Listen, I really am not enjoying life. I don’t know why I feel like putting it on here more than anything else but seriously not a lot of people see it. Men are told to “man up” and no girl wants to talk to an emotional guy. It just seems like I’m not allowed to show emotions anymore. I hate seeing girls putting stuff about men being horrible and trash and not know what them as a girl are going through. We are perceived as being either too rude or too emotional there is no equilibrium.
Yea I understand your point! Everyone should be given equal privileges to talk about their emotions/feelings without being criticized. If you don't mind me asking I would like to know 'how do you respond to people that do not allow men to show emotions?'
You are so right. I am so sick of hearing all this junk about don't be a beta etc. Be the alpha. Like there's no in between or that those are even real things.
For most guys, you have a few options, live a lonely life, a life in a decaying or failed marriage, or checking out entirely. Once you realize that, it's difficult to be hopeful
Checking out entirely has two roads to it and i suggest that u pick the “leaving a decaying society and exploring anything including yourself” we have to stay busy as men
Females have the same problems. It's crazy that both men and women have the same issues but feel the opposite sex does not understand what each other is going through
I feel like sometimes I have no place in this world as a man. Women would not listen if I’m trying to explain my feelings because I’m too “emotional”. I also come out as a loser. Society also expects us men to be resilient because crying is feminine. That being said, men have no options but to bottle up their emotions. What’s worst is that we are perceived as “dangerous”. I feel like we as men are alienated.
Isn't it men that set the standards for men. It fathers that tell men what to be. that is not really what women wants. If your ashamed to be you that wont be attractive to anyone. people attract or repel by the energy they give off. no matter how bad you feel a simple smile at the right time can change everything.
@@starchild7370 That's like saying that having big breasts and butts is a standard that women put on themselves, look in one a way or another women are attracted to masculinity for example in height women like men that are taller than them because it makes them feel safe, they also like men with status and last even if a man doesn't seem to have any kind of masculinity that you would call toxic because he is funny or charismatic, you gotta remember that those are also masculine traits that are attractive to females, yes humor and charisma are positive masculine that take time and effort to develop.
Wow that's really heavy and deep. so many people feel the same way. I say the same thing about my self but when i hear someone else speak like that it sound horrible. good luck.
Thank you, I don't see it as horrible at all. I believe God I trust the Lord is in total control of my life. I put no faith in luck, I am blessed. Blessing over luck every time. Jesus was single, Paul was single. My singleness is a gift, not a curse I praise God. If I'm single until God takes me home Amen, either way I'm never alone.
30 years old going on a ten year dry spell. I’ve had social anxiety all my life, and was always mr nice guy around women. Nowadays I can’t get any attractive women to even talk to me, it’s like they close themselves off because they’re not interested. They can tell I’m an anxious guy and they want nothing to do with me.
That just show womens mentality. You could be the most interesting man in the world but still they wouldnt give you the time of the day because you didnt pass their superficial screening of your body language
I’m just being honest, the main reason why I’m lonely is simply because I can’t find a partner or even hookups because I’m not desirable to women even though I’ve tried in the past. Making friends was not easy for me either. I can make small talk with people and they might enjoy the small talk temporarily but they would never give me the time of the day. I realized some people are just meant to be alone. I stopped trying and just doing the best I can to enjoy my time by myself.
@@arianalushtaku4329 Im explaining the reason why men are feeling that way when dealing with women you said change yourself and you will have friends i have friends.
It's to the point now where after 33 years on earth, I'm probably destined to be lonely (not alone). There's guy's out there way worse off than me, and I actually had decent success with women from 2011, by mid 2014 it was all virtually down hill and over with. I just chalk it up to being born in the wrong time and not having: tattoos, kids, height, 60k+ salary, and not edgy enough I suppose. What is the point of even bothering to talk to women at all when they only find at BEST 20% of men attractive??
You have point my man, thats why we will be alone, yes the hurt is big sometimes when you see yourself in the mirror and you see one cool man, who is gentle but live in 21 centuary where this is not importent for girls. They lose, be happy with yourself.
the only difference is that most men will admit these things women never will admit it because as much as men hate being lonely women hate it even more an can’t live with them selfs
@@davidsarabia2587 To be honest, if a woman is single it's by choice. All women...regardless of age or looks has a number of men that are interested in them. But the problem is that single woman doesn't WANT any of the men that pursue her. So she chooses to be single waiting for Mr.right forever or chooses to be a single cat lady. Men on the other hand, don't have the option of having women interested in them. Men are single because they CAN'T get A woman. I've seen a lot of older single men desperately chasing after any woman to give them the time of day. Women are often single by choice, men by lack of choice. It's just the hard truth.
Most of my friends realize that it's not worth it to date american women anymore. We are looking for what our parents had and we were raised that way. Unfortunately the tv reality shows have programmed most not all the women no matter how much you give them they want more. Stay away from american females. The lawyers are also to blame for the divorces. I do not know more than 1 or 2 males that are not divorced. I will never marry american. We have a huge problem here in the U. S. Even if you raise someone else's child you will still end up getting divorced due to the selfishness of that female. She decides after all the time you spent taking care of her and her kid. Once the kid hits 18 she wants a new man. Unfortunately most women want to be the man. That is the real issue. Even the Alpha Males are having a lot of problems.
I just dislike how it's forced upon personality on both side of just being feminine in the sense of emotion and complaining. About the fact i care about how someone feels about me , im being downed for being downed, the concept is kinda fucked up. Is just a forceful change that butters you up, coats you in batter and fries you Yet even haven't friends with raised biest can kinda ruin a friendship even if it's already exist saying im bi is weird to my male friends. And is honestly
Can't talk about how I feel and it's destroying my mind. I used to do a lot of exercise which helped physically and mentally, but I damaged a nerve or muscle and now I can't even workout. I'm sat about feeling sad, I message people and they ignore me. I know not to be pushy and so I don't send more than one message. It hurts not getting a reply. I want to tell the world how I feel, but I'll just be seen as desperate, so I'm left to my own thoughts.
