This is so true. The narcissist is a bottomless pit that can't be filled. There's no love there. They want a perfect caregiver and no one can do that for them. Like Andrew rightly says, they wreck everyone and every relationship.
@@MeeMee-gz5vp They are master manipulators so don't be hard on yourself. My future defense, and I recommend this, with every new person you meet take time before serious involvement. Especially abstain from sexual involvement because it can cloud your judgement and narcissists are very performative as just another manipulation tactic. Taking time to get to know someone as an acquaintance and then as a friend in various environments over a prolonged period of time will allow you to see clearly whether or not they are wearing a mask. My goal would be a couple of years. I'd rather take that time to know someone before a commitment than to waste the years that will follow repairing injury this type of person can inflict on your mental, social, spiritual and physical health. If someone is rushing you, that's a red flag. Sorry to go on. Just offering pearls to those who might benefit. Please remember you are worth all the love and respect you have to give. 🌹❤
yeah insane how miserable and empty these husks of people they never were really are. these people just need to get hobbys besides bullying people and projecting to cope with misery
@@stevelichtwark4259 I know you are exactly correct! I hope you're young enough as with so many others, I wish that for them also, to find that special person in their life that's all I hope for, but being an introvert and have Livestock and love the outdoors, at least I can say I have been Blessed. Also having a beautiful daughter and son in law...just wish my fairytale world would happen meaning seeing what it would be like to have someone love me unconditionally. Andrew has been so wonderful on this path to healing for sure..as so many others who share their thoughts so we all can see there is hope
These demons know their time is almost up. They also see tons of beautiful empaths coming together exposing their demonic tactics and taking a stand against their FOOLISHNESS.
One year ago today, Andrew saved me from the narc and the living hell the narc placed me in. I asked God to show me what was really going on, that’s when I found Andrew’s channel. One year ago today, I went no contact and I am all the better for it today. I followed everything Andrew said and it all worked. Thank You God.✝️🙏🏻 Thank you Andrew. 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you community.🩷 LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE ✨☀️✨💖✨
lilfairycupcake - yes, after 12+ years I finally found out what a narc is and I was blessed by God to find Andrew’s channel and to have a phone appointment with him to clarify things to me, when I promptly walked out of that house and away from the narc never to return or answer a hoover. I certainly wish I would have known about this a long time ago. Thank you for your help, support and good wishes community ❤️
Often aging narcissists have mental health issues like anxiety, and paranoia. They won't get help because they consider themselves too great. So, the problems get worse as they age. They blame their victims for making their anxiety issues worse. Their mood swings are hard to experience. They definitely continue to fall apart.
Yes agree and some are constantly at the ER, clinics etc - had a landlord who was banned from an ER because of the same issue in reverse. Can’t make this stuff up. It’s all about them either way. That’s the point.
Dead on! Maximun DARVO and other weird stuff by that time. 'I think' there was always an invisible high RPM motor, whirring within their nervous system and brain.. They couldn't just relax and enjoy moments with you.
100% especially the paranoia. They even get "PTSD" from all the relationships they torched, marriage their kids, new supply, etc. and are depressed, anxious, seeing therapists who probably have no clue that THEY are the problem. They are now reaping what they have sown their whole life. For the narc in my life, her soul was gutted by her malignant narc father, so now she has been stuck as a 12 year old because of his abuse. She seemed so well adjusted for the 3 years we dated, until the day we got back from the honeymoon, the mask started slipping but I didn't know it. The false persona she created: perfect love, perfect marriage, perfect kids, perfect Hallmark everything fantasy, grandiose inside her head, entitled, fake empathy - everything was fine until 1. I dared to gently challenge 2. our kids got old enough to have ideas of their own 3. I got hurt and "ruined HER life" /her perfect future plans crafted in her head, then the mask completely came off with rage, abuse, and finally discard with demands for divorce. When I finally figured this all out, and said OK, what do you want, she has been fighting the divorce going on 4 years now (will it ever end?), because the 12 year old cannot do anything on her own as Andrew pointed out again on this one. I've been long over her, and minimal contact as possible, but do pray somehow she will change, though unlikely. I wonder who she really is, or who, she could have been had she not been abused. She is communal and covert narcissist, so everyone superficially who knows her, thinks she is amazing. I did too. But then, if they get to know her, eventually they figure out. Can you imagine waking up every day like a vampire needs blood, wondering where you will get Supply and validation? Nothing in your soul, even if you say your religious. And if you don't get supply, oh boy, you will create DRAMA! Sorry for long post...I try not to vent. Thankfully 90% of family and all 4 kids, who have gotten out and no contact or moved away, have seen her unmasked.
P.s. put yourself 1st,2nd and 3,,Don't waste your precious time or Energy on them,,,life is magnificent,peaceful and Happy without Them,,keep well everyone Here,,Sending love and Strength 💖💖💖💖🙏👍
4 months of Freedom✅ Praise the LORD ✝️ His life is going sideways at 74 years old. The "Toxic creature" is REAPING what he has Sowed ❗💯. I am letting my light shine. ✨🌟💫 Forward motion ahead💥. Thanks Andrew for your do diligence on narcissism. Take care of yourselves Folks❤. Be careful out there...
I thought it was just an ego issue.Much more than that.They are at constant paranoia and fighting the demons in their heads.Fear of the mask coming off and people finally see nothing there.
Yes, I have never seen my mother cry in my 52 years of life. Funny thing is, a chat I had with Chat GPT seemed to have more empathy than my uncanny valley narcissistic mother.
I have two things to say. 1. I didn’t know anything about this dynamic when I entered into it. (It was honestly a red flag and confusing when I was being accused of all of these terms I’d never heard of, gaslighting, triangulation, grey rocking etc.) 2. My life went from fairly successful, to losing my freedom, all of my money, almost my house, and frankly my sanity, to being the best version it’s ever been. I have my dream job, I truly enjoy waking up every morning. It’s just one of those situations that was extremely painful, but without it I wouldn’t be where I am today, so in a way I’m almost grateful for it. Life is funny people, learn to laugh.
the absolute worst part is not knowing. its to bad we have to learn the hard way. one of my big pluses was, i have a low bs tolerance. so if the narc bs, disrespect, got to deep, out the door she went.
You are so on point. I never truly knew what a Narcissist was. I educated myself with many videos. The more I learned, the more it hurt. Mentally, physically, emotionally and financially painful! Thank you!
The narcissist never saw 'you'. They only see their imaginary idea of you and that has more to do with their expectations and fantasies because that's where they live. They have a fantasy ideal self and then a fantasy ideal you. It's their imaginary 'you' that they put onto a pedestal when you meet them. That's when they love bombed the imaginary ideal you. It feels good for a hot minute. You can be your true honest self and still get swept up into their fantasy. Their imaginary idea of you doesn't interact with truth or reality though, and you can't live up to it because we are all flawed humans. When you fall from being that imaginary ideal they hold in their mind of you, you will go from being wonderful to being despised. Then they will devalue and discard you. That's their cycle. It has nothing to do with you. They play it out because of who they are in their development which is stuck in childhood. You aren't their imaginary ideal person because that only exists in their mind. You are real, human and flaws and all, you, the real you, are worthy to receive all the love and respect you have to give. I hope you heal and find a real loving person who sees and respects 'you'. 🌹❤
@Anne_W64 you described it perfectly!! I figured out my ex narc didn't KNOW me or care to know me at all & so many fights were cuz I didn't fit into his imaginary image of me. Getting away from that vile, soulless pit of a human is the best thing that ever happened to me.
There’s no peace for the wicked!!! Narcs working full time for the devil with no benefits 🤷🏽♀️ they sign the contract without reading the fine print that they are defeated 💯 !! Smh
Anyone listening for the first time or the 20th time, you are not alone. Leave no matter how long you've been in the relationship. Be free!! Live free!! Have peace in your life! Andrew Thank you so much for these videos and God bless you!!
