Parenting skills: Dad shows how to deal with a child's tantrum. | Parenting advice
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2020
- When spoiled kids get told NO in Walmart: Watch this US dad teach his daughter a lesson in viral video with 22m views on Facebook
Just an ordinary day in the life of being a parent. This dad,Terrel "RICO RELZ" Crawford, shows his way to get through the infamous store tantrum and a screaming child. The video has seen now well over 80million views around the world from being shared by so many.
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Much easier to teach a child than fix an adult.
Well said and pointed out. Can you imagine an adult behaving like that. They need to understand NO. 👍🇬🇧
@Teresa Calarie seriously?...my mom disagrees with you...lol
preach
TRUTH!!!
@@lydiapetra1211 your mom, have, the arma secreta, right?
She is just a typical healthy child testing her boundaries. But the father dealt with it so well, unlike many parents today. You can tell her cry was a fake cry. But she is still a cutie.
screamqueen,,,,,,, ONE LOVELY, REAL FATHER AND MAN...... AND YES , SHE'S BEAUTIFUL.....
@Tabora Exactly. My daughter tried exactly 4 times when she was around 1 year old. As I didn't nudge at all with her antics and as she discovered that it was only drawbacks, i.e. it didn't advance her "want", she realized quickly that it was better not to do tantrums: smart child. My older son, now 22, still hasn't completely understood the lesson: not so smart child.
@Soft Breezy Day
She is crying to test the boundaries and to get her will through, only way to properly learn kids that this doesn’t help is just this way.
There was absolutely no publicly humiliation in this fathers actions. Totally correct behaviour. And saying that he is breaking his daughter down or similar is just unfortunately the kind of nonsense some people of today use. That’s why we have so many adults even that totally lack manners since they don’t know the boundaries.
Your children will love you if you are a good parent and this is being a good parent, loving, caring and can also able to discipline the child.
@Soft Breezy Day who tf are you to them?
Their aunt?
It doesn't in the slightest feel like you're a parent with the shit you said.
@Soft Breezy Day honestly I stopped reading when you mentioned too much on what YOU did but I took a second round and you're still basically doing what the man did. In no way that was feeding his ego but the way you're bragging about what you did sent a diff message tbh
No verbal or physical abuse - just discipline. You rock!
I agree however depending on what they do they will get disciplined and should.
And posting it on youtube for the entirety of the internet to look at so her friends at school can laugh at her on her tantrum! Best parent ever!
Nothing wrong with physical discipline
Thank you. I’m sick of people calling it a “meltdown”. It’s a temper tantrum. He is stern without being mean. He is doing his daughter a service ❤
Indeed. If he did not discipline her now, she is the one going to suffer in her adult life. He is teaching her to live life the right way. Parents these days do not have time to discipline. That is why we have brats who feel entitled.
Is there some deep difference between a meltdown and a temper tantrum?
I do that same thing when my boyfriend tells me no in target...so I think I can relate. 😂
@@leobriccocola8141tantrums have a goal meltdowns don’t
Infamous store tantrum
If you raise your children, you can spoil your grandkids
If you spoil your kids, you’ll have to raise the grandkids...
The gospel truth 🙌
Yes ma’am
Whoa..
Facts!!!!
I like this!
" But baby, she's just 2 years old "
Yep ! And the perfect age to learn how to behave.
Exatly !👶
Oh yes i hateeeeee when people say that, particularly those little old ladies who think because the child is "cute" it needs to be spoiled rotten 🙄
There’s a reason they call it the terrible twos
PERIODT!
Parents teach self-regulation to young children by helping them to calm their nervous system when they are upset. This is called, "co-regulation". It is a way to maintain emotional connection and trust between parent and child while helping the child to get better at self-regulating.
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OMG I LOVE this man! That is how it's done. No child abuse just discipline. LOVE IT
Amen!
EXACTLY! Kids need discipline, but people mistake that for meaning physical abuse. This man is a great example to dads out there.
except presenting his child to the whole world
@@blackwater4100he’s educating the horrible parents in todays world
in Africa we beat
High FIVES to you Dad for how you handled the 'attitude adjustment.' with patience, calm voice, consistency, and the child learning a lesson on "logical consequences". Using force on a child might end the situation quicker but often leads to deep resentment and an angry child who grows into an angry adult and repeats the pattern. You get a GOLD star!
Shut up paulette
"I ain't going to argue with a kid" that's probably the best point of this. He made a lot of good points, but that was my favorite.
Have you seen the video of a mom and her kid arguing? Its crazy whats going on
The world needs more dads like this!!!! Great job daddy 👏
Aaww good Daddy he is you can tell by the way he don't care to wipe her nose on his T Shirt and calls her his princess but his words are the most true words I've ever heard
I know, right?? I have seen videos where the mom will get in a huge debate with a 3 year old and I’m like, 😬🙄 What are you honestly teaching them by doing that?? This man was totally fair with her.
He's an awesome dad and she is adorable
I like how he talks to her like a person and not a child, they respect that
Absolutely!!!!!!👍🏻big thumbs up
What??? Bro that is a child how he talks to her is just his way of being a father
@@theworldchico6845 if it needs spelling out, he's explaining himself and teaching her at the same time without losing his shit. Many parents just bark orders, seriously
Not at all. Everyone these days likes to view children as just adults in small bodies. Children do not have that same reasoning abillities. Which is why reasoning with small children rarely works.
@@williamallen7836 I think you may be right and wrong. Kids don't learn anything if you model your parenting behaviour after them. They do need a parent who is willing to teach from an adult perspective otherwise, there is little cognitive development. You are correct that a child's ability to process things like an adult is lacking, but guiding their behaviour as an adult and treating their decisions as though they have consequences is very important.
His kids will grow up to be good providers & out of trouble. They have an involved dad. Props to this dad!!
What surprises me most about this, is that the comments are almost entirely positive and supportive of this man. That's almost as rare as a good parent. Keep it up, people, you are all winners today!