As a woman myself watching this, I feel bad for men. And to Any men that’s watching this, I hope you get the healing you deserve because too many people (and women) shame men. I definitely believe and think your feelings are valid.❤️❤️❤️❤️ please remember that.
Very good video. I absolutely agree. Men are their own worst enemies when it comes to this. The constant fear of not appearing masculine enough to other men is driving too many men to extreme loneliness, isolation, even suicide.
You're not completely correct. Its women as much as men who punish men for appearing weak or needy or for lacking in confidence. Men above a certain age are far far more accepting by comparison. But since it is socially unacceptable to talk about feelings and because the context in which we meet men is in competition for business and status it is not possible to share feelings. Most of the time it is women who choose men who lack or suppress emotions and reward them through sex and relationships for being manly. No man has seriously said man up to me. It is the women in my life that have.
@@fierystallion "Sometimes you have to be a lion so you can be the lamb you really are" -Dave Chappelle's mom. Nothing wrong with being sensitive, just don't be a pansy about it and actually try to do something to better yourself in this rubbish world.
As a gay person, it really does a number on your self esteem to watch straight men go to such extremes just to avoid being perceived as similar to you.
Stop it. You are you, and you have your own life, and you have your own human value, great or small, no matter what anyone else thinks about it. Don't do bad stuff, be half-way decent, be a productive member of society. Beyond that, it's none of anyone else's business how you live, gay or not.
@b six twelve How successful are flamboyant, tender, vulnerable, easily hurt and chatty drama queen men with women? Not saying all gays are like that, but let‘s stick with the stereotypes heterosexual men refer to, when they call another man gay. The saying goes: alpha fucks, beta bucks, for a reason. It‘s not they don‘t wanna be like you because of you. It‘s because society 1. don‘t gives a fuck about weak men or mens health and 2. because women don‘t give a f*** about weak men either. And weak men to society or women are those men, who can‘t provide wealth, social status or security. That‘s the heterosexual gender role of men. And if they don‘t fit it, if they can’t provide any of the 3 mentioned above, they are drop like sh***, you‘d be surprised how fast.
I agree @-b six twelve. No need to hide your true selves. If you do you will be helping fuel the stereo type mentioned in the video. Men has multiple layers to there personally. People that show themselves to be different change the world 🌎 %💯
If people Love You before they know they will Love you after. Your Family Can Surprise You, Mine sure did. I'm almost 60 now and I'm Lonely because I have No Friends My Age. So make time to form Real Friendships before Too Much Time Goes By.
Ouch. I feel bad for you. Screw society. I'm a straight woman, but extremely masculine. As such, I'm a total outcast myself. I learned long ago not to care what society says. Live true to yourself, and consider those who don't like it people not worthy of your time or concern. There are plenty of people who have no problems with gay people.
masculine or not. you need to be and feel safe always. be true to your self. There are so many support groups out there to help Gay men. find comfort where you are comforted.
I accept living alone but I have no intention of being miserable about it because I see the type of men women date and I know iam better than them women only date dogs they're welcome to them
I have a few friends that went to Ukraine and Russia only to remain lonely. They thought that a potential wife was waiting for them but got scammed. Now they are heading to thialand after this virus is over with.
I consider myself pretty lonely. I think because i am not inclined toward emotion, and have strong leadership personality. i usually don t seek help of others, and spend my time to study, politics and art, i have very few friends wich are all overcompetent. And here i see lot of 'beta' male ' or miss leaded woman, speaking about loneliness as a bad thing. It is not, it is either a choice to have time to be a better version of yourself, or the price of being a shitty/ boring person. ps Attractivness is one a the 3 things( beauty, mind, money), and you must have at least 2. Lack of attractiveneess sure isnt the key factor in not being able to have friends or wife.
I'll be honest fellas there are days that I feel that I might do something drastic. I feel invisible, I work hard, and make a decent living. Yet I don't feel like I'm living my life to the fullest.
I have to tell you, middle age women have the SAME problems. It's awful. If a woman suggest anything about women getting together, people think she's a lesbian. Why does it have to be this way? There are so many people in their 50's and 60's committing suicide. It's just awful.
Well i think you are at the "menopause" stage and it's quiet normal Yk I'm 15 my mom is 40 she is feeling very lonely,i would suggest you something,that you write down your thoughts on a paper,and get into arts and nature,
@@riri-pz3by Bhahaha. "menopause stage" That's really funny. When I was 15, our teacher gave us an assignment to write what we thought our life would be like when 34 years old. I couldn't write anything because I couldn't imagine being that old. Women being in their 50-60s and committing suicide is NEW. It has not been the norm historically, and women are a fast growing demographic. We really have almost zero statistics of it happening before. We need to find out why and address the situation.
I agree with this 100%. I don't view a man as being less of a man if he expresses his emotions. If anything, it endears me to him. We are all humans & experience emotions. I truly feel for anyone who has ever felt less for expressing their emotions & opted to just bottle everything up inside.
