No. This is what parents usually get confused in it. And because they confused about so they usually find excuses by lets say saying they need this. No. Thats not the truth. They doing like this is because of their lack of feeling on safety and security. To avoid or to change the mind. 1. This is the must. Parents have to know and knowledge what is the real real world instead of based on their own thinking. They think this world is getting bad. They think there are many wicked persons and will hurt their kids 2. Steve already said let the kids practice how to use the disciplines in order to they will know how to protect themselves. Give space is not just for the freedom but also let the kids shoulder up their duties. Stop these damn" protective" excuses!! Stop it!!
I got a cousin that went to college (8hours away) and her mom won’t even let her drive, has to check in regularly etc. how do these kids not rebel in some way?!?!
Isatu Mansaray she wont follow her if thats the case. If anything, weekly or bi-weekly visits. I doubt she will make the effort, to see her daily due to the distance compared to having her daughter @ home
Gordon .94 They do! They just won’t admit it. I had a strict mother many years ago, but not as bad as her, and when I was supposed to be at debate club I was out being bad with my older boyfriend. My sister would say she was going to youth club at church. Even when you get dropped off, you just arrange for someone to pick you up! The stricter you are with your kids, the more inventive and realistic the excuses get.
Yes he will ! My husband stopped my mom . She used to ask me for money all the time when we first started dating . She lied about what she needed it for . He had heard her telling someone that she'd used the same amount that I'd given her on the gambling boat . I was there , but too far away to hear what she'd said ; but he did , he said and that's why ain't no more money leaving my house ! She say , what ? That's my daughter ! Y'all aren't married ! I started telling her no . Now we don't even have a relationship , which btw ; we were never really close anyway . I was just being dumb because she was my mom . Now that my gram just passed , I gotta face her being fake nice at the funeral ; if she even speaks at all !
@@coppercoloredcutiexoxo2315 So sorry to hear that! I have a very overbearing mama. She means well but the delivery is consistently WRONG! I get stressed Everytime she calls cause I wonder why and that's not ok for either of us. I have definitely learned to set boundaries in a way that she's not so comfortable forcing her opinions, preferences or views on me. What effects me effects my I'd and she shouldn't be effected. Love from a distance for long periods is what I Have been trying for years.
Overprotective parents ruined my life. Nobody seemed to care because all I hear is “it’s because they love you” Well let me lock you up in a room and be like “I’m depriving your liberty, ignoring your depression and desire to be just like anyone else because I love you” You’d know very well you wouldn’t consider that as love. And if it was then love is a very corrupt emotion.
Parents like her are setting themselves up big-time. Then they wonder why their children are still living at home not independent in their thirties. Or they setting themselves up for rebellion. The child will rebel and do things (which they wouldn't let them do) behind your back in a negative way which will end badly.
That's exactly my and my sister's situation. I'm 27 this year yet my mom feels the need to control everything. She's always complaining about how we're not independent and still depends on her. But when we try to make our own decision, she gets mad that we're deciding without her say so. And me and sisters have all done things behind her back, exactly because we know how overreacting she would be.
My dad is the controlling one and sets me up like this, tells me who to hang out with, asks me who I'm hanging out with, and questions every decision I make and yells, whether if I make no mistake or a mistake, I'm 20 and I have a difficult time asking for help if I really need it, not money wise but just questions. I barely tell my dad anything, and I always get paranoid that they'll find out anything, even though I live 2 hours away from them. Both my parents get mad if I don't call them for more than 3 days, then they get annoyed if I call them more. I am in a constant state of wanting to rebel, feeling like I missed out since my parents were always strict, they've even gotten mad I was out on a Friday night past 8 pm. Thank god I have good friends, if I had friends who went out all the time I would probably flunk out.
I wish parents would get that. I told my mom everything because I knew she wouldn't yell at me or be mad. She would tell me the truth and how to handle myself. But my granny I never told her personal things at all because I thought she would always be mad. I tell my father everything maybe more than my mom. They ALWAYS know what to say and I turned out pretty good LOL everything I have did my parents know.
@@blais3rd well i can relate mothers are so overprotective because it's the mothers job to be the care giver, but as kids get older they'll have to learn responsibility, no wonder why kids cant become independent men and women in society because your mom or care giver is overprotective, but as your age changes so is the individual.
You have to be firm and demand the change. The problem is some of you feel you will disrespect her if you say it rough. As long as you are not happy and have a controlling mother you will never enjoy your life. I always say your parents are only obligated to take care of you till 21, unless you in serious trouble they are to come help you in life. Stop making yourself think you owe them, you owe them (Mom & Dad) nothing. It was their job to raise you.
