How to be successful with ADHD or extreme lack of motivation.

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  • Опубликовано: 22 авг 2022
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  • @vondrabejot9851
    @vondrabejot9851 Год назад +330

    Your "5 minutes matter" has been a life changer for me. I taught it to my son over a year ago. He owns a comic store and has suffered more so than I have. I walked into his store recently. I couldn't believe it was the same place. He thanked me over and over. His business had tripled over the last year. So thank you Cass. "5 minutes does matter!"

    • @kbailey3238
      @kbailey3238 Год назад +34

      He's not even my son and I'm so proud of him 🥰.
      I have two boys, one with ADHD and all these tips are so helpful.

    • @natalyarredondomorfin4893
      @natalyarredondomorfin4893 Год назад +24

      Adhd here too
      I do something similar but I calculate time with number of songs passes … it helps tidy up multiple rooms in just one song?! It always amazes me. 😅
      I do the same with impulse buying… I calculated our family hour wage and then calculate price in hours. It helps decide if something is REALLY worth our time?
      Hope those make sense… life changers for me. 😉

    • @quotidian5077
      @quotidian5077 Год назад +2

      How cool!

    • @anaacebey5900
      @anaacebey5900 Год назад +5

      Thanks for sharing your experience about the 5 minutes matter. I will give it a try. Congratulations to you and your son!!🎉

    • @aloha_element
      @aloha_element Год назад +6

      This story brought a smile to my face and my heart. 💚✨ So, so awesome! 5 minutes does matter. Congrats to your son on the increased success of his comics store!👏🏻

  • @yvonnes7412
    @yvonnes7412 Год назад +2

    “If I gotta open a lid to find something, I probably won’t do it” …. So relatable 😂😂😂

  • @Pinktoolbox
    @Pinktoolbox Год назад +223

    I am being evaluated for ADHD at 37. I feel like this video was made for me. With 4 kids I need to have routines and 400 planners and lists to keep things under control. But the problem is that I forget my lists and forget to check my planners 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @sohappytogether88
      @sohappytogether88 Год назад +14

      Hahahaha totally relate, I do the same, 38 and 6 kids though

    • @Sarah.719
      @Sarah.719 Год назад +9

      38, homeschooler of five kids. Also me 🥴

    • @sohappytogether88
      @sohappytogether88 Год назад +8

      @@Sarah.719 I homeschool too 😁

    • @traczebabe
      @traczebabe Год назад +15

      Set an alarm. I set 6 or more alarms a day. I would set a timer but I forget what I set it for.

    • @Pinktoolbox
      @Pinktoolbox Год назад +5

      @@traczebabe me too 😂

  • @anglsprks7
    @anglsprks7 Год назад +114

    You spoke to my soul today. I procrastinate like it's my JOB...I've found that if I "brain dump" into a notebook, I FEEL so much better. I'm able to look at that list and check things off, even if I still try to accomplish the simpler tasks first. Thank you for all of the tips!

    • @cynthiaschofield715
      @cynthiaschofield715 Год назад +4

      I tend to brain dump on a post-it, then misplace it. I have taken an outdated hourly calendar and am using the time slots as spaces for lists. All my to-dos are in one place so I can check them off and not worry where I have left the post-it! Helps me out a lot and reduces guilt by repurposing an item.

  • @AnneWilkynson
    @AnneWilkynson Год назад +20

    I got diagnosed at 61.. yes 61 years old.. it explained my entire life! Bitter sweet, all the things I could have done, could have been! Sweet because now I can finally understand it wasn't my fault, I can finally try to start shedding some of the shame.
    SHOPPING:
    thrift stores are it! I can take very little money and buy all the cute little knick knacks I want with no shame, books, shower curtains, all the things that I used to buy at retail stores, now for very little money! Fun outing, lots 'o fun stuff, NO SHAME, WHOOT! ☮💜🕉

    • @mookbonganon
      @mookbonganon Год назад +1

      This comment made me cry. I'm 37 and I have an appointment with a psychiatrist tomorrow morning. I have so much hope for a diagnosis and that things can get better. I'm so overwhelmed 😪

  • @mothbythesea
    @mothbythesea Год назад +20

    5:20.... I always think about how excited I get when the power goes out (happens a lot where I live in the forest) because everything is off, and I go straight to lightening candles, reading, making things, art, more hiking. I look forward to it happening. But adhd definitely doesn't allow me to just switch off or walk away

  • @miahovinga7158
    @miahovinga7158 Год назад +28

    "I'm bored making this video right now!" 🤣🤣 Thanks for sharing Cas! Def gonna share this with my hubby. He's got ADHD & is ALWAYS losing/forgetting things🤦‍♀️

  • @strll3048
    @strll3048 Год назад +57

    Thank you Cass... I cannot begin to express how much I appreciate you, and how many times you have helped me. Housework comes with brutal chronic trauma attached for me. So when I cannot do anything, frozen with stored up sorrow, I turn to you. Please keep on being your precious self, and continue with your invaluable mission.

