YOU CARED ABOUT THEM MORE THAN YOURSELF

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  • @TutorWindow
    @TutorWindow Год назад +183

    We did care about them more, and we thought that that was love. We were misinformed. Now that we know, life is very different in a good way.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +12

      💯💯🙌

    • @bradmcewen
      @bradmcewen Год назад +13

      Well said 🤜🤛 !

    • @danielle1103
      @danielle1103 Год назад +19

      Yes! We did care about them more and they had a way of manipulating us into thinking the opposite was true. Love doesn’t do that though, love is mutual and it doesn’t consist of one individual doing everything all of the time to make the relationship work.

    • @Grey-Rock
      @Grey-Rock Год назад +14

      Absolutely correct

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 Год назад +7

      Yes misinformation ,mislead up the garden path, and Deceived,,, ❤️💛🦋✨

  • @ckvarnmass
    @ckvarnmass Год назад +110

    Isn’t it a shame that we have to educate ourselves concerning the narc and what they can do to us. It is just downright pathetic

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +7

      😌🙌😉

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +16

      It's a huge gift so we can learn, grow and enjoy life again.❤

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Год назад +17

      We are survivors!!!
      🎀😘

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 Год назад +12

      No Shame on geting educated,we grow and evolve,,,,we will not let it Define us, it's the Narcissist that's Pathetic😂😂

    • @shahadah1451
      @shahadah1451 Год назад +8

      Well said. So true.

  • @lios583
    @lios583 Год назад +79

    A life on the hamster wheel
    ...until you lose consciousness.
    I hope everyone is safe.
    Thank you Andrew!💞

  • @silentnight3235
    @silentnight3235 Год назад +28

    Yeah, they're a bottomless pit that can never be satisfied even when you're giving more than your all.

  • @TheScapegoat420
    @TheScapegoat420 Год назад +19

    "You will never get the right peanut butter." FACTS!!!

  • @jackleprevost9021
    @jackleprevost9021 Год назад +56

    Besides learning to say "No" to people...make disrespect one of your boundaries. They never respect what you do for them.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +2

      💯💯💯

    • @TINCCE
      @TINCCE Год назад +2

      They do not respect anyone. Even those who are higher than them, older people, educated people, noone. It is another sign how to recognize who is a narcissist. They are self- caring creatures on the planet :)

    • @TINCCE
      @TINCCE Год назад +1

      @@rena523 yes - if someone is kind they think that means stupid.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Год назад +21

    Stop catering to them and start taking care of yourSeLf 😘

  • @hide_and_go_sikh
    @hide_and_go_sikh Год назад +66

    I cared more about the family unit and doing what was best for my children. And that was taken for granted and used against me.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад

      🙌😌💯😌

    • @hannastrack4310
      @hannastrack4310 Год назад +4

      The death of my son was used against me he took me to court over my daughters he told them I had a son that died in my care and how he feared for the life of his children because I was mentally incapable to care for them and was hearing voices trying to get out of paying child support. it was like burying. My son all over again now I had to explain what happened to him he was murdered by the babysitter and I found him in a bucket of water he was 11 months old and I was 16 when it happened I didn't meet the narc till I was 29 and he used it against me

    • @hide_and_go_sikh
      @hide_and_go_sikh Год назад +4

      @hannastrack4310 That's why everyone should be under constant video servailence.

    • @hannastrack4310
      @hannastrack4310 Год назад +4

      @@hide_and_go_sikh I disagree who want to live under constant surveillance I have a better idea stay away from people and keep to yourself and never fall in love with anyone it will save you much heartaches

    • @WorldOfARandomVegan
      @WorldOfARandomVegan Год назад

      Always!!

  • @LUVtoU
    @LUVtoU Год назад +37

    I cared more about my narc than myself to the point DEATH. In 2018, I could no longer digest food due to my insides being twisted up like a pretzel after living in fight or flight mode for 25 years. I stopped eating and got ready to die. After a couple days I started feeling better. Turned out I can no longer tolerate 80% of the food supply due to my newly acquired autoimmune disease. My narc knew stress was killing me and never took her foot off the pedal. I got my life in order and when the discard came I was healthier and able to take the metaphorical knife out of my back and cut all ties with her. My smell, taste, hearing, memory, cognitive ability etc etc are returning and I feel better than I have in decades. So NEVER GIVE UP AND REMEMBER WITH GOD-EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT!!! Love you guys!!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +6

      Thank you for sharing 😌🙌🙏💯

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Год назад +3

      Love to you too! 👍
      🎀😘

    • @jocelienjimenez9821
      @jocelienjimenez9821 Год назад +2

      L❤VE YOU TOO ❤✌🙏🕊✊🍀

    • @tamargoldstein2451
      @tamargoldstein2451 Год назад +4

      So very sorry about this horrific experience that you had !
      I am real happy for you that you are so much better now
      May G-D lead you to a full recovery and a beautiful life ahead
      Blessings to you
      Tamar❤

    • @JH-td4mn
      @JH-td4mn Год назад +5

      So glad you're recovering from that horrific experience. Love and light 💗🕯️

  • @shahadah1451
    @shahadah1451 Год назад +11

    I am sitting in the middle of a huge peace now, without them. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do, how to act, because I have been my family's scapegoat for 60 years. But I do believe that there's nothing I could have done to make them any different.
    I am enjoying existing.

