Is Borderline Personality Disorder Untreatable?
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- Опубликовано: 12 июн 2024
- Today we are going to talk about Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD) and whether or not it's treatable. I often hear from those of you with BPD that you are constantly being referred out, and struggling to get the help that you need, all the while still doing your best to manage your symptoms. It's tough, and exhausting at times. Which is why I wanted to talk about BPD in a real way and how it can be successfully treated.
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I am living proof that borderline personality disorder is treatable. I'll always have it, but I'm not who I was
me to i will always have it because of the way the cemicals in my brain are
So proud of the work you do. It takes a lot of awareness and compassion to show up for yourself every day. You are amazing 🥲
Did you ever take meds for it?
Deus Vult yes
Thank you everyone who has kind things to say :D
Hi Kati, just wanted to say thank you for making a video about BPD. Hopefully, more awareness can be raise for this topic and eventually more available online resources to help those with this condition.
I am “in remission” with BPD. I got diagnosed in my early 20s and it has been quite the journey. What helped me the most was absolutely DBT. I’m very lucky that I got referred to a PHP program and the director of the program ended up becoming my individual therapist when I got discharged (she also had a private practice.) DBT saved my life. I started therapy when I was 9 and I didn’t find the right therapist until I learned about DBT. Now I’m doing RO DBT because I am also diagnosed with autism, PTSD and ARFID. RO DBT is helping my people pleaser and overly apologetic tendencies. It’s also helping me with social interactions. If you have been diagnosed with BPD, just know that you are not hopeless or a “lost caused” (I’ve been told that). You matter and are here for a reason. DBT should not be so hard to find and hard to access.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience!! I am so glad you were able to find the right therapy and therapist!! xoxo
As someone who has been a victim of BPD abuse, I really appreciate your self acceptance, self awareness, and the work you have put in to manage and improve your disorder. ❤️
@@yesvember11 I understand where your coming from, but please don't call it 'BPD abuse'. BPD isn't an excuse for any sort of abusive behaviour and it is really damaging to us that have it as it 'helps' that stigma that is already there where 'people with BPD are dangerous'. I understand what you're saying but rewording it in future would be appreciated as it is damaging cause we're not all bad. a lot of us are said to be the sweetest people actually because we're so scared of being abandoned that we latch on (obviously this is different with everyone, but I have heard this alot by professionals that have worked with alot of clients with BPD) ☺
@@tamijefferies9843 Why she shouldn't talk about BPD abuse? The vast majority of them does this, I know it because I've met several bpds in my life and the least abusive and mildest case was fully aware of his behaviour (and he has also been on of my best friends, but you know, he was honest and respectful, not like other borderline people I've met). So she's not wrong. I've been abused too by a boderline. I already suffered from ocd and depression, she worsened my mental state, to the point I can't sleep anymore. She did A LOT of nasty things to me, she cyberstalked me long before interacting with me (she's still doing it), she accused me of doing that to her (and everybody believed her), and she literally said that she took pleasure in seeing other people suffer. She never cared about me, she has always been fake just to destroy me, that's why I don't have empathy for her anymore. She's a diagnosed borderline, not a narcissist. So what's wrong with telling the truth? Victims of borderline abuse suffer, some even commit suicide, it's a *crime* not to talk about these people. Maybe you don't abuse, but that doesn't mean that these people doesn't exist and that they're not numerous. No, you clearly don't understand where we're coming from.
All those dang acronyms gon' help me? Nah.
It’s a very difficult disorder on the person who is suffering and the people around her or him.
Like addiction, it's a hell that likes to be shared for sure.
The worst part is that we are constantly being misunderstood by everyone
But the info this video would be awesome for everyone!
...which gets me thinking. Untreatable. Incurable? and if thats the case, I ask: Just how much patience is their sweetie supposed to have, before they have to leave to preserve their own sanity and health?
In all seriousness, I know it wont be popular to say this, but---
I see therapists, coaches, people online who are practically engaging in what I will call "Empathy Wars"...i.e....iiiiii am MORE "
affirming, and LESS invalidating, and I "care" more than you do!
