This does not apply to white women. Most of them are too polite to reject you out of hand, especially in front of other people. If a white women does not want your advances, they bring up their husband or boyfriend in the first sentence but very politely.
I was at a store and I said hello to this one sister. She acted like I never even spoke. So I get my stuff and get in line. She's in her line and she's short on money. She asks me if she can have five dollars. I ignored her, paid for my shit with a $100 bill and left. Don't support rudeness.
I hate that we as black women don't appreciate our black men. God has blessed us with some amazing men but we need to support each other. I love y'all.
I had to stop. I was tired of meeting the ones who not single and not tell no one about their status. Dating scene is terrible so it is best to stay single.
Loreal Alford lady stop it. You and I both know it’s not worth it. Be persistent and patient is a stupid excuse for “encouragement “ especially if you’re talking dating some random girl. It ain’t worth my time money and attention.
@@c.albrow9161 One thing I've observed over the years is that no decent black/Afrikan man want to get dissed just because he decides to say hello to a woman. Where I'm from it's cynicism that dominates the mindset of black women, in all age groups.
My experience with black women overall have been positive so when it comes to conversations like this I like to soak up other peoples experiences. I’ve dated black women from all over the world so my pool of experience is a bit different. The one thing I don’t like though is that when these conversations come up and I’m one of the few black males in the room, all the vitriol gets poured on me lol. And that’s the issue, a lot of black men and women aren’t really seen as individuals after a certain point, we just get melted down to caricatures by the people in our own race. So much so that they forget the black men and women sitting right in front of them who HAVE treated them with respect and who’ve been decent human beings.
I got a story of when I last approached a black woman a few years back. I was leaving a grocery store and noticed her in the parking lot, I knew there was a chance of me coming off creepy, but I figured I could talk my way out of that. Anyhow all I managed to get out was hello how are you, can I have a moment of your time? To which she replied, "what can you do for me, you're walking?". I guess she assumed I came out of nowhere because she didn't see me leaving the store, but I was so flabbergasted by her snob like reply that I stood there frozen in time and she drove off. One of the reasons I am mgtow now too. Let women do the approaching now.
@ReeNikki but she wasn't creep out that response was meant to be disrespectful. Actually it was disrespectful the alternative would be approaching her on a extreme sexual tip
A couple more: 1. hands already full. 2. in a relationship. 3. not into you. 4. you don't look like a value add. 5. you look okay, but your associates look like an issue.
Nice tips. The problem with BW and BM is that we don't want to be friends. I have a friendly attitude. I don't have to know you to talk, laugh or joke with you. I don't have to see you as a potential mate for me to acknowledge your presence as a human being. I love my BM men and I will continue to encourage and uplift them with a simple smile, laugh, jokes just to make them feel that they're loved. It doesn't mean that they're getting in my draws. If anything, they fall madly in love. Ladies, the ultimate secret is to take care of yourself, be confident in yourself and show all the brothers love. That include the one you desire and the one you don't desire because they will see you as caring human being as oppose to hunting for a mate.
a big problem is bw play too many games w real options. many good bm are just like that...they want to just hang out to see what youre about. bw knowing that you want to hangout take it for granted. play hella games just to go on a few dates. all women will test men its in their dna but bw take it to the extreme. other groups of women in relation to a good bm dont play as near as many games because they know quality bm are out here but not abundant.
There is no law requiring men to approach women. Despite women's lamentations, that is part of female entitlement, something men have helped perpetuate for centuries. So if they are in fact strong women, they can do the approaching themselves.
The intriguing thing about this subject is the fact that we really do love our black women. The sad thing about this subject is that our women are looking for something instilled into their psyche about what a real black alpha male should be and look like. I have had countless white females approach me and tell me how handsome I am but a remember very few black women doing the same even when they are interested (not that I need their validity). Might possibly explain why I have dated more white females than I have black females. But it's the same BF that treat BM like shit that will then turn around and get mad at the BM for dating a WF.
Great video and a lot of valid points, personally speaking though I don't approach black women at bars/clubs. The reason? because black women at these places feel it's ok to emasculate men and dehumanize us. I'm talking you come at a "sister" polite and she is just giving you some attitude like "how dare this n****a come talk to me" only black women I approach are ones that are choosing or through social circle. On top of that I don't approach black women cause I'm not a thug and lot of black women where i live wanna be with a thug or pretty boy i.e. Trey Songz type.
Great video. It's good to know other brothers went through the same issue with approaching black women that I did. Once I decided to date other cultures of women, approaching women became much easier. Sad to say, but true. I think women of my generation over 50 stopped trusting black men, passed it down to their daughters and that's why brothers keep getting all this attitude when trying to approach.
Where the hell are these things happening?I live in Atlanta.I was married for 20 years to blackwoman.We grew apart but are still cool.Few year later,I met another beautiful smart sister and she is just fine.I don't see all these problems.If you are a superficial person,your values are probably superficial and you are looking for the wrong things in a person.If two people come together are honest,then things click,but if both are fake,it wont.
Carlo Webb First the video was requested by a female subscriber at the time. Second you live in Atlanta, you know the male to female ratio, and the women competing for men. Third your inuendo was wrong and out of pocket.
Sorry you feel that way,but if the shoe fits,then most likely you will have a problem with what I'm talking about.I didn't say what I said to check anyone.I said what I said because many seem to be missing each other.We all have our points of view.I just don't make excuses and complain and blame others for everything in my life.I try to find out the truth first from self examination then go outside myself.to generalize Black Woman, is not the answer.The reason why is you are the one who is making the choice of the person you wish to approach.You must accept responsibility for why you are being rejected or why woman are rude to you.Is it really more likely that out of the many Black Women you enecountered they were just inherently rude,or is more like that all these Black Women have one thing in common which is you and your just an asshole.The truth is in there somewhere.You may not admit to being an asshole but if that many Black women don't like you then that's a consensus of something wrong with you that your over looking.
You just took me back to the days of my youth when sisters weren't giving me the time of day when I was really attracted to them. How they were only interested in your attention and nothing else. How they wouldn't work with you at all. How you were turned down by their friends even if the girl was initially interested. And when you found one who was willing and gave you a chance and took her out you realized that her ex who was white seen us together and decided to call her all of a sudden which would cause her to push you to the side. Or the fact that actually making out with one was considered "luck" whether enjoyable or not. Too much work for much too little.
I stopped messing with black women. Whenever I used to approach black women they wouldn't give me the time of day. They would either act like I didn't exist, have an attitude or talk shit amongst their friends. I had no luck with the sistas. Right now I'm dating a white woman. We've been dating for about 5 months now and things seem to be going well.
There is many BM who are in your situation too , i wish we can just wear a special shirt , that has a special design on it , that means hey i am a good Bw or Bm and i am single looking for a good partner not a fuck buddy
+Lacarma A.Vessup bro how are you trying to meet someone in person if the only thing you kbow about them is a comment on youtube? how do you know shes the one for you? lol desperate much?
+Block O Just curious, if you are happily married with kids to a white woman, why are you on a site entitled "reasons black men don't approach black women"? Are you still thinking of black women?
***** This all sounds like a huge contradiction to being 8 years happily married with kids to a white woman. You should have moved forward by now. Your last statement reveals the mindset of someone who is more "thuggish" than "nice", which is yet another contradiction. You don't sound like a "nice" guy. You simply sound like a "rejected" guy.
I never proclaimed myself to be MGTOW but I've actually gave up on women due to excessive rejection in combination with getting into trouble. This dry spell lasted for 20 years.
