My ADHD was far less impairing when I was a kid. I’ve never really had issues with things like reading comprehension or verbal skills. But the time blindness, the lack of time management skills, inability to organize… they’re crippling me in my career. I’m an attorney. Not being able to manage my time is a huge problem in a job based almost entirely on time management. I work slower to try to keep track of everything. And I work longer hours to make up for being slow or losing time down a rabbit hole.
Your not alone. I do the same just as a tradesman so physical labor and it’s not only killing my career but my body aswell! I’m Shure you deal with great mental exhaustion instead of the physical aspect tho.
Flawlix…there is good help available for those adults who have ADHD. My husband is a physician and his time management was all over the place. Impulsivity, either total focus on one thing or lack of focus at all, yep, those too. Have you been diagnosed? That’s where you start. He is so glad he has medication as it helps him! Another lecturer I heard on ADHD said that those affected need to build an external “scaffold” around themselves, using things like timers, watches, written lists of reasonable goals for the day, electronic pocket schedulers that also help with prioritizing. He feels better about his focus and ability to self-regulate. He won’t seek ADHD -related coaching (damn stubborn) but I wish he would. Read ADDitude Magazine too. Very helpful.
"ADHD is not a problem of knowledge, it never was. It is about how to use that knowledge". Please!! every doctor must watch this video. The German doctors I have visited say I had very good grades my whole life, so I do not have ADHD. Even though all the synthoms are there and that the “good grades” were achieved under a continued suffering :(
Wow, that sucks that they don't have enough knowledge about the condition. Hopefully you can find someone else who does. It is frustrating when you have to hunt for a good specialist, but it feels great to find one who "gets it."
That's pretty odd... because a high intellect is actually common for people with ADHD. Just taking me as an example, in my 7th, 8th and 9th grade school years, I was present a maximum of 3 months in those 3 years combined, and I still got the best grades in every single subject.
Any R The thing is that one of the important definitions of ADHD (and most disorders) is that they are preventing you from succeeding. If you "have" ADHD but can live your life well anyways then you don't have a disorder, you just think differently.
Same here, I was treated for depression for 16 years, I'm intelligent as what people say but highly unsuccessful. Just recently got diagnosed by my counselor with Adult ADHD, I'm 38yrs old. Now on treatment and its for the first time ever in my life I feel really better. Yes there definitely need to be done something about awareness. I will book an appointment with my family doctor to just tell this. Thanks for your comments.
Jagmeet Arora wow! Exactly the same here, in Brazil! A wrong diagnostic of “no adhd” when I was young (also, good grades, no hyperactive), and latter several years with depression until months ago discovering adhd again!
Seriously this dude brings tears to my eyes because I finally feel like I’m getting somewhere with my life. This last week for me has been absolutely terrible and I don’t know if I’ll make it through all of this tbh but I’m going to try. I’m glad his analysis resonated with you. Hopefully you can live a better quality of life now that you have a better understanding of how your brain works. God bless your life fam 🙏🏼💯
This man literally lost his twin brother to ADHD. People that say he's being too negative are the same people who have hard time distinguishing what is actually true and what they believe is true. This man has done more than his critics to help people with ADHD. I have pretty bad ADHD and I'm glad I got on medications.
I’ve been diagnosed after 50 years, the medication has saved my life, I knew there was something wrong but could never put my finger on it! It’s a long story
@@whitecanproductions7248 I’m a similar age to you, going through a rough time, I can’t really afford a diagnosis at £1000 .. if you don’t mind me asking, which meds do you use ?
Hi Anamol. Can I please ask how medication has improved your functioning. Which executive functions do you see the greatest improvements and what isn't being fixed? I'm wondering if medication can really make so much of a difference.
@@whitecanproductions7248 I posed the same question to Anamol. You seem to have a massive improvement in the quality of your life. Can I please ask how medication has improved your daily functioning. Which executive functions do you see the greatest improvements and what isn't being fixed? I'm wondering if medication can really make so much of a difference. Are there areas you're still stuck with. Ie. Goldfish Memory, goal setting, maintaining a flow of focus for tasks, control of emotions, communication with people, depression.
the same, it's 1 year and half that i watch neurology lessons, 'm a photographer, and this one, almost makes me cry, i litterally screamed and hit the table with my fists, this scientist is exhactly describing how i explained to myself the series of disfunctions of my life, and brain, since recently i was diagnosed adhd following my intuition...
I’ve watched all this crying. I’ve never felt more understood. I had my diagnosis last week, I’m 36, almost 37 yo.Today it’s my first day under medication and I’m feeling great for the first time in a long time. I was so tired to be called promising but irresponsible, intelligent but not good putting things to practice, great but always late, unreliable, unfocused, lazy, slow, distracted… geez… I seriously don’t want to keep crying thinking of all the time and opportunities I’ve lost. But at this very moment I can’t stop feeling angry about everybody who kept saying I should just do more, double down, just focus, just this, just that as if it was just that easy and I was just lazy. I’m angry but also happy. Finally I know why and it’s a relief. I feel so much weight taken off of my shoulders… so much. Sry for the rant, but it was a big emotional day for me today.
@@unclnis Hi! Sure, it’s been a month since I first started taking Ritalin (methylphenidate). I have the Inattentive ADHD. At first I was unsure, but decided to give it a try. And it was amazing. On the first days I had some mild anxiety symptoms, but way less than I had before, but even with those (mostly that elevator chill in the gut, if u had anxiety u know what I mean), but even with that I could feel it working well. It was as if something just had been turned on in my head. I could focus again. I red a page in a book, it was fluid,, I didn’t have to go back a thousand times to read the page all over again to absorb what was written on it. Everything was silent, no racing thoughts, no memories popping up at any unwanted time, no sluggishness, I really felt alive again. I’m seriously not here making medication propaganda, but it definitely worked for me. I’m an artist, and since 2020 I’ve been stuck, the worse art block ever and it’s taking a huge toll on me and my finances as I simply couldn’t draw and so a part of my income was absolutely lost. Now I sit and draw for hours in a roll, patiently, much more attentive to details, as much as it seems like I had a huge growth in my art but I simply haven’t drawn in so long that it can’t be it, what I gather from it is that this was simply already here in me, but because of my unmediated ADHD I couldn’t put it to practice the right way. Before I would sit and dread drawing, feel useless, feel no point in doing it because it would never get to what I wanted… now I sit and calmly mold the drawing on the paper until it’s up to my satisfaction. No intrusive thoughts, no self deprecating, and most importantly I decide when to sit and do it, it doesn’t depend anymore on a huge inspiration or hiperfocus funk. I just have been drawing every day. Every single day. It doesn’t happen since I was a kid. I feel I’m in control of my will now. And the silence is just amazing. I feel more connected to the present. In the beginning I felt a bit sleepy, then very energetic but in a good way, if I have to do something I just go and do it, no discomfort or self doubt, no more procrastinating unless I really can do things latter. I’ve been keeping my house cleaner and more organized (but I’m still working on it, I’ve noticed I have a need to have places for all my stuff, some things are still without a place so those are my challenges)… so far that’s it. Taking the medicine at the right time I have no trouble sleeping, I’m even sleeping better, and my Fibromialgia is under control now too, my body aches much less, almost nothing. Oh, I feel thirsty and dry mouth all the time… this is the worse side effect so far, but I already used to drink a lot of water so, it’s no problem. It effects a bit the appetite, I feel satisfied with a bit less, but not that bad too… and that’s it no other complaints. Feel free to make more questions ☺️… but yeah that’s it I’m feeling great and productive, and this is just an amazing relief
@@Chellirsl I haven't been diagnosed yet but I have a high suspicion that I have ADHD. Watching this video and reading up/listening to the experiences of others were the only time I felt seen in my life. I thought I was just lazy, undisciplined and just plain dumb. This dysfunction has literally robbed me of my life. Reading this comment made me cry because it proved that there is hope. That I too can succeed like other normal people. Unfortunately in my country, getting diagnosed at private clinics is expensive so I'm choosing to do the government hospital route, however just getting an appointment there can take at least a month. Plus from what I've heard, the medications here in my country can be very expensive.
@@kurapikakurta3863 take the time, what is a month compared to a life time? Seriously it’s worth it! And u can start saving money now for your medications. By the time being just watch and read everything about it. There are too lots of strategies in daily life to improve life it’s not only meds, knowledge is everything. It’s been helping me a lot too not only the meds. You’ve come so far, you don’t lose anything walking the extra mile. Don’t give up on yourself. Seriously go for it you won’t regret. I’m not rich too and paying for my meds has been a struggle, I’m also using every strategy I’ve been learning online, knowing myself better to improve myself. I’m not focusing anymore on the time I’ve lost, it doesn’t come back, but I know I have plenty time ahead. I’ve turned 37 last month… I’ve lost plenty in life, but I know I still have time to build a lot too. Please don’t give up!
I've never been diagnosed. I'm 68 now. I've only realised in the past year I have this as well Autism. I've learned to sit quietly and not interject or say things that seem insulting to others. I've learned to not babble on about my keen interests that no one cares about. . I'm still trying to learn to keep on track when I do interact. I can still tend to raise my voice when I get passionate about a subject. Some smarty pants people say if you can't talk about a subject and successfully relay it to others, then you don't understand the subject. Wrong. I have a rich inner life, but am unable to express myself fully. It's so annoying.
Here are important ideas from this lecture for fellow ADHDers who might not be able to focus. 0:33: Three concepts to build the model First concept - Inhibition: You have to stop and build a pause in your behaviour. Basically, stop and think before you act. 1:17: Three kinds of inhibitions that's impaired in ADHDers 1:20 a) Can't inhibit the urge to respond on the moment to an event. (impulsiveness) 1:29 b) Inability to interrupt an ongoing behaviour when it's time to do something else. (especially if the ongoing behaviour is rewarding) 1:50 c) Inability to protect working memory from distractions. 2:20 ADHDers don't perceive distractions any more than others. The difference is that they respond to them and go off task. 2:28 Once off task, they can't retain the goal and won't return to the task. 2:37 So it's a series of responding to irrelevant events in life which is why it is so hard to accomplish your goals. 2:40 To sum up ADHDers have an inhibition problem. 2:47 Second concept: Self regulation 3:45 We self-regulate to change a distant consequence. We try to alter the future, not the now. 4:34 All deferred gratification requires self regulation. 4:40 Third concept: Executive function 5:31: Definition of executive function: The action to the self designed to change you so as to change your future . 5:51: We have five executive abilities. 6:53: The executive abilities are path dependent, meaning they require the previous on to develop. Think of it like a pyramid. 7:06 Boring technical terms, name dropping and some boasting. 8:07 Executive functions can be describes as actions to the self. 8:30 Role of non verbal working memory: 8:41 Humans have the best system for holding images in the minds. 9:49 You recall past events through images. 10:32 1st executive function: Stopping 10:32 2nd executive function: Reimage the relevant past. 10:37 3rd executive function: Speech to the self. 10:48 4th executive function: Emote to yourself. 10:51 5th and highest executive function: Planning, problem-solving, and simulating multiple possible responses. 11:27 Manual play leads to mental play. 11:54 Children begin to speak to others then themselves loudly then speak in their mind. 15:03 Athletes can improve their performance just by visualizing. They use the same brain as they'd if they actually performed. 15:14 When you speak to yourself you activate the speech part of the brain. And since it's the same system, you can't speak to yourself as well as others. 15:37 So rather than calling it internalization, you should call it privatization. 17:03 Chart of development of inhibitions. 17:29 Most people develop all executive functions by 30. ADHDers lag by 30-40% 18:02 So you learn self management and by extension you think about the future instead of the now. 18:36 Most 30 year olds anticipate 8-12 weeks into the future. 19:03 Summary 20:14 The frontal lobe's role was to keep track of favours. It's now used for vicarious learning. 21:13 ADHD kids can't use behaviour of others to modify their own behaviour. 21:39 ADHD kid lack hindsight, foresight, and anticipation of future events. 21:52 Adult ADHD is the consummate disorder of time management. 22:24 Until adulthood, language and instructions have little role in controlling the behaviour of an ADHDer. Because language cannot control motor function. 22:55 Adult ADHDers have a deficit in comprehending what they read, see, and hear. 23:10 Delay in morally governing behaviour. 23:22 We modify emotions which is the basis of self-discipline, persistence and motivation due to the emote to yourself executive function. 23:34 the ability to internalize are playing gives rise to the ability to generate multiple options when we are faced with the problem and if this system isn't working very well people tend to fall back on over learned outdated ineffective behavior. 23:43 the system also involves putting behavior together, to solve the problem stringing a sequence of actions together, so we should see that people with ADHD have a lot of trouble with problem solving in their mind with generating multiple possibilities for getting things done and then with following the one that most effective in doing so but we should also see that they have trouble stringing behavior together in a proper sequence and we will see this no better than in their speech. 24:25 Example of how ADHDers speak. 25:22 Adult ADHDers speech pattern include circumlocution and verbal wandering. 25:36 ADHD is not an attention disorder; it's time blindness. You're nearsighted in time. 25:50 Adults and kids with ADHD wait till the future is imminent. 27:12 ADD is actually IDD aka intention deficit disorder. 27:32 The back part of the brain acquires knowledge, the front part puts it together. ADHD separates these two as a meat cleaver. So no matter what you know, you can't utilize it like others. ADHD is a performance disorder. You can't perform the things you know how to do. 28:37 All treatment must be rooted at the point of performance aka the real world. 28:49 You have to restructure the environment to show what they know. 28:57 Teaching skills is useless because they won't be used. 30:00 Medication is required for most ADHDers (disagree with this one). The effects of medication is temporary. 30:59 Meds can be rephrased as neurogenetic intervention. Solutions 31:25 We need to tighten up accountability. Bring those consequences closer in time. 33:15 Externalize key pieces of information. 33:38 You can't hold things in your mind so write them down. Use an external resource to compensate for an internal problem. 35:21 Use external temporal guidance devices. (I personally recommend JIRA) Break the future into pieces and do a piece a day. 36:14 Social consequences can be motivating. 36:55 Use manual problem solving. EDIT 25 April 2022: After a lot of hesitance, I finally went to a psychiatrist 4 months ago and started taking medication. I was prescribed the generic version of Strattera and it's made a huge, huge, huge improvement to my life. So if you're like what I was and averse to the idea of medication, please give it a shot, it might change your life.And if it doesn't you can always stop taking it. I believe I was reluctant to take medication because of all the societal stigma. I'm glad I overcame it and took help. Best of luck to all my fellow ADHDers.
So, aside from medication, what would you recommend? I've only heard if clean diet, lots of good fatty acids (omegas), exercise consistently, behavior modification as described, and perhaps neurotherapy. Dr. Amen believes in supplementation. What else?
@@robinrezendes7206 Mindful meditation. Tons of science behind it increasing cortical thickness of the prefrontal cortex. And the prefrontal cortex is responsible for all executive function as Dr. Russel explains in this video.
Anyone else watch this and just cry? Cry because you recall all of the hurt these symptoms have caused you. Cry because you feel slighted by your own brain. Cry because for the first time in your life you finally heard a solid explanation and solution - like someone actually gives a shit about what you’re experiencing. I’ve been beaten down for these characteristics by my parents, teachers, peers, and colleagues. All of the people who should have been guiding me and helping me. It breaks my heart. But I can’t wait to show them! 💪🏻
This is my first time watching a video where I actually got a solution. This man taught me more about myself than I knew in all my years of experience of being in this body. So many points he made were so important but I won't be writing them because this entire video deserves to be watched again and again.
Same here and I'm 52, have seen so many doctors and therapists and today after this video I feel like I finally understand my brain and my life (and of several of my family members too).💜
@@jasonosmondfernandes8525 ok I'm not the person you asked, but still let me share how journaling is a life-saver for me. First off, lists, I have a list for everything -- shopping list, long-term to-do list, daily to-do list (literally reminding myself to brush teeth, go to the toilet, take a shower, eat, feed pets, sleep), wish list, movie list, book list, podcast list, travel luggage list, even a work bag list (which consists of 5 items but still).; I even keep lists in Minecraft and other games. Otherwise, I'll 100% forget. Next, I immediately write down everything that's worth remembering, such as interesting ideas, thoughts, feelings, new responsibilities, interests, discussion topics, information (e.g. this video) and other people's recommendations, 'cause again, otherwise I'll 100% forget. Sometimes I even take notes on people and their backstories and interests. I also keep a bunch of "diaries" and calendars, like a money diary and a dream diary. And ofc I immediately note down new events and tasks in my calendar as soon as I learn about them, even if it means rudely pulling out my phone mid-conversation, because otherwise I'll 100% forget. Last but not least, I occasionally do some motivational journaling exercises from the Struthless yt channel. So, how does this help me you ask? The obvious answer is that it keeps me functioning in everyday life. But additionally, it actually improves my memory as well, e.g. now I can comfortably hold abt 4 items in my mind for up to a few minutes, which used to be impossible for me. Writing down my thoughts helps with organizing the clutter that's constantly spinning around in my mind, and writing down useful information helps with the stress of having to remember it all. I've become a lot better at backtracking my actions & thought process to find lost items, ideas, etc., which might be thanks to journaling as well. Alas, my phone has now reminded me to change my bedsheets so bye bye. Edit: and happy New Year!
