Journalling is the most powerful personal growth tool you have at your disposal. Click to download my free 31-day fillable PDF. It gives you a single high impact prompt every single day. Download here: bit.ly/3ZQ54cx
What happens when you get offended? 1. You experience negative emotions 2. Nothing else happens! The world doesn't stop, no one dies, civilisation doesn't end. Everything and everyone, but you, carry on as before. Why experience negative emotions about something so inconsequential, so devoid of meaning? If you really must, think to yourself "that's offensive", then brush it off and give it no more thought. You stay happier, you prove you Ego is superior to the challenge, and the world keeps turning.
@@MysteriousBeingOfLight That's what happens. One knows being offended is bad, but the way to brush it off I don't know it. Be as most occupied as you can be in other activities that make you forget the thing.
I know what you say is true, but if I just brush it off and don't respond to the person offending me, he or she is going to do it again. So how can you stop being a pushover in these kind of situations?
Raised by judge-mental parents who were very kind and loving toward me. I have always been nice and cared about others but my sensitive ego got me in a lot of trouble as I felt beat up by the world. I spent my early 20s focused on fixing my mental issues and I realized I put way too much thought into other peoples opinions of me so I decided to just put myself out there as much as I felt comfortable and to try hard to brush off negativity. It takes practice but I’m happy to say now I’m better socially now than I ever imagined I would be and I can receive insults with little to no negative reaction because I choose not to.
You seem to be very wise for a young man, no offence. Some older people than me still dont get the lessons. I will watch some more of your clips, you have a good insight in to things. On a side note: I was wondering what part of England you come from because your accent sounds familiar. I grew in Croydon, South London. Moved around a lot since then. spent some time in Australia like yourself.
No offence taken at all. Quite the opposite! I do get that a lot 😊 I'm from Derbyshire originally but my accent has had influences from all over really. Mainly my drama teacher when I was younger though 😉 Glad you have found the channel to be useful. Watch the space! Peace ❤
Yes, of course, we dont get offended. Maybe I Made the mistake of trying to connect the idea of you to the idea of me. Where we have lived is not so important perhaps. Peace and thank you.
I'm so happy I found your video. I thought I became an emotionless person. I can no longer get offended no matter what is said to me. I either shrug the insult or say thank you and move on with my life.
Same! I literally thought I'm becoming numb!! People called me many names "Ugly", "b*tch" a "f*cking loser" etc but tbh it doesn't even affect me one bit and I just laugh it off. It's quite weird because back then when someone would be verbally aggressive towards me, I'd either cry or get angry lol
Thank you 🙏🏼 I have been a very defensive person, easily offended.. it’s caused a lot of issues in my romantic relationships. I got (I’m using past tense because I don’t want to identify with this anymore) upset over the smallest things and created bigger issues. As soon as you said ego I was like, yep… I’ve been through a lot of abuse in my life and i decided after it all that I’m not someone who gets used and abused anymore. So any small perceived threat to that, I get livid. If I truly was at peace with my ability to Recognize and walk away from abuse - I wouldn’t have to be so hyper vigilant. Thank you for helping me with some profound realizations.
I learned this several years ago. I put it into practice and now, nothing or no one can touch me. The power it gives me is unbelievable. It's totally changed my life. A great video. Thank you for sharing. A new sub from me. 👌
@@magickinfused5230 How many narcissistic people do you know? 🤔 It doesn't matter what type of person you are dealing with, use the same principle. Listen to the video again. It's that easy. If I get a consistently bad vibe from a friend, or work colleague, I simply distance myself from them. I wish them all the best in their journey, but I won't be a part of it. Not every person that is in your life HAS to be in your life. Surround yourself with positive, like-minded people. Do you know the best response to give a narcissist? No response.
@@cutler65 my parents are narcissistic it's emotionally stunting as a child to not be cared about when it comes to your feelings because they're not equip to deal with them a narcissist will actually be triggered by your feelings and attack you as a child this doesn't make sense and makes you feel unloved and worthless and it causes depression or anxiety or if you go the other way it'll turn you into a narc.
What we're saying when we take offence is that we value the offenders opinion of us more than we value our own opinion of ourselves. In other words, that we the offended, have low self esteem.
