I feel like everything about a new relationship is based on fantasy and that’s why the moment something doesn’t feel right people will tend to write it off like it didn’t work out...
Moses Emmet is what you’re saying that the way to prevent a relationship ending prematurely is to instead of leaving early on because of the fantasy fading, is to try to make things work and seeing and accepting each other for who they are so love can grow?
Nataly well maybe don’t just stick around just to stick around... instead let some of the fantasy fall away and start getting interested in putting the work in to really learn who the person is... then maybe after some more time (dates) you can decide if the person you now KNOW is someone you want to be with more long term...
Lust vs Love: 1. Physical vs Emotional 2. Weaker vs Stronger over time. 3. Base on Fantasy vs Reality 4. Romantic Partner vs Lifelong friend 5. Thrill Seeking vs Pursuit of Stability 6. Selfish vs Selfless
Really glad you made this video, I think it's something that a lot of people don't think about. Women release a really unique chemical when they have an orgasm, and the only other time this is released, is when they breastfeed, it's a bonding chemical. Which is not really "Love" It's really interesting. Blows me away how often you guys upload, I struggle with twice per month lol.
Seeing you grow from 30k subs to your present 250k, You have been using the same generic reply on all the big channels as a form of subtle advertising... with your manipulative ways, how are you fit to offer pesudo-advice?
Lust is when he decides ur an old shoes...love is not in his vocabulary. To men is the same as lust. Ladies...men actually believe we don't lust! Hahahahahahaha. OK!
@@undeadwarrior3867 loneliness is torture for me when i have friends and lose them but when i dont have any friend and feel lonely i can just play with my pets but there is alot of deseases
The girl i currently like isnt the much of a beautiful person nor an ugly one, but her personality makes her the most beautiful princess in my eyes. Yeah i guess thats love :3
I'm so glad you fell in love with her personality. Eventually, looks wear off anyway and psychologists have argued it becomes less significant over time. What do you like most about her?
@@Psych2go since i cant find 1 thing i like most about her ill just tell you that she is generally a kind, positive and welcoming person. Also she's an introvert, and im usually more attracted to introverts somehow.
Wouldn't lust evolve and not just disappear in a love relationship? I'm not sure how sacrifice is being used here. Support, authenticity, intellectual connection, mutual caring, committment to each other and building together & individually, etc... Maybe I read into the sacrifice as more codependency & that doesn't seem like love to me because it lacks self love. Idk. 🤔
Love is when you just want to be them at all times even if you don't have sex. And no matter how imperfect your partner is you love them for their imperfections. While lust is just craving for your animal needs.
This is precise and very much on point. It's just so sad knowing that there are some people who genuinely want LOVE but end up meeting and having a relationship with people who only want LUST. They are blinded by their feelings and choose to settle down for less.
I once “dated” (he didn’t really consider it one) a guy but he only used me for his weird somewhat desires whenever he wanted to do something bad but I never let him do anything to me he always told his friends that I was his gf. He had lust my bf now is considerate and caring he has love. 💙
Kinda had the similar thing about this girl I used to hook up with. She came out of nowhere just hit me up and called me and said was DTF. Me being the lonely simp I am I said okay (I am not the type of person to only be in a relationship with a girl to have sex. I will catch feelings one way or another) the only reason I said yes to this girl was because I was a virgin and lonely. (was 16 at the time) so boom we started hooking up cracked a few jokes etc but we didn’t really have any similarities. I liked rap music while she liked artists from other genres, she had different tastes in clothing while i also did as well, she had no hobbies while I’ll liked to play video games. We couldn’t even really conversate either, and if we did it was only about our sex. I was so infatuated with her that I started telling people about her and calling her my girlfriend. Told me that she loved me during sex so we could continue having sex. Later on I asked her “what are we” and she was like “idk”. “Are we in a relationship?” “No” “then what is the point?” “Because it’s fun” and that ladies and gentlemen is what lust is. It’s meaningless, it’s fun, but it’s never gonna go anywhere. Whether you like it or not. I was ready to move forward while she was not.
So glad to hear you found someone better who treats you right! :) Never settle for anything less! ♥ How long have you and your current bf been together?
I have something similar but still to this day. We were friends since 2nd grade and then approached me at age 16 asking to be friends with benefits (I wasn't quitr happy with the idea). We never had sex since I show no advances and usually turn the idea down so our relationship is a wierd "friends with no benefits but we sometimes text/meet eachother and cuddle". I know I always have my guard up since I don't want to go through a heartbreak so therefore I actively shut my feelings down. It's been 7 years now
Lust: a chemical reaction in the brain that makes you want to procreate. Love: a chemical reaction in the brain that makes you want to nurture that creation. Simples 👍🏻
My and my boyfriend have a whole lot of both. We have waves of lust that comes and goes, and what’s left is this burning desire to make the other feel loved and wanted, even if it means giving something up. There have been times where I’ve worked really hard one day so I could relax with him the next day, and once he was really sick and I biked all the way to his house in the dark to bring him a care package and gave myself a stomach ache. He gets on me about eating and will go out of his way to make sure I have food, we both keep our ringers up at night in case the other needs someone in the middle of the night (which has happened before too). I think we have the perfect balance. 💜
Try to get to know someone you're into that seems compatible with you on a personal level more deeply. Love is basically a feeling of empathy, wanting to help, cherishing the other person so much you're willing to go through that and so on.
Stretop Overmind but you don’t understand. We want something more than “fun”. “Fun” is temporary. “Fun” is for laughs and giggles. “Fun” is meaningless.
I'm glad you guys touched upon this subject, it really is one that many people overlook. However, there were a few points I disagreed with. It says that a relationship cannot be formed without that sort of desire for someone, and that lust is often a stepping stone in a relationship. I personally disagree with this, as I have grown up around people who do not have that sort of feeling for their partner at first. They always feel a deep trust for them at first, and get intimate later, usually after they are married. I have usually believed that this is a sign for a good, long relationship if two people don't just start off with lust. But, it is your video. I'm not saying the video was bad, since I'm not even close to a professional like you guys! Plus, I mostly agreed with everything else in this video. Thanks for bothering to read the comment, by the way, and I hope you make it an amazing week! :)
I completely agree with this. Lust isn’t always a driving factor for a relationship to form. In my case, I didn’t start dating until after I formed a really close bond with my best friend. Of course there’s not really much we can do with the relationship since we’re in high school, but we’re still giving the relationship a try
That's a great point of discussion! Lust doesn't always have to proceed love. Have an amazing week! Are there any other points you feel could be highlighted for discussions?
Yes, I also agree with you. Normally lust is useless for the beginning if you are looking for a true and sincere love, what is only profitable in this case is mutual trust, but trust can only be built if many conditions meet together, it's not easy at all, it demands time and a lot of care, patience and prudence.
- They always feel a deep trust for them at first, and get intimate later, usually after they are married. Isn't it adorable how skilfully humans manage to convince themselves that they like what they have, if they are certain, that they are not going to get anything else? =) Lust is a very intricate system of choosing healthy and genetically compatible mate, it is refined through billions of years of iterations. Love (as something completely separate from lust) is a social construct from Medieval Ages. Why would anyone trust the latter over the former - now that's a mystery.
I don't really do lust, I'd rather get to know someone and then get together, because then I know if I can trust them. Lust is a young person's thing and all of the people I've dated basd on that hurt me.
I agree, society nowadays are too focus on external and superficial stuff. Based on your experience, what advice will you give for those who is going through similar situation?
