HOW THE NARCISSIST CONTINUES TO BECOME UNHINGED

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  • Опубликовано: 19 окт 2024

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  • @SusanW-lc8rp
    @SusanW-lc8rp 2 месяца назад +30

    *sharing some knowledge* 18 months ago when I found Andrew and my relationship was ending I couldn't even see the path....now I'm on the mountaintop living my best life!!!! True and honest story. Follow your heart even when it hurts like hell. This experience is our common bond here, it runs through our veins and it can't be explained to others, they won't understand. I don't feel anything towards the narcissist anymore although last night at girls night out we did do a bit of trash talking at it was fun and amazing. ❤❤❤ Love and support to all of you.

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 2 месяца назад +90

    "Did the narcissist ever feel sorry for you? No they didn't!" Thank you for reminding us not to give them any of our time, empathy, energy, love, or encouragement.

  • @pvtryan9637
    @pvtryan9637 2 месяца назад +3

    Complete strangers have shown me more kindness in a glance than my narc family ever has.

  • @JacK-qn4zh
    @JacK-qn4zh 2 месяца назад +64

    Everything he is saying is true. Once you heal....life becomes so Good! Please take the time to cry and realize...You Matter!

  • @ckvarnmass
    @ckvarnmass 2 месяца назад +8

    They never see it coming that one day you do awaken and you say no more and you mean it.

  • @kittensugars
    @kittensugars 2 месяца назад +112

    Thank goodness i moved two hundred miles away. He can be unhinged on someone else. Being with him is the single worst thing that's ever happened to me. I had to hear his voice in a virtual divorce conference....and my hands went numb. A stress reaction...just from his voice. Thanks Andrew, I've learned so much. 🌿💪

    • @alimccreery755
      @alimccreery755 2 месяца назад +5

      I did exactly what you did 👍👍

    • @dvawva5197
      @dvawva5197 2 месяца назад +7

      I can hear a 4-wheeler and my heart stops. My sister rode one. She's a demon.

  • @annawallace3264
    @annawallace3264 2 месяца назад +28

    my Narc Husband of 54 yrs passed away a couple days ago in Hospice. He can never be a Narc again to my dog and I. We are first, second and third and may we never come across a Narcissist again. Peace, Love and Joy to Andrew’s Community.❤.

  • @TomP-Atlanta
    @TomP-Atlanta 2 месяца назад +64

    I’ve been no contact for 8 months and I still wake up every day in shock about what happened. These videos are so spot on it’s insane. The girl I was with deserves actress of the millennium. I had no idea the cold blooded cruelty she was capable of until the mask slipped at the end. I saw glimpses and red flags but holy god… I really thought she loved me. In the end she cared nothing for me, broke me, devastated me out of nowhere and showed me no sympathy, empathy or remorse.

    • @tinaureta9891
      @tinaureta9891 2 месяца назад

      I’m so sorry. Yes , it’s true darkness. Not of God; Not your imagination. Don’t know how long you stayed in this relationship, But many people stay years…kiddos, family, economic…..
      I did 26 and in Divorce court now. Not Fun at All!!! But I leave my soul in The Lords hands, Letting him drive… & listening to Andrew Dr. Bashir and more on RUclips.
      I was determined to Let Go and move on. But Amdrew is right… when I made the decision to go NO CONTACT…. My healing and happiness was Happening!
      Pray a lot…. my mother used to always tell me, “ Girl, you don’t get everything you want”
      Boy was she right. Toxic abuse is what many of us get…. GET OUT ! Run! Get Healthy!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 месяца назад +1

      😌😌💜🙏

    • @girlphoenix334
      @girlphoenix334 2 месяца назад

      It is shocking the lengths they will go to destroy a person and for what? I've never understood that. They say they are moving on and never coming back and then spend all of their time attempting to ruin your life. Diabolical is the only word I have for it...and the triangulation is another level. After awhile something just breaks inside of you and you're done. You learn to let go and 'let them' and then it's really over. They don't own you, they can never have you again. Whatever scheme they come up with is just nonsense. Does it hurt and really damage your life in some way? Yes, but you still have a life and it's no longer with them. Eventually, you grow and learn and become a new person and they just stay the same with the same old games. You become that bright, shining light that Andrew is talking about and their hatred and tricks and tactics become sad and pathetic attempts to stay stuck.

    • @mayhemslim1217
      @mayhemslim1217 2 месяца назад +6

      Shame here ..... for me its 4 months now ...... my life is standing still ...... all isolated and alone.

    • @A.Conrad
      @A.Conrad 2 месяца назад +2

      @@mayhemslim1217 Hang in there💫

  • @MarthaPatriciaAcosta-i4p
    @MarthaPatriciaAcosta-i4p 2 месяца назад +31

    I left him back in CA after 10 yrs of loosing my identity,my inner self. I walked out of the house with just the clothes on my back, flip-flops, I lost all my hair, and a friend lend me her cellphone to call my sister in VA. 65 days later …and a TSA agent who gave me the chance to board a plane, I have found this channel, found a new me, Strong,Brave and NO CONTACT …you are my inspiration…thank you Andrew

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 месяца назад +2

      Welcome..🙏💜💯😌⛰️

    • @Senoritagata-nu5te
      @Senoritagata-nu5te 2 месяца назад +4

      Good for you I did something like that & I prayed & strangers helped me God will provide. Be well

    • @RonnyMorgan-z7y
      @RonnyMorgan-z7y 2 месяца назад +3

      Did that TODAY. AMEN.