And because they do, and are....i feel it "gives permission" for the unhealthy patient to stall, drag-it-out, and take forever to get better.
Is it possible to be TOO Affirming? I think so. And yet no one is willing to put any sort of deadline on getting better! And if everybody's-putting-up-with-it, there is no incentive for a Borderline, Narcissist, passive-aggressive, etc. to bother to get over it. Its an "elephant in the room". Even in a Divorce, you try---for awhile, to be supportive, patient, etc.....but eventually, you have to save yourself. But saying this seems to be Taboo in mental health. It shouldn't be.
@@dabbler1166 You should watch a clip of the "Still Face Experiment." It's very telling as children raised in similar enough circumstances tend to operate in adulthood with patterns of behavior stemming from what is demonstrated in the experiment, irrespective of pathology. There are a number of talks/interviews featuring Otto Kernberg that are pretty enlightening as well. Either way, it's very complicated stuff!
I have BPD and have been practicing DBT for almost a year now, and it has literally changed my life. I would strongly encourage anyone with BPD to learn the skills.
how have you been learning this? through self-help or with a dbt therapist?
This gives me hope, I really think this will work for my life too
@@makdoes I would suggest starting with the STOP and TIP Skills. By far the 2 I use the most and seem to be the most effective for me. I used to have bouts of intense rage constantly and using these skills I have gone 10 months now without a rage meltdown or really even losing my temper.
Last week I had an appointment for dental surgery. 1. First the dentist said "It's not as bad as you described. Let me work on the cost" Typical of me Being negative.
2. Then I was freaking out "I can never afford this. What will I do!? Aaaaagh!" catastrophising.
3. Then I tried to calm down "Either you can afford it or you can't. Deal with it when it happens" Black or White thinking.
4. Finally I said "Why not hope for the best? It could happen."
You know what? The price was half of my budget. Yippee!
I think maybe I used some DBT skills?
Amazing ♥️
Awesome job 👍👍👏👏
I think you totally did!!! xoxo
Good Comment - Scoot T
My main problem with bpd I think is not being able to make any meaningful connections or being able to relate to most people.
Yes I know what u mean, I feel like a different species. People are a stress trigger for me.
I went through a year and a of DBT therapy through the VA hospital. The thing I took away from the therapy was mindfulness. And the other part was the one on one talking. I was high on meth the whole time. Now I am meth free for 3 years. I became a school bus driver and now I drive 18 wheelers. Trucking is my healthy risk. Blessed
I think it's important to mention that BPD is frequently comorbid with ADHD and the latter tends to go undiagnosed in women.
Is it really? Do you know in what way? I've been looking for info about this for a while now.
Google "BPD ADHD comorbid." Lots of peer-reviewed studies, many under the aegis of nih.gov are widely accessible.
I know that comment was meant to be helpful, but in many ways it can also be not-so-helpful.
You know what else tends to go undiagnosed in women? Autism Spectrum Disorders. Data on that will only get better in the coming years.
It's not personal, but I did not appreciate your comment.
@@chanuppuluri8726 It is true that ASDs also go unnoticed as well.
How do you find my original statement "not-so-helpful"?
And ASD and ADHD are frequently misdiagnosed as BPD in women too.
I was dx'd with BPD 5 years ago. The most important things in my journey have been persistence and beginning a relationship with God.
My personal experience: I was diagnosed with bpd when my mental health was at its worse. I definitely met the criteria for more than the necessary number of symptoms. I worked really hard with my psychologist and in various other therapy groups and I reached a point where I no longer met any of the criteria for BPD. I know I’m not the only one with this experience. Some psychiatrists are so stuck in the belief that it is a personality disorder and cannot be cured and that my experience cannot be possible. They say I must have been misunderstood. I am fighting for BPD to be redefined and removed from the personality disorder part of the DSM. I had BPD and now I don’t, it is not a personality disorder that is incurable. With the right treatment and hard work we can be treated and cured.
How long did it take for you to get “cured”?
