💯 It is clear that the narcissist didn't want the same plans as we did , they were not real from the start. Things change by minute with these individuals, Rollercoaster rides all the way..
Andrew, you and all the great people here have helped me so much. I moved 1200 miles away from him. Its been two years now. I used to take his phone calls. Not anymore. I learned about trauma bonding here. It was hard at first, but things are getting way better. I live alone, no pets. I have freedom now. I know things would never change, He is who he is. Just a broken promise.
I have had to start over so many times because of Narc attacks! What I can tell you is that if I can do it, you can do it! Take it one day at a time, get a plan together, set goals, start small and work your way up if you have to start from scratch. Ask for help! There are LOTS of organizations who will help you. You are stronger than you think you are. Namaste.
Looking for help. You stated there are organizations out there that can help us. Do you know the names of the few? I have been learning for the past six months. What a narcissist is. My husband, the narcissist has depleted me of everything, including my health. I do not know where to begin, and I don’t know the first thing to do to get out.😢 Any information, I believe, might help ! I just don’t know where to go to look for these. Things are what they’re called.
@@JestDreaminI’m probably not a lot of help but don’t give up .. just baby steps. Go ‘grey rock ‘. Look that term up if you’re not familiar. It really helps Say No or just ‘forget’ to do things There’s FaceTime groups I believe but I don’t know the names. Andrew has 1 on 1 sessions I think for an hour. Sorry I’m so vague but don’t stop, ever. We’ll find a way
"Nothing stays the same". By taking the right action we can move thru that dark tunnel at a faster pace towards the light. It is true, the beauty on the other side is something we have never experienced before. Time and life passes regardless of any action on our part. One more day, one more year, one more decade. I treasure every minute of my time and I do something everyday towards a deeper healing in every aspect of my being. BODY, MIND, SOUL AND SPIRIT, all must be brought into BALANCE. Like the four legs of a chair. Namaste! ♥
The hard part is getting someone else to realize things change over time and not talking about ailments only makes them worse as it just covers it up..I live every day with a disability and am tired of people not being aware we are people too because for so long people looked the other way when it comes to people with disabilities
God bless you, you have the same rights and entitlements as everyone else on this planet. I feel your pain and I hope through the grace of God your pain can subside. Be a shining light to all the darkness out there. I too have a child with a physical and intellectual disability. She’s 11. I notice peoples reactions whenever we go out. Thankfully there are understanding and empathic people out there, but I have seen looks of pity and looks of anger and looks of disgust. I don’t know which one makes me more sad, but it shows you how much negativity and indifference there is out there to people with disabilities. Praying for you, God bless 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🌷🌹🌿🌷🌹🌿🌹🌷🌿
🎉 tiny spark of light in the dark tunnel. Now a bright shiny light cant see the tunnel anywhere. . Im thinking the good times were not that good anyway .🎉🎉
I was playing below my own standard so I can't cry 😭 I just have to think it never happened and educated my daughters . Know that when they get old they become dirty old men who people run from I am good ❤
Sometimes healing is like a slow trickle... a very, very slow trickle, but sometimes it's like a tsunami and it leaves you reeling as your whole perspective on reality shifts. My own healing was very slow, if not stagnant for a long time, but 2023 has been my tsunami year. Wow! It's easy to think you'll never heal, but never give up. Those who seek truth will eventually find it. Gather good people to your side. - Joe
At the time of discard, the marriage to my narcissistic spouse seemed to be the book of my life. I had hoped it would be. After a year, it seems more like a chapter. Hopefully, as I continue to work and deal with the episodes of narcissistic directed trauma, it will be a footnote. It does get better.
Yup..sure did..he told me he wanted to grow old with me….absolutely was not the case..he looked at me as someone who gave him status and a good income….honestly I wish it had worked but it is what it is. I have no drama anymore..That is just fine with me. My concern is for my son…who is now finding out what his father is really like..very sad. I grieve for my son not having a close relationship supportive relationship with his father. You are absolutely spot on.
Before the discard the narc told me he is friends with all his past relationships exept for 1... well that makes 2 now because like the 1st one no longer around, I make up number 2. I sum up the 2 of us discovered he was a narcissist. I thank each day that passes I found him out... 😅 I am seeing that light at the end of the tunnel getting stronger, watching your videos has helped so much and I will persevere to get to see the beautiful view Thank you Andrew 🎉
Amen Andrew ❤ Thank you 🙏🌞 Truth, truth, truth. Church bells at the end of your video. I love it 🔔 ✨️💝 We are all ever evolving, growing, and changing 🪨🌿🤍🧘🏽♀️🌙
Thank you dear Andrew! I never understood how my husband changed so completely. The truth was I was being manipulated and did all for my partner out of love. It took 2 years of the dark night of the soul, to find you and understand! ❤️
Rebirth. I really felt what you said! I’ts taken me a long time to overcome but it’s worth the pain as the 3rd side 😉 of life is much better than than the 1st. Stay strong always 💕
Beautiful and Powerful wisdom. Impossible that things will stay the same if there's increments of abuse. Sooner or later ( hopefully sooner ) your mental storage of these abuses will pile high and overflow. The No.1 bit of info that snapped me into a reality was: "Things will not improve as you hope and Narcissists may up their game to make it even worse. Hoping every Empath's inner strength will increase beyond their wildest.💪🙏
I ended the relationship with the narcissist a little more than a week ago. It hurts me so bad inside, I really didn't want to, but I felt that I needed to. There was so many lie's, I couldn't take it. I don't really want him back, but I want to stay in contact with him. I worry about his dad, he's in bad shape. I'm so thankful that I have my own place, my own money, no children together. So why is it so hard for me to walk away
Sounds like you had to end the relationship to save yourself. When you love someone you can’t just turn off that tap of emotions. It will take time to recover and adjust. Look up trauma bonding. This will explain your conflicting feelings. No contact is best to heal as hard as that sounds. It’s good that you have no children together that would keep you attached. You’re starting a journey. There’s lots to learn. Sending best wishes. ❤
Thank you Andrew. 👏 This was a very powerful video. A few years ago I was walking through a wood with low branches and leaves overhead. It felt like a tunnel and I could see the small bit of sunny light at the end. I was feeling so bad (confusion, fear etc post Narc escape.) and likened this scene to ‘the light at the end of the tunnel’ ie things will get better eventually. As I walked the light increased in size around me until I was in sunlight. I’m years on from that time now and am in full daylight every day. 🌞 After your video I can visualise looking back down that green tunnel from the sunny end. I can see what a state I was in then, how dark everything was and how far I’ve come. Things do change and get better. ❤🌸 🌳
Very encouraging and profound. Time will pass regardless of us taking any action at all. We must keep moving forward regardless of the fear and the pain. So glad to hear your amazing progress and your healing journey! Blessings. ♥
Off topic but I'm a car guy. They depreciate in value due to the fact that it isn't expensive to build a vehicle in the first place. That is why you see older cars go for crazy amounts, they had more human labor involved. Newer ones are on a line being mass produced in conjunction with machines. The true worth of new is a few thousand in parts, a few thousand in labor and astronomical profit when it rolls off the line.