Most might disagree. But as a lonely man I find the only way to be likeable is to be sad. Being mysterious also works, but society has always hated truth speakers
FFS the crying thing again. It is nonsense, it is the forbidding of anger which is the destructive force. NOT violence, anger. This whole crying as the go to emotion makes me feel angry. It is the repression of anger (again I am NOT saying violence, different) that causes the repression of all emotions. But yeah the gay thing also has messed with mens lives. Oscar Wilde destroyed men walking arm in arm, actually talking. This was commonplace pre Wilde, destroyed overnight.
i agree. i usually say that lonelinees is either a choice for you to be better, or the price of being a shitty / borring person. And complaining about others than you of Your problems usually is the sign that you are a lazy fck who don t want to work to be interesting
You don't need to be charming. All you need to figure out is how to make women feel desired and good about themselves, and you'll be a hit with women, at least. As for finding as good male support system...I don't think good looks or charm would help you there...lol.
If you feel that way other will agree. it begins with self love. being aware of the power you have as a male. both men and women feel the same way you do. your energy will attract the same energy in someone else. when you see your worth you'll attract people that are worthy.
@@sylvanathornton2119 That is legitimately the worst piece of advice I have ever heard regarding women. Do not do as this lady says, it will get you either rejected or best case scenario used as an ego boost. You’d be far better off not paying a woman a compliment ever than doing this, sincerely.
Thank you for telling the truth 😒🌍🌍 it’s real out here men are lonely and are dying no kids to visit no wife 🌍 it’s sad these videos spue so many lies to make people feel good 😌 coming from a nurse 👩🏽⚕️
If you're still here, I'd say just find some of the things you enjoy in life and don't dwell on the expectations of others. Like I always say, there has to be a way for us.
"Man up". This isn't healthy. Men, from time to time, there is nothing wrong with crying, we literally sometimes need to get the tears out, crying can let things out that you have bottled up. Real men, cry.
Sure, tell men to cry and not to men up in a society, in which women absolutely don‘t care for the feelings of men and worse, even use their vulnerability against them in an argument. Men are judged by a majority of women by what they can provide for women. Wealth, social status or comfort/security. If a man stops providing these things for women or society, because he starts to have feelings, being vulnerable and starts crying, women will drop them fast and look for somebody else for a partner. Just look at the homeless. Absolut majority men. Very vulnerable. Nobody cares. Look at work place death, suicide, school drop outs or drug addicts. Nobody cares. Men are portrayed as the problem. Not something worth of compassion. So, great job of these two egg heads, to think crying or not to men up, will benefit men in this society. ❤️👍🏻
Exactly the issue is how men express themselves it's how society is treating men for existing. If you cry ever you are seen as unstable and potentially violent. If you rarely show negative emotion you are called a toxic male. And the majority of women don't see you as a person.
the power is in womens' hands (obviously) - if women care about male loneliness then they would accept male approaches and deliberately choose to spend time with lonely men
How dafk are these messages gonna be conveyed to women anyways man, most of the people here in the comment section itself are men and I bet most of the viewers here are men too... So I think there is just no point anymore having discussions about this we just gotta suffer alone boiis, face the reality 🙂
Cause many of the lonely ones fo the manwhor3 route and/or become deadbeat dads that flee for the hills. S3x numbs the pain but doesn't solve the core issue. But hey, the more the merrier as they say I guess... So don't get your hopes up even when seeing the coupled ones up, they're just as lonely but choose to put a bandaid over it rather than face it head on.
Hypergamy, women are sharing men. Affairs and hookups (with the same pool of men) are driving this. I think OKCupid or Tinder data showed women view 80% of men unattractive. Women would rather share a winner than have a loser to themselves.
Most older women are self proclaimed cougars now. Apparently younger guys who need a sugar Mama are growing by the numbers. The RED LIGHT DiSTRICT of Amsterdam is looking better and better as I age.💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃
Hey...that older woman probably had her husband of 20 years cheat on her with a younger, hotter model. Give her a break. Her self-esteem has been shot. She's constantly being told how she no longer has any value to men because she's not 20 and hot anymore. In comes that college boy who doesn't mind giving her a bit of attention. Next thing you know, she's a cougar, because - well, for the first time in ages, she feels desired and attractive. It's not different from the thousands of 40/50/60+ year old men going after 20 year old women. But nobody wants to admit they're doing it out of desperation.
@Major PainDiaz -- Dude, i'm a 6 ft. 3 tall woman. I don't want to hear jack sht about being rejected because of height. I'm pretty sure your lack of empathy and inability to relate to the fact that others have problems as well is what gets you rejected by women way more than your height.
@Major PainDiaz -- And the same research will show that it's height for women, as well. What's your point? As a matter of fact, a super tall woman has less chances of dating than a super short men. For the simple reason that there are way more super short women out there than super tall men. And as such, a man's chances of finding a woman his height or shorter who is willing to date him are way higher. As I said, quit looking at everything from only one point of view. Tons of women don't like it - fine. Find the ones who don't mind. There are plenty of them out there. Likewise, since the high majority of men is shorter, it means the high majority of married men and men in relationships is shorter. If you're below average height for a man, you might have to work harder, but there are still tons of you who are married long-term. Quit looking at the negative and find positive examples. Heck, a great majority of latino men are rather short. Yet most of them are married. Who cares if you can get 1000 women who wouldn't treat you right? Find one who will treat you wonderfully. Quantity rarely equals quality.
@Major PainDiaz -- Quit with the name calling. It only makes you sound stupid and immature. What do you mean, why should height matter??? Weren't you the one who said that it's height for men that matters? And are you seriously teling this 6 ft 3 and all other tall women that the impact on us isn't as great??? Have you ever walked in our shoes?? Do you have any idea what it is like for us to date? Fact is, the impact for super short men and super tall women is the same. And fact is also that there are way more super short women than super tall men. Meaning your chances of finding a partner your height are way greater than the chances of a super tall woman. Another fact is that a lot of super short men are married. So quit letting your height stand in your way!
