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Some elderly people are so sadistic that they spoil the lives of their children. They keep mongering that they are sacrificing everything and nobody else will do...
Totally agree sir. MIL is not happy with maid even when we pay. They want house chores to be done by working DILs. Only objective is to exercise the authority on their children and emotional blackmail when they try to resist. Problem is they are too free
@@PUBLICSPEAKINGbyHD in laws k sath rehna mushkil hai kyunki wo dil se respect chahte hain par uski ek paise ki respect nahi karte Of course aab k liye alag rehna possible nahi hai ... Aap shayad male hain isiliye maid ki problem aapko reasonable nahi lagi
Sir, these is an extremely relevant topic that you have covered. You are talking about MIL etc… there are some parents who become SOOO rigid that apni zidd, apna gussa, apni akad main hi rehna chahtey hain. Kuch sikhao toh seekhna bhi Nahi chahtey hain… and Sahi bataun toh 49 ke umr main bhi kissey kya baat Karni hain woh bhi humein bathana hain unko,. Woh bhi kissliye , ki log kya sonchengey. Beti Ka divorce hogaya toh logon ko Patha Na chaley. Ye main keh rahi hoon from a perspective and a person who is from a Leadership team. A senior professional who has gone through Sooo much in life only to cater to take good care of the parent, coz for ppl like us, who has been there-done that , seen so much lows that I want to go into some Ashram and not show off by buying new clothes, colouring hair etc etc… depth hi Nahi hain kyunki their life has been extremely easy…
Parents digitally upgrade hona hi nahi chahte. Sirf RUclips aur whatsApp chala k khush hain. Mere in laws dono subah 5 baje se apne apne mobile me full volume me RUclips chalate the jab hamare sath rehne aaye. Humne dono ko earphones khareed k diye lekin dono ne hi use karne se mana kar diya. Mahino sone nahi diya dono ne humko chain se. Subah se dono k mobile bajne lagte the.
I have full time helper , personal yoga trainer & cook for for my mother. I am doing her payments on line. Still she is my biggest critic because l am a full time working female. I can’t sit with her daily for one hour & do gossip All The time she criticises me for my life style
Somehow feel that parents tend to see own children as enemies once they get married or once children take jobs. They get together and criticise their own children and their spouses. This is a nasty habit which runs in society. Parents that won't criticise their own children doesn't get recognition in groups . This is a disease rampant. And the newly wedded couple are scapegoats.
My parents have spoiled my reputation in all of my relatives, by personally going at their places and explaing how their elder son is useless and good for nothing. Not even the formar maids were spared from providing our personal information. For past 20 years, I have been labeled as useless. Now I have stopped asking for respect. Only thing can solve this is living separate, atleast 20-25 kms away from parents. They have already spoiled enough my life, now I can't let them doing this anymore. Ps: They have not helped me anything, not even financially.
The Older generation has no concept of globalisation. They ask me did I cook my own food whilst I was living in Australia. I was so busy earning $32 an hour that I didn’t have time to scratch my arse, let alone waste my precious time cooking my own food at home. Besides I was meeting interesting people at work so why indulge in solitary activities like cooking at home.
I believe sir, you have written this content seeing my mother. I feel very bored when I visit my mother, she always compares me with others. My children also doesn't want to go to my mother
Arre all mummies are like that re...thoda zhel le bhai...you will miss her when she is gone... bachpan mein tu jab rota tha bewaja, woh tujhe zhelti thi na!
@@starxd5697no dear not all mothers compare children and let's not normalise this cheap competitiveness of comparison. Why should this lady tolerate her mother's toxicity? Jhel le thoda kyon? Bachpan mein baccha kabhi apne maa baap ko compare karta hai? That lady's mother is no child but she is insulting her daughter in front of her grand kids why should anyone tolerate this toxicity in the name of thoda sa jhelna? We are creating a generation of mentally tired people
Yes we all have normalise bad behaviour of old people so much and when anyone raise object for their betterment they get offended. One of the most common problem is their health, they do not want to do any physical exercises, improve their eating habits, but have to brag and discuss with everyone about their health, dieses. Want to visit to doctors frequently and think medicine will cure them
@@shivanginipathak3347 LOL, don't you think it is easier to learn some gratefulness and understand that the previous generation will not change rather than rebelling and hurting them. Learn from them what not to do when you get to that stage. Remember, what goes around, cones around. Karma never forgets the address. You don't know how your old age will pan out and how irritating, grumpy, pathetic and useless you may turn out. When young, it is easy to bad mouth and rebel as your hormones decide and not you. People who cannot even jhelo their parents, ghanta they will jhelo the world and achieve big things....think about it.
