6 Differences Between Love vs Lust
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
- Many of you guys have requested a topic on love vs lust for a while now. So we thought we do it for you! With our previous highly successful video on crush vs love, we thought we'd do this one justice as well.
Script Writer: Catherine Huang
Script Editor: Steven Wu
VO: Wendy Hu
Animator: Lesly Drue
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
Let us know if you relate or agree with these points! Thanks for all the support!
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References We Used:
Alva, M. (2018). How To Tell If It's Love ... Or Just Lust. Mind Body Green. Retrieved November 28, 2018.
Borresen, K. (2018, June 21). The Difference Between Love And Lust, According To Relationship Experts. HuffPost. Retrieved November 28, 2018.
Chavez, S. (2014, January 20). Is It Love or Is It Lust? Dr. Shannon Chavez. Retrieved November 28, 2018.
Martin, L. (2016, January 21). The Scientific Difference Between Love And Lust. Elite Daily. Retrieved November 28, 2018.
Orloff, J. (2011, August 15). Lust vs Love: Do You Know the Difference? Psychology Today. Retrieved November 28, 2018.
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#psych2go #love #lust
Nobody: Love or Lust
Me: Lost
😁😀😂
😅😭
Me too lol
same :,(
Hahaha
Lust is selfish, it's the desire to take. Love is selfless, it's the desire to give.
you are so right
Hahah, this is combination with your nick is 10/10
Thank you! Thats love!
Love has nothing to do with genitals
Your Favorite Lifecoach your sexual experience is much better when you’re in love with the person.
I was married in November of 1986 I still can't wait to get home to my best friend :-)
Gregg Sannes you married your dog?
Awww that's sweet
@@shaneryan6691 no but my dog did give his blessing for our marriage who do you think my best man was:-)
Gregg Sannes
Good for you
I’m glad at least some marriages still working!!
What a lucky man! What a lucky lady
Lust can ruin a relationship. No joke.
Anything CAN
Ann Tenebro but your profile pic😂
Yes but its absence can be harmful as well.
Meme Moyra Is that a serious question?
But for that relationship is also needed
WHAT IS LOVE
BABY DON'T HURT ME
DON'T HURT ME
NO MORE
What is love - bastille
"What is love" - every single ever
DUN DUN DUN
Head banging intestines
"I wanna know know know what is love?"
I feel like everything about a new relationship is based on fantasy and that’s why the moment something doesn’t feel right people will tend to write it off like it didn’t work out...
Moses Emmet is what you’re saying that the way to prevent a relationship ending prematurely is to instead of leaving early on because of the fantasy fading, is to try to make things work and seeing and accepting each other for who they are so love can grow?
Nataly well maybe don’t just stick around just to stick around... instead let some of the fantasy fall away and start getting interested in putting the work in to really learn who the person is... then maybe after some more time (dates) you can decide if the person you now KNOW is someone you want to be with more long term...
So true!
I have recently got out of a relationship and I have had the same situation, just on the other end.
@@MosesEmmet
Absolutely agree
Lust vs Love:
1. Physical vs Emotional
2. Weaker vs Stronger over time.
3. Base on Fantasy vs Reality
4. Romantic Partner vs Lifelong friend
5. Thrill Seeking vs Pursuit of Stability
6. Selfish vs Selfless
Super! This comment needs to go up
Awesome saved a lot of time
I look for comments like these all the time
thank you. As a side note, lust sounds like so much more fun
Apparently I've got both.
Theodore Reik said, "Lust wants any woman. Love wants this woman."
Sach meh?
Write
It hits hard..
@Jessica Hicking yea
Nope it's not necessary. Lust can also be for a particular woman.
7: One causes wet dreams. The other takes the kids.
Lol
You mean Karen
Doe Best comment ever
lmao
Good one
True love is when your crush gets a haircut and you still like them
Heard that somewhere before! haha
YES!
Watermelon In A Blender relatable AF
omg..I feel like im in elementary school again
So true lol 😆
It’s awful when you’re in love but your spouse is in lust. 💔
Definitely :/
Facts 💔
Yep sure is !!!
😖😖😖
😬😭
I'll make it easy for you..
Lust fades when you realize there are other fish in sea.
Love doesn't fade, because the other fish aren't all the same
😍
Wow that's deep
❤❤❤
Lust is when he decides ur an old shoes...love is not in his vocabulary. To men is the same as lust. Ladies...men actually believe we don't lust! Hahahahahahaha. OK!