@@sylvanathornton2119 Yes tall women will get far less chances. But if you want to make it a competition, all of these studies have consistently shown that men are more flexible and more willing to date a taller chick than a woman is willing to date a smaller guy. I'm 6'2 so about average, but I know DAMN well what it's like to be a midget. I literally started growing at 17 years old, and before that, I was the smallest kid in my class, even including all the girls. At 15, I was 5'. Can you imagine that? My life back then was a living hell, so I get it must be hard for you to be a girl at that height, but end of the day, as I have to keep repeating to you, men's standards are lower and more flexible. Yeah, lots of guys won't wanna date you, but there'll be who do... a lot more than a girl would be willing to date a guy shorter than her. During my teens, despite being "decent looking", I never ONCE had any girl ever being remotely interested in me. Then when I started growing a couple of years later, I found out about this girl who had a crush on me. What a coincidence. /s
I don't find this view agreeable. I am going through a midlife crisis, yes I've been told to man up and I do believe in that proverb. What it really means is keep moving, pull yourself up and keep moving. As for making plans with other guys, I don't do it out of laziness and reluctance to break routine. I do seek feminine companionship, that's just a dimension which is foreign to a lot of guys such as myself. And that's the real problem, the lack of belief that one can find chemistry or anything more, add fear of rejection to it which has maybe been reinforced by experience then add your instinct to be polite not disrupt any social setting by keeping all emotions at bay that may have led to you being rejected and having cause any degree of awkwardness. You move like that and yea, years go by, you notice it doesn't matter to anyone so you further limit social contact.
Lol turns out being a player and a shallow human being isn't working out too well for them now 😂 good. It's simple. Be a good person and self aware, and that's it. But they can't even do that.
@Angelina Pattern I hope that’s a joke. Women are def more insecure... it’s why you wear makeup and dress attractively, all for male validation. True, having a hot woman by our side doesn’t hurt, but women def require more attention.
@Angelina Pattern Your entire post is wrong. Women 100% wear make up and dress well for male pleasure. It is biological, you can deny it all you want. A women’s worth is based on beauty, just as a man’s is on success. A woman can’t sleep around for fear of being labeled, men wear tank tops, especially if they work out to impress sure... but we don’t take 30 min to get ready either. The biggest flaw in your thinking is that men and women are the same. We are not.
@I. S I Love and actually = "seek time, being =alone: away from -intrusions/disturbances and distractions" (and/or; being told, to "#man -up!!" "Pay for everything"; "carry everyone else's "crap!!"-Etc.-etc.!!")??
no its not you know that deep inside that when a woman is depressed she has all these female friends and male friends around her when a man is depressed people tell him to be a man and he is usually alone
Listen, I really am not enjoying life. I don’t know why I feel like putting it on here more than anything else but seriously not a lot of people see it. Men are told to “man up” and no girl wants to talk to an emotional guy. It just seems like I’m not allowed to show emotions anymore. I hate seeing girls putting stuff about men being horrible and trash and not know what them as a girl are going through. We are perceived as being either too rude or too emotional there is no equilibrium.
Yea I understand your point! Everyone should be given equal privileges to talk about their emotions/feelings without being criticized.
If you don't mind me asking I would like to know 'how do you respond to people that do not allow men to show emotions?'
This hits close to home im so depressed man
You are so right. I am so sick of hearing all this junk about don't be a beta etc. Be the alpha. Like there's no in between or that those are even real things.
@_jeff _ Jeff, please get a life.
Women used to emotionally support their man. But now they have 5+ in a rotation for regular and casual sex. The world has become so twisted and sick
For most guys, you have a few options, live a lonely life, a life in a decaying or failed marriage, or checking out entirely. Once you realize that, it's difficult to be hopeful
Never have I seen truer words
Checking out entirely has two roads to it and i suggest that u pick the “leaving a decaying society and exploring anything including yourself” we have to stay busy as men
Females have the same problems. It's crazy that both men and women have the same issues but feel the opposite sex does not understand what each other is going through
@@starchild7370 women have more social support and bond more than men
@@starchild7370 women don’t worry about being lonely
I feel like sometimes I have no place in this world as a man. Women would not listen if I’m trying to explain my feelings because I’m too “emotional”. I also come out as a loser. Society also expects us men to be resilient because crying is feminine. That being said, men have no options but to bottle up their emotions. What’s worst is that we are perceived as “dangerous”. I feel like we as men are alienated.
Isn't it men that set the standards for men. It fathers that tell men what to be. that is not really what women wants. If your ashamed to be you that wont be attractive to anyone. people attract or repel by the energy they give off. no matter how bad you feel a simple smile at the right time can change everything.
@@starchild7370 That's like saying that having big breasts and butts is a standard that women put on themselves, look in one a way or another women are attracted to masculinity for example in height women like men that are taller than them because it makes them feel safe, they also like men with status and last even if a man doesn't seem to have any kind of masculinity that you would call toxic because he is funny or charismatic, you gotta remember that those are also masculine traits that are attractive to females, yes humor and charisma are positive masculine that take time and effort to develop.
Lol true that
@@starchild7370 No, women set the standards for men.
hi am Ryan Donald am a gay single and looking for a serious relationship
I've come to a place where I've accepted, and embrace being single until death.
Wow that's really heavy and deep. so many people feel the same way. I say the same thing about my self but when i hear someone else speak like that it sound horrible. good luck.
Thank you, I don't see it as horrible at all. I believe God I trust the Lord is in total control of my life. I put no faith in luck, I am blessed. Blessing over luck every time. Jesus was single, Paul was single. My singleness is a gift, not a curse I praise God. If I'm single until God takes me home Amen, either way I'm never alone.
@@samuelcastora8247 cope
Me too and it sucks.
@@michaelplitt2135 Then make it not suck. I've been generally working out, or mewing etc for my self, and not for women...