Love the light ✨ and tunnel analogy ❤. All true. We get to experience abundance now. So glad you remind this community of that on a regular basis. Nothing stays the same. That’s also a good reminder for those who are really exhausted and just coming out of the fire - you WILL get strong again!!! The process of being groomed to work and always please others can be a difficult thing to shed, but if we’re out of that, the truth is we are free. Love the different background!!! Bless you so much 🙏❤️
Andrew they get worse every day.I have so much work to done on myself ,the most horrible what happened to me is that constant fight about child ,using child in not good interests they just keep attacking .This creatures are masters of creating wars just to show themselfs as the best parent ,it effects my family,friends ,my health couse they just dont respect bounderies ,only for short period of time ,you need to forced them trough all sources to liesten.God bless you all in this channel
@@jannlewandowski5540 Hi Jann, just saw your message. I am working today but i take a little peek at my phone from time to time to see if i have messages from you and others on the channel. Lucky my boss can't see me, i work from home lol. Hope you are doing well my friend. Have a beautiful afternoon. 😚💖
In combination with the previous video, 'They want to turn you into them', I do feel a piece of me, my light, my innocence (and gullibility), has been stolen, how much I don't know yet. I appreciate that I am becoming a new 'galvanised' version of me, but I don't really like the new me right now. I no longer trust, like a child and I no longer love to the heights that I did. Maybe this is just a transitory period and the new me still isn't the me that I will become, when the light at the tunnel eventually blocks all darkness out; when I no longer remember him and my light returns? 🐼🖤🐑
Yes the Narcissist will never Change,,,we on the other hand are learning,.and moving forward,and evolving,.and becoming the best version of ourselves,.it's sheer joy to wake up and plan my day and choose ,what I want..to do,I'm so Greatful for Everything every day, NAMASTE, Andrew✨🦋🙏❤️🤍
❤we are not like we were before. We have survived, evolved drank the holy water of freedom. The meadow is vast and waits to sweep us up in our dreams and visions restored. 💜🫂💜🙏💙🙏🔥🌿💝🌳🐾🌱🎶🐬
And they are just so flipping tight with money - like “I’m “x “amount up” - he said that! on drinks, cigarettes, shopping etc… they have a consumerist till in their head for sure. Vile tbh! Thank you Andrew. I think we all reflect so much from your wisedom x
Boy was this one ever helpful! I don't see the light yet, but I'm forcing myself to do the things I enjoy for the first time in three years. It's difficult, but I know it will pay off and I will see the beauty and abundance eventually.
I'm on the upside of the aftermath. The last few months your channel has really helped me. I'm in north Carolina. On the pamlico sound. If you would like to go sailing sometime I'm part of the sailing community here. It's not for everyone but for those it is, it's life changing. Take care
Good afternoon, Andrew! Good to see you’re well! You had us worried. ❤🤗☀️👑😇🌹 Haha I saw that bride ☺️👰♂️ beautiful!❤❤❤ Have a wonderful rest of the day!
@@jannlewandowski5540 It’s okay, no worries! Happens to me all the time lately 😛😄 Andrew’s doing fine, he was just having internet connectivity problems. He’s back now, safe and sound 😁👍👍❤️😇
Looking back now I see so many red flags clearly that I had no clue were there back then. Every day that goes by and I’m reminded of something she said or did that now screams “run away”. How could I have been so blind to what was truly going on? I’m a smart and intuitive person, but her covert narcissism flew right under my radar.
You’ve just described exactly how I feel. The triggers, could be just a word mentioned on TV, they used to give me a judder in my stomach. Years on now when I hear them i don’t have a physical reaction but almost laugh to myself and think -“remember when THAT happened….how bizarre, it was crazy. !?!” We didn’t have the knowledge and wisdom then. I too wish I’d taken note of those red flags! Happy healing! 🌸
That was a powerful message 💯 I never thought or believed that I would be on my own I’ve questioned this many times when you get married I expected forever. Nothing has stayed the same as I’m forever changed learning so many different things picking up my creative skills once again and so many new things I would never have done in the marriage as you are so busy taking care of them you forget about yourself.🙏💕
One day, you’ll be happily single and won’t think about that dreadful time but you will always care for others / discerningly. Stay warm in heart and connected 💕
@@user-ou3sd2vp3u thank you I’m a veteran here extremely happy being single I have done a lot of work on myself heart is open to love again didn’t think I would that’s why I’m forever changed doing what brings me happiness 🙏
Many make the mistake of thinking everything is going to be fine. I’m one of those who give chance after chance til I had enough. I’ve learned my lesson. I’m on my own and will stay that way. Freedom is good.
“Life isn’t fair” and “nothing stays the same” and “you can’t Dip your toe in the same stream twice” - these are truths that are hard to swallow for those of us who cherish people, place, and commitment, but so important to accept. Look forward...life has much to offer...even when it feels like there are only ashes take heart ... if you allow it, new acquaintances and others will gather to warm themselves in the glow. 🔥✨✨✨
The only thing that stays the same with the narcissist is how they use and abuse you any which way they can. Don't tolerate being abused. You are worthy of Love and Happiness. 💕🌻 You had a life before them and you will have a better life once they are out of your life.
Me ex's mantra was " I don't like arguing " and yet, he treated me like dirt, worse than anybody ever has. It's ludicrous almost laughable that this was his phrase. Such garbage. And, like you said, he watched my (mental, physical and emotional) health detoriate, watched me consistently fall to pieces in front of his dead eyes. Then ranted at me for being a disappointment, not doing things he wanted me to. When he'd done nothing but destroy my confidence then get furious when I had none. He systematically reduced my place/position and reduced and shrunk the " goalpost" over 7 years. He definitely knew from the beginning that no matter what I did for him or how I tried to "prove myself worthy" I wasn't gonna be good enough for him and it's inexcusable how they finally throw you aside when you're broken. Then they stroll off without a single bother, absolutely sails away, smoothly into a new life and you suddenly don't exist. it's unreal.
There are no coincidences. Beautiful church bells and a blessed wedding taking place while you are teaching us! This clearly is a “God wink”! New beginnings are coming are way! This is the day the Lord has made; let us be glad in it! Thanks again Andrew for your reminders that we can start over and that speck of light will help us and guide us and shine brighter each moment! All we have to do is trust it!🙏
Great video Andrew. Yes in my narcissistic relationship as soon as I said I love you and that it was ok to move in with me. It took him about a month to start changing. He started just ignoring me I couldn't say anything because I was crowding him he would say. Then it was him going into the other room and if I came into the room he would go off on me telling me that he wanted to be alone and why am I always bothering him. It was my apartment he paid nothing. He changed big time, but in the end so did I and I never want anything to do with him ever again. I deserve better. Thank you for the video Andrew and thank you everyone for your kind words.
sounds familiar...my narc moved in my space too...taker and faker...then proceeded to take over my art studio basement...and basically retreat and teat me with distain....luckily kicked him out and have reclaimed my studio...they are so toxic and entitled....I changed too...which thank god he is gone...
Things do not stay the same, which can be massively frightening for many people. However, the narcissistic relationship is based on chaos and stress. It is unhealthy in many different ways. Change in this instance is the only way to survive, and that can only be a good thing Each little positive change you make is another link on the chain that will carry you to peace and freedom, and that feels so good. I never thought i would get there, then one day it all is there for you. Be stoic, remain calm, and just know it is coming. Much love all 😊
Starting to realize the many years I was under attack by narcs. Childhood so called friends, college users, narcs in the workplace, two narc marriages, narcs in religious fellowships, Holy Cow! They are everywhere, but things are changing now that I have the wisdom! And that’s good very good! Thank you Andrew have a great day!