So I will suffer forever. Okay... :(
Fanfic writers need to see this
katherine ben I agree lmao
That why i'm here baby..
Lmfaooo
Silvia Eaber
Too much Jamilton smut.
I like porn with feelings :3
Yes PLEASE
*LAUGHS IN LONELINESS*
True
Is there someone you'd like to be in a relationship with?
@@Psych2go
I love all of them
All the nice people at church and school
They are too perfect and wonderful
Why the hell would they want to talk to me
@@theconductoresplin8092 Why wouldn't they want to talk to you? Don't say that about yourself, I bet they're lucky to have interacted with you!
@@Psych2go
Hmm you make a good point
I always saw myself as beneath wemon
What I can do a woman can 10x as better
Lust- temporary more of a primal attraction, with short term relationship.
Love- giving and compromising not just based on physical, but mental.
👌👌👍👍
ok, I have finally decided. I am in lust with chocolate.
oh god no
And consequently in love with diabetes
@@ADRENERGlC nah, no one LOVES diabetes.
yes
Well good for you *takes out chips*
This was very needed, thank you.
Which points did you resonate with most?
Psych2Go mainly the point that it fades after a while, and you put them before anything else
Wouldn't lust evolve and not just disappear in a love relationship? I'm not sure how sacrifice is being used here. Support, authenticity, intellectual connection, mutual caring, committment to each other and building together & individually, etc... Maybe I read into the sacrifice as more codependency & that doesn't seem like love to me because it lacks self love. Idk. 🤔
You also needed life😩
Lust is when you fall for someone’s appearance, love is when you fall for someone’s personality.
Yes!
What about both?
Love requires both for everyone
Haughty Willow or you have sex with two weeks of meeting
@StaRFox brooooooo wow
Love is when you just want to be them at all times even if you don't have sex.
And no matter how imperfect your partner is you love them for their imperfections.
While lust is just craving for your animal needs.
@StaRFox yeah but it's a bit different from lust
@StaRFox Basically being selfish
@nikki abhyudaya Then get a divorce! You can find so much better trust me!
@nikki abhyudaya Well... Why didnt you see his personality first before you get married?
@he she and nikki
Divorce
When you’re wearing rose coloured glasses, all the red flags just look like flags
That bojack horseman reference is on point
TrICksTeR :O
Love is not a feeling, or a series of feelings, but rather actions, that can be accompanied by emotions.
So. True. Actions speak louder than words or feelings.
@@Psych2go I guess I should explain myself further, because I am not saying that the emotional aspect or component isn't important, because it is, but rather simply reducing it down to that is oversimplifying what love actually is. Just like if one were to reduce it down to actions of obedience for the sake of obedience.
Love is a choice.
Your not an expert😵👥👏🌵
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YES
*YES*
Yes!
*YES*
YES
Lust: a chemical reaction in the brain that makes you want to procreate.
Love: a chemical reaction in the brain that makes you want to nurture that creation. Simples 👍🏻
Lol, procreate
@Daniel Grigg yup
I think I like your interpretation the most.
@@dragnstuf 😂
Love or Lust?
Me: lonely
Im here for you bro
Me too,!! but who's here for me?😔😝 im lonely as well
Same
SAMEEEE
Welcome to the club
I never have lust or love. I'm sad and lonely.
love and lust sucks being lonely is really greater and better for your health
@@alaa5754 cant agree
Loneliness can be torture
@@undeadwarrior3867 loneliness is torture for me when i have friends and lose them but when i dont have any friend and feel lonely i can just play with my pets but there is alot of deseases
You’re probably Ace/Aro. Congratulations!
@@undeadwarrior3867 life still sucks
Really glad you made this video, I think it's something that a lot of people don't think about. Women release a really unique chemical when they have an orgasm, and the only other time this is released, is when they breastfeed, it's a bonding chemical. Which is not really "Love" It's really interesting.
Blows me away how often you guys upload, I struggle with twice per month lol.
They're a team if I remember correctly, so it's normal they upload more frequently
Avoiding cuddling help cut the bond. For women who do no strings attached things eventually learn this
I requested this video like 3 times and Psych finally listened.
Masculine man can you STOP advertising your channel under the guise of complimenting all the big channels? You are sickening.