    • @MarthaPatriciaAcosta-i4p
      @MarthaPatriciaAcosta-i4p 2 месяца назад +1

      @@RonnyMorgan-z7y You are strong, and there’s a lot of us praying for you. This channel is now your community.

    • @BrandyTexas214
      @BrandyTexas214 2 месяца назад +2

      Me and my kids are leaving my abusive husband tomorrow, he has no idea. Idk if I can even sleep tonight. Ten years and I’m done. I feel so free already. A new life!

  • @bugostare
    @bugostare 2 месяца назад +56

    The moment your own focus shifts from the narcissist to yourself, is the moment they will throw everything they have at you to try and get it back, DON'T give it back.
    Someone else's reaction is never your responsibility.

  • @CarolHalford2024
    @CarolHalford2024 2 месяца назад +35

    Anyone wanting to go "no contact", don't be afraid! Just do it! It will be a battle in your mind, in your emotions,
    maybe a huge battle for many, but don't give in, your gut is telling you the truth....
    block them and don't go back....that's going backward. Go forward.
    Andrew, this video, only 18 minutes long, contains all the direction a person needs to become GALVANIZED!
    Love your words, your love and caring Andrew! God bless you!

  • @meabeck
    @meabeck 2 месяца назад +9

    They try so many weird behaviors to manipulate. I can make no sense of it. Thanks for helping, Andrew. ❤

  • @JUMPforyourLIFE
    @JUMPforyourLIFE 2 месяца назад +39

    “Unhinged”

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 2 месяца назад +3

      Hey you....yeah, they are way too much!!!
      The stories we all could tell! 👍
      Stay happy friend 🙏💥
      🌈🎀😘

    • @JUMPforyourLIFE
      @JUMPforyourLIFE 2 месяца назад +1

      @@marieeakin8534 Thank you Marie! I hope you are doing very well. Life is certainly never the same and each day is so different and unique in its own way. What do you do with your time? I work and have a cafe I enjoy frequenting. I practice presence which just means being where I am, not letting the mind trick me into thinking I need to be somewhere else. I’ve noticed the NRC cannot be where they are, always wanting to be somewhere else. It’s sad really.

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 2 месяца назад +1

      Omg...just was deleting mail & saw that I overlooked your post. So sorry, will catch up with you soon. Have a great day! 👍😊

  • @doriscasto5336
    @doriscasto5336 2 месяца назад +7

    When you are saying no to someone you are saying yes to yourself. Never thought about it that way...excellent!!!

  • @InvisibleWarrior279
    @InvisibleWarrior279 2 месяца назад +37

    So true Andrew. The way to snuff out a narcissist is not by fighting with them. It is by COMPLETELY disengaging and letting them sink or swim on their own volition. Yes they will sink. They are clueless.

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 2 месяца назад +3

      Yes, good one! 👍❤👍❤👍
      🌈🎀😘

  • @TwilaB0721
    @TwilaB0721 2 месяца назад +52

    Day 5 no contact. Thank you Andrew.

    • @Venom_741
      @Venom_741 2 месяца назад +7

      Keep up on that No Contact I'm at 3 weeks

    • @BeTheLight624
      @BeTheLight624 2 месяца назад +6

      Congratulations TwilaB0721
      on your 5 days of peace and freedom
      I am 1 year and 1 month
      Thank you God and Andrew ✝️💜🙏🏻

    • @MsBrooklyn62
      @MsBrooklyn62 2 месяца назад +8

      3 months and 18 days

    • @Greeceismygoto
      @Greeceismygoto 2 месяца назад +4

      I’ve gone back twice! Don’t do it. I’m an only child, so the guilt is terrible. The embarrassing thing is that I’m 64! I need to grow up, but the guilt, control, and gaslighting is horrible!

    • @LkG42n
      @LkG42n 2 месяца назад +4

      ​@norahoelscher522 They say it's hard because they are the child your leaving behind. Man child.

  • @bethhull1132
    @bethhull1132 2 месяца назад +24

    It's easier than blocking or going no contact. All I had to say to him one day was literally "You couldn't pay me enough to sleep with you again." His ego was busted, he never heard that from me before, and he knew I was done for good.

    • @BeTheLight624
      @BeTheLight624 2 месяца назад +6

      bethhull1132
      That was wonderful
      I loved it! 🤣
      Wish I would’ve thought of that one!👍

  • @monaj33
    @monaj33 2 месяца назад +12

    God is winning ❤..we suffer to learn they will suffer because of karma..we are gold... 🙏

  • @conservativesouthernmommas
    @conservativesouthernmommas 2 месяца назад +8

    I’m still waking up in the middle of the night with panic attacks or dreams of the abuse. But I’m only a month out. I’m praying it will go away in time. But right now we are in a legal battle so I can’t let it all go yet.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 месяца назад +1

      😌😌💜🙏

    • @Senoritagata-nu5te
      @Senoritagata-nu5te 2 месяца назад +3

      Prayers go out to you. I get it

    • @SLLiberty23
      @SLLiberty23 2 месяца назад +2

      That was me exactly …. Stay strong, stay focused. You will be vindicated and set free … ♥️🙏🏻🕊️

  • @tinaureta9891
    @tinaureta9891 2 месяца назад +23

    ENCOURAGING to the MAX!
    Yes! I am not that crumbled up On the floor sobbing & sobbing til I can’t breathe anymore.
    I found myself! God HELPED ME!!
    I am making it! Little by Little. No one deserves this sick kind of Narcissistic Abuse

  • @GreaterDeity
    @GreaterDeity 2 месяца назад +81

    I can't get over how accurate your videos are... it's just insane how textbook narcissism is, and there are so many victims. How we know something is very, very wrong... but just can't put words to it -- never thought about the words, "trauma bond".

