The hardest part is gathering my thoughts to get my point across effectively. I tend to overthink or doubt myself in what I want to say. It's easier online cause I can always read over before sending. If only my brain can do the same.
Us quiet people all suffer from this so we take a very good amount of time to think of something to say that will have valid points. But since we’re so quiet when we do talk everyone listens because it’s uncommon and a rarity this also can help with charisma because of how quiet we are. Quiet people’s eye contact is more intense than someone who talks a lot.
Same. I take more time to reply during verbal communications and some people say I'm quiet or shy. I overthink and get anxious of what the other person will think if I say right away what I'm thinking. I have to repeat the sentence in my brain and decide before saying out loud. Sometimes, I get nervous and my volume gets low. Friends, relatives often tell me to speak louder. I need to repeat the same sentence over and over. The silent moments just feel awkward to me.
you will get there. we all know it's just a matter of time and practice. Plus, if you admit your mistakes to relieve the stress, you come across more human.
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Stop trying, and just be yourself for world value someone who’s authentic. I grow up shy and didn’t speak even if my life were to depend on it because of Insecurities. Now I communicate without limitations. Oftentimes I am introvert other times extrovert it depends on the circumstances, but I never lose my core. Water takes the shape of its container, but never looses its value. I wish you all the best 🙏🏾
Listen to Learn and Understand. Do NOT listen just to Respond. Listen with your eyes focused on the speaker. No cellphones. No facial expressions. Ask questions. Be the last to speak.
@joe Asuncion actually facial expressions are acceptable in different situations and so is just listening and doing what you are suppose to do. everything else you said is right.
Great video! Number 9 is key, not only for persuasion, but for actually understanding others. If people believe we cannot understand their perspective, the chances of genuine communication diminish. And, even pretending to understand...can actually help you understand. But if we become combative instead, communication possibilities either become convoluted or extremely diminished.
Having a weak communication skills really sucks and it kills me everyday. I always mind what people may think about me. I was scared of judgments. I can't be me. When I was about to show everyone what I really am, the thing that always blocks me from doing that was this negative thinking of mine that what if people judge me? What might others think about me? I always compare myself to others and I always look down on myself. I don't have confidence and this is really annoying. I don't want to feel this anymore. The reason why I got dumped by my ex boyfriend is because of my weak communication skills. I can't communicate what I really feel and I;m always out of words. It's annoying to be this shy and silent. I want to learn but I don't know how to start. I want to help myself to improve. Please give me some tips or if someone there have a time, please train me. I'm so frustrated. T_T
I’m literally the same . Don’t feel so bad it’s normal people often have this problem too. I often think to myself this is why I should not get into a relationship with A female because I don’t want to hurt myself. When in reality I need to work on myself and the way I think so I can be more effective when talking to my partner. I’ve came along way I used to never talk to people but then I started practicing and got better. Never doubt yourself keep pushing and strive to be better at communicating with people. Practice a lot while being in public or in the store focus and understand to others you are communicating with, stay true to your core. You are not alone.
You are not alone I am in my late 30’s, and I am learning this aspect of me. Especially code switching at work. In my neighborhood and in my environment I can express myself. But in the workplace especially in the medical field. I can feel intimidated by the extensive vocabulary being used daily or even having conversation with my colleagues. Say some affirmation like I am a great communicator. Start believing it. Words are spells!!!
@@sunnycloud That's typical me apart English is not my mother tongue (make it even worse). I work an English environment and English is my third language. I am always nervous on workplace meetings.
I do my best to "speak truth without blame or judgement" (avoiding pejoratives or demeaning and condescending tones, etc.), to maintain a conscious curiosity in the conversation partner's perspective/point of view, maintain appropriate levels of humour, as well as assume they are speaking from a place of wisdom in at least one of the 9 intelligences (mental, emotional, kinesthetic, musical, esthetic, etc.) I also don't argue with acutely emotional individuals with an agenda - best to either re-visit the topic when things have "cooled off" or walk away altogether. Er, if anyone cares what I do. LOL
Agreed, massive Adriana! Effective communication is a skill we can learn and is so rewarding when we do. I never stop learning and growing, even as a Speaker and Coach who specialises in communication. regards, Sean
My greatest challenge is being positive while I'm conversation and smiling. I dont smile for any reason and I have a hard time making eye contact since I dont want to look at people when I'm not smiling since I dont want them to feel like I'm unhappy with them, but then I feel bad for not making eye contact and then my attitude just feels negative like I conveyed bad or wrong feeling to the person.
