I had a customer that was a funeral director, and when he would vacation and would be asked the question " what do you do for a living " his answer was "I run a little body shop in Michigan"
Hi Kari, You mentooned tattos. We once had a retiree who had a tatoo on his inner thigh. The tattoo was a straight, dotted line across his femoral artery. The words beneath it said, "Cut here." He was a funeral director and embalmer.
Your gentle descriptions are very appreciated. My Mom passed away on 10/31/20, and she was very adamant about what she wanted. After she was embalmed, she looked "fuller" somehow, and it was calming somehow to my family to see her less frail. I'm a nurse, so we'd had lots of discussions about things, but the family didn't know what to expect. I knew, but when I took a private moment before her funeral, she looked so natural and wonderful! My biggest fear was that she'd look like she did just after she'd passed: sunken, frail, pale...she was beautiful. Thank you for what you do. You make it easier to transition from here to not here.
Why would you lose both parents within a week and not cry? It is an Irish thing. Brian Killmeade of Fox News explained it this way; every morning as he is about to leave for work he shakes his wife's hand goodbye.
I commend you for your work. You have a very compassionate heart. Blessings to you. Thank you for being there for us during our moment of deepest sorrow.
Kari, I love your service so much. My parents died within a week 50 years ago. There was a dog in the house that went to live with my brother's home. That dog died on the highway trying to go back to my parent's home. (Which was my home also but I was in training in the Army) I didn't cry at any time during that time until the other night when I viewed your video on the effect of death on pets and your interview with the psychiatric veterinarian. Thank you, Kari!
I want my dog's ashes mixed with mine when I go. I'm putting it in writing & keeping copies with my will and other estate documents. And I don't care how weird that is, she was my baby.
I think I've got to talk to funeral director about it because my kids say no way are they doing that. So far I have 6 urns, and currently have 4 living wiggle butts, expecting a few more if I get to live longer.
@@yorkiem0m You have to put it in writing and attach to your will and find someone else to handle your burial and carry out your wishes, like an attorney.
Hi Kari, You are lovely, caring and genuine. I understand the problem that your profession might have caused some when dating, but your attributes override all of that. I'm commenting to say that I'm impressed with the phrase you use for the process when you say "taking care" of the deceased. Taking care........... because you have compassion and also work ethic. All of it, from transport to embalming, dressing, preparation for viewing, etc, is "taking care." That is actually a very tender approach. My father recently passed away at age 82 so I came to view these videos to fill in some of the blanks on some questions I had. It has been a pleasure to "meet" you. Your efforts are appreciated.
I had always known that morticians are some of the most caring and kindhearted souls out there, just like nurses. Therefore, those who turn away from relationships just because their partner is a "mortician" has got to be severely misinformed by popular entertainment and stereotypical nonsense... I would not hesitate to date a woman who is a mortician. As a matter of fact, I think they would be far more mature and understanding of life's realities than a majority of the other folks out there. I do not consider people's professions and careers a problem in relationships. I consider shitty phone etiquette a major problem. For example, our modern smartphones ensure that we do NOT miss any calls or texts because everything is logged and displayed to us. I always do my best to answer every call and text that I receive. I have never missed one communication in all the time I have been using a smartphone, and I expect the same from others. Therefore, if someone who I am seeing misses a text or does not reply to one, I take offense to it. Do it once and have a valid explanation, I might give you a second chance. Keep doing it, and I will simply leave you and cease all communications permanently with absolutely no warning. I have done that in the past and I have no qualms about doing it again if I have to...
I've stumbled over your channel and I am very impressed with your comments and feelings. I'm just thankful for people who can do your job and have compassion like you. Thanks
I watched this all the way through. You are an absolutely amazing person. This sounds completely insane, but I wish I could die and be taken care of by you!!! Lol. Seriously, I sense, through all of your stories, that you have such a deep and abiding respect for each one of your clients, and that you approach each one as utterly unique. You have that heightened spiritual understanding that must be so indispensable to your profession. I just have the most respect for you. Xxoo.
I buried my grandma in a pair of leopard print thongs. No one knows but me (and the funeral director) and to this day it makes me giggle to think about.
I hope that when I go I am fortunate enough to run into someone like you. Your caring and compassion for your "guests" is obvious. A final act of love. Thank you for doing this, and for what you do.
I've learned a lot watching your videos. I've always had lots of questions about your business and career and you've answered a lot of my questions. Thank you for what you do.
I’ve worked in healthcare a long time, Long term care. I understand where you’re coming from with taking yourself out of the equation and being there for the family. You truly are an amazing person and truly are in your calling. I’m new to your channel, where are you from? I hear Midwest/Chicago as that’s where I lived for a long time. You truly have a gift for answering these questions with class! I wanted to add, I put powdered sugar raspberry filled donuts in my grandpa’s casket, because we ate them while out salmon fishing, grandma never let him have sugar (he wasn’t diabetic) thank you for making these videos, it has put my mind at ease. 🙏💜
I'm a newbie, but I can tell this is gonna be one of my fav channels. I've always had so many questions about what happens after we pass, but I don't know anyone personally that has this much info...thanks!