How do you make a narcissist suffer forever? You need to destroy narcissist ego and pride. You need to bring them back to reality. And there is a way you can do that. Without harming them directly. And that is by working on yourself. And going back to being the person you were before you got involved with the narcissist. The person that they were attracted to. And then becoming a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it, but you reject their hoover attempts. It will destroy their ego. Because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. Especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissists find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You being happy. Because what really destroys their ego is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result that they were intending for. Because now you're even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroys them. Because they remember how good things were back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to get revenge on the narcissist. You don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. ✌🏾
The ex narc and his mother were very close. She was jealous of me. She called me names now I’m not sure if it was dementia? Thanks God! I’m not in HIS mess anymore. And it’s a beautiful thing! Peace is Priceless 🙏
@@hongtruong4576how does a man not realize how unhealthy that relationship is? With his mom,,that's the whole idea of the earth carrying on,letting your children be independent to carry on with life.
Absolutely so true, narcs are controlling and manipulative. Wouldn’t they love to see their children’s thrive with their own family! My ex narcs mum is horrible, zero substance, her adult sons under her control have no future because she doesn’t like anyone other than herself, she treats them like husbands. Best to remove these types of people and live a peaceful life
I especially love hearing” YOU ARE NOT ALONE” ,,, because I’ve felt alone my entire life. I surround myself w/ animals, I think because of their weakness and vulnerability ,,and INNOCENCE. ,, and we are always together. But growing up with a NARC DAD, a scared weak lonely Mom,,, life feels scary all the time. It’s always hovering over me. But when I hear your words Anthony,, they are seeping ever deeper into my heart and I’m rising slowly. ❤
Don’t be afraid. Just because others let you down doesn’t mean everybody will. I’ve almost gone full on recluse with my dog and cat + 4 feral cats that stop by twice a day to eat and to stay in the cat condos I put out for them to shelter in when the weather is bad. Helping them has speeded up my healing. Animals are, as you say, innocent, almost like little angels sent here to help us.❤😊
Sometimes I do feel alone. I've been no contact and divorced from ex for 3 years but when I hear you say you You are not alone it is comforting. Thanks Andrew
My Narc Abuser spent over 20 yrs on his mission to destroy me ,my careers ,my homes my relationships with family n friends .. meantime he didnt work nor build nor gain anything significant .. Even his flying Monkeys are done with it because he depended on them for free food rent money etc when I was no where to be found ..and they had to hear how horrible I was .. while I healed , grew , gained and progressed in life without the likes of him and his Tyranny.
Strong message tonight. Going no contact is definitely what will help so much. Because I went no contact long ago and exited Facebook etc, it cut off many issues right there. Along with new phone number, email and address. If it’s possible, I really agree with Andrew on those points. And it also eliminates me from seeing anything related to the narcissist(s) so it freed up my life to spend time with myself. Which looks like isolation, but for me has been educating, healing, self care and personal interests. When you pour into yourself more you realize how much they did not. God bless you Andrew. You are a blessing to us ❤️🙏🌳
He refused to make decisions cause he said I would “blame” him if anything goes wrong & that he didn’t want to hear me complain. What a twisted chaotic pile of shit. He uses blame shifting & gaslighting, can’t take accountability, & generally is a massive coward. And cheap…so entitled, lazy & cheap. He nearly ruined me. Finding my way to the pinnacle of indifference.
What blew my mind was how narrow minded , extremely one sided can’t see the other side EVER , either you get a lecture or they viciously attack you and deflect. these people are so immature, my friend has a PHD, a malicious narcissist.
Up here on the peak of indifference, I see the incurable narcissist as a mentally disordered supply addict. They are not possessed, but they need to recruit and possess. They develop these methods to get their fix. It’s never too late to get far away from them and preserve yourself. Good health to you!
That's all they want, is someone in their life. A home base to operate from they could go home to. Most of the time they don't want to be home. They're out screwing around or spending our money that they think is only their's.
"Aren't you gonna do those things for me"? My Narc Moms favorite line 😮. Ive been 100% no contact for 3yrs now and the woman still tries to wiggly into my life through my kids or grandkids like some predator. I am so proud that my children and I have a united front. It was my adult children who decided that we all heal from her abuse🥰 and move along. We have all noticed how peaceful life is without her in it. Namaste❤
My ex always said “if it wasn’t for your Mother I’d be on the dark side” (to our daughter). We split up 10 years ago. Just recently passed away from Xanax and alcohol addiction. Left 200k in cc debt and took fake loans in our daughter’s name. TRUE Evil! I knew something was very dark and evil with him, and finally had had enough. Thank God! These truly are the the devil- beyond frightening!. Run away as fast as you can!
Spot on!! 34 years, 3 children later,totally discarded!!!!!!! (Completely shattered and confused at the time) 2 years of pain,confusion and learning later. I Reached the Pinnacle of indifference. Totally thriving,loved by life and everything around me. As per always for the loving empath that I am. Wasn’t easy and still isn’t as I completely promote the relationships of the children with their mother. (Because I’m a beautiful human being Praise GOD!) YOU to will also get through it!! Huge thanks to Andrew and these videos for giving me the education and understanding I needed when I so NEEDED it!!! Plenty of love and prayers for him!! Saddest thing at the end of it all is she doesn’t have me in her life anymore. Of course the prayers still go out for her,but now they go out all. Blessings
Hello Andrew, yes he’s very small to me now,time helps and heals ,it’s so much better to be sure of yourself,then to let someone else poison your mind for all times😎
Precisely, Andrew. Block them. I'm not quite sure how she came to be as she is. Let's say she had a hard childhood. Well, at the risk of sounding like a victim (but just stating a fact, not an opinion), I had it rough as well but I came through it to be a contributor to society as a teacher. I don't hurt people. Quite the opposite. Protect your energy, folks. It is golden.
Yes, I don't buy that the trauma "causes narcissism," because I too had trauma, but people choose to sublimate in different ways. My mother chose to hurt people. Repeatedly. Unremorsefully. And although I would think that she got away with it.... as she ages, I think more and more people see her for what she is. A cruel person in a meat suit.
@@mvbigmagic4048 It can do, perhaps, but rising above is key. Purging oneself of unwanted energy can be done in a number of ways. Choosing to hurt people is disgusting. It advances virtually nothing in humanity. One key difference between a narc and a normal person is that most normal folks are of good conscience. A narc couldn't give a monkey's about that.
I was with this girl for 3 years and thought I couldn’t be happier but she unfortunately discarded me for another guy that I knew (he is a loser and a real a**hole, so it makes me feel better but also makes less sense to me). She shoved it in my face and kissed him in front of me and showed no empathy at all, when she supposedly loved me a few days before leaving me. Now it’s been about 5 months after leaving social media, blocking the narcissist and their entire family and going no contact… I feel better then I ever have mentally & physically, but still in shock that she truly didn’t care at all after 3 years. Sometimes I still wonder what I did wrong for her to treat me that way, but these videos helped me realize I’m dealing with a huge narcissist and it’s not my fault at all. Thank you for your videos. I will update if things change. I’m now headed towards the pinnacle of indifference!!!
Thanks Andrew, I've been in therapy with you for over a year now. No one in my family other than myself has ever gone through a toxic narcissistic partnership. Thank you for knowing, it's near impossible to describe it to someone who has not lived through it.
Oh Andrew! I've prayed a prayer of thanks to God for guiding me to you. My life was saved today. I grieve the pain you've lived through to be able to help me today. I've dropped the last breadcrumb and am going no contact. Thank you so much.
I’ve been listening to Andrew for over a year right after the discard when I found out about narcissism Andrew compared to the other teachers is my favorite. He’s almost built for this so listen to him. He speaks the truth with love.
One of the big take aways I had to learn as mentioned in this video here is don't be attempting to initiate any conversations or contact wirh these narcs...no matter whay you say or atttempt to convey they will always spin it and leave you drained emotionally.