@@adamsamuel8593 and it was their choice to have you. you're right we do owe them NOTHING, zero! infact we ow no one anything. Respect gained is respect gained
I felt like she took the words right out of my mouth. I’m speechless. My mother does the same exact thing. I thought it was normal. And I’m older than that girl. I had to tell her she needs to respect my boundaries and she still crossed them anyway directly after I told her and I have a great head on my shoulders for my age. It’s a little sad how some parents can’t trust their parenting skills. I think it’s a sign of guilt, insecurity and fear. But as long as I trust God first then myself I’m going to be good. I won’t let outside fear interfere with my success in life. Let your adult children fly please🦋 It’s hurtful to our well being and growth. Imagine a baby bird never leaving the 🪺. what a limited and unfulfilling life. Babies fall when learning to walk then eventually master walking. Thank you.
As a mom of an adult I will say for some of us it’s not that we don’t trust our parenting skills, it’s that everyday the world gets a little more crazier and scarier and we sometimes feel like we might have forgotten to teach you something. We also worry that God Forbid something happens we won’t be there to protect you. I am not that mom bust trust me when I tell you I work very hard every day to reign it in and not be her.
@@Tonnnnia why make your children pay for that though? I always hear this from parents and never understood why if they think the world is so crazy, then why’d they have children? I think it’s just an excuse to ignore control issues. You do realize that you’re making your child incapable of surviving and that parents usually pass away before their children. Would you want your child to be unprepared in the world when you’re gone? That’s unfair.
@r. what are you talking about? How am I making my child incapable? Reading is fundamental, I said while I understand that mom I definitely work hard every day to not be that mom. To answer your other question we have kids because at the time we had kids the world may not have seemed like such a crazy place. Becoming a parent definitely changes your outlook when you have the well being of a little life in your hands.
@@Tonnnnia oh sorry I didn’t read the last half correctly the first time. I just don’t understand parents like this lol. I guess because mine are that way. There’s no reasoning with them and it’s frustrating. They held me back a lot and I resent them because now I don’t have a lot of life skills and afraid to take risks. The world is ever-changing and we must all adapt. If parents keep doing this, they will set their children up for failure, especially around people who are light years ahead of them.
@@Star-vg7ix because she is a pathetic female who couldn't find a real man and got some thug instead so now she is a single mommy and think her daughter will end the same way
If she really wanted a man, or some friends, she can go out and get it. But unfortunately, she might be one of those people that DO NOT want a man or friends, and simply just wants to be a mother.
Mom needs to get a man or have some girlfriends to hang out with. It sounds to me that her daughter is trying to be responsible, but she can't be if momma is holding on too tight.
My son just turn 21 last wk. and he enlisted in the army at 19. I love him too at so point you have to trust that as a parent you've done all and teach all you know to your kids. At 21 it's time to sit back and watch your work pay off and be their moral support when needed and only step in when asked to
I stopped talking to a 20 something year old girl once because her parents were too overprotective. She didn't drive so the first date she met me at the location. Okay, that's fine, her people drop her off, no big deal, but only about an hour or 2 later when the date was over they were there Johnny on the spot to pick her up! Felt a little strange but I gave that one the benefit of the doubt. Next date she allowed me to come pick her up, but from an obscure address where she climbed out of someone else's vehicle, assuming her parents or siblings dropping her there. After the date which was in 2 places and ended at the movies, they were there, once again Johnny on the spot to pick her up from the theater eyeballing me from the car. Now normally I would happily introduce myself to the girl I'm talking to family, but these people creeped me out, and her guarded demeanor threw me off as well. Maybe something has happened to her or someone else in her family in recent years, but I'm not that and I feel uncomfortable being pre-portrayed as that so boldly. Being a man I expect a certain level of distrust from the opposing family and woman of interest... but damn! I can't have the real address to pick her up from and complete the date alone with her? I had no intentions of doing anything foul. Felt like I was being watched the whole time.
That's exactly why the second date was enough for me... she wanted to keep contact with me, we were just chatting through the dating app initially, but she left her phone number and wanted me to contact her there, so apparently I was gaining their trust but... no thanks.