    • @mariageaney2362
      @mariageaney2362 Год назад +3

      💙🎶🙏enjoy each sacred moment of peace and calm.

    • @shahadah1451
      @shahadah1451 Год назад +2

      @@mariageaney2362 Thank you. Yes, it is strange and beautiful.

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +1

      I love this remark!
      "I am enjoying existing" How beautiful!❤

    • @mariageaney2362
      @mariageaney2362 Год назад +1

      @@shahadah1451 everything will find its right place and calm will come, but like a gardener we must look out for the return of weed growth in any form and act right there and then to rid our garden of what we don't want in it, and this can mean bad memory's.
      When bad memories come I try to instantly move onto something that makes me feel good. And let that good feeling grow and grow.🌱🌿🌼

  • @TheSeekeroftruth1
    @TheSeekeroftruth1 Год назад +64

    'No good deed goes unpunished' the final kick in the teeth came, when my ex declared that not only had I never loved him, but that I never supported him and that I had eroded his confidence as well. I have never felt so misunderstood and unappreciated by anyone else in my life 🐼

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      💯😌🙏

    • @Joshtre12
      @Joshtre12 Год назад +1

      A Heartfelt hug to you my friend. ❤

    • @deb2319
      @deb2319 Год назад +2

      They all say that script...

    • @PhysicalEntity
      @PhysicalEntity Год назад +4

      Yup. I was somehow responsible for her low self-esteem. I tried explaining how that's impossible since the definition of self-esteem is literally how YOU feel about YOU. In one ear and out the other

    • @JH-td4mn
      @JH-td4mn Год назад +5

      That was them projecting their feelings on to you. This is what they do when they devalue you. Cruel people who can't look within themselves, rotten to the core.

  • @marieeakin8534
    @marieeakin8534 Год назад +47

    Unfortunately true Andrew! Having good manners along with ignorance set me to fall prey to these monsters. I was never taught to put myself 1st, 2nd, or 3rd. Gaining the wisdom has been a blessing to understand & overcome.
    Fumbling forward....I regain all that is me & will NEVER allow their behavior to rip off any more of my life!
    Blessings everyone 🎀😘

  • @deadlydee7239
    @deadlydee7239 Год назад +22

    yes I am needing to accept the role I played in this scam. I was needing a friend, only that person was NEVER my friend. Lets stay true to ourselves.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      🙌💯

    • @richardhowe3951
      @richardhowe3951 Год назад +4

      Sometimes looking at my part in all of this is hard. To be honest, there were times I knew I should do something about what was happening. I did not want to change things because I was getting something, all be it to my distruction, a need to be accepted by my narc. Being able to look truthfully was the start of my growth.. Thanks for your comment.

    • @bradmcewen
      @bradmcewen Год назад +3

      That is just it. Introspection will determine what vulnerability was used and abused.

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +2

      We learn a lot about ourselves through this experience. We learn what we will no longer tolerate!

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Год назад +1

      Don't feel like the Lone Ranger.....I had to recognize this too!
      Blessings 🎀😘

  • @tamerastone4732
    @tamerastone4732 Год назад +10

    This is sooooo very true!!! So glad I got out!!!!!! 29 months post narc, no contact!!!! I now come 1st, 2nd, and 3rd.

  • @Truth-matters-v2z
    @Truth-matters-v2z Год назад +2

    I always thought my narcissist not saying goodbye was just plain rude and I tried to teach him basic common courtesies like that which now I see is one of the biggest red flags like he said

  • @irene_f.
    @irene_f. Год назад +2

    Yes! I was raised as a people pleaser - to always worry about what other people think. Plus, I'm an Empath. This made me a prime narcissist target. I also couldn't imagine someone being so abusive like that because that's not how I am wired. 🌻💕It is critical to "Build Yourself Up Healthy" and remember we always try to better ourselves until we die. Protect yourself! Work on yourself, grow and believe you are worthy! Caring about yourself is okay. 💜🐼🌻

  • @malibu90265
    @malibu90265 Год назад +24

    I always saw it as the narcissist's self-fulfilling prophecy, that the marriage would end. Now I see it in an entirely new way. It wasn't because he came from a broken marriage home. It was him.

  • @malibu90265
    @malibu90265 Год назад +12

    Those days are O-V-E-R

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Год назад +14

    They want you off kilter in chaos and confusion 💔

  • @tboned1
    @tboned1 Год назад +8

    The first thing my totally destroyed narcissistic wife did when I left her was make sure that she went to her hair appointment and get her hair done LOL

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад

      Absolutely! That's very comforting to get your hair washed and be pampered.😊

  • @warangel4389
    @warangel4389 Год назад +17

    My narcissist mother told me my whole life - you’re so selfish you only care about yourself. Finally in 2015 I cared more about myself and went no contact. I’m now 62 and happy.

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +3

      Good for you!

    • @lourdesecheverria6209
      @lourdesecheverria6209 Год назад +4

      Congrats! Best decision I ever made was to stop all interaction with my older sister who is a narc.

