Im the momma in the Shelter, im shaking hearing this and honestly would have never guessed id be on the story ! My heart started beating so fast ! I appreciate all the comments ❤
I just heard your story and immediately came to the comments to see if you were here! I was so moved by your story as a mom myself. I just want to give you a reminder that you are a FANTASTIC mom and your daughter is so blessed to have you. You are doing everything you can to give your daughter a better life and she will grow up to be an amazing woman because of the examples you are setting for her. I know things are tough right now, but just know that she's going to remember how strong you were during this time and how you loved her so much that you stayed strong to make all of this happen. It may be too late in your area to sign up for something like Angel Tree because I know they usually have cut-off dates. If so, I would highly recommend posting on a local mom group, even if it's anonymously, to see if there are any local moms looking to adopt a family for Christmas! I see moms in my local groups posting about looking for your type of situation to help out all of the time or others posting about low-cost ways to help out their kids for Christmas!
@cherieaspen3859 - 2 things 1) My mama was like you once upon a time. It's SO HARD but you will get past it and it's worth it! I remember some of the struggles in my younger years but by the time I was in upper elementary grades, she owned a home, I went to a good school, we lived in a nice small community, and I had opportunities that allowed me to be a successful adult myself and then give my own daughters (now adults) even more opportunities. Keep going!! For yourself and for your child. This WILL pass and you will come out on the other side knowing you're so strong & that you can handle ANYTHING. 2) If you can share your Venmo, I would love to send you a little bit. Being a single mama is already hard. Feeling like you have nothing is worse. No mama should feel that way. ❤
I have never heard a story of someone so strong. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU from every child who’s mother didn’t do the hard work you’re doing right now. Thank you for everything you are doing for your baby. She will be so fucking proud of you and thankful one day. You are doing the hardest thing mentally and physically ANYONE has had to do. And god knows you are on the road to greatness, it’s hard, and it’s tiring, but remember how strong you are, how far you’ve come, you’re in the thick of it but you’ve already done SO MUCH. Just focus on today. You woke up, and you took a breath. I’m proud of you for that. Take each day as it comes and each trial and tribulation one at a time.
Coming from a daughter who was in an abusive household and whose mom didn't leave until 32 years later, u are amazing. My mom was so incredibly strong to leave and I'm so fucking proud of her. But to hear that u left so early just brings tears to my eyes. U have saved ur daughter from so much pain. I'm also a nurse and I'm so so so proud of u for sticking with ur education. Don't stop fighting 💖
To the single mother in a shelter with her daughter... IT GETS BETTER! I was in a shelter with 2 young children, I had absolutely no clue how I'd get through on EI while dealing with depression and attempting to get into school. I did it one step at a time. Take a deep breath, look at the very reason why you breath (your child) and fight the good fight, you're doing everything right so far, keep going!
Story 3: I was once that little 5 year old girl and my mom was in your exact shoes. I never once thought my mother was failing or struggling, I only knew that she loved me and I loved her and that we were living life the way we could. You are doing great and trust me it gets better, my mother is the strongest woman I know and she did everything for me, and I will always be grateful for her and how she cared for me even through all of her trauma ❤️
Story 2: Your husband family are abusive. Stop seeing his family. Block them everywhere. Wny subject your child to abuse? If your husband wants to go, he can go alone. However, as someone from an abusive family, he needs to put his mental health above his family. They are toxic, and they will not change. Tell him he will be happier when he cuts contact and surrounds himself with loving family and friends. Trust me, you will be happier. I don't speak to 95% of my family, and I live in another country across an ocean with loving friends and family.
Story 2: Your child is not missing out on anything by you putting distance between your family and your in laws. If they'll treat your husband so poorly, it will trickle down to your son. My family is fairly toxic, and my toddler doesn't need to be exposed to that. He gets all the family love he needs from my in laws. And that's okay! He'll grow up only knowing love, and that's what you want for your baby. I would stop trying to associate with them, especially at the holidays. Make that magic your own for your family.
ALL OF THIS ^^^ If they have made an effort, why should you? PersonaIly, I don't know hardly anyone on my dad's side of the family. His mother told him that his dad passed away in the mail with no return address. Only reason my dad knew it was his mom was because the letter was written with a typewriter. If any of these mostly nameless and fully faceless people tried to come into my life for any reason after my dad passed, I'd be suspicious. OP's spouse should look out for predatory behavior in the future.