Change in life is inevitable. No one or nothing stays the same. Some changes are good and some are not. Especially if you have experienced toxic and narcissistic abuse. Healing is not a 100% easy process, but when you finally find yourself near the finish line, you become galvanized against the prospect of ever succumbing to any toxic or narcissistic abusive relationship. Thank God for channels of education and support like Andrew has created. 🙏✌️❤🤓😎
@artluvr6170 Thank you, Joe. I am getting a little stronger each day. I'm like ye old Missouri mule. I might bulk sometimes, but I don't quit, even though I want to sometimes. I hope you are well also. Good night, friend. God bless. 😊
Andrew you are a beaming lighthouse to us all who have been and are in these destructive relationships. Thankyou, Thankyou, Thankyou, for your words of wisdom , I almost fell for the trap again … how vulnerable can I be.🙁
I want to fall in love in life again...dont need a future faking magician with false powers. But..do mistakes on the way since I love my farher the narc more then me. I need my powers back so Im grateful for your education but still hard to not follow your hart ! Im beatiful inside out and I have worked hard to correct my flaws which come when you get confused and misabused psychologically. Im old now and realize to take action now not a day later. ❤️🌸❤️
Thank you Andrew for your channel. I did start painting again. I also moved last week, away from the loneliest place on earth where I went through the dark night of the soul. I survived it with your help and people that truly cared for me. I also started praying again and God gets a big thank you for holding me up when I felt so weak. Newbies, you will survive this and be strong again..and you will smile as well ! ❤
I was able to cry this morning. There has only been the odd tear until today. Around a narcissist, emotions must be damned up and stored away. They cannot be allowed to see how they hurt you. But it all gets tangled up in there, making feelings into a horrible mess. It was time that some of that grief came out.
I am also a victim of this... that person destroyed my life. It's indescribable how much I have lost and the pain I went through and I am still dealing with the ugly consequences. Btw, every time I watch your videos I am thinking what a handsome guy you are. I've noticed several of my very good looking friends were victims of a narcissist. I think narcissists look for sensitive, hard working and good looking humans. They usually only care about sex, money and partying.
The damage of isolation, feeling I was not worth doing anything with did so much damage. I’m seven months out, I see so clearly. Five people have told me I look like a different person. This look is also showing people what I was living with,I really don’t have to say anything. Therapy, healing,surrender,I have been released. I was a joyous free bird 24 yrs ago. May be 72 yo but I’m coming back. Truth optimistic..
@@gratefultobehere thank you my beautiful sister of light. I am honoured to serve you on this path of healing and spiritual truth and depth, love and light. Just this now, wrote a new one. Yipppeeeeeeeeeeeee 😃😸🥳 🙏😇🫂🥰Blessed day of inspiration melting into your sacred soul.🐬🌼💙💜💝
one of the most valuable lessons I've learned on the healing path is trusting myself and to follow my heart. I'm still in the fire, fighting everyday. It's a gift. All of us bring something different to the channel, something beautiful. 💙💙💙
Saw him yesterday at the store, and wasn't affected at all. I Just smiled, the pain from the relationship is gone. He scowled when he saw me smiling I know now he truly hated me and didn't want me happy. Super strong now, ty Andrew. ❤
Thanks for the awesome video, Andrew! Spot on, as usual. One phenomenon I've picked up on is learning through the narc's actions and adapting based on their actions, then they're totally puzzled that I'm vehemently rejecting everything they're actually trying to teach me. They seem to believe I'm only learning when they're trying to show me something. It's comical, really. I've noticed the ones who do that the most are the ones who always question, "Who told you that?"
This whole video is spot on.. why do we have to depreciate with age? In the eyes of the narc I feel I am depreciating even though he’s 16 ish years older than me .. and every day is not the same.. I like those words.. I live each day with one foot out the door now since the beginning of this year because I never know .. a discard could occur anytime.. I never used to think like that but now I do .. at the same time, I’m trying to downsize as much as possible my materialistic items.. in preparation .. 2023 has been a real eye opening year for me.. thank you Andrew.
Keep going, you have got this. Enjoy visualising the meadows in reach....in time they will be yours as you leave him at top speed flailing in his own dust!! 🌱🔥☄️🌼✨🌹🌿🌳🙏🫂🦋🌳
It's so true that nothing stays the same,thats why we must heal and enjoy every present 🎁 moment. When my ex discarded me he actually said these exactt words "im going to have a great life and your not i wouldn't want to be you " and guess what, he's doing really bad,he told me he got a nervous brakedown, he gained a bunch of weight and he got fierd from his job,he's presently living at his parents. The worst part is,im not laughing and enjoying it,how was he able to do that to me when i was so kind to him. Thankyou Andrew❤️🩹✌️🌞🙏
Good afternoon Andrew and everyone! Today I am grateful that I am alive and AWARE! I asked myself, WHY DID HE PICK ME? The narcissist looks for PREY..He even had the nerve to tell me a couple of times I DON'T LIKE BLONDES. I LOVE DARK HAIR...Well, I'm sorry buddy,I'm not going to dye my hair dark. That silenced him. He married a woman with dark hair and brown eyes. A very RICH woman Hah! She probably dumped him by now. I'm fine, and WE WILL ALL BE FINE! YOU ARE ALL GREAT PEOPLE. THANK YOU, ANDREW..❤❤ BTW, I'm back to my happy go lucky me! Ain't nothin gonna break my stride!🎶🎵🎶👍
Awoke vs. narcissism asleep. Its like a permanent, effective, safe vaccination. I hope everyone speeds to the yee haa moment. Imo its ok to review, reflect but definitely get to the yee haa !
When I was just starting my career I had lunch with an older man who was at the end of his career. I asked him, if he could give me 1 piece of advice, what would it b?" He said, if u can cope with change, u can cope with anything life throws at you". I didn't know the gravity of that advice until I got much older. Andrew is spot on. U will move, change jobs, friends will come & go, the same for spouses, ill see ur children grow up & start lives of their own, u will suffer loss, etc... everything has a season but if u grow through those seasons n life, process these things, learn & heal on that journey u life will b rewarding. It's when u don't take the time to put things n perspective, waste a lesson, ignore ur emotions & everything builds up, u find there is alot of work that needs 2NBA done on the inside additional u take all the unhealed areas into ur future. Dont shortchange ur future. Live n the present, teach those who r unaware r need a helping hand while on a particular path. There is strength n numbers & good advice can help others avoid some mistakes.
Awesome Andrew...exactly the message I needed...a year ago Narc had separated me from my family and tried to isolate me from all things I love.....a year later...a ay at the water park loving my grandkids...having fun..still on the marathon of healing as I kicked him out in March...but I am following the wisdom to healing and freedom...thank you Andrew Namaste
*Everything* changes on this planet. There is only one thing that doesn't 🙏 Falling in love with the beauty of change and the lessons that come with that is the path... And I agree about depreciation, here in the UK I've been looking to get a newer car and have realised that it's their charge for sales, circa £5k here at the moment for a 2/3 year old standard car from a main dealer, but they are in such short supply people are happy to lose that amount instantly, just to get a newer car, it's crazy. Great video Andrew. Thinking it might be a good idea to have someone as backup to post for you in case of any future internet issues, if you don't have someone already 🙏
Andrew, I am glad to see you living your best life. I found this channel after I had already gone on with my life and put the narcissist in the past, but having this information would certainly have made the process easier and faster. I could tell some stories. I occasionally fall into the trap of feeling stupid for not recognizing it all sooner, so I have to tell myself that at least I finally did.
The new car after leaving the lot is USED. Only antiques and gold and other precious things gain in value. Gold once handled becomes tarnished and needs to be polished to shine again, with brilliance. And here we are, watching this video.
