I like the idea that anger is just another side of loving kindness. We get angry with other people when we want to control them for, we think, their own good, but they resist or don't understand. We need to turn this wrong attitude into one just of wanting the best for others without our having to exert control.
What you are describing reminds me of non-attachment. We would probably benefit the most from loving-kindness without clinging to a certain outcome, especially when that outcome is, like you mention, outside of one's control. To have the wisdom of the latter - the extent of our control in the present moment - would be another skill worth developing. If I understand Buddhism correctly, the pathological desires (tanha) that lead to unnecessary, if not all, suffering (dukkha) can be characterized by the following 3 poisons: * Delusion (ignorance, confusion) * Attachment (greed, lust) * Aversion (Anger, hate, disgust) Reassuringly, the more wholesome desires (chanda) that can free us from some, if not all, suffering can be characterized by the following 3 antidotes: * Non-Delusion (Wisdom) * Non-Attachment (Generosity) * Non-Aversion (Loving-Kindness) For a long time, I severely misunderstood the 3rd noble truth. I thought his holiness was advocating for the complete absence of desire. However, now I believe that, during this lifetime at least, this is impossible. The best thing we can do while we are bound to all the impermanent conditions of our reality is to curate our desires to the best of our abilities.
@@medicalanimal1479 Maybe his nature was good before age 4. His father beat him up regularly, as I heard. That probably had a distorted effect on him, which contributed to his personality.
You are not alone. Angry impermanent. So lets we diligenly practice love and compassion to ourself and all sentient being. If we full love and compassion then we peace mind, calm and patient. Have bless day .
Thank you Rinpoche! Even as a christian I very much love and cheerish Buddhism. I pray for Your long life and preservationnof Dharma in this degenerate time!
This is why we have to be so careful these days when everyone wants to "cancel" someone just for having different feelings or opinions than theirs. It's often not as extreme as people fear. But, even in the case of outright, more extreme hatred, if it is met with more hatred and extremism, it can't help, and we are seeing that. I am so grateful for this message and the perspective shift. I'm sad so many people claim they want to help change the world to a more compassionate place, yet they are still saying and doing things to others that encourage the opposite. Things are so intense and reactive these days, we definitely all need this wisdom. I pray we absorb it well for the betterment of humanity (myself included!) 💖
This is really wonderful ...I have been feeling anger with politicians and scientists in my country at the coronavirus times and I see how it is because there is loving kindness there in it .. Already feel transformation....and understand that they ...the politicians and scientists believe their thoughts so they cannot help what they do ....
I am 57, brilliant, smoked pot all my life, and have done nothing to help anyone except play pretty guitar. I have so much to give. I want peace so I can help others. No more pot. Thank you guru. I will be watching all your videos.
I have realized that a lot of my anger, resentment, anger, fear guilt, and sadness is love and compassion for myself at the core because they are there to push me to so better and because I am not being my true potential.
Watching this video knowing that Mingyur RINPOCHE took off to the Himalayas as a wandering Yogi recently, inspires me beyond words and reminds me of the importance to increase practice, EMAHO! May he be protected and free from all obstacles!
Controlling our emotions is probably the hardest thing, specially when we're angry, jealous or needy. I hope I get to find the loving compassion within these negative emotions.
Such calm and compassion in your voice dear rinpoche🙏🏻 going through the worst I've ever been and a breakup at the verge of marriage.. Two weeks into the breakup, I attribute most of my sanity that's left to the calmness I receive from your directions🙏🏻
I am tired of all this bad peoples that are stressing and making me sick, Thanks for your video, I try to calm myself, but probably the only way to find happines is to be far away from peoples
We spend all our time lost in thought. Recognizing anger in the mind and body in a state of mindful awareness inherently shortens the half life of said anger. In other words don’t add fuel to the anger and hatred fire. You have to think of reasons why you’re angry to remain angry. You have to think of reasons why you hate to continue hatred. Simply acknowledge the feelings of anger and hatred as another appearance in consciousness and you will find it dissipates.
I hope my friend and teacher and student Justins anger can transform to loving kindness, he probably wont wanna watch this video, but ill meditate on it, wishing him well, may he be fully healed!