The 3rd story made me so emotional. Your little one is so so lucky to have such a strong, resilient, intelligent mom like you. I can’t speak on what you must be going through but I know for a fact that so many people looking back would rather live in shelters than stay in an abusive home. Sending love to you guys❤
Story 3: can we start a go fund me or something for her and her little one?? Christmas is such a hard time of year if you aren’t in a good place and if we can help her out it would be so wonderful.
This story is from me, I about cried hearing this. I seriously appreciate all of the good comments my heart breaks for her. Thank you all for the good comments
@@cherieaspen3859I was very serious about the go fund me. I had relatives set one up when my husband passed and it was a huge help. Please let us know if you have one
Story 3: I've been there. My daughters bio-dad was abusive. I finally found the courage to leave when my daughter was 9 months old. It was scary and hard. Getting on my feet again with 2 kids under 4 while constantly looking over my shoulder, afraid of what my ex might do. It was so hard but that was 2 years ago. My ex eventually got bored when he realized he had no control anymore. I haven't heard from him sense a few months after I was granted full custody. My local domestic abuse agency helped me get into an apartment and helped me find counseling. Me and my kids are thriving now. We have an apartment that we love. My current boyfriend is amazing and has completely taken over the roll as dad for my daughter and bonus dad for my son. Take advantage of all the resources you can. Everything helps. And therapy. Therapy helped me so much. It's a struggle but it gets better. Never give up and know that your daughter loves you no matter what. She knows how hard you are trying so don't stop. You're stronger than you feel. You got this. Trust me.💜💙
For the couple who’s partner is going home and leaving her behind: My ex partner of 11 years was like this after we moved in together. (We were serious for about 9 years before moving in.) He’d leave me behind to come home all the time. I hated that all our free time we ever got was always spent apart, because our days were pretty separate too. We were in college and I only had a work study program, so every cent I made went to my half of rent. He had a NASA internship that paid about 50k a year. His mom paid for all his expenses, though, so everything left over was essentially play money. Often times I was left without money to even eat. During COVID, he jumped ship and came back home, leaving me behind too. I know every couple is different, and maybe I’m just triggered here, but I don’t think the OP’s partner care for them as they care for their partner. I think maybe breaking up is a considerable option if they have a talk and the partner doesn’t help the OP ever get home.
Story 5: if you go, take your own alcohol. Don't share it with these aholes. Drink it in front of them. Enjoy yourself the best you can. I personally wouldn't go. Your parents need to stand up for you. It is better to have a friends' holiday than to feel like crap around people who treat you terribly, including your parents. Show your parents these responses. They need to see these. You are failing your child.
Story 1: Your mom needs therapy. Barring abuse, she is an adult and should be able to put her feelings aside to celebrate with her children. If she cannot, then celebrate with your dad without guilt. Your mom is trying to manipulate your family. Don't be fooled. She doesn't deserve the space in your mind.
Story 5: yes, Morgan was making great suggestions. Rental car sounds great. Instead of gifts, take wine to share. And I've been wondering, what are you supposed to be grateful for? Stay only as long as you want and feel comfortable.
story 2: as a child of a family like that it would have been nice to already have very strict boundaries growing up, not cut off but not able to be very close!! Now I am forced to do that myself.
Story 3: I am an advocate for survivors of domestic violence and SA. I too applaud you. I would say, have you reach out to other advocacy centers in your area? Some advocacy centers are able to financially assist you. For example, at my agency I can assist people with long term living and help them with deposits and rent. I would highly recommend you reach out to other centers because some even offer childcare and life coaching. Should no other centers work, in my personal life I find that waking up early to complete tasks I’m too busy for during the normal day really helps me, as well as taking time for yourself. And also remember, C’s do get degrees so if you need to skip a homework assignment to get the chance you have a break, do it. In the airplanes they say that if the mask comes down, put it on yourself before helping others. Make sure YOU are okay too while you take care of your sweet child. If you are in Oregon at all, I know of a few centers that can maybe help. Good luck!
For story 3: I would recommend her looking into being a travel CNA while she’s in school! A lot of companies will offer to pay for your CNA school if you sign a contract for typically a year. Once she is signed on to a contract she can pick up travel contract that offer housing in hotels during her “block booking” contracts. So it might not be a long term stay but it could give her a chance to save up with out paying for housing! I have a couple companies I can recommend depending on where she is located!