@@diomedesgermosen844 love it. Thanks for that. I got a bullet journal in Nov 2021. I've been trying to start it but I'll put it on the table now since you mentioned it.
I wish I had seen this sooner. This video needs to be shared in schools, in doctor's offices, and ALL therapists should be made to watch this. My friend's therapist recently told him to stop saying he has ADHD, drink more water, drink less coffee, go for walks, read mantras, and get another job on top of his full time job that he already has. 🙄 Like yeah... so helpful.
ESPECIALLY in schools. My kid is going to be assessed for adhd in may but I see a lot of traits already, I also have it. But the teachers are constantly sending me reprimands about her behaviour, both attention wise and motor skills. Even though her academic performance is totally ok. In my head I'm like - leave her the f alone, fish can't climb trees.
Dr. Barkley is great. His brother was an ADHDer, whom one day never got a repeat lot of his meds. He then went driving a car and had a fatal crash because he didn’t take his meds. Dr. Barkley was devastated that his brother died like this and hadn’t taken his med to be able to pay attention to drive.
Maybe the crash was caused by the meds - maybe he was used to them and he let his guard down when he didn't use them anymore. How is it possible for meds to stop working just one day like that? Maybe the crash wasn't his fault. Maybe he was just very unlucky, and maybe the same would've happened if he took his meds. Dr Barkley seems ok, I just learned about him, and I'll continue watching because I find the knowledge valuable. Will I subscribe to the meds immediately? No, I'll try early / everyday / low-tech treatments first, and not jump on the new, high-tech ADHD vaccine / meds / gene therapy on offer. Maybe Dr Barkley convinced himself this because he sits on the board of directors on one of the pharmaceutical companies and meds are his livelihood? I just can't take that story at face value until I know all the facts.
@@ivan2795 No it sounds like he wasn't able to get a refill at one point and was driving without his meds, granted crashes happen to everybody and we'll never know exactly what caused it but I know personally that my meds make me a much better driver. And not paying attention to one's surroundings/being a defensive driver is a large cause of accidents. So I don't find value in doubting that being the reason for his death --- it's sad in any case. And surely much of Barkley's passion and knowledge comes from living with and knowing his brother during his lifetime as well. As far as your anecdote on your own meds usage, I don't think that's relevant. Everyone is entitled to use their own means of treatment whether through vitamins / exercise / diet or more standard pharmaceutical options. Whatever works, works. Everybody is different. As far as assuming he's in Big Pharma's pocket is pretty offensive. I'll leave you with a quote from Barkley regarding just that. "]I do occasionally consult with and speak for various pharmaceutical companies. To say I am in bed with them is misleading as it implies that I work for them exclusively or a majority of my time and I certainly have not. But I will teach anyone about ADHD and advise researchers on their research when it seems I can be helpful in doing so. The monies received from pharmaceutical have never exceeded 15% of my annual income during any calendar year and in the past 3 years has been well below as I have cut back accepting travel now that I am older and do no wish to do so as much. It’s odd that critics never mention that I receive more income annually from books on parenting ADHD and related disorders and clinical manuals and handbooks filled with psychosocial treatment strategies than I do from pharma, but that fact would disprove their narrative, which is to dismiss my opinion as entirely biased toward medications due to speaking at events sponsored by manufacturers."
I know the crowd doesn't mean harm but someone who has struggled with ADHD and is now 30, the giggles and laughs rub me the wrong way because they think it's funny basic stuff but this disorder has caused me so much pain and hearing it finally being explained in a way I can relate to hurts me so much to hear others laugh at what has brought me so much pain over my life.
I agree when they're used properly and discipline is built into their use. However I've found that I get sucked into my smart phone so quickly and without even thinking about what I'm doing, and time just evaporates and I find myself 3 hours later wondering what the heck happened to the time.
I learned I had to take certain app icons (like FB) off of my home screen so I wouldn't be distracted and drawn to checking my notifications. (That little number in the orange circle just keeps getting bigger!) Other than that, I just practice telling myself "no" when I have an impulse to check my phone but I need to stay focused on what I'm doing.
That's exactly what I did as well! I noticed that if I put distracting apps into folders, I'm much, much less likely to go on them, it's crazy how big of a difference that makes. My brain sees rewarding things, it clicks rewarding things. If it doesn't see them, I have to actually make an active decision to go find the app.
This guy is absolutely brilliant when it comes to the ADHD brain. I have learned so much from watching his videos. My son suffers from ADHD and because of Dr. Barkley's lectures I have been able to make sense of his behaviors. I think everyone who struggles with this, or knows someone who does, should watch his videos. You will have a lot more empathy for yourself and others by doing so! Amazing! I've learned a long time ago that I have to be my son's frontal lobe and that his environment has to be manipulated to get him to accomplish anything.
+LadyCounsel1122 I wish the people I knew would watch his videos and understand. I always want to send them to my mom and fiancé but I know they've been getting really tired of hearing me talk about ADHD lol
I feel the same. I did share a couple of these videos with my family and boyfriend to try to get them to understand how my brain works, and I am nervous they won't bother. I was diagnosed in my late teens and am 25 now and am only just treating it. So I talk about it a lot and they are so frustrated with me. But it is so frustrating to go through what we go through only to have our family not understand why we do what we do. I totally understand what you are going through.
I don't 'struggle' with it or 'suffer' with it. I wouldn't have it REMOVED if I could! Heston Blumenthal: 'I have ADHD. But I wouldn't change it for the world' www.tes.com/news/school-news/breaking-news/heston-blumenthal-i-have-adhd-i-wouldnt-change-it-world Look up: Famous people with ADHD Almost all major inventions were created by people with ADHD. You live in the world you live in because of ADHD people. America exists as it does because of ADHD persons. Thomas Jefferson Benjamin Franklin JFK .. More. In World War 2 alone, these ADHD persons were CRUCIAL: Albert Einstein Winston Churchill General Patton Dwight D. Eisenhower .... ADHD is not a 'disorder' it is a 'difference'. The doctor doesn't lie. However, he speaks from the perspective of 'fitting in'. Further, there *ARE* WEAKNESSES (he mentions) that there is NO GETTING AROUND and no making excuses for: --These are a FEW, but each 'super power' has a 'dark side': Research ADHD 'super powers' and understand each one has an equally serious 'dark side', which is the DEFAULT unless the ADHD person is aware and cares to work within their special/different framework. For parents, here is the trick: Help your kid find their passion by exposing them to many things until they find their interest. Help them understand their (special) ABILITIES (example, 'big picture' thinking is something ADHD people do better than 'normals') - that is, working with VERY LARGE DATASETS and connecting disparate facts and knowledge to build new insights. As an example, Newton, who was ADHD used the 'Bible' (for clues) [so did Galileo, who was also ADHD] remember, all major inventions are from ADHD persons - look it up > to build much of his Newtonian model of physics - this could be either to prove or disprove bible positions, but this is what was the 'ACTIVATING INGREDIENT' : Passion/Emotion. -- Do some research, but understand, the DEFAULT of ADHD is in fact a 'DISORDER'. Without finding a passion, (preferably more than one) and I mean PRODUCTIVE passions, not video games, which in effect is a 'drug', the 'default' is morbid dysfunction. If your goal is to have your ADHD loved one 'fit in' You have an up hill battle, which at best will give you a person with a crushed spirit, always feeling like they were meant for something more, and at worst.. Well.. Not good. Let your ADHD loved one understand: 'Money' is only made by HELPING PEOPLE or STEALING IT. Period. Stealing it doesn't work. Money is just 'stored human labor' Human labor is transformed into 'paper/bank balance/objects'. They must find their passion so that they can help other people. If you help a FEW PEOPLE a LOT you get paid : A LOT * A FEW PEOPLE. Or... If you help a lot of people a little... Then : A Lot of People * a Little Help The average salary of a Heart Surgeon is about $570,000 a year. They 'significantly' help (on average) about 120 (ish) people a year.. This is +/- 10/25% based on experience and location. It is not uncommon for the very experienced to make 800-950k a year. Then you have CEOs (average of the Fortune 500 companies) who make on average about $550k a year plus up to 4x that in bonuses and stock options! They're not 'saving lives'! Right?! So what gives?! Well, objectively, (if you were a computer, not a person with moral judgements - welcome to economics!) if you could save one life or HELP millions of people, (or more) being captain of a 'ship' responsible for this help, and you got paid 1/10th of a penny per person.. What would that equal? Do you use a computer? You have one of three operating systems (not considering free Linux, sorry fellow Geeks/Nerds :) ) Two of which are on the majority of computers used by (normal) human beings. Apple's or Microsoft's. How much does this OS help you? You paid some amount whether as part of the computer or separate. That amount is many many billions of dollars per year. When that is divided, that means billions are helped. -- Don't think so? Switch OS tomorrow and see how your work flow goes. One tenth of one percent of ONE billion is 100 million. I won't talk down to you. I would hope you get the point. FYI Bill Gates and Steve Jobs of course are/were ADHD (look it up) Help your child find their passion. Explain WHY. Without an emotional context (reason) to do something, they won't. THEY have to WANT to. Help them want to. help them understand they need to feed their computer LOTS of knowledge. Rote memory (like jeopardy contestants) won't even BEGIN to work. What they need to do is EXPOSE themselves to tons of stuff, not being obligated to regurgitate crap anyone can ask SIRI for or look up on Google. When and if, as they're skimming over vasts amounts of information they find something they're interested in, let them DEEP DIVE. Another Tip. For me at least, I was ONLY attracted to very HARD problems 'regular/normal' people wouldn't even begin to attempt: Software development/programming (assembly language at 14 in '84) then of course, my current business/career. Theoretical Quantum Physics. Psychology. (Specifically 'Personality Disorders' Cluster A, B and C ) .. And now, more recently ADHD, for which I have, but always just (incorrectly) considered it 'hyper' and 'easily distracted'> .. And a couple of others. I would suggest you check out a website/info from friend and fellow ADHD Peter Shankman in regard to positive living as a person who is BLESSED with ADHD. -- And FYI Dr. Barkley, I realize there can be no 'objective test' regarding 'large dataset' aka 'big thinking/puzzle solving' advantages for ADHD, but you need to realize the 'super powers' are activated by 'emotion'. An ADHD in a field of their passion will all but always excel over a 'normal' in the same field. As for myself, over and above my other passions, I have a business I created and run (alone) for the last 16 years. Over 2500 clients. Created, manage and extend a codebase of over 1.3 million lines of codes in 4300 interconnected modules (programs) written in four (computer) languages . When a problem arises, the module i need to work on 'pops' in my head. I manage all the servers, setup and and extend as necessary, manage mail for tens of thousands, fight hackers, modify and extend custom software necessary to do jobs 'employees' would normally do (such as fight hackers, monitor data feeds from external B2B data servers I rely on, reset servers as necessary, inform me of anomalies, and SO much more..) ..And we haven't even talked about graphics, UI design etc.. for which I of course ALSO do! :) Sir, if ADHD is a disorder, then I'm living on the Planet of the Apes. ..Help your loved one cind their passion. Help them deal with limitations that ARE THERE! And remember, each 'limitation' has a 'good' side to it. (sorry, I know this post is already SO LONG - ADHD :) ) E.g. Edison (ADHD) kept trying to make the light bulb. We see it as 'perseverance' and hold it as a model to aspire to. Fine. What if he never succeeded? It would be seen as 'crazy' and 'obsessive compulsive' See how that works? This is : Hyper-Focus (which can be seen as obsessive), (different) Prioritization [others would have given up as it looks 'crazy' to keep trying], and a few others. History is littered with the great inventors, creators and leaders of ADHD and they all used the POSITIVE side of what the world now calls a 'disorder'. It is a 'disorder' in this regard: Fitting in with the status quo. Steve Jobs (ADHD) famously worked with Rob Siltanen to create this original poem created and first introduced in a famous Apple commercial: "Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do." When you consider almost all major (world changing and enduring) inventions come from ADHD people, this poem could just as well be written with ADHD in mind. -- Just my 2 cents.
+Wayne Bienek Probably the most useful post I have ever read. I just realized I have ADHD. My son does as well. This will help me and more importantly, help me to help him.
I am undiagnosed 32 year old living alone but I am pretty sure I have this. Time blindness is so real. I feel someone finally understands me. I feel so lonely that no one really understands me, I try to explain my thought process and I am unable to remember things short term but nobody really got it. People were frustrated with my laziness and judge me for my under performance, but only I know how hard focusing on a goal is Happy that there are people in the RUclips that gets me
Validation. That’s what I got from this. I’m 50+ years old, my whole life I have fought, partly failed or failed, fought harder, partly failed, and fought harder to win again. This guy pegged my issues and makes me realize I’m not nuts. I have come up with many of his recommendations on my own. That feels good to. But to me it’s about validation. Wish I could get my wife to understand this about me.
Pure unsolicited advice but Have her watch this video if you can or at the very least the middle section that talks about time! I know it prob won’t help but it might, and the end might provide a basis for creating solutions for you that help her too
I've gained more perspective in the first 20 minutes than I did seeing therapists and self treating for 20 years. I can only imagine how many people this is helping.
Did you ever consider that the gut biome mediates the person's psychological response to the environment, in various ways......and that the modern western diet stacked with glyphosate and hard to digest, glycan binding cry1 proteins is the root of many problems? As the gut biome synthesizes the precursors to various neurotransmitters and hormones, how could a foul gut biome not be the root of conditions such as ADHD? How can a person function inside normal parameters when it is experiencing difficulty absorbing nutrients from a degree of villi destruction in their small intestines?
@@curiousbystander9193 HAPPY NEW YEAR 2022! From my own experience, I would agree with the transformation of how and what we consume effects the gut biome which then physiologically creates huge benefits to our systems. From years (since 2015) of Being on Keto, vegan and currently being mostly vegetarian (with most processed foods and anything with sugar out of my diet) I have to honestly share that my executive functions have improved but only marginally. You have brought up a very salient issue which has to become commonplace in our awareness and practice.
Thank you for being a Dr. who is willing to keep learning and listening. Most ADHD treatment is coming from general physicians and family medicine prescribers, so it's important that you understand it.
i’m crying i lost a friend bc of time blindness. most people are under the impression that being late is rude and that people who are constantly late have no regard for people’s time. but if she only knew how hard it is for me to get ready.
Please don’t forget that for us neurotypical people it’s just a healthy response to sort out ,,friends” that disrupt our orderly lifes. Get it under control or people are going to chose to create distance from your mess. Maybe look for an adhd self help group and find friends that have a similar neuronal set up like yourself. Please stop trying to get into and bring chaos into the life of people without adhd. Especially people you care about, just leave them alone and stop messing their life up too.
@@DynAmisch69 didn’t u read my comment. she’s no longer in my life. ruining people’s lives with my chaos adhd is a little bit much no? we should just segregate all neurodivergent from the neurotypicals at that point. can’t have them ruining anymore lives now do we? we’re too “chaotic” for you perfect people. please take ur advice and create some distance from me.
@@yucki2604 I do have compassion for you because I know it’s not your fault that your brain is set up like this. Unfortunately there’s no way for you to make this misery and chaos stop until the end of your life. But don’t you understand my point that the people that don’t have to live in this hell should be left alone by you instead of being dragged into it? I hope for you that you can get rid of your victim complex at least and start acknowledging how disruptive your disorder can be to other people’s lifes.
This made me tear up, my whole life I have felt incompetent. I'm extremely witty but my inability to put them into words and actions were almost impossible. This impairment has gotten smoother over the years like you mentioned. But growing up it was so chaotic. Thank you for this!
I was showing symptoms all through my childhood, but it didnt really affect my life in a negative way big enough to illicit a reaponse. I was a gifted student who got mostly A and B on everything and didnt really have problems reading (as long as it was interesting). Also the amount of reading you are expected to do in middle and high school was still manageable. College was different though. You cant really wing a 30 page paper the night before. Impulsivity and time-blindness started to impact my life a lot more. I switched jobs every 3 months, sometimes from being fired but usually from loosing interest. I didnt get diagnosed until i was 30 and it has helped a lot. Medication is one thing. It helps with some things, sometimes. The biggest change though has come through the lessening of guilt through understanding myself. Really people, please please please: If you suspect you might have ADHD go get checked. You dont have to do the medication if you dont want to, but knowing what you are up against really does wonders for your own mental health.