Facts man too many trolls and uncalled for disrespect
He blamed himself for his daughter's tantrums saying that parents are to be blamed for spoilt kids, and then he went on and taught his child a lesson. Love it.
Good. I was just thinking that. I always blame the parents or people who are caring for the child for the child’s learnt behavior. 🤷🏻♀️
When you care.....it shows, it is what parenting is about,be an adult first....when you pass THAT TEST....then be a parent....not the other way around.
He blames other parents for letting their children get away with bad behavior.
And is the real true..... we give them everything as we think it will make them happier then you were when you were younger .... but is the biggest mistake as they climb the mountain and god knows how to put them down.
The worst is when one parent spoils them and the other parent is strict ( what happened,,,, child gets confused 😐)
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the “way” (singular) he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Proverbs 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his SOUL FORM HELL
GOD
Taaadaaaaa a parent that actualy cares how his childs current actions are going affect future actions.
Thank you! The stuff I’ve seen lately with people i know is crazy.
Good dad! Plus she’ll see she can’t push your buttons and get her way. She will know she can talk to you without you flipping out every time and that’s important for a little girl to know she can go to daddy and talk. Great job dad!!!
@@NanaD-ve9tt You make such a great point about the little girl being able to go to her Dad with anything.
@@NanaD-ve9tt👍👏
Take AMEN, Donna! This young father reminded me of my Daddy. He had the same opinion that encouraged me to NOT settle for 2nd best & instilled in me to KNOW that I had great worth, 1st as a child & then as a woman. I could tell him ANYTHING & never face ridicule or judgement. That made me see my worth to the Lord & how much He loved me! It also instilled respect in me for Him, God & authority, something in great need of these days. I'm so proud of this young Daddy who possesses such wisdom & common sense! He needs to give classes to today's parents, DESPERATELY! God Bless this wonderful young Father & his precious family.
Take care of yourself & family & stay healthy & safe, Donna.
Ruthanna Bauer 🕯☮️💟🙏🏽blessings to you and your family from your friend in New Jersey
Now THAT is a parent. Dad of the century right there. He spoke nothing but truth.
I can only imagine the number of people (parents or not), who would condemn this man.
Funny thing is, there are so many so called adults in this country alone who have spoiled their child from birth to a certain age then decide after so many years of spoiling them to start disciplining them and then wonder why they won't listen or behave.
In that regard, this man should teach a class.
His face while she’s whining. Lol. He’s a good dad! He uses discipline with his words. She will appreciate him. I feel she’ll have good communication with him as she gets older. You don’t want your children to fear you, you want them to *RESPECT* you. There is a difference.
She understood every single word he was saying to her. It all up to how the parents first react.
Indeed 💪
That's right sister
You will not want to see how my parents would react in this situation
I don’t think that she understood the term suck it up.
That’s what I was thinking. She knows she was wrong and she’s ok about it!!
Never ONCE did he raise his voice. That’s something right there.
But WTF is in his ear...
@@xxxod an earring? Idk I didnt see anything besides that
@@xxxod i think its a tattoo
@@pokaay3163 Dude his left ear has like some playdough in it
Like he would raise his voice when filimhg hisself
This may be the absolute best dad I’ve ever seen. Saving this for when we have children ❤
how is shaming them online good parenting?
@@dariusftw3378 That's not shaming, it's parenting and the guy is sharing his thoughts and experience with other people and parents. Good learning opportunity for all parties involved.
That's right. He did the right thing by taking his daughter out of Walmart because being in the store is a privilege.
@@dariusftw3378 it flew right over your head didn't it?
@@dariusftw3378 he’s not allowing his daughter to throw a fit or get her way. It’s an example for other parents to stop coddling their children to the point of spoil.
Spoil the kids, let them rule the house, then send them to school to act like fools 🙄 Thank you Dad from a teacher! 😉
Nah humanity would collapse as we grew more immature and dumb... we smarter than that... and worked way too many eons to allow that...
Kids are smart. Talk to them, no need to beat them.
Clearance Couponing Deals & More This! I would never beat my kids
Tell that to an African mom😂😂😂
African cake - lol, same!! 😂😂😂
There's a difference between Spanking & beating your kids.
Its easier to teach them without pyshical punishment not going to lie, it takes way less emotion and less energy. That being said the parents that cams before best not enforce that on me because they started that and then make laws to prevent it, which is hipocrasy at its finest
He talks to her like a person and not a little child. He’s teaching the lesson of a child to a child but he’s doing it in a way that doesn’t baby her. What a great man and dad.
Edit: Yes, I am aware that children are people. I guess I should’ve used the word “puppy” instead to make that clear. But there _is_ a difference in how little children are spoken to in comparison to everyone else. It’s called “baby talk.”
💯💯💯💯👍😍
I grew up with this type of upbringing. and I turned out well.....
Ok that baby talk is unnecessary , back and forth talk is not good when you want to discipline your children.
IIn Love11 I never said it was (back and forth). And definitely not at that age. The guy said it himself; they need to know who’s boss.
However, if it’s with an older child, like late teenager ... In my experience, seeing their side of things might be best depending on the situation. When my mom was teaching me how to drive, at one point we were on a busy road and I’d accidentally missed a turn. I then made a right turn when she told me to take a left, and she started yelling at me for not listening to her. When I tried to explain my side, she interrupted and started yelling for talking back to her, naturally making me upset.
However, after she’d gone inside the store and come back, she’d apologized to me for not letting me get my piece in. She let me explain. New driver jitters plus being scatterbrained plus the mistake caused me to start freaking out, so I made the nearest and safest turn in a lot so I could catch my breath. I didn’t understand how to make that left turn because I’d never done it in that situation before. She’d always told me that if I got too emotional or nervous to drive, I needed to find somewhere safe to stop so I could regroup. She ended up apologizing and saying that I was right and did the right thing. One could say that’s not a good way to teach a teenager discipline, but I disagree because it depends on the situation. That moment taught me how to make up and get over an argument with someone calmly and without yelling. Talking things over maturely. I love my mom very much ❤️
I agree. Sometimes spanking is not the answer.
