Took the ideas out of everyone's minds, not everyone or every people human or not have the perfect parents, but given how much everything is going on like this right now as it did Helluva long time ago generations too far way back since from the very beginning right from the very start, compared to what's happening now today in this 🌎 😢ly, You might as well "If your lucky enough" either wishing you were literally born without Parents with no records or just be glad you don't have one/be better off without the Horrible 💩 A-hole kind of parents you have.
I’m 32 and still being treated like a child. It’s so exhausting living this way trying to create healthy boundaries but they don’t care about how I feel unless it’s convenient for them.
I'm sorry that you are going through this. You must choose to develop a relationship with Christ for yourself and know His voice for yourself. You must be willing to follow His lead and voice for yourself. Even if it makes people uncomfortable and angry.
What helped me the most with raising my children was the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. It is honestly a game changer
You are so right. I am almost 28 now and can’t take it anymore. My mom asks invasive questions ALL THE TIME and she gets defensive and silent when I tell her i don’t want to share. It’s just energy-draining to repeat the same cycles over and over again.
I stopped confiding in my mother when I turned 21 when I noticed she made fun or shared the info with my narcissistic sister. When I stopped my sister would call and make me feel guilty. Even if I was dating. I said I wasn't. No locks on the bedroom or bathroom. I stopped falling for the guilt trips or manipulation. I started to love myself and put myself first.❤
@@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l Thanks for your comment. I think you cleared up something the Holy Spirit has been trying to tell me. God bless. I pray your strength in the Lord IN THE MIGHTY AND MATCHLESS NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. THE NAME ABOVE ALL NAMES. AMEN. ❤❤❤
My parents LOVE to do the “honor your mother and father” “obey your parents” thing.. I’m 26 years old. I wish they could see that sometimes they’re too much
Perhaps you have to tell them, start discussing and make them understand how you feel about all those things they want you to do. You’re a 26 years old and there is no need to be so strict towards you.
It said honor them. That doesn't mean to agree and abide by everything they do. Also, the verse specifically says, *children* obey your parents *in the Lord*. You are not a child. Therefore you are obligated to obey God, not them.
@@Hifirrrr in 100% honesty, if you have parents that love you, but don't respect you, that will never work no matter what you do. Many parents don't see their "child" as equal to them, therefore they are not worthy of respect. They will never apologize, never take blame, and you will always be blamed, even if you're innocent. There are only a few options, get away from them; move out or whatever, or they would have to literally have a change of heart.
This is my life right now. My mother has zero boundaries and respect for my life choices. She uses guilt and manipulation tactics and it’s ruining our relationship. She doesn’t see it. All of our family members are experiencing this. I truly believe the older she gets she’s getting worse. Her mother was like that and very very black hearted. My 86 year old mother once told us she never wants to be like her mom. Well, here we are. I am brokenhearted over this.
When I turned 18, I was dating a young man with the prospect of marriage. My parents didn’t like that idea. I was still living with them at the time, and one night, he brings me back from a date. My parents were waiting to talk to us about our relationship. They thought we were moving too fast. At the time, I had a car I loved, had worked to pay for it, but when they purchased it for me, I was still a minor, so the car was in their name. They dangled this car over me saying, you can have your car if you stop seeing him. I looked at him, asked him to wait for me outside. I packed my clothes and left with him. We married, and after a few months, seeing their tactic didn’t work, they signed the car over to me. Just one of the many controlling stories of my parents. It’s a shame that some parents learn control over their kid(s) when they are children. The psychological damage takes a toll for most of that person’s life. To which, they don’t care. I’ve found prayer helps me get through it. I know God sees all, and He never forgets.
You see, your parents can only control you and your life when you are staying with them, and it means you are under their control , but the time will come when you will get your job , your own apartment and that's where it will be difficult for them to control you.
I can relate to that. My Mom 100% expects me to get married and have kids but at the same time has cut off every friendship I've ever had with guys and yells at me whenever I talk to one. On top of that, she hates when I go out with friends, even if it's a group of girls. I'm an adult. Praying things get better and trusting God that they will.
Same lol my mom said she wanted a copy in case she was in the area and needed a bathroom…. Umm how about McDonald’s? 🙄 I changed my locks after she went through my bills one day and tried yelling at me for being late on something….10 years later and she’s still asking for keys. I’m still saying no… Narcissists usually don’t change.
"There's a difference between you being who God made you to be, and you rebelling... but they can't tell the difference" Mmmmmmmm THIS RIGHT HERE! 💯🎯👏👌😤😤
@@ValGhoulzz you may just become the complete opposite of your parents - I did. Whilst my parents are still the same today, my relationship with my adult children is healthier than what I ever imagined it would be. You are not defined by your past. You are prepared by your past. Xx ps I hope one day you are blessed with a family ❤❤ Lisa
I appreciate the comment "you dont have to go on vacation together" because over the last 13 years that has been the hardest boundary for me to draw with my parents. They have laid on so much guilt for us going places without them it gives me anxiety just thinking about it. We finally stopped telling them when we went places because i was so psychologically under their control that i couldnt deal with saying no to them. My dad actually looked at me once abd said, "i dont like the person you are becoming" because i was starting to get a tiny bit of a backbone. Hes dead now and i struggle so much with anger towards him as i mature and realize how wrong he was to treat me and ny husband like he did.
This would never sink in with my mother. I won’t be free to live my own life until she passes. She is constantly trying to control every aspect of my life. I live with constant guilt trips if I try to get out of anything. I’m held to incredibly high unattainable standards. I love her but I want my own life.
To you and the other person that replied. How old are you and are you able to have a job that pays a decent amount of money? Are you healthy enough to be independent and mobile? Does your parent(s) have a large (or nicely sized) estate that you would like to inherit? Whoevery you are, your best bet might be to build up your personal wealth as much as possible so that you can walk away and not worry about losing any possible benefits you might be getting. That's probably going to be really, really hard, and maybe not even possible. However, hopefully these questions and comments will spark some kind of inspiration that will help you. (These are general statements and may not work specifically for you because most people here are kind of anonymous.) Good luck to you and everyone.
You're describing my father he's very disrespectful , manipulative , double standard he thinks he can just run my life . He literally makes everything about him he really lacks empathy ! Ps my father wonders why I have severe depression , anxiety issues , suicidal thoughts , have trouble connecting with or trusting people .
Leave him as soon as you can. Separate from him immediately, starting from your internal self. Turn to God as your father, instead of your father who fails to be a healthy person.
