Yea except his solution is "take pharma meds or get the stick". Luckily for us, this video is old as dirt, and we have better answers our there than what this quack is preaching.
@@intraterrestrial5035yeah, I noticed that, too. While I definitely did better as a kid in the structure of grade school than I did as an adult in college and in the workplace, he made SO MANY "all or nothing" statements that I don't identify with. And where I struggled in college with the delayed feedback loop (homeworks returned after weeks or months, grade is mostly mid term and final), I know so many ADHDers with a graduate degree or two. It's like he put a modern (for 2012) understanding of ADHD on a 90s caricature of "who has ADHD". But I do appreciate he views it as an executive function problem and not a lack of attention. And I can appreciate that his audience isn't us with ADHD but clinicians who need a kick in the pants, so hyperbole for effect may have its place here. Executive Dysfunction instead of lack of attention was a pretty new understanding in 2012. If you want your blood to boil, read WebMD's description of ADHD. It's like a poor interpretation of the 1990s understanding. And there's still clinicians stuck with that 1990s view.
I’ve always told people who ask “what does it feel like having adhd” I tell them “it doesn’t feel like anything. It just shows itself in your life. Imagine you wake up and everything you were supposed to do, or wanted to do, just never happened.”
I usually ask them what they do when they have to do the dishes. If their answer is "I do the dishes" I tell them about how I have to mow the grass before I get to the clean dishes. About how I went to do dishes then saw that the dish rag and drying towel was dirty, then I saw that the wash I ran the day before is still in there and smells kinda funny, so I have to re run it. I go to put down the rag and towel in a basket but realize I have no empty baskets because I have a clean cloths in them. So I put them on the sink side and go to fold the laundry in a basket to have a dirty clothes basket. When I go to fold the cloths I see that I have my wives garden stuff on the bed that I just got her. I go to take it out to the shed and realize on my way out that the grass is a bit long. That leads me to start mowing. Then i get to work backwards from there.
It’s like watching your life in third person. I’m constantly yelling at the guy holding the wheel not to do things or TO do things and it rarely connects. Then I have a day or week of epiphany where I decide how I’m going to get my life together, start writing things down and what not. I get so into it that I forget other things like eating, drinking water, self care and get so exhausted from all of the effort it takes to be “normal” that I abandon it all together and do it all again a month or two later. I’m tired.
I know that all too well. Started using a habit tracker for daily routine stuff, went well, but then i just stopped doing it for whatever reason. Reminds me of my relation to books. Even if im really interested in what im reading, i just put the book away at some time and then never look at it again. I'm not diagnosed by the way and although i resonate with things in the video and in the comments i am still very sceptical if i have this disorder
I feel like I have giant disobedient dog on leash, it bigger than me so no matter how hard I pull it's does whatever it wants. And whatever I do, whenever I go feeling of leashes strain is there, all I need/want to do is there haunting me even when it time to rest.
Man this is so sad I feel like crying.. actually I’m holding a pen and paper right now going through this exact routine you mentioned and then I got on youtube and found this video. I don’t want to go to a physiologist or get diagnosed.. I guess that would be the case for some time..
Same here, been doing research not knowing why my brain is wired differently and this video just clicked. I recognized myself in what this doctor said just like looking in the mirror. Darn, this adhd is exhausting, ruined everything for me. I’m also feeling tired all the time, very poor concentration which makes it very difficult to study. I wonder if it’s part of adhd or some other health issue I might have.
Woa! The opening sentence. "You can know stuff, but you won't do stuff." That's the absolute definition of what it feels like. So many aspirations, ideas and dreams, and yet, when it comes to execution.... Just no.
+supermuble - So true. This was quite the revelation to me, sums it up perfectly. But not just for things I'm interested in, it's everything. Not knowing it was related to my ADHD, I thought it was/is another mental disorder. Definitely need to learn more about this defect. It's just seems like there's so many accommodations / adjustments required to implement and that's the original problem.
Yep, utterly frustrating. So much want and desire, but implementation is utterly awful. You know it, you know not doing it is wrong, but you can't bring yourself to do it. Like a prison in your own mind.
1. This man validated my entire existence 2. He spoke so fast I was able to actually sit and listen to the whole (okay most, but like 90%) of the talk.
Yesss same! I Love it when people talk fast in videos. Then I can watch the videos on 1,25 speed and not 1,5… I wich there was something like this in real life
Painfully true. Watching me procrastinate, time flies by, my days off work vanish, and unless there's an actual threatening deadline, I never do anything. I try to, but man it's so easy to just never do it. Such an agonizing disorder to watch yourself struggle with little to no self control, like you're two different people in your head. You want to do something vs you need to something you don't want to do, so you're always mad at yourself all the time.
I always say to people 'you have no idea how badly I want to want this' I just have a voice inside screaming do it! just pick up the pen or just get up and do it but I can't and then I watch the time pass until it's too late and beat myself up over it and it's SO.FRUSTRATING. Because why can't I just do it? like everyone else. Even the stuff I love (like drawing, writing, walking whatever it is) I can't bring myself to do anymore, sometimes I just feel like a vegetable unable to move or do anything even talking is exhausting sometimes, it's like watching your whole life just unravel and get away from you and you don't even have the will to hold on
My summary of the "how to fill the tank" part of the video: - Need greater rewards and positive emotions; - Statement of self efficacy ("I can do this, I know I can") and encouragement are extra important; - Breakdown big tasks into small tasks with 3 or more minutes of relaxation and meditation in between; - 10 minutes breaks between tasks (of about 20 min of work); - Visualizing and talking about future rewards before and during demanding tasks; - Routine aerobic physical exercise; - Glucose ingestion in fluid form (i.e. Gatorade). Sip it, don't gulp it.
THANK YOU so much Dr Russell Barkley 👍🏻😃 I'm 39 and to use a gaming analogy you've helped me finally figure out the controls to myself to play in life 🎮🧠
It's frustrating as hell knowing you're smart, witty, likable, etc,, yet can't get out of your own way to move ahead by completing tasks and attaining your goals.
So frustrating, same story at all my jobs, yes I understood the task given, yes I know what to do, but no I don't know when I will get it done, I don't know why I am not completing it in time, I don't know what help I need.
its gets even more frustrating if you havent been formally diagnosed like me. Everyday i wake up all pumped up for all the things i want to accomplish and by the end of the day i haven't done anything an feel defeated. I genuinely want to learn things i am interested in but its like the energy barrier to get started is just too high.
That first sentence literally sums it up. Unable to follow through has been my Achilles heel since I was a teenager. Took medication from 1st grade through 12th and made straight A's. Started college, stopped medication, and my whole behavior changed. I would literally drive to the college campus, and sometimes just sit in my car or hang outside campus and skip class. SELF SABATOGE is how I've come to describe my adhd behavior over the years. I know what I need to do, but I find a way to mentally psych myself out. Its as if I fail because I'm afraid to fail. A Viscious cycle.
Oh man I feel for you because I'm that way too. When I stopped my stimulant meds after 20 years(!) on it, I still knew how to get myself to do what I need to do. But now there's more psyching myself out. MY ADHD means I start repeating to myself that I really need to do something (like make an important phone call). It is a bad sign--if I remind myself more than 3 times, forget it. The self-talk takes the place of whatever satisfaction I'd find in doing the thing I need to do. How about Russel Barkley, he is uncommonly good, is he? Talking about what its like and what helps.
My man, this is so relatable :( I've always described my brain as a battle between what I WANT to do and what I NEED to do. Always wanting to succeed, but being too worried about failure to move forward. I hope all has been well now.
This was me, but stopped in 9th grade. I was even in accelerated classes. Sadly I recently found out that was due to family issues. My father ( he was a family practice physician ) took me off my ADHD medication. He took me off the medication for his fear i would become addicted to drugs (eg: meth), because around the time i was in high school my parent's found out my brother was doing meth. I was only told this after he passed away from leukemia and they lied to me saying my brother left college because his fraternity brother died of blood alchohol intoxication. This was 10 years after I was off the medication. During those year I failed at college so many times and my father's passing didn't help either. I'd rather have failed college than losing my father, but I got both.
From other comments, "It's like watching your life in third person", and your "I fail because I'm afraid to fail." Is by far the most relatable thing I've read so far. I stopped taking Adderall back in high school because I felt like I didn't need it or could over come it. For many years of my life after that, the original need for taking the medication went unnoticed; I thought it was behind me. I took up aviation training to become a pilot and it's been without a doubt the most eye opening experience where I realized that ADD is something I never defeated or outgrew. Self sabotage, day in and day out. I know what I need to do, I tell myself I need to do it, and then I constantly fight with myself to get anything accomplished.
1 minute and 34 seconds in and this man already seems to understand me on a deeper level than all of the people I've ever spoken to (including psychiatrists) combined. Wow
And people always assume in that analogy it's you calling people stupid. But what you mean is that you don't have enough room to move your thoughts into action inside your own head?
@@HonestAuntyElle Thats the whole point you missed. The problem isn't merely confined to converting thoughts into action and its more about converting capability into performance. You can have the highest level of skill in a field and the definition of ADHD is that you can't turn your capability into action because of neuro-genetic issues of your physical brain. Practical solution is breaking a task - small or big into micro tasks and try to finish one task at a time. Killing your confidence and peace of mind by a relentless assault loaded with motivational thoughts (internal or external) is definitely not the way out. The best psychological self-help will be performing the immediate micro task and a proper handling of self blame & stigmatization.
I like this analogy. I love F1 as a sport too. I like the quirkiness of my personal vehicle and the amazing things I accomplish with it. What I hate is being forced to onto a monotonous motorway closely hemmed in by a million others doing 20mph when my car doesn't really come to life until it hits 120mph. Another useful sport analogy would be cricket with its combination of standing around and bursts of energy when a good hit is made on the ball, rather than tennis with its regular volleys. Yeah. F1 is much more fun. Lol
Yep, after countless self-help videos and books just saying "keep going, keep striving," I'm just sitting here like "keep going and striving to *where?"* ADHD is like having all the tools under your belt but never having the quest marker to map you in the right direction.
Man, I hear that. This whole time I've been searching for the answer in self-help books and lectures with no such luck, and now I've finally found the answer - I have ADHD (I got diagnosed a few months ago).
For me its like putting your foot on the accelerator but not getting very far then you realise you've been living with the hand brake on and not being able to release it.
For me it's like I've got so many winning ideas (multiple epiphanies per week) and I want to pursue them all at the same time, but then I become overwhelmed and don't pursue any..
The amount of times I genuinely blurted out "#$!&ing thank you!". The passion this man presents with nearly put tears in my eyes. I think alot of people fantasize about having a person like this in their life who not only understands but actually CARES.
L-Methionine and Trimethilglycine! Due to a mutation, we with ADHD have a chronic deficiency of those amino acids. Being deficient in Methionine causes, that your brain can't degrade catecholines, which are the root neurochemical cause for the negative aspects of ADHD! The difficulties falling asleep due to an overactive mind being one of them. If you take this advice, welcome aboard, if you don't, I'm chalking it up as you not being ready and be done with it. Have fun!
@@SevScoutUm, but you didn't actually give any advice, you only gave information, with no indication of what to do with that advice. Do you have advice on how to manage and curb those deficiencies? Perhaps food that can help? Are there supplements for it?
I went undiagnosed for YEARS and I always thought to myself “I am doing everything I can in my own control to try and make my life easier, nothing is working”. When he said that you have to change the environment around you in order for you to physically use the knowledge you have it sent me to tears. I always asked my family if they could do certain things differently because they don’t work for my adhd brain and I was always told “No but you can learn how to adapt to it” so its nice to know that what I was asking for is valid
@@Treardet Some of students have ADHD. When they are on medication it’s a world of difference. When they forget to take them there’s just no getting to them.
Oh god, I spent years lying to myself that I can actually adapt to doing things the way other do it, and yeah, as expected, I failed again and again. Accepting that my brain works differently has been a major step for me. Sadly, most of the "outside world" still expects me to function "normally" even when they see it's not the optimal way for me.
@@vojtechvaligura7054 oh you need to do it in the way that make you feel good and happy ,for that we are in this world , not to do in the way that other want .And to be like that start a business or stay in one village .
i'm someone who's been viewed as intellectually brilliant (34 ACT score, top college, etc) but can never bring myself to do anything but the minimum. everything is rushed, last minute, i have no motivation. i always blamed myself, or thought i was just depressed or thought i was just lazy. this guy literally made me cry. i have been a prisoner to my adhd for years but blamed myself the whole time. i see a psychiatrist for medication this week.
Dude totally. People spent so much of my childhood telling me how smart I am. And yes, I am smart. But if you look at a lot of my work it looks... not that amazing at times, even though I am capable of amazing things. Now that I have kids I tell them being smart don't mean squat if you don't utilize it.
Initially watching this video, I honestly thought that he was angry and frustrated at people with ADHD. But it slowly became more clear that, no, he isnt angry at people with ADHD. He’s angry at people who refuse to help! I love this man’s commitment to helping people with adhd. Its clearly shown in this video that he’s been trying to get this through peoples skulls for a while now.
I assumed the exact same. From the video title I thought it was gonna be a nutcase trying to cure ADHD like those guys that tried to "cure homosexuals" (shudder), so I came straight to the comments before even watching to see the general reception of the video. Pleasantly surprised to see a lot of people with ADHD resonating with the video and feeling empowered by the tools he's suggesting, so it's probably worth a watch now!
It's also quite personal for him, he lost his twin brother to ADHD. He was off his meds, had a lot to drink and drove to his death, wasn't wearing a seatbelt. It's a really chronic disease and the general public have absolutely no idea how destructive it can be to an otherwise healthy and intelligent person.
OMFG, THIS MAN JUST MADE A TUTORIAL ON SPEED-RUNNING ADHD TREATMENT, my adhd brain likes it, thank you so much for putting your research online and on youtube on a ADHD-friendly format
"I'm not going to go through all that right now" translates to "I'm sure if you're watching this video, it's very likely you have ADHD and I'm probably starting to lose you since I'm 12 minutes into a 16 minute video." Thank you, doctor. You are correct.
My entire life I built systems around me that kept me accountable- when I was in 6th grade I voluntarily went to afterschool detention because they forced you to do homework. When the teachers realized I wasn't supposed to be there they were baffled. I LIKED it, and otherwise I would never start my homework until two *hours* before the deadline. I purposely applied to a college that was known for being a "boot camp". Then COVID came and crumbled those systems I carefully chose. Until then I didn't realize I had ADHD because I was doing well (still struggling but doing well). I failed a class for the first time in my life on the first semester of online class. I felt like I derailed my life because I was lazy and unmotivated. My self esteem tanked, I went through depression, and I'm still slowly picking my way back up with the help of videos like these. Thank you!!
Hang in there! If you're intuitive enough and smart enough to create systems that worked in the past, you can certainly develop new systems that can help. Good luck to you, Natalia!!!
@@kirani111 You're welcome. The detention strategy sounds like something I would do. It's all about forcing yourself to be accountable and buckling down for those two hours (or however long) to get the work done. Maybe someone close to you can hold you accountable? That's worked for me.
Using detention as a study hall is not a sign of laziness, so give yourself some credit! One thing I do (as a freelance copy editor) is tell clients I need a deadline, even if there is no particular time constraint on their end. Most people are very understanding if you simply tell them you need a deadline or you will have a really hard time getting started.
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Predroshrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, addiction. Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
mariachristina55 Omg! For me, it is. I have to avoid people who are redundant, speak slowly, or use filler words often (well, you know, basically, um). I think that’s why I interrupt people so much.
Guys, if videos are too slow for you, then you will LOVE this -- there is an addon for your browser that speeds up videos. I watch most videos at 1.3x and it is SO MUCH BETTER. Search for "Video Speed Controller." It has radically changed my ability to focus on videos like this. (EDIT: Yes, I know you can change the speed with RUclips controls, but 1) RUclips doesn't give enough fine-grain control and 2) You can use it on other sites besides RUclips.)
You got distracted and are reading the comments during the video aren’t you? This video gives some really good tips! Wait to read the comments until after the video!
"We're undertreating the most treatable disorder in Psychiatry" - thank you!!!!! Those of us who have figured it out on our own and seek help are made to feel like drug addicts; we're given medication for things like anxiety and depression, with the side effect of "suicidal thoughts." I've been misdiagnosed so many times, it's a wonder I am even alive.
@Ashley Elbra Never has any doctor diagnosed me with ADHD. I have been diagnosed with depression and it was suggested to me that I may have dyslexia but, to me, ADHD seems to describe me.
Wasted so much time in programs, rooms, 'rehabs' (jails effectively). Fuck AA old heads and any medical professional who refused to hear me when I said 'there's something else, please can we look again, I don't feel like alcohol is my main issue, it the depression, these pills I still wanna fucken die' FUCK PAYNE WHITNEY, FUCK CORNELL WEILL! DON'T SEND ANYONE THERE!!!! FOR YEARS THEY IGNORED MY DIAGNOSIS. I HAD THE DIAGNOSIS. I LEFT WHEN DR ROMANO, THIRD FAILED SHIT ASS IGNORANT FUCK AT E68TH IN 3 YEARS SAID POINT BLANK 'no, that not something we can help you with' . For real, I almost killed myself so many times. I was hopeless, for my entire life. I was just going through motions, not killing myself 100% selflessly got my family who cried a bunch when my uncle died. Finally after years I said ok fine I don't see why a private doctor paid for by my uncle could do something my entire clinic couldn't. Turns out they wouldn't, not couldn't. In one session, I had a second positive diagnosis, a script to pick up, and within 24 hours I had hope that I could accomplish something (like, even coming back to minute tasks) and a will to live. Thank you Dr Griffin for saving my life, and fuck the entire medical machine that wasted so many years of my life. So many years. I almost didn't make it, many times.
I swear to God, it feels as though he is speaking specifically at me. He is able to clearly explain what I feel inside that I just can't explain. It's so scary that he's 100% spot on.
Imagine discovering years later that it was never your fault to begin with. And that it's treatable. Now does anybody have a time machine we can borrow?
ruclips.net/video/_tpB-B8BXk0/видео.html I offer this to help not to say all other options are bad but something as simple as changing the food eaten can help should be talked about more before just passing out a pill.
I am 41 undiagnosed- my husband diagnosed and freshman son diagnosed no wonder I’m so overwhelmed... this I’m explained me to a t. I’m ready for help but now frozen as far as what to do or how to get it!
Jami Tibbs You can start with your regular doctor as a first step, but expect that they won't know much and you'll have to educate them. It is probably a good idea to look online and see if you can find a specialist near you. Would be happy to help in anyway.
I could have cried tears of relief listening to you, sir. I’m 60 and I’ve been suffering from as far as I can remember from ADHD symptoms. I just didn’t know what they were, just that I felt weird and « different « . A few years ago, I tentatively tried to talk about ADHD to people around me, my doctor included, but they just wave my concerns aside and say I’m « absent-minded », « clumsy « , not the tidy type ». How can I get the treatment that could help me live a more serene old age?
Get a better doctor or practitioner, like a psychiatric nurse or similar. Medication, time released Concerta, changed my life for the better since diagnosed in my 40's
Also if there's no one you trust to talk to, try to see a therapist. or if you are financially bound, try reaching to local groups/ free online groups about mental health or adhd and talk it out. it will take some time but trust the process. take medications, IT REALLY HELPS. Start with prescribed doses then decrease them eventually. it might take 2-3 years of understanding every aspect of it then however you'll handle practical situations way better in a real time scenario. However after these you'll have a way way more clearer and productive brain. trust me.
@@Dee-ow9fbThank you for your kind advice. I recently tried to get an appointment with a registered psychiatrist. I phoned a dozen of them: I only got answering machines stating that « Doctor So and So does not take new patients and registered patients must book their appointments on the Internet « . The situation of psychiatry was critical before COVID in France, it is now near impossible to see a psychiatrist.
*sigh* I had a feeling he was 'sponsored' with all his talk about medication. His brief mention of CBT does sound interesting though, building organisational frameworks to offset ADHD's spacing out and inability to manage time. Real shame he glossed over that to push drugs instead.
@@alanberkeley7282 That has got to be the dumbest blog post I've ever read. It's basically "ADHD doesn't exist" + a ton of other dubious claims without citations or evidence. If a guy with a PhD that's researched the subject for decades and cites his claims tells me one thing, and a rando on WordPress tells me another, why should I believe the rando on WordPress? Because he tries to make me feel warm and fuzzy by telling me there's nothing wrong with me?
A guy with a PHD who is in bed with Big Pharma, who receives a third of his taxable income from them, who has made a career and good living out of promoting a bullshit disorder. I'm a retired engineer. I have nothing to lose. I'm not in bed with Big Pharma or taking their money or gifts or holidays or payments. My career doesn't depend on it. And besides this guy has a PHD. So what? He couldn't do my job. He wouldn't have a clue. Just because he has a PHD behind his name doesn't make him a smart, or good person, or in his case moral,. because he isn't. He telling you what his pharma paymasters want you to know. He's nothing better than the drug pusher on the street corner. In fact he's worse.
