Guruji ek video please startup k upar banaiye for females, I mean simple speaking ....mujhe marriage institution pasand nahi h so marrige nahi karni h but uske liye life mein bhaut bada kuch mtlb jisse financially independent rahu + khud ka ghar+ gaddi+ ek goal zindagi katne k liye 😂 I know sab kuch expectations ki treh bol Diya ek saath but sachi sachi bta Rahi hu yahi chahti hoon right now age 19
Seven signs of a emotionally neglected person :- 1) overachiever 2) attention seeker 3) hyper independent/ hyper dependent 4)never satisfied in relationships/ career/life 5) perfectionist approach 6)shows love with gifts and money only 7) can't express their feelings in proper words Or Can't articulate their feelings properly.
Non monetary ways of showing love 💕: 1) Being genuine listener for family members 2) Giving quality time to your child / partner 3) 100 % acceptance of family members qualities including flaws 4) not expecting obedience all the time -letting people be. Obedience is not respect . 5) cooking or playing sports or activities together 6) celebrating small happy occasions together - laugh & cry together 7) Having healthy boundaries in relationship
I'm 27 years old Indian living in London, my mother passed away during COVID, not sad not happy, I just never felt more free in life. Narcissistic abuse by parents is a real thing. Taking therapy to fix myself. This man is on point with everything. Your own parents/partner/kids/friends can be the reason why you are always not good enough.
Yes. Without money or fancy stuff we can show our love- 1.When needed - by Listening and confirming them 2. By offering self cooked food 3.Going on a normal walk 4. Doing their one or two jobs when they need or just like that. 5 By giving tight hug for no reason 6. Looking after when not well 7. Just sitting and watching TV together,eating ,dancing together
I can relate to 4 or 5 of them. Sometime i feel guilty for having fun or spendng on myself. Like i always wanted to celebrate my birthday when i was young but havng cake nd invitng people over was considerd as waste of money in my house and i m an introvert so i never insested. But i always got some gifts or clothes by my parents. so now i dont like to celebrate my birthday at all even i feel wierd if anyone wishes me or i buy something for myself. sometime i get anxious on that day But i always try to give gifts to people on their birthdays.
Me Too, Reason some uncles son died when he was infant and that sentiment came in, even now indont allow My kids to cut cake 😅. There were times i forgot my bday, may be little worse than you😊. So now ireally dont know how to celebrate life even when earninig good money. I feel anxious to celebrate.
Most of the children are unwanted, since they're conceived out of societal pressure. Thus, those comments would be thrown at kids. An unhappy couple or mother or father can't keep the child happy, unless they're highly mature. Kids used to be the easy target of insults and beatings, therefore parents would take out their frustration onto them. Moreover, nobody was taught how parenting is done. No education related to that! So, children usually were guinea pigs. Lastly, do consume content related to inner child healing. It will benefit anyone dealing with emotional baggage. If the problem is here, answer is here too. ☀
Hug, care, listening to them, doing small things for them, laugh with them, morning walk or evening walk with them... I mean seeing something natural like stars, morning sun etc Cooking something when ill
Expression of love without money: 1. Appreciate (Not boasting) your child in public place after any achievement 2. Giving moral support to the child in his low phases and struggling days 3. Reassuring the child that we as a family will take care of every ups and downs in life 4. Having a rule in a family where everyone can help in each other's work, cleaning, cooking, studying. 5. Showing gratitude towards god for their child, infront of them. Showing kids that we're thankful to god that kid belongs to them
7 Signs --> 1) You are an over achiever. 2) You want acceptance, admiration, affection from everybody. 3) Extremely Depedent Or Extremely Independent Towards Everybody. 4) You keep trying doing many things but not complete in every thing. You are not feeling complete. 5) Being hard on yourself. 6) You are incapable of showing love without money/gifts. 7) You are not able to express feelings with words.
When l was child my mother never remembered my birthday. Forget cake & gift no one in my family wished me happy birthday. I did very well in my professional life Now my mother stays with me& wishes happy birthday. Now l know the reason why I feel so awkward on my birthday.
There is one more sign that is linked with childhood neglect. Which is that you can't say no to anyone. You always are fearful that your friends or family will abandon you if you say no to them. You always try to be available for your friends and family even if you already have a lot on your plate.
Hello sir you didn't include following points. 1) Different treatments between siblings 2) making kids feel inferior about their looks. 3) expecting to show matured behaviour on every occasion. 4) never teach children to do household chores... And then taunt them tht they don't know how to do it. 5) never show love and affection. 6) putting their decisions(self interest) on kids... Using various ways of emotional blackmailing. As a kid you think whatever your parents are saying is right... But as you become mature you realise... All the decision they have taken.. Was for their comfort not for kids.
I am 37 and realised quite late in life that how blessed I was for having parents who still treat us with the same love as they had when me and my sisters were kids. I can see around me that people who were neglected during childhood are on a self-harm mission and are getting miserable day by day. I really thought of telling them the real reason for their misery but the way you have articulated is marvellous. All your 7 points are bang on and I hope this video pops up on their feed so that they can live a lil better lives as sharing with them seems a lil risky to me. This video can be brutal for people who are actually suffering. But at the same time it is imperative that we start talking about these issues and amitji is doing a great job on it.
Yes childhood traumas are the extensions of mundane and subtle things . I am 30 years have been on a healing journey for 8 months and found out that roots were in the childhood. You are a reformer ❤ it's so good that we have you around to guide people through !
