Why You Keep Going Back | BREAKUP RECOVERY SERIES

Поделиться
HTML-код
  • Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
  • There is never any judgement because a lot of us have been there where we keep going back. We keep taking less than we deserve. While there are so many factors why we do this, I want to not only break that down for you, but I want to help you to start working on yourself so that does not happen.
    You truly deserve the very best and if this person cannot provide that then it is time to move on. No matter how much you love someone love does not only equal respect and a healthy relationship.
    Thanks for watching!
    1-1 Coaching: www.stephanielynlifecoaching....
    * The School of Narcissism: www.stephanielynlifecoaching....
    * 9 Weeks to Emotional Healing www.stephanielynlifecoaching....
    * The Heal and Rebuild Course: www.stephanielynlifecoaching....
    * The Self-Parenting Course: www.stephanielynlifecoaching....
    THE PODCAST ► www.stephanielynlifecoaching....
     INSTAGRAM - / stephanielyncoach
     TIKTOK - / stephanielyncoaching
     FACEBOOK - / stephanielyncoaching
    SHOP my LTK: www.shopltk.com/explore/Steph...
    www.Stephanielynlifecoaching.com
    #breakup #narcissist #heartbreak #divorce

Комментарии • 58

  • @sanjeevbains690
    @sanjeevbains690 Месяц назад +6

    “Abuse can only happen when you allow it to happen”…. I used to have low self-worth and needed external validation

  • @peterwilliams6361
    @peterwilliams6361 Месяц назад +153

    Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

    • @user-er9hv4pl2u
      @user-er9hv4pl2u Месяц назад

      there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

    • @peterwilliams6361
      @peterwilliams6361 Месяц назад

      its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

    • @user-er9hv4pl2u
      @user-er9hv4pl2u Месяц назад

      this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

  • @jamieseiple
    @jamieseiple 2 месяца назад +22

    People get lonely Stephanie, sometimes a person will risk less in someone rather than no one at all.

    • @UniquelyLesley
      @UniquelyLesley 2 месяца назад +5

      I think you should watch the video again

    • @jenmascaro4014
      @jenmascaro4014 2 месяца назад +8

      Loneliness does sometimes drive some people back to toxicity. For some, it feels like the lesser of the two evils.

    • @UniquelyLesley
      @UniquelyLesley 2 месяца назад +7

      @@jenmascaro4014I understand that. But from what I got from the video, shes trying to help people to understand the deeper issues that are causing them to feel the need to go back to something unhealthy.

    • @x35mmman
      @x35mmman 2 месяца назад +1

      @@jenmascaro4014 I have a female friend who is almost 70 and her on and off boyfriend is like 61. This is what she says it better to put up with his antics than to be alone

    • @smitha1867
      @smitha1867 2 месяца назад +1

      @@x35mmmansad that many people never love themselves in the first place. That’s why they feel lonely so much

  • @veganrican606
    @veganrican606 3 дня назад

    This video is on point, as a highly sensitive man, my dating and relationship history sucks. I keep attracting women who, for lack of better words, have problems. And I keep getting hurt.

  • @user-tr9le5lt7z
    @user-tr9le5lt7z 2 месяца назад +10

    This can relate to all unhealthy relationships not just romantic ones.

    • @diane2413
      @diane2413 2 месяца назад +1

      Absolutely 💯

  • @orflorentin3850
    @orflorentin3850 Месяц назад +1

    I think it’s the Disney movies that made us think that if I will just be pretty and shut up I will just get the man of my dreams.

  • @maybhle2317
    @maybhle2317 2 месяца назад +4

    No one ever talk about physical abuse and how to deal with everything related to that. I feel so alone. I’m screaming from the inside. In my relationship I’m at high risk or serious harm and homicide; yet I cannot convince myself to leave him. Breaks my heart picturing him alone once I’ve left. Too much fear on a daily basis for me to think straight or make any kinds of plans.

    • @fabienzaca
      @fabienzaca 2 месяца назад +4

      You have to commit to leave if you want to leave this person. Taking a break is not gonna work. There are plenty of resources for DV victims in any state. I'm very sorry that you are going through this. But you have to be 100% committed if you really care about yourself and you safety.

    • @Corrinthian_
      @Corrinthian_ Месяц назад +1

      Understand that you're worth fighting for.

    • @erejoeerejoe9325
      @erejoeerejoe9325 Месяц назад +1

      They never alone because they have a shining new toy literally. Could be alcohol, smoking, pornography, someone or something

    • @sanjeevbains690
      @sanjeevbains690 Месяц назад +2

      Call a helpline for support. You don’t have to do this on your own

  • @HeyItsJK
    @HeyItsJK 2 месяца назад +1

    Loving and understanding who you are can help all aspects of your life. It's knowledge that is powerful

  • @Spritualhealer_CRISTINA
    @Spritualhealer_CRISTINA 2 месяца назад +6

    Took me a while understood u can't have LUV or a relationship without RESPECT, If he pushes my boundaries, can't apologize,, own up,, RESPECT My time & choices (lck of compatibility) i HAVE to wlk away. A person with ZERO Progress in almst 2yrs since we met may NEVER better themselves (emotionally,, psychologically) i had severe BPD,, OCD,, CODEPENDENCY but i m doing progress & wlking away. Luv cannot fix incompatibility or better said pst life attachments NOT luv

  • @alecstuart5266
    @alecstuart5266 20 дней назад

    You take accountability & responsibility for " Surya kiran" . I leave. So you are doing it right.