We did have some good times, that confused me when I was learning about narcissism. I thot maybe he isn’t, but the good times we’re way fewer than the abusive times. A simple ‘NO’ or not being totally submissive or in agreement with his every thot was all it took to bring out the devil in him. And I do believe they are possessed.
Thank you for this video, your channel is so uplifting encouraging and educational, true we all have flaws and all issues day by day navigations, and I actually don't blame anyone for my situation, it's something that happened to me and I feel it was part of for me to finally get to go in my 3d version, I'm doing all the work nessasary to deal with all that iam, and letting go of old belief systems is one of them to, yes life evolves, none of us is living in the olden days, nice to have the memories thereof but that's where it should stay, moving forward with more positive attributes from learning the dynamics of narcist, toxic individuals and even those individuals that live and breath from making you feel responsible for their down falls or problems, we are all individual, how we choose to be to others sets us apart from those who want to destroy us, iam grateful thankful and wiser In the knowledge of narcist and toxic individuals, taking it slow moving forward and cleaning out my issues within me at the same time and putting boundaries to those that know where to poke holes in me, thank you so much keep up your fabulous channel
I am starting to feel really good every morning. I do not ruminate as much about them any more, thank God. I am gentle and patient with myself. Every day is a gift. Every day gets better as my silence toward them grows.
I'm wondering about my health issues... I thought it was from my past habits.. but it seems it is from my present... I have gone to no care about my body and interests have also changed into this since it is so exciting to understand how people's work... I feel tired.
Hi Andrew, I love listening to your videos. I have come such a long way and it is true - everything changes. The only thing that worries me is that I feel like a part of me has died. I have no desire to date or even be physically intimate with anyone else. It's like I have no interest in others. It's been a year since I went no contact and I'm wondering if my potential asexuality is here to stay for good? I would like to meet someone but no one comes close to what I want, to what I believed him to be .
I feel like aloneness and having no sex is a very healthy on our healing journey. I'm newly discarded by my husband of 12 years. Although I'm sad,I'm taking this time to connect more with Creator and heal me! At this time,I want nothing to do with anyone and I'm going to be ok with that. I wish you wellness ❤
@@ladyvirgo013 Hi LadyVirgo, thank you for sharing your story. It is similar to mine in that I have become a lot more spiritual as well and I wonder about the Maker and where I fit in life. I'm grateful for the journey and opportunity to grow. Wish you the best on your journey ✨
Amazing to see the true colors of these individuals. Incredible to see the evilness of a person, how they can intentionally hurt you specially emotionally. I wonder how this individual goes to bed every night. Also keeping an affair and keeping up with their lies. So glad I can finally see the true version of such a sad human being.
I’ve been listening to you for over a year now -I’m learning all the time but I just realized that if my eyes are filling up with tears then I have a lot more introspecting (introspection?) to do .. I have more work to do . I desperately want to get where you are & where I hear a lot of people are , by their comments. I guess I haven’t fully processed everything. I’ll get there. I know I will. Thank you for this video and caring about us all. You’re very appreciated.
Thank G-D that i did not go through any of this Sorry all of you that experienced this May your nex relationship be a beautifull loving one Blessings to all of you May G-D be with you and give you strength and endurance Thank you Dear Andrew Love to the pooches Tamar❤❤❤
And the narcissist is wealthy with seemingly unlimited funds used for hiring surveillance and harassing persons (duped actors) with two attempted murders and multiple collateral deaths and hurt people who were pawns. The narcissist operates like a gangster. The narcissist smeared the persons reputation in their home town. The person moved to find relief and the narcissist moved their operation after the person. This is stunted empathy in action conducted by a deranged person who has no hope of recovery. The ball of abuse started rolling after is was pointed out to the narcissist that the narcissist was stating something incorrectly.
💯 It is clear that the narcissist didn't want the same plans as we did , they were not real from the start. Things change by minute with these individuals, Rollercoaster rides all the way..
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Andrew, you and all the great people here have helped me so much.
I moved 1200 miles away from him.
Its been two years now.
I used to take his phone calls. Not anymore.
I learned about trauma bonding here.
It was hard at first, but things are getting way better.
I live alone, no pets.
I have freedom now.
I know things would never change,
He is who he is.
Just a broken promise.
A narcissist will prey on a sensitive person because they see them as weak and easier to manipulate.
These people are so dangerous. They can destroy your soul. ❤. I'm so sorry I met him
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Oooh, same here. I'm still wondering about why God didn't protect me from this encounter, knowing about the consequences...
@@elkebanhart7045 yea I know what you mean😞
I have had to start over so many times because of Narc attacks! What I can tell you is that if I can do it, you can do it! Take it one day at a time, get a plan together, set goals, start small and work your way up if you have to start from scratch. Ask for help! There are LOTS of organizations who will help you. You are stronger than you think you are. Namaste.
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Looking for help. You stated there are organizations out there that can help us.
Do you know the names of the few?
I have been learning for the past six months. What a narcissist is.
My husband, the narcissist has depleted me of everything, including my health. I do not know where to begin, and I don’t know the first thing to do to get out.😢
Any information, I believe, might help !
I just don’t know where to go to look for these. Things are what they’re called.
@@JestDreaminI’m probably not a lot of help but don’t give up .. just baby steps. Go ‘grey rock ‘. Look that term up if you’re not familiar. It really helps Say No or just ‘forget’ to do things There’s FaceTime groups I believe but I don’t know the names. Andrew has 1 on 1 sessions I think for an hour. Sorry I’m so vague but don’t stop, ever. We’ll find a way
"Nothing stays the same". By taking the right action we can move thru that dark tunnel at a faster pace towards the light. It is true, the beauty on the other side is something we have never experienced before. Time and life passes regardless of any action on our part. One more day, one more year, one more decade. I treasure every minute of my time and I do something everyday towards a deeper healing in every aspect of my being. BODY, MIND, SOUL AND SPIRIT, all must be brought into BALANCE. Like the four legs of a chair. Namaste! ♥
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The narcissist will always stay the same they will never change
The hard part is getting someone else to realize things change over time and not talking about ailments only makes them worse as it just covers it up..I live every day with a disability and am tired of people not being aware we are people too because for so long people looked the other way when it comes to people with disabilities
God bless you, you have the same rights and entitlements as everyone else on this planet. I feel your pain and I hope through the grace of God your pain can subside. Be a shining light to all the darkness out there.
I too have a child with a physical and intellectual disability. She’s 11. I notice peoples reactions whenever we go out. Thankfully there are understanding and empathic people out there, but I have seen looks of pity and looks of anger and looks of disgust. I don’t know which one makes me more sad, but it shows you how much negativity and indifference there is out there to people with disabilities.
Praying for you, God bless 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🌷🌹🌿🌷🌹🌿🌹🌷🌿
🎉 tiny spark of light in the dark tunnel. Now a bright shiny light cant see the tunnel anywhere. . Im thinking the good times were not that good anyway .🎉🎉
I was playing below my own standard so I can't cry 😭 I just have to think it never happened and educated my daughters . Know that when they get old they become dirty old men who people run from I am good ❤
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Sometimes healing is like a slow trickle... a very, very slow trickle, but sometimes it's like a tsunami and it leaves you reeling as your whole perspective on reality shifts. My own healing was very slow, if not stagnant for a long time, but 2023 has been my tsunami year. Wow! It's easy to think you'll never heal, but never give up. Those who seek truth will eventually find it. Gather good people to your side. - Joe
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At the time of discard, the marriage to my narcissistic spouse seemed to be the book of my life. I had hoped it would be. After a year, it seems more like a chapter. Hopefully, as I continue to work and deal with the episodes of narcissistic directed trauma, it will be a footnote. It does get better.