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 месяца назад +6

      😌😌💜

    • @Senarableuenn
      @Senarableuenn 2 месяца назад +13

      I sure value these videos Today i was sort of drifting into a feeling sorry or confusion about my ex spouse of 21 yrs. He is such a classic covert narcissist i have come to understand this. I have not seen him in 4 months however he is in my day because of conversation i have with others and thoughts of him or raking over my mind about interactions and in my face aspects such as the financial downfall and my deepening of understanding of what i was experiencing
      Incredible how very twisted this can be especially long term its like i was in a special world of him and me
      It’s like looking back at the path of a tornado this destroyed whatever i tried to build and tore me down countless times i was standing taller than ever and i feel like i clawed my way back from a true hell
      Like im still laying on the shore so to speak but i definitely feel the sun on my cheek warming my entire soul and ever so grateful to be free!!!

    • @BeTheLight624
      @BeTheLight624 2 месяца назад

      These comments by GreaterDeity and Senarabluenn speak loudly and profoundly to me. Yes, NARCdaily channel by Andrew is a plethora, a treasure trove of helpful, inciteful information and introspective educational material on the horrors of narcissism, how to navigate out of it, and rebuild yourself, spoken honest and truthfully. Andrew has also created a safe healing haven here for people to share and learn from others experiences. I assure you from my own personal experience that his one on one phone appointments are just as valuable. If feeling immobilized by narc trauma I suggest binge watching these videos. They are an education and insightful for your recovery journey. May each individual effected by narcissistic abuse become healed to their optimum health and may narcissism cease to exist from the learning available on this channel.
      💜🙏🏻🌿🌷🦋🌳💪✨☀️✨💖✨

    • @lizelleturgeman9717
      @lizelleturgeman9717 2 месяца назад +2

      what do you do when your kids learned from there dad and they start behaving just like there dad Sometimes I doughty myself and think maybe I'm the narcissist It's so confusing and I have been divorced for 12 years it like a never ending stories 😢

    • @paulineEirefairygirl5067
      @paulineEirefairygirl5067 2 месяца назад +1

      @@Senarableuenn I totally relate to this

  • @Kiki2024amdg
    @Kiki2024amdg 2 месяца назад +1

    I woke up and realized it wasn't a friendship but a hierarchy. I was her servant. I quit and went no contact. What a relief.

  • @saundrawomack7087
    @saundrawomack7087 2 месяца назад +32

    Spot on ., !
    my goodness an Aging Narcissist is horrible and mentally ill, no joke! :/

    • @Michelehoffman-q7c
      @Michelehoffman-q7c 2 месяца назад

      My father in law is pathetic-truly the worst human being I've ever known-I become physically ill in his presence. I won't be around him, ignore his hoovers and won't attend his funeral. He's a demon in the flesh and no one comes around any more, no one but his parentified son. You're right, it's no joke at all and I feel actual pity for the fool at times, but then I remember everything he did to us and I snap out of it. These creatures ALWAYS get what they deserve.

    • @blackrussian12345
      @blackrussian12345 28 дней назад +1

      I just had this conversation last week w my counsellor of 16yrs. I thought my 81yr old narc mother wud mellow & fade away. Nope in my counsellors exp they double down & get worse in old age 🤬

    • @Michelehoffman-q7c
      @Michelehoffman-q7c 27 дней назад

      @@blackrussian12345 the pits. And the real problem is they live forever because they don't give a flying fig about anyone but themselves. No contact is the only solution. Hugs.

  • @georgezajkowski2723
    @georgezajkowski2723 2 месяца назад +35

    Unstable is right. Two days ago I found out my ex will be having a baby with her new supply of 9 months. I asked her to have a baby for 5 years in our marriage, always getting excuses in return. Thank God she's gone from my life. Good riddance.

    • @lulu49686
      @lulu49686 2 месяца назад

      They don't know how to read?? 😂 That made me laugh. Yes- they are pretty sad overall. Thanks Andrew! Love your videos❣️

    • @sharonoverton9897
      @sharonoverton9897 2 месяца назад +9

      Consider yourself Lucky...you dodged a BULLET..

    • @jeannesmith3200
      @jeannesmith3200 2 месяца назад +3

      That poor child...

    • @Hatbox948
      @Hatbox948 2 месяца назад

      Just be sure it's not your baby.

    • @georgezajkowski2723
      @georgezajkowski2723 2 месяца назад +1

      @@Hatbox948 We've been divorced for a year now

  • @MsBrooklyn62
    @MsBrooklyn62 2 месяца назад +15

    My husband never had a mortgage or bank account and worse yet he never wanted to learn anything! Being with him was the worst year ever!