i was just talking to my mom about this she was telling me about the neighbors i said hes 30 still living with his mama that's crazy she says when your 30 you'll still be here too where you going if you leave your step dad going with you smh im 25 btw
My friend’s son got an almost fatal brain injury from a car accident. He recovered perfectly. I would think she’d be the most overbearing mom in the world. On top of that the woman was the boss of the county homicide lab, which is a pretty horrific career, picking evidence off dead women and kids. You’d think she’d never let him out of her site. But she told me once, we can’t keep them in a bubble. It’s like Maya Angelou said, you should love your children, not be in love with them. I think if you’re confident in your child, that’s better than making them think they can’t protect themselves
Parents don't realize how much they're affecting their kids when they're like that. That's exactly why I never talk to my mom about ANYTHING. She has been so overbearing and overprotective since I was in middle school...I had more freedom in elementary. But whenever my sister goes out WITHOUT even saying where she's going, she doesn't say anything. But when I just go to my bf's house(which is two houses down from ours) or just simply go outside to get some damn peace, it's an issue. I just wanna scream and cry because it's frustrating. My mom always says that she wants peace from us, but has she ever thought that we want the same thing?? Like I've never shown any sign of irresponsibility, but she acts as if she doesn't trust me. How can I prove it if she refuses to let me?? I tell her where I'm going, how long I may be, who I'm with, and such...so why?? Not only that, but I text her and let her know what's going on! She has taught me plenty of things and I'm not dumb, I know what to do when I feel I'm in danger, I know what to do! They just act as if they haven't taught us anything. They act like they were never our age before
The "you too much" had me dying laughing. I understand as a parent she's concerned about her dauybut she has to let her daughters wings spread and let her daughter be independent
I see this problem happening a lot more with single parents single mothers especially cuz I have a hard time of facing life alone and so they're so attached to their children
it is like that all the time, every single overprotective mom i have seen had a terrible past and they think others can make the same mistake so they had to overprotect them so much specially their children .
I couldn’t imagine a mother that protective- although I moved out of home at 16 (and was raised by my father with siblings ) and I wouldn’t have a bar of an overbearing parent like this lady , you can love a child yes of course but to the point it hinders their personal growth ? you can let them grow by themselves and give advice along the way - you can’t learn from mistakes if your not given a chance to make them In The first place .
She loves her ... my mother acts the same exact way even moreeeee. But now that am 20 and working in a different country and not with her . I understand y she was doing all she was doing.
She comes from a place of love, but get a boyfriend or something. If you can’t trust your kid to even walk down the street, you’ll be taking care of them till their 40.
While I understand what you are saying, and in what context, I think you missed the point of why that's an issue, with this particular mom and daughter relationship. That mom is not simply looking out for her daughter, rather she is so controlling, that she needed to get up, wake up the cousin, and go get her a block away. If it's anyone she needs to be protected from, it's her damn mom. She is more dangerous than any possible attack she may or may not face in her lifetime.
I truly understand that mothers fears of the bad and ugly in this world, things can happen in a fraction of a second.. But, she must allow her daughter the space to strengthen her own wings. No matter how hard we as parents try to keep our children safe we can not and will not always be there with them every minute of the day. The good thing is that as a parent she has made her daughter very much aware of life dangers. Blessings to them both!
Look here I thank the Lord for my 92 year old Mother, my Big Momma who has long pass, my Aunties and the elderly ladies who did not mind keeping you on the "Straight and Narrow" back long years ago. Hell they were IM, Facebook, Snapchat and Google way before the electronics came out. It was called the telephone/church meetings and the Tupperware parties they had and sitting in that window watching EVERYTHING....lol.
I feel like I’ll be leaving home quite soon... I have the same issues with my mother, but I really feel like a hostage. I don’t know how to talk to people on the phone, I don’t know to socialize with others. She controls my money, and even if I don’t want her too, I don’t know how to deal with financial stuff, and when I ask her to teach me she just don’t really care or is really inpatient about it... I don’t know how to drive so I’m stuck at home or any place I want to go, I have to go with mommy(and that makes me feel ashamed of myself). And lately I started realizing that I’m hating her, and even though I try not to, being with her makes me feel weak and small. I feel like a little baby inside a 20yo body. But I’m really willing to take the risks of just walking away and trying to learn on my own than living like this for another year. Can’t stand this feeling any longer.
It will be hard for you, but you need to get away from your mom. She doesn't know that she's doing more harm than good to you. Listen, she still wants you to be the little fabricio that you have been 10 years ago. But you're a grown man now and should worry about youre own life more than she. The problem is that the next ten years from 20 to 30 will be the most important years for your future. You need to realize that your mom can't plan your future now, even if she wants to. So what are you waiting for? Sure the first year will be maybe really hard for you. But you won't learn these things that are important now, by living at home with your overprotective mom...
but know the order of things to give them, and you'll have them for life. a mistake many parents make is trying to make a teenager have an appreciation for things only a grown up with many experiences could truly comprehend, and that ruins it as it's fed by the spirit of a teenage rebel. knowing how to better prepare your children for their downs and ups in life is the way, and helping them in ways they will appreciate now and later works. but yet again this is coming from someone who isn't a parent. just my take on it and from my experience from my own parents
That lady needs to get a life, she covers her nothing to do with pretending to be a "loving mother" but she knows thats not true, she just does not have any better thing to do but saying that she loves her daughter, she is too shoking, that makes me feel sick.
I used to get home from work at 3am, my mum won't sleep until I arrive home. I had to leave that job. Didnt last long with that shift. Cant even help put the bins out after dark at 6pm at the driveway can't pick up my sister from train st alone. She sits with me in the car. Or with my dad alone all the time.