How is she going to finish getting her nursing license if she's traveling? And her daughter is in school too. When she gets her license money won't be an issue & she can move to a bigger city with more housing & jobs & it sounds like she's very close
Story 2: I was/am the child in this situation. My dads side has always been cruel to him and my mother. For years my parents tried and as a 2 yr old I went to my mum amd asked her why dads mum (Nanna) hated her. Then the final straw was when I was 17 and Nanna tried to tell me how awful my mum was and how my dad was manipulated by her and my dad cut her off for good. By not associating with his side you are teaching your child they don't have to be around people who don't want them. Even as a kid, you can tell and pick up when people don't want you there. You aren't missing out on anything.
1:03:20 I haven't written in but I have been listening to you guys for at least a year now, originally binged tht and now ive binged fks and I just want you guys to know that hearing these stories and hearing all the advice you give these people has genuinely given me a different outlook on life. I broke up with my boyfriend because I realized (thanks to you guys) that we were so toxic for each other. I listened to your alive everyday until I finally got the courage to end things and ive been so happy since. I would also just like to say that I love how I can genuinely feel apart of these communities you've built. Thank you for what your doing I love all of you guys❤️
For My little one, she's absolutely just a girlie girl. She loves pink ! Makeup & barbies lol she loves dressing them up & doing their hair . Her size is 5t-6 & shoes are an 8-9
The story where she says she doesnt want to hurtbher kid cuz they wont know their fathers fam...pff what a buncha BS...they are dicks move on. We have zero contact with my fiances fam his fam is abusive...toxic and mostly dead at this point only ones living are the evil ones tbh. Sad part is his 13 yr old niece was brainwashed and fukt in the head now cuz of them all and totally acts like she doesnt know us so farwwell i say.
Yeah...if my partner isn't close with his family I'm not going to force it. I might ask if he would mind if I tried to reach out for the kid's sake but probably not after I found out his siblings were purposely excluding him. My family used to be close but isn't anymore so I get both sides but you can't force relationships, even just with family
i understand in a shelter you cant really have all of your belongings but Can we get something started for the momma? let the little princess have a enjoyable christmas
And the ticket thing, if the partner isn't comfortable gifting her the ticket, could he loan the money? I don't know how much it is in the US but I don't think I would've felt comfortable buying ~500€ tickets for a partner I've known only for three years, even know when we've lived together for 3 years and split all living costs...I would lent the money, I wouldn't "gift" it
14:19 OP’s husband Family are a bunch of assholes. As someone who is the middle sibling, I could never imagine. purposefully leaving out one of my siblings. Aside from my husband and his family. My siblings and their spouses and children are all I have, but they are all we need. Unfortunately my parents both passed away far too young.
Story 5: a couple suggestions if you decide to go there next year…go to a wine tasting at some point this year and bring a wine you discovered there. To be honest, 2 buck chuck sounds a bit collegey. Wine tasting sounds more adult. 2nd suggestion, bring something to do with you. I knit. It is an amazing way to be able to give myself some mental distance in stressful situations. I find it very meditative. But I do agree that your parents should be advocating for you. I believe that by treating you the way they are, they might be actually trying to bully your mom. The best way to torture me is to bully my child.
Story 3: As a single mother of a 4 year girl myself who left my abusive bd for 5 months now , just know you are doing what’s best for your little girl . Please don’t lose your motivation and stand tall bc those you want to hurt you will want to see your downfall. Stay strong momma
For story 4 - your son is not missing out on anything by you not spending holidays with your husband's family. They're clearly terrible and it's not a bad thing to keep your son away from them.
It's terrible for your son to be around people who belittle his dad. People who are homophobic enough to use "gay" as an insult. It's also bad for your husband to have to spend holidays - which should be happy - around people who make him so miserable. There's no need to spend time with people who don't want to spend time with you.
Story 2: my family is similar. My dads side has always treated my inner family(+my aunts) differently then the rest of the family. I’m an adult now and I haven’t seen them since I was little. Sure it’s sad but they were never really family. They never cared about me like my actual family does. It just felt like they were strangers I was forced to see on the holidays. The only thing I MAY have missed out on were more presents lol. Trust me it’ll be less stressful if you distance yourself.
morgan i really appreciate you sharing your experiences regarding needing help from your parents. i’m only 22 but i feel so unaccomplished on my own standards and i am just straight up broke despite working full time and have a hard time asking for help from my parents because of my own pride. i thank you for sharing your experience, it made me feel better and more understanding that my situation is a normal thing and im not the only one.