@@starxd5697 being grateful doesn't mean you comply to toxicity. In my old age I cannot be rude or nasty to people only because I'm old so according to that logic there should be no CrPC for those committing a crime who are above 65 because they are old and what goes around shall come around for the judge who is course correcting them? You are confusing good deeds with tolerating toxicity and nobody should ever deal with any snides, rebukes or snarls even if it's from one's own family members. And this is not being rebellious this is coming from a 37yr old psychologist.
Sir, asking parents to not use their youngsters in this way is of no use because they don’t care. It is responsibility of youngsters age 25 and above to stand up for themself and start saying NO. Young people, make it a rule to NOT drive any relative or neighbor absolutely anywhere. You are not free drivers. Ask your parents and everyone to get a taxi or Lyft. Learn to be selfish and take care of your own physical and emotional health.
Aapki bantain 100% sahi hoti hai. Mere papa bhi bahut Gyaan dete hai.. or hum questions bhi ne kar sakte or unki baat ko galat bhi ni keh sakte.. unke sath rehti hu to mental health kharab ho jata hai meri.. isliye dur rehti hu.. sahi kaha 😅 chhodna koi ni chahta chhut jata hai. Bahut bahut dhanyawaad😊 😊
you are absolutely right, Great video, There are some old men in my neighborhood who have made a schedule for the week that on which day whose brain is to be eaten, they will not die but will kill the youngsters.
Oh wow thanks for this video sir! I relate to this very strongly. I'm often treated as the 'family courier' to give things to my relatives and to sometimes run errands; sometimes the 'clown' to entertain my relative's kids too :D And other times to sit and listen to everyone else's problems in addition to the trauma dumping that my parents keep doing. I often struggle to put my foot down because I might have to burn bridges with people that my parents are close to. Sadly, my parents weren't very successful or productive when they were younger and have to rely on other people and me for most things. It's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. And hilariously, no one ever checks up on me.
Start talking nonsense and act insane in front of people you want to avoid. Start telling your problem to them so that they know you are unavailable. Please focus on your career or no one will come to save you. Just an advice because I can feel the pain.
Just now mom made me feel guilty for not coming with her in market ....she never tell my elder brother to do all such work.....Even my elder brother who is 9 years older than me use to tell all his work to me ....and he use to seat nicely at home without doing any work
Sir so true..one more thing pls make a video where in daughter also living with parents due to bad marriage and it impacts Son's relationship with parents who is also married. Parents playing favorites to gain upper hand
बुजुर्गों का टाईम पास नही होता।🤣🤣🤣 मै और पिताजी 70 और 96 के हैं।और हमे टाईम नही मिलता। दिन भर कुछ न कुछ काम करना पड़ता है। पिताजी सुबह योग से शुरु होते है और 10 बजे खुद कंप्यूटर पर शेयर बाज़ार मे लग जाते है।😃😃😄😄 और मेरे अपने बहुत काम हैं जो मेरे अलावा कोई और नही कर सकता।
Learn to live with urself, to do ur chores ur self or keep a helper. Do yoga, walking, reading, cooking n meditation. Be a good human being, control ur anger, greed n attachments, ego etc etc Watch some good old movie s
Sir there is one more problem very common with old people pls address it also. My MIL is 67 and since very beginning she her mother and siblings favourite topic of discussion is their health and unnecessary tension of small small things, anytime if you or anyone spend sometime with her she starts discussing her health 70% and other things rest 30% . She consumes medicine for BP, Diabetes etc. we have been taking her to doctors every month if one dieses get cure she gets some other health issue it keeps going. Physical exercise done by her is zero, we always ask her to indulge in physical exercises, walk, not to take stress but all in vein. Then we have to keep changing doctors because she thinks that doctor is not able to cure her. We have her insurance and she thinks if she gets admit in hospital it will be free but insaurance company rejected our claim. I had to resign from my Job because of these dramas and I got tired of managing my 3 year daughter, office and these dramas . Older generation these days enjoy talking about their health to gain sympathies.
Sir, exactly🤯. Mere dadu kal tak electricity ka bill, phone recharge sab cash se dukaan jakar karwaate the. Ab mujhse bolte hain, mai to yahi bolta hun ki debit card do mai bahar nahi jaaunga. Aap itni relatable baatein kaise karte ho? Mai dekhta hun mere dadu bank bhejte hain ki bhai ye entry karwa la, mai kahu aap netbanking ka form bhar do. Mai aaj tak bank nahi gya, kyu jaaun..😂
I am 37, and today, I was diagnosed with predaibitic . Work load, family responsibilities, Tonns of stress. Aur ooper se in laws ke tahne..... aaj bhi saasu ma se gaali khayi k . Sasu ma mujhse zyada healthy hain. Housewife hain zyada kaam krti hain. Mujhe office ke bahane ghar ke kaam se mukti mil jati hai. Khana acha nhi bnati office jati hai ghar ke kaam nhi krti isliye daibities ho gya".... ab kaun smjhaye ke unke is ravaiye se hua n k office jane se....