No, its because you haven't met the "Right" pretty, educated and polite "White" woman..., give the White woman a chance..., I betcha you won't regret it..
7 years ago this was made....and look at where things are now in 2021. Men found out women don’t like accountability and transparency and all hell had broke loose #manlisten
Spot on bruh! I went through a phase when I was approaching women all the time. After getting shot down so many times a was like. Fuck it! Why even bother anymore.
Good insight about us men experimenting with different types of women.I've noticed for example that women who are into being fit are more confident about themselves.Also more willingly to meet guys.Of course you do need to be in reasonable shape.A fat Albert type has little or no chance with her.
I'm going to keep it real as a black man the reason why a lot of black men don't approach black women because they are not physically endowed and they don't want to be shot down by the black woman. Or they may feel monetarily inept to that woman. What brothers have to realize is that a real woman just wants a man that has a sense of self.
"The problem is that games and porn are entertaining, inexpensive, easily accessible, and reliable. Women can be entertaining, but they’re expensive, inaccessible for most men, and from the male perspective, shockingly unreliable." Helen Smith, Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters
Most guys like us don't approach women because we don't want to be rejected or get played / with black people in general always try to embarrass one another especially in public or on social media nd u got some of these black females who will diss u from trying to talk with them just to show off in front of their friends so that's why I will only startup a conversation with a black women if I see she interested in me cuz I'm not dealing with no aggressive attitude
Thank you for your honesty, said in a very respectful way (unlike some other youtuber's and authors). The problem is a deeply embedded and complex one, socially engineered. and passed down from generation to generation. Change starts within and we really need to start. I now make eye contact and smile at black men respectfully and if approached, do not assume straight away that he wants something. I respond intelligently and respectfully and if he suggests, will kindly decline but thank him. As a black woman, I know historically what we have had to endure, some of it at the hands of our own black men so, you have to understand as men our 'attitude', it is a survival and defence mechanism. Black men may have had it bad but as a black women, we also have had it real rough, and this still continues. it is any wonder we are "angry" or "aggressive" or " have bad attitudes". I get not every black man is going to have the ability to work with all that but, we as women have had to stand by our black men. Remember, behind every successful man is a great woman. So fellas, don't give up on us, put the effort in, don't just look at pretty faces, get to know REAL women, Virtuous black women. Ladies, to approach someone you like is really difficult so give the next man who approaches you some respect (especially if he approaches you with respect). Be the queens that you once were. It is a COMPLIMENT. Stay in the here and now and be honest, polite and courteous. People recognise what is really going on and start to make that change TODAY as we are in danger of being 'bred out' our culture is already being taken, fashion, music, art, dance, philosophy, you name it... especially here in the UK. Do you know there was a 49% increase in mixed race couples from 2001-2011, the same is happening in the USA. check your census. This is a real issue...
I only get approached by masculine men, which is a great thing, plus I have a warm inviting vibe and I smile a lot . I realize that some men are shy. It’s very important to have open energy. I’m a feminine women and enjoy it to the fullest 😌
As a black woman I am in love with this video and plan on sharing it. I love hearing a black man state his reasons but it doesn't come from a place of hate. It comes from a place of purity. I love your delivery and I love how you didn't blame women. I love how you put your words together and I love the overall tone of this video. I feel that you love black women but you have dealt with some liars and you didn't put the information out there to bash women. You simple put the information out there to inform us and this is actually something I can listen to and take note of. I wish all men would simple express themselves like this. I get tired of all of the female bashing. Love love love the approach.
Any man that blames a woman for being at fault for the situation of the black community is not a man at all. A scholar by the name of Dr. Yosef Ben Jocahannan once said ""Show me how you treat your WOMEN and I will show you the condition of your race." He as in the black scholar with a doctorate (something you don't have) was referring to MEN. With that being said you are not worth my time and this is my last message to you.
Black women in my experience are more nicer to whites. Even when they are corny as hell. I’m mixed race and sometimes they told me I’m not black enough. But nevertheless I still found a black woman who appreciates me for who I am and married her. I wanted a black woman because I still wanted to maintain blackness in my children
To all the men that feel they can't approach/talk to our blaque sistaz. THANK YOU. I'm the type of guy that does and when 1 or 2 women don't speak back nooooo big deal becuz my catalog is full of desirable women
Not to disrespect because u may be telling the truth both in ur comment and also to the women. But if we keeping it real most of us black men hear all to often from black women that ur the guy there trying to stay away from. Yet they don't ? Which scrambles up the situation even more which makes for more difficulty. As he said in the video when u hurt them they don't take it out on u they take it out on the next guy who's probably like wtf I do ? So when a guy like me goes to introduce myself she already looking at me like I'm the devil. Then because she figure I too ain't hitting own shit she manifest that disrespect which has been bolstered by hearing her mother for 30 years talk about how her dady wasn't shit. And for me that's where the buck stops
I like the delivery of this video. It's not angry or anything. Excellent vernacular ; no swearing love it. In what universe do black men not approach black women??? I have read and heard and experienced black men bei g less selective and basically using the statics of asking everyone and see who bites!
Glad you enjoyed the video. When we get older we are more selective because of our experiences. But it's more compartmentalized. If I want a lady I know who to approach if I want a freak I know who to approach. I was just saying why we don't approach certain women in a situational context.
Man Mars you got some good comments on here bro...When I was going through my trials for the Hunger Games...at times it was extremely discouraging to talk to black women who simply didn't have time or were "focusing on themselves".My personal favorite I'm in a relationship with Jesus.My brother was saying it on the phone the other day he gave up trying to talk to them because they want you to come at them like a pre packaged black Ken doll,come on really in this economy?We all working to do better.A la too many games.
Great video. Thanks for posting it. You make a lot of good points. And yes, a women (as well as a man) needs to feel comfortable in her own skin and have no insecurities if she's worth going out with.
Colored barbie dolls who've been gagged don't have to worry about a real brother approaching them because they're marked by their behavior and that squeaky red girl sound they call 👄 talking and they ain't coming up on no strong brother anyway so it shouldn't make a brother feel any way so it ain't nothing but a lotti da.😎. Dont feel me. Sheeeeee!!! .
Marsha Scott As a Caribbean black male I can say that there are problems on both sides, but I would place the spotlight on the black female as the primary cause. The woman has an extremely important place in the whole scheme of things. She is the gateway to the beginnings of any relationship. She is the one that must use wisdom to pick and choose which man she will entertain or engage as a potential to be her head as a family unit, when she is approached. If you end up with a dog, or a loser etc, the fault lies with you. Inspect the car before you jump in for a ride, or else don't be suprised when you crash later on down the line. A man approaching you especially in this day and age takes courage, and the least you can do as a woman, is to carry yourself with dignity when a brotha approaches you. Most times the way you carry yourself will gauge the approach of said male prospects. Men tailor themselves to gain your affections in many ways. Being loud, angry, and dismissive of brothas has caused the ripple effect upon black women that we see today. Their attitude is not a secret. The whole world knows it. Consider every interaction an important one, and let the way you handle yourself within them, be a reflection of who you are or aspire to be
ReeNikki How can you expand your options when you don't have any? Say what you want, but there is 100 stastical facts to back up these facts about black women not having options.