@@tiffanyjohnson1676 it's been getting worse for me, I've only just started to research it all. I didn't listen to people when I was in my teens and 20s. Not until 5 weeks ago where a workmate called me out for having it based on my behavior did I Google the online tests, I'm 41 now. I've only just got a referral to a psychiatrist whom specializes in adhd today. I plan on relocating next year and doing part time uni. My report cards reflect it from grade 1, right through til grade 12. Thankfully my mother kept them all. I'll be taking them in with me to the first meeting. All the major precursors are there as well. The big one of my mother drinking, smoking and taking drugs (weed) heavily during the whole duration of her pregnancy. I need to try working something out before even attempting the courses to get me the requirements to qualify for the uni course I'm interested in. Otherwise I'm wasting my time. I'm not angry, just curious of what may have happened in my life if I had help when I was younger. Would I be where I am now? Would I have done what ive done in my life until now? In no way have I lived a hard life, nor one you would consider mediocre. I've traveled half the world, have a great paying job, which is easy as well, just not fulfilling I guess.
watching this as an adult with ADHD who got diagnosed recently while I'm procrastinating and should be studying to my exams this man just explained my whole existence and problems with social life, emotions, planning things, getting things done, working memory in 37 minutes I've watched many videos about ADHD and this man explains how it is to have ADHD as an adult the best Random people think ADHD is just having trouble to concentrate and being hyperactive but in reality its just two of many many more symptoms that people with ADHD have to deal with and it would be great if more people became aware how it really is
i’m 17 now but since the second grade, i have had this nearsighted future problem or however you put it… i talked to my mom and she said we’ll see if we can get it diagnosed but i’m hopeful i really do have adhd because all my life i’ve been told that i’m very intelligent but not goal oriented. not focused enough. i’ve been told that words go through on ear and out the other. i’ve been told “thomas. we’ve had this talk countless times” more times than i can count. i’m hearing the words, i’m feeling the emotion, but it will make no difference in me once i leave the room. doing work is and as long as i can remember has been excruciating. i even considered maybe i was depressed for years. for a couple years i’ve thought maybe something is wrong with me. in order to complete tasks, i rely on sudden burts of motivation or think hard about the consequences i’ll face from my parents if i don’t complete it. other than those instances i have zero motivation for much, and don’t get me started on the future because i haven’t got me started on the future💀. maybe i’m exaggerating but for years my mom and dad have asked what i wanted to do with my life or asked what i see my future looking like if i continue like this. i think hard but nothing. i answer the same overtime. “i really don’t know…” i’m sorry this is so out of order i don’t even remember the point i was trying to get at and that’s another issue i have. i have the hardest time telling stories or recalling events. i’ve gotten better at the story telling part but i just get lost and forget the point. i doubt people will read this nightmare mangled pointless essay but i’ve been tearing up reading what people have experienced in this comment section and i hope we all get the help we need.
Since diagnosis ~7 weeks ago at 31 I have been watching and reading everything I can to understand more about my own brain and how it's different. This is by far the most accurate description I have come across, and it also gave me chills with the serious tone of it all. As someone who very much struggles with the "am I making this up in my own head? Am I actually just lazy and looking for an excuse?" This helped a bit; both with validation, and the idea that even though I struggle to anticipate future consequences, I am still responsible for my behaviour and what I do to change it.
I just got diagnosed shy of 24 yrs old. I never struggled as a kid in school - I was average. I wouldn’t say I struggled in college. I always had a buddy to help and we’d help each other out. But now, done studying, and started my career as a teacher, I lasted one year and quit. I’ve had 5 jobs in the span of two years. I’ve had a simple office job since then. finally went to the doctor and got diagnosed with ADHD. I thought I was stupid and over stimulated and overwhelmed all the time. It’s just ADHD. I plan to finally go back to teaching, my dream career, with medicine and we’ll see how it goes.
"You march to the beat of your own drum" This was told to me by a wonderful lady when I was young- (Not a family member) She saw this in me, and never treated me badly for it.
damn! as someone with ADHD hearing about normal memory is amazing! it's like you guys have superpowers! my memory is like a notebook with a couple sentences describing things I noticed and a few snippets of images and sound. I always thought memories in movies were poorly done because it's way too accurate but if that's what normal people experience I'm really missing out.
Totally. While watching his videos I am understanding better who I am. Then later I began to notice just how short my working memory is. I honestly have about 10 seconds to make a decision. Max. More often than not 5 seconds or less. Then I'm on to the next thing. What a terrible handicap in life! Those of us suffering with ADHD should be applauded for even being able to basically function from day to day. The world is not friendly to those perceived as weak.
I have the same (also diagnosed with ADHD) I don´t remember anything from reading and listening Often also I come in some sort of hole, where my thinking is completely trapt like as I guess a normal Person would describe as a Blackout, but in comperison to the normal People who almost never have These I have it all the time
Im not claiming that i have adhd, but i can totally relate to this. Im always that friend who just listens and fades into the background while my friends reminisce every detail about some memory that is either so hazy to me or forgotten 😂
I am in tears. I am newly diagnosed at age 53. I have been so frustrated by a "seeming" inability to set goals and move towards them, especially in trying to progress in a career. At last, it makes SOME kind of sense now. I am still watching this video, I hope there is a solution at the end, I need one right now, my brain is fried from running full-speed, head-long into brick walls trying to get a path for a new career. This new path looks quite easy for the online community surrounding me, setting and meeting their goals, but it feels impossible to me.
I'm an LPC who was diagnosed as ADD at 50 by my now psychiatrist husband. I have been learning about the medication management of ADDer's in the last 18 years and have been helping others with ADD. I find dr Barkley's information, scholarship and presentation of ADD the best I have ever heard. I am glad I finally found him through RUclips.
It's like walking in a pitch black forest not knowing where your going just aimlessly walking around in circles but wanting to get out of the forest. Dr. Burkley is the much need light for some guidance. Finally I can get to where I want to.
Dr Russell is a very important person for his work on ADHD and most importantly his delivery on the understanding of the condition. He is the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you
Use me as a LOVE button. But seriously, I learned so much from Dr. Russel Barkley , I feel I understand myself more than ever now. Thank you so much for your knowledge, and for helping so many people understand their beautiful minds.
i have not come across anyone who could explain complicated matters of adhd in layman terms as Dr. russell barkeley. i have watched many of his videos. it shows his dedication and passion on this particular disorder. this is a great video that provides insights for adhders who are looking out for improving themselves.
Yeah right bro but even after getting to know that I'm adhd there's not much awareness in India..the psychiatrist that I went to simply told that I might not have it as I was good in studies!
This dedicated man/physician has committed his life to investigating, studying, analysing, and "connecting the dots" regarding ADD, ADHD and related topics. His willingness to share and communicate his experience based findings and conclusions can, and does, make the world a better place, one person (and MD) at a time. I am deeply grateful for him Two of my wishes, one impossible, two possible: 1) I wish his information was available in the 50's. ADD/ADHD kids are 33% more likely to be physically and emotionally abused. 18% of abused kids are ADD ADHD. (I am confident the % is much higher due to non-diagnosis.) 2) I wish the key parts of his work were part of the curriculum for teaching credentials and part of the onsite training of teachers already working. 3) Respectfully, I see ONLY "glitch" in the many fantastic hours of his presentations. Regarding ADD ADHD people and their (our) failure to respond to heed to recommendations or urgencies, he says, "It's because it doesn't matter". It isn't that it doesn't matter to us, it's that "it doesn't register" or "sink in" (cognitively). I wish he'd use "register" vs. "matter". THANK YOU DR. BARKLEY FOR YOU, YOUR WISDOM AND YOUR MESSAGE. Joseph A Vargas PhD
TheSleepingLionRoars Yes. He's done a shitload of work in this field. And he's aimed himself at developing a theory that enables us to properly support people who have this issue going on.
+TheSleepingLionRoars I'm not sure we watched the same video. This video is chocked full of "practical guidelines and methods to help those with this condition"!?
Thank you so much. It’s been twenty of years of feeling like a lazy piece of crap and now I know what’s wrong with me. Turns out ADHD runs in my dad’s side of the family. I’m being screened soon and hopefully getting medication!
Hope it's going well for you. My medicine journey has been tough so far. My last pill just made everything worse. On something new. It's not helping yet, but at least it's not hurting
@Mathew Conrad M E too !! I found it out as a pensioner (!!!) while listening to a BBC Reporter three weeks ago and t h e n I thoroughly searched for brain scientists .. and found HIM. I was hugely relieved : showing in tears of j o y !!!! As a German English teacher I can understand Dr.Russell Barkley very very well. I am so deeply amazed and thankful for his detailed descriptions of brain regions, their functions, connections etc....
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ADHD is an exhausting living hell. It’s like living in syrup or living perpetually in crisis. I’ve spent 30 years berating myself, biting off more than I can chew to create persistent external crisis that drove me. I just had a massive breakdown and you know what, I’m done with creating external signals and alerts to motivate me and organise myself and basically just get through life in the way any neuro norm just can without the battle. I don’t know what my life will look like now, but I’m done fighting myself. It’s no way to live having to be your own whipping boy 24/7
My takeaway from this today and I‘m pretty sure this is like the third time I‘ve watched this lecture in the last 5 yrs): My therapist often tells me „wow, you have so many ideas how to solve the problem!“ and then she discusses with me which ones she likes. And that‘s it. And like Dr. Barkley describes, a lot of the time 5 minutes after I‘ve left the practice it‘s not even on my mind anymore. What needs to change is I need to tell my therapist that from now on I must either put the thing we said I should do in my calendar/quickly outline a page in my diary for checking off whether I did the thing every night (if it’s a new routine thing) or set an alarm for the evening to do something similar to actually implement the idea (if maybe it needs a more detailed diary entry or like a list on a kitchen cupboard of my favourite meals so I know what to choose from when trying to decide what to cook) I can’t just go home with the idea in my head It needs to be somewhere I will incidentally see it very soon (calendar or diary in my case) or make my phone ring and watch buzz some time later that day so I can implement it.
I write on my hand; I have yet to forget where I left it. I have used Post-It Notes, stick them to my shirt (I worked alone), then stick them to the steering wheel so I wouldn't leave the house the next day w/o materials or forgetting an appointment. Now, I take meds, write on my hand, and have a couple of Post-It Notes TAPED to my laptop.
This just encouraged me to take my medication. I've always viewed my medication as "cheating," a short fix to my inability to actually implement positive habits into my life because the only way I would do those positive habits was when I was on my medication and not of my volition. Dr. Barkley has taught me that I've got it completely backward 😭😭
Amazing amazing amazing - I always knew it was more than 'just' anxiety. Driving perfectly for 1.5 hours before a test and then lumping the curb in the first 5 mins. Or having a presentation so fluidly memorised and rehearsed only to crash and fall the day I need to show it. It's not doing my degree until the 4th year and having my professors saying you could have easily got a first if you started studying 4 years earlier. God bless this man, and all that suffer with this ailment
Awesome video. I remember this one time, I said something to my wife, but was distracted, and I noticed that by the time I had reached the end of my sentence I had already forgotten whether or not I had said the first part of the sentence. A nice analogy for me is to think about the function of Random Access Memory in computation. People with ADHD have either insufficient RAM or no RAM, and so the work process crashes.
I’ve felt like such a failure my whole life I can’t start or stop doing things when I want to, I’ve been seen as lazy and time wasting my whole life. I’ve been told I don’t need to carry a journal around, I’ve been punished for forgetting things. Being held accountable by someone definitely helps, although their tone and words could hurt when I can’t stop doing something I feel compelled to do. It’s been so so difficult for me This video is life changing for me.
I was diagnosed a few months ago. I am 44. It's impressive how I did everything in auto-pilot mode. Thanks God people are getting diagnose early and we have access to more treatments/medications/therapy.
I was diagnosed over 30 years ago and treated on and off many times since then. No one has ever understood my experience or so accurately described my life and my internal/external struggle better than Dr Barkely. Every time I listen to him I gain a better understanding of myself, the problems I have, their solutions, and get one step closer to leading the kind of life I've always wanted to live. Every single therapist, counselor, and parent that interacts with an ADD/ADHD person should be taught his methodology. It's life changing. Thank you!
For those who are against him and medication - maybe you really don’t understand what ADHD is because you don’t have it, and I don’t blame you. But try really listen to his teaching - medication is just a tool to balance the brain chemicals and for many times he has taught many strategies and tools ppl with ADHD can use to manage the condition, and what parents/teachers to use to support children with ADHD. He never said medication only is the cure. If you stuff from ADHD and prefer not to take medication for any reason, that’s your choice and you are lucky to have a choice. For parents to are determined to NOT try medication for your children, you are basically depriving your children a choice and a chance. Imagine when you have a headache and you are not allowed paracetamol or cold/flu medication “because it is all in your head and pain killers don’t help you recover, it just reduces the pain”. Western medication a lot of the time relieves the symptoms and don’t cure the problem/causes - so that people can FUNCTION and COPE better. If anyone chooses to soldier on without medication, at their own will, it is absolutely fine. But don’t discourage or deprive others of a tool to help them function and cope better. I often choose not to take paracetamol until I am in absolute agony, that’s my choice; but not having paracetamol when I needed it - it is just unnecessary in 21st Century. If you are that against ADHD medication you might as well be anti vaccine and anti antibiotics as well.
@@alanberkeley7282 If you're trying to question the use of medication from a medical point of view, it is not important whether a chemical imbalance exists or not. There are many documented clinical trials showing significant efficacy at improving the symptoms with a good safety profile and that should be enough to validate the use of a medication with the consent of a patient and his/her guardians. If you're questioning their use from an ethical/social/religious point of view, it is simply not your place to speak. People with ADHD most often know that there is something wrong about them and in the majority of the cases they see a satisfactory increase in their quality of life through the available treatments. Why would anyone want to stop others from trying to improve themselves and subsequently their society? I just see no logical basis for your stance.
@@alanberkeley7282 Although, if you're not trying to oppose the use of medication but you're just questioning the chemical imbalance theory, then you're right to be skeptical about it. Contemporary scientists are also skeptical about it and are trying to develop a stronger theory about the mechanisms of psychiatric medications.
Barkley's advocating something out of Nazi Germany. Kids can't behave or misbehave or talk a lot, drug them into doing so. I wouldn't be surprised if he's a fascist himself. He's certainly an authoritarian prick.
This is by far the most convincing and comprehensive argument for how to treat ADHD I've seen. Confirmation bias kicking in here, but I have arrived at most of these strategies on my own out of necessity. * I could never read books in school unless I externalized the information by writing it down bullet by bullet, paragraph by paragraph. In fact, my notes were so good that other kids in my school frequently asked me for them. I literally did that with this video so I could ensure I absorbed the information and could refer back to it later. * Pomodoro has been a godsend for me. * I've been through 4 years of therapy at this point and have sat and watched as EXACTLY what he described is what happened for me. I learned about the techniques and understood them, but never executed them outside the context of the psychologist's office. This is literally what was driving my depression and anxiety. * Medications that treated depression and anxiety did not improve my quality of life. Medications that treated ADHD did. VASTLY. * I have no problems getting things done when there are consequences for not doing them - I rarely miss appointments, especially when missing those appointments would result in a fee or disappointment from a peer. As soon as consequences don't exist, I have a lot of trouble. * I have all sorts of things on my desk and in my life to model problems. I approach most problems by reaching for analogies. I often have problems learning things by reading about them, and have described myself as "learning best when thrown in the fire" (i.e.: learning by doing, not by seeing it done). This guy gets it. 100%.
English is not my mother language. But tears came out by what i learned from his speech and realized about myself. Hes advices can be the last chance to fix my life..
Been told since a child I have this disorder. Put on medication from age 6 to 10. Now as an adult I am back on it. Sometimes I take a break from it and life is so hard but I know if I applied myself more I could change the world. I know I'm smart and I am working everyday on my actions with little outcome. I'm broke not poor and still can't stick to one job for long. Currently starting my own business because I hate working for other people.
"...Along with medication." Aye, there's the rub. Most ADD/ADHD medications are (somewhat understandably) tightly controlled and require a diagnosis and prescription, but far too many mental health professionals, especially in underfunded areas, refuse to take claims of adult ADD/ADHD seriously. Doubly so if you're female and/or "did well" in childhood academics. Getting a diagnosis is like pulling teeth, because the powers that be only care about how disruptive you are to the system, not whether you are personally miserable.
This man taught in 35 minutes how to control ADD/ADHD and could eliminate the need for drugs! Mind blown! Though I don’t truly have this disorder I know for a fact my 35 year old daughter has it and it has been devastating to her and her children. I’m going to ensure she sees this video. This is the answer!