Mai bhi b tech bilkul nahi karna chahta tha but my father forced me to do it. Aur pura 4 years +6months trauma me hi beeta( 2015 se dec2019). Aur fir pandemic. In 2023 I get joining of cgl 2020 exam. Aaj bhi lagta hai kaas simple collage se BA kiya hota to thik rehta bekar me itni mehnat kar li mila kuch nahi
Very true sir🙏 i am 30 right now sahi hai wo khalipan reh jata hai...I had faced gender inequality...bada dukh hota hai ek teref bdi-bdi baatein karne Wale parent aur action me different. Aise parents ko bus social accomodation achhi lagti hai...bus tareef karde to khush aur usko proof karna hai esliye continue karna...pr sach to sach hai samne aa hi jate hai ❤ God gives peace to that children 🙏👏 i am praying them to be healed Fully... by the name of God 🙏
I feel your words now "muje sunn kar he healing ho jaegi" And yes rightly said healing happnes when we help other suffering with such trauma Thank you for making this video
Very much related…so many trauma I have …mera birthday kabhi nhi celebrate kiya jata tha aur bhai ka hamesha And bhai ko trips pe bheja jata tha aur muje kabhi nhi ..aaj bhi yaad h muje aur ye sab cheeze ab mein apne bacho ko deti hun like I celebrate their birthdays always with so much enthusiasm
Same here... Bhai ke bday ke ek hafte pehle se hi sb itne excited hote ki bday aarha Bhai ka , ye party krenge , ye cake layenge , aree isko to ye gift chahiye, etc. But mere bday ke time pe no one remembers, aur phir bday ke ek do din baad yaad aata inko ki bday tha Mera then phir meko hi blame krenge ki ye khud ka bday bhul gyi phn me ghusi rhti 😂😂 In the end I don't want fancy parties or gift or even cakes. I want nothing , just a wish so that ik that I am also a part of this family. I exist too..
Kaafi badhiya video.. Sir ka ek-ek example - gear waali cycle, pencil-eraser khoya tha, not buying something for kid even though parents had more than enough money - can realate
What a deep insight you have given in the last point sir 🙏🙏 I regret to say , I had no freedom of speech in my family as a child , so after my marriage I have suffered like hell .. i didn't know how to express my emotions or anything for that matter .. never knew how to put my emotions into words
Same with me , but with time and situations my confidence level increased and I learn slowly how to express myself . And now I am teaching my child to be straightforward and clear cut . Expression is must and disagreement is not an issue 😊
Just fantastic ,😊❤️👍😀. In India 80-95 % families are going through this . Actually it is the over disciplined home environment where the father is strict and dominating and mother is soft , submissive not strong enough to make the husband understand child feelings also financial constraints played a vital role . It is very painful for the child to face life in adulthood or childhood to face emotional turbulence , external world dominance and cruelty, life gets really painful . I still remember one incident that I faced in childhood that was craze for Barbie doll which was very famous in early 90's I was desperate to have one but my mother never brought it for me , anyways later i managed to get a teddy bear and other toys without much fuss from mother . Once you loose that desire for getting something in life which you are desperate for then you will never show desire for anything even if you achieve anything higher than that still that pain creates a dent on your emotions and never feel for asking anything in future .😥😵🙄😱😤
All the aspects you have touched are real.... No doubt.. Sir...at the age of 50 now I started healing.. Me and my daughter are living king size life.. With grace and and self respect... ❤ regards from hyderabad...
I am so so thankful and I would love to say that I have been the child who was privileged and lucky enough to not have gone through any of the above mentioned challenges. My brother often tells me that you are lucky and the world needs more people like you who do not carry unresolved childhood traumas
Bina paise ke love show krna, hmmm.. good listener, samay dena, comfort provide krna, unke liye khud ko change krne ki kosis krna aache ke liye, choti choti cheezen krna jisme paisa na lag rha lekin effort lag rha ho jisse samne wale ko pata chle ki aapke liye wo kitne important hai, thoda bht bachpana, etc
6/7. From first till 5th and then the 7th point. Every instance of emotional neglect that guruji mentioned in this video, was exactly how I was brought up. And the consequences of those actions are also exactly the same as Guruji mentioned, for example, "Not being able to articulate emotions perfectly and expecting my parents to understand everything on their own." These were cases for me until last year, for many years. This year, I have slowly started to heal, work and understand a lot of things in me. Life is not like Dear Zindagi, but my mental health has surely improved a lot. It's like my head feels less heavy now and the constant chatter has mellowed down. Sure there are lapses at times. But I can handle them better now. Emotional neglect during childhood is scathing, to say the least. It ruins people. And then it takes a lot of willpower, awareness and time to bounce back. Please seek help guys, if you are facing any one of these things. Otherwise it will eat you up from inside.