30 years old going on a ten year dry spell. I’ve had social anxiety all my life, and was always mr nice guy around women. Nowadays I can’t get any attractive women to even talk to me, it’s like they close themselves off because they’re not interested. They can tell I’m an anxious guy and they want nothing to do with me.
That just show womens mentality. You could be the most interesting man in the world but still they wouldnt give you the time of the day because you didnt pass their superficial screening of your body language
Do you jrkk off and watch prrn bro?
Refrain, and hit the gym
I have the exact same situation, hope your doing ok
I’m just being honest, the main reason why I’m lonely is simply because I can’t find a partner or even hookups because I’m not desirable to women even though I’ve tried in the past. Making friends was not easy for me either. I can make small talk with people and they might enjoy the small talk temporarily but they would never give me the time of the day. I realized some people are just meant to be alone. I stopped trying and just doing the best I can to enjoy my time by myself.
We are more lonely because these women of today have unrealistic standards in men and dont realise they are not perfect themselves.
lol why do you blame women for everything ? Its not women's fault if you're alone ! work on yourself make friends and you will not be
@@arianalushtaku4329 Who said i blame them for everything and who said that im alone.?
@@paulcooper5748 you said that you're lonely read your comment again
@@arianalushtaku4329 Im explaining the reason why men are feeling that way when dealing with women you said change yourself and you will have friends i have friends.
@@arianalushtaku4329 mouthbreather moment
It's to the point now where after 33 years on earth, I'm probably destined to be lonely (not alone). There's guy's out there way worse off than me, and I actually had decent success with women from 2011, by mid 2014 it was all virtually down hill and over with. I just chalk it up to being born in the wrong time and not having: tattoos, kids, height, 60k+ salary, and not edgy enough I suppose. What is the point of even bothering to talk to women at all when they only find at BEST 20% of men attractive??
You have point my man, thats why we will be alone, yes the hurt is big sometimes when you see yourself in the mirror and you see one cool man, who is gentle but live in 21 centuary where this is not importent for girls. They lose, be happy with yourself.
the only difference is that most men will admit these things women never will admit it because as much as men hate being lonely women hate it even more an can’t live with them selfs
@@davidsarabia2587 probably because women give up trying to look and go into the self love boat and die with peace.
@@davidsarabia2587 To be honest, if a woman is single it's by choice. All women...regardless of age or looks has a number of men that are interested in them. But the problem is that single woman doesn't WANT any of the men that pursue her. So she chooses to be single waiting for Mr.right forever or chooses to be a single cat lady. Men on the other hand, don't have the option of having women interested in them. Men are single because they CAN'T get A woman. I've seen a lot of older single men desperately chasing after any woman to give them the time of day. Women are often single by choice, men by lack of choice. It's just the hard truth.
@@mimia.4810 Any girl can walk out of a bar with a guy. Not every guy can walk out of a bar with a girl.
Nobody wants to listen, and I don't feel like being a burden on other people with my problems.
what is the problem. so many people are reading what your writing. don't keep us/ Me in suspense......
@@starchild7370 Lol, you're funny!😹😂
Most of my friends realize that it's not worth it to date american women anymore. We are looking for what our parents had and we were raised that way. Unfortunately the tv reality shows have programmed most not all the women no matter how much you give them they want more. Stay away from american females. The lawyers are also to blame for the divorces. I do not know more than 1 or 2 males that are not divorced. I will never marry american. We have a huge problem here in the U. S. Even if you raise someone else's child you will still end up getting divorced due to the selfishness of that female. She decides after all the time you spent taking care of her and her kid. Once the kid hits 18 she wants a new man. Unfortunately most women want to be the man. That is the real issue. Even the Alpha Males are having a lot of problems.
Not quite, the male isolation its much more profound than the general ideas about it. Its more of a spiritual mindset
nah G I’m dying inside
Same bruh I choose this cause it's the best choice I have at the moment
I just dislike how it's forced upon personality on both side of just being feminine in the sense of emotion and complaining. About the fact i care about how someone feels about me , im being downed for being downed, the concept is kinda fucked up.
Is just a forceful change that butters you up, coats you in batter and fries you
Yet even haven't friends with raised biest can kinda ruin a friendship even if it's already exist saying im bi is weird to my male friends. And is honestly
Can't talk about how I feel and it's destroying my mind. I used to do a lot of exercise which helped physically and mentally, but I damaged a nerve or muscle and now I can't even workout. I'm sat about feeling sad, I message people and they ignore me. I know not to be pushy and so I don't send more than one message. It hurts not getting a reply. I want to tell the world how I feel, but I'll just be seen as desperate, so I'm left to my own thoughts.
ThunderBuddy. I would listen to you.
@@sharonswift8668 Thank you
@@ThunderBuddy Hey!
I understand how you feel...
I would love to listen to you if you don't mind!❤
I'm sorry to hear that. I'd listen :-)
Have you considered seeing a Health care professional like a Therapist or Psychologist?
As a woman myself watching this, I feel bad for men. And to Any men that’s watching this, I hope you get the healing you deserve because too many people (and women) shame men. I definitely believe and think your feelings are valid.❤️❤️❤️❤️ please remember that.
Very good video. I absolutely agree. Men are their own worst enemies when it comes to this. The constant fear of not appearing masculine enough to other men is driving too many men to extreme loneliness, isolation, even suicide.
You're not completely correct. Its women as much as men who punish men for appearing weak or needy or for lacking in confidence. Men above a certain age are far far more accepting by comparison. But since it is socially unacceptable to talk about feelings and because the context in which we meet men is in competition for business and status it is not possible to share feelings. Most of the time it is women who choose men who lack or suppress emotions and reward them through sex and relationships for being manly. No man has seriously said man up to me. It is the women in my life that have.
