Of course I agree that it's up to the married adult children to put up boundaries with their parents in order to protect their marriage. I also think that it's the duty of married son's mother (his wife's mother in law) to take a step back and "release" her son to his wife with full trust. To "pass the baton" to his wife, so to speak. Because so many mothers of sons refuse to do this. It happens all over the world and it has been going on for centuries. This causes untold conflict between wife and mother. If mother will not "step back" on her own, husband MUST set that boundary in order to protect his marriage and he must do it very early on. Before the "power dynamics" set in and become contentious. Because if left alone, this situation can grow and become irreversable and ending in divorce. Happens all the time.
My mother inlaw has been so hart to me and behind my back. She has come a long way, but still says things about me that I dont like. I believe God is helping me with this in a great way. I set a limit to seeing them only once a month. Husband is working with me now on making that hapoen.
What is a couple to do with parents that refuse to have a relationship with your spouse and step child? My husband and his son are not welcomed at there house. I cut off all communications with them. I still love my parents but this seemed to be the only way to protect my husband and step son
Principles of parents in law 1) principles of honor - were to honor them, not obey them except we're children at home. 2) Principle of separation - you have to leave your father and mother to cleave, you have to separate enough to bond. Your parents in law need to understand the need for emotional distance, and they need to honor separation
If me and my spouse came from a broken family and we promised ourselves that whatever it takes we will not repeat our parents mistake and we will fight to have a whole marriage for our future children... Is that considered an inner vow?
Wow! This is great!!… if don’t let anyone to hurt you, you close your heart…!!!… i deeply appreciate sharing all these wisdoms🙏🙏🙏🙏🌺🌺🌺🌺 Also, Wish you talk about dishonoring your spouse with your kids no matter or friends. No matter those kids are both if them kids or one of them!
- They're few problem in laws that are getting their needs met, if they are they won't be dishonoring separation - they lack significance in other areas of their lives. Because they're not bonded with their spouse and are seeking significance, they gain excessive identity through their children.
I need to know how to handle the fact that I do not like or approve of my brother’s wife. He chose a very worldly woman who is controlling, selfish, and incredibly immature. I feel like I lost a brother because of her. He’s completely different, and needs a wake up and deliverance. I pray for them both always, but how things are now makes tolerating much very difficult.
Not by mine nor by power, but by my spirit says the Lord. Pray for his deliverance and be available in a loving way. People are drawn by love, not by judgment. Even though you're judgment is probably true, he may not have an ear to hear that at the moment. It may take time before he realizes that he needs to change his situation, maybe he needs to pray for her. You should pray for her. Also, if she is able to motivate him in the negative, she may be able to motivate him in the positive
Honoring your parents? Say you have tried to take care of your mother and she won't or refuses to accept you to help her bc she has always had resentment for you??
Amen. Protect your spouse from your parents and other inlaws (sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, etc.)
Don’t ever dishonor your spouse in front of your pa😮
Of course I agree that it's up to the married adult children to put up boundaries with their parents in order to protect their marriage. I also think that it's the duty of married son's mother (his wife's mother in law) to take a step back and "release" her son to his wife with full trust. To "pass the baton" to his wife, so to speak. Because so many mothers of sons refuse to do this. It happens all over the world and it has been going on for centuries. This causes untold conflict between wife and mother. If mother will not "step back" on her own, husband MUST set that boundary in order to protect his marriage and he must do it very early on. Before the "power dynamics" set in and become contentious. Because if left alone, this situation can grow and become irreversable and ending in divorce. Happens all the time.
My mother inlaw has been so hart to me and behind my back. She has come a long way, but still says things about me that I dont like. I believe God is helping me with this in a great way. I set a limit to seeing them only once a month. Husband is working with me now on making that hapoen.
What is a couple to do with parents that refuse to have a relationship with your spouse and step child? My husband and his son are not welcomed at there house. I cut off all communications with them. I still love my parents but this seemed to be the only way to protect my husband and step son
Principles of parents in law
1) principles of honor - were to honor them, not obey them except we're children at home.
2) Principle of separation - you have to leave your father and mother to cleave, you have to separate enough to bond. Your parents in law need to understand the need for emotional distance, and they need to honor separation
Great insights from the very first sentence.
God bless you always Sir.
If me and my spouse came from a broken family and we promised ourselves that whatever it takes we will not repeat our parents mistake and we will fight to have a whole marriage for our future children... Is that considered an inner vow?
Don't dishonor your spouse in front of your parents
Wow! This is great!!… if don’t let anyone to hurt you, you close your heart…!!!… i deeply appreciate sharing all these wisdoms🙏🙏🙏🙏🌺🌺🌺🌺
Also, Wish you talk about dishonoring your spouse with your kids no matter or friends. No matter those kids are both if them kids or one of them!
Wow wow wow! Powerful and Amen!
- They're few problem in laws that are getting their needs met, if they are they won't be dishonoring separation
- they lack significance in other areas of their lives. Because they're not bonded with their spouse and are seeking significance, they gain excessive identity through their children.
THANK YOU JIMMY , so so good !! 💖🙏
This video should be shown at every church during their pre-marital counseling.
At 7 mins..but not as title says
This was powerful 🔥, I learned so much about the inner vow and the prayers at the end 🙌🏾 thank you powerful man of God🙏🏾
Amen!!!❤
The worst abusers in marriage are the people that have inner vows in their lives, because the inner vows makes them go to the extreme.
I need to know how to handle the fact that I do not like or approve of my brother’s wife. He chose a very worldly woman who is controlling, selfish, and incredibly immature. I feel like I lost a brother because of her. He’s completely different, and needs a wake up and deliverance. I pray for them both always, but how things are now makes tolerating much very difficult.
Not by mine nor by power, but by my spirit says the Lord. Pray for his deliverance and be available in a loving way. People are drawn by love, not by judgment. Even though you're judgment is probably true, he may not have an ear to hear that at the moment. It may take time before he realizes that he needs to change his situation, maybe he needs to pray for her. You should pray for her. Also, if she is able to motivate him in the negative, she may be able to motivate him in the positive
Honoring your parents? Say you have tried to take care of your mother and she won't or refuses to accept you to help her bc she has always had resentment for you??
This is a great, great, great advice
Amen
Parents ❤