Oh dear... The time thing. I was a minute late to work, even though I woke up two hours early, then spent an hour and a half on my phone, rushed to get ready and sped to work. This is what happens every single day. It's a joke in my family about how I'm late to everything, how I can't process how long something takes to do, how I wait until the last minute, like Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve, or wrapping the presents while everyone is waiting to unwrap them Christmas morning. I sent this to my mom, maybe it'll help her understand.
I received a preliminary diagnosis at age 7-8 but my mom was really against the idea of me being prescribed a narcotic medication and so a multitude of alternatives proceeded including behavioral counseling, therapy, non-narcotic medicine, caffeine supplements and more and all of this provided little to no relief in my ability to regulate and manage my time, remain as organized as possible for a young child and function to my highest ability in a educational environment or social environment. I am now 31 years old and after graduating high school with right at or just below average grades and dropping out of college 3 times, having (best guess) 30 ish jobs over the course of 10 to 12 years, always living in clutter, poor housekeeping, horrible financial planning and budgeting, self sabotaging behaviors all through my early teen to late 20s, addiction issues, relationship problems, and the list goes on and on. I as of last month finally spoke to my Primary Care physician about how I felt exhausted, ashamed, lost, and stuck on a pattern of going nowhere in my life and I started the conversation of ADHD. After 3 separate visits (I was late to all) and a few tests and discussions concerning my symptoms, I have formally received a diagnosis for ADHD and received the proper medication and as I approach the end of the 2nd month of medicine my life for the first time has become more organized, timely, and productive. My relationship (16 years) has flourished, my self care has dramatically improved. Time management is now a part of my every day life. Almost every debilitating obstacle that I had been either ignoring or never approaching are now speed bumps and I am able to calculate or navigate my mind in a way I never thought possible. I am no longer waiting till 5 minutes before an appointment to get ready to leave, procrastinating the inevitable, avoiding conflict, constructive, and even positive communication with my Fiancee. I am functioning at a pace that is comfortable in life, I am not speeding around the house and cleaning like a meth head, losing weight at a rapid pace, or anything negative. I will not speak to anyone else's situation or decision on medication assisted treatment for ADHD but please bring your symptoms to your doctor and have the discussion and please don't be deterred if your Doctor either dismisses the idea of ADHD or refuses to discuss it with you, go find another doctor and get a second or third or fourth opinion before you live your entire life in grasp of something so internally crippling in your every day life, the creeping, crawling, reaching, attaching, disabling, inhibiting, and maliciousness of ADHD.
My experience of ADD is simply the short circuit of a train of thought. What he’s talking about is discipline. Survival of and adapting to ADD has required an enormous act of discipline. Doesn’t change the fact of ADD.
I work in mental health with kids with ADHD (and am an unofficial case myself) and this was invaluable to help me work with clients - and keep myself organized haha
No one can explain adhd better than this man. Helpful to people with adhd and providers trying to help. Keep on keeping on, together we can do this and adhd people you’re not alone. As a provider I am trying to understand and we are here and you can do this. Nothing is wrong with you, you are genius.
I understand it isn't exactly a recent talk, and things change, but I was surprised he spoke of compassion, I felt very little compassion from him, although I did find him funny. Most of it is so well explained but he also sounds very final, many scars from unfulfilled needs, causing these difficulties, can be 'healed' and many aspects can be realigned. Ultimately, acceptance, of us, our experiences and our brains, beyond our functions, is essential, without it, there is conflict and we cannot bring focus on other intentions while fighting an internal war.
Yes! Brilliant work! Sadly Psychiatrists hardly elaborate on ADHD & All the different medications available? Could be state funded insurance? I don’t have the finances available for specific Psych/Therapist treatments. I think they may look at life time of ADHD but diagnosed as Adult as too late to help. They rather help with co-morbidity like Addictions, Major Depressive Disorder because that is likely to kill us sooner. Sadly if we could learn ways to help ourselves or learn more in school visually. With medication & new ways to help children with ADHD while they are children. So we learn to function in school when we are young. We may not have as many co-morbidities😮 as we are into teenagers & adults.
Tremendously helpful. This explains so much. And Dr. Russel does it without judgement. It's a matter of FACT - the struggle IS REAL. And I struggled to find the language to explain the things I've learned about ADHD recently, and this video is truly eye opening. The last 10 minutes really hit home.
lots of gems in this talk and really interesting clearly outlined points. I guess the only thing that i'd contest/eer on the side of caution with is that whilst i agree that creating artificial/prosthetic urgency or consequence will work to a point (especially in the short term). There is plenty of research to show that this form of artificial bumping of executive functioning can not only be harmful but will potentially create the opposite effect over time. Even if done in conjunction with medication it will burn the brains resources out over a sustained period (both psychologically and physiologically). It will help people get stuff done in the there and now (even for a prolonged period of time, especially in ones youth) and i really like the point made in this talk that it can be used to bring long term goals into focus and can see how in small amounts/moderation it can be a useful tool/coping strategy. The problem/challenge really though is to find means and ways of doing this that do not involve harmful stimulations/behavioural patterns (ie: self deprecation, short term anxiety, really any kind of carrot&stick methodology). I have so many asd friends who are kind of running on fumes with that kind of system...and whilst it's definitely made them achieve more academically (especially whilst they are younger and have the resources to take the strain) you can see the tower of cards piling very high for these people. I've also seen what eventually happens to them when that pile collapses and it's hard not to draw the observation that ultimately it amounts to a very powerful but basically unsustainable form of agressive masking. I know we are many years away still from enough comprehension of the brain to form a cohesive neurological solution still and i get why people are desperate for simple answers to what still amounts to a very complex and amorphous issue. It's just important that we don't get too seduced by easy answers to this question at this point... as they can create more harm than they solve in the long run...
I would say that ADHD is a gift as well. You can meet strangers. You reach out to people. People find your outlook refreshing, as well as laid-back. You are FUN! Who doesn't want to sky-dive or climb a tall tree or ride a bicycle with no hands? You can think on the spot. You are quick to come up with a plan (under pressure.) You are inventive, visionary--just someone else needs to do the implementation part. You take time with people. You don't manage time, but you can give ppl the gift of yours...I totally have it and I apologize to my friends in advance. I try to put myself in other people's shoes. And yes. I've been yelled at. Made someone cry...in frustration! Stickies, yes! Timers, yes!
I started using a calendar when I did a law degree It was filled with all sorts of OTHER stuff and my life made more sense Then I got overloaded .. so much that the calender was too much I'm 61 now ... I'm searching for a good calendar Love to you TIME TWISTERS
This sir has nailed it re: my life long struggles too. Im dumbfounded and sadly we are branded as addicts or LAZY...selfish, complaincent etc. Wish our peoples had this same knowledge!
Absolutely a revolutionary video for me. I have been diagnosed for almost a whole year, and have never understood so clearly what I go through every day. I am certain that this will help me beyond measure! It already has!!
You’d video has described me at 33 years old for the last 2 years. Ive been struggling to function every single day & it had ruined my life. I have finally talked to my psychiatrist truthfully & am so grateful that this video can put into words exactly how my life has been going. Thank you for this!
Also - super funny, my package of fridge calendar magnets came in. There are 3 - it’s completely filled already & mainly stuff form this video so I don’t forget. Now I just need to do it
I almost cried thinking I was a moral failure. I am both relieved and saddened by how my life has passed without this self-knowledge or the help I needed. I'm 68 years old.
This is by far the most accurate definition of ADHD. Never felt more understood. I saw it yesterday, my mind is still blown by his amazing understanding of ADHD (or IDD). Thank you Dr 🫶🏼
This guy kicks all ass in the known universe. Makes me cry that someone actually understands me. That he hands me the knowledge tools to make me able to externally organize my life. It’s not an attention disorder yo. Fist in the air power to this guy!!!
the frontal lobe... the reason I was perceived as a "gifted" child who was "bored" in school... but now after surviving an overdose that stopped my heart/respiration (unconscious 30+ min) I can not keep an appointment, return a phone call (or check my voicemail), cook dinner in under 3 hours, or finish ANY simple task...
I wish every Professional knew what Dr. Berkley knows. The Life of millions of people would be so much greater. Not only those with ADHD but everybody around them would benefit massively.
"So it doesn't really matter what you know, you can't use it as effectively as other people can." This reminds me of when I was in "social thinking" therapy. I understood all the concepts and I could repeat it back easily. When I was in a group I'd often end up feeling like a second teacher. But I could never ever apply it in real life
Just so you know, a huge percentage of people with ADHD are on the autism spectrum. If you have ADHD and needed social thinking therapy, you are probably on the autism spectrum.
Amazing. Finding this video is a prime example of me getting off task aha. Sometimes I will be in the middle of something and then the next time I check its been an hour and I've been reading about things totally off topic and going down the rabbit hole
I am literally crying with gratitude because I can now understand why I am the way I am. Dr Russell you have changed my life and my outlook on ADHD. I wish I could give you more than just this comment to really thank you for this valuable knowledge 🥲 I pray you are blessed beyond imagination. Thank you soo much ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much! I am learning how to be a supportive parent to my 22 year old daughter. At the same time I realize that I also have strong trades of ADHD. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Your knowledge, substantive presentation, thoroughness on Attention Deficit Disorder are amazing. Thank you for your work to develop all this. My husband is a psychiatrist, i am an LPC, (ABD! I am ADD). We have been disappointed for years at the dearth of information about add, the inevitable, invariable misinformation by even psychiatrists and psychologists who have spoken in the public arena. Even tho we are seeing this in 2019, your information is as relevant as the latest. We are so dismayed by the lack of information to the public and the resistance in our society to believe in add and realize how impairing it is! Again, thank you for your presentations.
He's a pioneer. Its just fantastic to listen to him. I'm so glad its on YT otherwise I'd have to fly wherever, pay hotel and conference fees to get this tremendous info.
It's even harder to get a diagnosis and coaching and get on the right medications and have it all come together at the same time to make any real substantial changes. You throw a learning disability such a dsycalculia on top of this I feel like I should of been uthenized long time ago. I am almost 39 years old and this shit has as I see now has messed up everything in my life. EVERYTHING and now I don't know how to dig myself out of this hole I've managed to dig and buried myself under every facet in my life. I once had my shit together. Once had the home tried to give my kids better than what I had best public school district in our county. I worked so hard and some how it got all screwed up. My plans my future I had for us and tried to achieve with my childrens father. And it was obliterated. And I was left heartbroken. My ex could never tell me what I was doing wrong he just kept saying it's because of the way I am. I spent half my life with this man. I focused on my family and getting us to each milestone your supposed to achieve when your young and start a family. I never invested into myself I only invested into us. So I never learn a trade or got a degree. I've been a graveyard cocktail server or bartender most of my life. Who showed up late on a weekly basis. And now that I'm broke alone and unemployed I don't even know what skills I even have. Because I was never good at anything life has always been a struggle. But I had enough motivation and perseverance in me to make things happen. But I failed on knowing how to manage what went on in side the house because I didn't have a good role model either and was an only child to a single mom who I found out a couple years ago she has bpd but never disclosed any of that to me. how do you teach your kids what you don't know ? But know what they need? Or have the inability to control and suppress what is fustrating or irritating? I wear every emotion on my sleeve exposed for the entire world to see. It's something I'm ashamed of. And a week before I started my period my Lord I was like an emotional terrorist on a rollercoaster who broke off the handle until I started. EVERY MONTH. I mean no wonder everyone hates me....... How do you convey this shit to a professional you go to for help? You know that you need help and medications but don't excatly know what it is you need you just know your in the right area and you some sorta help that isn't typical but unclear what it is you just know you need it. And your therpists has limited knowledge how to deal with this or knows of the resources to set you up or connect you with for you to succeed because you need more help than he has the copasity or the availability to give you. This is ok this is understandable I get it. but I'm literally begging for help reaching out to actually get myself together and stop ruining everything I try to do or the relationships I have. Because I can't change what I don't know. The emotional dysregulation is the worst and most damaging of them all. Try getting help with what you don't fully understand but finally get validation through a RUclips video. Pretty pathetic. because you have no family, no cheerleading Support group, no one in your corner to run to or bail you out of a jam no one to catch you if you fall and you've pissed everyone off you know you've had to cut off your toxic mother who has always been in some werid competition with me unknowingly who also encouraged the father of my kids to leave me. . Now try to get help because your starting to recognize the same struggles you've had all your life and now your starting to see those struggles in your kids. And this is the last thing I want my kids to grow up and not have under control and managed properly as they reach adulthood. If I genetically passed down this bullshit to them I'd like for them to get it dialed in while they are young and not struggle at life so dang hard. I know my window of time is very small before I blow it with them through my ineffective parenting............yet I can't get a proper diagnosis and coaching to relearn how to be a grown up. And work around state insurance to make it possible And it's not like the YMCA are handing out big brothers and big sisters to mentor middle aged single mom with 2 faces looking to her to role model for them right. To know what to do. To provide structure, routines, a sense of security, guidance help them succeed in school provide a roof over their heads and not fail them and let them down. I fail them everyday. Because I can't get the right help to change what I know needs changing. I am at the lowest I've ever been. To where I want to give up so bad but I can't. Because I have 2 faces looking up at me to not let them down .
My ADHD was far less impairing when I was a kid. I’ve never really had issues with things like reading comprehension or verbal skills. But the time blindness, the lack of time management skills, inability to organize… they’re crippling me in my career. I’m an attorney. Not being able to manage my time is a huge problem in a job based almost entirely on time management. I work slower to try to keep track of everything. And I work longer hours to make up for being slow or losing time down a rabbit hole.
Your not alone. I do the same just as a tradesman so physical labor and it’s not only killing my career but my body aswell! I’m Shure you deal with great mental exhaustion instead of the physical aspect tho.
I dont have as good of a job as you.. but im seeing the same thing in my life.. now that im older i cant seem to manage it now..
Flawlix…there is good help available for those adults who have ADHD. My husband is a physician and his time management was all over the place. Impulsivity, either total focus on one thing or lack of focus at all, yep, those too. Have you been diagnosed? That’s where you start. He is so glad he has medication as it helps him! Another lecturer I heard on ADHD said that those affected need to build an external “scaffold” around themselves, using things like timers, watches, written lists of reasonable goals for the day, electronic pocket schedulers that also help with prioritizing. He feels better about his focus and ability to self-regulate. He won’t seek ADHD -related coaching (damn stubborn) but I wish he would. Read ADDitude Magazine too. Very helpful.
shitt! dude! I'm now realising that bashing my skull forehead to walls just as some hardcore parkour gimmick in my childhood was an extremely bad idea
Same. Same profession and issues. I’m now looking at alternative careers, which is a massive decision….
"Well, I'm working on it.. " every person with ADHD can relate.
"....for years now."
I just watched Abraham Hicks about procrastination. VERY interesting.
All insights are welcome for me.
Painfully.
Well, my muscles are moving in the right sequence apparently...
soul crushing
"ADHD is not a problem of knowledge, it never was. It is about how to use that knowledge". Please!! every doctor must watch this video. The German doctors I have visited say I had very good grades my whole life, so I do not have ADHD. Even though all the synthoms are there and that the “good grades” were achieved under a continued suffering :(
Wow, that sucks that they don't have enough knowledge about the condition. Hopefully you can find someone else who does. It is frustrating when you have to hunt for a good specialist, but it feels great to find one who "gets it."
That's pretty odd... because a high intellect is actually common for people with ADHD.
Just taking me as an example, in my 7th, 8th and 9th grade school years, I was present a maximum of 3 months in those 3 years combined, and I still got the best grades in every single subject.
Any R The thing is that one of the important definitions of ADHD (and most disorders) is that they are preventing you from succeeding. If you "have" ADHD but can live your life well anyways then you don't have a disorder, you just think differently.
Same here, I was treated for depression for 16 years, I'm intelligent as what people say but highly unsuccessful. Just recently got diagnosed by my counselor with Adult ADHD, I'm 38yrs old. Now on treatment and its for the first time ever in my life I feel really better. Yes there definitely need to be done something about awareness. I will book an appointment with my family doctor to just tell this. Thanks for your comments.
Jagmeet Arora wow! Exactly the same here, in Brazil! A wrong diagnostic of “no adhd” when I was young (also, good grades, no hyperactive), and latter several years with depression until months ago discovering adhd again!
This man has explained the entirety of my life and its conflicts in 30 mins. My mind is completely blown.
same here and I'm still struggling to get my life back on track 4 years after my break-up with my fiance of 20 years. I lost everything....
@@kristylarochelle650 Don't regret the past, take the positives out. We can't alter certain things in life.
Seriously this dude brings tears to my eyes because I finally feel like I’m getting somewhere with my life. This last week for me has been absolutely terrible and I don’t know if I’ll make it through all of this tbh but I’m going to try. I’m glad his analysis resonated with you. Hopefully you can live a better quality of life now that you have a better understanding of how your brain works. God bless your life fam 🙏🏼💯
Same
@@kristylarochelle650 Same here.
