@@michellehickeydesignNO WAY. When in nature you GOTTA skip the music. Soak in the nature's sounds seem to calm me better and clear my mind more. The music is for the grocery store.
The energy map for an introvert is simple: 1. An introvert is given five coins when he/she wakes up, they tend to loose coins for every social interaction they comes across. 2. For extroverts, that's vice versa. Great talk, chanalizing energy is important for introverts.
It's not about energizing It's about conserving your overall energy by avoiding spending too much of it from over thinking, over analyzing. Those over thinking and social anxiety starts when you create a persona that is not natural to you and you are Omni conscious of your every move and thoughts to say until you became paralyzed and missed the momentum of the social situation.
Thanks for this video. Some things that energize me include: spending first hour of my day in a quiet room doing something I enjoy, meditating, laying in bed with an eye mask and ear plugs at the end of a long (reducing stimulation in this way feels so good).
As an introvert, I find myself making the best use of my time spent alone to recharge; to reflect deeply on the things that have happened in my life in order to carefully plan ahead for the next social day, and putting that solitude activity in adjacent to another activity that drives more of my thinking ability such as writing stories just to further dive being lost in my world for fun. It makes me feel very fulfilled in the end, now that I completed a personal task or a fun activity, alongside with well-seasoned plans to test when the next day comes to continue being with people. 🙂
I’m an introvert who is always socially exhausted no matter how much alone time I make for myself, strange because my social skills increased after quarantine
I wake up at 5 AM for work. I say goodbye to my wife and daughter get to work where I spend eight hours having to socialize and talk to people and work with other people and then I go pick up my daughter and go home and about the same time my wife shows up at home. On the weekend it’s me keeping an eye on my daughter from morning to night. The only alone time I get is when I’m taking a crap. And since my daughter is a toddler, I barely get to do that and peace because she’s usually begging and crying right outside the door because she can’t see me. I’ve noticed for the last month or so I have had a very short fuse. I am so desperate to just have a few hours of alone time here and there. It’s unbelievable. I am so mentally and physically exhausted. It’s not even funny.
I'm so sorry that this season of life is challenging for you. I can't imagine how stressful that must be. I hope that you are able to find small pockets of time to recharge, and also remember that as your daughter grows, life will change and give you more opportunities for solitude. Hang in there!
Awesome, crisp advice. What energizes me: The Korean drama 'It's OK to not be OK,' so introverted. Netflix. Reading. Deep one on one conversation with a few chosen persons.
Fun time with children and persons I love energises me. Being in silent nature, nearby river, mountains, trees. Music, Songs of my taste. Driving on taffic free highways with loved ones. Food of my choice. Beautiful people. Hygiene. Clean and beautiful ambience. (-) Argument, Disharmony, Fights, Inconsiderate persons, Elite behaviour, Conspiracy, Noise pollution, Garbage, Air pollution, Stubborn people, Secretive behaviour, Groupism, Fanatics,Dominant behaviour,Too much physical work, Insensitive behaviour, Betrayers, Prejudice,.... 😂
I'm an extrovert in the body of an introvert which makes things complicated, I like to socialize and hangout with people all the time, but my body is constantly fighting against it as I feel both physically and mentally exhausted, pushing it helps a lot but once I feel burnout I don't know how to recover energy in an efficient way ;
How interesting! What I think is most important here is that you have an awareness of your limits (even if/when you make the choice to push past it). Might it be helpful to find creative ways to "be social" but in shorter spurts, or perhaps even in a less stimulating environment? Hope you can experiment and make it a fun exploration!
I would often change my environment, mostly to think and visualize my goals. Taking a walk around the house or outside for a walk helps me stay focused. I also bought myself a smartwatch for reminders. Which probably isn't necessary if you use your smartphone device.
@@OfficialBurrow thank you for sharing those experiences! I agree, environment can be so powerful, and all of the extras, like a smart watch (I love mine too!) can be the extra boost we need.
Very interesting video, thank you very much. I also feel like a strong introvert. I feel like nothing gives me really extra/additional energy except maybe sports or sleeping. I enjoy a lot solitary activities like reading, watching videos, walking in nature or listening to podcasts for instance but If I do it for long a time I start also to feel tired too. So my guess would be that we have low energy to deal with, where activities are either neutral, low draining or highly draining ? Do other people have trouble to feel reenergize with any activity like me?