  • @mikeyg1776
    @mikeyg1776 2 месяца назад +43

    Andrew, your videos have aligned 100% to what's been recently witnessed. The narcs self deterioration and flaring of emotions and verbal lashings has the narcissist breaking down it seems like because they're realizing they are not the prize they thought they were and people caught on to their act. It's honestly a sad sight to see especially the aging narcissist. I can only pray for anyone that's struggling and hope that everything will turn out okay. It's a big world to feel abandoned in and at least we all aren't alone on this channel 🙏

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 2 месяца назад +3

      I know where I would be without this channel-- Floundering around in another trap. I know it.

  • @debbiegalica2992
    @debbiegalica2992 2 месяца назад +11

    Next week for me it will be no contact for 6 months. yay!!

    • @SusanW-lc8rp
      @SusanW-lc8rp 2 месяца назад

      sending love and support

  • @GinjaNinja01
    @GinjaNinja01 2 месяца назад +26

    The result of all who have been exposing these 'creatures'...is turning the tables...it's a BIG DEAL.. and an important TIME. Great piece Andrew...many thanx

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 2 месяца назад +7

    Andrew Is THE BEST NARC DECODER. His attention to detail and clearly articulated words- Make the Message Quite Clear. You're Living With A Narc, Dating A Narc Or Have To Deal With One A Toxic Mean Child In An Adult Body. Sucks, Yes Time To Move on.
    *Harmony In The Home.
    Peace. Be Well.😇😍🤩

  • @loriw1189
    @loriw1189 2 месяца назад +24

    Andrew, you nailed it...they NEED a host

  • @TomN495
    @TomN495 2 месяца назад +4

    After our break up, one thing she said that was just wild to me was that “once she loved someone, she’d always love them”. She had her ex under her thumb throughout our entire 3 year relationship. Constantly stalked his socials and messaged him as much as she liked, while I had to delete friends from Facebook because we kissed in high school.. Towards the end, “unhinged” was one of my most used words probably.

  • @marypalmer1062
    @marypalmer1062 2 месяца назад +3

    It's all been a game and a head trip. I thought they knew that I had more important things to do. Always follow your intuition.

    • @blackrussian12345
      @blackrussian12345 28 дней назад

      I used to say to psychopath ex I prefer when he beats me coz the mind muck is worse

  • @bethhull1132
    @bethhull1132 2 месяца назад +30

    I used to tell him all the time, "I just want a normal relationship." He'd laugh it off, but I knew there was something seriously wrong why it wasn't.

    • @JUMPforyourLIFE
      @JUMPforyourLIFE 2 месяца назад +3

      Yes!! They know what they are doing. It’s sick but they get fuel from our attempts to get them to go straight. I’m glad you are out and in the community!!

    • @tinaureta9891
      @tinaureta9891 2 месяца назад +1

      Hahah, I said the same thing!!
      And this one, “ I Just want to be free inside my soul!”
      And this one, “ Your a robot! I’m taking to a robot”

  • @karldunne5595
    @karldunne5595 2 месяца назад +7

    Absolutely right, about thoes "Beach ball eyes"👍👍👍👍👍🥺.... people who haven't been in a Narcissist relationship - probably dont understand how UNPLEASANT it is 🙄🧐🥺

  • @sorearm
    @sorearm 2 месяца назад +10

    Thank you and God bless you Andrew and everyone here. This is the r text book description of my ex wife. Only cared about what she could use, take, consume and blame every single person and event rather than take accountability.
    I lived those 2 versions of who I was. Now I'm the 3rd version. The transformation, the indifferent healed person. I have good and bad days but at least I'm not in that relationship 20 years ago.
    My ex was still seeking out narcissistic feed and validation, on the merry go round of failed relationships. It is her fate and I feel a bit of pity for her, but never forgiveness nor will forget, only indifference.
    Keep moving forward people and work on your ESH, your healing, realisation and seek therapy and help where you can.
    Go in peace and God bless you all xxx🙏

  • @LORELLism
    @LORELLism 2 месяца назад +15

    Andrew…You are speaking of the global system of control! Political/Religious/Social. I’m crawling out of THAT relationship. It started with my family and marriage. 🙏🏻

  • @sototallyover2359
    @sototallyover2359 2 месяца назад +25

    They are simple. Simpletons-that can't do anything-with out you.

    • @bethh6023
      @bethh6023 2 месяца назад +3

      Yep, they are beige and boring. They love whenever you're inconvenienced, which is just mind-blowing to me.

  • @shirleydenisebrock1226
    @shirleydenisebrock1226 2 месяца назад +12

    This is a good lesson. The narcissist that was in my life their life is falling apart. Finally. I may even change my name when everything is done .

  • @lizh6420
    @lizh6420 2 месяца назад +6

    am I the only one who shouted "No" at their computer 🤣
    I really needed to hear this, thank you Andrew.

  • @sylviemulvaney
    @sylviemulvaney 2 месяца назад +1

    He was the parasite, I was the host. Perfect analogy.