Have a different relationship with your thoughts as love and hate is complementary and one cannot exist without the other. Hold them together and accept them and be at peace!
He wantd to say that - The deep rooted cause of everything is Love and kindness .Every action actually you are doing is the manifestation of love and compassion...Anger/hate is the manifestation of love and compassion .
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's truly a gift and blessing to me ❤ It helped me transform my pain into something soothing and so I can focus better on better thoughts about my situation
Hatred, you dont have to do nothing about it. Dont even comment is it good or bad, just observe it. Watch it with kindness and patience, it will transform into compassion, because awareness is like a transforming force. Turns shite to gold.
Thank you for sharing another inspirational message.Just today I ask myself the question .What do I really want within my heart?The answer was joy,peace of mind, health.Uncondition love dispels all defendants.
He talks about hatred for others and hatred for self, then gives a really good example and explanation of turning hatred for self into loving kindness, by recognising that at the base of it, hatred for self might be an expression of a need to be better. So, the need to be better is what on the surface seems like self hatred. Can anyone give a similar example or explanation of how to turn feelings of hatred for others into loving kindness? What aspect of loving kindness could be at the base of hatred for others? Especially feelings of hatred towards other people who have harmed or wronged you.
“I say unto you, that whosoever is *angry* with his brother shall be in danger of his judgment. … And behold it is written also, that thou shalt love thy neighbor and hate thine enemy; But behold I say unto you, *love* your enemies, bless them that curse you, and pray for them who despitefully use you and persecute you. That ye may be the children of our Father who is in heaven” -The most unfairly treated person in history.
I stumbled upon this video because I typed in "why is growth hard" I came upon "don't be hard on yourself" and then this one. I listened and was like "damn it even anger isn't bad" It's just telling me I really want to do better. You see I don't like myself very much because I know I'm smart and can do SOMETHING with my life but my dumb-ass doesn't want to move along with my life and it's annoying. I want to give up.
Mediation has truly saved my life
Same here
How..can yu explain a lil bit abot yur experience..
Ditto!!
@@nowornever07 tell me plz
@@nowornever07 it was rough in the beginning but so far it actually helps.
"How nice!"
Iam blessed iam lucky that in this era i can get such great teachings online 🙏
I like the idea that anger is just another side of loving kindness. We get angry with other people when we want to control them for, we think, their own good, but they resist or don't understand. We need to turn this wrong attitude into one just of wanting the best for others without our having to exert control.
Well said!
What you are describing reminds me of non-attachment. We would probably benefit the most from loving-kindness without clinging to a certain outcome, especially when that outcome is, like you mention, outside of one's control. To have the wisdom of the latter - the extent of our control in the present moment - would be another skill worth developing.
If I understand Buddhism correctly, the pathological desires (tanha) that lead to unnecessary, if not all, suffering (dukkha) can be characterized by the following 3 poisons:
* Delusion (ignorance, confusion)
* Attachment (greed, lust)
* Aversion (Anger, hate, disgust)
Reassuringly, the more wholesome desires (chanda) that can free us from some, if not all, suffering can be characterized by the following 3 antidotes:
* Non-Delusion (Wisdom)
* Non-Attachment (Generosity)
* Non-Aversion (Loving-Kindness)
For a long time, I severely misunderstood the 3rd noble truth. I thought his holiness was advocating for the complete absence of desire. However, now I believe that, during this lifetime at least, this is impossible. The best thing we can do while we are bound to all the impermanent conditions of our reality is to curate our desires to the best of our abilities.
Yes 👏
"You want to do better", so true. Anger is always anger at one's own weakness.
Oh wow, well said. Thank you
Thank you Rinpoche 💖💖💖
This is one of the most empowering messages I have ever listened to.
I started crying hard when I realized that everyone's innate nature is good.
So you think Hitlers innate nature was good? Not trying to be smart about this, just trying to understand your view
@@medicalanimal1479 Maybe his nature was good before age 4. His father beat him up regularly, as I heard. That probably had a distorted effect on him, which contributed to his personality.
@@medicalanimal1479 mental illness is real.
@@medicalanimal1479 There are always bad apples, bad seeds in life and nature but MOST people have good in them😉
Some people are actually bad but most people are innately good
Thank you - healing words. I had an angry heart and this wisdom was a medicine.