Thank you, my heart overflows with peace as you shine a light on this. I never thought i would make it in that relationship. Thoughts darker and darker by the day. they take everything and more and spit in your face. Torment and torture you to your core and scramble your mind. Isolate you and villianize you. Stand up for yourself even if you stand alone. Your love will return to you tenfold
Hi Andrew. It's everything you said. Plus, stalking, hiding mail,endless lies. List goes on and on. They will never change. Also, jealousy, raging fits. Everything is all my fault. Add deliberately hurting you on purpose. And, they are never sorry. The narcissist will never apologize. Thanks for everything you do. We all need some healing for sure. Who doesn't. The sooner the better, but no easy way out. Knowing we're not alone really helps. 🇺🇸 👍
They stuck on: Don’t you know who I am! Every time the ex narc in a car, everybody is STUPID even the cyclist. Now I think it’s funny. He has to live himself not me 😇
The way Andrew speaks it’s like he met my ex narcissist personally! That’s how it is, they are all identical. My ex since I left and changed countries is falling down big time…and realising that finding supply equal to me is not so easy….there is regret without regret.
Fortunately my best friend was able to help me when I was getting brutally devalued and discarded. He had been in toxic relationships before and recognized right away what my ex was doing to me.
Right! Having at least ONE friend who says, "Girl, what she's doing to you just AIN'T RIGHT!" Makes all the difference. And then also watching Andrew's videos. :)
Absolutely spot on. I am years out now. I recently got curious. i looked online at his church's services. They video their sunday services. He is there playing guitar and praising. After ther service, which had almost no attendees, ex starts complaining that something was considered "pastoral" and he "better watch what he says". He was at it all right. Spreading unrest about the female pastor and how she runs the church! Now he looks so small and pitiful, (though now sloppy and fat), if I cared I'd feel something, glad I don't. The new supply his wife was not there.
Thank you soooo much Andrew- I keep saying this for years that I'm following you and this wonderful community- but im not getting tired of repeating: thank you Andrew from the bottom of my ❤! You are helping us all tremendously! God bless you! Lots of gratitude and love from Germany!
💯 you told my story 💯, 4 years ago I thought she was my soulmate I'd been waiting my whole life for, the love, the intimacy, the future wide open, my "soulmate", how it spiralled to a trapped living hell of 4 years of every abuse, betrayals, triangulating, cheating, theft, threats, fear, isolation, devalueing, used up could never do anything enough living nightmare. 4 years of my life for that kind of love. I'm out by the grace of God and no contact blocked for months now as she's on juggling new supplies. I never knew the depths of evil existed I've lived through and I can only hope to help others escape the same in the future. Thankyou for your videos, God's work🙌
The narc is blocked - nine months out of my life. Unfaithful thing. Discarded me. Saw him on Saterday 😂😂😂😂😂he made if he did not know me as if i was invisable - i did the same.
He has lost the privilege of knowing anything about me, whatsoever. Staying no contact. He calls every couple of days or so but is blocked. No checking up on me. NOPE. He is the refuse on my shoe. Not wasting any more time on this moral-less loser.
This seriously needs to be taught in school! Kids would figure out quicker that their parents are toxic and get away from them because it seems to be passed down from generation to generation
When I was with my ex, it was something always going on with him. I never experienced someone with so much karma. This man look so good on paper and that's it. He and his mother is a tag team narcissistic dynamic duo
Andrew, I didn't like this video, I loved it! You are the perfect creator. You can really feel the passion you have to enlighten and teach narcissism. You truly have to live it to believe it! ☮️🙏💯
Thank you for your encouragement. I am so happy & content because I am healing every single day from the bite of that slithery narcissistic serpent bite. Their " dirty little fangs" can't bite me anymore thank God! Scars are slowly fading away😃. No more tears I pray
My mother always used, abused, and discarded me since I was little. I became a ppl pleaser and always wanted to be loved and valued. My mom put me in unsafe places. I forgave her later in life and the cycle started all over. I am a fixer and hate to see that I rose above and now she is losing everything and I am wired to help. I am unavailable and silent. I’m mentally tormented b/c I chose healthy instead of being a tool that will be destroyed to save her. Your message has been listened to three times. TY
I agree. My mother literally wants me to set myself on fire to keep herself warm. Doesn't matter that I have three kids. Nothing matters except her. And that's how it's always been since I was small. No contact was my only solution, after falling for her hoovers for decades. Each time, getting severely burned financially. Well, now I have kids. And I don't have time to play that game anymore. Unlike her, I actually want to take care of my kids.
I couldn't need this channel more. Thank you Andrew. It's almost incomprehensible what was done to me, and my son. How in God's name could a human being be so absolutely evil, disgusting, empty, cruel and selfish? No joke, you can't make this 💩 up, and I need to say it somewhere people might actually get it because I have NO ONE who truly does. The multiple levels of betrayal are staggering. 25 years of marriage, longer than that together. Today is the 29th anniversary of my daughter's death. He so took advantage of me at the most vulnerable time of my life. We had our son, got married. We moved across the country away from any support system. The rest is history. I did everything, scratching and clawing to build a decent life only to have him rip everything out from under me. He abandoned me sick AF, left me for dead bleeding on the garage floor, sabotaged my medical care hoping I would die. I nearly did. He left our son to take care of me. Turns out he was texting women as I lie sick in bed and in the hospital. I have reason to believe he had a fling with my doctor. He's drug me through three years of a horrible divorce trying to give me next to nothing. I'm disabled and can't work which is truly the worst because I want nothing more than to not need one penny from him. But that isn't the case. He's trying to screw me so bad that I will very likely lose my home. He turned my entire family against me and our son. Not hard, I was the scapegoat. I have a narc mother and the queen of all narcs on earth mother in law who is so evil there aren't words to convey it. The triangulation that took place is absolutely revolting and disgusting. I don't know if my son or I will ever recover. What we have endured the past three years, very few could. But this channel gives me hope. If nothing else, I feel less alone and like someone understands this hell. My heart goes out to everyone who has ended up here because of their experience with some stupid narc. I just so want to move on, be done and find happiness. Watching my son be so traumatized is beyond painful. I pray somehow he can recover. It's beyond cruel and unfair what's been done to us both. Absolutely heinous.
Today is my sons birthday and his grandmother didn't even put Any effort whatsoever. She bought cheap clothes and wrote on the paper shopping bag ( happy birthday love Grandma) and inside the brown bag was the receipt of the shopping she did. Mind you this is supposed to be a gift but something told me it didn't come from a place of giving because who in their right mind gives a gift with the receipt you spent for that gift inside?? Plus it wasn't even in a birthday bag or wrapped. I took that so called gift and placed outside my flat for anyone to take. Narcissist don't give because their giving isn't coming from a place of giving
This is true. With my mother, EVERYTHING is transactional. She would "give" me purses, but when I said I didn't need them and I donated them, she would be furious. I realized, it was because she didn't really "give" them to me. I was free secondary storage, and whenever she wanted those purses back, she would take them. Same thing with my children. My youngest is nonverbal, and my mother never interacted with her with any care. Why? Because my youngest cannot flatter her about all her belongings. My youngest may not be able to talk, but she intrinsically knows my mother cares nothing for her. How do I know? My daughter won't let my mother near her. She tried to love-bomb my middle son with lots of cheap gifts from yard sales, when I know she has boxes and boxes of unopened Matchbox cars that haven't seen the light of day since she bought them three decades ago. She is the original Grinch.
The narc I was with would never wrap my presents, or if wrapped, it was the crap paper from the shop he hadn't wrapped himself. He also gave me a birthday card which was from his statch of condolences looking-card. Horrendous...
My father refuses to buy his grandchildren gift cards because he says that giving a present should be a certain way. HIS way. Isn’t it for the person you’re giving the present to? Of course he’s a classic narcissist. Just buy somebody whatever they want for their birthday or if they want a gift card, give them a gift card. What is the problem? He must now be a shopping addict like his third wife. And his first wife and his second wife. 😂
You are 100% right. I didn’t know what triangulation was, gaslighting or rage fits. I’d thought of myself as so knowledgeable on mental illness, thought I was avoiding red flags. But they may as well have all been buzzwords to me in hindsight. Thank you for continuing to help me solidify these behaviours I know way too well at this point, those years of abuse feel like a black hole in my life and no one is getting me there again.
You draw a beautiful picture of your life together and they come along, crumble it up and dump it/you on the sidewalk. Hang on, through prayer and positive action, that picture is picked up, dusted off and hung back up on the walk, so you can rise up and live your best. This is me. 🎉🎉
Dear Andrew, thank you for your passion, energy, dedication… Excellent content as always. You’re speaking the WISDOM! You really know what narcissism is about! I love you my friend! ❤
You know, really know, their strategies exactly. He did worse with the supply, can't admit it and stays when everyone knows the truth. The new supply couldn't regulate him the same way and never did. He made bigger mistakes, less impulse control, loss of all credibility. You are an expert!