What a point to point video on this subject !!!👌👌 My in laws forever put DH in guilt despite of he being a Shravan Kumar for them, always complaining about something here n there and do not let us live happily
I fully support ur views. I also did lot of drivery job when I was young. Parents like it. Picking every ristedar n dropping railway station or bus add. One day I got fed up one day n said no more n it stopped after that.
Ha ha, most of my relatives are abroad and i am their preferred hope when anything here is required. I try to do whatever i can sometimes adjusting my own family priorities. Similar situation is with parents whose own children goes abroad and they think it's OK to ask their relatives here for pity jobs like going to bank etc.
Bhai, mat karo. Unko bol do ki kaam karna hai to they have to pay! You have a life too. They are there making money while expect you to do their shit. Get out of it, this is TOXIC. I am living in US that is why I am telling you.
Bilkul correct hai guruji ki baatein parents sesh bhi nahi dete visesh to bhul hi jao Jo kaam parents k support se 5 10 saal mein achieve ho sakta hai us k liye poora jivan lag jata hai
Sir Bahut accha video patriarchal society mein agar sewa krne wali ladki ho to duniya pravachan deti hai beta ye ishwar sewa hai bahut lucky ho ishwar sewa ka mauka mila hai sab tyag do maa baap ki sewa se bada aur koi kaam ya sewa nhi hota.
My father in law is very very good person. But he always keeps saying monologs. There is no dialogue thing with him. I really feel frustrated many times. Coz when you sit for your meal he will start it and drains out my energy mentally. Duniya k saare questions unko tabhi poochne hai 😅 hamesha unko gas hoti rehti hai 24*7. He is very very less physically active. But he will not work on his problems instead will keep on hanging on the diabetes and gas problem he is having. His eating habits and timing are really bad. He will have his dinner after 10.30pm and will keep complaining about gas 😅. He is in his late 60s. But then he is alone and he needs our time. We will miss all his things when he will not be with us in future.
Some parents put in lots of effort and have expectations from their child that one day s/he will become an engineer but the day this engineer leaves the country for a better job offers the same parents start emotionally blackmailing her/him to come back to India. Many of those who yield under emotions and come back to India end up working low paying jobs or even jobless.. Some of these parents need to understand that the dynamics of the world have changed much faster in the last 20 years so if you prepare your children to fly high, then don't clip their wings the moment they are taking a flight just for your own emotional insecurities. Remember, why did you send them to a good school and engineering institute at first?
Very well said. They want their kids to study engg or high degrees for their own selfish pride and then bring them down again for their own selfish interest. Eod , nothing is for the betterment of the kids.
Another eye opening video for conservative families. dont know k such families ll improve their mind sets or not but yes we the youth islearning alot from u sir and will take this message for our old age .Thankyou
@mohitsahar2091 you are absolutely right. Look at his fashion sense and use of social media at that age. He is so busy and hos kids probably love to spend time with him
Mere ghar me bilkul yahi problem hai mere ......in lows ek rupee bhi kharch karne ko taiyar nahi Hain pansion 80000 hai saare paise dusro ko dete hain nd pure din bass yahi rona ki beta bahu hame puchte nahi 😢😢😢😢
@@kusumrastogi5672 absolutely ryt lekin unki apni jaroorat to apne paiso se puri karni chahiye agar pension automatically kisi orr ke account me chala Jaye to medicine , food nd other expenses ki jimmedari kis ke upar hogi 🙏
आप उनको बताओ कि कोई काम ऐसे कर लो तो उनको लगता है कि तू हमको बताएगा अब कि मै क्या करूं? खुद से सोचते नहीं है, फिर बोर होते रहेंगे, और दुखड़े गाते रहेंगे
Mere in laws toh apne ladke ko control me rakhne ke liye na hote hue bhi Kam create karate he. Aur paise toh bachana chahate he uske Badale me humse time or efforts magnate. Seva karvana chahate he.
Last me jo aapne phone call vala act kia exactly yhi bate hoti hai or jabse free vala calling voucher hua hai ladies or buzurg k pas or koi kaam nhi h Siva calls par baat krne ke vo bhi daily ek hi type k reletives se
Why is everyone always busy nowadays 😢. No free time to do anything. That's the point of earning money as a corporate slave if you can't live a decent fulfilling life
Namaskar sir 🙏 Sir aapne har choti se choti baat,pe roshni Dali hai,aur ye har Ghar ki baat hai,sir mere inlaws 80 plus hain aur unki abhi koshish yahi rahti hai,ki unka beta apni job acche se kare apna dhyan rakhe. Sir aapki har baat bilkul Sahi hai. Khud jeeo auro ko bhi jeene do.
I am 40, after recurring asthma attacks, I have stopped colouring my hair. My mother said that she is disowning me and my children from property, even she doesn't want me to go to her home if I don't colour my hair.