Yup..sure did..he told me he wanted to grow old with me….absolutely was not the case..he looked at me as someone who gave him status and a good income….honestly I wish it had worked but it is what it is. I have no drama anymore..That is just fine with me. My concern is for my son…who is now finding out what his father is really like..very sad. I grieve for my son not having a close relationship supportive relationship with his father. You are absolutely spot on.
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I share your sentiments
Before the discard the narc told me he is friends with all his past relationships exept for 1... well that makes 2 now because like the 1st one no longer around, I make up number 2. I sum up the 2 of us discovered he was a narcissist. I thank each day that passes I found him out... 😅 I am seeing that light at the end of the tunnel getting stronger, watching your videos has helped so much and I will persevere to get to see the beautiful view
Thank you Andrew 🎉
Amen Andrew ❤
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Truth, truth, truth.
Church bells at the end of your video. I love it
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We are all ever evolving, growing, and changing
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Thank you dear Andrew! I never understood how my husband changed so completely. The truth was I was being manipulated and did all for my partner out of love. It took 2 years of the dark night of the soul, to find you and understand! ❤️
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Rebirth. I really felt what you said! I’ts taken me a long time to overcome but it’s worth the pain as the 3rd side 😉 of life is much better than than the 1st. Stay strong always 💕
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because my old version is too weak.
For this reason, nothing is as it was.
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It takes some time. Keep doing what you're doing.👍🌞💕
Beautiful and Powerful wisdom. Impossible that things will stay the same if there's increments of abuse. Sooner or later ( hopefully sooner ) your mental storage of these abuses will pile high and overflow. The No.1 bit of info that snapped me into a reality was: "Things will not improve as you hope and Narcissists may up their game to make it even worse. Hoping every Empath's inner strength will increase beyond their wildest.💪🙏
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I ended the relationship with the narcissist a little more than a week ago. It hurts me so bad inside, I really didn't want to, but I felt that I needed to. There was so many lie's, I couldn't take it. I don't really want him back, but I want to stay in contact with him. I worry about his dad, he's in bad shape. I'm so thankful that I have my own place, my own money, no children together. So why is it so hard for me to walk away
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Sounds like you had to end the relationship to save yourself. When you love someone you can’t just turn off that tap of emotions. It will take time to recover and adjust. Look up trauma bonding. This will explain your conflicting feelings. No contact is best to heal as hard as that sounds. It’s good that you have no children together that would keep you attached. You’re starting a journey. There’s lots to learn. Sending best wishes. ❤
Love your laugh, btw!!! ❤🤭☺️😇☀️
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Thank you Andrew. 👏 This was a very powerful video. A few years ago I was walking through a wood with low branches and leaves overhead. It felt like a tunnel and I could see the small bit of sunny light at the end. I was feeling so bad (confusion, fear etc post Narc escape.) and likened this scene to ‘the light at the end of the tunnel’ ie things will get better eventually. As I walked the light increased in size around me until I was in sunlight. I’m years on from that time now and am in full daylight every day. 🌞 After your video I can visualise looking back down that green tunnel from the sunny end. I can see what a state I was in then, how dark everything was and how far I’ve come. Things do change and get better. ❤🌸 🌳
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Very encouraging and profound. Time will pass regardless of us taking any action at all. We must keep moving forward regardless of the fear and the pain. So glad to hear your amazing progress and your healing journey! Blessings. ♥
@@lourdesecheverria6209 Thank you. ❤🌸🌳
I never knew there were such people. Yes, I’m now enlightened! On my way to a great life in sunny So Cal.
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Off topic but I'm a car guy. They depreciate in value due to the fact that it isn't expensive to build a vehicle in the first place. That is why you see older cars go for crazy amounts, they had more human labor involved. Newer ones are on a line being mass produced in conjunction with machines. The true worth of new is a few thousand in parts, a few thousand in labor and astronomical profit when it rolls off the line.
Thank you for sharing 😉😉💯🙌
Love the light ✨ and tunnel analogy ❤. All true. We get to experience abundance now. So glad you remind this community of that on a regular basis. Nothing stays the same. That’s also a good reminder for those who are really exhausted and just coming out of the fire - you WILL get strong again!!! The process of being groomed to work and always please others can be a difficult thing to shed, but if we’re out of that, the truth is we are free. Love the different background!!! Bless you so much 🙏❤️
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Your streangth is brilliance!! ✨🔥🌼🙏😇🕊️🎶🌱🐾🐾💝
Chelsea, you brighten up the room. I'll take care of the music. I stuck an Oldie in mine. AIN'T NOTHIN GONNA BREAK MY STRIDE. 🎶🎼🎵🎶👍
@@mariageaney2362 😊❤️🙏 thank you. I feel that YOU have incredible strength honestly.
@@jannlewandowski5540 that’s awesome 👏 🎶 ❤️❤️❤️💪
The tree behind you is you, Andrew. Grounded, centered, and helping the park to look gorgeous!
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Andrew they get worse every day.I have so much work to done on myself ,the most horrible what happened to me is that constant fight about child ,using child in not good interests they just keep attacking .This creatures are masters of creating wars just to show themselfs as the best parent ,it effects my family,friends ,my health couse they just dont respect bounderies ,only for short period of time ,you need to forced them trough all sources to liesten.God bless you all in this channel
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Laura. As they age, they are MONSTERS 👹
@@jannlewandowski5540 i know i dont know what word could I use to describe that sick mind
I feel inspired THANK YOU 😊
Warrior tribe unite❤
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WolfWoman, you hang in there. It gets better. 💗🙏🫠😃
Love your positivity and perspective. It’s like I’m hearing from a dear friend every day, thank you for nourishing my soul Andrew.🥰
Amen!!! 👍
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Glad you're back Andrew 😊 have a great afternoon. ❤🙏
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Hi Marie France. How are you? I've been busy. Good to be back. 💕🌞🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneHi Andrew, sorry I'm late. I have been busy. I will ALWAYS be back..💕👍🙏
@@jannlewandowski5540 Hi Jann, just saw your message. I am working today but i take a little peek at my phone from time to time to see if i have messages from you and others on the channel. Lucky my boss can't see me, i work from home lol. Hope you are doing well my friend. Have a beautiful afternoon. 😚💖
Have a good day, Marie. - Joe 🌞
In combination with the previous video, 'They want to turn you into them', I do feel a piece of me, my light, my innocence (and gullibility), has been stolen, how much I don't know yet. I appreciate that I am becoming a new 'galvanised' version of me, but I don't really like the new me right now. I no longer trust, like a child and I no longer love to the heights that I did. Maybe this is just a transitory period and the new me still isn't the me that I will become, when the light at the tunnel eventually blocks all darkness out; when I no longer remember him and my light returns? 🐼🖤🐑
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Yes the Narcissist will never Change,,,we on the other hand are learning,.and moving forward,and evolving,.and becoming the best version of ourselves,.it's sheer joy to wake up and plan my day and choose ,what I want..to do,I'm so Greatful for Everything every day, NAMASTE, Andrew✨🦋🙏❤️🤍
❤we are not like we were before. We have survived, evolved drank the holy water of freedom.
The meadow is vast and waits to sweep us up in our dreams and visions restored.