That's exactly how I raised all my kids. I wouldn't put up with them acting like that at home or in public. He's doing exactly the right thing!
Gotta say, You are an amazing father! More parents need to see this advise.
This is why absent fathers are such a problem we need more dads like this guy.
Totally not trying to be rude but you see he has a mixed child? I feel that black men don't love their black children as much as these "mixed" kids. I see more black babies with no father's but the mixed ones with them and the mothers way more often..... Like ....
That shit makes me sad af.
Lifeless Love: Not my experience from friends and exes in Sweden that are mixed. But their fathers were from different African countries and not settled in Sweden like a couple in America might be already settled in America so that might make it different though. But their fathers often left too.
@MindYour OwnBusiness I mean there's a lot of other races that do this ya know don't get me wrong I don't want to offend anyone if I indeed did. It just seems like the black man is ashamed to have their own. Are white people trophie tokens to claim or any other races than bkack?? What makes someone not love what they created regardless of hardships that are happening to one's self?? And I'm just asking in general as a thought. There's also mothers out there doing the same thing ya know!?? Like. Why are people sooooooo.....fucked up. This was indeed a good video though but unfortunately someone is going to watch this and do the complete opposite.
Yes totally true. Kids need both parents. I raised myself and I was lucky I raised myself right. My kids dad have been in and out their life and now since their grown he wants to be in their life. Kids need both parents and they need to be taught respect, manors and love. Not being spoiled is a must. Too many spoiled kids. I grew up in the ghetto and homeless and I wanted to give my kids what I never got to have but sometimes they get spoiled and they need to learn right from wrong. I agree with this guy 100%
No. It isn't the absent fathers that are the problem. It is the mothers blaming everything on the absent fathers that's the problem. Mothers in this situation need to step it up and teach those kids right from wrong. Period. I had an absent father and it changed nothing in my Mothers eyes on her expectations of me. I thank her every day for that. Now that I'm an adult....haha.
I nominate this guy to be the moderator of the next presidential debate.
ABSOLUTELY!!!! GOOD ONE!!!
I second that
You know you need to teach an on-line class!😁
I strongly agree. That debate was the worst thing I’ve ever watched
Please. Run for office or principal of a school. We need him!
That is a great father. Hats off to this father and his parenting skills. So many people can learn from this young man's message! Thank you for sharing this video and schooling so many.
Great father apart from the hygiene, spreading bacteria on his clothes
@@serinadelmar6012 Perhaps you saw something that I didn't. Aside from him picking his daughter up off the car after she calmed down. With that being said, it's amazing that you have someone that is that patient and firm but loving with his daughter. Yet you can always count on some hater, trying to find anything to be negative. Grow the hell up!
@@serinadelmar6012says the lady alone in her car wearing 2 masks
@@bobk2899 hater? bizarre take I’m talking about hygiene, it’s a little different.
@@adamlilly2548 said, some deluded moron on RUclips with not the slightest iota of comprehension nor even grasp of reality.
Needs met first. Hungry kid? Tired kid? Short fuse. This is him teaching his kid to self regulate. He's being her safe place while she calms herself down. Strong CHILL Daddy teaching his Princess how to adjust her crown, hold her head high, and walk proud, even when she's tired or overwhelmed. Love and Grace based parenting is so beautiful! Bless this family! ❤
Not only he teaches her to stop without any whoopings or yelling. He waited outside the place until she stopped. Most parents would still roam the store without even trying to calm them down the right way. He waited patiently where there arent people to get annoyed and mad about a baby crying all the time. This is a pure man with a beautiful child. Literally has the true gift of patience and taught me something to use when im older and ready for kids. Cause i dont believe in whooping kids
Yeah very considerate to others. I remember once while shopping at wallmart there was a kid yelling his head off because his mom wouldn't buy him a cereal box. The mom just didn't agree to buy it and let the boy scream like crazy for half an hour. So unacceptable and annoying for everyone who was there.
For real my mum used to pull me by my ear but that was probably just because I was a crazy kid
Same
Katya, It’s unacceptable for you, but it’s not aboutyou or anyone else in the store. You deal with kids on an individual basis. I used to ignore everyone else and deal with my child the way that works for them. It’s called parenting.
@@can.du.8116 your right they didn’t use the right words parenting is not easy for everyone and they do the best way they know how in that moment and I’m not even a parent to have to understand that
As a teacher, I get so sick of dealing with kids who never hear "no" at home and then expect to get away with whatever they want in the classroom. I've talked to soooo many parents who let their kids run the show. This guy is doing it right.
I'm a teacher an get this always! It's like you're teaching them rules they've never come across before
Wow!!
Yesh S what a nightmare. So you basically clean up other parents mess daily! I would lose it! Hats off to you 💕🙌✊👏👍🏼
I am not a teacher but I have come across this numerous times as a nanny. What I found to be most effective, was to make clear what your expectations are. You could probably write them down on a large poster board and display it in the classroom. If a student breaks a rule you can refer them to the classroom rules and ask them what rule they broke. Tell them that this is their last chance and if they do it again the punishment will be X? Insert disciplinary action. From the very first day of school talk with them, explain the rules and consequence for misbehaving. As you are going through the rules ask the student why each rule is important. I would also make it clear that your approach to discipline is different from what happens. Simply say that their parents aren’t here, you are in my classroom and therefore responsible for following class rules.
@@dreshany1345 yes great idea! I do this, setting expectations and sticking to consequences!
I love how he ended it with positive affirmations, affirming her strength and ability to move on. I screamed when she went from crying to waving at people... lol
Children who have boundaries feel safer. Children who are taught self-control are much, much happier. Good for you, Dad! God has given you wisdom about this.