  • @BlueMoon-Baby
    @BlueMoon-Baby Год назад +18

    A child learns what they live. A child lives what they learn. I was a neglected child that grew up having to sacrifice my own needs for others. I do not know how to love because I was not loved. So how can I care for myself. I must learn to. Life started at 43. I'm getting better as I'm healing by God's grace and knowledge of Truth.❤

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      😌🙌💯

    • @BlueMoon-Baby
      @BlueMoon-Baby Год назад +4

      ​@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlonethank you for your counseling videos & contact which nudge me to REFLECT and do the labour of disambiguation to separate my thoughts to live by truth in this I CARE for my spirit as God cares for my soul ❤

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Год назад +2

      Blessings Sweetheart!!!
      🎀😘

  • @_Louise__
    @_Louise__ Год назад +24

    "They have an ego the size of the planet"... yep 💯💯💯💯
    Thank you Andrew 🙏

  • @Willa4420
    @Willa4420 Год назад +12

    Yes the narcissist needs a punching bag and they choose the people closes to them. You actually build up the narcissist at your own detriment. The narc drains you while they get stronger. They do need you more than you need them.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      💯💯💯

    • @danielle1103
      @danielle1103 Год назад +1

      Yep!! Darn right they needed a punching bag.. in more than one way.

    • @Willa4420
      @Willa4420 Год назад +3

      @@danielle1103 Yes!!! And the hardest blow comes when you realize this person NEVER loved you or had your best interest at heart.

    • @danielle1103
      @danielle1103 Год назад +2

      @@Willa4420 You speak the truth!! …because if they actually did they would’ve never done the things they did, they never would’ve said the things they said, and they never would’ve made you feel the way you felt while you were with them. It wasn’t love. You wanted it to be love, you loved. However, they did not.

    • @Willa4420
      @Willa4420 Год назад +2

      @@danielle1103 EXACTLY !! BIG TIMES.

  • @janetsmith9958
    @janetsmith9958 Год назад +11

    🎉 wow its not untill ones out of the relationship you realise how warped the narc is . Yes the texes were so stressful i remember the panic feeling of hoping he wouldnt be unhappy about me or what i did trying to please him was impossible 🎉

  • @darrellgosnell9971
    @darrellgosnell9971 Год назад +28

    Absolutely correct! I even remember times when she pulled into the driveway and said she wanted to talk to me. I was so traumatized I would just say “what did I do wrong now.”

  • @artluvr6170
    @artluvr6170 Год назад +9

    After the education and the healing, another relationship my not seem important. If you do desire another relationship, make sure you are strong enough to say ‘no’ when the red flags appear.

  • @meeow2165
    @meeow2165 Год назад +8

    EXACTLY - Had realized I was far more important than I had believed myself to be, plus, I needed to survive and live.

  • @andrearuhlman1233
    @andrearuhlman1233 Год назад +4

    When you said they don't even like you, that hit hard and true. He would constantly say and do things that made me feel like he disliked me and was jealous of me. So twisted to get that from the man that you loved.

  • @Dorothy-gp6nl
    @Dorothy-gp6nl Год назад +2

    That's how I was raised. We all had to be slaves to Mom. And she took all the credit.

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 Год назад +24

    Thank U So Very Much For Sharing this. You Are Absolutely Right. I Went Through Horrific Emotional and Verbal Abuse.The More Love I Showed Him The Worst He Treated Me. Narcisstic abuse is brutal

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      🙏😌🙌

    • @angelacahill9083
      @angelacahill9083 Год назад +4

      The love we gave them was thrown back in our faces every day. Same here, it is horrific.. It just wears you down until you hardly recognise yourself anymore! Although it hurts we are better off away from that toxic energy. God bless you and I wish you every blessing on your healing journey and a happy life.. 🩷🌷🌷🌷🙏

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 Год назад +2

      @@angelacahill9083
      Thank You So Very Much You Are Absolutely Right…
      Ty For Caring🙏

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +1

      Demi, everyone here knows exactly what you are speaking of. You are not alone. We are all healing together.❤

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 Год назад +2

      @@emilywilson7308
      Thank U So Very Much 🙏
      For Caring

  • @angelacahill9083
    @angelacahill9083 Год назад +16

    Yes, i put him on a pedestal for over three decades. I gave without a fault and was taken for granted. It's an unequal balance from day one. I didnt take care for myself and had so many things to do....they sat back with a smirk on their face and watched. I was broken down before the discard. The relationship impoloded when i put a boundary in place. He walked off after dividing our family and children. Out now a year and there's so much peace. It does get better but it takes time.

  • @user-ou3sd2vp3u
    @user-ou3sd2vp3u Год назад +15

    Narcs and phone games… That was my no going back deal breaker. For all you newbies - get out of dodge - trust yourself 💕

  • @pattif192
    @pattif192 Год назад +4

    ♡ to everyone for a better tomorrow

  • @whatsupchannel3047
    @whatsupchannel3047 Год назад +8

    Puncture holes in the boat ! That is the truest statement ever said ! All I have been doing is repair the punctures. They have no fear, no guilt. No empathy . Existing is the only way you actually survive 💯

  • @chrismurray8483
    @chrismurray8483 Год назад +2

    Andrew saved me and ALL of us. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @nikkired4925
    @nikkired4925 Год назад +13

    🎯FACTS 💯!my health has improved. Dramatically, my doctor couldn't believe my blood work. In 1 year, everything is back to normal. Never again will I neglect myself. Lesson learned. SELF ❤

  • @fionataylor4269
    @fionataylor4269 Год назад +10

    That is exactly what I said to a'' friend'' of his, I care about him more than I care about myself. Silence , withdrawl ,and peace to all ! I have to disagree a little on the hang up thing tho, after many silent treatments, I did hang up the phone on my ex, I call it the empath rage. How dare someone gaslight , go silent, punish me, for no damm reason. If I do not get a mature conversation, or NO conversation, I hang up, well I did. I will never engage in that kind of thing again , that is what narcs want , a reaction, any reaction, because they did not work through their childhood issues. If someone will not talk to you , hang up, cut off and never look back. A mature conversation is not much to ask for.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +2

      😉😉💯

    • @fionataylor4269
      @fionataylor4269 Год назад +2

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Facts and truth. Stand in truth and keep well ,Andrew.

