Good Morning Erin! I don’t really know where to begin. Thank you so much for posting this. I went to bed last night and woke up this morning thinking I should quit drinking and the first thing I saw when I picked up my phone was your amazing, heartfelt video. Alcoholism also runs in my family and I’ve known for years that my addiction was ruining my life. Now, I’m 63 and I regret I didn’t seriously address it earlier. I’m a retired teacher, an aspiring RUclipsr, and have been confused for a very long time about alcohol. This may sound crazy but for a long time I have believed it was the source of my creativity, humor, and drive. I have been very successful despite drinking and until recently thought I couldn’t get much done without it. It took almost being totally broke for me to realize it is the source of my overspending, loneliness, unhappiness, and mental and physical pain. I have so much more to share and I will! Thank you for being an encouraging, loving guide. You are very important in my life and I’m grateful!
Nancy Kindred Hester Nancy I’m a retired teacher too and I don’t think the general public recognizes the stresses teachers are under. Sending a hug to you.
I quit drinking on my daughter's first day of kindergarten. I had brain fog for 6 to 9 months. I was too shy to go to AA but I did attend two meetings. Almost fifteen years later I relapsed. It took me two years to quit after that. I lost so much weight everybody kept asking me what my secret was! I now have all kinds of things that make me happier than being drunk did. I have not drank in 11 years now. 😀
My father had a problem with alcohol and quit when I was 12, but knowing the dynamics alcohol can bring into lives, I chose never to drink myself. All through college and later social situations when drinking was ‘cool’ I never gave in to being a ‘wet blanket’ in the party. I’m now on my way to 81 and have never regretted not drinking. Thank you for being brave r ought to share your story. Alcoholism definitely has a genetic link and you were wise to stop drinking alcohol when you did. ❤️. Sandra
My Dad was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer in May. He stopped drinking couldn't stop smoking) and became the nicest, sweetest, most loving man I have ever met. He became my father. He died in August, a short three months later. That's when I realized my father was an alcoholic. Those three months are the best memories of my father. This was 26 years ago. Bless you, Erin and thank you.❤️❤️
@sara. Bosworth, you are so right that our society glamorizes and normalizes drinking alcohol. It's insidious. What's even worse is that my last job for 11 years started having Happy Hour on Wednesdays in a big conference room. I was vocal about that amongst other things, so I got laid off. I'm glad to be rid of that toxicity, but it's now so accepted that they've brought it to the workplace. .....and people are way over worked and stressed, which concludes that we, as a society have way bigger issues.
Thank you Erin for sharing such a "taboo" subject. I will be celebrating my 4 year anniversary of sobriety next month. Everything you mentioned from feeling healthier to saving money to looking better is all true. Alcohol is a toxic substance like any other addictive drug. I appreciate you giving this topic the voice it deserves. Thank you.
What concerns me are all the young girls and young Moms who are caught up in the huge wine trend. Drinking wine is being glamorized. Full disclosure.....I drink a glass or two of red wine each evening, but I am almost 70 and did not start drinking wine until I was in my 60's. I can't imagine how I would look or feel if I had been drinking and trying to raise my kids and work a job. As it is, i have gained 15 lbs over the last 5 yrs! I need to re-evaluate and start being more of a role model to my grown children and younger friends. Maybe if they see an old lady actually losing weight and getting stronger, it may spur them on to quitting too! Thank you for starting this conversation.
This is sooo true-I started drinking wine in my early 50's-and it is a "social upper class" thing--which is horrible. I have 150 bottles of wine in my home, have visited Napa on 3 trips, and I realize this is not what I want life to be!!! No more buying wine!!
I watched a TV show called "the split". It's about a group of exceptional women, three sisters and the mum who own a prestige divorce solicitor firm on London. Rich, beautiful, smart, amazing houses and lawyers to the celebs. In EVERY episode, they are downing the wine ALL the time. Also at some points drinking neat spirits in shot glasses like it's water. Now, I am doing a dry month and I found it very triggering! I wanted that lifestyle and that wine! It's such a trick. I think soaps and dramas in the UK are terrible for this. Women binge drinking on wine all the time, whilst looking fantastic cos in real life they probably don't touch the stuff.
Oh Erin, just when I thought I couldn’t adore you anymore you drop this amazing video!!! I too am a sober woman (14 years), and so appreciate when women share their story in such a graceful and elegant way. Taking the time to use this platform as a powerful agent for change is not only brave; it’s necessary!!!! Bravo 👏🏻 ❤️🌻
Thank you so much, Jennifer. And I appreciate you taking note of the direction. I thought long and hard about how I would broach this and I really wanted to address this in a positive way. Congratulations to you on 14 years!!
The timing of this video is an interesting coincidence for me. Or maybe it’s not a coincidence! 🤔 I have been contemplating my relationship with alcohol. Especially since I just ended a relationship that was full of drinking and our relationship suffered because of it for sure. I was thinking of quitting for 30 days to see how my mind and body feels. Then your video popped up which was unexpected. I was just looking for some black jeans for fall lol...the universe has ways of showing us signs when we are open. Thank you for sharing your story and being so positive.
Aw, thanks, Lisa! I share these things and then I forget that my neighbors and friends might watch. 🤦🏼♀️ 😉😊 It’s okay. I’m at peace with this and I firmly believe it was one if the best decisions I ever made.
Hi Erin, You may have some friends and neighbors that need to hear what you said -- or that have a loved one that needs help. We never know whose lives we may touch.I love that you shared your story and how you shared it. I first went to AA in my late teens. I'm now in my 60's.
I'm almost 58.....I believe I look younger now than I did when I was 38 and I was drinking all the time.....not drinking alcohol literally reverses the signs of aging.....there is no serum or million dollar product out there that can do that.....it's a process, but so so worth it! Thank you Erin....your story inspires me!
I was a pretty heavy drinker in my 20s. It started in College and I actually used it as a tool to maintain my weight. If I got hungry, I would drink and it worked like an appetite suppressant for me. I am 5.7 and was down to 105lbs at my lowest & I actually thought I looked fantastic..(I didn't in reality). My casual alcohol use turned into a full blown dependency..It took me a few years to get it under control and cost me some relationships and a job. I have been alcohol and smoke free for about 18 years now. Meeting my husband and having children changed the course of my life and gave me a purpose that was bigger than myself. I believe it was Devine intervention. Thanks for being vulnerable and bringing awareness to such a topical issue.
I quit drinking too! About 6 years ago. After being hooked up to an IV 3 separate occasions in a hospital and losing my will to live, I decided to fight. At first it was for my son, and then my husband, eventually, until I realized that being sober doesn’t suck, I stuck with it for me. Your top 10’s are sooo true! It doesn’t happen overnight. There is definitely a tough transition, but it’s all very true what you said. AA was helpful, but I realized I wasn’t a group therapy kind of gal so individual therapy with a social worker was my gig. Reading the 12 steps helped me sooo much. My best goes out to anyone suffering and I hope they seek help. Alcoholism doesn’t discriminate. There is nothing to feel ashamed for. Congrats Erin!
Thank you for sharing your story! It takes a lot of courage to admit to yourself having a problem, let alone sharing it with others! I'm one of those people who can't drink in moderation, it was all or nothing for me. Wine was my best friend for some time, until I decided to quit. There's nothing better than feeling sharp, focused and in control! xoxo
Hi Erin, I quit drinking 9 months ago today because it didn't serve me. I was tired of battling everyday with should I have a wine or shouldn't I - I usually did! I was sick of thinking about it. After a couple of drinks I would fall asleep on the couch, not eat my dinner and have a terrible sleep then wake up feeling sick, feel guilty and usually do it again that day. My first husband is an alcoholic and I left before it destroyed myself and my 3 girls. I remarried eventually and drinking has always been a big part of my now husband's life and his family's. We have battled over his drinking and we separated at one stage for over a year. We are ok now - building our dream home - but his drinking will always bother me. I have seen how it destroys families and I have girlfriends who drink excessively and I hate it. It is THE best thing I have ever done for myself. I don't miss it and the thought of waking up with a hangover is enough to make me never drink again. Thank you for sharing your story 💛
dear erin, i am so glad u posted this vid. i have been fighting my battle with booze for years. i go a few days of staying sober and then i feel so good that i decide to drink again. my hangovers ruin my next day but i have juss learned to put up with them . as i have gotten older they are getting worse and really affecting me and my day and my outlook on life. after listening to your video i am going to try again and go for 30 days with out the devil (meaning booze). i want to succeed and not shorten my life because of an addiction that is getting the best of me. xx
I quit drinking when I was 40. I went to a counselor who had me sign a contract stating that I would never take another drink. That was frightening but what great strategy.I signed the paper, and from that day forward I have kept my word. It is amazing what drinking looks like when you are the one who is sober! Now I am 72, and the decision to live without alcohol is one of the best decisions that I ever made. Erin, you reach a lot of women, so it is fantastic that you decided to share your personal story. It takes courage and you may have helped many women struggling with the addiction of alcohol. Blessings!