@@AnkitKumar-kk3iw Easier said than done waale points hai bhai. But try karna shuru karein toh ek naa ek din ho he jaayga. 1) Try achieving independence as soon as you can. Jitna inn sab ke beech rahenge, utna humara dimaag kharab hota rahega. 2) Realise that there are certain things that you can control, and the rest you can't. Maa baap ko agar sudharna hota toh khud he ho jaate, aur bohot pehle he ho jaate. 3) Train yourself to respond as and when you should. So that you can be at peace that you tried to change your parents, but couldn't because they didn't want to. Sometimes we have to inform someone of something because they can use supposed unawareness as an excuse. Remember, they won't change. But your duty is to try, and give up when you have done your best. 5) Stop inflicting your wounds on the outside world. You come from a shitty experience, others don't. Be jolly and kind to everyone, because they don't deserve your shit. 6) Always be cognizant about your duties as a son. Maa baap ke touch mein nahi rehna hai no issue. But help them whenever you have to, emotionally or financially. Some things are beyond profit and loss. 7) Do things that make you happy. For instance, I love reading, playing chess and cricket and watching movies. Find your happiness, because you didn't get it where you should have.
sir kya content hai...not because you touched ...but because aap jo higher order thinking sikhate hai.......gurudev aap to gyan ka khajana hai.... and i love to think & learn new aspect in my field of interest 🙏
following your channel for the past 6 months, never commented on your videos, only watching. But for the first time i am commenting. Yes what u said is true and i can relate to the points which u said. Thank you for talking about this topic.
6/10 for me. I can express my emotions without any hassle irrespective of how others feel. I will always prioritize myself over others. Good insights guruji. Thank you! Need you to cover topics on all 7
Uncleji me yeh ek ek saari cheez se gujar chuka hu aur sab samjhta hu. Mere mommy papa ne kaam ke chalte ki gaun me transfer ho gaya school ni hai to mujhe nani ke ghar bhej dia tha 4-11 saal ki age me. Sara hi mind emotions usi time develop hote hai. 3 mosi 1 mama aur nani. Mujhe lagta hai jese mujhe kuch ni mila bachpan me jo mujhe milna chahiye tha, is cheez se bade hone pe bhut jayada effect padta hai par uska bhugtan nahi ho sakta. Matlab khane ko chocolate bhi ni milti thi bachpan me chocolate ko chocolate bolte yeh bhi ni pata tha. Yeh to ek hi example hai. Papa saal me ek baar aate the ek chocolate late the, me thoda sa tukda khata tha aur fridge me rakhata tha aur gayab. Naam bhi ni batate the ki kahi yeh maang na le. Esi bhi kya garibi ki freez to hai ghar me par 5 rup ki dairy milk na de sake. Aaj me 36 ka hu aur yeh me jab 5-6 saal ka tha tab ki baat bata raha hu. Yeh cheezo se pharak padta hai, jo bachpan ki udaan bharne pe hathode padte hai to usse pankh to tut jaate hai aur bade hone me insaan choud me nahi ghum pata.
I have all of them, i have been planning my escape from my parents house since i was in class 9th, right now that dream seems closer and closer, i will graduate next year and will give cat, which i am preparing for right now, i live in delhi, but i will purposefully take the farthest college i can, so i can finally live in peace, ever after, after my MBA will take a job, away from my town. Although i have all seven, i have a girlfriend, but i have never been able to truly love her, cause i guess i even have rejection trauma, being rejected by multiple women, when i was just 15-17, i never looked good in my entire life, have some traumatic experiences, i dont talk to my family on a regular basis, my saving grace would be, atleast i am not becomming a violent person, that will harm others, i am just withering away in silence. Dont know how i will feel, when i finally achieve what i wanted for all my, i would be free and happy, for how long i don't know, i guess thats why i am trying and wanna do so many things in life, like guitar, piano, singing, vlogging etc. Cause i dont know how i will be if i am just left to my own demises, I've so far stayed away from drugs, alcohol and cigarettes, but i don't know if it will be like this in future, who knows, but having a life with no joy, nobody around me and me not taking any substance to numb this loneliness, grief and pain, i cant imagine that life
Don't worry...aage ek khushal khubsurat jiwan aap ki intejar kar rahi hai... agar jiwan me bus ek chij ko pakarna ho to wo hai HOPE. HOPE ko na chode... Best of luck🙏
Practice gratitude...write 10 things in the morning daily which you are grateful for...include even your parents in that..see what they have done for you like giving you birth and education..ignore what they didnt...it will be difficult for you to thank them in the beginning but with time you'll be able to forgive them and then you will heal....i too have vrrry toxic parents and traumatic childhood and adulthood...still stuck with my parents but healed a great deal...god bless you dear with all the love and happiness in your life...baaki success toh aap khud hi achieve kar loge..😊
Spending time with kids, going for walks, telling stories, listening to what children have to say without being judgemental, not comparing n so many other ways that are more important than spending money unthinkingly.
I had this 7 out of 7 symptoms of childhood neglect and emotional damage. But two years back I join two Krishna bhakti fully at least doing 15 out of 24 hours a day and in this due time of last two years I have healed completely out of all these thing. Now I don't even have a single out of this 7 symptoms in me. Now I am a fully happy and satisfied person.
Acc. to me these are my way of showing love without money: 1. Giving frequent massages when anybody i love is stressed. 2. Sitting quietly and being an active participant in their rant. 3. postponing my work for sometime so that i can help them if its really that important. 4. proactively helping them in their work, if i am capable of that task.
You have explained in a good way. I have a different question about this. Such trauma happens to everyone. There’s no one who might not have experienced it. But few people can overcome it without having a long lasting effect. It means it has to do something with individual nature. Some people are so sensitive that they can’t handle even minor issues. Of course l am not talking about major issues. But if I am not satisfied with anything, l can’t be satisfied even in future because of my nature. The events may not be important. That is where 2000 yr old knowledge is helpful.