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +2

      Most people are not capable of a mature conversation!😅

    • @fionataylor4269
      @fionataylor4269 Год назад +1

      @@emilywilson7308 Yeah rare these days, and the dating scene is a joke. The lack of respect is ridiculous.

  • @jessmason2112
    @jessmason2112 Год назад +10

    Deconstruction are their tools. Step by step. From family, friends, work,money and status. Then you get kicked to the curb.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад

      😌🙌😉

    • @bartsky100
      @bartsky100 Год назад

      Very very sorry that you went through that evil encounter
      Wish you a real great happy life In the future
      Am writing on my husband's cell phone mine is being charged at the moment
      Have a beautifull day
      Tamar

    • @jessmason2112
      @jessmason2112 Год назад

      It's all good 👍, It would be wise to just leave me alone. I don't know if they are that bright. They drinking sniffing 👃 the crap 💩 and wiping their asks on anyone they can. I'm in a good spot right now out of the neighborhood. I'm Away from Hodgkins, and all the punks, and in a very nice peaceful neighborhood. A big-time Catholic community. Seems they are very nice around here.

  • @marietjiestapelberg8230
    @marietjiestapelberg8230 Год назад +13

    💯 That is why you lose yourself during the time with these individuals . You will never be enough for them because they are empty holes..... and will get bored with you....

  • @MajorBlessingsAlways
    @MajorBlessingsAlways Год назад +9

    Please take care of yourself and I will take care of myself as well.

  • @melanieleon3070
    @melanieleon3070 Год назад +23

    Even knowing all these things, it still FLOORS me this situation with my husband

  • @SusanCal
    @SusanCal Год назад +15

    And Andrew you’re so right about the online dating sights! What losers and moochers! They’re all looking for a free place to live!

  • @davevenables3534
    @davevenables3534 Год назад +10

    The narcissist has no care inside of them, so they steal yours from you. The more you give, the more they take.

  • @kevinewing-oo8ix
    @kevinewing-oo8ix Год назад +8

    I'd hit that button five times if I could!

  • @88888maestro
    @88888maestro Год назад +32

    You’re helping me so much to survive. Sincerely thank you!

  • @tboned1
    @tboned1 Год назад +7

    I was also never taught to put myself first being a Christian and a father and a husband I always put myself last and I understand the need for that but it can go to extreme

    • @emmashaw8733
      @emmashaw8733 7 месяцев назад

      Yes we are taught to go the extra mile.

  • @Jessecraft1954
    @Jessecraft1954 Год назад +11

    I'm so glad they're gone. It's such a blessing 😊😊😊😊😊

  • @user-oo7kg9ew8s
    @user-oo7kg9ew8s Год назад +14

    Not just narcissistic spouse/partner. Narcistic mother (or father) ... with them from the very beginning of your life. Everything you have said is 100% correct Andrew. They seek to steal, kill and destroy your life, creating a never ending series of shifting sand situations, with no stability to focus on your own life and future. The energy and focus of attention required for these creatures cannot be satiated. Thank you for your wisdom. Best wishes to you and those who appreciate you. All the best.

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 Год назад +23

    Yes we put them first and put so so much time and Energy into them, ,,we neglected ourselves,,our needs our wants,,,,fast forward we now have a clear path,without distractions, without being called upon,,The Freedom and inner peace is priceless,,,a fresh New Start,,for all of us to follow our dreams and pursue anything we want,,,👍💙🦋🌺✨❤️💛

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад

      😌💯😌🌺

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Год назад +1

      Beautiful truth....so grateful!!!
      🎀😘

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 Год назад +2

      ​@@marieeakin8534hope you are doing well,and take good care of yourself,lots love sent,🙋❤️💛🤍🦋✨🌹🌹🌹

    • @mariefrancebourget1749
      @mariefrancebourget1749 Год назад +1

      The clear path with a fresh start. I like how that sounds. Well said. Thanks. 💓💯☺️

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 Год назад +12

    Abundant Blessings love and light and encouragement sent out,to All you Beautiful People,🌺✨❤️💛🤍🎉🎉✨🌙🌎🙋☘️🇨🇮

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +2

      💯🙌🙏🇮🇪

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +2

      Thank you, Flower! Hope you are having a relaxing weekend.🥰

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 Год назад +2

      ​@@emilywilson7308yes all's ok hope you are doing well lots love,and blessings sent ,❤️💛🤍✨🌹🌹🌹

    • @mariageaney2362
      @mariageaney2362 Год назад +2

      Thank you flower and the same sent back to you.
      Enjoy the rest of your day.
      🌹😊🐾🐾🐬

  • @janetroberts5140
    @janetroberts5140 Год назад +11

    Dear Andrew, you touched on so many things I went through in the past years ! Its all true because you lived it too!
    All survivors I wish you a wonderful weekend. All new ones, I wish you the same wonderful weekend! Plan, keep that plan safe to leave the narc! Protect yourself and your children. Keep a low profile from the narc if you are still in their space! Keep your phone close to you, keep your keys in your pocket. Leaving may be the only safe way out!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +2

      😌🙌🙏

    • @donnamarrie3272
      @donnamarrie3272 Год назад +2

      @janetroberts5140, all great advice. Thank you for posting!