Seeing you grow from 30k subs to your present 250k, You have been using the same generic reply on all the big channels as a form of subtle advertising... with your manipulative ways, how are you fit to offer pesudo-advice?
Love is when you miss him and cuddling with your teddybear while imagining his smile... :3
I fall in love with my fictional crush, and I do that, does that count?.. OwO.
I'm sorry if you don't understand
"lust is the first stage of love"
childhood friends that started loving each other : nope
lust is based on fantasy~
yea I had a crush on my bf since like first grade and we just started dating (I'm in 9th grade)
I only realized that the tree in the Intro is shaped like a brain now
Ow thanks, I just noticed it xD
@@ame_vagabonde Same LMAO
...I never knew
*Until now...*
Lmfao me too
Same ..😂
The girl i currently like isnt the much of a beautiful person nor an ugly one, but her personality makes her the most beautiful princess in my eyes.
Yeah i guess thats love :3
I'm so glad you fell in love with her personality. Eventually, looks wear off anyway and psychologists have argued it becomes less significant over time. What do you like most about her?
@@Psych2go since i cant find 1 thing i like most about her ill just tell you that she is generally a kind, positive and welcoming person. Also she's an introvert, and im usually more attracted to introverts somehow.
That's relatable
@@Psych2go I have a crush on someone, and it's because of his personality. I like how he is nice to everyone, and I like how he's a great friend.
same.
i love my boy because we have fun together and he makes me laugh and smile.
but he says...
we’re just friends.
True love is when your other starts sharing high quality dank memes
True m8
But im not gay
This is how I know someone is a good friend so I should probably apply it to romantic partners too
WISEST MAN ON EARTH
Bro you might just help me
Lust is the love for flesh and desires that come with it. Love on the other hand is genuine.
I'm glad you guys touched upon this subject, it really is one that many people overlook. However, there were a few points I disagreed with.
It says that a relationship cannot be formed without that sort of desire for someone, and that lust is often a stepping stone in a relationship. I personally disagree with this, as I have grown up around people who do not have that sort of feeling for their partner at first. They always feel a deep trust for them at first, and get intimate later, usually after they are married. I have usually believed that this is a sign for a good, long relationship if two people don't just start off with lust. But, it is your video. I'm not saying the video was bad, since I'm not even close to a professional like you guys! Plus, I mostly agreed with everything else in this video. Thanks for bothering to read the comment, by the way, and I hope you make it an amazing week! :)
I completely agree with this. Lust isn’t always a driving factor for a relationship to form. In my case, I didn’t start dating until after I formed a really close bond with my best friend. Of course there’s not really much we can do with the relationship since we’re in high school, but we’re still giving the relationship a try
That's a great point of discussion! Lust doesn't always have to proceed love. Have an amazing week! Are there any other points you feel could be highlighted for discussions?
Same most of my relationships started from wanting to be closer to someone
I usually start as friends with someone myself
Yes, I also agree with you. Normally lust is useless for the beginning if you are looking for a true and sincere love, what is only profitable in this case is mutual trust, but trust can only be built if many conditions meet together, it's not easy at all, it demands time and a lot of care, patience and prudence.
- They always feel a deep trust for them at first, and get intimate later, usually after they are married.
Isn't it adorable how skilfully humans manage to convince themselves that they like what they have, if they are certain, that they are not going to get anything else? =)
Lust is a very intricate system of choosing healthy and genetically compatible mate, it is refined through billions of years of iterations. Love (as something completely separate from lust) is a social construct from Medieval Ages. Why would anyone trust the latter over the former - now that's a mystery.
I once “dated” (he didn’t really consider it one) a guy but he only used me for his weird somewhat desires whenever he wanted to do something bad but I never let him do anything to me he always told his friends that I was his gf. He had lust my bf now is considerate and caring he has love. 💙
Kinda had the similar thing about this girl I used to hook up with. She came out of nowhere just hit me up and called me and said was DTF. Me being the lonely simp I am I said okay (I am not the type of person to only be in a relationship with a girl to have sex. I will catch feelings one way or another) the only reason I said yes to this girl was because I was a virgin and lonely. (was 16 at the time) so boom we started hooking up cracked a few jokes etc but we didn’t really have any similarities. I liked rap music while she liked artists from other genres, she had different tastes in clothing while i also did as well, she had no hobbies while I’ll liked to play video games. We couldn’t even really conversate either, and if we did it was only about our sex. I was so infatuated with her that I started telling people about her and calling her my girlfriend. Told me that she loved me during sex so we could continue having sex. Later on I asked her “what are we” and she was like “idk”. “Are we in a relationship?” “No” “then what is the point?” “Because it’s fun” and that ladies and gentlemen is what lust is. It’s meaningless, it’s fun, but it’s never gonna go anywhere. Whether you like it or not. I was ready to move forward while she was not.