7 out 7 with exact precision and accuracy and the day I get acknowledged for my achievements and how hard I tried is the day I can die in peace. Thank you so much.........just pure gratitude🙏🏼 Even my parents, fiance and close friends, none of them can accurately describe me this well.
Sir you have addressed correctly. I have suffered a lot in childhood, my parents always appreciated other children and said how they are so efficient and you are not upto the mark.
Excellent topic , real rrue topics which should be discussed. Trauma of parents which affects children , should also be discussed. How ro forgive parents who had their own flaws, but respect their positive aspects
At least parents should have either love or money. What about those children whose parents neither have love nor money, just imagine the situation of such children how heart broken adults they become. Childhood trauma is a real thing and very serious. Thank you Guru Ji for speaking for us and on our behalf.
How to show love without money 1. Kissing/hugging your loved one 2. Telling you are always for them 3. Talking to them 4. Playing as family 5. Going on trips
After watching this video I realised how blessed iam to get such great parents. Sir your videos are really informative, i have switched to cat preparation from govt job preparation at 23 and now I came to understand why you said it that if your father is in govt job then don’t prepare for it. Thank you very Much❤️
Love language except money is By caring for them By cooking great food for them By beings available to them by listening to them By giving emotional support to them By giving your time & effort to them By going extra mile for them By providing advice to them
Make a greeting message Write a short note Any thing hand crafted Take a leave from job exclusive for someone Create an activity and involve that peroson
I saw the video twice jus t make sure dt i dont have even 1 of these.....im really fortunate to have had a great upbringing...i always felt so but now guruji ne mohar laga di.... thks guruji
Childhood emotional neglect can be even restricted to certain amount of hours in the day, for example, when a particular relative was coming and interacting and the mother was ignoring the child during the day.
Without money show love....... 1. Don't do some usual msg on their special day like b'day.....call them or meet them on their day. 2. Take care about small things, tell them what is little bit good things about them 3. Be a good listener, don't listen them for giving a answer, just listen to them when they are emotionally dull 4. Don't judge them for a thing which u are not understanding at this time or something weird at that time 5. Or just a simple talk to them once a week or as much time as you want
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Guruji ek video please startup k upar banaiye for females, I mean simple speaking ....mujhe marriage institution pasand nahi h so marrige nahi karni h but uske liye life mein bhaut bada kuch mtlb jisse financially independent rahu + khud ka ghar+ gaddi+ ek goal zindagi katne k liye
😂 I know sab kuch expectations ki treh bol Diya ek saath but sachi sachi bta Rahi hu yahi chahti hoon right now age 19
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Seven signs of a emotionally neglected person :-
1) overachiever
2) attention seeker
3) hyper independent/ hyper dependent
4)never satisfied in relationships/ career/life
5) perfectionist approach
6)shows love with gifts and money only
7) can't express their feelings in proper words
Or
Can't articulate their feelings properly.
Non monetary ways of showing love 💕:
1) Being genuine listener for family members
2) Giving quality time to your child / partner
3) 100 % acceptance of family members qualities including flaws
4) not expecting obedience all the time -letting people be. Obedience is not respect .
5) cooking or playing sports or activities together
6) celebrating small happy occasions together - laugh & cry together
7) Having healthy boundaries in relationship
But most parents want monetary love
@@jyotsnakailashiya1
Yes that is reality of society
I'm 27 years old Indian living in London, my mother passed away during COVID, not sad not happy, I just never felt more free in life. Narcissistic abuse by parents is a real thing. Taking therapy to fix myself. This man is on point with everything. Your own parents/partner/kids/friends can be the reason why you are always not good enough.
What therapy are you taking? How to get started with mental health consultations / issues in UK?
@@shaneward2588 University provided a therapist once, then some research of my own, books, articles, free online courses.
relatable plz tell me about therapy , I am in depression since 2016 ,didn't achieved anything in life.
I'm too in this path currently, I think I'll die young I cannot control my anger
Soo true.. I'm with narc parents too.. Can relate😢
Please
Please
Please start a whole parenting series with age categories
Its a must for indian society❤
Yes I agree!! PLEASE We need a whole playlist for child-parent and deifferent aspects of this relationship!
Yes please make it 😢
Yes, please
Yes please
Yes plz make it sir parenting tips
Yes. Without money or fancy stuff we can show our love- 1.When needed - by Listening and confirming them
2. By offering self cooked food
3.Going on a normal walk
4. Doing their one or two jobs when they need or just like that.
5 By giving tight hug for no reason
6. Looking after when not well
7. Just sitting and watching TV together,eating ,dancing together
❤
Perfectly said
I can relate to 4 or 5 of them. Sometime i feel guilty for having fun or spendng on myself. Like i always wanted to celebrate my birthday when i was young but havng cake nd invitng people over was considerd as waste of money in my house and i m an introvert so i never insested. But i always got some gifts or clothes by my parents. so now i dont like to celebrate my birthday at all even i feel wierd if anyone wishes me or i buy something for myself. sometime i get anxious on that day But i always try to give gifts to people on their birthdays.
I thought it was only me
Count me too in the group
Me too
Same here but the only difference is i didn't get gifts from my parents too😢
Me Too, Reason some uncles son died when he was infant and that sentiment came in, even now indont allow
My kids to cut cake 😅. There were times i forgot my bday, may be little worse than you😊. So now ireally dont know how to celebrate life even when earninig good money. I feel anxious to celebrate.