This man literally lost his twin brother to ADHD. People that say he's being too negative are the same people who have hard time distinguishing what is actually true and what they believe is true. This man has done more than his critics to help people with ADHD. I have pretty bad ADHD and I'm glad I got on medications.
He's very biomedical minded in his language but his heart's in the right place and his research is so valuable.
I’ve been diagnosed after 50 years, the medication has saved my life, I knew there was something wrong but could never put my finger on it! It’s a long story
@@whitecanproductions7248 I’m a similar age to you, going through a rough time, I can’t really afford a diagnosis at £1000 .. if you don’t mind me asking, which meds do you use ?
Hi Anamol. Can I please ask how medication has improved your functioning. Which executive functions do you see the greatest improvements and what isn't being fixed? I'm wondering if medication can really make so much of a difference.
@@whitecanproductions7248 I posed the same question to Anamol. You seem to have a massive improvement in the quality of your life. Can I please ask how medication has improved your daily functioning. Which executive functions do you see the greatest improvements and what isn't being fixed? I'm wondering if medication can really make so much of a difference. Are there areas you're still stuck with. Ie. Goldfish Memory, goal setting, maintaining a flow of focus for tasks, control of emotions, communication with people, depression.
me: can´t focus
also me: watches 40 min videos about neuroanatomy
Kevin de Oliveira me too! 👏👏👏
Kevin well it’s focus on the right issue, no?
the same, it's 1 year and half that i watch neurology lessons, 'm a photographer, and this one, almost makes me cry, i litterally screamed and hit the table with my fists, this scientist is exhactly describing how i explained to myself the series of disfunctions of my life, and brain, since recently i was diagnosed adhd following my intuition...
(At x1.75 😁)
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I nearly cried when I watched this.... it’s me completely and in every way (as someone who has struggled for over 40 years)
60 years old and haven't prepared for the future (i.e., have none). Only now I get some real answers. I want to walk in front of a train. :(
@bilmand : please seek help🌻
I did cry!
@@bilmand Dont do that! its never too late love, you will find someone x
Me too
I’ve watched all this crying. I’ve never felt more understood. I had my diagnosis last week, I’m 36, almost 37 yo.Today it’s my first day under medication and I’m feeling great for the first time in a long time. I was so tired to be called promising but irresponsible, intelligent but not good putting things to practice, great but always late, unreliable, unfocused, lazy, slow, distracted… geez… I seriously don’t want to keep crying thinking of all the time and opportunities I’ve lost. But at this very moment I can’t stop feeling angry about everybody who kept saying I should just do more, double down, just focus, just this, just that as if it was just that easy and I was just lazy. I’m angry but also happy. Finally I know why and it’s a relief. I feel so much weight taken off of my shoulders… so much. Sry for the rant, but it was a big emotional day for me today.
hey Michelle, do you mind sharing how you are doing on the medication now & what is it?
@@unclnis Hi! Sure, it’s been a month since I first started taking Ritalin (methylphenidate). I have the Inattentive ADHD. At first I was unsure, but decided to give it a try. And it was amazing. On the first days I had some mild anxiety symptoms, but way less than I had before, but even with those (mostly that elevator chill in the gut, if u had anxiety u know what I mean), but even with that I could feel it working well. It was as if something just had been turned on in my head. I could focus again. I red a page in a book, it was fluid,, I didn’t have to go back a thousand times to read the page all over again to absorb what was written on it. Everything was silent, no racing thoughts, no memories popping up at any unwanted time, no sluggishness, I really felt alive again. I’m seriously not here making medication propaganda, but it definitely worked for me. I’m an artist, and since 2020 I’ve been stuck, the worse art block ever and it’s taking a huge toll on me and my finances as I simply couldn’t draw and so a part of my income was absolutely lost. Now I sit and draw for hours in a roll, patiently, much more attentive to details, as much as it seems like I had a huge growth in my art but I simply haven’t drawn in so long that it can’t be it, what I gather from it is that this was simply already here in me, but because of my unmediated ADHD I couldn’t put it to practice the right way. Before I would sit and dread drawing, feel useless, feel no point in doing it because it would never get to what I wanted… now I sit and calmly mold the drawing on the paper until it’s up to my satisfaction. No intrusive thoughts, no self deprecating, and most importantly I decide when to sit and do it, it doesn’t depend anymore on a huge inspiration or hiperfocus funk. I just have been drawing every day. Every single day. It doesn’t happen since I was a kid. I feel I’m in control of my will now. And the silence is just amazing. I feel more connected to the present. In the beginning I felt a bit sleepy, then very energetic but in a good way, if I have to do something I just go and do it, no discomfort or self doubt, no more procrastinating unless I really can do things latter. I’ve been keeping my house cleaner and more organized (but I’m still working on it, I’ve noticed I have a need to have places for all my stuff, some things are still without a place so those are my challenges)… so far that’s it. Taking the medicine at the right time I have no trouble sleeping, I’m even sleeping better, and my Fibromialgia is under control now too, my body aches much less, almost nothing. Oh, I feel thirsty and dry mouth all the time… this is the worse side effect so far, but I already used to drink a lot of water so, it’s no problem. It effects a bit the appetite, I feel satisfied with a bit less, but not that bad too… and that’s it no other complaints. Feel free to make more questions ☺️… but yeah that’s it I’m feeling great and productive, and this is just an amazing relief
@@Chellirsl I love you thanks for sharing this
@@Chellirsl I haven't been diagnosed yet but I have a high suspicion that I have ADHD. Watching this video and reading up/listening to the experiences of others were the only time I felt seen in my life. I thought I was just lazy, undisciplined and just plain dumb. This dysfunction has literally robbed me of my life. Reading this comment made me cry because it proved that there is hope. That I too can succeed like other normal people. Unfortunately in my country, getting diagnosed at private clinics is expensive so I'm choosing to do the government hospital route, however just getting an appointment there can take at least a month. Plus from what I've heard, the medications here in my country can be very expensive.
@@kurapikakurta3863 take the time, what is a month compared to a life time? Seriously it’s worth it! And u can start saving money now for your medications. By the time being just watch and read everything about it. There are too lots of strategies in daily life to improve life it’s not only meds, knowledge is everything. It’s been helping me a lot too not only the meds. You’ve come so far, you don’t lose anything walking the extra mile. Don’t give up on yourself. Seriously go for it you won’t regret. I’m not rich too and paying for my meds has been a struggle, I’m also using every strategy I’ve been learning online, knowing myself better to improve myself. I’m not focusing anymore on the time I’ve lost, it doesn’t come back, but I know I have plenty time ahead. I’ve turned 37 last month… I’ve lost plenty in life, but I know I still have time to build a lot too. Please don’t give up!
I've never been diagnosed. I'm 68 now. I've only realised in the past year I have this as well Autism. I've learned to sit quietly and not interject or say things that seem insulting to others. I've learned to not babble on about my keen interests that no one cares about. . I'm still trying to learn to keep on track when I do interact. I can still tend to raise my voice when I get passionate about a subject.
Some smarty pants people say if you can't talk about a subject and successfully relay it to others, then you don't understand the subject. Wrong. I have a rich inner life, but am unable to express myself fully. It's so annoying.
Yea pretty much.
Here are important ideas from this lecture for fellow ADHDers who might not be able to focus.
0:33: Three concepts to build the model
First concept - Inhibition: You have to stop and build a pause in your behaviour. Basically, stop and think before you act.
1:17: Three kinds of inhibitions that's impaired in ADHDers
1:20 a) Can't inhibit the urge to respond on the moment to an event. (impulsiveness)
1:29 b) Inability to interrupt an ongoing behaviour when it's time to do something else. (especially if the ongoing behaviour is rewarding)
1:50 c) Inability to protect working memory from distractions.
2:20 ADHDers don't perceive distractions any more than others. The difference is that they respond to them and go off task.
2:28 Once off task, they can't retain the goal and won't return to the task.
2:37 So it's a series of responding to irrelevant events in life which is why it is so hard to accomplish your goals.
2:40 To sum up ADHDers have an inhibition problem.
2:47
Second concept: Self regulation
3:45 We self-regulate to change a distant consequence. We try to alter the future, not the now.
4:34 All deferred gratification requires self regulation.
4:40
Third concept: Executive function
5:31: Definition of executive function: The action to the self designed to change you so as to change your future .
5:51: We have five executive abilities.
6:53: The executive abilities are path dependent, meaning they require the previous on to develop. Think of it like a pyramid.
7:06 Boring technical terms, name dropping and some boasting.
8:07 Executive functions can be describes as actions to the self.
8:30 Role of non verbal working memory:
8:41 Humans have the best system for holding images in the minds.
9:49 You recall past events through images.
10:32 1st executive function: Stopping
10:32 2nd executive function: Reimage the relevant past.
10:37 3rd executive function: Speech to the self.
10:48 4th executive function: Emote to yourself.
10:51 5th and highest executive function: Planning, problem-solving, and simulating multiple possible responses.
11:27 Manual play leads to mental play.
11:54 Children begin to speak to others then themselves loudly then speak in their mind.
15:03 Athletes can improve their performance just by visualizing. They use the same brain as they'd if they actually performed.
15:14 When you speak to yourself you activate the speech part of the brain. And since it's the same system, you can't speak to yourself as well as others.
15:37 So rather than calling it internalization, you should call it privatization.
17:03 Chart of development of inhibitions.
17:29 Most people develop all executive functions by 30. ADHDers lag by 30-40%
18:02 So you learn self management and by extension you think about the future instead of the now.
18:36 Most 30 year olds anticipate 8-12 weeks into the future.
19:03 Summary
20:14 The frontal lobe's role was to keep track of favours. It's now used for vicarious learning.
21:13 ADHD kids can't use behaviour of others to modify their own behaviour.
21:39 ADHD kid lack hindsight, foresight, and anticipation of future events.
21:52 Adult ADHD is the consummate disorder of time management.
22:24 Until adulthood, language and instructions have little role in controlling the behaviour of an ADHDer. Because language cannot control motor function.
22:55 Adult ADHDers have a deficit in comprehending what they read, see, and hear.
23:10 Delay in morally governing behaviour.
23:22 We modify emotions which is the basis of self-discipline, persistence and motivation due to the emote to yourself executive function.
23:34 the ability to internalize are playing gives rise to the ability to generate multiple options when we are faced with the problem and if this system isn't working very well people tend to fall back on over learned outdated ineffective behavior.
23:43 the system also involves putting behavior together, to solve the problem stringing a sequence of actions together, so we should see that people with ADHD have a lot of trouble with problem solving in their mind with generating multiple possibilities for getting things done and then with following the one that most effective in doing so but we should also see that they have trouble stringing behavior together in a proper sequence and we will see this no better than in their speech.
24:25 Example of how ADHDers speak.
25:22 Adult ADHDers speech pattern include circumlocution and verbal wandering.
25:36 ADHD is not an attention disorder; it's time blindness. You're nearsighted in time.
25:50 Adults and kids with ADHD wait till the future is imminent.
27:12 ADD is actually IDD aka intention deficit disorder.
27:32 The back part of the brain acquires knowledge, the front part puts it together. ADHD separates these two as a meat cleaver. So no matter what you know, you can't utilize it like others. ADHD is a performance disorder. You can't perform the things you know how to do.
28:37 All treatment must be rooted at the point of performance aka the real world.
28:49 You have to restructure the environment to show what they know.
28:57 Teaching skills is useless because they won't be used.
30:00 Medication is required for most ADHDers (disagree with this one). The effects of medication is temporary.
30:59 Meds can be rephrased as neurogenetic intervention.
Solutions
31:25 We need to tighten up accountability. Bring those consequences closer in time.
33:15 Externalize key pieces of information.
33:38 You can't hold things in your mind so write them down. Use an external resource to compensate for an internal problem.
35:21 Use external temporal guidance devices. (I personally recommend JIRA) Break the future into pieces and do a piece a day.
36:14 Social consequences can be motivating.
36:55 Use manual problem solving.
EDIT 25 April 2022: After a lot of hesitance, I finally went to a psychiatrist 4 months ago and started taking medication. I was prescribed the generic version of Strattera and it's made a huge, huge, huge improvement to my life. So if you're like what I was and averse to the idea of medication, please give it a shot, it might change your life.And if it doesn't you can always stop taking it. I believe I was reluctant to take medication because of all the societal stigma. I'm glad I overcame it and took help. Best of luck to all my fellow ADHDers.
Upvoted this because it needs to be higher up! Great work there.
So, aside from medication, what would you recommend? I've only heard if clean diet, lots of good fatty acids (omegas), exercise consistently, behavior modification as described, and perhaps neurotherapy. Dr. Amen believes in supplementation. What else?
@@robinrezendes7206 Mindful meditation. Tons of science behind it increasing cortical thickness of the prefrontal cortex. And the prefrontal cortex is responsible for all executive function as Dr. Russel explains in this video.
You’re amazing for doing this ^ ☺️
THANK YOU SM
Anyone else watch this and just cry? Cry because you recall all of the hurt these symptoms have caused you. Cry because you feel slighted by your own brain. Cry because for the first time in your life you finally heard a solid explanation and solution - like someone actually gives a shit about what you’re experiencing. I’ve been beaten down for these characteristics by my parents, teachers, peers, and colleagues. All of the people who should have been guiding me and helping me. It breaks my heart. But I can’t wait to show them! 💪🏻
This is my first time watching a video where I actually got a solution. This man taught me more about myself than I knew in all my years of experience of being in this body. So many points he made were so important but I won't be writing them because this entire video deserves to be watched again and again.
Same here and I'm 52, have seen so many doctors and therapists and today after this video I feel like I finally understand my brain and my life (and of several of my family members too).💜
Dude, if you have ADHD, write them down!! Keeping a journal is the greatest medicine I have found and there’s no side effects
@@diomedesgermosen844 happy New year 2022.can you please share your experience of how journaling helps you. Thank you.
@@jasonosmondfernandes8525 ok I'm not the person you asked, but still let me share how journaling is a life-saver for me. First off, lists, I have a list for everything -- shopping list, long-term to-do list, daily to-do list (literally reminding myself to brush teeth, go to the toilet, take a shower, eat, feed pets, sleep), wish list, movie list, book list, podcast list, travel luggage list, even a work bag list (which consists of 5 items but still).; I even keep lists in Minecraft and other games. Otherwise, I'll 100% forget.
Next, I immediately write down everything that's worth remembering, such as interesting ideas, thoughts, feelings, new responsibilities, interests, discussion topics, information (e.g. this video) and other people's recommendations, 'cause again, otherwise I'll 100% forget. Sometimes I even take notes on people and their backstories and interests.
I also keep a bunch of "diaries" and calendars, like a money diary and a dream diary. And ofc I immediately note down new events and tasks in my calendar as soon as I learn about them, even if it means rudely pulling out my phone mid-conversation, because otherwise I'll 100% forget.
Last but not least, I occasionally do some motivational journaling exercises from the Struthless yt channel.
So, how does this help me you ask? The obvious answer is that it keeps me functioning in everyday life. But additionally, it actually improves my memory as well, e.g. now I can comfortably hold abt 4 items in my mind for up to a few minutes, which used to be impossible for me. Writing down my thoughts helps with organizing the clutter that's constantly spinning around in my mind, and writing down useful information helps with the stress of having to remember it all. I've become a lot better at backtracking my actions & thought process to find lost items, ideas, etc., which might be thanks to journaling as well. Alas, my phone has now reminded me to change my bedsheets so bye bye. Edit: and happy New Year!
@@diomedesgermosen844 love it. Thanks for that. I got a bullet journal in Nov 2021. I've been trying to start it but I'll put it on the table now since you mentioned it.
I wish I had seen this sooner. This video needs to be shared in schools, in doctor's offices, and ALL therapists should be made to watch this. My friend's therapist recently told him to stop saying he has ADHD, drink more water, drink less coffee, go for walks, read mantras, and get another job on top of his full time job that he already has. 🙄 Like yeah... so helpful.
ESPECIALLY in schools. My kid is going to be assessed for adhd in may but I see a lot of traits already, I also have it. But the teachers are constantly sending me reprimands about her behaviour, both attention wise and motor skills. Even though her academic performance is totally ok. In my head I'm like - leave her the f alone, fish can't climb trees.
@@TallinnCity2410Don't lose heart. Put her into some exercise regimen,walks, social bonding and give her tips on management.She might improve.
Dr. Barkley is great. His brother was an ADHDer, whom one day never got a repeat lot of his meds. He then went driving a car and had a fatal crash because he didn’t take his meds. Dr. Barkley was devastated that his brother died like this and hadn’t taken his med to be able to pay attention to drive.
Oh dear... :( This explains why his passion on the subject often feels so angry and frustrated...
Oh my gosh!