You don't have to smile with your mouth. You can smile with your eyes. Even unintentionally. As you listen it will naturally happen that the look in your eyes will change and.. it sounds to me like you don't want to look into their eyes because your actually trying to hide your unhappiness. Thinking they may notice it and think it has something to do with them. But why do you think they would even see that? Most people are just as focused on themselves as you are with yourself. So they are worried about you and how you see them as well in most cases. So be yourself and know that's good enough. Uniquely, and you are loved 🙏✨ everyone who said ""me too"" I hope you read this. 💞
There is no wrong feelings, your feelings are ALWAYS valid and however your think someone feels about it they most likely don't. If they mention it or seen uncomfortable feel free and brave to say," I'm feeling blah today don't mind me". Your don't have to explain you don't ever have to explains your feelings darling. I'm wondering Anthoney are you pretty young?
I'm 24. Was 21 when I wrote this. I think I've probably been doing better with this. Still a work in progress. Either way, thank you so much for your kind attention! Such a sweet person.
My greatest challenge when it comes to communication is I’m a sag and can be brutally honest and just say how it it and it offends ppl. I need to learn how to think before I speak sometimes.
My struggle is with overexplaining. I really need to work on being clear, concise and definitely confident. My mouth works before my brain does and I need to practice the tools of active listening. If i think of something I tend to want to say it before I forget or if I get excited and want to share a thought before its my turn in the conversation
thanks for these handy advices. I'm a reticent person but i'll try to apply these tips everyday so that i'm more confident when i communicate to people.
The paraphrasing what you are hearing is a fantastic tool in your communication tool belt. I would just add that you as you put this fantastic tip into practice make sure that you do not scrunch your face and furrow your eyebrows, this could make someone feel like you are attacking them. I say this because it is a natural response when we are thinking and attempting to formulate what we have just heard to furrow the eyebrows and scrunch the face. What a fantastic video with super practical tips you can immediately put into practice. Thank you for sharing!
This is a great video, some points we need to remember nowadays because we are invaded with a lot of communication tools, like phones, tablets and other devices which interrupt conversations. Thanks again for this excellent video I will follow all the suggestions.
Great points. Effective communication is a skill we can learn and is so rewarding when we do. We've been married for 30yrs and I never stop learning and growing, even as a Speaker and Coach who specialises in communication. regards, Sean
I have been reflecting everyday for bout 3 month's... I think I have realized that I talk to loud and passionate when I'm in a good place. I need to realize it when it starts so I can get control of it...
I went threw a lot of abused threw out my life it led to memory lose which then became a common routine of me not having good communication skills because no one ever wanted to talk to me . I just blocked out so much that I hurt me trying to keep from hurting myself . Ya I know how that sounds but it is true . So now if I am having a short talk with a random person I am okay but if I have to take time and show things others have not shown much to me called respect . My dog I had to put to sleep at only 3 months old showed me unconditional love even when I had to clean her face and bother her by putting stuff on her she still showed love I was not used to seeing all to me and my husband she wanted nothing from us only to just be herself and not ever be anything but herself which we gladly obliged. She used to climb a ramp made for her to be able to set next to us at our table . Even when her health slipped bad she was never angry that she was dieing . I forget this stuff because of the memory lose then I talk and it all comes back so remember no two humans are alike the next time you read a person's comment that makes no since you may just be changing a life by just letting the person talk and bring back entire parts of a person's life . My life is so fragmented I never feel like a full human.
Thank you for this video it is very helpful for me above all in this moment where I am doing all my best to improve my communication skills...I will follow all of these recommendations and I hope to see the result very fast
Nice one...this video is so enlightening, well done In addition to that, Paraphrasing actually helps in conversations, causing it to become more interesting, causing both participants to follow up and understand each other as they communicate.