As someone with BPD it’s hard to maintain consistent work. But I’m in a relationship with someone special and I hope it doesn’t ruin it for me
Hi kati . I just want to tell you that my brother has passed away due to cancer at the age of 21 . He was a huge fan of your channel . I remember him spending hours watching your vids . He told me about you and I became a fan of you as well . I'm a pediatrician and my brother was in medical school he loved psychology and psyciatry alot . We used to sit and talk about the disorders you usually share in your vids . He suffered from depression for years . He used to ask you questions so you could discuss them on your podcast . I remember his happy face when you used to like his comments or even leaving a reply for him . We used to watch your vids with your husband on the other channel . He always loved you . Thanks for helping him beating his depression and giving him knowlage about paychology . You are the best for him . Keep your hard work . He would be happy to see you making this world a better place to live . That was his dream .
He'll be a star now .. he'll be a scar now
Rip Hadi
6 - 5 - 2021
I am so sorry for your loss :( I am so glad that my videos could bring some support when you and your brother needed it.
I've been living with BPD for a decade (diagnosed) and it's rough, really challenging and socially stigmatised. Still I think I've come a long way with therapy
Therapy can really help and I am so glad you are finding it helpful too!!! xoxo
Not stigmatized as much as NPD and I’m grateful for that. People with that disorder are constantly regarded as demons, evil, no hope…etc.
@@Katimorton Thank you Kati, I'll come through and be an amazing relatable therapist
@@ishootbishez6974 that's true but I'm still seen as irrational, immature, and unable to be trusted with decisions or other things, undesirable partners and just someone to stay away from
I applaud you as a fella with bpd and other 3 psychiatric conditions. You're working on yourself. You have insight about the help you need and being responsible with yourself. That's amazing!
A lot of people keep living without treatment and adding up to the stigma. That throws a lot of people working on themselves under the bus, but the fellas working on it (I'm like woooooorkinngggg haaaarrrdd) are setting the testimony that BPD can be treated, sometimes you can enter in remission, or rehab your whole traits. Also not all BPD people are at the same place of the spectrum.
Feel proud! I feel proud about all of the ones working on ourselves and for the ones afraid to treat it or have limited support, keep fighting! Try a support group in social media, or your where you live. We are not alone.
I have struggled with mental health issues for over 20 years. Depression and anxiety play a huge part in my mental issues, but I’ve always thought there was something more to it than that. Many years and multiple therapists later, I finally found a therapist that I like and trust. I was diagnosed with BPD a few years ago. Certainly, I’m not excited about having another mental issue to deal with, but it all made sense in regards to my thoughts, feelings, emotions and the way I react to situations. The fear of abandonment I felt was pretty significant, I have trouble managing my emotions and controlling my tendency to be impulsive. We have been utilizing DBT and I can honestly say that I’m making progress. Thank you for shedding some light on BPD and DBT.
Your "complete exaggeration" is something I've experienced with someone who may be diagnosed with BPD.
I've been diagnosed with BPD for almost two years, and I've spent the better part of the past two years either in treatment centers or in hospitals. I'm very frustrated with continually being referred out, but this video gives me hope that starting a DBT program will help me tremendously in my recovery
Yes!! DBT can change your life!! I hope you are able to find a DBT therapist in your area :) xoxo
I actually didn't know what bpd is like and this video is so much helpful to me.
Thank you so much Kati.Even listening your talking gives me positive energy .
Of course!! So glad it was helpful :) xoxo
@@Katimorton 💖☺
Attitude of gratitude for who you are and all you share. Our world is a better place with you in it 🌹
This is one of the best videos of this channel... Katie you're amazing! 😊👏🏼
Wow! Thanks Gaby!
Thank you for making this video and for having a positive attitude about BPD treatment. There needs to be more hope and positivity about this diagnosis instead of making us feel like we're lost causes from the get-go...
I’ve been forced into an emotional regulation group despite not having BPD, because it’s the only thing my GP could offer. In 12 minutes you’ve explained these skills a lot better than the 3 professionals that lead the group. Thank you!