I'm not going to lie, reading this comment section has me feeling a lot of things. It's a relief, while also very sad knowing how many other people out there know what my day to day struggles are like.
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better . A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings) Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
“This is the kid after school” points to empty tank. “And you want them to do homework? Forget it!” Love it. Same for adults after work of any kind. We come home and crash. Doesn’t matter what the work was we are spent and want to unhook.
Yes, I can either stay home and clean my house or go to work for the day. I cannot do both of those on the same day. When I come home from work, I'm done for the rest of the day.
I think decompressing after work is a thing for normies, too. I also think better diet, sleep, and exercise will help with that for normies and neurodivergent, too, but defining what better diet, sleep, and exercise is takes a very long time and is tricky to implement. And then once all that’s said and done, a stressful job can undermine all of it.
@@stevebean1234I am to exhausted to do exercise after I get home. I would need to do that right after I leaving my work. If I sit down I would not get up anymore. I have thought about doing exercises before work but that would mean I really need to wake up at 4 am. I love exercises but hate/can’t get to them.
@@Vanadium if you're exhausted when you get home, its probably diet. maybe sleep or stress management but diet is the biggest driver. get a big freezer and meal prep a ridiculous amount of chicken, rice, vegetables. 1lb chicken 1lb cooked rice and 2lb vegetables is about the macros you need. or go get a nutritionist (make sure you find a good one not a quack) and theyll be able to help you get on a better diet. exercise will also push your body to actually metabolize your food, rather than just store it. if you can metabolzie food better you will feel more energetic overall as well. therefore, it is all a process and you need to have good exercise andnutrition for a while before everything starts getting easier.
@@stevebean1234did you not watch this video at all? They mentioned diet once, and that was about how ADHD people need rapid glucose to the frontal lobe for maintaining EF. Get outta here with your HelloFresh subscription meal plan, braindead
Recently got promoted to supervisor requiring me to do things I never thought I could pull off. So far so good but it sure hasn’t been easy and the stress is overwhelming at times. Acknowledging my weakness and making necessary adjustments has been key. I write EVERYTHING down. Even if I don’t go back and read, it helps me remember organically and I have noticed improvement. If you are struggling professionally just keep at it and make adjustments where possible and you will overcome. We will overcome. Good luck everybody!
For decades I've been looking for "The Answer" to cure my WTF life. Finally I feel like somebody is on the right track. Somebody KNOWS how this can destroy a life, and is taking that seriously. The urgency in his voice matches my desperation. That alone is a relief. He understands that there isn't any point in messing around with BS. Treat this like the disability that it is. Thank you!
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better . A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings) Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
Omg. I can't stop crying. I finally feel seen. Someone finally gets it. Someone finally believes me. Someone finally takes this seriously. A lot of us go through life feeling broken and being told how lazy we are. This is validating and life changing. Thank you so much for this. 💗
I was fired from a job that I absolutely loved. I was fired for being scattered, poor time management, making too many mistakes, easily distracted, etc. At least now I know why and how it happened.
This is the best video I’ve ever seen on ADHD. Just diagnosed with adult ADHD, at 48. One week on adderall, it’s like putting on glasses and finally being able to see the blackboard of my past.
Bro, right?! The same fucking day I started, my wife noticed immediate, noticable improvement. Not lasting, but it was there. And me being ADHD, "You think so?" I can't recognize when I'm doing right or not most of them time, I just do and hope it works out at this point.
I figured out how to set up my environment for success as an adhd person: work in a dental office. Constant environment clues as to what I'm supposed to be doing. No possibility that I don't care because people are always in pain or in need of treatment to prevent pain so consequences are immediate. Working all day feels just like playing video games but after it ends, the good feelings persist. Applied to go back to college to be a dentist only a week after I started as a dental assistant because I know how rare it is to find a work environment that is conducive with adhd.
I was a cook for most of my adult life, and it's the same concept. We used to call it having a sense of urgency. My favorite job was teaching cooking, so when that ended, I went back for my MA, Ed. Turns out I just like teaching cooking! Not teaching, teaching!! Hahaha I couldn't get my $hit straight no matter how many different age groups, subjects or organizational systems I attempted. The only time it worked was when I substituted, where the teacher left detailed instructions for me. So, kind of like the scaffolding- I think. I'm not sure, tbh, I didn't finish the video. 😮
Working on an IT support desk works for me - driven by the phone calls of people needing help with their computers, and by the list of pending tickets in the queue. Plus I play a game in my head of doing as many as possible each week, to see if I can empty the queue. I've refused promotion out of that role as the motivation and people-connecting would never work as a back-room server-programming kind of person on my own.
@@Bluebomber85I find this hilarious because I've learned that I'm hopeless once a recipe goes beyond 5 ingredients. After that I lose track of where I'm supposed to end up and I become the Swedish Chef. I think it's so funny how we're all the same, but in such different flavors. I also do well in an environment where you have appointments one after another, but what happens in them is unpredictable and immediate so it's easy to give your full attention to the problem.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm studying to be a nurse, and this was a reassuring perspective. I was worried adhd might hold me back or make this job hard to stick with, but that does sound similar
His fuel tank analogy is 100% right. Once I am wiped out it's over. My ADHD has caused me to not pay speeding tickets on time even when I had the money, then I got my license suspended for non payment. I knew I had a ticket to pay and thought I had more time. Well over 2 months went by and to me of felt like 2 weeks. Time either moves fast for me or if I M bored time will send still.
As an update, I have seen 1 Neuropsychologist who took my insurance then after the first appointment called me to say now they don't take my insurance and it cost 3k for the testing to determine if I officially have ADHD, then I found one more Psychologist who 100% did take my insurance and when I spoke to them and just ask to take the official ADHD diagnosis due to my life long issues, all the meds I have been on for depression ( I am not depressed) and Bi-Polar meds ( current mental health doctor says I am not Bi-Polar) I know exactly what symptoms I have dealt with my entire life. That is me 100%. Trying to find a Dr who is willing to just get you to take the ADHD test was hard but I finally found one. I take the test in July so we will know if I am just suffering from anxiety as this newest Dr said she thinks my issue is or if I am a very seriously misdiagnosed 42-year-old man who has ground his way through life never being able to come close to being the best me I can be. I will keep you posted. I just want to have clear slow thoughts and not feel like mentally I am walking a tight rope or going on stage to do a show every time I am doing something out side my home.
Lmfao my phone memory is taken up by screenshots and random selfies I say I’ll post later after I edit them in a super cool way I see inside my head, but right now I can’t
My ADHD is so bad that I resort to watching videos like this just for the small serotonin boost I receive from pretending to take steps towards managing my ADHD. Medication doesn’t work, self help guides don’t work, discipline doesn’t work, so sometimes I watch videos like this to essentially role-play as someone who’s on their way to improvement. Once that wears off it’s right back to sitting on the porch staring into space because NOTHING, not even weed or videos games is enough to hold my attention. Wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It’s completely ruined my life and destroyed any chance of being a normal, functioning human being. Everyone in my family is very successful. My younger sister makes upwards of 6 figures in the medical field, and at the age of 30 I’m still working an entry level job stocking shelves because I can’t work a job that requires even a minuscule amount of thinking. I don’t have to use my head at all with my current job, which allows my mind to rapidly switch focus and daydream while my body is in autopilot. If I was an engineer like I dreamt of as a kid I wouldn’t make it. Because even though I’m passionate about it, if my ADHD decides that it doesn’t care about engineering today, there’s nothing I can do. It’s like watching some lazy slob control your body while you watch from a 3rd person perspective.
Damn that was some serious testimony. I wish you to overcome this one way ir another. If your attempts have failed, try new ones like breathing techniques, cold exposure, DMT or hallucigenic experience. As long as you haven't done everything seriously, I suggest you keep going on with the will necessary during the attempts. I know how it feels to fail to find a solution when it's about your health, but when ruminating about not being able to overcome it, tell yourself that it gives you something to go on while giving up won't bring any solution. Wish you the best.
This is so validating for me! Just found out I have inattentive ADHD. I had an 1180 SAT so everyone said "go to college". Horrible time in college, barely graduated. Horrible time at the white collar job I got. I had to quit or be fired. I now earn a living at a tipped job at a hotel. ADHD is like a cruel prank. I'm smart but unable to use it.
@HappyMSI1 Hey there. Are there any other methods you tried that helped you out? I'm going to look into breathing techniques and cold exposure you mentioned. Unfortunately, DMT is illegal where I am. The other prescriptions I'm taking only help for 3-4 hours in the day, still trying to find the right balance with my doctor.
@@Random_User_042the medication isn’t going to be a full day solution, realistically. For me it’s a good boost to get myself up, on track, and in the right direction for the day. I pack as much as I can in the first half of the day, because I know it will start to decline during the second half until I crash after dinner. If I ate better and exercised I’m sure that would help in keeping my tank full for longer. There’s a European Dr I watch who also suggests *not* drinking caffeine until midday, or at least late morning, because it’s more effective as the day goes on.
I have a serious problem with this because I grew up in an extremely high-pressure, emotionally-neglectful home where EVERYTHING had immediate and extreme consequences. Now that I'm an adult, I avoid that pressure as much as possible because it was traumatic and painful, but now I can't get anything done.
Same here, the stressful traumatic childhood might trigger adhd in children. Don’t think we get born with it. I grew up in a horror like home where my dad would daily punish my mom and siblings. Grew up with hearing my mom screaming and siblings being scared before and when he got back from work. It’s still haunting me to this day but messed up my life big time and I’m left with the concequences.
Same. The idea of making you more accountable.. I don't need more guilt and shame associated with this. My self esteem has been hit hard by not having a diagnosis in my childhood. It feel like this statement is a recipe for developing performance anxiety:/
Agreed, if I was too slow to do something or did something wrong, I had the ban hammer fall onto me by parents and teachers. Added consequences when I was genuinely struggling made me not want to try things, for fear of failure and shaming. This guy doesn’t seem to get that people with ADHD are human beings with feelings.
What’s more high pressure? Small goals with rewards for completion, or not doing anything then scrambling last minute only to fail? What’s more neglectful? Are you not continuing to neglect your needs now as an adult by not getting anything done? You can take the good things and leave the bad, ya know? Consequences are good. Immediacy is good. Even pressure can be good to a degree. Those things are not synonymous with emotional neglect and you can learn to separate them.
Just know that I understand you 100%. I was diagnosed ADHD PTSD, but as much as it hurts you need to learn to overcome the PTSD because the world does not care and will be happy to not assist you. Therefore, you are the only one that can do that and should do that for yourself. I know the past sucks but don't let it keep you on your knees forever.
I am an adult with ADHD. It got diagnosed when I was 50. Daily meditation for even 5 minutes, has been helpful to quiet the mind and hear the inner intelligent voice that guides me-aside from all the external distractions. I think the more you learn about adhd and how it affects you, the more you can help yourself. I have also found that I need to get started on projects right away, and consistently do a little bit at a time. Some days are better than others and on bad days it can be a minute-to-minute struggle, which can be frustrating, but if I keep at it, the brain settles down a bit. Exercise is very helpful!
Meditation?? HA! That's a funny joke, sounds like one made by someone who doesn't have ADD/ADHD. There *is no* focus, clear your mind, meditate and etc. with untreated ADD/ADHD. And by treated, I specifically mean medicated. All the other (admittedly important when applied with proper meds) management methods in the world won't do a thing if your brain chemistry's at incorrect levels and your executive functions aren't happening period. You literally CANNOT WILL-POWER or "try harder" your way through this issue any more than you could walk on a broken leg bone. It just ain't happening.
🍟 How ironic --- that (even white) pesky wannabe righteous christian patriots are now the new religious extremist boogeymen that need to be taken out of the way (with FunVax 'cure' for pesky fundamental belief in and connection with divine nature) so that the billionaire bankster lucifarian poi-zionist pedophile preistclass can finish turning the entire world into a Gangstas Pair-o-dice / worldwide wireless concentration cramp. 'Cognative dissonance' is when innocent minds can't fathom the depth of diabolically deceptive ruthless lengths that those hellbent on total world domination will go to --- to avoid being held responsible for crimes against humanity and nature (and worse). It is all too likely that trump is just acting (in this big political-theatre meat-puppet show) as 'controlled-opposition' to the lucifarian globalist cabal (proverbial power pyramid-scheme) --- when he is totally down with the pedophile preistclass poi-zionist celebutard cabal himself . kinda like how half Ashkenazi jew hitler became the patsy scapegoat catalyst to give the bankster billionaire warmongers a good sounding motive with which to trick the world into another bloody yet highly lucrative (for themselves) world war . catapult the kingpimps into the 'gulag' they diggeth for pesky greedom-fighting freedom-lovers. Could it be --- Trump is like the 'Judas goat' --- that leads the human-chattel straight to the slaughterhouse by giving them a false sense of security and entitlement? 🍟 Howabout some burnt 'freedom-fries' with your njew world order ? Never forget how 'good ol uncle sam' used the 911 inside job as a bogus excuse to rape, pillage, murder, (and worse) all over the globe. American people are still cool with 'US' evicting all of instigator isreal's unruly neighbors in the mideast --- cool with infiltraiting, subverting, and overthrowing democratically elected governments of syria, iraq, libya, somalia, columbia, chile, ukraine, yemen, etc. --- we schmuck americans absolutely do deserve every bit of retribution coming to us for indulging in our spoils of war and blissfull willful ignorance... Best Say yer prayers before it's even more too late ... Just be aware We all gotta realize how left and right (good actors and pure evil) always manage to work together 'nicely' when it comes time to give themselves big bonuses and $ell the rest of the population out . usa (and earth) is getting played by both sides playing good cop bad cop --- when they are ALL diabolically retarded lucifarian flunky motherschmuckers in on the proverbial poi-zionist masonic power pyramid scheme HELLBENT for TOTAL WORLD DOMINATION together . ( Don't trust the Coven-ment ) Their O.T. - O.G. is one and the same as the narcissistic devil he is supposedly against. Playing both sides for schmucks is just how the deceptacon hex-nut pedophile preistclass kingpimps roll ... Spreading the other cheek further for them to rape everything more easily sure as heck aint helping anyone but the big glory hog glory hole himself . (ruclips.net/video/bZ4NTdSK5ac/видео.html this used to be a vid by a whistleblower exposing the masonic lucifarian celebutard pyramid scheme secret cult) Of coarse if any professionals come clean with the dirty details of their trades --- we should have mercy on them --- but until then --- they deserve every bit of righteous outrage that's coming their way ... (go Cannonize yerselves ) Goddesspeed yawl !
Listening to Dr.Barkley tell me WHY I cant stand myself after 41 years is somehow comforting. I'm such a mess at this point in my life. No friends, relationships or any normal sign of a healthy lifestyle. i'm tired
My friends are always upset with me being late and sometimes I dont want to socialize if my house is not tidy enough... and getting there... but give us some names of drugs then? I used to anti medical drugs before this video. ritalin has been compared to cocaine...
I love how fast he talks and how concise he is. Perfect for us ADHD'ers . . . I'm usually scrolling my phone, tidying a drawer and trying to find something I lost by now 😂
Same here, i'm 40 but at 35 i realized i wasn't lazy, i work 12 hours a day, but i get really easily distracted, when i realized i worked most than every body i know something clicked in my mind, "I AM A REALLY HARD WORKING PERSON", "I AM AN OREDERED PERSON" but i had something else i couldn't understand. I repeat to myself every week these 2 sentences and my self love has grown
Dr. Barkley is one of the most lucid, incisive, and riveting speakers I have ever heard. The man is a virtuoso of oratory and a blessing to people who struggle with ADHD.
I have ADHD, so does my son. I became a special ed teacher I know the clinical definition of so many of the performance disorders that exist.He has changed my view on so many things related to and beyond ADHD.
Full of ideas with no motivation to follow through. Sums it up pretty well. Thinking about what I could've accomplished if I didn't have ADHD is incredibly upsetting.
I know, it hurts me so much. I know I’m not stupid. A handful of my friends went to IvyLeagues out of high school. But my dumbass became super over emotional over a break up in high school and I basically ruined my life over some silly kiddie relationship. Here I am now, in debt, 5 years Into community college with nothing to show for it because no matter how many colleges I keep transferring to, I end up fucking up my GPA in the first semester.
@@dailyredapple How about fuck college and go and get a trade aka an apprenticeship. Make friends with someone that owns a business and hammer them to get it!! xx
Same! I have THE BEST ideas, find the best products.... But... Then I see these products on the shelves months later selling so well, but none are mine. I have great foresight and can advise and coach others magnificently keeping them to task.. But not myself. I've been mistaken for a psychologist, marketing manager, teacher and nurse.. Just with "stuff" I've researched and what I think... Zero qualifications as I'm interested in so much but can't commit to one thing. I've been called "lazy" by family as I'm not a domestic goddess (though ok) but others think I'm super organised and efficient, achieving great things in the community... Can't win.
Sat crying at this. I’m dyslexic & clinically depressed & diagnosed with anxiety but since actually looking at myself, I’ve come to realise that I exhibit all symptoms of ADHD. It’s so hard to get a diagnosis here but this video made me break down in tears man. This resonated with me like nothing before. I’ve written all of this down. I’m determined to get my fucking life back.
I had exactly what you have. I changed jobs. Took some psychedelics once or twice. I now work nights.I use Stimulant medication. I am almost a fully functional member of society now. My depression is gone. It is possible to get your life back. I'm still dyslexic but Google helps a lot😅
It can be hard to find a doctor who is willing to diagnose and treat this condition. I was not diagnosed until I was 40. I had started looking for treatment 7 years before I was diagnosed, but the psychiatrist I first saw about it - the only psychiatrist my then-health insurance company covered - lead me to believe that I was within the range of normal. I wasn't. I just happened to be single, childless and exercising 2x a day when I visited with her. So I went about my life, still struggling some. Moved up in my career to management level roles, got married, had a baby...and stopped having time to exercise even 1x a day consistently. And my life started slowly falling apart. I tried again to get treatment, having a new PPO insurance plan, but actually getting the appointment took almost a year. Thank goodness I had gotten recommendations from family and friends about the best doctor to see about the condition and he diagnosed me in 1 visit. Medication isn't a silver bullet. (Honestly, exercising 2x a day was closer to a silver bullet.) But it helps! And so does having a name for the condition and the issues. So I can watch videos like this one, and know a few more changes I can implement to help myself cope. Keep looking for the doctor who can and will treat you! P.S. Besides exercise or stimulant meds, my D.O. psychiatrist let me know that Flax Seed Oil or Fish Oil 3 times a day can help. (D.O.s always wanna try the "natural" approach first. I am personally over the natural approach, but keep this info in my back pocket in case I ever run out of meds between appointments.)
For some reason this popped back into my feed. I don’t know if this video truly changed my life or not, but things have gotten a lot better for me since the last time I watched it years and years ago. I finished college, have a career, and even bought a condo. For whatever contribution to my success this video was, thank you.
im 30, i have a lot going on for me, but i still feel like a worthless piece of shit most of the times. thank you for grounding me. I'm on a waitlist to get tested. My dream would be to literally figure out what my career even *should* be. Some mental stability so i can do the things i want to do and accomplish my long term goals. again, thank you for grounding me that this is still possible! I hope years from now i will be able to leave a message like yours, right here on this video.
I have been doing all of these for years! Scary stuff. Recent diagnosis. Got through medical school, top grades, never failed a class but I am so tired and still feel like a failure! Recently started medication which has been insane. This is a great lecture, bizarre to see someone just outlining things I have internalised and battled to create to keep myself functional. Wish I had found this sooner.
On Dec. 15th I’ll be granted my BS in Microbiology and have just gotten an assessment for ADHD and I too wish I would’ve gotten help earlier in life. I’ve stopped internalizing my shortcomings and began to rebuild my confidence by learning more this disease well, myself. Truly astounding to learn THIS
I’m in medical school and I am about to be expelled because I can no longer deal with this condition 😞 I’m glad someone made it, sad you still feel like a failure given all you’ve achieved. I hope medication helped you 🫶🏻
Nailed it. I'm 72. As I age, my ADHD is getting worse. I've so much to do. It's in my face, but I freeze, becoming overwhelmed. Things are piling up, commitments loom. I know I'm highly intelligent. I constantly study, learn things, but when it comes to being motovated in the physical world, nothing, little at best, gets done. I am seeking help, medication, but even getting this done gets put off... damnit. Aerobic activity is becoming more difficult in that it takes me away from what I need to do, adding to my overwhelmedness. It is maddening. I hate having to rermind people to remind me, and I hate constantly being reminded, it goes around and around, destroying any semblance of self-esteem.
Tenho 61 anos. descobri que tinha tdah há 3 anos e tive de procurar psiquiatra especializada para VALIDAR o meu diagnóstico. Passo por tudo isso. É dose !!
Late reply but offering this: Drop everything and get a DX and the right RX meds. Then take control of what’s looming and set up clocks in your visual field, in every room! Don’t rely on the iPhone!