@@fierystallion "Sometimes you have to be a lion so you can be the lamb you really are" -Dave Chappelle's mom. Nothing wrong with being sensitive, just don't be a pansy about it and actually try to do something to better yourself in this rubbish world.
@@fierystallion This isn't true. Men spread mis information about women's preferences and then keep crying in their own bubble.
As a gay person, it really does a number on your self esteem to watch straight men go to such extremes just to avoid being perceived as similar to you.
Stop it. You are you, and you have your own life, and you have your own human value, great or small, no matter what anyone else thinks about it. Don't do bad stuff, be half-way decent, be a productive member of society. Beyond that, it's none of anyone else's business how you live, gay or not.
Nothing wrong with being gay dude no matter what anyone says. Love yourself.
@b six twelve
How successful are flamboyant, tender, vulnerable, easily hurt and chatty drama queen men with women?
Not saying all gays are like that, but let‘s stick with the stereotypes heterosexual men refer to, when they call another man gay. The saying goes: alpha fucks, beta bucks, for a reason. It‘s not they don‘t wanna be like you because of you. It‘s because society 1. don‘t gives a fuck about weak men or mens health and 2. because women don‘t give a f*** about weak men either. And weak men to society or women are those men, who can‘t provide wealth, social status or security. That‘s the heterosexual gender role of men. And if they don‘t fit it, if they can’t provide any of the 3 mentioned above, they are drop like sh***, you‘d be surprised how fast.
I agree @-b six twelve. No need to hide your true selves. If you do you will be helping fuel the stereo type mentioned in the video. Men has multiple layers to there personally. People that show themselves to be different change the world 🌎 %💯
@@mirceazaharia2094 agree 👍
I’m so lucky to have found my one and only. Married 31 years. No games. Duty. Family. Love. Respect.
Congratulations. You did find someone and it worked out. For me, I'd give anything for a blessing from God at least semi-similar to yours.
Im lonely because Im a closeted gay masculine man, unable to out myself because im afraid of judgement from society...
John G Fuck them, your happiness comes first, whoever loves you will love you regardless of who you are attracted to.
If people Love You before they know they will Love you after. Your Family Can Surprise You, Mine sure did. I'm almost 60 now and I'm Lonely because I have No Friends My Age. So make time to form Real Friendships before Too Much Time Goes By.
Ouch. I feel bad for you. Screw society. I'm a straight woman, but extremely masculine. As such, I'm a total outcast myself. I learned long ago not to care what society says. Live true to yourself, and consider those who don't like it people not worthy of your time or concern. There are plenty of people who have no problems with gay people.
masculine or not. you need to be and feel safe always. be true to your self. There are so many support groups out there to help Gay men. find comfort where you are comforted.
hi am Ryan Donald am a gay single and looking for a serious relationship
I accept living alone but I have no intention of being miserable about it because I see the type of men women date and I know iam better than them women only date dogs they're welcome to them
I have a few friends that went to Ukraine and Russia only to remain lonely. They thought that a potential wife was waiting for them but got scammed. Now they are heading to thialand after this virus is over with.
It's good that they have not given up. never give up trying.
Same risk there.
my dad told me to "Dont cry, be a man" when i was three and i havent cried since, but it hurts
I consider myself pretty lonely. I think because i am not inclined toward emotion, and have strong leadership personality. i usually don t seek help of others, and spend my time to study, politics and art, i have very few friends wich are all overcompetent. And here i see lot of 'beta' male ' or miss leaded woman, speaking about loneliness as a bad thing. It is not, it is either a choice to have time to be a better version of yourself, or the price of being a shitty/ boring person. ps Attractivness is one a the 3 things( beauty, mind, money), and you must have at least 2. Lack of attractiveneess sure isnt the key factor in not being able to have friends or wife.
hi am Ryan Donald am a gay single and looking for a serious relationship
I'll be honest fellas there are days that I feel that I might do something drastic. I feel invisible, I work hard, and make a decent living. Yet I don't feel like I'm living my life to the fullest.
The creator of the universe Yah Elohim, loves you. You are free to seek Him for yourself.
I have to tell you, middle age women have the SAME problems. It's awful. If a woman suggest anything about women getting together, people think she's a lesbian. Why does it have to be this way? There are so many people in their 50's and 60's committing suicide. It's just awful.
Well i think you are at the "menopause" stage and it's quiet normal
Yk I'm 15 my mom is 40 she is feeling very lonely,i would suggest you something,that you write down your thoughts on a paper,and get into arts and nature,
@@riri-pz3by Bhahaha. "menopause stage" That's really funny. When I was 15, our teacher gave us an assignment to write what we thought our life would be like when 34 years old. I couldn't write anything because I couldn't imagine being that old. Women being in their 50-60s and committing suicide is NEW. It has not been the norm historically, and women are a fast growing demographic. We really have almost zero statistics of it happening before. We need to find out why and address the situation.
@@yesiownfrodo what funny ??
All women don’t feel like that we want y’all to have feelings we humans
I agree with this 100%. I don't view a man as being less of a man if he expresses his emotions. If anything, it endears me to him. We are all humans & experience emotions. I truly feel for anyone who has ever felt less for expressing their emotions & opted to just bottle everything up inside.
True very true some women like it when men open up about things, makes easier to get to know them better.
@@TheBunabug Most of my life, I've just suppressed my emotions. I lost my fiancée back in June and the loneliness is corroding me.
Ive been there
Its ok to be alone
Sometimes i feel lonely but its ok life goes on
hi am Ryan Donald am a gay single and looking for a serious relationship
@@dovobis hi am Ryan Donald am a gay single and looking for a serious relationship
Most might disagree.
