I like the idea that anger is just another side of loving kindness. We get angry with other people when we want to control them for, we think, their own good, but they resist or don't understand. We need to turn this wrong attitude into one just of wanting the best for others without our having to exert control.
What you are describing reminds me of non-attachment. We would probably benefit the most from loving-kindness without clinging to a certain outcome, especially when that outcome is, like you mention, outside of one's control. To have the wisdom of the latter - the extent of our control in the present moment - would be another skill worth developing. If I understand Buddhism correctly, the pathological desires (tanha) that lead to unnecessary, if not all, suffering (dukkha) can be characterized by the following 3 poisons: * Delusion (ignorance, confusion) * Attachment (greed, lust) * Aversion (Anger, hate, disgust) Reassuringly, the more wholesome desires (chanda) that can free us from some, if not all, suffering can be characterized by the following 3 antidotes: * Non-Delusion (Wisdom) * Non-Attachment (Generosity) * Non-Aversion (Loving-Kindness) For a long time, I severely misunderstood the 3rd noble truth. I thought his holiness was advocating for the complete absence of desire. However, now I believe that, during this lifetime at least, this is impossible. The best thing we can do while we are bound to all the impermanent conditions of our reality is to curate our desires to the best of our abilities.
You are not alone. Angry impermanent. So lets we diligenly practice love and compassion to ourself and all sentient being. If we full love and compassion then we peace mind, calm and patient. Have bless day .
Thank you Rinpoche! Even as a christian I very much love and cheerish Buddhism. I pray for Your long life and preservationnof Dharma in this degenerate time!
@@medicalanimal1479 Maybe his nature was good before age 4. His father beat him up regularly, as I heard. That probably had a distorted effect on him, which contributed to his personality.
I have realized that a lot of my anger, resentment, anger, fear guilt, and sadness is love and compassion for myself at the core because they are there to push me to so better and because I am not being my true potential.
This is why we have to be so careful these days when everyone wants to "cancel" someone just for having different feelings or opinions than theirs. It's often not as extreme as people fear. But, even in the case of outright, more extreme hatred, if it is met with more hatred and extremism, it can't help, and we are seeing that. I am so grateful for this message and the perspective shift. I'm sad so many people claim they want to help change the world to a more compassionate place, yet they are still saying and doing things to others that encourage the opposite. Things are so intense and reactive these days, we definitely all need this wisdom. I pray we absorb it well for the betterment of humanity (myself included!) 💖
I am 57, brilliant, smoked pot all my life, and have done nothing to help anyone except play pretty guitar. I have so much to give. I want peace so I can help others. No more pot. Thank you guru. I will be watching all your videos.
This is really wonderful ...I have been feeling anger with politicians and scientists in my country at the coronavirus times and I see how it is because there is loving kindness there in it .. Already feel transformation....and understand that they ...the politicians and scientists believe their thoughts so they cannot help what they do ....
Controlling our emotions is probably the hardest thing, specially when we're angry, jealous or needy. I hope I get to find the loving compassion within these negative emotions.
Such calm and compassion in your voice dear rinpoche🙏🏻 going through the worst I've ever been and a breakup at the verge of marriage.. Two weeks into the breakup, I attribute most of my sanity that's left to the calmness I receive from your directions🙏🏻
Watching this video knowing that Mingyur RINPOCHE took off to the Himalayas as a wandering Yogi recently, inspires me beyond words and reminds me of the importance to increase practice, EMAHO! May he be protected and free from all obstacles!
I hope my friend and teacher and student Justins anger can transform to loving kindness, he probably wont wanna watch this video, but ill meditate on it, wishing him well, may he be fully healed!
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's truly a gift and blessing to me ❤ It helped me transform my pain into something soothing and so I can focus better on better thoughts about my situation
Have a different relationship with your thoughts as love and hate is complementary and one cannot exist without the other. Hold them together and accept them and be at peace!
Thank you for sharing another inspirational message.Just today I ask myself the question .What do I really want within my heart?The answer was joy,peace of mind, health.Uncondition love dispels all defendants.