Never have I seen a better explanation of ADHD. Made me very emotional as well. University would not at all be possible for me without medication. It is extremley frustrating and painful to want to accomplish something but you can't make yourself actually do it. Having a massive white board in my room really helps. I have bought many planners and installed many apps on my phone but they don't work XD.
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better . A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings) Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
lol i always write a to do list and i find it after a few days and laugh at myself for believing this would work and the board is part of my room decoration now
@@bellyfulochelly4222 If you mean hyperfocus, that you studied all day without noticing, it's one of my favourite ways to work. I have to be hyper interested in the topic. I wish I could do it predictably. I need a compelling question, and then I can't stop studying. Without one, it can be hard to focus.
I have done this as well. Schedules. Everything in its place always! Unfortunately, after my retirement, I have nothing or nobody to hold me accountable, to push me forward...there’s nothing. It’s now, that it’s all falling apart. This makes so much sense! I was a construction worker and always physically active.
I remember describing the feeling that no matter how much introspection I did, it wouldn't change my behavior. I couldn't do the things that I knew how to do.
Introspection is painful with a lifetime of “untapped potential” wasted by “poor motivation and lack of self-discipline.” Diagnosis and treatment 50 years ago would have given me an entirely different life.
I replied here but it ended up where I did not want it 😂 magnesium has been helping me out. For 4 yrs now. Progress is slow but its there. Cheapest lowest dosage from discounters. Dr Berg mentions diet here on RUclips
I believe this is part of why CBT therapy for my anxiety didn’t help long-term. I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD yet, but I kept telling my therapists that I knew what I needed to be doing, I just didn’t know how to make myself do it. (Or sometimes, I did the things that were supposed to help, but they did nothing for me, which killed my motivation to keep trying.)
I paused as well as back-tracked SO many times!! I am walking my circle drive so I can stay within the house wifi range but still day-dreamed. I agreed with all except the glucose as I am addicted and cannot " not gulp", tho for a super important task requiring constant concentration, I'm willing to try. I'm 78 and eat carnivore and exercise (jogging, calisthenics) and write copious post-its and lists and records, and plan short term rewards for boring tasks (1 hr housework earns me an iced coffee on the patio). My husband has it worse, so he is not much help and I struggle with not tellung, controlling, nagging, and holding resentments when I can see, and say, and ask, and offer to help him with his stuff. God, help us all ❤🙏
Just recently realizing myself as a 28 year old that I likely have ADHD and it really makes me tear up too being hit with that realization that it’s not that I’m unable to take care of my life how I think I should, but that I’ve never had the right tools… validating and scary at the same time.
I am also 33 and I was diagnosed last month. I learned so much in the past month and started my medication last week. But to fully get better, I still need to develop some good habits and design my environment.
No this motherschmucker has the disorder --- (narcissistic dickhead) . How come nobody ever invests in a CURE for sadistic-greed . Ever heard the 'myth' about the LOTUS FLOWER of forgetfullness? it is precisely the drugs in the air, water, and food supply that keep the population comfortably-dumb . (like nazis sedatating concentration campers) Too bad --- that Nowadaze --- Both The wheat and the weeds get napalmed with various poi-zions and toxic logic to keep the intellectual lawn of the world mowed down low in a pharmakeia sorcery sleeping beauty spell trance . Afflicting the population with poi-zion food supply keeps the vicious-cycle health insurance scam based economy healthy. ask yer doctor --- if they're aware that glyphosatan herbicide is being napalmed on nearly every crop nowadaze (just a few days right before harvest (dessication) desecration) to make it easier on the harvesting machines after the plants are all dried up. ) roundup is registered as a broad spectrum antibiotic that kills the good beneficial bacteria in the soil and our guts that helps us absorb nutrients and keep our immune systems healthy . belly-bloat and brainfog are among the initial 'side-effects' (afflictions) that eventually degenerate into even worser lucrative ailments with ever more toxic poi-zion pharma-suicidical solutions. Only reason its considered safe by the corporate-fascist sponsored government acronymn agencies is because it keeps the vicious-cycle based pharmasuicidical-insurance-scam - false-advertising industrial-complex based economy healthy --- thanks to. cowardly doctors, scientists, journalists, and acadamia-nuts afraid of speaking out against the big pharma-mafia . (google 84 hollistic doctors die untimely deaths in 3 yrs) or we can just keep smoking the genetic-molesting 'medical' marijuana and continue to pretend its fun to REALLY get FUGGED UP . eat genetic-molesting probiotic so-called human shit pills and pretend its fun to mutate into mindless consumer shitheads is one of their diabolically-retarded antidotes --- but then i digress . (instead of being able to digest the way nature intended) its about motherfracking time to take care of the 'CANCER-SOCIETY' --- BEFORE they try to take care of us overly-trusting schmuckers . You can't eat money --- but the wealthy are relatively healthy! Maybe its time to go poi-zion kosher-cannibal? keep in mind --- that destruction of honest to goodness american values and lives is the kosher poi-zion deceptacon hex-nut globalist motherfrackers end game plan. they are doing a pretty good job of dragging us and the rest of the world down to their warmongering level --- got to give em credit where credit is due --- crafty basturds. now its time to let them have what they are hellbent on recieving --- all the love and light in the world --- more than any dark souless souls could possibly ever handle . maybe they can all just die from a holy-ghost passover again ! rapture them greedy-sadistic poi-ZIONIST motherfrackers the heck out of here allready ! Genetic-molesting obamanations are intended to ethnic-cleanse heathen schmucks junk dna . weoponized weather and directed energy weopons are designed to punish rogue governments that refuse monsatano's poi-zion toxic garbage . Sun of god is written in our hearts --- when we let the sunshine in . that's why the evil invasive illegal-alien entities are litter-ally trying to block out our connection to our divine source of LIGHT (with persistent 'con-trails') We best not let ANYBODY try to scare the friggin Be-jesus outta any of US ! That's the problem with a corporate fascist/socialist sponsored so-called 'free press ' . Everyone on the payroll from the reporters, to the scientists, doctors, and professors are 'highly discouraged' against painting their authortarian globalist sponsors in a bad light... Check out this free independent meteorologist weather report : Weoponized weather oppression technology has been getting deviloped and implemented for a long time allready --- and yet the weathermen still pretend that the bad weather is just a natural disaster act of god... www.geoengineeringwatch.org/a-climate-engineering-introduction-to-media-and-the-uninformed/ Why would anyone want to be hellbent on total world domination? And beyond? Duh . if you think The wages --- for deliberately schmucking peace-loving people into going to war against everything pure and natural and good must be astronomically enormous --- Yer damn friggin right --- but you definitely got another thing coming . . .
Good luck actually getting treatment if you have ADHD. You need to be able to: - go to regular appointments - fill out copious amounts of paperwork - keep fighting against a system that thinks you're lying to it - have lots of money - I'll finish this list later
@@j.m.ematthijsse6251 lololol dont promote the myth that its just Americas system thats broken. Try living even in Australia and getting adequate CONSISTENT treatment in the public health system. Garbage level when you're intelligent and active in self healing
@@JackyTMusic I'm from Sydney and I'm getting treatment! My doctor only takes medicare. He's also really nice and calm to listen to, which can sometimes be frustrating because you just need to go go go, but can also be relaxing because it reminds you to take your time and that you don't need everything done immediately. I learnt treatment is slow. But it's better than nothing.
The glucose part was especially interesting! I’ve started drinking energy drinks at work in the early afternoon to help with the afternoon slump and it really really works. It’s nice to see a bit of science behind a personal hack!
For me coffee with a ton of sugar works like a charm. It keeps me energized and makes me do all the chores that I would put off if I wouldn’t drink it. I don’t drink it daily though, I let my body rest the next day without it so I don’t become too dependant on it.
I wonder actually if reducing sugar and going low carb/keto is the other option. If cell energy regulation is the problem, using fats and proteins for ATP synthesis is a much more stable way of doing so
I could never do that as a diabetic... it would send me right to sleep apart from the general harm too high a glucose level does in the diabetic body. Low carb is a safer approach for me, to keep the glucose regulated.
This is pure gold. If you can't get anything done, if you tend to procrastinate, if you seem to do the things you like instead of those you have to do, if you get frustrated in the job, if you lose connection with friends, if you are lonely, if you're always late and so on, ... 1) you should get a diagnosis 2) you should ask others to get you into a therapy 3) you should consider medication 4) you should definitely try different systems like bullet journals, printed calendars, apps, reminders, fixed routines, clear structures and so on. This might make your life 345% better. Good luck.
I tried to get diagnosed but the doctor told me i just have Bipolar 🥲 time and time again, i feel like i have adhd but idk maybe it's just in my head 😂
I definitely need to get checked. I'm like 90% sure I have ADHD, and I came to that conclusion several months before I saw this video or read this comment. All of the things you said apply to me. They didn't apply to me a few years ago, but I now realize that's because I had a very strong support network then - my family, and my school. I don't have that, and my life has kinda fallen apart since. I need help, but I don't know where to get it, and I definitely can't trust myself to proactively seek it out before things get worse.
If only people understood the insurmountable daily struggles of having adhd. (Myself included.) So exhausted from no sleep, no break from thinking, and never being able to sustain focus. Lots to give. No way to give it. Zero self pity just a dwindling loss of hope and optimism after four decades of consistent inconsistencies. Humour is the last thing to go, eh. My sincere empathy for all you fellow adhders out there in the foggy ether of hyper neuro ville. I for one would relish a simple, stable life where I could wholeheartedly apply my passion and skills. In the meantime, I'll pen a youtoob miniature violin concerto comment. Impulses ahoy!
@Danielle W. I don't know what kind of ADD you have but if my mind is not stimulated when I want to fall asleep, it's close to impossible if I'm not already very tired, and even then I put like a old episode from a series that I like to run in the backgound for the noise, it's smooth falling asleep after. And I read some other peoples comments doing the same thing so it's not just me.
Danielle W. 💯understand exactly what you're saying and where you're coming from, I can also tell you, some of us, our minds don't stop thinking 💭 unless they are at the point of almost a physical exhaustion. And I think 🤔 that's what the other comment [ (edit) @Om Draws!] was about. I decided to learn Chinese, one of the most difficult languages, just so my brain 🧠 would stop thinking 💭. Or maybe it was as a test, if my brain would stop thinking💭 Lol 😆 It didn't🙄 I actually learned Mandarin 😆🙄So now the challenge is learning to read and write it😁😉
But seriously he said this as I was scrolling down the comments and reading yours 💀 I'm freaked out/happy because I've been studying enlightenment/synchronicities and this was definitely one of them 🤣🙏
As a 42 year old with rampant ADHD, this man single handedly both validated my existence and explained why I am still functioning decently. What a wizard!
I about cried when he said medication IS the right treatment for this.... I've been off Ritalin for 27 years (at 18 they told us we'd grow out of ADD and promptly cut us off) and living like this is slowly killing my will to live. I've become a recluse who pretends to be high functioning at work. The last time I didn't feel like a total moron was when I was on Ritalin. I was always the smartest person in the room! Nothing could get me down! Man I miss those days so much. I might not have dropped out of college if I had been allowed to stay on medication, and I might have a career right now instead of a dead end job.
Totally wish I had kept up the Ritalin as well. I got a new prescription, my old diagnosis was still active, and it has been really helpful. Talk to your doctor!
My dear, I don’t know how old you are, but don’t give up. Even if you think it’s too late, maybe it’s not. You can go back to meds and try to develop strategies to better your situation. I don’t know you, but I really hope you can feel better.
I wanted to suggest you look into neurofeedback for ADHD, because it worked for me. You'd try a psychologist (not a psychiatrist). It's not medication, it's a treatment. Good luck.
By the grace of Adderall combined with a highly caffenatied sport drink I was able to absorb 40% of this 13 minute presentation. And that 40% alone is life changing. "ADHD The diabetes of psychiatry.." 'An INTENTION deficit disorder not attention." " Make time external." "An executive function disorder not attention."
I stopped drinking coke a few years ago because of stomach issues. now I only drink plain water. I've been also hitting my coping limits the past 2 years to the point that I saw a doctor and got diagnosed. now you/he made me thinking.... is there a chance that coke helped me to function to a certain degree....?
@@IsleNaK Caffeine causes an epinephrine response, and medications that are known to help adhd like Wellbutrin are designed to make your brain experience more epinephrine. Wellbutrin is definitely preferable though if you can get it because your brain will adjust to consistent use of caffeine and null it out, but wellbutrin is a reuptake inhibitor, which side steps that adjustment mechanism for the most part
For me it helps to keep small notes of how long such tasks usually do take but then add 25-50% time to whatever it usually takes, this way your always ahead of the time you give.
my friends and family consistently tell me to be somewhere an hour before i'm really supposed to be there, i picked up on it so i'm always aware when that's what's going on but in some weird paradoxical way it still works, i'm habitually late on time even though i know deep down im late
This is the most informative, helpful, awakening video, I have ever seen. I didn't even know I had had ADHD. I don't have insurance and don't qualify for Medicaid. I spent most of my life never being able to go to doctors. I'm speechless. This video is going to change my life. Amen! Thank you for sharing
ADHD for me has always felt like two things. One is like, rush hour traffic playing nonstop all the time. Every conversation is accompanied by honking horns and bright lights from oncoming traffic. My brain is overstimulated by intrusive thoughts and external forces, and focus is hard to maintain and easy to lose. The other version I've encountered. Is like a deer in headlights. I think about all of these things, and plan plenty of activities. But once I have to make a decision on what of these thoughts I want to act on. I lock up. Sometimes, I look through the sea of options and they don't seem interesting enough. I end up spending all of the time I could have been doing something, mindlessly doing nothing. Watching RUclips shorts on an endless loop while I argue with my brain on what to do. From the outside, I just seem lazy and unmotivated. But in reality I'm running every scenario in my head with no real push towards a resolve. It only ends when I either fall asleep, or something finally grabs my attention. I can't help but feel like the attention issues are accompanied by depression. But considering nothing is diagnosed because of money, I could just be talking out of my ass.
YES!!! i feel the same. I am literally paralyzed, locked up, can't do anything because I can't do everything at once. Brain is rolling through 1000 scenarios at once, and the only respite is sleep.
this really hits home for me. I"m just realizing that I"m pretty textbook ADHD in many ways.. at 55 :/ I've always had this problem on and off of freezing up and getting very rapid onset decision fatigue. I make the list, I look at the list, I try to prioritize and the frustration and overwhelm start as this sinking feeling. If I start a task, I often can't pay attention within a short time unless it somehow fully engages me and the rest of the world falls away. But that is hard to find since other ideas, tasks, inspirations are constantly asserting themselves in a cacophany of thoughts like an electrical storm. I'm learning as much about myself from all these great comments as I did fron the talk lol.
We are just 'more' people. We are more crearive, more insightfull, more happy and more angry. My one kid and I are also always in rush and quick to everything that seems interesting. . When I finally force myself to do the work, i am hyper efficient and perfectionist. Don't let anybody to tell you that you are looser or there is no hope. We can by super productive, we just need to start. Recently I've dicovered Steven Pressfield 'War of art' he write about resistance in life. Mebye it will be interesting for you.
It's estimated that with undignosed people, there might be 5-10% of Humanity with ADHD. Therfore this is biodiveristy and not disease/disfunction! If we are useless loosers nature would get rid of us 😅 I know that some people, lets say 1% have extreme version and that must be very hard for them for sure.
Any of you guys go to do something and just jam up so hard you cannot make yourself do it even if you'd wanted to before? Like just it's impossible and you feel like "No! I can't!" Like anything you just have to try to do is instantly too much even if it isn't? And if you do get some little thing done by some miracle or something you should like or even a bigger thing, you don't feel good, it's just another thing on a list and there's no feeling of reward at all, even if somebody actually says good job and means it, you don't feel it?
It's highly treatable and yet I've been trying to get help for years with no luck. Getting a diagnosis, just a diagnosis, is brutally difficult. Getting help for ahdh is NOT adhd friendly.
@@alanberkeley7282 it's definitely a real thing. Myself, and my daughter have it. It a feeling, causes many issues with childhood, growing up, effects grades, causes an umbrella of extra things with mental illness. You have to have ADHD to know it. I'm ADD, and so is my child... The more quiet type. I have no idea where to even begin. Do you think you may or may not have it? It's changes in the brain chemistry. Autism runs along with it like a cousin, but the two are very different, yet similar. I have one of each. If you don't have it, it's obviously going to be hard to understand.
Almost done with my Bachelor in Psychology. Its not the level of education that makes it difficult, but the DOING part. Im very proud of myself if I can finish this and I will continue to go get my masters. I was 32 when I started. Trust me if I say its all about self optimalisation. Do what works for you and and change what doesnt work. And yes excercising works great. 3 days hard work, one day excercise. Works like a charm (for me). Also for big study assignements I use meds (dexamfetamine), but only for study assignements or else my costs like sleep deprivation etc. would get to high.
I have a BA in psych, seemed a natural thing. Could have taken a programing course, this was 1966, instead of psych 101. Gotta say I never put the psych to use. Really couldn't keep a job. When I was about 50 I was diagnosed, put on meds, and discovered computer programming and got an MS in it. Programming suited me, worked in the field successfully until I retired. Wish I were diagnosed and had taken that programming course in 1966!
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better . A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings) Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
Im so glad I was your comment! Im here because my therapist recommended me to watch him, when I told her about my adhd. I started to get chills hearing him speak so intelligently about this and teary eyed and then I started crying. It's good to hear theres hope and forms of treatment out there for us.
@@asdfghlkjh100 funny, people who have adhd/add can't stop their brain from thinking like a speed train, this means they're usually incredibly rational thinkers, i don't think you're going to be finding people to convert here budyy..
@@indiathomas6580 heyhey! i see your comment is a week old but i highly suggest the channel ''How To ADHD'' the doctor told me i have a ADD but not how to deal with it, the channel helps alot with that and allowes me to create handles to hold onto highly recommended!
I have rewatched this video like 10 times because it just feels so validating to hear someone talk about it that actually understands it. there are still way too many pepople who don't 'accept' this disorder and that makes me so sad.
I wish other people would recognize that ADHD is real and treatable but it is just a lot easier to write us off as being lazy, unfocused, unmotivated, etc. Kind of like how many would look at a homeless person and instead of finding what circumstances led them there the first thought it "They did it to themselves. They're lazy and don't wanna work." I resisted getting on Adderall for years. My therapist would constantly ask me to take an ADHD test and I would refuse since my dad is a doctor and had always hammered into me that ADHD was just a made up excuse for lazy people. Today I have to say it has made a huge difference. I still struggle on getting things done but not nearly as much as when I was just trying to wing it through life. It's a shame that there was many bright people out there, like my sister, who still view ADHD as a problem on not having enough focus and that it can be done via meditation and will-power alone. It is just much easier for society to label us as people with no motivation or focus rather than admit that their cookie cutter education system is way out of touch with the different ways people learn. Rather than overhaul the system and create different schools for different learning styles it's jut easier to label kids as troublemakers and sell that to their parents and peers than admit they need to change their approach.
VideoTzar19 👍Agree But: 1) It is up to us. We cannot expect others to do something over what they don't know nor understand. Including drs. 2) as parents, it is us, who make decisions for our children. We speak up for them. We represent them. We must not allow others: teachers, doctors, authority, to tell us how/what is best for ourselves and our children; 3) when we make a point to know ourselves, to know our children each one as an individual, we can exercise our very best option of what is best for us and our child. 4) teach our kids to know ourselves and themselves; strengths and weaknesses. 5) easier said than done but not impossible. It just takes a conscious effort and sacrifice to make it through. Doctors are the worst. I know. I've been in the field 30 years; have them in the family; and that's the career path my children have chosen. However, many patients have died from most curable cancers, most simple infections, and the dr is in the family (husband, wife, parent, sibling or him/herself). Doctors, some, there are exceptions, when they don't know about a certain condition like concussions, ADHD, fibromyalgia, PTSD, or others, tend to blame the patients. Refuse to see anything that is not what they were taught. Especially now, with the level of litigation, practicing defensive medicine, they even dismiss the patient's history and waste resources so they can have lab backup for potential legal issue according to their mind. Us, the patients, become our own drs, researchers. The more we know, the better we can take care of ourselves and each other🤔😃🚶♀️🏃♀️🚶🌻🌷🌴
I have heard that when people supplement with vitamins and minerals and omega 3 essential fatty acids, they are able to focus better. Perhaps it has to do a lot with diet
dnsgilbert09 👍It is very very important to keep track/watch what we eat. It all comes down to personal individual responsibility. And, EDUCATION. The more we know, the better choices we make. Most importantly, WE make the decision. Expecting others to do this or that for us, is our downfall. Taking charge of our lives, at every level. Taking charge of our destiny. It's a wonderful, feeling of freedom and self encouragement once we realize we are in charge.