You are not alone. Angry impermanent. So lets we diligenly practice love and compassion to ourself and all sentient being. If we full love and compassion then we peace mind, calm and patient. Have bless day .
Thank you Rinpoche! Even as a christian I very much love and cheerish Buddhism. I pray for Your long life and preservationnof Dharma in this degenerate time!
Finding answers makes me happy. I am happy to be addicted to life
This is why we have to be so careful these days when everyone wants to "cancel" someone just for having different feelings or opinions than theirs. It's often not as extreme as people fear. But, even in the case of outright, more extreme hatred, if it is met with more hatred and extremism, it can't help, and we are seeing that. I am so grateful for this message and the perspective shift. I'm sad so many people claim they want to help change the world to a more compassionate place, yet they are still saying and doing things to others that encourage the opposite. Things are so intense and reactive these days, we definitely all need this wisdom. I pray we absorb it well for the betterment of humanity (myself included!) 💖
Okay this just made me ball my eyes out
Thankyou rinpoche 🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏
This is really wonderful ...I have been feeling anger with politicians and scientists in my country at the coronavirus times and I see how it is because there is loving kindness there in it ..
Already feel transformation....and understand that they ...the politicians and scientists believe their thoughts so they cannot help what they do ....
goodness me, this has lifted so much weight from my heart right now!
cool deal namaste
I am 57, brilliant, smoked pot all my life, and have done nothing to help anyone except play pretty guitar.
I have so much to give. I want peace so I can help others.
No more pot.
Thank you guru. I will be watching all your videos.
I have realized that a lot of my anger, resentment, anger, fear guilt, and sadness is love and compassion for myself at the core because they are there to push me to so better and because I am not being my true potential.
me too. I'm just really frustrated
Mingyur Rinpoche's teaching are so amazingly clear. I'm taking this into my practice today.
Rejoice
Happy birthday mentor rimpochi ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Watching this video knowing that Mingyur RINPOCHE took off to the Himalayas as a wandering Yogi recently, inspires me beyond words and reminds me of the importance to increase practice, EMAHO! May he be protected and free from all obstacles!
I've watched a lot of your videos, but this is probably my favorite one.
Controlling our emotions is probably the hardest thing, specially when we're angry, jealous or needy. I hope I get to find the loving compassion within these negative emotions.
Hello,
i am just reading a Tibetan book of life and death.Packed with wisdom
Thank you Mingyur rinpoche
It is one my favourite books !!
How nice 😊💜
This is the most compassionate voice and the best help I've gotten anywhere.
Namaste 🙏🙏
you make me giggle. thank you!
Thank you Master 🙏
thank you rinpoche 🙏🏻
Peace, love and light from Canada~
I LOVE IT, NAMASTE ..
Such calm and compassion in your voice dear rinpoche🙏🏻 going through the worst I've ever been and a breakup at the verge of marriage.. Two weeks into the breakup, I attribute most of my sanity that's left to the calmness I receive from your directions🙏🏻
May you feel better these days!♥️✌
Sending you good vibes ♥️🥳
I love his vibe. This was a wonderful talk. His talk about how to meditate is priceless. Thank you for being you.
When i was looking for stuff to help my anger for some reason i instantly new the best people would be monks, love you guys
Yepp. It's wisdom in this. Anger can be out of love or fear. Love and the betterment of humanity is what all need to aim for.. Thanks
this dude is amazing
i agree
Thank you!❤
I am tired of all this bad peoples that are stressing and making me sick, Thanks for your video, I try to calm myself, but probably the only way to find happines is to be far away from peoples
We spend all our time lost in thought. Recognizing anger in the mind and body in a state of mindful awareness inherently shortens the half life of said anger. In other words don’t add fuel to the anger and hatred fire. You have to think of reasons why you’re angry to remain angry. You have to think of reasons why you hate to continue hatred. Simply acknowledge the feelings of anger and hatred as another appearance in consciousness and you will find it dissipates.
Incredibly insightful. I feel like I really needed to hear that.
Im glad u fiund it helpful glad i could help
Thank-you.