When i was a kid my parents were not ever there. I went through the foster care a bit my dad was a truck driver my mom was bad on drugs and alcohol, but they got better now as we are adults. I remember not getting anything sometimes for the holidays and my bdah which is xmas Eve but my dad made it work where he got me all the Pokemon gold card balls at burger kind and a Gameboy and some other pokemon stuff. Ill always cherish those gifts and i still have them all bc just know, a kid loves their parents and she knows youre doing the best no matter what
For Xmas present everyone in my family brings one gift $40-50 (I like to make mine an expensive one). Then we play white elephant/ dirty Santa. We get to interact with each other and have an activity together rather than 40 people opening 40 gifts.
Omg you are so right about it being ridiculous for every adult to have to buy a Christmas gift for every other adult! It’s always been such a hassle every year for me since I have a big family. And when you have to buy 7-8 gifts, the quality and monetary value of each gift decreases. I would propose a secret Santa for my family this year but I think it’s a little late at this point 😂
Re- secret santa. When I was younger the aunts and uncles would draw names for a child in the family to buy gifts for. Then it wasnt all aunts and uncles buy a gift for all nephews/niece's but one uncle/aunt does it for one kid and it changes each year. As a kid it was fun as we didnt know which family member had us each year. As an adult it must have been nice to only need to shop for one child and not 10+ children. Now we are all adults so we did secret santa a few years and then it changed to a white elephant game with a focus on fun and not goid gifts and now nothing. Just getting together.
Story 2: My husband is from a family a lot like that one. Things changed a bit around the Time we had kids. His parents (step father specifically) found a kinder heart when we had kids. From my perspective, the step father put them against my husband as they were growing up - he just talked a lot of shit. We are still not besties with his sibling and step siblings but we have a lot more contact than we did before. Anyways, let me tell you, these people don’t like each other as much as they don’t like my husband. We’re not there to hear all the drama thank god but it’s there. I don’t think they like anybody actually.
In my family we do secret Santa between the adults & then everyone gets a gift for each of the kids, that way it’s really mostly about the babies being happy with all their gifts, but the adults also get something & everyone isn’t buying a million gifts 😅
Story 2: Your child is not missing out on anything or anyone, if he doesn’t know who they are. Some of my dad’s family was like that, I’m glad my mom decided not to put me through that, I was not apart of their shit show. No one especially a child deserves to be put in the middle of that. You and your husband need to start your holiday traditions and them special. It’s only my mom, dad, sister l, and niece that get together every holiday and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Story 1 - hi max, I have a similar name and similar thing. My mom was never really there and when holiday season starts she is all over how I don’t include her in my life
This is my first time watching father knows something (I’m a huge THT watcher). Are there ever updated? Do we ever know what happens to some of these stories??
Story 3: to me it seems like financial stress is really affecting the writer, i think it might be the best to pause your education and pursue a full time job until life is stable enough to return to school Im not familiar if that education program is easy to get back into but thats what i think my parents would do for me tbh
I really want to help the woman in story number 3! Can we please start a go fund me? Or can i venmo someone? I really want to help! Please please please!
Im the momma in the Shelter, im shaking hearing this and honestly would have never guessed id be on the story ! My heart started beating so fast ! I appreciate all the comments ❤
I just heard your story and immediately came to the comments to see if you were here! I was so moved by your story as a mom myself. I just want to give you a reminder that you are a FANTASTIC mom and your daughter is so blessed to have you. You are doing everything you can to give your daughter a better life and she will grow up to be an amazing woman because of the examples you are setting for her. I know things are tough right now, but just know that she's going to remember how strong you were during this time and how you loved her so much that you stayed strong to make all of this happen. It may be too late in your area to sign up for something like Angel Tree because I know they usually have cut-off dates. If so, I would highly recommend posting on a local mom group, even if it's anonymously, to see if there are any local moms looking to adopt a family for Christmas! I see moms in my local groups posting about looking for your type of situation to help out all of the time or others posting about low-cost ways to help out their kids for Christmas!
@cherieaspen3859 - 2 things 1) My mama was like you once upon a time. It's SO HARD but you will get past it and it's worth it! I remember some of the struggles in my younger years but by the time I was in upper elementary grades, she owned a home, I went to a good school, we lived in a nice small community, and I had opportunities that allowed me to be a successful adult myself and then give my own daughters (now adults) even more opportunities. Keep going!! For yourself and for your child. This WILL pass and you will come out on the other side knowing you're so strong & that you can handle ANYTHING. 2) If you can share your Venmo, I would love to send you a little bit. Being a single mama is already hard. Feeling like you have nothing is worse. No mama should feel that way. ❤
if u set up a gofund me or something similar i would love to help!