Maybe the crash was caused by the meds - maybe he was used to them and he let his guard down when he didn't use them anymore. How is it possible for meds to stop working just one day like that? Maybe the crash wasn't his fault. Maybe he was just very unlucky, and maybe the same would've happened if he took his meds. Dr Barkley seems ok, I just learned about him, and I'll continue watching because I find the knowledge valuable. Will I subscribe to the meds immediately? No, I'll try early / everyday / low-tech treatments first, and not jump on the new, high-tech ADHD vaccine / meds / gene therapy on offer. Maybe Dr Barkley convinced himself this because he sits on the board of directors on one of the pharmaceutical companies and meds are his livelihood? I just can't take that story at face value until I know all the facts.
Has anyone really went into if adhd caused that?
@@ivan2795 No it sounds like he wasn't able to get a refill at one point and was driving without his meds, granted crashes happen to everybody and we'll never know exactly what caused it but I know personally that my meds make me a much better driver. And not paying attention to one's surroundings/being a defensive driver is a large cause of accidents. So I don't find value in doubting that being the reason for his death --- it's sad in any case. And surely much of Barkley's passion and knowledge comes from living with and knowing his brother during his lifetime as well.
As far as your anecdote on your own meds usage, I don't think that's relevant. Everyone is entitled to use their own means of treatment whether through vitamins / exercise / diet or more standard pharmaceutical options. Whatever works, works. Everybody is different.
As far as assuming he's in Big Pharma's pocket is pretty offensive.
I'll leave you with a quote from Barkley regarding just that.
"]I do occasionally consult with and speak for various pharmaceutical companies. To say I am in bed with them is misleading as it implies that I work for them exclusively or a majority of my time and I certainly have not. But I will teach anyone about ADHD and advise researchers on their research when it seems I can be helpful in doing so. The monies received from pharmaceutical have never exceeded 15% of my annual income during any calendar year and in the past 3 years has been well below as I have cut back accepting travel now that I am older and do no wish to do so as much. It’s odd that critics never mention that I receive more income annually from books on parenting ADHD and related disorders and clinical manuals and handbooks filled with psychosocial treatment strategies than I do from pharma, but that fact would disprove their narrative, which is to dismiss my opinion as entirely biased toward medications due to speaking at events sponsored by manufacturers."
I know the crowd doesn't mean harm but someone who has struggled with ADHD and is now 30, the giggles and laughs rub me the wrong way because they think it's funny basic stuff but this disorder has caused me so much pain and hearing it finally being explained in a way I can relate to hurts me so much to hear others laugh at what has brought me so much pain over my life.
This is why smart phones saved my life, my to-do list, notes app and calendar are crucial extensions of my working memory
I agree when they're used properly and discipline is built into their use. However I've found that I get sucked into my smart phone so quickly and without even thinking about what I'm doing, and time just evaporates and I find myself 3 hours later wondering what the heck happened to the time.
That's true as well. It's been both a blessing and a curse for me
monkiram
smart phone ruined my life because it's so addictive. I'm on my phone now.
I learned I had to take certain app icons (like FB) off of my home screen so I wouldn't be distracted and drawn to checking my notifications. (That little number in the orange circle just keeps getting bigger!) Other than that, I just practice telling myself "no" when I have an impulse to check my phone but I need to stay focused on what I'm doing.
That's exactly what I did as well! I noticed that if I put distracting apps into folders, I'm much, much less likely to go on them, it's crazy how big of a difference that makes. My brain sees rewarding things, it clicks rewarding things. If it doesn't see them, I have to actually make an active decision to go find the app.
This guy is absolutely brilliant when it comes to the ADHD brain. I have learned so much from watching his videos. My son suffers from ADHD and because of Dr. Barkley's lectures I have been able to make sense of his behaviors. I think everyone who struggles with this, or knows someone who does, should watch his videos. You will have a lot more empathy for yourself and others by doing so! Amazing! I've learned a long time ago that I have to be my son's frontal lobe and that his environment has to be manipulated to get him to accomplish anything.
+LadyCounsel1122 I wish the people I knew would watch his videos and understand. I always want to send them to my mom and fiancé but I know they've been getting really tired of hearing me talk about ADHD lol
I feel the same. I did share a couple of these videos with my family and boyfriend to try to get them to understand how my brain works, and I am nervous they won't bother. I was diagnosed in my late teens and am 25 now and am only just treating it. So I talk about it a lot and they are so frustrated with me. But it is so frustrating to go through what we go through only to have our family not understand why we do what we do. I totally understand what you are going through.
I don't 'struggle' with it or 'suffer' with it.
I wouldn't have it REMOVED if I could!
Heston Blumenthal: 'I have ADHD. But I wouldn't change it for the world'
www.tes.com/news/school-news/breaking-news/heston-blumenthal-i-have-adhd-i-wouldnt-change-it-world
Look up: Famous people with ADHD Almost all major inventions were created by people with ADHD.
You live in the world you live in because of ADHD people. America exists as it does because of ADHD persons.
Thomas Jefferson
Benjamin Franklin
JFK
.. More.
In World War 2 alone, these ADHD persons were CRUCIAL:
Albert Einstein
Winston Churchill
General Patton
Dwight D. Eisenhower
.... ADHD is not a 'disorder' it is a 'difference'.
The doctor doesn't lie. However, he speaks from the perspective of 'fitting in'.
Further, there *ARE* WEAKNESSES (he mentions) that there is NO GETTING AROUND and no making excuses for:
--These are a FEW, but each 'super power' has a 'dark side':
Research ADHD 'super powers' and understand each one has an equally serious 'dark side', which is the DEFAULT unless the ADHD person is aware and cares to work within their special/different framework.
For parents, here is the trick:
Help your kid find their passion by exposing them to many things until they find their interest.
Help them understand their (special) ABILITIES (example, 'big picture' thinking is something ADHD people do better than 'normals') - that is, working with VERY LARGE DATASETS and connecting disparate facts and knowledge to build new insights. As an example, Newton, who was ADHD used the 'Bible' (for clues) [so did Galileo, who was also ADHD] remember, all major inventions are from ADHD persons - look it up > to build much of his Newtonian model of physics - this could be either to prove or disprove bible positions, but this is what was the 'ACTIVATING INGREDIENT' : Passion/Emotion. -- Do some research, but understand, the DEFAULT of ADHD is in fact a 'DISORDER'.
Without finding a passion, (preferably more than one) and I mean PRODUCTIVE passions, not video games, which in effect is a 'drug', the 'default' is morbid dysfunction.
If your goal is to have your ADHD loved one 'fit in' You have an up hill battle, which at best will give you a person with a crushed spirit, always feeling like they were meant for something more, and at worst.. Well.. Not good.
Let your ADHD loved one understand:
'Money' is only made by HELPING PEOPLE or STEALING IT. Period. Stealing it doesn't work. Money is just 'stored human labor' Human labor is transformed into 'paper/bank balance/objects'.
They must find their passion so that they can help other people.
If you help a FEW PEOPLE a LOT you get paid : A LOT * A FEW PEOPLE.
Or... If you help a lot of people a little... Then : A Lot of People * a Little Help
The average salary of a Heart Surgeon is about $570,000 a year. They 'significantly' help (on average) about 120 (ish) people a year.. This is +/- 10/25% based on experience and location. It is not uncommon for the very experienced to make 800-950k a year.
Then you have CEOs (average of the Fortune 500 companies) who make on average about $550k a year plus up to 4x that in bonuses and stock options! They're not 'saving lives'! Right?! So what gives?!
Well, objectively, (if you were a computer, not a person with moral judgements - welcome to economics!) if you could save one life or HELP millions of people, (or more) being captain of a 'ship' responsible for this help, and you got paid 1/10th of a penny per person.. What would that equal?
Do you use a computer? You have one of three operating systems (not considering free Linux, sorry fellow Geeks/Nerds :) ) Two of which are on the majority of computers used by (normal) human beings. Apple's or Microsoft's. How much does this OS help you? You paid some amount whether as part of the computer or separate. That amount is many many billions of dollars per year. When that is divided, that means billions are helped. -- Don't think so? Switch OS tomorrow and see how your work flow goes.
One tenth of one percent of ONE billion is 100 million. I won't talk down to you. I would hope you get the point.
FYI Bill Gates and Steve Jobs of course are/were ADHD (look it up)
Help your child find their passion. Explain WHY. Without an emotional context (reason) to do something, they won't. THEY have to WANT to. Help them want to. help them understand they need to feed their computer LOTS of knowledge. Rote memory (like jeopardy contestants) won't even BEGIN to work. What they need to do is EXPOSE themselves to tons of stuff, not being obligated to regurgitate crap anyone can ask SIRI for or look up on Google. When and if, as they're skimming over vasts amounts of information they find something they're interested in, let them DEEP DIVE.
Another Tip. For me at least, I was ONLY attracted to very HARD problems 'regular/normal' people wouldn't even begin to attempt:
Software development/programming (assembly language at 14 in '84) then of course, my current business/career.
Theoretical Quantum Physics.
Psychology. (Specifically 'Personality Disorders' Cluster A, B and C ) .. And now, more recently ADHD, for which I have, but always just (incorrectly) considered it 'hyper' and 'easily distracted'>
.. And a couple of others.
I would suggest you check out a website/info from friend and fellow ADHD Peter Shankman in regard to positive living as a person who is BLESSED with ADHD.
-- And FYI Dr. Barkley, I realize there can be no 'objective test' regarding 'large dataset' aka 'big thinking/puzzle solving' advantages for ADHD, but you need to realize the 'super powers' are activated by 'emotion'. An ADHD in a field of their passion will all but always excel over a 'normal' in the same field.
As for myself, over and above my other passions, I have a business I created and run (alone) for the last 16 years. Over 2500 clients. Created, manage and extend a codebase of over 1.3 million lines of codes in 4300 interconnected modules (programs) written in four (computer) languages . When a problem arises, the module i need to work on 'pops' in my head.
I manage all the servers, setup and and extend as necessary, manage mail for tens of thousands, fight hackers, modify and extend custom software necessary to do jobs 'employees' would normally do (such as fight hackers, monitor data feeds from external B2B data servers I rely on, reset servers as necessary, inform me of anomalies, and SO much more..) ..And we haven't even talked about graphics, UI design etc.. for which I of course ALSO do! :)
Sir, if ADHD is a disorder, then I'm living on the Planet of the Apes.
..Help your loved one cind their passion. Help them deal with limitations that ARE THERE! And remember, each 'limitation' has a 'good' side to it.
(sorry, I know this post is already SO LONG - ADHD :) )
E.g. Edison (ADHD) kept trying to make the light bulb. We see it as 'perseverance' and hold it as a model to aspire to. Fine.
What if he never succeeded? It would be seen as 'crazy' and 'obsessive compulsive'
See how that works? This is : Hyper-Focus (which can be seen as obsessive), (different) Prioritization [others would have given up as it looks 'crazy' to keep trying], and a few others.
History is littered with the great inventors, creators and leaders of ADHD and they all used the POSITIVE side of what the world now calls a 'disorder'.
It is a 'disorder' in this regard: Fitting in with the status quo.
Steve Jobs (ADHD) famously worked with Rob Siltanen to create this original poem created and first introduced in a famous Apple commercial:
"Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently.
They're not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo.
You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them.
About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things.
They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.
Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do."
When you consider almost all major (world changing and enduring) inventions come from ADHD people, this poem could just as well be written with ADHD in mind.
-- Just my 2 cents.
Wayne Bienek Thank you!
+Wayne Bienek Probably the most useful post I have ever read. I just realized I have ADHD. My son does as well. This will help me and more importantly, help me to help him.
I am undiagnosed 32 year old living alone but I am pretty sure I have this. Time blindness is so real.
I feel someone finally understands me. I feel so lonely that no one really understands me, I try to explain my thought process and I am unable to remember things short term but nobody really got it. People were frustrated with my laziness and judge me for my under performance, but only I know how hard focusing on a goal is
Happy that there are people in the RUclips that gets me
Validation. That’s what I got from this. I’m 50+ years old, my whole life I have fought, partly failed or failed, fought harder, partly failed, and fought harder to win again.
This guy pegged my issues and makes me realize I’m not nuts.
I have come up with many of his recommendations on my own. That feels good to.
But to me it’s about validation.
Wish I could get my wife to understand this about me.
Pure unsolicited advice but Have her watch this video if you can or at the very least the middle section that talks about time! I know it prob won’t help but it might, and the end might provide a basis for creating solutions for you that help her too
I've gained more perspective in the first 20 minutes than I did seeing therapists and self treating for 20 years. I can only imagine how many people this is helping.
Dr Barkley is absolutely fantastic! I have never, as a physician, felt like I grasped the essence of ADHD so well! Thank you Dr Barkley!!!!
Did you ever consider that the gut biome mediates the person's psychological response to the environment, in various ways......and that the modern western diet stacked with glyphosate and hard to digest, glycan binding cry1 proteins is the root of many problems? As the gut biome synthesizes the precursors to various neurotransmitters and hormones, how could a foul gut biome not be the root of conditions such as ADHD? How can a person function inside normal parameters when it is experiencing difficulty absorbing nutrients from a degree of villi destruction in their small intestines?
@@curiousbystander9193 HAPPY NEW YEAR 2022! From my own experience, I would agree with the transformation of how and what we consume effects the gut biome which then physiologically creates huge benefits to our systems. From years (since 2015) of Being on Keto, vegan and currently being mostly vegetarian (with most processed foods and anything with sugar out of my diet) I have to honestly share that my executive functions have improved but only marginally. You have brought up a very salient issue which has to become commonplace in our awareness and practice.
Thank you for being a Dr. who is willing to keep learning and listening. Most ADHD treatment is coming from general physicians and family medicine prescribers, so it's important that you understand it.
Having a family member not understand your disorder will have you feeling worthless at times. This is very validating
most times.
i’m crying i lost a friend bc of time blindness. most people are under the impression that being late is rude and that people who are constantly late have no regard for people’s time. but if she only knew how hard it is for me to get ready.
Tbh having a child made it much more socially acceptable to be late, at least with other parents. I’m sorry about your friend 😢
Please don’t forget that for us neurotypical people it’s just a healthy response to sort out ,,friends” that disrupt our orderly lifes. Get it under control or people are going to chose to create distance from your mess.
Maybe look for an adhd self help group and find friends that have a similar neuronal set up like yourself. Please stop trying to get into and bring chaos into the life of people without adhd. Especially people you care about, just leave them alone and stop messing their life up too.
@@DynAmisch69 didn’t u read my comment. she’s no longer in my life. ruining people’s lives with my chaos adhd is a little bit much no? we should just segregate all neurodivergent from the neurotypicals at that point. can’t have them ruining anymore lives now do we? we’re too “chaotic” for you perfect people. please take ur advice and create some distance from me.
@@yucki2604
I do have compassion for you because I know it’s not your fault that your brain is set up like this. Unfortunately there’s no way for you to make this misery and chaos stop until the end of your life. But don’t you understand my point that the people that don’t have to live in this hell should be left alone by you instead of being dragged into it?
I hope for you that you can get rid of your victim complex at least and start acknowledging how disruptive your disorder can be to other people’s lifes.
Umm married to ADHD man.. WORST THING EVER!! It's like raising kids that NEVER GROW UP
This made me tear up, my whole life I have felt incompetent. I'm extremely witty but my inability to put them into words and actions were almost impossible. This impairment has gotten smoother over the years like you mentioned. But growing up it was so chaotic.
Thank you for this!
I was showing symptoms all through my childhood, but it didnt really affect my life in a negative way big enough to illicit a reaponse. I was a gifted student who got mostly A and B on everything and didnt really have problems reading (as long as it was interesting). Also the amount of reading you are expected to do in middle and high school was still manageable. College was different though. You cant really wing a 30 page paper the night before. Impulsivity and time-blindness started to impact my life a lot more. I switched jobs every 3 months, sometimes from being fired but usually from loosing interest. I didnt get diagnosed until i was 30 and it has helped a lot. Medication is one thing. It helps with some things, sometimes. The biggest change though has come through the lessening of guilt through understanding myself. Really people, please please please: If you suspect you might have ADHD go get checked. You dont have to do the medication if you dont want to, but knowing what you are up against really does wonders for your own mental health.
I just realized I haven't been listening for 10 minutes...
What? 😿
@@tiffanyjohnson1676 it's true, we zone out entirely and have thoughts about other things, even while talking to someone face to face
@@tma78 ugh its so annoying
@@tiffanyjohnson1676 it's been getting worse for me, I've only just started to research it all.
I didn't listen to people when I was in my teens and 20s. Not until 5 weeks ago where a workmate called me out for having it based on my behavior did I Google the online tests, I'm 41 now.