I'm 56. My father was a Baptist preacher. He turned into a different person in the pulpit. I married an extremely controlling, manipulative husband. He's a narcissist. I've been realizing my father was actually a sadistic narcissist. He LOVED to spank us/ beat us, and he had ZERO EMPATHY!! NONE! We were his possessions . God is leading me through this hellish realization . He is my only Hope. Jesus never gave up on me.
I thought my parents were “perfect” until I turned to God for Him to reveal to me the truth. My parents treated me so bad and I never understood why! -So sad.
@@lolo2good I think when you're like smooshed up to a wall you can't see the wall. It's like that- when you're too close to a situation/ person, etc., you can't SEE OR REALLY KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU. Once you gain some distance, and time, you can actually SEE . I pray you can heal!
Your situation sounds like mine. I never thought I would have the opportunity to get married or have kids because of my controlling family. You have to put your foot down and take control over YOUR life. What she is doing is manipulative and abusive. I finally got away when I was almost 30. I’m married with kids now, but she still tries to control me. I believe I let them control me because I felt like I needed them…. I don’t.
I'm 44 and just ended up in a knock down drag out fight with my parents and it felt GOOD!!! I'm done with their disrespect and attempts to control. Good bye!!
I deal with this everyday. I have slowly learned to just walk away and not respond. It makes it very hard to provide care for that parent when they need help. I could go on, but Pastor will say what needs to be said.
Mine are very controlling too but are dependent of me because of health issues. I feel like I can’t set boundaries without being negligent in caring for them and helping them.
My mom started micromanaging me from when I was 13 onwards. Most messed up time of my life. Covid-19 pandemic made me stuck with her 24/7. Her justification for is that I made a mistake (people made fun of me for having a parent that overreacted to that situation which could have been solved easily), so she said "my own independent route" is my "path of self-destruction. " I am ashamed to admit I have like zero skills: can't drive a car, can't cook, no work experience, and no friends. She blames these flaws on me and brags that she gained them all herself like an independent woman (because her parents barely cared about what she did). It went to an extent where she quit her job. The only skill I have is being a good high school student - she pokes my flaws even there.
Lets be friends then. Im 37 years old & I also have a similar situation. We need to find some1 who defeated this kind of upbringing bcoz it's very difficult!😢
I’ve basically being guilt tripped all my life as an only child when tryin to make my own decisions I have ruined many things for me. A happy and well planned life They don’t just know their boundaries and that’s not LOVE
I am loving this. You nailed my life. I'm a 34 year old Autistic Adult women. My father was in the army and my mother her own thing. So, long story short my parents try to dictate everything from my clothes, my job occupation and friends. Not saying I'm perfect not by a land slide, but they admitted they sheltered me and are now expecting I become an adult. I ask them questions for guidance and I'm met with anger and 'go fuck off' I want to move out and be my own person, but my father says only after he's dead can I move. I'm now stuck because I know how my parents will react if I move out. I'm depressed and tired of having these little school arguments where I'm always having to apologize for whatever their beef is. One of the most hurtful things my father said to me was ' I can kill you and nobody would fucking care' It hurt me so much and I can't stop thinking 'why does he hate me?' Nothing satisfies him instead of being a father bonding moment I get ' go fuck off I'm busy' Do you have any suggestions or advice because I'm tired of being stressed and made to feel like I was a mistake.
Sweetheart I would not try to have a relationship with him. Pray, keep busy, keep your distance from him. God will make away of escape for you. Take a step back study and do research on narcissistic parents. That will help you to know what to do. Don’t rehash what your father said to you. Fill your mind with what your heavenly father says about you and to you that God loves you. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Praying for you.
The longer you stay in that house, the worse things are going to get. You will have a better chance at establishing a more neutral relationship once you move out and set healthy boundaries. I know it's tough with the economy, but try working in that direction. I started lifting weights to put all my anxiety into something instead of internalizing things bc that's how they can manipulate you. And be as neutral as possible with your parents, especially your dad. Get help with a group, pray, fast, and start saving $$$ if possible. God bless. ❤
Quite a few of those points match my parents. They have interfered in my relationships, choices, etc. at all stages of my life. My dad knew one bible verse pretty well though...that children should obey their parents. Imagine hearing that until you are 40-something--until I got saved. At which point I told my dad "no", that I choose to obey God first, and if my earthly father does not allow me to follow the Lord's leading in my life then he is setting himself up as an idol. He suddenly stopped saying that to me and never said it again.
I can relate to this. My daughter cancelled her own highschool graduation party because my mother threw a fit and made it about her. Then she said she didn't throw a fit and it's my fault. It is an endless cycle of constant guilt. It's exhausting. I'm 41 years old and married. I'm too old for this.
I’m late but maybe someone will see this. My mom (she denies everything) was either miserable, screaming, crying, or manically happy. Everything I did as a child was over analyzed and critiqued. In the meanwhile my parents did whatever they wanted and I covered for their affairs. I was fed and clothed, I wish I’d been stronger. I could blame them for being in a dead end job but pay most bills on time, realistically I could have tried more. If I could tell my younger self something I’d have said join the military, they will just as deliberately yell orders but you may walk away with a brighter future. Just get away from toxic parents sooner the better.
I'm 57 years old and my 82 year old mom is abusive to me for not having grand kids for her. She cuts my hair behind my back. Smears me to people, even in front of me.
I no longer condone any type of disrespect from either of my parents. They go silent or attack mode when i.speak my truth. Thank God, that there is a God!
I was going to write my struggles with my mom. But reading the comments, I read my story over and over again. Guess I'm not alone. Lost a really great gf because I haven't confronted my mom yet. I'm 34 BTW so kids take a stand as soon as you leave the house. Don't waste 15 years.
It took me 40 years to realize that my mom didn’t love me at all. She hated me since the day I was born. I got out of there, I’m glad I don’t associate with her anymore. Ya gotta block them.
@@mariobryant8803 Man, I am truly sorry you have went through such hardships. This life is full of hard tests. I am glad that you have seen the light/truth. No one deserves that to happen.. blessings to you and your loved ones.
My mom got mad at me because I didn’t call my dad for advice regarding a hail damage claim. She recently also complained because she no longer has access to my bank account… I switched my bank account to one not connected to hers a few years ago. I’m in my late 20’s…. When I my boyfriend and I accidentally got pregnant out of wedlock my mom said “what will people think? I never thought this would happen in our family.” 🙄🙄
At 0:55 is exactly how my parents act whenever they're given any form of pushback or criticism. Immediate, "We're just terrible parents then!" and guilt tripping and threatening to disown us. They try to keep us mentally controlled, but they don't want to control our own bills or anything. It's psychotic. If you want to control your child, then pay their bills. Don't still act like this when they're paying their own bills and have proven it for years. I've never asked for anything from my parents that my parents didn't INITIALLY offer. Because I know they will just use it against me if I do ask them for anything. It's sickening. They can't use what they offer you against you though because all you have to say is, "You offered and I took it."