This reminds me of something Dr. Phil will say: You’re not raising children, you’re raising future adults.
Geo Dude which is a child ... just saying
Xavier Armstrong Which they turn into adults sooner, in a blink of an eye 👁.
Maria Lindell 💯
Much like Dr. Phil, this guy is exploiting a minor for entertainment/to feed his superiority complex. Someone with supposed impeccable parenting skills sure as hell hasn't thought of his daughters privacy and future implications of this
Phil's a fraud. Remember the catch me outside sorry episode? That was scripted and Phil was promoting that for them
This is a wise, patient, measured and strong parent. No yelling, screaming or hitting, just no nonsense, loving discipline. Kudos to this dad.
This is how it should be
@Romeo ThePLUG Mostly true, however, the cycle of abuse has to end somewhere. I had a very abusive mother, father. Verbally, physically, emotionally. My mother would sometimes keep me home from school long enough for the welts, bruises & cuts to heal. My father finally stopped beating me when I was 16, grabbed ahold of his belt from his hand, hit him in the face with the buckle. 16 stitches on his face. He never tried to hit me, again once he got a taste of his own disciplinary technique. My mother would "discipline me" by withholding food & water. I was so skinny because of this.
@Romeo ThePLUG The cycle of abuse CAN be broken. I got some intense counseling & broke the cycle of abuse. My 4 kiddos got firm, loving discipline without spankings. Without even time outs. They wrote sentences, often. If they were fighting, I would sit them both down to discuss, talk it out, calmly, with thought, with reason. With both refraining from name calling, accusations or "making faces." All 4 are grown adults, happily married, educated, doing what they love in their careers.
@@FreeSpirit47 😢
I love how you didn’t say crying because no matter gender and sex they are allowed to cry but other things like screaming and hitting are not it.
This father gets my thumbs up!... My father and mother had 5 boys... we never were spoiled right from the start. That would have been impossible!.. . We lived in a house of 9 people along with grandma and great grandma. 3 boys shared 1 large bed most of the time. If we were doing something wrong all my dad had to do was look at you in a certain way and you knew what was up and that was the end of that!
Did he hit you?
@@enemdisk6628 We all got spanked on our butts if the transgression was serious enough... Like the time we broke our neighbor lady's back yard fence down while stealing peaches from her peach tree one summer night. We were all lined up and got a good hard spanking- and never even thought of doing it again!
It all starts at home one way or another. This man is right, I applaud him.
Dear parents who have trouble disciplining there child: Sometimes being the "Bad Guy" IS being the "Good Guy"
This is so true.
Ppl need to hear this more.
Agreed
Yep. As a parent, your child should love and respect you, but no matter what you do they won’t always like you. Discipline makes the difference between your kids just being mad at you or them playing the “I hate you” card
Well,!!! You better say that!!!
Some day that young lady is going to be realize how lucky she was to have had a dad loved her enough to be her parent instead of always trying to be her friend.
Well done, Dad. You need your own parenting show, Man! We need more daddies like you.
Well said.
You got that right!
i was spoiled but when my parents said there not goin to buy me sumthing i was fine with that sum kids just hav different personalities
@@randyholli2258 There is some truth in that. I was also spoiled, but I was made aware of the fact and, as much as I was able to at my young age, always tried to keep it in mind. Not as a shaming tactic but simply to try and maintain a sense of perspective. My parents were very lenient overall, but they also respected me as an individual and always put their foot down if I was misbehaving or acting out. As soon as I was old enough to understand, they wouldn't just punish me, they'd ask me if I understood why. Children may not be adults, but they are still people. At least in my case, the dialogue was important and valuable.
If you wrote a book, I'd buy it! Respect from one father to another. Correcting my two year old sons bad behavior has been a problem for my wife and I. He's are second son and he's a little wildman. This has been greatly inspiring. Pen that book bro!
Thank goodness for a sensible father that’s not putting up with tantrums!
The little girl is really cute , the father is talking to her and not yelling at her , there is a difference , he’s respectful the whole time and he is funny 😄
I understand what you mean, but he does not respect her feelings and manipulates her as if she was an object that he has the control of. He does not show love to her but tells her, that if she does not cut down her feelings, she will not be recognized. Her sad feelings dont bother him. Even though we as adults also sometimes have sad feelings and just need somebody who understand.
Great is that he does not yell at or hurt her, that he got her out of the situation and talks to her like with an aduld and does not spoil her. But the signal he teaches is not what i would like to teach my child, like "if you dont act like i want, i dont love you"
Different races shouldn't mix wtbs all children aren't cute
kuddelkate Here’s the thing though. He didn’t manipulate her. If he manipulated her than all
Parenting tactics are manipulative.
Throw a tantrum in Walmart? >> We’re gonna sit outside until you calm down.
It’s teaching her that he will not tolerate that behavior and when she acts that way she will have a consequence. Letting her cry it out helps her with emotional control. “Are you done?” It’s the same thing as letting her cry it out.
He didn’t “cut down her feelings” she was throwing a tantrum in Walmart. Which is never cute.
What was he supposed to do?
aderline johnson different races shouldn’t mix? Lol get offline and go read a book.
@@kuddelkate how would you do it if your kid start acting out in walmart? and in a situation where they don't stop just because you tell them to.
She's going to be a strong woman because of her daddy
Jesus loves you ❤
@@thedancingmoonfoxy7272 Jesus loves you too
@@zombrz jedus died for me
@@bighenry8405 yesssiirrr
hes abusive. you idiots have no idea
I’m totally with you Dad. Excellent job. You are setting the right expectations and teaching her the right lessons. People don’t realize that they do NOTHING good for their kids by spoiling them. That’s hurting them in the long run. I remember someone said years ago… “I’m not raising a child, I’m raising an adult.” In other words, we are raising our children to be fully functioning adults, not grown immature children. And there are plenty of immature grown people out there pretending to be adults. And nobody wants or needs any of their foolishness. Our kids are going to have to run this world one day. We need them to be prepared to do that.