I hate group therapy.. my therapist understands that I don't feel ready yet and it causes me more distress than relief. We're working in social skills to be able to receive sometimes a group session.
DBT works if you put the effort into learning the skills. Try it if you haven't found anything else that works for you. Thank you Kati!
I no longer fulfill the criteria for bpd, I never did DBT, but I took a lot of time being mindful, massive amount of self awareness and working on myself... I actually think the hate and stigma I faced when I needed extra support from hospital where they treated me so awful changed my life for the better... Some serious motivation to never go back and I strived to get the label away from me.
With being without help and being out of therapy for a long time still waiting to get back into therapy for help with my depression and anxiety your continued advice and important health video s and podcast I'd of felt worse and lost without watching and listening to you kati thank you x
Therapy hasn’t been what i expected Iv found it really difficult, things have come to the Surface like my childhood which I prefer to remember as not that bad but apparently it was very abusive.
What helped me with radical acceptance is keeping in mind that acceptance is not approval. Your feelings are still valid in the situation.
Ive been on my healing journey for 10 years now and I finally feel like I'm in control of my thoughts and behavior. Having stability is something I never thought was possible, but it is! Healing feels uncomfortable before it starts to feel good.
I started my journey a year ago. I’ve read that it can take 10 years to be asymptotic, and that can be daunting at times - especially on hard days. Thank you for sharing your experience. It gives me hope.
I spent 4 years in dbt in various programs and I have to say it does work, you have to be open to change and you have to be willing to learn the skills. It's not easy,for me being able to learn the skills over and over and practice them in different stages of my healing is what lead to me finally "graduating" from dbt. I still use the skills even though I'm not actively in dbt therapy anymore. Once you learn it and take it seriously it becomes part of your life.
I had to step-parent a BPD step daughter through adolescence through adulthood. Talk about being abused, lied about and never receiving any thanks even though she ended up with a college degree, secure job and family.
I apologize for her. Because I was the same way. I lied about my parents. I was suspended and arrested at 17. I was a rebel and I was horrible. I now have been spiraling with BPD for years and my life is constantly in chaos. Please just forgive. Please find it in your heart to forgive her.
I just found a medication that finally helps me with my BPD. I lost my ex due to my constant issues with my BPD. But I will tell you it's amazing to finally feel some normalization and happiness. I hadn't been on medication for 5 years due to feeling like a test rat before but now I am feeling a better consistency. Some days I still struggle, more at night time due to the time I take my medication but there is hope, you just have to be your best advocate.
What medicine is it?
What’s the medication please?
@@rhymemelodies1018 Latuda :)
@@laterdays7645 Latuda :)
@@daviidarkangelx8224 thank you
I am diagnosed with BPD and I can confirm no one wants to treat me. I have been kicked out of multiple groups, dropped by therapists and psychiatrists and even psych hospitals. I was literally kicked out of a hospital after self harming. I know it's not in my mind. I have been treated piss poorly by so many drs and nurses.
BPD as journey? 🪴😊😘 Bigs hugs to the BPD fam 💚
My partner is diagnosed with BPD. The relationship hasnt been easy bc I also suffer with mental health issues myself (I was misdiagnosed with BPD in hospital but later with C-PTSD). We've had our good and bad days but lately it's mostly been good. 6 years gone by too quick!
Thanks Kati! Your videos are always helpful.
I worry it isn’t as I am 38 and it continues to take over my life.
I'm 35 and about 7yrs ago I was diagnosed with BPD. I worry about this too.
Me too 😕😕
Don’t stress! The disorder will lessen in late 40s keep up with dbt 🖤🖤 you’ve got it
I'm 42 and it seems like the older I get, the worse it gets. I wonder if treatment is even worth it.
Unfortunately in the uk where I am there is not much offered in the way of treatment. No dbt or therapy. I can’t afford to go private.
Is awful when mental health professionals just "nope nope" you. Being there.
I was at a psychiatric hospital for 1 month, it was my 2nd stay in psych ward.