@@snowframe2995How we feel comes down to how we think about ourselves and not how others treat us. I get insulted often however it has no effect on me, I merely smile as I recognise that the person in front of me has an issue, these issues do not belong to me. Does that help?
@@eeurr1306 20 plus years of studying psychology says it is I'm afraid mate but if you have something to add that I missed I'm willing to hear/read it.
Thank you, this was so helpful. I am a part of a fan base and I stood up for it and some people called us cringe. I feel stupid just for feeling offended by something so little. This made me realize that I am more than I could ever Imagine all of us are, we all live around an, like you said, idea of what we think we are but we don’t even know. It made me laugh just thinking about it. Thank you so much for this video. You seem like a very open minded and wise person.
Narcissistic and abusive people will abuse others and tell the one they offended that it is themself (not the offender) and in their own mind. That is caused gaslighting. Offense is truly an indicator of something that if wrong, most times, of those who are offending the offended. It is a cut for the offended one to either attempt to resolve it through making one aware of the offense or simply walking away. Now, which resolution is necessary depends on how important the offender is in the offended one's life.
I am offended when colleagues blow me off when I gave insights into issues with evidence ☹️. I don’t rock the boat, I don’t just throw some pointless questions out. I just don’t get it😡. I am already very humble and cooperative 🤷🏻♂️
Wow. You did a splendid job at breaking down the train of thought behind it, Oliver! Very insightful and potentially life changing advice for some sensitive folks like myself. Thanks, bud.
You didn't take narcissism into account. Not everyone is a mirror of themselfs because they lack empathy and self reflecting. If you're outraged by a narcissist then that's not your problem it's theirs. They are manpliating and triggering you on purpose.
Yes. Narcissistic and abusive people will abuse others and tell the one they offended that it is them and in their mind. That is caused gaslighting. Offense is truly an indicator of something that if wrong, most times, of those who are offending the offended. It is a cut for the offended one to either attempt to resolve it through making one aware of the offense or simply walking away. Now, which resolution is necessary depends on how important the offender is in the offended one's life.
@@taliagoodwomanmann yeah, it sure is a cut to the offended when you try to hold the narcisst accountable to their own offensive behaviour and all they do is twist it by saying you're the problem *gaslighting* like you mentioned. I think the best resolution for this situation is self validation and becoming successful in yourself is the ultimate form of closure from the narcisst. Because you'll never get accountability or closure from them.
I think I am worst than everyone here , because after watching this video I feel really offended ........ Hope someday I learn to be not offended by literally anything......
You get offended because you have a distorted idea of yourself because of social media and their standards. You can fight back easily by focusing what matters. The meaning of life is to give life meaning. Likes and views aren’t meaning.
This sounds like dissociation to me and is dangerous. The underlying emotion under feeling offended is hurt, and pretending that we didn't feel what we felt in the name of 'it's all my ego' causes distrust within the personality system and eventual dysfunction. Emotions are there for a reason and no matter how petty, frivolous, immature or childish they seem, we must honor and tend to them, rather than 'transcend' them. The thing is not to explode to others when offended but to go inward and acknowledge the hurt emotion and tend to it and repair it and decide if to continue interacting with the thing/ individual offending us, and if so, in what manner, or if to disengage and seek to engage with more healthy people.
This is a veryyy interesting conterargument, thanks for bringing it up and sharing it. Could you elaborate on the 'dysfunction due to distrust in the personality system' and how to 'tend to emotions internally/inwardly'? Thank you! Lastly, would you say there are any positives to dissociation?
@@snowframe2995 Internal Family Systems (IFS) by Richard Schwartz helps us see ourselves as a conglemeration of different 'parts'. Dysfunction comes in when we exile and disown parts of ourselves that we don't know how to handle. IFS gives us the tools to talk to all the different parts within ourselves so that they are all on the same page and none is in the background/basement actively trying to sabotage the system. Ignoring the voices of some of the parts means they don't get heard and hence will act up by misbehaviour or dysfunction to get our attention. There are other schools of thought that explain this similarly (eg. Jungian archetypes), this is the one that comes to mind right now.
I watched the video and then re read your comment just to make sure i could see where you were coming from. No clue how you came to that conclusion. You’re misinforming people on this video.