I totally understand! I’m feeling this now in my late 30s. My mother is highly controlling and negative. She seems to never be happy for any good news or plans I have. She overly offers opinions I never ask for and when I try to express myself she’s very dismissive and hangs up on phone calls. She refuses to accept accountability for her bad actions. She doesn’t know how to be my mother as an adult child. I’m her only child. She constantly compares what I do to what she does. It’s like she wants me to be beneath her. I just don’t get it and I have distanced myself I can’t deal with it anymore
My problem is my dad believes that as a female you shouldn't leave the house until you get married. Its like im not aloud to grow up. Leaving is considered rebellion. I cant even have a reasonable conversation without being guilt tripped. Heard him casually telling my babystepsister "your older sister wants to leave us. She doesn't love us anymore"
Some of the fits they throw when they don't get their way is truly psycholtic. They get "sneaky" and "clever" to get their revenge. They literally write you out of their wills. Will God help make up for the lost wealth?
I put my foot down hard when I was a 15yr old Girl. To this day, at 53yo, I still can't tolerate a controlling person! I decided I was tired lf allowing abuse and I won't be manipulated by a mentally unstable adult! Sad that Parents are the lroblem and some kids have to suffer bc their parent(s) is so wacko.
OMG. We were discussing this on Easter. A relative of mine was saying she was having an issue with her son. He is in college. And I advised her to be cautious because it can be controlling. Because the way we respond can makes matters worse.
I see lots of comments, which misinterpreted controlling vs nurturing/educating/parenting! If your are under 22 and your parents are having opinion about your dating life, that called parenthood. Having strict parents who says no to certain things doesn’t mean controlling. In fact, there are plenty of bible scriptures, where God says, strict parenting and even some whoops are necessarily in order to raise a child appropriate. But at the end, you should not fear your parents but fear God! Our God is strict with us as well, because he loves us.
Omg! I literally just told my mom that there’s a difference between having secrets and wanting privacy. It’s crazy that’s the first thing that was said.
If we all listen to this, it's an opportunity to make us better versions of ourselves and be a great parent to our children and not spoonfeeding our adults children. The Bible even says that a man will leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife. We have a responsibility to look after our parents but if they are controlling we need to let them know in a respectful way. Then step back a little but we should not withdraw our love and gifts from them while stepping back to help them readjust. Blessings.
@stepforwardtv1 your msg should be pinned to the top. I think it’s on the rare that people are so ugh that they have to be completely avoided. If we start to take honest looks to see what’s reflecting back, we will see.
Im now 25 years old and im still living with controlling family members. I only just started realizing whats really going on. Ill be 26 here soon. Its really challenging but my biggest goal at the moment is to gain my independence from them. It took me an incredibly long time to realize that the only reason why they believe they have complete control over me is because ive allowed them to be. I started noticing many patterns that they have, and i am no longer allowing myself to suffer just because i wished they would have loved me. I wish everyone in a situation similar to mine the best of luck. I know everyone here can have the life they've always wanted.
I want my mother-in-law to see this after she cursed me and told me that God will punish me because she thinks I am toooooo boastful and proud of my achievements when she didn’t got her way with my husband (her son). It is kind of weird and confusing, but the bottom line is, she was not able to control my husband and she thinks I am controlling my husband when he has his own free will, which made her criticize me in any way possible and then curse me and wished ill will towards me.
This man describes my smother mother perfectly. She always pesters me for information and demands that I vote for her candidate and her party. I disagree politically but feel that I cannot express my feelings around my family.
I just started watching 0:48 and I already see. I have repeatedly told my mother there things she doesnt need to know. She usually says something like "family tell eachother this stuff" or "Did you know this? why was I not told about this"
My mother in law causes all the issues in my marrage. Ive always had the freedom to do what i want with my family. They let me be who i am. But she doesnt let my husband do his thing. It's such a struggle.
I just got out of a relationship with a girl and her parents were extremely toxic. They were very nice and kind to me but the moment i said i was having doubts about our relationship the parents absolutley resented me. they claim to be christians but there was no grace or forgiveness.
Only thing I don't agree with is 1:21- blessing/curssing is part of God's relationship with us. God blesses us via obedience, and he disciplines us unto the thread of even spiritual death as covenant members, while reminding us of the unconditional nature of the relationship of those who are ultimately in Christ. That said, entirely agree with the major threads in this clip. Maturing your children requires allowing them to begin to walk and make mistakes on their own.
If I sent my mom this video, she would be offended. Before taking a second to question why my siblings and I feel she is controlling and manipulative. Whenever my mom is not getting her way, she guilt trips by saying she will just move away by herself and stop bothering everyone (guilt tripping).
My parents right now as I am driving with them! Plus to add to that they get excited about my brother whom is almost 45 taking the trash out and showering! He lives with them no job, no money just bums off of them. He has lives with them rent free for his whole life and yet they are always up in my business how I spend my money and I libe 4 hours away from them and with my own child whom is actually still a child. Always trying to parent my child and everything
They probably already have full control over your brother so there's no need for them to pester him. You on the other hand, they're still working to control
@@bandolierboy1908 they try, but they can't control me. I just recently had to block them. I can't deal with the toxicity anymore. I already have so much peace now. I am planning on moving soon too and will not be sharing my new address with them.
I’m 23 years old and my mom is controlling telling my father not to do a certain task to help me cuz I’m refusing a therapist smh for her to guide me to get my life in order smh she stopped him from getting me a car because I wouldn’t seek therapy 💔
Individuality and rebelling is soooo accurate. I’m 22, decided to date someone and now i’m being punished as if i was a 16 yr old doing adult things. Its tiring
Pastor, you're describing in detail how my parents were with me and my siblings, especially my brother and I (I'm the youngest of 4 siblings). I essentially had to go no contact 😊 my mother for 20 years and limited contact with my father from when I enlisted in the Navy back in 1999 until he passed away in 2005. I didn't see my mother again until 2019, right after I went on terminal leave, but at this point she has been involuntary committed to a facility for elderly people in Puerto Rico. She passed away in 2021. I have forgiven them for the damage they caused to me and my siblings, but some days I think about what they've done and I quickly have to lift it to Jesus so that I don't go down that dark hole again. Believe me when I say this, but I could write a book on how me and my brother grew up and it would amaze people that we didn't wind up on drugs, in jail, or six feet under. Thank you so much for addressing this topic that few choose to discuss and from a Scriptural perspective.