  • @sharonroberts6697
    @sharonroberts6697 2 месяца назад +23

    I definitely now see how the peak narcissist in my life wasn’t the first one. This education on narcissistic abuse has shown me the common thread of abuse throughout my life-not everyone in my life, but certainly some important figures in my experience.
    You are right, Andrew. This path leads to the galvanized version of me. There are amazing views from the pinnacle of indifference!
    ❤️

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 2 месяца назад

      Painful hard work...great, wiser pay off!
      Blessings 👍 💥🙏
      🌈🎀😘

  • @traceykitchin9722
    @traceykitchin9722 2 месяца назад +4

    YES YES YES, you are so dam right, l never knew what a narsist was until l was stuck with one. The criticism of everything that l did, ate, drank, said, everything was attacked, it was crazy and l was too nice, l always backed down until I couldn't take it anymore. It took nearly 8 years of this abuse until I had to break free of it all. The lies, the nastiness, the control, his time table, everything. And now I've seen him with 2 different ladies and I'd love to offer them my experience with him but l know that they wouldn't believe me because he was very good at putting down and telling me how bad all of his previous partners were and silly me believed him and l know that he would be using the same behaviour to his new ladies. Hopefully they figure him out quicker than l did. My soft heart was exactly what he needed, like a meal to a lion lol. I'm free now, single and not at all interested in meeting anyone. I'm so much more happier than I've ever been thanks to learning about a narsist, thankyou again Andrew, cheers Tracey from Australia xo ❤

  • @CoreyAWalton
    @CoreyAWalton 2 месяца назад +11

    So basically, the dumbest thing I could do before I fall asleep, is send this to "my" narcissist? Even though I would like to... I won't.

    • @SigmaFeminine
      @SigmaFeminine 2 месяца назад +5

      don’t do it! if you do they will just enjoy it, thinking you are stupid and obsessed with them, that’s how they think. That’s why no contact is the only way.

  • @KarenJohnson-m6n
    @KarenJohnson-m6n 2 месяца назад +16

    You Andrew are a true gem. Keep up the phenomenal work of informing the masses.

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 2 месяца назад +6

    P.S. Excellent Video Andrew T.y,Namaste,🤗💫🔥💖💖

  • @artangel23
    @artangel23 2 месяца назад +20

    Andrew please make a video about reactive abuse. It’s so painful to go through it. I still feel a lot of shame about it

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 2 месяца назад +5

      Those are sticky memories. You're only human. If I push your buttons enough and if you don't react, you may be so far deep in
      the fog, you are numb. I gave up with Bizarro reasoning and arguments to maintain "peace." It didn't work. They'll sense the change and ramp up the abuse.I now place "emotional control" high on the list of ongoing "Works in progress." I accept, all narcissists do not bring out the best in you and all of the time, just the opposite.

    • @julieprice488
      @julieprice488 2 месяца назад +3

      Think of it as a sign of your resilience and was an act of strength, albeit negative in your thoughts, an act of defending self x Reframing helps me,
      Love fellow struggler

    • @hewittgilbert
      @hewittgilbert 2 месяца назад +4

      I know what you mean, but they fight dirty accept that you have to defend and fight back sometimes or just fall deeper, you wouldn't behave that way through choice, it's survival, pat on the back,

    • @Siegefya
      @Siegefya Месяц назад

      Idk why he doesn't talk about it more, I think it's because he doesn't want to like... Idk promote it or something. Or maybe he doesn't have the words for that topic just yet. He has mentioned that he didn't "stoop as low" as them when he went through it, but he's aware of it happening as he mentioned in this video.
      You aren't alone I did it too, and definitely not proud of it, definitely apologized and was distraught about it, stills bothers me. They loved that I was guilt tripped by them. But the narcissist, didn't apologize ever for anything, ever... They never do. What's messed up about reactive abuse is when they smear campaign unfortunately they aren't lying, but they are lying because they aren't admitting they purposely took you out of your character by manipulating you to get you there. I can't stand them. I hope every narc runs into a psychopath that not gonna play their games. I have no sympathy for narcissism.
      Here's what the narcissist did to me, she'd push me, and push me and push me (mind you I have combat related PTSD and was honest with her about and I shared too much, she knew my triggers) and when I'd finally snap and flip out, guess what she did? Start recording me with her phone when I'd be in a PTSD delusion fit. Eventually I got wise to it, and when she'd have narc rage trying to fire me up, I pulled out my phone, and get this... I ACTED like I was recording, didn't even actually record her and she'd IMMEDIATELY stop her shenanigans as if a switch got turned, I wish I actually recorded the phenomenon but never did.
      She sent me over the edge and since I have a serious condition that relates to stress responses I couldn't just stop, it wasn't an act... narcs are constantly in their own movie, acting and manipulating people to get what they need out of them. She needed me to be spun up and angry, or depressed, feeding on my anxiety, that's the supply she got out of me. I used to wonder "what did she see in a combat veteran with PTSD" well it was that, and my VA check lol... Because oh, she wanted my VA money very badly and and was jealous of it.

  • @ruebenbrown2409
    @ruebenbrown2409 2 месяца назад +20

    Absolutely right, they are desperate for players. Thanks good advice.

  • @joey5816
    @joey5816 2 месяца назад +1

    I plan to never go back to my hometown, again!!! At 90 years old, I'm beginning to think she will live forever. I have no use for them.

  • @Glyn-r
    @Glyn-r 2 месяца назад +4

    When the narcissist knows that you know, they are at their most vulnerable and dangerous. You dont want to be anywhere near them when they lose control of you. Over time they will be affected by their own poison and get worse. They become as stale as old bread. I speak from experience like so many on this channel. Keep getting the wisdom and never ever give up.