So glad to hear you found someone better who treats you right! :) Never settle for anything less! ♥ How long have you and your current bf been together?
Psych2Go Me and him have been together for 3 years so far 😊
I have something similar but still to this day. We were friends since 2nd grade and then approached me at age 16 asking to be friends with benefits (I wasn't quitr happy with the idea). We never had sex since I show no advances and usually turn the idea down so our relationship is a wierd "friends with no benefits but we sometimes text/meet eachother and cuddle". I know I always have my guard up since I don't want to go through a heartbreak so therefore I actively shut my feelings down. It's been 7 years now
Kegne kenkai
Even if you are friends don’t ever let them take advantage of you
You’re a strong person
💙 hope you’re having a nice day
Love is beyond this world it's something which is inside you. You don't want anything from that person as u have got everything as they are totally in ur heart.
As a person that reads fanfics.. I'm like
OKAY writers and readers need to see this
good thing most the ones I read begin with lust and then ends up as love. but that happens after a very big drama
That happens a lot in real life though, starts with lust leads to love!
Wattpad stories enter
Sex & Love | JJK: uhm--
My and my boyfriend have a whole lot of both. We have waves of lust that comes and goes, and what’s left is this burning desire to make the other feel loved and wanted, even if it means giving something up. There have been times where I’ve worked really hard one day so I could relax with him the next day, and once he was really sick and I biked all the way to his house in the dark to bring him a care package and gave myself a stomach ache. He gets on me about eating and will go out of his way to make sure I have food, we both keep our ringers up at night in case the other needs someone in the middle of the night (which has happened before too).
I think we have the perfect balance. 💜
@@rylenejadenabua4459 I feel this on another level
As cliché this might sound, love and rationale, that's what humanity needs at this point
Sounds like you have a good thing going
he’s a keeper. No questions asked
Aww im happy for you even if you MAY break up live on forevermore lol 😆
Now I realise I've only have lust in my life...
I'm kinda depressed now
Me too
LFC Rules look on the bright side, some of us don't even have that ;-;
Try to get to know someone you're into that seems compatible with you on a personal level more deeply. Love is basically a feeling of empathy, wanting to help, cherishing the other person so much you're willing to go through that and so on.
- I've only have lust in my life...
Said as if it is something bad. Come on, lust is fun.
Stretop Overmind but you don’t understand. We want something more than “fun”. “Fun” is temporary. “Fun” is for laughs and giggles. “Fun” is meaningless.
"Being in love is like being on drugs, without the potential of brain damage"
~Jontron
I guess the last point is debatable...
Ok the last half is debatable
Hilarious
And without the high
Love is sacrifice and putting the other person first. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is forgiveness and not holding grudges. Lust is selfish it’s all about what I want from this person when I barely know them.
This is precise and very much on point. It's just so sad knowing that there are some people who genuinely want LOVE but end up meeting and having a relationship with people who only want LUST. They are blinded by their feelings and choose to settle down for less.
Yeah, sometimes feelings can make us unaware that we deserve so much better. What would you advice to those who are in that situation?
Exactly 👍
3:13
"Cocaine is a hell of a drug"
champagne, cocaine, gasoline, and most things in between-
I read that in the voice
*insert crazy cockatoo*
Lmaoo
FUN NOTE: If you fall in LOVE with 2 different people . . .choose the second one, if you really loved the 1st you wouldn't have fallen for the second
Skittle Cat wOaH
One could be love one could be lust
but if you really love the 2nd you wouldn’t still be in love with the 1st
Makes no sense, people sabotage themselves, or maybe you can love more then two people.
O MY GOSH MIND B.L.O.W.N blown wow but can it not be the other way around too?😁
The feeling of take, take, take - is LUST
The feeling of give, give, give - is LOVE
The feeling of give and take, give and take, give and take - is business/deal/to compromise (in relationships there is no deal)
I don't really do lust, I'd rather get to know someone and then get together, because then I know if I can trust them. Lust is a young person's thing and all of the people I've dated basd on that hurt me.