Thank you for this. It sounds very familiar. My parents can be completely overbearing, micromanaging and pathologising. I am exhausted. I don’t know how to help it. I love them a lot. I hope that I can find some answers
I love my parents but Im confused because on the one hand they destroyed stability in my life as far as school is concerned and let me be groomed rather than intervene, and both things had all the negative consequences that any adult would imagine, but setting those things aside it seems to me as though they do care about me very much. So I'm very confused. I don't know which is real or if both realities of my parents can exist at the same time. The greatest pain of all is the confusion.
Mother in law is very controlling. It was bad early on when I started dating my now husband but it got worse after I had my baby. She was supposed to stay with us for 4 weeks to help out but it caused me way much more stress than necessary. I broke down crying and asked my husband to get her to leave. She refused and he had to put his foot down
My husband and i are going through communication issues so strong and it is affecting my health his reasoning is out of this world, and he refuses counselor. My parents: calls us and talks calls his parents to see how they could talk to us and his son because they have tried. My inlaws: believe that they can not be third parties and even if the are ask to inteven they just say we should pray. Even when i tell them that their son does not try to communicate, he refuses to eat, intimacy, frequent anger for NO reason like for real etc. So they think my parents are controlling for asking that their children needs to seek help.and i do not want my husband to insult my family. His father was pretty rough on his mom so i dont know if it is just normal for them in their family. The father keeps saying that we should fix ourself the issue is that my husband is not giving a space for that talk
It was never up to me what I wanted to do when I was a teenager. It was always what my mum wanted me to do and not me.. I was just never allowed a life of my own
Described my in laws. Omg trauma for life. The only reason I stayed is bc I had no where to go at one point. We moved away and 99 percent of the noise is gone. It only took 14 years. Waste of time. It ruined our relationship forever. My husband and I are doing amazing but his parents- I want nothing to do with. His mother gave me anxiety attacks whenever I saw her. Covert narcissist.
My parents interfere with everything. I missed being married so much because my life was much more independent. I am 50 years old. My parents threaten me all the time, for not wanting to go to a horrible holiday drama session, for not filling out accident form fast enough, the list is endless.😊
My parents have made my life miserable..I'm 28 male and I can't go out after 8pm and if I'm late i get a stare...If I had to go out then I've to tell where I'm going and with whom and if I ever saay a girls name I'm screwed...I don't know what to do 😔😔
Don't listen to them, you are 28 years old. You are almost 30. Healthy parents let their 20 year old children go out without having to inform them. From time to time they may ask and that's fine but every single time is absolutely unacceptable and you have no reason to have to report to your parents every time you leave. Also, you have the right to pursue romantic interest just like they did. Do not be controlled by them
I feel like I’m like a dog. Whenever my mom wants me to do, she wants it right away. She couldn’t wait. Since I was young, I was taught to do things her way. If I don’t do that, I got beaten with a long stick. Now that I’m a lot older, she doesn’t accept “I’ll do it later, I’m doing something.” She guilted trip me by acting different. I’m tired of her shit.
Both of my parents are like this. They are unbelievers. I am 47 female, I am a parent myself. My parents still try to control me to this very day. They bring up that I gotta obey them. They tell me that I don't raise my children right. I raised my children different then I was raised, and I raise my children to be with Jesus. I treat my children the way I want to be treated. I don't force my children to do things they don't want to do. I know where my priorities are. God is first, them my children . I keep praying for my parents to come to Jesus.
This topic should definitely be brought to light more often. Some broken adults are just products of a controlling parent
Exactly.
Took the ideas out of everyone's minds, not everyone or every people human or not have the perfect parents, but given how much everything is going on like this right now as it did Helluva long time ago generations too far way back since from the very beginning right from the very start, compared to what's happening now today in this 🌎 😢ly, You might as well "If your lucky enough" either wishing you were literally born without Parents with no records or just be glad you don't have one/be better off without the Horrible 💩 A-hole kind of parents you have.
Hi 😂
Well said
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people not commenting on the video just in case their parents see it.
Lol
So true
Well most controlling parents don't think they are controlling...which is the problem.
😂 So hilarious.
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I’m 32 and still being treated like a child. It’s so exhausting living this way trying to create healthy boundaries but they don’t care about how I feel unless it’s convenient for them.
I'm sorry that you are going through this. You must choose to develop a relationship with Christ for yourself and know His voice for yourself. You must be willing to follow His lead and voice for yourself. Even if it makes people uncomfortable and angry.
I’m 45 married and still I can’t take decisions without my dad always seeing the negative side of everything I want to do
@@ladennayoung2939 I already do
Same 😭 I just want to get out of this situation.
Happens with me too
What helped me the most with raising my children was the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. It is honestly a game changer
You are so right. I am almost 28 now and can’t take it anymore. My mom asks invasive questions ALL THE TIME and she gets defensive and silent when I tell her i don’t want to share. It’s just energy-draining to repeat the same cycles over and over again.
I stopped confiding in my mother when I turned 21 when I noticed she made fun or shared the info with my narcissistic sister. When I stopped my sister would call and make me feel guilty. Even if I was dating. I said I wasn't. No locks on the bedroom or bathroom. I stopped falling for the guilt trips or manipulation. I started to love myself and put myself first.❤
The energy drain is intentional.
And not sharing with one who means you harm or intent to control is smart.
@@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l Thanks for your comment. I think you cleared up something the Holy Spirit has been trying to tell me. God bless. I pray your strength in the Lord IN THE MIGHTY AND MATCHLESS NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. THE NAME ABOVE ALL NAMES. AMEN. ❤❤❤
WALK AWAY. I am 54 and still trapped. Get away while you are young.
Ended up being introvert, low self-esteem person. My life ruined. Appreciate my parents for raising me to become like that
I am so sorry to hear that. But I am struggling like you said too.
My parents LOVE to do the “honor your mother and father” “obey your parents” thing.. I’m 26 years old. I wish they could see that sometimes they’re too much
Perhaps you have to tell them, start discussing and make them understand how you feel about all those things they want you to do. You’re a 26 years old and there is no need to be so strict towards you.
It said honor them. That doesn't mean to agree and abide by everything they do.
Also, the verse specifically says, *children* obey your parents *in the Lord*. You are not a child. Therefore you are obligated to obey God, not them.
@@Hifirrrr in 100% honesty, if you have parents that love you, but don't respect you, that will never work no matter what you do. Many parents don't see their "child" as equal to them, therefore they are not worthy of respect. They will never apologize, never take blame, and you will always be blamed, even if you're innocent.