My overprotective mom threatened me, so I had to part ways with mines. It took me a long time to figure out who she was. She thought I was still a child, darn near 40 years old taking care of myself and she’s trying everything to ruin my life. She wanted to interfere into my financial situation, relationship, everything and I had to say no more and go on with my life.
*You love her like a hostage!!!*
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XtincTion Gaming lol I lost it when he said that 😂😭💀
Dead.
Dieddddd!!😂😂
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Best comment, EVER!
God, Steve is brutally honest but the mother needed it, I was frustrated from just listening
no need tho😂
Ikr... Hell I almost had a flashback, I had to come out of it 😁
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Like, Jesus, she doesn't want her daughter to leave, EVER!
No. This is what parents usually get confused in it.
And because they confused about so they usually find excuses by lets say saying they need this.
No. Thats not the truth.
They doing like this is because of their lack of feeling on safety and security.
To avoid or to change the mind.
1. This is the must. Parents have to know and knowledge what is the real real world instead of based on their own thinking.
They think this world is getting bad.
They think there are many wicked persons and will hurt their kids
2. Steve already said let the kids practice how to use the disciplines in order to they will know how to protect themselves.
Give space is not just for the freedom but also let the kids shoulder up their duties.
Stop these damn" protective" excuses!!
Stop it!!
She needs to go away to college. You can tell from the mothers face that she is not letting go.
I don't think that will work. If that girl goes away to college, momma is gonna follow!
I got a cousin that went to college (8hours away) and her mom won’t even let her drive, has to check in regularly etc. how do these kids not rebel in some way?!?!
Isatu Mansaray she wont follow her if thats the case. If anything, weekly or bi-weekly visits. I doubt she will make the effort, to see her daily due to the distance compared to having her daughter @ home
Gordon .94 They do! They just won’t admit it. I had a strict mother many years ago, but not as bad as her, and when I was supposed to be at debate club I was out being bad with my older boyfriend. My sister would say she was going to youth club at church. Even when you get dropped off, you just arrange for someone to pick you up! The stricter you are with your kids, the more inventive and realistic the excuses get.
@@gordon.9416 Constant paranoia and hiding what they do
“You too much” 😂😂😂😂😂
Imagine when she gets married! That man is gonna be over it!
Trust me, my first wife and her mother were " best friends " it was hell being in a relationship with her and her mama
Yes he will ! My husband stopped my mom . She used to ask me for money all the time when we first started dating . She lied about what she needed it for . He had heard her telling someone that she'd used the same amount that I'd given her on the gambling boat . I was there , but too far away to hear what she'd said ; but he did , he said and that's why ain't no more money leaving my house ! She say , what ? That's my daughter ! Y'all aren't married ! I started telling her no . Now we don't even have a relationship , which btw ; we were never really close anyway . I was just being dumb because she was my mom . Now that my gram just passed , I gotta face her being fake nice at the funeral ; if she even speaks at all !
@@coppercoloredcutiexoxo2315 So sorry to hear that! I have a very overbearing mama. She means well but the delivery is consistently WRONG! I get stressed Everytime she calls cause I wonder why and that's not ok for either of us. I have definitely learned to set boundaries in a way that she's not so comfortable forcing her opinions, preferences or views on me. What effects me effects my I'd and she shouldn't be effected. Love from a distance for long periods is what I Have been trying for years.
Not if mama gets a man first! Steve, hook mama up!
@@coppercoloredcutiexoxo2315 I'm so sorry to hear that❤❤❤❤ Hope things get better
Overprotective parents ruined my life. Nobody seemed to care because all I hear is “it’s because they love you” Well let me lock you up in a room and be like “I’m depriving your liberty, ignoring your depression and desire to be just like anyone else because I love you”
You’d know very well you wouldn’t consider that as love.
And if it was then love is a very corrupt emotion.
You put words in my mouth, I’m literally in the exact same situation
It’s been over a year, how are you? 😭
Happening to me for 29 years
Your parents needs some slappin'
Parents like her are setting themselves up big-time. Then they wonder why their children are still living at home not independent in their thirties. Or they setting themselves up for rebellion. The child will rebel and do things (which they wouldn't let them do) behind your back in a negative way which will end badly.
That's exactly my and my sister's situation. I'm 27 this year yet my mom feels the need to control everything. She's always complaining about how we're not independent and still depends on her. But when we try to make our own decision, she gets mad that we're deciding without her say so. And me and sisters have all done things behind her back, exactly because we know how overreacting she would be.
My dad is the controlling one and sets me up like this, tells me who to hang out with, asks me who I'm hanging out with, and questions every decision I make and yells, whether if I make no mistake or a mistake, I'm 20 and I have a difficult time asking for help if I really need it, not money wise but just questions. I barely tell my dad anything, and I always get paranoid that they'll find out anything, even though I live 2 hours away from them. Both my parents get mad if I don't call them for more than 3 days, then they get annoyed if I call them more. I am in a constant state of wanting to rebel, feeling like I missed out since my parents were always strict, they've even gotten mad I was out on a Friday night past 8 pm. Thank god I have good friends, if I had friends who went out all the time I would probably flunk out.