Beautiful, beautiful video! As a man recently diagnosed with ADHD, the more I serious analysis that I seek on data about my condition, the more I discover about myself and my behavioral tendencies. Knowing what I know now , it's no wonder I've gotten such obtuse results in my life. I've basically been forcing my unique shaped fit into the wrong pair of shoes my entire life because there is so much ignorance around people who think like me. So grateful to finally have some answers. So glad there are people to look to for guidance.
I am a Mechanical Engineering student in my 4th-year of college and despite my 21 years of life, I am just now understanding what has been holding me back my entire life.
Huh?? Man I'm confused. Sounds like u braggin' or mockin' me. Lol u showin' off or is this just worded funny? Do u mean it looks like you're doing very well and obviously quite brilliant but the rest of your life is a mess?? How u held back?? (Not dissin' just tryna learn)
@@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs there are a lot of things to life other than academics, perhaps in order to get where he is today he needed to sacrifice the other parts of life (more than neurotypicals do).
After watching through all of it I realized that he meant "hold accountable" as in "slapping physical responsibility reminders onto your face because your brain doesn't remember them". In a way, it DOES mean holding us more accountable because, he will keep remind us of what we need to do and when and why and what we will get after it is done.
I like how he said it is 80% treatable with medication. I would like to see it. Here is a list of different meds: adderall, adderall, adderall, and Ritalin. Meth
Years of studying to no avail, no one believing you when you say can't work. Meditation retreats, leaving the internet, psychotherapy for depression, daily meditation, scheduling, goal setting. Years of time lost. Finally, understanding its not your moral shortcoming, but an undiagnosed issue that other people simply don't deal with is a bittersweet understanding. Its just so sad to know so many will go through their lives with no diagnosis.
I think we know more now that neuroplasticity can rewire some of this out of the brain; however, I am a late diagnosed ADHD -- after decades of my military PTSD distracting my healthcare providers-- and now I feel (1) emotional about how I used to try to mitigate these behaviours in school. uni, and work without knowing what was wrong; and (2) I feel a bit overwhelmed by how I have to now build a prosthetic environment. This is a lot of work.
this guy gets it. I agree with being held more accountable, only when i feel pushed and challenged do i really get my shit together. time feels so irrelevant to me
But the way he explains it sounds scary. Everyone hounding you... :( In my case, it has to come across as non-judgemental and supportive or I push back . :)
John Gray I have to structure my own scaffolds with dry erase calendars, etc. I have found the best way to make myself get to tasks on my to do list is to use removable tape from The Container Store and move tasks around so that I can group like items and give myself rewards of Advocare Spark, breakfast, iced tea, in between the often mundane chores.
John Szarek I completely understand what you are saying about pushing back if you feel judged or pushed. I am somewhat the same way, but I can also be the complete opposite...if I feel JUDGED I will feel embarrassed and defeated and immediately give up. If I feel PUSHED, that’s when I dig my heels in and get completely defiant. Even if I know that whatever I’m resisting is in my best interest and I SHOULD be doing it. This is a constant source of conflict between my husband and I. He tries to “motivate” me by telling me what I’m going to do and that’s all she wrote...I could have been planning on doing exactly what he just said but the second I feel like I’m being pushed into it...it’s over...not happening. I can instantly feel my entire mood shift. I know it’s stupid when it’s happening and I don’t like causing the friction/tension, but I cannot make myself not push back...almost out of spite if that makes sense?? It’s like I feel like he tries to parent me. I know that’s not how he’s intending it to come across, but some metaphorical switch inside of me just flips and it’s over. He’s pretty much the only person that happens with though. 99.9% of the time I will just get embarrassed by ANOTHER failed attempt at being a “normal” and “successful” adult and immediately give up 😕
same, my parents are the chillest parent without giving me any rules or reinforcing discipline. It was difficult to go through high school and college. I still love them though
This is crazy, it has taken me about 26 years to understand half of this stuff and it's all summed up here, all the struggle I've had in my life summed up in 13 minutes and possible solutions I haven't implemented, this has been really informative, thanks a lot
Man, this is so good to hear. Apparently I've been dealing with PTSD and ADHD for the last 20+ years. Finally got a diagnosis and on meds a few months ago and I've literally been more productive in the last 6 months than I've been in the last 10 years. If you feel like you have mental health issues, go to a doc and take your meds. They really do help.
@Tony Camaj As for the PTSD, there really isn't "curing it." Only managing it. My PTSD makes it hard for me to sleep so that's what the clonidine is for
@Tony Camaj I also want to add, talk to your doctor first. You might not need 75mg of venlafaxine, and different things can cause BPD and depression. It seems we've narrowed it down to lack of serotonin for me. But lack of dopamine or even vitamins can cause depression and ADHD. So don't take my experience as law. My very first round of meds actually made everything worse for me and we switched over to the meds I'm on now. Sadly, these things are kind of a trial by fire kind of thing. My advice to you is be as honest as possible with your psychiatrist. Don't think of it as revealing yourself to a stranger. Think of it as a professional who needs to know this stuff to help you
@Tony Camaj it looks like my first reply got hit by the algorithm and deleted. I'm on Adderall, venlafaxine, and clonidine. Not sure what got what got algorithm'd but this should give you a place to start
@Tony Camaj yeah, sorry to hear that, man. Definitely talk to your doctor. I'm not too sure what can be done for traumatic brain injuries. I have heard of experimental meds using shrooms and LSD. Maybe talk to your doctor about those experiments? At worst your doc tells you no, at best you get to do drugs for free,and legally! Haha
John Szarek I made it to college (university). failed 2 years on different subjects and I'm still in my first year. I dont want to fail this time because all the friends I have, all my aspirations in sport, all other things I have going for me in my life are based around this uni. It's 1 am. tomorrow I have one of the deciding exams and I'm completely unprepared. yet here I am reminding myself of what makes me hate who I am. wish I never "made it to college".
God, I hear you. I dropped out of college because I could not get Algebra ll with a 3.0 in other classes. I understood it. I couldn't remember all of the formulas. Some of that might be from being an ISFJ personality type. I was devastated. Fortunately, I'm retired and still have a paycheck.
This is the best explanation of ADHD I’ve ever seen, I couldn’t relate more. I’m an aspiring entrepreneur but need to move faster, I am very limited with my willpower on a daily basis - I can get the willpower back during a day but it is time consuming since I need to do it by exercising and meditation - once I have it back it is shorter lived than earlier though. Been a struggle finding the right kind of help :(
This makes me wanna cry tbh. I went through my whole life failing everything in school and having no answers as to why. First it was theories that I had a learning disability like dyslexia, then it was that I had an anxiety disorder, but now at 27 I finally know what it was all this time. The crazy thing is that my twin brother was diagnosed around 10 years old too. God, if only I'd had the right help instead of constant disappointment and confused stares from adults when I couldn't get homework done for the life of me. I would have graduated, maybe my anxiety would have been less because I wouldn't have been terrified of failing everyone all the time. I grew up thinking I'd never be able to finish or accomplish anything because I couldn't trust myself to actually stick with it and do it in the end. To know if people had just understood it could have saved so much pain and loneliness
That lack of self trust is already so debilitating, let alone being something we learned on our own while battling ADHD. For me, not trusting that I'd be able to follow through on what I start makes it even harder to do anything.
I feel like I will look back in many years time to this video, and remember it fondly as the key moment that changed my life for the better. Thank you Dr. Russell.
This made me cry. I was just recently diagnosed with ADD after being diagnosed with over a dozen mental disorders and this is the one that resonated the most. Once I started getting treatment for my ADD, it was like the other illnesses just went away. I was essentially misdiagnosed for over twenty years. It is especially hard as a woman to be properly diagnosed because we mirror ‘normal’ social patterns so well. Ladies (and men), BE PERSISTENT with your doctors. Make yourself heard.
Word!! Also as a female, certain hormones mess with our medication every month. I knew it wasn't just me wanting drugs or all in my head bcuz sometimes I didn't even need all 4 of my dexedrine- I could take two twice a day and sometimes I didn't need the 2nd two, and sometimes I'd take all 4 and feel like I may as well have flushed them down the drain. At first I was crushing and sniffing ritalin bcuz I didn't trust my stomach it just wouldn't kick in- but then I noticed that the insufflation method wasn't working either and after a whole bunch of bullshit punishment from being honest with my doctor I eventually figured out that the luteal phase knocks out adhd medication and that it's recommended to prescribe double for 10 days every month. It had to print out the scholarly article I found it in and bring it into him and then it was all good. But then they kept asking me what time I was taking it everyday- they never asked that about other medications- but made me come into the pharmacy every single day to take it in front of them. They didn't give a shit what time I got there to take it tho- or that I can't get moving without it so getting there was extremely frustrating and I wouldn't always make it before they closed. I should've said I take it when I wake up but I was stumped with the whole time on the clock thing- I didn't understand the question- but they should've understood time-blindness since they told me about it in the first place- they told me my adhd is why I struggle making it to appointments then they would schedule appointments and expect me to show up on time and punish me for failing by withholding my medication like it's a treat. Thinking I'm not motivated enough to come in and get my drugs but treat me like I'm some junkie that cant be trusted MAN it's fucked. They cut me off cold-turkey months ago. From 5 medications. Brain snaps were fucken fun comin off Paxil. I've tried other pharmacies and the mental health center my family doctor no one will help me. I was so sick and confused for months and donno how I fucked up so bad that I got surprised with an eviction - put out on the street with my cat no warning no time to bring anything or get dressed - in the winter- mocked and ridiculed by the 4 thugs threatening to physically remove me from my apt I've been in for 7 years... got cut off my financial assistance- came to my moms for help - and since I'm "staying with a parent" the gov't takes a huge chunk off of the only assistance I can get and then she's charging me rent- let's me have a small allowance. Thinks I'm just gonna spend it all on drugs.... thinks I'm hiding something when I straight up told her I need money for acid and crystal meth. 😄😁😆 Wtf else would I have to hide?? Man. She keeps tryna figure out when I'm high. I'm like- mom!! I'm always on meth. When you get pissed cuz my room gets piled up and disgusting and the litter box makes me want to scream and cry bcuz it's so gross and my cat doesnt deserve that shit but I cant fucken do shit- that's when I ran out. When I have friends who will help me out for free but I can't even get up to go downstairs and outside to meet them-- for free drugs when I'm hurting-- that's when I'm not on meth. When your dishes are all done for you and the place is spotless and my room is clean, I'm clean, my clothes are clean- laundry is done and put away- cats all clean and happy and I'm painting or colouring or making phone calls and actually getting to the appointments and omg I even had my first shift back at work and I actually made it- that's when I've actually had a rare steady supply of acid and crystal meth for a short while. I'm not sure when you think I'm high but the fact that you can't tell.... and if that's what gettin high is - where's the problem?? If I had enough acid to take to get high AND still have enough to micro-dose 8ths every 4th day- that would be cool- but it's hard to get even with money and u taking money from me "to prevent me from buying drugs" has got me looting for shit in abandoned homes, donation bins- I'm gonna give shoplifting a try now. Been thinkin about it for awhile now and decided just the other day that I don't think I give a fuck. Sounds like fun. I'm goin for the big shit too- 😁🤣 gonna grab a big box and walk right out with it- smile and nod at the staff n say u have a nice day too!! Lol. We'll see how it goes lmao!! Hopin 2 get my self some transportation, stimulation and motivation all in one with a segway ninebot maxxx!! Somehow those things seem to get me out the door no problem- well... not really but it's a much less painful process. I gotta find some chemistry students to befriend... it will be nice when I can no longer be spending time trying to get this shit. It was nice when I never had to think about it. I used to think about things like mixing red koolaid and cream soda together and the cute ice cube tray I got. And those decals I got to make a feature wall and learning about chakras and gem stones... fake nails and lashes... photography.... gathering sound bytes for when I'm back on the air at work... if I ever get back.. 😥😓 keep thinking about trying detox but then I'm back to never gettin shit and I've already done that at home a few times. It'll do it tho- they'll probably give me valium and then I'll be hooked on benzos bcuz I'll notice how nice it is to feel anxiety free but won't be prescribed them so they'll just say see ya later and well shit that sounds like fun fuck it let's go! Definitely doin this shoplifting thing... probably won't tho.. just keep thinkin about it... ready and willing but just gonna stay in the same spot for days and days.... if you've read this far thank you for listening.
Happens all the time with women who have ADHD. I can't ever tell if it's because frequently, doctors don't take women that seriously, or because we mask our ADHD symptoms so well in order to please other people that we don't even know we have it until someone points it out. LOL!
"It won't even leave the office" Damn that is so true. I went through about 3 months of therapy (group and solo combined) where I actually stayed at the hospital for the whole time. We had multiple sessions each week and after I was released I basically said the exact same thing. It's like you learn a lot of strategies to cope and you learn what to do and you then KNOW what to do but in the end it just feels like you didn't learn anything because nothing ever gets put into action. This is like a revelation. They tell you all that stuff you need to do (which lets be honest you mostly probably know about form one of your hyperfocus phases researching stuff) but then you just sit there with all that knowledge like "now what?".
You need to find an ADHD accountability partner who you check in with twice or more daily on a list of goals for the day. Ideally, find someone who also has ADHD and is motivated to achieve progress. You hold them accountable and they hold you accountable. It seems like all that checking in might be a lot of work, but think about how much time you spend procrastinating your work or just zoning out on random stuff. You will save so much time by checking in with a partner.
Finally someone explaining adhd fast enough so that people with adhd actually keep listening
And I still listened to this on 2x 😂
I agree if people(usually neurotypical) are talking too slow(for me),,,I get bored and reatless
Yea except his solution is "take pharma meds or get the stick". Luckily for us, this video is old as dirt, and we have better answers our there than what this quack is preaching.
@@intraterrestrial5035yeah, I noticed that, too. While I definitely did better as a kid in the structure of grade school than I did as an adult in college and in the workplace, he made SO MANY "all or nothing" statements that I don't identify with. And where I struggled in college with the delayed feedback loop (homeworks returned after weeks or months, grade is mostly mid term and final), I know so many ADHDers with a graduate degree or two. It's like he put a modern (for 2012) understanding of ADHD on a 90s caricature of "who has ADHD".
But I do appreciate he views it as an executive function problem and not a lack of attention. And I can appreciate that his audience isn't us with ADHD but clinicians who need a kick in the pants, so hyperbole for effect may have its place here. Executive Dysfunction instead of lack of attention was a pretty new understanding in 2012.
If you want your blood to boil, read WebMD's description of ADHD. It's like a poor interpretation of the 1990s understanding. And there's still clinicians stuck with that 1990s view.
@@intraterrestrial5035 Really 🍸😈
I’ve always told people who ask “what does it feel like having adhd” I tell them “it doesn’t feel like anything. It just shows itself in your life. Imagine you wake up and everything you were supposed to do, or wanted to do, just never happened.”
Extremely well put
I will use this one thx
I usually ask them what they do when they have to do the dishes. If their answer is "I do the dishes" I tell them about how I have to mow the grass before I get to the clean dishes. About how I went to do dishes then saw that the dish rag and drying towel was dirty, then I saw that the wash I ran the day before is still in there and smells kinda funny, so I have to re run it. I go to put down the rag and towel in a basket but realize I have no empty baskets because I have a clean cloths in them. So I put them on the sink side and go to fold the laundry in a basket to have a dirty clothes basket. When I go to fold the cloths I see that I have my wives garden stuff on the bed that I just got her. I go to take it out to the shed and realize on my way out that the grass is a bit long. That leads me to start mowing. Then i get to work backwards from there.
Like going back to your parked car but the cars gone.
@@dukkibhoy1990 and you remember after freaking out for 5 minutes that you were dropped off.
It’s like watching your life in third person. I’m constantly yelling at the guy holding the wheel not to do things or TO do things and it rarely connects. Then I have a day or week of epiphany where I decide how I’m going to get my life together, start writing things down and what not. I get so into it that I forget other things like eating, drinking water, self care and get so exhausted from all of the effort it takes to be “normal” that I abandon it all together and do it all again a month or two later. I’m tired.
I know that all too well. Started using a habit tracker for daily routine stuff, went well, but then i just stopped doing it for whatever reason.
Reminds me of my relation to books. Even if im really interested in what im reading, i just put the book away at some time and then never look at it again.
I'm not diagnosed by the way and although i resonate with things in the video and in the comments i am still very sceptical if i have this disorder
I know exactly hiw you feel, and after awhile you know the end result is going to ve the same so, why bother even trying. But you still do.
I feel like I have giant disobedient dog on leash, it bigger than me so no matter how hard I pull it's does whatever it wants. And whatever I do, whenever I go feeling of leashes strain is there, all I need/want to do is there haunting me even when it time to rest.
Man this is so sad I feel like crying.. actually I’m holding a pen and paper right now going through this exact routine you mentioned and then I got on youtube and found this video. I don’t want to go to a physiologist or get diagnosed.. I guess that would be the case for some time..
Ohmy god yes! This is my life
This is the first time in my life that I felt like someone finally understands me. This made my eyes water
Same here, been doing research not knowing why my brain is wired differently and this video just clicked. I recognized myself in what this doctor said just like looking in the mirror. Darn, this adhd is exhausting, ruined everything for me.
I’m also feeling tired all the time, very poor concentration which makes it very difficult to study. I wonder if it’s part of adhd or some other health issue I might have.
I understand you brother
Same here😢
So many things to cry about with adhd :(
Same 😭
Woa! The opening sentence. "You can know stuff, but you won't do stuff." That's the absolute definition of what it feels like. So many aspirations, ideas and dreams, and yet, when it comes to execution.... Just no.
+Ryan Hobbs same
+supermuble - So true. This was quite the revelation to me, sums it up perfectly. But not just for things I'm interested in, it's everything. Not knowing it was related to my ADHD, I thought it was/is another mental disorder. Definitely need to learn more about this defect. It's just seems like there's so many accommodations / adjustments required to implement and that's the original problem.
I have ADHD and this is exactly how I feel too hahahah man
adhd ruined my life and that phrase finally put feelings into words for me
Yep, utterly frustrating. So much want and desire, but implementation is utterly awful. You know it, you know not doing it is wrong, but you can't bring yourself to do it. Like a prison in your own mind.
1. This man validated my entire existence
2. He spoke so fast I was able to actually sit and listen to the whole (okay most, but like 90%) of the talk.
Yesss same! I Love it when people talk fast in videos. Then I can watch the videos on 1,25 speed and not 1,5… I wich there was something like this in real life
Validation!!! Yes
Damn I only got to 4 12 😬😔
OMG I never realized that I am better able to listen to people who talk fast 🤯 until you put it into words
Yes! Everyone talks soooooo sloooooooowwwwww.
Painfully true. Watching me procrastinate, time flies by, my days off work vanish, and unless there's an actual threatening deadline, I never do anything. I try to, but man it's so easy to just never do it. Such an agonizing disorder to watch yourself struggle with little to no self control, like you're two different people in your head. You want to do something vs you need to something you don't want to do, so you're always mad at yourself all the time.
I always say to people 'you have no idea how badly I want to want this' I just have a voice inside screaming do it! just pick up the pen or just get up and do it but I can't and then I watch the time pass until it's too late and beat myself up over it and it's SO.FRUSTRATING. Because why can't I just do it? like everyone else. Even the stuff I love (like drawing, writing, walking whatever it is) I can't bring myself to do anymore, sometimes I just feel like a vegetable unable to move or do anything even talking is exhausting sometimes, it's like watching your whole life just unravel and get away from you and you don't even have the will to hold on
@@HereToProcrastinate. Accurate!!!
Feel you
I didn’t know I had adhd until this year 😩 I just thought I was depressed or something and couldn’t find motivation.
I wanna be an engineer, but
ADHD: N O
Dyslexia: reading? Nah you don’t need that :)
My summary of the "how to fill the tank" part of the video:
- Need greater rewards and positive emotions;
- Statement of self efficacy ("I can do this, I know I can") and encouragement are extra important;
- Breakdown big tasks into small tasks with 3 or more minutes of relaxation and meditation in between;
- 10 minutes breaks between tasks (of about 20 min of work);
- Visualizing and talking about future rewards before and during demanding tasks;
- Routine aerobic physical exercise;
- Glucose ingestion in fluid form (i.e. Gatorade). Sip it, don't gulp it.
everything but the sugar...no control at all once I start.
Its so wild I really actually thing this guy is on to something
I just about passed my engineering degree. I’m going for medication in a weeks time, let’s hope it helps, I’m 23 I should of got diagnosed sooner.
I wish I could get a diagnosis. As an adult I hear it's extremely expensive and almost impossible to accomplish.
I love this but I know none of this will work for me, I could already tell by the thumbnail 😭 all stuff I've already done
44 Years old and in less than 14 mins, I learned more about myself from a video of a person whom I've never met. Amazing. Thank you.
Same here at 42 year old
45 here.
The doctor who invented ADHD said on his deathbed that it was a fictitious disease. You are a normal human.
45, and same.