There are only a few options, get away from them; move out or whatever, or they would have to literally have a change of heart.
@@godservantmusicclass4394This is spot on!!
You’re still in your parents house
This is my life right now. My mother has zero boundaries and respect for my life choices. She uses guilt and manipulation tactics and it’s ruining our relationship. She doesn’t see it. All of our family members are experiencing this. I truly believe the older she gets she’s getting worse. Her mother was like that and very very black hearted. My 86 year old mother once told us she never wants to be like her mom. Well, here we are. I am brokenhearted over this.
I totally feel you on this. My Mom is the same. Zero sense of boundaries for anything and then she wonders why folks don’t talk to her
When I turned 18, I was dating a young man with the prospect of marriage. My parents didn’t like that idea. I was still living with them at the time, and one night, he brings me back from a date. My parents were waiting to talk to us about our relationship. They thought we were moving too fast. At the time, I had a car I loved, had worked to pay for it, but when they purchased it for me, I was still a minor, so the car was in their name. They dangled this car over me saying, you can have your car if you stop seeing him. I looked at him, asked him to wait for me outside. I packed my clothes and left with him. We married, and after a few months, seeing their tactic didn’t work, they signed the car over to me. Just one of the many controlling stories of my parents. It’s a shame that some parents learn control over their kid(s) when they are children. The psychological damage takes a toll for most of that person’s life. To which, they don’t care. I’ve found prayer helps me get through it. I know God sees all, and He never forgets.
Thank you for sharing! Very much helpful❤
You see, your parents can only control you and your life when you are staying with them, and it means you are under their control , but the time will come when you will get your job , your own apartment and that's where it will be difficult for them to control you.
I can relate to that. My Mom 100% expects me to get married and have kids but at the same time has cut off every friendship I've ever had with guys and yells at me whenever I talk to one. On top of that, she hates when I go out with friends, even if it's a group of girls.
I'm an adult. Praying things get better and trusting God that they will.
They still didn’t have a right to dictate her private life after 18. The law would side with her. That was pure blackmail.
Just defy her. It’s none of her business. Legally she has no right either.
My dad wanted my house keys to he said keep an eye on the place. They hide it by acting concern. Narcissistic.
😢😢😢😢😊😊😊😊 5:32 5:32 5:32
Same lol my mom said she wanted a copy in case she was in the area and needed a bathroom…. Umm how about McDonald’s? 🙄 I changed my locks after she went through my bills one day and tried yelling at me for being late on something….10 years later and she’s still asking for keys. I’m still saying no…
Narcissists usually don’t change.
"There's a difference between you being who God made you to be, and you rebelling... but they can't tell the difference" Mmmmmmmm THIS RIGHT HERE! 💯🎯👏👌😤😤
Amen, Amen, AMEN!!! Absolutely the TRUTH!
I pray I do better as a parent
Same
I pray I will never get children
@@ValGhoulzzI pray you never get children either
@@mr.makedonija2627 im so scared to become a toxic/narcissistic parent so thank you
@@ValGhoulzz you may just become the complete opposite of your parents - I did. Whilst my parents are still the same today, my relationship with my adult children is healthier than what I ever imagined it would be. You are not defined by your past. You are prepared by your past. Xx ps I hope one day you are blessed with a family ❤❤ Lisa
“You can’t have a healthy relationship with an unhealthy person’’ this hit home
I appreciate the comment "you dont have to go on vacation together" because over the last 13 years that has been the hardest boundary for me to draw with my parents. They have laid on so much guilt for us going places without them it gives me anxiety just thinking about it. We finally stopped telling them when we went places because i was so psychologically under their control that i couldnt deal with saying no to them. My dad actually looked at me once abd said, "i dont like the person you are becoming" because i was starting to get a tiny bit of a backbone. Hes dead now and i struggle so much with anger towards him as i mature and realize how wrong he was to treat me and ny husband like he did.
This would never sink in with my mother. I won’t be free to live my own life until she passes. She is constantly trying to control every aspect of my life. I live with constant guilt trips if I try to get out of anything. I’m held to incredibly high unattainable standards. I love her but I want my own life.
Me too...waiting to be free.
To you and the other person that replied.
How old are you and are you able to have a job that pays a decent amount of money?
Are you healthy enough to be independent and mobile?
Does your parent(s) have a large (or nicely sized) estate that you would like to inherit?
Whoevery you are, your best bet might be to build up your personal wealth as much as possible so that you can walk away and not worry about losing any possible benefits you might be getting.
That's probably going to be really, really hard, and maybe not even possible. However, hopefully these questions and comments will spark some kind of inspiration that will help you. (These are general statements and may not work specifically for you because most people here are kind of anonymous.)
Good luck to you and everyone.
Amen I know the feeling damn strict parents
So sorry to hear that, you have all the freedom to live how you want to, don’t let your parent dictate your life
@@iryna4364not really how they want, but leading my the holy spirit
That's Why I left ‼️ as soon as I turned 18 ....
I wish I could leave just like you
@@امينةعمروش leave
@@امينةعمروش let’s leave together
Thank you!! Individuality versus rebellion; literally felt so bad thinking I was rebellious, when I wasn’t.
You're describing my father he's very disrespectful , manipulative , double standard he thinks he can just run my life . He literally makes everything about him he really lacks empathy ! Ps my father wonders why I have severe depression , anxiety issues , suicidal thoughts , have trouble connecting with or trusting people .
Leave him as soon as you can. Separate from him immediately, starting from your internal self. Turn to God as your father, instead of your father who fails to be a healthy person.
I'm 56. My father was a Baptist preacher. He turned into a different person in the pulpit. I married an extremely controlling, manipulative husband. He's a narcissist. I've been realizing my father was actually a sadistic narcissist. He LOVED to spank us/ beat us, and he had ZERO EMPATHY!! NONE! We were his possessions . God is leading me through this hellish realization . He is my only Hope. Jesus never gave up on me.
I thought my parents were “perfect” until I turned to God for Him to reveal to me the truth. My parents treated me so bad and I never understood why! -So sad.
@@lolo2good I think when you're like smooshed up to a wall you can't see the wall. It's like that- when you're too close to a situation/ person, etc., you can't SEE OR REALLY KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU. Once you gain some distance, and time, you can actually SEE . I pray you can heal!
Only hope is out
OMG! Im almost 40 & my mom treats me like Im 4. It will take a miracle for me to get married & start my own family.😢
Your situation sounds like mine. I never thought I would have the opportunity to get married or have kids because of my controlling family. You have to put your foot down and take control over YOUR life. What she is doing is manipulative and abusive. I finally got away when I was almost 30. I’m married with kids now, but she still tries to control me. I believe I let them control me because I felt like I needed them…. I don’t.