1:07 and we are not just one idea because we are not a one-sided character who is and believes in one thing, therefore we shouldn’t take it as personally as we do! 🤯 cool way to think about it.
I'm an artist and my couple asked for other artists ideas and opinions about a project so I am fucking livid but I get what you are saying and I thank you so much! Like fuck!! Blah but thank you
thanks for the insight. earlier this week I was offended about someone saying my voice sounds like someone. but my ego did not like that as it is attached to an idea I have of myself. but I am much larger than an idea someone has of me or my own idea of my self. that idea is to do with that person and not me.
Came to this video after having a fight with a friend. Im 15 and i started learning to drive today. And my friends made fun of this and said "ohh you are 15 and doesnt know how to drive??" I don't get offended easily but in this situation i became very mad. They said the average age a person learns how to drive is 10-12. They were being total jerks about it, boasting that they learned how to drive at the age of 9.
Throw it back to be funny or positive.. maybe Yea! I’m 15 and I wouldn’t have done it differently! I love that I’m driving! How did y’all start driving??
@@npn8945 maybe don’t take it personal. It’s more about there emotions and feelings or lack of communication skills. From then follow your gut if you would like to surround yourself with those negative people or find better friends. You can also communicate that you don’t like that they talk to you like that and ask them to stop.
Cheers Oliver. I myself unfortunately went into a rage because the person was seriously, arguably being so hardheaded and I used a "stigmatized" word with a powerful intent with my intention, which in hindsight I wasn't playing "societies" rules, when I it was in that instant of myself understanding this, in a strange way, I decided to speak it out cause that would be "his" shit ultimately in my mind but turned bad, so my bad but holy cow, don't we all? I'm just trying to understand, I've been through some things and this helps to speak into the cosmos. Sorry Mike.
2:02 1) How people treat not about you 3:04 2) know 5:59 And more 1. It’s Not a end word ( bro it’s not end word chill out it’s okay] 2. You experience negative emotions 3. It’s human Yes it’s human So what you are not alone This happen to people 4. Just ignore them [ stay away from these people And they are hypocrite or jealous or there Sad LOL
I am really going to work on applying this concept in my life. I'm about to quit a great, well-paying job over someone who constantly offends me and I can't take it any longer. Perhaps this will help me cope so I can keep the job I love.
I quit the job and for the past year my husband and I have been traveling Europe. I had been there 10 years so it was hard to leave but I'm much happier now. I realized I was sad about a job that no longer existed. The one where there wasn't a bunch of drama. Thank you for asking.@@Яблочный0
What if you reply to them something like "you know, your response says more about you then it does me." Would they think that's weird? How would they respond to that?
What if the reason your offended Is exactly because of the fact that something isn't about you. When it should be. What if you objectively rationalise a situation that should technically prioritise you. But doesn't...... And even the greater problem is...... What if you're offense is a reasonable response.... How do you control it if it's not causes. By ego...
@@OliverCowlishaw I have a question. Is it possible to have 0% feeling of getting angry or offended towards negative or rude people. Is it possible to train your mind to such an extent? Or is the feeling of at least some tiny form of anger or offence inevitable and natural in everyone and we just have no choice but to counter it? Like can we completely diminish such feelings in the first place before it comes to us?
Perpetually offended people are such a bore. As the wonderful folksinger Greg Brown says in one of his songs, “It’s a messed up world but, I love it anyway” 🌞🌎
It’s amazing this was done in 1 shot no edits. I almost feel like ppl can’t speak coherently like this anymore 🥲 While I chew on what this video shared, I just wanna leave my appreciation for this near 7 minute edit-free piece of light 💡
oh i just have really low ego naturally so i dont find it hard to keep cool in situations sometimes i punch people for fun tho lol idk its just a satisfaction i think im mentally stable most of the time
I'm genuinely confused. Transcribing some of your key points... "Your ego is your idea of yourself. . .plenty of ideas of who we are. . . which we mistakenly believe and take to be who we truely are...which is not the case at any given time, because who you really are is way vaster than any idea; you've just forgotten." Yet, "who you really are is way vaster than any idea", is also an idea of yourself. "You are no idea." Agreed. Humans aren't ideas. Humans are conscious thinking beings that can create ideas. Thus any ideas I have about myself are not me, but an expression of my conscious examination of myself. They are verbal expressions of self perception wrought from my Know Thyself journey. "Ideas are temporary rigid belief systems" I don't understand how something temporary can also be rigid (subject to your definition of rigid). I'm also confident that ideas don't have any innate power to choose how they'll behave. It's people that assign values to the ideas they have, and thus the individual chooses what they'll do with their ideas. e.g., set one in stone and keep another fluid and open to change. "An idea is a noise we make with our mouths; an idea is just symbols on paper that we as a species agree upon because it's convenient, but, not because it has any inherent reality at all." So, according to your logic, this idea of yours... "You are no idea, who you truely are is way vaster than anything that you can conceptualize." ...has no inherent reality.