  • @suzy1676
    @suzy1676 Год назад +63

    Best list of ADHD pros/cons here. Your tips are great. I'm grateful for the positives. 😁💕 As a kid, I didn't really need my Mom's help with homework. I just needed her to sit next to me to keep me on task. As a teen & college goer, I couldn't study until tidying up the distracting clutter in my room. I earned a Master's degree in the field of educational disabilities because I had a ❤ to help but also because I could understand the struggle. When my son was diagnosed, I had to face my own issues. I grieved my childhood & young adulthood but started medication and it was life changing! Few people give the actual comprehensive list of the functional problems much less a positive spin and practical tips. You are proof that ADHD doesn't have to hold you back and that proper accommodations can make ALL the difference. Thank you for sharing and for your transparency. You have truly help so many in this community. 😊💕

    • @SnowySpiritRuby
      @SnowySpiritRuby Год назад +2

      I highly recommend checking out HowToADHD as well.

  • @Darnabymom
    @Darnabymom Год назад +9

    ANOTHER TIP: Similar to the 5 min matters: I tell/trick myself to pick up and put away “x” number of items when I am near one of my hot spots. It is usually at least 10 items, but never more than 25. That takes too much thought and I might as well just decide to clear the whole area. I try and start with the biggest items first to see the biggest progress. Sometimes I finish it up in that session and sometimes I just make a good dent before the next time I pass it by.

  • @alexb2785
    @alexb2785 Год назад +2

    5 minutes matter is the best ADHD tip (especially for adults)... I've heard the "5 minute" tip before, but forgot. I watched your video this afternoon and legit turned 5 minutes into 4 hours. I was diagnosed w/ ADHD as a child and then again at 21 (I finally started taking stims that time around bc I couldn't control it on my own). I think the most powerful piece is when we ADHDers see progress. It's sooooo motivating that you decide to keep going even if you're tired. Thank you for this video!

  • @smboehland
    @smboehland Год назад +28

    Adding things to a "wish list" helps me with impulse control, even in the store, if I see something I want or don't want to forget, I'll scan the barcode and add the item to my Amazon wish list, and then I'm not buying as many items on impulse.

    • @eclowe6594
      @eclowe6594 Год назад +3

      me too! I have learned that this is only really the case when I'm medicated. and that has only been the case for about a year (I was only formally diagnosed about a year ago and only been a really good fit for the exact med about 3 months). if I forget my meds I don't have the impulse control unless I have a LOT of barriers in place.
      but I was so shocked with myself the other day. I went into Walmart and almost everything that I didn't intend to get but thought about putting in my cart I was able to say "no I'll scan it in the Walmart app and add it to my list" and the few things I did end up getting that I hadn't intended on getting were things that had been on my list for a while that I decided this would be a good time to get them because they're actually useful to something I'm doing right now. I left that store with my mind blown.
      and then I did it again the next day at staples. I wanted to stop on my way home from work to try out their office chairs because that's something I cannot order without actually knowing how they feel. of course the office chairs are all the way in the back of the store. And I walked down almost every aisle on the way to them--because bright colors and shiny things-- and the only thing I left with was some sharpie Clearview markers and while those haven't been on my list they still fix a problem I've been having which is highlighting in my planner for emphasis and accidentally going too far.
      other than that I walked out of staples with pictures of the different chairs I wanna think on and some things added to my Amazon wishlist that were cheaper on Amazon anyway. I literally got back to the car and looked at the highlighters and took in that that's all I actually ended up getting and literally said out loud "who ARE you?" 😂 it's pretty awesome.

    • @Amoechick
      @Amoechick Год назад +3

      My phone is overflowing with pictures I’ve taken of things instead of buying them… it’s stunning how helpful this is??

  • @janessakietzer9297
    @janessakietzer9297 Год назад +4

    Thanks for making this video about me.
    I can’t wait to have my husband watch this and finally realize I’m not the ONLY one like this! 😂

  • @un4sakngrl
    @un4sakngrl Год назад +11

    “To remind me to remember the thing I don’t want to forget” 😂 this is so me! I appreciate you speaking about the positives, it’s way too easy to constantly think about the things that we’re bad at.

  • @roselewis24
    @roselewis24 Год назад +42

    One of my kids has just been diagnosed ADHD and we were looking for tips to help him focus. It's so true about staying positive, he gets upset and two seconds later like it never happened. Great vid as always Cass.

    • @wewemcrhyne
      @wewemcrhyne Год назад +8

      RUclips channel “How to ADHD” has helped me so much. She’s great!!

    • @roselewis24
      @roselewis24 Год назад +1

      @@wewemcrhyne definitely, I've been watching her videos too.

    • @weeepsalotts723
      @weeepsalotts723 Год назад

      Olivia lutfallah is a channel i found yesterday, who also does some great adhd videos. They are short skit styles (probably from twitter) but they are really accurate.

  • @seanaames6855
    @seanaames6855 Год назад +45

    As someone, who suspects she has been ADHD, all of her life and recently sustained a Brain Injury, I want to say you, I needed to be reminded these tips and tricks. Thanks so much for putting yourself out there for all of us!

    • @Alice_SB
      @Alice_SB Год назад +1

      ¡Dios bendice tu salud pura y perfecta!
      ¡Qué te mejores!

    • @coolmammavaterlaus360
      @coolmammavaterlaus360 Год назад +1

      Brain injuries are just difficult. I'm part of several Facebook support groups for TBI/Post Concussion Syndrome/Brain Injury folks. HIGHLY recommend.

  • @lynnej.9357
    @lynnej.9357 Год назад +1

    I was at a festival on the weekend. Parked at the end of a row, where LOTS of people would walk past my vehicle. Forgot to lock it. My computer and my camera were in there. The next day, I carefully locked it but then almost walked away from it leaving the driver's window wide open.. Thank you for talking about medication. (I stopped mine when I retired.. Might have been better off to drop to a lower dose, though, because this lack of structure is NOT the best thing for me...!). So many people are afraid of the medication. But you can try it and if you don't like it, you can stop! My doctor encouraged me to take strategic vacations from it. And he was willing to fine tune the dosage, which I really appreciated.