But as a lonely man I find the only way to be likeable is to be sad.
Being mysterious also works, but society has always hated truth speakers
FFS the crying thing again. It is nonsense, it is the forbidding of anger which is the destructive force. NOT violence, anger. This whole crying as the go to emotion makes me feel angry. It is the repression of anger (again I am NOT saying violence, different) that causes the repression of all emotions. But yeah the gay thing also has messed with mens lives. Oscar Wilde destroyed men walking arm in arm, actually talking. This was commonplace pre Wilde, destroyed overnight.
i agree. i usually say that lonelinees is either a choice for you to be better, or the price of being a shitty / borring person. And complaining about others than you of Your problems usually is the sign that you are a lazy fck who don t want to work to be interesting
I'm not very attractive and not charming enough to make up for it neither
Figure out how to be charming. Set it as a goal and study the question for a year or two.
You don't need to be charming. All you need to figure out is how to make women feel desired and good about themselves, and you'll be a hit with women, at least. As for finding as good male support system...I don't think good looks or charm would help you there...lol.
If you feel that way other will agree. it begins with self love. being aware of the power you have as a male. both men and women feel the same way you do. your energy will attract the same energy in someone else. when you see your worth you'll attract people that are worthy.
@@sylvanathornton2119 That is legitimately the worst piece of advice I have ever heard regarding women. Do not do as this lady says, it will get you either rejected or best case scenario used as an ego boost. You’d be far better off not paying a woman a compliment ever than doing this, sincerely.
@@sylvanathornton2119 If he is not good looking that is a terrible idea
Thank you for telling the truth 😒🌍🌍 it’s real out here men are lonely and are dying no kids to visit no wife 🌍 it’s sad these videos spue so many lies to make people feel good 😌 coming from a nurse 👩🏽⚕️
If a woman gets afraid of a spider I just wanna say "woman up" and see what happens,I'm just curious abt how she will take it and make of it
I will just get a shoe and squash it
As an unattractive man this world is rotten to the core. I honestly think I'm just going to end it soon.
If you're still here, I'd say just find some of the things you enjoy in life and don't dwell on the expectations of others. Like I always say, there has to be a way for us.
#singlemaleslivesmatter too
"Man up".
This isn't healthy.
Men, from time to time, there is nothing wrong with crying, we literally sometimes need to get the tears out, crying can let things out that you have bottled up.
Real men, cry.
Sure, tell men to cry and not to men up in a society, in which women absolutely don‘t care for the feelings of men and worse, even use their vulnerability against them in an argument. Men are judged by a majority of women by what they can provide for women. Wealth, social status or comfort/security. If a man stops providing these things for women or society, because he starts to have feelings, being vulnerable and starts crying, women will drop them fast and look for somebody else for a partner. Just look at the homeless. Absolut majority men. Very vulnerable. Nobody cares. Look at work place death, suicide, school drop outs or drug addicts. Nobody cares. Men are portrayed as the problem. Not something worth of compassion. So, great job of these two egg heads, to think crying or not to men up, will benefit men in this society. ❤️👍🏻
Dealing with the stress women bring doesn't help men
Exactly the issue is how men express themselves it's how society is treating men for existing. If you cry ever you are seen as unstable and potentially violent. If you rarely show negative emotion you are called a toxic male. And the majority of women don't see you as a person.
I won’t get flowers until my funeral.
I'm super fussy about who I associate with because I'm a little unusual as a person, so that's my issue.😕 #RideOrDieAlone
;./ jeez loneliness kills
the power is in womens' hands (obviously) - if women care about male loneliness then they would accept male approaches and deliberately choose to spend time with lonely men
The problem is - they don't. They only care as long as you have the money,
I used to be lonely. Now I dont care anymore.
Are you trying to make new friendship's?
@@kattodoggo3868 no I have enough.
Men treat other men terrible and the man is afraid to say anything because he doesn’t want to perceived as gay En you have to fix yourselves
How dafk are these messages gonna be conveyed to women anyways man, most of the people here in the comment section itself are men and I bet most of the viewers here are men too... So I think there is just no point anymore having discussions about this we just gotta suffer alone boiis, face the reality 🙂
If so many men are lonely how are women pregnant so much or I see other men with wife or gf?
Cause many of the lonely ones fo the manwhor3 route and/or become deadbeat dads that flee for the hills. S3x numbs the pain but doesn't solve the core issue. But hey, the more the merrier as they say I guess... So don't get your hopes up even when seeing the coupled ones up, they're just as lonely but choose to put a bandaid over it rather than face it head on.
theres a difference between a hookup and an actual relationship
Hypergamy, women are sharing men. Affairs and hookups (with the same pool of men) are driving this. I think OKCupid or Tinder data showed women view 80% of men unattractive. Women would rather share a winner than have a loser to themselves.
Most older women are self proclaimed cougars now. Apparently younger guys who need a sugar Mama are growing by the numbers. The RED LIGHT DiSTRICT of Amsterdam is looking better and better as I age.💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃
Hey...that older woman probably had her husband of 20 years cheat on her with a younger, hotter model. Give her a break. Her self-esteem has been shot. She's constantly being told how she no longer has any value to men because she's not 20 and hot anymore. In comes that college boy who doesn't mind giving her a bit of attention. Next thing you know, she's a cougar, because - well, for the first time in ages, she feels desired and attractive. It's not different from the thousands of 40/50/60+ year old men going after 20 year old women. But nobody wants to admit they're doing it out of desperation.
@Major PainDiaz -- Dude, i'm a 6 ft. 3 tall woman. I don't want to hear jack sht about being rejected because of height. I'm pretty sure your lack of empathy and inability to relate to the fact that others have problems as well is what gets you rejected by women way more than your height.