Just popped up into my feed, and now I’m hooked. You are such a lovely woman, inside and out. I’m confident that you are in the correct line of work. You have such compassion. Thank you!
My aunt Eva gave her nieces and nephews quarters all the time when we were little (back when you could buy something for a quarter), as we got older it became a dollar (inflation lol). Day of her funeral I went to the bank and got a roll of quarters and passed them out to all my cousins when we were walking by the coffin for the last goodbye before exiting the funeral home we all placed the quarters in her coffin with her so she could pass out the quarters in heaven to those who passed before her.
You are in the right profession, bless you for the respect you give the dead. We have been using the same funeral in NY for 3 generation. You remind me of them, they do a woderful job. Respectful and have never made us feel like they where takeing advantage of our grief.
OMG !! That nut on the phone would have made me pee !! He was crazy !! I wonder what ever happened ?? You are awesome! Kari, you make the whole funeral experience so much more real and not so Scarry . Thank You!!
Hi Kari, enjoying your videos. I buried 10 pair of baby shoes tied together with my oldest brother; representing his siblings. My mom wanted the shoes kept together ranging from 1932 to 1956. Now as the youngest sibling of the 6 yet surviving, I bury a picture of the 10 of us with them.
We buried our grandmother in a wedding dress because she did not have that type of dress when she married. She looked beautiful and it left us with a happy memory.
I enjoyed this SOOO MUCH 😌 laying down in my cozy couch sipping on some hot chocolate in a cold night and watching this lady talk about her experiences at the funeral home 💛 I can’t wait to start Mortuary Science school!
In my younger years I always wanted to become a funeral director but ended up working in nursing homes over 20 years. Giving care to those as they are elderly, actively dying and after death care before the family or funeral home comes to get them is the greatest form of respect to honor their lives you can give to them.
I am intrigued and in awe listening to you describe your feelings and emotions when you have embalmed your family members. It's an honor to you to do that last caring act for them. You are truly a caring person. You are a sweet person with a good heart ❤
Hi Kari 💕 - I love this video/vlog. I love how you ALWAYS say, "care" for Xyz. I find myself thinking, how could this or that, and you seem to come through with, " when I care for ".. I again, think that's what makes you so special. Thanks for sharing your GIFT of sincerity. Xoxo
I just want to say “ MANY THANKS TO YOU” for taking so long of your time to answer so many questions that I and so many other must have had about each of these subjects!! 🤔🙏🏻 I have lost a son in a car accident at 33 years ol age and my second son at age 56 to depression because of a divorce and 2 daughter that totally isolated themselves from him!!! Now they are having a terrible time dealing with decisions!! I had begged both to talk with their dad!!
I came back to add a little something to your first topic. When I was in the funeral industry (21 years until recent retirement,) it was ok when people asked what I do for a living. I always tried to have it be understood that my job was "an opportunity of service." I was a widower for 17 years. I have had other losses. I can relate to most people who come to my mortuary for help. I listen well, I am glad to give answers and I participate in a very good grief support group. I invite people in bereavement to visit our group. It is very common to hear that visiting the group has helped that person's grief. Let me state clearly now that grief doesn't go away. It gets better. By talking with other grieving people grief can take on a manageable form. It does not need to rule your life any longer. Something else that applied to my case when my Daisy was suddenly taken with an aneurysm. Remember in the movie, Second Hand Lions, the manly speech on the lakeshore? He was right. "True love never dies." I believe that when time has passed and a bereaved person remarries, it is important for grieving people to marry another grieving person. Then you are both on the same page. My new wife and I have an understanding. It is alright to talk about our late spouses. We understand that the pain and prior love are still in the heart. We do love eachother and are glad to be married again. The human heart can do both. For my part I just try to be thoughtful. And I NEVER COMPARE! My new wife is a different individual with her own gifts. She will never be a clone to my Daisy. Nor will I ever be like her late hubby. We just take it a day at a time and work on our own marriage. I am blest to have her. And I remember that.
Thank you for doing this video ...I have lost 3 of my children and my sister and my mother and father..our funeral home that we go to have so much kindness and love for families...and you sound the same way..
I told my wife to do nothing crazy when I die. My body is just a shell. Do whatever is cheapest. Losing a loved one is hard enough, why have a huge funeral bill to worry about? You have a tough job and I am glad you share it with us. Great video!
Love your videos. Please keep them coming. I always felt being a funeral director was my calling and I still feel that way however life took me other paths but I admire what you do.
Oh, my goodness, you had just been talking about ghosts, and a few minutes later your tripod toppled. I about had a great attack!😂. I LOVE your videos. You describe things so gently but to the point.
You are so interesting to listen to and I can agree about the colostomy bags being "the worst" for me with hospice work, I don't know why I have such a problem with that more than anything else but I do. Thanks for sharing what you do.
Kari northey has great videos, she has helped me understand the importance of dying a lot more,she cares for the living and the dying even more,she makes sure she tells her clients the up front costs and all costs ,she tells the truth, there should be more like her.