My mother told me that I was unwanted child. These lines broke me....
Mine said that too....this pain never leaves 😢
Quite disheartening to hear this. Hope you find good people around you to overcome this.
Might be for your mother but not for God. It's Him who has given life. 😊
@@lotusvines3698very nice , your line is encouraging 👍
Most of the children are unwanted, since they're conceived out of societal pressure. Thus, those comments would be thrown at kids. An unhappy couple or mother or father can't keep the child happy, unless they're highly mature.
Kids used to be the easy target of insults and beatings, therefore parents would take out their frustration onto them. Moreover, nobody was taught how parenting is done. No education related to that!
So, children usually were guinea pigs.
Lastly, do consume content related to inner child healing. It will benefit anyone dealing with emotional baggage.
If the problem is here, answer is here too. ☀
Hug, care, listening to them, doing small things for them, laugh with them, morning walk or evening walk with them... I mean seeing something natural like stars, morning sun etc
Cooking something when ill
Aapke jesa guru 40 saal pehle mila hota tau life kuch alag hoti
Expression of love without money:
1. Appreciate (Not boasting) your child in public place after any achievement
2. Giving moral support to the child in his low phases and struggling days
3. Reassuring the child that we as a family will take care of every ups and downs in life
4. Having a rule in a family where everyone can help in each other's work, cleaning, cooking, studying.
5. Showing gratitude towards god for their child, infront of them. Showing kids that we're thankful to god that kid belongs to them
7 Signs -->
1) You are an over achiever.
2) You want acceptance, admiration, affection from everybody.
3) Extremely Depedent Or Extremely Independent Towards Everybody.
4) You keep trying doing many things but not complete in every thing. You are not feeling complete.
5) Being hard on yourself.
6) You are incapable of showing love without money/gifts.
7) You are not able to express feelings with words.
When l was child my mother never remembered my birthday. Forget cake & gift no one in my family wished me happy birthday. I did very well in my professional life Now my mother stays with me& wishes happy birthday. Now l know the reason why I feel so awkward on my birthday.
There is one more sign that is linked with childhood neglect. Which is that you can't say no to anyone. You always are fearful that your friends or family will abandon you if you say no to them. You always try to be available for your friends and family even if you already have a lot on your plate.
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Hello sir you didn't include following points.
1) Different treatments between siblings
2) making kids feel inferior about their looks.
3) expecting to show matured behaviour on every occasion.
4) never teach children to do household chores... And then taunt them tht they don't know how to do it.
5) never show love and affection.
6) putting their decisions(self interest) on kids... Using various ways of emotional blackmailing.
As a kid you think whatever your parents are saying is right... But as you become mature you realise... All the decision they have taken.. Was for their comfort not for kids.
Your all 7 points are exactly matching with my right now condition. 😢 horrible!
I am 37 and realised quite late in life that how blessed I was for having parents who still treat us with the same love as they had when me and my sisters were kids. I can see around me that people who were neglected during childhood are on a self-harm mission and are getting miserable day by day. I really thought of telling them the real reason for their misery but the way you have articulated is marvellous. All your 7 points are bang on and I hope this video pops up on their feed so that they can live a lil better lives as sharing with them seems a lil risky to me. This video can be brutal for people who are actually suffering. But at the same time it is imperative that we start talking about these issues and amitji is doing a great job on it.
Yes childhood traumas are the extensions of mundane and subtle things . I am 30 years have been on a healing journey for 8 months and found out that roots were in the childhood. You are a reformer ❤ it's so good that we have you around to guide people through !
How do you heal ?
Mai bhi b tech bilkul nahi karna chahta tha but my father forced me to do it. Aur pura 4 years +6months trauma me hi beeta( 2015 se dec2019). Aur fir pandemic. In 2023 I get joining of cgl 2020 exam. Aaj bhi lagta hai kaas simple collage se BA kiya hota to thik rehta bekar me itni mehnat kar li mila kuch nahi
Jivan jine ke kuch to hai aapke pass kuch success to hai. use your tech in startup or getting new ideas
Normal Ba se cgl me selection nahi hota
@VikramSingh-hm4yl who told you??
@@mrdaman99 kindly check syllabus and exam pattern of cgl
Very true sir🙏 i am 30 right now sahi hai wo khalipan reh jata hai...I had faced gender inequality...bada dukh hota hai ek teref bdi-bdi baatein karne Wale parent aur action me different. Aise parents ko bus social accomodation achhi lagti hai...bus tareef karde to khush aur usko proof karna hai esliye continue karna...pr sach to sach hai samne aa hi jate hai ❤ God gives peace to that children 🙏👏 i am praying them to be healed Fully... by the name of God 🙏
I can understand 😊
I feel your words now "muje sunn kar he healing ho jaegi"
And yes rightly said healing happnes when we help other suffering with such trauma
Thank you for making this video
Very much related…so many trauma I have …mera birthday kabhi nhi celebrate kiya jata tha aur bhai ka hamesha And bhai ko trips pe bheja jata tha aur muje kabhi nhi ..aaj bhi yaad h muje aur ye sab cheeze ab mein apne bacho ko deti hun like I celebrate their birthdays always with so much enthusiasm
Same here... Bhai ke bday ke ek hafte pehle se hi sb itne excited hote ki bday aarha Bhai ka , ye party krenge , ye cake layenge , aree isko to ye gift chahiye, etc.