Thank you for helping to diminish the stigma associated with this disease. I was sober 8 years then relapsed. I am now sober for three years. You have shown that you genuinely do want your followers to be the best version of themselves possible.
Oh yes, there is absolutely a genetic component with alcoholism, my family on both sides had alcoholics, it's a terrible disease that will take those that love you away, as it did my father. His disease was so bad he could not be present in our lives...I have no doubt that he was capable of love...just not strong enough to fight off his disease. I know many high functioning alcoholics, it saddens me, not only are they not living a full life...they will also shorten their lives. I made the decision to not drink at all in my life many many years ago with no regrets. Bravo to you for making the change in your life, you're better for it, your family and friends also benefit from you loving yourself enough to make the decision not to drink. It takes strength and courage to recognize our own faults....Excellent Video ERIN!!
I think people speaking up will help with this problem not being so stigmatized. People are scared to come forward, they don’t want that stigma attached to their name. Thank you for your voice.
In my family alcoholism became a part of a negative family culture that eventually broke most relationships within the family apart. My mother’s parents were both alcoholics - and even though she rarely drinks- it made her a more fearful, less trusting person. I see those tendencies in myself- and actively try to work on those impulses. It’s amazing how far reaching the fall out from drinking is. Thankfully I’m not drawn to alcohol - but I definitely know how much it has impacted me regardless.
thank you for an amazing video. I lost my husband over a year ago. He was an athlete and coach who along with all of the work that went into it, drank a lot with the socialization, until a stroke ensued, depression set in and even though he was totally functional after the stroke ,could not engage in contact sports anymore, leaving him more time to drink until he physically drowned himself in alcohol from the depression. I, along with him socially drank and now I feel because he is gone, and loneliness has set in I find myself drinking a lot. I have to stop before it's too late. I want to be more alert ,do more, etc. I think this video has begun to help . thanks again
Thank you Erin! My marriage ended because my former husband was an alcoholic in denial. He would not seek help, no matter what I tried. We separated and it was really rock bottom from there for him. Your openness and honesty is loved and appreciated!
When you talked about the Serenity prayer, I literally got a lump in my throat. That prayer can apply to so many areas of EVERY SINGLE person's life. I, for one, love a nice glass of wine...or 2 or 3.😘 There was a time I would indulge myself, 3-4 evenings a week. To me, it made dinner preparation and evening routines so much more relaxing. However, my husband wasn't crazy about the new habits I was forming and was concerned that eventually I would want to relax with wine EVERY night of the week. Now I just look forward to Fridays, and only Fridays (unless there's a special occasion). 😊 Great video topic! Glad you are happier now. 💕
Thank you for sharing. I quit drinking 35 years ago and I’m still grateful for waking up and feeling good in the morning. I also know that at any time I can drive someone anywhere the need to go when I’m around. No guilt no embarrassment! The thought of drinking still makes me feel sick. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. Thanks again.
"If you are asking yourself if drinking is an issue then it's an issue." "...at the very least it's not serving you." Powerful words! For me it may be more powerful than the 10 amazing things list. The list seems to be the icing on the cake. Thank you for sharing!
Wow! What a wonderful share. You said it all. Very honest. Just about every incident that has happened with friends and family in my life was around drinking. I’ve seen too much damage because of it. My marriage ended because of my husband’s drinking. Broke my heart, but I couldn’t live like that any longer. Tried my best, but ultimately it is THEIR decision. I just decided that it wouldn’t ruin my life as well. Thank you for your courage in sharing.
Wow, Deborah... you are SO brave! So many women (and men) get caught up in a codependent cycle and it does end up ruining their lives too. It’s really courageous that you took the necessary and very hard steps to ensure your happiness.
Thank you for sharing !!! Speaking about this is not popular , but really is very real in slot of our lives. I stopped drinking in 2010 when I gave my life to the Lord. Reconciled with my God & never looked back.
I wish I could “Like” this a million times!! I have 19 years of sobriety & as I type this, getting ready to go to an AA meeting. It’s changed my life so much. I didn’t believe in God or miracles before but I do now. Thank you for your honesty & hopefully if there is someone sick or struggling out there, it will give them the courage to find help
Thank you, Lorraine and CONGRATS to you on 19 years of being alcohol-free!!! What an incredible achievement... especially in a society that welcomes and encourages drinking. Loved reading your story. ~Erin xo
Thank you so much for this. Dealing with problems before they become big is what, in my opinion, separates successful people from desperate people. This concerns what we ingest, spend or say.
🙃I quit 6 yrs ago just to get in better health! It is amazing how much better it feels without it!🤗. You better believe you have helped, touched, and improved someone’s life with sharing your story!!!!💖
Wonderful video! I started tapering down to a social drink here and there about 15 years ago (I started with one per week, then bi-weekly, monthly, 3 months, 6 months). Now, I don't drink at all. Alcoholism runs in our families. I don't want my grandkids to remember that "yucky" feeling that so many of us lived with from seeing relatives drunk. NOT in my home!
Thank you for sharing! I quit drinking about 32 years ago. It has done nothing but serve me in a positive way. I was fortunate that I needed no help. I was not an alcoholic....yet! I have close family members that are alcoholics. Thank God for AA. They are all sober. It's such a hard topic to bring up because of how it is perceived by most members. Great job on bringing a difficult topic to light!
I think you are way past helping one person but here stands another. I have listened to this every time I do my daily hour’s walk, sometimes twice through. You are reaching many who don’t have a huge problem but just want to clear the deck of alcohol for good. This is the most persuasive thing I have ever heard. Big thanks to you. Love the fashion stuff...that goes w/o saying.
Dear Erin, I am so proud of you,!! Both my parents were alcoholics and it destroyed my family. I do not drink and neither does my brother and we are both over 70. My mother died when I was 7 due to alcoholic rated diseases. I look around and see so many families destroyed thru alcohol. When I was working as a nurse in E R , I can’t even begin to tell you the destruction of lives due to alcohol. It is so hard for me to see people drinking. I don’t have a soap box about people doing what I think is best , but so many people drink as a self treatment for depression anxiety and other mental illnesses. You are so brave, keep using this channel as a way to help so many people. Proud of you and love you loads! Glenda
Such a powerful talk! Another benefit is being a role model for your children. I think our son, at 17 now, hasn’t been interested in drinking since we don’t drink and most of his friends have tried or do drink alcohol. He knows we live just fine or even better not having alcohol in our lives. An eye opener was after having him and going to restaurants and seeing other people drinking with babies and little ones and then getting in cars and driving under the influence with the little ones in the car!
That was incredibly courageous of you, Erin. I personally don’t have a problem with drinking, but my husband is a high-functioning alcoholic who is still in denial. It has caused a lot of pain in our family. I grew up in an alcoholic home too, but am now in recovery at Al-Anon. We have monthly combined meetings with AA where I learn so much about the disease of alcoholism, and how to grow in compassion towards my husband. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s so important to get rid of the stigma around it. I believe it’s going to help many of your viewers out there. Alcohol dependence/alcoholism is much more common than people think
Thank you for opening up about this topic. Alcoholism is a HUGE problem in many families, including mine. Just found AA meetings for women, i.e. wives/siblings/mothers/friends of an alcoholic. If you’re in a relationship with an alcoholic, find an AA meeting near you and go. There’s no judgement ❤️
Thank you Erin for this very real video. For the last decade or so, I've been drinking more than I should. Pretty much every night, a couple of glasses of wine, sometimes more. I can go for a while and not drink, but it always seems to circle back around to the same old routine. I'm going to give it a shot again though, inspired by your story. Thanks friend!
When I stopped drinking several years ago, that left plenty of free time to think. And wow, when I started _thinking_ again, I realized how blind I’d been living for so many years. God bless and thank you for sharing your story and wisdom. I pray it helps other women (and men) who find this video.
THAT was such an inspiring video you shared... I will stop drinking, ( I would call me a social drinker ). I drink white wine and beer to relieve pain. I have a chronic disease that pain meds do not help. I have had practically every joint replaced, so exercise is tough. But, after listening to you, I don’t need that in my life. Alcohol is “not my friend”. I feel like crap the next day...and still in pain! I will search for another “relief”. Thank you for sharing. You helped me, more than you know, dear friend.💕
I have tried CBD oil, one did help a little! I have had acupuncture, and he was a Chinese Doctor that taught it!He was very good, but it is only temporary relief. Thank you for your encouragement.