@@OliverCowlishaw Don't know why you're saying I'm correct, for I never classified your statments as being paradoxical. And by 'paradox', do you mean A or B? A:. "a seemingly contradictory or absurd statement that expresses a possible truth." B. "a self-contradictory and false proposition."
@@xander1756 Definitely A. A Zen Koan is a paradox with the intention of "wearing the mind out" so to speak. This is so that the truth might be glimpsed, even for a moment.
Journalling is the most powerful personal growth tool you have at your disposal. Click to download my free 31-day fillable PDF. It gives you a single high impact prompt every single day. Download here: bit.ly/3ZQ54cx
It’s bad when someone takes offense and you’re being as respectful as you can be
What happens when you get offended?
1. You experience negative emotions
2. Nothing else happens! The world doesn't stop, no one dies, civilisation doesn't end. Everything and everyone, but you, carry on as before.
Why experience negative emotions about something so inconsequential, so devoid of meaning?
If you really must, think to yourself "that's offensive", then brush it off and give it no more thought. You stay happier, you prove you Ego is superior to the challenge, and the world keeps turning.
I just learned two new words bro thanks 🙏
This changed my perception of my life & what others say to me. Thank you, this is perfectly written.
I DONT wish to experience them, its my brain
@@MysteriousBeingOfLight That's what happens. One knows being offended is bad, but the way to brush it off I don't know it. Be as most occupied as you can be in other activities that make you forget the thing.
I know what you say is true, but if I just brush it off and don't respond to the person offending me, he or she is going to do it again. So how can you stop being a pushover in these kind of situations?
Raised by judge-mental parents who were very kind and loving toward me. I have always been nice and cared about others but my sensitive ego got me in a lot of trouble as I felt beat up by the world. I spent my early 20s focused on fixing my mental issues and I realized I put way too much thought into other peoples opinions of me so I decided to just put myself out there as much as I felt comfortable and to try hard to brush off negativity. It takes practice but I’m happy to say now I’m better socially now than I ever imagined I would be and I can receive insults with little to no negative reaction because I choose not to.
Great Video. I am 42 years old and took me a long time to learn the lessons you just taught. Thank you. But I can say it was worth learning. peace.
My pleasure Leigh. It truly is. The self created trouble we endure sometimes eh?
Peace brother ❤
You seem to be very wise for a young man, no offence. Some older people than me still dont get the lessons. I will watch some more of your clips, you have a good insight in to things. On a side note: I was wondering what part of England you come from because your accent sounds familiar. I grew in Croydon, South London. Moved around a lot since then. spent some time in Australia like yourself.
No offence taken at all. Quite the opposite! I do get that a lot 😊
I'm from Derbyshire originally but my accent has had influences from all over really. Mainly my drama teacher when I was younger though 😉
Glad you have found the channel to be useful. Watch the space!
Peace ❤
Yes, of course, we dont get offended. Maybe I Made the mistake of trying to connect the idea of you to the idea of me. Where we have lived is not so important perhaps. Peace and thank you.
I'm so happy I found your video. I thought I became an emotionless person. I can no longer get offended no matter what is said to me. I either shrug the insult or say thank you and move on with my life.
I am numb BUT offended too.
Hmm help me Master that haha.