But mere bday ke time pe no one remembers, aur phir bday ke ek do din baad yaad aata inko ki bday tha Mera then phir meko hi blame krenge ki ye khud ka bday bhul gyi phn me ghusi rhti 😂😂
In the end I don't want fancy parties or gift or even cakes. I want nothing , just a wish so that ik that I am also a part of this family. I exist too..
God bless everyone ❤️
God bless you dear with all the love and happiness...and its so good that you didnt let your childhood neglect affect your love for your children😊
Kaafi badhiya video.. Sir ka ek-ek example - gear waali cycle, pencil-eraser khoya tha, not buying something for kid even though parents had more than enough money - can realate
Sir, I'm 21 years old, been bingeing your content for a month now. I broke down watching this
What a deep insight you have given in the last point sir 🙏🙏
I regret to say , I had no freedom of speech in my family as a child , so after my marriage I have suffered like hell .. i didn't know how to express my emotions or anything for that matter .. never knew how to put my emotions into words
Same with me , but with time and situations my confidence level increased and I learn slowly how to express myself . And now I am teaching my child to be straightforward and clear cut . Expression is must and disagreement is not an issue 😊
Going through the same situation but I am watching kdramas since last 2 years and that helped me to put my feelings and emotions into words
@@anjusingh5082 well said
Just fantastic ,😊❤️👍😀. In India 80-95 % families are going through this . Actually it is the over disciplined home environment where the father is strict and dominating and mother is soft , submissive not strong enough to make the husband understand child feelings also financial constraints played a vital role . It is very painful for the child to face life in adulthood or childhood to face emotional turbulence , external world dominance and cruelty, life gets really painful . I still remember one incident that I faced in childhood that was craze for Barbie doll which was very famous in early 90's I was desperate to have one but my mother never brought it for me , anyways later i managed to get a teddy bear and other toys without much fuss from mother . Once you loose that desire for getting something in life which you are desperate for then you will never show desire for anything even if you achieve anything higher than that still that pain creates a dent on your emotions and never feel for asking anything in future .😥😵🙄😱😤
You are right. Aur jab sibbling smart ho aur aap smart nahin ho to bhi childhood me bahut kuch dil me dab jata hai jo mind me asar karta hai.
Ryt ..mere siblings bhi mjhe aesa feel krte like mai puri life unpe depended thi aur ab mjhe unhe paybavk krna chahiye ..chae iske liye career chodna pade
Too much of self love and self loathe is not good. But the challenge is draw a balance of both.😊
All the aspects you have touched are real.... No doubt.. Sir...at the age of 50 now I started healing.. Me and my daughter are living king size life.. With grace and and self respect... ❤ regards from hyderabad...
You are so true sir....
A very nice video where parents should really see it and understand it so that they can see to their kids in a better way
I am so so thankful and I would love to say that I have been the child who was privileged and lucky enough to not have gone through any of the above mentioned challenges. My brother often tells me that you are lucky and the world needs more people like you who do not carry unresolved childhood traumas
same. but i seen my friends suffering
Cycle wala baat sey toh emotional kar diye aap mujhe😢
Bina paise ke love show krna, hmmm.. good listener, samay dena, comfort provide krna, unke liye khud ko change krne ki kosis krna aache ke liye, choti choti cheezen krna jisme paisa na lag rha lekin effort lag rha ho jisse samne wale ko pata chle ki aapke liye wo kitne important hai, thoda bht bachpana, etc
6/7. From first till 5th and then the 7th point. Every instance of emotional neglect that guruji mentioned in this video, was exactly how I was brought up. And the consequences of those actions are also exactly the same as Guruji mentioned, for example, "Not being able to articulate emotions perfectly and expecting my parents to understand everything on their own." These were cases for me until last year, for many years. This year, I have slowly started to heal, work and understand a lot of things in me. Life is not like Dear Zindagi, but my mental health has surely improved a lot. It's like my head feels less heavy now and the constant chatter has mellowed down. Sure there are lapses at times. But I can handle them better now. Emotional neglect during childhood is scathing, to say the least. It ruins people. And then it takes a lot of willpower, awareness and time to bounce back. Please seek help guys, if you are facing any one of these things. Otherwise it will eat you up from inside.
Bro ye same signs mere me bhi hai sirf 6th wale ko chodd ke
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Aap kaise isse bahar aaye ho......plz tell me 🙏🏻
@@AnkitKumar-kk3iw Easier said than done waale points hai bhai. But try karna shuru karein toh ek naa ek din ho he jaayga. 1) Try achieving independence as soon as you can. Jitna inn sab ke beech rahenge, utna humara dimaag kharab hota rahega. 2) Realise that there are certain things that you can control, and the rest you can't. Maa baap ko agar sudharna hota toh khud he ho jaate, aur bohot pehle he ho jaate. 3) Train yourself to respond as and when you should. So that you can be at peace that you tried to change your parents, but couldn't because they didn't want to. Sometimes we have to inform someone of something because they can use supposed unawareness as an excuse. Remember, they won't change. But your duty is to try, and give up when you have done your best. 5) Stop inflicting your wounds on the outside world. You come from a shitty experience, others don't. Be jolly and kind to everyone, because they don't deserve your shit. 6) Always be cognizant about your duties as a son. Maa baap ke touch mein nahi rehna hai no issue. But help them whenever you have to, emotionally or financially. Some things are beyond profit and loss. 7) Do things that make you happy. For instance, I love reading, playing chess and cricket and watching movies. Find your happiness, because you didn't get it where you should have.