    • @teresadvorak6145
      @teresadvorak6145 2 месяца назад

      Yes I know. They can get extremely dangerous when U go no contact. They go on the smear campaign & pull into their drama anyone who will listen😮😮😮

  • @Rugbymom
    @Rugbymom 2 месяца назад +36

    Unhinged is a great way to put it… and 💡 moment..he is dragging out the divorce.. probably because he is scared of having to figure things out on his own when it is finally over..great video!

    • @SusanW-lc8rp
      @SusanW-lc8rp 2 месяца назад +1

      🥰

    • @paulineEirefairygirl5067
      @paulineEirefairygirl5067 2 месяца назад +1

      @@Rugbymom I am in the same boat 8 years trying to divorce him a nightmare

    • @Rugbymom
      @Rugbymom 2 месяца назад

      @@paulineEirefairygirl5067 😢

  • @marieharrington3573
    @marieharrington3573 2 месяца назад +4

    Thank you, Andrew. Have a lovely day, everyone 🌼🌼

  • @kellyandaaron2005
    @kellyandaaron2005 2 месяца назад +1

    My ex didn't take money or assets from me but he used me for coddling his grandiose ideas, sex, the attention of my children, a punching bag for his emotional abuse, ect. He'd pop by my home when he needed something, but kept breadcrumbing me for years. Looking back, he actually hated me. Every interaction was a transaction for him. He was filled to the brim with anger. Even when he was trying to hide it, his negative energy permeated the room. I'm nearing one year no contact. I'm thankful that I woke up and broke free. It's taken work, but my peace has slowly returned.

  • @Lovethemcatz
    @Lovethemcatz 2 месяца назад +6

    Since watching these videos, I’m mentally re-living my life and seeing through all the narcs I dealt with. Wish my new, strong self could have a do-over with them. 😁 They wouldn’t stay around long!

  • @KKSMITH626
    @KKSMITH626 2 месяца назад +11

    Yes! Exactly! I’m getting stronger every day! Thank you so much Andrew!!

  • @jennifernewton4637
    @jennifernewton4637 2 месяца назад +24

    Hey there Andrew and friends!!! 🙌😁🌼🌺☀️😉🌻🪻❤️💜❤️💜

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 2 месяца назад +2

      Yea, Jennifer! When you appear, everything here feels a little better! 🙂👐

    • @gregorywarren6475
      @gregorywarren6475 2 месяца назад +2

      ❤️

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 месяца назад +1

      @@jhavajoe3792Aww, thank you Jhava! 🙌😁☀️🌸🌺🌻🥳🪻💜❤️

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 месяца назад +1

      @@gregorywarren6475 ❤

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 2 месяца назад +1

      @@jennifernewton4637 I'm not just trying to sound nice. You already know what "fake nice" is.
      "I calls 'em as I feels 'em."⚾

  • @domuniqueheiser4248
    @domuniqueheiser4248 2 месяца назад +15

    I love how you phrased it “I’m not walking around looking for narcissists to call out”😂 beautiful

    • @KandymanTurner-fc1yk
      @KandymanTurner-fc1yk 2 месяца назад

      I thought about it 😂

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 месяца назад +1

      💯💯😌😉

    • @RonnyMorgan-z7y
      @RonnyMorgan-z7y 2 месяца назад

      Spitting facts is never safe... unless tapped within the tangled web they made. Lies. Lies. Lies... I survived because I love me enough to know about is enough. Broken system ❤saved myself. Attorney told me do not speak to the police of course irs political and did not even know, SLANDEROUS reports upon my name deliberate ruthless beyond reckless harmful intent.

    • @RonnyMorgan-z7y
      @RonnyMorgan-z7y 2 месяца назад

      ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @deandreorumorum14
    @deandreorumorum14 2 месяца назад +1

    True video Andrew

  • @michaelbosi8104
    @michaelbosi8104 2 месяца назад +5

    Really can't thank you enough, Andrew! Your channel has helped me beyond words. One thing that I would like to share is the fact that laughing in the face of their psychotic tactics seems to be my best defense. Nothing makes the devil shrink more than laughter! God bless you. Namaste!

  • @jamesjames5896
    @jamesjames5896 2 месяца назад +3

    Thanks so much for your insight

  • @edwardspriggs5076
    @edwardspriggs5076 2 месяца назад +3

    If you add up all of your physical, financial and emotional damage, you will see the narcissist an apex predator, which never gives a happy ending.

  • @chazbickel4518
    @chazbickel4518 2 месяца назад +5

    Great video Andrew!!
    Every time a narcissist becomes unhinged they are experiencing a narcissistic injury. Anything that delays or undoes a narcissists premeditated plan causes them to snap. The reactive abuse that comes next is difficult to endure. When they become unhinged they are desperate to find a way back to their plan of doing what they want, and keeping you stuck. Those plans only benefit one person...them.
    Wishing everyone clarity and peace...
    🙏

  • @Wooddragon6
    @Wooddragon6 2 месяца назад +1

    I’m at the beginning of my journey but we’ll enough along to have brighter days. ThNk you all for your comments, it gives me great hope for the future!!