  • @meagancooper992
    @meagancooper992 Год назад +15

    Yes!!! I was a late diagnosed ADHD. It is very hard but it can be a positive thing.
    My ADHD is the reason I started another business and created a planner. A planner that can be organized easily for ADHD’ers

    • @alejandrapoch9338
      @alejandrapoch9338 Год назад +2

      Hi Meagan, is it possible for you to share your planner with us?

  • @Muinteoir78
    @Muinteoir78 Год назад +33

    You have done so much for the positive PR of AD/HD. You're an ambassador for normalising. Thank you.

  • @marywiggins7411
    @marywiggins7411 Год назад +2

    Ugh! I struggle so much and I am 67. This literally made me sob!

  • @anaiyasgarden
    @anaiyasgarden Год назад +8

    ………. Suddenly at 38 years old I’m realizing that I may have ADHD. You just described my entire life. I thought everyone lived like this. 😮

    • @MBXGill
      @MBXGill Год назад

      It’s a thing girl. I’m the same age. I get it. ❤

  • @isabellabihy8631
    @isabellabihy8631 Год назад +7

    Being diagnosed with ADHD in my mid-fifties I struggled all my life. You were describing me, I've never met you in person, except on YT. In addition I also have Asperger's. My biggest problem is time estimation. I tend to over-estimate, then motivation goes down the drain. On the other hand, I'm intimidated of electronic devices dictating my life. I had that stuff during my professional life, now I'm retired.
    Overwhelm, overwhelm! I love making calendars, bullet journals, notebooks. Do I use them? N.O.P.E. When I'm crafting I'm in the zone, I forget everything around me. But when I'm doing chores in my household, thoughts of more things to be done tumble through my mind. Distractions and procrastination peek around each and every corner.
    Cass, as always, excellent video.

  • @toadfingers
    @toadfingers Год назад +2

    Wow our adhd sounds sooooo similar. I’ve watched two of your videos so far and you’ve already addressed so many of the things I struggle with the most. This is also a great video to share with NTs that don’t understand why we struggle so bad with cleaning/organization/life in general 😅

  • @bethlove1077
    @bethlove1077 Год назад +6

    I love you just being authentically “you”! You’re fun, funny and inspiring!

  • @madebysabrinanl7091
    @madebysabrinanl7091 Год назад +44

    Love this ❤️ I got diagnosed with ADHD when I was 39. Medication changed my live completely in the best way I could have ever imagined. Thanks to your videos and my hyperfocus I decluttered my entire house this summer. So I'm certainly going to try out your lists😉😊 thank you so much!😘

    • @lotuslisa
      @lotuslisa Год назад +1

      Great tips! Also, this color looks AMAZING on you! 🥰🥰🤩

    • @wordgirl6267
      @wordgirl6267 Год назад

      @Made by Sabrina NL just wondering, but which medication worked for you ? I'm going to my doctor appointment soon and really would love to know the name so I can discuss with the doctor .thanks

    • @madebysabrinanl7091
      @madebysabrinanl7091 Год назад

      @@wordgirl6267 I'm from the Netherlands and I take Methylphenidate retard, 54 milligrams a day. This works for about 6-8 hours on me, so I only have to remember to take one dosage and that's perfect for me! I suppose in America/Canada Methylphenidate is more known as Ritalin?

    • @sarahsmom1002
      @sarahsmom1002 Год назад

      My young adult son stopped meds after finishing school. Now that he's been working for a while, though, he decided to try them again. He just told me today that it's much easier to get up & get going in the morning (which has been a real struggle) & to focus on things at work & in general, especially when they're not the enjoyable things he wants to do like gaming or watching movies or going to the boxing gym.

    • @noahmeme2
      @noahmeme2 Год назад

      I stopped medicine when I became an adult. It gives me social anxiety. It made me feel jittery. But I also struggle to function without it.

  • @dianeo
    @dianeo Год назад +16

    Thanks for focusing on ADHD and how to establish workarounds in order to accomplish goals. I struggle daily with this and can relate to many of the difficulties, especially the procrastination habit. Thanks also for the free workbook! How awesome!

  • @anitas5817
    @anitas5817 Год назад +1

    “Procrastinate like it’s your life’s mission.” Yup, it’s so true.

  • @raedoesit7585
    @raedoesit7585 Год назад +11

    My life has just changed watching this .. I’ve always set the timer to clean but have never timed my self to see how long it actually took to complete a single task 😱🤗 many thanks !
    I could not relate more to your stories before I was medicated people would say my life. Is like a real
    Life cartoon. Now as you said
    “things are BORING up in here! “

  • @ChrisEastwoodComedy
    @ChrisEastwoodComedy 26 дней назад

    Anytime I watch one of these videos on ADHD I always think “Oh my gosh, that’s me!” I love your upbeat and fun attitude, and the way you’re able to laugh at some of the insane ways we use to get through life. When you said “The whole world saw my cooch,” I totally lost it! 😂

  • @carriecarrie5285
    @carriecarrie5285 Год назад +1

    I wish I had your enthusiasm for ADHD. lol I don’t have a creative bone in my body. I’m good at research and numbers but also easily bored by that work. I am finally at a point in my 24 year career that I’m decided to switch to another job that is ADHD friendlier. I’m submitting applications and God willing, I will get the opportunity to do something that doesn’t eat up my daily energy in the first few hours! I do love your upbeat videos and I downloaded your guide. Thank you so much; you are really an inspiration!