@@SevCaswell Lol! There are studies done suggesting that your prefrontal context stops working properly when you see something attractive. www.rebelcircus.com/blog/happens-brain-around-attractive-people/
Maybe this is why I fall in love with my friends. I lust after literally anyone, but I only seem to love my closest friend. The only thing different from a normal friendship is I want to show them how much I truly appreciate them
I don't care about how she looks, I care about her personality and both of us like Star Wars, like almost the same food, and there's some others but, don't wanna explain us on the internet. Lol. I think we are Love, Idk. Most likely because we barely see each other so. Have a good day! Edit: nvm. My RUclips needs to refresh!
Same I have a crush on this girl and it different from other girls that I have a crush on I just felt this connection that I don't feel a with others girls can't explain it but it different Edit: different in a good way
As a person that reads fanfics.. I'm like OKAY writers and readers need to see this good thing most the ones I read begin with lust and then ends up as love. but that happens after a very big drama
@@Psych2go WOW! I didn't expect that. LoL 😊 That's a tough question! I would have to say take your time, don't be in a rush just to say you're in a relationship. Be friends first. You have plenty of time. Don't let your hormones lead your heart! I made my mistakes too. It's difficult when we first start dating. Everything is shiny and new and exciting. Don't let the novelty fool you.
@@jeniwatkins3297 Jeni, thanks for sharing your insights! I agree. Not allowing your hormones to lead your heart is key. There's no rush. Slow and steady creates a great foundation to get to know someone. :)
Lust is satisfying your needs. I don’t know why lust is always associated with liking someone’s looks. You could not be bothered by how someone looks and still lust them. It’s just the desire to have your needs met.
I would disagree. You see, the only reason that love exists is for humans to pass along their genes to the next generation. I understand that it is very taboo to think this way because pop culture and media have influenced our perception of love. Now, everyone believes that love is some whimsical, magical thing that is beautiful and glorious when that is simply not the case. It is cliche and an over-played trope in TV and books, one that I have grown bored of. My opinion aside; humans are wired to seek out certain characteristics in a potential mate. Symmetrical facial features, for one. If someone has a symmetrical face, this indicates good genes, which means healthy offspring. Now, I am not saying that this applies to everyone (I have seen some er... interesting couples before. Yeah, let's go with that), but for the most part, people seek out others with good genes as a mate.
@@maestrulgamer9695 Well, I was talking about love between couples. The love you are describing here is familial. You are more likely to survive if you love your family and your family loves you. You will spend a large chunk of your life with them. But I must remind you that not everyone loves their families.
Love is beyond this world it's something which is inside you. You don't want anything from that person as u have got everything as they are totally in ur heart.
Love is sacrifice and putting the other person first. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is forgiveness and not holding grudges. Lust is selfish it’s all about what I want from this person when I barely know them.
I think people can love each other without lust. Personally, I'd rather the sexual feelings come at a later time, so the trust can be established first.
@@Psych2go well currently I'm taking a break from relationships and all , and I'm focusing more on my friendships , and who knows maybe love will find it's way to me 😊 thanks for your support , love y'all so much , and hope you keep it up like that (huge fan of your work) ❤️
Sometimes when we're so used to our significant other's big gestures, little things tend to be missed like unexpected hand holding can light that back up
I find this stuff really interesting because I’m going through what I believe are the first stages of a loving, potentially long-lasting relationship, yet sometimes find myself conflicted as my previous relationship was most certainly built on lust and had a string of red flags I was too blind to see. With my lust relationship, it only lasted 3 months but it took me 3 years to get over it. I thought I was in love with him, but really it was the chemical reaction in my brain that had fallen for him, and despite the lying, double life, and all the other things he was doing behind my back, I had convinced myself it was real love - because how else could I feel so strongly attracted to every single thing about him? When I was with him, around him, talking to him, I felt constantly nervous, excited, giddy, as though I had to be on my best behaviour, be funny, be intelligent, and not slip up. Eventually this became exhausting and anxiety inducing, but I was addicted to the rush he gave me. Fast forward 3 years and I’ve finally moved past what he ‘could have offered’, I’ve met someone else, but this time it’s entirely different. I’ve met someone and we’ve been doing by long distance for 6 months, yet our relationship hasn’t been better. It’s going slowly but surely upwards, he’s proving with his actions and words that he is committed to a future together and is making active steps towards this. I’m not a secret, there’s no double life, he’s a real gentle, kind, beautiful person. I feel very secure and comfortable around him, and I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells, or like I have to be on my best behaviour. I feel adored and wanted and admired. The only thing that I find myself thinking about though, is that because I don’t have that ‘lusty’ overwhelming feeling around him, that I sometimes wonder what I should be looking for or accepting? Which one is better for me or what kind of feeling is the right one? I have moments where I look at my new partner and consider myself extremely lucky to have met such a hidden gem, but then I wonder why I’m not elevating him to godlike status as with my previous relationship… It can be confusing, but if I’m honest, I think this guy really is amazing, and I’m very lucky to have him in my life. I’m excited to see how our relationship develops for the long run, and I do believe the love will build slowly but surely over time, and we are both making actual, real commitments together. I guess it’s just new territory! So something I have to get used to 😌
The feeling of take, take, take - is LUST The feeling of give, give, give - is LOVE The feeling of give and take, give and take, give and take - is business/deal/to compromise (in relationships there is no deal)
I don't think you HAVE to feel lust/sexual lust to have a relationship. Think asexuals, for example. And what about demisexuals who don't feel lust/sexual attraction until knowing the person better? (Loose explanation, sorry!)
Yeah. I'm ace and genuinely love my boyfriend. For some time I never really considered being in a relationship an option as I never felt that attraction others were describing all the time, but there was something else, still. I randomly started taking a strong interest in what he likes because I thought he was an interesting person to be around. Mhm. And also I thought (/think lmao) he was aethetically pleasing, but that was something I don't think about too much when I'm friends, never really mattered a lot to me. It was much more about that sudden spark of interest in his mind. Never felt sexually attracted to him, not even now, and sensual things started pretty much exactly after a year of making romantic intentions clear so thaaat took pretty long I guess, haha. We both didn't need it. So yeah, it's different but feels just as genuine.
Izzie K Well, if you remove the sexual part of lust, and simplify it to the ‘this person makes me feel good’ part, then i dont think it’s impossible for aces to feel lust? It just be a very different sort of lust
@JazzyGuns Highlights it could be one of two things: 1) You just haven’t met the right people 2) You may be a gray-ace. Of course this is my opinion, as there are many different versions of ace and aero.
I problably see my former Relationship in this again. i had no lust (still dont expierence sexual atrraction) and just wanted to help my partner with his problems and making him happy, but he only had lust and wanted to change me so i can be "perfect" for him. The Relationship got very toxic at the end. I should have known im Ace before i got in this relationship, now im kinda brokem but at least i've learned from this! xD
Me too. He's my first bf and I felt romantically atracted to him, but the he ask me if I wanted to have sex. I'm 23 and I felt scared and gross. I really like him, I feel the connection between us so does he, but I'm not into sex and now I'm afraid he won't like me anymore :(
This weekend I found myself doing battle with this situation within myself. I was aware but did not overthink. I listened as much as I talked, laughed often and resonated with his compliments. I am staring at 11 roses ( he got jipped) and a half eaten box of the Ferrero Collection hoping that we will see each other again. This video gave me something that no baptist sermon ever could. Thank you ...