The psychologist assigned to work with me was so frustrating and it was noticable she didn't like to work with a person with BPD and others coexisting psychiatric conditions, felt no motivation to engage in the sessions or even just allow me to vent and speak my mind, she could not be trained for BPD patients or just was burned out by her job. She is a certified clinical psychologist, supposed to be able to at least try to handle a patient but it was a failure for both of us. I felt so disrespect and treated like a lost cause that I just told her that this session wasn't able to continue with the session, it was clear we were going nowhere and it wasn't a therapeutic space. Her lack of interest and willingness was obvious and it was a waste of energy, time and draining to keep failing to work around each other (this was the third session). I told her that maybe it could be a lack of the right chemistry or thrust earning, and that I would not judge her if she assigned me to another peer. She lost her cool like never before. Trying to avoid being even more distressed and feeling an imminent rage mood swing, I ask her if I could be dismissed and retire myself to my room. She didn't allow me. I ask again almost in tears from the frustration, explaining that I wasn't feeling well or even secure being at her office and with her. I was doing my best, breathing and containing my increasing anger, I didn't want to become hurtful, disrespectful, rude or loosing my control over my emotions. God knows how I was trying... She was adamant about letting me go to my room.
I breathe, as deep and controlled as I could and stay the rest of the 30 minutes from the 1 hour session biting my tongue, asking God to give me the patience I needed. Couldn't engage anymore from that time on and for the whole rest of sessions.
I had to pick my battles. I asked later to be assigned to another psychologist at the appointment with the psychiatrist working my case and with the psychologist there.
I expressed my distress, frustration with the dynamic of the therapy's sessions and that I didn't see any therapeutic space. The psychologist started throwing me under the bus. Every sentence I said was used against myself by the psychologist...
So glad to see this positive look at BPD, especially during awareness month. I've been trying my best to spread awareness and break stigma online and get pushed back by ignorance and hate so much. Even in these comments I see such negativity. It has to be remembered that a) not all borderlines are the same and b) there is a reason borderlines act how they do! We are not this way by choice so please dont speak of us as unbearable, psychotic monsters.
This video is a gem, thank you Kati!
The answer: yes, if you believe in yourself, educate yourself and love yourself.
Keep fighting warriors💚
Great video Kati!
It’s borderline treatable
I was just writing to myself about this same topic in the morning, and it is truly amazing that this comes up in my feed. Its a hard day, its hard to live. I cant thank u enough though for keeping me going
Thank you, perfect timing as always ^^. My teacher (a therapist and nurse) talked today about BPD, treatment options, ... but in a more nursing focused way as I'm a nursing student (in Austria). I'm so glad to hear now a more detailed explanation of the therapy options!
Yay! So glad this was helpful :) xoxo
omg thanks a lot Kati! I think my mom has BPD but she was misdiagnosed as having bipolar. This is my birthday today and I'm really glad to FINALLY figure out what mom is probably going through. Now, can you do a video on how to console someone who just lost their pet? My friend adopted a pet to cope with her depression but recently her pet died and now she is more depressed than ever. Please help, Kati.
Super! You are the best Kati !!!! Excellent video! I could only ask for a seperate more detailed video for each of the 4 skills - with more explanations of each and more examples and possibly techniques. It will help to focus on one skill and really apply it every day!!!! Thank you so much for your hard work Kati! You are the best, really 💖🥰💖
This disorder is very tough. I recently lost friend due to it. She was attempting to get help really hard, they send her from hospital home because covid and they told her she need to learn live with it. She felt worse than before and give up. She was doing DBT, but remotely it wasn't working for her as in person.
It might pay to find a therapist who doesn’t label you with bpd but instead works to help understand the causes of your behaviour and the ways to act in ways that actually help us. CPTSD is a diagnosis that covers the same set of symptoms viewed from different angles although we canny always know what might have triggered our difficulties.
All that said, it is ultimately up to us to do the work to make life easier for ourselves and the people and environment around us. The advice on stress tolerance in this video are relevant to everyone, and the tactics work, if you use them, lol.
Realising anything but acceptance is futile was the beginning of my turnaround, it will always be a journey.