Maurice Cruise Exactly lmao when I was at a restaurant some white guy called his black girl friend that slur cause they got into a fight,in I didn't feel bad at all. Because she was trying to make me feel some type of way with her white man, when swirling goes wrong 😂😂
Thanks for your gracious commentary. You kept it clean, sincere, and respectful. I appreciate that. HOWEVER...the comments from the Black 'men' about Black Women's attitudes just makes me shake my head in utter disbelief. Truth be told: Most Black women are tired of ya'll, too! We've been dealing with all the madness, drama, lies, deceit, and the list goes ON, so get over it. You had no problem with breaking hearts, sleeping with your brother's girl friend, and/or tapping your ex or child's mother while you were seeing a new love/like interest. And oh, yes, news flash: The jails and prisons are filled with whom???? Mostly Black men. And we STILL have sista's who will commit to ya'll IN JAIL! And please don't tell me about "The man" or the 'System," cause you will marry and impregnate the Man's daughter and damn near take care of the whole family. You can't claim oppression on the right hand and sleep with it on the left. OWN YOUR STUFF. It's not all peaches and cream on this side, either. No matter what: we haven't given up on the Black man. ***Drops microphone***
These so called "black men" that you are describing sounds like the typical thug low life. I know plenty of real "black men" who don't fit your description at all these are usually men you would call square or "Lame" because they ain't "Popping off" on some thug shit
Afroblu Atlanta What do you mean by "are tired of ya'll, too!"? It appears to me that one of the reasons why "Most Black women are tired of ya'll" is because they at one point in their lives picked the wrong person or persons, as it is so with many black women, to date or go to bed with.I have lived and out of black communities my entire life, and one thing that I have notice and still find common is that most black girls want to date "THUGGS! They do not want to date the (so Called) goodie- goodies. You know, they do not want to date the young men who are actually going to go to college and have a nice career and a bright and promising future; no they would rather date and sleep with someone or some ones! who are in and out of jails and prisons , Someone who gets them pregnant and then goes off to prison for 5, 10, 15 or 20 years, Someone who is in a gang, or someone who sells drugs or someone who .......... Do you understand this? So when I hear you or any other black girls or women say "Most Black women are tired of ya'll", It jars my rational thinking. The fact of the matter is you picked this loser, and he got you pregnant, and then he went off to prison to his true home. And now you want everyone to feel sorry for you because of the horrible choice you made? And you want them to have empathy for you because you are a single mother? Who picked the loser? Who over looked the "Goodie Goodie" and laid with the criminal? Black women on average have bad attitudes, and maybe this is one of the reasons why they have no REAL! Man in their lives. Take responsibility for your own foolishness, and bad choices, and stop taking it out on the world. You F--**ed up not them.
Afroblu Atlanta hey. I thought I responded to you a long time ago, but since I didn't here's what you are missing. First a woman wanted me to talk about this. Secondly, I wasn't referring to sluts, criminals, gold diggers, and so on as the standard for black women like you did for men. Third, this isn't about disrespect, you actually made a reasonable conversation unreasonable. Your ideas of the black men you're tired of is basically a KKK stereotype that is void from the idea or acknowledges the guys who are the opposite and their perspective.
Hi Afroblu, "The Wise Ones Accept Reproof And Facts, And Become Wiser. But, The Ignorant Fools Reject Reproof And Facts, And Stay Ignorant And Foolish" -FACT!
This is some great insight! Thank you for being honest and tactful. I think you're right, in Atlanta, there are many fakers in both sexes and you're right about the girls night out trap. I just realized a friend of mine blocked an opportunity I had to know someone and I didn't even realize what went down until some time and thought later. Funny thing is now she's in a relationship. Hindsight is 20/20. I know a handful of "good" single women with standards, including myself. I think we need to get out more without the blocking friends. Lol. You're cute btw.
Thanks for watching, commenting, and understanding. I saw your other comments too. I made a few about us guys recently and have been pondering doing more. So it's coming.
larmovement hey brother we as BM, Good Black Men that is cannot allude to the fact that u have some brothers in our community who have for the past couple of years have been giving us a bad name, those cats know who they r and we can't turn a blind eye to their behavior which is directly affecting our interactions with each other as BM and BW, I LOVE MY SISTAS and to an extent i can over-stand their initial behavior, to an extent.
blackwolverine1 I agree and I have made videos addressing that also. I just try to stick to the topic. But whatever video you see there is probably one representing the other side of the coin. This one I think has 2 that touch on that.
larmovement keep knocking those videos out is all i could say as u can see i took the liberty of viewing some of ur joints, there's nothing like speaking the truth and speaking ur mind.
The blessed Child, I respect your comment. It reasonate with your post name. Dam good advice, but I don't know anyone who is at this spiritual level. Point well taken
I do not live in the US, nor am I from the US, though I do have several friends and relatives there. However, through information that I have been coming across on various videos here, as well as information from elsewhere, I'm becoming more enlightened about the dynamic between black men and women in America. It's really beginning to sound like quite a grim situation....hmmm.....what struck me as well was your easy, polite, sincere attitude. Plus, you're well spoken....for me, that's VERY attractive. And you are pretty attractive, by the way ;)
larmovement Yes indeed I have been checking out some of your other videos and I've been reflecting quite a bit on the contents. I admire not only your sincerity, but your general decency and moreover, your insightfulness on the topics. Many persons are nowhere near that level of awareness. Thanks for your interest and concern and for enlightening us, or at least for giving us the opportunity to pause and ponder :) You seem like someone with whom I could have some meaningful exchanges ;)
I will take your advice and flirt with my eyes. I recently have tried saying things more gently if I like the guy. What I am about to say I am meaning to say politely and this is just my personal observation. It's almost like guys are afraid of anything social or that involves putting yourself out there. It has to be user friendly. I am starting to understand that this is how guys work but it seems almost unfair and very silly to me. Only because as a woman even to obtain most of the very dear friends that I have female and male, I have had to put myself out there socially on some level and take a chance, I have gotten rejected plenty of times for all the times that I have gotten accepted and most of the women that I know have had terrible things happen to them socially but they don't let it frighten them so. The fear just does not make much sense to me as women socially seem to endure more socially and still manage to find the courage to put their heart on the line if they love the guy, I feel like courage deserves a partner of equal courage. As for financial, my finances are in order, I am OK, but I would just be more attracted to the guy if he took the lead, like offered to take me to dinner, and properly stood on the other side of the door and held the door open for me not because my arms don't work but honestly I would be attracted to a guy and would consider the sex part of the relationship if I got signs that they felt I was worth investing time and money in not because I don't have the money but because he is a gentlemen and thinks I am worth getting to know.
You sure summed it all up. Dating has been rough "Buy you a drink, dinner and ask for some ass". Heart breaking when you know you have more to offer. I recognize and move to the left of that. All I can do is focus on self, continue to be a welcoming spirit . A good man with good intentions will gravitate towards me. Keep up the great videos. Nice job!!!
I've been asked out a lot in the past, and I was always very polite and rejected them, but their response was always the same. How come? Or why? My thing is is that I shouldn't have to elaborate on why I'm rejecting you you should just take it like it is...a rejection and move on. FYI I'm talking about men in general, and no I'm not talking about just black men Asian man white men Hispanic men etc etc etc.