That's so interesting! I'm wondering if it might be helpful to track and be mindful about which activities drain you the most, and also how long you're able to engage before losing energy. I think that the most important thing to remember is that there is no right and wrong. Everyone is different, and there are so many factors at play. 🫶
That’s kind of you to say, Mayank. Thank you for watching and hope you might enjoy some of my other videos. If there’s a specific topic you’d like me to cover, please let me know.
Mam,I am from India. Everything that you said in this video is directly relates me. I am going to follow all your tips from now. I must tell that you are amazing. But i have a question , are you an introvert ? Bcs i think it would be difficult to make videos by showing your face if you are an introvert.
I’m so glad that it resonated. Thank you for watching! And yes, I am a full introvert. 😊 It took time, but I was able to get comfortable in front of the camera, and some days it’s easier than talking to people in person!
I think one can be a shy extroverted or a non-shy introverted. Shyness is about self-confidence most of the time. Introversion if I understood correctly is more about having a social battery that drains with human direct interactions, though I'm not an expert here. Anyways the videos are edited and don't need direct interaction, it's similar to wrighting a book I think, which probably helps introverts take the risk of publishing them.
Sometimes when a person wants to help me in the matters I want to be better at, but talking to them and listening to them continuously makes me tired and irritable. Am I a bad person? That person thinks I don't want to learn and stuff. But I do want to learn. But I am unable to tell it to his face that Spending continuous hours drains me. How to make him stop talking to me for hours, no matter how helpful he is and without sounding arrogant and rude
Introverts are certainly not bad people. It's kind of you to take this person's feelings into consideration. It might be helpful to explain that you love and appreciate their advice but that you need to take some breaks in between to absorb all of their great information. Consider asking them to share their knowledge through another medium, like writing or audio, so that you can consume it when you have the energy to do so.
Introversion is a gift if you're living it right! Here are more introvert-friendly resources to help you thrive: ruclips.net/video/GpZdcjZbKNQ/видео.html
For me it is because I like this chick she’s an extrovert, I want to talk to her to get her to like me but I just can’t feel overwhelmed mentally and it drives me crazy how little I can think while trying to communicate with her well other extrovert
For me sometimes I feel at work it can be. For example when I have to tutor somebody new I have to spend a lot of time with that person and I end up exhausted because my social battery is totally drained. Then I can't socialize in a proper way with family or anyone else until the next day...
Mam I frm India and I m 16 , cause of introvertness I get to hear rude things , I tend to loose energy and that's why I have less friends.lSnd nobody wants me😕 . What should I do I m facing really lot problems , really I want to reduce this problem. Any solution to REDUCE it to some extent 🙏 It to some extent
I'm so sorry to hear that you feel that way. Being introverted is one of the things that makes you special. Please don't think that you need to change in order to make connections. One of the interesting things I learned about introversion is that we make up about 25-40% of the population, which means I bet there are a lot of people in your life who feel the same way as you. Hang in there!
For more support and thoughts about thriving as an introvert, follow along on Substack: michellehickey.substack.com/
Exercising ALONE (e.g. running in nature) gives me a huge energy boost.
I feel the same. Add in some great music and I feel like I can take on the world!
@@michellehickeydesignNO WAY. When in nature you GOTTA skip the music. Soak in the nature's sounds seem to calm me better and clear my mind more. The music is for the grocery store.
The energy map for an introvert is simple:
1. An introvert is given five coins when he/she wakes up, they tend to loose coins for every social interaction they comes across.
2. For extroverts, that's vice versa.
Great talk, chanalizing energy is important for introverts.
First time I've heard this analogy, and it's going to stick with me. Thank you for sharing!
It's not about energizing
It's about conserving your overall energy by avoiding spending too much of it from over thinking, over analyzing.
Those over thinking and social anxiety starts when you create a persona that is not natural to you and you are Omni conscious of your every move and thoughts to say until you became paralyzed and missed the momentum of the social situation.
This is such a wise reminder!
Helping someone else gives me a lot of energy.
I love this suggestion, James!
Thanks for this video. Some things that energize me include: spending first hour of my day in a quiet room doing something I enjoy, meditating, laying in bed with an eye mask and ear plugs at the end of a long (reducing stimulation in this way feels so good).
I feel relaxed and at ease just reading your list, Cindy.