I agree, society nowadays are too focus on external and superficial stuff. Based on your experience, what advice will you give for those who is going through similar situation?
@@Psych2go If you feel like you're unable to think around someone then run, they are mostly likely manipulating you.
SevCaswell Omg, thank you so much for that comment 🙏🏻
@@SevCaswell Lol! There are studies done suggesting that your prefrontal context stops working properly when you see something attractive. www.rebelcircus.com/blog/happens-brain-around-attractive-people/
Lust is beauty⚡
I don't care about how she looks, I care about her personality and both of us like Star Wars, like almost the same food, and there's some others but, don't wanna explain us on the internet. Lol. I think we are Love, Idk. Most likely because we barely see each other so. Have a good day!
Edit: nvm. My RUclips needs to refresh!
Same I have a crush on this girl and it different from other girls that I have a crush on I just felt this connection that I don't feel a with others girls can't explain it but it different
Edit: different in a good way
No man lust is literally biological you like em for how well fit they are for reproduction
I-I just wanna find another emo-trash geek bookworm thing that plays Guitar Hero and DnD with me. Is that too much to ask???
@@yuunishinoya2530 apparently the universe thinks so .
Ok Ted Mosby
Who else just found out that they never been in love? :)))
Me...
Shh dont tell hehe ................
.......me
Me
✋🏼
I m in love.
I find this stuff really interesting because I’m going through what I believe are the first stages of a loving, potentially long-lasting relationship, yet sometimes find myself conflicted as my previous relationship was most certainly built on lust and had a string of red flags I was too blind to see. With my lust relationship, it only lasted 3 months but it took me 3 years to get over it. I thought I was in love with him, but really it was the chemical reaction in my brain that had fallen for him, and despite the lying, double life, and all the other things he was doing behind my back, I had convinced myself it was real love - because how else could I feel so strongly attracted to every single thing about him? When I was with him, around him, talking to him, I felt constantly nervous, excited, giddy, as though I had to be on my best behaviour, be funny, be intelligent, and not slip up. Eventually this became exhausting and anxiety inducing, but I was addicted to the rush he gave me. Fast forward 3 years and I’ve finally moved past what he ‘could have offered’, I’ve met someone else, but this time it’s entirely different. I’ve met someone and we’ve been doing by long distance for 6 months, yet our relationship hasn’t been better. It’s going slowly but surely upwards, he’s proving with his actions and words that he is committed to a future together and is making active steps towards this. I’m not a secret, there’s no double life, he’s a real gentle, kind, beautiful person. I feel very secure and comfortable around him, and I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells, or like I have to be on my best behaviour. I feel adored and wanted and admired. The only thing that I find myself thinking about though, is that because I don’t have that ‘lusty’ overwhelming feeling around him, that I sometimes wonder what I should be looking for or accepting? Which one is better for me or what kind of feeling is the right one? I have moments where I look at my new partner and consider myself extremely lucky to have met such a hidden gem, but then I wonder why I’m not elevating him to godlike status as with my previous relationship… It can be confusing, but if I’m honest, I think this guy really is amazing, and I’m very lucky to have him in my life. I’m excited to see how our relationship develops for the long run, and I do believe the love will build slowly but surely over time, and we are both making actual, real commitments together. I guess it’s just new territory! So something I have to get used to 😌
wow I went through the same and relate to every single word you said
Have you ever seen him in person?
Maybe this is why I fall in love with my friends. I lust after literally anyone, but I only seem to love my closest friend. The only thing different from a normal friendship is I want to show them how much I truly appreciate them
Whatever I Want Channel same
*different shades of gray*
50 shades of gray you mean?
throwing shade over here
Shades of black🌚
What about a small spark of lust in a fire of love? I feel like that's a wonderfully healthy relationship to have 😊
an eye opener from your explanation... if your feeling lust it doesn’t mean it won’t develop in to love.
Love can still win ❤️❤️❤️
Lust happens when you like somebody for their looks and love happens when you like somebody for more then their looks.
Exactly my friend.
Lust is satisfying your needs. I don’t know why lust is always associated with liking someone’s looks. You could not be bothered by how someone looks and still lust them. It’s just the desire to have your needs met.
@@TT35109
That is true
I would disagree.