Let’s get married
Same
I'm 44 and just ended up in a knock down drag out fight with my parents and it felt GOOD!!! I'm done with their disrespect and attempts to control. Good bye!!
prayers..
sounds close to my story..
I deal with this everyday. I have slowly learned to just walk away and not respond. It makes it very hard to provide care for that parent when they need help. I could go on, but Pastor will say what needs to be said.
Mine are very controlling too but are dependent of me because of health issues. I feel like I can’t set boundaries without being negligent in caring for them and helping them.
A good sermon will be parents of Adult married children that triangulate, with siblings and relatives and pressure to submit, thank you
YES YES YES
Its amazing ones who need to control at the level described don't feel they have a problem.
You just described Mark Driscoll
Yes. It is because they are full of pride, egotistical, and arrogant.
they are complete trash heaps. @@ladennayoung2939
my mil, thrives on chaos
@@ladennayoung2939 So they live a false reality.
My mom started micromanaging me from when I was 13 onwards. Most messed up time of my life. Covid-19 pandemic made me stuck with her 24/7. Her justification for is that I made a mistake (people made fun of me for having a parent that overreacted to that situation which could have been solved easily), so she said "my own independent route" is my "path of self-destruction. " I am ashamed to admit I have like zero skills: can't drive a car, can't cook, no work experience, and no friends. She blames these flaws on me and brags that she gained them all herself like an independent woman (because her parents barely cared about what she did). It went to an extent where she quit her job. The only skill I have is being a good high school student - she pokes my flaws even there.
Waw ur situation is so similar to mines 😢
Lets be friends then. Im 37 years old & I also have a similar situation. We need to find some1 who defeated this kind of upbringing bcoz it's very difficult!😢
You are valuable and loved
Yeah I'm debating if I should stop all contact and move away again from my mom
Dont wait another minute. Run.
I say, do it
I’ve basically being guilt tripped all my life as an only child when tryin to make my own decisions
I have ruined many things for me. A happy and well planned life
They don’t just know their boundaries and that’s not LOVE
I’m an only child too. I ended up moving away BEST decision ever 🏃🏾♀️🙏🏾
I am loving this. You nailed my life. I'm a 34 year old Autistic Adult women. My father was in the army and my mother her own thing. So, long story short my parents try to dictate everything from my clothes, my job occupation and friends. Not saying I'm perfect not by a land slide, but they admitted they sheltered me and are now expecting I become an adult. I ask them questions for guidance and I'm met with anger and 'go fuck off' I want to move out and be my own person, but my father says only after he's dead can I move. I'm now stuck because I know how my parents will react if I move out. I'm depressed and tired of having these little school arguments where I'm always having to apologize for whatever their beef is. One of the most hurtful things my father said to me was ' I can kill you and nobody would fucking care' It hurt me so much and I can't stop thinking 'why does he hate me?' Nothing satisfies him instead of being a father bonding moment I get ' go fuck off I'm busy' Do you have any suggestions or advice because I'm tired of being stressed and made to feel like I was a mistake.
Get counseling. NOW.
Sweetheart I would not try to have a relationship with him. Pray, keep busy, keep your distance from him. God will make away of escape for you. Take a step back study and do research on narcissistic parents. That will help you to know what to do. Don’t rehash what your father said to you. Fill your mind with what your heavenly father says about you and to you that God loves you. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Praying for you.
Be much in prayer!! God will give wisdom and strength
The longer you stay in that house, the worse things are going to get. You will have a better chance at establishing a more neutral relationship once you move out and set healthy boundaries. I know it's tough with the economy, but try working in that direction. I started lifting weights to put all my anxiety into something instead of internalizing things bc that's how they can manipulate you. And be as neutral as possible with your parents, especially your dad. Get help with a group, pray, fast, and start saving $$$ if possible. God bless. ❤
That’s very abusive behaviour towards you. I’m so sorry 😢
Quite a few of those points match my parents. They have interfered in my relationships, choices, etc. at all stages of my life. My dad knew one bible verse pretty well though...that children should obey their parents. Imagine hearing that until you are 40-something--until I got saved. At which point I told my dad "no", that I choose to obey God first, and if my earthly father does not allow me to follow the Lord's leading in my life then he is setting himself up as an idol. He suddenly stopped saying that to me and never said it again.
I can relate to this. My daughter cancelled her own highschool graduation party because my mother threw a fit and made it about her. Then she said she didn't throw a fit and it's my fault. It is an endless cycle of constant guilt. It's exhausting. I'm 41 years old and married. I'm too old for this.
I’m late but maybe someone will see this. My mom (she denies everything) was either miserable, screaming, crying, or manically happy. Everything I did as a child was over analyzed and critiqued. In the meanwhile my parents did whatever they wanted and I covered for their affairs. I was fed and clothed, I wish I’d been stronger. I could blame them for being in a dead end job but pay most bills on time, realistically I could have tried more. If I could tell my younger self something I’d have said join the military, they will just as deliberately yell orders but you may walk away with a brighter future. Just get away from toxic parents sooner the better.
I hope you’ll get better❤
I'm 57 years old and my 82 year old mom is abusive to me for not having grand kids for her. She cuts my hair behind my back. Smears me to people, even in front of me.
Go no contact.
I no longer condone any type of disrespect from either of my parents. They go silent or attack mode when i.speak my truth. Thank God, that there is a God!
I was going to write my struggles with my mom. But reading the comments, I read my story over and over again. Guess I'm not alone. Lost a really great gf because I haven't confronted my mom yet. I'm 34 BTW so kids take a stand as soon as you leave the house. Don't waste 15 years.
🙏🏽
It took me 40 years to realize that my mom didn’t love me at all. She hated me since the day I was born. I got out of there, I’m glad I don’t associate with her anymore. Ya gotta block them.
I pray I can find the will to do this one day. I hope you’re doing better today my friend.
@@ChukG-c7l - and my mom lied to me on who my dad was, I had to do a DNA test to find out .
@@mariobryant8803 Man, I am truly sorry you have went through such hardships. This life is full of hard tests. I am glad that you have seen the light/truth. No one deserves that to happen.. blessings to you and your loved ones.
Exact same as me, it dawned on me that she must hate me.
When we played Yuker, it was always her turn to deal. We loved so much, God Rest Her Soul.
My mom got mad at me because I didn’t call my dad for advice regarding a hail damage claim. She recently also complained because she no longer has access to my bank account… I switched my bank account to one not connected to hers a few years ago. I’m in my late 20’s…. When I my boyfriend and I accidentally got pregnant out of wedlock my mom said “what will people think? I never thought this would happen in our family.” 🙄🙄
Thank u for sayin what needs to b said sir.