@Major PainDiaz -- And the same research will show that it's height for women, as well. What's your point? As a matter of fact, a super tall woman has less chances of dating than a super short men. For the simple reason that there are way more super short women out there than super tall men. And as such, a man's chances of finding a woman his height or shorter who is willing to date him are way higher.
As I said, quit looking at everything from only one point of view. Tons of women don't like it - fine. Find the ones who don't mind. There are plenty of them out there.
Likewise, since the high majority of men is shorter, it means the high majority of married men and men in relationships is shorter. If you're below average height for a man, you might have to work harder, but there are still tons of you who are married long-term. Quit looking at the negative and find positive examples. Heck, a great majority of latino men are rather short. Yet most of them are married.
Who cares if you can get 1000 women who wouldn't treat you right? Find one who will treat you wonderfully. Quantity rarely equals quality.
@Major PainDiaz -- Quit with the name calling. It only makes you sound stupid and immature.
What do you mean, why should height matter??? Weren't you the one who said that it's height for men that matters?
And are you seriously teling this 6 ft 3 and all other tall women that the impact on us isn't as great??? Have you ever walked in our shoes?? Do you have any idea what it is like for us to date?
Fact is, the impact for super short men and super tall women is the same. And fact is also that there are way more super short women than super tall men. Meaning your chances of finding a partner your height are way greater than the chances of a super tall woman. Another fact is that a lot of super short men are married.
So quit letting your height stand in your way!
@@sylvanathornton2119 Yes tall women will get far less chances. But if you want to make it a competition, all of these studies have consistently shown that men are more flexible and more willing to date a taller chick than a woman is willing to date a smaller guy.
I'm 6'2 so about average, but I know DAMN well what it's like to be a midget. I literally started growing at 17 years old, and before that, I was the smallest kid in my class, even including all the girls. At 15, I was 5'. Can you imagine that? My life back then was a living hell, so I get it must be hard for you to be a girl at that height, but end of the day, as I have to keep repeating to you, men's standards are lower and more flexible. Yeah, lots of guys won't wanna date you, but there'll be who do... a lot more than a girl would be willing to date a guy shorter than her. During my teens, despite being "decent looking", I never ONCE had any girl ever being remotely interested in me. Then when I started growing a couple of years later, I found out about this girl who had a crush on me. What a coincidence. /s
No compassion for you.You have done too much.Welcome to accountability!
Congratulations, now everybody knows what thoroughly horrible and contemptible person you are 🖕
Just forgive those who teased or whatever you
I don't find this view agreeable. I am going through a midlife crisis, yes I've been told to man up and I do believe in that proverb. What it really means is keep moving, pull yourself up and keep moving.
As for making plans with other guys, I don't do it out of laziness and reluctance to break routine. I do seek feminine companionship, that's just a dimension which is foreign to a lot of guys such as myself. And that's the real problem, the lack of belief that one can find chemistry or anything more, add fear of rejection to it which has maybe been reinforced by experience then add your instinct to be polite not disrupt any social setting by keeping all emotions at bay that may have led to you being rejected and having cause any degree of awkwardness.
You move like that and yea, years go by, you notice it doesn't matter to anyone so you further limit social contact.
"WHO IN THE HELL ARE THESE GIRLY BOYS PUT YOUR ELDERS TO TALK FOR CRYING OUT LOUD"
😉😉😉
As A Brown Person, i apologize for these 2 overgrown manboys
I call bull
hi am Ryan Donald am a gay single and looking for a serious relationship
@@ryandonald182 dude I'm not gay, I'm sorry. I'll be your friend tho
Okay do you use WhatsApp or Google Hangouts
Lol turns out being a player and a shallow human being isn't working out too well for them now 😂 good. It's simple. Be a good person and self aware, and that's it. But they can't even do that.
How is "man up" a ridiculously prejudicial thing to say.. What is this fruit-cake on about?!? Smfh
I'm ugly. Make pennies.
📃I don't want pregnacy📃
Yes haha girls Like you are ALMOST every where :D nobody likes me too
Some y’all choose to be like that y’all have egos we care and we get used for showing our women side it’s sad
Victim blaming much?
@Angelina Pattern I hope that’s a joke. Women are def more insecure... it’s why you wear makeup and dress attractively, all for male validation. True, having a hot woman by our side doesn’t hurt, but women def require more attention.
@Angelina Pattern Your entire post is wrong. Women 100% wear make up and dress well for male pleasure. It is biological, you can deny it all you want. A women’s worth is based on beauty, just as a man’s is on success. A woman can’t sleep around for fear of being labeled, men wear tank tops, especially if they work out to impress sure... but we don’t take 30 min to get ready either. The biggest flaw in your thinking is that men and women are the same. We are not.
Yup I don’t feel sorry
@@indiasupportstrumpwwg1wga927 nope because guess what most men can’t even tell when a woman wears makeup or not 🙄🤣
I thought, that it is females, that get -lonely!?
@I. S WE/US -MALES, Just wanna "get l@id!!"??-(Or maybe; that is just me!!)??
@I. S I Love and actually = "seek time, being =alone: away from -intrusions/disturbances and distractions" (and/or; being told, to "#man -up!!" "Pay for everything"; "carry everyone else's "crap!!"-Etc.-etc.!!")??
no its not you know that deep inside that when a woman is depressed she has all these female friends and male friends around her when a man is depressed people tell him to be a man and he is usually alone
@@arianalushtaku4329 "A CURE for [4] Loneliness/boredom" = interest's/hobby's [having] and "finding yourself:
tasks to: "go for"/do!!"??
@@m.k.s.7417 I don't know what you're trying to say ?
Eze
Man the fuck up 😈💪
I'm sensing too many gender studies classes.
Then Be a Man.