜
When I was 23 I started dating a guy and two weeks in he asked me to "sing on his microphone"....I had never dated before and was a virgin who literally had never gone past a kiss. I was horrified and broke up with him. He called me weird for never having done that before. I listened to my gut and stayed away from him. Thank God I knew better. Young girls today are made to feel like an outsider if they don't do these things.
You made the right decision! He just wanted to use you. Thank God you saw right through it. Continue to hold on to your purity! 🙏🏾
You are an amazing woman.
Yes Queen! Wear it proudly! 👑
Amen sister for having discernment, I felt the same thing .
Having a relationship won’t make you happy. Giving everything to a man doesn’t mean he’ll reciprocate. I tried this and it left me with two failed marriage and a single mom of 7. I finally learned how to love myself, wrote over 7 books, started my RUclips channel to help other women, and an online academy coming 2021. Tony’s teachings have truly changed my life.
Praise God
What a testimony! Blessings to you! God IS ____. You fill in the blank because too many adjectives come to mind. ✝️🛐🕊😊💜
Amazing!!! God is sooo good! Continued blessings to you Beautiful! Tony is definitely saving souls!
Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Such a blessing thank you for your testimony 🙏🏾blessings Queen
You better do it, sis. Look at God 👏🏾👏🏾. God bless you 🙏🏾.
The only how you can buy into “casual sex” is if you believe you have no purpose for yourself and life. Basically you’re lost. I pray for all my female friends who bought into that belief.
That’s me
Thank you sister for the prayers ❤️
And my male friends too. Just lost smh
A lot of men convince women this is what they have to do to be desired/desirable. They lie to them to get their needs met, use them up, then toss them aside, then call women delusional and crazy.
Ugh, exactly
Wow! Sad situation!
The men and women who do this will eventually reap what they sow….
It is Self abuse.. Casual sex, is NOT casual.. It is Perverted, and Twisted.
Thanks again Tony. These things have to be addressed. Even though it's Disgusting.
I used to work at pregnancy center, so many women who’ve had the “procedure” done multiple times and when they were ready to have a baby usually after they are doing well in their career, in their 30s, recently married or engaged and find out they aren’t able to get pregnant 😔. But society has lied to us and told us that sex is casual and all you need to do is get on birth control and use protection, but never talk about the physical and spiritual consequences of “casual” sex. “Casual” sex causes “casualties”.
Amen
Not every woman gets an abortion due to casual sex. It's not an easy decision for a woman to make.
Say it again sister.🙌🏽
@@trinap.8904 literally 98 % of the cases are due to the baby being an inconvenience and people just having sex. How is it a hard decision when some women are having 3 to 12 abortions in a year? Miss me with that “hard decision”. It’s not right to kill your own offspring because of YOUR irresponsibility. Was it a hard decision for my associate to kill her baby because she was sleeping with multiple men? Her abortion happened at 7 months! Let’s hold people accountable please.
The DEMONIC SOCIETY lied...They're the uncleaned spirits of course they want us ALL to be..They the main ones who STAGED Covid 19🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ to strip us from our GOD given birth rights. The brainwashed don't understand this yet.. Especially with the mask wearing.. All this was a Set Up!!
It's already difficult breaking a soul tie with someone you haven't slept with, now imagine the difficulty in breaking or weakening a soultie with someone you've slept with casually. It really isn't worth it.
I love this comment. Thank you.
@Nikscaroline true.
Can you have a soul tie without having sex?
@@j-tenn226 I was wondering the same thing
So true I haven’t slept with him but been involved a year detoxing here I come
Abstinent for 11 years and counting. Will not give myself away....ever again!! Until my husband finds me and we have a strong healthy relationship..God-centered
Amen!
That was honorable sweetheart...
Wow, queen, that's incredible 👏 😍
I applaud you!!!
🙌🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽🙌🏽
Amen 💓..almost 5 years for me
“It’s not causal it’s DANGEROUS “
Yep people out here living casually dangerous with one another , I see it everyday I knew it was wrong an demeaning, but since I’m by myself I’m the one get looked at like I’m crazy !