Same! I literally thought I'm becoming numb!! People called me many names "Ugly", "b*tch" a "f*cking loser" etc but tbh it doesn't even affect me one bit and I just laugh it off. It's quite weird because back then when someone would be verbally aggressive towards me, I'd either cry or get angry lol
“You are a mistake”
“Thanks!”
So very true about what people are saying is more a reflection of them than you!
Thank you 🙏🏼 I have been a very defensive person, easily offended.. it’s caused a lot of issues in my romantic relationships. I got (I’m using past tense because I don’t want to identify with this anymore) upset over the smallest things and created bigger issues. As soon as you said ego I was like, yep… I’ve been through a lot of abuse in my life and i decided after it all that I’m not someone who gets used and abused anymore. So any small perceived threat to that, I get livid. If I truly was at peace with my ability to Recognize and walk away from abuse - I wouldn’t have to be so hyper vigilant. Thank you for helping me with some profound realizations.
SAME!
Someone told me I have a bad humor. Thanks, this really helps 🙂
Lol
We're all fools, most of us just don't realize it.
Yup I'm won't fool anymore from now on. 🕊️
I learned this several years ago. I put it into practice and now, nothing or no one can touch me. The power it gives me is unbelievable. It's totally changed my life. A great video. Thank you for sharing. A new sub from me. 👌
Terrific! Glad it helped ✌🏻
It's a great spell, but what about narcissism?
@@magickinfused5230 How many narcissistic people do you know? 🤔
It doesn't matter what type of person you are dealing with, use the same principle. Listen to the video again. It's that easy.
If I get a consistently bad vibe from a friend, or work colleague, I simply distance myself from them. I wish them all the best in their journey, but I won't be a part of it.
Not every person that is in your life HAS to be in your life. Surround yourself with positive, like-minded people.
Do you know the best response to give a narcissist?
No response.
@@cutler65 my parents are narcissistic it's emotionally stunting as a child to not be cared about when it comes to your feelings because they're not equip to deal with them a narcissist will actually be triggered by your feelings and attack you as a child this doesn't make sense and makes you feel unloved and worthless and it causes depression or anxiety or if you go the other way it'll turn you into a narc.
@@cutler65 I think you much like the guy in the video lack perspective and I don't appreciate your response atall.
What we're saying when we take offence is that we value the offenders opinion of us more than we value our own opinion of ourselves. In other words, that we the offended, have low self esteem.
Wow i love this perspective, i need help wrapping my head around it though
@@snowframe2995How we feel comes down to how we think about ourselves and not how others treat us.
I get insulted often however it has no effect on me, I merely smile as I recognise that the person in front of me has an issue, these issues do not belong to me.
Does that help?
@@dodgywheelsandropeywiring5697 Thats called dissociation. Its not because you have a particulary high self esteem.
@@eeurr1306 20 plus years of studying psychology says it is I'm afraid mate but if you have something to add that I missed I'm willing to hear/read it.
@@dodgywheelsandropeywiring5697 But arent you dissociating from said insult when you push it onto them?
Even if someone says "uh no" I cry about it
I feel you...
@@Kampfrattex3 me too
Dang I won’t cry but I got offended
Uh no..
the irony of sending this video to a friend that gets offended too easily, in hopes that it will offend them even more is SO HARD NOT TO DO.
Thank you, this was so helpful. I am a part of a fan base and I stood up for it and some people called us cringe. I feel stupid just for feeling offended by something so little. This made me realize that I am more than I could ever Imagine all of us are, we all live around an, like you said, idea of what we think we are but we don’t even know. It made me laugh just thinking about it. Thank you so much for this video. You seem like a very open minded and wise person.
This, twitter user need this
That's right.
Yesss
Could not agree more.
Every Twitter user needs this
This peoples are now every platforms 😂
Narcissistic and abusive people will abuse others and tell the one they offended that it is themself (not the offender) and in their own mind. That is caused gaslighting. Offense is truly an indicator of something that if wrong, most times, of those who are offending the offended. It is a cut for the offended one to either attempt to resolve it through making one aware of the offense or simply walking away. Now, which resolution is necessary depends on how important the offender is in the offended one's life.
This is seriously the best RUclips video I've ever seen. Thank you sooo sooo much!!!!