Can we acknowledge how this man never once raised his voice
Your name confused me for a moment 😂
@@multifandom_comfort_charac6894 sameeeee
Yes as someone who has confict problems i cant stand raised voices it scares me. So i really appreciate that.
He said he raised his voice in his house but not in public
He did not raise his voice. But he was very aggressively toned. He also judged her very very negatively. She is a child. She’s not a fool. She’s not whining. We can have the same boundaries and be non-aggressive Her desires and feelings are valid. That doesn’t always mean she will get what she wants. Processing feelings in a healthy way will allow her to let go and except more quickly. His response to her and his words to her might be taken ass he doesn’t care about her. Or he may not be someone she is comfortable opening up to in the future.
"Walking with your Mom is a privilege". Thank you Dad, for honoring your daughter's Mother.
I was just thinking that, also reinstalling responsibilities that some kids fight against as a privilege will also help them grow up to be more responsible.
I know some kids I grew up with that would throw tantrums because they had to go to the store.
This man is a perfect parental role model. His children's futures are bright.
Wow🥺 how he honors the mother
Thank you so much!
And yet he said right out of his own mouth that his own mother beat the sh|t out of him. So yes, "honour" the mothers....the world's most perfect beings. 🙄
@@ACS402010 did he say that? Hmmmm..🤔🤔🙄
I respect this dad! He's taking responsibility for his daughter and holding her accountable in a calm, nonchalant way. We need more dads like him!
Ah, she's cute, especially when she's trying to stop crying, and conversing with dad. But what a great dad. Well done, dad. You're talking words of wisdom, and it works perfectly.
I felt like he was talking to me, too. I stopped crying.
dude xD
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Me too!
Same
Carolyn Walker!!🤣🤣🤣🤣 for real!! Me too!!
“Don’t give them what you never had, teach them what you wish you were taught.”
- I honestly forgot
good point because this is where so many of us parents have felled..
Bruce Lee was it
Thank you sir I honestly forgot
shouldn't it be " give them what you never had...?
I think it was Bruce Lee who quoted that
Dad is showing respect of Dad He is their to love you Teaching is LOVE
What a good Dad. I can’t find one mistake he made. Lord, PLEASE give more children good Daddy’s like this one! God Bless you, your beautiful daughter and everyone you love.
Black fathers are the most involved per Pew research. Look it up.
This is the moderator we needed for the presidential debates.
Ok lol
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Omg yeah
yess😅
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he told the truth. many parents are too busy trying to be friends to their children instead of teaching and disciplining them. good job dad
Or they want youtube to raise them and give them the bare minimum of attention.
They shouldn't be mutually exclusive
You can be friends with your child while also being stern enough.
Sure right lord knows I’m a living witness!!! Live and learn do things different they respect you better with discipline, it’s ok to say No, too many yes is a bad setup and if u want it earn it!!!
And it helps to have both parents in the household.
100% agree. Never had to beat my daughter. I corrected bad behavior immediately with a stern voice and didn’t allow her to control me. I’m the parent. She’s 22 now in college with straight A’s and two jobs. We talk every week. Her bond with me is stronger than her mom. She will call me first with news or serious issues. Even though she’s an adult now, she still needs a father to advise her. We never stop parenting. My advice to parents, stop treating your kids as friends. When you want to jump back to parent mood their minds aren’t developed enough to switch back and forth. That’s why you get push back cause they view you as a friend. Don’t cause at or in front of your kids. They earn mostly from actions when they’re young so don’t be surprised when lil man get in the second grade and curse the teacher out. It wont be cute then.
A copy of this should be given to every parent, it's sublime.
She's happy because her wise father has set boundaries, made her aware that she is powerful by deciding to get control of her emotions, and therefore feels both loved and good about herself.
Wow, what a deep and insightful remark.
This is how I parent my kids when they were younger but I gave them whoopings 2! I was very strict as they were growing up, now I’m like a hippy parent now.. give them freedom, they are independent and self sufficient. I get compliments on how well behaved my children are. I also parent them different as they were growing up because of their different personalities. You have to do what works for the child. You do want them to be adults who are emotionally balanced.
@@juliestarks1279 any advice? I want to be strict but not have to rely on whooping all the time. I'm nowhere near ready to be a parent but it's good to know for the future
@@angelstarfire Do not yell or create a negative relationship with a kid first off.
You should find a healthy way of making the rules clear and understood.
Also like when you promise something, do it and don't fail your kid. Teach them proper sex-ed if you are American and make it clear that you will give some cash for protection when they get to that age.
Like "Take the trash out and you get XX amount of money" and you do it. Teach them how to manage money (helpful).
Let them socialise and advice on how to be a good friend. If you notice a friendship is not healthy anymore, talk to your kid and explain the situation in a respectfull manner.
Do not force your own beliefs on a kids, if you cannot do that then you should not be a parent.
*DO NOT* set up cameras in their rooms or take their phones away for the night (the phone thing is fine, but there is a time when we start dating and getting crushes and late night talks are very nice bonding time if it has turned into an addiction, try solve what has cause it and correct the behavior in a healthy way. I am addicted to my phone, because currently it is the thing to help me cope with my depression and anxiety. I can stay away from it and be fine, but having it means that I have an escape route. Thus I can function better.). Setting up cameras is borderline nearing controlling and abusive parent behavior. It makes us hate you more.
This is all from the point of someone from a "strict" family that never had official rules. I have never really had a time to come home because I never went out. In the cases I did go out, I informed my parents and they would call me when I needed to come home. If I was late, I would not be screamed at, but talked to. (Be calm when doing the talking, yelling makes it worse) My parents would explain that I needed to be home on time and after that I would just continue on with my day. Do not have a karen-freak out.
