Lord Jesus please keep me encouraged because being a single mother with two special needs children is overwhelming and challenging I’m desperately trying to provide for them. Lord give me strength as I continue to struggle to buy groceries and as I struggle to pay rent. Please Lord change my situation. I believe.❤️❤️
Tips for mental health: being outside 5 minutes a day or longer,Decluttering, colder showers, exercise, vitamins like magnesium, eating healthy, music, gratitude, therapy, avoiding excessive sugar and caffeine. Getting to bed earlier which is better for circadian rhythm. Sunshine in the morning. No screens at night. Avoiding scrolling and news. Being with those who bring you to the best version of you. Activities you enjoy. Journaling. Cold water in the morning. Red light mask. Turning your phone to more red light instead of blue. Take things one day at a time or one step. Small changes and small goals. Have hope I want whoever reading this to stay alive. What helps me in thinking about all the people who will miss me those I have impacted or met in any way who have smiled at me etc. Thanks for reading
I want to work on the last point mentioned, namely to get curious and go deeper, as to what wound or belief is being irritated right now. To learn to identify it better. Thank you Julia!
Helllo friend Julia, this is very great advice. Its definitely tough for us highly sensitive folk to not get offended or take things personally, but its definitely good to learn to not take things personally. Hope you are doing well Julia!
Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here: How to Stop Getting Offended Too Easily. I think since being a Shifter, I have grown so much doing the inner work, that I feel much better about myself because I have clearer and secure thoughts about myself. This has helped me to rely on myself to bounce back when someone may say something that might be hurtful, doesn’t mean that I still won’t be offended or hurt, but it isn’t as intense like it used to be. I also have noticed that I am more aware of what others are going through as well, doesn’t give them the right to be hurtful, but I do, at least understand or try to understand. It helps to remind myself that “This isn’t about me.” Here are my notes: *First thing to stop getting offended too easily is to get clear and secure on your own thoughts about yourself. *Don't outsource your sense of self to other people. (Don't go about how people think about you to think about yourself.) *Garbage analogy: People are going through life with stuff inside of them. It is NOT your mess to pick up and carry. *Take a step back and consider what the person is saying and deciding if there is anything helpful in that feedback. *Choosing NOT to take offense. *Decide NOT to take offense. *Go a little deeper, and GET CURIOUS.
Amazing timing for this to pop into my feed. I had a really rough day yesterday. Sometimes humans just REALLY are hard to deal with, and when it comes in waves, I get overwhelmed. I was feeling like a Sin Eater from the old days, carrying everyone elses pain. I need to see this vid again. A couple times.
I feel like the way you've explained this to be very helpful for myself, but also for my kids. They struggle with this a lot, and this seems like a really helpful way to look at things. Thank you!
You're very helpful I love how you are so understanding, comprehensive and without creating conflict, just helping to understand Great content Thank you
Hi Julia, i just wanted to say this was a very important topic you covered because as somebody that has struggled with autism all throughout my life, i think its extremely crucial that i share from the heart that i must admit that i can easily get startled and grumpy if something really gets the better of me but maybe thats just me being an HSP or an imposter...or possibly both. And with the pessimistic epidemic that seems to be getting worse....all i can say is that i just try to surround myself with people (and youtube content 😅) that im certain will be beneficial for me. Ive come to realize and accept that being neurodivergant is not easy by any means, but ive learned to embrace the challenge for what it is, and i feel genuinely valuable for having the courage and ability to share all of this, because i know there are others wanting to do the same thing but just either don't have the emotional intelligence or level of education necessary to do so. Whatever the case might be, just keep believing in the natural ability the Lord gave you, and you never know what can happen. Blessings 🙏 🙏 ❤ ❤
Great lesson. I watch this almost daily. Being easily offended is usually a great show of weakness. I used to get easily offended,but I continue to work on it and developing a thick skin.
This is the sort of thing I wish I'd known ten years ago! When someone tries to come on to you and ends up calling you an alcoholic. All unprovoked. I've never even tried to let any girls in after that. Before I understood these things I ended up agreeing with that and letting it define me. I was in a very really vulnerable place emotionally and mentally at the time. It's like a word curse. Learning about narcissism and empaths brings a lot of healing.
Thank you so much! I always relish in your amazing content! I can't identify about being "sensitive", but I observe many family members perceive comments or situations there they are the center much more than warranted! I just cannot be around them because I fee like their chronological age and developmental age are not aligned!!