THANK YOU so much Dr Russell Barkley 👍🏻😃 I'm 39 and to use a gaming analogy you've helped me finally figure out the controls to myself to play in life 🎮🧠
It's frustrating as hell knowing you're smart, witty, likable, etc,, yet can't get out of your own way to move ahead by completing tasks and attaining your goals.
So frustrating, same story at all my jobs, yes I understood the task given, yes I know what to do, but no I don't know when I will get it done, I don't know why I am not completing it in time, I don't know what help I need.
its gets even more frustrating if you havent been formally diagnosed like me. Everyday i wake up all pumped up for all the things i want to accomplish and by the end of the day i haven't done anything an feel defeated. I genuinely want to learn things i am interested in but its like the energy barrier to get started is just too high.
Wow yeah you are so smart and cool everything that is wrong with you is based on ADHD yeah sure
If u have a lot of money, u can just get someone to do it 4 u..
Yep. It's crippling.
That first sentence literally sums it up. Unable to follow through has been my Achilles heel since I was a teenager. Took medication from 1st grade through 12th and made straight A's. Started college, stopped medication, and my whole behavior changed. I would literally drive to the college campus, and sometimes just sit in my car or hang outside campus and skip class. SELF SABATOGE is how I've come to describe my adhd behavior over the years. I know what I need to do, but I find a way to mentally psych myself out. Its as if I fail because I'm afraid to fail. A Viscious cycle.
Oh man I feel for you because I'm that way too. When I stopped my stimulant meds after 20 years(!) on it, I still knew how to get myself to do what I need to do. But now there's more psyching myself out. MY ADHD means I start repeating to myself that I really need to do something (like make an important phone call). It is a bad sign--if I remind myself more than 3 times, forget it. The self-talk takes the place of whatever satisfaction I'd find in doing the thing I need to do.
How about Russel Barkley, he is uncommonly good, is he? Talking about what its like and what helps.
My man, this is so relatable :(
I've always described my brain as a battle between what I WANT to do and what I NEED to do.
Always wanting to succeed, but being too worried about failure to move forward.
I hope all has been well now.
This was me, but stopped in 9th grade. I was even in accelerated classes. Sadly I recently found out that was due to family issues. My father ( he was a family practice physician ) took me off my ADHD medication. He took me off the medication for his fear i would become addicted to drugs (eg: meth), because around the time i was in high school my parent's found out my brother was doing meth. I was only told this after he passed away from leukemia and they lied to me saying my brother left college because his fraternity brother died of blood alchohol intoxication.
This was 10 years after I was off the medication. During those year I failed at college so many times and my father's passing didn't help either. I'd rather have failed college than losing my father, but I got both.
From other comments, "It's like watching your life in third person", and your "I fail because I'm afraid to fail." Is by far the most relatable thing I've read so far. I stopped taking Adderall back in high school because I felt like I didn't need it or could over come it. For many years of my life after that, the original need for taking the medication went unnoticed; I thought it was behind me. I took up aviation training to become a pilot and it's been without a doubt the most eye opening experience where I realized that ADD is something I never defeated or outgrew. Self sabotage, day in and day out. I know what I need to do, I tell myself I need to do it, and then I constantly fight with myself to get anything accomplished.
That happened to me to. I would park at a park near by and sleep
1 minute and 34 seconds in and this man already seems to understand me on a deeper level than all of the people I've ever spoken to (including psychiatrists) combined. Wow
Yep
It’s scary
Therapy is a scam. Most of the shit out is like this.
100%. Holy shit.
Não tenha dúvidas. Em Portugal, alguns psicólogos e psiquiatras dificilmente sabem o que é tdah
Wow, this hit home for me. I've always described my ADHD like driving in a Formula 1 race car, but you're stuck in LA traffic your whole life.
And people always assume in that analogy it's you calling people stupid. But what you mean is that you don't have enough room to move your thoughts into action inside your own head?
@@HonestAuntyElle
Thats the whole point you missed. The problem isn't merely confined to converting thoughts into action and its more about converting capability into performance. You can have the highest level of skill in a field and the definition of ADHD is that you can't turn your capability into action because of neuro-genetic issues of your physical brain.
Practical solution is breaking a task - small or big into micro tasks and try to finish one task at a time. Killing your confidence and peace of mind by a relentless assault loaded with motivational thoughts (internal or external) is definitely not the way out.
The best psychological self-help will be performing the immediate micro task and a proper handling of self blame & stigmatization.
@@NishantShyamGoutam "I" missed????
I like this analogy. I love F1 as a sport too. I like the quirkiness of my personal vehicle and the amazing things I accomplish with it. What I hate is being forced to onto a monotonous motorway closely hemmed in by a million others doing 20mph when my car doesn't really come to life until it hits 120mph. Another useful sport analogy would be cricket with its combination of standing around and bursts of energy when a good hit is made on the ball, rather than tennis with its regular volleys. Yeah. F1 is much more fun. Lol
Wow... just so dead on
Yep, after countless self-help videos and books just saying "keep going, keep striving," I'm just sitting here like "keep going and striving to *where?"* ADHD is like having all the tools under your belt but never having the quest marker to map you in the right direction.
Man, I hear that. This whole time I've been searching for the answer in self-help books and lectures with no such luck, and now I've finally found the answer - I have ADHD (I got diagnosed a few months ago).
Like being fully charged with nowhere to go 🙃
For me its like putting your foot on the accelerator but not getting very far then you realise you've been living with the hand brake on and not being able to release it.
good wording kidd!
For me it's like I've got so many winning ideas (multiple epiphanies per week) and I want to pursue them all at the same time, but then I become overwhelmed and don't pursue any..
The amount of times I genuinely blurted out "#$!&ing thank you!".
The passion this man presents with nearly put tears in my eyes. I think alot of people fantasize about having a person like this in their life who not only understands but actually CARES.
Yeah this kind of material is super helpful. He has a great youtube channel with other videos which go in-depth into ADHD: Russell Barkley.
L-Methionine and Trimethilglycine! Due to a mutation, we with ADHD have a chronic deficiency of those amino acids. Being deficient in Methionine causes, that your brain can't degrade catecholines, which are the root neurochemical cause for the negative aspects of ADHD! The difficulties falling asleep due to an overactive mind being one of them. If you take this advice, welcome aboard, if you don't, I'm chalking it up as you not being ready and be done with it.
Have fun!
This 100%. Feels like this man knows me better than anyone and I’ve never met the guy!
Probably has ASD. Want real fun? Try being ASD and ADHD.
@@SevScoutUm, but you didn't actually give any advice, you only gave information, with no indication of what to do with that advice.
Do you have advice on how to manage and curb those deficiencies? Perhaps food that can help? Are there supplements for it?
I went undiagnosed for YEARS and I always thought to myself “I am doing everything I can in my own control to try and make my life easier, nothing is working”. When he said that you have to change the environment around you in order for you to physically use the knowledge you have it sent me to tears. I always asked my family if they could do certain things differently because they don’t work for my adhd brain and I was always told “No but you can learn how to adapt to it” so its nice to know that what I was asking for is valid
I could’ve written this myself. I was in tears during that part. I have never felt so validated.
So valid
@@Treardet Some of students have ADHD. When they are on medication it’s a world of difference. When they forget to take them there’s just no getting to them.
Oh god, I spent years lying to myself that I can actually adapt to doing things the way other do it, and yeah, as expected, I failed again and again.
Accepting that my brain works differently has been a major step for me. Sadly, most of the "outside world" still expects me to function "normally" even when they see it's not the optimal way for me.
@@vojtechvaligura7054 oh you need to do it in the way that make you feel good and happy ,for that we are in this world , not to do in the way that other want .And to be like that start a business or stay in one village .
i'm someone who's been viewed as intellectually brilliant (34 ACT score, top college, etc) but can never bring myself to do anything but the minimum. everything is rushed, last minute, i have no motivation. i always blamed myself, or thought i was just depressed or thought i was just lazy. this guy literally made me cry. i have been a prisoner to my adhd for years but blamed myself the whole time. i see a psychiatrist for medication this week.
I can relate 😭
Did you ever think it might be the expectations of the society we live in? Go outside and stare at a tree for an hour. Calm, calm.
Dude totally. People spent so much of my childhood telling me how smart I am. And yes, I am smart. But if you look at a lot of my work it looks... not that amazing at times, even though I am capable of amazing things. Now that I have kids I tell them being smart don't mean squat if you don't utilize it.
So you took Adderall to get higher scores. You are a cheat quite frankly if that is the truth.
@@alanberkeley7282 Lol you're so cripplingly insecure you anonymously pick on women on the internet. Pretty pathetic. Go back to r/incels, "Alan".
Before I was diagnose with ADHD, I thought it was normal to open 10 other videos relating to this video before I was half way done with this video.
xD if you can see how many tabs i have open
u just described me :(
Yoooooo that's me
Yaaay... I'm not the only one.
😁
Finally finished this video today. I started it 8 years ago.
💀
@mastercc4509 I saw your comment 4 months ago, and am commenting and up voting now. 😉
💀💀💀
@@amg9163same! 😂
Watching 10 minutes, taking a 3 minute break and so on...that takes time yaall...
Initially watching this video, I honestly thought that he was angry and frustrated at people with ADHD. But it slowly became more clear that, no, he isnt angry at people with ADHD. He’s angry at people who refuse to help!
I love this man’s commitment to helping people with adhd. Its clearly shown in this video that he’s been trying to get this through peoples skulls for a while now.
FAX
So well said; I love his passion.
And angry at people who dont want to learn about the help for adhd when there are a lot of help out there.
I assumed the exact same. From the video title I thought it was gonna be a nutcase trying to cure ADHD like those guys that tried to "cure homosexuals" (shudder), so I came straight to the comments before even watching to see the general reception of the video.
Pleasantly surprised to see a lot of people with ADHD resonating with the video and feeling empowered by the tools he's suggesting, so it's probably worth a watch now!
It's also quite personal for him, he lost his twin brother to ADHD. He was off his meds, had a lot to drink and drove to his death, wasn't wearing a seatbelt. It's a really chronic disease and the general public have absolutely no idea how destructive it can be to an otherwise healthy and intelligent person.
OMFG, THIS MAN JUST MADE A TUTORIAL ON SPEED-RUNNING ADHD TREATMENT, my adhd brain likes it, thank you so much for putting your research online and on youtube on a ADHD-friendly format
You have the attention span of a goldfish, that's it.
"I'm not going to go through all that right now" translates to "I'm sure if you're watching this video, it's very likely you have ADHD and I'm probably starting to lose you since I'm 12 minutes into a 16 minute video."
Thank you, doctor. You are correct.
I shall seize this brilliant man and talk him in to helping me.
Littlemetalpixie, I made it 46 seconds
My entire life I built systems around me that kept me accountable- when I was in 6th grade I voluntarily went to afterschool detention because they forced you to do homework. When the teachers realized I wasn't supposed to be there they were baffled. I LIKED it, and otherwise I would never start my homework until two *hours* before the deadline. I purposely applied to a college that was known for being a "boot camp". Then COVID came and crumbled those systems I carefully chose. Until then I didn't realize I had ADHD because I was doing well (still struggling but doing well). I failed a class for the first time in my life on the first semester of online class. I felt like I derailed my life because I was lazy and unmotivated. My self esteem tanked, I went through depression, and I'm still slowly picking my way back up with the help of videos like these. Thank you!!
Hang in there! If you're intuitive enough and smart enough to create systems that worked in the past, you can certainly develop new systems that can help. Good luck to you, Natalia!!!
@@shessoheavy6130 Thank you :’)
@@kirani111 You're welcome. The detention strategy sounds like something I would do. It's all about forcing yourself to be accountable and buckling down for those two hours (or however long) to get the work done. Maybe someone close to you can hold you accountable? That's worked for me.
Thank you! Blessings to you 🙏 your statement is inspiring me. You know you can overcome, because have done so before. You will again.
Using detention as a study hall is not a sign of laziness, so give yourself some credit! One thing I do (as a freelance copy editor) is tell clients I need a deadline, even if there is no particular time constraint on their end. Most people are very understanding if you simply tell them you need a deadline or you will have a really hard time getting started.
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Predroshrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, addiction. Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
speaking fast, effective powerpoint, interesting content; can i hug this man?
I'd like to hug him as well, but it would be a lot harder than you
Omg I hate when people speak slow or use too many words/are not succinct when explaining something.... is that an ADHD thing?
Yeah, finally an informational video I don't have to listen to on faster speeds
mariachristina55 Omg! For me, it is. I have to avoid people who are redundant, speak slowly, or use filler words often (well, you know, basically, um). I think that’s why I interrupt people so much.
Guys, if videos are too slow for you, then you will LOVE this -- there is an addon for your browser that speeds up videos. I watch most videos at 1.3x and it is SO MUCH BETTER. Search for "Video Speed Controller." It has radically changed my ability to focus on videos like this.
(EDIT: Yes, I know you can change the speed with RUclips controls, but 1) RUclips doesn't give enough fine-grain control and 2) You can use it on other sites besides RUclips.)
I felt that when he said, “You can know stuff but you won’t do stuff” like a stake through my heart 🥲
Me too. The message I hear is you can do it but you won't therefore you will fail unless you just buck up and do it.
me too. I have two careers, speak 4 languages and my parents always say that I don't have goals (which I do). I just don't act on them
Can I get a hear-hear?!
It is just hard for us to apply what we have learned. Knowing is not the same as knowing HOW to use it.
@@Catlily5 totally. How do you manage Cat? I'm about to start therapy and I'n not on medication
You got distracted and are reading the comments during the video aren’t you?
This video gives some really good tips! Wait to read the comments until after the video!
You caught me 🤣🤣 and i had to scroll down FAR to see this comment.
oops, I scrolled down to read the comments before watching the video. also I should get off youtube because it's after my bedtime 😅thanks!
No, I actually paused the video to write a comment. :)
Hhhhhh are you talking to me,.
Thank you 😅
I loves his voice, explanation, speech tempo, how clear his words were. Not less, and not too much. Great lecture overall.
"We're undertreating the most treatable disorder in Psychiatry" - thank you!!!!!
Those of us who have figured it out on our own and seek help are made to feel like drug addicts; we're given medication for things like anxiety and depression, with the side effect of "suicidal thoughts." I've been misdiagnosed so many times, it's a wonder I am even alive.
@Ashley Elbra Never has any doctor diagnosed me with ADHD. I have been diagnosed with depression and it was suggested to me that I may have dyslexia but, to me, ADHD seems to describe me.
Me too. Doctors used to insist on antidepressants which made me more hyper.
Nailed it.
Wow, I am struggling for so long and not being able to figure out why I do what I do. Now I have something to work with...
Wasted so much time in programs, rooms, 'rehabs' (jails effectively). Fuck AA old heads and any medical professional who refused to hear me when I said 'there's something else, please can we look again, I don't feel like alcohol is my main issue, it the depression, these pills I still wanna fucken die'
FUCK PAYNE WHITNEY, FUCK CORNELL WEILL! DON'T SEND ANYONE THERE!!!! FOR YEARS THEY IGNORED MY DIAGNOSIS. I HAD THE DIAGNOSIS. I LEFT WHEN DR ROMANO, THIRD FAILED SHIT ASS IGNORANT FUCK AT E68TH IN 3 YEARS SAID POINT BLANK 'no, that not something we can help you with' . For real, I almost killed myself so many times. I was hopeless, for my entire life. I was just going through motions, not killing myself 100% selflessly got my family who cried a bunch when my uncle died.
Finally after years I said ok fine I don't see why a private doctor paid for by my uncle could do something my entire clinic couldn't. Turns out they wouldn't, not couldn't. In one session, I had a second positive diagnosis, a script to pick up, and within 24 hours I had hope that I could accomplish something (like, even coming back to minute tasks) and a will to live.
Thank you Dr Griffin for saving my life, and fuck the entire medical machine that wasted so many years of my life. So many years.
I almost didn't make it, many times.
I swear to God, it feels as though he is speaking specifically at me. He is able to clearly explain what I feel inside that I just can't explain. It's so scary that he's 100% spot on.
Same
Yep
So true
Imagine discovering years later that it was never your fault to begin with. And that it's treatable. Now does anybody have a time machine we can borrow?
ruclips.net/video/_tpB-B8BXk0/видео.html I offer this to help not to say all other options are bad but something as simple as changing the food eaten can help should be talked about more before just passing out a pill.
This man has just explained what took me 25 years to figure out in a short video.
Excellent content and so practical.
I literally just said to 4 different people after watching this "this guy explains in 10 minutes what I've been trying to say for 25 years".
@@bjugler JINX!
I am 41 undiagnosed- my husband diagnosed and freshman son diagnosed no wonder I’m so overwhelmed... this I’m explained me to a t. I’m ready for help but now frozen as far as what to do or how to get it!
Jami Tibbs You can start with your regular doctor as a first step, but expect that they won't know much and you'll have to educate them. It is probably a good idea to look online and see if you can find a specialist near you.
Would be happy to help in anyway.
@@bjugler thank you. That’s the problem is I do so much research it feels pointless to go it’s a mistrust I have and it’s just unfortunate
I could have cried tears of relief listening to you, sir. I’m 60 and I’ve been suffering from as far as I can remember from ADHD symptoms. I just didn’t know what they were, just that I felt weird and « different « . A few years ago, I tentatively tried to talk about ADHD to people around me, my doctor included, but they just wave my concerns aside and say I’m « absent-minded », « clumsy « , not the tidy type ». How can I get the treatment that could help me live a more serene old age?
Get a better doctor or practitioner, like a psychiatric nurse or similar. Medication, time released Concerta, changed my life for the better since diagnosed in my 40's
Find a better doctor, and externate your feelings to someone you really trust
Also if there's no one you trust to talk to, try to see a therapist. or if you are financially bound, try reaching to local groups/ free online groups about mental health or adhd and talk it out. it will take some time but trust the process. take medications, IT REALLY HELPS. Start with prescribed doses then decrease them eventually. it might take 2-3 years of understanding every aspect of it then however you'll handle practical situations way better in a real time scenario. However after these you'll have a way way more clearer and productive brain. trust me.
@@Dee-ow9fbThank you for your kind advice. I recently tried to get an appointment with a registered psychiatrist. I phoned a dozen of them: I only got answering machines stating that « Doctor So and So does not take new patients and registered patients must book their appointments on the Internet « . The situation of psychiatry was critical before COVID in France, it is now near impossible to see a psychiatrist.
Hey friend, did you get treatment yet? Just saw your comment and wondered how you’re doing.
This man has probably the single greatest understanding of this disorder on the planet.
he is selling something & paid by big pharma, ALL OF THEM if you check his references & studies
*sigh* I had a feeling he was 'sponsored' with all his talk about medication.
His brief mention of CBT does sound interesting though, building organisational frameworks to offset ADHD's spacing out and inability to manage time.
Real shame he glossed over that to push drugs instead.
@@alanberkeley7282 That has got to be the dumbest blog post I've ever read. It's basically "ADHD doesn't exist" + a ton of other dubious claims without citations or evidence. If a guy with a PhD that's researched the subject for decades and cites his claims tells me one thing, and a rando on WordPress tells me another, why should I believe the rando on WordPress? Because he tries to make me feel warm and fuzzy by telling me there's nothing wrong with me?
A guy with a PHD who is in bed with Big Pharma, who receives a third of his taxable income from them, who has made a career and good living out of promoting a bullshit disorder. I'm a retired engineer. I have nothing to lose. I'm not in bed with Big Pharma or taking their money or gifts or holidays or payments. My career doesn't depend on it. And besides this guy has a PHD. So what? He couldn't do my job. He wouldn't have a clue. Just because he has a PHD behind his name doesn't make him a smart, or good person, or in his case moral,. because he isn't. He telling you what his pharma paymasters want you to know.
He's nothing better than the drug pusher on the street corner. In fact he's worse.
@@albertogomez-han8366 Prove ADHD or anything else is caused by a chemical imbalance?
I'm not going to lie, reading this comment section has me feeling a lot of things. It's a relief, while also very sad knowing how many other people out there know what my day to day struggles are like.
ruclips.net/video/hgCgeFwcJBw/видео.html Hope this might help.
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better .
A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings)
Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
I felt the same thing! I feel like we should all exchange numbers and create a support group!
@@kathy2888 want to exchange our numbers?
right with you, got the same feelings
“This is the kid after school” points to empty tank. “And you want them to do homework? Forget it!” Love it. Same for adults after work of any kind. We come home and crash. Doesn’t matter what the work was we are spent and want to unhook.
Yes, I can either stay home and clean my house or go to work for the day. I cannot do both of those on the same day. When I come home from work, I'm done for the rest of the day.
I think decompressing after work is a thing for normies, too.
I also think better diet, sleep, and exercise will help with that for normies and neurodivergent, too, but defining what better diet, sleep, and exercise is takes a very long time and is tricky to implement. And then once all that’s said and done, a stressful job can undermine all of it.
@@stevebean1234I am to exhausted to do exercise after I get home. I would need to do that right after I leaving my work. If I sit down I would not get up anymore.
I have thought about doing exercises before work but that would mean I really need to wake up at 4 am. I love exercises but hate/can’t get to them.