@@Psych2go beacuse every time i have a chance to be in relationship or be close to someone i'll start building this imaginary barier between us and start sabotaging my self I think i have childhood trauma and im scared to be vulnerable This is why it makes my life complicated Thanks for asking :)
@@luna-si2of I'm sorry to hear, and completely understand. I'm scared of being let down and hurt. Even now in my current relationship, I'm still scared, but everyday, I try to tame my fears and tell myself the person who I'm with cares about me, and even though we have our bad days, we never stop trying. Would you like to get better at relationships? What do you think you can do differently to get you where you want to be?
True difference between lust and love is sacrifice........ lust says I can sacrifice something as long as I get something in return. Love is just sacrifice..... plan and simple... if you see your self giving selflessly with wanting nothing in return..... then that is love....
"Lust happens when you and your partner don't have much to talk about" I can't really talk to anyone , not because I am shy , but because I don't know how. It means i can't ever fall in love with someone? (I don't know why or how can't I talk, and also I don't really have friends) I'm sorry if what I'm saying is not so understandable and I'm also sorry for my grammer and spelling mistakes.
Zsófia Várkonyi talking to your partner involves opening up to him which also means trusting so with that said, I'm getting a feeling that that's what you have trouble with. You don't feel like he's worth your trust.
Hi Zsofia! You are not alone, I am also trouble in communication but I'd learned and get confidence listening to "DAN O'CONNOR" here in RUclips. Pls kindly check it Out,it will really help you promised
I wish this info would have been taught in high school. This is everything my lusty marriage was based on! Three kids later. Day late dollar short! Oh well hope some young person is watching and gets it! Thanks
No question that my fiance and I are in love, we were best friends before we even got together and 3 years into being together we're still best friends.
I'm really in my feels about this girl and I know I'm going to leave my current school soon. I cry everyday knowing that I can't get her, she's not the prettiest in my class but there's something about her that is so attractive. I'm usually nice to people but I'm too shy to be nice to her and talk to her and now I'm scared that she thinks I don't care about her. She just seems to never pay attention to me and resists even looking at me. When other people belittle me she seems to take it personally but maybe she does that for all people. I don't like my smile so I always resist laughing when she can see me. Whenever I feel stressed or worried about something I just imagine that she's sitting there with me and I feel better. I just feel so happy and sometimes sad around her and I don't know why. I try to be nice always but I'm so shy.
This helped me diagnose my feeling for my ex. It was and still is love. It was lust at first, but over time it became love... at least for me. It’s love because I can’t do much of anything without thinking of her and how she made me feel when we talked and how we loved the same things. Guess I wasn’t good enough.
Truth. I'm an asexual and dont think that lust has anything to do with being in a good relationship. I don't experience lust but am in love with my boyfriend. But every relationship is different
If you train yourself to be sensitive to your brain you can even sense the chemical change inside your brain and so you can definitely tell the different feeling between lust and love. When there's lust, it feels like some fluid flows around the body from your brain. When there's love, it feels like you fall in love with yourself because you just love the quality of the other person including flaws and fault like you accept and forgive your flaws and fault.
Lust is like looking at life through rose tinted glasses, you tend to ignore the red flags. Meanwhile love you understand each others flaws and fault and work on it together
I believe it is all the more reason to abstain from sex before marriage. That say, we will spend more time trying to make the relationship work instead of getting pulled along by lust until we suffer both regret and heartbreak. Also, by keeping oneself for the right committed partner, we won't be easily tempted to cheat. But this is more of an individual loyalty. But studies have shown that those who spent their first time with their spouse are less inclined to cheat than those who experienced multiple partners before marriage. After all, once you have tasted multiple partners, having only one for a lifetime could seem rather boring and bland. Not to mention the rush of going along with lust is like a thrill.
Thanks. This helped me realize that I was lusting for someone and TRYING to develop it into love and so were they but we were both trying to develop in completely opposite areas. As a result, each one of us was trying to individually and single handedly develop an area of the relationship the other was refusing to tend to and instead of working together to get it ALL done we beat each other up over not recieving help with with the area we chose to care about most. 😐 And we are pretty much done now 😞 But at least now I see how it happened 🤔
Honestly, I feel both towards a very special friend of mine. I feel so safe around them, like I can tell them anything. But also feel such physical attraction to them, because they are so beautiful. It feels like no matter what I do, I’ll always fall for them
@@Psych2go For me, I'm demisexual, and after I start crushing on someone the attraction comes in - but appearance doesn't do anything for me initially :) It's the personality that draws me in first, then I start being attracted to their physical appearance
Perfect video. It's funny how many couples claim their in love with their partners when, most of their time is spent trying to plz the flesh but, wen it comes to the realness of engaging in a conversation, there is minimal communication.
I think that this video was a great source of information, sadly more for understanding other people than for me. As an Asexual who doesn't feel lust at all and doesn't really want to get intimate with my partner, I can say that lust is not needed for a relationship, because as you said, love is more like a life long friendship. Otherwise, great points to start from to understnd others, thank you!
i was never driven by how a person looks, rather, what they enjoy doing. it's quite hard to find people similar to me but i kept trying and now i'm happy
I was in a lust relationship where I loved as well, for 10 years... by some magic of the universe I'm falling in love with someone. Crazy how long you can work on a relationship that doesnt work out. But even more heart pounding is falling in love. It's an absolute gift.
I'm not in any relationship and never have been. But i had this really close friend who moved far away due to his father's transfer. We have known each other since we were born. Now, he only comes to meet me and my family with his family every once in a few years. I miss him daily and even shed some tears every now and then. It's been more than 5 years of me just missing him. When he comes after a long time we just waste time by not talking and just blushing away. I think about him all the time, and i don't know what this is and i don't know what to do...
@@mikoswhackgameandstuffvids480 No worries~ Sorry for the delay! We were overly perfectionist in terms of who to assign it to, that we ended up taking forever. Hope you like the end product! :)
@@justinabakugou5813 Maybe he is not the one. Believe! In india, we pray Goddes Radha❤ as goddes of love. You will find someone. I know it's not easy to get out of it. But you have to forget him. You can do it. You will find your love. But if you truly love him!then I wanna ask Do you really love him from your soul? Do you love him more than yourself? Do you expect nothing from him and still love him? Do you want him to be happy even after he rejected you? If Yes , then just love him . If he is the one you will have him.
I love how calmly you guys assure people who still have problems with their feelngs or thoughts that it's never too late for them ,Please keep up the amazing work❤🎉💥💙✊👌
Watching this and thinking about my crush . I refused to accept that I feel something for him but now I just can’t hide it 😢😢cause those feelings never fade away even after 2 years 🥺. I don’t think iam beautiful iam more like an average girl while he is beautiful , so I don’t think he likes me 😭😭I wish I could scream I love u when he asks “why are u sad “ , I wish I can tell iam sad cause I love u but I choosed to hide my feelings , I wish u will say , I love u too 😢😢😢
eri exo You need to tell him. Sure, he might reject you, but then you can move on and find someone who will like you. And if he does like you he might end up thinking you don't and you'll lose him.
My sweetheart is GORGEOUS, while I don't have so much in terms of classic good looks anymore. Surprisingly, he is not a narcissist! and he thinks I am beautiful, and has from the time he first saw my picture. If I can get a tall, gorgeous Marine, who still has a six-pack while well-into his 40s, you can get your dreamboat, too!
Nobody: Love or Lust
Me: Lost
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Me too lol
same :,(
Hahaha
I feel like everything about a new relationship is based on fantasy and that’s why the moment something doesn’t feel right people will tend to write it off like it didn’t work out...