I have never heard a story of someone so strong. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU from every child who’s mother didn’t do the hard work you’re doing right now. Thank you for everything you are doing for your baby. She will be so fucking proud of you and thankful one day. You are doing the hardest thing mentally and physically ANYONE has had to do. And god knows you are on the road to greatness, it’s hard, and it’s tiring, but remember how strong you are, how far you’ve come, you’re in the thick of it but you’ve already done SO MUCH. Just focus on today. You woke up, and you took a breath. I’m proud of you for that. Take each day as it comes and each trial and tribulation one at a time.
Coming from a daughter who was in an abusive household and whose mom didn't leave until 32 years later, u are amazing. My mom was so incredibly strong to leave and I'm so fucking proud of her. But to hear that u left so early just brings tears to my eyes. U have saved ur daughter from so much pain. I'm also a nurse and I'm so so so proud of u for sticking with ur education. Don't stop fighting 💖
To the single mother in a shelter with her daughter... IT GETS BETTER! I was in a shelter with 2 young children, I had absolutely no clue how I'd get through on EI while dealing with depression and attempting to get into school. I did it one step at a time. Take a deep breath, look at the very reason why you breath (your child) and fight the good fight, you're doing everything right so far, keep going!
Story 3: I was once that little 5 year old girl and my mom was in your exact shoes. I never once thought my mother was failing or struggling, I only knew that she loved me and I loved her and that we were living life the way we could. You are doing great and trust me it gets better, my mother is the strongest woman I know and she did everything for me, and I will always be grateful for her and how she cared for me even through all of her trauma ❤️
I’m dying at the beginning. Jerry guessing everything but the right thing 😂😂😂😂😂
Hannukah? Bigger one! Oh you're moving!!😂😂😂
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Story 2: Your husband family are abusive. Stop seeing his family. Block them everywhere. Wny subject your child to abuse? If your husband wants to go, he can go alone. However, as someone from an abusive family, he needs to put his mental health above his family. They are toxic, and they will not change. Tell him he will be happier when he cuts contact and surrounds himself with loving family and friends. Trust me, you will be happier. I don't speak to 95% of my family, and I live in another country across an ocean with loving friends and family.
Yes I promise your husband will be so much happier and feel so much peace after cutting contact from toxic family.
Story 2: Your child is not missing out on anything by you putting distance between your family and your in laws. If they'll treat your husband so poorly, it will trickle down to your son. My family is fairly toxic, and my toddler doesn't need to be exposed to that. He gets all the family love he needs from my in laws. And that's okay! He'll grow up only knowing love, and that's what you want for your baby. I would stop trying to associate with them, especially at the holidays. Make that magic your own for your family.
ALL OF THIS ^^^ If they have made an effort, why should you? PersonaIly, I don't know hardly anyone on my dad's side of the family. His mother told him that his dad passed away in the mail with no return address. Only reason my dad knew it was his mom was because the letter was written with a typewriter. If any of these mostly nameless and fully faceless people tried to come into my life for any reason after my dad passed, I'd be suspicious. OP's spouse should look out for predatory behavior in the future.
A 3AM upload? You mean absolutely perfect for my overnight shift? 😂❤
Damn😂 I don’t have night shifts like that but if I knew they posted I WOULD’VE WATCHED I WAS UPPP
same ! overnight treat
Truly appreciate having something to watch when I wake up in the middle of the night. Now I’m on my second watch while I get ready 😂
The 3rd story made me so emotional. Your little one is so so lucky to have such a strong, resilient, intelligent mom like you. I can’t speak on what you must be going through but I know for a fact that so many people looking back would rather live in shelters than stay in an abusive home. Sending love to you guys❤
Thank you so much 💓 In a way it's peaceful, it's knowing it's not a forever home if that makes sense? I'm doing my absolute best to get us a place !
Story 3: can we start a go fund me or something for her and her little one?? Christmas is such a hard time of year if you aren’t in a good place and if we can help her out it would be so wonderful.
I second this! I want to help!!!
I want to help!!