    • @lourdesecheverria6209
      @lourdesecheverria6209 Год назад +1

      Agree. Leaving is the best, or get ready for the final discard coming fast and furious as our resources and health get diminished with time. Namaste!

  • @pinkkittyize
    @pinkkittyize Год назад +10

    Unfortunately with a narcissist you are groomed from day one to expect less and less. So eventually you expect nothing, and are told it is your own fault.. How efficient

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад

      💯💯😉

    • @lourdesecheverria6209
      @lourdesecheverria6209 Год назад +2

      OMG! That is exactly what the do! And at the end we get nothing but more intense abuse and eventually a discard unless we gather the strength to walk out!! Namaste!💗

  • @steverussell9340
    @steverussell9340 Год назад +10

    I have been in the fog with my wife for years. I cannot extricate myself because she has a serious health condition and I’m trapped!

    • @Bebedollie
      @Bebedollie Год назад +2

      Godbless u Sir 🙏💔❤️

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      😌🙌

    • @lourdesecheverria6209
      @lourdesecheverria6209 Год назад

      Understandable. Must practice "Emotional Detachment" from the narcissist behaviors and continue learning, and taking good care of yourself regardless of where you are with or without her. Do not let the circumstances change your beautiful heart and self. Good luck and blessings to you in your journey to healing. 💗

  • @melanieleon3070
    @melanieleon3070 Год назад +8

    OMGOSH 100 % correct.

  • @mekalove8174
    @mekalove8174 Год назад +40

    Hi Andrew and my beautiful family! We cared about them more than ourself but we also lost ourselves in a situationship!! It's crazy because during the relationship we didn't even realize how we were losing ourselves, because we was going through so much manipulation,gaslighting, devaluing, disrespect and some of the most hurtful things a human being should go through!! But what they fail to realize is once we found ourselves again... this is the version they wasn't ready for of us!! I hope everyone has a wonderful stay and stay strong never love someone more than you love yourself!!💜💜 namaste 🙏🏽

  • @Tatjana.B
    @Tatjana.B Год назад +12

    All true and he placed me in isolation. And slavery...when I realised and started to live on my own way hooverings were so agressive for days. Last one was fake call on my workplace. And last rage was threat to accusing me that I'm alcoholic but I'm not. I got real enemy in that person.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      😌💯😉💯

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +1

      Hopefully there is karma for that nasty person!😢

    • @Tatjana.B
      @Tatjana.B Год назад +1

      @@emilywilson7308 Yes...I believe in that. Thank you dear Emily and have a nice Sunday. ❤️

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +1

      @@Tatjana.B Hope you had a good weekend, Tatjana!🌹

    • @lourdesecheverria6209
      @lourdesecheverria6209 Год назад +2

      Protect yourself. I had some very scary hoovers done to me and I ended up having to get a restraining order in place. Once they know your are serious they run away like the cowards that they are. Blessing to you and good luck. You are not alone.

  • @carlosgiron1246
    @carlosgiron1246 Год назад +8

    Great video Andrew. Yes very true in my narcissistic relationship i did love him more than anything else. I now see that he lied and manipulated me in every way possible. If i resisted he would always say i knew that you didn't love me. So many times he used that against me. Another way would be he would say, if you love me you will buy me this . Usually something expensive. Or it was me trying to prove that i actually did love him. I now see that i really did love him more than anything. And that he never loved or cared about me. I'm glad i was discarded a very painful lesson but it has made me stronger. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Год назад +9

    Once you realize this you can turn it around and get back on track
    You can re-align and re-design yourself and your life 💙

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 Год назад +12

    I entered it, because I was raised in dysfunction. I chant your first, second, third now. Fortunately, I LOVE learning. Thank you Andrew and tribe. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️

  • @Divinely_Guided444
    @Divinely_Guided444 Год назад +7

    I wonder if there has ever been a narcissist that has suffered death of the ego⁉️

  • @coral8313
    @coral8313 Год назад +8

    I will always be a caring person now I put myself first in the past everyone came before me great video I no longer have to prove myself to anyone, 💯 new doors open 🙏💕

  • @gratefultobehere
    @gratefultobehere Год назад +8

    Felt so much strength in this delivery 💪 ❤ thank you 🙏 ✨

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +2

      Hope you are having a lovely evening. I think you will soon be too busy studying to contribute to the channel. It's so great to feel energized about something!😊

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere Год назад +1

      @@emilywilson7308 awww so sweet of you and I’m just now seeing this 🤷‍♀️ 🤗
      I’ll pop in daily of course🥰, but definitely gonna take some adjustments for me and it’s all good. I hope you’re good!

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад

      @@gratefultobehere I am doing well💕

  • @hannastrack4310
    @hannastrack4310 Год назад +10

    I've been doing that all my life why I believe it is more blessed to give than to receive.