I hope my friend and teacher and student Justins anger can transform to loving kindness, he probably wont wanna watch this video, but ill meditate on it, wishing him well, may he be fully healed!
Thank you for this beautiful explanation. I know its true
How nice indeed..thank you
Beautifully presented, never thought of hatred like this. Yes I have myself a lot due to hatred I had for myself
Have a different relationship with your thoughts as love and hate is complementary and one cannot exist without the other. Hold them together and accept them and be at peace!
Thank you for your wisdom. Respect.
Wonderful clear words for when things seem difficult. Return lovingkindness to love and kindness.
This needs more views!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💚 🙏
Thanks for your compassion
Obrigada Mestre!
He means hatred is an emotion just like love , if you change your thoughts you will change your emotion.
Wow 5 years passed
Long Live Rinpoche La
kyab su chio
Tashi Delek.
Sir, Loving kindness good explained everyone person looking for love .Thank you so much ,All is well
Wonderfull thank you such a reassuring talk and gentle voice thank you again
How Nice!😊
This is what I look for: See love within anger; and anger transforms into love
Absolutely incredible.
He wantd to say that - The deep rooted cause of everything is Love and kindness .Every action actually you are doing is the manifestation of love and compassion...Anger/hate is the manifestation of love and compassion .
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's truly a gift and blessing to me ❤ It helped me transform my pain into something soothing and so I can focus better on better thoughts about my situation
Hatred, you dont have to do nothing about it. Dont even comment is it good or bad, just observe it. Watch it with kindness and patience, it will transform into compassion, because awareness is like a transforming force. Turns shite to gold.
Great video!
Thank you for sharing another inspirational message.Just today I ask myself the question .What do I really want within my heart?The answer was joy,peace of mind, health.Uncondition love dispels all defendants.
despite the broken english he do be speakin facts.
beautiful....
Thank you for the teachings. It was exactly what I needed to hear
"How nice!" ☺️
Very beautiful sir. Thank you so much.☺️☺️
holy moly i'm speechless and greatful
great video
GURUJI I LOVE U
Thank you
thank you for the message.
Brilliant!
Thank you so much for posting this!
VOW! VERY GREAT, BEAUTIFULLY APPRECIATIVE, EXCELLENT 👏👏👏👍👌😊
Nicely explained
Thank you.
Absolutely amazing.
Thank you 😊 🙏
he's so calming and relaxing. this is how a true monk should be. his other recent videos though I'm not a big fan he speaks to loud lol.
wow I think evry one need to her this really ifs fantastic many thanks
He talks about hatred for others and hatred for self, then gives a really good example and explanation of turning hatred for self into loving kindness, by recognising that at the base of it, hatred for self might be an expression of a need to be better. So, the need to be better is what on the surface seems like self hatred. Can anyone give a similar example or explanation of how to turn feelings of hatred for others into loving kindness? What aspect of loving kindness could be at the base of hatred for others? Especially feelings of hatred towards other people who have harmed or wronged you.
@@MingyurRinpoche Thank you for your reply.
Isaac A do you know how to answer the question now? Really struggling with it and the person you replied to deleted their comment.
thank you :)
Very nice teacher 😊
Thank u..
love every video
Healing words.. thank u so much for the post..
Thank you for sharing
Wonderful Teaching.
Buddhism is The Way
“I say unto you, that whosoever is *angry* with his brother shall be in danger of his judgment. … And behold it is written also, that thou shalt love thy neighbor and hate thine enemy; But behold I say unto you, *love* your enemies, bless them that curse you, and pray for them who despitefully use you and persecute you. That ye may be the children of our Father who is in heaven” -The most unfairly treated person in history.
that's good. damn it Jesus! ( I mean this in a comical way. No Offense)
Thanks for ur advice Sir 🙏
So easy, yet so hard.
How nice.
THANKS
I stumbled upon this video because I typed in "why is growth hard"
I came upon "don't be hard on yourself" and then this one. I listened and was like "damn it even anger isn't bad" It's just telling me I really want to do better. You see I don't like myself very much because I know I'm smart and can do SOMETHING with my life but my dumb-ass doesn't want to move along with my life and it's annoying. I want to give up.
YMR - "If you see love within the hated the hated automatically transforms into love "
I wish i had it together as much as you guys