I’ve had a traumatic brain injury that resulted in a coma, and icu for 14 days. Then a total of 68 days in the hospital with outpatient treatment for the next year. This happened in 2004 when I was 24 years old. I used to talk to a lot of people but now I don’t talk to nobody but family and the two other guys that I work with. I’m single, never married. Everything is like 20 times harder for me than the majority of people out there. I’m not making excuses because I still work hard and make good money. But I just flew in to the right place at the right time. Lately I’ve been thinking that something is wrong with me and I know what it is and I want to change that’s why am watching these videos. I might have to do the two hour long one though LOL God bless
Number 2 -Make eye contact it's important that you connect with the person you are talking to and and eye contact is essential when having a meaningful conversation looking at the floor or out the window signifies you don't care even if you do if you look the person that your talking to in their eyes it shows that you care about what their saying
You can smile with your eyes so if you're walking around just smiling to look Happy it might be tough. But if your feeling good a smile to a stranger even can mean a lot.
I feel like interrupting others is such common and important barrier. Somehow in this video it is listed almost last... why!? From my own experience I can tell that interrupting and not paying attention is most two common barriers that people keep doing over and over not understanding the importance of letting others finish their sentence.
I learned it's best to just stay silent. The less people know about you the better. People tend to always speak highly about themselves 🙂 I'm going to try the silent method. And less about me. Not try so hard.
I will soon be financially free and in shape which is a good start to being happy but my past is filled with poor choices, bad experiences and bad people that I am trying to erase it from my memory and find a way to smile and be fun and not a downer, this is my biggest challenge.
Here's a good way to improve your communication skills: make sure you always have a filter. I have a neighbor who is 24 and often says things he shouldn't. He's not intentionally a jerk, but he can be an ass at times. One day, he was expressing his pain and guilt about it. He said "I always say the wrong thing. Sometimes I just lack filter and tact. Maybe I am a jerk. No wonder people sometimes feel like they have to lecture me, like my mom and my sister. They make me feel like a bratty child at times that needs a scolding. I'm so embarrassed about it. Often times I feel I just shouldn't speak at all, to eliminate all the risks. I guess I'm really pathetic, huh?" I didn't respond, because he was totally right. He says something inappropriate or perhaps offensive (even if he doesn't mean to), and his mom and older sister have to tell him to stop or something. What was I supposed to say to comfort him? You can't comfort someone who's down on themselves if what they say is true. There was nothing I could've and should've said, right?
All the tips seem to be pretty accurate but i wanna add more: Be more clear, and honest about your opinion than being nice.... I've learned somewhere that a debate makes a conversation more interesting as some ideas and thoughts are exchanged...
One of the greatest challenges for me when it comes to communications is I do not know how to respond what the other person's saying,it's hard for me to catch up easily what the other person were trying to say.
Everytime I talk to someone, I feel like I have this bad habbit of trying to find ways to make a joke and then when I fail to deliver it, people stop taking me seriously. I know that being serious all the time doesn’t work either.. just have to find the balance
I'm an introvert and i don't have that good of communication, just now i got grilled because i apparently didn't communicate correctly. I find it hard to have the right words and just end up making things worse, i tend to say things in my pov like the person I'm talking to was with me/ had the same thought process as me
This is a great video, summarizing what is needed to communicate effectively. However, the text section shows language that now makes it impossible for me to use it in my classes to teach better communication. too bad for me....
as a kid always had to mask my true feelings on anything so when i talk i come off as charming but in all honesty ik the relationship wont grow bc ive already started off fake and i feel its too late to show my interest bc i know id mostlikly be alienated and or hated its hella tiring loll
Lol. I had to use the 10 sec rewind button an insane amount of times. Active listening is one of biggest weaknesses. This sht gonna be hard asf for me. I can’t help but space out whenever someone is speaking to me. Idk why I’m like this 😭😭
My written English skills are exemplary. However, my spoken word leaves a lot to be desired. This may be because I seldom speak to others vocally. I am always alone and thus have not perfected vocal communications in any of my languages.
I'm hard to understand this moment I will be communicating with others but feeling like I'm saying what I need to be saying, another moment I isolated myself from people easy and most of the time for no reason... that the major reason why I'm having difficulties with communicating with others
The hardest part is gathering my thoughts to get my point across effectively. I tend to overthink or doubt myself in what I want to say.
It's easier online cause I can always read over before sending. If only my brain can do the same.
you also have as much time as you want to give a response
Us quiet people all suffer from this so we take a very good amount of time to think of something to say that will have valid points. But since we’re so quiet when we do talk everyone listens because it’s uncommon and a rarity this also can help with charisma because of how quiet we are. Quiet people’s eye contact is more intense than someone who talks a lot.