OMG it’s been over a year since I was discarded by that coward, narcissistic bully of an ex I was in a relationship with for 5 years… and I thought I had all the lightbulb moments possible but this video just gave me another one. Wow. This healing journey is one of the most incredible things I’ve ever embarked on in my entire life. Forever thankful to the narcissist for breaking me! I needed to be broken so I can put myself back together into the 3rd version of myself.. the most galvanized version of myself known to this fucking world. LFG!!!! 🎉❤
I am in utter amazement of the depth and knowledge that this man has! Every video I watch gives me strength. He hits the nail on the head every time.. everything he has said, is exactly the way my life was with the woman I married,and finally divorced . Thank you Andrew for all you do for us. Again, it amazes me, your content every day tells me so much in so many different ways. GOD bless you!
Once you realize you are dealing with a significant mental illness called narcissism and that helps manage the resentment and lasting traumas inflicted; I feel bad for my brother, I know why it happened, a mother who didn’t like babies and especially male babies. No violence, just keening and screaming at every human function a baby has. Ugh, I had it better as girl
its tough as a kid. i did not have a great childhood, but what i took away from the negatives was, how not to be. narcs born of abuse had the same option as i, and chose a different path.
Wow Andrew! Every single characteristic you described fits my ex husband! This includes his adoration of his mother which I thought was admirable at the time. I feel like you witnessed my marriage; I was his maid. Thank you so much for the compliments letting me know he lost the best thing that he ever had! I now live atop the pinnacle of indifference and want you to know that your insight and guidance have led me there.... Much love to you from Dawna in Canada.
It does help to realize they are missing part of their brain.. That's why we are different to them.. The anger will pass (eventually) because we can introspect... Have a good day.. 🙏☮️✨🐬
I gave and gave and it was never enough, I questioned myself, I thought it was me. 9 years of this , now trying to rebuild my life alone, jobless and homeless… All of this for loving a person who did not care , I never have experienced any of this but I felt sick, sad, alone and scared. He critiqued everything I did, never happy with anything, looking down on everything I did, but he wanted me there when it benefited him. Thank you Andrew for validating everything for me it makes me stronger you give me hope. At least I know I am whole a straight person with feelings, empathetic. Sending blessings to you and everyone who has experienced this abuse….
This video made me remember a backpacking trip right before we split. A former narcissistic friend's narcissistic husband (😝) knew where we were going and advised a powerful tick spray for our clothing and gear to put on 12 hours before heading out. I was fine as I sprayed myself but he didn't. When we got home, I pulled a dozen ticks out of his lower abdomen upper groin area. Dumba**. He couldn't take advice from someone more experienced.
I feel like I have aged so much from dealing with the narcissist. Or maybe it’s just the fact that I feel so tired all of the time. There is no escaping the abuse because we share children. It’s a nightmare. These videos help me cope. I keep getting praying for relief. May God’s will be done.
It's exhausting trying to make sense of a narcissist's actions. I know it was for me, trying to understand how my mother could do such horrible things to me and my father. I understand it's part of healing. Your brain is trying to make sense of it. There's actually a part of the brain that kind of shuts down when you're trying to defend yourself against this kind of abuse. I am 6.5 months out from no-contact, and I can feel my brain is beginning to feel better. I'm not ruminating all the time, and not afraid my mother will somehow hoover me back or threaten me somehow. The fear keeps you from focusing on other things. I hope you're able to escape the fear and heal. These videos help me too.
Thank You~ your videos encouraged me to tell my bro ( 13 yrs my senior) to KICK ROCKS~~ he’s MAD AS A HATTER but, I’m like THE FONZ and I WILL NOT LOSE MY COOL❤ While he’s crying to my 85 yr old blind mother that IM NOT FAIR and MAKE HER DO IT ~ I STAND STRONG. It’s almost a year now and I AM CAPABLE. ❤❤❤
these subjects need to be taught in high school, give young men and women the knowledge to stave off those who would be a damaging influence. I sure wish I was aware of the demon in my life, I had no idea that this breed of person existed.
0:21 I hope! I had no idea I was going to such a bad time for so many years, but I can certainly hope that me being stubborn, refusing to play their games, and refusing to live in their constructed false reality has made them arrogant and overplay their hands! There is so much serenity and so much beauty in the world to care for and to fuel your heart with, why waste your life on hearts unable to cherish the beautiful things in life? At the same time, being INFP I don't exactly want to think that the world is that cold and cruel, that people truly can be like that, but I would be naive and foolish at least not understanding the reality that is.
He’s speaking the truth. I I didnt really see the signs. My ex hung out with people half her age. She’s 51 and self absorbed/loathing. I got away , but my child was abducted through false statements and I’m fighting to get my child back away from her. I’m advancing cause “every rope has an end”
I listen to your voice so I can quiet the rumination so I can sleep. I couldn’t fall asleep to some of your finest work. Excellent word choice and delivery. 🚚 ❤🎉
This is so true. The narcissist is a bottomless pit that can't be filled. There's no love there. They want a perfect caregiver and no one can do that for them. Like Andrew rightly says, they wreck everyone and every relationship.
Exactly
I agree. Wish I knew this before getting involved with one
@@MeeMee-gz5vp They are master manipulators so don't be hard on yourself. My future defense, and I recommend this, with every new person you meet take time before serious involvement. Especially abstain from sexual involvement because it can cloud your judgement and narcissists are very performative as just another manipulation tactic. Taking time to get to know someone as an acquaintance and then as a friend in various environments over a prolonged period of time will allow you to see clearly whether or not they are wearing a mask. My goal would be a couple of years. I'd rather take that time to know someone before a commitment than to waste the years that will follow repairing injury this type of person can inflict on your mental, social, spiritual and physical health. If someone is rushing you, that's a red flag. Sorry to go on. Just offering pearls to those who might benefit. Please remember you are worth all the love and respect you have to give. 🌹❤
100% self absorbed and absolutely ev il to the core
@@river_eagle the wisest advice I've ever heard. Thank you. All the best wishes on your endeavors!
Imagine being so miserable and empty that you get your satisfaction from destroying other people's lives, God help theses people 😢
It's incomprehensible if it wasn't for all the comments I would have thought it was just me. This is some seriously deep mental stuff.
its a mindset that is draining to think about, let alone be one.
yeah insane how miserable and empty these husks of people they never were really are. these people just need to get hobbys besides bullying people and projecting to cope with misery
That's exactly what they do
( Sadly ) Destroy people 😢
Bullies are cowards
Cowards are bullies
Biggest cowards EVERRRR
Cowards to their core 🤓
totally agree.
Think Trump.
Who could ever believe such evil was amongst us and then we married it. 100% Andrew as always.
So true!!!
Never ever in my wildest dreams😢 30yrs wasted but as Andrew says we will WIN
@makelifematter1896 25 years for me ,wasn't wasted it's a lesson
Very good description” and we MARRIED IT”,,, thankyou.
@@stevelichtwark4259 I know you are exactly correct! I hope you're young enough as with so many others, I wish that for them also, to find that special person in their life that's all I hope for, but being an introvert and have Livestock and love the outdoors, at least I can say I have been Blessed. Also having a beautiful daughter and son in law...just wish my fairytale world would happen meaning seeing what it would be like to have someone love me unconditionally. Andrew has been so wonderful on this path to healing for sure..as so many others who share their thoughts so we all can see there is hope
Absolutely, they are a empty shell. No contact is the only way. They are a waste of time and space. Runnnn 🏃♀️
Lol...I feel the same way...thank God in heaven for Andrew's videos !
Run baby run 🏃♀️
no contact is the only cure.
These demons know their time is almost up. They also see tons of beautiful empaths coming together exposing their demonic tactics and taking a stand against their FOOLISHNESS.
What a inspiring statement. The internet has been a life-saver
It's wild how they use the same playbook!