Repent and Believe Why do people especially men feel the need to not take no for answer why do you feel as if you deserve an explanation on why I'm saying no.
larmovement no that's why I said sometimes, not the ones who are naturally mean, sometimes. Sometimes you don't want to talk or your stress out, we'll I'm talking for myself, but I would still speak but I don't feel like having a whole conversation either
I wish I had the time to really respond to this. This is a good conversation starter. I could go on for days. Sn: your skin has a glow today. It's nice (I mean that in a masculine way) lol
I believe that the women who actually want interaction with you and have good hearts make themselves known. If you have a good heart you deserve good things💕.also stop listening to your bitter ass friends who will talk u out of a relationship.and fight the urge to be hiveminded creatures following everything thing in a magazine. And beyonce can afford to be a diva or a bitch or whatever she's actually married and rich.some women dont have that.😕
Only mammies want a bm to approach.Most classy bw dont give a dam.The ones that men would like to approach dont want to be approached.Bw know bm dont take rejection lightly
I understand the intent of the video and your role. I'm speaking about the black men who diss black women. The fact that you can't believe a black man can defend black women says more about you than about me.
They are looking for Material gain, What does the package come with a car a house something they can see that has value. Women even pass up good black men who are 6 figure dudes but do not wear it on their arms so the woman pass him up, then later notice she fucked up when she see that dude getting into a Benz or big Cadillac Escalade or buying another beautiful woman a drink who is not black might I add!
I've just reading the comments below and conclusion is; the nice approachable black women need to shout louder and separate themselves from the typical cold unwelcoming ones that gives you a bad rep. Even though I have dated more women outside my race due to the warmer welcome I received from women outside my race most of the time here in the UK. However I have met and dated good black women. Please check out this black woman in the link below she is a breath of fresh air ruclips.net/video/HLP0SsuI6_w/видео.html
The problem is your intentions most black men are not married and is constantly looking for women to fulfill their desires. If more black men will get married and take on a purposeful relationships we woudnt have a big problem
@maximuslyricus some things are in general that I have heard from other guys. But I myself wouldn't know about dating other races. I will say generally it's an easier conversation or one with less underlying animosity.
I really liked what you said I love my BM I have never crossed the barriers alot of Women and Men have hidden agendas but I say just be yourself a smile goes a long way and or just a hi like you said and a joke and a laugh goes along way like a sister commented 10months ago and start there you never know if the response is instant cool if not keep on moving maybe you'll see that person of interest again and see if they approach you you sound cool and you do know what you're talking about I try to see what persons personality is like how they approach you my only thing with a Man is their shoes if they are all twisted to the side all scuffed up and dirty feet hanging over to the side as one of my co-workers says you better go on and get or you need to sit down somewhere ha! cause that tells me right there no no no! You jacked up everywhere ha! Have a good day
I tune in to many African Americans on You tube Men and Women....I love the warmth and straight forward speaking. ....My friend is African American and she lives here in the UK...you have a lovely vibe, an attractive persona...I can see why White Women like Black guys..Oh and i do not wish to upset Black Women either...I would love to hang out with you all when i fly to the USA ! make everyone a cup of tea ! ha ha ha LOL
I absolutely love"black women"but hate what they have become! I'm only attracted to sista's and that's probably why I'm still single at 39 with only I child.
a few weeks ago I saw a beautiful lady walk past me I was getting something from my new car she was attractive outside and then I saw her again dressed very skimpy passed me all this time I don't say anything and another time same place our eyes met didn't say nothing and still saw her talking to my neighbor who is out off my intrest she is pretty to me but there is a problem out there girls sent by police to manipulate you then they cry rape is a set up be careful to strangers.
I really don't get these videos. Lol but they always appear on my suggestions. Meanwhile over 83% of blk men marry blk women. So what were you saying again?
lets keep it real, us blacks are too busy giving each other dirty looks to even get very far... lol
Facts
never approach a woman with her friends unless you want to get your feeling hurt.
+YounginWithWisdom I learned that the hard way.
+lobecosc I dont give a damn i"ll approach women in groups. Women love that shit!!!
So tru
This does not apply to white women. Most of them are too polite to reject you out of hand, especially in front of other people. If a white women does not want your advances, they bring up their husband or boyfriend in the first sentence but very politely.
pforce9
Interesting. Good to know.
Men don't approach women's nowadays because they have attitudes.
in my case, they act like little kids.
Exactly
Facts
PERIOD EXCLAMATION POINT
I was at a store and I said hello to this one sister. She acted like I never even spoke. So I get my stuff and get in line. She's in her line and she's short on money. She asks me if she can have five dollars. I ignored her, paid for my shit with a $100 bill and left.
Don't support rudeness.
Karma
+Blacksword 404 You did right!
lmao ! would of did the same thing.
I hate that we as black women don't appreciate our black men. God has blessed us with some amazing men but we need to support each other. I love y'all.
LaMorgan Smith that was beautiful..give me a hug woman lol. Love you back.
I had to stop. I was tired of meeting the ones who not single and not tell no one about their status. Dating scene is terrible so it is best to stay single.
kin_dame You're right brother! Staying single is my best option! I'm handling mine, but women can't seem to handle theirs!
the dating scene is terrible..you ain't lieng man.
+D Biggs
Amen!!!
+D Biggs You can't stay single forever bro.
D Brother
yeah black people do not belong together. All black men and women should interracial date.
Yeah, I myself no longer approach women. If they say hello to me I'll respond in kind and then go about my business.
Me too ..
+Ricky
Yeah, I agree with you on that one..
Loreal Alford lady stop it. You and I both know it’s not worth it. Be persistent and patient is a stupid excuse for “encouragement “ especially if you’re talking dating some random girl. It ain’t worth my time money and attention.
I ignore them completely
@@c.albrow9161 One thing I've observed over the years is that no decent black/Afrikan man want to get dissed just because he decides to say hello to a woman. Where I'm from it's cynicism that dominates the mindset of black women, in all age groups.
My experience with black women overall have been positive so when it comes to conversations like this I like to soak up other peoples experiences. I’ve dated black women from all over the world so my pool of experience is a bit different. The one thing I don’t like though is that when these conversations come up and I’m one of the few black males in the room, all the vitriol gets poured on me lol. And that’s the issue, a lot of black men and women aren’t really seen as individuals after a certain point, we just get melted down to caricatures by the people in our own race. So much so that they forget the black men and women sitting right in front of them who HAVE treated them with respect and who’ve been decent human beings.
Deep and yep the world traveler will have the better experience. I have went to other states and its better but In Texas it's no bueno 😂
@Loreal Alford Fair enough but its a dog eat dog world. You don't realize that and some will take advantage.
I got a story of when I last approached a black woman a few years back. I was leaving a grocery store and noticed her in the parking lot, I knew there was a chance of me coming off creepy, but I figured I could talk my way out of that. Anyhow all I managed to get out was hello how are you, can I have a moment of your time? To which she replied, "what can you do for me, you're walking?". I guess she assumed I came out of nowhere because she didn't see me leaving the store, but I was so flabbergasted by her snob like reply that I stood there frozen in time and she drove off. One of the reasons I am mgtow now too. Let women do the approaching now.
nah man thats your fault. imagine someone just pulling up on you out of nowhere.
@ReeNikki but she wasn't creep out that response was meant to be disrespectful. Actually it was disrespectful the alternative would be approaching her on a extreme sexual tip
@@blackberries1269 😂😂😂😂😂😂 he steady cold approaching gave up now he mgtow
A couple more:
1. hands already full.
2. in a relationship.
3. not into you.
4. you don't look like a value add.
5. you look okay, but your associates look like an issue.