Moses Emmet is what you’re saying that the way to prevent a relationship ending prematurely is to instead of leaving early on because of the fantasy fading, is to try to make things work and seeing and accepting each other for who they are so love can grow?
Nataly well maybe don’t just stick around just to stick around... instead let some of the fantasy fall away and start getting interested in putting the work in to really learn who the person is... then maybe after some more time (dates) you can decide if the person you now KNOW is someone you want to be with more long term...
So true!
I have recently got out of a relationship and I have had the same situation, just on the other end.
@@MosesEmmet
Absolutely agree
I was married in November of 1986 I still can't wait to get home to my best friend :-)
Gregg Sannes you married your dog?
Awww that's sweet
@@shaneryan6691 no but my dog did give his blessing for our marriage who do you think my best man was:-)
Gregg Sannes
Good for you
I’m glad at least some marriages still working!!
What a lucky man! What a lucky lady
Lust is selfish, it's the desire to take. Love is selfless, it's the desire to give.
you are so right
Hahah, this is combination with your nick is 10/10
Thank you! Thats love!
Love has nothing to do with genitals
Your Favorite Lifecoach your sexual experience is much better when you’re in love with the person.
WHAT IS LOVE
BABY DON'T HURT ME
DON'T HURT ME
NO MORE
What is love - bastille
"What is love" - every single ever
DUN DUN DUN
Head banging intestines
"I wanna know know know what is love?"
Lust can ruin a relationship. No joke.
Anything CAN
Ann Tenebro but your profile pic😂
Yes but its absence can be harmful as well.
Meme Moyra Is that a serious question?
But for that relationship is also needed
True love is when your crush gets a haircut and you still like them
Heard that somewhere before! haha
YES!
Watermelon In A Blender relatable AF
omg..I feel like im in elementary school again
So true lol 😆
Fanfic writers need to see this
katherine ben I agree lmao
That why i'm here baby..
Lmfaooo
Silvia Eaber
Too much Jamilton smut.
I like porn with feelings :3
Yes PLEASE
Lust vs Love:
1. Physical vs Emotional
2. Weaker vs Stronger over time.
3. Base on Fantasy vs Reality
4. Romantic Partner vs Lifelong friend
5. Thrill Seeking vs Pursuit of Stability
6. Selfish vs Selfless
Super! This comment needs to go up
Awesome saved a lot of time
I look for comments like these all the time
thank you. As a side note, lust sounds like so much more fun
Apparently I've got both.
7: One causes wet dreams. The other takes the kids.
Lol
You mean Karen
Doe Best comment ever
lmao
Good one
*LAUGHS IN LONELINESS*
True
Is there someone you'd like to be in a relationship with?
@@Psych2go
I love all of them
All the nice people at church and school
They are too perfect and wonderful
Why the hell would they want to talk to me
@@theconductoresplin8092 Why wouldn't they want to talk to you? Don't say that about yourself, I bet they're lucky to have interacted with you!
@@Psych2go
Hmm you make a good point
I always saw myself as beneath wemon
What I can do a woman can 10x as better
Theodore Reik said, "Lust wants any woman. Love wants this woman."
Sach meh?
Write
It hits hard..
@Jessica Hicking yea
Nope it's not necessary. Lust can also be for a particular woman.
Really glad you made this video, I think it's something that a lot of people don't think about. Women release a really unique chemical when they have an orgasm, and the only other time this is released, is when they breastfeed, it's a bonding chemical. Which is not really "Love" It's really interesting.
Blows me away how often you guys upload, I struggle with twice per month lol.
They're a team if I remember correctly, so it's normal they upload more frequently
Avoiding cuddling help cut the bond. For women who do no strings attached things eventually learn this
I requested this video like 3 times and Psych finally listened.
Masculine man can you STOP advertising your channel under the guise of complimenting all the big channels? You are sickening.
Seeing you grow from 30k subs to your present 250k, You have been using the same generic reply on all the big channels as a form of subtle advertising... with your manipulative ways, how are you fit to offer pesudo-advice?
Lust is when you fall for someone’s appearance, love is when you fall for someone’s personality.
Yes!
What about both?
Love requires both for everyone
Haughty Willow or you have sex with two weeks of meeting
@StaRFox brooooooo wow
I'll make it easy for you..
Lust fades when you realize there are other fish in sea.
Love doesn't fade, because the other fish aren't all the same
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Wow that's deep
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Lust is when he decides ur an old shoes...love is not in his vocabulary. To men is the same as lust. Ladies...men actually believe we don't lust! Hahahahahahaha. OK!
So I will suffer forever. Okay... :(
I never have lust or love. I'm sad and lonely.
love and lust sucks being lonely is really greater and better for your health
@@alaa5754 cant agree
Loneliness can be torture
@@undeadwarrior3867 loneliness is torture for me when i have friends and lose them but when i dont have any friend and feel lonely i can just play with my pets but there is alot of deseases
You’re probably Ace/Aro. Congratulations!
@@undeadwarrior3867 life still sucks
The girl i currently like isnt the much of a beautiful person nor an ugly one, but her personality makes her the most beautiful princess in my eyes.
Yeah i guess thats love :3
I'm so glad you fell in love with her personality. Eventually, looks wear off anyway and psychologists have argued it becomes less significant over time. What do you like most about her?
@@Psych2go since i cant find 1 thing i like most about her ill just tell you that she is generally a kind, positive and welcoming person. Also she's an introvert, and im usually more attracted to introverts somehow.
That's relatable
@@Psych2go I have a crush on someone, and it's because of his personality. I like how he is nice to everyone, and I like how he's a great friend.
same.
i love my boy because we have fun together and he makes me laugh and smile.
but he says...
we’re just friends.
It’s awful when you’re in love but your spouse is in lust. 💔
Definitely :/
Facts 💔
Yep sure is !!!
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😬😭
This was very needed, thank you.
Which points did you resonate with most?
Psych2Go mainly the point that it fades after a while, and you put them before anything else
Wouldn't lust evolve and not just disappear in a love relationship? I'm not sure how sacrifice is being used here. Support, authenticity, intellectual connection, mutual caring, committment to each other and building together & individually, etc... Maybe I read into the sacrifice as more codependency & that doesn't seem like love to me because it lacks self love. Idk. 🤔
You also needed life😩
Lust- temporary more of a primal attraction, with short term relationship.
Love- giving and compromising not just based on physical, but mental.
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Relationships are built on communication and both parties listening to each others needs. No matter if it's physical or mental health.
Love is when you just want to be them at all times even if you don't have sex.
And no matter how imperfect your partner is you love them for their imperfections.
While lust is just craving for your animal needs.
@StaRFox yeah but it's a bit different from lust
@StaRFox Basically being selfish
@ Then get a divorce! You can find so much better trust me!
@ Well... Why didnt you see his personality first before you get married?
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Divorce
I only realized that the tree in the Intro is shaped like a brain now
Ow thanks, I just noticed it xD
@@ame_vagabonde Same LMAO
...I never knew
*Until now...*
Lmfao me too
Same ..😂
ok, I have finally decided. I am in lust with chocolate.
oh god no
And consequently in love with diabetes
@@ADRENERGlC nah, no one LOVES diabetes.
yes
Well good for you *takes out chips*
When you’re wearing rose coloured glasses, all the red flags just look like flags
That bojack horseman reference is on point
TrICksTeR :O
This is precise and very much on point. It's just so sad knowing that there are some people who genuinely want LOVE but end up meeting and having a relationship with people who only want LUST. They are blinded by their feelings and choose to settle down for less.