Yes, so true
Narc Manual 101
They think they are extraordinary but they are ordinary. Same boring recipe.
All over the world 🌎
Indeed.Just like having the same parents🥵😵💫
Yes it really is and it's soooo predictable and most importantly PATHETIC.
I am finished with all toxic parasites! I just need to get the evil out of my mind!!
Same
You will william,I stopped ruminating a long time ago,you will too.
@@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht I hope so
It’s a war up there after these relationships. Best of luck
Amen amen amen 🙏
One year ago today, Andrew saved me from the narc and the living hell the narc placed me in.
I asked God to show me what was really going on, that’s when I found Andrew’s channel.
One year ago today, I went no contact and I am all the better for it today. I followed everything Andrew said and it all worked.
Thank You God.✝️🙏🏻
Thank you Andrew. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you community.🩷
LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE ✨☀️✨💖✨
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Yes, Thank God! 💪❤💥
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God bless you, I hope you are healing well :pray:
well u lucked out finding this channel. the worst part of being w a narc, is not truly knowing what a narc is.
lilfairycupcake - yes, after 12+ years I finally found out what a narc is and I was blessed by God to find Andrew’s channel and to have a phone appointment with him to clarify things to me, when I promptly walked out of that house and away from the narc never to return or answer a hoover. I certainly wish I would have known about this a long time ago.
Thank you for your help, support and good wishes community ❤️
Often aging narcissists have mental health issues like anxiety, and paranoia. They won't get help because they consider themselves too great. So, the problems get worse as they age. They blame their victims for making their anxiety issues worse. Their mood swings are hard to experience. They definitely continue to fall apart.
Yes agree and some are constantly at the ER, clinics etc - had a landlord who was banned from an ER because of the same issue in reverse. Can’t make this stuff up. It’s all about them either way. That’s the point.
@@gratefultobehere Thanks. You are so correct about the ER.
Dead on! Maximun DARVO and other weird stuff by that time. 'I think' there was always an invisible high RPM motor, whirring within their nervous system and brain.. They couldn't just relax and enjoy moments with you.
@@jhavajoe3792💯💯 I called the ex: Tigger, always moving, talking, mostly about his accomplishments or other people’s stupidity
100% especially the paranoia. They even get "PTSD" from all the relationships they torched, marriage their kids, new supply, etc. and are depressed, anxious, seeing therapists who probably have no clue that THEY are the problem. They are now reaping what they have sown their whole life. For the narc in my life, her soul was gutted by her malignant narc father, so now she has been stuck as a 12 year old because of his abuse. She seemed so well adjusted for the 3 years we dated, until the day we got back from the honeymoon, the mask started slipping but I didn't know it. The false persona she created: perfect love, perfect marriage, perfect kids, perfect Hallmark everything fantasy, grandiose inside her head, entitled, fake empathy - everything was fine until 1. I dared to gently challenge 2. our kids got old enough to have ideas of their own 3. I got hurt and "ruined HER life" /her perfect future plans crafted in her head, then the mask completely came off with rage, abuse, and finally discard with demands for divorce. When I finally figured this all out, and said OK, what do you want, she has been fighting the divorce going on 4 years now (will it ever end?), because the 12 year old cannot do anything on her own as Andrew pointed out again on this one. I've been long over her, and minimal contact as possible, but do pray somehow she will change, though unlikely. I wonder who she really is, or who, she could have been had she not been abused. She is communal and covert narcissist, so everyone superficially who knows her, thinks she is amazing. I did too. But then, if they get to know her, eventually they figure out. Can you imagine waking up every day like a vampire needs blood, wondering where you will get Supply and validation? Nothing in your soul, even if you say your religious. And if you don't get supply, oh boy, you will create DRAMA! Sorry for long post...I try not to vent. Thankfully 90% of family and all 4 kids, who have gotten out and no contact or moved away, have seen her unmasked.
P.s. put yourself 1st,2nd and 3,,Don't waste your precious time or Energy on them,,,life is magnificent,peaceful and Happy without Them,,keep well everyone Here,,Sending love and Strength 💖💖💖💖🙏👍
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You have helped me heal this past year. Knowing you are there when I struggle is peace of mind ! Thank u 💪💪👍no contact is the only way
I know the feeling
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karma catches you no matter how long and far you run
great video
Nope. This is the Real World. There is no Justice. Just go no contact
Twelve weeks without that evil narcissist-i feel good and happy-game over for her !!!!!
23 weeks for me without the narc 🎉
@@embraceit21 great!!!!
4 months of Freedom✅
Praise the LORD ✝️
His life is going sideways at 74 years old. The "Toxic creature" is REAPING what he has Sowed ❗💯. I am letting my light shine. ✨🌟💫 Forward motion ahead💥. Thanks Andrew for your do diligence on narcissism. Take care of yourselves Folks❤. Be careful out there...
@@sharoneh8929 great!!!!!
I thought it was just an ego issue.Much more than that.They are at constant paranoia and fighting the demons in their heads.Fear of the mask coming off and people finally see nothing there.
They are like robots no feelings no emotions nothing just empty dark depressing bland shells
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Yes and they act like complete and utter FOOLS.
Yes, I have never seen my mother cry in my 52 years of life. Funny thing is, a chat I had with Chat GPT seemed to have more empathy than my uncanny valley narcissistic mother.
I have two things to say. 1. I didn’t know anything about this dynamic when I entered into it. (It was honestly a red flag and confusing when I was being accused of all of these terms I’d never heard of, gaslighting, triangulation, grey rocking etc.) 2. My life went from fairly successful, to losing my freedom, all of my money, almost my house, and frankly my sanity, to being the best version it’s ever been. I have my dream job, I truly enjoy waking up every morning. It’s just one of those situations that was extremely painful, but without it I wouldn’t be where I am today, so in a way I’m almost grateful for it. Life is funny people, learn to laugh.
I have to agree! ❤❤❤❤
the absolute worst part is not knowing. its to bad we have to learn the hard way. one of my big pluses was, i have a low bs tolerance. so if the narc bs, disrespect, got to deep, out the door she went.
You are so on point. I never truly knew what a Narcissist was. I educated myself with many videos. The more I learned, the more it hurt. Mentally, physically, emotionally and financially painful! Thank you!
Block them. Don't care and I love indifference. Life is beautiful ❤
I'm happy being alone. I don't need selfish people in my life
Selfish their monsters
I could write a book, but I have to shut off the horrible memories, god bless you 🙏
The narcissist never saw 'you'. They only see their imaginary idea of you and that has more to do with their expectations and fantasies because that's where they live. They have a fantasy ideal self and then a fantasy ideal you. It's their imaginary 'you' that they put onto a pedestal when you meet them. That's when they love bombed the imaginary ideal you. It feels good for a hot minute. You can be your true honest self and still get swept up into their fantasy. Their imaginary idea of you doesn't interact with truth or reality though, and you can't live up to it because we are all flawed humans. When you fall from being that imaginary ideal they hold in their mind of you, you will go from being wonderful to being despised. Then they will devalue and discard you. That's their cycle. It has nothing to do with you. They play it out because of who they are in their development which is stuck in childhood. You aren't their imaginary ideal person because that only exists in their mind. You are real, human and flaws and all, you, the real you, are worthy to receive all the love and respect you have to give. I hope you heal and find a real loving person who sees and respects 'you'. 🌹❤
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Amen! 👍❤👍❤👍
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Wonderfull, thank you, be blessed everyone❤
@Anne_W64 you described it perfectly!! I figured out my ex narc didn't KNOW me or care to know me at all & so many fights were cuz I didn't fit into his imaginary image of me. Getting away from that vile, soulless pit of a human is the best thing that ever happened to me.
There’s no peace for the wicked!!! Narcs working full time for the devil with no benefits 🤷🏽♀️ they sign the contract without reading the fine print that they are defeated 💯 !! Smh
Yep, that's why they're LOSERS all the way until the grave and beyond.
it ends the same for each, and every one of them. not a pretty picture.
Anyone listening for the first time or the 20th time, you are not alone. Leave no matter how long you've been in the relationship. Be free!! Live free!! Have peace in your life! Andrew Thank you so much for these videos and God bless you!!