Same. I take more time to reply during verbal communications and some people say I'm quiet or shy. I overthink and get anxious of what the other person will think if I say right away what I'm thinking. I have to repeat the sentence in my brain and decide before saying out loud. Sometimes, I get nervous and my volume gets low. Friends, relatives often tell me to speak louder. I need to repeat the same sentence over and over. The silent moments just feel awkward to me.
you will get there. we all know it's just a matter of time and practice. Plus, if you admit your mistakes to relieve the stress, you come across more human.
Exactly!
I have a problem speaking correctly without overwhelming an over thinking, this is helpful
Me too…I’m trying so hard to get better.
It’s very common. Even people who have the gift of the gab, often say a lot but not necessarily what needs to be said.
I really sucks with communication, because I don't get used to it.. I try to be better to
Sameeee
Innerstand
Even if you're shy and make an effort to do these things people will notice and respect that
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1: Sincerity
2: repetition
3: brevity
4: style
I'm also introvert I'm trying to be extrovert for me it's hard to interact with people, trying to find ways to be funny and talk to anyone
same here,torturing
Same here
Same here but the question is!
Is it necessary to try to be who you are not??
Stop trying, and just be yourself for world value someone who’s authentic. I grow up shy and didn’t speak even if my life were to depend on it because of Insecurities. Now I communicate without limitations. Oftentimes I am introvert other times extrovert it depends on the circumstances, but I never lose my core. Water takes the shape of its container, but never looses its value. I wish you all the best 🙏🏾
What part of being an extrovert looks so appealing?
As a business leader, communication is one of the most important skills you can develop.
Listen to Learn and Understand.
Do NOT listen just to Respond.
Listen with your eyes focused on the speaker. No cellphones.
No facial expressions.
Ask questions.
Be the last to speak.
@joe Asuncion
actually facial expressions are acceptable in different situations and so is just listening and doing what you are suppose to do. everything else you said is right.
You are right
Aye sir !
Great video! Number 9 is key, not only for persuasion, but for actually understanding others. If people believe we cannot understand their perspective, the chances of genuine communication diminish. And, even pretending to understand...can actually help you understand. But if we become combative instead, communication possibilities either become convoluted or extremely diminished.
Having a weak communication skills really sucks and it kills me everyday. I always mind what people may think about me. I was scared of judgments. I can't be me. When I was about to show everyone what I really am, the thing that always blocks me from doing that was this negative thinking of mine that what if people judge me? What might others think about me? I always compare myself to others and I always look down on myself. I don't have confidence and this is really annoying. I don't want to feel this anymore. The reason why I got dumped by my ex boyfriend is because of my weak communication skills. I can't communicate what I really feel and I;m always out of words. It's annoying to be this shy and silent. I want to learn but I don't know how to start. I want to help myself to improve. Please give me some tips or if someone there have a time, please train me. I'm so frustrated. T_T
I’m literally the same . Don’t feel so bad it’s normal people often have this problem too. I often think to myself this is why I should not get into a relationship with A female because I don’t want to hurt myself. When in reality I need to work on myself and the way I think so I can be more effective when talking to my partner. I’ve came along way I used to never talk to people but then I started practicing and got better. Never doubt yourself keep pushing and strive to be better at communicating with people. Practice a lot while being in public or in the store focus and understand to others you are communicating with, stay true to your core.
You are not alone.
You are not alone I am in my late 30’s, and I am learning this aspect of me. Especially code switching at work. In my neighborhood and in my environment I can express myself. But in the workplace especially in the medical field. I can feel intimidated by the extensive vocabulary being used daily or even having conversation with my colleagues. Say some affirmation like I am a great communicator. Start believing it. Words are spells!!!
I feel the same pain
I have the same issue, always nervous on workplace meetings or in general…
@@sunnycloud That's typical me apart English is not my mother tongue (make it even worse). I work an English environment and English is my third language. I am always nervous on workplace meetings.
I do my best to "speak truth without blame or judgement" (avoiding pejoratives or demeaning and condescending tones, etc.), to maintain a conscious curiosity in the conversation partner's perspective/point of view, maintain appropriate levels of humour, as well as assume they are speaking from a place of wisdom in at least one of the 9 intelligences (mental, emotional, kinesthetic, musical, esthetic, etc.)