Colin Shackleford number 5 is so true
Nice tips. The problem with BW and BM is that we don't want to be friends. I have a friendly attitude. I don't have to know you to talk, laugh or joke with you. I don't have to see you as a potential mate for me to acknowledge your presence as a human being. I love my BM men and I will continue to encourage and uplift them with a simple smile, laugh, jokes just to make them feel that they're loved. It doesn't mean that they're getting in my draws. If anything, they fall madly in love.
Ladies, the ultimate secret is to take care of yourself, be confident in yourself and show all the brothers love. That include the one you desire and the one you don't desire because they will see you as caring human being as oppose to hunting for a mate.
+Nini Bless Yeah I love black women dating a white girl would be settling.
YES YES YES!
That's great what you said, but you're still better off with a white man...., wayyyy better off!!..👍👍
Diet Coke
wm don't give life to bw so you better off with your ww
a big problem is bw play too many games w real options. many good bm are just like that...they want to just hang out to see what youre about. bw knowing that you want to hangout take it for granted. play hella games just to go on a few dates. all women will test men its in their dna but bw take it to the extreme. other groups of women in relation to a good bm dont play as near as many games because they know quality bm are out here but not abundant.
There is no law requiring men to approach women. Despite women's lamentations, that is part of female entitlement, something men have helped perpetuate for centuries. So if they are in fact strong women, they can do the approaching themselves.
+Keith Nicholson Amen bruh. Preach. I now have that same mind-set.
@ReeNikki You might be single forever
The intriguing thing about this subject is the fact that we really do love our black women. The sad thing about this subject is that our women are looking for something instilled into their psyche about what a real black alpha male should be and look like. I have had countless white females approach me and tell me how handsome I am but a remember very few black women doing the same even when they are interested (not that I need their validity). Might possibly explain why I have dated more white females than I have black females.
But it's the same BF that treat BM like shit that will then turn around and get mad at the BM for dating a WF.
Great video and a lot of valid points, personally speaking though I don't approach black women at bars/clubs. The reason? because black women at these places feel it's ok to emasculate men and dehumanize us. I'm talking you come at a "sister" polite and she is just giving you some attitude like "how dare this n****a come talk to me" only black women I approach are ones that are choosing or through social circle. On top of that I don't approach black women cause I'm not a thug and lot of black women where i live wanna be with a thug or pretty boy i.e. Trey Songz type.
+Mr Sheppard Minneapolis
+Solotv84 Story of my life.
Solotv84 wow, every 100% of black women you met have dehumanized you? I have never in life witness a black woman do this but in Tv and I'm black. 👀👀👀👀
things occur in this world that seem unlikely but are true
Solotv84 great to see you here . How is you Tommy Curry study going . Also any views on the book "anatomy of female power"
Great video. It's good to know other brothers went through the same issue with approaching black women that I did. Once I decided to date other cultures of women, approaching women became much easier. Sad to say, but true. I think women of my generation over 50 stopped trusting black men, passed it down to their daughters and that's why brothers keep getting all this attitude when trying to approach.
Where the hell are these things happening?I live in Atlanta.I was married for 20 years to blackwoman.We grew apart but are still cool.Few year later,I met another beautiful smart sister and she is just fine.I don't see all these problems.If you are a superficial person,your values are probably superficial and you are looking for the wrong things in a person.If two people come together are honest,then things click,but if both are fake,it wont.
Carlo Webb First the video was requested by a female subscriber at the time. Second you live in Atlanta, you know the male to female ratio, and the women competing for men. Third your inuendo was wrong and out of pocket.
Sorry you feel that way,but if the shoe fits,then most likely you will have a problem with what I'm talking about.I didn't say what I said to check anyone.I said what I said because many seem to be missing each other.We all have our points of view.I just don't make excuses and complain and blame others for everything in my life.I try to find out the truth first from self examination then go outside myself.to generalize Black Woman, is not the answer.The reason why is you are the one who is making the choice of the person you wish to approach.You must accept responsibility for why you are being rejected or why woman are rude to you.Is it really more likely that out of the many Black Women you enecountered they were just inherently rude,or is more like that all these Black Women have one thing in common which is you and your just an asshole.The truth is in there somewhere.You may not admit to being an asshole but if that many Black women don't like you then that's a consensus of something wrong with you that your over looking.
Carlo Webb I get it now. You didn't watch the video and you're trolling on an assumption.
You just took me back to the days of my youth when sisters weren't giving me the time of day when I was really attracted to them. How they were only interested in your attention and nothing else. How they wouldn't work with you at all. How you were turned down by their friends even if the girl was initially interested. And when you found one who was willing and gave you a chance and took her out you realized that her ex who was white seen us together and decided to call her all of a sudden which would cause her to push you to the side. Or the fact that actually making out with one was considered "luck" whether enjoyable or not. Too much work for much too little.
Yeah black women have that nasty attitude and make it hard too talk too them
+Aaron Plummer I agree i approached a black woman about 2 years ago and she snapped and i was damn
+Legend Killer then i complimented a white woman. and she was like thanks babe
You learn, then you do better... i.e. do you.
Sisters should be looking for a family oriented Black man end of story
Not in this day n age
Ascension 2000 chase thugs or white boys
Black Paw
Those days are long gone
I stopped messing with black women. Whenever I used to approach black women they wouldn't give me the time of day. They would either act like I didn't exist, have an attitude or talk shit amongst their friends. I had no luck with the sistas. Right now I'm dating a white woman. We've been dating for about 5 months now and things seem to be going well.
There is many BM who are in your situation too , i wish we can just wear a special shirt , that has a special design on it , that means hey i am a good Bw or Bm and i am single looking for a good partner not a fuck buddy
+Lacarma A.Vessup bro how are you trying to meet someone in person if the only thing you kbow about them is a comment on youtube? how do you know shes the one for you? lol desperate much?
I don't blame you..
+Block O Just curious, if you are happily married with kids to a white woman, why are you on a site entitled "reasons black men don't approach black women"? Are you still thinking of black women?
***** This all sounds like a huge contradiction to being 8 years happily married with kids to a white woman. You should have moved forward by now. Your last statement reveals the mindset of someone who is more "thuggish" than "nice", which is yet another contradiction. You don't sound like a "nice" guy. You simply sound like a "rejected" guy.
It's because we are smart.
And we are wishing up to their bs
I never proclaimed myself to be MGTOW but I've actually gave up on women due to excessive rejection in combination with getting into trouble. This dry spell lasted for 20 years.
No, its because you haven't met the "Right" pretty, educated and polite "White" woman..., give the White woman a chance..., I betcha you won't regret it..
Brother stay single it ain't shit out here
Stay MGTOW monk
@@WhitemenaresoSexy 💯💯💯💯
@@WhitemenaresoSexy right
7 years ago this was made....and look at where things are now in 2021. Men found out women don’t like accountability and transparency and all hell had broke loose #manlisten
Spot on bruh! I went through a phase when I was approaching women all the time. After getting shot down so many times a was like. Fuck it! Why even bother anymore.
exactly
Feel u
No, get yourself a white woman..., end of story..
queensgambit did you become gay after ? Just wondering because that was the answer for a friend of mine.
Facts
Look at the comment section finally I'm among guys who understand the difficulty.
Glad you can see you weren't alone
I'm happy to hear your video because men always stare at me but never approach me and I'm shy so I just keep going on about my business
The rejection part is on point thats why im real cautious on who i talk to
Why is it so hard to find a woman who can actually be dated? Why?
I appreciate the honesty in this video. Very well put
No problem. Thanks for watching.