I've only just got a referral to a psychiatrist whom specializes in adhd today. I plan on relocating next year and doing part time uni. My report cards reflect it from grade 1, right through til grade 12. Thankfully my mother kept them all. I'll be taking them in with me to the first meeting. All the major precursors are there as well.
The big one of my mother drinking, smoking and taking drugs (weed) heavily during the whole duration of her pregnancy.
I need to try working something out before even attempting the courses to get me the requirements to qualify for the uni course I'm interested in. Otherwise I'm wasting my time.
I'm not angry, just curious of what may have happened in my life if I had help when I was younger. Would I be where I am now? Would I have done what ive done in my life until now?
In no way have I lived a hard life, nor one you would consider mediocre. I've traveled half the world, have a great paying job, which is easy as well, just not fulfilling I guess.
@@tma78 Well what do you do if I may ask? I have been having such a time actually deciding and sticking to anything.
watching this as an adult with ADHD who got diagnosed recently while I'm procrastinating and should be studying to my exams
this man just explained my whole existence and problems with social life, emotions, planning things, getting things done, working memory in 37 minutes
I've watched many videos about ADHD and this man explains how it is to have ADHD as an adult the best
Random people think ADHD is just having trouble to concentrate and being hyperactive but in reality its just two of many many more symptoms that people with ADHD have to deal with and it would be great if more people became aware how it really is
i’m 17 now but since the second grade, i have had this nearsighted future problem or however you put it… i talked to my mom and she said we’ll see if we can get it diagnosed but i’m hopeful i really do have adhd because all my life i’ve been told that i’m very intelligent but not goal oriented. not focused enough. i’ve been told that words go through on ear and out the other. i’ve been told “thomas. we’ve had this talk countless times” more times than i can count. i’m hearing the words, i’m feeling the emotion, but it will make no difference in me once i leave the room. doing work is and as long as i can remember has been excruciating. i even considered maybe i was depressed for years. for a couple years i’ve thought maybe something is wrong with me. in order to complete tasks, i rely on sudden burts of motivation or think hard about the consequences i’ll face from my parents if i don’t complete it. other than those instances i have zero motivation for much, and don’t get me started on the future because i haven’t got me started on the future💀. maybe i’m exaggerating but for years my mom and dad have asked what i wanted to do with my life or asked what i see my future looking like if i continue like this. i think hard but nothing. i answer the same overtime. “i really don’t know…”
i’m sorry this is so out of order i don’t even remember the point i was trying to get at and that’s another issue i have. i have the hardest time telling stories or recalling events. i’ve gotten better
at the story telling part but i just get lost and forget the point. i doubt people will read this nightmare mangled pointless essay but i’ve been tearing up reading what people have experienced in this comment section and i hope we all get the help we need.
Since diagnosis ~7 weeks ago at 31 I have been watching and reading everything I can to understand more about my own brain and how it's different. This is by far the most accurate description I have come across, and it also gave me chills with the serious tone of it all. As someone who very much struggles with the "am I making this up in my own head? Am I actually just lazy and looking for an excuse?" This helped a bit; both with validation, and the idea that even though I struggle to anticipate future consequences, I am still responsible for my behaviour and what I do to change it.
I just got diagnosed shy of 24 yrs old. I never struggled as a kid in school - I was average. I wouldn’t say I struggled in college. I always had a buddy to help and we’d help each other out. But now, done studying, and started my career as a teacher, I lasted one year and quit. I’ve had 5 jobs in the span of two years. I’ve had a simple office job since then. finally went to the doctor and got diagnosed with ADHD. I thought I was stupid and over stimulated and overwhelmed all the time. It’s just ADHD. I plan to finally go back to teaching, my dream career, with medicine and we’ll see how it goes.
"You march to the beat of your own drum"
This was told to me by a wonderful lady when I was young-
(Not a family member)
She saw this in me, and never treated me badly for it.
heard this before "march to the beat of your own drum" haha. yep 100%
damn! as someone with ADHD hearing about normal memory is amazing! it's like you guys have superpowers! my memory is like a notebook with a couple sentences describing things I noticed and a few snippets of images and sound. I always thought memories in movies were poorly done because it's way too accurate but if that's what normal people experience I'm really missing out.
Lampshade same like I am talking and I forget like two secs after
Totally. While watching his videos I am understanding better who I am. Then later I began to notice just how short my working memory is. I honestly have about 10 seconds to make a decision. Max. More often than not 5 seconds or less. Then I'm on to the next thing. What a terrible handicap in life! Those of us suffering with ADHD should be applauded for even being able to basically function from day to day. The world is not friendly to those perceived as weak.
I have the same (also diagnosed with ADHD) I don´t remember anything from reading and listening
Often also I come in some sort of hole, where my thinking is completely trapt like as I guess a normal Person would describe as a Blackout, but in comperison to the normal People who almost never have These I have it all the time
Instead, we are frequently told that what is wrong with us isn't real.
Im not claiming that i have adhd, but i can totally relate to this. Im always that friend who just listens and fades into the background while my friends reminisce every detail about some memory that is either so hazy to me or forgotten 😂
I am in tears. I am newly diagnosed at age 53. I have been so frustrated by a "seeming" inability to set goals and move towards them, especially in trying to progress in a career. At last, it makes SOME kind of sense now. I am still watching this video, I hope there is a solution at the end, I need one right now, my brain is fried from running full-speed, head-long into brick walls trying to get a path for a new career. This new path looks quite easy for the online community surrounding me, setting and meeting their goals, but it feels impossible to me.
I'm an LPC who was diagnosed as ADD at 50 by my now psychiatrist husband. I have been learning about the medication management of ADDer's in the last 18 years and have been helping others with ADD. I find dr Barkley's information, scholarship and presentation of ADD the best I have ever heard. I am glad I finally found him through RUclips.
What medications are good?
It's like walking in a pitch black forest not knowing where your going just aimlessly walking around in circles but wanting to get out of the forest. Dr. Burkley is the much need light for some guidance. Finally I can get to where I want to.
Dr Russell is a very important person for his work on ADHD and most importantly his delivery on the understanding of the condition. He is the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you
@@alanberkeley7282 Yeah, but he's a good guy.
How much did you get paid to make that comment?
Use me as a LOVE button.
But seriously, I learned so much from Dr. Russel Barkley , I feel I understand myself more than ever now. Thank you so much for your knowledge, and for helping so many people understand their beautiful minds.
i have not come across anyone who could explain complicated matters of adhd in layman terms as Dr. russell barkeley. i have watched many of his videos. it shows his dedication and passion on this particular disorder. this is a great video that provides insights for adhders who are looking out for improving themselves.
Yeah right bro but even after getting to know that I'm adhd there's not much awareness in India..the psychiatrist that I went to simply told that I might not have it as I was good in studies!
This dedicated man/physician has committed his life to investigating, studying,
analysing, and "connecting the dots" regarding ADD, ADHD and related topics.
His willingness to share and communicate his experience based findings and conclusions can, and does, make the world a better place, one person (and MD) at a time.
I am deeply grateful for him
Two of my wishes, one impossible, two possible: 1) I wish his information was available in the 50's. ADD/ADHD kids are 33% more likely to be physically and emotionally abused. 18% of abused kids are ADD ADHD. (I am confident the % is much higher due to non-diagnosis.)
2) I wish the key parts of his work were part of the curriculum for teaching credentials and part of the onsite training of teachers already working.
3) Respectfully, I see ONLY "glitch" in the many fantastic hours of his presentations. Regarding ADD ADHD people and their (our) failure to respond to heed to recommendations or urgencies, he says, "It's because it doesn't matter". It isn't that it doesn't matter to us, it's that "it doesn't register" or "sink in" (cognitively). I wish he'd use "register" vs. "matter".
THANK YOU DR. BARKLEY FOR YOU, YOUR WISDOM AND YOUR MESSAGE.
Joseph A Vargas PhD
This is one of the best lectures I’ve ever seen.
This guy knows his shit.
TheSleepingLionRoars Yes. He's done a shitload of work in this field. And he's aimed himself at developing a theory that enables us to properly support people who have this issue going on.
I'd really like to learn more about the practical guidelines and methods to help those with this condition.
David Andrews
I'd really like to learn more about the practical guidelines and methods to help those with this condition.
+TheSleepingLionRoars I'm not sure we watched the same video. This video is chocked full of "practical guidelines and methods to help those with this condition"!?
Go to 32:47 and listen from there.
Thank you so much. It’s been twenty of years of feeling like a lazy piece of crap and now I know what’s wrong with me. Turns out ADHD runs in my dad’s side of the family. I’m being screened soon and hopefully getting medication!
Hope it's going well for you. My medicine journey has been tough so far. My last pill just made everything worse. On something new. It's not helping yet, but at least it's not hurting
How's it going since?
@@lllllsuzlllll I have had no luck lmao
@@vasimir3183 with the screening?
It's always an amusing irony to me when I end up hyperfocusing and bingeing Barkley videos instead of working! Phenomenol content as usual.
Sooo true. I only face the future when the future and I are painfully face to face. So confusing. Im procrastinating as I write this. 😿
@Mathew Conrad
M E too !! I found it out as a pensioner (!!!) while listening to a BBC Reporter three weeks ago and t h e n I thoroughly searched for brain scientists .. and found HIM.
I was hugely relieved : showing in tears of j o y !!!!
As a German English teacher I can understand Dr.Russell Barkley very very well.
I am so deeply amazed and thankful for his detailed descriptions of brain regions, their functions, connections etc....
@Mathew Conrad
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What I need to know more about ( and check other opinions) is the Methylphenidat 'thing'. Last evening I read German medical YT sources and they were outspoken about negative Side effects of medication.... 🤔☝🏻🤔.
In the meantime I will try saffron extract- there was a study that found out that in this flower part there are substances which help as good as Methylphenidat...
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@Mathew Conrad Yes Mathew. They did not understand what was happening.
ADHD is an exhausting living hell. It’s like living in syrup or living perpetually in crisis. I’ve spent 30 years berating myself, biting off more than I can chew to create persistent external crisis that drove me. I just had a massive breakdown and you know what, I’m done with creating external signals and alerts to motivate me and organise myself and basically just get through life in the way any neuro norm just can without the battle. I don’t know what my life will look like now, but I’m done fighting myself. It’s no way to live having to be your own whipping boy 24/7
This is so relevant.
yes
understand
My takeaway from this today and I‘m pretty sure this is like the third time I‘ve watched this lecture in the last 5 yrs):
My therapist often tells me „wow, you have so many ideas how to solve the problem!“ and then she discusses with me which ones she likes. And that‘s it.
And like Dr. Barkley describes, a lot of the time 5 minutes after I‘ve left the practice it‘s not even on my mind anymore.
What needs to change is I need to tell my therapist that from now on I must either put the thing we said I should do in my calendar/quickly outline a page in my diary for checking off whether I did the thing every night (if it’s a new routine thing) or set an alarm for the evening to do something similar to actually implement the idea (if maybe it needs a more detailed diary entry or like a list on a kitchen cupboard of my favourite meals so I know what to choose from when trying to decide what to cook)
I can’t just go home with the idea in my head
It needs to be somewhere I will incidentally see it very soon (calendar or diary in my case) or make my phone ring and watch buzz some time later that day so I can implement it.
I write on my hand; I have yet to forget where I left it.
I have used Post-It Notes, stick them to my shirt (I worked alone), then stick them to the steering wheel so I wouldn't leave the house the next day w/o materials or forgetting an appointment.
Now, I take meds, write on my hand, and have a couple of Post-It Notes TAPED to my laptop.
Peripheral attention getters helps if you’re trying to pay attention to the whole lecture. Knit, use a fidget toy, etc. It helps, trust me.
This just encouraged me to take my medication. I've always viewed my medication as "cheating," a short fix to my inability to actually implement positive habits into my life because the only way I would do those positive habits was when I was on my medication and not of my volition. Dr. Barkley has taught me that I've got it completely backward 😭😭
Amazing amazing amazing - I always knew it was more than 'just' anxiety. Driving perfectly for 1.5 hours before a test and then lumping the curb in the first 5 mins. Or having a presentation so fluidly memorised and rehearsed only to crash and fall the day I need to show it. It's not doing my degree until the 4th year and having my professors saying you could have easily got a first if you started studying 4 years earlier. God bless this man, and all that suffer with this ailment
Thank you, Dr. Barkley. This made me cry, to find out there is a shred of hope for me to learn how to manage this.
Awesome video.
I remember this one time, I said something to my wife, but was distracted, and I noticed that by the time I had reached the end of my sentence I had already forgotten whether or not I had said the first part of the sentence.
A nice analogy for me is to think about the function of Random Access Memory in computation. People with ADHD have either insufficient RAM or no RAM, and so the work process crashes.
Good analogy
I’ve felt like such a failure my whole life
I can’t start or stop doing things when I want to, I’ve been seen as lazy and time wasting my whole life.
I’ve been told I don’t need to carry a journal around, I’ve been punished for forgetting things.
Being held accountable by someone definitely helps, although their tone and words could hurt when I can’t stop doing something I feel compelled to do.
It’s been so so difficult for me
This video is life changing for me.
You're still fine 😍 😘
I was diagnosed a few months ago. I am 44. It's impressive how I did everything in auto-pilot mode.
Thanks God people are getting diagnose early and we have access to more treatments/medications/therapy.
I was diagnosed over 30 years ago and treated on and off many times since then. No one has ever understood my experience or so accurately described my life and my internal/external struggle better than Dr Barkely. Every time I listen to him I gain a better understanding of myself, the problems I have, their solutions, and get one step closer to leading the kind of life I've always wanted to live. Every single therapist, counselor, and parent that interacts with an ADD/ADHD person should be taught his methodology. It's life changing. Thank you!
For those who are against him and medication - maybe you really don’t understand what ADHD is because you don’t have it, and I don’t blame you. But try really listen to his teaching - medication is just a tool to balance the brain chemicals and for many times he has taught many strategies and tools ppl with ADHD can use to manage the condition, and what parents/teachers to use to support children with ADHD. He never said medication only is the cure. If you stuff from ADHD and prefer not to take medication for any reason, that’s your choice and you are lucky to have a choice. For parents to are determined to NOT try medication for your children, you are basically depriving your children a choice and a chance. Imagine when you have a headache and you are not allowed paracetamol or cold/flu medication “because it is all in your head and pain killers don’t help you recover, it just reduces the pain”.
Western medication a lot of the time relieves the symptoms and don’t cure the problem/causes - so that people can FUNCTION and COPE better. If anyone chooses to soldier on without medication, at their own will, it is absolutely fine. But don’t discourage or deprive others of a tool to help them function and cope better. I often choose not to take paracetamol until I am in absolute agony, that’s my choice; but not having paracetamol when I needed it - it is just unnecessary in 21st Century. If you are that against ADHD medication you might as well be anti vaccine and anti antibiotics as well.
Prove there is a chemical imbalance. Where's the gage stick?
@@alanberkeley7282 If you're trying to question the use of medication from a medical point of view, it is not important whether a chemical imbalance exists or not. There are many documented clinical trials showing significant efficacy at improving the symptoms with a good safety profile and that should be enough to validate the use of a medication with the consent of a patient and his/her guardians. If you're questioning their use from an ethical/social/religious point of view, it is simply not your place to speak. People with ADHD most often know that there is something wrong about them and in the majority of the cases they see a satisfactory increase in their quality of life through the available treatments. Why would anyone want to stop others from trying to improve themselves and subsequently their society? I just see no logical basis for your stance.
@@alanberkeley7282 Although, if you're not trying to oppose the use of medication but you're just questioning the chemical imbalance theory, then you're right to be skeptical about it. Contemporary scientists are also skeptical about it and are trying to develop a stronger theory about the mechanisms of psychiatric medications.
Barkley's advocating something out of Nazi Germany. Kids can't behave or misbehave or talk a lot, drug them into doing so. I wouldn't be surprised if he's a fascist himself. He's certainly an authoritarian prick.
@@sheldoncooper9492 Both
This is by far the most convincing and comprehensive argument for how to treat ADHD I've seen. Confirmation bias kicking in here, but I have arrived at most of these strategies on my own out of necessity.
* I could never read books in school unless I externalized the information by writing it down bullet by bullet, paragraph by paragraph. In fact, my notes were so good that other kids in my school frequently asked me for them. I literally did that with this video so I could ensure I absorbed the information and could refer back to it later.
* Pomodoro has been a godsend for me.
* I've been through 4 years of therapy at this point and have sat and watched as EXACTLY what he described is what happened for me. I learned about the techniques and understood them, but never executed them outside the context of the psychologist's office. This is literally what was driving my depression and anxiety.
* Medications that treated depression and anxiety did not improve my quality of life. Medications that treated ADHD did. VASTLY.
* I have no problems getting things done when there are consequences for not doing them - I rarely miss appointments, especially when missing those appointments would result in a fee or disappointment from a peer. As soon as consequences don't exist, I have a lot of trouble.