How do you make a narcissist suffer forever?
You need to destroy narcissist ego and pride. You need to bring them back to reality. And there is a way you can do that. Without harming them directly. And that is by working on yourself. And going back to being the person you were before you got involved with the narcissist. The person that they were attracted to. And then becoming a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it, but you reject their hoover attempts. It will destroy their ego. Because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. Especially if it's from something that they believe they should have.
Narcissists find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You being happy. Because what really destroys their ego is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result that they were intending for. Because now you're even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroys them. Because they remember how good things were back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to get revenge on the narcissist. You don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. ✌🏾
Absolutely 💯 true Andrew! Thank you! My ex narc was so close to their controlling narcissist mother, she treated him like a husband, sickening!
The ex narc and his mother were very close. She was jealous of me. She called me names now I’m not sure if it was dementia? Thanks God! I’m not in HIS mess anymore. And it’s a beautiful thing! Peace is Priceless 🙏
@@hongtruong4576 wishing you peace and happiness on your healing path 💕
@@hongtruong4576how does a man not realize how unhealthy that relationship is? With his mom,,that's the whole idea of the earth carrying on,letting your children be independent to carry on with life.
Absolutely so true, narcs are controlling and manipulative. Wouldn’t they love to see their children’s thrive with their own family! My ex narcs mum is horrible, zero substance, her adult sons under her control have no future because she doesn’t like anyone other than herself, she treats them like husbands. Best to remove these types of people and live a peaceful life
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His mom did everything for him.
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I especially love hearing” YOU ARE NOT ALONE” ,,, because I’ve felt alone my entire life. I surround myself w/ animals, I think because of their weakness and vulnerability ,,and INNOCENCE. ,, and we are always together. But growing up with a NARC DAD, a scared weak lonely Mom,,, life feels scary all the time. It’s always hovering over me. But when I hear your words Anthony,, they are seeping ever deeper into my heart and I’m rising slowly. ❤
Don’t be afraid. Just because others let you down doesn’t mean everybody will. I’ve almost gone full on recluse with my dog and cat + 4 feral cats that stop by twice a day to eat and to stay in the cat condos I put out for them to shelter in when the weather is bad. Helping them has speeded up my healing. Animals are, as you say, innocent, almost like little angels sent here to help us.❤😊
Sometimes I do feel alone. I've been no contact and divorced from ex for 3 years but when I hear you say you You are not alone it is comforting. Thanks Andrew
❤I hear no evil see no evil and speak no evil and let the good lord have his way ❤I’m thankful he opened my eyes to evil
My Narc Abuser spent over 20 yrs on his mission to destroy me ,my careers ,my homes my relationships with family n friends .. meantime he didnt work nor build nor gain anything significant .. Even his flying Monkeys are done with it because he depended on them for free food rent money etc when I was no where to be found ..and they had to hear how horrible I was .. while I healed , grew , gained and progressed in life without the likes of him and his Tyranny.
Strong message tonight. Going no contact is definitely what will help so much. Because I went no contact long ago and exited Facebook etc, it cut off many issues right there. Along with new phone number, email and address. If it’s possible, I really agree with Andrew on those points. And it also eliminates me from seeing anything related to the narcissist(s) so it freed up my life to spend time with myself. Which looks like isolation, but for me has been educating, healing, self care and personal interests. When you pour into yourself more you realize how much they did not. God bless you Andrew. You are a blessing to us ❤️🙏🌳
Thank you..😌💜🙏🙌
He refused to make decisions cause he said I would “blame” him if anything goes wrong & that he didn’t want to hear me complain. What a twisted chaotic pile of shit. He uses blame shifting & gaslighting, can’t take accountability, & generally is a massive coward. And cheap…so entitled, lazy & cheap. He nearly ruined me. Finding my way to the pinnacle of indifference.
What blew my mind was how narrow minded , extremely one sided can’t see the other side EVER , either you get a lecture or they viciously attack you and deflect. these people are so immature, my friend has a PHD, a malicious narcissist.
Up here on the peak of indifference, I see the incurable narcissist as a mentally disordered supply addict. They are not possessed, but they need to recruit and possess. They develop these methods to get their fix. It’s never too late to get far away from them and preserve yourself. Good health to you!
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That's all they want, is someone in their life. A home base to operate from they could go home to. Most of the time they don't want to be home. They're out screwing around or spending our money that they think is only their's.
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"Aren't you gonna do those things for me"? My Narc Moms favorite line 😮. Ive been 100% no contact for 3yrs now and the woman still tries to wiggly into my life through my kids or grandkids like some predator. I am so proud that my children and I have a united front. It was my adult children who decided that we all heal from her abuse🥰 and move along. We have all noticed how peaceful life is without her in it. Namaste❤
Thank you for sharing..😌🙏🙌💯
My ex always said “if it wasn’t for your Mother I’d be on the dark side” (to our daughter). We split up 10 years ago. Just recently passed away from Xanax and alcohol addiction. Left 200k in cc debt and took fake loans in our daughter’s name. TRUE Evil!
I knew something was very dark and evil with him, and finally had had enough. Thank God! These truly are the the devil- beyond frightening!. Run away as fast as you can!
Spot on!!
34 years, 3 children later,totally discarded!!!!!!!
(Completely shattered and confused at the time)
2 years of pain,confusion and learning later.
I Reached the Pinnacle of indifference.
Totally thriving,loved by life and everything around me. As per always for the loving empath that I am.
Wasn’t easy and still isn’t as I completely promote the relationships of the children with their mother.
(Because I’m a beautiful human being Praise GOD!)
YOU to will also get through it!!
Huge thanks to Andrew and these videos for giving me the education and understanding I needed when I so NEEDED it!!!
Plenty of love and prayers for him!!
Saddest thing at the end of it all is she doesn’t have me in her life anymore.
Of course the prayers still go out for her,but now they go out all.
Blessings
Hello Andrew, yes he’s very small to me now,time helps and heals ,it’s so much better to be sure of yourself,then to let someone else poison your mind for all times😎
Precisely, Andrew. Block them. I'm not quite sure how she came to be as she is. Let's say she had a hard childhood. Well, at the risk of sounding like a victim (but just stating a fact, not an opinion), I had it rough as well but I came through it to be a contributor to society as a teacher. I don't hurt people. Quite the opposite. Protect your energy, folks. It is golden.
Yes, I don't buy that the trauma "causes narcissism," because I too had trauma, but people choose to sublimate in different ways. My mother chose to hurt people. Repeatedly. Unremorsefully. And although I would think that she got away with it.... as she ages, I think more and more people see her for what she is. A cruel person in a meat suit.
@@mvbigmagic4048 It can do, perhaps, but rising above is key. Purging oneself of unwanted energy can be done in a number of ways. Choosing to hurt people is disgusting. It advances virtually nothing in humanity. One key difference between a narc and a normal person is that most normal folks are of good conscience. A narc couldn't give a monkey's about that.
I was with this girl for 3 years and thought I couldn’t be happier but she unfortunately discarded me for another guy that I knew (he is a loser and a real a**hole, so it makes me feel better but also makes less sense to me).
She shoved it in my face and kissed him in front of me and showed no empathy at all, when she supposedly loved me a few days before leaving me.
Now it’s been about 5 months after leaving social media, blocking the narcissist and their entire family and going no contact… I feel better then I ever have mentally & physically, but still in shock that she truly didn’t care at all after 3 years. Sometimes I still wonder what I did wrong for her to treat me that way, but these videos helped me realize I’m dealing with a huge narcissist and it’s not my fault at all.
Thank you for your videos. I will update if things change. I’m now headed towards the pinnacle of indifference!!!
Thanks Andrew, I've been in therapy with you for over a year now. No one in my family other than myself has ever gone through a toxic narcissistic partnership. Thank you for knowing, it's near impossible to describe it to someone who has not lived through it.
He was always telling me I’m stupid. He was always criticizing everything I did or didn’t do. I felt insane then.
Same
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So sorry I can fully relate! Please Know Creator God and us love all you... Please pass on we send our love and prayers. ❤
Oh Andrew! I've prayed a prayer of thanks to God for guiding me to you. My life was saved today. I grieve the pain you've lived through to be able to help me today. I've dropped the last breadcrumb and am going no contact. Thank you so much.