Good insight about us men experimenting with different types of women.I've noticed for example that women who are into being fit are more confident about themselves.Also more willingly to meet guys.Of course you do need to be in reasonable shape.A fat Albert type has little or no chance with her.
It’s the attitude... I know people said it in the comments already. That’s what it is for me.
You got my attention.....not only because you're attractive but I actually learned something new.
We don't approach them because we can spot their BS from a mile away. I'll spare myself.
Thank you for this video. I was in a group yesterday and this topic came up. you offered great input
Glad to be of service.
It's not about hating you. You're just something to be avoided! they're just not happy unless you're miserable!
Eric Brown ,exactly bro,most bw aren't content unless you're burnt out
Very true
I’m from the Bay Area where we learned to pop our collar but you’ve made great points that I AGREE WITH!
I'm going to keep it real as a black man the reason why a lot of black men don't approach black women because they are not physically endowed and they don't want to be shot down by the black woman. Or they may feel monetarily inept to that woman. What brothers have to realize is that a real woman just wants a man that has a sense of self.
STFU you simping ass black mangina beta male
D whitted are you a woman
*$en$e of $elf. Fixed that for ya. Lol
Black men are learning something.
"The problem is that games and porn are entertaining, inexpensive, easily accessible, and reliable. Women can be entertaining, but they’re expensive, inaccessible for most men, and from the male perspective, shockingly unreliable."
Helen Smith, Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters
Why approach women I just be on my 📱 smart phone.
Most guys like us don't approach women because we don't want to be rejected or get played / with black people in general always try to embarrass one another especially in public or on social media nd u got some of these black females who will diss u from trying to talk with them just to show off in front of their friends so that's why I will only startup a conversation with a black women if I see she interested in me cuz I'm not dealing with no aggressive attitude
I'm very honored by your comment. I'm sure that that is the reason why I get so much respect from women. You get what you give.
Thank you for your honesty, said in a very respectful way (unlike some other youtuber's and authors). The problem is a deeply embedded and complex one, socially engineered. and passed down from generation to generation. Change starts within and we really need to start. I now make eye contact and smile at black men respectfully and if approached, do not assume straight away that he wants something. I respond intelligently and respectfully and if he suggests, will kindly decline but thank him. As a black woman, I know historically what we have had to endure, some of it at the hands of our own black men so, you have to understand as men our 'attitude', it is a survival and defence mechanism. Black men may have had it bad but as a black women, we also have had it real rough, and this still continues. it is any wonder we are "angry" or "aggressive" or " have bad attitudes". I get not every black man is going to have the ability to work with all that but, we as women have had to stand by our black men. Remember, behind every successful man is a great woman. So fellas, don't give up on us, put the effort in, don't just look at pretty faces, get to know REAL women, Virtuous black women. Ladies, to approach someone you like is really difficult so give the next man who approaches you some respect (especially if he approaches you with respect). Be the queens that you once were. It is a COMPLIMENT. Stay in the here and now and be honest, polite and courteous.
People recognise what is really going on and start to make that change TODAY as we are in danger of being 'bred out' our culture is already being taken, fashion, music, art, dance, philosophy, you name it... especially here in the UK. Do you know there was a 49% increase in mixed race couples from 2001-2011, the same is happening in the USA. check your census. This is a real issue...
Can’t wait until I can put in my video request!
You are so on point Brother -
I only get approached by masculine men, which is a great thing, plus I have a warm inviting vibe and I smile a lot . I realize that some men are shy. It’s very important to have open energy. I’m a feminine women and enjoy it to the fullest 😌
As a black woman I am in love with this video and plan on sharing it. I love hearing a black man state his reasons but it doesn't come from a place of hate. It comes from a place of purity. I love your delivery and I love how you didn't blame women. I love how you put your words together and I love the overall tone of this video. I feel that you love black women but you have dealt with some liars and you didn't put the information out there to bash women. You simple put the information out there to inform us and this is actually something I can listen to and take note of. I wish all men would simple express themselves like this. I get tired of all of the female bashing. Love love love the approach.
You just said brutal. The truth doesn't have to be brutal. So yes you just answered you own question.
Any man that blames a woman for being at fault for the situation of the black community is not a man at all. A scholar by the name of Dr. Yosef Ben Jocahannan once said ""Show me how you treat your WOMEN and I will show you the condition of your race." He as in the black scholar with a doctorate (something you don't have) was referring to MEN. With that being said you are not worth my time and this is my last message to you.
Black women in my experience are more nicer to whites. Even when they are corny as hell. I’m mixed race and sometimes they told me I’m not black enough. But nevertheless I still found a black woman who appreciates me for who I am and married her. I wanted a black woman because I still wanted to maintain blackness in my children
Thanks for the video makes complete sense on so many different levels.
I'm glad to, I really think all the truly nice down to earth sisters should really have a talk with other sisters about these issues.
I think it's necessary too
I think its necessary for black women to be with white men...., so black women get together and talk and start looking outside..☺☺
@Gatorade......Are you a white male?
To all the men that feel they can't approach/talk to our blaque sistaz. THANK YOU. I'm the type of guy that does and when 1 or 2 women don't speak back nooooo big deal becuz my catalog is full of desirable women
good I think that's exactly the way you should act with them
JONZUN
I have better luck with non-black women, anyway. Enjoy
All that time dealing with women, you must not have any time to yourself. No hobbies, no free time or thoughts, and surely less money.
Not to disrespect because u may be telling the truth both in ur comment and also to the women. But if we keeping it real most of us black men hear all to often from black women that ur the guy there trying to stay away from. Yet they don't ? Which scrambles up the situation even more which makes for more difficulty. As he said in the video when u hurt them they don't take it out on u they take it out on the next guy who's probably like wtf I do ? So when a guy like me goes to introduce myself she already looking at me like I'm the devil. Then because she figure I too ain't hitting own shit she manifest that disrespect which has been bolstered by hearing her mother for 30 years talk about how her dady wasn't shit. And for me that's where the buck stops
I like the delivery of this video. It's not angry or anything. Excellent vernacular ; no swearing love it. In what universe do black men not approach black women??? I have read and heard and experienced black men bei g less selective and basically using the statics of asking everyone and see who bites!
Glad you enjoyed the video. When we get older we are more selective because of our experiences. But it's more compartmentalized. If I want a lady I know who to approach if I want a freak I know who to approach. I was just saying why we don't approach certain women in a situational context.
Man Mars you got some good comments on here bro...When I was going through my trials for the Hunger Games...at times it was extremely discouraging to talk to black women who simply didn't have time or were "focusing on themselves".My personal favorite I'm in a relationship with Jesus.My brother was saying it on the phone the other day he gave up trying to talk to them because they want you to come at them like a pre packaged black Ken doll,come on really in this economy?We all working to do better.A la too many games.
BLACKS FAVORITE LINE " YOU DON'T KNOW ME"
I enjoyed your insight good video and true .
Great video. Thanks for posting it. You make a lot of good points. And yes, a women (as well as a man) needs to feel comfortable in her own skin and have no insecurities if she's worth going out with.
Colored barbie dolls who've been gagged don't have to worry about a real brother approaching them because they're marked by their behavior and that squeaky red girl sound they call 👄 talking and they ain't coming up on no strong brother anyway so it shouldn't make a brother feel any way so it ain't nothing but a lotti da.😎. Dont feel me. Sheeeeee!!!
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This is good, makes me feel at ease.. I don't want black men to approach me, for any reason at all... so this is refreshing to hear...
nkreseknowledge
My thoughts exactly most of us them.