But I know better
“Ignorance is bliss until the consequences hit.” TG
Amen, amen, amen
TG 12/2020
That is a word!!!
I needed this! “Casual sex” ended with me being pregnant for the first time and abandoned by a guy I later found out had a girlfriend. I’m healing & learning now tho!
That's awful
@@khocolateable I know & to top it off this man was taking me to his gf’s place 🤦🏽♀️ but I’m just grateful to not have ended up with any STDs
Bless you Sis🤗!!
Wow! This is my exact situation. First time mom Thinking we would become a “family”. I’m in my healing stage and definitely learned my lesson ♥️ not getting on my back for no man who’s not my husband
I’m so sorry. I pray u doing better queen
I really wish someone had told me this when I was a young woman, before I made so many mistakes.
@Lakeisha Carter right!
We all make mistakes, it's okay.
It's not too late you can still start over♥️
Me too.
Same here!
Some women fall out of love with themselves and accept things they wouldn’t normally accept. Accepting a casual sex only relationship is not what any woman would joyfully sign up for. Something is going on with that woman internally. I can honestly say I’ve lost myself along the way but getting back to falling back in love with myself.
Well said.
So true! There is absolutely nothing casual about having sex! Everytime that I have ever had sex I felt something emotionally, spiritually, n physically. I even felt bad about even doing it in the first place. My legs have been closed for months now, but satan does try to creep in sometimes.. Pray for me. I don't even want to have sex again unless me and my partner are going to be together FOREVER 💍
Sex ain't no Joke 😫
@@kaleema1987 That's wonderful, and yes I feel sooo much better NOT having sex
I will pray for you. Blessings to you ✝️🛐🕊😊💜
@@AE-106 Thank You. I appreciate it
@@NekeishaWise My pleasure.💜
@@NekeishaWise so true you gain clarity when you don't have sex we see how dumb these grown boys are🤦🏾♀️I've messed up dealing w. My daughter's dad twice this yr.. I forgave myself..Moving Forward💖 untied w. Him. Finally..I'll wait for My GOD Ordained Husband👐🏾
😭😭 It's painful..it's nothing casual. The pain is unreal, it cuts deep when they leave.
For once a man voices it out and am so happy some people still think this way. I have been thinking for a long time or my whole life I was an alien for rejecting casual sex and sex in general.
You’re not alone
I've bn thinking like this my whole life. Ya'll pray 4 me those good prayers. Cos being hormonal n ur 40's aka wanting 2 do the nasty all the time. I'm like Lord control these urges until I'm married. Where my husband @ cos I'M READY. I'm a proud member of "I'm just being honest committee". Ya'll pray my strength n the Lord.🙏🏽🙅🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️ Cos whew chile!
Your comment is the embodiment of what I'm thinking. U not alone sis
You can casually miss me with that nonsense. Thank goodness for Tony’s wisdom!
Amen & Amen 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Amen🙌 to that. I swear Tony wisdom is working on me.
Yess! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
🎯
Yes Jo! Amen!
It’s amazing how much women will put themselves through for a man, but won’t put that level of sacrifice for God. Praying, fasting reading the word is doing the most. But putting yourself through abuse, threesomes, etc to keep a MAN by your side. The best feeling in the world is have an intimate relationship with God. Nothing can fill that void outside of Him. If you want to stop giving desperate energy and subjecting yourself to these things, turn to Him
Amen sister💜
Best feeling in the world having a intimate relationship with God. 🙏
Amen!
Amen. God heals all wounds. Never felt whole til I met him🙏🏾. Thank you Lord, Thank you Jesus.
The devil is running amuck! So many lost people creating more lost people. It's time to pray harder and stay closer to God more than ever. I truly pray more leaders like Tony can help bring more awareness and healing into people's lives through God.
Learned all of this the hard way. As a man who thought he would love some casual situations...nope. Nope nope nope. Lol Preachhhh
It’s refreshing to see a man with that mindset.