I also don't argue with acutely emotional individuals with an agenda - best to either re-visit the topic when things have "cooled off" or walk away altogether.
Er, if anyone cares what I do. LOL
constantly talking over someone and not letting them get a word out is a form of being too controlling
Is that Why Judge Judy hate Rude Plantiffs
Body language is huge when it comes to communication! Thanks for sharing these tips. Cheers!
Agreed, massive Adriana! Effective communication is a skill we can learn and is so rewarding when we do. I never stop learning and growing, even as a Speaker and Coach who specialises in communication. regards, Sean
My greatest challenge is being positive while I'm conversation and smiling. I dont smile for any reason and I have a hard time making eye contact since I dont want to look at people when I'm not smiling since I dont want them to feel like I'm unhappy with them, but then I feel bad for not making eye contact and then my attitude just feels negative like I conveyed bad or wrong feeling to the person.
It's the exact condition for me too😭
ME
You don't have to smile with your mouth. You can smile with your eyes. Even unintentionally. As you listen it will naturally happen that the look in your eyes will change and.. it sounds to me like you don't want to look into their eyes because your actually trying to hide your unhappiness. Thinking they may notice it and think it has something to do with them. But why do you think they would even see that? Most people are just as focused on themselves as you are with yourself. So they are worried about you and how you see them as well in most cases. So be yourself and know that's good enough. Uniquely, and you are loved 🙏✨ everyone who said ""me too"" I hope you read this. 💞
There is no wrong feelings, your feelings are ALWAYS valid and however your think someone feels about it they most likely don't. If they mention it or seen uncomfortable feel free and brave to say," I'm feeling blah today don't mind me". Your don't have to explain you don't ever have to explains your feelings darling. I'm wondering Anthoney are you pretty young?
I'm 24. Was 21 when I wrote this. I think I've probably been doing better with this. Still a work in progress. Either way, thank you so much for your kind attention! Such a sweet person.
I find it hard to put my thoughts in words.
:((( sameee
I enjoyed number 7 around 3:55 the text message made me laugh so hard.
It's a big help for someone who suffered speaking incorrectly. Like me. Thanks for sharing with us.
when someones buried in their phone while your trying to talk to them, it means they dont wanna be bothered
my problem is i struggle to frame sentences sometime and struggle to explain to the audience
My greatest challenge when it comes to communication is I’m a sag and can be brutally honest and just say how it it and it offends ppl. I need to learn how to think before I speak sometimes.
Listening is the first step in good communication. great video
And I noticed is the hardest for many people
My struggle is with overexplaining. I really need to work on being clear, concise and definitely confident. My mouth works before my brain does and I need to practice the tools of active listening. If i think of something I tend to want to say it before I forget or if I get excited and want to share a thought before its my turn in the conversation
thanks for these handy advices. I'm a reticent person but i'll try to apply these tips everyday so that i'm more confident when i communicate to people.
The paraphrasing what you are hearing is a fantastic tool in your communication tool belt. I would just add that you as you put this fantastic tip into practice make sure that you do not scrunch your face and furrow your eyebrows, this could make someone feel like you are attacking them. I say this because it is a natural response when we are thinking and attempting to formulate what we have just heard to furrow the eyebrows and scrunch the face. What a fantastic video with super practical tips you can immediately put into practice. Thank you for sharing!
This is a great video, some points we need to remember nowadays because we are invaded with a lot of communication tools, like phones, tablets and other devices which interrupt conversations. Thanks again for this excellent video I will follow all the suggestions.
Exactly
I'm having trouble communicating and I found this video very helpful. Hoping for more videos like this in the near future :))
Communication is continuation, if we aren’t communicating we are concealing each other idea. ♾
3:55 . I don't about you but this text was funny.
I agree Jimmy Jimmy, keep slayin boi.
Sent from my iPhone
P.H Henry 🤣🤣🤣🤣oh my God
I laughed with my tears out
"I am sorry that you are bald" 🤣🤣seriously
Great points. Effective communication is a skill we can learn and is so rewarding when we do. We've been married for 30yrs and I never stop learning and growing, even as a Speaker and Coach who specialises in communication. regards, Sean
One of my biggest
challenge is to convey my ideas to others
Thank you for the information. This improves my communication.
Having terrible communication skills is like being trapped in your own head.