Inlaws k side problem rehti hai ki bahu phone ni lagati.. kya baat kre laga k .. unka beta to roj baat krta hi hai.. bahu apne mann ka kuch bta ni skti.beta b to apne inlaws se roj baat ni krta .. bahu se hi kyu baat krni hai.
Sir you are so relatable, Offlate i hVe been observing so many similar things happening around n mann gaye you are such a keen observer. Hats off. Yes some parents use their kids only for drivery job... 😂
Sir im an ardent follower frm chennai....plz make videos on 30s nd 40s housewives...what is the right take on life...never ending dilemma of wether to work or quit ur job altogether and handling other responsibilities 🙏
Sir, This is an extremely relevant topic that you have covered. You are talking about MIL etc… there are some parents who become SOOO rigid that apni zidd, apna gussa, apni akad main hi rehna chahtey hain. Kuch sikhao toh seekhna bhi Nahi chahtey hain… and Sahi bataun toh 49 ke umr main bhi kissey kya baat Karni hain woh bhi humein bathana hain unko,. Woh bhi kissliye , ki log kya sonchengey. Beti Ka divorce hogaya toh logon ko Patha Na chaley. Ye main keh rahi hoon from a perspective and a person who is from a Leadership team. A senior professional who has gone through Sooo much in life only to cater to take good care of the parent, coz for ppl like us, who has been there-done that , seen so much lows that I want to go into some Ashram and not show off by buying new clothes, colouring hair etc etc… depth hi Nahi hain kyunki their life has been extremely easy…
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There should be a channel, Clarity for Seniors😂
aare ye lichad ha na video dekhte na sir paiso wala plan lenge
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Some elderly people are so sadistic that they spoil the lives of their children. They keep mongering that they are sacrificing everything and nobody else will do...
Totally agree sir. MIL is not happy with maid even when we pay. They want house chores to be done by working DILs.
Only objective is to exercise the authority on their children and emotional blackmail when they try to resist.
Problem is they are too free
Fir sir khenge ki Parents in law k saath mat rho, to ye problem hi khatam
Same problem... Aur maid se ladai karke usko v bhaga dete hain... Fir apne time ki batein.. Hum itna kaam karte the akele
@@PUBLICSPEAKINGbyHD in laws k sath rehna mushkil hai kyunki wo dil se respect chahte hain par uski ek paise ki respect nahi karte
Of course aab k liye alag rehna possible nahi hai ... Aap shayad male hain isiliye maid ki problem aapko reasonable nahi lagi
Sir, these is an extremely relevant topic that you have covered. You are talking about MIL etc… there are some parents who become SOOO rigid that apni zidd, apna gussa, apni akad main hi rehna chahtey hain. Kuch sikhao toh seekhna bhi Nahi chahtey hain… and Sahi bataun toh 49 ke umr main bhi kissey kya baat Karni hain woh bhi humein bathana hain unko,. Woh bhi kissliye , ki log kya sonchengey. Beti Ka divorce hogaya toh logon ko Patha Na chaley. Ye main keh rahi hoon from a perspective and a person who is from a Leadership team. A senior professional who has gone through Sooo much in life only to cater to take good care of the parent, coz for ppl like us, who has been there-done that , seen so much lows that I want to go into some Ashram and not show off by buying new clothes, colouring hair etc etc… depth hi Nahi hain kyunki their life has been extremely easy…
very true
Sir,, aaj to aapne rula hi diya … sara dard bahar aa gaya.
Elders are not retiring even after retirement from job. They want to exert their authority.
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Old middle class generation is the reason why our india is still lacking behind
nipat jayegi bhai 60s generatn will be last with this,.
Parents digitally upgrade hona hi nahi chahte. Sirf RUclips aur whatsApp chala k khush hain. Mere in laws dono subah 5 baje se apne apne mobile me full volume me RUclips chalate the jab hamare sath rehne aaye. Humne dono ko earphones khareed k diye lekin dono ne hi use karne se mana kar diya. Mahino sone nahi diya dono ne humko chain se. Subah se dono k mobile bajne lagte the.
You are speaking about the pain of affected youths. 100% sahi bol rahe, especially 60-70 years old parents, above 80 they need help for sure.
I have full time helper , personal yoga trainer & cook for for my mother. I am doing her payments on line. Still she is my biggest critic because l am a full time working female. I can’t sit with her daily for one hour & do gossip All The time she criticises me for my life style
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Somehow feel that parents tend to see own children as enemies once they get married or once children take jobs. They get together and criticise their own children and their spouses. This is a nasty habit which runs in society. Parents that won't criticise their own children doesn't get recognition in groups . This is a disease rampant. And the newly wedded couple are scapegoats.
Yes
true...and this mentality won't change for next 20 years also😥
Absolutely 💯 correct
I, myself, heard my mom saying... ki "iss ka exam clear ho gaya to hamein kaun poochega😢"
That's life😕
@@theobservant6173True, If u don't pass the exam, they will criticize. If u pass the exam also they will criticize.