@NYGriego74 um shes a grown woman. Dont insult her intelligence. She is not a baby.
I wish parents would get that. I told my mom everything because I knew she wouldn't yell at me or be mad. She would tell me the truth and how to handle myself. But my granny I never told her personal things at all because I thought she would always be mad. I tell my father everything maybe more than my mom. They ALWAYS know what to say and I turned out pretty good LOL everything I have did my parents know.
@@blais3rd well i can relate mothers are so overprotective because it's the mothers job to be the care giver, but as kids get older they'll have to learn responsibility, no wonder why kids cant become independent men and women in society because your mom or care giver is overprotective, but as your age changes so is the individual.
I want a wife like Steve's, she says and does things that resonates with him regularly, and he appreciates that.
Her mom reminds me of mine. I had to sit my mom down and talk with her about it. It made a world of a difference.
ive been talking to my mom for years it made no difference
Atleast with your mom it made a difference 🚶♀️😭 I tried talking to my mom it didn't work out.
You have to be firm and demand the change. The problem is some of you feel you will disrespect her if you say it rough. As long as you are not happy and have a controlling mother you will never enjoy your life. I always say your parents are only obligated to take care of you till 21, unless you in serious trouble they are to come help you in life. Stop making yourself think you owe them, you owe them (Mom & Dad) nothing. It was their job to raise you.
@@paigeandcedsister same
@@adamsamuel8593 and it was their choice to have you. you're right we do owe them NOTHING, zero! infact we ow no one anything. Respect gained is respect gained
I felt like she took the words right out of my mouth. I’m speechless. My mother does the same exact thing. I thought it was normal. And I’m older than that girl. I had to tell her she needs to respect my boundaries and she still crossed them anyway directly after I told her and I have a great head on my shoulders for my age. It’s a little sad how some parents can’t trust their parenting skills. I think it’s a sign of guilt, insecurity and fear. But as long as I trust God first then myself I’m going to be good. I won’t let outside fear interfere with my success in life. Let your adult children fly please🦋 It’s hurtful to our well being and growth. Imagine a baby bird never leaving the 🪺. what a limited and unfulfilling life. Babies fall when learning to walk then eventually master walking. Thank you.
As a mom of an adult I will say for some of us it’s not that we don’t trust our parenting skills, it’s that everyday the world gets a little more crazier and scarier and we sometimes feel like we might have forgotten to teach you something. We also worry that God Forbid something happens we won’t be there to protect you. I am not that mom bust trust me when I tell you I work very hard every day to reign it in and not be her.
@@Tonnnnia well said mom
@@Tonnnnia why make your children pay for that though? I always hear this from parents and never understood why if they think the world is so crazy, then why’d they have children? I think it’s just an excuse to ignore control issues. You do realize that you’re making your child incapable of surviving and that parents usually pass away before their children. Would you want your child to be unprepared in the world when you’re gone? That’s unfair.
@r. what are you talking about? How am I making my child incapable? Reading is fundamental, I said while I understand that mom I definitely work hard every day to not be that mom. To answer your other question we have kids because at the time we had kids the world may not have seemed like such a crazy place. Becoming a parent definitely changes your outlook when you have the well being of a little life in your hands.
@@Tonnnnia oh sorry I didn’t read the last half correctly the first time. I just don’t understand parents like this lol. I guess because mine are that way. There’s no reasoning with them and it’s frustrating. They held me back a lot and I resent them because now I don’t have a lot of life skills and afraid to take risks. The world is ever-changing and we must all adapt. If parents keep doing this, they will set their children up for failure, especially around people who are light years ahead of them.
Daughter has to laugh it off as cool as possible but internally is crying for help I guarantee it
I can tell her mother does not have a man or a husband
If she is a single mom I can understand why she is over protective
Even if they do have a husband they'll still act like that
@@Star-vg7ix because she is a pathetic female who couldn't find a real man and got some thug instead so now she is a single mommy and think her daughter will end the same way
Rightttt... Like find a man to entertain you
Or any friends
love my children but they also Need to growup and learn Responsibility through REAL LIFE.
You must be a really good parent. Kudos. ^^ ❤
can't shield kids from the real world
@@i_am_chronic3997
This is the exact same response that i have for home schoolers.
Mama need a man or some friends.
Both. And a Therapist too.
If she really wanted a man, or some friends, she can go out and get it. But unfortunately, she might be one of those people that DO NOT want a man or friends, and simply just wants to be a mother.
Yesss
@@calebereid and the girl must be the only child
For real. She’s treating that woman like she’s either a little girl or she’s her husband.