Marsha Scott As a Caribbean black male I can say that there are problems on both sides, but I would place the spotlight on the black female as the primary cause. The woman has an extremely important place in the whole scheme of things. She is the gateway to the beginnings of any relationship. She is the one that must use wisdom to pick and choose which man she will entertain or engage as a potential to be her head as a family unit, when she is approached. If you end up with a dog, or a loser etc, the fault lies with you. Inspect the car before you jump in for a ride, or else don't be suprised when you crash later on down the line. A man approaching you especially in this day and age takes courage, and the least you can do as a woman, is to carry yourself with dignity when a brotha approaches you. Most times the way you carry yourself will gauge the approach of said male prospects. Men tailor themselves to gain your affections in many ways. Being loud, angry, and dismissive of brothas has caused the ripple effect upon black women that we see today. Their attitude is not a secret. The whole world knows it. Consider every interaction an important one, and let the way you handle yourself within them, be a reflection of who you are or aspire to be
Awesome. Comment. EVERY. Black woman should listen to this
ReeNikki How can you expand your options when you don't have any? Say what you want, but there is 100 stastical facts to back up these facts about black women not having options.
Maurice Cruise Exactly lmao when I was at a restaurant some white guy called his black girl friend that slur cause they got into a fight,in I didn't feel bad at all. Because she was trying to make me feel some type of way with her white man, when swirling goes wrong 😂😂
Thanks for your gracious commentary. You kept it clean, sincere, and respectful. I appreciate that. HOWEVER...the comments from the Black 'men' about Black Women's attitudes just makes me shake my head in utter disbelief. Truth be told: Most Black women are tired of ya'll, too! We've been dealing with all the madness, drama, lies, deceit, and the list goes ON, so get over it. You had no problem with breaking hearts, sleeping with your brother's girl friend, and/or tapping your ex or child's mother while you were seeing a new love/like interest. And oh, yes, news flash: The jails and prisons are filled with whom???? Mostly Black men. And we STILL have sista's who will commit to ya'll IN JAIL! And please don't tell me about "The man" or the 'System," cause you will marry and impregnate the Man's daughter and damn near take care of the whole family. You can't claim oppression on the right hand and sleep with it on the left. OWN YOUR STUFF. It's not all peaches and cream on this side, either. No matter what: we haven't given up on the Black man. ***Drops microphone***
These so called "black men" that you are describing sounds like the typical thug low life. I know plenty of real "black men" who don't fit your description at all these are usually men you would call square or "Lame" because they ain't "Popping off" on some thug shit
Afroblu Atlanta
What do you mean by "are tired of ya'll, too!"?
It appears to me that one of the reasons why "Most Black women are tired
of ya'll" is because they at one point in their lives picked the wrong
person or persons, as it is so with many black women, to date or go to bed
with.I have lived and out of black communities my entire
life, and one thing that I have notice and still find common is that most black
girls want to date "THUGGS! They do not want to date the (so Called)
goodie- goodies. You know, they do not want to date the young men who are
actually going to go to college and have a nice career and a bright and
promising future; no they would rather date and sleep with someone or some
ones! who are in and out of jails and prisons , Someone who gets them
pregnant and then goes off to prison for 5, 10, 15 or 20 years, Someone who is
in a gang, or someone who sells drugs or someone who .......... Do you
understand this? So when I hear you or any other black girls or women say
"Most Black women are tired of ya'll", It jars my rational thinking.
The fact of the matter is you picked this loser, and he got you pregnant, and
then he went off to prison to his true home. And now you want everyone to feel
sorry for you because of the horrible choice you made? And you want them to
have empathy for you because you are a single mother? Who picked the loser? Who
over looked the "Goodie Goodie" and laid with the criminal?
Black women on average have bad attitudes, and maybe this
is one of the reasons why they have no REAL! Man in their lives. Take responsibility
for your own foolishness, and bad choices, and stop taking it out on the world.
You F--**ed up not them.
Like wise, my brother, like wise.
Afroblu Atlanta hey. I thought I responded to you a long time ago, but since I didn't here's what you are missing. First a woman wanted me to talk about this. Secondly, I wasn't referring to sluts, criminals, gold diggers, and so on as the standard for black women like you did for men. Third, this isn't about disrespect, you actually made a reasonable conversation unreasonable. Your ideas of the black men you're tired of is basically a KKK stereotype that is void from the idea or acknowledges the guys who are the opposite and their perspective.
Hi Afroblu, "The Wise Ones Accept Reproof And Facts, And Become Wiser. But, The Ignorant Fools Reject Reproof And Facts, And Stay Ignorant And Foolish" -FACT!
This is some great insight! Thank you for being honest and tactful. I think you're right, in Atlanta, there are many fakers in both sexes and you're right about the girls night out trap. I just realized a friend of mine blocked an opportunity I had to know someone and I didn't even realize what went down until some time and thought later. Funny thing is now she's in a relationship. Hindsight is 20/20. I know a handful of "good" single women with standards, including myself. I think we need to get out more without the blocking friends. Lol. You're cute btw.
Thanks for watching, commenting, and understanding. I saw your other comments too. I made a few about us guys recently and have been pondering doing more. So it's coming.
larmovement hey brother we as BM, Good Black Men that is cannot allude to the fact that u have some brothers in our community who have for the past couple of years have been giving us a bad name, those cats know who they r and we can't turn a blind eye to their behavior which is directly affecting our interactions with each other as BM and BW, I LOVE MY SISTAS and to an extent i can over-stand their initial behavior, to an extent.
blackwolverine1 I agree and I have made videos addressing that also. I just try to stick to the topic. But whatever video you see there is probably one representing the other side of the coin. This one I think has 2 that touch on that.
larmovement keep knocking those videos out is all i could say as u can see i took the liberty of viewing some of ur joints, there's nothing like speaking the truth and speaking ur mind.
You right... I live in Atlanta and a lot of people not true to themselves
The blessed Child, I respect your comment. It reasonate with your post name. Dam good advice, but I don't know anyone who is at this spiritual level. Point well taken
Ricky is on point with that statement.
I do not live in the US, nor am I from the US, though I do have several friends and relatives there. However, through information that I have been coming across on various videos here, as well as information from elsewhere, I'm becoming more enlightened about the dynamic between black men and women in America. It's really beginning to sound like quite a grim situation....hmmm.....what struck me as well was your easy, polite, sincere attitude. Plus, you're well spoken....for me, that's VERY attractive. And you are pretty attractive, by the way ;)
Thanks and I hope you are finding other videos that are sincere as well. Because I know some are pretty rough.
larmovement Yes indeed I have been checking out some of your other videos and I've been reflecting quite a bit on the contents. I admire not only your sincerity, but your general decency and moreover, your insightfulness on the topics. Many persons are nowhere near that level of awareness. Thanks for your interest and concern and for enlightening us, or at least for giving us the opportunity to pause and ponder :) You seem like someone with whom I could have some meaningful exchanges ;)
Thank you very much and I am down with the meaningful exchanges.