In acknowledgment of National Indigenous People Day, I would like to thank the OKIB. There was a 2 day work shop, Mending Broken Hearts: Healing from Unresolved Grief and Intergenerational Trauma. Learning I changed myself for myself. Discovering what habits we have formed in coping( or not coping) with trauma and loss and identifying what patterns have developed in our lives as a result. They treated this long legged, redhead with freckles with so much compassion. After being completely overwhelmed and boundaries crossed in unfortunate past session's. A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise. Help is everywhere.
The first thing I do when someone says a mean comment to me is taking deep breathes. Then I reply by saying something like "what made you say that?" When the person leaves, I then challenge the mean comment in my head. Not every time someone says something mean to me I am successful at not being triggered. I think it is also okay to feel triggered and regulate ourselves when we get triggered.
We need to walk on. I’m a highly sensitive man. I stay away from people that are offensive. I limit my time on but I find things on RUclips. Very offensive about women’s rights. I defend women right? I find any misogyny offends me or a man.
I love your work as always, something Bruce Lee said sticks with me. I don't remember the act words but the sentiment was according to who? I like to make little rules for myself so whenever I get caught up with this stuff I'm going to try and focus on that and you and Bruce Lee lol, and ask myself according to who?
How do you know if in a situation you are getting easly offended or should be offended. For example, i have a relitive that likes to pick at a childhood wound every time she is in a less than pleasant mood. It's always right in the morning and sets a sour tone for my day. I have teied to not be offended, but the painful memories that comment brings up really affect me. As that relitive persists down the path of poking and provoking, i eventually can not hold back from saying something any longer. Is me being offended in this situation being overly sensive, or is it appropriate? Before you ask, i have told that relitive her picking at certain aspects of my past bother me, but she keeps doing it anyway.
Hello! Who here is a member of the shift society? I read some about it, but I just have a couple questions if anyone can answer them for me🤷🏼♀️ If I can’t afford individual counseling sessions, can I still be a member? And how much is it a year or a month to just be a member without individual sessions? maybe it’s way too much to explain here and if so, that’s OK! But if anyone has any insight, please let me know. I am on the waiting list, thank you very much! 😊
I have a problem with getting offended as a direct result of someone setting off one of my triggers. Thankfully, I am seeing a therapist and they are helping me discover that it comes from the emotional and psychologically harmful way my mother raised me. If that makes sense.
Sounds to me like this "person" at your family gathering felt that you and your sister were placing too high a value on "coolness". I think there are certain personality types who are really bothered by this. Often they have known malignant narcissists who are very charismatic and have learned the hard way that "coolness" is over-rated and very often a red flag. They are disappointed by those who value "coolness" too highly....They feel it suggests a kind of immaturity and lack of intelligence.
This language is confusing and will keep you trapped if you subscribe to it. Nobody can "make you feel" a certain way. If you really want to actually resolve your emotional issues, you MUST take responsibility for your emotions. Stop saying "I feel", "you made me feel", "that triggered me", "that offended me". Every time you use language in your thoughts or speech that something in the outside world CAUSED your emotion, you are trapping yourself. And you will NOT be free until you fix this specifically, regardless of all the other 'therapies' or 'modalities' you try. Period.
Lord Jesus please keep me encouraged because being a single mother with two special needs children is overwhelming and challenging I’m desperately trying to provide for them. Lord give me strength as I continue to struggle to buy groceries and as I struggle to pay rent. Please Lord change my situation. I believe.❤️❤️
Obiviously God will change your situation
I'm praying 🙏 for ya
May Our Lord Bless You And Your Children ❤❤❤🙏🌈 !
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I wish I could help financially
trying to remember to observe, not absorb, people's opinions of me
yes yes yes! This, Diane.
The 4 agreements. Is a good read as well. Being easily offended is definitely a struggle for me… sigh 😔
That book changed my life. Also “The Voice of Knowledge.”