That's amazing. Thankyou so much ✌🏻
Thanks for helping me I always take things personal when someone says a joke about me this really helped me
I appreciate how you make direct eye contact with the camera, as if you were looking at a friend.
As a 36-year-old man, I definitely need to learn how to stop being so sensitive with words. What people say I'm here to learn
I am offended when colleagues blow me off when I gave insights into issues with evidence ☹️. I don’t rock the boat, I don’t just throw some pointless questions out. I just don’t get it😡. I am already very humble and cooperative 🤷🏻♂️
They are challenged. They don't like how maybe they can't handle it and they might get offended or defensive and so they'll throw insults at you etc
Taking things personally only hurts you. They aren't hurt by it, but you are and you're giving your emotions over to them. They are now in control.
Thank both of you for your advice. 💪🏻
Get the f over it and get a thick skin
Thank you for this. This is so very true.
Wow. You did a splendid job at breaking down the train of thought behind it, Oliver! Very insightful and potentially life changing advice for some sensitive folks like myself. Thanks, bud.
Anytime 👌🏻
You didn't take narcissism into account. Not everyone is a mirror of themselfs because they lack empathy and self reflecting. If you're outraged by a narcissist then that's not your problem it's theirs. They are manpliating and triggering you on purpose.
Yes. Narcissistic and abusive people will abuse others and tell the one they offended that it is them and in their mind. That is caused gaslighting. Offense is truly an indicator of something that if wrong, most times, of those who are offending the offended. It is a cut for the offended one to either attempt to resolve it through making one aware of the offense or simply walking away. Now, which resolution is necessary depends on how important the offender is in the offended one's life.
@@taliagoodwomanmann yeah, it sure is a cut to the offended when you try to hold the narcisst accountable to their own offensive behaviour and all they do is twist it by saying you're the problem *gaslighting* like you mentioned.
I think the best resolution for this situation is self validation and becoming successful in yourself is the ultimate form of closure from the narcisst.
Because you'll never get accountability or closure from them.
Wow! I really enjoyed watching you and your oh so pleasant personality!! Loving it! 💪🏽👍🏽😀
Twitter needs this video desperately
I feel the vastness for sure, that awkward feeling of being dead and alive at the same time, but at peace with it.
I think I am worst than everyone here , because after watching this video I feel really offended ........ Hope someday I learn to be not offended by literally anything......
I know your pain. Let's hope someday we are no longer vulnerable with our emotions.
hey, how are you doing a year later?
Hey.. how are you doing 3 years later?
You get offended because you have a distorted idea of yourself because of social media and their standards. You can fight back easily by focusing what matters. The meaning of life is to give life meaning. Likes and views aren’t meaning.
This sounds like dissociation to me and is dangerous. The underlying emotion under feeling offended is hurt, and pretending that we didn't feel what we felt in the name of 'it's all my ego' causes distrust within the personality system and eventual dysfunction. Emotions are there for a reason and no matter how petty, frivolous, immature or childish they seem, we must honor and tend to them, rather than 'transcend' them. The thing is not to explode to others when offended but to go inward and acknowledge the hurt emotion and tend to it and repair it and decide if to continue interacting with the thing/ individual offending us, and if so, in what manner, or if to disengage and seek to engage with more healthy people.
This is a veryyy interesting conterargument, thanks for bringing it up and sharing it. Could you elaborate on the 'dysfunction due to distrust in the personality system' and how to 'tend to emotions internally/inwardly'?
Thank you!
Lastly, would you say there are any positives to dissociation?
@@snowframe2995 Internal Family Systems (IFS) by Richard Schwartz helps us see ourselves as a conglemeration of different 'parts'. Dysfunction comes in when we exile and disown parts of ourselves that we don't know how to handle. IFS gives us the tools to talk to all the different parts within ourselves so that they are all on the same page and none is in the background/basement actively trying to sabotage the system. Ignoring the voices of some of the parts means they don't get heard and hence will act up by misbehaviour or dysfunction to get our attention. There are other schools of thought that explain this similarly (eg. Jungian archetypes), this is the one that comes to mind right now.
I watched the video and then re read your comment just to make sure i could see where you were coming from. No clue how you came to that conclusion. You’re misinforming people on this video.