As an introvert, I find myself making the best use of my time spent alone to recharge; to reflect deeply on the things that have happened in my life in order to carefully plan ahead for the next social day, and putting that solitude activity in adjacent to another activity that drives more of my thinking ability such as writing stories just to further dive being lost in my world for fun.
It makes me feel very fulfilled in the end, now that I completed a personal task or a fun activity, alongside with well-seasoned plans to test when the next day comes to continue being with people. 🙂
You're speaking my language! I especially like the time you take for reflection. I'd like to incorporate that practice into my daily routine.
I’m an introvert who is always socially exhausted no matter how much alone time I make for myself, strange because my social skills increased after quarantine
I wake up at 5 AM for work. I say goodbye to my wife and daughter get to work where I spend eight hours having to socialize and talk to people and work with other people and then I go pick up my daughter and go home and about the same time my wife shows up at home. On the weekend it’s me keeping an eye on my daughter from morning to night. The only alone time I get is when I’m taking a crap. And since my daughter is a toddler, I barely get to do that and peace because she’s usually begging and crying right outside the door because she can’t see me. I’ve noticed for the last month or so I have had a very short fuse. I am so desperate to just have a few hours of alone time here and there. It’s unbelievable. I am so mentally and physically exhausted. It’s not even funny.
I'm so sorry that this season of life is challenging for you. I can't imagine how stressful that must be. I hope that you are able to find small pockets of time to recharge, and also remember that as your daughter grows, life will change and give you more opportunities for solitude. Hang in there!
I love spending alone time a lot, like walking alone, eating alone also spending time with pets and the few of my friends energise me.
I feel the same!
Awesome, crisp advice. What energizes me: The Korean drama 'It's OK to not be OK,' so introverted. Netflix. Reading. Deep one on one conversation with a few chosen persons.
I love your list! Especially deep conversations.
“Around the hood” I like her
Sunshine and wind in my hair recharges me. Thank you for this video. I’m ready to have changes in my life.
That sounds dreamy! Excited for you.
Fun time with children and persons I love energises me. Being in silent nature, nearby river, mountains, trees. Music, Songs of my taste. Driving on taffic free highways with loved ones. Food of my choice. Beautiful people. Hygiene. Clean and beautiful ambience.
(-) Argument, Disharmony, Fights, Inconsiderate persons, Elite behaviour, Conspiracy, Noise pollution, Garbage, Air pollution, Stubborn people, Secretive behaviour, Groupism, Fanatics,Dominant behaviour,Too much physical work, Insensitive behaviour, Betrayers, Prejudice,.... 😂
I love your list of energizing activities and elements! And the negatives too! You're smart to be aware of both.
I'm an extrovert in the body of an introvert which makes things complicated, I like to socialize and hangout with people all the time, but my body is constantly fighting against it as I feel both physically and mentally exhausted, pushing it helps a lot but once I feel burnout I don't know how to recover energy in an efficient way ;
How interesting! What I think is most important here is that you have an awareness of your limits (even if/when you make the choice to push past it). Might it be helpful to find creative ways to "be social" but in shorter spurts, or perhaps even in a less stimulating environment? Hope you can experiment and make it a fun exploration!
Thanks for this informative video! Learnt so much. I recharge the most while in nature or doing yoga :)
That sounds so nice and restorative! Thanks for watching.
Taking care of my self (doing skincare or taking a shower )
This has been my go-to recently too! Even putting on a little makeup can turn my whole day around. :)
Bath time
@@tubber love a good bath, especially with salts or bubbles and some relaxing tunes.
@@michellehickeydesign omg you're so right! lol thank you for the video and your comments. subscribed!
@@tubber thank you!
Cloudy day
Cloudy days are the best! They feel soothing to me.
Oh and reading "The Introvert Advantage" was life changing!
I haven't read this one yet! Adding to my list. Thank you!
@@michellehickeydesign You are welcome - I hope you enjoy it.
Plans. I hate having plans that involve socialising.
However i absolutely LOVE cancelled plans. 🎉
Nothing is more exciting than when someone cancels plans. 😂
1: stay the hell away
2: stay the hell away
😂😂😂 Lee, did you read all of our minds?
People are hell -some person
I make playlists every week or so and I usually associate then with certain vibes in my life at the oment
Love a good playlist! Especially switching it up for whatever is going on in life.
@@michellehickeydesign yeah they're all just a mixed bag of every genre! 😆
thanks for the video
I honestly find it hard to write things down. I usually lose the paper or forget it somewhere and I just give up on It.