Tips for mental health: being outside 5 minutes a day or longer,Decluttering, colder showers, exercise, vitamins like magnesium, eating healthy, music, gratitude, therapy, avoiding excessive sugar and caffeine. Getting to bed earlier which is better for circadian rhythm. Sunshine in the morning. No screens at night. Avoiding scrolling and news. Being with those who bring you to the best version of you. Activities you enjoy. Journaling. Cold water in the morning. Red light mask. Turning your phone to more red light instead of blue. Take things one day at a time or one step. Small changes and small goals. Have hope I want whoever reading this to stay alive. What helps me in thinking about all the people who will miss me those I have impacted or met in any way who have smiled at me etc. Thanks for reading
I want to work on the last point mentioned, namely to get curious and go deeper, as to what wound or belief is being irritated right now. To learn to identify it better. Thank you Julia!
BINGO! Found mine--"reacting to a pain, vulnerability or hurt from the past". Paying more attention and working on this! 👍❤
Yes Sharon!!
Greetings from Seattle....great content and very easy to understand your points 👍
Thanks so much William. Glad you're here. Greetings back from Vancouver!
Helllo friend Julia, this is very great advice. Its definitely tough for us highly sensitive folk to not get offended or take things personally, but its definitely good to learn to not take things personally. Hope you are doing well Julia!
Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here:
How to Stop Getting Offended Too Easily.
I think since being a Shifter, I have grown so much doing the inner work, that I feel much better about myself because I have clearer and secure thoughts about myself. This has helped me to rely on myself to bounce back when someone may say something that might be hurtful, doesn’t mean that I still won’t be offended or hurt, but it isn’t as intense like it used to be.
I also have noticed that I am more aware of what others are going through as well, doesn’t give them the right to be hurtful, but I do, at least understand or try to understand. It helps to remind myself that “This isn’t about me.”
Here are my notes:
*First thing to stop getting offended too easily is to get clear and secure on your own thoughts about yourself.
*Don't outsource your sense of self to other people. (Don't go about how people think about you to think about yourself.)
*Garbage analogy: People are going through life with stuff inside of them. It is NOT your mess to pick up and carry.
*Take a step back and consider what the person is saying and deciding if there is anything helpful in that feedback.
*Choosing NOT to take offense.
*Decide NOT to take offense.
*Go a little deeper, and GET CURIOUS.
Thanks that was a great summary
@@johnny_roots Thanks! I am always glad my notes are helpful!
I'm thankful I stumbled upon your videos. I finally found hope in fixing myself 😢
So glad you're here. And I want you to know, you don't need fixing. You're not broken.
I'm amazed you have endless great topics. 😂❤🎉
Every topic is explained clearly and down to its roots
we are endlessly complex beings. lol
@@juliakristinamah I like u.
"Make Good Choices" ❤
Amazing timing for this to pop into my feed. I had a really rough day yesterday. Sometimes humans just REALLY are hard to deal with, and when it comes in waves, I get overwhelmed. I was feeling like a Sin Eater from the old days, carrying everyone elses pain.
I need to see this vid again. A couple times.
I feel like the way you've explained this to be very helpful for myself, but also for my kids. They struggle with this a lot, and this seems like a really helpful way to look at things. Thank you!
You're so welcome - and I'm so glad you all will get something from this.
You're very helpful
I love how you are so understanding, comprehensive and without creating conflict, just helping to understand
Great content
Thank you
Thanks Elizabeth. That means a lot. Thanks for being here.
Hi Julia, i just wanted to say this was a very important topic you covered because as somebody that has struggled with autism all throughout my life, i think its extremely crucial that i share from the heart that i must admit that i can easily get startled and grumpy if something really gets the better of me but maybe thats just me being an HSP or an imposter...or possibly both. And with the pessimistic epidemic that seems to be getting worse....all i can say is that i just try to surround myself with people (and youtube content 😅) that im certain will be beneficial for me. Ive come to realize and accept that being neurodivergant is not easy by any means, but ive learned to embrace the challenge for what it is, and i feel genuinely valuable for having the courage and ability to share all of this, because i know there are others wanting to do the same thing but just either don't have the emotional intelligence or level of education necessary to do so. Whatever the case might be, just keep believing in the natural ability the Lord gave you, and you never know what can happen. Blessings 🙏 🙏 ❤ ❤
Thank you. This has helped me so much. I realize I overreact and I am easily offended because I am triggered by past trauma.
So glad I came across your channel. Such great advice I needed. Thank you!
Great lesson. I watch this almost daily. Being easily offended is usually a great show of weakness. I used to get easily offended,but I continue to work on it and developing a thick skin.