My parents have spoiled my reputation in all of my relatives, by personally going at their places and explaing how their elder son is useless and good for nothing. Not even the formar maids were spared from providing our personal information. For past 20 years, I have been labeled as useless. Now I have stopped asking for respect. Only thing can solve this is living separate, atleast 20-25 kms away from parents. They have already spoiled enough my life, now I can't let them doing this anymore. Ps: They have not helped me anything, not even financially.
mere dil ka dard chhed fiya sir aapne.
Bhai mai sochta tha mai hi hun ek akela😂😂😂
Aao bhai gam baatein🍻😂
@@divyanshukataria1710 😂
@@divyanshukataria1710bhai rone ka man kr gya aao sach me baitho sb log dard Banta jaye bhai😢
@@abhijeetjadaun1345haa bhai daru pila
I am 54 almost on back seat for earning,but before 4 yrs started to understand this and believe me,my so son in law and son really happy with me.
The Older generation has no concept of globalisation. They ask me did I cook my own food whilst I was living in Australia. I was so busy earning $32 an hour that I didn’t have time to scratch my arse, let alone waste my precious time cooking my own food at home. Besides I was meeting interesting people at work so why indulge in solitary activities like cooking at home.
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I believe sir, you have written this content seeing my mother. I feel very bored when I visit my mother, she always compares me with others. My children also doesn't want to go to my mother
Arre all mummies are like that re...thoda zhel le bhai...you will miss her when she is gone... bachpan mein tu jab rota tha bewaja, woh tujhe zhelti thi na!
@@starxd5697no dear not all mothers compare children and let's not normalise this cheap competitiveness of comparison. Why should this lady tolerate her mother's toxicity? Jhel le thoda kyon? Bachpan mein baccha kabhi apne maa baap ko compare karta hai? That lady's mother is no child but she is insulting her daughter in front of her grand kids why should anyone tolerate this toxicity in the name of thoda sa jhelna? We are creating a generation of mentally tired people
Yes we all have normalise bad behaviour of old people so much and when anyone raise object for their betterment they get offended. One of the most common problem is their health, they do not want to do any physical exercises, improve their eating habits, but have to brag and discuss with everyone about their health, dieses. Want to visit to doctors frequently and think medicine will cure them
@@shivanginipathak3347 LOL, don't you think it is easier to learn some gratefulness and understand that the previous generation will not change rather than rebelling and hurting them. Learn from them what not to do when you get to that stage. Remember, what goes around, cones around. Karma never forgets the address. You don't know how your old age will pan out and how irritating, grumpy, pathetic and useless you may turn out. When young, it is easy to bad mouth and rebel as your hormones decide and not you. People who cannot even jhelo their parents, ghanta they will jhelo the world and achieve big things....think about it.
@@starxd5697 being grateful doesn't mean you comply to toxicity. In my old age I cannot be rude or nasty to people only because I'm old so according to that logic there should be no CrPC for those committing a crime who are above 65 because they are old and what goes around shall come around for the judge who is course correcting them? You are confusing good deeds with tolerating toxicity and nobody should ever deal with any snides, rebukes or snarls even if it's from one's own family members. And this is not being rebellious this is coming from a 37yr old psychologist.
What I learned-
The goal of the elderly shud be to do -'Haha-hohoo' in the park. 😆😆
Awesome video sir. Totally mirrored the reality!
Sir, asking parents to not use their youngsters in this way is of no use because they don’t care. It is responsibility of youngsters age 25 and above to stand up for themself and start saying NO. Young people, make it a rule to NOT drive any relative or neighbor absolutely anywhere. You are not free drivers. Ask your parents and everyone to get a taxi or Lyft. Learn to be selfish and take care of your own physical and emotional health.
Aapki bantain 100% sahi hoti hai. Mere papa bhi bahut Gyaan dete hai.. or hum questions bhi ne kar sakte or unki baat ko galat bhi ni keh sakte.. unke sath rehti hu to mental health kharab ho jata hai meri.. isliye dur rehti hu.. sahi kaha 😅 chhodna koi ni chahta chhut jata hai. Bahut bahut dhanyawaad😊 😊
The highlight for me was, aap chhod ke nahi jaa rahe, chhoot jaata hai! 😂
you are absolutely right, Great video, There are some old men in my neighborhood who have made a schedule for the week that on which day whose brain is to be eaten, they will not die but will kill the youngsters.
Sir,
बहुत सही डांट लगाई सही समय पर आप सभी वर्ग को बहुत अच्छा गाइड कर रहे हैं.