  • @kristina881
    @kristina881 Год назад +1

    THANK YOU for calling ADHD hyperfocus a super power! I was diagnosed at 28 with severe ADHD that went unnoticed for so long due to high academic performance despite my struggles. My daughter has it too and I tell her all the time that if you can control and focus that energy it’s exactly like a super power.

  • @carjen121
    @carjen121 Год назад +1

    My daughter was diagnosed with adhd when she was 6 years old. Now she’s 10 and has a hard time with every thing that was said on your video. I will definitely encourage my daughter to see this video. Thank you so much, god bless you💕🙏🏼

  • @angelataylor3805
    @angelataylor3805 Год назад +1

    I was just diagnosed with ADHD. Watching your clip made me realize that I am not alone! For the longest time I thought I was aging too quickly not being able to focus or remember things! Thank you for making me understand that I am not alone! Thank you !

  • @lifelovejourney
    @lifelovejourney Год назад +1

    Closed captions on tv shows and movies have really helped me know characters and not miss major plot points. I guess it helps me focus more too by providing more stimulation. I found I like audio books too. Sometimes I read the book AND listen to the audio book (not at the same time). You’re awesome - and I look up to you. Thx

  • @whitneydickinson3526
    @whitneydickinson3526 Год назад +1

    This video is everything! I was diagnosed at 45 (12 years ago). YES - systems to support the negative effects. AND HELL YES to the superpowers!! Cas, thank you for demonstrating acceptance and humor. What a gift to know I (we) are not alone. ❤

  • @kathyfowler582
    @kathyfowler582 Год назад +15

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for doing this video!! Also the printouts!! I’m not diagnosed, but I’m pretty darn sure I’m adhd. My children and grandchildren are diagnosed because now it’s taken more serious.

  • @mariaalvarez8531
    @mariaalvarez8531 Год назад +1

    Love the way you are. I have ADHD it is so difficult to be tidy which is my best dream. Have my home and life tidy❤

  • @myblueheather8240
    @myblueheather8240 Год назад +1

    As someone who considers herself a poster child for ADHD 😂, I see you and you are delightful! I didn't know until in my 20's that I had been diagnosed with ADHD at age 3 (have a good mom, it was the 70's, weird times for neurodiversity) my whole world suddenly clicked when I learned what ADHD actually was. I was researching autism and ADHD for a reason unrelated to myself and... everything was exactly me! It was a revelation and I felt for the first time like I wasn't an alien left behind here. I love me now ❤, after giving myself the space to implement similar techniques such as you mentioned, customized to me. Doing these things in tandem with having an understanding of myself, my brain, and honoring my sensory needs has allowed me to create a space where I felt like I BELONG. I love me now. And my ADHD superpowers. It's so uplifting to see someone sharing this powerful info with other ADHDers! Everyone deserves to find their own space and to know that you are absolutely, wonderfully, perfectly perfect as you are and you deserve your own space to do things in the way that works for YOU. ❤❤❤

  • @MindfulMaryAlice
    @MindfulMaryAlice Год назад +1

    I can relate so much! I’m 38 & I was diagnosed with ADHD 6 months ago. I didn’t believe my therapist so we did a brain scan & yep sure thing ADHA. 😂 splitting my big goals into small 20 min increments per day has been life changing! I finally finish things! I love watching your videos! ❤

  • @mermeow
    @mermeow Год назад +6

    I definitely relate to squirrel syndrome, I get distracted easily. 5 minutes matters & trash therapy help me a lot.

  • @junehodge8027
    @junehodge8027 Месяц назад

    I think your like my spirit animal lol. I have the worst forgetfulness, I genuinely started to think I was just stupid. I struggle with cooking because I forget to get out the bread or pull something from the oven or I forget to stir. I'm never on time for anything and lost many jobs because of it. I struggle so much and it's so nice to see there's many other people like me ❤

  • @nicolej5670
    @nicolej5670 Год назад +5

    I love the "5 minutes matters", and you are not boring to watch. I was 39 when DX with ADD and was leery of medication until I decided to take some collage classes. The medication was a game changer and I was able to excel in my classes. I also use my electronics to "remind" me and I also do "block timing" using a timer to keep from hyper-focusing for too long. When an impulse to buy something that is not on my list I tell myself that I will go back and get it after I get everything on my list first. Usually by the time I am done with getting what I need I do not feel like going back for the "impulse" thing I wanted. The thing that cut down on my "junky food" buying/eating is to only buy it at a different store from the main store that I shop at. Now I must go and set my timer for 5 minutes and get something done!!! Have a great trip Cas!!!

  • @kariwhitehead3952
    @kariwhitehead3952 Год назад +2

    Oh body doubling is honestly the biggest help for me! I can do SO much if I have friend comes over. Even if they just sit and have coffee!

  • @danagantt4841
    @danagantt4841 Год назад +10

    We've gotta be long lost sisters. Your voice comes out but my life is what your
    speaking out. Gonna get the book. Gotta get myself under control from myself 😂🤣. Love your channel and please keep them coming.