I will take your advice and flirt with my eyes. I recently have tried saying things more gently if I like the guy. What I am about to say I am meaning to say politely and this is just my personal observation. It's almost like guys are afraid of anything social or that involves putting yourself out there. It has to be user friendly. I am starting to understand that this is how guys work but it seems almost unfair and very silly to me. Only because as a woman even to obtain most of the very dear friends that I have female and male, I have had to put myself out there socially on some level and take a chance, I have gotten rejected plenty of times for all the times that I have gotten accepted and most of the women that I know have had terrible things happen to them socially but they don't let it frighten them so. The fear just does not make much sense to me as women socially seem to endure more socially and still manage to find the courage to put their heart on the line if they love the guy, I feel like courage deserves a partner of equal courage. As for financial, my finances are in order, I am OK, but I would just be more attracted to the guy if he took the lead, like offered to take me to dinner, and properly stood on the other side of the door and held the door open for me not because my arms don't work but honestly I would be attracted to a guy and would consider the sex part of the relationship if I got signs that they felt I was worth investing time and money in not because I don't have the money but because he is a gentlemen and thinks I am worth getting to know.
You sure summed it all up. Dating has been rough "Buy you a drink, dinner and ask for some ass". Heart breaking when you know you have more to offer. I recognize and move to the left of that. All I can do is focus on self, continue to be a welcoming spirit . A good man with good intentions will gravitate towards me. Keep up the great videos. Nice job!!!
Freaked up attitude is a big part.
I've been asked out a lot in the past, and I was always very polite and rejected them, but their response was always the same.
How come? Or why?
My thing is is that I shouldn't have to elaborate on why I'm rejecting you you should just take it like it is...a rejection and move on.
FYI I'm talking about men in general, and no I'm not talking about just black men Asian man white men Hispanic men etc etc etc.
Repent and Believe
My point is That they should never ask in the 1st place, Take the rejection and move on
Repent and Believe
Lol who hasn't been rejected, but in my case I was rejected a few times.
Repent and Believe
Why do people especially men feel the need to not take no for answer why do you feel as if you deserve an explanation on why I'm saying no.
Omg, this is my first time ever seeing one of your videos and you are unbelievably good looking. (I'm a female) Good video, too.
Well thank you for the compliment on both.
***** No Im not. Im a woman. Lol.
right on brotha!!!
Fellas sometimes she might be stressed out, so don't take it personally
You are making a lot of excuses for bad behavior.
larmovement no that's why I said sometimes, not the ones who are naturally mean, sometimes. Sometimes you don't want to talk or your stress out, we'll I'm talking for myself, but I would still speak but I don't feel like having a whole conversation either
ashley hawkins I get that. Understood
Real talk. Like I hate when they are like smile...like you don't know what people are going through
Bria Barrows yea but don't nobody want to hear that
I wish I had the time to really respond to this. This is a good conversation starter. I could go on for days. Sn: your skin has a glow today. It's nice (I mean that in a masculine way) lol
Well not today but in this video
Lol I got you. Glad the video sparks interaction.
Sounds like Muhammad Ali.
This is "general" for every type of women.
I believe that the women who actually want interaction with you and have good hearts make themselves known. If you have a good heart you deserve good things💕.also stop listening to your bitter ass friends who will talk u out of a relationship.and fight the urge to be hiveminded creatures following everything thing in a magazine. And beyonce can afford to be a diva or a bitch or whatever she's actually married and rich.some women dont have that.😕
Only mammies want a bm to approach.Most classy bw dont give a dam.The ones that men would like to approach dont want to be approached.Bw know bm dont take rejection lightly
I understand the intent of the video and your role. I'm speaking about the black men who diss black women. The fact that you can't believe a black man can defend black women says more about you than about me.
You write like a female troll posing it has nothing to do with black men defending black women.
AKA's do have that reputation
+Micheal Johnson don't generalize
They are looking for Material gain, What does the package come with a car a house something they can see that has value. Women even pass up good black men who are 6 figure dudes but do not wear it on their arms so the woman pass him up, then later notice she fucked up when she see that dude getting into a Benz or big Cadillac Escalade or buying another beautiful woman a drink who is not black might I add!
Alhakim Stewart It's the best of times and the worst of times
Exactly what I was asking
its just way more work if youve dated other types of women. even if you get the number the shit is a headache to get them out
This some real shit bruh that's how I been gettin ass drink dinner ass in that order and in young
I've just reading the comments below and conclusion is; the nice approachable black women need to shout louder and separate themselves from the typical cold unwelcoming ones that gives you a bad rep.
Even though I have dated more women outside my race due to the warmer welcome I received from women outside my race most of the time here in the UK. However I have met and dated good black women. Please check out this black woman in the link below she is a breath of fresh air
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The problem is your intentions most black men are not married and is constantly looking for women to fulfill their desires. If more black men will get married and take on a purposeful relationships we woudnt have a big problem
I refuse to get married in order to see an "improvement" in my woman. That's foolish.
Huh!? He's too in shape? That's a first for me. I'd think that'd be an asset.
I'm in a city that has an obesity issue. Women here like fat guys.
well that is just funny i am sorry
I AGREE!!! 100%
@maximuslyricus some things are in general that I have heard from other guys. But I myself wouldn't know about dating other races. I will say generally it's an easier conversation or one with less underlying animosity.
Again well said.
masculine, rude and sometimes they don't look good as think
Amen bro do the grace of God Amen
Not worth the effort in my book. I love the peace that comes with my singleness.
I really liked what you said I love my BM I have never crossed the barriers
alot of Women and Men have hidden agendas but I say just be yourself a smile goes a long way and or just a hi like you said and a joke and a laugh goes along way like a sister commented 10months ago and start there you never know if the response is instant cool if not keep on moving maybe you'll see that person of interest again and see if they approach you
you sound cool and you do know what you're talking about
I try to see what persons personality is like how they approach you my only thing with a Man is their shoes if they are all twisted to the side all scuffed up and dirty feet hanging over to the side as one of my co-workers says you better go on and get or you need to sit down somewhere ha! cause that tells me right there no no no! You jacked up everywhere ha! Have a good day
Gloria Jordan It's about context sometimes. Reality and perception can get misconstrued when dealing with adult interaction in my opinion.
Handsome Man ! flying to the USA .......
Don't make me smile. Lol. Thanks
I tune in to many African Americans on You tube Men and Women....I love the warmth and straight forward speaking. ....My friend is African American and she lives here in the UK...you have a lovely vibe, an attractive persona...I can see why White Women like Black guys..Oh and i do not wish to upset Black Women either...I would love to hang out with you all when i fly to the USA ! make everyone a cup of tea ! ha ha ha LOL
Purple Sunflower if I could I would.
Is that sanford and son in back ground
It was my ring tone
lol its mine too
larmovement you ain't never lie!
damn homie thought u was Sheek Louch str8 up
I absolutely love"black women"but hate what they have become! I'm only attracted to sista's and that's probably why I'm still single at 39 with only I child.
I haven't approached a black woman in years. I don't see that changing anytime soon. I think other races of women are just nicer people.
Say what? I hear you man, and I completely agree with you. 💯
Love been single.Donot have to worry about the lies
The women who are in debt but gotta house and car I dated one of those lol never again
a few weeks ago I saw a beautiful lady walk past me I was getting something from my new car she was attractive outside and then I saw her again dressed very skimpy passed me all this time I don't say anything and another time same place our eyes met didn't say nothing and still saw her talking to my neighbor who is out off my intrest she is pretty to me but there is a problem out there girls sent by police to manipulate you then they cry rape is a set up be careful to strangers.
Some of these wemen dont have any thing to offer but body well the body and face is going to be ugly and old and what do the women have thin
That's right.
I really don't get these videos. Lol but they always appear on my suggestions. Meanwhile over 83% of blk men marry blk women. So what were you saying again?
olivia king Look this video is 4 years old and this topic was at the request from a female subscriber back then.