@@j-tenn226 we are out here! Lol
I get you - men may think it does not affect them, but it does. Thanks for your comment. I am trying to teach my son's this while they are young. Blessings 💯
People start feeling special when they can get men/women to sleep with them. It’s almost like bragging rights. All of this is very true! Satan has blinded so many people. Sex wasn’t designed to just sleep with whoever and whenever. Love and respect yourselves. Thank you and stay safe.
This is so disgusting to hear! Its sad that women don't love themselves and know how valuable they are to society and the future. Thank you for covering this Tony! I'm too square to have any friends or followers who post these obnoxious idiologies!
Lmbo. You're not the only one!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Same lol!
Me too!
It’s all about a woman background and the pain she has endured over time even childhood
I truly believe that women who think theres nothing wrong with sleeping around and thinking theres no emotion these are women who dont love themselves who have low self esteem they dont know themselves they are empty inside and they just want to feel wanted and loved but at the end of the day its their choice we all have the power to choose like Tony says "IGNORANCE". Ladies let us honor God with our bodies if you are a virgin keep it that way if not abstain you are valuable and way worth more than anything. Love yourself you dont deserve to be in unhealthy soul ties and unhealthy attachments.
“They just want to feel wanted and loved,” that part. I haven’t been with anyone yet but I can attest that when you don’t love yourself and began to feel desperate, you’ll start to think that lowering your standards and doing stuff you wouldn’t normally do is the only way to feel love. Thank God, I never let that way of thinking get to me but it did swiftly pass through my mind once. So, what you’re saying is true but you have to really dig deep and have strong convictions to withstand it.
Now THIS VIDEO NEEDS TO GO VIRAL! Yes Tony go off! Done snatched our edges!
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It’s not casual, but it’s creating spiritual, physical and emotional CASUALTIES!
Disgusting how can women degrade themselves like that! God has better for US LADIES!! Preserve yourselves your body is a temple! Keep it classy!
He who is without sin can cast the first stone! While you may not be guilty of this particular issue I am sure you are not SIN free.
Many were told this. It’s not that easy when you don’t have the guidance needed from the right people. It has to start young with us keeping these children emotionally and mentally sound as much as possible so they don’t go looking everywhere else for validation. I had a great one parent home and still fell. Yes, I’ve been cool for almost 15 yrs but before that (and after the damage was done) I was a mess and have to clean up now.
Amen Arlene!
Be careful being judgemental and self-righteous.
I’m only getting on my back for my husbanddd okay ! Not doing anything casually
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@M P Then it will take three years!
Big ole facts
Indeed, there's nothing casual about it! It can result in regret, creating soul ties, depleted self esteem/codependency & many other unwanted or unplanned repercussions.
Happy Monday luvs! 👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽 Nothing is casual about being a single parent! I felt that!!!!
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A blessed new week, the last Monday of the year 🥳🥳🥳
Happy Monday sis!! 💖
@@reinaquisha9418 yes last week of the month....last Monday. Stay blessed 🤗🤗🤗❤
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Thank you God for covering me and, protecting me when I thought, laying down casually was what I should be doing. I forgave myself but still feel the pain daily of giving my body away. Almost 2 years into a lifestyle transformation and all the glory goes to God! Your videos were the slap in the face I needed.
@@kaleema1987 😊😊😊 I can't wait! Celibacy is the best choice I ever made , I am way more emotionally stable. People don't understand that all their problems would significantly decrease if they stopped slangin' microphones, and dessert like it was going out of style!
Sadly i grew up being taught sex is causal no one told me about soul ties🤦🏻♀️ few years ago this video would of ticked me off but it’s so true. and i’m tired of people promoting this b.s
"What's casual about being a single parent " wow wow wow ...THAT !
I saw the tweet and read the thread ..must crazy ..
See, people are evil
They don't care about what it will cost you, spiritually, mentally and physically. Twitter won't be there when you're in a mess. No one talks how crappy or degrading it feels after a casual encounter. Misery loves company. Every word of wisdom in the Bible is to protect you. God knows people out there won't choose the best for you on your behalf. So he has equipped us with his word.
AMEN. Say it again!!