Dear Judy, I understand. I too, suffer with chronic pain in my joints and walk with a bad limp because of hip and knee complications. I found a channel called The Paddison Program, here on YT. I am only in my first week, and today I woke up with much less pain than I have had in the last 2 yrs.. The program involves juicing, healing gut permeability, and eating non inflammatory foods. I understand about the drinking...I found that 2 glasses of pinot grigio with 3 Naproxen seemed to help...….unfortunately, not so much the next day, as well as bad for the stomach and liver. Good luck to you, and God bless.
Erin - kudos to you for being brave enough to share your story. Our son in law came to me earlier this year and told me he knew he was out of control with his drinking and he was going to stop. He was having issues with our daughter, his wife, and he knew he was handling it badly. He decided on his own to go to AA meetings and he talked to me. I suggested that even though I was happy to sit with him and talk, I was not equipped to really help him work out the issues. I then suggested that he call our Pastor who is a family counselor, especially since they could not afford to pay for a professional and we live in a very rural area where there are not a lot of options. He has been counseling with Pastor since early May and it has helped so much because he can say out loud what he needs to say and know he won't be judged and he receives the guidance he needs. I once had an alcoholic in my life when my daughter was in her teens and made the decision that was not good for my life or my daughters. I am sure your story will help other women. Thank you again.
Thank you for sharing this very personal story! You didn’t just stop drinking. You have found and are experiencing serenity. You have found “ sobriety”. These two are the result of deep reflection and desire for change. Congratulations to you! It’s not automatic and is entirely different than simply “ not drinking alcohol. You continue to be an inspiration! I use the word “ lovely” now so often as a way to describe things because you use it often... and you truly are lovely. Thank you 😘
My thought watching this video was just a thoughtful, intelligent and genuine woman you are. ❤️ I grew up with a very different experience with alcohol. My parents had religious beliefs that they thought kept them from drinking when we were growing up. It was sort of an oppressive thing that isolated them from family and friends. After we both turned 21 and they realized we were fine, they both started drinking wine and it has been a great joy to enjoy with them all as adults. I have a problem with the “alcohol culture” in the US. Many people seem to think if you drink, it’s to get drunk. Alcohol is enjoyed in every culture around the world, and not to get drunk. I personally enjoy it and am grateful to have healthy relationship with it, but I know that’s not the case for many. I so appreciate your honesty and openness and what a strong woman you are. You’re a fabulous example for your children. Thanks for sharing❤️
Elizabeth, interesting point about USA culture. It's so EXCESSIVE about everything, whether unhealthy, healthy, the size of drinks or meals or cars or houses or Starbucks size options, even days we work vs. vacation... Hmm. Hadn't made the correlation with alcohol, but I see it now that I reflect on our international travels! Moderation is more popular elsewhere.
Powerful message! My life improved exponentially and the change began with me 13 years ago, one day at a time. I already saw you as a strong and successful woman. Now after sharing this private and vulnerable aspect of your life, I respect you much more!
I stopped drinking 6 months ago. Drinking became such a habitual nightly routine that I just felt wasn’t good for me. I would pour a glass of wine, or make a martini or something every night, and I would drink it down like water and get another one. I wanted to stop for a while, but I kept procrastinating, I just couldn’t picture myself not having my evening drinks, especially with dinner “water only? , don’t think so “. Well on February 26, 2019, I said to myself, “ try to go this one night without a drink “. The next day I was so proud of myself ( although I did have a headache, due to the withdrawals). Making it through that one day was a life changer for me, I was like “I can do this, let’s try to go another day “ and then “I’m going to see how long I can go”. The weird thing is, is that I don’t seem to miss it. I especially don’t miss it when I’m at a dinner party , or out with friends and I know they’ve had too much ( they always have designated drivers, by the way- sometimes it’s me!). Anyway, I know they’re not going to feel good the next day, and I’m going to feel great! Sometimes I miss the taste of red wine with dinner, my husband always says “you can have a glass, it’s okay “. But, I always say, no. First of all one drink leads to more for me, and 2nd, I just want to see how long I can go. I’m proud to say that I don’t drink anymore more, and I cannot say that if I have the occasional drink. My husband and I still go out to happy hour, and dinner quite often, I always order my club soda with lime. It’s my drink of choice now❤️
Erin, this is an excellent (and brave) video. My ex husband is an alcoholic and waited until alcohol was destroying his life before he quit. A lot of people feel that way-the alcoholic is the person who cannot function but you are absolutely right - alcoholism is not simply when you hit rock bottom. It’s all about the relationship with alcohol. There are plenty of functional alcoholics out there and only the people who know them best can identify the cracks forming in their lives as a result of alcohol.
Thank you for sharing. It’s been 3 months for me and I can’t believe how many positive changes. And it’s so good to hear your story. Encourages me to keep going To discover The sparks in heart I am capable of
I was involved with a guy 14 years ago who loved to drink after work. At first I didn't mind the social drinking and before I knew it I had to have a drink after work. When I ended that relationship, I was surprised how alcohol had affected my life. So thank you for your story and being sober is truely wonderful.
It is sneaky. And I think many of us don’t realize how much it controls our life until we have the advantage of hindsight. It’s dangerous and debilitating and somehow SO socially acceptable, even encouraged.
You never know who you will touch with an episode like this... very brave!! I quit alcohol 6 years ago and had the same questions and reservations about what life would be like without it. Happy to say that so many positive things happened to me as well. You absolutely have 10 great and true benefits of life without alcohol. I’m the healthiest and happiest I’ve ever been . Great job telling your story.
Have a friend who was a functioning alchoholic, did not know, worked close to her, knew her for years. Went to lunch one day and her eyes were yellow, needless to say insisted she get to a doctor that day thinking she had jaundice. Had she not gone that day she would not be with us today, it was a life threatening and long process, she is 5 yrs sober and such a joy to be around. Thank you for sharing it takes courage and love that about you!
So glad you did this video! I rarely drink because I just don’t like how I feel. It’s hard when our culture places so much emphasis on drinking to have fun!
Thank you for this. I am a social drinker but 1 year out from bariatric surgery and risk of alcoholism is great. I worry about missing out on social drinking but you definitely gave me a different perspective. 👍❤️
I recently have been considering quitting alcohol completely...I have considerably reduced my intake since it was making me feel horrible. I also have a family history of alcoholism and its such a family secret, and creates so much shame. Thank you so much for your openness its so uplifting and encouraging!!
Alcohol destroyed my 1st marriage. We divorced after 30 years. The divorce propelled my youngest sons addiction. 5 years later alcohol killed my ex husband. But on the outside we looked like we had it together. 2 years ago my son and I both quit drinking alcohol. All of the things you talked about are soooo true! It was almost like hearing my story being told. Thank you for sharing. ❤️ I am so much happier more productive and loving my life! I wish I had done this so much sooner!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I have been a functioning heavy drinker and wanting to stop for a long time. This was the first weekend with out a bottle of wine a night. (Without any wine this weekend). I want my sparkle back and hearing your story is encouraging for me to continue.
Good for you, Lesa for cutting back. It’s a hard process and you may need someone to talk to. A trusted friend helped me in my journey and I think that made a huge difference. You might like the podcast, Recovery Elevator. The friend I mentioned in the video who recently quit says it’s really helpful to her.
@@BusbeeStyle And the Bubble Hour for a podcast too. I put a few free online secret groups, blogs and podcasts above all very solid in the recovery movement and they are all women like us.
5 years sober and it's the hardest but best thing I've ever done. I agree the sparkle starts once you give up the booze. Learning who I am without it was quite a struggle and I lost alot of people. In such a short time my life has completely changed and blossomed. I look back with pride you can make a whole new life for yourself and achieve things you never thought were possible. Thanks so much for sharing 💋
Erin, wow this was an amazing discovery to learn about your journey with drinking. I just celebrated 25 years in July and I’m 56. It has truly transformed my life. Good for you for being so open and honest.
Great job, Erin! Perfect way to use your platform. I quit drinking 3 years ago and I agree with all you points. I’ve never been happier and more content. The one huge benefit that happened for me is to realize that I am worthy. Worthy of happiness. Thanks again for sharing!