I offended people by my joke unintentionally, and im questioning everything.
1:07 and we are not just one idea because we are not a one-sided character who is and believes in one thing, therefore we shouldn’t take it as personally as we do! 🤯 cool way to think about it.
I'm an artist and my couple asked for other artists ideas and opinions about a project so I am fucking livid but I get what you are saying and I thank you so much! Like fuck!! Blah but thank you
I’ve noticed that when someone disrespects you, they’ve been disrespected in the same exact way.
I could breathe properly and calmly after watching that
thanks for the insight. earlier this week I was offended about someone saying my voice sounds like someone. but my ego did not like that as it is attached to an idea I have of myself. but I am much larger than an idea someone has of me or my own idea of my self. that idea is to do with that person and not me.
I needed to hear this.
Came to this video after having a fight with a friend.
Im 15 and i started learning to drive today. And my friends made fun of this and said "ohh you are 15 and doesnt know how to drive??"
I don't get offended easily but in this situation i became very mad. They said the average age a person learns how to drive is 10-12.
They were being total jerks about it, boasting that they learned how to drive at the age of 9.
Throw it back to be funny or positive.. maybe Yea! I’m 15 and I wouldn’t have done it differently! I love that I’m driving! How did y’all start driving??
@@chompchomp94 but qha if the still make fun of you after saying that?
@@npn8945 maybe don’t take it personal. It’s more about there emotions and feelings or lack of communication skills. From then follow your gut if you would like to surround yourself with those negative people or find better friends. You can also communicate that you don’t like that they talk to you like that and ask them to stop.
Who the hell learns to drive at 9?
I suspect they were lying. i did not learn to drive until age 24.
Great video. Thanks mate🌺
Cheers Oliver. I myself unfortunately went into a rage because the person was seriously, arguably being so hardheaded and I used a "stigmatized" word with a powerful intent with my intention, which in hindsight I wasn't playing "societies" rules, when I it was in that instant of myself understanding this, in a strange way, I decided to speak it out cause that would be "his" shit ultimately in my mind but turned bad, so my bad but holy cow, don't we all? I'm just trying to understand, I've been through some things and this helps to speak into the cosmos. Sorry Mike.
Thanks, this video was very helpful!
2:02 1) How people treat not about you
3:04 2) know
5:59
And more
1. It’s Not a end word ( bro it’s not end word chill out it’s okay]
2. You experience negative emotions
3. It’s human Yes it’s human So what you are not alone This happen to people
4. Just ignore them [ stay away from these people And they are hypocrite or jealous or there Sad LOL
I am really going to work on applying this concept in my life. I'm about to quit a great, well-paying job over someone who constantly offends me and I can't take it any longer. Perhaps this will help me cope so I can keep the job I love.
Ooh of course, hope you're going well
How are you doing with your job?
I quit the job and for the past year my husband and I have been traveling Europe. I had been there 10 years so it was hard to leave but I'm much happier now. I realized I was sad about a job that no longer existed. The one where there wasn't a bunch of drama. Thank you for asking.@@Яблочный0
this was amazing, I really needed this!
Thanks mate.
Thank you
Yep! Exactly! Preach brother! Preach!
This is a great video and concept. I am excited to learn more about your thoughts on this subject
Thanks sir I always get offended at school a lot thank u for the tips
What if you reply to them something like "you know, your response says more about you then it does me." Would they think that's weird? How would they respond to that?
How could anyone possibly know how they would respond. The question is - why do you care?
Loved it! Thank you
Thank you…
Gen z's needs this
Awesome video man !
Time , someone viewed it their way not knowing the truth about the one they were watching and listening to those standing by ....
If only they would take some time .....they may have the Truth and see she's still looking for an opportunity....smile
I am on a journey.
Am so lucky to see that.
i like the way you move your hands...i appreciate your video.
Lmao
this helped 🥀
THANK YOU SO MUCH ♥️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sometimes i get it but i struggle with it on the moment i feel shamed by peoples comments
Thanks,now i can finally get used to those so called " giga chad " stuff ( I'm not a twitter user but is an aquarius )
Magnificient! I get it! Why feed the EGO when the EGO IS YOUR ENEMIGO!!! Hahahaha
What if the reason your offended Is exactly because of the fact that something isn't about you. When it should be. What if you objectively rationalise a situation that should technically prioritise you. But doesn't...... And even the greater problem is...... What if you're offense is a reasonable response.... How do you control it if it's not causes. By ego...