धन्यवाद
Oh wow thanks for this video sir! I relate to this very strongly. I'm often treated as the 'family courier' to give things to my relatives and to sometimes run errands; sometimes the 'clown' to entertain my relative's kids too :D And other times to sit and listen to everyone else's problems in addition to the trauma dumping that my parents keep doing. I often struggle to put my foot down because I might have to burn bridges with people that my parents are close to. Sadly, my parents weren't very successful or productive when they were younger and have to rely on other people and me for most things. It's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. And hilariously, no one ever checks up on me.
Who are you feeling rn ?
Just do everything joyfully man. End of the day, it is only your family...take time out for them...
Start talking nonsense and act insane in front of people you want to avoid. Start telling your problem to them so that they know you are unavailable. Please focus on your career or no one will come to save you. Just an advice because I can feel the pain.
That's true 😊
@@starxd5697 yeah bro I honestly try. I just keep nurturing the hope that there is hope.
Just now mom made me feel guilty for not coming with her in market ....she never tell my elder brother to do all such work.....Even my elder brother who is 9 years older than me use to tell all his work to me ....and he use to seat nicely at home without doing any work
Remember he use to do all these stuff before you now he expects it from you
He does nothing No he never did that @@rishabhjha2561
Sir so true..one more thing pls make a video where in daughter also living with parents due to bad marriage and it impacts Son's relationship with parents who is also married. Parents playing favorites to gain upper hand
बुजुर्गों का टाईम पास नही होता।🤣🤣🤣 मै और पिताजी 70 और 96 के हैं।और हमे टाईम नही मिलता। दिन भर कुछ न कुछ काम करना पड़ता है।
पिताजी सुबह योग से शुरु होते है और 10 बजे खुद कंप्यूटर पर शेयर बाज़ार मे लग जाते है।😃😃😄😄
और मेरे अपने बहुत काम हैं जो मेरे अलावा कोई और नही कर सकता।
Learn to live with urself, to do ur chores ur self or keep a helper. Do yoga, walking, reading, cooking n meditation. Be a good human being, control ur anger, greed n attachments, ego etc etc
Watch some good old movie s
everything in this world is temporary but rohit and neha are permanent
Sir there is one more problem very common with old people pls address it also.
My MIL is 67 and since very beginning she her mother and siblings favourite topic of discussion is their health and unnecessary tension of small small things, anytime if you or anyone spend sometime with her she starts discussing her health 70% and other things rest 30% . She consumes medicine for BP, Diabetes etc. we have been taking her to doctors every month if one dieses get cure she gets some other health issue it keeps going. Physical exercise done by her is zero, we always ask her to indulge in physical exercises, walk, not to take stress but all in vein. Then we have to keep changing doctors because she thinks that doctor is not able to cure her. We have her insurance and she thinks if she gets admit in hospital it will be free but insaurance company rejected our claim. I had to resign from my Job because of these dramas and I got tired of managing my 3 year daughter, office and these dramas . Older generation these days enjoy talking about their health to gain sympathies.
Sir, exactly🤯.
Mere dadu kal tak electricity ka bill, phone recharge sab cash se dukaan jakar karwaate the.
Ab mujhse bolte hain, mai to yahi bolta hun ki debit card do mai bahar nahi jaaunga.
Aap itni relatable baatein kaise karte ho?
Mai dekhta hun mere dadu bank bhejte hain ki bhai ye entry karwa la, mai kahu aap netbanking ka form bhar do. Mai aaj tak bank nahi gya, kyu jaaun..😂
Same condition 😂
Pr mere Dadu maante hi nhi hai 😂😂
I am 37, and today, I was diagnosed with predaibitic . Work load, family responsibilities, Tonns of stress. Aur ooper se in laws ke tahne..... aaj bhi saasu ma se gaali khayi k . Sasu ma mujhse zyada healthy hain. Housewife hain zyada kaam krti hain. Mujhe office ke bahane ghar ke kaam se mukti mil jati hai. Khana acha nhi bnati office jati hai ghar ke kaam nhi krti isliye daibities ho gya".... ab kaun smjhaye ke unke is ravaiye se hua n k office jane se....
Please take a nutritionist help, with right food and walking, you can bring sugar levels in control in no time. Take care, feel better.
What a point to point video on this subject !!!👌👌
My in laws forever put DH in guilt despite of he being a Shravan Kumar for them, always complaining about something here n there and do not let us live happily
I fully support ur views. I also did lot of drivery job when I was young. Parents like it. Picking every ristedar n dropping railway station or bus add. One day I got fed up one day n said no more n it stopped after that.
Ha ha, most of my relatives are abroad and i am their preferred hope when anything here is required. I try to do whatever i can sometimes adjusting my own family priorities.
Similar situation is with parents whose own children goes abroad and they think it's OK to ask their relatives here for pity jobs like going to bank etc.
Bhai, mat karo. Unko bol do ki kaam karna hai to they have to pay! You have a life too. They are there making money while expect you to do their shit. Get out of it, this is TOXIC. I am living in US that is why I am telling you.