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Sad thing is, if she does see this video she’ll probably laugh & brush it off because the message is coming from a man. Her only argument (which is a strong bias) is “soul ties don’t exist!”. Like okay, energy/emotions aside what about other consequences? Getting pregnant? Catching an incurable STD/STI? Him having a vengeful wife/gf that finds out? Hell, HE could be crazy?! Why even go through that headache? Heavily vetting people is extremely important to avoid ending up in messed up situations. She’ll learn one day.
Unfortunately I am proof that soul ties can haunt you for years and years... STD’s, abortion’s, & heartbreak are consequences of “casual sex”. As a young woman I experienced it all. I’m so grateful to god for bringing me through those years into loving myself and my body. Sadly, as long as sex in promoted in our culture, young women will continue to participate. Unless they have strong influences in there life, I really pray for young teens&20’s
Same here sista🙌🏽👏🏽🙌🏽👏🏽🙌🏽👏🏽
This is so true! Every single time you lay down. You get up a different person.
It’s so sad 😞 😭 that people are happy to lay down without thinking of diseases🦠 when we all know better.
Girl absolutely. I got caught up. Ended up with HSV2. Tony is telling the truth!!!
@@officialwatchamber Yes 💯 he is. I hope someone on here does know that individual and send this video to her.
Men need to know this is not okay too!
It’s a dark world. I’m waiting til marriage.
MAybe but people forget you can get a diseases while being in a committed relationship or marriage. Unfortunately, it happens
I knew Tony was serious with us in this video when he didn’t use any safe pronunciation of certain words 😩👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 keep preaching the TRUTH 💯
I reside in a small town in Ohio and remember years ago crossing paths with a young lady that shared she was HIV positive. She shared that she contracted the virus from her so called boyfriend. She also shared that it was later found to at 3 of her friends contracted the virus because the boyfriend supposedly slept with them on the low. I’m not sure if this young lady is still alive today but at that time she was advocating and providing motivational speaking to young women to talk to them about the dangers of casual sex. Felt led to post this…
Amen, Tony . I’ve been struggling with soul ties trust me it’s not just casual!
Oooh yes, Tony!
If it’s casual, it’s gone be a CASUALTY!
It’s sad the world we live in. Keep bringing light to a world of darkness💚
I think we need to talk about casual sex in marriage as well. Some marriages are lacking emotional connections and intimacy yet the couple still participates in sex with each other, but they don't have a loving relationship. It has become just an act to get that dopamine release.
@@kaleema1987 neither did I until I watched this video. I am married, but I have been abstaining for this reason and other reasons I don't want to make public. I didn't fully understand the impact of my decision until I watched this video.
@LAVICHA WILSON it really gets in the way of a true connection. Like Tony said "you have to make love to the mind and everything else will naturally happen." I knew I wanted this but couldn't adequately convey this to my partner. Instead I would comply or shut down and not be satisfied either way.
I approve this message. Women and men need to have self worth. Because it’s so many broken individuals amongst us.
As the old folks say....you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas
Thank you! I tell my friends I simply can’t because it’s too intimate and serious for me to sleep with anyone. That’s crazy to me. Like I need a man to love, care, protect, and faithful to me for me to have sex with him. I just can not.
I say the same to mine hoping they will get the picture. One said she still young. Ignorant! Praying for them. My God!
I agree, I have told men many times that catching feelings is what makes me a woman. It is not always easy because the men have been very appealing BUT their brokenness with this mindset always turns me off.
I am ashamed to say that for years this was my way of thinking. So many things lead up to my old way of thinking, starting from the age of 5. It took the power of the Holy Ghost to stop destroying myself, and it's gonna take daily refillings, prayer, fasting, studying the Word of God and counseling to get rid of all the soul ties I have attached to myself over the years. I am 46 and I feel like I am just starting to live. Thank God I am still alive. With Christ, I have hope that someday I will be free from the hauntings, the breakdowns, the depression, the pain, the shame, and the overwhelming guilt that I feel at times and cannot put into words. I declare that there is a man God has created just for me at a time He has appointed who will love me through what I was, and for who I am becoming.