That's an excellent idea
This story is from me, I about cried hearing this. I seriously appreciate all of the good comments my heart breaks for her. Thank you all for the good comments
@@cherieaspen3859I was very serious about the go fund me. I had relatives set one up when my husband passed and it was a huge help. Please let us know if you have one
Story 3: I've been there. My daughters bio-dad was abusive. I finally found the courage to leave when my daughter was 9 months old. It was scary and hard. Getting on my feet again with 2 kids under 4 while constantly looking over my shoulder, afraid of what my ex might do. It was so hard but that was 2 years ago. My ex eventually got bored when he realized he had no control anymore. I haven't heard from him sense a few months after I was granted full custody. My local domestic abuse agency helped me get into an apartment and helped me find counseling. Me and my kids are thriving now. We have an apartment that we love. My current boyfriend is amazing and has completely taken over the roll as dad for my daughter and bonus dad for my son. Take advantage of all the resources you can. Everything helps. And therapy. Therapy helped me so much. It's a struggle but it gets better. Never give up and know that your daughter loves you no matter what. She knows how hard you are trying so don't stop. You're stronger than you feel. You got this. Trust me.💜💙
For the couple who’s partner is going home and leaving her behind:
My ex partner of 11 years was like this after we moved in together. (We were serious for about 9 years before moving in.) He’d leave me behind to come home all the time. I hated that all our free time we ever got was always spent apart, because our days were pretty separate too.
We were in college and I only had a work study program, so every cent I made went to my half of rent. He had a NASA internship that paid about 50k a year. His mom paid for all his expenses, though, so everything left over was essentially play money. Often times I was left without money to even eat. During COVID, he jumped ship and came back home, leaving me behind too.
I know every couple is different, and maybe I’m just triggered here, but I don’t think the OP’s partner care for them as they care for their partner. I think maybe breaking up is a considerable option if they have a talk and the partner doesn’t help the OP ever get home.
Story 5: if you go, take your own alcohol. Don't share it with these aholes. Drink it in front of them. Enjoy yourself the best you can. I personally wouldn't go. Your parents need to stand up for you. It is better to have a friends' holiday than to feel like crap around people who treat you terribly, including your parents. Show your parents these responses. They need to see these. You are failing your child.
And screw being a "lady" cuz wtf does that even mean 🙄 Give the energy you get
Can we share the single mothers (in the shelter) Venmo or cash app? Would love to send a little help!
Story 1: Your mom needs therapy. Barring abuse, she is an adult and should be able to put her feelings aside to celebrate with her children. If she cannot, then celebrate with your dad without guilt. Your mom is trying to manipulate your family. Don't be fooled. She doesn't deserve the space in your mind.
Story 5: yes, Morgan was making great suggestions. Rental car sounds great. Instead of gifts, take wine to share.
And I've been wondering, what are you supposed to be grateful for?
Stay only as long as you want and feel comfortable.
i can only imagine morgan’s frustration when she realized she lost the audio card 😭
story 2: as a child of a family like that it would have been nice to already have very strict boundaries growing up, not cut off but not able to be very close!! Now I am forced to do that myself.
I fell asleep to two hot takes woke up to see father has uploaded 🤣 good night everyone
Just got tickets to see you guys in Nashville!! So excited for the show!!! Love all of y’all!!
always late night binging to fks and tht
Story 3: Is there any info given to donate to her and her little one?
Came here to ask this!
My name is Tobie ! I'm not sure how I'd go about doing anything like that ! But the thought that anyone even considered doing this means so much.
Story 3: I am an advocate for survivors of domestic violence and SA. I too applaud you. I would say, have you reach out to other advocacy centers in your area? Some advocacy centers are able to financially assist you. For example, at my agency I can assist people with long term living and help them with deposits and rent. I would highly recommend you reach out to other centers because some even offer childcare and life coaching. Should no other centers work, in my personal life I find that waking up early to complete tasks I’m too busy for during the normal day really helps me, as well as taking time for yourself. And also remember, C’s do get degrees so if you need to skip a homework assignment to get the chance you have a break, do it. In the airplanes they say that if the mask comes down, put it on yourself before helping others. Make sure YOU are okay too while you take care of your sweet child. If you are in Oregon at all, I know of a few centers that can maybe help. Good luck!
I second this! I was waiting for some real advice on this. Also, extended stay hotels can be a good option if you haven’t found a place yet.
For story 3: I would recommend her looking into being a travel CNA while she’s in school! A lot of companies will offer to pay for your CNA school if you sign a contract for typically a year. Once she is signed on to a contract she can pick up travel contract that offer housing in hotels during her “block booking” contracts. So it might not be a long term stay but it could give her a chance to save up with out paying for housing! I have a couple companies I can recommend depending on where she is located!
How is she going to finish getting her nursing license if she's traveling? And her daughter is in school too. When she gets her license money won't be an issue & she can move to a bigger city with more housing & jobs & it sounds like she's very close
LOVE YOU THT AND FKS CREW 🩷🩷🩷 LOVE FROM OKLAHOMA !!!!
Where are the time stamps?