I needed to watch this vid cuz i feel i need to boost my communication skills
I have been reflecting everyday for bout 3 month's... I think I have realized that I talk to loud and passionate when I'm in a good place. I need to realize it when it starts so I can get control of it...
To communicate with others is really difficult for me I will try to practice what you say and we will see the result but thanks for doing such videos!
I went threw a lot of abused threw out my life it led to memory lose which then became a common routine of me not having good communication skills because no one ever wanted to talk to me . I just blocked out so much that I hurt me trying to keep from hurting myself . Ya I know how that sounds but it is true . So now if I am having a short talk with a random person I am okay but if I have to take time and show things others have not shown much to me called respect . My dog I had to put to sleep at only 3 months old showed me unconditional love even when I had to clean her face and bother her by putting stuff on her she still showed love I was not used to seeing all to me and my husband she wanted nothing from us only to just be herself and not ever be anything but herself which we gladly obliged. She used to climb a ramp made for her to be able to set next to us at our table . Even when her health slipped bad she was never angry that she was dieing . I forget this stuff because of the memory lose then I talk and it all comes back so remember no two humans are alike the next time you read a person's comment that makes no since you may just be changing a life by just letting the person talk and bring back entire parts of a person's life . My life is so fragmented I never feel like a full human.
I've been struggling to communicate lately . this is helpful 😀👍 thankss
"I'm sorry that u r bald. Lol"
worth the price of admission
Thank you for this video it is very helpful for me above all in this moment where I am doing all my best to improve my communication skills...I will follow all of these recommendations and I hope to see the result very fast
How is NOBODY talking about the email on the phone at 3:55 in? That had me dying
Nice one...this video is so enlightening, well done
In addition to that, Paraphrasing actually helps in conversations, causing it to become more interesting, causing both participants to follow up and understand each other as they communicate.
I’ve had a traumatic brain injury that resulted in a coma, and icu for 14 days. Then a total of 68 days in the hospital with outpatient treatment for the next year. This happened in 2004 when I was 24 years old. I used to talk to a lot of people but now I don’t talk to nobody but family and the two other guys that I work with. I’m single, never married. Everything is like 20 times harder for me than the majority of people out there. I’m not making excuses because I still work hard and make good money. But I just flew in to the right place at the right time. Lately I’ve been thinking that something is wrong with me and I know what it is and I want to change that’s why am watching these videos. I might have to do the two hour long one though LOL God bless
Number 2 -Make eye contact it's important that you connect with the person you are talking to and and eye contact is essential when having a meaningful conversation looking at the floor or out the window signifies you don't care even if you do if you look the person that your talking to in their eyes it shows that you care about what their saying
Thank you mate. My communication skills is bad and i often make alot of mistakes to it.
You can smile with your eyes so if you're walking around just smiling to look Happy it might be tough. But if your feeling good a smile to a stranger even can mean a lot.
Respect works both ways. Validate a person thought and feeling.
You can only do eye contact body language can only be seen in person.
100% agree, life changing advice. People want to feel heard :)
I feel like interrupting others is such common and important barrier. Somehow in this video it is listed almost last... why!? From my own experience I can tell that interrupting and not paying attention is most two common barriers that people keep doing over and over not understanding the importance of letting others finish their sentence.
But some people would just not shut up and you kinda have to cut in sometimes.
Sir my problem is that I feel loss of words while speaking.How to overcome that?
Be yourself and don’t hold back...Because YOU MATTER!!!😉😉
me too. how are you now?
I learned it's best to just stay silent. The less people know about you the better. People tend to always speak highly about themselves 🙂 I'm going to try the silent method. And less about me. Not try so hard.
I can hardly even form my words properly to create a perfect statement
I'm taking notes.
Anyone just paused in 3:55 to read the whole inbox message like I did?
Yes me
"I'm sorry that u r bald. Lol"
worth the price of admission
One of my challenges is knowing how to be patient when a long winded person is speaking
Thumbs up !
Thanks !
I will soon be financially free and in shape which is a good start to being happy but my past is filled with poor choices, bad experiences and bad people that I am trying to erase it from my memory and find a way to smile and be fun and not a downer, this is my biggest challenge.