Yes, self-worth and confidence are definitely a treasure and areas that improved for me too when I quitting. I love myself enough NOT to drink. Thanks, Lesley. 💗
Thanks for sharing. My family has definitely been touched with the destruction that alcoholism brings. Luckily for me, alcohol just makes me ill. Kudos to you for addressing this topic. 😊
Melissa Malone I feel the same. Alcohol makes me feel ill. So I’ve never been a drinker. Alcoholism runs in my family and I’m thankful I wasn’t struck with it. My father he battled addiction my entire life. My bother now battles. I worry for my adult sons. They know their history on both sides of the family and we openly discuss it. I’m hopeful they don’t ever battle it. They are early 20’s and rarely drink. But I know how easy that can change.
Thank you, Erin! I stopped drinking earlier this month for a fitness challenge at my gym. It was something I had wanted to do for a long time, but just couldn't give up. For me it was about relaxation and stress relief, but was really not serving me well. I was too tired at night to be productive and the fact that I couldn't come home and not have it was a red flag. I'm not sure what will happen when the challenge is over, but I'm hoping I will see the benefits and not start up again.
Thanks for sharing Erin~ I've experienced similar dynamics, grew up in an alcoholic family and started to developed the allergic side effects in my late 30's which increased as I've matured. I still have a drink now and then but feel 100X better when I'm clear, you nailed it on the benefits!
thank you so much for this Erin ... I know I have a problem ... but it’s always a « civilized » problem ... I never get crazy .... but I feel alcohol is stopping me from a lot of things. you are making me rethink the situation.
You are preaching to the choir, Erin!! I gave up drinking alcohol over 35 years ago. I think it is one of the best decisions I have ever made. I have reaped a lifetime of benefit from it. More than anything else, I feel free. I am not relying on a chemical to make me happy but it is all me and I am present in every moment. Thanks so much for choosing to share your story. I really hope it sparks a fruitful conversation.
I truly appreciate your honesty and you sharing your story. I grew up in Alanon and have always loved the Serenity Prayer. And I am not a drinker and never have been. But, that prayer (religious or not) puts things in perspective and is a really good tool to get through things. 💖
Thank you Erin. Alcohol triggers terrible migraines in me. I call it my allergic reaction. I quit drinking in my 20s(now 54). All you positive points are spot on.
Thank you for such a wonderfully honest and inspirational video. My Nan taught my sister and myself the serenity prayer when we were 5/6 years. I say it every night. I believe acceptance is the key to life. I’m sober 15years 11months. I grew up in an alcoholic home, I abused alcohol for many years as did my beloved late brother who passed away 1 month ago. Since I have stopped drinking alcohol I have found peace and contentment. It didn’t happen overnight and life is not a Disney movie but it is a million times better, happier, healthier both physically and mentally when you are sober.
God gave you the awareness, strength and wisdom to stay away from this substance. He is real and available to us when we seek him. Great video Erin and we all need this this message. Kudos to your courage and concern for yourself and others. ❤
Thank you for telling your story. I quit drinking a couple years ago just to support my husband in his diet. Well I found alot of those same benefits and dropped an entire size! It just melted off I had no idea how many calories I was investing. And I feel clearer and better.
It is good to share and be vulnerable. Helps in healing. Nothing to be ashamed of. You are human. Letting others see your humanity is a gift to us. Makes you a real person and not just a perfect cut out of a person. Thank you for sharing.
GREAT video. I am sober 8 years and feel every single word you are saying. Thank you for your honesty and your approach, especially through this venue and on a fashion-centric platform. Xxoo
I love your real talk videos. They usually resonate in some way with me. I’ve been thinking for a while now I drink too often (every night 2 glasses of wine) but I just can’t seem to stop, it has a hold on me. I fret if there’s no wine in the house, that must mean I have a problem! Thank you for sharing your story.
I was a real partier when I was young and like you, I had a reaction to it. My face and neck would turn red. More to the point I simply couldn't handle alcohol. A little bit - and I mean a little bit - and I was buzzed. Any more than that and I was drunk. What I remember most was how much and how often I made an absolute a-s-s of myself in front of my friends and strangers. And all those things I did that I would never have done sober. Enough said on that. I thank God that in those days I could afford an apartment or a car but not both. I chose the apartment and because of that I never killed anyone by drinking and driving.
Erin, thank you. I’m 49 and needed this TODAY. Family history of alcoholism, intermittent quitting throughout my life, embarrassing experiences in my youth, not giving 100% to my husband, kids, and myself... I’m done. Thank you for encouraging me to do what I knew needed to be done for many years. May God bless you!
Well done! What a wonderful public service you've just performed. To see an intelligent, clear minded, well spoken young woman so sincerely and succinctly speak about her personal experiences with alcohol and its effects sends a powerful message....thank you so much for this.
these conversations should be happening more, thank for sharing your vulnerability! I too have been down this journey and do not drink anymore! It's empowering to get back that control and choosing to be honest with yourself and the demons that often chase us down. Keep up with all the real things that are often not shared on this or any other platform, because I am paying attention! virtual hugs Erin, xoxoxo :o)
Erin, what a great video! This is such an important message to get out there. I have not had any alcohol in 27 years and I don't miss it. I was on my way to alcoholism and I am more grateful than I can say that I stopped. Sobriety is such a gift and is so important in the world we live. At 70 I do get anxious from time to time but it is so much better to deal with sober than not. I lost my husband 10 years ago and I can't tell you how many people told me to take a drink or a pill to numb the pain. But I wanted to feel the pain so I could move through it. We just can't numb our feelings . Also alcoholism is such a big problem with senior citizens it is very sad to me. I hope I can share your video with my niece someday . She is having a bad time with her drinking after a divorce. She doesn't want to hear from me about it at all. But I pray that someday soon she will want my help. Thank you for sharing this is so important. Barbara
What a wonderful video! My husband comes from a long line of alcoholics and stopped drinking at the age of 22. I have two son’s who went through rehab and go to AA regularly. Thank You for sharing your story and telling and showing people that life without alcohol is exciting, fun, healthy and beautiful.
Good Morning Erin! I don’t really know where to begin. Thank you so much for posting this. I went to bed last night and woke up this morning thinking I should quit drinking and the first thing I saw when I picked up my phone was your amazing, heartfelt video. Alcoholism also runs in my family and I’ve known for years that my addiction was ruining my life. Now, I’m 63 and I regret I didn’t seriously address it earlier. I’m a retired teacher, an aspiring RUclipsr, and have been confused for a very long time about alcohol. This may sound crazy but for a long time I have believed it was the source of my creativity, humor, and drive. I have been very successful despite drinking and until recently thought I couldn’t get much done without it. It took almost being totally broke for me to realize it is the source of my overspending, loneliness, unhappiness, and mental and physical pain. I have so much more to share and I will! Thank you for being an encouraging, loving guide. You are very important in my life and I’m grateful!
Nancy Kindred Hester my prayers go out to you. Get the help you need. Negative affects of alcohol is progressive. Take care🌸
Wow! So powerful! That is exactly the way I use to feel and now how 21 years. You too can start with 1 day at a time.
Prayers for you. You can do it.
Nancy Kindred Hester Nancy I’m a retired teacher too and I don’t think the general public recognizes the stresses teachers are under. Sending a hug to you.
What an amazing and courageous share. You can get through this and you will find you have more support than you could ever imagine. Big hug.
Sober as of 9/1/2019 here. Thanks for sharing from the heart.
Stay strong!!!!! You can do this.
Wow!!! Awesome. Starting your journey. Many prayers to you.
WyoRadical yay!
Me too. 🙌🙌🙌
@@misstickleeast268 proud of you..
I quit drinking on my daughter's first day of kindergarten. I had brain fog for 6 to 9 months. I was too shy to go to AA but I did attend two meetings. Almost fifteen years later I relapsed. It took me two years to quit after that. I lost so much weight everybody kept asking me what my secret was! I now have all kinds of things that make me happier than being drunk did. I have not drank in 11 years now. 😀
Diane Doskoch so happy for you!!!!! I need to cut down big time.
Thank you this helped me. I went to lose fat and I think showing down in my drinking is going to hello tremendously.
Not drinking is one of the best decisions I ever made
My father had a problem with alcohol and quit when I was 12, but knowing the dynamics alcohol can bring into lives, I chose never to drink myself. All through college and later social situations when drinking was ‘cool’ I never gave in to being a ‘wet blanket’ in the party. I’m now on my way to 81 and have never regretted not drinking. Thank you for being brave r ought to share your story. Alcoholism definitely has a genetic link and you were wise to stop drinking alcohol when you did. ❤️. Sandra
That is beautiful. I am also sober
My Dad was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer in May. He stopped drinking couldn't stop smoking) and became the nicest, sweetest, most loving man I have ever met. He became my father. He died in August, a short three months later. That's when I realized my father was an alcoholic. Those three months are the best memories of my father. This was 26 years ago. Bless you, Erin and thank you.❤️❤️
Today I have been sober 610 days. One day at a time. Thank you for sharing 💕
Did you go to AA meetings or you just stopped by yourself?