I'd love to hear what works best for you! Have you found that writing on a computer or device is more helpful? Any tips for us?
I would often change my environment, mostly to think and visualize my goals. Taking a walk around the house or outside for a walk helps me stay focused. I also bought myself a smartwatch for reminders. Which probably isn't necessary if you use your smartphone device.
@@OfficialBurrow thank you for sharing those experiences! I agree, environment can be so powerful, and all of the extras, like a smart watch (I love mine too!) can be the extra boost we need.
Very interesting video, thank you very much. I also feel like a strong introvert. I feel like nothing gives me really extra/additional energy except maybe sports or sleeping. I enjoy a lot solitary activities like reading, watching videos, walking in nature or listening to podcasts for instance but If I do it for long a time I start also to feel tired too. So my guess would be that we have low energy to deal with, where activities are either neutral, low draining or highly draining ? Do other people have trouble to feel reenergize with any activity like me?
That's so interesting! I'm wondering if it might be helpful to track and be mindful about which activities drain you the most, and also how long you're able to engage before losing energy. I think that the most important thing to remember is that there is no right and wrong. Everyone is different, and there are so many factors at play. 🫶
I think 🤔 I need people like you.those you understand things and give a good reply.
That’s kind of you to say, Mayank. Thank you for watching and hope you might enjoy some of my other videos.
If there’s a specific topic you’d like me to cover, please let me know.
Mam,I am from India. Everything that you said in this video is directly relates me. I am going to follow all your tips from now. I must tell that you are amazing. But i have a question , are you an introvert ?
Bcs i think it would be difficult to make videos by showing your face if you are an introvert.
I’m so glad that it resonated. Thank you for watching!
And yes, I am a full introvert. 😊 It took time, but I was able to get comfortable in front of the camera, and some days it’s easier than talking to people in person!
I think one can be a shy extroverted or a non-shy introverted.
Shyness is about self-confidence most of the time. Introversion if I understood correctly is more about having a social battery that drains with human direct interactions, though I'm not an expert here. Anyways the videos are edited and don't need direct interaction, it's similar to wrighting a book I think, which probably helps introverts take the risk of publishing them.
Listening to spiritual songs
So peaceful 🥰
Sometimes when a person wants to help me in the matters I want to be better at, but talking to them and listening to them continuously makes me tired and irritable. Am I a bad person? That person thinks I don't want to learn and stuff. But I do want to learn. But I am unable to tell it to his face that Spending continuous hours drains me. How to make him stop talking to me for hours, no matter how helpful he is and without sounding arrogant and rude
Introverts are certainly not bad people. It's kind of you to take this person's feelings into consideration.
It might be helpful to explain that you love and appreciate their advice but that you need to take some breaks in between to absorb all of their great information.
Consider asking them to share their knowledge through another medium, like writing or audio, so that you can consume it when you have the energy to do so.
@@michellehickeydesign thank you. I will try to explain it to him. I hope he understands
loved it❤❤
Thank you!
Yoga
So good for everyone, but I agree- especially introverts!
Introversion is a gift if you're living it right! Here are more introvert-friendly resources to help you thrive: ruclips.net/video/GpZdcjZbKNQ/видео.html
Introversion isn't a weakness for me
Own it!
For me it is because I like this chick she’s an extrovert, I want to talk to her to get her to like me but I just can’t feel overwhelmed mentally and it drives me crazy how little I can think while trying to communicate with her well other extrovert
For me sometimes I feel at work it can be. For example when I have to tutor somebody new I have to spend a lot of time with that person and I end up exhausted because my social battery is totally drained. Then I can't socialize in a proper way with family or anyone else until the next day...
Ma'am my room
Mam I frm India and I m 16 , cause of introvertness I get to hear rude things , I tend to loose energy and that's why I have less friends.lSnd nobody wants me😕 . What should I do I m facing really lot problems , really I want to reduce this problem.
Any solution to REDUCE it to some extent 🙏
It to some extent
I also can't able to talk to boys 😕 way feels how to proceed talk
I'm so sorry to hear that you feel that way. Being introverted is one of the things that makes you special. Please don't think that you need to change in order to make connections.
One of the interesting things I learned about introversion is that we make up about 25-40% of the population, which means I bet there are a lot of people in your life who feel the same way as you.
Hang in there!