@@thevedickid thank u😢
@@thevedickidthank You 🥺🥹
@@thevedickidso nice of you to have shared these healing methods..god bless you dear😊
Touched my heart. Thankyou for your exceptional information
sir kya content hai...not because you touched ...but because aap jo higher order thinking sikhate hai.......gurudev aap to gyan ka khajana hai.... and i love to think & learn new aspect in my field of interest 🙏
Hi Sir! Thank you for the valuable information as always🙏🏻
Thanks Guruji ! Aap jab bolte ho - Don’t share this video and the reason you have given, I have understood your are so genuine as a person. 😊
following your channel for the past 6 months, never commented on your videos, only watching. But for the first time i am commenting. Yes what u said is true and i can relate to the points which u said. Thank you for talking about this topic.
Your topics are exceptionally good and highly needed for everyone. Pl do continue to bring such videos. Hats off
Highly relevant issues you have discussed. Thank you so much for your efforts as well as the information.
7/7 But I always blamed myself only as culturally I believe parents can’t be wrong.
6/10 for me. I can express my emotions without any hassle irrespective of how others feel. I will always prioritize myself over others. Good insights guruji. Thank you! Need you to cover topics on all 7
Very good content, much needed
Uncleji me yeh ek ek saari cheez se gujar chuka hu aur sab samjhta hu. Mere mommy papa ne kaam ke chalte ki gaun me transfer ho gaya school ni hai to mujhe nani ke ghar bhej dia tha 4-11 saal ki age me. Sara hi mind emotions usi time develop hote hai. 3 mosi 1 mama aur nani. Mujhe lagta hai jese mujhe kuch ni mila bachpan me jo mujhe milna chahiye tha, is cheez se bade hone pe bhut jayada effect padta hai par uska bhugtan nahi ho sakta. Matlab khane ko chocolate bhi ni milti thi bachpan me chocolate ko chocolate bolte yeh bhi ni pata tha. Yeh to ek hi example hai. Papa saal me ek baar aate the ek chocolate late the, me thoda sa tukda khata tha aur fridge me rakhata tha aur gayab. Naam bhi ni batate the ki kahi yeh maang na le. Esi bhi kya garibi ki freez to hai ghar me par 5 rup ki dairy milk na de sake. Aaj me 36 ka hu aur yeh me jab 5-6 saal ka tha tab ki baat bata raha hu.
Yeh cheezo se pharak padta hai, jo bachpan ki udaan bharne pe hathode padte hai to usse pankh to tut jaate hai aur bade hone me insaan choud me nahi ghum pata.
I m 22 rn stared earning a good amount, kuch bhi aaj ke din leta hu khud ke liye, yah salary aati toh Khushi hoti hi nahi.... nothing, now i know why
same here.
I have all of them, i have been planning my escape from my parents house since i was in class 9th, right now that dream seems closer and closer, i will graduate next year and will give cat, which i am preparing for right now, i live in delhi, but i will purposefully take the farthest college i can, so i can finally live in peace, ever after, after my MBA will take a job, away from my town. Although i have all seven, i have a girlfriend, but i have never been able to truly love her, cause i guess i even have rejection trauma, being rejected by multiple women, when i was just 15-17, i never looked good in my entire life, have some traumatic experiences, i dont talk to my family on a regular basis, my saving grace would be, atleast i am not becomming a violent person, that will harm others, i am just withering away in silence. Dont know how i will feel, when i finally achieve what i wanted for all my, i would be free and happy, for how long i don't know, i guess thats why i am trying and wanna do so many things in life, like guitar, piano, singing, vlogging etc. Cause i dont know how i will be if i am just left to my own demises, I've so far stayed away from drugs, alcohol and cigarettes, but i don't know if it will be like this in future, who knows, but having a life with no joy, nobody around me and me not taking any substance to numb this loneliness, grief and pain, i cant imagine that life
Don't worry...aage ek khushal khubsurat jiwan aap ki intejar kar rahi hai... agar jiwan me bus ek chij ko pakarna ho to wo hai HOPE. HOPE ko na chode... Best of luck🙏
Take sir's happiness course. We all are in the same situation. Hooe we all heal
Practice gratitude...write 10 things in the morning daily which you are grateful for...include even your parents in that..see what they have done for you like giving you birth and education..ignore what they didnt...it will be difficult for you to thank them in the beginning but with time you'll be able to forgive them and then you will heal....i too have vrrry toxic parents and traumatic childhood and adulthood...still stuck with my parents but healed a great deal...god bless you dear with all the love and happiness in your life...baaki success toh aap khud hi achieve kar loge..😊
Very good sir u actually got the topics that matter most....
The upbringing ...... Please next
Yes sir upbringing is very important
Spending time with kids, going for walks, telling stories, listening to what children have to say without being judgemental, not comparing n so many other ways that are more important than spending money unthinkingly.
I had this 7 out of 7 symptoms of childhood neglect and emotional damage. But two years back I join two Krishna bhakti fully at least doing 15 out of 24 hours a day and in this due time of last two years I have healed completely out of all these thing. Now I don't even have a single out of this 7 symptoms in me. Now I am a fully happy and satisfied person.
I too want to join Krishna bhakti... Please guide me how can I join. There is no iskcon near by my town
True
@learningrecreation2824 watch give Gita
Very deep touching video, striking at the root level....