Thank you for sharing. I was in the industry for two years. I gave it up because I could not deal with the drama from families. They would be mad at me for the death. I was there to comfort and be empathic. Seeing wakes after wakes got me sick and depressed. I had to throw the towel and walk. Again thank you for sharing
OK so I've got really good nerves ... nothing freaks me out even watching horror flicks at the movie theatre ... when everyone else is jumping I'm just sitting there ... but when that spring on your tripod broke ... holy crap ... that kind of set me back in my chair a bit ... "be still my heart" ... I think I was concentrating so much on what you were saying at the exact moment that it happened perhaps ... but anyway I'm really enjoying all your videos ... such a great profession to be in ... I've always been fascinated with it ... I've personally known several of the Funeral Directors in my home town ... looking forward to more of your videos ... and I hope you got the spring fixed! Thanks very much.
Thank you for this video. A wonderful array!!....You had a very interesting insight on identical twins. I read once, whether true or not, that identical twins share part of the same soul. I would like to think that this must be true and would account for the weird and strange feelings when the other twin walked into the room. (my take anyway) ... and yes, I have seen a few casket climbers as well! God bless!
Great video I'm from north Carolina and the information you put out is interesting I've been driving truck seance 1991 and hauled all kinds of stuff through the years but great video you have a good day
I agree wholeheartedly! They're not disposing of a body, they're supposed to be caring for a deceased person's remains, which is a direct reflection of that person's life on Earth. It's supposed to be all about sensitivity, care & trust.... Too many funeral businesses and the people who that person left behind, forget or neglect this important point! Thankfully, that's not you, you're truly a shining example and a huge credit to your industry! Dare I say, you're the very best I've ever come across in the industry! Much love to you & yours, you're truly an angel! 👼 😊
Kari Northey It's certainly my pleasure Kari, dare I say, you are more tender and caring than even my therapist is! I'm just proud to have shared a part of the Earth with a person like you! 💕 I hope that you have children, the world certainly needs more terrific people like you! I'd guarantee that you're a great mother & if you're not a mom, you'd be a superb one without a doubt! I just finish a crying spell when you said about the selfish teenage moment that poor girl and the parents had with the funeral folder, my heart certainly goes out to both that girl as well as the poor parents of the deceased boy, what a heartbreaking moment to hear of that... For all of the parties concerned! 💕
Hi Kari! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and work with us. You seem to be a kind and caring person and you do what most people couldn't do. I find it interesting what happens at a funeral home. Your expertise is enlightening. It is somewhat unnerving to me but at the same time it's good to know that the care you give is commendable and you show dignity and love for the deceased. I like listening to you as opposed to another mortician on you tube who comes across as being too witty and creepy. Lol. God bless you !!!!
Hi Kari, I'm not sure if you read comments that are posted on your older videos but I had to comment how crazy it was that you talked about teenagers going to funerals for classmates that they were not close to. This hits so close to home for me. My husband and I dated all through high school and a month after they graduated his best friend was in a car accident and died. When we went to his funeral there were so many kids there that did not give him the time of day when he was alive. It really upset my husband and all of their friends seeing those people who didn't care about him when he was alive treat it as some kind of social scene. Of course we didn't have social media then (1995) but I never understood why they felt the need to be there. Thank you for all your videos, I have been binge watching them the last few days and I really love them.
Kari...I just love listening to you speak of your stories and knowledge. You seem to be so kind and compassionate...you are obviously in the right business. I would definitely recommend your funeral home if I lived near you 😉 You are a class act...bless you🙏😁
I'm a musician. Onr of the first services outside our regular church services I played for was the memorial for a friends whose son died shortly after birth. The parents themselves officiated. They would smile and chuckle and expressed the awe and wonder of any new parent. One of the other worship musicians asked me to duet with him and pay filler music. It was a biittersweet event like no other I've been part of. We were asked to sing worship music. From that time, I quickly found myself dwarn to taking part in memorials. There are very few things in life that equal the honor of celebrating the life of someone's loved-one. I feel in we of God's presence every time, whether it's in a faith-based setting or a purely secular one. I find a bond with every family I have worked with. There is nothing morbid about it. I have a small part in helping comfort these people. I never ask for pay of any kind.
Kari, I really appreciate your honesty in answering the questions people ask you. What is your relationship with God? You seem like a very caring person.
Kari, I would think when it comes to your Loved ones ... Friends or Family that you may really want to be that person to ready the person...the details that you want perfect for that person, you would be the one to make sure everything is exactly like that soul would have wanted it or to look a certain way. I am glad I found your platform because this really interest me...I am strange that way. Just a me thing. Thank you for explaining this process in such detail.