I'm fortunate I was high functioning and showed signs of recovery. I felt like a robot that was malfunctioning. One day I would feel on top of the world. Literally the next day it felt like the world was ending. My anger problems were horrible to my family. But great with my friends. Even though my family was so good to me. I was afraid to date. Then all of a sudden when my sister abandoned me I spiraled and threw away my virginity out of no where and started partying. My friends forced me into an SAA support group. But I finally got help at 27 and got on mood stabilizers. I didn't want to repeat my father's cycle. I am finally recovering and so glad I finally feel normal.
I haven't watched the video yet just wanted to say from my own experience it is totally treatable and without meds. Talk therapy with a awesome therapist, DBT therapy and my faith before everything helped me. Everyday is a new day. I'm not "cured" but I'm living life again. Please try to never give up big hugs everyone.
Yes yes yes!! DBT is the best :) xoxo
This is the best segment I have seen.
Please could you do a video on mania in bipolar vs mood swings in bpd . Lots of people with bpd use the term manic cause they think the only different is duration in symptoms and not also severity and stuff. It’s so frustrating
I do have this video: ruclips.net/video/rfQTf8NA73s/видео.html Does that help? xoxo
@@Katimorton yes! Thank you.
I lived with a woman with BPD for 2 years. I borderline lost my own personality over those 2 years. woof
I feel you. I got married to a woman with BPD (not diagnosed or diagnosed but i was not informed) for 5 years...we had 2 kids...she got derailed, became a disrespectful monster, devalued me, insulted me, told lies about me...I dumped her 2 months ago...still trying to recover...but I am much much more happier now.
It's no walk in the park for sure!
@@slofty it isnt...
That is exactly what I do! When I walk ALONE (never when I am with someone) somewhere - anywhere really, I have hateful thoughts towards everyone I see! and I don't even mean it, I try my best to self correct in the moment when I notice those types of thoughts arise, I try and gently tell myself, "is it really necessary to think this mean thought? you don't know this person or these people, you have no idea of their life etc" I also get jealous of couples I see together but then I tell myself, "now hang on, they could be happy, atleast they aren't alone, you are only having these thoughts because you are sad and lonely"
Thank you for this video Kati. Really needed it xoxo
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for this 💙
Very good video, thank you!
Hi Kati, thank you for doing another great BPD video, they are always so helpful. It would be really good in the future if you could do a BPD and ED video, I suffer with both and I find my anorexia gets in the way of trying to manage my BPD, it overrules most things in my head and trying to be mindful or take control of my emotions is drowned by the negative voice that my ED causes in my head. Its a battle between them both.
Thanks again xx
Thanks, really well explained! The prompts on screen are also super helpful for my adhd!
I don't think I have BPD but I have some of the symptoms, like self-cutting. I started CBT last week and I hope it'll help me. I'm trying some of the tools you mentioned in this video, so thanks for sharing this with us! Even when you think that everything is grim and you're feeling miserable, I believe there's still a chance to lift your spirits.
My father has BPD (and NPD). This is a video I’ve been hoping for!
What does NPD mean?
@@aprilmckinney8365 Narcissistic Personality Disorder
@@aprilmckinney8365 narcissistic personality disorder
@@bc5653 thank you 😊
Hey! Really impressive crash course on DBT. I bet it will help a lot of people 🙂
I just started DBT last month (April 2022), I was diagnosed with BPD in 2016 and I have been waiting almost 6 years for it. I am so grateful that I have finally gotten the therapy I need 12 years ago. Thank you for this video.
Update?
This explanation of Mindfulness is neat. The concept seems actually helpfull.
was just diagnosed with this today. thank you for making this video ❤️
very informative! thanks!
I just came out of my first inpatient hospital stay and the Social Worker yelled upon entering the room, “So you’re Borderline and you chop your arms up??” I froze from shock and shame. My whole stay there was so miserable, I felt less than human the entire time. I might just risk my life next time to avoid being treated so poorly again. It’s scary getting help for this disorder.