* I have all sorts of things on my desk and in my life to model problems. I approach most problems by reaching for analogies. I often have problems learning things by reading about them, and have described myself as "learning best when thrown in the fire" (i.e.: learning by doing, not by seeing it done).
This guy gets it. 100%.
I'm ADHD at 63 years old. The presenter, I think, is showing us the extreme presentation of ADHD. There are many degrees in between.
I agree with you. There is a spectrum, and we should not self-diagnose based on this public lecture.
I’m amazed by this individual! He truly understands individuals such as with ADHD in adults. He understands me!
English is not my mother language. But tears came out by what i learned from his speech and realized about myself. Hes advices can be the last chance to fix my life..
Been told since a child I have this disorder. Put on medication from age 6 to 10. Now as an adult I am back on it. Sometimes I take a break from it and life is so hard but I know if I applied myself more I could change the world. I know I'm smart and I am working everyday on my actions with little outcome. I'm broke not poor and still can't stick to one job for long. Currently starting my own business because I hate working for other people.
It's a struggle but I have a overwhelming amount of willpower and I will not give up untill I have what I want out of life.
"...Along with medication." Aye, there's the rub.
Most ADD/ADHD medications are (somewhat understandably) tightly controlled and require a diagnosis and prescription, but far too many mental health professionals, especially in underfunded areas, refuse to take claims of adult ADD/ADHD seriously. Doubly so if you're female and/or "did well" in childhood academics.
Getting a diagnosis is like pulling teeth, because the powers that be only care about how disruptive you are to the system, not whether you are personally miserable.
I think they think people are "drug seeking" when they mention medication. Some of them shouldn't be doctors.
This man taught in 35 minutes how to control ADD/ADHD and could eliminate the need for drugs! Mind blown! Though I don’t truly have this disorder I know for a fact my 35 year old daughter has it and it has been devastating to her and her children. I’m going to ensure she sees this video. This is the answer!
Oh dear... The time thing. I was a minute late to work, even though I woke up two hours early, then spent an hour and a half on my phone, rushed to get ready and sped to work. This is what happens every single day. It's a joke in my family about how I'm late to everything, how I can't process how long something takes to do, how I wait until the last minute, like Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve, or wrapping the presents while everyone is waiting to unwrap them Christmas morning. I sent this to my mom, maybe it'll help her understand.
The man is of another planet. Thank you.
I received a preliminary diagnosis at age 7-8 but my mom was really against the idea of me being prescribed a narcotic medication and so a multitude of alternatives proceeded including behavioral counseling, therapy, non-narcotic medicine, caffeine supplements and more and all of this provided little to no relief in my ability to regulate and manage my time, remain as organized as possible for a young child and function to my highest ability in a educational environment or social environment. I am now 31 years old and after graduating high school with right at or just below average grades and dropping out of college 3 times, having (best guess) 30 ish jobs over the course of 10 to 12 years, always living in clutter, poor housekeeping, horrible financial planning and budgeting, self sabotaging behaviors all through my early teen to late 20s, addiction issues, relationship problems, and the list goes on and on. I as of last month finally spoke to my Primary Care physician about how I felt exhausted, ashamed, lost, and stuck on a pattern of going nowhere in my life and I started the conversation of ADHD. After 3 separate visits (I was late to all) and a few tests and discussions concerning my symptoms, I have formally received a diagnosis for ADHD and received the proper medication and as I approach the end of the 2nd month of medicine my life for the first time has become more organized, timely, and productive. My relationship (16 years) has flourished, my self care has dramatically improved. Time management is now a part of my every day life. Almost every debilitating obstacle that I had been either ignoring or never approaching are now speed bumps and I am able to calculate or navigate my mind in a way I never thought possible. I am no longer waiting till 5 minutes before an appointment to get ready to leave, procrastinating the inevitable, avoiding conflict, constructive, and even positive communication with my Fiancee. I am functioning at a pace that is comfortable in life, I am not speeding around the house and cleaning like a meth head, losing weight at a rapid pace, or anything negative. I will not speak to anyone else's situation or decision on medication assisted treatment for ADHD but please bring your symptoms to your doctor and have the discussion and please don't be deterred if your Doctor either dismisses the idea of ADHD or refuses to discuss it with you, go find another doctor and get a second or third or fourth opinion before you live your entire life in grasp of something so internally crippling in your every day life, the creeping, crawling, reaching, attaching, disabling, inhibiting, and maliciousness of ADHD.
My experience of ADD is simply the short circuit of a train of thought. What he’s talking about is discipline. Survival of and adapting to ADD has required an enormous act of discipline. Doesn’t change the fact of ADD.
I work in mental health with kids with ADHD (and am an unofficial case myself) and this was invaluable to help me work with clients - and keep myself organized haha
No one can explain adhd better than this man. Helpful to people with adhd and providers trying to help. Keep on keeping on, together we can do this and adhd people you’re not alone. As a provider I am trying to understand and we are here and you can do this. Nothing is wrong with you, you are genius.
So nice😊
24:12 ... almost in tears , this explains why i have really struggled with speech all my life ... oooh boy!
I understand it isn't exactly a recent talk, and things change, but I was surprised he spoke of compassion, I felt very little compassion from him, although I did find him funny. Most of it is so well explained but he also sounds very final, many scars from unfulfilled needs, causing these difficulties, can be 'healed' and many aspects can be realigned. Ultimately, acceptance, of us, our experiences and our brains, beyond our functions, is essential, without it, there is conflict and we cannot bring focus on other intentions while fighting an internal war.
Brilliant man who truly gets ADHD - thank you for your extensive research
Yes! Brilliant work!
Sadly Psychiatrists hardly elaborate on ADHD & All the different medications available? Could be state funded insurance? I don’t have the finances available for specific Psych/Therapist treatments. I think they may look at life time of ADHD but diagnosed as Adult as too late to help. They rather help with co-morbidity like Addictions, Major Depressive Disorder because that is likely to kill us sooner. Sadly if we could learn ways to help ourselves or learn more in school visually. With medication & new ways to help children with ADHD while they are children. So we learn to function in school when we are young. We may not have as many co-morbidities😮 as we are into teenagers & adults.
24:20
I wasnt expecting for Russel Barkley to just immediately copy my entire persona
“You’re a procrastinator! You always have to learn the hard way.”
Same af
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Ugh. Show them this video
Broke my heart when my mom told me “you always did things the hard way”
I didn’t want to but I didn’t realize that is what was happening.
THANK. YOU. My parents have always told me I'm lazy so i started to believe it. This guy has given me a breakthrough.
I need a journal.
This just literally changed my self-image and empowered me to take on life. The heavens opened......
Tremendously helpful. This explains so much. And Dr. Russel does it without judgement. It's a matter of FACT - the struggle IS REAL. And I struggled to find the language to explain the things I've learned about ADHD recently, and this video is truly eye opening. The last 10 minutes really hit home.
Yes it was great
lots of gems in this talk and really interesting clearly outlined points. I guess the only thing that i'd contest/eer on the side of caution with is that whilst i agree that creating artificial/prosthetic urgency or consequence will work to a point (especially in the short term). There is plenty of research to show that this form of artificial bumping of executive functioning can not only be harmful but will potentially create the opposite effect over time. Even if done in conjunction with medication it will burn the brains resources out over a sustained period (both psychologically and physiologically). It will help people get stuff done in the there and now (even for a prolonged period of time, especially in ones youth) and i really like the point made in this talk that it can be used to bring long term goals into focus and can see how in small amounts/moderation it can be a useful tool/coping strategy. The problem/challenge really though is to find means and ways of doing this that do not involve harmful stimulations/behavioural patterns (ie: self deprecation, short term anxiety, really any kind of carrot&stick methodology). I have so many asd friends who are kind of running on fumes with that kind of system...and whilst it's definitely made them achieve more academically (especially whilst they are younger and have the resources to take the strain) you can see the tower of cards piling very high for these people. I've also seen what eventually happens to them when that pile collapses and it's hard not to draw the observation that ultimately it amounts to a very powerful but basically unsustainable form of agressive masking. I know we are many years away still from enough comprehension of the brain to form a cohesive neurological solution still and i get why people are desperate for simple answers to what still amounts to a very complex and amorphous issue. It's just important that we don't get too seduced by easy answers to this question at this point... as they can create more harm than they solve in the long run...
I would say that ADHD is a gift as well. You can meet strangers. You reach out to people. People find your outlook refreshing, as well as laid-back. You are FUN! Who doesn't want to sky-dive or climb a tall tree or ride a bicycle with no hands? You can think on the spot. You are quick to come up with a plan (under pressure.) You are inventive, visionary--just someone else needs to do the implementation part. You take time with people. You don't manage time, but you can give ppl the gift of yours...I totally have it and I apologize to my friends in advance. I try to put myself in other people's shoes. And yes. I've been yelled at. Made someone cry...in frustration! Stickies, yes! Timers, yes!
Totally true!
Not if you live alone or have no one in your life to hold you accountable. Eventually things do get out of control.
I started using a calendar when I did a law degree
It was filled with all sorts of OTHER stuff and my life made more sense
Then I got overloaded .. so much that the calender was too much
I'm 61 now ... I'm searching for a good calendar
Love to you TIME TWISTERS
Man, this makes me want to cry.
This sir has nailed it re: my life long struggles too. Im dumbfounded and sadly we are branded as addicts or LAZY...selfish, complaincent etc. Wish our peoples had this same knowledge!
Absolutely a revolutionary video for me. I have been diagnosed for almost a whole year, and have never understood so clearly what I go through every day. I am certain that this will help me beyond measure! It already has!!
Did you take medicine?
I love how clearly he explains this!
You’d video has described me at 33 years old for the last 2 years. Ive been struggling to function every single day & it had ruined my life. I have finally talked to my psychiatrist truthfully & am so grateful that this video can put into words exactly how my life has been going. Thank you for this!
Also - super funny, my package of fridge calendar magnets came in. There are 3 - it’s completely filled already & mainly stuff form this video so I don’t forget. Now I just need to do it
This is me 100%. This is the only thing that has made since of everything that I've been going through. Thank You for sharing
One of the most substantial talks about neurobiology I've ever listened to.
I think this is the best lecture I've ever seen about ADHD and its idiosyncrasies
Very enlightening and educational. From attention to performance deficit, makes a lot of difference to understand adhd.
I almost cried thinking I was a moral failure. I am both relieved and saddened by how my life has passed without this self-knowledge or the help I needed. I'm 68 years old.
This is by far the most accurate definition of ADHD. Never felt more understood. I saw it yesterday, my mind is still blown by his amazing understanding of ADHD (or IDD). Thank you Dr 🫶🏼
This guy kicks all ass in the known universe. Makes me cry that someone actually understands me. That he hands me the knowledge tools to make me able to externally organize my life. It’s not an attention disorder yo. Fist in the air power to this guy!!!
Stop reading comments and watch the video bro
Ha!!! Busted! 😂
the frontal lobe... the reason I was perceived as a "gifted" child who was "bored" in school... but now after surviving an overdose that stopped my heart/respiration (unconscious 30+ min) I can not keep an appointment, return a phone call (or check my voicemail), cook dinner in under 3 hours, or finish ANY simple task...
Ashley Boehm happened to me to, cause we don’t know when to stop
Google for Complex PTSD. Categories are fuzzy, but it might be useful.
Ashley, please take care of yourself. I was told that I was bright but needed to apply myself. I got tired of hearing that.
This guy can explain this so well that everyone understands. Genius.
I like this guy's voice, it calmed me down enough to finish this video in less than an hour
I wish every Professional knew what Dr. Berkley knows. The Life of millions of people would be so much greater. Not only those with ADHD but everybody around them would benefit massively.
"So it doesn't really matter what you know, you can't use it as effectively as other people can." This reminds me of when I was in "social thinking" therapy. I understood all the concepts and I could repeat it back easily. When I was in a group I'd often end up feeling like a second teacher. But I could never ever apply it in real life
Every college professor? 😅
Just so you know, a huge percentage of people with ADHD are on the autism spectrum. If you have ADHD and needed social thinking therapy, you are probably on the autism spectrum.
Amazing. Finding this video is a prime example of me getting off task aha. Sometimes I will be in the middle of something and then the next time I check its been an hour and I've been reading about things totally off topic and going down the rabbit hole
I am literally crying with gratitude because I can now understand why I am the way I am. Dr Russell you have changed my life and my outlook on ADHD. I wish I could give you more than just this comment to really thank you for this valuable knowledge 🥲 I pray you are blessed beyond imagination. Thank you soo much ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much! I am learning how to be a supportive parent to my 22 year old daughter. At the same time I realize that I also have strong trades of ADHD.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Your knowledge, substantive presentation, thoroughness on Attention Deficit Disorder are amazing. Thank you for your work to develop all this. My husband is a psychiatrist, i am an LPC, (ABD! I am ADD). We have been disappointed for years at the dearth of information about add, the inevitable, invariable misinformation by even psychiatrists and psychologists who have spoken in the public arena. Even tho we are seeing this in 2019, your information is as relevant as the latest. We are so dismayed by the lack of information to the public and the resistance in our society to believe in add and realize how impairing it is! Again, thank you for your presentations.
He's a pioneer. Its just fantastic to listen to him. I'm so glad its on YT otherwise I'd have to fly wherever, pay hotel and conference fees to get this tremendous info.
It's even harder to get a diagnosis and coaching and get on the right medications and have it all come together at the same time to make any real substantial changes. You throw a learning disability such a dsycalculia on top of this I feel like I should of been uthenized long time ago. I am almost 39 years old and this shit has as I see now has messed up everything in my life. EVERYTHING and now I don't know how to dig myself out of this hole I've managed to dig and buried myself under every facet in my life. I once had my shit together. Once had the home tried to give my kids better than what I had best public school district in our county. I worked so hard and some how it got all screwed up. My plans my future I had for us and tried to achieve with my childrens father. And it was obliterated. And I was left heartbroken. My ex could never tell me what I was doing wrong he just kept saying it's because of the way I am. I spent half my life with this man. I focused on my family and getting us to each milestone your supposed to achieve when your young and start a family. I never invested into myself I only invested into us. So I never learn a trade or got a degree. I've been a graveyard cocktail server or bartender most of my life. Who showed up late on a weekly basis. And now that I'm broke alone and unemployed I don't even know what skills I even have. Because I was never good at anything life has always been a struggle. But I had enough motivation and perseverance in me to make things happen. But I failed on knowing how to manage what went on in side the house because I didn't have a good role model either and was an only child to a single mom who I found out a couple years ago she has bpd but never disclosed any of that to me. how do you teach your kids what you don't know ? But know what they need? Or have the inability to control and suppress what is fustrating or irritating? I wear every emotion on my sleeve exposed for the entire world to see. It's something I'm ashamed of. And a week before I started my period my Lord I was like an emotional terrorist on a rollercoaster who broke off the handle until I started. EVERY MONTH. I mean no wonder everyone hates me....... How do you convey this shit to a professional you go to for help? You know that you need help and medications but don't excatly know what it is you need you just know your in the right area and you some sorta help that isn't typical but unclear what it is you just know you need it. And your therpists has limited knowledge how to deal with this or knows of the resources to set you up or connect you with for you to succeed because you need more help than he has the copasity or the availability to give you. This is ok this is understandable I get it. but I'm literally begging for help reaching out to actually get myself together and stop ruining everything I try to do or the relationships I have. Because I can't change what I don't know. The emotional dysregulation is the worst and most damaging of them all. Try getting help with what you don't fully understand but finally get validation through a RUclips video. Pretty pathetic. because you have no family, no cheerleading Support group, no one in your corner to run to or bail you out of a jam no one to catch you if you fall and you've pissed everyone off you know you've had to cut off your toxic mother who has always been in some werid competition with me unknowingly who also encouraged the father of my kids to leave me. . Now try to get help because your starting to recognize the same struggles you've had all your life and now your starting to see those struggles in your kids. And this is the last thing I want my kids to grow up and not have under control and managed properly as they reach adulthood. If I genetically passed down this bullshit to them I'd like for them to get it dialed in while they are young and not struggle at life so dang hard. I know my window of time is very small before I blow it with them through my ineffective parenting............yet I can't get a proper diagnosis and coaching to relearn how to be a grown up. And work around state insurance to make it possible
And it's not like the YMCA are handing out big brothers and big sisters to mentor middle aged single mom with 2 faces looking to her to role model for them right. To know what to do. To provide structure, routines, a sense of security, guidance help them succeed in school provide a roof over their heads and not fail them and let them down. I fail them everyday.
Because I can't get the right help to change what I know needs changing. I am at the lowest I've ever been. To where I want to give up so bad but I can't. Because I have 2 faces looking up at me to not let them down .