Bilkul correct hai guruji ki baatein parents sesh bhi nahi dete visesh to bhul hi jao
Jo kaam parents k support se 5 10 saal mein achieve ho sakta hai us k liye poora jivan lag jata hai
Sir
Bahut accha video patriarchal society mein agar sewa krne wali ladki ho to duniya pravachan deti hai beta ye ishwar sewa hai bahut lucky ho ishwar sewa ka mauka mila hai sab tyag do maa baap ki sewa se bada aur koi kaam ya sewa nhi hota.
My father in law is very very good person. But he always keeps saying monologs.
There is no dialogue thing with him. I really feel frustrated many times. Coz when you sit for your meal he will start it and drains out my energy mentally. Duniya k saare questions unko tabhi poochne hai 😅
hamesha unko gas hoti rehti hai 24*7.
He is very very less physically active. But he will not work on his problems instead will keep on hanging on the diabetes and gas problem he is having.
His eating habits and timing are really bad. He will have his dinner after 10.30pm and will keep complaining about gas 😅.
He is in his late 60s.
But then he is alone and he needs our time. We will miss all his things when he will not be with us in future.
Who says he will not be there...😮
It may be your turn before sir...
Life is not certain...
True😂
@@uthishtbhartiya5254aise nhi bolte !! Shubh Shubh bolo.
Late 60s is not really old. He should still be physically and mentally active
Middle class family me ek aur Kami hai ye kabhi bhi Ghar me kamai ki baat nahi karte bacho se
Some parents put in lots of effort and have expectations from their child that one day s/he will become an engineer but the day this engineer leaves the country for a better job offers the same parents start emotionally blackmailing her/him to come back to India. Many of those who yield under emotions and come back to India end up working low paying jobs or even jobless.. Some of these parents need to understand that the dynamics of the world have changed much faster in the last 20 years so if you prepare your children to fly high, then don't clip their wings the moment they are taking a flight just for your own emotional insecurities. Remember, why did you send them to a good school and engineering institute at first?
Very well said. They want their kids to study engg or high degrees for their own selfish pride and then bring them down again for their own selfish interest. Eod , nothing is for the betterment of the kids.
Guruji , you sound like some A.I from the future has filtered out everything about life and presenting it through you . Absolutely amazing 🙏
Another eye opening video for conservative families. dont know k such families ll improve their mind sets or not but yes we the youth islearning alot from u sir and will take this message for our old age .Thankyou
Expectations, Show-Off and BAGHBAN are the main reasons for blame game on Children ...
Sir, your observation is absolutely correct. This is also a major disadvantage of WFH.
Amitabh Bacchan is the example of the idle old generation. Bet that man knows much more mechanical stuff than most of the youth today. Hats off.
AAP unke langotia yaar lagte hain..
@@japsahibdhillon5014 Aapko bade logon se dosti acchi nahi lagti kya???
@mohitsahar2091 you are absolutely right. Look at his fashion sense and use of social media at that age. He is so busy and hos kids probably love to spend time with him
Terrific topic for video...had been in this situation since the last few years but gradually coming out of this.
Very true observations indeed!!
Dhamakedaaaaaar Mazzaaaaa Aa Gayaaaaa, Amit Guru Ji! 🔥🌪️🔥🌪️🔥
Very good observation .
Mere ghar me bilkul yahi problem hai mere ......in lows ek rupee bhi kharch karne ko taiyar nahi Hain pansion 80000 hai saare paise dusro ko dete hain nd pure din bass yahi rona ki beta bahu hame puchte nahi 😢😢😢😢
Dusre kon hain jinko paise de rahe
Beti damaad honge , ya dusra beta.
@@divineray7822 उनके पैसे हैं, जिसको मर्जी den, unko haq hai apna money use karne ka
@@divineray7822 beti damaad nd unke bachche
@@kusumrastogi5672 absolutely ryt lekin unki apni jaroorat to apne paiso se puri karni chahiye agar pension automatically kisi orr ke account me chala Jaye to medicine , food nd other expenses ki jimmedari kis ke upar hogi 🙏
Bank me bhi yahi log sabse jyada time waste karte hain, like passbook printing, fd renewal, balance enquiry 😢
Senior citizens has ruined young generation is a real fact but not spoken openly 😢
Very true, clearly explained everything in lucid way 😊
आप उनको बताओ कि कोई काम ऐसे कर लो तो उनको लगता है कि तू हमको बताएगा अब कि मै क्या करूं? खुद से सोचते नहीं है, फिर बोर होते रहेंगे, और दुखड़े गाते रहेंगे
Aapane to dukhati rag par haat rakh Diya sir ji ......😢
Mere in laws toh apne ladke ko control me rakhne ke liye na hote hue bhi Kam create karate he. Aur paise toh bachana chahate he uske Badale me humse time or efforts magnate. Seva karvana chahate he.