Unfortunately, this is so true. The ignorance is so wide spread, it is both sad and disgusting.
I happened to fall upon one of the so called alpha male video. He was actually encouraging men to have more than one woman. Tony I thank God for you and I pray that your videos reaches more people to enlighten them. It seems like you're the only who
Wow girl. That’s unbelievable and a shame 😡😡
Tony was preaching today and every other day. AMENNN
“Ignorance is bliss until their are consequences” 😮💨💯
Preach Tony!! This what I try to instill in the young girls I mentor and clients I work with!! I’m a social worker at a low income OB/GYN and I see this all the time. 🥺 I speak to them with transparency in hopes to inspire someone else! When I learned about soul ties it changed my perspective!!!!! You are right Tony, it’s no longer a mistake it’s Insanity!!!
I clicked on this video so fast!! Wasnt expecting one today! Thanks Tony!!!
Yassssss
Tony continues to bring us the TRUTH 🙌🏼🙏🏼 Tough Love is a real thing! And I appreciate it 💖❤️
I couldn't agree with you more!! 🙌🏽💜
@@DynamicallyDC 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Watching this video after the roe v wade situation, hearing you speak about the clinic really surprised me. God really is speaking through you. You’re always spot on.
A 2 min thrill ain't worth all the emotional damage. I'm straight without it . I can wait until marriage. No casual happenings. This is the realest I've ever seen Tony. You're my new virtual brother. That's it. God bless you.
Tony, this is the meaning of Idiocracy: An idiocracy is a disparaging term for a society run by or made up of idiots (or people perceived as such). Idiocracy is also the title of 2006 satirical film that depicts a future in which humanity has become dumb.
the Holy Spirit, actually gave me this word a while back, so once I looked it up everything made sense about the current society we live in.
You have freedom of choice but you don't get to choose your consequences! Think wisely before you leap, be blessed🙏
So true
I remember having an aversion to these types of messages for women because they seemed to promote "sex" before marriage, but THIS is what we NEED!!
Sadly we're only fulfilling what Paul wrote about in Romans chapter 1.
Society is blind to Satin's ploys and tricks! Wake up before it's too late!
I said the 7 deadly sins are in full affect these days
@@kimberlygreen1078 We can see it all in society.
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Please and thank you for this message!!! I pray for all the women who don’t understand that casual is broken and lost!!! Ignorant and sorrowful. Lord lift these women up!!! Bless you Tony! Women have to remember they are fearfully and wonderfully made!!! 🙏🏽🥰‼️ ❤️
I pray that whoever NEEDED to hear this message, gets it into their heart & soul bc SOUL TIES ARE REAL 💯 Do the work and break the cycle. God bless you. 🙏🏾
I'm so proud of you Tony, speaking out against the false narratives and false prophets. I rebuke the spirit of thirstiness and pick-meshas! We are the "good thing" and as soon as women realize that, the better. Hold on to your morals and values. Obedience is better than sacrifice and you will reap what you sow. Thanks again Tony for using your platform to spread the truth and rebuke the lies.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
FACTS ON FACTS. KEEP PREACHING THE TRUTH TONY. TOO MANY WOMEN NEED TO HEAR THIS.
Ladies, listen closely to this message! It will literally save your life! Tony, MAY OUR LORD ALMIGHTY BLESS ABUNDANTLY You and Your Family IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!
Wow. Thank you for your honesty. I think you hit it on the nail when you talked about how those connections follow you. If sexual activities were casual they wouldn't linger with us for ages. We wouldn't have flashbacks and dreams about these memories if they were so insignificant. These things just can't be forgotten because - whether we like it or not - true & real connections have been made.
Alright Tony break it down! Amen 🙏🏽 brother 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Amen
You Preaching today Tony! Give yourself away to Jesus! He’s the one who can use you in a positive way. If you allow God to use you and not man you will be pleased with the outcome.