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Hey Flower Power, they won't change, but we did..👍💪💕🌞
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And they are just so flipping tight with money - like “I’m “x “amount up” - he said that!
on drinks, cigarettes, shopping etc… they have a consumerist till in their head for sure. Vile tbh!
Thank you Andrew. I think we all reflect so much from your wisedom x
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Boy was this one ever helpful! I don't see the light yet, but I'm forcing myself to do the things I enjoy for the first time in three years. It's difficult, but I know it will pay off and I will see the beauty and abundance eventually.
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Devaluation stage Thank You Andrew
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I'm on the upside of the aftermath. The last few months your channel has really helped me. I'm in north Carolina. On the pamlico sound. If you would like to go sailing sometime I'm part of the sailing community here. It's not for everyone but for those it is, it's life changing. Take care
Good afternoon, Andrew! Good to see you’re well! You had us worried. ❤🤗☀️👑😇🌹 Haha I saw that bride ☺️👰♂️ beautiful!❤❤❤ Have a wonderful rest of the day!
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Jennifer, I'm late myself. Really busy. Was Andrew sick? I hope not..💕💪🙏
@@jannlewandowski5540 It’s okay, no worries! Happens to me all the time lately 😛😄 Andrew’s doing fine, he was just having internet connectivity problems. He’s back now, safe and sound 😁👍👍❤️😇
Looking back now I see so many red flags clearly that I had no clue were there back then. Every day that goes by and I’m reminded of something she said or did that now screams “run away”. How could I have been so blind to what was truly going on? I’m a smart and intuitive person, but her covert narcissism flew right under my radar.
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Hindsight, oh hindsight.
You’ve just described exactly how I feel. The triggers, could be just a word mentioned on TV, they used to give me a judder in my stomach. Years on now when I hear them i don’t have a physical reaction but almost laugh to myself and think -“remember when THAT happened….how bizarre, it was crazy. !?!”
We didn’t have the knowledge and wisdom then. I too wish I’d taken note of those red flags! Happy healing! 🌸
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Everything is in motion 🙌🏽
He was sitting on his money while I paid the bills.
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That was a powerful message 💯 I never thought or believed that I would be on my own I’ve questioned this many times when you get married I expected forever. Nothing has stayed the same as I’m forever changed learning so many different things picking up my creative skills once again and so many new things I would never have done in the marriage as you are so busy taking care of them you forget about yourself.🙏💕
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One day, you’ll be happily single and won’t think about that dreadful time but you will always care for others / discerningly.
Stay warm in heart and connected 💕
@@user-ou3sd2vp3u thank you I’m a veteran here extremely happy being single I have done a lot of work on myself heart is open to love again didn’t think I would that’s why I’m forever changed doing what brings me happiness 🙏
We all are living in our own past
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone have a bite 🍎 our past cause and effects
Many make the mistake of thinking everything is going to be fine. I’m one of those who give chance after chance til I had enough. I’ve learned my lesson. I’m on my own and will stay that way. Freedom is good.
It is always the beginning of the end when one does not want to grow spiritually and the other takes off with growth. It is doomed!
“Life isn’t fair” and “nothing stays the same” and “you can’t
Dip your toe in the same stream twice” - these are truths that are hard to swallow for those of us who cherish people, place, and commitment, but so important to accept.
Look forward...life has much to offer...even when it feels like there are only ashes take heart ... if you allow it, new acquaintances and others will gather to warm themselves in the glow.
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Age isn’t just a number. The Narc used this as a get out to the toxic behaviour. Thought it made everything alright …
@dubliner1303, yea he probably said he was a certain age ,.he seen it on a door, and decided to play the part of (victim)..😂❤❤❤🇨🇮
The only thing that stays the same with the narcissist is how they use and abuse you any which way they can. Don't tolerate being abused. You are worthy of Love and Happiness. 💕🌻
You had a life before them and you will have a better life once they are out of your life.
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Me ex's mantra was " I don't like arguing " and yet, he treated me like dirt, worse than anybody ever has. It's ludicrous almost laughable that this was his phrase. Such garbage. And, like you said, he watched my (mental, physical and emotional) health detoriate, watched me consistently fall to pieces in front of his dead eyes. Then ranted at me for being a disappointment, not doing things he wanted me to. When he'd done nothing but destroy my confidence then get furious when I had none. He systematically reduced my place/position and reduced and shrunk the " goalpost" over 7 years. He definitely knew from the beginning that no matter what I did for him or how I tried to "prove myself worthy" I wasn't gonna be good enough for him and it's inexcusable how they finally throw you aside when you're broken. Then they stroll off without a single bother, absolutely sails away, smoothly into a new life and you suddenly don't exist. it's unreal.
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There are no coincidences. Beautiful church bells and a blessed wedding taking place while you are teaching us! This clearly is a “God wink”! New beginnings are coming are way! This is the day the Lord has made; let us be glad in it! Thanks again Andrew for your reminders that we can start over and that speck of light will help us and guide us and shine brighter each moment! All we have to do is trust it!🙏
Exactly.....a definite God Wink!
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Thank you Andrew for all you do
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Hey community 🖐🏾 Blessings 💯 I thank you and appreciate this message Andrew. Things are always subject to change. It's just a part of life ❤️✌🏽🙏🏽
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Great video Andrew. Yes in my narcissistic relationship as soon as I said I love you and that it was ok to move in with me. It took him about a month to start changing. He started just ignoring me I couldn't say anything because I was crowding him he would say. Then it was him going into the other room and if I came into the room he would go off on me telling me that he wanted to be alone and why am I always bothering him. It was my apartment he paid nothing. He changed big time, but in the end so did I and I never want anything to do with him ever again. I deserve better. Thank you for the video Andrew and thank you everyone for your kind words.
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When I said "I love you" that's was the end.🙏
sounds familiar...my narc moved in my space too...taker and faker...then proceeded to take over my art studio basement...and basically retreat and teat me with distain....luckily kicked him out and have reclaimed my studio...they are so toxic and entitled....I changed too...which thank god he is gone...
Things do not stay the same, which can be massively frightening for many people. However, the narcissistic relationship is based on chaos and stress. It is unhealthy in many different ways. Change in this instance is the only way to survive, and that can only be a good thing
Each little positive change you make is another link on the chain that will carry you to peace and freedom, and that feels so good. I never thought i would get there, then one day it all is there for you. Be stoic, remain calm, and just know it is coming.
Much love all 😊
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Starting to realize the many years I was under attack by narcs. Childhood so called friends, college users, narcs in the workplace, two narc marriages, narcs in religious fellowships, Holy Cow! They are everywhere, but things are changing now that I have the wisdom! And that’s good very good! Thank you Andrew have a great day!
Change in life is inevitable. No one or nothing stays the same. Some changes are good and some are not. Especially if you have experienced toxic and narcissistic abuse. Healing is not a 100% easy process, but when you finally find yourself near the finish line, you become galvanized against the prospect of ever succumbing to any toxic or narcissistic abusive relationship. Thank God for channels of education and support like Andrew has created. 🙏✌️❤🤓😎
You said it perfectly, Mary. Hope you are well. Stay strong! - Joe
@artluvr6170 Thank you, Joe. I am getting a little stronger each day. I'm like ye old Missouri mule. I might bulk sometimes, but I don't quit, even though I want to sometimes. I hope you are well also. Good night, friend. God bless. 😊
Please listen to Andrew! I'm 7 months out. My favorite hobbies are slowly coming back. Process, and heal it gets better. Great video.
You are one beautiful human being!