My mom is known as a helicopter parent and mentally abusive. She chose what I would wear until I was 13 and would force me into a religion (christianity, I am atheist).
I had to grow up when I was 5. I was never truly a child. I knew the rules and expectations and just went on about existing. I never went out because I did not have friends. The last time I hung out with a friend was in december of 2018, because my strict mother never lets me out. She gives me no privacy. I was 14 when I spent time with friends. I'm 16 now. Severe depression, suicide ideation, undiagnosed ED and anxiety proplems later I know I can never be a fully fuctioning adult.
Both of my parents come from physically and mentally abusive households and they never hit me and try to be as good parents as possible, but they have proplems too. Like my mom hoards newspapers and her being a not so good parent comes from the trauma she experienced.
My dad tries not to yell, because he was yelled at. He tries his best to provide for me and stay in my life because his own father got a divorce and his mother started sleeping around with highly abusive men (one of them almost beat her to death when my dad was younger).
If you really want to be the good type of strict parent, please go find videos of teens who have unhealthy strict/abusive parents. Tiktok compilations have good examples and there are plenty on RUclips. Hear the kids out and try understand what they feel like and how the parents may be in the wrong.
Thus you can prevent being the abusive type of strict and your kids will actually like you.
Strict parents think being stricts makes good children and adults.
Truth is, strict parents make the most skilled liars.
There is a very fine line you need to master for them to be healthy adults and not liars. We know we can live our own life when we lie and our parents never let us be free. We always have to watch our every step or we can be locked inside our house and our food can be taken away if be disobey.
Do not hit your kids. Ever. No matter what the reason, never hit them.
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Good old fashioned discipline. Without the drama and trauma. Love it. ❤
The tone is gentle but firm. The meaning is clear. Best dad ever!
Agreed sistah..🇯🇲🇨🇦👋🏾
But with due respect I just feel that the lecture is a little bit too long...oh well...whatever...what do I know!!??
That's a dad who was strong enough to raise kids without Supernanny's help.
That nose cleaning, love this!!
@@trbrm6319 is it because you'd rather not talk. Most of the explanation was to us, as to what he was doing. However that man can dialogue with his child the entire shopping time if needed be. With all due respect.
He keeps his voice calm yet stern. This is fathering.
Or weed 😂jking
Exactly. Not yelling
It should be parenting, both parents doing this. Doesn't need to involve yelling, whooping, cursing, cuz that's all lazy parenting. This dad took the time to put in the work.
@@randomuser5914 I think spanking is needed tho. Not always. And if you're angry...calm down before you spank them. Both are needed for good balance.
Exactly
Emotional intelligence, patience, common sense.
You aren't born with these things.
They are learned through demonstration.
Kudos to you, Dad.
I never get tired of watching this video. His parenting is outstanding.
His parenting style was exactly how my mom did with us - she never had to spank us because she taught us from an early age how to listen and behave and I love and respect her to this day 👍🏽🙏🏼
My mom is like that too. She talks with us calmly but sternly and we listen.
Apart from that one time that she hit me when I was a kid. MY GOODNESS😲, it was the first and the last time she ever hit me. I don't even remember what I did but damn THAT was a SLAP.
That’s a good mom
Yet you have the most disgusting, immoral, and foul mouthed people claiming they were hit as kids and turned out great. 🙄
i WISH my mom was like this and she punched me *really* hard a few months ago lmao
@@lunicalll Sorry😔
Respect to this guy. That’s why kids act a fool these days, parents are too afraid to correct and discipline their kids young. They don’t want to be the “bad guy”
Ikr, honestly this generation has grown up to think what this guy is doing, is abuse. People want parents to just to talk to them, and be like, “Oh honey, it’s okay, it’s okay, let’s just go back to the store and everything will be fine” they are basically teaching their kid it is okay to act like that.
I love the fact he never tried to be rude to the girl, he just waited until she stopped crying. This is a great dad. I wish mine was like that.
My dad just yelled at me, and and angry. He never tried to hit me, but he does emotionally hurt me. This did make me into an anxious-freak whenever I just talk to him.
So, never be like my dad, be like this dad in the video. Mad props to him.
They are too busy being their kids "best friend" thats why kids these days have no manners smh
Also there are parents who just don't want to deal with their kids. They'll either never tell them to stop, or they threaten them to stop.
My parents raised me right, and they are still raising me. I'm not making a fool of myself out there in public stores. If they tell me I can't get something then I can't get it, not such a big deal. Rather than other kids being mommy's and daddy's little girl and them crying and their parents giving it to them because they said mommy and daddy please. We need this world to change for the better guys. ❤
@@jen-dot-net9281 Or like how my dad was. He would tempt me to do things like skip school then call the cops on me to appear as the hero dad. It really helped my trust issues .🙄
You are refreshing. Children will grow up. Yours will be alright because of your parenting skills. You are teaching her how how to listen and communicate without yelling. You are a good Daddy.
Strong work Dad. Need more of that to guide our youth. Wondeful example of being a father.
Take notes. This man loves his child. And he's teaching his child.
THIS is how to PARENT!
Amen!
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YEP
Amen
This child is old enough to understand verbal communication and this father did very well.
He didn't hit her, didn't raise his voice, didn't abandon her, he didn't threat her, he let her "cry out" but without leaving her side.
When the child finally calmed down they both moved on without more sermons.
That's discipline not punishment.
The punishment is taking the toys away for how the way they act up you have to do it that way Cos they will remember if I act this sort type of way I’m going to be in trouble. And I won’t get what I want!! If I cry for it that is how you raised your kids.
Exactly! He is disciplining not punishing. Patents today scream, call them names and hit them which end up being a horrible message to send to a child and as they grow to they rebel. I never had to get hit because my parents did the same thing, I brought you out here to calm down, your upset so you need to take a break and chill out here. Then we will go back in if you calm down. That's how I discipline my children. You talk to your children not scream and yell. He did a good job helping his child calm down. Good dad! ❤️
Well addressed Taylor ,,
My atmost respect to ya all
@@judithdavis9191 That's something parents have always been guilty of, unfortunately. That being said, I do agree.