I am tired of all this bad peoples that are stressing and making me sick, Thanks for your video, I try to calm myself, but probably the only way to find happines is to be far away from peoples
We spend all our time lost in thought. Recognizing anger in the mind and body in a state of mindful awareness inherently shortens the half life of said anger. In other words don’t add fuel to the anger and hatred fire. You have to think of reasons why you’re angry to remain angry. You have to think of reasons why you hate to continue hatred. Simply acknowledge the feelings of anger and hatred as another appearance in consciousness and you will find it dissipates.
Hatred, you dont have to do nothing about it. Dont even comment is it good or bad, just observe it. Watch it with kindness and patience, it will transform into compassion, because awareness is like a transforming force. Turns shite to gold.
He talks about hatred for others and hatred for self, then gives a really good example and explanation of turning hatred for self into loving kindness, by recognising that at the base of it, hatred for self might be an expression of a need to be better. So, the need to be better is what on the surface seems like self hatred. Can anyone give a similar example or explanation of how to turn feelings of hatred for others into loving kindness? What aspect of loving kindness could be at the base of hatred for others? Especially feelings of hatred towards other people who have harmed or wronged you.
Nice video. I really appreciate the message you are trying to get across. I wish we were all capable of understanding each other at a conceptual level rather than just through linguistics and body language though. That sure would clear up a lot of miscommunication!
He wantd to say that - The deep rooted cause of everything is Love and kindness .Every action actually you are doing is the manifestation of love and compassion...Anger/hate is the manifestation of love and compassion .
Please help🙏! I'm overwhelmed by rage😖!! And also the deep sadness associated with compassion. I'm very unwell. This one is beautiful! But didn't cut through. P'raps one of you can point me towards practices designed to help...
what we focus on affects our perception and its underlying experience? if we focus on loving kindness, underlying everything is loving kindness? how about hatred? or confusion? this gets to me.
I stumbled upon this video because I typed in "why is growth hard" I came upon "don't be hard on yourself" and then this one. I listened and was like "damn it even anger isn't bad" It's just telling me I really want to do better. You see I don't like myself very much because I know I'm smart and can do SOMETHING with my life but my dumb-ass doesn't want to move along with my life and it's annoying. I want to give up.
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Mediation has truly saved my life
Same here
How..can yu explain a lil bit abot yur experience..
Ditto!!
@@nowornever07 tell me plz
@@nowornever07 it was rough in the beginning but so far it actually helps.
I like the idea that anger is just another side of loving kindness. We get angry with other people when we want to control them for, we think, their own good, but they resist or don't understand. We need to turn this wrong attitude into one just of wanting the best for others without our having to exert control.
Well said!
What you are describing reminds me of non-attachment. We would probably benefit the most from loving-kindness without clinging to a certain outcome, especially when that outcome is, like you mention, outside of one's control. To have the wisdom of the latter - the extent of our control in the present moment - would be another skill worth developing.
If I understand Buddhism correctly, the pathological desires (tanha) that lead to unnecessary, if not all, suffering (dukkha) can be characterized by the following 3 poisons:
* Delusion (ignorance, confusion)
* Attachment (greed, lust)
* Aversion (Anger, hate, disgust)
Reassuringly, the more wholesome desires (chanda) that can free us from some, if not all, suffering can be characterized by the following 3 antidotes:
* Non-Delusion (Wisdom)
* Non-Attachment (Generosity)
* Non-Aversion (Loving-Kindness)
For a long time, I severely misunderstood the 3rd noble truth. I thought his holiness was advocating for the complete absence of desire. However, now I believe that, during this lifetime at least, this is impossible. The best thing we can do while we are bound to all the impermanent conditions of our reality is to curate our desires to the best of our abilities.
Yes 👏
"You want to do better", so true. Anger is always anger at one's own weakness.
Oh wow, well said. Thank you
Iam blessed iam lucky that in this era i can get such great teachings online 🙏
"How nice!"
This is one of the most empowering messages I have ever listened to.
Thank you - healing words. I had an angry heart and this wisdom was a medicine.
You are not alone. Angry impermanent. So lets we diligenly practice love and compassion to ourself and all sentient being. If we full love and compassion then we peace mind, calm and patient. Have bless day .
Thank you Rinpoche! Even as a christian I very much love and cheerish Buddhism. I pray for Your long life and preservationnof Dharma in this degenerate time!
I started crying hard when I realized that everyone's innate nature is good.