She nearly fainted when Steve said his 21 year old moved out
Mom needs to get a man or have some girlfriends to hang out with. It sounds to me that her daughter is trying to be responsible, but she can't be if momma is holding on too tight.
Isatu Mansaray you right she needs a life
Her daughter personality cute AF
1:27 "lemme ask you something, b**** stand up" 😂
Vince Python 😂😂😂😂
I think he slipped
IM DEDDD😂😂😂😂
I heard it too, but couldnt believe it. :D
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You love her, you love her like a hostage😂😂🤣🤣 I died!!
Mom get a life ... Allow your daughter to live her own life you do sound like a hostage keeper for real! Chill
You ain’t lying! She treating that girl like she’s either a little kid or she’s her spouse.
My son just turn 21 last wk. and he enlisted in the army at 19. I love him too at so point you have to trust that as a parent you've done all and teach all you know to your kids. At 21 it's time to sit back and watch your work pay off and be their moral support when needed and only step in when asked to
I understand mom loves her child but there's a thing called being overprotective if mom keeps this up her child will never be able to fly
I stopped talking to a 20 something year old girl once because her parents were too overprotective. She didn't drive so the first date she met me at the location. Okay, that's fine, her people drop her off, no big deal, but only about an hour or 2 later when the date was over they were there Johnny on the spot to pick her up! Felt a little strange but I gave that one the benefit of the doubt. Next date she allowed me to come pick her up, but from an obscure address where she climbed out of someone else's vehicle, assuming her parents or siblings dropping her there. After the date which was in 2 places and ended at the movies, they were there, once again Johnny on the spot to pick her up from the theater eyeballing me from the car. Now normally I would happily introduce myself to the girl I'm talking to family, but these people creeped me out, and her guarded demeanor threw me off as well. Maybe something has happened to her or someone else in her family in recent years, but I'm not that and I feel uncomfortable being pre-portrayed as that so boldly. Being a man I expect a certain level of distrust from the opposing family and woman of interest... but damn! I can't have the real address to pick her up from and complete the date alone with her? I had no intentions of doing anything foul. Felt like I was being watched the whole time.
Damn, that's tough.. Sorry you had to go through that. I would've had to cut ties so fast lol
That's exactly why the second date was enough for me... she wanted to keep contact with me, we were just chatting through the dating app initially, but she left her phone number and wanted me to contact her there, so apparently I was gaining their trust but... no thanks.
@@man_on_wheelz yeah that's good. Smart move! Glad you gave her a shot at that second date though. But when you know, you know lol!
@Ngan Nguyen Yeah, my gut said no... so nope! lol Too bad, she was a cute girl... I still see her active profile on OKCupid.
Damn I'm not about that life sorry that you went through that lol
MOVING OUT ,MOM IS NOT HAVING THAT...DID YOU SEE HER FACE !!!
i was just talking to my mom about this she was telling me about the neighbors i said hes 30 still living with his mama that's crazy she says when your 30 you'll still be here too where you going if you leave your step dad going with you smh im 25 btw
You can actually stifle your kids from learning anything in life my father used to say if you don't let the kids do anything they will never learn
My friend’s son got an almost fatal brain injury from a car accident. He recovered perfectly. I would think she’d be the most overbearing mom in the world. On top of that the woman was the boss of the county homicide lab, which is a pretty horrific career, picking evidence off dead women and kids.
You’d think she’d never let him out of her site. But she told me once, we can’t keep them in a bubble. It’s like Maya Angelou said, you should love your children, not be in love with them.
I think if you’re confident in your child, that’s better than making them think they can’t protect themselves
soo what did she do when her son had the injury?
Parents don't realize how much they're affecting their kids when they're like that. That's exactly why I never talk to my mom about ANYTHING. She has been so overbearing and overprotective since I was in middle school...I had more freedom in elementary. But whenever my sister goes out WITHOUT even saying where she's going, she doesn't say anything. But when I just go to my bf's house(which is two houses down from ours) or just simply go outside to get some damn peace, it's an issue. I just wanna scream and cry because it's frustrating. My mom always says that she wants peace from us, but has she ever thought that we want the same thing?? Like I've never shown any sign of irresponsibility, but she acts as if she doesn't trust me. How can I prove it if she refuses to let me?? I tell her where I'm going, how long I may be, who I'm with, and such...so why?? Not only that, but I text her and let her know what's going on! She has taught me plenty of things and I'm not dumb, I know what to do when I feel I'm in danger, I know what to do! They just act as if they haven't taught us anything. They act like they were never our age before
Same sad story. They never act so distrustful to my other siblings. I hope you're in a better place now
I totally agree with you
The "you too much" had me dying laughing. I understand as a parent she's concerned about her dauybut she has to let her daughters wings spread and let her daughter be independent
I see this problem happening a lot more with single parents single mothers especially cuz I have a hard time of facing life alone and so they're so attached to their children
Why didn't they get a Husband
I agree with you
Maybe something traumatizing happened in her moms life to cause her to be that way. You never know...