I'm sorry that you had such a negative experience. It was brave of you to reach out for help. That's a tough thing to do and I commend you for doing so. I hope that you're able to find a really great therapist who will treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve. That social worker is definitely not the right person.
That “social worker” needs to be fired.
I like this video style. More like this, please.
I’ve been diagnosed with BPD, then the diagnosis was discarded, because I don’t have anger outbursts nor am I overly impulsive.
I also have a PhD in Biochemistry and I’m successful in my job.. and the therapist somehow thought that this wouldn’t fit an “average” person with BPD. The last thing is stupid, people with BPD can be so different.
However, I’m now kind of lost, because there’s no diagnosis. The therapist mentioned complex PTSD, but who knows.
this was good thanks for posting this :)
I got diagnosed with bpd at a hospital but when I finally got a psychiatrist, he said he doesn't like labels so he's diagnosing me with a "general mood disorder". Kinda lost because before I knew the diagnosis and there were steps to deal with and cope with it, but now I don't even know what I'm supposed to do
Empathising in a big way...Received same 'Don't Wish to Label' avoidance of a true diagnosis...but, for me, one is only left 'flailing' that much more.
My psychiatrist won't believe me either. My state insurance runs out at the end of the year and I'll be out of insurance again. Scared for the end of year because I think I'll probably do something stupid because I just will be hopeless.
Thank you for this. I have BPD and have been really struggling lately.
Thank you so much for this video I was so close to accepting bpd as my life now (I have diagnosed bpd for 3 years) I ve tried dbt and it was really good, but when I finished my group I stopped putting in the work, I'm going to relook at my dbt workbook and try to find a new online group thank you for inspiring me 💕
After decades dealing with BPD, I as so very tired of it.
Thank you for these great tips. But sometimes these are easier said than done. The emotions are so powerful, sometimes it's really hard to control them. My therapist goes above and beyond to help me. But sometimes nothing seems to help ...
Thank you so much! It’s hard for most ppl to understand this until we finally get a phycologist as I hv had now for a year and just starting to slow down to understand this. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽dBT therapy I start soon! I pray for all of you who suffer with manic bipolar and borderline personality disorder and dissociative personality disorder such as myself. I’m 40 just starting to somewhat get this. HANG IN THERE! Pray and hv faith there is hope and help although we will go bk and forth on if there’s any at all! There is! I pray for all of you!
I do have BPD but I do not take meds or go to treatment for it. I just read my DBT workbook and just reflect and deal with it using tools I've learned over the year's. With Being A mother of Five and such my life thrives in chaos so I guess keeping busy has been the best thing that has happened to me.
I’m glad you have a workbook and exercises that work for you however I highly recommend exploring therapy and medication.
Just wait until your children blame you for their terrible upbringing & being a toxic parent. They will tell you you are a terrible parent because you were not there for them, or you yelled, or you forced them to clean your room, or anything else. There is NO way you will win as a parent.
Look at some of her other videos telling kids to leave their toxic parents & she INSTRUCTS them to blame you for their “bad” upbringing.
Everything that ever goes wrong will ALWAYS be your fault-no matter how hard you work on yourself. You can do the workbooks until the day you die, but your kids will blame you for their toxic childhood & this therapist, & most therapists, will support THEM. I am so sorry for the pain you will go through. How do I know- Ive been there, Ive lived it. I think the worst thing in the world is to be cut off from your kids- even once they become adults. I wish you all the best & I hope you know it’s not your fault.
CPTSD (complex PTSD) is soooo similar to BPD. I was convinced I had BPD until my trauma psychologist informed me of the similarities. More awareness needs to be raised on both these conditions.
Congratulations on moving to a new place and new home happy travelling hope the move is good for you looking forward to more video s and podcast
I hate when I am told to just observe and not judge. It is like I am not true to myself. If I don't like sth, I don't like it.
Hi, Kati. I want to thank you for making your videos, but as someone who just got diagnosed (26) with BPD, I feel mine is more quiet BPD or maybe the internalized/depressive BPD. Most videos I have found, yours included are about the other two types of BPD which portray outwardly. I would love if you could make a video addressing the differences, or specifically how BPD can look and manifest in those who internalize their issues.