Congratulations. Be proud. Be sober.
Hope you’re still doing well.
Thank you for sharing. 🙏. 20 years sober here.
Congratulations Holly! That is incredible!! I hope you are doing something special to celebrate.
Holly Rolette McCaughley congratulations 🎈🎊
Go Girl!
Holly McCaughley 3 years sober, here. 20 years, whoohoo.
Alcohol is bad, bad stuff. Alcoholism runs in my family. I think it's sad how our society glamorizes and normalizes drinking alcohol.
Agree , I still can't believe that Hoda and Kathy on the Today Show did and still do wine Wednesday or drink on tv starting at 8-9 in the am...
@sara. Bosworth, you are so right that our society glamorizes and normalizes drinking alcohol. It's insidious. What's even worse is that my last job for 11 years started having Happy Hour on Wednesdays in a big conference room. I was vocal about that amongst other things, so I got laid off. I'm glad to be rid of that toxicity, but it's now so accepted that they've brought it to the workplace. .....and people are way over worked and stressed, which concludes that we, as a society have way bigger issues.
I agree. I cringe at every commercial, and music video and everything that glamorizes drinking.
@@godsgirl0019 And all the t shirts about it being wine o'clock or rose all day.
It's big business and celebs have to promote what they are told to promote. All for money and fame
Thank you Erin for sharing such a "taboo" subject. I will be celebrating my 4 year anniversary of sobriety next month. Everything you mentioned from feeling healthier to saving money to looking better is all true. Alcohol is a toxic substance like any other addictive drug. I appreciate you giving this topic the voice it deserves. Thank you.
What concerns me are all the young girls and young Moms who are caught up in the huge wine trend. Drinking wine is being glamorized. Full disclosure.....I drink a glass or two of red wine each evening, but I am almost 70 and did not start drinking wine until I was in my 60's. I can't imagine how I would look or feel if I had been drinking and trying to raise my kids and work a job. As it is, i have gained 15 lbs over the last 5 yrs! I need to re-evaluate and start being more of a role model to my grown children and younger friends. Maybe if they see an old lady actually losing weight and getting stronger, it may spur them on to quitting too! Thank you for starting this conversation.
This is sooo true-I started drinking wine in my early 50's-and it is a "social upper class" thing--which is horrible. I have 150 bottles of wine in my home, have visited Napa on 3 trips, and I realize this is not what I want life to be!!! No more buying wine!!
this is so true and perception of wine drinking in the media as a sophicated elegant thing to do... well said
I watched a TV show called "the split". It's about a group of exceptional women, three sisters and the mum who own a prestige divorce solicitor firm on London. Rich, beautiful, smart, amazing houses and lawyers to the celebs.
In EVERY episode, they are downing the wine ALL the time. Also at some points drinking neat spirits in shot glasses like it's water.
Now, I am doing a dry month and I found it very triggering! I wanted that lifestyle and that wine!
It's such a trick. I think soaps and dramas in the UK are terrible for this.
Women binge drinking on wine all the time, whilst looking fantastic cos in real life they probably don't touch the stuff.
Oh Erin, just when I thought I couldn’t adore you anymore you drop this amazing video!!! I too am a sober woman (14 years), and so appreciate when women share their story in such a graceful and elegant way. Taking the time to use this platform as a powerful agent for change is not only brave; it’s necessary!!!! Bravo 👏🏻 ❤️🌻
Thank you so much, Jennifer. And I appreciate you taking note of the direction. I thought long and hard about how I would broach this and I really wanted to address this in a positive way. Congratulations to you on 14 years!!
This is an important conversation.Thank you for this video.
The timing of this video is an interesting coincidence for me. Or maybe it’s not a coincidence! 🤔 I have been contemplating my relationship with alcohol. Especially since I just ended a relationship that was full of drinking and our relationship suffered because of it for sure. I was thinking of quitting for 30 days to see how my mind and body feels. Then your video popped up which was unexpected. I was just looking for some black jeans for fall lol...the universe has ways of showing us signs when we are open. Thank you for sharing your story and being so positive.
Try it for 30 days and see how you do. You’ll know pretty quickly how serious the issue is (or isn’t) and then you can go from there.
jjldaisy there are no coincidences ☝️😊
Trina Todd SO TRUE!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Take it a day at a time. There’s no need to think about a long term commitment at the moment. 30 days is a good short term goal. You got this!
Read the book This Nake Mind by Annie Grace. Awesome book about alcohol
Thank you for sharing, Erin. I’m a social drinker but as I listen to you...even drinking only socially, it is not serving me well. 🙂
Thank you for sharing your story. You are even more amazing to me than you were 15 minutes ago. I love you!!
Aw, thanks, Lisa! I share these things and then I forget that my neighbors and friends might watch. 🤦🏼♀️ 😉😊 It’s okay. I’m at peace with this and I firmly believe it was one if the best decisions I ever made.
Hi Erin, You may have some friends and neighbors that need to hear what you said -- or that have a loved one that needs help. We never know whose lives we may touch.I love that you shared your story and how you shared it. I first went to AA in my late teens. I'm now in my 60's.
I'm almost 58.....I believe I look younger now than I did when I was 38 and I was drinking all the time.....not drinking alcohol literally reverses the signs of aging.....there is no serum or million dollar product out there that can do that.....it's a process, but so so worth it! Thank you Erin....your story inspires me!
I was a pretty heavy drinker in my 20s. It started in College and I actually used it as a tool to maintain my weight. If I got hungry, I would drink and it worked like an appetite suppressant for me. I am 5.7 and was down to 105lbs at my lowest & I actually thought I looked fantastic..(I didn't in reality). My casual alcohol use turned into a full blown dependency..It took me a few years to get it under control and cost me some relationships and a job. I have been alcohol and smoke free for about 18 years now. Meeting my husband and having children changed the course of my life and gave me a purpose that was bigger than myself. I believe it was Devine intervention. Thanks for being vulnerable and bringing awareness to such a topical issue.
Bravo~
I quit drinking too! About 6 years ago. After being hooked up to an IV 3 separate occasions in a hospital and losing my will to live, I decided to fight. At first it was for my son, and then my husband, eventually, until I realized that being sober doesn’t suck, I stuck with it for me. Your top 10’s are sooo true! It doesn’t happen overnight. There is definitely a tough transition, but it’s all very true what you said. AA was helpful, but I realized I wasn’t a group therapy kind of gal so individual therapy with a social worker was my gig. Reading the 12 steps helped me sooo much. My best goes out to anyone suffering and I hope they seek help. Alcoholism doesn’t discriminate. There is nothing to feel ashamed for. Congrats Erin!
Thank you for sharing your story! It takes a lot of courage to admit to yourself having a problem, let alone sharing it with others! I'm one of those people who can't drink in moderation, it was all or nothing for me. Wine was my best friend for some time, until I decided to quit. There's nothing better than feeling sharp, focused and in control! xoxo
Hi Erin, I quit drinking 9 months ago today because it didn't serve me. I was tired of battling everyday with should I have a wine or shouldn't I - I usually did! I was sick of thinking about it. After a couple of drinks I would fall asleep on the couch, not eat my dinner and have a terrible sleep then wake up feeling sick, feel guilty and usually do it again that day. My first husband is an alcoholic and I left before it destroyed myself and my 3 girls. I remarried eventually and drinking has always been a big part of my now husband's life and his family's. We have battled over his drinking and we separated at one stage for over a year. We are ok now - building our dream home - but his drinking will always bother me. I have seen how it destroys families and I have girlfriends who drink excessively and I hate it. It is THE best thing I have ever done for myself. I don't miss it and the thought of waking up with a hangover is enough to make me never drink again. Thank you for sharing your story 💛
I have been alcohol free for 8 years. It’s amazing. Thank you for sharing your story! It was not my friend either.