You see, the only reason that love exists is for humans to pass along their genes to the next generation. I understand that it is very taboo to think this way because pop culture and media have influenced our perception of love. Now, everyone believes that love is some whimsical, magical thing that is beautiful and glorious when that is simply not the case. It is cliche and an over-played trope in TV and books, one that I have grown bored of. My opinion aside; humans are wired to seek out certain characteristics in a potential mate. Symmetrical facial features, for one. If someone has a symmetrical face, this indicates good genes, which means healthy offspring. Now, I am not saying that this applies to everyone (I have seen some er... interesting couples before. Yeah, let's go with that), but for the most part, people seek out others with good genes as a mate.
@@maestrulgamer9695 Well, I was talking about love between couples. The love you are describing here is familial. You are more likely to survive if you love your family and your family loves you. You will spend a large chunk of your life with them. But I must remind you that not everyone loves their families.
When the eyes blink it's Lust but when the heart blinks it's Love!
Haha, great way to put it! :) Have you been in love or lust?
I was really worried that I have been lusting on my best friend, but now I know that I love my best friend. Thanks for the video, really helped a lot.
This weekend I found myself doing battle with this situation within myself. I was aware but did not overthink. I listened as much as I talked, laughed often and resonated with his compliments. I am staring at 11 roses ( he got jipped) and a half eaten box of the Ferrero Collection hoping that we will see each other again. This video gave me something that no baptist sermon ever could. Thank you ...
I don't think you HAVE to feel lust/sexual lust to have a relationship. Think asexuals, for example. And what about demisexuals who don't feel lust/sexual attraction until knowing the person better? (Loose explanation, sorry!)
That's true! Glad you brought that up to attention!
@@Psych2go ^^
Yeah. I'm ace and genuinely love my boyfriend. For some time I never really considered being in a relationship an option as I never felt that attraction others were describing all the time, but there was something else, still. I randomly started taking a strong interest in what he likes because I thought he was an interesting person to be around. Mhm. And also I thought (/think lmao) he was aethetically pleasing, but that was something I don't think about too much when I'm friends, never really mattered a lot to me. It was much more about that sudden spark of interest in his mind. Never felt sexually attracted to him, not even now, and sensual things started pretty much exactly after a year of making romantic intentions clear so thaaat took pretty long I guess, haha. We both didn't need it.
So yeah, it's different but feels just as genuine.
Izzie K Well, if you remove the sexual part of lust, and simplify it to the ‘this person makes me feel good’ part, then i dont think it’s impossible for aces to feel lust? It just be a very different sort of lust
@@dragonofsomething2820 As an ace, I agree. Lust doesn't have to be about s**, it's mostly about taking things for the sake of their own pleasure.
I think people can love each other without lust. Personally, I'd rather the sexual feelings come at a later time, so the trust can be established first.
It's opposite for me I get attached more after sex for me
completely agree with this mindset, im glad you said this
Lust looks at the body love at the soul.
One thing I can say about love is that it takes time to build. I've always believed that what comes easy don't last & what lasts don't come easy.
Good advice. More young folks need to understand the difference. They struggle to differentiate the two and think lust is love, when it isn't
I still wonder why my peers are in one week relationships
Thank you. I agree too! What advice would you recommend to the younger generation?
@@Psych2go WOW! I didn't expect that. LoL 😊
That's a tough question! I would have to say take your time, don't be in a rush just to say you're in a relationship. Be friends first. You have plenty of time. Don't let your hormones lead your heart!
I made my mistakes too. It's difficult when we first start dating. Everything is shiny and new and exciting. Don't let the novelty fool you.
@@jeniwatkins3297 Jeni, thanks for sharing your insights! I agree. Not allowing your hormones to lead your heart is key. There's no rush. Slow and steady creates a great foundation to get to know someone. :)
@@Psych2go 😊 I am honored you agree
that was really helpful , I've been suffering from lust mistaking it for love for too long , thank you ❤️
Glad this video helped. Is there steps you're currently taking to confront this problem?
@@Psych2go well currently I'm taking a break from relationships and all , and I'm focusing more on my friendships , and who knows maybe love will find it's way to me 😊
thanks for your support , love y'all so much , and hope you keep it up like that (huge fan of your work) ❤️
“ we hope that this video helped you” you are darn right it did! Thank you!
This helped me diagnose my feeling for my ex. It was and still is love. It was lust at first, but over time it became love... at least for me. It’s love because I can’t do much of anything without thinking of her and how she made me feel when we talked and how we loved the same things. Guess I wasn’t good enough.