Absolutely; doesn't make it right though.
it is like that all the time, every single overprotective mom i have seen had a terrible past and they think others can make the same mistake so they had to overprotect them so much specially their children .
Doesn't give her the right to put that fear and anxiety on her child.
thats what it is ususally, its all based off their own upbringing
"Ya gotta let her fly," was a great final word.
“You love her? ... You love her like a hostage!!” 😂
I couldn’t imagine a mother that protective- although I moved out of home at 16 (and was raised by my father with siblings ) and I wouldn’t have a bar of an overbearing parent like this lady , you can love a child yes of course but to the point it hinders their personal growth ? you can let them grow by themselves and give advice along the way - you can’t learn from mistakes if your not given a chance to make them In The first place .
First of all, no one has telephones anymore. They’re called CELL PHONES! 😂
Haha....I have a house phone too....probably one of about 20 ppl in the world who do....lol
Tori Child Of The Most High
I still have a house phone they don't die or over heat
Tori Child Of The Most High no, no. I have one too
Msjawanda same
Hilarious. 2:54 "you love her like a hostage"
Yeah once momma is gone she will miss her,but it is a little bit to much.
Very loving mother I call her!! I wish my mum cared about me!!
Young woman walking the street alone 12.30 at night.. Not safe.
I am glad I live in Norway where women can walk where they want, when they want, if they want.
@@OriginalPuro be careful. The devil is busy.
Lol. I’m sure she will be fine.
Ok we all know Steve is "blue cheese" but this season he's turning some major suit envy. Very nice colours sir.👌👍👏👐
She loves her ... my mother acts the same exact way even moreeeee. But now that am 20 and working in a different country and not with her . I understand y she was doing all she was doing.
"You love her like a hostage." 😂😂😂💀💀 I'm dead
She comes from a place of love, but get a boyfriend or something. If you can’t trust your kid to even walk down the street, you’ll be taking care of them till their 40.
mom: *nods*
inner mom: "we gon' see!"
Exactly 😂 u love her like a hostage 😅 run girl, get out, fly ✈️
Always count on Steve to keep it 💯 👌🏻👌🏻
At night it does not matter what time mum or dad getting me I would be greatful anything can happen
Nyokabi Waweru you am funny
Don't live a life of fear. Be wise, not scared.
Never safe to walk the street alone at 12 midnight. Not when there are a million people go missing each year.
sure every parent nightmare if something happen they will never forgive themselves
While I understand what you are saying, and in what context, I think you missed the point of why that's an issue, with this particular mom and daughter relationship.
That mom is not simply looking out for her daughter, rather she is so controlling, that she needed to get up, wake up the cousin, and go get her a block away.
If it's anyone she needs to be protected from, it's her damn mom.
She is more dangerous than any possible attack she may or may not face in her lifetime.
"YOU LOVE HER LIKE A HOSTAGE"!!😅😂🤣
This is my mom. 😂🤣 She can't handle I live alone now but she's learning how to deal with it
This is my favorite video ever God bless you Steve harvey
I'm 27. I never moved out.
my parents made me the golden child.
Hell i would have got my own place at 21 too if my Dad was Steve Harvey 😅
“I’m IN LOVE WITH HER!!!” 😬
It can’t be all about you anymore, lady. You’re stifling & extra
You make me cry mommy you are so sweet
i love him when he went i want them to go away then she was like oh god i cannot let her 😂😂😂😂😂😂
2:15
Man. I wish my mother cared for me as much as her mom loves her. It may seem extreme but that’s love man. Something I wish I could’ve had.
There’s huge difference between love and controlling in this video the mom is like a obsession freak
My mom still follows me when I tried to find a job, sad being an only child
This is literally why I have no friends now. I'm def staying on campus when I transfer.
this is why im still single and im 25
Wow what a mother she needs friends. The ladies have to grow,
My mom needs to hear this
That’s my mom right there 😭can’t breathe yo
This was endearing 🤩...Such a sweet loving mom, and her daughter carries herself well ⚘🌷
Nah that's too much
Yes mom give your daughter a break she's smart and im sure that youre raise her right let go
This is why we cant ever disappoint pur mommas and why moms or better then we can ever have
This is so much like my mom🤣🤣 exactly like her lol
Let her go out to unlock her full potentials plsssssssssssssssssssss...
saying you're in love with your kid is crazy
I truly understand that mothers fears of the bad and ugly in this world, things can happen in a fraction of a second.. But, she must allow her daughter the space to strengthen her own wings. No matter how hard we as parents try to keep our children safe we can not and will not always be there with them every minute of the day. The good thing is that as a parent she has made her daughter very much aware of life dangers. Blessings to them both!