Welcome..😌💜🙏⛰️✨
I’ve been listening to Andrew for over a year right after the discard when I found out about narcissism Andrew compared to the other teachers is my favorite. He’s almost built for this so listen to him. He speaks the truth with love.
Its so sad to learn you cannot trust everyone. 😪
One of the big take aways I had to learn as mentioned in this video here is don't be attempting to initiate any conversations or contact wirh these narcs...no matter whay you say or atttempt to convey they will always spin it and leave you drained emotionally.
Thank you, my heart overflows with peace as you shine a light on this. I never thought i would make it in that relationship. Thoughts darker and darker by the day. they take everything and more and spit in your face. Torment and torture you to your core and scramble your mind. Isolate you and villianize you. Stand up for yourself even if you stand alone. Your love will return to you tenfold
Hi Andrew. It's everything you said. Plus, stalking, hiding mail,endless lies. List goes on and on. They will never change. Also, jealousy, raging fits. Everything is all my fault. Add deliberately hurting you on purpose. And, they are never sorry. The narcissist will never apologize. Thanks for everything you do. We all need some healing for sure. Who doesn't. The sooner the better, but no easy way out. Knowing we're not alone really helps. 🇺🇸 👍
They stuck on: Don’t you know who I am! Every time the ex narc in a car, everybody is STUPID even the cyclist. Now I think it’s funny. He has to live himself not me 😇
The way Andrew speaks it’s like he met my ex narcissist personally! That’s how it is, they are all identical. My ex since I left and changed countries is falling down big time…and realising that finding supply equal to me is not so easy….there is regret without regret.
Most positive teacher ever
Truly a great video. Everything you said is how my life used to be. They become so insignificant when you heal and see what garbage they are.
Fortunately my best friend was able to help me when I was getting brutally devalued and discarded. He had been in toxic relationships before and recognized right away what my ex was doing to me.
Right! Having at least ONE friend who says, "Girl, what she's doing to you just AIN'T RIGHT!" Makes all the difference. And then also watching Andrew's videos. :)
I am moving forward each and every single day. One step at a time I will continue to climb my mountain of indifference 🙏❤️👋
I wasted 14 years of my life.
I always kept blaming myself.
Until I found this video
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Absolutely spot on. I am years out now. I recently got curious. i looked online at his church's services. They video their sunday services. He is there playing guitar and praising. After ther service, which had almost no attendees, ex starts complaining that something was considered "pastoral" and he "better watch what he says". He was at it all right. Spreading unrest about the female pastor and how she runs the church! Now he looks so small and pitiful, (though now sloppy and fat), if I cared I'd feel something, glad I don't. The new supply his wife was not there.
Tired of the hippocrit
Fkn well said Andrew 💯
She over played her hand and I over stayed my welcome. I'm done!
And thank you for paying it forward 🤜
My journey has begun.
Best and simplest method to deal with and protect against narcissistic people is self-respect!
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Never let fear hold you back from freedom
Thank you soooo much Andrew- I keep saying this for years that I'm following you and this wonderful community- but im not getting tired of repeating: thank you Andrew from the bottom of my ❤! You are helping us all tremendously! God bless you! Lots of gratitude and love from Germany!
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💯 you told my story 💯, 4 years ago I thought she was my soulmate I'd been waiting my whole life for, the love, the intimacy, the future wide open, my "soulmate", how it spiralled to a trapped living hell of 4 years of every abuse, betrayals, triangulating, cheating, theft, threats, fear, isolation, devalueing, used up could never do anything enough living nightmare. 4 years of my life for that kind of love. I'm out by the grace of God and no contact blocked for months now as she's on juggling new supplies. I never knew the depths of evil existed I've lived through and I can only hope to help others escape the same in the future. Thankyou for your videos, God's work🙌
The narc is blocked - nine months out of my life. Unfaithful thing. Discarded me. Saw him on Saterday 😂😂😂😂😂he made if he did not know me as if i was invisable - i did the same.
HOLY HOLY HOLY IS THE LORD GOD ALL MIGHTY ❤
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Yes Andrew the more you loved them the more it will sting when your gone and ther new source wont be able to produce the fix the narcissist needs.
He has lost the privilege of knowing anything about me, whatsoever. Staying no contact. He calls every couple of days or so but is blocked. No checking up on me. NOPE. He is the refuse on my shoe. Not wasting any more time on this moral-less loser.
This seriously needs to be taught in school! Kids would figure out quicker that their parents are toxic and get away from them because it seems to be passed down from generation to generation
When I was with my ex, it was something always going on with him. I never experienced someone with so much karma. This man look so good on paper and that's it. He and his mother is a tag team narcissistic dynamic duo
Andrew, I didn't like this video, I loved it! You are the perfect creator. You can really feel the passion you have to enlighten and teach narcissism. You truly have to live it to believe it! ☮️🙏💯
Bro is on fire. God bless him.
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You’re the best. Love the cheerlead at the end. 🎉❤
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Hey Andrew and friends! 🙌🙌🙌😁🥰🌷🌼❤️💜
Thank you for your encouragement. I am so happy & content because I am healing every single day from the bite of that
slithery narcissistic serpent bite. Their " dirty little fangs" can't bite me anymore thank God! Scars are slowly fading away😃. No more tears I pray
My mother always used, abused, and discarded me since I was little. I became a ppl pleaser and always wanted to be loved and valued. My mom put me in unsafe places. I forgave her later in life and the cycle started all over. I am a fixer and hate to see that I rose above and now she is losing everything and I am wired to help. I am unavailable and silent. I’m mentally tormented b/c I chose healthy instead of being a tool that will be destroyed to save her. Your message has been listened to three times. TY
I agree. My mother literally wants me to set myself on fire to keep herself warm. Doesn't matter that I have three kids. Nothing matters except her. And that's how it's always been since I was small. No contact was my only solution, after falling for her hoovers for decades. Each time, getting severely burned financially. Well, now I have kids. And I don't have time to play that game anymore. Unlike her, I actually want to take care of my kids.
I couldn't need this channel more. Thank you Andrew. It's almost incomprehensible what was done to me, and my son. How in God's name could a human being be so absolutely evil, disgusting, empty, cruel and selfish? No joke, you can't make this 💩 up, and I need to say it somewhere people might actually get it because I have NO ONE who truly does. The multiple levels of betrayal are staggering. 25 years of marriage, longer than that together. Today is the 29th anniversary of my daughter's death. He so took advantage of me at the most vulnerable time of my life. We had our son, got married. We moved across the country away from any support system. The rest is history. I did everything, scratching and clawing to build a decent life only to have him rip everything out from under me. He abandoned me sick AF, left me for dead bleeding on the garage floor, sabotaged my medical care hoping I would die. I nearly did. He left our son to take care of me. Turns out he was texting women as I lie sick in bed and in the hospital. I have reason to believe he had a fling with my doctor. He's drug me through three years of a horrible divorce trying to give me next to nothing. I'm disabled and can't work which is truly the worst because I want nothing more than to not need one penny from him. But that isn't the case. He's trying to screw me so bad that I will very likely lose my home. He turned my entire family against me and our son. Not hard, I was the scapegoat. I have a narc mother and the queen of all narcs on earth mother in law who is so evil there aren't words to convey it. The triangulation that took place is absolutely revolting and disgusting. I don't know if my son or I will ever recover. What we have endured the past three years, very few could. But this channel gives me hope. If nothing else, I feel less alone and like someone understands this hell. My heart goes out to everyone who has ended up here because of their experience with some stupid narc. I just so want to move on, be done and find happiness. Watching my son be so traumatized is beyond painful. I pray somehow he can recover. It's beyond cruel and unfair what's been done to us both. Absolutely heinous.
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Excellent post, Andrew, we're lucky to have you.