Lust and love together make a perfect relationship. One is imperfect without the other.
Not necessarily. Lust without love is bad, but love without lust is not really bad.
@Patricia Gulledge
Stop what?
Its fails badly sometimes 😔
When there's love there is not any lust.
@@shreyashbharti5813 😊👍
Honestly l have problems feeling love towards people expect from my parents
I understand same with ne
@JazzyGuns Highlights it could be one of two things:
1) You just haven’t met the right people
2) You may be a gray-ace. Of course this is my opinion, as there are many different versions of ace and aero.
@@yuunishinoya2530 gray ace what is that
Except*
@Liradu2 sorry yeah. Typo
Perfect video. It's funny how many couples claim their in love with their partners when, most of their time is spent trying to plz the flesh but, wen it comes to the realness of engaging in a conversation, there is minimal communication.
I wish this info would have been taught in high school.
This is everything my lusty marriage was based on! Three kids later. Day late dollar short! Oh well hope some young person is watching and gets it! Thanks
I just broke up and will move out...this video helped me realize that it really was based on lust. It’s still super difficult to not have those kind of fantasies wanting to get back together and all ... but I know it’s for the best because I cannot imagine him being the father of my children. He was more a lover than a best friend because we were fighting way to often and he hurt my feelings and was able to lie so good I hope I will get over my feelings soon
“I lust you”
“I’m in lust with you”
🤣🤣🤣
I also lust u haha
I lust no one I'm single
Lust is a sin.
@@matthewdoesyoutube7076 Matthew 5:28
Lmfaooo
I was in a lust relationship where I loved as well, for 10 years... by some magic of the universe I'm falling in love with someone. Crazy how long you can work on a relationship that doesnt work out. But even more heart pounding is falling in love. It's an absolute gift.
Great explanation! Thank you for your awesome video!!!
Now I know why my bf broke up with me; he had lust and dumped me while I still had love...
Hahahahaha
Jk
That is what happening to me right now 😢😭😭
I problably see my former Relationship in this again. i had no lust (still dont expierence sexual atrraction) and just wanted to help my partner with his problems and making him happy, but he only had lust and wanted to change me so i can be "perfect" for him. The Relationship got very toxic at the end.
I should have known im Ace before i got in this relationship, now im kinda brokem but at least i've learned from this! xD
I am sorry you have gone through this. Good to know that you learn something from this. How did you coped with the situation?
Me too. He's my first bf and I felt romantically atracted to him, but the he ask me if I wanted to have sex. I'm 23 and I felt scared and gross. I really like him, I feel the connection between us so does he, but I'm not into sex and now I'm afraid he won't like me anymore :(
@@jimesin Have you openly communicated this to him?
This little message was helpful too me ..thank you I'm seeing things differently for the first time in my life , and it makes better sense...
this is such a good video, great job
"Lust happens when you and your partner don't have much to talk about"
I can't really talk to anyone , not because I am shy , but because I don't know how. It means i can't ever fall in love with someone?
(I don't know why or how can't I talk, and also I don't really have friends)
I'm sorry if what I'm saying is not so understandable and I'm also sorry for my grammer and spelling mistakes.
I am Just like you
But i met a person that understands me whithout needing to talk, you will too
Sorry for the same things, i'm not english
Scorpio Squad....
I'm just like you
Zsófia Várkonyi talking to your partner involves opening up to him which also means trusting so with that said, I'm getting a feeling that that's what you have trouble with. You don't feel like he's worth your trust.
Hi Zsofia! You are not alone, I am also trouble in communication but I'd learned and get confidence listening to "DAN O'CONNOR" here in RUclips. Pls kindly check it Out,it will really help you promised
Jesus frickin Christ im so scared of relationship, it makes my life so complicated
Yeah, it does. I think that living life with someone is one of the most difficult things you can do longterm.
Still, if it's real, it's worth it.
Relationships can be scary! Why do you think it makes life complicated?
@@Psych2go beacuse every time i have a chance to be in relationship or be close to someone i'll start building this imaginary barier between us and start sabotaging my self
I think i have childhood trauma and im scared to be vulnerable
This is why it makes my life complicated
Thanks for asking :)
@@luna-si2of I'm sorry to hear, and completely understand. I'm scared of being let down and hurt. Even now in my current relationship, I'm still scared, but everyday, I try to tame my fears and tell myself the person who I'm with cares about me, and even though we have our bad days, we never stop trying. Would you like to get better at relationships? What do you think you can do differently to get you where you want to be?