  • @ashleibrowarski5592
    @ashleibrowarski5592 2 месяца назад

    THIS this right here, hits home. Thank you so much Stephanie.

  • @alessaxn
    @alessaxn 2 месяца назад +1

    Wow thank you. Spot on. I have learned all of this after 20 years but good to hear it from you!

  • @johnstone3836
    @johnstone3836 2 месяца назад +1

    I enjoyed this one!!
    Thanks for sharing!!!

  • @juliomatos122
    @juliomatos122 2 месяца назад +1

    WOW excellent video , Thanks !

  • @sarahelders7288
    @sarahelders7288 Месяц назад

    Great advice ❤

  • @samonecharisma3043
    @samonecharisma3043 2 месяца назад +2

    This was the best breakdown

  • @mmintfish2002
    @mmintfish2002 2 месяца назад

    Thank you so much , this helped me so much today ❤

  • @teresapassey7950
    @teresapassey7950 2 месяца назад

    You speak truth, very wise truth ❤thank you so much, bless your soul🌺🌻

  • @Yosef_Maharat
    @Yosef_Maharat 2 месяца назад +1

    Thanks, Stephanie.

  • @knitnpaint
    @knitnpaint 2 месяца назад +3

    It is so easy to say “just heal”. There are so many aspects to that.

  • @meganwagoner1623
    @meganwagoner1623 2 месяца назад +1

    Best video ever

  • @Dethian666
    @Dethian666 2 месяца назад +1

    Had love and future fortune written and promised and had it all stolen molested and pillaged with no experience of love at all but every body talking about it and what's happening with other lovers. Real painful

  • @tylerallyn2404
    @tylerallyn2404 2 месяца назад +1

    Great stuff Stephanie, can you do a video touching more on physical attraction and how that plays into a relationship or not?🙏👍

  • @dennismitchell8507
    @dennismitchell8507 Месяц назад

    Thank you Stephanie ❤️🙏

  • @rgrandberry1234
    @rgrandberry1234 2 месяца назад

    Amazing!!!xoxooxox You go queen!!!!

  • @warriorjunior1014
    @warriorjunior1014 4 дня назад

    The ONLY thing I need help with, is figuring out how to get what I need from a woman.

  • @sheilathedford7581
    @sheilathedford7581 2 месяца назад +3

    I take responsibility for my issues. How do I move forward to a healthy relationship? Im a co-dependant and afraid of my own choices.

  • @Gulya1012
    @Gulya1012 2 месяца назад

    thank you❤

  • @user-us3cb2oq9c
    @user-us3cb2oq9c Месяц назад +1

    Don't go back.

  • @mattbraga4033
    @mattbraga4033 2 месяца назад

    Nice intro

  • @rosaliaoliver-qv3gr
    @rosaliaoliver-qv3gr 2 месяца назад

    ❤❤Thank you ❤❤

  • @Munk_Munk_
    @Munk_Munk_ Месяц назад

    Going through a separation and I'm probably going to divorce my wife because she cannot take any criticism, clearly wants me to take full responsibility for the separation, and she has been having an affair with a married man for our entire 2.5 year marriage to name a few things. I'm in so much pain and I will miss her dearly, but I know she never really loved me or loved anyone but herself. I feel so sick.

  • @garypoxton3195
    @garypoxton3195 2 месяца назад

    Stephanie such a beautiful lady Dinner in the Ivy in the UK is waiting for you anytime ❤❤❤❤

  • @prernaofficial2724
    @prernaofficial2724 Месяц назад

    No I won't.. to that vehsi darinda rather I die

  • @johnpinheiro6211
    @johnpinheiro6211 Месяц назад

    Hi steph, how to deal when it s your mom ???
    Go no contact ??
    Keep it up, love from portugal 🇵🇹🇵🇹🇵🇹🇪🇺👍👇

  • @sarahelders7288
    @sarahelders7288 Месяц назад

    Omg 😢

  • @aliciawolff1546
    @aliciawolff1546 2 месяца назад +2

    What if they were a really good friend just not a boyfriend?? So you don't necessarily want them completely out of your life you just know that they are not a good boyfriend for you what do you do??😢

    • @Rae-vh1ql
      @Rae-vh1ql 2 месяца назад +3

      I thought this turns out he wasn’t my friend.

    • @lilsumpn
      @lilsumpn 2 месяца назад +2

      That's hard to do when there is emotions still involved. Take a long break before entertaining the idea of just friends. It's hard cause you'll start catching feelings and be vulnerable to getting sucked in

    • @diane2413
      @diane2413 2 месяца назад

      I think you have to take a good honest look at why you still want them in your life and what is impact on your well being? Is it because it is easier or you have always had them in your life and it just seems really hard? Even if it's not a romantic relationship or a marriage, that doesn't mean you cannot be hurt or deeply affected. What would you do or say if you had a child with this issue or a family member that was really close to you and you saw them being so abused and deeply traumatized by a friendship? What advice would you offer that person?

  • @nataliatalarek7817
    @nataliatalarek7817 2 месяца назад

  • @Cliff2548
    @Cliff2548 2 месяца назад +1

    111

  • @Malikmalik-vb2zu
    @Malikmalik-vb2zu 2 месяца назад

    Hello, Madame one life to live please go Mary some one keep your self happy out of stress after death we will not come back to this human planet all moving & un moveable property will stay in this planet we will go in grave with empty handed we are living in Indian subcontinent not so rich but living at least happy life some with extended family & some live as a couple please Madame life is priceless