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Andrew you are a beaming lighthouse to us all who have been and are in these destructive relationships. Thankyou, Thankyou, Thankyou, for your words of wisdom , I almost fell for the trap again … how vulnerable can I be.🙁
Wow.Amazing.Forward.🌻
I want to fall in love in life again...dont need a future faking magician with false powers. But..do mistakes on the way since I love my farher the narc more then me. I need my powers back so Im grateful for your education but still hard to not follow your hart ! Im beatiful inside out and I have worked hard to correct my flaws which come when you get confused and misabused psychologically. Im old now and realize to take action now not a day later. ❤️🌸❤️
Thank you Andrew for your channel. I did start painting again. I also moved last week, away from the loneliest place on earth where I went through the dark night of the soul. I survived it with your help and people that truly cared for me. I also started praying again and God gets a big thank you for holding me up when I felt so weak. Newbies, you will survive this and be strong again..and you will smile as well ! ❤
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I was able to cry this morning. There has only been the odd tear until today. Around a narcissist, emotions must be damned up and stored away. They cannot be allowed to see how they hurt you. But it all gets tangled up in there, making feelings into a horrible mess. It was time that some of that grief came out.
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I am also a victim of this... that person destroyed my life. It's indescribable how much I have lost and the pain I went through and I am still dealing with the ugly consequences. Btw, every time I watch your videos I am thinking what a handsome guy you are. I've noticed several of my very good looking friends were victims of a narcissist. I think narcissists look for sensitive, hard working and good looking humans. They usually only care about sex, money and partying.
The damage of isolation, feeling I was not worth doing anything with did so much damage. I’m seven months out, I see so clearly. Five people have told me
I look like a different person. This look is also showing people what I was living with,I really don’t have to say anything. Therapy, healing,surrender,I have been released. I was a joyous free bird 24 yrs ago. May be 72 yo but I’m coming back. Truth optimistic..
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You are right Andrew. Thank you. God bless you❤
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" Temple bell 's"
The calling of the temple bell 's
Ringing from up on heigh
A top the sacred mountain
At the holy spirit hour of dusk.
Ringing down from the heart of the heavens
Connecting us to the light code vibrations; to the soul of our centred oneness.
To bathe in the universal ocean of trust.
The temple bell's are calling for us to pray, for us to contemplate.
They sing to us with depth and timing
Their vibration brings us to a circle of silence
A centred circle of " omming " silence deeply felt inside our temple of light.
Within the chiming of these bells our journey into the depth of contemplation begins once again.
Allowing us to deeply focus; to deeply journey into the unfettered realms
Of undiscovered levels of our subconscious.
To re-connect to the loving oneness all around.
To explore the love via every detail of the spirit touch.
To feel the love, to find the love that resides within such deep collective connection to the godly emanations that scatter love like fairy dust; that scatter within the detailed
Reverberations of the sacred bell sound.
Sounds within sounds are discovered inside the offering of the bells scented song.
We unveil, we unveil these reams of dreams within the sound of centred silence.
We are at one with these mountain bells
Their percussion rings throughout our core re-stringing and re-storing the chords of our core net work luminous fibres light being.....stardust!
Breathing in Harmony; harmony is the flow of the chi gliding in circular motion.
The sounding of the Bell's is soulful silence
A silence that blossoms; nourishing the golden earth of the soul.
Encouraging all positive possibilities; that invites spiritual growth to give birth to its goal!
Holy centred silence is nectar from the gods
To re-code our light temple!
No other sounds exist outside of this soul to bell union.
All is focused upon the vibration of the ringing bell.
Distractions are non-existant and unwelcome.
All is oneness, in love with the source essence this deeply reflective connection essential to clear the clutter from one's temple garden
Rise once more
Your golden soul, spirit and temple
.....restored !
May you go about your humble day with the infinite sight of the eagle and soar.
Until again and once more the bells upon the sacred mountain sound and birds sing within their chimes that calls you back to cleanse, re-charge and reflect....once more!
© Maria geaney 🦊🔥🙏
26th February 2023
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This feels healing 😌
I melt right into your writings.
Bless you 🙏🦋💞💖
@@gratefultobehere thank you my beautiful sister of light. I am honoured to serve you on this path of healing and spiritual truth and depth, love and light.
Just this now, wrote a new one.
Yipppeeeeeeeeeeeee 😃😸🥳
🙏😇🫂🥰Blessed day of inspiration melting into your sacred soul.🐬🌼💙💜💝
@@mariageaney2362 you’re a healer. That’s what I feel. 💖🤗❤️
@@gratefultobehere the healer in me bows to the healer in you.🎶🙏🎶🫂🐬🌱✨🦋🌹
one of the most valuable lessons I've learned on the healing path is trusting myself and to follow my heart. I'm still in the fire, fighting everyday. It's a gift. All of us bring something different to the channel, something beautiful. 💙💙💙
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Saw him yesterday at the store, and wasn't affected at all. I Just smiled, the pain from the relationship is gone. He scowled when he saw me smiling I know now he truly hated me and didn't want me happy. Super strong now, ty Andrew.
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Thank you again! 🙏
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😇GVB. ❤What a difference a day makes!!❤
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Thanks for the awesome video, Andrew! Spot on, as usual. One phenomenon I've picked up on is learning through the narc's actions and adapting based on their actions, then they're totally puzzled that I'm vehemently rejecting everything they're actually trying to teach me. They seem to believe I'm only learning when they're trying to show me something. It's comical, really. I've noticed the ones who do that the most are the ones who always question, "Who told you that?"
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This whole video is spot on.. why do we have to depreciate with age? In the eyes of the narc I feel I am depreciating even though he’s 16 ish years older than me .. and every day is not the same.. I like those words.. I live each day with one foot out the door now since the beginning of this year because I never know .. a discard could occur anytime.. I never used to think like that but now I do .. at the same time, I’m trying to downsize as much as possible my materialistic items.. in preparation .. 2023 has been a real eye opening year for me.. thank you Andrew.
Keep going, you have got this. Enjoy visualising the meadows in reach....in time they will be yours as you leave him at top speed flailing in his own dust!!
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@@mariageaney2362 this means a lot to me thank you Maria and wishing you a peaceful day there ❤️🙏💪🌹
It's so true that nothing stays the same,thats why we must heal and enjoy every present 🎁 moment.
When my ex discarded me he actually said these exactt words "im going to have a great life and your not i wouldn't want to be you " and guess what, he's doing really bad,he told me he got a nervous brakedown, he gained a bunch of weight and he got fierd from his job,he's presently living at his parents. The worst part is,im not laughing and enjoying it,how was he able to do that to me when i was so kind to him.
Thankyou Andrew❤️🩹✌️🌞🙏
Good afternoon Andrew and everyone! Today I am grateful that I am alive and AWARE! I asked myself, WHY DID HE PICK ME? The narcissist looks for PREY..He even had the nerve to tell me a couple of times I DON'T LIKE BLONDES. I LOVE DARK HAIR...Well, I'm sorry buddy,I'm not going to dye my hair dark. That silenced him. He married a woman with dark hair and brown eyes. A very RICH woman
Hah! She probably dumped him by now. I'm fine, and WE WILL ALL BE FINE! YOU ARE ALL GREAT PEOPLE.