I'm 52, my parents are in their 70's & I deal with this heavily..
My ex is 30 and when he doesnt come home at a certain time his bipolar mother calls the cops on him😬
Whats terrifying is realizing how abusive your parents are. Its terrifying how he said everything my parents have done or word or word said tocme
At 0:55 is exactly how my parents act whenever they're given any form of pushback or criticism. Immediate, "We're just terrible parents then!" and guilt tripping and threatening to disown us. They try to keep us mentally controlled, but they don't want to control our own bills or anything. It's psychotic. If you want to control your child, then pay their bills. Don't still act like this when they're paying their own bills and have proven it for years. I've never asked for anything from my parents that my parents didn't INITIALLY offer. Because I know they will just use it against me if I do ask them for anything. It's sickening. They can't use what they offer you against you though because all you have to say is, "You offered and I took it."
I totally understand! I’m feeling this now in my late 30s. My mother is highly controlling and negative. She seems to never be happy for any good news or plans I have. She overly offers opinions I never ask for and when I try to express myself she’s very dismissive and hangs up on phone calls. She refuses to accept accountability for her bad actions. She doesn’t know how to be my mother as an adult child. I’m her only child. She constantly compares what I do to what she does. It’s like she wants me to be beneath her. I just don’t get it and I have distanced myself I can’t deal with it anymore
Don’t stop, Pastor Mark! 🔥
My problem is my dad believes that as a female you shouldn't leave the house until you get married. Its like im not aloud to grow up. Leaving is considered rebellion. I cant even have a reasonable conversation without being guilt tripped. Heard him casually telling my babystepsister "your older sister wants to leave us. She doesn't love us anymore"
Some of the fits they throw when they don't get their way is truly psycholtic.
They get "sneaky" and "clever" to get their revenge.
They literally write you out of their wills.
Will God help make up for the lost wealth?
I put my foot down hard when I was a 15yr old Girl. To this day, at 53yo, I still can't tolerate a controlling person! I decided I was tired lf allowing abuse and I won't be manipulated by a mentally unstable adult! Sad that Parents are the lroblem and some kids have to suffer bc their parent(s) is so wacko.
OMG. We were discussing this on Easter. A relative of mine was saying she was having an issue with her son. He is in college. And I advised her to be cautious because it can be controlling. Because the way we respond can makes matters worse.
I see lots of comments, which misinterpreted controlling vs nurturing/educating/parenting!
If your are under 22 and your parents are having opinion about your dating life, that called parenthood.
Having strict parents who says no to certain things doesn’t mean controlling.
In fact, there are plenty of bible scriptures, where God says, strict parenting and even some whoops are necessarily in order to raise a child appropriate.
But at the end, you should not fear your parents but fear God! Our God is strict with us as well, because he loves us.
This Video hit the nail on the Head!
Omg! I literally just told my mom that there’s a difference between having secrets and wanting privacy. It’s crazy that’s the first thing that was said.
If we all listen to this, it's an opportunity to make us better versions of ourselves and be a great parent to our children and not spoonfeeding our adults children. The Bible even says that a man will leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife.
We have a responsibility to look after our parents but if they are controlling we need to let them know in a respectful way. Then step back a little but we should not withdraw our love and gifts from them while stepping back to help them readjust. Blessings.
@stepforwardtv1 your msg should be pinned to the top.
I think it’s on the rare that people are so ugh that they have to be completely avoided. If we start to take honest looks to see what’s reflecting back, we will see.
Im now 25 years old and im still living with controlling family members. I only just started realizing whats really going on. Ill be 26 here soon. Its really challenging but my biggest goal at the moment is to gain my independence from them. It took me an incredibly long time to realize that the only reason why they believe they have complete control over me is because ive allowed them to be. I started noticing many patterns that they have, and i am no longer allowing myself to suffer just because i wished they would have loved me.
I wish everyone in a situation similar to mine the best of luck. I know everyone here can have the life they've always wanted.
5:31 you'd be surprised. My parents said this despite all their kids being in therapy.
This is such an important message!
I want my mother-in-law to see this after she cursed me and told me that God will punish me because she thinks I am toooooo boastful and proud of my achievements when she didn’t got her way with my husband (her son). It is kind of weird and confusing, but the bottom line is, she was not able to control my husband and she thinks I am controlling my husband when he has his own free will, which made her criticize me in any way possible and then curse me and wished ill will towards me.
Dude you hit the topics most people just don't know how to discuss, soo good, iam in total learning and appreciation
Mark is one of the best christian therapist out there
This man describes my smother mother perfectly. She always pesters me for information and demands that I vote for her candidate and her party. I disagree politically but feel that I cannot express my feelings around my family.
I can love my father unconditionally but not with my mother. She is my nightmare and she is responsible for killing my personality and my talent.
I just started watching 0:48 and I already see. I have repeatedly told my mother there things she doesnt need to know. She usually says something like "family tell eachother this stuff" or "Did you know this? why was I not told about this"
THIS IS MY DAD, AND HE DOES THIS WITH ALL SEVEN OF US ADULT CHILDREN, I KEEP MY DISTANCE FOR MANY REASONS BUT THIS LIST TAKES IT!
My ex's parents told me to read boundaries on issues with my mom but when I learned boundaries I learned it with them too and they hated that
This sermon is so needed and monumental 💯💪🏿
Damn he explained my parents . Yikes .
My mother in law causes all the issues in my marrage. Ive always had the freedom to do what i want with my family. They let me be who i am. But she doesnt let my husband do his thing. It's such a struggle.
I just got out of a relationship with a girl and her parents were extremely toxic. They were very nice and kind to me but the moment i said i was having doubts about our relationship the parents absolutley resented me. they claim to be christians but there was no grace or forgiveness.
Only thing I don't agree with is 1:21- blessing/curssing is part of God's relationship with us. God blesses us via obedience, and he disciplines us unto the thread of even spiritual death as covenant members, while reminding us of the unconditional nature of the relationship of those who are ultimately in Christ.
That said, entirely agree with the major threads in this clip. Maturing your children requires allowing them to begin to walk and make mistakes on their own.
If I sent my mom this video, she would be offended. Before taking a second to question why my siblings and I feel she is controlling and manipulative. Whenever my mom is not getting her way, she guilt trips by saying she will just move away by herself and stop bothering everyone (guilt tripping).