Thank you Mr Legend
Thanks for watching brother
@@OliverCowlishaw I have a question. Is it possible to have 0% feeling of getting angry or offended towards negative or rude people. Is it possible to train your mind to such an extent?
Or is the feeling of at least some tiny form of anger or offence inevitable and natural in everyone and we just have no choice but to counter it? Like can we completely diminish such feelings in the first place before it comes to us?
Very helpful! Thank you
twitter users need to see this
One more thing in the Bible it states for those who shall be persecuted WILL BE BLESSED.lets get it on....
Is this video about developing thick skin?
Uhhh yes andd uhhh no ?
Abdi Shams Like nub says. Yes and no. It is particially about developing thick skin but not specifically just that.
Perpetually offended people are such a bore. As the wonderful folksinger Greg Brown says in one of his songs, “It’s a messed up world but, I love it anyway” 🌞🌎
Who would have thought Justin Timberlake knew so much...
Hahahaha British Justin Timberlake is smarter than you think.
Is it correct when I say, " I don't care if you are not offended" ?
Kindly correct me..
It’s amazing this was done in 1 shot no edits. I almost feel like ppl can’t speak coherently like this anymore 🥲
While I chew on what this video shared, I just wanna leave my appreciation for this near 7 minute edit-free piece of light 💡
Funny very funny but so true 😂
when you start blaming others for you're own problems that's how you get offended it's opsit way
oh i just have really low ego naturally so i dont find it hard to keep cool in situations sometimes i punch people for fun tho lol idk its just a satisfaction i think im mentally stable most of the time
So you're mentally stable most of the time and the other times are when you're punching people for fun?
@@OliverCowlishaw no im mentally stable all the time i just punch ppl for fun :)
I'm genuinely confused. Transcribing some of your key points...
"Your ego is your idea of yourself. . .plenty of ideas of who we are. . . which we mistakenly believe and take to be who we truely are...which is not the case at any given time, because who you really are is way vaster than any idea; you've just forgotten."
Yet, "who you really are is way vaster than any idea", is also an idea of yourself.
"You are no idea."
Agreed. Humans aren't ideas. Humans are conscious thinking beings that can create ideas. Thus any ideas I have about myself are not me, but an expression of my conscious examination of myself. They are verbal expressions of self perception wrought from my Know Thyself journey.
"Ideas are temporary rigid belief systems"
I don't understand how something temporary can also be rigid (subject to your definition of rigid).
I'm also confident that ideas don't have any innate power to choose how they'll behave. It's people that assign values to the ideas they have, and thus the individual chooses what they'll do with their ideas. e.g., set one in stone and keep another fluid and open to change.
"An idea is a noise we make with our mouths; an idea is just symbols on paper that we as a species agree upon because it's convenient, but, not because it has any inherent reality at all."
So, according to your logic, this idea of yours...
"You are no idea, who you truely are is way vaster than anything that you can conceptualize."
...has no inherent reality.
Yes. You are correct. It's a paradox.
@@OliverCowlishaw
Don't know why you're saying I'm correct, for I never classified your statments as being paradoxical.
And by 'paradox', do you mean A or B?
A:. "a seemingly contradictory or absurd statement that expresses a possible truth."
B. "a self-contradictory and false proposition."
@@xander1756 Definitely A.
A Zen Koan is a paradox with the intention of "wearing the mind out" so to speak.
This is so that the truth might be glimpsed, even for a moment.
@@OliverCowlishaw So please clarify for me. Nothing you've said in your vid is a truth.
@@xander1756 It's a relative truth but not an ultimate truth. Our true identity is beyond name/form and is thus inexpressible.
all this may be true but there is much deeper spiritual issues at play.
Have a like and a comment. Good video.
My goodness I could never imagine being a person like this..
Great stuff, until the NewAge stuff.
2021: 113
He looks like justin timberlake
This dude is justin timberlakes cousin huh?
Non sense
I resonate sums me up