@@Vanadium if you're exhausted when you get home, its probably diet. maybe sleep or stress management but diet is the biggest driver. get a big freezer and meal prep a ridiculous amount of chicken, rice, vegetables. 1lb chicken 1lb cooked rice and 2lb vegetables is about the macros you need. or go get a nutritionist (make sure you find a good one not a quack) and theyll be able to help you get on a better diet.
exercise will also push your body to actually metabolize your food, rather than just store it. if you can metabolzie food better you will feel more energetic overall as well. therefore, it is all a process and you need to have good exercise andnutrition for a while before everything starts getting easier.
@@stevebean1234did you not watch this video at all? They mentioned diet once, and that was about how ADHD people need rapid glucose to the frontal lobe for maintaining EF.
Get outta here with your HelloFresh subscription meal plan, braindead
Recently got promoted to supervisor requiring me to do things I never thought I could pull off. So far so good but it sure hasn’t been easy and the stress is overwhelming at times.
Acknowledging my weakness and making necessary adjustments has been key. I write EVERYTHING down. Even if I don’t go back and read, it helps me remember organically and I have noticed improvement.
If you are struggling professionally just keep at it and make adjustments where possible and you will overcome. We will overcome. Good luck everybody!
For decades I've been looking for "The Answer" to cure my WTF life. Finally I feel like somebody is on the right track. Somebody KNOWS how this can destroy a life, and is taking that seriously. The urgency in his voice matches my desperation. That alone is a relief. He understands that there isn't any point in messing around with BS. Treat this like the disability that it is. Thank you!
You put into words what I could not. I feel like this disorder will ruin my life and I feel so lost.
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better .
A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings)
Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
@@asdfghlkjh100 only through Jesus will you find peace, love and truth.
@@butsirrr @UCpIuM65UzwYvWxJpOpOu8Cg you are both proselytizing idiots.
@@LenaPatsa No, you don't understand... Only their God can save you! /s
Omg. I can't stop crying. I finally feel seen. Someone finally gets it. Someone finally believes me. Someone finally takes this seriously. A lot of us go through life feeling broken and being told how lazy we are. This is validating and life changing. Thank you so much for this. 💗
me too!!
yes yes yes yes yes exactly my thoughts. you are not alone!
I was fired from a job that I absolutely loved. I was fired for being scattered, poor time management, making too many mistakes, easily distracted, etc.
At least now I know why and how it happened.
Same here. ❤️
Exactly!
This is the best video I’ve ever seen on ADHD. Just diagnosed with adult ADHD, at 48. One week on adderall, it’s like putting on glasses and finally being able to see the blackboard of my past.
Does it still feel Like that? The honeymoon phase always be hitting
Bro, right?! The same fucking day I started, my wife noticed immediate, noticable improvement. Not lasting, but it was there. And me being ADHD, "You think so?" I can't recognize when I'm doing right or not most of them time, I just do and hope it works out at this point.
Everything still ok?
just never ever overtake your meds
Donavan, it's literally mind blowing.
I figured out how to set up my environment for success as an adhd person: work in a dental office. Constant environment clues as to what I'm supposed to be doing. No possibility that I don't care because people are always in pain or in need of treatment to prevent pain so consequences are immediate. Working all day feels just like playing video games but after it ends, the good feelings persist. Applied to go back to college to be a dentist only a week after I started as a dental assistant because I know how rare it is to find a work environment that is conducive with adhd.
I was a cook for most of my adult life, and it's the same concept. We used to call it having a sense of urgency. My favorite job was teaching cooking, so when that ended, I went back for my MA, Ed. Turns out I just like teaching cooking! Not teaching, teaching!! Hahaha I couldn't get my $hit straight no matter how many different age groups, subjects or organizational systems I attempted. The only time it worked was when I substituted, where the teacher left detailed instructions for me. So, kind of like the scaffolding- I think. I'm not sure, tbh, I didn't finish the video. 😮
Working on an IT support desk works for me - driven by the phone calls of people needing help with their computers, and by the list of pending tickets in the queue. Plus I play a game in my head of doing as many as possible each week, to see if I can empty the queue. I've refused promotion out of that role as the motivation and people-connecting would never work as a back-room server-programming kind of person on my own.
@@Bluebomber85I find this hilarious because I've learned that I'm hopeless once a recipe goes beyond 5 ingredients. After that I lose track of where I'm supposed to end up and I become the Swedish Chef. I think it's so funny how we're all the same, but in such different flavors. I also do well in an environment where you have appointments one after another, but what happens in them is unpredictable and immediate so it's easy to give your full attention to the problem.
@@Bluebomber85That makes sense. You go in as a substitute. The environment is set up and you work.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm studying to be a nurse, and this was a reassuring perspective. I was worried adhd might hold me back or make this job hard to stick with, but that does sound similar
His fuel tank analogy is 100% right.
Once I am wiped out it's over.
My ADHD has caused me to not pay speeding tickets on time even when I had the money, then I got my license suspended for non payment.
I knew I had a ticket to pay and thought I had more time.
Well over 2 months went by and to me of felt like 2 weeks.
Time either moves fast for me or if I M bored time will send still.
💯💯💯
God I can relate to this too much
As an update, I have seen 1 Neuropsychologist who took my insurance then after the first appointment called me to say now they don't take my insurance and it cost 3k for the testing to determine if I officially have ADHD, then I found one more Psychologist who 100% did take my insurance and when I spoke to them and just ask to take the official ADHD diagnosis due to my life long issues, all the meds I have been on for depression ( I am not depressed) and Bi-Polar meds ( current mental health doctor says I am not Bi-Polar) I know exactly what symptoms I have dealt with my entire life.
That is me 100%.
Trying to find a Dr who is willing to just get you to take the ADHD test was hard but I finally found one. I take the test in July so we will know if I am just suffering from anxiety as this newest Dr said she thinks my issue is or if I am a very seriously misdiagnosed 42-year-old man who has ground his way through life never being able to come close to being the best me I can be.
I will keep you posted.
I just want to have clear slow thoughts and not feel like mentally I am walking a tight rope or going on stage to do a show every time I am doing something out side my home.
Best wishes from a stranger on the internet! I sincerely hope you finally get the answers and treatment you need. Hang in there!
Wow, yeah? I can so relate to that!
I took a screenshot of his slides and thought, “I’ll think about this later” fml 🤦🏻♀️
LMAO! Me, too!
Same here 😅
Same and then my “investigate later” screenshots build up and I avoid them like the plague
Lmfao my phone memory is taken up by screenshots and random selfies I say I’ll post later after I edit them in a super cool way I see inside my head, but right now I can’t
Stfu
My ADHD is so bad that I resort to watching videos like this just for the small serotonin boost I receive from pretending to take steps towards managing my ADHD. Medication doesn’t work, self help guides don’t work, discipline doesn’t work, so sometimes I watch videos like this to essentially role-play as someone who’s on their way to improvement.
Once that wears off it’s right back to sitting on the porch staring into space because NOTHING, not even weed or videos games is enough to hold my attention.
Wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It’s completely ruined my life and destroyed any chance of being a normal, functioning human being. Everyone in my family is very successful. My younger sister makes upwards of 6 figures in the medical field, and at the age of 30 I’m still working an entry level job stocking shelves because I can’t work a job that requires even a minuscule amount of thinking. I don’t have to use my head at all with my current job, which allows my mind to rapidly switch focus and daydream while my body is in autopilot. If I was an engineer like I dreamt of as a kid I wouldn’t make it. Because even though I’m passionate about it, if my ADHD decides that it doesn’t care about engineering today, there’s nothing I can do. It’s like watching some lazy slob control your body while you watch from a 3rd person perspective.
Damn that was some serious testimony. I wish you to overcome this one way ir another.
If your attempts have failed, try new ones like breathing techniques, cold exposure, DMT or hallucigenic experience. As long as you haven't done everything seriously, I suggest you keep going on with the will necessary during the attempts. I know how it feels to fail to find a solution when it's about your health, but when ruminating about not being able to overcome it, tell yourself that it gives you something to go on while giving up won't bring any solution.
Wish you the best.
How's your nutrition?
This is so validating for me! Just found out I have inattentive ADHD. I had an 1180 SAT so everyone said "go to college". Horrible time in college, barely graduated. Horrible time at the white collar job I got. I had to quit or be fired. I now earn a living at a tipped job at a hotel. ADHD is like a cruel prank. I'm smart but unable to use it.
@HappyMSI1 Hey there. Are there any other methods you tried that helped you out? I'm going to look into breathing techniques and cold exposure you mentioned.
Unfortunately, DMT is illegal where I am. The other prescriptions I'm taking only help for 3-4 hours in the day, still trying to find the right balance with my doctor.
@@Random_User_042the medication isn’t going to be a full day solution, realistically. For me it’s a good boost to get myself up, on track, and in the right direction for the day. I pack as much as I can in the first half of the day, because I know it will start to decline during the second half until I crash after dinner. If I ate better and exercised I’m sure that would help in keeping my tank full for longer. There’s a European Dr I watch who also suggests *not* drinking caffeine until midday, or at least late morning, because it’s more effective as the day goes on.
I have a serious problem with this because I grew up in an extremely high-pressure, emotionally-neglectful home where EVERYTHING had immediate and extreme consequences. Now that I'm an adult, I avoid that pressure as much as possible because it was traumatic and painful, but now I can't get anything done.
Same here, the stressful traumatic childhood might trigger adhd in children. Don’t think we get born with it. I grew up in a horror like home where my dad would daily punish my mom and siblings. Grew up with hearing my mom screaming and siblings being scared before and when he got back from work. It’s still haunting me to this day but messed up my life big time and I’m left with the concequences.
Same. The idea of making you more accountable.. I don't need more guilt and shame associated with this. My self esteem has been hit hard by not having a diagnosis in my childhood.
It feel like this statement is a recipe for developing performance anxiety:/
Agreed, if I was too slow to do something or did something wrong, I had the ban hammer fall onto me by parents and teachers. Added consequences when I was genuinely struggling made me not want to try things, for fear of failure and shaming. This guy doesn’t seem to get that people with ADHD are human beings with feelings.
What’s more high pressure? Small goals with rewards for completion, or not doing anything then scrambling last minute only to fail? What’s more neglectful? Are you not continuing to neglect your needs now as an adult by not getting anything done?
You can take the good things and leave the bad, ya know? Consequences are good. Immediacy is good. Even pressure can be good to a degree. Those things are not synonymous with emotional neglect and you can learn to separate them.
Just know that I understand you 100%. I was diagnosed ADHD PTSD, but as much as it hurts you need to learn to overcome the PTSD because the world does not care and will be happy to not assist you. Therefore, you are the only one that can do that and should do that for yourself. I know the past sucks but don't let it keep you on your knees forever.
I am an adult with ADHD. It got diagnosed when I was 50. Daily meditation for even 5 minutes, has been helpful to quiet the mind and hear the inner intelligent voice that guides me-aside from all the external distractions. I think the more you learn about adhd and how it affects you, the more you can help yourself. I have also found that I need to get started on projects right away, and consistently do a little bit at a time. Some days are better than others and on bad days it can be a minute-to-minute struggle, which can be frustrating, but if I keep at it, the brain settles down a bit. Exercise is very helpful!
Do u take meds ?
Meditation?? HA! That's a funny joke, sounds like one made by someone who doesn't have ADD/ADHD. There *is no* focus, clear your mind, meditate and etc. with untreated ADD/ADHD. And by treated, I specifically mean medicated. All the other (admittedly important when applied with proper meds) management methods in the world won't do a thing if your brain chemistry's at incorrect levels and your executive functions aren't happening period. You literally CANNOT WILL-POWER or "try harder" your way through this issue any more than you could walk on a broken leg bone. It just ain't happening.
I completely agree, meditation has helped me a lot and exercise helps a lot too. great point!
🍟 How ironic --- that (even white) pesky wannabe righteous christian patriots are now the new religious extremist boogeymen that need to be taken out of the way (with FunVax 'cure' for pesky fundamental belief in and connection with divine nature) so that the billionaire bankster lucifarian poi-zionist pedophile preistclass can finish turning the entire world into a Gangstas Pair-o-dice / worldwide wireless concentration cramp.
'Cognative dissonance' is when innocent minds can't fathom the depth of diabolically deceptive ruthless lengths that those hellbent on total world domination will go to --- to avoid being held responsible for crimes against humanity and nature (and worse).
It is all too likely that trump is just acting (in this big political-theatre meat-puppet show) as 'controlled-opposition' to the lucifarian globalist cabal (proverbial power pyramid-scheme) --- when he is totally down with the pedophile preistclass poi-zionist celebutard cabal himself . kinda like how half Ashkenazi jew hitler became the patsy scapegoat catalyst to give the bankster billionaire warmongers a good sounding motive with which to trick the world into another bloody yet highly lucrative (for themselves) world war . catapult the kingpimps into the 'gulag' they diggeth for pesky greedom-fighting freedom-lovers.
Could it be --- Trump is like the 'Judas goat' --- that leads the human-chattel straight to the slaughterhouse by giving them a false sense of security and entitlement?
🍟 Howabout some burnt 'freedom-fries' with your njew world order ?
Never forget how 'good ol uncle sam' used the 911 inside job as a bogus excuse to rape, pillage, murder, (and worse) all over the globe.
American people are still cool with 'US' evicting all of instigator isreal's unruly neighbors in the mideast --- cool with infiltraiting, subverting, and overthrowing democratically elected governments of syria, iraq, libya, somalia, columbia, chile, ukraine, yemen, etc. --- we schmuck americans absolutely do deserve every bit of retribution coming to us for indulging in our spoils of war and blissfull willful ignorance...
Best Say yer prayers before it's even more too late ...
Just be aware
We all gotta realize how left and right (good actors and pure evil) always manage to work together 'nicely' when it comes time to give themselves big bonuses and $ell the rest of the population out . usa (and earth) is getting played by both sides playing good cop bad cop --- when they are ALL diabolically retarded lucifarian flunky motherschmuckers in on the proverbial poi-zionist masonic power pyramid scheme HELLBENT for TOTAL WORLD DOMINATION together .
( Don't trust the Coven-ment )
Their O.T. - O.G. is one and the same as the narcissistic devil he is supposedly against. Playing both sides for schmucks is just how the deceptacon hex-nut pedophile preistclass kingpimps roll ...
Spreading the other cheek further for them to rape everything more easily sure as heck aint helping anyone but the big glory hog glory hole himself .
(ruclips.net/video/bZ4NTdSK5ac/видео.html
this used to be a vid by a whistleblower exposing the masonic lucifarian celebutard pyramid scheme secret cult)
Of coarse if any professionals come clean with the dirty details of their trades --- we should have mercy on them --- but until then --- they deserve every bit of righteous outrage that's coming their way ...
(go Cannonize yerselves )
Goddesspeed yawl !
I remember exercising and having healthy habits... It, like most everything else, didn't last. Except for the depression. It's always there.
Listening to Dr.Barkley tell me WHY I cant stand myself after 41 years is somehow comforting. I'm such a mess at this point in my life. No friends, relationships or any normal sign of a healthy lifestyle. i'm tired
70two same here
“WHY I can’t stand myself” OOF, yes, I feel that with my soul
My friends are always upset with me being late and sometimes I dont want to socialize if my house is not tidy enough... and getting there... but give us some names of drugs then? I used to anti medical drugs before this video. ritalin has been compared to cocaine...
Smoke some 420 and rethink life. God.
Miracles do happen with your life changing.
I love how fast he talks and how concise he is. Perfect for us ADHD'ers . . . I'm usually scrolling my phone, tidying a drawer and trying to find something I lost by now 😂
Same here (and find your comment😅)
Lol me too🤣 And the bullet points in 2 different colours really keeps the focus
You just described exactly what I was doing
I watch most videos at 1.5x speed. It helps!!
@@yessicajessica😂😂😂I thought that it was normal to watch videos at 1.5 speed
Why do I feel that this man is only one out of a handful of professionals who truly understands ADD, especially "Inattentive " type?
*ADHD
This is the most amazing information I’ve ever received on ADHD, 31 years of being called lazy and heckled despite giving it my all
Your comment made me cry! Same here, but i wouldnt give up
The doctor who invented ADHD said on his deathbed that it was a fictitious disease. You are a normal human.
Keep going sir 👏🏻
Do you work out five times at least a week?
Same here, i'm 40 but at 35 i realized i wasn't lazy, i work 12 hours a day, but i get really easily distracted, when i realized i worked most than every body i know something clicked in my mind, "I AM A REALLY HARD WORKING PERSON", "I AM AN OREDERED PERSON" but i had something else i couldn't understand. I repeat to myself every week these 2 sentences and my self love has grown
Dr. Barkley is one of the most lucid, incisive, and riveting speakers I have ever heard. The man is a virtuoso of oratory and a blessing to people who struggle with ADHD.
This is scary stuff. Its like an ongoing fight with your brain. Like how is that possible. I get so jealous of people with calm minds
Same here bud 😕
nate kingsland yup😢
You are needed just the way you are Nate. Do not fret!
ruclips.net/video/Lvvh1PErwYc/видео.html
I feel this so much, i swear!!!
I have ADHD, so does my son. I became a special ed teacher I know the clinical definition of so many of the performance disorders that exist.He has changed my view on so many things related to and beyond ADHD.
Full of ideas with no motivation to follow through. Sums it up pretty well. Thinking about what I could've accomplished if I didn't have ADHD is incredibly upsetting.
Same with me. It hurts!
Nah, you probably hadn’t actually thought about all those things you would have accomplished )
I know, it hurts me so much. I know I’m not stupid. A handful of my friends went to IvyLeagues out of high school. But my dumbass became super over emotional over a break up in high school and I basically ruined my life over some silly kiddie relationship. Here I am now, in debt, 5 years Into community college with nothing to show for it because no matter how many colleges I keep transferring to, I end up fucking up my GPA in the first semester.
@@dailyredapple How about fuck college and go and get a trade aka an apprenticeship. Make friends with someone that owns a business and hammer them to get it!! xx
Same! I have THE BEST ideas, find the best products.... But... Then I see these products on the shelves months later selling so well, but none are mine. I have great foresight and can advise and coach others magnificently keeping them to task.. But not myself.
I've been mistaken for a psychologist, marketing manager, teacher and nurse.. Just with "stuff" I've researched and what I think... Zero qualifications as I'm interested in so much but can't commit to one thing. I've been called "lazy" by family as I'm not a domestic goddess (though ok) but others think I'm super organised and efficient, achieving great things in the community... Can't win.
Sat crying at this. I’m dyslexic & clinically depressed & diagnosed with anxiety but since actually looking at myself, I’ve come to realise that I exhibit all symptoms of ADHD. It’s so hard to get a diagnosis here but this video made me break down in tears man. This resonated with me like nothing before. I’ve written all of this down. I’m determined to get my fucking life back.
its ok. Have faith and work like a dog and read BOOKS ! Books changed my life, on ADHD and PTSD. Most importantly though NEVER EVER GIVE UP !!
That last sentence resonates with me. We're rooting for you! 💗
I had exactly what you have. I changed jobs. Took some psychedelics once or twice. I now work nights.I use Stimulant medication. I am almost a fully functional member of society now. My depression is gone. It is possible to get your life back. I'm still dyslexic but Google helps a lot😅
Hey man, what a story. My heart goes out to you. How are things going? Are you close to a diagnosis and have you found a prescribing doctor?
It can be hard to find a doctor who is willing to diagnose and treat this condition.
I was not diagnosed until I was 40. I had started looking for treatment 7 years before I was diagnosed, but the psychiatrist I first saw about it - the only psychiatrist my then-health insurance company covered - lead me to believe that I was within the range of normal. I wasn't. I just happened to be single, childless and exercising 2x a day when I visited with her.
So I went about my life, still struggling some. Moved up in my career to management level roles, got married, had a baby...and stopped having time to exercise even 1x a day consistently. And my life started slowly falling apart.
I tried again to get treatment, having a new PPO insurance plan, but actually getting the appointment took almost a year. Thank goodness I had gotten recommendations from family and friends about the best doctor to see about the condition and he diagnosed me in 1 visit.
Medication isn't a silver bullet. (Honestly, exercising 2x a day was closer to a silver bullet.) But it helps! And so does having a name for the condition and the issues. So I can watch videos like this one, and know a few more changes I can implement to help myself cope.
Keep looking for the doctor who can and will treat you!
P.S. Besides exercise or stimulant meds, my D.O. psychiatrist let me know that Flax Seed Oil or Fish Oil 3 times a day can help. (D.O.s always wanna try the "natural" approach first. I am personally over the natural approach, but keep this info in my back pocket in case I ever run out of meds between appointments.)
For some reason this popped back into my feed. I don’t know if this video truly changed my life or not, but things have gotten a lot better for me since the last time I watched it years and years ago. I finished college, have a career, and even bought a condo. For whatever contribution to my success this video was, thank you.