  • @mariefrancebourget1749
    @mariefrancebourget1749 Год назад +13

    This is so true. In my experience the more i did for him the more he became needy. Just like a child asking for things as everything is normal. I kept asking myself why am i always the go to person. And i asked him why can't you do it, well he would have always a good answer that would make sense. For him anyway. Thanks for this video Andrew and have a great afternoon in your beautiful NC. 😊👐❤

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      😌💯🌳🙌

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +1

      Yes, they are stuck in a helpless child mode and you're the mommy! One time due to a ridiculous request, I said,"I'm not your mother!"
      He didn't speak to me for 3 days!

    • @mariefrancebourget1749
      @mariefrancebourget1749 Год назад

      @@emilywilson7308 i can relate Emily i had a similar experience with my ex narc. Not being talked to for days. It is so childish. Now we are free thank God. Have a great evening and night my friend. 🤗🩷🙌🙏

    • @freebird968-wg4ye
      @freebird968-wg4ye Год назад +1

      @@mariefrancebourget1749 mine didn’t speak to me for 3 days because I interrupted him at the wrong time. (He used to leave big pauses when speaking…..I think now it was a trap! I didn’t interrupt him at all! 😃 Glad you are out of ‘it’.

    • @mariefrancebourget1749
      @mariefrancebourget1749 Год назад

      @@freebird968-wg4ye Hi, i agree with you it was probably a trap just to provoke a reaction from you. That's a mind game. These narcs use the same tactics, they are all the same. Have a great day! 🤗🙌🙏

  • @VeganSympathizer
    @VeganSympathizer Год назад +7

    Got hung up on a bunch of times followed by ghosting and silent treatment. And mini discards. Absolute insanity

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +2

      😉😉💯

    • @VeganSympathizer
      @VeganSympathizer Год назад +1

      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you again for your work and sharing all your wisdom. Please feel free to put an ad or two on your videos. You need to be getting paid for your efforts. I would be more than happy to watch your videos even with an ad or two!

    • @mindofnobility7554
      @mindofnobility7554 Год назад +1

      Hung the phone up on them because I was tired of the NARCS psychological nonsense!

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +1

      @@VeganSympathizer
      I agree. I think he should monetize the channel.

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 Год назад +3

    That's why the word "hope" is a 4-letter word for me.❣️

  • @preparedsurvivalist2245
    @preparedsurvivalist2245 Год назад +5

    The truly terrifying thing is all the people, including children, who are ensnared in narcissistic relationships and have no idea whats going on. They just assume mom is weird and annoying, or that this new boyfriend has an attitude problem, or that their boss is not nice person. I at least always new something was amiss, though I didn't understand it was narcissism. So I had some coping strategies and defenses. But I really feel bad for those who are completely blindsided by these bloodsucking and have no clue what they are in for.

  • @keeyta333
    @keeyta333 Год назад +3

    I’m really hoping those new doors open for me. I’ve been so beat down. I finally see through this person, but they did succeed in making me feel worthless.

  • @bradmcewen
    @bradmcewen Год назад +18

    Absolutely correct Andrew. These words should haunt a soul if an about face in self care has not happened yet. This is one of several key self sacrifices the takers look for. Now out of it by years, it was and will always be the oddest interaction not walked away from immediately.

  • @sandracaezza7234
    @sandracaezza7234 Год назад +2

    A few days before I discarded I actually heard his “ new friend” on the phone say,” your wife is not all what I expected.” That was the nail in his coffin.
    I gave so much and spent months being dismissed. Divorce signed 7 months no contact, therapy for me and I’m coming through with health and wisdom.
    Thank you for my daily dose of positivity. Keep moving forward, lost 25 lbs ,swim daily . I was so ill in the relationship. Not on a diet, weight just fell off😉🧘🏼😊

  • @Donnahodgins
    @Donnahodgins Год назад +7

    That bad telephone connection.
    If I had a Nickle ........I'd have a small fortune.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад

      😉😉💯

    • @user-ou3sd2vp3u
      @user-ou3sd2vp3u Год назад +1

      Or there’re out of signal or battery - even when needing 999 for an ambulance ffs - nice one!
      Stay strong 💕

  • @JoyLady-1966
    @JoyLady-1966 Год назад +9

    But by the grace of GOD. He rescued me from this IDOLATRY of a relationship 😊

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад

      🙌💯😌

    • @TheSeekeroftruth1
      @TheSeekeroftruth1 Год назад +1

      Too true, Idolatry! Without our realising we had put them on a pedestal. We are told that we cannot serve two Masters, meaning when our attention and energy is being spent elsewhere, it's not been spent where it is supposed to be. And like you, by the Grace of God and an answered prayer, I was rescued.

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 Год назад

      👍👍👍👍👍
      🎀😘

  • @TheFrogmaster7
    @TheFrogmaster7 Год назад +13

    I don’t need a therapist Andrew because you have the best advice. Thank you so much. 😁❤

  • @thebigh9635
    @thebigh9635 Год назад +8

    I recall being on a tight budget and buying some luxury chocolates and toiletries for them and realising that I had to go without something I needed for myself , and knowing they might not even appreciate the gesture . I stood at the paypoint wonder WHY I was doing what I was doing , it felt wrong , but I couldn't stop myself ,...THAT IS THE MADNESS ! 🤔😳🤨

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      😉💯😉

    • @darrellgosnell9971
      @darrellgosnell9971 Год назад +4

      I gave her chocolate and flowers on her desk when she was working on her degree. She told me to never do that again. I never understood why she didn’t want my attempt to let her know how proud I was of her to become an insult

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +2

      That is so strange, darrell!