  • @judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654
    @judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654 Год назад +1

    Thank you very much for your podcast on time management. I did ask my husband about what is sucking out my time.
    We have breakfast 9 am. He pointed out that I sit and nurse my coffee ( to wake up) and then make my breakfast. I am not done until 11 o’clock eating and 1130 done totally with the dishes. I lose the whole morning!
    I was able to be done with breakfast today by 10 AM by making my breakfast while I sipped some of the coffee. I had decided what I’d eat the night before.
    I was even able to do physical therapy exercises
    Bonus - if I get done with my breakfast when my husband is done, he will wash my dishes!

    • @john2865
      @john2865 Год назад

      For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16 ❤‍🔥

  • @barbkandel777
    @barbkandel777 Год назад +13

    I can relate to everything you said here!!!! Great video, Cas!

  • @haphazard-heather
    @haphazard-heather Год назад +3

    I never realized there was a term for this whole time blindness thing but I have it BAD. Time tracking tasks is a life changer! Thank you so much. I've only started today but it's already so empowering. I timed myself putting a big heaping basket of clothes away this morning that I dreaded because I just KNEW it would take like 45 minutes...an hour even. It was...12 minutes. 😅 I was kind of embarrassed but also really motivated when I saw that timer!

  • @mgm2008
    @mgm2008 Год назад +1

    I have to count backwards for trips. For example, 30 minutes to drive, 1 hour to get ready and I always ad 30 minutes, at least for extras like a child can't find something.... I hate being late so I try to be early. If I haven't driven there b4 or it's been a while I add another 30 minutes just in case. Thank you Cas!!!

  • @MickieMuellerStudio
    @MickieMuellerStudio 2 месяца назад

    Yes! Just being self aware of what we know we’ll do can really help!

  • @lynnneinast5716
    @lynnneinast5716 Год назад +5

    I wish I had all these tips before I retired. I use them in my daily life with my family and 5 minutes matter is the BEST! Thank you for sharing your real life and helping us.

  • @smboehland
    @smboehland Год назад +3

    I use "5 items" or "10 items" to work through procrastination. I have to put away 5 items from the pile of laundry, or if I enter a room I tidy "one thing". This helps make "mountains" slowly smaller.

  • @GigiCat6
    @GigiCat6 Год назад +3

    On a similar note-I declutter my phone of apps that I binge regularly when I notice shortening attention span or less dopamine response from the apps I regularly use. I tell myself to go at least a week before re-downloading them.
    Going to appstore, downloading, waiting for it to load, and needing to sign in all keeps me from clicking on it and losing more hours of my life+not benefitting from it in a similar way to unscrewing the snack jar.

  • @DayzieCat1
    @DayzieCat1 Год назад +6

    Thank you for this! I was just diagnosed a few weeks ago at the age of 41, so I haven't developed coping mechanisms yet. Your advice is so helpful and relatable.

  • @chelarie4212
    @chelarie4212 Год назад +12

    Cas, you are a GODSEND. As always, thank you for sharing your struggles, honestly and hilariously, as it makes so many of us feel like we're not alone! ❤ Have a wonderful vacation!!!

  • @rockyandmiles9889
    @rockyandmiles9889 Год назад +2

    As a testament to how bad my ADHD is: I clicked pause on this video 4x, once to open delivered boxes, twice to check FB, and once to randomly organize things that have been there for weeks. It’s real and it’s a struggle! 😖😟

  • @morewithmandy1050
    @morewithmandy1050 Год назад +4

    I am 43 and 2 of my 3 kids have adhd. I am just now getting evaluated. This video is me. Maybe not all the smart tips, but definitely aall the things! I thought I was just stupid for so long. Impulsive and forgetful! But I still don't have a hold of it.

    • @suzy1676
      @suzy1676 Год назад

      Don't stop trying the tips and stay positive!

    • @morewithmandy1050
      @morewithmandy1050 Год назад

      @@suzy1676 I do actually do the alarms and reminders on my phone. I have a million reminders. My phone is always going off. Reminding me to check my email and when to set my alarms, ect. Lol

  • @kdautry100
    @kdautry100 Год назад +1

    I take Adderall, it has greatly improved my life in so many ways. I hope you take your medicine with you on your trip, just in case you experience the emotional “thing” as your medicine leaves your system. Maybe you won’t experience any difference at all… I do. Not depression, but slight anxiety… just enough for indecisiveness to kick in… I’m not a fan of that at all. And sleep! Alllll I want to do is sleep when my ADD medicine is out of my system… I don’t have time for naps or dozing off at 2pm.
    My dosage doesn’t make me hyper, it just helps me get things done
    Anyways, have a good trip, I am looking forward to more videos.
    🐝

  • @jennythompson7321
    @jennythompson7321 Год назад

    Aside from the fact that we don't know each other.... you clearly know me better than anyone 😂. Thank you for this video.

  • @beingilluminous
    @beingilluminous Год назад +4

    Thank you for these great tips!! Also, thanks to RUclips, changing videos to 1.25/1.5x speed helps me feel “at my correct pace” to process spoken word….in physcial worlds, having crocheting has helped me on outings :).

  • @gleasonfam9747
    @gleasonfam9747 Год назад +1

    I just figured out that I have ADHD earlier this year. I have been trying to find tips just like this for weeks. These make so much sense.

  • @Hinoki352
    @Hinoki352 Год назад +1

    I love you for this, you know how life changing this is for those of us who are buried under all the things, both metaphorically and physically speaking. Adhd is so debilitating when you’re already overwhelmed with stuff, kids, life. Just thank you. Also, that top and that color are 🔥🔥🔥 on you sis.