THANK YOU, ANDREW..❤❤
BTW, I'm back to my happy go lucky me! Ain't nothin gonna break my stride!🎶🎵🎶👍
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneHope you're OK! 🩵
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@@gratefultobehere Heeyy, good to see you. I came late. 🌞💕
@@jannlewandowski5540 good to see you too. I hope you’re doing great today 😊
Wishing you a wonderful afternoon. Maybe evening for you now. 💞💖🤗
Awoke vs. narcissism asleep. Its like a permanent, effective, safe vaccination. I hope everyone speeds to the yee haa moment. Imo its ok to review, reflect but definitely get to the yee haa !
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Yee haa! 🤩
@@Starlight-c19Absolutely yee haa yah ! Free to be me (us) !
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High five bro.....👍👍👍👍👍
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When I was just starting my career I had lunch with an older man who was at the end of his career. I asked him, if he could give me 1 piece of advice, what would it b?" He said, if u can cope with change, u can cope with anything life throws at you". I didn't know the gravity of that advice until I got much older. Andrew is spot on. U will move, change jobs, friends will come & go, the same for spouses, ill see ur children grow up & start lives of their own, u will suffer loss, etc... everything has a season but if u grow through those seasons n life, process these things, learn & heal on that journey u life will b rewarding. It's when u don't take the time to put things n perspective, waste a lesson, ignore ur emotions & everything builds up, u find there is alot of work that needs 2NBA done on the inside additional u take all the unhealed areas into ur future. Dont shortchange ur future. Live n the present, teach those who r unaware r need a helping hand while on a particular path. There is strength n numbers & good advice can help others avoid some mistakes.
Awesome Andrew...exactly the message I needed...a year ago Narc had separated me from my family and tried to isolate me from all things I love.....a year later...a ay at the water park loving my grandkids...having fun..still on the marathon of healing as I kicked him out in March...but I am following the wisdom to healing and freedom...thank you Andrew Namaste
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*Everything* changes on this planet. There is only one thing that doesn't 🙏 Falling in love with the beauty of change and the lessons that come with that is the path...
And I agree about depreciation, here in the UK I've been looking to get a newer car and have realised that it's their charge for sales, circa £5k here at the moment for a 2/3 year old standard car from a main dealer, but they are in such short supply people are happy to lose that amount instantly, just to get a newer car, it's crazy.
Great video Andrew. Thinking it might be a good idea to have someone as backup to post for you in case of any future internet issues, if you don't have someone already 🙏
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Andrew, I am glad to see you living your best life. I found this channel after I had already gone on with my life and put the narcissist in the past, but having this information would certainly have made the process easier and faster. I could tell some stories. I occasionally fall into the trap of feeling stupid for not recognizing it all sooner, so I have to tell myself that at least I finally did.
The new car after leaving the lot is USED. Only antiques and gold and other precious things gain in value. Gold once handled becomes tarnished and needs to be polished to shine again, with brilliance. And here we are, watching this video.
yay hi andrew 😁❤️
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Thank you Andrew ❤
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Thanks for the information, Andrew 👍
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Andrew yes!!!! A blip on the radar. So thankful for you, I have come a long way
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We did have some good times, that confused me when I was learning about narcissism. I thot maybe he isn’t, but the good times we’re way fewer than the abusive times.
A simple ‘NO’ or not being totally submissive or in agreement with his every thot was all it took to bring out the devil in him.
And I do believe they are possessed.
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The only thing that stays the same is the narcissist. Demon stuck in time (or non-time). It is the WEIRDEST phenomenon!!
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Thank you for this video, your channel is so uplifting encouraging and educational, true we all have flaws and all issues day by day navigations, and I actually don't blame anyone for my situation, it's something that happened to me and I feel it was part of for me to finally get to go in my 3d version, I'm doing all the work nessasary to deal with all that iam, and letting go of old belief systems is one of them to, yes life evolves, none of us is living in the olden days, nice to have the memories thereof but that's where it should stay, moving forward with more positive attributes from learning the dynamics of narcist, toxic individuals and even those individuals that live and breath from making you feel responsible for their down falls or problems, we are all individual, how we choose to be to others sets us apart from those who want to destroy us, iam grateful thankful and wiser In the knowledge of narcist and toxic individuals, taking it slow moving forward and cleaning out my issues within me at the same time and putting boundaries to those that know where to poke holes in me, thank you so much keep up your fabulous channel
I am starting to feel really good every morning. I do not ruminate as much about them any more, thank God.
I am gentle and patient with myself. Every day is a gift. Every day gets better as my silence toward them grows.
shahadah1451, it happens with all of us, but it gets better. TIME heals.❤ 👍🫠
Encouraging.... thanks for the share!
Blessings 🎀😘
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I'm wondering about my health issues... I thought it was from my past habits.. but it seems it is from my present... I have gone to no care about my body and interests have also changed into this since it is so exciting to understand how people's work... I feel tired.
I am drawing again. ❣️
Hi Andrew, I love listening to your videos. I have come such a long way and it is true - everything changes. The only thing that worries me is that I feel like a part of me has died. I have no desire to date or even be physically intimate with anyone else. It's like I have no interest in others. It's been a year since I went no contact and I'm wondering if my potential asexuality is here to stay for good?
I would like to meet someone but no one comes close to what I want, to what I believed him to be .
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I feel like aloneness and having no sex is a very healthy on our healing journey. I'm newly discarded by my husband of 12 years. Although I'm sad,I'm taking this time to connect more with Creator and heal me! At this time,I want nothing to do with anyone and I'm going to be ok with that. I wish you wellness ❤
@@ladyvirgo013 Hi LadyVirgo, thank you for sharing your story. It is similar to mine in that I have become a lot more spiritual as well and I wonder about the Maker and where I fit in life. I'm grateful for the journey and opportunity to grow. Wish you the best on your journey ✨
It is normal to have no desire after all abuse who wants that ,i am saying even sexual abuse
I am the same. No desire for intimacy at all. Probably never will be able to ever again.
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Every time I discover something more. Great channel. It is great to study about these individuals in order to save ourselves.
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Amazing to see the true colors of these individuals. Incredible to see the evilness of a person, how they can intentionally hurt you specially emotionally. I wonder how this individual goes to bed every night. Also keeping an affair and keeping up with their lies. So glad I can finally see the true version of such a sad human being.
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Yes absolutely, exactly the same here 🥲👍
Good afternoon brother 🙏🏼👊🏻
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I’ve been listening to you for over a year now -I’m learning all the time but I just realized that if my eyes are filling up with tears then I have a lot more introspecting (introspection?) to do .. I have more work to do . I desperately want to get where you are & where I hear a lot of people are , by their comments. I guess I haven’t fully processed everything. I’ll get there. I know I will. Thank you for this video and caring about us all. You’re very appreciated.
Thank G-D that i did not go through any of this
Sorry all of you that experienced this
May your nex relationship be a beautifull loving one
Blessings to all of you
May G-D be with you and give you strength and endurance
Thank you Dear Andrew
Love to the pooches
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What if a narcissist attacks your friends (including disabled women slashing their tires etc.) and slightly has the police in their pocket?
And the narcissist is wealthy with seemingly unlimited funds used for hiring surveillance and harassing persons (duped actors) with two attempted murders and multiple collateral deaths and hurt people who were pawns. The narcissist operates like a gangster. The narcissist smeared the persons reputation in their home town. The person moved to find relief and the narcissist moved their operation after the person. This is stunted empathy in action conducted by a deranged person who has no hope of recovery. The ball of abuse started rolling after is was pointed out to the narcissist that the narcissist was stating something incorrectly.
Andrew, just go to the parks john again 😂!!!!!
Thanks Andrew. 🙏🏻 Namaste.
Namaste 🙏😌🙌