Pure stoicism! The best form of tough love!
Omg when she was happy at the end, SO ADORABLE! Great job DAD STAY BLESSED!
God bless this father and his pretty baby!!! God bless the whole family!! 🙏
His daughter is gonna grow up to be the smartest, most confident, most successful woman.
@@sarahgardner312 sometimes you win, sometimes you learn, appreciate mistakes
She will also be able to talk her way out of anything. :) Speaking from experience.
Thanks Dad (Rip 1953-2006). You raised me right in our short 26 years together. I have never stopped loving you, the life lessons you taught me, the straight up education, and being able to never "need a man" to get anything done. Oh!!
@@sarahgardner312 Dont Blame your Dad your Grown Now maybe you have trouble understanding why things are done as they are
Myxomatosis BEAUTIFUL, May He SIP🙏🏾😍
@@tinagriffiths4002 Thank you. I hope you are happy and healthy. :)
The unbothered look on this father’s face 😂😂😂
That is SOOO me. lol I related to him the instant he did that.
cus hes a man with a goal and a plan, to him its just being a father. a real man doesnt have time for his emotions to ruin his plan
@@koltred right
My son who is now a daddy and disciplining his son. When he was 3-4 y. As we’re crossing to the other side of the street my son collapsed in front of traffic and threw a temper tantrum. I dragged him onto the sidewalk and let him continue to throw his tantrums. He decided to take a peak by the side of his eye 👁 and when our eyes 👀 meet. I just to him. “You finished? I’m ready to keep walking”. He stopped crying, got up and took my hand 🖐🏻 that was the end of that.
Same way
Good dad, well done. He's doing a great job.
WELL DONE, DAD!!! CONGRATS FOR RAISING YOUR CHILD PROPERLY!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
She’s SO LUCKY to have him. She’ll feel safe with him when she gets older and it matters. I wish I had had a dad who cared about me like he cares about her.
You are like me but we do have a father who cares and his name is God and his son and our saviour is Jesus just call on him and he will answer you. God bless 🙏🇺🇸❤
Michael Price For reall💀😭 I just let them have their moment tho😂🤷🏻♀️
Christina Walke What has this got to do with faith... fatherhood is shared by any man of any religion/background
💯 I firmly believe that a loving, caring, supportive dad, who makes a little girl feel safe and loved, is HUGELY connected to how that girl develops as a woman, and how confident she feels about herself, among other things (like the kind of partner they choose). Of course NOT ALWAYS....but A LOT of the time this is so true. ❤️ I was one of the lucky ones who had an amazing father..I’m sorry you didn’t have that experience 😔 but you can always make your kids feel like that ❤️
same.. I grew up with neither of my parents being emotionally supportive and always belittled me
This is true parenting. He is not entertaining that child he is raising an adult.
BRILLIANT!
And he did it without spanking, humiliating or tearing her down. And there was a big smile at the end. He is such a good parent.
@@kimharrington4231 Facts.
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@@kimharrington4231 Thank you!!!!
Your a better father than just giving a game and let it be. Your awesome
It's hard doing it (listening to the crying), but this dad is doing the right thing. That's parental love.
Incredibly hard! 😂 I have 4 children the youngest is 3 and she wasn't planned, I was 40 when I had her but I love her so much. The other 3 are 26, 24, 17. Now my grandson is 4, he and my 3 year old are growing up together and they are always fighting over toys, screaming, crying, it drives me nuts 😂😂 so I definitely get it. He is amazing though and u see how she was so happy and cheerful at the end? Sometimes just talking to them is all they need.
The look of “ unbothered “ on his face.✅
He looks offended
Don't raise my eyebrows like that when I'm unbothered
@@carikabester6310 I think he looks resentful, but I agree, definitely not unbothered.
Thats the iconic 'I'll wait till you done' face
@@blazingblasian4257 Facts lol
@@blazingblasian4257 best user name ever, girl 👌😎
I love the fact that he said he doesn’t need to beat his child like his mom did to get her to behave. I pray more people will get it!!!
This Father does not pray, this Father has begun to act. Stop praying and start doing something!
It's stupid ppl like u that's hurting the next gen
cali Recklezz how so? if we hit our children what will be the benefit? and does that put weight the cost?
cali Recklezz not everyone reads the bible yk..
@@candace6893 Prov. 3 Verses 5 to 6
[5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
"You leave balls outta your life forever" ....😅😂 lmaoooo towards the end😂 Also great job🎉❤😊
You are disciplining in tough love, we had to do exactly what your doing with my daughter 42 years ago when she was 2!!! No silver spoon in her mouth, we taught hard work, respect for your elders, listen in school, do not sass the teacher, etc., just like I was, even in a house of choas, we were still instructed by my parent's, grandparent's, everyone in the family!!!! Props dad, that's being a dad, no matter where you're living!!!
I love that he’s actually communicating with his child in a very calm yet stern way without yelling at her, cussing at her, or threatening her.
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Uh i hope my little sister would actually listen to me like this little girl here. For me as her big brother even if i try to communicating with her in a calm way she just keep yelling and say "NO!" And she just keep crying and make me feel guilty always. I just want her to be listening to me when i try to communicating with her but no she just doesn't want to listen and throw a tantrum over and my parents keeps spoil her ugh!
Yes I love it
@@naya4050 yeah, your parents being inconsistent is why. You will have to be more stubborn than her.
@@lixinxin ikr!
He not only talked to her like an adult, he talked to her with respect, addressed her with Mrs., pumped her up and made her feel good. That was some smooth, classy Jedi shit.
Ms/miss not Mrs lol Mrs is for married females
Awesome dad. She will remember him with love
I laughed at 3 things from this. How dad said, "Uhh, I'm still cute, but still." How the daughter quickly looked into the camera when dad asked "you do know what happens again when you lie?" And lastly, the Jedi reference you made!