Thank you for sharing! xo
Erin this was so brave of you and so proud of you for sharing this topic. 💜
dear erin, i am so glad u posted this vid. i have been fighting my battle with booze for years. i go a few days of staying sober and then i feel so good that i decide to drink again. my hangovers ruin my next day but i have juss learned to put up with them . as i have gotten older they are getting worse and really affecting me and my day and my outlook on life. after listening to your video i am going to try again and go for 30 days with out the devil (meaning booze). i want to succeed and not shorten my life because of an addiction that is getting the best of me. xx
I quit drinking when I was 40. I went to a counselor who had me sign a contract stating that I would never take another drink. That was frightening but what great strategy.I signed the paper, and from that day forward I have kept my word. It is amazing what drinking looks like when you are the one who is sober! Now I am 72, and the decision to live without alcohol is one of the best decisions that I ever made. Erin, you reach a lot of women, so it is fantastic that you decided to share your personal story. It takes courage and you may have helped many women struggling with the addiction of alcohol. Blessings!
Thank you so much, Cheryl...and thank you for sharing your journey with me. It means so much to me to be able to share with other women. xo
Thank you for helping to diminish the stigma associated with this disease. I was sober 8 years then relapsed. I am now sober for three years. You have shown that you genuinely do want your followers to be the best version of themselves possible.
Oh yes, there is absolutely a genetic component with alcoholism, my family on both sides had alcoholics, it's a terrible disease that will take those that love you away, as it did my father. His disease was so bad he could not be present in our lives...I have no doubt that he was capable of love...just not strong enough to fight off his disease. I know many high functioning alcoholics, it saddens me, not only are they not living a full life...they will also shorten their lives. I made the decision to not drink at all in my life many many years ago with no regrets. Bravo to you for making the change in your life, you're better for it, your family and friends also benefit from you loving yourself enough to make the decision not to drink. It takes strength and courage to recognize our own faults....Excellent Video ERIN!!
Soo right
I think people speaking up will help with this problem not being so stigmatized. People are scared to come forward, they don’t want that stigma attached to their name. Thank you for your voice.
I’ve been sober for almost 14 months and I have never looked better! Thank you for sharing Erin I love you even more now!
In my family alcoholism became a part of a negative family culture that eventually broke most relationships within the family apart. My mother’s parents were both alcoholics - and even though she rarely drinks- it made her a more fearful, less trusting person. I see those tendencies in myself- and actively try to work on those impulses. It’s amazing how far reaching the fall out from drinking is. Thankfully I’m not drawn to alcohol - but I definitely know how much it has impacted me regardless.
thank you for an amazing video. I lost my husband over a year ago. He was an athlete and coach who along with all of the work that went into it, drank a lot with the socialization, until a stroke ensued, depression set in and even though he was totally functional after the stroke ,could not engage in contact sports anymore, leaving him more time to drink until he physically drowned himself in alcohol from the depression. I, along with him socially drank and now I feel because he is gone, and loneliness has set in I find myself drinking a lot. I have to stop before it's too late. I want to be more alert ,do more, etc. I think this video has begun to help . thanks again
Best wishes for a sober life, you deserve it.
Thank you Erin! My marriage ended because my former husband was an alcoholic in denial. He would not seek help, no matter what I tried. We separated and it was really rock bottom from there for him.
Your openness and honesty is loved and appreciated!
When you talked about the Serenity prayer, I literally got a lump in my throat. That prayer can apply to so many areas of EVERY SINGLE person's life. I, for one, love a nice glass of wine...or 2 or 3.😘 There was a time I would indulge myself, 3-4 evenings a week. To me, it made dinner preparation and evening routines so much more relaxing. However, my husband wasn't crazy about the new habits I was forming and was concerned that eventually I would want to relax with wine EVERY night of the week. Now I just look forward to Fridays, and only Fridays (unless there's a special occasion). 😊 Great video topic! Glad you are happier now. 💕
Thank you for sharing. I quit drinking 35 years ago and I’m still grateful for waking up and feeling good in the morning. I also know that at any time I can drive someone anywhere the need to go when I’m around. No guilt no embarrassment! The thought of drinking still makes me feel sick. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. Thanks again.
"If you are asking yourself if drinking is an issue then it's an issue." "...at the very least it's not serving you." Powerful words! For me it may be more powerful than the 10 amazing things list. The list seems to be the icing on the cake. Thank you for sharing!
Wow! What a wonderful share. You said it all. Very honest. Just about every incident that has happened with friends and family in my life was around drinking. I’ve seen too much damage because of it. My marriage ended because of my husband’s drinking. Broke my heart, but I couldn’t live like that any longer. Tried my best, but ultimately it is THEIR decision. I just decided that it wouldn’t ruin my life as well. Thank you for your courage in sharing.
Wow, Deborah... you are SO brave! So many women (and men) get caught up in a codependent cycle and it does end up ruining their lives too. It’s really courageous that you took the necessary and very hard steps to ensure your happiness.
Thank you for sharing !!! Speaking about this is not popular , but really is very real in slot of our lives. I stopped drinking in 2010 when I gave my life to the Lord. Reconciled with my God & never looked back.
I wish I could “Like” this a million times!! I have 19 years of sobriety & as I type this, getting ready to go to an AA meeting. It’s changed my life so much. I didn’t believe in God or miracles before but I do now. Thank you for your honesty & hopefully if there is someone sick or struggling out there, it will give them the courage to find help
Thank you, Lorraine and CONGRATS to you on 19 years of being alcohol-free!!! What an incredible achievement... especially in a society that welcomes and encourages drinking. Loved reading your story. ~Erin xo
Thank you. This helps me. I feel good about the fact that I have cut down on my drinking. I can see a point where I will quit all together.
Thank you so much for this. Dealing with problems before they become big is what, in my opinion, separates successful people from desperate people. This concerns what we ingest, spend or say.
🙃I quit 6 yrs ago just to get in better health! It is amazing how much better it feels without it!🤗. You better believe you have helped, touched, and improved someone’s life with sharing your story!!!!💖
Wonderful video! I started tapering down to a social drink here and there about 15 years ago (I started with one per week, then bi-weekly, monthly, 3 months, 6 months). Now, I don't drink at all. Alcoholism runs in our families. I don't want my grandkids to remember that "yucky" feeling that so many of us lived with from seeing relatives drunk. NOT in my home!
Thank you for sharing! I quit drinking about 32 years ago. It has done nothing but serve me in a positive way. I was fortunate that I needed no help. I was not an alcoholic....yet! I have close family members that are alcoholics. Thank God for AA. They are all sober. It's such a hard topic to bring up because of how it is perceived by most members. Great job on bringing a difficult topic to light!
I think you are way past helping one person but here stands another. I have listened to this every time I do my daily hour’s walk, sometimes twice through. You are reaching many who don’t have a huge problem but just want to clear the deck of alcohol for good. This is the most persuasive thing I have ever heard. Big thanks to you. Love the fashion stuff...that goes w/o saying.
Dear Erin, I am so proud of you,!! Both my parents were alcoholics and it destroyed my family. I do not drink and neither does my brother and we are both over 70. My mother died when I was 7 due to alcoholic rated diseases. I look around and see so many families destroyed thru alcohol. When I was working as a nurse in E R , I can’t even begin to tell you the destruction of lives due to alcohol. It is so hard for me to see people drinking. I don’t have a soap box about people doing what I think is best , but so many people drink as a self treatment for depression anxiety and other mental illnesses.
You are so brave, keep using this channel as a way to help so many people. Proud of you and love you loads!
Glenda
My friends brother drank himself to death. Very very sad.
Such a powerful talk! Another benefit is being a role model for your children. I think our son, at 17 now, hasn’t been interested in drinking since we don’t drink and most of his friends have tried or do drink alcohol. He knows we live just fine or even better not having alcohol in our lives.
An eye opener was after having him and going to restaurants and seeing other people drinking with babies and little ones and then getting in cars and driving under the influence with the little ones in the car!
That was incredibly courageous of you, Erin. I personally don’t have a problem with drinking, but my husband is a high-functioning alcoholic who is still in denial. It has caused a lot of pain in our family. I grew up in an alcoholic home too, but am now in recovery at Al-Anon. We have monthly combined meetings with AA where I learn so much about the disease of alcoholism, and how to grow in compassion towards my husband. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s so important to get rid of the stigma around it. I believe it’s going to help many of your viewers out there. Alcohol dependence/alcoholism is much more common than people think
Keep going to Al-Anon! It is a wonderful program. Hope your hubby finds his way to AA! Love and hope to you💙
Thank you for opening up about this topic. Alcoholism is a HUGE problem in many families, including mine. Just found AA meetings for women, i.e. wives/siblings/mothers/friends of an alcoholic. If you’re in a relationship with an alcoholic, find an AA meeting near you and go. There’s no judgement ❤️
Thank you Erin for this very real video. For the last decade or so, I've been drinking more than I should. Pretty much every night, a couple of glasses of wine, sometimes more. I can go for a while and not drink, but it always seems to circle back around to the same old routine. I'm going to give it a shot again though, inspired by your story. Thanks friend!