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Today is my sons birthday and his grandmother didn't even put Any effort whatsoever. She bought cheap clothes and wrote on the paper shopping bag ( happy birthday love Grandma) and inside the brown bag was the receipt of the shopping she did. Mind you this is supposed to be a gift but something told me it didn't come from a place of giving because who in their right mind gives a gift with the receipt you spent for that gift inside?? Plus it wasn't even in a birthday bag or wrapped. I took that so called gift and placed outside my flat for anyone to take. Narcissist don't give because their giving isn't coming from a place of giving
This is true. With my mother, EVERYTHING is transactional. She would "give" me purses, but when I said I didn't need them and I donated them, she would be furious. I realized, it was because she didn't really "give" them to me. I was free secondary storage, and whenever she wanted those purses back, she would take them. Same thing with my children. My youngest is nonverbal, and my mother never interacted with her with any care. Why? Because my youngest cannot flatter her about all her belongings. My youngest may not be able to talk, but she intrinsically knows my mother cares nothing for her. How do I know? My daughter won't let my mother near her. She tried to love-bomb my middle son with lots of cheap gifts from yard sales, when I know she has boxes and boxes of unopened Matchbox cars that haven't seen the light of day since she bought them three decades ago. She is the original Grinch.
The narc I was with would never wrap my presents, or if wrapped, it was the crap paper from the shop he hadn't wrapped himself. He also gave me a birthday card which was from his statch of condolences looking-card. Horrendous...
My father refuses to buy his grandchildren gift cards because he says that giving a present should be a certain way. HIS way.
Isn’t it for the person you’re giving the present to? Of course he’s a classic narcissist. Just buy somebody whatever they want for their birthday or if they want a gift card, give them a gift card. What is the problem?
He must now be a shopping addict like his third wife. And his first wife and his second wife. 😂
Narc free for 3yrs and life is beautiful! I paid a heavy cost for dealing with the devil!💯💯☀️
Thank you Andrew for continuously repeating and remembering us who the narcissists are 👍🏻
You are 100% right. I didn’t know what triangulation was, gaslighting or rage fits. I’d thought of myself as so knowledgeable on mental illness, thought I was avoiding red flags. But they may as well have all been buzzwords to me in hindsight. Thank you for continuing to help me solidify these behaviours I know way too well at this point, those years of abuse feel like a black hole in my life and no one is getting me there again.
He talked to me like I was dirt. Ungrateful demon.
Andrew is on fire today! Spot on descriptions of the narcs. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I really enjoy his videos.... and he's a dog lover too! Thank you, Andrew.
You draw a beautiful picture of your life together and they come along, crumble it up and dump it/you on the sidewalk. Hang on, through prayer and positive action, that picture is picked up, dusted off and hung back up on the walk, so you can rise up and live your best. This is me. 🎉🎉
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Dear Andrew, thank you for your passion, energy, dedication…
Excellent content as always. You’re speaking the WISDOM! You really know what narcissism is about!
I love you my friend! ❤
You know, really know, their strategies exactly. He did worse with the supply, can't admit it and stays when everyone knows the truth. The new supply couldn't regulate him the same way and never did. He made bigger mistakes, less impulse control, loss of all credibility. You are an expert!
OMG it’s been over a year since I was discarded by that coward, narcissistic bully of an ex I was in a relationship with for 5 years… and I thought I had all the lightbulb moments possible but this video just gave me another one. Wow. This healing journey is one of the most incredible things I’ve ever embarked on in my entire life. Forever thankful to the narcissist for breaking me! I needed to be broken so I can put myself back together into the 3rd version of myself.. the most galvanized version of myself known to this fucking world. LFG!!!! 🎉❤
I am in utter amazement of the depth and knowledge that this man has! Every video I watch gives me strength. He hits the nail on the head every time.. everything he has said, is exactly the way my life was with the woman I married,and finally divorced . Thank you Andrew for all you do for us. Again, it amazes me, your content every day tells me so much in so many different ways. GOD bless you!
Once you realize you are dealing with a significant mental illness called narcissism and that helps manage the resentment and lasting traumas inflicted; I feel bad for my brother, I know why it happened, a mother who didn’t like babies and especially male babies. No violence, just keening and screaming at every human function a baby has. Ugh, I had it better as girl
its tough as a kid. i did not have a great childhood, but what i took away from the negatives was, how not to be. narcs born of abuse had the same option as i, and chose a different path.
Wow Andrew! Every single characteristic you described fits my ex husband! This includes his adoration of his mother which I thought was admirable at the time. I feel like you witnessed my marriage; I was his maid. Thank you so much for the compliments letting me know he lost the best thing that he ever had! I now live atop the pinnacle of indifference and want you to know that your insight and guidance have led me there.... Much love to you from Dawna in Canada.
They are clingy to their mommies
@@gratefultobehere They have an unnaturally strong bond!
It does help to realize they are missing part of their brain..
That's why we are different to them..
The anger will pass (eventually) because we can introspect...
Have a good day..
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I gave and gave and it was never enough, I questioned myself, I thought it was me. 9 years of this , now trying to rebuild my life alone, jobless and homeless… All of this for loving a person who did not care , I never have experienced any of this but I felt sick, sad, alone and scared. He critiqued everything I did, never happy with anything, looking down on everything I did, but he wanted me there when it benefited him. Thank you Andrew for validating everything for me it makes me stronger you give me hope. At least I know I am whole a straight person with feelings, empathetic. Sending blessings to you and everyone who has experienced this abuse….
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This is so true. It's a weird absorbed dynamic, in the relationship!! I feel so embarrassed when I recall what he made me do!! Very humiliating!!!
This video made me remember a backpacking trip right before we split. A former narcissistic friend's narcissistic husband (😝) knew where we were going and advised a powerful tick spray for our clothing and gear to put on 12 hours before heading out. I was fine as I sprayed myself but he didn't. When we got home, I pulled a dozen ticks out of his lower abdomen upper groin area. Dumba**. He couldn't take advice from someone more experienced.
I feel like I have aged so much from dealing with the narcissist. Or maybe it’s just the fact that I feel so tired all of the time. There is no escaping the abuse because we share children. It’s a nightmare. These videos help me cope. I keep getting praying for relief. May God’s will be done.
It's exhausting trying to make sense of a narcissist's actions. I know it was for me, trying to understand how my mother could do such horrible things to me and my father. I understand it's part of healing. Your brain is trying to make sense of it. There's actually a part of the brain that kind of shuts down when you're trying to defend yourself against this kind of abuse. I am 6.5 months out from no-contact, and I can feel my brain is beginning to feel better. I'm not ruminating all the time, and not afraid my mother will somehow hoover me back or threaten me somehow. The fear keeps you from focusing on other things. I hope you're able to escape the fear and heal. These videos help me too.
You are so Right ???? He only cares about what others can do for them ???
Thank You~ your videos encouraged me to tell my bro ( 13 yrs my senior) to KICK ROCKS~~ he’s MAD AS A HATTER but, I’m like THE FONZ and I WILL NOT LOSE MY COOL❤ While he’s crying to my 85 yr old blind mother that IM NOT FAIR and MAKE HER DO IT ~ I STAND STRONG. It’s almost a year now and I AM CAPABLE. ❤❤❤
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these subjects need to be taught in high school, give young men and women the knowledge to stave off those who would be a damaging influence. I sure wish I was aware of the demon in my life, I had no idea that this breed of person existed.
Ten years to get into it and ten years to get out!.. but you're a breeze to listen to and so funny with it..I listen each night before I sleep..x
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0:21 I hope! I had no idea I was going to such a bad time for so many years, but I can certainly hope that me being stubborn, refusing to play their games, and refusing to live in their constructed false reality has made them arrogant and overplay their hands! There is so much serenity and so much beauty in the world to care for and to fuel your heart with, why waste your life on hearts unable to cherish the beautiful things in life? At the same time, being INFP I don't exactly want to think that the world is that cold and cruel, that people truly can be like that, but I would be naive and foolish at least not understanding the reality that is.
He’s speaking the truth. I I didnt really see the signs. My ex hung out with people half her age. She’s 51 and self absorbed/loathing. I got away , but my child was abducted through false statements and I’m fighting to get my child back away from her.
I’m advancing cause “every rope has an end”
I listen to your voice so I can quiet the rumination so I can sleep. I couldn’t fall asleep to some of your finest work. Excellent word choice and delivery. 🚚 ❤🎉
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