Yeah, sometimes feelings can make us unaware that we deserve so much better. What would you advice to those who are in that situation?
Exactly 👍
I once “dated” (he didn’t really consider it one) a guy but he only used me for his weird somewhat desires whenever he wanted to do something bad but I never let him do anything to me he always told his friends that I was his gf. He had lust my bf now is considerate and caring he has love. 💙
Kinda had the similar thing about this girl I used to hook up with. She came out of nowhere just hit me up and called me and said was DTF. Me being the lonely simp I am I said okay (I am not the type of person to only be in a relationship with a girl to have sex. I will catch feelings one way or another) the only reason I said yes to this girl was because I was a virgin and lonely. (was 16 at the time) so boom we started hooking up cracked a few jokes etc but we didn’t really have any similarities. I liked rap music while she liked artists from other genres, she had different tastes in clothing while i also did as well, she had no hobbies while I’ll liked to play video games. We couldn’t even really conversate either, and if we did it was only about our sex. I was so infatuated with her that I started telling people about her and calling her my girlfriend. Told me that she loved me during sex so we could continue having sex. Later on I asked her “what are we” and she was like “idk”. “Are we in a relationship?” “No” “then what is the point?” “Because it’s fun” and that ladies and gentlemen is what lust is. It’s meaningless, it’s fun, but it’s never gonna go anywhere. Whether you like it or not. I was ready to move forward while she was not.
So glad to hear you found someone better who treats you right! :) Never settle for anything less! ♥ How long have you and your current bf been together?
Psych2Go Me and him have been together for 3 years so far 😊
I have something similar but still to this day. We were friends since 2nd grade and then approached me at age 16 asking to be friends with benefits (I wasn't quitr happy with the idea). We never had sex since I show no advances and usually turn the idea down so our relationship is a wierd "friends with no benefits but we sometimes text/meet eachother and cuddle". I know I always have my guard up since I don't want to go through a heartbreak so therefore I actively shut my feelings down. It's been 7 years now
Kegne kenkai
Even if you are friends don’t ever let them take advantage of you
You’re a strong person
💙 hope you’re having a nice day
Lust: a chemical reaction in the brain that makes you want to procreate.
Love: a chemical reaction in the brain that makes you want to nurture that creation. Simples 👍🏻
Lol, procreate
@Daniel Grigg yup
I think I like your interpretation the most.
@@dragnstuf 😂
Exactly!
My and my boyfriend have a whole lot of both. We have waves of lust that comes and goes, and what’s left is this burning desire to make the other feel loved and wanted, even if it means giving something up. There have been times where I’ve worked really hard one day so I could relax with him the next day, and once he was really sick and I biked all the way to his house in the dark to bring him a care package and gave myself a stomach ache. He gets on me about eating and will go out of his way to make sure I have food, we both keep our ringers up at night in case the other needs someone in the middle of the night (which has happened before too).
I think we have the perfect balance. 💜
@@rylenejade I feel this on another level
As cliché this might sound, love and rationale, that's what humanity needs at this point
Sounds like you have a good thing going
he’s a keeper. No questions asked
Aww im happy for you even if you MAY break up live on forevermore lol 😆
Now I realise I've only have lust in my life...
I'm kinda depressed now
Me too
LFC Rules look on the bright side, some of us don't even have that ;-;
Try to get to know someone you're into that seems compatible with you on a personal level more deeply. Love is basically a feeling of empathy, wanting to help, cherishing the other person so much you're willing to go through that and so on.
- I've only have lust in my life...
Said as if it is something bad. Come on, lust is fun.
Stretop Overmind but you don’t understand. We want something more than “fun”. “Fun” is temporary. “Fun” is for laughs and giggles. “Fun” is meaningless.
Love is when you miss him and cuddling with your teddybear while imagining his smile... :3
I fall in love with my fictional crush, and I do that, does that count?.. OwO.
I'm sorry if you don't understand
I'm glad you guys touched upon this subject, it really is one that many people overlook. However, there were a few points I disagreed with.
It says that a relationship cannot be formed without that sort of desire for someone, and that lust is often a stepping stone in a relationship. I personally disagree with this, as I have grown up around people who do not have that sort of feeling for their partner at first. They always feel a deep trust for them at first, and get intimate later, usually after they are married. I have usually believed that this is a sign for a good, long relationship if two people don't just start off with lust. But, it is your video. I'm not saying the video was bad, since I'm not even close to a professional like you guys! Plus, I mostly agreed with everything else in this video. Thanks for bothering to read the comment, by the way, and I hope you make it an amazing week! :)
I completely agree with this. Lust isn’t always a driving factor for a relationship to form. In my case, I didn’t start dating until after I formed a really close bond with my best friend. Of course there’s not really much we can do with the relationship since we’re in high school, but we’re still giving the relationship a try
That's a great point of discussion! Lust doesn't always have to proceed love. Have an amazing week! Are there any other points you feel could be highlighted for discussions?
Same most of my relationships started from wanting to be closer to someone
I usually start as friends with someone myself
Yes, I also agree with you. Normally lust is useless for the beginning if you are looking for a true and sincere love, what is only profitable in this case is mutual trust, but trust can only be built if many conditions meet together, it's not easy at all, it demands time and a lot of care, patience and prudence.
- They always feel a deep trust for them at first, and get intimate later, usually after they are married.
Isn't it adorable how skilfully humans manage to convince themselves that they like what they have, if they are certain, that they are not going to get anything else? =)
Lust is a very intricate system of choosing healthy and genetically compatible mate, it is refined through billions of years of iterations. Love (as something completely separate from lust) is a social construct from Medieval Ages. Why would anyone trust the latter over the former - now that's a mystery.
"lust is the first stage of love"
childhood friends that started loving each other : nope
lust is based on fantasy~
yea I had a crush on my bf since like first grade and we just started dating (I'm in 9th grade)
Strong connections with the other person after a long time can lead to love indeed!
True love is when your other starts sharing high quality dank memes
True m8
But im not gay
This is how I know someone is a good friend so I should probably apply it to romantic partners too
WISEST MAN ON EARTH
Bro you might just help me
I don't really do lust, I'd rather get to know someone and then get together, because then I know if I can trust them. Lust is a young person's thing and all of the people I've dated basd on that hurt me.
I agree, society nowadays are too focus on external and superficial stuff. Based on your experience, what advice will you give for those who is going through similar situation?
@@Psych2go If you feel like you're unable to think around someone then run, they are mostly likely manipulating you.
SevCaswell Omg, thank you so much for that comment 🙏🏻
@@SevCaswell Lol! There are studies done suggesting that your prefrontal context stops working properly when you see something attractive. www.rebelcircus.com/blog/happens-brain-around-attractive-people/
Lust is beauty⚡
Maybe this is why I fall in love with my friends. I lust after literally anyone, but I only seem to love my closest friend. The only thing different from a normal friendship is I want to show them how much I truly appreciate them
Whatever I Want Channel same
Awareness is always the first step
Love or Lust?
Me: lonely
Im here for you bro
Me too,!! but who's here for me?😔😝 im lonely as well
Same
SAMEEEE
Welcome to the club
3:13
"Cocaine is a hell of a drug"
champagne, cocaine, gasoline, and most things in between-
I read that in the voice
*insert crazy cockatoo*
Lmaoo
Lust is the love for flesh and desires that come with it. Love on the other hand is genuine.