I’m sorry for my previous comment I couldn’t find the words to articulate myself. You may or may not know HOW HARD this post hits some of us! But perhaps I should speak for myself! The emotions that bring up, the anger, the pain. The thought that A complete stranger who has never met me yet loves me enough to tell me what’s up is a blessing but it hurts! We have a lot of work to do my brother, a lot of work!! Thank you for being bold enough to start clearing the field to build a road, this is bigger than you think, take it from me, I’m a woman with 3 daughters.This message is bigger than any of us may think! God bless you for your boldness!
"save yourself & start HEALING"❤️
This was right on time for me. I've been celibate for some mths, almost a year this is the first time I've ever done this. I have my days when I feel weak but I can not fold! Soul-Ties are very much real and dangerous. Thanks Tony!
Hey ladies glad to see you all on here! Thank you Tony for the truth and saying it with love.
I have taken it the minute it was offered. That was a big accomplishment for me..I was surprised when I got a certificate after the quiz 🥰🙏👏👏 thank you Tony a million. I learnt ALOT
Preach it!!
Facts! All truth! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Even before marriage both should get tested, exchange test results before going unprotected. My Husband & I were tested first before going unprotected. It only takes one time for a disease, pregnancy, or a lifetime of pain. Be blessed.
This video brought me to tears!!
This is so true
Lord have mercy 🙏🏾
If sex was went to be casual God would have saw fit to place our organs just as accessible as a handshake Coach Tony knocking it out the park again today!!
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Tony you are correct, Soul Ties are REAL!!! Sisters let us not become a cesspool!!! God Bless you ALL.
Speak!!!👏👏👏 I say this ALLLLLLLLL the time...its definitely nothing casual about sex!!! I don't have casual sex...yes, people that do are broken
This is excellent. Thank you! You are so right. It's not casual when you can get pregnant or have a life changing disease. Powerful words.
African americans should listen to this. Very important.
Those memories haunt you...yep been there
Amen! We need this. Especially from a grown, mature, married Man. I watched a video the other day with two males that have a platform on relationship topics, but geared towards men. Curious to see their mindset, so i listened to some of their message from the "male perspective", but most was actually great information and advice. But there were a few suggestions made that were on the side of their own preference and age/single immaturity. I just hope that there are women on there that can see that and not take that as far as "every man's" thought process. Appreciate you. You and the family enjoy the vacation.
We love Tony! Great man, great messages, great example!
This video is so deep. Short and sweet but so deep! Sending this to my girlfriends 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for this message. 🙏🏾 As a mother and a woman it is important to not only obtain the knowledge but to educate those who do not have it like Tony is doing. Receive his blessing and be a blessing to someone by empowering them with this knowledge. Our culture as Black women need to change from the direction it’s going into.
Thank you Mr. Gaskins for teaching and speaking The Truth on this...we need more, more...may God increase your platform 🙏
T G: "That's sad, that's bad, and it's making me mad!"
Well said sir.
Thank you for addressing this topic in detail where it can make sense to anyone.
God bless you Bro Tony on this beautiful Monday, so sad how the mind of the world is when it comes to sex. And you right how there's no morals no values . Amen ,Bro Tony ain't nothing casual about laying down with a man and get with a sexual transmitted disease or pregnant and the list goes on. 💯 Truth message
Thank you. This truth will set so many souls free!!!! The devil is a liar! Follow Christ only because he saves and loves you the most. Fornication is sin period. Don't do it!!
PREACH!!! I pray the ones that need to hear this, do. 🙏🏽
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Brokenness will stop spreading when people accept that unacceptable behavior and choices. Its sad and unfortunate but true.
Please continue your videos.
Thank you for this one 🙏🏾
Let's PRAY for those who are playing with their lives this way. 🙏.
Confirmation!!! Abstinence/Celibacy = Total Peace Of Mind, while Patiently waiting for Marriage!! Extraordinaire Life Coach/Honorary Pastor Gaskins - Speak on it! Thank You for unapologetically speaking the Truth! Be Blessed and Continued Blessings! 🙏🏼
So sad!!! Tony, I believe you are speaking truth!! Just hearing the ending of the tape! I think this is a safe place for us as women to hear this message. We are Queens and desire Abba Father's BEST! I choose to WAIT!
Hallelujah sandy me too. God Bless you 🙏