So you think Hitlers innate nature was good? Not trying to be smart about this, just trying to understand your view
@@medicalanimal1479 Maybe his nature was good before age 4. His father beat him up regularly, as I heard. That probably had a distorted effect on him, which contributed to his personality.
@@medicalanimal1479 mental illness is real.
@@medicalanimal1479 There are always bad apples, bad seeds in life and nature but MOST people have good in them😉
Some people are actually bad but most people are innately good
goodness me, this has lifted so much weight from my heart right now!
cool deal namaste
Thankyou rinpoche 🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏
I have realized that a lot of my anger, resentment, anger, fear guilt, and sadness is love and compassion for myself at the core because they are there to push me to so better and because I am not being my true potential.
me too. I'm just really frustrated
Thank you Rinpoche 💖💖💖
This is why we have to be so careful these days when everyone wants to "cancel" someone just for having different feelings or opinions than theirs. It's often not as extreme as people fear. But, even in the case of outright, more extreme hatred, if it is met with more hatred and extremism, it can't help, and we are seeing that. I am so grateful for this message and the perspective shift. I'm sad so many people claim they want to help change the world to a more compassionate place, yet they are still saying and doing things to others that encourage the opposite. Things are so intense and reactive these days, we definitely all need this wisdom. I pray we absorb it well for the betterment of humanity (myself included!) 💖
Happy birthday mentor rimpochi ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hello,
i am just reading a Tibetan book of life and death.Packed with wisdom
Thank you Mingyur rinpoche
It is one my favourite books !!
Mingyur Rinpoche's teaching are so amazingly clear. I'm taking this into my practice today.
Rejoice
I am 57, brilliant, smoked pot all my life, and have done nothing to help anyone except play pretty guitar.
I have so much to give. I want peace so I can help others.
No more pot.
Thank you guru. I will be watching all your videos.
I've watched a lot of your videos, but this is probably my favorite one.
Namaste 🙏🙏
Okay this just made me ball my eyes out
How nice 😊💜
This is really wonderful ...I have been feeling anger with politicians and scientists in my country at the coronavirus times and I see how it is because there is loving kindness there in it ..
Already feel transformation....and understand that they ...the politicians and scientists believe their thoughts so they cannot help what they do ....
Controlling our emotions is probably the hardest thing, specially when we're angry, jealous or needy. I hope I get to find the loving compassion within these negative emotions.
Such calm and compassion in your voice dear rinpoche🙏🏻 going through the worst I've ever been and a breakup at the verge of marriage.. Two weeks into the breakup, I attribute most of my sanity that's left to the calmness I receive from your directions🙏🏻
May you feel better these days!♥️✌
Sending you good vibes ♥️🥳
Thank you Master 🙏
Finding answers makes me happy. I am happy to be addicted to life
Watching this video knowing that Mingyur RINPOCHE took off to the Himalayas as a wandering Yogi recently, inspires me beyond words and reminds me of the importance to increase practice, EMAHO! May he be protected and free from all obstacles!
Thank you!❤
this dude is amazing
i agree
This is the most compassionate voice and the best help I've gotten anywhere.
Absolutely incredible.
Thank-you.
I love his vibe. This was a wonderful talk. His talk about how to meditate is priceless. Thank you for being you.
How nice indeed..thank you
thank you rinpoche 🙏🏻
Peace, love and light from Canada~
I LOVE IT, NAMASTE ..
I hope my friend and teacher and student Justins anger can transform to loving kindness, he probably wont wanna watch this video, but ill meditate on it, wishing him well, may he be fully healed!
Incredibly insightful. I feel like I really needed to hear that.
Im glad u fiund it helpful glad i could help
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💚 🙏
Obrigada Mestre!
Thank you for this beautiful explanation. I know its true
Thank you for your wisdom. Respect.
Wonderfull thank you such a reassuring talk and gentle voice thank you again
Beautifully presented, never thought of hatred like this. Yes I have myself a lot due to hatred I had for myself
Thanks for your compassion
Yepp. It's wisdom in this. Anger can be out of love or fear. Love and the betterment of humanity is what all need to aim for.. Thanks
you make me giggle. thank you!