It was 2am 😢 they’re coming this morning
Perfect timing 🤭
Story 2: I was/am the child in this situation. My dads side has always been cruel to him and my mother. For years my parents tried and as a 2 yr old I went to my mum amd asked her why dads mum (Nanna) hated her. Then the final straw was when I was 17 and Nanna tried to tell me how awful my mum was and how my dad was manipulated by her and my dad cut her off for good.
By not associating with his side you are teaching your child they don't have to be around people who don't want them. Even as a kid, you can tell and pick up when people don't want you there.
You aren't missing out on anything.
1:03:20 I haven't written in but I have been listening to you guys for at least a year now, originally binged tht and now ive binged fks and I just want you guys to know that hearing these stories and hearing all the advice you give these people has genuinely given me a different outlook on life. I broke up with my boyfriend because I realized (thanks to you guys) that we were so toxic for each other. I listened to your alive everyday until I finally got the courage to end things and ive been so happy since. I would also just like to say that I love how I can genuinely feel apart of these communities you've built. Thank you for what your doing I love all of you guys❤️
29:26 Morgan, is there a way we can do a go fund for the mama and her baby so they can at least get back into a home?
Please! Yes I want to help!
To the single mama who wrote in: please drop your Christmas lists here! ❤️
For My little one, she's absolutely just a girlie girl. She loves pink ! Makeup & barbies lol she loves dressing them up & doing their hair . Her size is 5t-6 & shoes are an 8-9
The story where she says she doesnt want to hurtbher kid cuz they wont know their fathers fam...pff what a buncha BS...they are dicks move on. We have zero contact with my fiances fam his fam is abusive...toxic and mostly dead at this point only ones living are the evil ones tbh. Sad part is his 13 yr old niece was brainwashed and fukt in the head now cuz of them all and totally acts like she doesnt know us so farwwell i say.
Yeah...if my partner isn't close with his family I'm not going to force it. I might ask if he would mind if I tried to reach out for the kid's sake but probably not after I found out his siblings were purposely excluding him. My family used to be close but isn't anymore so I get both sides but you can't force relationships, even just with family
i understand in a shelter you cant really have all of your belongings but Can we get something started for the momma? let the little princess have a enjoyable christmas
Time stamps ?😫
Morgan we want to set up go fund me on storie three. Can you help. Honestly you could have shouted them out. Why didnt you. You realy could have 😢
And the ticket thing, if the partner isn't comfortable gifting her the ticket, could he loan the money? I don't know how much it is in the US but I don't think I would've felt comfortable buying ~500€ tickets for a partner I've known only for three years, even know when we've lived together for 3 years and split all living costs...I would lent the money, I wouldn't "gift" it
14:19 OP’s husband Family are a bunch of assholes. As someone who is the middle sibling, I could never imagine. purposefully leaving out one of my siblings. Aside from my husband and his family. My siblings and their spouses and children are all I have, but they are all we need. Unfortunately my parents both passed away far too young.
Story 5: a couple suggestions if you decide to go there next year…go to a wine tasting at some point this year and bring a wine you discovered there. To be honest, 2 buck chuck sounds a bit collegey. Wine tasting sounds more adult. 2nd suggestion, bring something to do with you. I knit. It is an amazing way to be able to give myself some mental distance in stressful situations. I find it very meditative.
But I do agree that your parents should be advocating for you. I believe that by treating you the way they are, they might be actually trying to bully your mom. The best way to torture me is to bully my child.
Story 3: As a single mother of a 4 year girl myself who left my abusive bd for 5 months now , just know you are doing what’s best for your little girl . Please don’t lose your motivation and stand tall bc those you want to hurt you will want to see your downfall. Stay strong momma
For story 4 - your son is not missing out on anything by you not spending holidays with your husband's family. They're clearly terrible and it's not a bad thing to keep your son away from them.
It's terrible for your son to be around people who belittle his dad. People who are homophobic enough to use "gay" as an insult. It's also bad for your husband to have to spend holidays - which should be happy - around people who make him so miserable. There's no need to spend time with people who don't want to spend time with you.
Jerry can you find out to donate to story 3. Tons of people asked. Hello
Gery's confusion at the start was adorable 🤣🥺
Omg the one with the family making the snide comments about your age. Why are you just not responding with “babe, I know I look good for 27” LICENSE
Story 2: my family is similar. My dads side has always treated my inner family(+my aunts) differently then the rest of the family. I’m an adult now and I haven’t seen them since I was little. Sure it’s sad but they were never really family. They never cared about me like my actual family does. It just felt like they were strangers I was forced to see on the holidays. The only thing I MAY have missed out on were more presents lol. Trust me it’ll be less stressful if you distance yourself.
morgan i really appreciate you sharing your experiences regarding needing help from your parents. i’m only 22 but i feel so unaccomplished on my own standards and i am just straight up broke despite working full time and have a hard time asking for help from my parents because of my own pride. i thank you for sharing your experience, it made me feel better and more understanding that my situation is a normal thing and im not the only one.