Acc. to me these are my way of showing love without money:
1. Giving frequent massages when anybody i love is stressed.
2. Sitting quietly and being an active participant in their rant.
3. postponing my work for sometime so that i can help them if its really that important.
4. proactively helping them in their work, if i am capable of that task.
Amazing.. thanks for such content
Wonderful content Amitji👌👌
Zabardastttttt Mazzaaaa Aa Gayaaaaa, Guru Ji 🍾🔥 Pls make detailed videos on all SEVEN points 😍😍😍
All relevant points. Better don't have children than to scar them forever...past karma settlement? Don't know!!
Superrrrbbb Guruji, u hv absolutely nailed it. I hv never heard anything more relevant than this....
sir you are truly connected to roots...MAG❤❤
Best video ever period plz make a series on this
Video was very informative. Thank u so much for showing light on these topics..
Thank you sir for video 🙏🏻Aapke thoughts mere jese hi hai....💯✅
You have explained in a good way. I have a different question about this. Such trauma happens to everyone. There’s no one who might not have experienced it. But few people can overcome it without having a long lasting effect. It means it has to do something with individual nature. Some people are so sensitive that they can’t handle even minor issues. Of course l am not talking about major issues.
But if I am not satisfied with anything, l can’t be satisfied even in future because of my nature. The events may not be important. That is where 2000 yr old knowledge is helpful.
Zabardast. Psychiatrist Amit ji
7 out 7 with exact precision and accuracy and the day I get acknowledged for my achievements and how hard I tried is the day I can die in peace.
Thank you so much.........just pure gratitude🙏🏼
Even my parents, fiance and close friends, none of them can accurately describe me this well.
Great video...want more of these.. 1 to 5 happened with me..
Sir you have addressed correctly. I have suffered a lot in childhood, my parents always appreciated other children and said how they are so efficient and you are not upto the mark.
Excellent topic , real rrue topics which should be discussed. Trauma of parents which affects children , should also be discussed. How ro forgive parents who had their own flaws, but respect their positive aspects
Thank you sir.. for making this video after I made a request to you in your earlier video...
All 7. Thank you for sharing
Beautifully explained guruji
I could relate to most of the points but no. 7 made me cry 😪 Pls make a video on how we can release our emotions which are piled up inside
Loved this video
We can show love through
1. Cooking food for the person
2. By giving your time
Omg this man is bang on true in his all videos...👌👌👌.....who made u...ur thinking...practically soo true...
Brilliant video.
Excellent video 👏🏻👏🏻
Wow.......Sir one of the best video ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Great You are really Great an eye opener 🤩
Guruji I carried childhood trauma unknowingly. Your words are inspiring.
At least parents should have either love or money. What about those children whose parents neither have love nor money, just imagine the situation of such children how heart broken adults they become. Childhood trauma is a real thing and very serious. Thank you Guru Ji for speaking for us and on our behalf.
How to show love without money
1. Kissing/hugging your loved one
2. Telling you are always for them
3. Talking to them
4. Playing as family
5. Going on trips
After watching this video I realised how blessed iam to get such great parents. Sir your videos are really informative, i have switched to cat preparation from govt job preparation at 23 and now I came to understand why you said it that if your father is in govt job then don’t prepare for it.
Thank you very Much❤️
Love language except money is
By caring for them
By cooking great food for them
By beings available to them by listening to them
By giving emotional support to them
By giving your time & effort to them
By going extra mile for them
By providing advice to them
Make a greeting message
Write a short note
Any thing hand crafted
Take a leave from job exclusive for someone
Create an activity and involve that peroson
Very good video Sir. Appreciate your efforts.
I saw the video twice jus t make sure dt i dont have even 1 of these.....im really fortunate to have had a great upbringing...i always felt so but now guruji ne mohar laga di.... thks guruji
2 out of 7 ..
Thanks Guruji . Maza aa gya hai
Your words are inspiring
Jai Shri Ram Guru ji. Great topic. Thank you ❤
So true I have seen these happening with my brother's..and they both are in this categories..need healing 💖
Ya heal these bulls 🐂
Maza aa gya sir... bahut tym se jo prob hui h uska reason aaj samaj aya..
Highly healing video ❤❤
Childhood emotional neglect can be even restricted to certain amount of hours in the day, for example, when a particular relative was coming and interacting and the mother was ignoring the child during the day.
Without money show love.......
1. Don't do some usual msg on their special day like b'day.....call them or meet them on their day.
2. Take care about small things, tell them what is little bit good things about them
3. Be a good listener, don't listen them for giving a answer, just listen to them when they are emotionally dull
4. Don't judge them for a thing which u are not understanding at this time or something weird at that time
5. Or just a simple talk to them once a week or as much time as you want
Sir you are true guru❤
Very true sir feeling myself connected 😭
Love can be expressed by appriciation and behaving friendly with them
Good knowledge👍
7/7 😢 and I know. So many things happened in young life and realised that it's due to childhood troma.
Ways of loving : giving a selfless hug, just listening, a simple pat on the back, not always giving lectures on life, just being chill at times.
I always thought being physically, emotionally, financially independent on any other is being a strong person.
But in actual it's weakness
But I love to be independent
Don't need anyone
Don't put or take anything from my life
Just come, enjoy and left
So good topic. Very nice sir
Even sir....Mother in law and husband also play a big role in neglecting ghar ki bahu... Fir aage bhi wahi repeat hota hai