Wonderful clear words for when things seem difficult. Return lovingkindness to love and kindness.
holy moly i'm speechless and greatful
Sir, Loving kindness good explained everyone person looking for love .Thank you so much ,All is well
beautiful....
thank you for the message.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's truly a gift and blessing to me ❤ It helped me transform my pain into something soothing and so I can focus better on better thoughts about my situation
Have a different relationship with your thoughts as love and hate is complementary and one cannot exist without the other. Hold them together and accept them and be at peace!
When i was looking for stuff to help my anger for some reason i instantly new the best people would be monks, love you guys
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing another inspirational message.Just today I ask myself the question .What do I really want within my heart?The answer was joy,peace of mind, health.Uncondition love dispels all defendants.
I am tired of all this bad peoples that are stressing and making me sick, Thanks for your video, I try to calm myself, but probably the only way to find happines is to be far away from peoples
Thank you for the teachings. It was exactly what I needed to hear
Absolutely amazing.
This needs more views!
We spend all our time lost in thought. Recognizing anger in the mind and body in a state of mindful awareness inherently shortens the half life of said anger. In other words don’t add fuel to the anger and hatred fire. You have to think of reasons why you’re angry to remain angry. You have to think of reasons why you hate to continue hatred. Simply acknowledge the feelings of anger and hatred as another appearance in consciousness and you will find it dissipates.
Very beautiful sir. Thank you so much.☺️☺️
Thank you so much for posting this!
Thank you
Thank you 😊 🙏
Hatred, you dont have to do nothing about it. Dont even comment is it good or bad, just observe it. Watch it with kindness and patience, it will transform into compassion, because awareness is like a transforming force. Turns shite to gold.
VOW! VERY GREAT, BEAUTIFULLY APPRECIATIVE, EXCELLENT 👏👏👏👍👌😊
How Nice!😊
Wonderful Teaching.
Brilliant!
This is what I look for: See love within anger; and anger transforms into love
Very nice teacher 😊
Healing words.. thank u so much for the post..
wow I think evry one need to her this really ifs fantastic many thanks
love every video
He talks about hatred for others and hatred for self, then gives a really good example and explanation of turning hatred for self into loving kindness, by recognising that at the base of it, hatred for self might be an expression of a need to be better. So, the need to be better is what on the surface seems like self hatred. Can anyone give a similar example or explanation of how to turn feelings of hatred for others into loving kindness? What aspect of loving kindness could be at the base of hatred for others? Especially feelings of hatred towards other people who have harmed or wronged you.
@@MingyurRinpoche Thank you for your reply.
Isaac A do you know how to answer the question now? Really struggling with it and the person you replied to deleted their comment.
Thanks for ur advice Sir 🙏
GURUJI I LOVE U
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for this teaching.
Nice video. I really appreciate the message you are trying to get across. I wish we were all capable of understanding each other at a conceptual level rather than just through linguistics and body language though. That sure would clear up a lot of miscommunication!
Long Live Rinpoche La
kyab su chio
Tashi Delek.
He wantd to say that - The deep rooted cause of everything is Love and kindness .Every action actually you are doing is the manifestation of love and compassion...Anger/hate is the manifestation of love and compassion .
great video
he's so calming and relaxing. this is how a true monk should be. his other recent videos though I'm not a big fan he speaks to loud lol.
He means hatred is an emotion just like love , if you change your thoughts you will change your emotion.
Wow 5 years passed
Thank u..
How nice.
Great video!
"How nice!" ☺️
Please help🙏! I'm overwhelmed by rage😖!! And also the deep sadness associated with compassion. I'm very unwell.
This one is beautiful! But didn't cut through. P'raps one of you can point me towards practices designed to help...
despite the broken english he do be speakin facts.
thank you :)
Nicely explained
what we focus on affects our perception and its underlying experience? if we focus on loving kindness, underlying everything is loving kindness? how about hatred? or confusion?
this gets to me.
I wish i had it together as much as you guys
I stumbled upon this video because I typed in "why is growth hard"
I came upon "don't be hard on yourself" and then this one. I listened and was like "damn it even anger isn't bad" It's just telling me I really want to do better. You see I don't like myself very much because I know I'm smart and can do SOMETHING with my life but my dumb-ass doesn't want to move along with my life and it's annoying. I want to give up.
fantastic!