  • @jenniedevereaux2696
    @jenniedevereaux2696 2 месяца назад +2

    50 years being tortured by my narc family. I year free. Became the artist I always wanted to be. Had an exhibition with great reviews.
    My older narc sister who physically, mentally, financially, emotionally abused me keeps trying to get my attention.
    NO CONTACT.
    Feels great being free. ❤🎉❤🥰🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿🙏🏻
    Don't ever give up

  • @DesertLife4me2
    @DesertLife4me2 2 месяца назад +4

    It is amazing how every word you say is exactly what happens. You give me comfort and support. TY! I am 6 years free and getting happier every day. I enjoy your posts and look forward to them.

  • @BarbaraMichenzi
    @BarbaraMichenzi 2 месяца назад +2

    I can't think of anything worse than having a narcissistic mother and older sister. I've felt trapped my whole life and God is revealing the truth to me. And of course, this man who cares enough to educate people like myself who have suffered my entire life from abuse. Thank you, Andrew.

  • @sonyaclove4178
    @sonyaclove4178 2 месяца назад +4

    I’ve been telling my children (thanks to your videos) that they are beautiful shining lights in this world.
    Thank God for His love for us all.

  • @BeTheLight624
    @BeTheLight624 2 месяца назад +5

    Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with
    perseverance the race marked out for us
    ~ Hebrews 12:1

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 2 месяца назад +1

      Great!!! 👍❤👍❤👍
      🌈🎀😘

  • @perrinmakofski8020
    @perrinmakofski8020 2 месяца назад +3

    Can you please please do a video about narcissistic grandparents and their grandchildren? And one also about narcissists marrying other narcissists? My mom (textbook narcissist) who’s in her 70’s just got lovebombed by another narcissist this past year, also 70. In three months they were engaged and at 6 months were married. So much has come to light for me at 45 with two boys, 9 and 12, and I’m trying to protect them so what happened to me growing up and again this past year doesn’t happen again. THANK YOU!!! Your videos have made everything come together and make sense now. ❤

  • @janpressler1491
    @janpressler1491 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank GOD Andrew....you have woken me UP!!!!! You have got me to LOVE MYSELF...I'm finding myself becoming Lighter and happier...I'm Done with my Narc. of a husband.....I feel like a roommate, not a wife. I go through this daily with my Narc. husband..he is getting worse with age...I go do my own thing. My love is gone for him...thank god! Now I'm LOVING MYSELF!!!!! I give NOTHING to my Narc. of a husband.....

  • @karenzilverberg4699
    @karenzilverberg4699 2 месяца назад +4

    Thanks, Andrew. I deeply appreciate your teachings. It is so much nicer when the narcissist is in the past. There remains a costly and massive cleanup to be done but there will not be new messes from this individual.

  • @janpressler1491
    @janpressler1491 2 месяца назад +3

    I gave up trying to do anything for my Narc. of a husband (after my heart break from him cheating on me)...at 72 now.....I just walk away when he starts to speak.

  • @artandculture5262
    @artandculture5262 2 месяца назад +9

    I presume single for the rest of my life.

  • @sandralindsay9739
    @sandralindsay9739 2 месяца назад +1

    Yes, the narcissist was becoming more unhinged by the day! He gave silent treatment ro many close family members, even his children, gossiped about friends and lied so much that he forgot the lies. I remember he told me he is stuck in his own ways. The aging narcissist is ornery and sad

  • @Senoritagata-nu5te
    @Senoritagata-nu5te 2 месяца назад +9

    Lots of triggers this week ,hopefully it will get better. One thing you said that struck a nerve is that these things(narc) need a host to live in. Just like when I read scripture it says that the demons need to live inside of something that is alive. So these demonic life sucking creatures want to kill, & steal & destroy. Thank God he saved me. Thank you Andrew may God Bless you for sharing the truth of the existence of these abusive creatures whose pleasure comes from seeking the destruction of others.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 месяца назад

      Welcome..😌🙏💜

    • @paulineEirefairygirl5067
      @paulineEirefairygirl5067 2 месяца назад

      I well down my healing path, divorce hopefully in the next month but wad shocked with myself to have something trigger me 2 weeks ago, how do you manage your triggers

  • @rochellet1333
    @rochellet1333 2 месяца назад +9

    Thank goodness for spreading the word! I was not aware of this disorder. Just learned one year ago. What an eye opener. I am so grateful for this knowledge. Knowledge is power.

  • @JasonJones-x5e
    @JasonJones-x5e 2 месяца назад +13

    There is definitely no un 👀👀 the things that I've seen I'm lucky I survived the entanglement that I was in. great video Andrew🦁💥

  • @enoshore2488
    @enoshore2488 2 месяца назад +3

    Thank you for making these videos. The healing journey has been difficult but I keep going and it's nice to hear someone going through the same thing because alot of people don't understand.

  • @honeygoy2224
    @honeygoy2224 2 месяца назад +2

    It's very difficult for many of us to stop the denial of their toxicity. It's hard to accept for anyone much less a child. I had no idea my NFOO was going to keep this up until death. I remind myself to stop being in denial about the reality of their toxicity. They want to flip the tables too, don't let them do it. Walk away.

  • @warriormom5843
    @warriormom5843 2 месяца назад +3

    No, No, No, No............AND NO!! YES!!!! 💯‼💯‼💪‼💪‼

  • @Brenda-t5r
    @Brenda-t5r 2 месяца назад +3

    Yes. My narc ex-husband became violent, when I told him what I thought about his insults, lying, cheating, etc.