This is the sort of thing I wish I'd known ten years ago! When someone tries to come on to you and ends up calling you an alcoholic. All unprovoked. I've never even tried to let any girls in after that. Before I understood these things I ended up agreeing with that and letting it define me. I was in a very really vulnerable place emotionally and mentally at the time. It's like a word curse. Learning about narcissism and empaths brings a lot of healing.
Thank you so much! I always relish in your amazing content! I can't identify about being "sensitive", but I observe many family members perceive comments or situations there they are the center much more than warranted! I just cannot be around them because I fee like their chronological age and developmental age are not aligned!!
Awesome talk
THANK YOU for this lesson ❤
You are so welcome. Thanks for being here.
In acknowledgment of National Indigenous People Day, I would like to thank the OKIB. There was a 2 day work shop, Mending Broken Hearts:
Healing from Unresolved Grief and Intergenerational Trauma.
Learning I changed myself for myself. Discovering what habits we have formed in coping( or not coping) with trauma and loss and identifying what patterns have developed in our lives as a result. They treated this long legged, redhead with freckles with so much compassion. After being completely overwhelmed and boundaries crossed in unfortunate past session's. A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise. Help is everywhere.
Great topic 🙂🙏
This was so good! Thank you 😊
The first thing I do when someone says a mean comment to me is taking deep breathes. Then I reply by saying something like "what made you say that?" When the person leaves, I then challenge the mean comment in my head. Not every time someone says something mean to me I am successful at not being triggered. I think it is also okay to feel triggered and regulate ourselves when we get triggered.
Thank you
Can you make a video about heartbreak and hurt feelings?
How?
Grow!
Mature!
Get strong!
Walk over you ego!
Learn stoicism!
Become fully responsible for your emotions!
Amazing
We need to walk on. I’m a highly sensitive man. I stay away from people that are offensive. I limit my time on but I find things on RUclips. Very offensive about women’s rights. I defend women right? I find any misogyny offends me or a man.
Soul Star ✨
I love your work as always, something Bruce Lee said sticks with me. I don't remember the act words but the sentiment was according to who? I like to make little rules for myself so whenever I get caught up with this stuff I'm going to try and focus on that and you and Bruce Lee lol, and ask myself according to who?
How do you know if in a situation you are getting easly offended or should be offended. For example, i have a relitive that likes to pick at a childhood wound every time she is in a less than pleasant mood. It's always right in the morning and sets a sour tone for my day. I have teied to not be offended, but the painful memories that comment brings up really affect me. As that relitive persists down the path of poking and provoking, i eventually can not hold back from saying something any longer. Is me being offended in this situation being overly sensive, or is it appropriate? Before you ask, i have told that relitive her picking at certain aspects of my past bother me, but she keeps doing it anyway.
Dump her from your life
Hello! Who here is a member of the shift society? I read some about it, but I just have a couple questions if anyone can answer them for me🤷🏼♀️
If I can’t afford individual counseling sessions, can I still be a member?
And how much is it a year or a month to just be a member without individual sessions? maybe it’s way too much to explain here and if so, that’s OK! But if anyone has any insight, please let me know. I am on the waiting list, thank you very much! 😊
What microphone do you use?
I have a problem with getting offended as a direct result of someone setting off one of my triggers. Thankfully, I am seeing a therapist and they are helping me discover that it comes from the emotional and psychologically harmful way my mother raised me. If that makes sense.
Don't lose your sense of humor.😂
I am mervat
Sounds to me like this "person" at your family gathering felt that you and your sister were placing too high a value on "coolness". I think there are certain personality types who are really bothered by this. Often they have known malignant narcissists who are very charismatic and have learned the hard way that "coolness" is over-rated and very often a red flag. They are disappointed by those who value "coolness" too highly....They feel it suggests a kind of immaturity and lack of intelligence.
This language is confusing and will keep you trapped if you subscribe to it. Nobody can "make you feel" a certain way. If you really want to actually resolve your emotional issues, you MUST take responsibility for your emotions. Stop saying "I feel", "you made me feel", "that triggered me", "that offended me". Every time you use language in your thoughts or speech that something in the outside world CAUSED your emotion, you are trapping yourself. And you will NOT be free until you fix this specifically, regardless of all the other 'therapies' or 'modalities' you try. Period.
I was going to watch this but remembered that I'm not a Liberal 😝
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Good morning everyone 🌤I'm MK...