This helped me understand what love is better
Really glad you brought up this difference; medias like movies and music always mix those 2 (purposefully or not) and make lust appear as love - which was hard to remove from my brain. I can only guess it's the same for many people. Trying to live a fantasy in your head, to scared to face reality, having expectations through the roof and hoping lust would last forever. Love is much more subtle and quite, yet stronger and "deeper". But lust is fun too!
Thanks. This helped me realize that I was lusting for someone and TRYING to develop it into love and so were they but we were both trying to develop in completely opposite areas. As a result, each one of us was trying to individually and single handedly develop an area of the relationship the other was refusing to tend to and instead of working together to get it ALL done we beat each other up over not recieving help with with the area we chose to care about most. 😐
And we are pretty much done now 😞
But at least now I see how it happened 🤔
‘have you ever looked back on past relationships...’
me: *sobs* i have none
I love how calmly you guys assure people who still have problems with their feelngs or thoughts that it's never too late for them ,Please keep up the amazing work❤🎉💥💙✊👌
i was never driven by how a person looks, rather, what they enjoy doing. it's quite hard to find people similar to me but i kept trying and now i'm happy
Not every romantic relationship begins with lust. If you’re demisexual love leads to physical attraction.
Yas gurl, tell em
Being Demi, you wouldn't have sex before actually loving someone.
Truth. I'm an asexual and dont think that lust has anything to do with being in a good relationship. I don't experience lust but am in love with my boyfriend. But every relationship is different
I'm also demi, and this is very true!!
Wow I never knew,now I know that my first was just lust but now I have truly fallen in love
Awesome video, I need this
Thank you for making this video. I needed to know if my feelings were only of lust. Thanks to this video I know that they're not, and I truly love her, and falling more deeply in love with her the more I'm around her.
No question that my fiance and I are in love, we were best friends before we even got together and 3 years into being together we're still best friends.
I am glad to hear that! What is your secret you guys transitioned from best friends to lovers?
True difference between lust and love is sacrifice........ lust says I can sacrifice something as long as I get something in return.
Love is just sacrifice..... plan and simple... if you see your self giving selflessly with wanting nothing in return..... then that is love....
I'm not in any relationship and never have been. But i had this really close friend who moved far away due to his father's transfer. We have known each other since we were born. Now, he only comes to meet me and my family with his family every once in a few years. I miss him daily and even shed some tears every now and then. It's been more than 5 years of me just missing him. When he comes after a long time we just waste time by not talking and just blushing away. I think about him all the time, and i don't know what this is and i don't know what to do...
“Lust is the essential first stage of love”.. Wow I think this is interestingly true in many cases if not all.
And here I am, listening to this video posted 5 months ago. Single.
Jk. Yes, I'm single but I write fanfics so why not lmao
Ok one second I need to text my bf...
Me to him: I love you :))
I hope he did texted you back with a "I love you too, honey." Or anything like this.
How did it go? :o
An insightful video, and very timely in my life. Just over the last week I realised that by feeling lustful over my partner I hurt them and failed to provide a sense of security and trust which should have been there in a relationship. Thankfully I still have a chance to make things right, so please hold your fingers crossed for us both, Universe.
Lust is seeing a beautiful flower and picking up. Love is admiring and watering the flower because you know if you pick it it will die.
Been waiting for this one for a while. Thank You Psych2Go!!
I requested the video like 3 times. Psych finally listened to me. Since i have a problem with my best friend, and i don't know if its lust or love.
@@mikoswhackgameandstuffvids480 No worries~ Sorry for the delay! We were overly perfectionist in terms of who to assign it to, that we ended up taking forever. Hope you like the end product! :)
@@Psych2go
I did.
I love your channel!!
Thanks a lot for the support! What made you watch this video? :)
@@Psych2go I wanted to see if me and my crush (he likes me too) could possibly be something more ;)
@@daisy-eb9jk Aw, that's totally reasonable! And what did you find out? ;)
@@Psych2go it is something more!
Love is when we dont like them at first but at the end we fell because of their personality... Their beauty inside overshadows their physical appearance making them be beautiful in your eyes.
That's not true, you can find someone attractive and still love them. But, if you only love their looks, then that's lust.
This video is what I need :') Thank you... ❤️