  • @marshat.ordureau3121
    @marshat.ordureau3121 2 месяца назад +4

    GOOD morning Andrew🇫🇷🌿🌿🌱🌱🙏💯I am so Grateful to listen to you each day!! THE shocking treatment I /we were dished out on June 13th 2022!! Was Only coming from a sick & twisted Narc/ sister!! Going NO CONTACT IS giving to her a HUGE TREATMENT ,,, THE WORD "NO" I am a shining light she will never capture!! Merci Andrew!!🌿🌿🌱🙏💯🇫🇷

  • @nvbccjarmst
    @nvbccjarmst 2 месяца назад +1

    You are absolutely right. I let a narcissist get stuck with another narcissist. They deserve each other. It is a very nasty relationship. No contact is the way to go. I still need to hear your message. An aging narcissist is not a pretty sight.

  • @lanalawrence8329
    @lanalawrence8329 2 месяца назад +2

    Thankyou. You are right on. He us really angry now that I dont agree with him.
    He us oppressive
    I am healing.

  • @suzannechurcher1745
    @suzannechurcher1745 2 месяца назад +4

    My ex narc referred to himself as,a parasite during a pity play. He knew what he was all about more than I did

  • @augustrusso5413
    @augustrusso5413 2 месяца назад +3

    Thank you SO very helpful FREEDOM !!!! Go enjoy your life

  • @mariefrancebourget1749
    @mariefrancebourget1749 2 месяца назад +16

    Good evening Andrew 🤗 i'll come back a little later. Have a wonderful weekend 🙌💜🙏

  • @christinehow3595
    @christinehow3595 2 месяца назад +1

    When we finally see they are unhinged it makes it easier too get over them .
    And watching Andrews videos makes you stronger.

  • @thereallisa1
    @thereallisa1 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you for this video. Although I have left, healed and gone NC for 18 months...I feel like an alcoholic who needs to attend meetings from time to time to get a "tune up".
    I feel like narc abuse will last my entire lifetime, and people like you are angels put here to help us to never, ever contact them again for ANY, and I mean ANY reason! Much love and gratitude to you. ❤

  • @sallyirvine9720
    @sallyirvine9720 2 месяца назад +4

    I love this channel! It is so spot on with the analysis. I listen most days as it's so affirming to my experiences. Thank you!

  • @melindalemmon2149
    @melindalemmon2149 2 месяца назад +2

    I am so weak, but now I am laughing and mighty again.
    Love my teacher!

  • @BrandyTexas214
    @BrandyTexas214 2 месяца назад +1

    I’m leaving my abusive husband tomorrow.. he has no idea. We were together ten years, I was isolated, discarded, cheated on, disrespected. He was abusive in every way possible. He’s either gay or bi sexual also.. important thing to remember, these people are so shady.. abusive. I finally have the proof to keep him from getting custody of the kids which is the only reason I even stayed this long to begin with, he threatened to fight for custody and him having my kids alone without me wasn’t gonna happen

  • @lisettegonzales9746
    @lisettegonzales9746 2 месяца назад +3

    You are talking about my ex-husband, almost verbatim. I actually changed my religious beliefs for him. Then, after the change, he quit going to that church/religion with me. He wanted me to change to yet another religion! I drew the line there. He spiraled from there into seriously unhinged thoughts/ beliefs. 😮 Why did he want me to change yet again? I've never been able to figure it out.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 месяца назад

      😌😌💜

    • @RachelH.B
      @RachelH.B Месяц назад

      They want to keep you in instability with no social community. My husband moved us several times, just when I had decorated and started to get a home together for us and our two children…. until I said NO!! Unbelievable cruelty as long as you let them do it. Glad he’s your ex, like mine!

  • @SofieLove
    @SofieLove 2 месяца назад +10

    I needed to hear this tonight. Thank you.

  • @robbiewooden5067
    @robbiewooden5067 2 месяца назад +1

    They hate when u stand up too them .

  • @6slapplays931
    @6slapplays931 2 месяца назад +5

    My mother .. try to control every breath i take .. by looking in my eyes by dinner time .. and so on .. playing dumb dumb

  • @marypalmer1062
    @marypalmer1062 2 месяца назад +5

    Silence and stillness, especially during these times.

  • @Alison-o9d
    @Alison-o9d 2 месяца назад +8

    Love the cast iron plants behind you! Thank you for being the adult/elder in the room all these years! 🙏😍

  • @Michelehoffman-q7c
    @Michelehoffman-q7c 2 месяца назад +4

    Oh yeah, they do. Grab the popcorn...😂

  • @nicolemalka5149
    @nicolemalka5149 2 месяца назад +11

    What can you tell us about covert narcs who hold down a job, earn a good salary, have a mortgage etc...they look mostly normal to most ppl, even their family. In my experience, they are extremely dysfunctional behind the scenes....they dont even connect their lifelong poor choices with the difficult stuff that is happening around them. They dont reflect on what they do. They just do.

    • @joey_79
      @joey_79 2 месяца назад +3

      That's my situation as well

  • @kmoy
    @kmoy 2 месяца назад +5

    So true. Every bit of it. Wish I knew all of this before but now I know. Knowing is half the battle so it can’t affect me ever again.