When I stopped drinking several years ago, that left plenty of free time to think. And wow, when I started _thinking_ again, I realized how blind I’d been living for so many years. God bless and thank you for sharing your story and wisdom. I pray it helps other women (and men) who find this video.
THAT was such an inspiring video you shared... I will stop drinking, ( I would call me a social drinker ). I drink white wine and beer to relieve pain.
I have a chronic disease that pain meds do not help. I have had practically every joint replaced, so exercise is tough.
But, after listening to you, I don’t need that in my life. Alcohol is “not my friend”. I feel like crap the next day...and still in pain!
I will search for another “relief”. Thank you for sharing.
You helped me, more than you know, dear friend.💕
Judy Bunch Maybe CBD oil could help?? Just a thought.....hope you find something.
I have tried CBD oil, one did help a little! I have had acupuncture, and he was a Chinese Doctor that taught it!He was very good, but it is only temporary relief.
Thank you for your encouragement.
Dear Judy, I understand. I too, suffer with chronic pain in my joints and walk with a bad limp because of hip and knee complications. I found a channel called The Paddison Program, here on YT. I am only in my first week, and today I woke up with much less pain than I have had in the last 2 yrs.. The program involves juicing, healing gut permeability, and eating non inflammatory foods. I understand about the drinking...I found that 2 glasses of pinot grigio with 3 Naproxen seemed to help...….unfortunately, not so much the next day, as well as bad for the stomach and liver. Good luck to you, and God bless.
Hey, Judy.
For your pain, check out Kratom. Also, the "Fisher Wallace Stimulator." 🙏💞
Erin - kudos to you for being brave enough to share your story. Our son in law came to me earlier this year and told me he knew he was out of control with his drinking and he was going to stop. He was having issues with our daughter, his wife, and he knew he was handling it badly. He decided on his own to go to AA meetings and he talked to me. I suggested that even though I was happy to sit with him and talk, I was not equipped to really help him work out the issues. I then suggested that he call our Pastor who is a family counselor, especially since they could not afford to pay for a professional and we live in a very rural area where there are not a lot of options. He has been counseling with Pastor since early May and it has helped so much because he can say out loud what he needs to say and know he won't be judged and he receives the guidance he needs. I once had an alcoholic in my life when my daughter was in her teens and made the decision that was not good for my life or my daughters. I am sure your story will help other women. Thank you again.
Thank you for sharing this very personal story! You didn’t just stop drinking. You have found and are experiencing serenity. You have found “ sobriety”. These two are the result of deep reflection and desire for change. Congratulations to you! It’s not automatic and is entirely different than simply “ not drinking alcohol. You continue to be an inspiration! I use the word “ lovely” now so often as a way to describe things because you use it often... and you truly are lovely. Thank you 😘
Thanks for sharing this Erin. I quit drinking over 3 years ago. My husband did as well. It’s been a good thing for both of us.
Congratulations Nicole! It’s so great, right?
My thought watching this video was just a thoughtful, intelligent and genuine woman you are. ❤️ I grew up with a very different experience with alcohol. My parents had religious beliefs that they thought kept them from drinking when we were growing up. It was sort of an oppressive thing that isolated them from family and friends. After we both turned 21 and they realized we were fine, they both started drinking wine and it has been a great joy to enjoy with them all as adults. I have a problem with the “alcohol culture” in the US. Many people seem to think if you drink, it’s to get drunk. Alcohol is enjoyed in every culture around the world, and not to get drunk. I personally enjoy it and am grateful to have healthy relationship with it, but I know that’s not the case for many. I so appreciate your honesty and openness and what a strong woman you are. You’re a fabulous example for your children. Thanks for sharing❤️
Elizabeth, interesting point about USA culture. It's so EXCESSIVE about everything, whether unhealthy, healthy, the size of drinks or meals or cars or houses or Starbucks size options, even days we work vs. vacation... Hmm. Hadn't made the correlation with alcohol, but I see it now that I reflect on our international travels! Moderation is more popular elsewhere.
Powerful message! My life improved exponentially and the change began with me 13 years ago, one day at a time. I already saw you as a strong and successful woman. Now after sharing this private and vulnerable aspect of your life, I respect you much more!
Thank you Erin. Your style runs deep.
How fabulous and how very true‼️I’m 5 years sober and have NEVER FELT SO FREEEEE‼️It’s heavenly! Thank you for speaking up, girl!! You’re awesome!!!
Congratulations!!!!
I stopped drinking 6 months ago. Drinking became such a habitual nightly routine that I just felt wasn’t good for me. I would pour a glass of wine, or make a martini or something every night, and I would drink it down like water and get another one. I wanted to stop for a while, but I kept procrastinating, I just couldn’t picture myself not having my evening drinks, especially with dinner “water only? , don’t think so “. Well on February 26, 2019, I said to myself, “ try to go this one night without a drink “. The next day I was so proud of myself ( although I did have a headache, due to the withdrawals). Making it through that one day was a life changer for me, I was like “I can do this, let’s try to go another day “ and then “I’m going to see how long I can go”. The weird thing is, is that I don’t seem to miss it. I especially don’t miss it when I’m at a dinner party , or out with friends and I know they’ve had too much ( they always have designated drivers, by the way- sometimes it’s me!). Anyway, I know they’re not going to feel good the next day, and I’m going to feel great! Sometimes I miss the taste of red wine with dinner, my husband always says “you can have a glass, it’s okay “. But, I always say, no. First of all one drink leads to more for me, and 2nd, I just want to see how long I can go. I’m proud to say that I don’t drink anymore more, and I cannot say that if I have the occasional drink. My husband and I still go out to happy hour, and dinner quite often, I always order my club soda with lime. It’s my drink of choice now❤️
P.S. I live in Colorado also! I’m in Steamboat Springs ❤️
Erin, this is an excellent (and brave) video. My ex husband is an alcoholic and waited until alcohol was destroying his life before he quit. A lot of people feel that way-the alcoholic is the person who cannot function but you are absolutely right - alcoholism is not simply when you hit rock bottom. It’s all about the relationship with alcohol. There are plenty of functional alcoholics out there and only the people who know them best can identify the cracks forming in their lives as a result of alcohol.
Thank you for sharing. It’s been 3 months for me and I can’t believe how many positive changes. And it’s so good to hear your story. Encourages me to keep going To discover The sparks in heart I am capable of
Celebrated 21years sober recently. You are a brave beautiful woman.
WOW... 21 years is legit. Congratulations, Bernadette!! Erin xo
Coming up on 9 years and I relate to everyone of these points. Thank you for sharing.
I was involved with a guy 14 years ago who loved to drink after work. At first I didn't mind the social drinking and before I knew it I had to have a drink after work. When I ended that relationship, I was surprised how alcohol had affected my life. So thank you for your story and being sober is truely wonderful.
It is sneaky. And I think many of us don’t realize how much it controls our life until we have the advantage of hindsight. It’s dangerous and debilitating and somehow SO socially acceptable, even encouraged.
You never know who you will touch with an episode like this... very brave!! I quit alcohol 6 years ago and had the same questions and reservations about what life would be like without it. Happy to say that so many positive things happened to me as well. You absolutely have 10 great and true benefits of life without alcohol. I’m the healthiest and happiest I’ve ever been . Great job telling your story.
Have a friend who was a functioning alchoholic, did not know, worked close to her, knew her for years. Went to lunch one day and her eyes were yellow, needless to say insisted she get to a doctor that day thinking she had jaundice. Had she not gone that day she would not be with us today, it was a life threatening and long process, she is 5 yrs sober and such a joy to be around. Thank you for sharing it takes courage and love that about you!
So glad you did this video! I rarely drink because I just don’t like how I feel. It’s hard when our culture places so much emphasis on drinking to have fun!
Thank you for this. I am a social drinker but 1 year out from bariatric surgery and risk of alcoholism is great. I worry about missing out on social drinking but you definitely gave me a different perspective. 👍❤️
I recently have been considering quitting alcohol completely...I have considerably reduced my intake since it was making me feel horrible. I also have a family history of alcoholism and its such a family secret, and creates so much shame. Thank you so much for your openness its so uplifting and encouraging!!
Alcohol destroyed my 1st marriage. We divorced after 30 years. The divorce propelled my youngest sons addiction. 5 years later alcohol killed my ex husband. But on the outside we looked like we had it together. 2 years ago my son and I both quit drinking alcohol. All of the things you talked about are soooo true! It was almost like hearing my story being told. Thank you for sharing. ❤️ I am so much happier more productive and loving my life! I wish I had done this so much sooner!