My parents right now as I am driving with them! Plus to add to that they get excited about my brother whom is almost 45 taking the trash out and showering! He lives with them no job, no money just bums off of them. He has lives with them rent free for his whole life and yet they are always up in my business how I spend my money and I libe 4 hours away from them and with my own child whom is actually still a child. Always trying to parent my child and everything
They probably already have full control over your brother so there's no need for them to pester him. You on the other hand, they're still working to control
@@bandolierboy1908 they try, but they can't control me. I just recently had to block them. I can't deal with the toxicity anymore. I already have so much peace now. I am planning on moving soon too and will not be sharing my new address with them.
I'm not gonna be controlled by them or their friends etc
I’m 23 years old and my mom is controlling telling my father not to do a certain task to help me cuz I’m refusing a therapist smh for her to guide me to get my life in order smh she stopped him from getting me a car because I wouldn’t seek therapy 💔
Well you are 23 just buy your own god damn car. Go to work and make some money.
@@cloud15487 Your comment would sound more convincing and credible if you didn't take the Lord's Name in vain.
My mom is like this, she is demanding and wants everything to be done her way.
Yes, there is no perfect parents, but there are some EVIL ONES too.
My father loved me unconditionally. My mother, her conditions. So sad.
You are absolutely right
Individuality and rebelling is soooo accurate. I’m 22, decided to date someone and now i’m being punished as if i was a 16 yr old doing adult things. Its tiring
Literally my parents..
I my name is Jonathan and I have a overbearing parent. Please pray for me and others 🙏
I have two overbearing parents. I can relate. I will definitely pray for you.
Pastor, you're describing in detail how my parents were with me and my siblings, especially my brother and I (I'm the youngest of 4 siblings). I essentially had to go no contact 😊 my mother for 20 years and limited contact with my father from when I enlisted in the Navy back in 1999 until he passed away in 2005. I didn't see my mother again until 2019, right after I went on terminal leave, but at this point she has been involuntary committed to a facility for elderly people in Puerto Rico. She passed away in 2021.
I have forgiven them for the damage they caused to me and my siblings, but some days I think about what they've done and I quickly have to lift it to Jesus so that I don't go down that dark hole again. Believe me when I say this, but I could write a book on how me and my brother grew up and it would amaze people that we didn't wind up on drugs, in jail, or six feet under.
Thank you so much for addressing this topic that few choose to discuss and from a Scriptural perspective.
Thank you for this. It sounds very familiar. My parents can be completely overbearing, micromanaging and pathologising. I am exhausted. I don’t know how to help it. I love them a lot. I hope that I can find some answers
“I want to have a healthy relationship with you. ❤” me, to my parentals
my opinion doesn't matter to my parents whatever I say they contradicts it
As soon as I get my own place I’m going to leave and never look back
I love my parents but Im confused because on the one hand they destroyed stability in my life as far as school is concerned and let me be groomed rather than intervene, and both things had all the negative consequences that any adult would imagine, but setting those things aside it seems to me as though they do care about me very much.
So I'm very confused. I don't know which is real or if both realities of my parents can exist at the same time.
The greatest pain of all is the confusion.
Bro hit this on the nail 100 percent
Mother in law is very controlling. It was bad early on when I started dating my now husband but it got worse after I had my baby. She was supposed to stay with us for 4 weeks to help out but it caused me way much more stress than necessary. I broke down crying and asked my husband to get her to leave. She refused and he had to put his foot down
When adults (kids) are constantly asking for money ... I would think it might be okay to ask why?
Yep
Don’t give it to them
My husband and i are going through communication issues so strong and it is affecting my health his reasoning is out of this world, and he refuses counselor.
My parents: calls us and talks calls his parents to see how they could talk to us and his son because they have tried.
My inlaws: believe that they can not be third parties and even if the are ask to inteven they just say we should pray. Even when i tell them that their son does not try to communicate, he refuses to eat, intimacy, frequent anger for NO reason like for real etc.
So they think my parents are controlling for asking that their children needs to seek help.and i do not want my husband to insult my family. His father was pretty rough on his mom so i dont know if it is just normal for them in their family. The father keeps saying that we should fix ourself the issue is that my husband is not giving a space for that talk
OMG the triangulation is so harmful. I would get away from ALL of them.
It was never up to me what I wanted to do when I was a teenager. It was always what my mum wanted me to do and not me.. I was just never allowed a life of my own
Described my in laws. Omg trauma for life. The only reason I stayed is bc I had no where to go at one point. We moved away and 99 percent of the noise is gone. It only took 14 years. Waste of time. It ruined our relationship forever. My husband and I are doing amazing but his parents- I want nothing to do with. His mother gave me anxiety attacks whenever I saw her. Covert narcissist.
My parents interfere with everything. I missed being married so much because my life was much more independent.
I am 50 years old. My parents threaten me all the time, for not wanting to go to a horrible holiday drama session, for not filling out accident form fast enough, the list is endless.😊
My parents have made my life miserable..I'm 28 male and I can't go out after 8pm and if I'm late i get a stare...If I had to go out then I've to tell where I'm going and with whom and if I ever saay a girls name I'm screwed...I don't know what to do 😔😔
Don't listen to them, you are 28 years old. You are almost 30. Healthy parents let their 20 year old children go out without having to inform them. From time to time they may ask and that's fine but every single time is absolutely unacceptable and you have no reason to have to report to your parents every time you leave. Also, you have the right to pursue romantic interest just like they did. Do not be controlled by them
Individuality and rebellion are different 🫰🏽
And sometimes equated to one another with these types of parents, tiring
Powerful message 🔥
Cannot believe I searched on this 😮
I think about calling a homeless shelter to take me in every day, but scared I'd be laughed at.
I feel like I’m like a dog. Whenever my mom wants me to do, she wants it right away. She couldn’t wait. Since I was young, I was taught to do things her way. If I don’t do that, I got beaten with a long stick. Now that I’m a lot older, she doesn’t accept “I’ll do it later, I’m doing something.” She guilted trip me by acting different. I’m tired of her shit.
Both of my parents are like this. They are unbelievers. I am 47 female, I am a parent myself. My parents still try to control me to this very day. They bring up that I gotta obey them. They tell me that I don't raise my children right. I raised my children different then I was raised, and I raise my children to be with Jesus. I treat my children the way I want to be treated. I don't force my children to do things they don't want to do. I know where my priorities are. God is first, them my children . I keep praying for my parents to come to Jesus.
Ever since I was we were young my mom has always told us girls that she wishes God blessed her with boys so we are really going far from her
Kids do owe parents anything, except respect, IF iTS EARNED. Not all parents all worthy.
So how does one deal with this, while living with them (her) in my case AND while having an awakening?
Like, I'm already doing shadow work I don't need your shadow also