Get Out while you still can
Everytime i see his beard.......Im just jealous....hahahaha
Their wings work
I like that!
This is hard for me. So hard. I’m going to try to remember this.
I lost my mom Sunday... Wish I still had her she is my queen👸
Don't trust anyone, you don't know what a man or woman is capable of doing nowadays.
As an adult, her mom only has the power this young lady gives her
True love of a mom
Look here I thank the Lord for my 92 year old Mother, my Big Momma who has long pass, my Aunties and the elderly ladies who did not mind keeping you on the "Straight and Narrow" back long years ago. Hell they were IM, Facebook, Snapchat and Google way before the electronics came out. It was called the telephone/church meetings and the Tupperware parties they had and sitting in that window watching EVERYTHING....lol.
She’s so sweet thou
And your allowing this....lol. Id be so gone
I feel like I’ll be leaving home quite soon... I have the same issues with my mother, but I really feel like a hostage. I don’t know how to talk to people on the phone, I don’t know to socialize with others. She controls my money, and even if I don’t want her too, I don’t know how to deal with financial stuff, and when I ask her to teach me she just don’t really care or is really inpatient about it... I don’t know how to drive so I’m stuck at home or any place I want to go, I have to go with mommy(and that makes me feel ashamed of myself). And lately I started realizing that I’m hating her, and even though I try not to, being with her makes me feel weak and small. I feel like a little baby inside a 20yo body.
But I’m really willing to take the risks of just walking away and trying to learn on my own than living like this for another year. Can’t stand this feeling any longer.
It will be hard for you, but you need to get away from your mom. She doesn't know that she's doing more harm than good to you. Listen, she still wants you to be the little fabricio that you have been 10 years ago. But you're a grown man now and should worry about youre own life more than she. The problem is that the next ten years from 20 to 30 will be the most important years for your future. You need to realize that your mom can't plan your future now, even if she wants to. So what are you waiting for? Sure the first year will be maybe really hard for you. But you won't learn these things that are important now, by living at home with your overprotective mom...
I’m on the same boat. It’s good to hear someone that is going through the same thing as you
Damn. You're being controlled hey. I have a solution
It's dangerous for you. You're going to subconsciously look to a woman to also control and abuse you like your mother
Give everything to your child and you'll be the person they most look down upon in the future.
Words of wisdom.
but know the order of things to give them, and you'll have them for life.
a mistake many parents make is trying to make a teenager have an appreciation for things only a grown up with many experiences could truly comprehend, and that ruins it as it's fed by the spirit of a teenage rebel.
knowing how to better prepare your children for their downs and ups in life is the way, and helping them in ways they will appreciate now and later works.
but yet again this is coming from someone who isn't a parent. just my take on it and from my experience from my own parents
That lady needs to get a life, she covers her nothing to do with pretending to be a "loving mother" but she knows thats not true, she just does not have any better thing to do but saying that she loves her daughter, she is too shoking, that makes me feel sick.
If the daughter gets home from work after midnight and parks a block away, then the mother is correct in not letting her daughter walk home alone.
I understand that my mama would tell me to keep her on the phone until I got home. But get out the bed?!👀 that’s too much
I used to get home from work at 3am, my mum won't sleep until I arrive home. I had to leave that job. Didnt last long with that shift. Cant even help put the bins out after dark at 6pm at the driveway can't pick up my sister from train st alone. She sits with me in the car. Or with my dad alone all the time.
21 shes grown. Let her live her life before she exit herself from yours.
Sounds like a great mother to me making sure she's safe at night time I don't care what Steve says don't take his advice your doing just fine.xxxx
My mom once called a guy I was dating to tell me I left my phone at home... I'm still mad.
And she's actually a super lax parent. Just no boundaries 😑
She’s a superb mom
It is good that we love our children, but don't confuse love with being overprotect, selfish or out right crazy
Narcissistic behaviour. Disgusting. She needs to find a man and leave her daughter alone.
Awwwww , I thought my mom was bad !!! She just protecting her baby !!! She does need to chill
Steve your the man
Facial hair on Steve does him great justice 👌🏾
That’s weird cuz in another video he says that as long as you’re living at home, your parents can control you.
"Their wings work!" 🕊️
I wish i had a mom like hers 😢 you’re lucky girl
He said: i have 21 yo baby?
Ooh man :D i remember when he used to say: i have 15 yo baby:D
Still legend steve:)
This is exactly what my mom is like😭😭😭
My overprotective mom threatened me, so I had to part ways with mines. It took me a long time to figure out who she was. She thought I was still a child, darn near 40 years old taking care of myself and she’s trying everything to ruin my life. She wanted to interfere into my financial situation, relationship, everything and I had to say no more and go on with my life.
Steve got those teeth resized. He looks great!
For sure Hostage lady
The best mother ever. She is right these days you can't trust anyone.