Awesome
I just discovered this video & hope Implementing the advice and learning more of what the Doc has researched will help me as it has you
This is so inspirational for me
im 30, i have a lot going on for me, but i still feel like a worthless piece of shit most of the times. thank you for grounding me. I'm on a waitlist to get tested. My dream would be to literally figure out what my career even *should* be. Some mental stability so i can do the things i want to do and accomplish my long term goals. again, thank you for grounding me that this is still possible! I hope years from now i will be able to leave a message like yours, right here on this video.
I have been doing all of these for years! Scary stuff. Recent diagnosis. Got through medical school, top grades, never failed a class but I am so tired and still feel like a failure!
Recently started medication which has been insane. This is a great lecture, bizarre to see someone just outlining things I have internalised and battled to create to keep myself functional. Wish I had found this sooner.
On Dec. 15th I’ll be granted my BS in Microbiology and have just gotten an assessment for ADHD and I too wish I would’ve gotten help earlier in life. I’ve stopped internalizing my shortcomings and began to rebuild my confidence by learning more this disease well, myself. Truly astounding to learn THIS
I’m in medical school and I am about to be expelled because I can no longer deal with this condition 😞 I’m glad someone made it, sad you still feel like a failure given all you’ve achieved. I hope medication helped you 🫶🏻
Nailed it.
I'm 72. As I age, my ADHD is getting worse. I've so much to do. It's in my face, but I freeze, becoming overwhelmed. Things are piling up, commitments loom.
I know I'm highly intelligent. I constantly study, learn things, but when it comes to being motovated in the physical world, nothing, little at best, gets done.
I am seeking help, medication, but even getting this done gets put off... damnit.
Aerobic activity is becoming more difficult in that it takes me away from what I need to do, adding to my overwhelmedness. It is maddening. I hate having to rermind people to remind me, and I hate constantly being reminded, it goes around and around, destroying any semblance of self-esteem.
Me too. I am 71 and was just diagnosed this year.
Tenho 61 anos. descobri que tinha tdah há 3 anos e tive de procurar psiquiatra especializada para VALIDAR o meu diagnóstico. Passo por tudo isso. É dose !!
I hope someone in your life has told you that you're doing amazing. And you've done amazing things. Because I guarantee you have and you are.
Late reply but offering this:
Drop everything and get a
DX and the right RX meds.
Then take control of what’s looming and set up
clocks in your visual field, in every room! Don’t rely on the iPhone!
@@tonyatorres999 I own a watch. It goes with me everywhere. LOVE it, can't live(properly) without it
Never have I seen a better explanation of ADHD. Made me very emotional as well. University would not at all be possible for me without medication. It is extremley frustrating and painful to want to accomplish something but you can't make yourself actually do it.
Having a massive white board in my room really helps. I have bought many planners and installed many apps on my phone but they don't work XD.
Yo I have a white board too :)
I wonder if using a bullet journal would be helpful. The guy that invented the bullet journal has ADHD.
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better .
A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings)
Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
lol i always write a to do list and i find it after a few days and laugh at myself for believing this would work and the board is part of my room decoration now
@@Liradu2 damn have some faith u can do it eventually good luck 🙌🏼
I started crying because someone was finally validating what I’ve been dealing with my entire life.
Same. Cried the whole time when I first watched this.
I regularly come back to it whenever I’m feeling unseen.
The doctor who invented ADHD said on his deathbed that it was a fictitious disease. You are a normal human.
*saves to watch later*
7 years later
That moment when you wake up early to study and then it's suddenly 6pm.
Wish I didn't know what that feels like.
lmao
I relate to this so hard.
This is sooo relevant right now in quarantine 😭
@@bellyfulochelly4222 If you mean hyperfocus, that you studied all day without noticing, it's one of my favourite ways to work. I have to be hyper interested in the topic. I wish I could do it predictably. I need a compelling question, and then I can't stop studying. Without one, it can be hard to focus.
Oh. My. God. This is what I've been doing, just on my own, knowing what I need help with. The timers, clocks, lists, you-name-it.
Me too! If I need to buy more dog food, I need to leave the empty bag in front of the door, visual reminders work!
I have done this as well. Schedules. Everything in its place always! Unfortunately, after my retirement, I have nothing or nobody to hold me accountable, to push me forward...there’s nothing. It’s now, that it’s all falling apart.
This makes so much sense! I was a construction worker and always physically active.
@@MariposaRedimida I would go past the empty bag and forget it...
@@MariposaRedimida I need a personal assistant.
An assistant sounds like a luxury to me. I need a female assistant to hire.
You are making me cry. Listening to your description of what I have makes me realise I’m not going mad. I’m 61 and undiagnosed.
I remember describing the feeling that no matter how much introspection I did, it wouldn't change my behavior. I couldn't do the things that I knew how to do.
Introspection is painful with a lifetime of “untapped potential” wasted by “poor motivation and lack of self-discipline.” Diagnosis and treatment 50 years ago would have given me an entirely different life.
I replied here but it ended up where I did not want it 😂 magnesium has been helping me out. For 4 yrs now. Progress is slow but its there. Cheapest lowest dosage from discounters. Dr Berg mentions diet here on RUclips
Description Accurate as sniper @@firstmkb
cannabis helps
I believe this is part of why CBT therapy for my anxiety didn’t help long-term. I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD yet, but I kept telling my therapists that I knew what I needed to be doing, I just didn’t know how to make myself do it. (Or sometimes, I did the things that were supposed to help, but they did nothing for me, which killed my motivation to keep trying.)
I paused this video 3 TIMES...Got lost in my own world and Finally completed it. Thank you doctor
I paused as well as back-tracked SO many times!! I am walking my circle drive so I can stay within the house wifi range but still day-dreamed. I agreed with all except the glucose as I am addicted and cannot " not gulp", tho for a super important task requiring constant concentration, I'm willing to try. I'm 78 and eat carnivore and exercise (jogging, calisthenics) and write copious post-its and lists and records, and plan short term rewards for boring tasks (1 hr housework earns me an iced coffee on the patio). My husband has it worse, so he is not much help and I struggle with not tellung, controlling, nagging, and holding resentments when I can see, and say, and ask, and offer to help him with his stuff. God, help us all ❤🙏
Watching this as a recently diagnosed 33 year old adult, made me ugly cry. This is my whole life in 13 minutes.
On the path to diagnosis at 28. I feel you..
Just recently realizing myself as a 28 year old that I likely have ADHD and it really makes me tear up too being hit with that realization that it’s not that I’m unable to take care of my life how I think I should, but that I’ve never had the right tools… validating and scary at the same time.
I am also 33 and I was diagnosed last month. I learned so much in the past month and started my medication last week. But to fully get better, I still need to develop some good habits and design my environment.
@@jjjooe Can you name the medication please?
I almost cried when I heard this guy talk. Someone finally gets it.
Because he is genius in this case, he knows everything about it.
Same here. I’ve been staring at the wall for like 10 min thinking about this video
No this motherschmucker has the disorder --- (narcissistic dickhead) .
How come nobody ever invests in a CURE for sadistic-greed .
Ever heard the 'myth' about the LOTUS FLOWER of forgetfullness? it is precisely the drugs in the air, water, and food supply that keep the population comfortably-dumb . (like nazis sedatating concentration campers)
Too bad --- that Nowadaze --- Both The wheat and the weeds get napalmed with various poi-zions and toxic logic to keep the intellectual lawn of the world mowed down low in a pharmakeia sorcery sleeping beauty spell trance .
Afflicting the population with poi-zion food supply keeps the vicious-cycle health insurance scam based economy healthy.
ask yer doctor ---
if they're aware that glyphosatan herbicide is being napalmed on nearly every crop nowadaze (just a few days right before harvest (dessication) desecration) to make it easier on the harvesting machines after the plants are all dried up. ) roundup is registered as a broad spectrum antibiotic that kills the good beneficial bacteria in the soil and our guts that helps us absorb nutrients and keep our immune systems healthy . belly-bloat and brainfog are among the initial 'side-effects' (afflictions) that eventually degenerate into even worser lucrative ailments with ever more toxic poi-zion pharma-suicidical solutions. Only reason its considered safe by the corporate-fascist sponsored government acronymn agencies is because it keeps the vicious-cycle based pharmasuicidical-insurance-scam - false-advertising industrial-complex based economy healthy --- thanks to. cowardly doctors, scientists, journalists, and acadamia-nuts afraid of speaking out against the big pharma-mafia . (google 84 hollistic doctors die untimely deaths in 3 yrs) or we can just keep smoking the genetic-molesting 'medical' marijuana and continue to pretend its fun to REALLY get FUGGED UP .
eat genetic-molesting probiotic so-called human shit pills and pretend its fun to mutate into mindless consumer shitheads is one of their diabolically-retarded antidotes --- but then i digress . (instead of being able to digest the way nature intended) its about motherfracking time to take care of the 'CANCER-SOCIETY' --- BEFORE they try to take care of us overly-trusting schmuckers .
You can't eat money --- but the wealthy are relatively healthy!
Maybe its time to go poi-zion kosher-cannibal?
keep in mind --- that destruction of honest to goodness american values and lives is the kosher poi-zion deceptacon hex-nut globalist motherfrackers end game plan. they are doing a pretty good job of dragging us and the rest of the world down to their warmongering level --- got to give em credit where credit is due --- crafty basturds. now its time to let them have what they are hellbent on recieving --- all the love and light in the world --- more than any dark souless souls could possibly ever handle .
maybe they can all just die from a holy-ghost passover again !
rapture them greedy-sadistic poi-ZIONIST motherfrackers the heck out of here allready !
Genetic-molesting obamanations are intended to ethnic-cleanse heathen schmucks junk dna . weoponized weather and directed energy weopons are designed to punish rogue governments that refuse monsatano's poi-zion toxic garbage .
Sun of god is written in our hearts --- when we let the sunshine in .
that's why the evil invasive illegal-alien entities are litter-ally trying to block out our connection to our divine source of LIGHT (with persistent 'con-trails')
We best not let ANYBODY try to scare the friggin Be-jesus outta any of US !
That's the problem with a corporate fascist/socialist sponsored so-called 'free press ' . Everyone on the payroll from the reporters, to the scientists, doctors, and professors are 'highly discouraged' against painting their authortarian globalist sponsors in a bad light...
Check out this free independent meteorologist weather report :
Weoponized weather oppression technology has been getting deviloped and implemented for a long time allready --- and yet the weathermen still pretend that the bad weather is just a natural disaster act of god...
www.geoengineeringwatch.org/a-climate-engineering-introduction-to-media-and-the-uninformed/
Why would anyone want to be hellbent on total world domination?
And beyond?
Duh .
if you think The wages --- for deliberately schmucking peace-loving people into going to war against everything pure and natural and good must be astronomically enormous --- Yer damn friggin right --- but you definitely got another thing coming . . .
Good luck actually getting treatment if you have ADHD. You need to be able to:
- go to regular appointments
- fill out copious amounts of paperwork
- keep fighting against a system that thinks you're lying to it
- have lots of money
- I'll finish this list later
Yes!!!
Sounds american
@@j.m.ematthijsse6251 Fair point, hope the system is friendlier for people in other places.
@@j.m.ematthijsse6251 lololol dont promote the myth that its just Americas system thats broken. Try living even in Australia and getting adequate CONSISTENT treatment in the public health system. Garbage level when you're intelligent and active in self healing
@@JackyTMusic I'm from Sydney and I'm getting treatment! My doctor only takes medicare. He's also really nice and calm to listen to, which can sometimes be frustrating because you just need to go go go, but can also be relaxing because it reminds you to take your time and that you don't need everything done immediately. I learnt treatment is slow. But it's better than nothing.
The glucose part was especially interesting! I’ve started drinking energy drinks at work in the early afternoon to help with the afternoon slump and it really really works. It’s nice to see a bit of science behind a personal hack!
For me coffee with a ton of sugar works like a charm. It keeps me energized and makes me do all the chores that I would put off if I wouldn’t drink it. I don’t drink it daily though, I let my body rest the next day without it so I don’t become too dependant on it.
I wonder actually if reducing sugar and going low carb/keto is the other option. If cell energy regulation is the problem, using fats and proteins for ATP synthesis is a much more stable way of doing so
I could never do that as a diabetic... it would send me right to sleep apart from the general harm too high a glucose level does in the diabetic body. Low carb is a safer approach for me, to keep the glucose regulated.
This is pure gold.
If you can't get anything done, if you tend to procrastinate, if you seem to do the things you like instead of those you have to do, if you get frustrated in the job, if you lose connection with friends, if you are lonely, if you're always late and so on,
...
1) you should get a diagnosis
2) you should ask others to get you into a therapy
3) you should consider medication
4) you should definitely try different systems like bullet journals, printed calendars, apps, reminders, fixed routines, clear structures and so on.
This might make your life 345% better. Good luck.
Medication makes you a zombie. That is not a solution. You SHOULD NOT take pharma or go into therapy to be like other people.
I tried to get diagnosed but the doctor told me i just have Bipolar 🥲 time and time again, i feel like i have adhd but idk maybe it's just in my head 😂
The doctor who invented ADHD said on his deathbed that it was a fictitious disease. You are a normal human.
I definitely need to get checked. I'm like 90% sure I have ADHD, and I came to that conclusion several months before I saw this video or read this comment.
All of the things you said apply to me. They didn't apply to me a few years ago, but I now realize that's because I had a very strong support network then - my family, and my school. I don't have that, and my life has kinda fallen apart since.
I need help, but I don't know where to get it, and I definitely can't trust myself to proactively seek it out before things get worse.
I forgot about my appointment 3 times in a row
If only people understood the insurmountable daily struggles of having adhd. (Myself included.)
So exhausted from no sleep, no break from thinking, and never being able to sustain focus. Lots to give. No way to give it.
Zero self pity just a dwindling loss of hope and optimism after four decades of consistent inconsistencies. Humour is the last thing to go, eh.
My sincere empathy for all you fellow adhders out there in the foggy ether of hyper neuro ville.
I for one would relish a simple, stable life where I could wholeheartedly apply my passion and skills. In the meantime, I'll pen a youtoob miniature violin concerto comment. Impulses ahoy!
❤️
And then delete the draft 10 minutes into writing 3 paragraphs because who thinks this rant is adding anything to the conversation...
@@phatmattd when in fact it gives quite a lot
@Danielle W. I don't know what kind of ADD you have but if my mind is not stimulated when I want to fall asleep, it's close to impossible if I'm not already very tired, and even then I put like a old episode from a series that I like to run in the backgound for the noise, it's smooth falling asleep after. And I read some other peoples comments doing the same thing so it's not just me.
Danielle W. 💯understand exactly what you're saying and where you're coming from, I can also tell you, some of us, our minds don't stop thinking 💭 unless they are at the point of almost a physical exhaustion. And I think 🤔 that's what the other comment [ (edit) @Om Draws!] was about.
I decided to learn Chinese, one of the most difficult languages, just so my brain 🧠 would stop thinking 💭. Or maybe it was as a test, if my brain would stop thinking💭 Lol 😆 It didn't🙄 I actually learned Mandarin 😆🙄So now the challenge is learning to read and write it😁😉
"They can't hold things in mind and move them around as well as other people"
That really just hit me...
Brings back memories of how I was great at math until we started geometry...
But seriously he said this as I was scrolling down the comments and reading yours 💀 I'm freaked out/happy because I've been studying enlightenment/synchronicities and this was definitely one of them 🤣🙏
As a 42 year old with rampant ADHD, this man single handedly both validated my existence and explained why I am still functioning decently. What a wizard!
I about cried when he said medication IS the right treatment for this.... I've been off Ritalin for 27 years (at 18 they told us we'd grow out of ADD and promptly cut us off) and living like this is slowly killing my will to live. I've become a recluse who pretends to be high functioning at work. The last time I didn't feel like a total moron was when I was on Ritalin. I was always the smartest person in the room! Nothing could get me down! Man I miss those days so much. I might not have dropped out of college if I had been allowed to stay on medication, and I might have a career right now instead of a dead end job.
Totally wish I had kept up the Ritalin as well. I got a new prescription, my old diagnosis was still active, and it has been really helpful. Talk to your doctor!
My dear, I don’t know how old you are, but don’t give up. Even if you think it’s too late, maybe it’s not. You can go back to meds and try to develop strategies to better your situation. I don’t know you, but I really hope you can feel better.
try vyvanse
I wanted to suggest you look into neurofeedback for ADHD, because it worked for me. You'd try a psychologist (not a psychiatrist). It's not medication, it's a treatment. Good luck.
Why can’t you use Ritalin again?
By the grace of Adderall combined with a highly caffenatied sport drink I was able to absorb 40% of this 13 minute presentation.
And that 40% alone is life changing.
"ADHD The diabetes of psychiatry.."
'An INTENTION deficit disorder not attention."
" Make time external."
"An executive function disorder not attention."
Dude, your first paragraph if hilarious and painfully true. Thanks for mirroring how I feel.
I was diagnosed ten years ago, at age 39. Adderall has changed my life, I HAVE A LIFE now! I'm addicted to energy drinks so you are not alone....
Yes brain glucose
I stopped drinking coke a few years ago because of stomach issues. now I only drink plain water. I've been also hitting my coping limits the past 2 years to the point that I saw a doctor and got diagnosed. now you/he made me thinking.... is there a chance that coke helped me to function to a certain degree....?
@@IsleNaK Caffeine causes an epinephrine response, and medications that are known to help adhd like Wellbutrin are designed to make your brain experience more epinephrine. Wellbutrin is definitely preferable though if you can get it because your brain will adjust to consistent use of caffeine and null it out, but wellbutrin is a reuptake inhibitor, which side steps that adjustment mechanism for the most part
I hate it when people ask me to estimate how long something will take me to do. I just never seem to be able to guess properly!
For me it helps to keep small notes of how long such tasks usually do take but then add 25-50% time to whatever it usually takes, this way your always ahead of the time you give.
Oh I wish my boss could understand this
MAN- word!!
my friends and family consistently tell me to be somewhere an hour before i'm really supposed to be there, i picked up on it so i'm always aware when that's what's going on
but in some weird paradoxical way it still works, i'm habitually late on time even though i know deep down im late
I just don’t answer because I can’t even think of a number. I hate when people ask that.
This is the most informative, helpful, awakening video, I have ever seen. I didn't even know I had had ADHD. I don't have insurance and don't qualify for Medicaid. I spent most of my life never being able to go to doctors. I'm speechless. This video is going to change my life. Amen! Thank you for sharing
I've never felt so understood and seen. I'm crying from how much I wish I had this support during my childhood and teenage years.
ADHD for me has always felt like two things. One is like, rush hour traffic playing nonstop all the time. Every conversation is accompanied by honking horns and bright lights from oncoming traffic. My brain is overstimulated by intrusive thoughts and external forces, and focus is hard to maintain and easy to lose.
The other version I've encountered. Is like a deer in headlights. I think about all of these things, and plan plenty of activities. But once I have to make a decision on what of these thoughts I want to act on. I lock up. Sometimes, I look through the sea of options and they don't seem interesting enough. I end up spending all of the time I could have been doing something, mindlessly doing nothing. Watching RUclips shorts on an endless loop while I argue with my brain on what to do. From the outside, I just seem lazy and unmotivated. But in reality I'm running every scenario in my head with no real push towards a resolve. It only ends when I either fall asleep, or something finally grabs my attention.
I can't help but feel like the attention issues are accompanied by depression. But considering nothing is diagnosed because of money, I could just be talking out of my ass.
YES!!! i feel the same. I am literally paralyzed, locked up, can't do anything because I can't do everything at once. Brain is rolling through 1000 scenarios at once, and the only respite is sleep.
this really hits home for me. I"m just realizing that I"m pretty textbook ADHD in many ways.. at 55 :/ I've always had this problem on and off of freezing up and getting very rapid onset decision fatigue. I make the list, I look at the list, I try to prioritize and the frustration and overwhelm start as this sinking feeling. If I start a task, I often can't pay attention within a short time unless it somehow fully engages me and the rest of the world falls away. But that is hard to find since other ideas, tasks, inspirations are constantly asserting themselves in a cacophany of thoughts like an electrical storm. I'm learning as much about myself from all these great comments as I did fron the talk lol.
We are just 'more' people. We are more crearive, more insightfull, more happy and more angry. My one kid and I are also always in rush and quick to everything that seems interesting. .
When I finally force myself to do the work, i am hyper efficient and perfectionist. Don't let anybody to tell you that you are looser or there is no hope. We can by super productive, we just need to start.
Recently I've dicovered Steven Pressfield 'War of art' he write about resistance in life. Mebye it will be interesting for you.
It's estimated that with undignosed people, there might be 5-10% of Humanity with ADHD. Therfore this is biodiveristy and not disease/disfunction! If we are useless loosers nature would get rid of us 😅 I know that some people, lets say 1% have extreme version and that must be very hard for them for sure.