When i was a kid my parents were not ever there. I went through the foster care a bit my dad was a truck driver my mom was bad on drugs and alcohol, but they got better now as we are adults. I remember not getting anything sometimes for the holidays and my bdah which is xmas Eve but my dad made it work where he got me all the Pokemon gold card balls at burger kind and a Gameboy and some other pokemon stuff. Ill always cherish those gifts and i still have them all bc just know, a kid loves their parents and she knows youre doing the best no matter what
For Xmas present everyone in my family brings one gift $40-50 (I like to make mine an expensive one). Then we play white elephant/ dirty Santa. We get to interact with each other and have an activity together rather than 40 people opening 40 gifts.
Omg you are so right about it being ridiculous for every adult to have to buy a Christmas gift for every other adult! It’s always been such a hassle every year for me since I have a big family. And when you have to buy 7-8 gifts, the quality and monetary value of each gift decreases. I would propose a secret Santa for my family this year but I think it’s a little late at this point 😂
Re- secret santa. When I was younger the aunts and uncles would draw names for a child in the family to buy gifts for. Then it wasnt all aunts and uncles buy a gift for all nephews/niece's but one uncle/aunt does it for one kid and it changes each year. As a kid it was fun as we didnt know which family member had us each year. As an adult it must have been nice to only need to shop for one child and not 10+ children.
Now we are all adults so we did secret santa a few years and then it changed to a white elephant game with a focus on fun and not goid gifts and now nothing. Just getting together.
Story 2: My husband is from a family a lot like that one. Things changed a bit around the Time we had kids. His parents (step father specifically) found a kinder heart when we had kids. From my perspective, the step father put them against my husband as they were growing up - he just talked a lot of shit. We are still not besties with his sibling and step siblings but we have a lot more contact than we did before. Anyways, let me tell you, these people don’t like each other as much as they don’t like my husband. We’re not there to hear all the drama thank god but it’s there. I don’t think they like anybody actually.
In my family we do secret Santa between the adults & then everyone gets a gift for each of the kids, that way it’s really mostly about the babies being happy with all their gifts, but the adults also get something & everyone isn’t buying a million gifts 😅
Story 2: Your child is not missing out on anything or anyone, if he doesn’t know who they are. Some of my dad’s family was like that, I’m glad my mom decided not to put me through that, I was not apart of their shit show. No one especially a child deserves to be put in the middle of that. You and your husband need to start your holiday traditions and them special. It’s only my mom, dad, sister l, and niece that get together every holiday and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Stephanie, don't go anymore. It's time to do your own things girl. Let them do theirs.
Story 1 - hi max, I have a similar name and similar thing. My mom was never really there and when holiday season starts she is all over how I don’t include her in my life
Justin trying to guide jerry to christmas has to be what my wife feels like when shes trying to hint i should bring her water
Jerry sometimes sounds like Michael Scott, once you hear it you can't unhear it 🤣
getting jerry to the bigger picture of holidays has already got me sat.
For angel tree, you apply thru Salvation Army. They put those trees out at Walmart
Coming in clutch once again my dudes!! Big cleanup today and I needed my fav team!
HOT PETTY TAKE: give them all wine as their gift 🎁
This is my first time watching father knows something (I’m a huge THT watcher). Are there ever updated? Do we ever know what happens to some of these stories??
100th is an Update show. Recording it this weekend..
Story 3: to me it seems like financial stress is really affecting the writer, i think it might be the best to pause your education and pursue a full time job until life is stable enough to return to school
Im not familiar if that education program is easy to get back into but thats what i think my parents would do for me tbh
Story 3: maybe if she left a go fund me link somewhere for us to help out? I’d love to
I honestly have no idea how to even set one up ! I tried to look into it and it wasn't the right thing !
I picked the best night to have insomnia
Happy 99!
Happy Chanukah!!!
Where's Justin's dad? I need a two hot dads take!!🎉
It”s been geographically tough, we’ll catch that cat again…
Love an early upload. ♡♡♡
I really want to help the woman in story number 3! Can we please start a go fund me? Or can i venmo someone? I really want to help! Please please please!
Hey! I don't have a venmo but I have a cashapp!