  • @SaraShire
    @SaraShire Год назад +3

    It’s nice to know that I’m not alone. I didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until last year, I’m 63! My daughter was diagnosed as an adult and then recognized it to me. I always knew I was different, but didn’t know why. After watching you, Dawn and Dana, and taking your wonderful “Take Your House Back” course, I started working with a professional organizer. Even when I totally don’t feel like doing anything, she motivates me. My house is really coming together. It seems so amazing to me!

  • @mariee.5912
    @mariee.5912 Год назад +3

    🤣🤣 I don't have diagnosed ADHD, but I think I do. I know how long one task takes me, my problem is that I start fixing on thing and end up fixing 3 things. One little 5 minutes task takes me 2 hours because I just keep going. Just like a run on sentence. 😆 thank you and safe vacation.

  • @conniesoares157
    @conniesoares157 Год назад +6

    Listening to you I could see some of the things I didn’t realize was a symptom of ADHD..I love using the calendar and clock on my phone it is what makes me not forget things I have to do! Thanks Cas! Hope your vacation was awesome!

  • @Raelunil
    @Raelunil Год назад +7

    Thank you so much for this! I got the workbook and am so glad you're offering it for free. That'll help so many of us have access to desperately needed guidance!

  • @ali_yayyy
    @ali_yayyy Год назад

    Forgetting to be sad/mad- that hit home… thank you 🙌🏽

  • @aloha_element
    @aloha_element Год назад +12

    All the squirrels. 🐿️😜 Cass, I'm so grateful for you. Thank you for helping me not feel so cray. Our ADHD makes us neurodivergent hyperfocus superheros! ✊🏼 Lofi music in the background has been helping me. 🤗🤗🤗 All the Hugs from Spokane, WA!🌲 P.S. Spazz Muffins unite. 🤣

  • @fabienneroure9995
    @fabienneroure9995 Год назад +11

    Even though I love all your videos this one was my favourite! I'm also diagnosed ADHD and everything you talked about is like you were describing me!!! Regarding procrastination I'm the wordwide all time champion lol ! Thank you sooooo much for making this very encouraging video. 😘Take care and cheers from Ottawa P.S. after walking around and doing errands for a few hours , a nice man was kind enough to let me know the zipper from my pants was down...😳

  • @MickieMuellerStudio
    @MickieMuellerStudio 2 месяца назад

    Ok, back to comment again! I love the term you used “time distortion.” A lot of people who are neurotypical don’t understand what we mean when we say time blindness, so the term distortion kind of makes more sense. ❤

  • @maggiefindmusic
    @maggiefindmusic Год назад +1

    Never been diagnosed but boy does this explain a lot of issues I had in school 😂

  • @cindytracy6396
    @cindytracy6396 Год назад +6

    Thank you Cass, I was diagnosed with ADHD a couple few years ago (bad memory too I can't remember exactly when) and I just turned 59. I was such an eye opener for me! I was actually really excited when I found out, because there was an explanation to why I am the way I am! It would have been so great to know this when I was young, it explained how I learned or not learn in school.
    What really stood out to me was the Time Distortion description I didn't know that "trait" was part of this disorder. I didn't think anyone else did that too! I'm not alone and now that I know I can help myself to plan better. To leave the house at the right time to not be late! Thank you again, I saw your pictures from vacation on IG it looked like a wonderful time. I so happy for you

    • @Alice_SB
      @Alice_SB Год назад

      Querida Cindy, lamento decirte que hace 50 años atrás no hubiesen podido diagnosticarte tu trastorno, porque no sé conocía de su existencia y menos había tratamiento para el mismo. Los niños en esa época eran tratados como tontos, bobos o vagos. Y eran objeto de acoso, malos tratos e incomprensión por parte de hasta los mismos padres. ¡¡Una pena total!! Afortunadamente eso ha ido cambiando.
      Mi esposo, 64 años, también es ADD, y es una lucha constante encarrilarlo cuando se distrae o se obceca. El pobre lo ha pasado muy mal toda su vida. Y si a esto le sumas problemas con la visión, ya tienes el menú completo.
      No solo los ADD lo pasan mal, ¿sabes tú lo que padecemos los que convivimos con un ADD? De verdad te digo que a veces no los matamos porque es un delito. Te soy franca. Los que vivimos con un ADD nos desquiciamos y nos volvemos locos de la importancia que da el que no quieran entender razones y no quieran abrir la mente.
      Son tan mitómanos y fantasiosos y, al ser tan inteligentes saben tomarte las medidas y deliberadamente te provocan para que te enfades, te salgas de tus casillas y ellos salirse con la suya. ¡Son muy manipuladores en la niñez! Lo sé porque he trabajado con niños ADD y tengo una amiga psicopedagoga que me asesora. Ademas, tengo una vecinita con ADD, (en las niñas el trastorno es más severo y complicado de manejar para su entorno) y su pobre madre se ha pasado todos los días de su vida volviéndose loca y gritándole porque era de terror lo testaruda, traviesa y mentirosa que era la niña de pequeña. Además, tiene memoria frágil y daba igual lo que le explicaras y las veces que lo hicieses, ella no lo retenía, pero para lo que le interesaba si que tenía muy buena memoria y para inventarse cosas una imaginación prodigiosa. No podías quitarle ojo de encima en ningún momento porque algo te hacía. Yo le daba clases y le hacía control de tareas y pedía ir al baño constantemente y lo que hacía era revisar los cajones del armario. Un día abrió uno con fuerza y tiró todo al suelo. Con la adolescencia se calmó un 90 %, pero ya le amargó la vida a su familia por un espacio de 15 años.
      ¡Ánimo! Ya sabes que lo tuyo se puede manejar y que con terapia lo sabrás llevar mejor.
      Saludos.