I loved your comments about teenagers. Being a little self centered is part of the journey toward maturity, and is understandable. But I think social media has made it a much larger problem than in the past. Or maybe I'm just getting old. :)
How could ppl want to just get rid of them? That is so sad. That happened to my best friend. Her husband was awful. I miss my husband so much! He was my Cupcake. We had them put a plastic cupcake in his outer burial container. I would give anything to have him back. I believe he is in Heaven, but I miss him! 💔 Your videos are very informative and professional. Thank you for the love and respect you show. 💙 Lubbock, Texas
You seem like a loving and caring woman!! It has to be hard to separate your feelings when it comes to dealing with the dead. I think it's neat however how you love your job and have a fascination with your field of work. I may have posted this before but my great niece and her five year old little boy was murdered here in Kalamazoo by the father of the child and he also killed himself. I was sooo scared to walk into the funeral home knowing I would see a mom and her child lying in a casket. I have to say I never saw anything so heartbreaking but beautiful. Whoever took care of them did an awesome job. They both looked so natural. My great niece was beautiful and her baby was so adorable. I never saw anything so touching. It was done at your place of work and I don't know know if you had a hand in it but I want to thank whomever took care of them very much. Such an awesome job. Kari, you make death a little easier to comprehend and you explain it so well. I love some of your stories. Please keep them coming!!! ❤
Well I think you can be called a teacher because of what you have taught us. I have learned so much from you and the other ladies, little miss funeral, the grave woman and Kaitlyn. I wish I had known the things you have talked about before my dad died. Good for you and thanks.
I'm binge watching your videos and again I say your voice is very soothing Kari. I appreciate that maybe because my brothers death anniversary is near and I'm having a hard time. Thursday the 20th will mark 2 years since his murder. He was a mistaken identity victim he was a great man with a family that loved him. He was with his best friend when it happened so I have a little comfort I'm mean a (tiny spec) just knowing he wasn't alone.😞
"Capitive Crawlers" & unballanced people calling on the phone??? You deserve a huge increase in pay young lady, no doubt about it! These are but a few reasons why I'd be unable to handle the profession! I've got nothing but the deepest respect for you going through all that & still working in the industry! 💕 Whew, I can see I'd have nightmares about those things!
I’m currently in school to be a mortician, and I’d love to see how you cope with the busy schedule while being a mother. Making time for your babies. I’d also like to say, that there’s so many points you make that I myself feel the exact same way!
Julianne Reineman , absolutely loving school. I went to school for nursing, and dreaded it. I loved the science but disliked so many aspects of the business. Mortuary science, is so easy for me, because it’s so interesting. If you have a heart for people, and also love science, Common wealth institute has an amazing program!
I had a customer that was a funeral director, and when he would vacation and would be asked the question " what do you do for a living " his answer was "I run a little body shop in Michigan"
LOL!
Did you say 3 times you were scared. I only heard 2.
Gary Kerkstra 😂😂😂😂
Wendy Gabbert no one ☝🏽 said anything about that.
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Hi Kari,
You mentooned tattos. We once had a retiree who had a tatoo on his inner thigh. The tattoo was a straight, dotted line across his femoral artery. The words beneath it said, "Cut here." He was a funeral director and embalmer.
All Funeral Directors should be this compassionate and caring.
Yes
Your gentle descriptions are very appreciated. My Mom passed away on 10/31/20, and she was very adamant about what she wanted. After she was embalmed, she looked "fuller" somehow, and it was calming somehow to my family to see her less frail. I'm a nurse, so we'd had lots of discussions about things, but the family didn't know what to expect. I knew, but when I took a private moment before her funeral, she looked so natural and wonderful! My biggest fear was that she'd look like she did just after she'd passed: sunken, frail, pale...she was beautiful. Thank you for what you do. You make it easier to transition from here to not here.
You are one of the most interesting lady’s that I have ever listened to. Total respect to you for sharing such experiences. Thank you.
Why would you lose both parents within a week and not cry? It is an Irish thing. Brian Killmeade of Fox News explained it this way; every morning as he is about to leave for work he shakes his wife's hand goodbye.
Kari, you seem like a wonderful person. You are very caring and very knowledgeable!
Les Subrick ‘jr
I commend you for your work. You have a very compassionate heart. Blessings to you. Thank you for being there for us during our moment of deepest sorrow.
Kari, I love your service so much. My parents died within a week 50 years ago. There was a dog in the house that went to live with my brother's home. That dog died on the highway trying to go back to my parent's home. (Which was my home also but I was in training in the Army) I didn't cry at any time during that time until the other night when I viewed your video on the effect of death on pets and your interview with the psychiatric veterinarian. Thank you, Kari!
I'm sitting in the dark, totally intrigued by the stories, and the tripod broke, camera fell, and I almost had a heart attack! 😳
😂😂
Same!!! Omg 😆 That was so scary!!
I screamed for some reason because I was so engrossed in what she was saying! :D
I'm with ya! Funeral homes and bodies I'm ok.
Break the tri pod I'm in need of a funeral director
Just watching it now..April 2023 and this happened to me too! 😂
I want my dog's ashes mixed with mine when I go. I'm putting it in writing & keeping copies with my will and other estate documents. And I don't care how weird that is, she was my baby.
Very nice thing to do!
I feel the same way!
That's what I want too. I don't think it's weird at all.🙂
I think I've got to talk to funeral director about it because my kids say no way are they doing that. So far I have 6 urns, and currently have 4 living wiggle butts, expecting a few more if I get to live longer.
@@yorkiem0m You have to put it in writing and attach to your will and find someone else to handle your burial and carry out your wishes, like an attorney.