Any of you guys go to do something and just jam up so hard you cannot make yourself do it even if you'd wanted to before? Like just it's impossible and you feel like "No! I can't!" Like anything you just have to try to do is instantly too much even if it isn't? And if you do get some little thing done by some miracle or something you should like or even a bigger thing, you don't feel good, it's just another thing on a list and there's no feeling of reward at all, even if somebody actually says good job and means it, you don't feel it?
It's highly treatable and yet I've been trying to get help for years with no luck. Getting a diagnosis, just a diagnosis, is brutally difficult. Getting help for ahdh is NOT adhd friendly.
Your right. I'm jumping through a hoop right now. Basically have to pay money to get proper diagnosis (hopefully!) just to get the help that's needed.
There is no ADHD
@@alanberkeley7282 just because you don't have adhd, no have ever experienced it, doesn't mean it's not real.
@@tiaryan1350 I've looked and looked and I've yet to see anything to convince me it exists. I was 72 in March
@@alanberkeley7282 it's definitely a real thing. Myself, and my daughter have it. It a feeling, causes many issues with childhood, growing up, effects grades, causes an umbrella of extra things with mental illness. You have to have ADHD to know it. I'm ADD, and so is my child... The more quiet type. I have no idea where to even begin. Do you think you may or may not have it? It's changes in the brain chemistry. Autism runs along with it like a cousin, but the two are very different, yet similar. I have one of each. If you don't have it, it's obviously going to be hard to understand.
Almost done with my Bachelor in Psychology. Its not the level of education that makes it difficult, but the DOING part. Im very proud of myself if I can finish this and I will continue to go get my masters. I was 32 when I started. Trust me if I say its all about self optimalisation. Do what works for you and and change what doesnt work. And yes excercising works great. 3 days hard work, one day excercise. Works like a charm (for me). Also for big study assignements I use meds (dexamfetamine), but only for study assignements or else my costs like sleep deprivation etc. would get to high.
I have a BA in psych, seemed a natural thing. Could have taken a programing course, this was 1966, instead of psych 101. Gotta say I never put the psych to use. Really couldn't keep a job. When I was about 50 I was diagnosed, put on meds, and discovered computer programming and got an MS in it. Programming suited me, worked in the field successfully until I retired. Wish I were diagnosed and had taken that programming course in 1966!
This just made me cry,years of misunderstanding ,self doubt,mixed emotions all explained in 13 minutes
I only got to 6.30
Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better .
A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings)
Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed
Im so glad I was your comment! Im here because my therapist recommended me to watch him, when I told her about my adhd. I started to get chills hearing him speak so intelligently about this and teary eyed and then I started crying. It's good to hear theres hope and forms of treatment out there for us.
@@asdfghlkjh100 funny, people who have adhd/add can't stop their brain from thinking like a speed train, this means they're usually incredibly rational thinkers, i don't think you're going to be finding people to convert here budyy..
@@indiathomas6580 heyhey! i see your comment is a week old but i highly suggest the channel ''How To ADHD'' the doctor told me i have a ADD but not how to deal with it, the channel helps alot with that and allowes me to create handles to hold onto highly recommended!
I have rewatched this video like 10 times because it just feels so validating to hear someone talk about it that actually understands it.
there are still way too many pepople who don't 'accept' this disorder and that makes me so sad.
exactly!!
I wish other people would recognize that ADHD is real and treatable but it is just a lot easier to write us off as being lazy, unfocused, unmotivated, etc. Kind of like how many would look at a homeless person and instead of finding what circumstances led them there the first thought it "They did it to themselves. They're lazy and don't wanna work."
I resisted getting on Adderall for years. My therapist would constantly ask me to take an ADHD test and I would refuse since my dad is a doctor and had always hammered into me that ADHD was just a made up excuse for lazy people.
Today I have to say it has made a huge difference. I still struggle on getting things done but not nearly as much as when I was just trying to wing it through life. It's a shame that there was many bright people out there, like my sister, who still view ADHD as a problem on not having enough focus and that it can be done via meditation and will-power alone.
It is just much easier for society to label us as people with no motivation or focus rather than admit that their cookie cutter education system is way out of touch with the different ways people learn. Rather than overhaul the system and create different schools for different learning styles it's jut easier to label kids as troublemakers and sell that to their parents and peers than admit they need to change their approach.
VideoTzar19 👍Agree But: 1) It is up to us. We cannot expect others to do something over what they don't know nor understand. Including drs.
2) as parents, it is us, who make decisions for our children. We speak up for them. We represent them. We must not allow others: teachers, doctors, authority, to tell us how/what is best for ourselves and our children;
3) when we make a point to know ourselves, to know our children each one as an individual, we can exercise our very best option of what is best for us and our child.
4) teach our kids to know ourselves and themselves; strengths and weaknesses.
5) easier said than done but not impossible. It just takes a conscious effort and sacrifice to make it through.
Doctors are the worst. I know. I've been in the field 30 years; have them in the family; and that's the career path my children have chosen. However, many patients have died from most curable cancers, most simple infections, and the dr is in the family (husband, wife, parent, sibling or him/herself).
Doctors, some, there are exceptions, when they don't know about a certain condition like concussions, ADHD, fibromyalgia, PTSD, or others, tend to blame the patients. Refuse to see anything that is not what they were taught. Especially now, with the level of litigation, practicing defensive medicine, they even dismiss the patient's history and waste resources so they can have lab backup for potential legal issue according to their mind. Us, the patients, become our own drs, researchers. The more we know, the better we can take care of ourselves and each other🤔😃🚶♀️🏃♀️🚶🌻🌷🌴
About the medication, have you felt dependent any how?? Did you do breaks, if yes, with what regularity?
I have heard that when people supplement with vitamins and minerals and omega 3 essential fatty acids, they are able to focus better. Perhaps it has to do a lot with diet
dnsgilbert09 👍It is very very important to keep track/watch what we eat. It all comes down to personal individual responsibility. And, EDUCATION. The more we know, the better choices we make.
Most importantly, WE make the decision.
Expecting others to do this or that for us, is our downfall.
Taking charge of our lives, at every level. Taking charge of our destiny.
It's a wonderful, feeling of freedom and self encouragement once we realize we are in charge.
Btw people with AD-HD, are MANY times more likely to be depressed, homeless, in prison or commit suicide.
Beautiful, beautiful video! As a man recently diagnosed with ADHD, the more I serious analysis that I seek on data about my condition, the more I discover about myself and my behavioral tendencies. Knowing what I know now , it's no wonder I've gotten such obtuse results in my life. I've basically been forcing my unique shaped fit into the wrong pair of shoes my entire life because there is so much ignorance around people who think like me. So grateful to finally have some answers. So glad there are people to look to for guidance.
I am a Mechanical Engineering student in my 4th-year of college and despite my 21 years of life, I am just now understanding what has been holding me back my entire life.
Huh?? Man I'm confused. Sounds like u braggin' or mockin' me. Lol u showin' off or is this just worded funny? Do u mean it looks like you're doing very well and obviously quite brilliant but the rest of your life is a mess?? How u held back?? (Not dissin' just tryna learn)
Agreeance
Well , I just found out at 43. I have three degrees but still struggle and know I should be doing things better . Now I understand .
@@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs dfuq you mean dude? He means hes a student but despite that adhd was affecting him
@@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs there are a lot of things to life other than academics, perhaps in order to get where he is today he needed to sacrifice the other parts of life (more than neurotypicals do).
Dr: "I'm not going to excuse your behaviour, I'm going to hold you more accountable than other people"
Me: anxiety shot
After watching through all of it I realized that he meant "hold accountable" as in "slapping physical responsibility reminders onto your face because your brain doesn't remember them". In a way, it DOES mean holding us more accountable because, he will keep remind us of what we need to do and when and why and what we will get after it is done.
It’s his way of saying find ways to keep you on track or on task. More loving and helpful, less judgmental than it sounds.
LOL same
Refueling the tank is so important
I like how he said it is 80% treatable with medication. I would like to see it. Here is a list of different meds: adderall, adderall, adderall, and Ritalin. Meth
Years of studying to no avail, no one believing you when you say can't work.
Meditation retreats, leaving the internet, psychotherapy for depression, daily meditation, scheduling, goal setting. Years of time lost.
Finally, understanding its not your moral shortcoming, but an undiagnosed issue that other people simply don't deal with is a bittersweet understanding.
Its just so sad to know so many will go through their lives with no diagnosis.
I think we know more now that neuroplasticity can rewire some of this out of the brain; however, I am a late diagnosed ADHD -- after decades of my military PTSD distracting my healthcare providers-- and now I feel (1) emotional about how I used to try to mitigate these behaviours in school. uni, and work without knowing what was wrong; and (2) I feel a bit overwhelmed by how I have to now build a prosthetic environment. This is a lot of work.
this guy gets it. I agree with being held more accountable, only when i feel pushed and challenged do i really get my shit together. time feels so irrelevant to me
But the way he explains it sounds scary. Everyone hounding you... :(
In my case, it has to come across as non-judgemental and supportive or I push back . :)
John Gray I have to structure my own scaffolds with dry erase calendars, etc. I have found the best way to make myself get to tasks on my to do list is to use removable tape from The Container Store and move tasks around so that I can group like items and give myself rewards of Advocare Spark, breakfast, iced tea, in between the often mundane chores.
My ADHD specialist told me the worst thing for an ADHD kid is not to have boundaries and structure. It is exactly the opposite of my upbringing
John Szarek I completely understand what you are saying about pushing back if you feel judged or pushed. I am somewhat the same way, but I can also be the complete opposite...if I feel JUDGED I will feel embarrassed and defeated and immediately give up. If I feel PUSHED, that’s when I dig my heels in and get completely defiant. Even if I know that whatever I’m resisting is in my best interest and I SHOULD be doing it. This is a constant source of conflict between my husband and I. He tries to “motivate” me by telling me what I’m going to do and that’s all she wrote...I could have been planning on doing exactly what he just said but the second I feel like I’m being pushed into it...it’s over...not happening. I can instantly feel my entire mood shift. I know it’s stupid when it’s happening and I don’t like causing the friction/tension, but I cannot make myself not push back...almost out of spite if that makes sense?? It’s like I feel like he tries to parent me. I know that’s not how he’s intending it to come across, but some metaphorical switch inside of me just flips and it’s over. He’s pretty much the only person that happens with though. 99.9% of the time I will just get embarrassed by ANOTHER failed attempt at being a “normal” and “successful” adult and immediately give up 😕
same, my parents are the chillest parent without giving me any rules or reinforcing discipline. It was difficult to go through high school and college. I still love them though
This is crazy, it has taken me about 26 years to understand half of this stuff and it's all summed up here, all the struggle I've had in my life summed up in 13 minutes and possible solutions I haven't implemented, this has been really informative, thanks a lot
dude literally same here. glad youve figured it out!
Did you get treatment ?
Man, this is so good to hear. Apparently I've been dealing with PTSD and ADHD for the last 20+ years. Finally got a diagnosis and on meds a few months ago and I've literally been more productive in the last 6 months than I've been in the last 10 years.
If you feel like you have mental health issues, go to a doc and take your meds. They really do help.
@Tony Camaj As for the PTSD, there really isn't "curing it." Only managing it. My PTSD makes it hard for me to sleep so that's what the clonidine is for
@Tony Camaj I also want to add, talk to your doctor first. You might not need 75mg of venlafaxine, and different things can cause BPD and depression. It seems we've narrowed it down to lack of serotonin for me. But lack of dopamine or even vitamins can cause depression and ADHD. So don't take my experience as law.
My very first round of meds actually made everything worse for me and we switched over to the meds I'm on now. Sadly, these things are kind of a trial by fire kind of thing.
My advice to you is be as honest as possible with your psychiatrist. Don't think of it as revealing yourself to a stranger. Think of it as a professional who needs to know this stuff to help you
@Tony Camaj it looks like my first reply got hit by the algorithm and deleted. I'm on Adderall, venlafaxine, and clonidine. Not sure what got what got algorithm'd but this should give you a place to start
@Tony Camaj yeah, sorry to hear that, man. Definitely talk to your doctor. I'm not too sure what can be done for traumatic brain injuries. I have heard of experimental meds using shrooms and LSD. Maybe talk to your doctor about those experiments? At worst your doc tells you no, at best you get to do drugs for free,and legally! Haha
@@josephwilliams1915 what vitamins do you take? How do meds help with EF?
I feel like I should've had more awareness of my ADHD before I applied to college.
At least you made it to college ... (sorry, bad day)
John Szarek I made it to college (university). failed 2 years on different subjects and I'm still in my first year. I dont want to fail this time because all the friends I have, all my aspirations in sport, all other things I have going for me in my life are based around this uni.
It's 1 am. tomorrow I have one of the deciding exams and I'm completely unprepared. yet here I am reminding myself of what makes me hate who I am.
wish I never "made it to college".
Roel Kox: I hope you're sleeping and best of luck when test time comes today.
God, I hear you. I dropped out of college because I could not get Algebra ll with a 3.0 in other classes. I understood it. I couldn't remember all of the formulas. Some of that might be from being an ISFJ personality type. I was devastated. Fortunately, I'm retired and still have a paycheck.
lol thats true. Hell i found out that I had adhd after going into college and sitting down for lectures. Its bad.
This is the best explanation of ADHD I’ve ever seen, I couldn’t relate more. I’m an aspiring entrepreneur but need to move faster, I am very limited with my willpower on a daily basis - I can get the willpower back during a day but it is time consuming since I need to do it by exercising and meditation - once I have it back it is shorter lived than earlier though. Been a struggle finding the right kind of help :(
Same here .
Go walk for 30 miles. Watch the results.
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Woah it feels like you saw me through me, Im litterally doing that what you said right now o-o
I found myself checking reddit at about the 9 min mark. Exactly what he said about running down the tank in 10 mins.
fuck im embaressed
I paused.
This is the best explanation of my life!
"The problem is not with knowing what to do, but with doing what I know!"
This makes me wanna cry tbh. I went through my whole life failing everything in school and having no answers as to why. First it was theories that I had a learning disability like dyslexia, then it was that I had an anxiety disorder, but now at 27 I finally know what it was all this time. The crazy thing is that my twin brother was diagnosed around 10 years old too. God, if only I'd had the right help instead of constant disappointment and confused stares from adults when I couldn't get homework done for the life of me. I would have graduated, maybe my anxiety would have been less because I wouldn't have been terrified of failing everyone all the time. I grew up thinking I'd never be able to finish or accomplish anything because I couldn't trust myself to actually stick with it and do it in the end. To know if people had just understood it could have saved so much pain and loneliness
@Socij Exactly the same with me!
That lack of self trust is already so debilitating, let alone being something we learned on our own while battling ADHD. For me, not trusting that I'd be able to follow through on what I start makes it even harder to do anything.
I feel like I will look back in many years time to this video, and remember it fondly as the key moment that changed my life for the better. Thank you Dr. Russell.
This made me cry. I was just recently diagnosed with ADD after being diagnosed with over a dozen mental disorders and this is the one that resonated the most. Once I started getting treatment for my ADD, it was like the other illnesses just went away. I was essentially misdiagnosed for over twenty years. It is especially hard as a woman to be properly diagnosed because we mirror ‘normal’ social patterns so well. Ladies (and men), BE PERSISTENT with your doctors. Make yourself heard.
Word!! Also as a female, certain hormones mess with our medication every month. I knew it wasn't just me wanting drugs or all in my head bcuz sometimes I didn't even need all 4 of my dexedrine- I could take two twice a day and sometimes I didn't need the 2nd two, and sometimes I'd take all 4 and feel like I may as well have flushed them down the drain. At first I was crushing and sniffing ritalin bcuz I didn't trust my stomach it just wouldn't kick in- but then I noticed that the insufflation method wasn't working either and after a whole bunch of bullshit punishment from being honest with my doctor I eventually figured out that the luteal phase knocks out adhd medication and that it's recommended to prescribe double for 10 days every month. It had to print out the scholarly article I found it in and bring it into him and then it was all good. But then they kept asking me what time I was taking it everyday- they never asked that about other medications- but made me come into the pharmacy every single day to take it in front of them. They didn't give a shit what time I got there to take it tho- or that I can't get moving without it so getting there was extremely frustrating and I wouldn't always make it before they closed. I should've said I take it when I wake up but I was stumped with the whole time on the clock thing- I didn't understand the question- but they should've understood time-blindness since they told me about it in the first place- they told me my adhd is why I struggle making it to appointments then they would schedule appointments and expect me to show up on time and punish me for failing by withholding my medication like it's a treat. Thinking I'm not motivated enough to come in and get my drugs but treat me like I'm some junkie that cant be trusted MAN it's fucked. They cut me off cold-turkey months ago. From 5 medications. Brain snaps were fucken fun comin off Paxil. I've tried other pharmacies and the mental health center my family doctor no one will help me. I was so sick and confused for months and donno how I fucked up so bad that I got surprised with an eviction - put out on the street with my cat no warning no time to bring anything or get dressed - in the winter- mocked and ridiculed by the 4 thugs threatening to physically remove me from my apt I've been in for 7 years... got cut off my financial assistance- came to my moms for help - and since I'm "staying with a parent" the gov't takes a huge chunk off of the only assistance I can get and then she's charging me rent- let's me have a small allowance. Thinks I'm just gonna spend it all on drugs.... thinks I'm hiding something when I straight up told her I need money for acid and crystal meth. 😄😁😆 Wtf else would I have to hide?? Man. She keeps tryna figure out when I'm high. I'm like- mom!! I'm always on meth. When you get pissed cuz my room gets piled up and disgusting and the litter box makes me want to scream and cry bcuz it's so gross and my cat doesnt deserve that shit but I cant fucken do shit- that's when I ran out. When I have friends who will help me out for free but I can't even get up to go downstairs and outside to meet them-- for free drugs when I'm hurting-- that's when I'm not on meth. When your dishes are all done for you and the place is spotless and my room is clean, I'm clean, my clothes are clean- laundry is done and put away- cats all clean and happy and I'm painting or colouring or making phone calls and actually getting to the appointments and omg I even had my first shift back at work and I actually made it- that's when I've actually had a rare steady supply of acid and crystal meth for a short while. I'm not sure when you think I'm high but the fact that you can't tell.... and if that's what gettin high is - where's the problem?? If I had enough acid to take to get high AND still have enough to micro-dose 8ths every 4th day- that would be cool- but it's hard to get even with money and u taking money from me "to prevent me from buying drugs" has got me looting for shit in abandoned homes, donation bins- I'm gonna give shoplifting a try now. Been thinkin about it for awhile now and decided just the other day that I don't think I give a fuck. Sounds like fun. I'm goin for the big shit too- 😁🤣 gonna grab a big box and walk right out with it- smile and nod at the staff n say u have a nice day too!! Lol. We'll see how it goes lmao!! Hopin 2 get my self some transportation, stimulation and motivation all in one with a segway ninebot maxxx!! Somehow those things seem to get me out the door no problem- well... not really but it's a much less painful process. I gotta find some chemistry students to befriend... it will be nice when I can no longer be spending time trying to get this shit. It was nice when I never had to think about it. I used to think about things like mixing red koolaid and cream soda together and the cute ice cube tray I got. And those decals I got to make a feature wall and learning about chakras and gem stones... fake nails and lashes... photography.... gathering sound bytes for when I'm back on the air at work... if I ever get back.. 😥😓 keep thinking about trying detox but then I'm back to never gettin shit and I've already done that at home a few times. It'll do it tho- they'll probably give me valium and then I'll be hooked on benzos bcuz I'll notice how nice it is to feel anxiety free but won't be prescribed them so they'll just say see ya later and well shit that sounds like fun fuck it let's go! Definitely doin this shoplifting thing... probably won't tho.. just keep thinkin about it... ready and willing but just gonna stay in the same spot for days and days.... if you've read this far thank you for listening.
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What other mental disorders did you have?
Happens all the time with women who have ADHD. I can't ever tell if it's because frequently, doctors don't take women that seriously, or because we mask our ADHD symptoms so well in order to please other people that we don't even know we have it until someone points it out. LOL!
Hello, will you please tell me for how long you took the medicament and what was it ?
The 13 minutes and 46 seconds that changed my life
"It won't even leave the office"
Damn that is so true. I went through about 3 months of therapy (group and solo combined) where I actually stayed at the hospital for the whole time. We had multiple sessions each week and after I was released I basically said the exact same thing. It's like you learn a lot of strategies to cope and you learn what to do and you then KNOW what to do but in the end it just feels like you didn't learn anything because nothing ever gets put into action.
This is like a revelation. They tell you all that stuff you need to do (which lets be honest you mostly probably know about form one of your hyperfocus phases researching stuff) but then you just sit there with all that knowledge like "now what?".
Vj
You need to find an ADHD accountability partner who you check in with twice or more daily on a list of goals for the day. Ideally, find someone who also has ADHD and is motivated to achieve progress. You hold them accountable and they hold you accountable. It seems like all that checking in might be a lot of work, but think about how much time you spend procrastinating your work or just zoning out on random stuff. You will save so much time by checking in with a partner.
i m currently on hyperfocus researching stuff