That's right!
"Being in love is like being on drugs, without the potential of brain damage"
~Jontron
I guess the last point is debatable...
Ok the last half is debatable
Hilarious
And without the high
When the eyes blink it's Lust but when the heart blinks it's Love!
Haha, great way to put it! :) Have you been in love or lust?
I don't care about how she looks, I care about her personality and both of us like Star Wars, like almost the same food, and there's some others but, don't wanna explain us on the internet. Lol. I think we are Love, Idk. Most likely because we barely see each other so. Have a good day!
Edit: nvm. My RUclips needs to refresh!
Same I have a crush on this girl and it different from other girls that I have a crush on I just felt this connection that I don't feel a with others girls can't explain it but it different
Edit: different in a good way
No man lust is literally biological you like em for how well fit they are for reproduction
I-I just wanna find another emo-trash geek bookworm thing that plays Guitar Hero and DnD with me. Is that too much to ask???
@@yuunishinoya2530 apparently the universe thinks so .
Ok Ted Mosby
As a person that reads fanfics.. I'm like
OKAY writers and readers need to see this
good thing most the ones I read begin with lust and then ends up as love. but that happens after a very big drama
That happens a lot in real life though, starts with lust leads to love!
Wattpad stories enter
Sex & Love | JJK: uhm--
Experiencing life changing events together can see the other person in a whole new perspective!
Good advice. More young folks need to understand the difference. They struggle to differentiate the two and think lust is love, when it isn't
I still wonder why my peers are in one week relationships
Thank you. I agree too! What advice would you recommend to the younger generation?
@@Psych2go WOW! I didn't expect that. LoL 😊
That's a tough question! I would have to say take your time, don't be in a rush just to say you're in a relationship. Be friends first. You have plenty of time. Don't let your hormones lead your heart!
I made my mistakes too. It's difficult when we first start dating. Everything is shiny and new and exciting. Don't let the novelty fool you.
@@jeniwatkins3297 Jeni, thanks for sharing your insights! I agree. Not allowing your hormones to lead your heart is key. There's no rush. Slow and steady creates a great foundation to get to know someone. :)
@@Psych2go 😊 I am honored you agree
Lust happens when you like somebody for their looks and love happens when you like somebody for more then their looks.
Exactly my friend.
Lust is satisfying your needs. I don’t know why lust is always associated with liking someone’s looks. You could not be bothered by how someone looks and still lust them. It’s just the desire to have your needs met.
@@TT35109
That is true
I would disagree.
You see, the only reason that love exists is for humans to pass along their genes to the next generation. I understand that it is very taboo to think this way because pop culture and media have influenced our perception of love. Now, everyone believes that love is some whimsical, magical thing that is beautiful and glorious when that is simply not the case. It is cliche and an over-played trope in TV and books, one that I have grown bored of. My opinion aside; humans are wired to seek out certain characteristics in a potential mate. Symmetrical facial features, for one. If someone has a symmetrical face, this indicates good genes, which means healthy offspring. Now, I am not saying that this applies to everyone (I have seen some er... interesting couples before. Yeah, let's go with that), but for the most part, people seek out others with good genes as a mate.
@@maestrulgamer9695 Well, I was talking about love between couples. The love you are describing here is familial. You are more likely to survive if you love your family and your family loves you. You will spend a large chunk of your life with them. But I must remind you that not everyone loves their families.
Love is beyond this world it's something which is inside you. You don't want anything from that person as u have got everything as they are totally in ur heart.
What if they never give you what you want? And disrespect you
Beautifully said!
*different shades of gray*
50 shades of gray you mean?
throwing shade over here
Shades of black🌚
Love is sacrifice and putting the other person first. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is forgiveness and not holding grudges. Lust is selfish it’s all about what I want from this person when I barely know them.
Exactly! Love makes you cherish them a lot more and to find ways to improve the relationship with them!
FUN NOTE: If you fall in LOVE with 2 different people . . .choose the second one, if you really loved the 1st you wouldn't have fallen for the second
Skittle Cat wOaH
One could be love one could be lust
but if you really love the 2nd you wouldn’t still be in love with the 1st
Makes no sense, people sabotage themselves, or maybe you can love more then two people.
O MY GOSH MIND B.L.O.W.N blown wow but can it not be the other way around too?😁
I think people can love each other without lust. Personally, I'd rather the sexual feelings come at a later time, so the trust can be established first.
It's opposite for me I get attached more after sex for me
completely agree with this mindset, im glad you said this
Good mindset to have!
that was really helpful , I've been suffering from lust mistaking it for love for too long , thank you ❤️
Glad this video helped. Is there steps you're currently taking to confront this problem?
@@Psych2go well currently I'm taking a break from relationships and all , and I'm focusing more on my friendships , and who knows maybe love will find it's way to me 😊
thanks for your support , love y'all so much , and hope you keep it up like that (huge fan of your work) ❤️
an eye opener from your explanation... if your feeling lust it doesn’t mean it won’t develop in to love.
Love can still win ❤️❤️❤️
What about a small spark of lust in a fire of love? I feel like that's a wonderfully healthy relationship to have 😊
Sometimes when we're so used to our significant other's big gestures, little things tend to be missed like unexpected hand holding can light that back up
I find this stuff really interesting because I’m going through what I believe are the first stages of a loving, potentially long-lasting relationship, yet sometimes find myself conflicted as my previous relationship was most certainly built on lust and had a string of red flags I was too blind to see. With my lust relationship, it only lasted 3 months but it took me 3 years to get over it. I thought I was in love with him, but really it was the chemical reaction in my brain that had fallen for him, and despite the lying, double life, and all the other things he was doing behind my back, I had convinced myself it was real love - because how else could I feel so strongly attracted to every single thing about him? When I was with him, around him, talking to him, I felt constantly nervous, excited, giddy, as though I had to be on my best behaviour, be funny, be intelligent, and not slip up. Eventually this became exhausting and anxiety inducing, but I was addicted to the rush he gave me. Fast forward 3 years and I’ve finally moved past what he ‘could have offered’, I’ve met someone else, but this time it’s entirely different. I’ve met someone and we’ve been doing by long distance for 6 months, yet our relationship hasn’t been better. It’s going slowly but surely upwards, he’s proving with his actions and words that he is committed to a future together and is making active steps towards this. I’m not a secret, there’s no double life, he’s a real gentle, kind, beautiful person. I feel very secure and comfortable around him, and I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells, or like I have to be on my best behaviour. I feel adored and wanted and admired. The only thing that I find myself thinking about though, is that because I don’t have that ‘lusty’ overwhelming feeling around him, that I sometimes wonder what I should be looking for or accepting? Which one is better for me or what kind of feeling is the right one? I have moments where I look at my new partner and consider myself extremely lucky to have met such a hidden gem, but then I wonder why I’m not elevating him to godlike status as with my previous relationship… It can be confusing, but if I’m honest, I think this guy really is amazing, and I’m very lucky to have him in my life. I’m excited to see how our relationship develops for the long run, and I do believe the love will build slowly but surely over time, and we are both making actual, real commitments together. I guess it’s just new territory! So something I have to get used to 😌
wow I went through the same and relate to every single word you said
Have you ever seen him in person?
The feeling of take, take, take - is LUST
The feeling of give, give, give - is LOVE
The feeling of give and take, give and take, give and take - is business/deal/to compromise (in relationships there is no deal)
And I want businesss
Balance of both people giving is good
I don't think you HAVE to feel lust/sexual lust to have a relationship. Think asexuals, for example. And what about demisexuals who don't feel lust/sexual attraction until knowing the person better? (Loose explanation, sorry!)