    • @darrellgosnell9971
      @darrellgosnell9971 Год назад +3

      @@emilywilson7308 just trying to understand! . I did all I could and it was never enough! Just don’t understand

    • @darrellgosnell9971
      @darrellgosnell9971 Год назад +3

      @@emilywilson7308 Just to be totally open, She always told me about a me about a memory she had as a little girl and asked for new shoes with her parents while they were eating dinner at a Red Lobster restaurant. They told her no. I went to Macys and bought a pair of the best shoes they had for a little girl, placed them under her pillow and a card telling her I was sorry she had to go through the pain. I told her in the card that there was a little boy back then that would one day buy her the shoes and love her. She told me that night, I was being stupid. I

  • @WorldOfARandomVegan
    @WorldOfARandomVegan Год назад +1

    It's literally like you were a fly on the wall in my relationship with all these facts you're dropping. It's crazy that these narcs are all the same, and they think they're so unique and special.

  • @franksimmons9242
    @franksimmons9242 Год назад +5

    It can feel awkward when we start meeting people that are not soul snatching thieves.

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +2

      😂 I'm suspicious of everyone!

    • @franksimmons9242
      @franksimmons9242 Год назад +1

      @@emilywilson7308 tough combination to be naturally trusting but forced to accept how dishonest most people are.

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад

      @@franksimmons9242 I just assume they are dishonest, until they prove over time that they have the courage to be real.

    • @freebird968-wg4ye
      @freebird968-wg4ye Год назад

      @@emilywilson7308 me too! 😐🌸

  • @JH-td4mn
    @JH-td4mn Год назад +2

    I noticed the Narcissist never showed genuine gratitude. I think this is one of the methods they use to ensure you keep giving more of your energy and attention. The Narcissist told me "You always give 100, no 150%." That was about a month before he discarded me. Nothing is good enough for them. At the end of the day, deep down they don't see themselves as worth loving, so why would they respect anyone who loves them?

    • @freebird968-wg4ye
      @freebird968-wg4ye Год назад +2

      Yes you’re right. I bought mine a few items of clothing at the beginning. He couldn’t even fake a thank you. It was just a sort of indifference. He never wore them. So I didn’t do it again except birthdays etc.

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 Год назад +1

      Thank you's and Sorry's require humility. The Royalty won't go near that.

  • @anne8220-o5c
    @anne8220-o5c Год назад +8

    Hit the nail on the head 3:26 Valuable learned lesson. Excellent video

  • @michelletrill2870
    @michelletrill2870 Год назад +12

    Very lovely man. You explain things well. Thank you for your time. Be proud of yourself for being such a support to many confused and upset people😉

  • @Emily_Paris
    @Emily_Paris Год назад +23

    Yes Andrew. It’s true. I always cared about them than myself but that’s changing and I take accountability for that mistake. I’m older and still learning. So thankful for your advice and wisdom.

    • @danielle1103
      @danielle1103 Год назад +4

      It’s as if they get you into a pattern, a cycle where you learn to take care of them more than you do yourself. They have a good way of making you feel guilty if things don’t go according to how they’d like it. It’s frustrating. …or I should say, it was frustrating.

    • @Donnahodgins
      @Donnahodgins Год назад +2

      @@danielle1103 I know what you mean.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  Год назад +1

      😌🙌🙏

    • @danielle1103
      @danielle1103 Год назад +1

      @@Donnahodgins I’m thankful we both know!! When these same patterns and cycles have been modeled to you before you just kind of think that’s the way things are supposed to be, but it’s not. Now it’s up to you to do the work in order to instill change. Continue to stay strong 🌻

    • @SusanW-lc8rp
      @SusanW-lc8rp Год назад

      😘

  • @Leesa1303
    @Leesa1303 Год назад +6

    I am still here and I am so glad to see you Andrew....

  • @truthjunkie63
    @truthjunkie63 Год назад +11

    💯 accurate.

  • @tboned1
    @tboned1 Год назад +6

    My wife gaslighted me to an extreme and once I knew what she was doing it was comical because I was like this is ridiculous utterly ridiculous

  • @Joanna-np6fx
    @Joanna-np6fx Год назад +3

    “Center your self and be who you are” post discard that’s what I’m learning and working on. Being with a narcissist was an experience where I lost myself and became a doer for the narcissist, now it’s a journey of discovery of my true self. Now I can be who I am and not feel guilty about pursuing that. 😊

  • @rochellet1333
    @rochellet1333 Год назад +6

    So true! You are so right!

  • @nikrbawker
    @nikrbawker Год назад +3

    Not just the relationship but the house that they live in as well, does not get treated right. To be reborn again once you send them packing!

  • @19luvdabluzzz61
    @19luvdabluzzz61 Год назад +2

    It's terrible when it's a sibling, and they turn all other family members against you...😢 It's impossible to stick up for yourself. So sad...
    I can't undo what she's done to our whole family...