Hi Kari, You are lovely, caring and genuine. I understand the problem that your profession might have caused some when dating, but your attributes override all of that. I'm commenting to say that I'm impressed with the phrase you use for the process when you say "taking care" of the deceased. Taking care........... because you have compassion and also work ethic. All of it, from transport to embalming, dressing, preparation for viewing, etc, is "taking care." That is actually a very tender approach. My father recently passed away at age 82 so I came to view these videos to fill in some of the blanks on some questions I had. It has been a pleasure to "meet" you. Your efforts are appreciated.
Yes! "Taking care of"! That phrase jumped out at me as well. It's an act of love.
I had always known that morticians are some of the most caring and kindhearted souls out there, just like nurses. Therefore, those who turn away from relationships just because their partner is a "mortician" has got to be severely misinformed by popular entertainment and stereotypical nonsense... I would not hesitate to date a woman who is a mortician. As a matter of fact, I think they would be far more mature and understanding of life's realities than a majority of the other folks out there. I do not consider people's professions and careers a problem in relationships. I consider shitty phone etiquette a major problem. For example, our modern smartphones ensure that we do NOT miss any calls or texts because everything is logged and displayed to us. I always do my best to answer every call and text that I receive. I have never missed one communication in all the time I have been using a smartphone, and I expect the same from others. Therefore, if someone who I am seeing misses a text or does not reply to one, I take offense to it. Do it once and have a valid explanation, I might give you a second chance. Keep doing it, and I will simply leave you and cease all communications permanently with absolutely no warning. I have done that in the past and I have no qualms about doing it again if I have to...
I've stumbled over your channel and I am very impressed with your comments and feelings. I'm just thankful for people who can do your job and have compassion like you. Thanks
Ok when your tripod broke I jumped out of my skin 😂
I did too! 😨
Theresa Williams - omg I just almost hit the floor. I think I had a slight heart attack!!!!😱
that was super funny I jumped too lol
Lol, I’m glad I wasn’t the only one. 🤣
when i lean forward some girls tell me look like a tripod
I watched this all the way through. You are an absolutely amazing person. This sounds completely insane, but I wish I could die and be taken care of by you!!! Lol. Seriously, I sense, through all of your stories, that you have such a deep and abiding respect for each one of your clients, and that you approach each one as utterly unique. You have that heightened spiritual understanding that must be so indispensable to your profession. I just have the most respect for you. Xxoo.
I buried my grandma in a pair of leopard print thongs. No one knows but me (and the funeral director) and to this day it makes me giggle to think about.
😂😂 was it her wish?
Lol! I love this so much!😂
Melissa Kennedy my Grandma always made me laugh. What a precious last “secret laugh” between you and your Grandma. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️.
🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪
A little weird to be thinking of your grandma in a thong tbh
You are such an exceptional person, Kari. You have a heart of gold. ❤
Thankyou for this video. Even being in the industry, your perspective has helped me.
Glad it was helpful!
Your profession takes a special type of person. It is truly a calling. Thank you and those that work in the funeral home profession.
I hope that when I go I am fortunate enough to run into someone like you. Your caring and compassion for your "guests" is obvious. A final act of love. Thank you for doing this, and for what you do.
I could watch your videos all day. Thank you for showing such honesty.
Thank you for your honesty. I’ve seen a couple of your videos and I think you’re a unique and precious person. God bless you.
I've learned a lot watching your videos. I've always had lots of questions about your business and career and you've answered a lot of my questions. Thank you for what you do.
Hun, you have beautiful eyes and seem to be a honest sincere person. Thanks for sharing.
I’ve worked in healthcare a long time, Long term care. I understand where you’re coming from with taking yourself out of the equation and being there for the family. You truly are an amazing person and truly are in your calling. I’m new to your channel, where are you from? I hear Midwest/Chicago as that’s where I lived for a long time. You truly have a gift for answering these questions with class! I wanted to add, I put powdered sugar raspberry filled donuts in my grandpa’s casket, because we ate them while out salmon fishing, grandma never let him have sugar (he wasn’t diabetic) thank you for making these videos, it has put my mind at ease. 🙏💜
I'm a newbie, but I can tell this is gonna be one of my fav channels. I've always had so many questions about what happens after we pass, but I don't know anyone personally that has this much info...thanks!
Just popped up into my feed, and now I’m hooked. You are such a lovely woman, inside and out. I’m confident that you are in the correct line of work. You have such compassion. Thank you!
Thank you so much!!
My aunt Eva gave her nieces and nephews quarters all the time when we were little (back when you could buy something for a quarter), as we got older it became a dollar (inflation lol). Day of her funeral I went to the bank and got a roll of quarters and passed them out to all my cousins when we were walking by the coffin for the last goodbye before exiting the funeral home we all placed the quarters in her coffin with her so she could pass out the quarters in heaven to those who passed before her.
Very sweet!
I know a person in the industry and he told me that it wasn't the dead that creeped him out but it was the living that creeps him out.
