The Wrong Way to Be Honest: Unbridled Self-Expression

The Wrong Way to Be Honest: Unbridled Self-Expression
Every day I speak to people who are working on being more authentic in their relationships and lives. And this involves true honesty. But I see lot of people get this wrong and it backfires.
My coaches and I break down the WORST way to express yourself honestly, in this live stream. We are talking about UNBRIDLED SELF EXPRESSION and why it is such a losing strategy. (This is from the work of Terry Real).
WHAT IS UNBRIDLED SELF-EXPRESSION?
Together, we’ll pull back the curtain and talk about what this looks like, how it damages your relationship, and what to do instead.
That’s why, if you’ve ever…
--Tried being honest but felt like you weren’t heard…
--Can’t quite wrap your head around how to express your emotions in a healthy way…
--Been told you should be honest about EVERYTHING
--Felt GUILTY after speaking your truth…
--Been accused by your spouse of being too emotional, even when you think you are just speaking the truth.
… then you’ve got to join us for this discussion. My guess is you’ll be surprised at how much misinformation there is about honesty.
Join Ned, Kelly and I to break out of this losing strategy!
THE WRONG WAY TO BE HONEST: UNBRIDLED SELF-EXPRESSION!
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Monika Hoyt, LICSW | Monika Hoyt helps couples and individuals whose marriages are on the brink transform their relationships from the inside-out. She focuses on changing limiting beliefs, building emotional connection, and getting on the same team for life.
This channel covers topics like how to trust in a relationship, how to deal with narcissistic personality disorder or emotional abuse in relationships, and how to prevent divorce.
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[@MonikaHoyt]

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[@divergentmind2023]

i have done all that for over a decade and because i have short term memory loss only god knows how many times i had done it in a month and i have never seen it as it is, toxic. i need to do better.

[@crissy7399]

what if the person doesn't ever seem to be remorseful?

[@ambervanmaiingan8304]

New to the channel but finding everything extreamly helpful!
My question is, how do you respond to your spouse when you recognize that they are using this strategy, or any of the losing strategies?
This is my husbands M.O. But he alternates with withdrawl. Although I started out in our marriage with healthy communication skills I've used both myself in response to him because he made me feel like that was just the way he does things and I should too. I've learned that is not so, and since then have gotten back to my authentic self. I am using many of your strategies to communicate more effectively, especially focusing on I statements and my experience/feelings, but it all seems to fall on deaf ears.
How can I stay true to healthy communication when he sees it as giving up, or not fighting, or "making it all about me" and not caring about him? Or makes me out to be the one with unhealthy communication?
It would be great if you could do a video on how to respond with integrity when your spouse is using a losing strategy.

[@shannonvalentine1687]

Yep got all 3 of you