I’m sorry for your hardship and loss. Thank you for sharing your story and congratulations on being a quitter like me! 😉😘
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I have been a functioning heavy drinker and wanting to stop for a long time. This was the first weekend with out a bottle of wine a night. (Without any wine this weekend). I want my sparkle back and hearing your story is encouraging for me to continue.
Good for you, Lesa for cutting back. It’s a hard process and you may need someone to talk to. A trusted friend helped me in my journey and I think that made a huge difference. You might like the podcast, Recovery Elevator. The friend I mentioned in the video who recently quit says it’s really helpful to her.
@@BusbeeStyle And the Bubble Hour for a podcast too. I put a few free online secret groups, blogs and podcasts above all very solid in the recovery movement and they are all women like us.
5 years sober and it's the hardest but best thing I've ever done. I agree the sparkle starts once you give up the booze. Learning who I am without it was quite a struggle and I lost alot of people. In such a short time my life has completely changed and blossomed. I look back with pride you can make a whole new life for yourself and achieve things you never thought were possible. Thanks so much for sharing 💋
Erin, wow this was an amazing discovery to learn about your journey with drinking. I just celebrated 25 years in July and I’m 56. It has truly transformed my life. Good for you for being so open and honest.
Great job, Erin! Perfect way to use your platform. I quit drinking 3 years ago and I agree with all you points. I’ve never been happier and more content. The one huge benefit that happened for me is to realize that I am worthy. Worthy of happiness. Thanks again for sharing!
Yes, self-worth and confidence are definitely a treasure and areas that improved for me too when I quitting. I love myself enough NOT to drink. Thanks, Lesley. 💗
Thanks for sharing. My family has definitely been touched with the destruction that alcoholism brings. Luckily for me, alcohol just makes me ill. Kudos to you for addressing this topic. 😊
Melissa Malone I feel the same. Alcohol makes me feel ill. So I’ve never been a drinker. Alcoholism runs in my family and I’m thankful I wasn’t struck with it. My father he battled addiction my entire life. My bother now battles. I worry for my adult sons. They know their history on both sides of the family and we openly discuss it. I’m hopeful they don’t ever battle it. They are early 20’s and rarely drink. But I know how easy that can change.
Thank you, Erin! I stopped drinking earlier this month for a fitness challenge at my gym. It was something I had wanted to do for a long time, but just couldn't give up. For me it was about relaxation and stress relief, but was really not serving me well. I was too tired at night to be productive and the fact that I couldn't come home and not have it was a red flag. I'm not sure what will happen when the challenge is over, but I'm hoping I will see the benefits and not start up again.
Thanks for sharing Erin~ I've experienced similar dynamics, grew up in an alcoholic family and started to developed the allergic side effects in my late 30's which increased as I've matured. I still have a drink now and then but feel 100X better when I'm clear, you nailed it on the benefits!
thank you so much for this Erin ...
I know I have a problem ... but it’s always a « civilized » problem ... I never get crazy .... but I feel alcohol is stopping me from a lot of things.
you are making me rethink the situation.
You are preaching to the choir, Erin!! I gave up drinking alcohol over 35 years ago. I think it is one of the best decisions I have ever made. I have reaped a lifetime of benefit from it. More than anything else, I feel free. I am not relying on a chemical to make me happy but it is all me and I am present in every moment. Thanks so much for choosing to share your story. I really hope it sparks a fruitful conversation.
I truly appreciate your honesty and you sharing your story. I grew up in Alanon and have always loved the Serenity Prayer. And I am not a drinker and never have been. But, that prayer (religious or not) puts things in perspective and is a really good tool to get through things. 💖
Thank you Erin. Alcohol triggers terrible migraines in me. I call it my allergic reaction. I quit drinking in my 20s(now 54). All you positive points are spot on.
Same thing happens to me.
Alcohol triggers migraines for me as well. Especially wines with high levels of tannins. I have found it's just easier to skip alcohol all together.
Thank you for such a wonderfully honest and inspirational video.
My Nan taught my sister and myself the serenity prayer when we were 5/6 years.
I say it every night. I believe acceptance is the key to life. I’m sober 15years 11months.
I grew up in an alcoholic home, I abused alcohol for many years as did my beloved late brother who passed away 1 month ago.
Since I have stopped drinking alcohol I have found peace and contentment. It didn’t happen overnight and life is not a Disney movie but it is a million times better, happier, healthier both physically and mentally when you are sober.
God gave you the awareness, strength and wisdom to stay away from this substance. He is real and available to us when we seek him. Great video Erin and we all need this this message. Kudos to your courage and concern for yourself and others. ❤
Amen.
Thank you for telling your story. I quit drinking a couple years ago just to support my husband in his diet. Well I found alot of those same benefits and dropped an entire size! It just melted off
I had no idea how many calories I was investing. And I feel clearer and better.
It is good to share and be vulnerable. Helps in healing. Nothing to be ashamed of. You are human. Letting others see your humanity is a gift to us. Makes you a real person and not just a perfect cut out of a person. Thank you for sharing.
GREAT video. I am sober 8 years and feel every single word you are saying. Thank you for your honesty and your approach, especially through this venue and on a fashion-centric platform. Xxoo
Thank you, Leslie! I appreciate your support! xo
Proud of you for sharing your story. Yes you will help someone.
Those feelings the next day could be called a moral hangover. Thx for sharing that personal story and trying to help others.
Thank you for sharing this!! I’m going to celebrate 4 years sober next month and I love when people share their story. You helped me so thank you!!
I love your real talk videos. They usually resonate in some way with me. I’ve been thinking for a while now I drink too often (every night 2 glasses of wine) but I just can’t seem to stop, it has a hold on me. I fret if there’s no wine in the house, that must mean I have a problem! Thank you for sharing your story.
I was a real partier when I was young and like you, I had a reaction to it. My face and neck would turn red. More to the point I simply couldn't handle alcohol. A little bit - and I mean a little bit - and I was buzzed. Any more than that and I was drunk. What I remember most was how much and how often I made an absolute a-s-s of myself in front of my friends and strangers. And all those things I did that I would never have done sober. Enough said on that. I thank God that in those days I could afford an apartment or a car but not both. I chose the apartment and because of that I never killed anyone by drinking and driving.
Erin, thank you. I’m 49 and needed this TODAY. Family history of alcoholism, intermittent quitting throughout my life, embarrassing experiences in my youth, not giving 100% to my husband, kids, and myself... I’m done. Thank you for encouraging me to do what I knew needed to be done for many years. May God bless you!
There is power in prayer 🙏🏽 I am glad you found a combination of something that worked for you. You are brave.🌸
Yes! And that serenity prayer is true whether alcohol is an issue or not.
Well done! What a wonderful public service you've just performed. To see an intelligent, clear minded, well spoken young woman so sincerely and succinctly speak about her personal experiences with alcohol and its effects sends a powerful message....thank you so much for this.
Shared this with someone I think needs to hear.
My husband quit drinking and has been sober for 26 years. He went through it all DUI, DTs, AA but he quit cold Turkey and the same with smoking. 😍❤
these conversations should be happening more, thank for sharing your vulnerability! I too have been down this journey and do not drink anymore! It's empowering to get back that control and choosing to be honest with yourself and the demons that often chase us down. Keep up with all the real things that are often not shared on this or any other platform, because I am paying attention! virtual hugs Erin, xoxoxo :o)
27 years for me. Way to go, Erin. Great message. There’s bound to be people in your channel who need recovery.
Thank you SO much for watching! Erin xo
Erin, what a great video! This is such an important message to get out there. I have not had any alcohol in 27
years and I don't miss it. I was on my way to alcoholism and I am more grateful than I can say that I stopped.
Sobriety is such a gift and is so important in the world we live. At 70 I do get anxious from time to time
but it is so much better to deal with sober than not. I lost my husband 10 years ago and I can't tell you how
many people told me to take a drink or a pill to numb the pain. But I wanted to feel the pain so I
could move through it. We just can't numb our feelings . Also alcoholism is such a big problem
with senior citizens it is very sad to me. I hope I can share your video with my niece someday .
She is having a bad time with her drinking after a divorce. She doesn't want to hear from me about
it at all. But I pray that someday soon she will want my help.
Thank you for sharing this is so important. Barbara
I agree! It’s a total gift and I feel SO lucky!!!
What a wonderful video! My husband comes from a long line of alcoholics and stopped drinking at the age of 22. I have two son’s who went through rehab and go to AA regularly. Thank You for sharing your story and telling and showing people that life without alcohol is exciting, fun, healthy and beautiful.