You are in the right profession, bless you for the respect you give the dead. We have been
using the same funeral in NY for 3 generation. You remind me of them, they do a woderful job. Respectful and have never made us feel like they where takeing advantage of our grief.
Thank you for the way you are!!! You are in the right job!!!!!!!!!
I really appreciate your honesty and openness regarding this topic.
OMG !! That nut on the phone would have made me pee !! He was crazy !! I wonder what ever happened ?? You are awesome! Kari, you make the whole funeral experience so much more real and not so Scarry . Thank You!!
Thank you for this video, the information you have giving me means a lot!! Thanks
Hi Kari, enjoying your videos. I buried 10 pair of baby shoes tied together with my oldest brother; representing his siblings. My mom wanted the shoes kept together ranging from 1932 to 1956. Now as the youngest sibling of the 6 yet surviving, I bury a picture of the 10 of us with them.
We buried our grandmother in a wedding dress because she did not have that type of dress when she married. She looked beautiful and it left us with a happy memory.
I enjoyed this SOOO MUCH 😌 laying down in my cozy couch sipping on some hot chocolate in a cold night and watching this lady talk about her experiences at the funeral home 💛 I can’t wait to start Mortuary Science school!
Aww thank you!!
In my younger years I always wanted to become a funeral director but ended up working in nursing homes over 20 years. Giving care to those as they are elderly, actively dying and after death care before the family or funeral home comes to get them is the greatest form of respect to honor their lives you can give to them.
Do you "talk" to your clients as you prepare them? Like "wow, cool tatoo" or "you have great skin"?
I am intrigued and in awe listening to you describe your feelings and emotions when you have embalmed your family members. It's an honor to you to do that last caring act for them. You are truly a caring person. You are a sweet person with a good heart ❤
Hi Kari 💕 - I love this video/vlog. I love how you ALWAYS say, "care" for Xyz.
I find myself thinking, how could this or that, and you seem to come through with, " when I care for ".. I again, think that's what makes you so special. Thanks for sharing your GIFT of sincerity. Xoxo
Your energy is so lovely and real❤ I enjoy learning from your experience ! Thank you
You are so welcome
Thanks for the stories Kari, very interesting. 👍
I love listening to you talk!!
I wish I lived where you are, it would be so comforting to have you! God forbid I don't need to for a long time
I just want to say “ MANY THANKS TO YOU” for taking so long of your time to answer so many questions that I and so many other must have had about each of these subjects!! 🤔🙏🏻
I have lost a son in a car accident at 33 years ol age and my second son at age 56 to depression because of a divorce and 2 daughter that totally isolated themselves from him!!! Now they are having a terrible time dealing with decisions!!
I had begged both to talk with their dad!!
You are very welcome!! So sorry for the heartbreak you have had!
I came back to add a little something to your first topic.
When I was in the funeral industry (21 years until recent retirement,) it was ok when people asked what I do for a living. I always tried to have it be understood that my job was "an opportunity of service." I was a widower for 17 years. I have had other losses. I can relate to most people who come to my mortuary for help. I listen well, I am glad to give answers and I participate in a very good grief support group. I invite people in bereavement to visit our group. It is very common to hear that visiting the group has helped that person's grief.
Let me state clearly now that grief doesn't go away. It gets better. By talking with other grieving people grief can take on a manageable form. It does not need to rule your life any longer.
Something else that applied to my case when my Daisy was suddenly taken with an aneurysm. Remember in the movie, Second Hand Lions, the manly speech on the lakeshore? He was right. "True love never dies."
I believe that when time has passed and a bereaved person remarries, it is important for grieving people to marry another grieving person. Then you are both on the same page.
My new wife and I have an understanding. It is alright to talk about our late spouses. We understand that the pain and prior love are still in the heart. We do love eachother and are glad to be married again. The human heart can do both. For my part I just try to be thoughtful. And I NEVER COMPARE! My new wife is a different individual with her own gifts. She will never be a clone to my Daisy. Nor will I ever be like her late hubby. We just take it a day at a time and work on our own marriage. I am blest to have her. And I remember that.
Thank you for sharing this!
Thanks for Sharing those personal experiences. I jumped when your tripod fell.
You're a precious jewel!💎
Thank you for your information in these vlogs. You have been helpful to me. Thank you.
Thank you for doing this video ...I have lost 3 of my children and my sister and my mother and father..our funeral home that we go to have so much kindness and love for families...and you sound the same way..
thank you Kari ( merci ) for sharing with us .....quebec canada
So interesting! Again, love how you always teach us something. Thank you!
Hardest job on earth is helping people who have to say goodbye to their loved ones. God Bless You...
Kari you are so kind.
I told my wife to do nothing crazy when I die. My body is just a shell. Do whatever is cheapest. Losing a loved one is hard enough, why have a huge funeral bill to worry about? You have a tough job and I am glad you share it with us. Great video!
Thank you for explaining so much. Very informative very professional.
God bless you. You have a hard job.
Love your videos. Please keep them coming. I always felt being a funeral director was my calling and I still feel that way however life took me other paths but I admire what you do.