That's true! Glad you brought that up to attention!
@@Psych2go ^^
Yeah. I'm ace and genuinely love my boyfriend. For some time I never really considered being in a relationship an option as I never felt that attraction others were describing all the time, but there was something else, still. I randomly started taking a strong interest in what he likes because I thought he was an interesting person to be around. Mhm. And also I thought (/think lmao) he was aethetically pleasing, but that was something I don't think about too much when I'm friends, never really mattered a lot to me. It was much more about that sudden spark of interest in his mind. Never felt sexually attracted to him, not even now, and sensual things started pretty much exactly after a year of making romantic intentions clear so thaaat took pretty long I guess, haha. We both didn't need it.
So yeah, it's different but feels just as genuine.
Izzie K Well, if you remove the sexual part of lust, and simplify it to the ‘this person makes me feel good’ part, then i dont think it’s impossible for aces to feel lust? It just be a very different sort of lust
@@dragonofsomething2820 As an ace, I agree. Lust doesn't have to be about s**, it's mostly about taking things for the sake of their own pleasure.
Lust and love together make a perfect relationship. One is imperfect without the other.
Not necessarily. Lust without love is bad, but love without lust is not really bad.
@Patricia Gulledge
Stop what?
Its fails badly sometimes 😔
When there's love there is not any lust.
@@shreyashbharti5813 😊👍
I was really worried that I have been lusting on my best friend, but now I know that I love my best friend. Thanks for the video, really helped a lot.
Glad we could help!
Honestly l have problems feeling love towards people expect from my parents
I understand same with ne
@JazzyGuns Highlights it could be one of two things:
1) You just haven’t met the right people
2) You may be a gray-ace. Of course this is my opinion, as there are many different versions of ace and aero.
@@yuunishinoya2530 gray ace what is that
Except*
@Liradu2 sorry yeah. Typo
Lust looks at the body love at the soul.
Agreed!
Now I know why my bf broke up with me; he had lust and dumped me while I still had love...
Hahahahaha
Jk
That is what happening to me right now 😢😭😭
I problably see my former Relationship in this again. i had no lust (still dont expierence sexual atrraction) and just wanted to help my partner with his problems and making him happy, but he only had lust and wanted to change me so i can be "perfect" for him. The Relationship got very toxic at the end.
I should have known im Ace before i got in this relationship, now im kinda brokem but at least i've learned from this! xD
I am sorry you have gone through this. Good to know that you learn something from this. How did you coped with the situation?
Me too. He's my first bf and I felt romantically atracted to him, but the he ask me if I wanted to have sex. I'm 23 and I felt scared and gross. I really like him, I feel the connection between us so does he, but I'm not into sex and now I'm afraid he won't like me anymore :(
@@jimesin Have you openly communicated this to him?
‘have you ever looked back on past relationships...’
me: *sobs* i have none
Hope you were able to find someone!
This weekend I found myself doing battle with this situation within myself. I was aware but did not overthink. I listened as much as I talked, laughed often and resonated with his compliments. I am staring at 11 roses ( he got jipped) and a half eaten box of the Ferrero Collection hoping that we will see each other again. This video gave me something that no baptist sermon ever could. Thank you ...
“I lust you”
“I’m in lust with you”
🤣🤣🤣
I also lust u haha
I lust no one I'm single
Lust is a sin.
@@matthewdoesyoutube7076 Matthew 5:28
Lmfaooo
Jesus frickin Christ im so scared of relationship, it makes my life so complicated
Yeah, it does. I think that living life with someone is one of the most difficult things you can do longterm.
Still, if it's real, it's worth it.
Relationships can be scary! Why do you think it makes life complicated?
@@Psych2go beacuse every time i have a chance to be in relationship or be close to someone i'll start building this imaginary barier between us and start sabotaging my self
I think i have childhood trauma and im scared to be vulnerable
This is why it makes my life complicated
Thanks for asking :)
@@luna-si2of I'm sorry to hear, and completely understand. I'm scared of being let down and hurt. Even now in my current relationship, I'm still scared, but everyday, I try to tame my fears and tell myself the person who I'm with cares about me, and even though we have our bad days, we never stop trying. Would you like to get better at relationships? What do you think you can do differently to get you where you want to be?
Lust is dishonest. Love never lies. Lust is unfaithful. Love is true loyalty.
True difference between lust and love is sacrifice........ lust says I can sacrifice something as long as I get something in return.
Love is just sacrifice..... plan and simple... if you see your self giving selflessly with wanting nothing in return..... then that is love....
"Lust happens when you and your partner don't have much to talk about"
I can't really talk to anyone , not because I am shy , but because I don't know how. It means i can't ever fall in love with someone?
(I don't know why or how can't I talk, and also I don't really have friends)
I'm sorry if what I'm saying is not so understandable and I'm also sorry for my grammer and spelling mistakes.
I am Just like you
But i met a person that understands me whithout needing to talk, you will too
Sorry for the same things, i'm not english
Scorpio Squad....
I'm just like you
Zsófia Várkonyi talking to your partner involves opening up to him which also means trusting so with that said, I'm getting a feeling that that's what you have trouble with. You don't feel like he's worth your trust.
Hi Zsofia! You are not alone, I am also trouble in communication but I'd learned and get confidence listening to "DAN O'CONNOR" here in RUclips. Pls kindly check it Out,it will really help you promised
this is why Love is the most powerful virtue in the world
It's indeed one of the strongest!
One thing I can say about love is that it takes time to build. I've always believed that what comes easy don't last & what lasts don't come easy.
Having a strong relationship with communication can last long without the need of lust
I wish this info would have been taught in high school.
This is everything my lusty marriage was based on! Three kids later. Day late dollar short! Oh well hope some young person is watching and gets it! Thanks
If only we started youtube a little earlier haha!
Just got out of a lustful relationship and found someone I actually love and have for years but didn't realize, this made that more clear.
Glad we're able to help in understanding the reason behind your relationship!
No question that my fiance and I are in love, we were best friends before we even got together and 3 years into being together we're still best friends.
I am glad to hear that! What is your secret you guys transitioned from best friends to lovers?
I'm really in my feels about this girl and I know I'm going to leave my current school soon. I cry everyday knowing that I can't get her, she's not the prettiest in my class but there's something about her that is so attractive. I'm usually nice to people but I'm too shy to be nice to her and talk to her and now I'm scared that she thinks I don't care about her. She just seems to never pay attention to me and resists even looking at me. When other people belittle me she seems to take it personally but maybe she does that for all people. I don't like my smile so I always resist laughing when she can see me. Whenever I feel stressed or worried about something I just imagine that she's sitting there with me and I feel better. I just feel so happy and sometimes sad around her and I don't know why. I try to be nice always but I'm so shy.
Update?
This helped me understand what love is better
Mhm, glad we were able to clarify for you!
This helped me diagnose my feeling for my ex. It was and still is love. It was lust at first, but over time it became love... at least for me. It’s love because I can’t do much of anything without thinking of her and how she made me feel when we talked and how we loved the same things. Guess I wasn’t good enough.
Hard to understand how the other person thinks to change their feelings... Hope you're doing alright
Not every romantic relationship begins with lust. If you’re demisexual love leads to physical attraction.
Yas gurl, tell em
Being Demi, you wouldn't have sex before actually loving someone.