  • @nanaof6angels
    @nanaof6angels Год назад +5

    Yes so true 💯

  • @jhavajoe3792
    @jhavajoe3792 Год назад +15

    Andrew, you speak for the hearts of every dedicated empath that finally found out the hard way ( like myself ).
    Message from an old Veteran- Money IS important, but it's secondary to morals, ethics and health.
    The ex-narc ended up successful financially, but with precarious health. The relentless drive meant
    carrying a corrosive stress in attaining that goal.The formula in dealing with people in a Narc-ish fashion ( how can I use that person?) won't work for most Narcs in the long run. A mutually supportive relationship could possibly have provided a re-charge and stress relief outlet. All afore mentioned, is an opinion, based on empirical knowledge ( I've seen it more than a few times). Thanks, Andrew!

  • @fsarecovery
    @fsarecovery Год назад +1

    That was great Information an spot on im recovering lifetime of being a doormat abuse including waking up 4 years ago to my wicked mother an family were al narcs an every relationship was co dependent so sadly my body gave in 6 years ago causing massive spiritual awakening long story but found myself threw lot of writing that took me al the way back to wen I 19 an I experienced so much panic from the family tgat set me up to appease them al and people in the world caused me to lose my true self threw complex Ptsd my body honestly is bein rebuilt energetically sounds mad long story to much to put down but al a lot of phsical pain had no idea these creatures exist , anyway got long road back hope this helps thank u for consistent reminders to keep vigilant an heal before getting entangled again 🙏

  • @mariageaney2362
    @mariageaney2362 Год назад +14

    🎶💙🕊️🌼🙏🌼🕊️💙🎶
    The following goes out to anyone who needs or wants some angelic light waves.🕊️💙🎶
    🎶💙🕊️🌼
    " Night winds "
    To hear the wind in the silence of the night
    Is to feel the warm reassuring love of angelic embrace.
    Feeling their ancient language of calm
    That balance's through the silence within the silence.
    This sound of feeling
    Is the great connection to source spirit.
    This feeling also becomes
    The rising of the kundalini
    That has been tempted to uncoil so you feel the intimate connection with
    The nights magnetic moon code cycle.
    All angels; earth and astral.....celestial
    Engage themselves to your vibrant fibres of light
    Weaving threads.
    And feed you the essence of heavenly elegance.....magnified !
    Magnified to imagine the vast inter-outer layered dimensions that only night wind can dress you in
    And you undress into your spirit silver surging skin.
    And bathe in the soothing winds of the night.
    © Maria geaney 🦊🔥🙏
    March 28th 2023
    Wishing all empaths the power of forever sight light.
    🎶💙🕊️🌼🙏🌼🕊️💙🎶
    🦊🔥🕷️🐾🐾🐞🦋🐛 17:41
    🔥🌹Claim your own right to individual autonomy.🌹🔥🐛🦋

  • @natemillz4497
    @natemillz4497 Год назад +3

    I’m currently 5 weeks being discarded for a new supply. In 3 weeks he moved in with her. Left me mentally stuffed. I knew she was cheating, I had the gut feeling. I done everything for her and gave everything. It’s amazing how they can just throw you out like you meant nothing but trash on the ground. I have a 5 yr old daughter who doesn’t want to go home. Talked with lawyers but not sure what to do. My eyes are wide awake. 10 yrs of off and on with constant mental abuse and brain fog.
    Your videos are excellent and seems like all coverts are the same like a template.

  • @SusanW-lc8rp
    @SusanW-lc8rp Год назад +6

    This message is so important.

  • @Karen-fx8ek
    @Karen-fx8ek Год назад +3

    The narc was repeatedly hanging up on me as I was trying to talk about our problems;always on the defense! No to counseling, no to trying to work things out etc! But I always had to be the yes person just to keep peace! These narcs have such a sense of entitlement!! He told my mom years ago” I want it all”! I’m tired of paying the price! No more; still blocking! I’m so thankful I found these videos Andrew! 🙏

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад +2

      You got this, Karen!😊

    • @Karen-fx8ek
      @Karen-fx8ek Год назад +1

      @@emilywilson7308 Appreciate you!😀

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад

      @@Karen-fx8ek We are all here healing together.🌷

    • @Karen-fx8ek
      @Karen-fx8ek Год назад +1

      @@emilywilson7308 THANKYOU Emily,it’s hard lately as I just started blocking! THANKYOU so much and appreciate you! I’m praying for you;all us!🙏

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 Год назад

      @@Karen-fx8ek Ohhhh, so kind of you! Prayer is powerful🥰

  • @user-yy9be9mi6n
    @user-yy9be9mi6n 11 месяцев назад +1

    All I wanted was "the promise of a day that would never arrive". Love that!
    So much truth here. (Newbie)
    Thank you Andrew

  • @omyachinhead873
    @omyachinhead873 Год назад +11

    You're Brilliant, Andrew! Your insight never ceases to amaze me. Thank you SO much!

  • @chrlmlln9018
    @chrlmlln9018 Год назад +10

    Dear, Andrew! Spot on! So very true! Thank you for the almost healing comfort your education brings me! May God bless you most richly every new day! 💯💖💖💖💯💝💝💝

  • @lookingtowardsthesun
    @lookingtowardsthesun Год назад +2

    Whoa! When you said "They don't even like YOU!" And the way he said it, wow 15:06. Facts. That's deep and so sad. Hits different when it's the person who gave birth to you. I'm still coming to terms with that part.

  • @Mariah.B11
    @Mariah.B11 Год назад +4

    Thankyou for affirming the essential fact that we were placed in a manipulative bind we simply were unaware of. Your words are oxygen for mind and soul.