I landed in the practice of law but I still feel I would have succeeded at being a funeral director. I admire you Kari
I’m in bed, in the dark watching this video. Then your tripod broke and I about jumped out of my skin! 😂
It's so interesting hearing your stories. The part about identical twins...I've never even thought about that!
Jeffery Hopcus 🤔
Oh, my goodness, you had just been talking about ghosts, and a few minutes later your tripod toppled. I about had a great attack!😂.
I LOVE your videos. You describe things so gently but to the point.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE AND YOUR SINCERE LOVEING HEART HUGS CIAO
Im 65 so really im looking at what will come
Thanks so much!
You are so interesting to listen to and I can agree about the colostomy bags being "the worst" for me with hospice work, I don't know why I have such a problem with that more than anything else but I do. Thanks for sharing what you do.
Kari northey has great videos, she has helped me understand the importance of dying a lot more,she cares for the living and the dying even more,she makes sure she tells her clients the up front costs and all costs ,she tells the truth, there should be more like her.
Thank you for your kindness. I'm retired was in medical field
Good questions and answers. Thanks for your honesty.
Glad it was helpful!
I hope you are safe and well during this pandemic! Very informative. You made it all seem less gruesome than I imagined. Thank you!
You are welcome!
Your job requires a strong mind set and ur a strong spirited person u have strong will to keep a good head on ur shoulder.. god bless u 👼
Okay, so I really like this person...honest and real, beauty runs deep in this one.
Secondinsight how much truth is it to you that you lose your sense of smell dealing with chemicals??
Is it different embalming a drowning victim? One that had been in a lake for 7+ days?
Thank you for sharing. I was in the industry for two years. I gave it up because I could not deal with the drama from families. They would be mad at me for the death. I was there to comfort and be empathic. Seeing wakes after wakes got me sick and depressed. I had to throw the towel and walk. Again thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing
OK so I've got really good nerves ... nothing freaks me out even watching horror flicks at the movie theatre ... when everyone else is jumping I'm just sitting there ... but when that spring on your tripod broke ... holy crap ... that kind of set me back in my chair a bit ... "be still my heart" ... I think I was concentrating so much on what you were saying at the exact moment that it happened perhaps ... but anyway I'm really enjoying all your videos ... such a great profession to be in ... I've always been fascinated with it ... I've personally known several of the Funeral Directors in my home town ... looking forward to more of your videos ... and I hope you got the spring fixed! Thanks very much.
Bless your heart.
Thank you for this video. A wonderful array!!....You had a very interesting insight on identical twins. I read once, whether true or not, that identical twins share part of the same soul. I would like to think that this must be true and would account for the weird and strange feelings when the other twin walked into the room. (my take anyway) ... and yes, I have seen a few casket climbers as well! God bless!
Great video I'm from north Carolina and the information you put out is interesting I've been driving truck seance 1991 and hauled all kinds of stuff through the years but great video you have a good day
You’re very special for being able to do this. Love you and little miss and Caitlin
thank you!
I really enjoyed this video!
I agree wholeheartedly! They're not disposing of a body, they're supposed to be caring for a deceased person's remains, which is a direct reflection of that person's life on Earth. It's supposed to be all about sensitivity, care & trust.... Too many funeral businesses and the people who that person left behind, forget or neglect this important point! Thankfully, that's not you, you're truly a shining example and a huge credit to your industry! Dare I say, you're the very best I've ever come across in the industry! Much love to you & yours, you're truly an angel! 👼 😊
Kari Northey It's certainly my pleasure Kari, dare I say, you are more tender and caring than even my therapist is! I'm just proud to have shared a part of the Earth with a person like you! 💕 I hope that you have children, the world certainly needs more terrific people like you! I'd guarantee that you're a great mother & if you're not a mom, you'd be a superb one without a doubt! I just finish a crying spell when you said about the selfish teenage moment that poor girl and the parents had with the funeral folder, my heart certainly goes out to both that girl as well as the poor parents of the deceased boy, what a heartbreaking moment to hear of that... For all of the parties concerned! 💕
Hi Kari! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and work with us. You seem to be a kind and caring person and you do what most people couldn't do. I find it interesting what happens at a funeral home. Your expertise is enlightening. It is somewhat unnerving to me but at the same time it's good to know that the care you give is commendable and you show dignity and love for the deceased. I like listening to you as opposed to another mortician on you tube who comes across as being too witty and creepy. Lol. God bless you !!!!
Thank you!
Hi Kari,
I'm not sure if you read comments that are posted on your older videos but I had to comment how crazy it was that you talked about teenagers going to funerals for classmates that they were not close to. This hits so close to home for me. My husband and I dated all through high school and a month after they graduated his best friend was in a car accident and died. When we went to his funeral there were so many kids there that did not give him the time of day when he was alive. It really upset my husband and all of their friends seeing those people who didn't care about him when he was alive treat it as some kind of social scene. Of course we didn't have social media then (1995) but I never understood why they felt the need to be there.
Thank you for all your videos, I have been binge watching them the last few days and I really love them.
I’m sending invitations to my funeral (as long as I don’t die suddenly)
I think you are such a wonderful person.
You're such a good decent person. God bless you.
Thank you!