Man mum used to call me Mr even sometimes she still does hahah
Ok
Wow not many dad's out there that would stand and wait for the child to calm down,great that he didn't even raise his voice to her he let her calm herself down while he kept his cool, really nice way to have done. Really not many dad's would have done it that way. You are a really good dad and very good advice to other dad's out there,I agree in what you said your daughter was listening to what you were saying that's also good. You spoke many a true word dad,you are one in a million.
This. This right here is how you fix your community. Make the world a better place by making sure your kids grow up right
“Cuz you’re a big girl” he uses good positive language to reinforce it when she stopped crying, makes all the difference, what a good father
I liked that a lot. Threatening to beat your child when they act up can cause them to fear getting in trouble, which usually leads to not having the best relationship with their parents. In worse situations, the kid acts up when they dont have parental supervision because the only thing they learned from the beating was that they shouldn't get caught, not getting caught means not getting punished.
motivate your kids that they are better than that.
I wish more parents would do this rather than letting their little brats constantly scream and wail at the top of their lungs in the store.
And make them cry even worse
One parent trying to shop and wrangle kids and get the heck out of the shop is different to this example where daddy stuck around and actively participates and doesn’t have to be at work right now and is a decent human being.
100% agree with you shit parents creates shit kids shops neighbourhood's flicking everywhere you go these days
For me it's the running around that gets me., especially when they're old enough to know better.
I guess those parents really do want their children to grow up to be "People of Walmart".
I appreciate his taking her out of the store once she didn't settle down.
Bravo, young man! This is exactly how I Raised my children when they were little. (Your daughter is a total cutie, btw!), They are grown young people now and treat people with respect and kindness and don't act like the spoiled brats that alot of today's young adults do! (And I'm a tiny, little, scandinavian woman, here! They could've easily overpowered me when they got in their teens, but they were well behaved by then).
We're not raising kids, we're raising adults.
This is an amazing quote!
some ppl r just kids in adult bodies
Simple but Deep.
@@myribunt5261 that garbage blew your mind?! 🤣🤣🤣 Your gonna have so many baby daddy's in the future. Just know when they say they love you..they mean it 🤣
@@op8995 in where in that sentence did she say it blew her mind
He is a great dad. One day she will look back and realize how special he is.
And I hope she will do a video too :3
My dad was abusive (all three of the forms...)... Some of these kids just do not have a clue how blessed they are to have a dad like this. I'd give anything to have a dad just like this man! But God is enough, at least He adopted me as His daughter.
He's just parenting. Billions of us do it without shaming our children to the world.
Why dont he realize how special she is
Yeah, she will grow up with borderline personality and she will be so greatful
How wonderfully that was resolved and how sweet the two of them are together walking back to Walmart💕Wish there were more wonderful dads out there🥰
God bless you, sir! I love that you are an influencer and giving people someone who will support them in proper parenting skills. So important in today's world.
Shes got a father. God bless.
Too many kids don’t have a dad and that’s one of the biggest reasons so many people are out of control.
I am so proud of the ''fathers '' that are really taking care of their ''children'' and not abandoning them or leaving it all up to the mom-- OR just being a part time dad..I am so happy to see them RULE FATHERHOOD and doing a fantastic job.. amen to that~~~!!!!..-- hope more follow-- too many guys were just leaving their offsprings to the world or some other person and hell was beating down on those babies HARD... Please -- if you have a baby -- TAKE RESPONSIBILITY... GOD BLESS...
She's got a great father and because of him she has a future.
My dad got lost at a gas station
@@karenkaren3189 Yes! They have to stick around long enough to do this. They don't and that is why we have the problems. I agree.
The main thing is that he didn’t spoil her by giving her a treat... or he didn’t pamper her. He just talked to her like she’s just another person. Good job man!
Yep, you can’t reward children to not misbehave.
Big Chungy Human: And he didn't spank or yell at her.
Actually... when my toddler brother was crying... I tried this, and when I said “are you done?” He quickly changed his mood. Cause I was asking him a question instead of pampering him. And then he said “with what?” And I said “with crying. I’m not gonna put up with you crying for no reason anymore”. and he was like “yea. I’m done” and got back to playing😂 I swear I’m not lying!
Awesome dad right there. Dr Phil…whether you like him or not…one of my favorite words of advice to parents, “Don’t reward bad behavior”
It's a tough lesson, but necessary. Shout out to the good father he is and for the lovely princess she is. May Allah guide you the right way.
He corrected her behavior in the matter of minutes with no trauma involved. That’s why she was able to go from screaming to dancing within 6 mins. Her father didn’t traumatize her into behaving. 🙌
You have to give children time to calm down and process their emotions as well. Otherwise you get emotionally unstable adults.
I wouldn't say no trauma involved when he recorded her and shamed her. I don't really think it's appropriate to record children in emotional distress and post it to the internet for the world to see
@@DSDaly kid doesnt understand the internet. No trauma here
I saw this happen once when I was a waitress. I walked in to start my shift and saw a lady using our outdoor tables to do the same with her crying kid. She was asking him to explain why he was crying and said they were going to stay there until he told her.
I thought it was super clever parenting
@@TheAcidicMolotov but she will
I like that the kid is looking at him to see if her crying is working.
Yup, my thoughts exactly. "Crying makes mom and dad feel bad for me, and then I get what I want! Is it still working?"
That can be remedied without any whoopings, this man is showing an excellent example!
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@Google Hub Yeah well....that wasn't the case here was it? She was doing things that he as a parent had already set a rule over and she was not obeying that rule. Just because they are a toddler doesn't mean you let them act how they want because they are "emotionally undeveloped". Its not like there was an explosion or loud noise that scared her. She was throwing a fit because she didn't get what she wanted.
Great job Dad ! Firm but loving tone, and patience.