Last me jo aapne phone call vala act kia exactly yhi bate hoti hai or jabse free vala calling voucher hua hai ladies or buzurg k pas or koi kaam nhi h Siva calls par baat krne ke vo bhi daily ek hi type k reletives se
Very true it is happening...
My all family members are part of it
Sir what an observation
This happens a lot
I have also stopped saying yes to every relatives....
Why is everyone always busy nowadays 😢. No free time to do anything. That's the point of earning money as a corporate slave if you can't live a decent fulfilling life
Namaskar sir 🙏
Sir aapne har choti se choti baat,pe roshni Dali hai,aur ye har Ghar ki baat hai,sir mere inlaws 80 plus hain aur unki abhi koshish yahi rahti hai,ki unka beta apni job acche se kare apna dhyan rakhe.
Sir aapki har baat bilkul Sahi hai.
Khud jeeo auro ko bhi jeene do.
Sir amazing knowledge 😊❤❤❤👌🏻👌🏻💸💵💴💶💶💷💰
Mera Bharat mahaan🇮🇳
Very true. Very interesting.
Khas Sare parents Aap k jaise Sochte...🙏🙏🙏Thank you sir
Very apt and relevant !
Top notch clarity.
You are absolutely right sir
Agar kisi ko emergency me hospital lejana hai padosi ya rishtedar bas tabhi leke jaenge otherwise faltu nhi😊
I hope this video reach to all the oldies.
😂 superb sir ji..... Salute
Dil se gratitude ❤️
Badhiya sir 🎉
I am 40, after recurring asthma attacks, I have stopped colouring my hair. My mother said that she is disowning me and my children from property,
even she doesn't want me to go to her home if I don't colour my hair.
Please make a vlog on old people who have no kids and how to manage their life.
Awesome video very true
Inlaws k side problem rehti hai ki bahu phone ni lagati.. kya baat kre laga k .. unka beta to roj baat krta hi hai.. bahu apne mann ka kuch bta ni skti.beta b to apne inlaws se roj baat ni krta .. bahu se hi kyu baat krni hai.
wooohh sir your word is really great meaning in to our life style
Paisa ho ya property ho marne ke bad sab yahei chhut jata hai 😅😅😂😂
It is the general problem of even young people. Most of Indian are not self confidant even for small things and do not want to learn anything new
What an Important thing Pointed out Sir..
No one has given this type of clarity.
Best channel on RUclips I believe....only channel worth watching...
Really important msg sir
Thank you sir ❤❤❤
Love and gratitude from Kathmandu
Ooh good, Nepal s bhi dekhte h , good
Great
बहुत बढ़िया आपकी वीडियो से बहुत कुछ सीख रहे धन्यवाद
16:20 - solid point sir !!! 🙏
The much needed video. ✨👍
The concept of afterlife was super duper amazing..
Sir youth ko ek clearity aur chahiye ki beta hona kya jroori he. Her class ke logo ke liye gaon ke seher ke garib amir sir pls vedio bnaye
प्रणाम गुरुजी.. thank you for bringing it up so aptly...
So relatable sirji.. fully relatable and exactly what happens!
Sir you are so relatable, Offlate i hVe been observing so many similar things happening around n mann gaye you are such a keen observer. Hats off. Yes some parents use their kids only for drivery job... 😂
Well said sir
Very good video. Todays retired parents can get involved in news about politics and discuss that with kids.
You are the beast ❤️
Sir im an ardent follower frm chennai....plz make videos on 30s nd 40s housewives...what is the right take on life...never ending dilemma of wether to work or quit ur job altogether and handling other responsibilities 🙏
I thought that I am the only one suffering. Yahaan comments mein tho sub dukhi hain 😢
Hats off to this man 😂😂😂. He really speaks the truth . Tuntuna pakda dete the .. 😂😂
Somehow you just manage to tell real life issues in fine piece of video
U r right
Gajab ka gyan hai sir. Relatable
Wow Sir..PP and MAG
Your topics are unique
Sir, This is an extremely relevant topic that you have covered. You are talking about MIL etc… there are some parents who become SOOO rigid that apni zidd, apna gussa, apni akad main hi rehna chahtey hain. Kuch sikhao toh seekhna bhi Nahi chahtey hain… and Sahi bataun toh 49 ke umr main bhi kissey kya baat Karni hain woh bhi humein bathana hain unko,. Woh bhi kissliye , ki log kya sonchengey. Beti Ka divorce hogaya toh logon ko Patha Na chaley. Ye main keh rahi hoon from a perspective and a person who is from a Leadership team. A senior professional who has gone through Sooo much in life only to cater to take good care of the parent, coz for ppl like us, who has been there-done that , seen so much lows that I want to go into some Ashram and not show off by buying new clothes, colouring hair etc etc… depth hi Nahi hain kyunki their life has been extremely easy…