  • @illusion-weavers
    @illusion-weavers Год назад

    Watches in awe because I relate to everything while using three apps at once on my phone.

  • @angelas.goodman9891
    @angelas.goodman9891 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for being so honest and open about your ADHD. I was diagnosed late in life too.

  • @recycleonwednesdays
    @recycleonwednesdays Год назад +5

    Thanks for talking about the benefits of medication. It has been life changing for me.

  • @run4078
    @run4078 Год назад

    U r an inspiration. I got diagnosed witj adhd at 49 last week! Bit of a shock but ure really helping me realise I'm not stupid or lazy. Ure helping me understand and accept my craziness. Most importantly ure helping me feel less alone and for that I can't thank u enough. U r a true star 🌟 in the world imo xx

  • @carolematar3760
    @carolematar3760 Год назад +1

    Time blindness ; that’s brilliant and exactly what I have which no one gets

  • @sweetnsalty4602
    @sweetnsalty4602 Год назад +5

    At almost 36 years old you totally made me realize I have impulse control issues. It is INCREDIBLY hard for me to go into a store for 1 thing. When I can focus long enough it helps so much to be able to do a pick up or delivery and then I won’t go nuts as much as I would in store. Hello fresh has helped me w the grocery thing too. Also, I’m the SAME WAY about holding grudges and staying mad because I forget most of the time. This is one of the most valuable videos about ADHD I’ve ever watched. I’m on journey to correct my time blindness because it’s a huge problem. I’m habitually late and I’ve noticed that I pretty much avoid hanging out with other people or moms because it’s likely I’ll be late and embarrassed. I also started my own business to avoid the daily stress of being late. I’m not sure if it’s made the time blindness better or worse. Probably both.As awful as it makes me feel, I still have a really hard time conquering it.I try it just doesn’t always work. Thank you so much for this and the workbook. I hope you enjoy your trip to London spaz muffin style! 💜

    • @susa5846
      @susa5846 Год назад +5

      I feel this so hard. What helps me is counting back from the time I need to be somewhere. Let's say I need to be somewhere at 5 p. m. Driving there is 30 minutes --> 4:30, walking to the bus 5 minutes --> 4:25, putting myself together 15 minutes --> 4:10, putting my child together 15 minutes --> 3:55 I'll set my second timer, plus getting startet 5 minutes --> 3:50, plus forgetting something and walking back 5 minutes --> 3:45 p. m. I'll set my first timer.
      I pack everything important I need for the next day before going to bed.
      And everything I'm not used to do I'll write down the steps above.
      This way I'm able to be on time most of the time. Not always. But I'm getting better and better.

    • @sweetnsalty4602
      @sweetnsalty4602 Год назад +2

      @@susa5846 that’s awesome! Thank you so much I’ll try this💯💜

    • @bethb5915
      @bethb5915 Год назад +2

      Hi Rachel, a lot of people with ADD/ADHD are entrepreneurs, freelancers, or small biz owners for similar reasons (myself included) 😀

    • @sweetnsalty4602
      @sweetnsalty4602 Год назад +1

      @@bethb5915 ✨glad I’m not alone 😂 💜✨

  • @pattyjames4956
    @pattyjames4956 Год назад +4

    I cannot wait for vacation stories!! 😂 I also have mild ADHD, so I definitely relate!

  • @kbencsik1
    @kbencsik1 Год назад +2

    LOL!! It is so validating to hear adhd stories. You are so honest and authentic. Diagnosed at 63. Still navigating at 67 and so appreciative of any and all tips. Oooh, England 🇬🇧 Swing like a pendulum!! ❤️

    • @ursulamoney203
      @ursulamoney203 Год назад +1

      Me too: 63! How my life could have been different ... :(

  • @ellachallas
    @ellachallas Год назад +2

    Cas, I seriously love you for all that you share with us! Thank you!

  • @olderendirt
    @olderendirt Год назад +1

    I'm in my 60s and haven't been formerly diagnosed, but have a grandson diagnosed with autism which caused my son to get tested and he found out he's bipolar with Asperger's tendencies. He's researched mental health a lot and written a couple books about his journey with it, but thinks it comes from my side of the family. Fortunately, we both have the same doctor and he has a background in mental health so I'm going to ask him about this possibility. I've always been able to focus on something I like for hours on end, but couldn't give 2 hoots about something I didn't see usefulness in. Hello, algebra? But top those things with guilt over not learning or doing it and it just snowballs. I think bringing to light what is mentally going on is a major step and a breath of air to know there's a reason for behaviors and cognitively or with meds or both they can be altered. Thanks so much for making this taxing journey fun and productive.

  • @Erin78G
    @Erin78G Год назад

    I love who you are! You are so down to earth and inspiring both!

  • @3dchick
    @3dchick Год назад +2

    Body doubling is amazing for me. I hate making phone calls more than root canals, so my best friend comes over and knits while I make them . 😇

    • @fatine88
      @fatine88 Год назад +2

      What a great friend you have!