Thank you for this video! I know 1 person diagnosed and 2 others with at least some BPD symptoms? Have you done or can you do a video on how to be in a relationship (family, friend, romantic, etc.) with someone who has BPD?
Always good to learn about other Mental health problems truefully did not know or understand what borderline personality disorder was or its symptoms just like other Mental health problems I see borderline personality disorder has a lot of symptoms this advice will be helpful when I do meet someone or have a friend who has this mental health problem thank you kati 🙂
Thank you
I find this very difficult to do. I ended up stopping therapy because I couldn't handle the stress
Thanks for sharing this information with us, it's very helpful and helpful for me to understand the reality of #BPD
Thank you.
Thank you for your videos
My pleasure!
Therapist ?
How can anybody afford that ?
I live band to mouth - I don’t have any help or insurance, I live in a hideous place, I don’t even own a working car. Group free help is useless and I found detrimental instead of helpful.
Friends / family is what you need / community- without this you have nothing.
This is a good video for people who are not depressed or have given up - I guess I watch it and I’m just thinking - I don’t want to get better I just want it all to be over. When I’m not feeling good I would never be able to go do something like what’s described here.
I am on my 5th year of therapies, we r doing dbt sessions. When i first found out that i have bpd i was 35. It does take quite take time to understand whats going on with yourself of why u act the way u do. Luckily i wasnt too bad with my bpd when i didnt know that i had it. But still i got hospitalized couple of times after getting traumatised caused by my bpd situation. Its been 5 years already after reliesed from the hospital for the last time. İ do try mindfulness but it is only working if u have emotion disregulation. If anxiety comes along with bpd then mindfulness is a very bad choice. This fear of abondenment is the biggest thing... i wish a good heath for everybody trying hard for themselves with bpd out there! Stay strong and peace
I like how you say we.
My therapist, she is a body based trauma therapist, believes that BPD is treatable, not manageable -she doesn’t like this term-, even though for personal reasons she prefers not to have BPD clients. But she knows colleagues which love to treat people with a BPD conditions… we are all in the same boat in the end…diagnosis try to describe a condition but we are all different and complex…
Thank you! I was diagnosed last year at age 32, and I am still struggling to understand how to help myself (and of course I can't help my family and friends deal with thus as well).
thank you for this, bpd sucks so fcking much. I got kicked out of a treatment centre today because they said ‘I’m not safe there’ but I’m not safe anywhere so it’s stupid.
BPD had taken over my life at one point when I was a teen. I was a “quiet borderline” and turned into an extremely impulsive one. I was institutionalized for 1&1/2 years. Nothing seemed to work: medication, therapy, etc. At one point my psychiatrist in there wanted to do ECT because they were at a loss. That scared me enough to want to get out of there, so I faked my way out. Once I was out I never wanted to go back so my “behaviors” kind of just stopped as I became an adult. But after shutting them out for so long they slowly creeped back up. Do you think ECT could be beneficial for personality disorders?
when i was younger i was at my worse with bpd it took many years of therapy but mostly as i got older the symptoms got less im not anything like i was when i was between ages 18 till about 50 yes that long now at 58 i have calmed down so for me i feel age did it i struggled threw so many years and thankfully my husband understood my disorder i put him threw hell thank you for this video
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I just got rid of that abusive environment!
I hate this. I hate everything. Life is more “survive until tomorrow” than anything else. I feel so lost. In myself, and everything else around me. I know I cant control myself to be better. I tried so mamy times. In the end I am always reminded where my place is - alone, where I cant hurt those around me. The stronger you bounce from the ground, the harder you’re gonna fall down, and its going to be way worse than just enduring at the bottom. I would rather sink with this ship then try to swim across the entire ocean. I wish you all the best for the battles ahead. I lost mine, and I gave up on trying
Thank you!!!
Constantly being called a looser and a spoiled brat doesn’t help I just get tired of it❤️ I’m tired of feeling hopeless and useless all the time😭