Kari...I just love listening to you speak of your stories and knowledge. You seem to be so kind and compassionate...you are obviously in the right business. I would definitely recommend your funeral home if I lived near you 😉 You are a class act...bless you🙏😁
Thank you so much!
Very well said love your videos❤️
Great Vlog
I'm a musician. Onr of the first services outside our regular church services I played for was the memorial for a friends whose son died shortly after birth. The parents themselves officiated. They would smile and chuckle and expressed the awe and wonder of any new parent. One of the other worship musicians asked me to duet with him and pay filler music.
It was a biittersweet event like no other I've been part of. We were asked to sing worship music. From that time, I quickly found myself dwarn to taking part in memorials. There are very few things in life that equal the honor of celebrating the life of someone's loved-one. I feel in we of God's presence every time, whether it's in a faith-based setting or a purely secular one. I find a bond with every family I have worked with.
There is nothing morbid about it. I have a small part in helping comfort these people. I never ask for pay of any kind.
Kari, I really appreciate your honesty in answering the questions people ask you. What is your relationship with God? You seem like a very caring person.
I am a Christian
Kari, I would think when it comes to your Loved ones ... Friends or Family that you may really want to be that person to ready the person...the details that you want perfect for that person, you would be the one to make sure everything is exactly like that soul would have wanted it or to look a certain way. I am glad I found your platform because this really interest me...I am strange that way. Just a me thing. Thank you for explaining this process in such detail.
When my Father died, a friend who I had known earlier told me he went and picked him up. That was comforting to me. Little things count.
what a nice person
I loved your comments about teenagers. Being a little self centered is part of the journey toward maturity, and is understandable. But I think social media has made it a much larger problem than in the past. Or maybe I'm just getting old. :)
You are a very well spoken .smart lady.
I appreciate that!
How could ppl want to just get rid of them? That is so sad. That happened to my best friend. Her husband was awful. I miss my husband so much! He was my Cupcake. We had them put a plastic cupcake in his outer burial container. I would give anything to have him back. I believe he is in Heaven, but I miss him! 💔 Your videos are very informative and professional. Thank you for the love and respect you show. 💙 Lubbock, Texas
You seem like a loving and caring woman!! It has to be hard to separate your feelings when it comes to dealing with the dead. I think it's neat however how you love your job and have a fascination with your field of work. I may have posted this before but my great niece and her five year old little boy was murdered here in Kalamazoo by the father of the child and he also killed himself. I was sooo scared to walk into the funeral home knowing I would see a mom and her child lying in a casket. I have to say I never saw anything so heartbreaking but beautiful. Whoever took care of them did an awesome job. They both looked so natural. My great niece was beautiful and her baby was so adorable. I never saw anything so touching. It was done at your place of work and I don't know know if you had a hand in it but I want to thank whomever took care of them very much. Such an awesome job. Kari, you make death a little easier to comprehend and you explain it so well. I love some of your stories. Please keep them coming!!! ❤
Thank you so much!!
Well I think you can be called a teacher because of what you have taught us. I have learned so much from you and the other ladies, little miss funeral, the grave woman and Kaitlyn. I wish I had known the things you have talked about before my dad died. Good for you and thanks.
Thank you so much!
Kari Eres un Angel en la Tierra.
You are an incredible woman Kari, I appreciate the work and care you give so many families.
Thank you so much!
I'm binge watching your videos and again I say your voice is very soothing Kari. I appreciate that maybe because my brothers death anniversary is near and I'm having a hard time. Thursday the 20th will mark 2 years since his murder. He was a mistaken identity victim he was a great man with a family that loved him. He was with his best friend when it happened so I have a little comfort I'm mean a (tiny spec) just knowing he wasn't alone.😞
Thanks so much!
"Capitive Crawlers" & unballanced people calling on the phone??? You deserve a huge increase in pay young lady, no doubt about it! These are but a few reasons why I'd be unable to handle the profession! I've got nothing but the deepest respect for you going through all that & still working in the industry! 💕 Whew, I can see I'd have nightmares about those things!
I’m currently in school to be a mortician, and I’d love to see how you cope with the busy schedule while being a mother. Making time for your babies.
I’d also like to say, that there’s so many points you make that I myself feel the exact same way!
I just posted a video talking about this about two weeks ago :)
Kari Northey , thank you so much! I will go back to look!
How is school going ? I'm very interested in this line of work and would like to get into soon
Julianne Reineman , absolutely loving school. I went to school for nursing, and dreaded it. I loved the science but disliked so many aspects of the business. Mortuary science, is so easy for me, because it’s so interesting. If you have a heart for people, and also love science, Common wealth institute has an amazing program!
Kari, tfs and being so honest. XX
You are so welcome
Thankyou Kari. Very informative.
Would you be willing and able to embalm your husband if the occasion called for it?
Kari, you clearly are a caring lady.
Thank you!
I love listening to you soft assuring voice as I do little miss funeral I usually lay in bed before I go to sleep and watch with you or Lauren.
You are a lovely lady. I now have an idea what goes on. So kind of you to take the time to teach people. For sure I will be cremated now.