  • @Livinginthegrayarea
    @Livinginthegrayarea Год назад +3

    I love sharing your videos with family & friends. We are all starting this new journey together and you are one of my favorite channels to count on. Thank you!!!!

  • @Darnabymom
    @Darnabymom Год назад +2

    Another tip for RUclips or audio info is to SPEED UP THE RATE it is played. It is “almost better” than coffee. Naturally happy and/or fast speaking people sped up REALLY get me motivated. Lisa Holt (home professional designer), Craig Groeschel (pastor of Life Church), or you 😉 are some of my favorite examples. Those with southern drawls are still just as sweet of listen to, but the added drawn out syllables are more bearable. 😆🙃
    I really like the Huberman Podcast episodes (all things health related), but they are LONG!!! A short one is 1 hour long. So if I listen at 2x, I can get the info in half the time. 👍👍 😎🤓

    • @scattyfi
      @scattyfi Год назад +1

      I do this too ☺️ Dr Amen is an absolute genius when it comes to ADD/ADHD & the way our brains work but he talks slowly & I'm just itching to open another tab or look at something more stimulating. If I play him at a faster speed it's perfect! I do it with audiobooks too 😊

    • @matemahe
      @matemahe Год назад +1

      watch everything 2x speed. Listening to it at normal speed drives me insane.

    • @Darnabymom
      @Darnabymom Год назад

      @@matemahe yep, same! 😉🙂😆

  • @sarahm340
    @sarahm340 Год назад +5

    I love your videos so much. You make me feel like I’m not crazy and not alone. Everything you say I resonate with. I’ve learned so much from you, so thank you 😊

  • @mamarosie5832
    @mamarosie5832 Год назад

    I love you. Thank you for being candid.

  • @lanagoldsmith
    @lanagoldsmith Год назад +1

    Thank you for this video, it’s helpful for all people! I appreciate your candor in explaining what it’s like to have ADHD and your reframing for the positive. :)

  • @lindasevers5109
    @lindasevers5109 Год назад

    Went on a three-day vacation. Did SO many things to avoid catastrophes. Still left my purse with all my ID in a restaurant that opened only at the time I was supposed to be checking in at an airport two hours away. My creative brain came up with about 15 ways to solve the problem. Still waiting for my purse that was "overnight" shipped on Monday. It's Wednesday midnight. Maybe the post office also has no time awareness. Trapped in my own house with no driver's license or debit card. LOL BUT ALSO got my business listed on Google Maps while waiting in the airport for delayed flights. So...I also love my brain! It comes up with endless To Do lists!

  • @floridasungarden3308
    @floridasungarden3308 Год назад

    You are the best, I just wanted to say that. Sometimes when I have a bad day I just watch one of your videos and things seem better.

  • @findingaway5512
    @findingaway5512 Год назад +2

    You are nailing this video Cas. Yes
    .. I struggle with all this stuff. You are such a success story for ADHD. Truely. The fact that you have found all these ways to work though things is so amazing.

  • @mariaoreilly7768
    @mariaoreilly7768 Год назад

    thank you so much Cass! It is so easy to get down by focusing on the negatives. Thank you for your positivity and reminder that these are not personality flaws! The workbook is pure gold - so generous of you to share it with us free!!! Thank you!!!

  • @MultiSignlanguage
    @MultiSignlanguage Год назад

    This is so helpful. Recently being diagnosed at 52 years old. Wonderful perspective about how it can be our superpower

  • @simmiedavissimmiesings8185
    @simmiedavissimmiesings8185 Год назад +1

    This was by far one of ur best posts! My ADHD is as yet u diagnosed. But I am a treatment professional so I know for sure. Lol I use my electronics and pads to keep all my thoughts under submission. U described me to a tee. This morning our power was out in the neighborhood. I used the time to FINALLY finish my dishes and clear off my surfaces. You have helped me so much!

  • @sonialeyva9583
    @sonialeyva9583 Год назад +2

    Thank you 🙏🏽
    You are amazing! I appreciate you so much!
    I’ve struggled with accepting my ADHD brain! But you make me feel so “normal” 💜

  • @j.l.spraggins8589
    @j.l.spraggins8589 Год назад +1

    Spot-on. I have a poor concept of time. Appreciate your sense of humor & how down to earth you are about your struggles. Makes approaching my struggles less intimidating.

  • @YT_User-
    @YT_User- Год назад

    Wow this is so accurate, helpful, positive and optimistic. I know initially people hate it when others call it a superpower, but when you’ve got enough experience and strategies to manage it better, it becomes a little more like a superpower as time goes on.

  • @TinkJen
    @TinkJen Год назад

    I literally just cried watching this…and they were happy tears! Tears of relief that there are others that experience the same things I do. It can be so overwhelming & frustrating, but to hear you discuss ways to make things so much more manageable, it gives me such joy and excitement knowing I can utilize these methods to make life easier in ways I never thought it could be! Thank you SO much for posting this…you’re awesome!! 🤗💖

  • @lindasevers5109
    @lindasevers5109 Год назад +1

    This may be the most relatable content I have heard from you--and I have heard so many of your pieces. Thank you for making this! Squirrel!

  • @mckkidscrafts6897
    @mckkidscrafts6897 Год назад +5

    I love your ADHD videos! Thank you for sharing the positives about attention deficit. I also love that you gave suggestions on how to make it our super power!💥 🦸🏼‍♀️ 💗