Good spiritual points of courtesy .... "A harsh word is even as a sword thrust; a gentle word as milk." ~ Baha'u'llah, Baha'i Faith
Here's a good way to improve your communication skills: make sure you always have a filter. I have a neighbor who is 24 and often says things he shouldn't. He's not intentionally a jerk, but he can be an ass at times. One day, he was expressing his pain and guilt about it. He said "I always say the wrong thing. Sometimes I just lack filter and tact. Maybe I am a jerk. No wonder people sometimes feel like they have to lecture me, like my mom and my sister. They make me feel like a bratty child at times that needs a scolding. I'm so embarrassed about it. Often times I feel I just shouldn't speak at all, to eliminate all the risks. I guess I'm really pathetic, huh?" I didn't respond, because he was totally right. He says something inappropriate or perhaps offensive (even if he doesn't mean to), and his mom and older sister have to tell him to stop or something. What was I supposed to say to comfort him? You can't comfort someone who's down on themselves if what they say is true. There was nothing I could've and should've said, right?
You could've told him it doesn't make him pathetic, that's all I think
@@johnnymac972 And lie?
This was really good and helpful. Thank you
Love from India 😊❤
awesome video 👍👍👍
Thank you so much for the tips ! They are definitely worth the try.
Great points to focus on thanks
Great video, I certainly will share with friends
great advice
These are great tips!
Thanks for the tips
All the tips seem to be pretty accurate but i wanna add more:
Be more clear, and honest about your opinion than being nice....
I've learned somewhere that a debate makes a conversation more interesting as some ideas and thoughts are exchanged...
Thank you 😊
One of the greatest challenges for me when it comes to communications is I do not know how to respond what the other person's saying,it's hard for me to catch up easily what the other person were trying to say.
Great and thanks for the video
Good Advice.
Great strategies.. thank you
This will help me a whole lot
LMFAO 3:55 ARE YOU FUCKIN KIDDING ME?! 🤣😅
Definitely, something I need to improve on! Also that message sample at 3:55 🤣🤣
Everytime I talk to someone, I feel like I have this bad habbit of trying to find ways to make a joke and then when I fail to deliver it, people stop taking me seriously. I know that being serious all the time doesn’t work either.. just have to find the balance
Really helpful content
I have a bad habit of finishing other peoples sentences. I will work on this now
Me too, it's especially bad during zoom calls
Worth while video great content.
I'm an introvert and i don't have that good of communication, just now i got grilled because i apparently didn't communicate correctly. I find it hard to have the right words and just end up making things worse, i tend to say things in my pov like the person I'm talking to was with me/ had the same thought process as me
I feel you :(((
Thank you, I appreciate it.
Magnificent sir
A million thanks for such tips 👍🥰😍
At the age of 29 I am struggling so bad with my communication skills! I hope this helps Me.
Nice..Easy and common tips. But common knowledge is not common practice.
This is a great video, summarizing what is needed to communicate effectively. However, the text section shows language that now makes it impossible for me to use it in my classes to teach better communication. too bad for me....
Hahah I seen that too!
I have the lack of confidence whenever I open my mouth to speak I feel stuck My mind gets Empty
Your voice is amazing
Thanks man you made my day
as a kid always had to mask my true feelings on anything so when i talk i come off as charming but in all honesty ik the relationship wont grow bc ive already started off fake and i feel its too late to show my interest bc i know id mostlikly be alienated and or hated
its hella tiring loll
sameee :((((
Ego and a closed mind can make communication difficult at times.
introvert but i badly need this (for now)
5:25 this goes out to the people who gives me an attitude
My 8th grade class was delighted to read the text example you gave 💀😱
if im not interested in what ppl are saying, if leaving those ppl isn't an option, im more likely to doze off
Lol. I had to use the 10 sec rewind button an insane amount of times. Active listening is one of biggest weaknesses. This sht gonna be hard asf for me. I can’t help but space out whenever someone is speaking to me. Idk why I’m like this 😭😭
My written English skills are exemplary. However, my spoken word leaves a lot to be desired. This may be because I seldom speak to others vocally. I am always alone and thus have not perfected vocal communications in any of my languages.
I'm hard to understand this moment I will be communicating with others but feeling like I'm saying what I need to be saying, another moment I isolated myself from people easy and most of the time for no reason... that the major reason why I'm having difficulties with communicating with others
Good tips
POV: you looked up “how to talk better” because you have 0 social skills(same-)