Truth. I'm an asexual and dont think that lust has anything to do with being in a good relationship. I don't experience lust but am in love with my boyfriend. But every relationship is different
I'm also demi, and this is very true!!
Great explanation! Thank you for your awesome video!!!
Thanks for watching!
If you train yourself to be sensitive to your brain you can even sense the chemical change inside your brain and so you can definitely tell the different feeling between lust and love. When there's lust, it feels like some fluid flows around the body from your brain. When there's love, it feels like you fall in love with yourself because you just love the quality of the other person including flaws and fault like you accept and forgive your flaws and fault.
Lust is like looking at life through rose tinted glasses, you tend to ignore the red flags. Meanwhile love you understand each others flaws and fault and work on it together
Ok one second I need to text my bf...
Me to him: I love you :))
I hope he did texted you back with a "I love you too, honey." Or anything like this.
How did it go? :o
Aww a lovely message out of the blue
Lust is seeing a beautiful flower and picking up. Love is admiring and watering the flower because you know if you pick it it will die.
Amazing way to compare the two!
I believe it is all the more reason to abstain from sex before marriage. That say, we will spend more time trying to make the relationship work instead of getting pulled along by lust until we suffer both regret and heartbreak. Also, by keeping oneself for the right committed partner, we won't be easily tempted to cheat. But this is more of an individual loyalty. But studies have shown that those who spent their first time with their spouse are less inclined to cheat than those who experienced multiple partners before marriage. After all, once you have tasted multiple partners, having only one for a lifetime could seem rather boring and bland. Not to mention the rush of going along with lust is like a thrill.
Thanks. This helped me realize that I was lusting for someone and TRYING to develop it into love and so were they but we were both trying to develop in completely opposite areas. As a result, each one of us was trying to individually and single handedly develop an area of the relationship the other was refusing to tend to and instead of working together to get it ALL done we beat each other up over not recieving help with with the area we chose to care about most. 😐
And we are pretty much done now 😞
But at least now I see how it happened 🤔
Honestly, I feel both towards a very special friend of mine. I feel so safe around them, like I can tell them anything. But also feel such physical attraction to them, because they are so beautiful. It feels like no matter what I do, I’ll always fall for them
Love doesn't leave no matter how bad things are. Even one sided love is loyal and patient.
As long as it won't be hurting the loyal side, which is why communication is key!
Wait so before you love someone, you have to go through a “lust” phase?
What if you’re asexual?
Can’t you go from “best friend” to “love” as well?
@@sarahdavis4345 Of course you can, but do you think you'd have to be attraced to your best friend in order to love them first?
@@Psych2go For me, I'm demisexual, and after I start crushing on someone the attraction comes in - but appearance doesn't do anything for me initially :) It's the personality that draws me in first, then I start being attracted to their physical appearance
i love someone from childhood and i can't even dream to be physical with that person and that person does the same.
@@duckling2108 what do you mean by she moved?
Perfect video. It's funny how many couples claim their in love with their partners when, most of their time is spent trying to plz the flesh but, wen it comes to the realness of engaging in a conversation, there is minimal communication.
Indeed, not much awareness for it
I think that this video was a great source of information, sadly more for understanding other people than for me. As an Asexual who doesn't feel lust at all and doesn't really want to get intimate with my partner, I can say that lust is not needed for a relationship, because as you said, love is more like a life long friendship. Otherwise, great points to start from to understnd others, thank you!
True! Thanks for bringing that up :)
I was scrolling through these comments specifically to see if another asexual disagreed with that first bit! So thank you!
Okay, now I understand what's different between me and the people I "loved" before. My priority is to find love instead of lust. Sounds crazy somehow.
It's hard to find true love these days but the right person will come
i was never driven by how a person looks, rather, what they enjoy doing. it's quite hard to find people similar to me but i kept trying and now i'm happy
Never giving up is the most important thing!
Lust is bad. Love is good
Wow I never knew,now I know that my first was just lust but now I have truly fallen in love
Beautiful to hear
I was in a lust relationship where I loved as well, for 10 years... by some magic of the universe I'm falling in love with someone. Crazy how long you can work on a relationship that doesnt work out. But even more heart pounding is falling in love. It's an absolute gift.
Not much is known about this topic, so hopefully this helped
My ex was only in LUST. When I thought I was in love, this meant I didn’t see how bad they really were to me
I am sorry to hear that. How did you confronted the issue?
I love your channel!!
Thanks a lot for the support! What made you watch this video? :)
@@Psych2go I wanted to see if me and my crush (he likes me too) could possibly be something more ;)
@@daisy-eb9jk Aw, that's totally reasonable! And what did you find out? ;)
@@Psych2go it is something more!
I'm not in any relationship and never have been. But i had this really close friend who moved far away due to his father's transfer. We have known each other since we were born. Now, he only comes to meet me and my family with his family every once in a few years. I miss him daily and even shed some tears every now and then. It's been more than 5 years of me just missing him. When he comes after a long time we just waste time by not talking and just blushing away. I think about him all the time, and i don't know what this is and i don't know what to do...
Been waiting for this one for a while. Thank You Psych2Go!!
I requested the video like 3 times. Psych finally listened to me. Since i have a problem with my best friend, and i don't know if its lust or love.
@@mikoswhackgameandstuffvids480 No worries~ Sorry for the delay! We were overly perfectionist in terms of who to assign it to, that we ended up taking forever. Hope you like the end product! :)
@@Psych2go
I did.
I'm in love with my classmate. I was in love with him ever since I was in 3rd grade and I'm still in love with him. 😍😍😍😍💕💕💕💕💞💞💞💞❤️❤️❤️❤️
I loved him since third grade too! And now.. Were finally married with some lust tho. But our love connection is stronger UwU
@@zmstaarz Your so lucky!!😢😢
Tell her/him. 😊❤
@@shreyashbharti5813 I tried to but he wasn't interested in me😭😭
@@justinabakugou5813
Maybe he is not the one.
Believe! In india, we pray Goddes Radha❤ as goddes of love.
You will find someone.
I know it's not easy to get out of it.
But you have to forget him.
You can do it.
You will find your love.
But if you truly love him!then I wanna ask
Do you really love him from your soul?
Do you love him more than yourself?
Do you expect nothing from him and still love him?
Do you want him to be happy even after he rejected you?
If Yes , then just love him .
If he is the one you will have him.
I love how calmly you guys assure people who still have problems with their feelngs or thoughts that it's never too late for them ,Please keep up the amazing work❤🎉💥💙✊👌
Watching this and thinking about my crush . I refused to accept that I feel something for him but now I just can’t hide it 😢😢cause those feelings never fade away even after 2 years 🥺. I don’t think iam beautiful iam more like an average girl while he is beautiful , so I don’t think he likes me 😭😭I wish I could scream I love u when he asks “why are u sad “ , I wish I can tell iam sad cause I love u but I choosed to hide my feelings , I wish u will say , I love u too 😢😢😢
Have you tried talking to your crush?
I have liked someone for more than two years as well. Although, I don't understand why I still like him because his personality seems to be horrible.
eri exo You need to tell him. Sure, he might reject you, but then you can move on and find someone who will like you. And if he does like you he might end up thinking you don't and you'll lose him.
Boohoo
My sweetheart is GORGEOUS, while I don't have so much in terms of classic good looks anymore. Surprisingly, he is not a narcissist! and he thinks I am beautiful, and has from the time he first saw my picture. If I can get a tall, gorgeous Marine, who still has a six-pack while well-into his 40s, you can get your dreamboat, too!